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Nobody is owed sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 01:37 AM
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She did IMO, the tax measures would have helped lower and middle class, she suggested children tax credit. The messaging was weak.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 08:11 PM
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I don’t blame Kamala for people not knowing Biden dropped out, while she did not mistakenly differentiate herself from Biden; people who did not know he dropped out are not to be trusted with their vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 07:14 PM
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It was both in my opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 07:02 PM
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We blame misogyny, and women can also be misogynists.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:50 PM
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How is he going to help, really how? Unless you are a billionaire
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:25 AM
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Not sure how one can compare a pleasurable activity like sex to cutting your arms.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:02 PM
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In some cases it can be, I don’t think it’s a rule. Sometimes people really don’t want a relationship because of other things in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:59 PM
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It’s healthier than alcohol, at least physically. It can mess up people emotionally though, if they don’t separate sex from emotion
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:44 PM
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I think that it depends on why one is hooking up. If two single people who don’t want something serious and have sex to just have fun it can be empowering. If someone is using sex as a distraction it’s not much better than using alcohol to fix your problems. Also it’s not for everyone, some people feel emotionally void after hooking up. Myself I don’t get anything from a casual relationship, I don’t feel void but it does nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 05:19 AM
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In my experience US president candidates don't differ much in external politics (unfortunately) it's in the internal politics where I notice the major differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:54 PM
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If it was a close friend, I would tell them my opinion if they asked me, I would be judging the act and not the person. I ended up distancing myself from a friend for that reason because she was flirting with a married guy. Well, she mostly distanced herself from me, she had the illusion that this guy is not cheater and just happened to fall in love with her and I could not enable this illusion. But judgement does not make sense to me unless it’s a pattern, if anybody thinks they never did anyth…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 08:14 PM
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I don’t have children myself and I work very hard but at least very well compensated :). I am speaking for women who have children. I am not shifting goalposts, but OP posted as if marrying a millionaire is as common as the pay gap issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:48 AM
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Raising children is hard work, and lonely. And the average woman ends up working and raising children but that is outside the scope of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/24 12:39 AM
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The examples you give don’t make sense, sugar daddies want some “sugar”, they don’t give money for free. Getting married to a millionaire also requires sacrifices like being the one who raises the children, even if it’s easier if you have nannies and help with housework or being the one who quits their job and leaving their dreams behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 11:57 PM
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I don’t think the number of sexual partners determines one’s character, as long as they are always honest for their intentions, they were not sex addicts and took the sexual health seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:25 PM
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No, I am definitely more experimental with my husband and my previous long term partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 11:56 AM
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Many people take long to break but they have gradually detached emotionally. The breakup just makes it official, emotionally they have already moved on. It’s not ideal but breakups suck in any form.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:59 PM
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Which rules? You are allowed to do a lot of things that are not “fair”. Every person, man or woman, will want a partner they really like. Some men might dump you if they find someone hotter, that is life. We all eventually face the consequences of our choices, at some point. Fertility is not the ultimate metric for civilization.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 07:37 PM
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I am not American, and you have no idea about my political ideas. The communism thing was partly a joke because you cannot force equitable dating. A joke abstracting the very general idea of communism. Dating is not meant to be fair or unfair. It is what it is. Discussing is good but everything that requires forcing other people’s behavior is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:45 PM
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As a left wing person communism never worked well in practice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 03:27 PM
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where did I do that? I am saying women don't have it easy, not that men have it easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 06:27 PM
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Yeah, that goes both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 04:28 PM
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It’d easy to underestimate how difficult other people have it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:46 PM
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In my teens and early 20s most guys would prefer my less awkward friends, regardless of how they looked. I realized how being different affected me in dating after talking with my more neurotypical friends, and I decided to change my social behavior. I had no issues in dating after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:29 PM
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We are “better” in camouflaging our autistic, “weird” traits, based on psychiatry publications. It requires some work and has consequences on our mental health but it results in wider acceptance (and delayed diagnosis).
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 03:25 PM
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I do know that many guys actually find autistic women awkward. Personal experience. You overestimate how easy is dating for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 02:19 PM
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Autism is pretty challenging for women when we don’t mask. One reason that some of us might be less impacted in dating is because we mask more. I don’t look autistic anymore to most people but I still am. I learned though to maintain eye contact and not talk about my intense interests when I see people being bored. And yes, it’s not a mental illness. But being autistic is an extra challenge in daily life.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/24 01:50 PM
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You will but a super expensive car even though you will rarely drive anywhere that needs it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:26 PM
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That is completely biased view of women (and men), we choose friends based on common interests, values, sense of humour. Some people are more political but this can happen for both men or women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 04:05 PM
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You seem to ignore the dysphoria trans people feel, or severely underestimate how much it can screw up someone’s life. Also, many women, especially queer women are especially attracted to queerness.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 09:22 PM
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Yes, that is obviously what is happening unfortunately. But why is the debate part of this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/24 09:42 AM
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Yeah, sure your imaginary battle is won and you provided zero valid argument. Essentially you said you want to trick the mother by getting a secret paternity test. Sure, that is how relationships are built. Tricking people, toootally rational. I would rather have a child being raised in a relationship with trust, not in a distrustful environment tainting their view of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:10 PM
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Yeah, no checkmate dude. I am not against obligatory paternity tests but if my partner asks me to take one is over. If it was a standard process it would be fine. Also, I am not a cheater so there would have been no doubt who is the father if I had ever gotten pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 03:21 PM
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The relationship is not perfect if there is no trust, there are issues being ignored and at some point they will show up. Location tracking is good for safety and that is it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 02:59 PM
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Yes, a person should know that you do not trust them. If they have been faithful, they have the right to end the relationship. No trust means relationship is broken. If they have not been faithful it should not matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 01:52 PM
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People will stop seeing you when they don’t see any future or have a strong connection. Getting emotional does not help when the decision is obvious, you have to put your emotions on the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 03:03 PM
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You cannot use other people’s opinion to develop your self esteem, it’s a losing game. It’s important to have an honest view of yourself: If you want to lose weight just do it because you want to feel good with yourself not because X or Y said so. If someone finds you boring it’s because you don’t have much in common not, most likely, because you are actually boring. Some guys think that I am too nerdy, my husband loves that. I would kill my self esteem if I internalized every thing that some gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:23 AM
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One more unsuccessful guess that women want the bad guys. Is it because it’s easier to cope with rejection ? What is the point of discussion if men try to guess what we want even when we tell what we want? We want nice guys, especially when one has experienced the drama and how futile is to date jerks. Nice guys doesn’t mean they’re a pushover or boring. Some bad guys are confident so that is an attractive trait but you don’t have to be a jerk to be confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 09:46 PM
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Sure, we never talk about sciences or politics, we talk about our nails, gossip and men. 🥱
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/24 05:32 AM
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Oh that is the guy who made up his own BMI range !
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 02:58 AM
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You batch women and make it sound that we are walking contradictions. Women who say explicit consent is important are likely not the same who will be turnt off when you ask for explicit consent. Most people want to claim high moral ground, we don’t have a lot of knowledge of self and we don’t see our own issues, it’s harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 06:21 AM
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Yeah, I don’t know a single woman in my friend circle that doesn’t work. The places you go have something about them where women don’t work either inside or outside the house.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/24 12:31 AM
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The question reminds me of a psychology experiment with rats (I don’t remember the experiment in detail). They were rats in a cage and the researchers taught them to press a button and the feeder would dispense a sugar pellet. Eventually they had two feeders, one that always dispensed sugar pellets and a second that sometimes it did and sometimes did not. The rats eventually preferred the second one. There is an excitement aspect in on again and off again relationships that many people get addic…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 06:33 AM
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Nobody is saying that, or very-very few people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 01:13 AM
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I am sure insurance companies will find a way to profit even more using this database but mandatory paternity test should be a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:46 PM
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I think it should be mandatory to know the health history of both biological parents and avoid paternity fraud. But if my husband asked one himself there I am becoming a single parent, if there is not trust in my relationship I don’t want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 07:45 PM
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Usually some foreplay or after play is required for most women to orgasm FYI, talking about this women. Usually men orgasm with PIV. Talking about our the effort required that both parties orgasm because this is what the post is about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 05:20 PM
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I will give examples. Case 1: Guy does not do any foreplay, just cares about his pleasure, he is likely selfish. Case 2: The guy is doing foreplay, after chatting with the woman. The woman does not orgasm but she enjoyed the sex. They both enjoyed the sex but the guy needs to hear that the woman orgasmed to feel good. That is likely an ego issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:37 AM
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Women are still being evaluated based on how many they have sex with, you seem to only perceive part of the picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 08:58 PM
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Shame around sex is common among women, religious reasons, general purity culture, lack of sex education among other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:33 PM
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There is no balance kept: “we both need to have 5 orgasms a month”. Women in my experience want someone who gets to know what they like in bed, regardless if they always orgasm or not. If it’s important for a woman to orgasm sure, she should find what she likes and communicate it to the guy. Women complain if somebody consistently does no foreplay, has intercourse and then rolls over to sleep. If somebody puts the work to know his partner’s needs but she ends up not orgasming sometimes, he shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:31 PM
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Ok, Mr. expert! I have a happy sex life, sometimes I orgasm sometimes I am not if I am stressed but I still enjoy every time. It depends on the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:40 PM
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You(or other people) still get pleasure from if they don’t get an orgasm, the whole time until an orgasm with PIV lasts quite a bit and definitely longer than an orgasm. It’s also about connection if it’s someone you care about.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:04 PM
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The difference is obvious in my previous response It’s the difference between caring for her pleasure or just caring for your ego and getting validation from her orgasming. If you want to hate women then go ahead, you don’t need a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:00 PM
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The orgasm gap is when one makes no effort. If they make an effort and there is still no orgasm and the woman is fine with it but the guy is not then it becomes an ego thing. The difference is obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:49 PM
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Maybe for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 02:48 PM
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Women can enjoy sex without having orgasms. If your partner is ok, obsessing with her having orgasms most of the time is an ego thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:19 AM
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But why wouldn’t he also be a virgin ? Traditional men only have sex with their wives, right ? The double standards are annoying. Otherwise virginity should not matter and adopting the provider/homemaker role should be “enough”.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:07 AM
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GENDER PAY GAP. For the same job women are getting $0.82 gap for each dollar a man makes. We are gradually getting over this but slowly. Because even when you focus on women without children, it’s women that usually take care of their aging parents. The expectations from us are higher even when we remain single. Initiating a divorce does not mean it’s the initiator’s fault, not sure why this is repeated over and over. Also childless or childfree is not enough, women end up doing more housework w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:59 PM
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I am also aware of algorithms that analyze clarity and your post would not be considered clear. Passive voice, misplaced comas, in addition to antiquated Latin terms, that are common in legal documents but not in general. In any case, I still don’t understand what is the issue with codifying enthusiastic consent. That is what laws have to do, they have to be extremely specific, especially in countries that don’t use juries (most countries don’t, unlike US).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 08:14 PM
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It’s not said as an insult, Iclearly people don’t understand what you are writing and it’s not realistic to expect people to take 20’ to understand a Reddit post. I see that you mention in your original post mutual enjoyment/joyfulness together with enthusiastic consent, one does not mean the other. Enthusiasm or clarity of yes is what makes an act worth consensual (mutual enjoyment is a different thing and should not be necessary in the eyes of law). You discount the coercion that takes place w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:23 PM
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there is the art of clear writing and you don’t have it, at least based on this post. If it is clear it to you it does not mean it’s clear for other people. Yes means yes is about consensuality and does not touch on topics such as mutual pleasure unless you have expanded on the original meaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 06:48 PM
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Thank you for pointing out the patriarchy in languages. I have an MSc but unfortunately they did not call me Mistress of Technology or Science.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:43 PM
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How many of these men are supported by stay at home wives ? Their labour indirectly contributes to the household tax contributions but it’s completely taken for granted.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:42 PM
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Prison population is more than 90% male. Also, 43% of Americans live without their dad present and only 8% without their moms. Taxes go to homeless people that are also mostly men, a non-negligible percent goes to veterans (who are mostly men). Also we want to make more money but our male counterparts are often paid more for the same amount of work, the so called gender pay gap. Health insurance is only used for women ? We have longer lifespans but it still benefits both genders. Women often sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:40 PM
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The legal answer is different than what I would do. I would not have a child if I could not support it financially. However in terms of children rights I think both parents should be liable for child support if the woman gets to decide to keep a child. You cannot force anyone to keep or abort a child, it’s a human right. Whether it’s good choice is a different topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 06:13 AM
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I am pro choice, I also think parents should not bring children to the world that they cannot support emotionally and financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:52 AM
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We are going in circles, the decision for child support is done for the child, not the mother. The child that will be born needs financial support from both parents when possible. You can’t force a woman to do anything with her body or deny the financial support to the child that will be born. You like it or don’t like it, child support is required for the child’s sake. Let’s all use protection when not trying to have children and this is pretty unlikely to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:50 AM
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Women carry the child so they get to decide, we cannot change this part of biology. Both the mother and the father will raise the child, the responsibility is on both regardless of who makes the final choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:42 AM
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Because the child grows in the WOMAN’S body, not the guy’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 05:29 AM
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Women cannot conceive children by themselves! Having sex incurs some risks, one of them pregnancy. If people take the necessary measures the risk of accidental pregnancy is low. Both people are responsible for that and since women get pregnant they get to decide. That also means they risk their own body by being pregnant or going through an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 04:15 AM
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You have already been a parent. Of multiple children (and without being asked unfortunately).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 06:59 PM
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It can be either. Either very happy and loving or someone is controlling and/or someone cheated 😂. Cheating is not funny by the way but it’s a very typical pattern of social media behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 04:22 AM
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You do not need to declare to everyone you are world caliber player, being confident allows you to go to games and win even when people don’t believe in you or if you lose few games. If you have no talent in something and you believe you are the best, that is delusion. Confidence allows people to become better trusting the process. It does not mean they will always succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 11:46 PM
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There is a similar pressure on women. Having sex as often as the guy wants, otherwise you deserve cheating. You have to be “tight” and have symmetric labia. You have to give good blowjobs that will hurt your jaw, but they might not go down on you. You have to cum easily otherwise there is something wrong with you. You have to do anal even if you don’t really want it. It’s easy to miss the pressure on the “other side” and discount it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 04:59 PM
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In my experience nobody is made to feel dirty for having a sexual desire. It’s when they push people when they clearly not interested or express their desire with crude comments. You can have any desire you want but if somebody says no to coffee don’t tell them you want to f*ck them so good .
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 03:05 PM
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I don’t see how someone’s poor choices affect the entire modern dating scene. Inexperienced women stay in casual relationships even when they want a serious one, that happens. Sometimes it’s because they are hoping they would change the guy or other times the guy is not straightforward and it takes time to figure them out. It’s stigmatizing for women because they end up in a casual relationship, and a big part of society does not like women in non-serious relationships. In any case our choices a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 05:21 AM
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The puppy cannot consent by the way, so no kinky person enjoys hitting puppies or children. People are happily married for decades in BDSM relationships. Both men or women can be in any of the top of bottom roles so trying to insinuate that BDSM is anti feminist is baseless. I think you don’t understand and know what is kinky at all and you assume that the man is always the top and the bottom is a scared woman who pretends to be kinky because of fear. Also, no serious BDSM person is practicing a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:44 AM
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Some people like the psychological play only but physical sensations is also a big part of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:11 AM
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Kinky people are as mentally healthy as vanilla people: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/202401/are-bdsm-players-psychologically-healthy. Personally I enjoy vanilla sex as well, and I don’t like porn or had any abusive partners. This sounding weird to you is a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 01:06 AM
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As a kinky person, among other things, CNC does not normalize rape, it makes even clearer what is consent and what is not. Monogamy is good for the people who like it. Happy families can be created only by people who want to have a family, coercing people to have a family just because it’s the “moral thing” to do leads to unhappy couples who raise unhappy children. It’s better to see how to make it easier people who want to have a family to actually have one. Guaranteed parental leave, better ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 12:40 AM
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The interpretation that having sex with someone directly it means you find them hotter is not accurate for many women. Also not having sex with someone right away might mean you want to get to know them first because you are more interested in something long-term. It does not mean you don’t find them attractive enough. You probably find them attractive and mature instead of just hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 07:31 PM
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Confidence should not require extentL validation. As humans we need some of it but we need to learn how to like ourselves in face of rejection. I think people mix the definition of confidence at least how we mean it. Being confident is knowing even if you are rejected you have value, you don’t expect other people to reaffirm it. Complaining is fine but don’t start blaming other people, women in that case. If someone does not like you, you might have to wait, but you will meet someone where there…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 05:35 PM
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Same thing with many men, they have no idea of their own privileges.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 04:25 PM
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There is the question whether people in general are entitled to respect (and anything else) and the second whether either specific gender is. OP focused on the second part, at least in my book they are two different questions. I believe we (men and women) are entitled to respect if we also respect someone, love is an entirely different thing, obviously we are not entitled to love, sex, quality time, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 08:52 PM
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We are not entitled to that either, I implied that. I don’t see women around me thinking they are entitled to any of that, I am sure they exist but they are not representative IMO. I focused on sex because I see many men feeling entitled to sex because they paid for someone’s dinner. I don’t care about some technicalities, we are all entitled to mutual respect IMO but that is not the point of your original post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 08:27 PM
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I really do not see that in the sub or in real life at least as a general trend, despite some women obviously being entitled. I do think we should respect and be honest with women or men when they are also respectful to us but we are not entitled to love, sex, attention. In my life, I don’t see women feeling entitled to sex while I do see some men believing that they NEED sex to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 07:56 PM
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Yes, deciding whether you abort a pregnancy is on women’s plate but it’s not without emotional consequences. I am pro choice but I don’t think I could go along with an abortion if I could raise a child by myself. Regardless avoiding an unplanned pregnancy is equal responsibility for both partners. You can be a supportive partner without getting married. Again only if both people equally don’t care about marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:23 PM
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No need to apologize, tone does not always on text.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:17 PM
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Both people having sex need to be responsible to avoid unplanned pregnancies (obviously ?!). A woman does not impregnate herself. Some people just don’t care about getting married. I am not one of them but for some people it’s just a paper and it does not bring a lot of benefits. Child support is still required regardless of marriage or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:15 PM
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Having sex before getting married is not just about sexual diversity, it’s helps figuring out sexual compatibility, it can be an issue for many marriages. Having children before getting married makes sense if both people are working and neither is interested in getting married but overall I agree it makes more sense to get married. A lot of your wording though is unfortunate, “crazy cat lady”. You also put all of the responsibility to Western Women while the responsibility is shared.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:01 PM
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If your boss is giving nonsensical "commands" you have to push back, or quit. A true leader would recognize when they are wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 09:07 PM
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True leaders don’t want submissive people, they want people with spines and their own opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 07:21 PM
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He is so loving and accepting of me! I love him very much as well, try to show it with small gestures throughout the day like taking care of errands when he is stressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 01:25 AM
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Female teachers who are pedophiles are not representative of most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:41 PM
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I am not denying his experiences, in my opinion his experiences cannot be generalized or are biased. And I cannot talk about all blue pillers but if there are data from unbiased sources it does not matter if they support my experience, I can recognize that my personal experiences are just that. The thing is in this forum we are all biased to different extents. There are not data for a lot of topics discussed here so…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 04:19 AM
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That is not the gotcha you think it is. Manipulation is not just involved in attracting someone but how the relationship unfolds. And there is not always manipulation if both people are adults but the person who is much older often holds more power that they might not use for good.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:59 AM
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There could be a mix of both. If they are super young, under 25 there might be some manipulation involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:46 AM
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Talent is attractive, celebrities are more physically attractive than average people like us, some people like the money and the lifestyle it brings. Even if the younger person is not poor most likely they are not as rich as Leonardo do Caprio or other major celebrities. It might help with their career when getting exposure. They actually find older men more attractive themselves. Women celebrities have success with younger men, Cher, Madonna, Courtney Cox. In the past Demi Moore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:40 AM
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They are pretty similar in my experience, we should aim to improve our flaws if we are not OK with the consequences of our flaws. The other people are not obliged to be sensitive but it’s definitely recommended. Our friends should support us but they are not obliged to coddle us. It sounds like confirmation bias to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 12:38 AM
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I would hope it’s the minority, fortunately none of my friends find teenage boys attractive. Younger men yes, but none below 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 05:45 PM
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No we don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 04:51 PM
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It’s less obvious when it happens to US while when people travel mostly just because they want to date it’s more obvious. There are valid reasons to move to find love, for example if there are not many women in a place it will make sense to move to a place with more women. Many rich guys in US target women that are of lower economic status, often these women are described as gold diggers and accused of targeting these guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 10:52 PM
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It does not make a difference if they are western or not if you target women of low economic status because you can impress them with money, it it not a great sign. I am saying when it happens kist because of it, dating someone less wealthy or poor is not the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 10:40 PM
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I read about people visiting the country when I come from (don’t live there anymore) and comment that people are poor there so women are easily impressed with a little money. It’s not painting a very good picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 10:08 PM
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Sure, it happens, it has not happened to the people I know so much, there is nothing wrong with it if one is safety aware. My circle is not representative of the whole world. But it’s not the main purpose of traveling for most women even if it can come up while visiting a new place. I guess that is the second reason I did not hook up with someone. What if I really liked the person and then I had to leave ?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:58 PM
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Respectfully asking, is this a joke ? I have never slept anyone when traveling and I doubt most of my friends have. Myself mostly for safety reasons and because I prefer to spend my time in other ways when traveling.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 10:42 PM
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Being happy being single does not mean you will never find a partner it means a person who does not need someone is going to be a better partner because they have their own lives already.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 02:39 PM
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Practically the entire Europe, Eastern as well. Bosnia is the exception since it has a large Muslim population.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 06:52 PM
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It’s one of the things that is win-win. Many of the negative consequences are true but the positive make the divorce worth it. Seeing your parents fight and full of contempt for each other can poison the idea of relationships. My niece is having serious stress issues causing physical symptoms because of the fights in her family, she wants to stay at my mom’s to avoid the shouting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:20 PM
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I believe that you went through that but I think relationships in general are transactional. Maybe there are different types of transactions more common for each gender but both women and men are suffering. Human nature is both compassionate and cruel at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 06:40 AM
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They do like, in my experience, a very thin waist and curvy butt that look natural (whether they are or not it’s a different story). These are not achievable by many women depending on the natural body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:28 PM
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Men think they want a natural look but in my experience they are attracted to a natural looking look. :) No-makeup makeup, natural looking big boobs, fit but not too much definition. Women might care a lot about style, create makeup and clothing but many of the other beauty standards, flawless skin, thin body are perpetuated by men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 05:26 PM
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Some women like older guys but it’s not the rule. My main objection is believing that men don’t age, only women do. The women age like milk and men like wine belief is not true. We are all subject to the ruthless passage of time. I am sure I have read the same post before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:57 PM
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I agree, don’t make excuses after a certain amount of time. If after 2 years you are both stable financially and one person does not want to marry and the other person does, it is very unlikely there will be a happy ending. Even more important it’s a woman who wants children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:08 AM
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There are few things worth in this book as you noted but a lot of silly remarks as well IMO. Liking yourself enough so you do not put up with someone showing only lukewarm interest in you when you are 100% there is one solid piece of advice. Pretending is too much work, actually do the work that makes you feel you deserve to be treated with as much respect as you show towards someone. If somebody leaves you on read for two days don’t make excuses for him, he is not interested and move on. And ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:03 AM
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I am a SW engineer myself who is paid very well. How people expect to start college without good foundations probably shows how much they actually value education.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:02 PM
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Relationships should be better than that. Housework is way more than a couple of loads of laundry. It’s cooking, mopping, grocery shopping, cooking, etc. Regardless some jobs are very underpaid even when they are equally hard as much better-paid jobs. Teaching high-schoolers is a hard job but it’s not a well compensated job. Similarly with social workers, firemen. Regardless, I see that even when woman makes more money in most cases she stills ends up with more chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 03:41 PM
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Number of hours should be used to divide household chores instead of salary. It’s not like jobs are necessarily fairly compensated. My job is paid very well but teachers are unfairly not nearly paid as well. I would rather that my partner not measure my contribution by money, my employer can do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:09 PM
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Dominant sex and dominant behavior when there has been no discussion are extremely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:27 PM
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Both people should want a relationship but only one is required to end it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 11:33 PM
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Sex, attraction and money affect all relationships. How many people would stay in a relationship forever if they could NEVER have sex again? Even if you do not expect or want someone to pay for you it will be hard to have a relationship if a person cannot join you to activities ranging from going to grab coffee to traveling. Establishing a relationship means you can share a compatible lifestyle and have fun with each other. After being a relationship and genuinely care for the other person, thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 12:52 PM
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I disagree that you need to date multiple women to act like you have options and be confident. For me the key is knowing that it does not matter too much if somebody does not like you. I know guys here believe that women have it easy but in my youth I was rejected a lot by men, or rather say was ignored my men mostly because I had low confidence. Growing up you realize that you should minimize the need for external validation. However, dating multiple women before you are exclusive is not immora…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 01:06 AM
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I did say the risks increase much more with the maternal age, not sure what is the additional point you are making.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 02:55 PM
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Situationships are in theory ok but most of the time there is one person who wants more and it ends with drama for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:33 PM
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In my experience people don’t break up just because one snores. This could be the straw that breaks the camels back but there are usually so many things that happen before. In break up stories I hear one might say, she broke up with me because I forgot her birthday but the real reason is that the other partner was consistently ignoring the other person’s feelings and at some point a small thing made them not being able to take it anymore. Men or women have emotional needs but we are not taught t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:32 PM
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Obviously there is a fertility wall for us women; it gets harder for men too as they age, sperm quality drops after 29 and volume after 45. However, it’s clearly much harder for women, it kind of makes sense since we would be the one who will be carrying. It’s important as a woman to avoid situationships if you want to have a family but on the other hand you should not force starting a family unless you find the right person that you love and have common goals. It’s much better to have no childr…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 06:27 AM
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I literally know no woman who withholds sex unless she is either religious, reserved, asexual or have some trauma. Every adult person knows that relationships without sex don’t make much sense unless one is asexual. If a 16 year or a virgin woman who wants to have sex then waiting makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 01:34 AM
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If people in long term relationships eventually date in their league, why is it so important who people date casually ? There is another way to look at it, men don’t lower your standards to have sex? Between average people there is no single way to tell who is what league. For me one guy might be the dream person and for another woman very “mid”. Unless we go to extremes most people we are some shade of average.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:22 PM
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Even after the correction it still says that couples are more likely to get divorced when the wife falls ill and there is no correlation when the husband does. More recent publications indicate similar trends: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4857885/. The original article was not trash, there was an honest coding error in the original article that I was not aware. Not sure why people like using phrase pathetic and trash, makes you feel better and superior I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 05:19 AM
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I find this article interesting, men leaving wives 7 times more often when women get cancer : https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer. Men often see women as disposable, wife does not clean or have sex with them anymore, relationship is done. Selfish people see people are disposable , it is really not a gender issue. Men could benefit a lot by leaning more on their friends more for emotional support.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 05:06 AM
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I work mostly with men and sometimes they complain to me when their wife travels and have to take care of the household. It’s less so in the younger generation fortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:41 AM
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Except for fertility men age as much as women. Wrinkles, more flabby, thinner hair. Average men don’t age like George Clooney and average women don’t not age like Shakira. We are skeptical of large age gap relationships because we have been in our twenties and had older guys hit on us in a creepy way trying to take advantage of not knowing any better. Not all age gap relationships are like that but it’s much more common for older men to want to mold young women to their ideal woman. That is like…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 04:28 AM
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Yes, no argument about that. But when women do it the risk is higher (even if this happens much less frequently). A guy who is interested usually will ask you out himself unless he is very shy. It’s not a valid justification but this is what I do based on my risk profile. Ideally either side should be making the first move.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:55 PM
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Toddlers need constant attention and many babies wake up in the middle of the night, usually it’s the mom who wakes up. Lack of sleep can be debilitating. Older children need to be driven to classes, hobbies, play dates, help them do homework. It’s very easy to underestimate the mental and physical load of raising children. There are many ways to keep a household, cleaning to a high standard, cooking fresh homemade food, it is not the same as half-assing cleaning and cooking pasta. Not judging e…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:52 PM
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Yes, few times I have shown interest in a guy and they seem be interested back but eventually it was very lukewarm interest until something “better” comes along. Eventually I got better feeling out when somebody is really interested but it’s still a risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:44 PM
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Men in my opinion tend to downplay the mental load of maintaining a household especially when there are kids. Children need constant attention up to a certain age and unless they spend whole days doing that they cannot comprehend how taxing it can be. Also when somebody earns money they get some recognition and official acknowledgment. When a woman is a stay at home mom, they often refer to it as if it’s something simple, staying at home, checking the kids every now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:13 PM
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I work 10 hours a day and volunteer at a rescue by transporting dogs after work. I could volunteer more hours if I was working part time but disregarding volunteers as not having bills to pay is naive. And women have bills to pay too by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 05:00 PM
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If one actually likes animals, cats or dogs it can be a wonderful way to meet people and women. The key is to actually care for the animals, it will not fly if you just pretend.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 04:55 PM
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Not being submissive does not mean you become abrasive; there is a fine balance. Feminism is not against any of these in any case. It’s again women being forced to be submissive, dress modestly just because they are women. Based on that, neither is inferior or superior. Problem is when we are forced to act in a certain way because we have two X chromosomes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:57 AM
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I am not trolling and I am an older millennial. Also, I am not crying, I am pretty with happy with my partner. Finding a partner is beyond being accomplished or not. There is a loneliness epidemic but it’s not women’s fault or exclusively men’s fault for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:28 PM
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Some men are proud of the achievements of their partners and they do not see them as baby making machines with expiration dates. It’s hard to believe but it’s true. I care about the people around and I am not selfish. I do not expect men to date me without adding value to their life as some people here do. Why would these women you mention courting date you? Just to hear they have hit the wall or be proud you are bragging to your friends about horny they make you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:23 PM
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Our value is way beyond beauty, youth, fertility. We have brains, emotions, love to give. And by the get to look pretty good after the “wall” when we take care of our appearance. There is no wall, unless someone wants to have a children. Time is finite for everyone. We get to choose how to spend it and our choices affect our selves. We have no say on how people choose to live their lives. We are not confused. The women you tried to court were not interested in you. They would likely make the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:16 PM
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We really don’t. As long as you do not shame women you find unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:03 PM
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There is a new normal in dating market and it’s not our fault or men’s fault, that is how society changed now that women don’t have to get married for their viability. People will date who they are attracted to, men and women should just do that. Some men here complain that Chad’s have 10 side chick’s and the good average men are ready for a serious relationship. I have a dated a lot in my life, I have had some hot men treat me with respect and average looking men tried to fake a relationship be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:02 PM
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We are also aware that locker room talk is very much inflated. I don’t assume red pill men are necessarily unattractive , just that they do not respect women. There are more unattractive men among red-pillers because rejection can turn someone bitter but there are many physically attractive misogynists, they are just raised like that or their behavior is repelling women (excessively arrogant, negging for example).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 07:06 PM
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If a woman is flabby but thin, she still gets called out for having an ugly body. Oversimplifying by saying don’t be fat is naive. A woman might be called out because she has small boobs, nothing can be done for that either same thing with having a flat ass. You need to be thin but not TOO thin. You need to dye to hair because gray hair in men is sexy but in women it’s letting herself go. You better not have any fine lines because again the standards for looking young are much higher for women. …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:59 AM
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It only works on some women, usually younger. We know when a guy says he does not respect women if he makes an exception for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:28 PM
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I do not experience it like that but it’s up to the person. You need a deeper connection for a long-term relationship that goes beyond appearance. Physical attraction, is based on how you feel for someone not just how hot they are considered based on traditional beauty standards. That is common for many women, I cannot say whether this is the common case or it is like that in my circle only. There is always the chance of settling because one wants to settle down but I do not see it very often am…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:58 AM
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In general most women I know, including myself are not very interested in casual relationships unless they are going through a breakup and are on the rebound.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:49 AM
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Nose jobs are not very easy but makeup, fillers or Botox can be used to fix different “flaws”, the same with longer hair or different hairstyles that can flatter different features. On average women we take more pictures and we know which are our good angles. Men can also do that but are not well practiced in my experience. Facial hair can really help flatter different features but I do not think they do that a lot. By flaws I mean in terms of conventional beauty standards. Women or men do not h…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:32 PM
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On online dating the standards for appearance can be higher because even in detailed profiles you cannot tell much about the personality of a person. In person you get a much better feel of their whole demeanor and you do not care as much for looks. Also men are really not good in selecting flattering pictures so online dating is not helping them a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:09 PM
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Out of all things that red-pill ideology claims that is the most inaccurate. The main reason women wait more after sometime is because they/we realize hookups are not fun/meaninful or they might have had some bad sexual experience. We do not classify men as beta or alpha. We either like someone or you do not. Guys that just want to have sex and have many other options would not wait but that is more about their wants rather than how women classify beta or alpha.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:06 PM
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Early 20s with 30s age gap is not a great idea IMO because one of the people is still figuring out their lives but if the older person is taking care of themselves they can date a younger woman. Most women are not into older men, in my friend and social circle at least, but some of them definitely are. Anecdotally, my parents have a 14 year age gap. My father was not rich and my mom (who was pretty) was genuinely attracted to my dad though she might have had daddy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 02:02 PM
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Pull out method, though far from perfect was still a kind of birth control. Combined with knowing a woman’s cycle it can work sort of ok (not recommending as a modern contraception method obviously).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 05:32 AM
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Not always, I have been pressured and had to leave someone’s place because he was groping me even if I told him I am not ready to have sex yet. It can be scary sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 06:21 AM
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Or she has been pressured to do that a lot and made to feel uncomfortable because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 05:41 AM
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Having to worry if you are going to get raped during a date is pretty significant. Personal safety is much more guaranteed for men even if they face some safety risks as well. Ageism affecting women much more is a fact. Many guys think they age like fine wine while both men and women age similarly except for the reproductive ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 08:17 PM
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Men do not recognize their privilege at the workplace. Or having to worry less for their safety. Having medical studies focused on them more than women. The same side effects for contraception are considered major for men but minor for us. I could go on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 08:14 PM
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When you have less experience it’s hard to figure out what you want from a relationship and who is a good match.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/24 09:27 PM
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Some sort of emotional gambling is definitely involved. You are deprived of sometime you want and when you get crumbs you feel you won the lottery. Until you lose again. Not the only reason, sometimes we are more likely to return to familiar situations that are not necessarily good ones. Or deep down one might be also avoidant and not realize it. You can avoid relationships by being involved with avoidant men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 08:34 AM
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I am very happy with my long-term partner, thank you very much. And cat ladies can be very happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:39 AM
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Regular life is boring in movies. We do not necessarily want what we watch in movie theaters. Also, dominance is not the same as being a jerk. One can be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 06:15 PM
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Many women find nurturing men hot. Hot people can be nice hot people can be mean. Physical attractiveness is orthogonal to character. The only “benefit” of jerks is that they are confident. But you don’t have to be a jerk to be confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 05:21 PM
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I have not noticed this in my circles to be honest. I definitely do not believe this my self. What actions do they reflect this in your experience ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 08:25 PM
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Women stay in their looks prime until their late twenties or early thirties if we take good care of themselves. Men who think that women at 25 are not at their prime anymore are problematic (unless they are very young themselves). I am a 39 year old woman who never became desperate FYI. We are getting over the narrative that our value decreases as we age. We might not looks as young, but we will not get desperate. Some younger women might not want older men because they have very different lifes…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 06:15 PM
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We don’t hate men, we dislike men who think they are smarter because they have a penis. Preferential hiring, regardless if I agree with it or not, exists because people are proven to be negatively biases against minorities. Women we are considered worse in math while studies show we are just as good as men. Finally, I have a damn PhD in computer science you do not need to explain logic and data analysis to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:40 PM
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Fat women are not treated any better than fat men. There are more plus size women models because women buy much more clothes so fashion focuses more on promoting to women of all sizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:33 PM
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Men are the victims of violent crimes committed usually by other men, not women. Unfortunately we are much more vulnerable to sexual violence. A wife is much more likely be murdered by her husband than a husband killed by their wife. Society is not lying to me about my abilities, men are more cocky on average. I have seen many of my colleagues giving confident answers to other people when I know they did not have enough data. We are not lured out of family, society needs to accept that some wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 11:48 PM
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We get less promotions even if we are skilled or more than our male partners. We are often assigned taking notes in meeting even when hold the same positions as our male colleagues. We have to be more careful about our safety, we are expected to take more care of our looks while getting older. Men with gray hair are sexy, women with graying hair are just old. Women are expected to take care of the children even when both parents work, often have health issues when getting pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 05:33 PM
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Being a woman is sooo easy, indeed /s.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:45 PM
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A man showing the chest is legal everywhere, why do we just sexualize our boobs ? Also yes very unlikely you are a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:34 PM
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Race ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/24 03:17 PM
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Respect is as important as love. One loves animals but does not respect them in the same way that they might respect a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:38 PM
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There is also MTF experiences where people after transition feel they are taken less seriously at work: https://www.libraryjournal.com/review/the-authority-gap-why-women-are-still-taken-less-seriously-than-men-and-what-we-can-do-about-it-2130584
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 02:33 PM
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That is how definitely providers feel. My male coworkers though are happy to get back to work after paternal leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 04:07 AM
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When there are babies and toddlers I think definitely stay at home parent. There is no time off as a stay at home parent when the kids have not gone to school yet. After that it depends on the type of job and the needs of the children. Stay at home parents are often unappreciated and can lead to depression when the children get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 01:12 AM
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That is what you understood man don’t try to gotcha me. Brain still developing means some regions are still developing, one or more regions. If you understand that as necessarily all regions still developing is your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 05:27 AM
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Yes, that is important to set expectations right and respect even ones casual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 05:06 AM
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It does not harm other people, that is the main point. People take their own calculated risks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:53 AM
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There is no contradiction. Yes, prefrontal cortex is one area of the brain. Some parts of the brain might have already matured fully. I did not say that every part of the brain still develops. Or that happens for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:12 AM
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Talking about harming other people. And practicing safe sex is more important than the number of partners someone has (yes there are some STD that can be transmitted with condoms but there are vaccinations for the most harmful ones like HPV).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:09 AM
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Strawman’s argument. I never said there is no consent but there is often a big power dynamic in large age gap relationship and that is exaggerated when someone is below 25. It is not just because of brain maturity but also life experiences. Older people who ONLY date much younger partners often do that because they know it’s much easier to manipulate them. There is some nuance to this situation. Yes there are healthy age gap relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:07 AM
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You are trying to find contrasts that do not exist. 25 an average age, I never implied that a switch exists at 25. Gradually brains mature until on average at 25. Sometimes we simplify speech for brevity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 04:01 AM
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I don’t think you read through entire article. It’s not saying that the brain stops developing earlier. It’s saying that 25 year old it’s not a magical age, it depends on the person and it’s a continuum. There is no switch at 25 years old. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 03:09 AM
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I hope it’s clear to you why are people are free to do whatever they want. Men are also free to be conservative small minded and say whatever they want. That was NOT what I meant. It’s that trying to claim that high body count means anything negative for a woman is silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 02:05 AM
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I am pretty sure that the adult men who go to prostitutes know the increased risk for STDs some of them pay extra to not use a condom. It’s not just about the sex worker’s fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 02:01 AM
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Prefrontal cortex that is not fully developed can have an actual impact on behavior, it is responsible for decision making. 25 is not an magical age, it’s an average age for some people brain development might complete before or even later. There is some nuance that some people here do not get. It’s not that 24 year olds do not understand relationship dynamics it’s that their decisions might not be great in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 01:57 AM
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There is no causality between being a victim and having agency. You are trying hard to make a non-existent point.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 09:59 PM
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Brain not fully developing until 25 is not infantilizing adults, it’s a fact. And it holds true for both men and women. Being sometimes a victim does not mean you do not have agency. I don’t get why these two are considered mutual exclusive. Being a sex worker and having a high body count hurts no one. You can choose to date a low body count woman if you think that is better but don’t bash women who want to live their lives as they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 09:47 PM
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There is a portion of men there that are mentioning how by going to poorer counties they can impress women more easily. I happened to read the subreddit because they mentioned the country I am from. Men said because our country is doing bad financially (a South European country) women can easily be impressed. That sounded a bit dodgy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:19 PM
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Nobody will call it harassement if you ask someone out and, they say no and then you do not ask again. Approaching itself is not harassment, pressuring someone to pay attention to you because you think they are playing hard to get is a type of a harassment. If you see a woman you do not know and you tell her you want to f*ck her is harassment and even if rape is even worse it does not make it a non-event. It can make someone feel unsafe. What is the point of this post ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 08:07 AM
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Generally dating involves attraction and in my case it definitely includes physical attraction. A younger woman can also find them attractive but usually people prefer someone close to their age with more common experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 07:11 PM
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Yes, in general when people get older are usually still attracted to people their age that are also getting older. When I was 20 I would consider someone that is 40 too old to date. Now that I am almost 40, they feel ok. I could not date a 25 year old guy. What is the hard part ?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:37 PM
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And high estrogen increases the libido of women. Suggesting that women with high libido have BPD is ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 02:53 PM
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Both people have responsibility one not to lie and second to tell between lie and truth. The issue is lies take sometime to figure out. People who lie about this topic always have an excuse that at first it rings true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:45 PM
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No point of continuing this conversation, if you think men can lie and it’s all on the woman to figure out.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:37 PM
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And it’s on the man to be straightforward. I have no clue why you think all the responsibility is on the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:15 PM
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Some people want a big wedding, some people prefer to be ready to have children when getting married. It’s not necessary but it is the preference of some people that can be used as an excuse by some other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:03 PM
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Prison sentences are not in favour of women, men are more violent. It’s ridiculous to even suggest they are in favour of women. Also while suicide rates are higher among men women are more likely to face major depression: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9675500/
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:29 PM
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Yeap, that is another parameter. My parents could not get divorced because we could not have two apartments. At least that was one of the reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 05:10 AM
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Ideally people should stay together but sometimes it’s impossible to make it work. Amicable divorce is better than parents fed up with each other, IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:12 AM
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Similarly the nice women are not the most popular, the most charismatic and attractive are. Value as a human does not translate necessarily to dating popularity. Dating popularity and value are two different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 04:00 AM
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If you consider being drug trafficker a job then yes. Otherwise any job that is legal and contributes to society is equally good. Jobs that require more education are paid more, which is reasonable but it does not make them better overall. And being a teacher is such an important job. Sincerely, A software engineer
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 03:15 AM
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No job is better than others, but being a good teacher requires a lot of education, mentioning it like it’s a mediocre job is ignorant. Not that if someone who is waitress should settle down early because she has “nothing to show for it”. Our main value as people is how well and respectfully we treat others. It’s not about money, looks high-status job. Red pillers grading system is extremely shallow. Most of us are average, men and woman in any case so why is it considered so bad ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:15 AM
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It’s all our fault, dont you know :) ? Some women wait both they and their partner are stable financially to get married, often from the early twenties to the late twenties and then their partner leaves them. It is often a mistake when waiting for too long but it happens most of the time because of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/24 02:08 AM
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You are choosing to believe what you want to vilify women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:59 PM
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And sometimes baby daddies are dumping the pregnant women and do not even pay for child support. There is no way to say that women are solely responsible. Filing divorce does not even mean the person who is filing is the one who wants to end the relationship. And the person who wants to end the relationship is not necessary the person responsible for the end of the relationship. Maybe they tried whatever they could do but the other side made no effort. These data do not give any information.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 06:13 PM
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Yes, having to stay home and not having your own income is an oppression. Feminism is not portraying every man as a rapist, that was never part of feminist stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:21 PM
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How come only women get the blame for single households? No one says women are perfect but we are not responsible for every societal failure. There are so many women dumbed when they get pregnant including cases where the couple were trying to have a child. We are used to being uncomfortable, we are not afraid of it. Men vilifying women often do not want to accept their mistakes and blame it all on us.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:20 PM
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A child can tell if their parents are unhappy and well beyond about having sex. Being raised by two unhappy people distorts the idea of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:11 PM
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I doubt anyone denies but that only applies to non-dysfunctional relationships. If people have children and the relationship sours then it’s better to have an amicable split if possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 05:07 PM
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That is Twitch’s issue mostly ! The adult ads should not be shown to minors. People putting ads on Twitch do not control to whom the ads are shown (at least to my understanding). People would not put ads on Twitch if there were users in their target audience but they cannot control who the ads are shown to. The main target audience are likely young adult men and hopefully not minors mostly for the ethical reasons but also because teenagers cannot spend much money. Not particularly interested in …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 05:10 PM
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Do I like this ad? No. I see the sexual innuendo but nothing that implies that is targeted to minors. Most of Twitch users are adults and more than half of them 24 or older.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:22 AM
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Like how common is this and do they target minors or all twitch users ? Twitch should not be allowing adult content to minors, it’s their issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 05:38 AM
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“Sluts” do not create any physical danger to anyone. What do you mean flaunt their sexuality ? Do they come and put your face between their boobs ? You can ignore them. Sex workers do their job, provide release to the one who pays them in exchange for money. Who is getting hurt ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 05:02 AM
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Bangmaid term is not just about being a house wife, bangmaid implies that a guy expects his wife to do everything in the house and do everything he says without having her own opinion. Being a housewife, if it’s what a woman wants is completely fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 02:57 PM
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Probably not :)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:38 AM
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Healthy BMI is 18.5 to 25 not 21. It’s a different thing if someone likes thin women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:15 AM
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Single people might have more time to serve in other ways, their friends, volunteering, taking care of older parents. Having a partner is not the only way to serve as a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/24 06:58 PM
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My main point is that sometime people change and they cannot be together anymore. Staying in a relationship without making any compromises is not the same as loyalty. I barely know any woman that had a guy on the back burner even though they exist. I had guys cheat on me (many) but it does not make sense to generalize that all guys cheat. Similarly generalizing that most women have someone on the side ready to date them when they breakup is short sighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:43 PM
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Being comfortable in a relationship is not necessarily a sign of loyalty nor breaking up necessarily a sign of disloyalty. People get uncomfortable because they are too bored to change, moving houses, or dating again. That is not a sign of loyalty. Loyalty when you try to compromise to make a relationship work. If people are both not compatible anymore breaking up might be the only way to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 06:16 PM
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Doing more dishes is not an impossible demand if only one person is doing the cleaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:26 PM
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Maybe we checkout from relationships in advance but most of the time we do not have a guy lined up to breakup (I never had). Checking out happens because some grievances are repeated but not taken seriously. They are often blindsided because something that is not important for them cannot be important for someone else in their minds. In my experience guys do not easily breakup from long term relationships because they get comfortable, unless they find someone else. Women we do not mind being unc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/24 05:23 PM
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Yes. Guys often like the idea of women being open to other women because of possible threesomes…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 08:49 PM
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Indicating he is probably RP is not necessary when his username is hoe_math. Thing is the “Bad boy” points he describes do not indicate that the guy treats women badly. Confidence, attractiveness are orthogonal to how a man treats women. A confident guy can treat women very well and an insecure guy can treat them like their are subhuman. He is not saying anything groundbreaking for women, also women do not deserve physical attractiveness matters to some degree. He is oversimplifying what men foc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 11:29 PM
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Not really, one drink is fine for most people. Bars are not the only options though, there are coffee shops, casual restaurants
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 11:44 PM
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🫠, that is an extremely vague statement. Not sure about admissions but grades are on average fair. People that are not happy with the academic results might blame the political beliefs of the faculty.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 03:34 PM
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We already have (it’s hard not to comment on “anti-male agendas” in higher education 😧) .
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:15 PM
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The fact that an average guy can be appealing when you have fun with them does not mean one will find all “average” guys with a fun personality attractive. A person also might think they are average, they might or might not be, and the other person might find them below average in terms of physical attraction. Finally, even if there could be physical attraction and some connection there should be a much stronger connection to want a relationship with someone, you have many friends and one partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 04:49 PM
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I think both sides judge the other side based on their own experiences and only view the things that confirm their existing point of views. I am Blue Pill I guess and Red pillers try to find the ultimate algorithm to guarantee a relationship. There is no such thing, doing the bare minimum will increase your chances but you might have to wait, as most of us. If you become bitter while you wait, women will not enjoy that. Bitter people are less attractive and affects their behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 07:28 PM
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You are a beta guy to say that /s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 05:27 AM
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Do they have to be weaker in every sense ? In every couple one person is weaker in one sense and stronger in other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:57 AM
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And how YOU know ? And yes I have seen female doctors dating cashiers. In terms of perceived social status, they had a big gap. I have seen taller women dating shorter men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 02:06 AM
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I have not observed that at all, some do, some don’t. And each of us mostly knows about their environment, we cannot make general statements about all women or men. Also power does only come with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 01:55 AM
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I am a woman, so you know better what I want than myself ? You cannot know how most women are. We often are surrounded by similar people that confirm our biases.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 01:26 AM
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It does not concern me if a guy wants to date a much younger woman, I do not see other women as competition unless if a woman tries to hits on my partner. Speaking facts: Paternal age affects risk for genetic abnormalities, not as much as for women but it’s not negligible. Depending on the study increased paternal age has been associated with increased risk of schizophrenia and heart defects. The main issue that comes up when we see a couple where the guy is much older, or the woman is much olde…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 12:12 AM
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Men show their emotions in different ways, they are not less emotional. They often show their emotions by being angry for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:42 PM
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The men who use this blanket statement about women being illogical say that because we do not operate under their expectations and a logic that would benefit them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 04:39 PM
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I am Blue Pill by principle and experience. People in general, so that includes women, don’t have to have partner or when they choose a partner they may choose someone they have a connection and are attracted to. Sometimes attraction is based on shallow factors but humanity is not perfect. I had been ignored by men until my late twenties. Maybe I was introverted, I did not care about my looks until later, it’s hard to know why we are not appealing as a partners. I was sad but I realized that nob…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 08:11 PM
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Nothing really, you are very young. If you have friends who are more experienced in dating maybe you could ask them for dating tips, but you are still young and different people have different paces. My first sexual experience was at 23.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:42 AM
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There is nothing specific to women, it’s just universal beauty privilege. Men are infinitely nicer to hot women, not only they want to date them but they treat them better. People and especially men became so much nicer when I lost weight. Both men and women probably treat extra nicely physically attractive people. It’s not fair but it is what it is. I literally know no woman that is willing to share a partner unless they are polyamorous. Sometimes we see what we want to see? Red pill promotes a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/24 05:13 PM
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I have no idea, I enjoyed being single. I am not sure why men might handle being single less well. If this is true it could be because that men are less likely to open emotionally to friends so that is part of it. Regarding people who have been married once, women are less likely to remarry. I have talked to women like that and they were tired having to run the household and to constantly prioritize their family over their needs. Emotional and mental labour can be very high for women. Even when …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 11:52 PM
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Attractiveness is a factor for all genders and all countries. Traditional women care about attractiveness too but other factors might make it less important or some people are considered more attractive in some countries than others based on the beauty standards. Also, not sure why looks should be more value for women than men but regardless what is should be it matters for everyone to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 10:10 PM
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Hot men use or try to use women for sex as much as average men. Hot men want a relationship as much as average or below average men. Of course attractive men have it easier but it’s not true that all men who can sleep with a different woman every day do so. That is my personal and friends’ experience. My partner is attractive, very attractive to me, and I have had many less attractive guys try to or actually “use” me for sex. I did not feel used unless someone pretended to want a relationship, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:22 PM
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Nothing to talk about, it was probably mutual, we bored each other 😅. Once a guy talked negatively about the country I am from. Also pressuring me to have sex when I told them I did not feel ready yet. Very recently broken up, did not want to risk being a rebound.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 12:05 AM
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I think mature people want an equal relationship. It does not mean it’s 50-50 in EVERYTHING but people complement each other. To me that is the only sustainable form of relationship. People might want a “daddy” or a “mommy” if they try to make up for something they think they are missing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 07:23 PM
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It’s not legal, in US at least. Women could poke holes and men could remove the condom during sex. Neither is or should be legal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 01:14 AM
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The issue is the guy was pretending he actually wanted a relationship, what made me think that ? He said so ! My issue is the lying until someone sleeps with that other someone and then the mask falls.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 12:19 AM
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That is very similar to the concept of trophy wife though right ? Some people like to show off and these people would choose partner who are conventionally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 11:54 PM
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I was still showing the same interest before which continued after. You are making assumptions about my behavior or women’s behavior in general. If someone stops putting effort the next day after he sleeps with you (men or women) they show what they mostly cared about. Otherwise the aloofness could take place at any given point.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 11:36 PM
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Because people in general do not change their minds that fast unless there was some big fight, disagreement. I have experienced myself when I was younger. Guys made plans with me with for a month ahead, you sleep with them and the next day they start fading out. There was no fight, no nothing. It is a very common pattern. Both sides showed a lot of interest, both me and my friends showed the guys we were seeing we liked them, reciprocated interest, made an effort to make plans. I mentioned what …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 11:17 PM
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You said that you being a nice person might mean you can still fail at dating and that is true. Some people are exciting, funny and physically attractive and can be jerks and still get a partner. This will more than likely not make for a happy relationship so it’s not an example of a good situation. People regret dating jerks eventually. This includes both men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:44 PM
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Not sure how you can guess what I may think !
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:27 PM
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Nobody should be to feel entitled to a partner, women or men are not owned a partner. We just deserve respect if we are also respectful. Being nice is the bare minimum, being interesting, emotionally intelligent are also important but you cannot measure these things. Somebody has to like you to put it simple. Even in this case one will have to date sometime to find the right person. It’s not an easy process to find a long term partner, if one wants one of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 08:24 PM
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Dating is not a job ! Metaphors between dating and a job do not work. People will date someone just because they like them, they do not need to do an interview. If they choose wrong they have only themselves to stay, but the people who did not get the “job” have not business to complain either. Being disappointed is normal but we cannot expect other people to choose based on our own criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 07:46 PM
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No projection, I am talking about cases when the guys tells the woman want to go travelling together, how much he likes her and the next week he dumps her after she sleep with him without any fight or anything else happening in the mean time. Yes, he has the right to change his mind but most likely he was lying before. Consent has nothing to do with it, nobody tried to force him to stay, not sure how this came up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 07:38 PM
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Most women are not mad at men who just want sex as long as they are honest with it and do not “future fake” to sleep with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 12:59 PM
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Dating does not have to be fair. It’s not “fair” for women or men. Men date manipulative women sometimes, women date manipulative men sometimes. Manipulative people can be attractive because well they are manipulative and know the things to say. When people are mature and love and themselves stop dating manipulative people, or do it to a lesser extent. In any case however nice we are, we are not owed a partner, that is not how relationships work, for women or men. This mindset is entitled.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 12:52 PM
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Exactly being a doormat is not the same as being genuinely nice. Women like confident and caring guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/24 11:37 PM
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Relationships are hard for everyone. The fact that it’s an easier for us women to have casual sex, it does not make dating easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:04 PM
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As some other women in the thread said, many “average” guys can be non-committal/not want for a relationship or even sadistic so they give the hot and cold treatment. Some very attractive, smart, kind successful guys can show more interest if they like you. I have “higher” league guys treat me very well and “average” league guys treat me like a second choice. Relationships are not about leagues. Yes, there are some men and women that are smart, attractive, super successful, charismatic that coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/24 07:20 PM
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