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| – | GenZ women's "icks" are just a manifestation of their innate preference for rigid gender roles and archetypes.Yup, this has been well observed to safely say its a fact. The more you date and or grow in your relationship, you learn very fast that "icks" can virtually be anything at any given moment. I just blow them off like "uh-huh." Cuz I've been hit with the "you use too many emojis" or "you clear your throat a lot," "you bat your eyelashes a lot," and I'm like.... okay? And? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/26 06:29 PM |
| 1 | The overwhelming majority of women don't initiate or make the first moves because they are cowards.Rejection isn’t even bad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/01/26 06:54 PM |
| 1 | What's so bad about being friends with women anyway?Sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 05:19 PM |
| 1 | What's so bad about being friends with women anyway?Depends on the person for sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 05:14 PM |
| 2 | What's so bad about being friends with women anyway?Such as? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/26 05:09 PM |
| 7 | The average woman would fail at dating as a MenWasn't this experiment done already? We already know that women receive significantly more attention in dating than men; that's a non-starter. That's just the way it is and the way it's always gonna be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/26 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Is it true women will always have more value/suitors than men in the dating market?Yeah. It’s just biology at the end of the day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/25 02:51 PM |
| – | Thoughts for men who stay mad at womenI can confidently say the vast majority of men respect women as people, that’s a non starter. Online gender wars aren’t real life. Both men and women uphold reinforced traditional gender stereotypes all the time. Most of the frustration I’ve seen is typical dating woes. In fact I’m seeing more posts being made by women about the same things that men are frustrated in when it comes to dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 04:27 PM |
| 1 | The cocky dude with a don't-give-a-fuck attitude toward life will be more attractive to women than the nice, soft-spoken man who attends therapyMan, you’ll be surprised in how many ppl ARE absolutely fine with just being a fuq boi/girl than go to therapy. What the other guy said about guys discovering that if doing the bare minimum gets them pussy, you think those same guys gonna bother with therapy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 04:11 PM |
| 1 | The cocky dude with a don't-give-a-fuck attitude toward life will be more attractive to women than the nice, soft-spoken man who attends therapySike. Those men attract women who are just like them. Why do you want to deal with loud and obnoxious women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 04:07 PM |
| 3 | The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships.And where are we getting this number from? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/25 03:24 PM |
| 3 | The manosphere doesn’t believe men should be putting effort into relationships.Just more stuff that only the chronically online do vs what happens irl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/25 01:35 PM |
| 1 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.Oh, yeah, lol, that's facts. It's basically just Wattpad stories that publishing houses monetized to make millions. Very, very few are actually good, the rest are straight ass. Low key be the same copy+paste story just the names had been changed. What initially drew me toward it was the huge amount of praise these romantasy books be getting, so I'm like what is the hype all about it. Man, I feel the same way about litRPGs. lol. 800 pages of some dude just leveling up in a virtual world yet ppl l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 11:38 PM |
| 1 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.Same. I’ll probably check it out the library for sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 08:20 PM |
| 1 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.😂😂Bruh, I, %10000 absolutely read each of these tiles from front to back. The first title abso fuckin’ lutely fits the bill on everything I just said. WTF are you even talking about?? That title is BY FAR the textbook definition of exactly what I was arguing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 05:14 PM |
| 2 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.Challenge accepted. What the River Knows: by Isabel Ibanez The Bridge Kingdom: by Danielle L Jensen Song of Silver, Flame Like Night: by Amelie Wen Zhao Fifty Shades of Grey (Yup, I actually read this thing) Basically any YA book in the last 15 years. Shall I continue? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 05:01 PM |
| 3 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.From what I’ve seen the biggest critics of romance novels and smut are overwhelmingly women… because they’re the target demographic. Men don’t even have much of an opinion on the matter cuz, also from what I’ve seen, most men don’t even read much of anything these days book wise. Book reading is gradually becoming a woman dominate pastime. It’s only a handful of guys I know who read regularly but it’s never anything newly published and often just classics like DUNE or Lord of the Rings or maybe … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 04:18 PM |
| 20 | The hatred for womens romance novels is insanely stupid and hypocritical.From an objective perspective, the romance novels get trashed by women more than men from what I’ve seen. Duh, right? Women are the target audience for smut and poorly written romance fiction and these lady’s often have A LOT to say about the genre that has some validity to it. Yeah, we get the genre is diverse and whatnot, but your typical romance plot is the trope of “basic chick falls for the overly problematic guy who is the embodiment of everything women claim to hate irl.” He’s aloof, does… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/25 02:28 PM |
| 7 | Women are just as upset being friend-zoned as men are.I do feel talks about the friend zone have evolved significantly over the years to include the fact that it does affect women. But it's more than that: it is a bit of selfishness involved where you want to regulate that person as "just a friend." That's why I'm pro Move On. I've been on plenty of dates this year alone where things didn't work out. I didn't want to be friends with any of them lol. They didn't even match me on that level either. Rejection sucks, but it is necessary. You will find … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/25 10:40 PM |
| 3 | A man’s ability to attract women has nothing to do with whether or not he’s a good personBecause when it comes to dating, initiative gets you pussy, very, very easily. The vast majority of women prefer men to have initiative, that’s just the way it is. Sure, you can go the passive route but she’ll just do you better and be even MORE passive than you. You won’t win that battle, trust me. Just because a girl likes you doesn’t mean she’ll instantly land in your lap with 0 effort. She’ll still want you to pursue her, she’ll defer to you to take the initiative, the only difference is she… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 12:06 PM |
| 9 | A man’s ability to attract women has nothing to do with whether or not he’s a good personNice “normal” guys don’t escalate things. They come off too friendly and too agreeable and hardly take the initiative. In her mind he’s just being an ordinary friend. Irl, women respond to those traits automatically and would follow suite if they feel comfortable. All you have to do is take initiative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/25 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: when was the last time you were too intimidated by a woman's beauty to approach?Honestly, it’s been a long time since I’ve felt intimidated by a woman’s looks. Personally, the main reason I don’t approach is because I don’t really have any reason too. I don’t know her from Adam, not interest in talking with total strangers, so yeah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 03:00 PM |
| 1 | It’s not creepy for men to want to sleep with or date their friendsThis is true, mostly online though. Women would say a guy who was their friend then asked them out is a a “betrayal” but it’s really not. The fault can lie in the fact the guy never actually made his intentions know and was just playing it cool because he is largely unsure how to escalate things past friendship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 02:57 PM |
| 13 | “Men are expected to be attractive and/or funny, fun, charismatic, etc - women just have to exist”Man, this mentality usually stems from men who get little attention or experience with women and or chat up any woman with a pulse; and then get mad when they don’t want to date the random dude they ran into on a sidewalk cuz… duh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/25 04:42 PM |
| 1 | The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single.How is this possible. In their 30s and still haven’t had any ass?? Da fuq?? You don’t gotta be James Bond to get pussy, it’s really not that hard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 11:52 AM |
| – | Q4M: Ever reject a woman for being too perfect?Why would I reject a woman they is perfect for me?💀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/25 01:33 AM |
| 5 | The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single.More like emotionally draining women 25-30 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 08:58 PM |
| 6 | The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single.Often always, the guys who are jaded with approaching just approach any woman with a pulse without any reason beyond her just looking pretty. They often get themselves sprung, overinflate her importance, and put her on a pedestal waaay before they even consider asking her out. You fix that by... not getting sprung too soon on any girl that blows their way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 08:49 PM |
| 3 | The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single.I'd argue that the bigger your success with women, the more you resent their mindgames, shallowness and pettiness, because you deal with their bs on daily basis. ...okay, damn lol, what type of women are you seeing, dude? 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 08:45 PM |
| 29 | The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single.Women absolutely get jaded when it comes to dating. What are you saying? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 08:41 PM |
| 36 | The more bitter you are about the dating landscape, the further you’ll remain single.So... uh, what are we debating here? lol. Being jaded about dating? That's very, very common for pretty much everyone. No one enjoys sifting through the dating trenches, but it's an inevitable thing you'll have to do to find success in dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 08:34 PM |
| 2 | I'd rather be a man finding a girlfriend than a woman finding a boyfriend.But honestly? I prefer the man’s side of the dating game. I can say this with absolute certainty that if men and women were to switch roles for 1 year, women would absolutely despise the FUCK out of dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 07:10 PM |
| 5 | Crying about the tea app is hypocritical afThat was %100 dumb for everyone involved. The women on there were all mid and so were the guys they were sharing. The vast majority of them were spreading rumors and misinformation. It was doxxing overdrive for both men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/25 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Apparently women expect men to read their mindsYup. This is nothing new. Men have been saying this about women since we’ve lived in caves. Women tend to pride themselves on being better at emotional intelligence than men but that’s largely because women prefer to play a reactive role in their relationships. Of course the person who just reacts to things will have a healthier relationship with emotional intelligence because they aren’t the ones making the decisions or being judged by them. As men we live in a “you’re the problem, now go fix t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/25 12:18 PM |
| 4 | I don’t see any good reason why men and women, regardless of how they look, can’t have meaningful, lasting friendships with one another. Also, having friendships with different genders can be a very good thing.For one, you absolutely don't want an opposite gender friend for the sake of having an opposite gender friend. Friends are confidants, ppl you rely on and ppl you trust. Ppl you're compatible with. They come in all shapes and sizes. I don't necessarily go "oh, yes, I have 5 female friends." That means nothing to me. Perspectives between genders aren't even that drastic. However, society does treat men and women differently and these differences do have their own strengths and challenges, but tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 12:49 AM |
| 2 | Do men care about confidence in women?Absolutely. For some reason we don’t talk about confidence in women enough like we do in men. Largely due to the fact that men are often the ones who have to initiate and of course, confidence plays a huge role in that. But I’ve been on a couple dates this year and I can say, at least from my experience, there is a chunk of women who lack confidence for sure. And that’s common, but we still need to talk about it. On the surface women seem secure when they’re with girl friends hanging out. But wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many men neg beautiful women ? Why do they get a kick out of seeing beautiful women torn down ?It’s mostly an internet thing. I’ve seen men dog like Rachel Zegler over having a “hairy back.” And I’m like… do these dudes love telling the world in creative ways that they’re kissless virgins or what?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/25 08:07 PM |
| – | It’s incredibly freeing for a man to give up on datingMan… lol. You didn’t even have to do all of that. Nobody likes dating but everyone wants to date anyway. It’s a strange conundrum but there’s not really much anyone can do about how dating works. It sounds more like you just needed a breather. It happens. It’s natural. The vast majority of dates don’t go anywhere anyway. All you can do is take care of yourself and do yourself. At the end of the day, that’s what matters the most | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/25 07:50 PM |
| 2 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.No, not men, circumstances. Walking around at night in a sketchy area known for robberies. That bar with a notorious history for fights. Hanging out with questionable ppl. , ect.. You can go aha these are all MEN behind these acts. But that’s not the point. The point is you’re potentially dealing with potential dangerous people in general. Men will warn you of these things because these are places where you would most likely be robbed, stabbed or killed. No guy will tell you to be careful around… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.Society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.You should do the same 😉 Goodbye. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.Yes, men caution every one of potential threats. It’s what we do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 01:19 PM |
| 2 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.Well… yes, actually. Glad to see my lecture paid off. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 01:14 PM |
| 2 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.“Only here” means “don’t take it seriously.” Because chances are it’s not actually true but an exaggeration of the truth, fabricated, and or misinformation. Anyone can post and say anything online. Ppl post curated images of themselves on social media all the time. The internet is the place ppl live double lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 01:04 PM |
| 3 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.You do realize this sub isn’t representative of real life yes? Real life has complexity, this sub does not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.No, it’s Just male crime rate has always outpaced women. It’s always been that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:41 PM |
| 2 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.Male crime rate has been decreasing tho. It’s happening as we speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:37 PM |
| 1 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.You want men to just stop committing crimes?? Realistically that’s never going to happen, but crime has decreased over the years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.Sure. Where do you want to begin? Through history men have been leading in violence, but most men do not participate in it. In fact, history also shows us that the majority of men act against violence and speak out against it as well. This is on top of the fact that men are also the biggest victims of crime too. There are two sides of this coin. You have to look at the whole picture rather than one corner of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:28 PM |
| 4 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.This is a weird comment. Not only does it show that men are largely the victims of violent crime, it also largely ignores the fact that while men commit more violent crimes than women, only a minority of men are actually committing these crimes. That 92% makes it seem like ALL men are capable of committing crimes whereas in reality the vast majority of men aren’t. The vast majority of men are actually viewed as potential defenders and guardians than they are criminals. At the same time, since me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:12 PM |
| 5 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.I never actually heard a man say women are wrong for prioritizing their safety. In fact it’s usually men telling women to prioritize their safety. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:04 PM |
| -1 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.Yes, men are usually the ones to warn ppl of potentially dangerous situations. Men caution boys not to hang in the hood at night, not to hang with gangs and to not settle disputes with guns and weapons. So of course a man would also caution women and girls to be safe in public because men have had it drilled in their heads for centuries that women are “the weaker sex” who need to take extra precautions for their safety. So it checks out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 12:03 PM |
| -1 | Men can’t say that women are wrong for worrying about their safety and at the same time that it’s dangerous for them.Yup. Because men are seen as defenders. Men also caution other men and boys not to walk through the hood at night. Not to hang with their gang affiliated friends, not to be out late as hell, not to act a fool in public, how to be courteous to ppl within reason, etc… All you’re doing is describing a cornerstone role that men play in society as defenders and guardians. Anti violence initiatives that involve violent crimes like gang violence and shootings are usually handled by men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/25 11:58 AM |
| 4 | Do You Think Women Are Lying About Their Safety Concerns?You’ll have to ask them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 08:14 PM |
| 8 | Do You Think Women Are Lying About Their Safety Concerns?They tend to exaggerate encounters, especially online, and with trusted friends. Any "ick" suddenly means the dude is Ted Bundy in disguise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 07:44 PM |
| – | Guys who don't hang out, spend more time gaming, and don't date are actually MORE likely to support gander equaletyThis is literally a study done on teenage boys 💀 How many teenage boys know anything about dating women?? A duh edgy teen boys will listen to some manosphere nonsense, they really don’t know any better. This is the age where awkward first dates and teenage hormones are on overcharge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/25 11:02 AM |
| 0 | Despite claiming that women have better friendships women are as lonly as menThe vast majority of women ARE dating tho. The ones that claim to be holding out for their man are seeing multiple guys as we speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/25 04:12 PM |
| 3 | "Be confident" is not an empty platitude. It has a real and useful definition.Don't age and weight, practice, and athleticism play significant factors in this? I can do a frontflip because I've been doing them since I was a kid. I've never done a successful backflip. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/25 04:09 PM |
| 14 | Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of menI’m pretty sure if guys had a weight filter on those apps the data would show they 99.9% of those men would prefer slimmer women. Dating apps are superficial by nature so no surprise there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 01:58 PM |
| 27 | Women’s vetting does filter out the majority of menI feel this whole “women vetting men” thing is heavily over exaggerated. In a nutshell a woman wants to date a guy she genuinely likes. That guy will not be “perfect” by any stretch, but she likes him anyway. This is simple stuff. Too many guys think being a good person is enough to get a woman to like you. Being a good person isn’t even a qualification; you need chemistry, sexual tension, emotional intelligence. That’s gonna get you pussy like clockwork. Looks play a factor sure, but they’re no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/25 01:10 PM |
| 3 | You don’t get to claim you’re lonely if you’re unwilling to reciprocate.Man, for real. I had a friend I finally forced to come out and hang after not seeing him for like years cuz every time I tried to get him to come out he had a convenient excuse on why he couldn’t come out. I talked to ppl who travel a lot and they never tell you about their trip or what they did. It’s just “it was nice -_-“ and then say nothing else about it. I’m the same way, I plan out activities but it seems like no one ever puts in the same energy, never reach out, never add to the Itinerate… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Why do men think women are trying to share the top men? A lot of women are choosing to be singleMaaaan, lol. Did you actually see the men on that app? It’ll give a lot of men hope cause none of the guys shared in that app were nowhere near good looking. They were average to uggo tbh. Even the women weren’t all that. They were mid at best; the typical sort you see on dating apps on the regular. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/25 12:25 PM |
| 12 | “Men want to be truly desired” is just code for “I want to be treated like a Sex God”.Women would hide behind “he just wants sex,” till the day they die, huh? And then proceed to deal with a guy who… just used them for sex anyway -_- If you pay attention to a lot of what men say online, the vast majority just want reciprocity. In fact in r/askmen the top voted comment on the thread of “what do men find attractive in women?” Aloofness and non reciprocation were the biggest turn offs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/25 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Women are more replaceable than men in datingWhat's the argument here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/25 05:12 PM |
| 1 | Women do want a good man, just not enough.Um… okay. Have fun arguing with yourself I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Women do want a good man, just not enough.I never said all games are crap tho. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Women do want a good man, just not enough.You have to be more than just “good” Where’s the sexual chemistry? The romance? The confidence and swagger? Being “good” is just… good. When you lays video game, you like it more than just being “good.” Maybe it’s the gameplay the graphics, the characters or the writing. It’s always other things that make that good stick out to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 05:19 PM |
| 9 | Are Women Really Overlooking Good Men—Or Are They Just Not ThereThat’s because attraction leans heavily into chemistry. Being a good person is just “meh” you know a lot of good ppl in your life but does that mean you’ll hook up with all of them based off that alone? Nah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 04:27 PM |
| 1 | If a vast majority of men got laid easily, the United States would be a quasi socialist country right nowThat’s a long winded way to say a lot of young men are falling for victimhood narratives fed to them by right wing bull fuckery. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Stop being emotionally vulnerable to women, your close male friends are the only ones who can actually handle itHonestly you should only confide in someone you trust. Not just cause they’re a man or a woman, but that you TRUST them. I’ve had bother men and women trauma dump on me, because these were people who trusted me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/25 03:17 PM |
| 1 | People are so naive thinking Tea app will hinder dating lives of men posted thereWait what? That’s what this app is about? Women can star rate the men they’ve dated? Do they use his photo and real name (I would assume so if they’re telling other women to be safe around him) That’s an invasion of privacy and doxxing tbh, especially if the guy didn’t do anything beside have her “the ick” which according to women could basically be anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 08:44 PM |
| 3 | Why do some women say its the guy’s fault for being single?When you said, “You do know you have 100% control over your emotions and how you conduct yourself, right?” you never specified any exception for emotions brought on by losing your entire family. Why would I specify something we aren't even discussing? OP's original comment is about being upset at being romantically rejected. That's the root of the discussion, and that was what I was responding to. You basically came and said "Oh, yeah, well, what if your whole family just DIED? How you that make… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 04:58 PM |
| 4 | Why do some women say its the guy’s fault for being single?So we're comparing family tragedies to some dude sad about women not dating him? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 04:13 PM |
| 4 | Why do some women say its the guy’s fault for being single?This is a %1000 false. You can absolutely decide to feel any sort of way in any sort of situation at any point and time at your choosing. Your emotion dictate your actions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 01:08 PM |
| 9 | Why do some women say its the guy’s fault for being single?You do know you have %100 control over your emotions and how you conduct yourself, right? This year alone I’ve been rejected by two women I had been dating. Tbh, I wasn’t all that upset, we just weren’t compatible. How I de- stressed was going to a local comedy club after work lol. Laughter and a good drink are the best medicine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 12:51 PM |
| 2 | Why do some women say its the guy’s fault for being single?Tate is basically a pedo sex trafficker bruh. He didn’t have a single healthy relationship. Tesla, like some inventors was married to his creation. That or he may have just been an asexual, who knows. Both of the Wright Bothers didn’t marry either, and it was seen as highly unusual for the time. But these were men who chose to go against the social norm of their day to embrace their creation. This was a personal choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 12:47 PM |
| 5 | Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You?Yes, guys have been saying this. You’ve probably heard the more abrasive manosphere version since they seem to scream the loudest in these spaces. They use caricatures of “Chads” and “Staceys” to describe this. Stayces are the girls they see as having a boat load of options but then she’ll wind up choosing “Chad bro” over all of them and then would be surprised that Chad bro is a serial cheater but she thought she would be the one he’d choose to settle with in the end. This is a very old story: … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 08:57 PM |
| 13 | Would You Feel Insecure if Every Guy You Met Had 50x More Options Than You?Guys have been saying exactly this since the dawn of time. This is precisely the root of their frustrations to the point that the hard core manosphere type made up caricatures to describe this very behavior. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Reddit women are a minority the basic "normie" girl is pretty darn patriarchalYup. That’s why I always warn guys and gals to take Reddit with a huge grain of salt. The vast majority of women prefer men to approach. The women who’ve stated that they approach guys are an exception not the rule. They do approach men, but if you’re a guy and you’re waiting on a woman to make the first move, you’re gonna be waiting a long ass time. The vast majority of women often defer to the man to basically do everything. She’ll agree with almost all your plans so long as she ain’t planning… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Men need to stop approaching and chasing women.Because the average woman gets approached often, so she’s pretty much desensitized from men approaching her. More guys are more willing to approach women but they often get shutdown. The rejection rate for men will easily be 80% or higher. That’s just how it is. It only gets under your skin if you don’t have that mentality already to face that fact. In the meantime, cultivating a life for yourself outside of scoring women for dates is easily the best thing you can do for yourself and your dating… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/25 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?For sure. It’s just men encounter this dynamic way more than women do. Women can afford to experiment with their dating habits. Either wait for a guy you like to approach or approach the guy you like, you guys have a very low chance of being rejected in either scenario. Men can do the same, sure, but a guy who waits for a woman to initiate will be waiting a long a time. He’s practically forced onto the path of having to initiate if he wants to get anywhere. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/25 01:36 AM |
| 5 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?No you would not have lol. Men get repeatedly rejected. Men also go through exactly what you just described. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 02:30 PM |
| 4 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?How you gonna say no and then basically agree with what I just said??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:52 PM |
| 5 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?So you had a taste of how dating is for men i see? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?Basically every dude I’ve met irl and online has stated that they respect those women who make the first move a lot more than the ones who don’t. I’ve never seen or heard them call them slurs for approaching. Most of the women on this sub admit that they met their husbands by initiating first. Ironically, others have stated they don’t want to be the ones to approach state that they don’t want to be viewed as an option. This is ironic because being treated ad an option is the default that men fac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?I’ve constantly seen women refer to other women using those terms a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?Plenty of women on this site just stated they met their husbands by initiating first lol. The others ironically described their dislike of the skewed power dynamics of not wanting to be treated as a disposable option, a reality most men who date face anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?If you’re perfectly happy being single, then why are you asking men out to begin with?? Y’all give men waaaay too much credit on the whole “fake personality,” thing. No one is that adept at faking a personally for weeks lol. You can easily peg someone for who they are in a few weeks at best. It’s not that hard, nor do you have to be some skilled body language expert. Additionally, if for whatever reasons, you can also just meet in public places if you feel the guy is dubious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:15 PM |
| 1 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?You do realize a guy who approaches could ALSO just be in it to get sex? I keep seeing this argument of “the guy should care more,” but in both instances the guy cares more. You approach him and he takes you up on yo it offer to date, that’s literally him caring more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:11 PM |
| 6 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?This is weirdly eye opening. I’ve seen variations of this same mentality. It’s ironic because I’ve seen several women on here say they don’t want to be seen as a disposable option or have to do all the chasing… And yet… That is exactly how dating is for men. Then women wonder why some dudes get frustrated with it due to exactly what you described. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:07 PM |
| 7 | Question for Women: What are the barriers that stop women from just taking the initiative and asking guys out on a date that they clearly like or have a crush on?Being treated like an option is the male default when it comes to dating lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 12:01 PM |
| 0 | How many cold approached have you made in the last week?Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. And don’t treat her like she’s the only girl on the planet. Plant the seed of familiarity then go about your business. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:42 AM |
| 1 | How many cold approached have you made in the last week?Personally, I’ve never been a fan of it nor have a desire to do it cause I have get to know you somewhat to even consider wanting to approach you. I have 0 issue talking to women or approaching them, but I have 0 desire to date a total stranger no matter how good she looks. I’ll just go, “dang, she fine,” then go about my day lol. I feel the vast majority of ppl often date someone that has a somewhat familiarity with anyway, I.e., work, school, etc… I do feel that cold approaching has gone way d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/25 01:39 AM |
| 2 | The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men.Your fiance sounds like Roy from Fargo 😏😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Why are you still single?Which isn't surprising. Fat women are pretty much in the same boat as the average guy, AKA, you barely get any attention. Fortunately, women have an easy out: just hit the gym, lose that weight--look great and dress nice. You also have the added benefit of being in shape, looking and feeling great AND being able to actively date. For the average guy, there is no ticket in improving their dating prospects. They can hit the gym and come out looking like Chuck Norris and STILL be struggling when it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 12:35 AM |
| 0 | Women should approach moreGuess it’s time to move out of Ohio then and get that business going where it’s legal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 03:53 PM |
| 0 | Women should approach moreWhy don’t you aspire to be that guy to create space for a arcade weed bar? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/25 03:43 PM |
| 8 | Men need to stop approaching and chasing women.Yes, this is true with inexperienced men. Men who are just starting out to date just have that prerogative in mind of “does she like me back.” I often tell men if the woman they like is actually even worth it. Do you really like her for her or just he validation of her giving you the bare minimum of attention? That’s primarily why some men suck at dating: they’re too busy chasing women who don’t even want them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/25 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Dating isn’t hard, you’re just not putting in enough effortYou need to put effort into every aspect of your life to attract women. This right here is the problem lol. You don't do these things to get women. You do these things because you have a desire to do them. Most of my relationships I had I didn't have to do anything. The girl liked me, I liked her, that was it. That's honestly how easily it's supposed to be. If you find yourself pulling teeth just to have a girl give you the bare minimum, then why do you even want that girl? The biggest pitfall I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 07:11 PM |
| 3 | Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know.Won’t know if you’re that guy if you don’t approach at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 12:38 PM |
| 5 | Women aren’t harder to date; this generation of women have built themselves up more and aren’t willing to date a man that doesn’t do the sameYup. The message for years now that men are hearing is that they're the problem for even attempting to ask women out. They're being entitled for asking women out, or you're a threat to her safety for asking her out. That's three very bad things from the jump and 0 positive reinforcement to actually foster a healthy dating experience with men. That's exactly why guys just chose not to approach becasue that does mitigate those risks for both men and women, but it also alienates us. Online women pr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 09:00 PM |
| 7 | Women aren’t harder to date; this generation of women have built themselves up more and aren’t willing to date a man that doesn’t do the sameThis is definitely a yes and no thing. In very rare circumstances, I've had instances where I barely had to lift a finger, and a girl partially joins herself at my hip with 0 effort. Oftentimes, though, I have to jump through flaming hoops just for the bare minimum, and for the overwhelming majority of men who date, this is their reality. The women I know who are single and are dating, have good careers, take care of their bodies and appearance, very social (go out and join clubs, activities). T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Men are discouraged from approaching women they don’t know as well as discouraged from asking out women they do know.That’s the fun part, brothers, you just try. There’s no other way around it. As men you have to be comfortable with taking the risk, but more importantly, having the maturity to handle a potential rejection with grace. If you have both of those traits, or if you have to work to get there, you’ll be alright. The truth of the matter is, the overwhelming majority of women WANT men to approach. No matter what they say online, that’s the facts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 01:51 PM |
| 0 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menThe point was that options you don't like are still options. Who promised that all options in life would be good? Sometimes you have to pick the best of bad options. Bad options exist. Or you could just... not choose them. Who's holding a gun on you, forcing you to pick between two things you otherwise don't have to? I'm sure it did but that wasn't the point of the analogy. The point was that options you don't like don't stop existing or being options just because you don't like it. Uh... okay? … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 05:14 PM |
| 0 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menOf course their options. The guy could be going through a dry spell or just say fuck it, and settle for one of two options. The options exist and can be chosen. Or you can just choose to be single, which is a better option than entering an unfulfilling relationship with 0 romance. Your job analogy illustrates this pretty well. A duh, I'll choose unemployment over a bogus job like picking fruit in the blazing sun or scrubbing toilets all day long lol. The option to stay unemployed is an option. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 03:18 PM |
| 2 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menBeing single is an option. Most guys in this site don’t like it tho. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 02:14 PM |
| -1 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menIf you have 0 romantic energy with that person, then they're not an option to you. They're just there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 01:54 PM |
| 2 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menLukewarm conversations as a problem is hilarious! I hear women complain about this more than guys, tho. So this is a valid concern. Meanwhile women are dealing with avoiding death and stalkers. Sorry about the boring convos though. lol!! This is a valid argument as well. Women's safety should always come first when dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 01:53 PM |
| 3 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menDating is about looking for a partner that you will build your life with, not about finding any objects that you can get. A lot of ppl treat dating like this tho. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 01:44 PM |
| -4 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menSo, yes, women have it easier in getting attention because guys crave that attention. But guys can train themselves not to be simps and to be more strategic in who they actually want to talk with, rather than the shotgun approach of "any woman would do." Otherwise, making it easier for women in the dating game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 01:42 PM |
| -3 | It’s not that women have it easier, it’s just that dating is horrible for most menOkay, so realistically, let's say you have two women who like you, but for the life of you, they're just mid. Nothing's outwardly wrong with them; you just don't have any romantic chemistry with them. Do you still consider them options despite the fact that you don't click with them on a romantic level? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Why are you having trouble dating, in your earnest estimation?I’ve dated several women who did exactly that verbatim, 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 08:31 PM |
| 2 | Why are you having trouble dating, in your earnest estimation?The same reason some women aren’t thoughtful and attentive: it’s a sign of disinterest. Us guys know those signs right away and just move on. Women usually give us the cold shoulder a lot in the dating game. Ironically it be the guys who are attentive and thoughtful that get rejected most the time lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Why are you having trouble dating, in your earnest estimation?Or you could just use your words like an adult. Why is this so difficult? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Why are you having trouble dating, in your earnest estimation?Actually communicating your needs is exhausting? Do you have realistic expectations vs this perfect image in your head that he has to get right or else he’s the problem? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 08:11 PM |
| 3 | Why are you having trouble dating, in your earnest estimation?Even in a committed relationship, this mentality of “just getting it,” never ends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 08:09 PM |
| 2 | Do you actually NEVER get laid or approached, or are you exaggerating?A lot of ppl have a self image issue. I’d say conventional attractive ppl especially. You have celebs who are good looking do plastic surgery only to come out looking worse than before. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Do you actually NEVER get laid or approached, or are you exaggerating?Plastic surgery? Hell, even good looking celebs do it because of poor body image and come out the other end looking worse than they did before lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 08:03 PM |
| 1 | I don't get why men are surprised with womens behaviors or actions.80/20 isn't even real lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/25 06:03 PM |
| 7 | Men are angry about the current dating dynamics because they don't want to feel cucked.Causal sex with multiple partners ain’t everything it’s crack up to be tho. Most of these guys have a FOMO mentality where they praise it cause it doesn’t happen to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 08:04 PM |
| 2 | How often does the average man get 'approached'... In their lifetime?Attention-starving tendency is a sign of insecurity, or having little going on in life. A busy, productive life yields many fruits, including attention from women. Women do approach, but not in the same capacity as men. A lot of women still prefer men to take the lead, even if she approaches you, she will then defer to you taking the lead to make the relationship work. Why do you think that saying, men hold the keys to a relationship exists at all? We guys have the power in a relationship, from … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 06:24 PM |
| 1 | The average dude is creep profiled even before he approaches or expresses interest in a womanThey are easy to spot. Your first paragraph pretty much explained this better than I could. You give guys waaaay too much credit for their manipulative behavior. Manipulation absolutely plays a part, but it’s self inflicted, and it’s caused by putting ppl on pedestals. The same thing men do to women who they accuse of “manipulating” them. But nobody told those men to put those women on a pedestal. When ppl are blinded by lust, they willingly hand the other person the keys to their kingdom,and if… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 05:53 PM |
| 1 | The average dude is creep profiled even before he approaches or expresses interest in a womanThis basically tells us that those abusive men are the final bosses of ulterior motives and or bitterness anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 04:10 PM |
| 3 | The average dude is creep profiled even before he approaches or expresses interest in a womanBrother, it’s not about “manipulation.” These women absolutely KNOW that the guy is problematic, they would even admit to it, but then they’ll go along with them anyway. Abusers are easy to spot; there are always signs, it’s just a good chunk of ppl who find themselves in abusive relationships have this belief that they can change that person or that that person would get better over time. Once an abuser realizes that they could get away with being problematic they’ll just keep doing it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 04:08 PM |
| 14 | The average dude is creep profiled even before he approaches or expresses interest in a woman“Women intuition” isn’t real. The instant a woman could tell a guy is trying to flirt with her and she’s not interested, she'll overly analysis his motives start deploying soft rejection tactics. The instant it’s a guy she likes, she would purposefully ignore and make up excuses for every red flag there is 🚩 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 02:41 PM |
| – | Men being single isn't a problem to be solvedWhen did he sexualized you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 07:01 PM |
| – | Men being single isn't a problem to be solvedWhich often exclusively happens within intimate relationships. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 12:15 PM |
| – | Men being single isn't a problem to be solvedWhat are you saying, lady. That’s a solid compliment lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/25 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: an average or below average looking woman matched with you on tinder. She messages you that she is trying to escape an abusive boyfriend and wants to crash with you in exchange for sex. What do you do?Sounds like a good way to get shot for no reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 12:39 PM |
| – | Apparently women just magically turn “demisexusal” around average menIn short: she’s probably not attracted to you. Nothing wrong with that. The sooner you get that through your head, you can move on to one who is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 11:17 AM |
| 2 | Women dont view having access to causal sex as a benefitWomen actually enjoy sex just like guys. And as others have accurately stated, the want access to sex without the societal consequences of being seems as a “slut.” Why do you think women are often more passive when it comes to dating? They have a lot more to lose than guys. The easily way for a guy to understand this is like this: you know how they are guys who are afraid to approach woman out of fear as being labeled a creep or a weirdo? Well, women don’t want to be viewed as “the pick me”, or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/25 11:14 AM |
| 1 | How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default?Okay. what were you trying to say? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 02:40 PM |
| 1 | How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default?I could barley read your original comment with all its bad grammar. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 02:37 PM |
| 1 | How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default?Well quality means the attitude and personality of your date. Men do not have a wide pool of dating prospects as women do, but they do face the same challenges that women do on dates, but for men, those dates are very infrequent. I talked to one of my friends who is a woman and she went on like 15 different dates in a month and like wtf, I’ve only ever been on like 1 date in the last 3 months lol. And the girl was very meh. Yup, she was attractive but meh. Eventually after dating 15 men in a mon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/25 12:55 PM |
| -1 | It has never been easier to date as a manI’ve been telling guys this forever. TikTok and the internet are not real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/25 02:40 PM |
| 8 | How Can Women Complain When They're So Privileged By Default?Wait till you find out men also have a quality issue too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/25 02:26 PM |
| 0 | It's very rich that women expect guys to make the first move at all times yet they should be under no obligation.Yeah, I feel you on this. The number of women I've dated, I had to take the lead %100 on everything. That isn't necessarily the issue (tho it can become annoying because it's like she never has an opinion on anything outside of criticizing your choices). But women's passivity is the biggest headache of all time. It's like they turn into luggage that you have to tow around and entertain. Of course, not all women are like this; this is the extreme cases, but that passivity does range in various de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/25 06:26 PM |
| 13 | Being nice is the bare minimum. Most guys' definition of a good guy usually seems to be someone with basic human decency. Women on average have alot of options compared to the average man, so of course just being a good guy is not gonna be enough.Here’s the funny part: they don’t. It’s called the halo effect for a reason. Women (no matter what they claim to say online) have a tendency of defaulting to a passivity role in a relationship, which creates this powerful notion that women are hapless and just fall for problematic men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/25 03:54 PM |
| 5 | Despite what women tell you they are the biggest enforcers of stereotypical masculinityI do agree with this take. When it comes to gender roles women are by far the traditionalist in that aspect (because it largely works in their favor) Just be passive and wait for stuff to happen. But the instant it’s the most mildly inconvenient thing (aka, they have to take action) then they take action, but only to reinforce the roles, and or call it a dealbreaker and leave. I definitely feel men are more open minded, more willing to forgive small things, able to work through small hitches | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/25 12:04 PM |
| 5 | Men being thirsty is the reason women have so much leverage in the dating gameYup. I just said the same thing yet this always gets pushback for some reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Men being thirsty is the reason women have so much leverage in the dating gameMen just have to be more strategic when it comes to dating. On social media, it is very easy to simp, but the first real step to stop simping is just to unfollow and block the account. That girl isn't the only attractive thing out there. The second thing to do is to pursue more strategically, you do this by befriending women in your immediate surroundings, at work, at the gym, at the meet-up spot, whatever. Having that reputation that you just aren't hitting up any chick plays well into your des… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/25 10:00 PM |
| 2 | The internet has enabled men to listen in on female spaces, and men don't like what they hearPpl tend to put up fronts all the time. That’s an innately human trait to achieve social cohesion. We’ve been doing that since before we discovered fire. Ppl aren’t inherently dishonest, but nobody wants to be seen rocking the boat if there’s no real reason to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 07:27 PM |
| 3 | The internet has enabled men to listen in on female spaces, and men don't like what they hearSounds like a typical group mentality to me. You observe a group of girls in a group and they behave no different than a group of guys. It's just locker room talk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 06:28 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Men would be disgusted if women were as sexual as they wereMost women already do this. Guys just aren’t as prudish when it comes it. A coworker of mine from an old job had my number for work stuff. Used to text me out of the blue about random stuff till one day, just out of the blue asked me to send her a nut video lol. I only knew her from work and honestly we barely even talked to another there, but yeah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/25 02:52 PM |
| 3 | The best way to attract women is to not try.I can %110 say this is it. giving her space to be interested and move towards you on her own time, having your shit together so your life is good weather or not you are dating someone, flirting that lets her feel interesting and attractive - not hunted or trapped, demonstrating she has social value as a person not just a sex object. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/25 05:31 PM |
| 3 | The best way to attract women is to not try.Well, the thing is you DO have to try. Waiting around for a relationship to happen isn't the best strategy, especially for men. Proactive dating means taking chances, it means being comfortable with being vulnerable but not taking things personally if things don't go the way you want them to. Essentially, be polite, be levelheaded, and don't fully invest in people who rarely or never meet you halfway. But making an effort with people does leave a positive impression, because, personally, I feel … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/25 05:29 PM |
| 0 | Men Can't Be Blamed for Age Gap Relationships Because Women Are the Sexual Selectors and Choosing to Be in Those RelationshipsMen and women choose relationships, man. This sounds like some young guy talk here. This is the same mentality where men believe women hold power over them when it comes to dating and sex. It’s not true. If you’re a guy—if you’re a person in general, who knows their worth, no one would have that sort of power over you. I’m 30, and I’ve turned down a few women before, women that were conventionally attractive too, we just weren’t compatible on a social and emotional level. Women who wanted me, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/25 02:16 PM |
| 1 | Women who cycle through "criminal losers" instead of dating a "good guy"Why do you want to deal with the woman who enjoy the company of losers? They’re telling you exactly who and what they are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/25 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Men, what's the worst thing that happened to you after asking a woman out?You confirm the dates the day of? I think that’s largely why they flake. Do you ever call/text them leading up to the date? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/25 12:23 PM |
| 7 | Men, what's the worst thing that happened to you after asking a woman out?Worse thing rejection that happened to me was as that she ratted me out to my supervisor, which I felt was largely unnecessary and petty tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/25 12:08 PM |
| 1 | There aren’t really that many opportunities to meet people in 2025The ones which are specially targeted at younger people do seem to be more promising… but these are intermittently scheduled and not abundant- and many are overcrowded with men looking for women. You have to change the venue. I took a dance class one time it was like 3 guys in that entire studio and like 20 women lol. You took a cooking class? A duh you're going to run into the older married couples there. You can attempt to approach in somewhat warm settings like a coffee shop but cold approach… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 06:18 PM |
| 3 | The post-#MeToo culture and the rise of dating apps gave men a reality checkThose crass guys were crass for a reason: they were the ones getting the ladies. It’s still like that today. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/06/25 08:38 PM |
| 4 | LWMAs have two choices: leave men’s (sexual) loneliness to the likes of Andrew Tate or address itThen what’s the alternative to equality for women? This isn’t a new thing. Men and women have always been miserable, it’s just social stigmatism had suppressed men’s ability to express themselves openly and women didn’t even have much say in society anyway. In a way, society didn’t move much away from this mentality; gender expectations are still solidified in society. Despite equality gains, women still expect men to take the lead. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/06/25 05:27 PM |
| 12 | LWMAs have two choices: leave men’s (sexual) loneliness to the likes of Andrew Tate or address itFrom my experience, the vast majority of women who say this just say this to save face. You come to find out the vast majority met their long term partner at work/school/friend group. Sure, some meet on the apps, but the bulk met the traditional way. Heck, the last several gfs I had I met at the same places women swear up and down online to never met at. If you listen to what women say online, you’ll never get anywhere. The overwhelming majority of women prefer men who initiate pretty much every… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 13/06/25 05:08 PM |
| – | Sabrina Carpenter’s new song “Manchild” is misandrist and hatefulFinding what out? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/25 04:35 PM |
| 76 | Sabrina Carpenter’s new song “Manchild” is misandrist and hatefulWait till bro finds out nearly every genre of music dehumanizes women on the regular and for centuries. Btw, this is the album cover that includes the song this dude is mad at. <image> | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/25 12:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingPpl say a lot of things on the internet that they otherwise wouldn’t say or do irl. No matter how sprawling the internet gets that’s always going to be the constant. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/25 02:55 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingThe analogy to the Man v Bear wasn’t supposed to be taken literal lol. It was primarily used to strip away the negative connotations of isolationism which was the unspoken variable in that scenario. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/25 01:35 PM |
| – | Do not take advice from people who are in loveThere’s no one size fits all when it comes to relationships. Every single one as unique as any person you’d meet. Not everyone who is in a relationship will tell you their grass is greener than yours. Some ppl are in unfulfilling relationships right now. You’re looking for actionable advice for dating, talk to ppl who are dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/25 01:29 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datinglol. Oh, man, you’ll be surprised in how many women don’t make that obvious choice and throw away a good relationship for one they know won’t work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 05:16 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingOften times, abusers show their hand pretty early. I dated a girl for like a month and yeah, the signs were there from the jump. The problem is ppl who deal with abusive ppl tell themselves “maybe they had a rough day, they’ll be better tomorrow.” That’s what I told myself, until I decided, naaaahh, I don’t need to deal with this person and just ghosted her lol. Never been better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 05:14 PM |
| 5 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingYup. I feel like a lot of guys are just too worried about that internet story of guys being labeled creeps around women that they don’t even try. The thing about that whole internet creep thing is that it’s just the internet. It hardly ever happens irl, it’s just online, ppl just love to feed into whatever cyber fad of the month there is. Like the Man Vs. Bear thing: the vast majority of women who said they’d chose the bear illustrate that they’ve fallen for the connotations of that scenario. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 05:07 PM |
| 8 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingI would climb every mountain on the planet and scream “being single is far better than being in a toxic relationship.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 04:58 PM |
| 1 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.Of course I do. I’m one of them. We all have. That’s just how dating goes. We’ve also had positive experiences too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.Because data is just numbers at the end of the day. Ancaodtes destroy the neat comfort that data presents us because they show us that life is more complex than a figure could represent. Data shows that men overrepresent prison populations in every country on the planet. Does this mean more men commit more crimes than women? In fact, men do, actually. Okay? Does that mean men are more prone to commit crimes than women? Not necessarily. What about the vast majority of men who aren't in prison? Le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 12:30 AM |
| 1 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.The internet is anonymous. Ppl put on masks here all the time. Masking in front of strangers is a very human thing that we do often. No one likes being vulnerable to strangers irl or even in front of ppl they know, so they come here to do so, without the fear of being rejected or judged. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.Yup. The fear of rejection is plays a huge role in that gap. You won’t hear it often from a woman, but it’s an underlying fear. Men are just told to deal with it lol. Couple that with traditional gender roles which most women prefer, and there we have it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.Being approached doesn’t always mean anything will come out of it. It’s just the majority of women prefer men to initiate engagement. And if she likes you then great. And if not then that’s cool too. Just move on to someone who does. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.Let’s ignore that data for a moment and talk about real world experience. When was the last time you approached a woman? How’d it go? Were you labeled a creep? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 05:31 PM |
| 3 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.No, but men can behave politely and disengage if a woman isn’t reciprocating their attention. They do realize there’s more than one woman on the planet. Why waste time talking to one who isn’t interested when you can be spending time with one who is? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 03:48 PM |
| 0 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.Normal ppl don’t have anything to worry about. Purple Pill is the internet, not real life. Did you not read my post lol. Trust me when I say the vast majority of ppl who speak in extremes online don’t do any of the things they just said irl. It’s all cope and imagination or overthinking. The online communities is the space where ppl vent and boast about scenarios that happen in their head or reflect on situations where they should have reacted a differently irl but didn’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.I don’t recall saying ALL women welcomed approaching. I said the majority do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 03:31 PM |
| 9 | Women tell that men don't approach women because they're scared.This is largely an internet fallacy that is largely consumed by men who are too afraid to approach women for the fear of being perceived as “creepy” and for the ultra feminist who just bash men online, but irl, they don’t practice what they say online. If you listen to women complain on the internet all day long, they create the illusion that women don’t want to be bothered by men at all. The reality the vast majority of women do not believe in this irl. The vast majority of women DO want to dat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 02:01 PM |
| -9 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenOut of genuine curious, what misandry are you seeing from the left? I keep seeing this on this sub yet no one ever gives me an easily understandable answer to this. Yes, left wing think-tanks participate in culture wars, but right wing rhetoric is far more accessible and destructive. The right are essentially anti-everything that isn’t a white male Christian. It’s easy as hell to keep your target audience hypnotized with constant victimhood narratives where they believe they’re the underdogs fig… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 29/05/25 01:50 AM |
| -2 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenOkay, I get where you’re coming from. The truth about the ultra wealthy and elites is that they’re an entity of their own. They live in a totally different world untouched by politics and from your average voter and regardless of who’s in office, they’re gonna make sure they eat first at everyone else expense. They also have a lot of power behind the scene. Right wing think tanks in particular are funded by multi millionaires and billionaires who turn any potential progress into a culture war th… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 11:42 PM |
| -14 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenWhat I see happen here is damned if then try, damned if they don’t try. Either way, this sub is holding Dems to a standard that they haven’t even elaborated on. The Republican message to men is just typical victimhood nonsense but in the end it accomplishes nothing. It’s classic con artists playing ppls emotions. It gets guys to vote for them, sure. But you quiz a chunk of those guys on any platform they agree with, it’s just whatever Trump tells them. What exactly do you want Dems to do to reac… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 11:01 PM |
| 0 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenYou mean those potential voters who dislike democrats already? Who don’t even like republicans who don’t spout MAGA nonsense? Those potential voters who call very conservative judges “liberal judges.” Yeah, you mad at the wrong people. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 10:54 PM |
| -1 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenWhat policy?? Give me one GOP policy that’s actually helping ppl. Trump’s win was largely due to ppl not coming out to vote, of ppl expecting democrats to be miracle workers while not holding republicans to the same standard. I don’t recall the Pro Palestine protesters interrupting Trump rallies? I don’t recall them ever questioning what Trump would do to initiate peace between Israel and Palestine. They were too busy accusing Biden/Harris of being complicit and yet they say nothing when Trump r… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 05:52 PM |
| -6 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenBecause The GOP is absolutely ass at governing. This isn’t even an opinion, it’s objective fact. They pass a bill that cuts SNAP, Medicaid, no FEMA aid for their own constituency facing natural disaster to fund a tax cut where only the ultra wealthy truly benefit from. Tariffs that increase the cost of goods, etc… Tell me, wtf do you get for voting republican? Under democrats, Medicare enrollment expanded, the economy was recovering from COVID, and we didn’t alienate and demonize ally nations. D… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 05:15 PM |
| -2 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenConsidering Trump voters are definitely not the brightest bunch in any category besides foolishness, this isn’t say much. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 04:48 PM |
| -4 | Democrats Have Spent 20 Million Dollars Trying To Figure Out How To Talk To MenYour quote expertly sums up the current Republican Party’s mentality more than anything else and yet I hardly ever hear anyone call them out for it. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 04:45 PM |
| -1 | Why is it that whenever men try to open up about serious issues mental health, loneliness, systemic struggles the conversation always gets hijacked or derailed with blame, deflection, or “women have it worse”? Where are the spaces for honest, empathetic discussion?R/askmen is a good place. Inevitably you’re gonna get the tuff love police shoved down your throat but you can easily ignore them. | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 28/05/25 04:42 PM |
| 1 | It’s not worth it for men to have female friends, too many downsides, not enough benefit.Okay. 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 02:19 PM |
| 6 | It’s not worth it for men to have female friends, too many downsides, not enough benefit.He only generalized his point about men’s preferred friendships with other men. His point that women are snakes is when he spoke in absolutes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 01:52 PM |
| 0 | It’s not worth it for men to have female friends, too many downsides, not enough benefit.Feel free to enlighten me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 12:45 PM |
| 8 | It’s not worth it for men to have female friends, too many downsides, not enough benefit.Speaking in absolutes by stating women in general are snakes to their friends speaks more volumes to who you’re surrounding yourself with than women in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/25 12:20 PM |
| 58 | It’s not worth it for men to have female friends, too many downsides, not enough benefit.Why is gender an equation here for friendship? Friends are ppl you have good chemistry with. Like spending time with. Emotional dumping is definitely not a woman exclusive thing. Ppl who trauma dump feel safe to do so with you, but I get it, sometimes they tend to retread the same things over and over again. That’s why we have this thing called boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/25 11:27 PM |
| 0 | The mockery of male lonelinessYup. Knew a comment like this was coming. My point is all about living outside your comfort zone. This builds character, it expands your social circles, gives you life experience and puts you in the path with people you otherwise wouldn’t have met. It’s not about “collecting hobbies.” It’s about pursuing a passion that will open new doors for you in life. Nowhere did I say you have to do these to “be interesting.” You laugh at salsa dancing and yet it’s fun as hell to do, you have an instant cir… | /r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates | 25/05/25 03:39 AM |
| 3 | Nice guys actually do talk to women as people, but women then treat them as "one of the girls"They actually just see you as a friend, not “one of the girls.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/25 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Women and men behave exactly the same in dating, it’s just women get more opportunity to act cold and selfish so it’s thought to be “their nature”I haven’t heard a woman say this ever irl. I hear it often from men tho. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/25 02:12 PM |
| 1 | Women and men behave exactly the same in dating, it’s just women get more opportunity to act cold and selfish so it’s thought to be “their nature”Yup. A similar topic on “which gender takes rejection the worse?” Pops up every now and then, And it’s not even a gender thing, it’s largely a people thing. It’s not even that women have options, it’s largely because women know that they’re always in demand and there’s always gonna be some guy somewhere, even if they don’t like him, will talk to them. You already see countless videos of women saying men don’t ask them out in person anymore or men don’t approach. The reason women hardly meet men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/25 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?I didn’t say they do criminal activity. I said they do sleazy shit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/25 12:05 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?A lot (most?) of abusive men are from certain backgrounds with certain personality types. A felon who didn't finish high school, has a shitty job, and drinks a lot is significantly more likely to be abusive than the white collar worker. Not at ALL bruh. Those white-collar guys be on some diabolically sleazy shit, it's just ppl associate them with their jobs, which are viewed as boring, to not think twice about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 11:37 PM |
| 3 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?The opposite is true as well. I knew guys and gals who are cool to chill with but the way they treated their lady or guy was like wtf... My best friend's former gf was very cool to hang with, but around him, when she thought no one was watching, she would hit him, call him a stupid fucker, etc... very abusive and verbally abusive too. It was like night and day, but I've seen that play out enough times to recognize the pattern. That's because they enjoy being a bully in their relationship behind … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Why are so many of you so convinced that abusers are obvious, blatant, cartoonishly evil people that can be easily spotted?Because they are pretty easy to spot, it's just that when you're enamored and blinded by love, you just make up excuses for that person's behavior, even if you know, deep down, that there is something wrong with them. I dated a girl for about a month and I noticed literally on day one that she was problematic. Why did I keep dating her for a month? Well I thought the usual thought of, hey, maybe she had a rough day today, she'll be better the next time we hang out. Turns out she only got worse. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 11:19 PM |
| 1 | Why do some guys get so hostile if other guys admit to using escorts ?I'm not hostile towards it whatsoever. It's a multibillion-dollar industry. But personally, no matter how desperate I may feel, I would never partake in it, largely because it't a huge waste of time and money. You can just as easily land a date with someone and have an even better time with someone who WANTS you there and not someone who is OBLIDGED to be there because you paid a couple of grand for a girlfriend for the night. I feel the same way about strip clubs. You just sit there and watch a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/05/25 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Would you date a woman who took "How to talk to men" classes?There are guys who are into bigger women. Plus sized women aren’t even that ugly, at least to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 04:12 PM |
| 7 | It's not misogyny just because you don't relate to the complaintAnd you know what so funny about that, that plausible deniability of women going “of course we don’t mean all men when we say that.” Which is extreme irony considering that women absolutely hate the #notallmen slogan and yet here they are using it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 03:49 PM |
| 1 | It's not misogyny just because you don't relate to the complaintOn the flip side of that: the saying of “men ain’t shit,” is seen as women empowerment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Hey PPD! What is an unpopular opinion that you are thoroughly convinced is true about modern dating after many years?You do realize I’m in agreement with you lol. But you keep focusing on the guy being rejected as a catalyst for “nice guy” syndrome and not the guys who are in committed relationships who act the same way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Hey PPD! What is an unpopular opinion that you are thoroughly convinced is true about modern dating after many years?Men loss their shit against their partners all the time, in fact, this “nice guy” behavior presents itself in relationships all time. But oddly, we almost never actually talk about that. It’s easier to discuss the “nice guy” you rejected verse the one you’re dealing with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 08:40 PM |
| 4 | Hey PPD! What is an unpopular opinion that you are thoroughly convinced is true about modern dating after many years?Not even just this sub. This is known irl too. I’ve seen it many times where a woman would complain about a “nice guy,” whose only pretending to be nice but then they’re turn around a date or get into a relationship with a guy who’s exactly that anyway lol. The reason behind that is simple: the woman is exactly like the man she dates and vice versa. It’s just women are subjected to the halo effect, which creates this notion that they’re seem hapless nymphs charmed by mister bad, when to isn’t ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 06:50 PM |
| 7 | Hey PPD! What is an unpopular opinion that you are thoroughly convinced is true about modern dating after many years?Bingo. I have a friend exactly like this. Would swear she can smell a “suspicious guy” which is often always a guy who overtly likes her but she doesn’t like him back. But then she’ll lust after a guy who’s EXACTLY like the guys she supposedly can sniff out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 05:55 PM |
| 9 | Hey PPD! What is an unpopular opinion that you are thoroughly convinced is true about modern dating after many years?I get so tired of that “female intuition” like you so expertly put, it only magically applies to guys that they don’t like already, so they’re just deploying endless soft rejection methods, hoping the guy “gets the hint.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 05:53 PM |
| 0 | What’s the point of asking women for their opinions if you’re just going to dismiss them right away?I wouldn’t say it’s an outright dismissal, it’s more like take what others say with a grain of salt, because this isn’t a women thing, it’s a ppl thing. It’s way too easy for ppl to say things, whereas their actions say otherwise. Actions speak louder than any words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/25 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Revenge fantasies still invoke the just world fallacyI don’t even know what that phrase even means in any sort of context. It doesn’t even sound grammatically correct lol. I’ve been seeing it more and more online alongside “two things can be true.” Two phrases that sound extra dumb when you hear it spoken irl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 08:26 PM |
| 1 | The biggest problem keeping so many people single is simply that there is a lack of a social continuity post-college/high school.Fore sure. And this totally normal. The difficulty of making new connections posts-college has done a thing for decades, but it has worsen for a lot of people in modern times ever since we could take the internet to go. It isn’t impossible to make friends post-college, but it does take a bit more effort than usual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/25 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Male desperation is what reinforces and in many cases, creates female delusion in the dating world%100 I’ve made a similar post to this a while back on this sub and got a TON of hate comments from those same exact men who have 0 boundaries and would just chase any girl with a pulse. Dating as a guy is like playing on easy mode the instant you actually develop strong boundaries and be more proactive in your daily life, sustaining friendships and learning new skills etc than just blindly chasing women. Another man posted a very good post on this topic where he explained how men frustrate thems… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/25 12:07 PM |
| 3 | Men aren't approaching women due to a lack of social skills, merely because they are taught not to.In my experience, even in the throes of the #metoo movement, I didn’t struggle when it came to women. So long as you’re polite and don’t view every woman with a pretty face as date material, you’re good. At the most the #metoo movement was about shining a spotlight on the everyday sexism and SA that went on in the workplace. It didn’t mean all men are ass and anyone who told you otherwise were just the one trying to get ppl riled up. I was high school back in the late 00’s and we used to get rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/25 06:52 PM |
| 6 | Men embrace redpill because mainstream advice is dogshitIt’s largely because women have an abundance of choice and when it comes to dating, the average and even mid women get waaay more attention than the average man does. So she can afford to be picky whereas the avenger man usually leans into desperation due to lack of abundant choice. But all men have to do is play at their own strengths, and understand that having few choices in dating is pretty much the norm. But being desperate just to get into a relationship is very unhealthy and unrewarding. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/25 03:09 PM |
| 12 | Men are tired with the gamesAnd yet, I still do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 12:45 PM |
| 25 | Men are tired with the gamesI don’t know why dudes feel like they’re being exploited by women when us men set up the dates in the first place. It doesn’t have to be dinner, and if it is, choose an inexpensive tavern. That’s what I did, spent less than $50. Food was great, the only pricy thing was the drinks. If you feel a girl is not putting in the effort to meet you halfway, you can always dial back the engagement. I went out on a date with a girl, it was great, we had a very good time, but something about the girl’s atti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 10:33 AM |
| 0 | Do men understand how much women are influenced by the subconscious fear of men?%100 this. All OP did was describe guys she didn’t like making advances toward her. But the instant it’s a guy she likes then none of this applies and all that guys bad behavior is suddenly invisible to her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 03:08 PM |
| 0 | Do men understand how much women are influenced by the subconscious fear of men?This is all mostly BS. Women only pull this card toward men they don’t like or don’t know too well. You’re only hyper aware and uncomfortable of a guy’s advances toward you because you don’t like him. If you like him then none of this applies. It’s one of the reason the incels have that saying: “rule 1: don’t be ugly” and you’re basically proving this point in spades. secondly, most physical and sexual violence is perpetuated largely by men that women already trusts or have in their immediate or… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 03:01 PM |
| 1 | Men complain about women dating bad boys yet men date horrible womenYes, but women absolutely have waaay more options than men. She may not get her ideal, but the entry to date a guy she likes or semi likes is never too high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 02:39 PM |
| 4 | "Male romantic loneliness is due to women not putting up with shitty behavior anymore" take is pure BSYou can also be that guy or gal who just has their partner and no friends or social life beyond that. The flip side isn’t any better. Personally, I’d prefer being single and lonely than be In a relationship and lonely. The latter could breed jealousy and resentment. I’m seeing a girl right now who dated a guy like that in the past, and she told me how the guy would get upset that she would be out with her friends a lot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 01:30 PM |
| -4 | The fact so many Gen Z men and women have complaints about the dating market proves it is a widespread issueThat’s because male loneliness IS self inflicting. We have nothing but a plethora of social options at our fingertips right now that don’t cost anyone anything but time. But the forever alone types always have an excuse on why they can’t do it. “I live in a small town.” Okay? Ever thought about moving? “I don’t have any money,” then why are you worried about dating, then? “I don’t have a lot of friends/ very few friends” Go volunteer, join meetups outings, ask the coworkers you’re cool with if t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 01:06 PM |
| – | Dating is a numbers game and men who care less stay winning it.%100 facts. This is a lesson every single man, in particular, must learn as early as they can. It will save you a lot go time and energy. And it would reduce the rate in which men flip off on a woman for not liking them back. Getting invested waaay too soon is like investing in a stock that hasn’t gone live yet, so you have no idea how it’s gonna perform. You can just buy a pittance of the shares of that stock so that if anything, good or bad, you won’t get burned by its performance. The thing i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/25 01:05 PM |
| 5 | Why are some men hateful of women when other men are their biggest competitors?Dating isn’t a competition lol. What’s the score, bro? Nah, dating is just vibes at the end of the day. The right vibe at the right time makes the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/25 09:05 PM |
| 11 | As a bi woman, dating women is way harder than dating men.For straight men, you’ve pretty much described our default when it comes to dating lol. But it really does take a bi or lesbian woman to really say these things cause i think women actually hear and digest your experiences more than they do us men. Guys been saying these thing for years and are often met with dismissiveness or tough love approach which can easily worsen things. For bi women, you all have the benefit of not being seen as physical threats or sexual predators on sight, so you have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/25 05:24 AM |
| 7 | Rarely have women meet men that are truly unlucky with women. Its usually something he’s doing wrong.The manosphere also and mostly caters to men who are in committed relationships too. Men who often laud the alpha bro mentality. It isn’t just a place for lonely men to whine at. The ordinary man IS struggling in modern dating. You conveniently jump over my dating app point for a reason. Rodger’s pretty much was a random killer dude. Comparing the rate in which self proclaimed incels have killed women to the endless figure of men who’ve murdered their partners pretty much shows that incels don’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 03:12 PM |
| 10 | Rarely have women meet men that are truly unlucky with women. Its usually something he’s doing wrong.You didn’t answer any of dude’s points at all lol. You just bring up a random killer dude who was deeply mentally disturbed, whereas the dude you replied to just mentioned ordinary men and the factors they face in dating. And he’s right, for most average guys, dating is largely just luck. His point on dating apps is proven. The vast majority of men on these apps want to date, but they rarely get any sort of response. Irl, guys are mired with the notion that hitting on women at a social event is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Men and Women should have higher standardFriends come and go. They also get busy and have lives of their own. A romantic partner is someone who is in your life no matter the circumstances. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 02:46 PM |
| 3 | Women are dating the same terrible dudesBruh, you gotta look at it this way: why worry about women who date trash men over and over again? They’re pretty much telling you that they’re trash themselves, so why do you want to deal with that? I knew a girl back in high school who was exactly like this. Would frequently chase after dudes who were just dumbasses, but you got to understand, she was also a dumbass lol so she was attracted to the very thing she was. Let me note this by saying other girls in our friends group knew EXACTLY who … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/25 02:34 PM |
| 21 | I’ll Answer the “Why Don’t Men Read Our Profiles?” Question.I'm a guy and I always read the profiles. I'm looking for compatibility, not just she looks good or just some easy sex lol. Any dude on here calling a "numbers game" will only set themselves up for failure IMO. These be the same dudes that thirst over any conventionally attritive woman who gives them a molecule of human decency as a sign of interest. Just relax, the way I see it the #1 reason guys get frustrated in dating is because they see it as a videogame instead of just looking for compatib… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 03:20 PM |
| 6 | Q4A: "If men did more [of women's thing] they would get more of [women's results]" - why do you think they don't?Everything listed here is to just be a functional adult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/25 01:39 PM |
| 7 | Women are attracted to toxic men BECAUSE of their toxic traits, not despite them.Pay closer attention to those “good girls” and you will discover they’re basically just like Mr. toxic. It’s like what one commenter here said: men are blinded by the halo effect on women. A woman could be a complete drug dealing assassin but overwhelmingly majority of men would just see another everyday woman. It’s largely due to fact that the majority of men don’t perceive women as threats. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Women are attracted to toxic men BECAUSE of their toxic traits, not despite them.Pretty much my dad. Been married for nearly 40 years and is STILL pissed off at some dead beat chick he dated back in the 70s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Women are attracted to toxic men BECAUSE of their toxic traits, not despite them.%100 this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 07:20 PM |
| 2 | "Bar for men is in hell, most women just want a guy who treats them like a human being" is a hilarious lie.I understand the frustration clearly. Human decency is often used as a datable trait whereas it's just the default social cohesion that everyone has to demonstrate to operate in society. So, this advice comes off as a huge nothing burger for men who do struggle with dating. And the tricky part of identifying what these men struggle with in dating is that it's never overtly clear. A lot of these men are just... random ass dudes, the same random ass dudes who easily get into relationships all the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/25 04:43 PM |
| 4 | Women are attracted to toxic men BECAUSE of their toxic traits, not despite them.100% A guy who knows his worth and is comfortable being true to himself will always be light-years better than scumbag Steve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 06:07 PM |
| 5 | Women are attracted to toxic men BECAUSE of their toxic traits, not despite them.Mr. Pushover and Mr. Desperate lay all their cards on the table too soon and too frequently. And that can be a turn off for a lot of ppl. Ppl want room to breathe and evaluate their feelings. Thirsting over a girl is a quick way to fumble her. Mr. Bad Guy is just a guy who's just himself, he isn't thirsting for female validation, he isn't trying to hook up with every girl with a pulse, he's just vibing and women find this extremely attractive. Women literally tell us guys this on dating sites al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Women are attracted to toxic men BECAUSE of their toxic traits, not despite them.I don't even feel like reading all of what OP had to say but this argument is as old as time. Women ain't all a hive mind. Notice how we never say that men are a hive mind in any instance? Women don't just chase Mr. Bad cause it's "fun." Oftentimes, in my experience, ppl often attract what they are. That saying that opposites attract is largely untrue. You rarely see atypical couples in the wild, you mostly see couples that practically mirror one another in lifestyle, socioeconomic status, race,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 05:04 PM |
| – | How often do you date outside of your race ?Well, at least you’re honest about it lol. Online at least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 12:41 PM |
| – | How often do you date outside of your race ?That’s interesting. What do you find so unattractive about black men exclusively? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 12:32 PM |
| 1 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.Bruh, you haven’t provided nothing to prove your “big picture” narrative in anyway possible 😂 You just dismissed my anecdote simply because you didn’t like what I said. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 12:19 PM |
| 0 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.Oh, okay, mister big picture. Sounds like you got it all figured out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/25 04:25 AM |
| 0 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.100% I was in NYC and this is literally all I saw EVERYWHERE 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 08:00 PM |
| 0 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.On average most men don’t do well in dating. That aligns well with the 60% single rate in men. These are also men that vary in height, race and socioeconomic status and they’re all saying the same thing. If anything, women are just over saturated with male attention, so by default this makes them picky. But often women don’t actually choose the best of their options either. Why do you think domestic violence and rape against women from an intimate partners is also high? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 02:57 PM |
| 0 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.I just go outside and see dudes built like Shrek with women who are easy on the eyes. In fact, i often see the average dude coupled up all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 02:27 PM |
| -2 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.You work on yourself for your OWN benefit, bruh. You don’t do it in the hopes of making more friends or whatnot lol. I don’t go to the gym with the hopes that one day it’s gonna make me get tons of women. I go to the gym so that I can stay alive and fit lol. You can have the best social skills in the world and you’ll still get nowhere socially. If anything, connections between people is just vibes. There’s no step-by-step guide to make vibes happen. You’re gonna be cool with some people over oth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 02:26 PM |
| 0 | Introvert neurodivergent girls date introvert neurodivergent guys. There is a difference between introvert, neurodivergent, anti-social, and creepy.Man, y’all thinking WAY too hard over this stuff. People like what they like. It’s really that simple. Attraction has no rhyme or reason. It’s just something that happens. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 02:19 PM |
| 2 | Social awkwardness in men is exactly as much of a turn-off to the opposite sex as being a fat woman.Oh yeah. You really want a humbling just watch candid interviews with celebrities and you’ll see how awkward they are. Vin Diesel is SUPER weird and awkward on candid camera. But that’s very common amongst them. A lot of artists assume personas, usually one they created when they were teenagers. They were usually the awkward drama/music kid back before they were mega famous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/25 02:06 AM |
| 2 | Men are Love-ShyMen often receive the tough love approach rather than women because it's not seen as punching down. It's one of the reason beating up the incel crowd is seen as socially acceptable, despite, statically speaking, incels aren't that big a threat when it comes to domestic violence. Outside of the outlier incel killers, the vast majority of men who harm and kill women are the men who have little no issue attracting women lol. But you do hit on a lot of great points. There is a subset of men who do f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Men are so desperate it's patheticI don’t even see those anecdotes you shared as men being desperate. For the most part it shows that men are way more proactive when trying new things and meeting new ppl than woman are lol. I mean guys are constantly told to do things to attract women than sitting around the house all day moping. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 02:09 PM |
| 14 | Even if the "nice guys" have hidden selfish motives, they are still infinitely better than the honest “bad boys”.Your passivity line is very interesting because men, especially nowadays, were pretty told ad nauseam to not openly flirt with women, because this was seen as a big no, no. This also explains why those men lack the ability to flirt and grown that sexual tension because men were told openly flirting with a woman you just met is a real turn off and seen as gross. Blame the “be her friend first, and then see where things go.” With guys, flirting is a very delicate thing. Women response to it in var… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/25 01:49 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.Everytime? What are you looking for in a woman? What's your go to standard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.You just gotta break the ice with them. Most ppl I've met nowadays have a standoffish vibe about them at first, but it reduces once they get a feel for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Power makes men sexually attractive:Better to be an asshole than niceYeah, it’s true amongst young men. I’ve heard this same talk coming up. But incels run with this idea like it’s set in stone and they allow it to influence their minds. If you’re a nice guy with actual standards you won’t be getting “the leftovers.” | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Dating advice cliches are also ruining modern dating.OP, sounds like you’re jaded with this advice. Tbh, it’s is all old ad tiring to hear but it’s also very, very true. You gotta be ur self cause pretending to be someone you’re not isn’t going t work out longterm. Hobbies aren’t all a sausage fest. Bro, I tried dancing just to do it and it was 80% women turn out, young old, and they’re all friendly as hell. Some of them openly flirt with you, hell I got several numbers without lifting a finger and dated one girl from there who was a whole baddie,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Power makes men sexually attractive:Better to be an asshole than niceI actually only see asshole and fuckbois have the most problems with women than literally any other category of men. Just cause they get can women easily doesn’t instantly make them relationship gurus lol. I feel like this is what the incels fail to understand: they think being the asshole dude will give them lots of sex, burn they forget that with lots of sex from various women comes tons of headaches and interrelationship issues. Be that nice guy and score a girl who likes you for you and you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Social awkwardness in men is exactly as much of a turn-off to the opposite sex as being a fat woman.Social awkwardness isn’t a huge deal breaker. I feel that the vast majority of people are socially awkward, it just presents itself differently in others. I know ppl who are in full blown relationships with kids who are awkward as fuq in social situations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Social awkwardness in men is exactly as much of a turn-off to the opposite sex as being a fat woman.That’s because women are more socially minded than men, so to them, a guy who has little to no friends can be seen as abnormal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/25 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Guys here think creeps dont exist because they dont want to admit women can have non-shallow reasons to not like a guy.I wonder what you are like irl. I checked your post history and you literally LIVE on this sub for YEARS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/25 03:23 PM |
| 1 | What Makes a Man Creepy?Then I started wondering why I feel that vibe. Obviously, his obsession with being rejected by women is off putting to say the least, someone who harbors resentment and anger towards your gender is not an attractive quality. It's actually a means of self-preservation to avoid someone like that. But also, I could see the festering anger in his eyes. I feel that more times than not, this is what keeps a lot of these men from having success. It's that they are plain old creepy, unsettling, disturbi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/25 05:21 PM |
| 0 | Male loneliness and lack of male-only spaces are largely self-inflicted problemsFreemasons have too many rules and commitments, it's like telling a woman who has few friends to join a nunnery lol. That's not going to do anything. None of this is rocket science. I swim regularly and bond with many of the swimmers there, mostly men but a few women as well. It ain't much but we see each other enough that we wind up swimming together, Boom. There's a group right there. I don't get this fallacy that women are better at maintaining friendships; far as I'm concerned it really depe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/25 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Seriously, where do people meet?What's your type? What sort of women do you wish to meet? Guys are never specific on this front. It's just any single woman with a pulse will do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | There is a double standard where it's socially acceptable for women to be rude and controlling with their male partners.That's why you don't deal with those types of women. It's that easy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 06:34 PM |
| 1 | I'm starting to think that finding a relationship is dependent only on your luckLive your life. I cannot stress this enough. Life experience makes you more worldly, helps streamline your personal goals and keeps you from being terminally online, and thus limiting your window for growth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/25 11:08 PM |
| – | Literally no man is “mad that women can choose their partners now.” This has absolutely nothing to do with TRP or men’s frustrations whatsoever and needs to stop being used as a deflection.😆 oh, you’re not gonna like this next part. One of my neighbor is an instagram model, but when you see her irl, when she’s not buried in makeup or taking lewd pictures, she’s average at best. That’s how ALL of them are. It’s all vanity, smoke and mirrors. Heck, she has an OF too. I see her almost everyday while just out and about, we didn’t speak to one another but we’ve recently stated talking to one another more frequently. Found out we also work in the same building in the city. She gave me h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/24 07:59 PM |
| 3 | Literally no man is “mad that women can choose their partners now.” This has absolutely nothing to do with TRP or men’s frustrations whatsoever and needs to stop being used as a deflection.I’m a guy and I’ve never met a large chunk of women who actively pursue “top tier men.” In fact most of the guys I see winning at dating just be average “meh,” guys. Bruh, the average guy wins more than the playboy millionaire does lol. I know this for a fact. Why would you want to date women who date the millionaire guy? I don’t even like those type of women because our priorities don’t align, hence the reason I don’t date them. It’s easy man. I feel like you’re too much in your head with this … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/24 04:02 PM |
| – | Modern Women Are Incapable of AccountabilityNah, nowhere in my anecdotes did I say we shouldn't believe women who make accusations that they were SA or abused. My anecdotes tell the story when women complain about crappy behavior from men, often they're no different than those crappy guys they deal with. They just frame up a narrative that they're the voice of reason in the argument when it's not often the case. If a guy us as crappy as they say, then why stay with him? why put up with it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/24 04:00 AM |
| – | Modern Women Are Incapable of AccountabilityNah, I said if those options are meh, then they're meh. You can't force attraction. There are tens of millions of people in relationships right now that the aren't even feeling. You don't want to just be with someone for the sake of it, and yet people do it all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/24 12:13 AM |
| – | Modern Women Are Incapable of AccountabilityI can comfortably say most of those women who have those sort of "horror stories" that they contributed to it. I'm also willing to bet that most of it is exaggerated too. I had two friends where this was the case. One of my friends will stir up drama about her then boyfriend (who was a really cool guy, like for real, no joke) but her personal life was a wreck, which explained why she was so dysfunctional. You see her and she comes off very affable and she was cool with me, but burh, her boyfrien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 10:45 PM |
| – | Modern Women Are Incapable of AccountabilityWhy would you want to date women who choose losers anyway? Far as I'm concerned that's trash throwing out trash. I feel like you're making the mistake of guys have to be gentlemen around ALL women you encounter. You do not. You treat them just like how you treat guys and you take that unnecessary pressure off your shoulders. Women aren't anything special, but too many men see them as such, which leads to objectification and unhealthy habits like treating them like they're an endangered class of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 08:47 PM |
| 8 | CMV: I don't think women like menI see average guys with women all the time. It's not even about personality. It's chemistry, but in all honesty, it's familiarity. That natural connection that just happens. There's no preparing for that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/11/24 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Men’s reaction to the 4B movement is disgusting and justifies women picking the bear.I'm mega out of the loop, but this 4B movement sounds like that one Spike Lee movie where women stopped having sex with men so that they could stop committing crimes lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/11/24 05:18 PM |
| 1 | Women do not have high standards. They just look for someone who is better than themselves and a lot of women are doing better nowadays than men. That only leaves a small amount of men for them to choose from."Better than them selfes," ha! Where'd you get that notion from? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 02:50 PM |
| 22 | Do Modern Men Want Women to be More Submissive or more Masculine?Same. Confident, cool women are a must-have over submissiveness any day. I've dated women who self-described themselves as submissive and they're a major pain in the butt to deal with. The main issue is that they just leave all the decision-making up for the guy to parse out and they become super passive to the point that it's like you're just carrying them along like luggage. This stuff is a major turn-off because these sort of women often finds reasons to complain about how they didn't like wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Who you associate with reflects on you.Overwhelmingly and unsurprisingly, people tend to associate with people that they see themselves in or that they're familiar with. Very few people branch out of their comfort zones when making friends or dating. The girls who like Mr. Bad Boy are no different than he is. That's primarily why those sort of women go after him--not because he's assertive or confident, a lot of guys are that already. It's because she sees herself in him, she's comfortable around him because he is familiar. That same… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 02:34 PM |
| 5 | Most Women Use Dating Apps Like Men Wish They CouldFor real, even I'm sorta like that and Im a guy and get matches easily through OLD but it's still meh. I prefer IRL dating over OLD any day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 07:44 PM |
| – | There is more to personality than being niceI’ve seen them lose women because of personality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/24 12:33 AM |
| 2 | Women's "pickiness" really isn't that deep as it pretends to beA lot of guys keep coming with this mentality that women are these passive, hapless girl-next-door naivety who just fall for “ Mr. Bad,” cause he’s “mysterious,” and “fun.” Nah. The reality is those women are exactly like Mr. Scumbag. In reality, Mr. Nice Guy actually wins a lot—he’s not dealing with garbage ass women. Don’t equate a man getting women easily as success when you aren’t looking deeper into the dynamic. Guys for some reason don’t see women’s flaws like they see men’s flaws until th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/24 08:37 PM |
| 1 | There is more to personality than being niceHonestly, I don't choose people to hang around primarily because of their personalities but mostly on if we gel with one another and we have an understanding, and comradery between one another. At the end of the day, I feel like that is what truly matters. We've been beating up nice guys for far too long because everyone is too afraid of the wolf and sheep's clothing rather than worrying about the snarling wolf who's glaring right at them. The way "nice guys" are described gives these people way… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/24 04:36 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Males should continue to make the first moveAh, yeah, I see this almost every day ( live near a popular beach) and I see guys trying to chat up women who are locked in on a jog or power walk and have their headphones on and these dudes would run after them to try to get their numbers or whatever. And as you put it, I wouldn't go so far to say these men are creeps, more so just nuisances. As men, (I'm a guy myself) we don't necessarily go out worrying about our safety unless we're going to a questionable neighborhood at night, but otherwis… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 07:50 PM |
| 3 | The default view of men by American & Canadian women is horrible and bigoted.In a way, I agree with this. That negative image of men ironically doesn’t even have anything to do with men in general, but a specific behavior that some men would harp on given the chance. But in the end it’s all about playing on peoples fears as well. The man vs bear scenario largely plays on isolationism and opportunistic tendencies. It’s not saying that men are inherently dangerous, it was saying in specific instances where a lone man is with a woman, she may feel fearful of his presence; y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 01:04 PM |
| 0 | The idea of men needing to be "nice" really needs to die alreadyButtholes don’t get women that respect them, they just put up with him. Nice guys get ladies that respect them, and genuinely like them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 07:10 PM |
| – | Men need to understand the rules of the game they are playing PRIOR to joiningI feel like this is a major reason so many guys go insane with this whole dating thing when in a nutshell, dating is simple when you think about it. Be yourself. Be optimistic Be assertive and clear in your intentions. Be polite If you're rejected, repeat steps 1-3. Move on if things don't work out. 8 Try again when you're ready. Much like the top commenter said: men are often targeted for their perceived "inadequacies" often things that are innately arbitrary like "personality" "confidence" or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/24 06:38 PM |
| 1 | How about some slightly less depressing, how should a guy healthily meet someone in 2024?How many guys do you know who were personally affected by false accusations of harassment or SA? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 08:43 PM |
| 4 | How about some slightly less depressing, how should a guy healthily meet someone in 2024?Nah, that “don’t crap where you eat” rule gets broken by like 90% of humanity everyday. Work relationship get a bad rep because they sound bad on paper, but in reality, it’s overwhelmingly how most single people over the age of 25 meet. Work relationships also wind up being the strongest longterm. If not that, it’s school, if not that it’s through friends that you met through school or work. The meet through friends is seen as ideal yet nobody here tells you the unique level of awkwardness that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 01:23 PM |
| 5 | How about some slightly less depressing, how should a guy healthily meet someone in 2024?Right? I’d like to meet someone through a friend if my friends didn’t live thousands of miles apart from me lol. All I’ve got is work events and OLD and the latter is mostly meh and this is coming from a guy who gets matched at least once a day. But then the girl flakes after a few messages and it’s back to square one again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 01:14 PM |
| 5 | How about some slightly less depressing, how should a guy healthily meet someone in 2024?Nah. It never that serious when work relationships go bad. That’s largely an internet fallacy that HR will find out or coworkers gossip. This almost never happens. I’ve had one that went sour and guess what? Nothing happened. HR didn’t come out of nowhere. Coworkers didn’t gossip. We ended things quickly and professionally. In fact, when ppl here are saying friend circle relationships are ideal, they are ironically the WORST when things fallout or don’t work out, cause things get immediately wei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/24 01:00 PM |
| 10 | How about some slightly less depressing, how should a guy healthily meet someone in 2024?Sounds bad, but it’s mostly how the strongest, longterm relationships happen. I’ve done OLD, it was fun for the most part but no longevity. Least from my experience. Met a girl through work and it was the best long term relationship I had. We broke up but we still stay in touch regularly. Hell, we even meet up for brunch every now and then. I’ll tell you one thing one that is hardly ever talked about and that’s when you fall out with meeting someone through a friend, it gets MEGA weird, especial… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 09:27 PM |
| 3 | Truth being friends with lots of girls may also be a negative. Especially if none of them are attracted to you.Man, what I’m getting here with this is that the ultimate goal is to be a fuck boi with no strings attached and that vibing with women on everyday activities is wack? I always tell guys this: go outside, walk down a busy sidewalk, how many women catch your eye that you’ll want to go up to and talk to? Probably no more than 2 out like 40. Yup guys are picky too, it’s just guys are more desperate; that’s what balances the scales. Trust me, that book club guy is low key getting checked over Mr. fuq… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/24 05:02 PM |
| 3 | Where to find green flag peopleHonestly, school and work, the military, networking events. Reddit loves to discount work as a place to meet potential longterm romantic partners, whereas irl, people ages 20 on up wind up meeting their long-term SO at work, at school or a work-related event. It's very rare that they're at a concert and randomly hook up someone longterm, Those are just dalliances that don't go anywhere beyond casual sex. There are exceptions to the rule, obviously, I've been there, had a fun time, but at the end… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 10:39 PM |
| 3 | Women, what do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of men? Would it be easier if you were a man?Bruh, what’s with all the women here who think docs sit there and listen thoroughly to what men have to say when getting a checkup lol. This does not happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 12:12 PM |
| 49 | Women complaining from not getting approached anymoreInteresting, you hear women say “the men I like never approach me, but the men I don’t like approach me all the time.” Despite the fact that there’s nothing stopping her from approaching the guys she likes, and statically, she’ll have a much higher success rate of landing dates than the average male. However, I heard from a girl (a girl who approached me) said she was reluctant to approach because she feared rejection. Yup. That was primarily the reason. The fear of rejection is universally acce… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/09/24 11:45 AM |
| 1 | The me too movement was a moral panic that fundamentally overreached and caused new issues for regular menThe Metoo movement was very necessary in a way that it removed the shroud that had protected abusers in the workplace, primarily. The only thing was that it had the knee jerk reaction of men going: “well, since women see everything I go as a potential risk, I’m not gonna deal with them anymore.” And this is just a petulant response and ironically it highlights the fact that some men didn’t see women as ppl but these mysterious beings that you have to interact with a certain way. Its part of the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/24 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Most of what gives women the "ick" are just perceived shortcomings of masculinityEh, irl, I see the casual guy who’s just an average dude pulling all the ladies. The unassuming guy you wouldn’t look twice at. The unemotional edge lord is just a caricature that women love to fantasy about, but irl those guys are WEIRD. The alpha bros are just loud and hot air and brag about having lots of women but you never actually see them with women irl. You usually see them surrounded by women on some podcast that they most definitely paid for them to be there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 01:19 PM |
| -1 | Defining Good "Social Skills" and 'Confidence'Social skills are exactly that: it’s a skill. Skills can be learned and improved upon. Confidence gets misused heavily in the realm of dating. It’s impossible for someone to “just be confident,” because confidence isn’t a personality trait. Confidence applies to someone’s familiarity in a specific situation or skill set and ability to perform a particular task. I’m confident in my ability to ride various motorcycles, or swim a 100m pool without getting tired, but I’m not confident in my ability … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/24 12:46 PM |
| 4 | People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naiveYeah, i can see that. I’ve had my share of limp wrist women while in the dating scene, I’m not denying that at all. But I’ve also met a lot who weren’t like that as well. From my experience, the wet noddle treatment is usually a role that women fall into for a variety of reasons. But could involve the medium of engagement too. I’ve dated a girl who was the driest texter ever. But in person she was real cool. I had another girl who actually asked me out. We went out and she had the blankest perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 05:00 PM |
| 3 | People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naiveYup. That’s all it is. Compatibility. Thats all it boils down to. OP is hung up on the idea of just being a cool person should be enough to get women to like him, but romance is a spark between two people that fancy one another. Being a cool person is always good, but there are no guarantees that anything romantic wouldn’t forge out of it. This is the bare bone reason why people date in the first place. To find that spark. I’ve been on plenty of dates with women where I’ve felt nothing and vice … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 04:50 PM |
| 1 | People who assume romantically unsuccessful men just need to "talk to women" more are naiveSounds more like those guys need to stop letting their expectations get ahead of themselves. Why does it feel like guys dislike being friends with women? Its like if we can’t fuck em’ we don’t need em’ I feel like this is one of a plethora of reasons as to why men don’t see women as full people. Dating is more than just having a “delightful personality.” I know plenty of women with delightful personalities, but I’m not interested in dating them, and I’m a guy with no options whatsoever, and curr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 01:36 PM |
| – | The dating market does not suck for womenThe pump and dump is real, yes, but it usually happens when women date above their league, and mess around with men who show clear indications that they’re not serious with them or that they’re messing around with other women who lust after them. The average early 20 something guy is barely getting any action whatsoever. Most of those guys barely been on a date, had one previous gf in their lifetime and are wholly under experienced. Out of that demographic a minority of those men are actually ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 12:50 PM |
| – | The dating market does not suck for womenYup. Reminds of me of a post I’ve seen where a guy created a basic profile of an average girl and was receiving messages before the profile was even fully created. Not only that, but the guy admitted that the overwhelming vast majority of the messages were kind and respectful. He didn’t report any questionable messages, but he did say if did receive any he’d just simply block them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/24 12:39 PM |
| 19 | The "nice guy" trope is a defense mechanism which women deploy to divert attention from the fact that they are rejecting a guy based on a lack of physical attractionThis is facts. I know several women who’ve put up with guys who treats them like straight shit, and even admit that they’re being treated like garbage. But then they’ll shutdown guys who are kind and respectful with “he’s just trying to get in my pants,” or “he might be just pretending to be nice,” It definitely makes the noggin hurt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/24 12:44 PM |
| 4 | CMV: more matches don't mean anything if they're all poor optionsThe issue with this, is that men encounter the same thing with women, only way less frequently as women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/24 12:03 PM |
| 4 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.Sure. I'm not losing any sleep. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 02:41 PM |
| 8 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.If the girl doesn't find you interesting, then you move on, You're only "permanently friend-zoned" if you actively choose to be an orbiter to her. No one is holding a gun to your head and forcing you to be friends with her. You can disengage anytime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 02:27 PM |
| 7 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.I did not say the friend zone wasn't real: I said it's a real as you're willing to make it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 01:58 PM |
| -7 | Why men today struggle in datingMan, I feel like you’re overthinking this WAAAY too much. From what I’ve seen, nowadays social skills are in the toilet. Even ppl in relationships suck ass at basic conversations and interactions. Your ability to be social/outgoing/Introverted aren’t big factors whatsoever. I know plenty of men and women who are big introverts who are in thriving relationships, but they can’t talk themselves outta box. Thats the beauty of relationships: they’re just connections that you make, no different than w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 01:39 PM |
| 18 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.This is true amongst men and women. But attraction can grow over time, but the issue is guys would hold out hope for that one girl who doesn’t even like them at all. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. She isn’t the only girl on earth. You can still be friends with her, but don’t go out your way to engage with her with ulterior motives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 01:25 PM |
| 11 | An average guy who is a good conversationalist has a greater chance of women treating him as "one of the girls" rather than it being an influence on their attraction toward him.Firstly, the “friend zone” is only as real as you make it out to be. Maybe this is due to me being older, but in early 20s and late teens I was a wholehearted believer of it. But in reality the friend zone is just an orbiter: younger guys usually holding out hope that the girl would “wise up,” and pick them. But it’s pipedream fellas. I know because I’ve lived it. Guys and gals can %100 be friends, but for men in particular, you gotta know when to cut your loses and move on for your own benefit.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/24 01:22 PM |
| 2 | A lot of mens problems would be solved if they date women who are pick me'sNoooooo. Don’t do this at all. You’ll wind up with a Jenny, from Forrest Gump. You’ll ever be happy. She’ll be messing around with any guy with a pulse. She’ll just use you for money and free meals. You’ll get occasional sex but it’ll be lackluster as hell. Forget all of that. Travel. Learn a new language, beat your meat, maintain your peace. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/24 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Women are not entitled to anything from menYup. The older you get the clearer it becomes that the people who pride themselves on hyper-individualism, "I got mine, forget everyone else" mentality are only doing so to avoid feeling small;l or disappointed by others. Often always they have some unresolved trauma that is coloring their present perception. I'm like you, I'm respectful to most people I meet because it makes things run so much easier | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/24 06:53 PM |
| – | CMV: Women make for much better dating coaches than malesHonestly, romance novels are self insert power fantasies for the ladies. Have you looked at one… bruhhh, as much as women make fun of male authors who write women, they are definitely the last ppl on earth to be complain. In all honesty, I’d say most male author write women better than women tbh. When women write women’s like maaan, what the hell is this??? Not to mention the male love interest is a walking red flag and the embodiment of everything women (supposedly) hate in men irl. It’s super … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/24 06:56 PM |
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