| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 647 | HVM Behaviour: He speaks highly of you to people you’ll never run into | GREEN FLAG 🟢 | FilibusterQueen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:08 AM |
| 347 | Throw the entire husband out | MALE DEPRAVITY | FilibusterQueen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:25 PM |
| 257 | “Imports” poor wife from developing nation to cook and clean while | MALE DEPRAVITY | FilibusterQueen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:22 AM |
| 85 | Woman Co-Founder pushed out, silenced, and gaslit by a white man - Take credit for your work! | GLOBAL RESISTANCE | FilibusterQueen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:36 PM |
| 1 | What if I don’t want to get married anymore? | DISCUSSION | FilibusterQueen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 05:28 AM |
| 1 | “Thank you [Sister] for inspiring [Husband] to make the bare minimum effort for a very ‘impersonal’ holiday” — Pickmes celebrating NVM who drop the ball too now. | PICKME CULTURE | FilibusterQueen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 08:34 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 155 | Ia Zelensky a HVM?Einstein also took credit for a lot of his wife’s scientific accomplishments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:59 PM |
| 4 | What's the FDS view on "reading" porn?I don’t think it’s as bad as porn because no women were harmed in it’s production. But typically my answer to this depends on: Whether the erotica he reads written by women? Whether it’s really erotica or a regular novel with graphic, but well-written, sex? Themes in it: obviously anything non-consensual, violent etc is a massive red flag As for writing it? Personally, unless it was in the context of an erotic scene he was writing in some other novel. I’d be pretty creeped out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 04:57 PM |
| 38 | “Build a man” 🤡🤡🤡My heart’s breaking for her. FDS needs to rescue her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 08:45 PM |
| 1 | HVM Behaviour: He speaks highly of you to people you’ll never run intoWhy thank you! Are you in politics by any chance? It’s definitely hard! But I’ve found that I like myself better when I don’t gossip! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:06 AM |
| 100 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”So I don’t want give away toooo much, but this was a private party in Dubai a couple of years ago. I was part of the team that organised the event. She kept being super condescending to the catering staff. Not all of them spoke English as their first language, and she kept calling them ‘those people’. There were a couple of other incidents, but the big one was her spilling her drink on a very, very expensive rug and blaming it one the staff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 03:29 AM |
| 245 | Yet another LV take: “Ryan Reynolds Revealed He ‘Begged’ Blake Lively To Sleep With Him When They First Started Dating And Admitted She’s A ‘Much Better’ Parent Than He Is”I had the misfortune of meeting ScarJo a few years ago through my job. Awful, awful human being. Was rude to pretty much everyone she interacted with, and made some snide racist remarks. LVM and LVW like Reynolds and ScarJo deserve each other. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 10:25 PM |
| 14 | "How come you are still single?"Last time a guy asked me if I was married, I said: “Oh yes, several times. Pity they all died so young” while playing with my grandma’s diamond necklace 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 01:35 AM |
| 120 | Women are conditioned to think that their unhappiness in relationships is normalArab culture is rough. My mum called me a spinster at 18. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 08:59 PM |
| 15 | Trust He SucksThis is so interesting! Culturally I know I was raised to always assume malice. It’s definitely been handy, but it can also be kinda exhausting sometimes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Katherine Ryan’s “fix” for the gender pay gap... where do I sign upWhich bit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 09:41 PM |
| 194 | Woman on Tik Tok reminds us that LVM neg confident women, and that patriarchy relies on women hating themselvesLOL when I was younger I wondered briefly if I wasn’t straight because I heard about hot guys making you feel turned on, and that had literally never happened to me IRL. Then I moved to a different city and realised I was just surrounded by ugly men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:44 PM |
| 9 | Tired of being shamed for wanting my own big houseI got serious Professor Montgomery Montgomery vibes. pic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 11:54 PM |
| 11 | Tired of being shamed for wanting my own big houseSingle, 26 and live in a 4 bedroom house with a yard! Me and my cat have a bedroom, an office, a gym and a guest bedroom for when family visits. Highly recommend it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 11:51 PM |
| 12 | But only if he can't go in dryI’m beyond horrified rn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 12:24 AM |
| 3 | A bumble date threatened me after I walked out of the date instead of going home with him . I’m shaken up by the messages (adding a snipped here). Has anyone else experienced this and did the guy follow through with his threats?I’d post it on LinkedIn and tag him -.- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 42 | Men love to remind women that they can physically dominate us because they are bigger and stronger than us. That's why I think women shouldn't be afraid of gaining muscle and having a little extra body fat, so we have more mass to throw around in self defence.This is why I think it’s so important that women learn martial arts. Knowing how to use your body effectively can make up for a lot of differences in weight and strength. When I was 16, I was walking home around 8 PM. Cut through an alley (bc I’m dumb), two guys started following and then chasing me. They were easily a foot taller than me so overtook me in no time. Punch one in the balls, kicked the other in the neck. 11 years of karate, bitches. They had no idea what hit them, I then sprinted h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 02:21 AM |
| 13 | “don’t protect women, teach men how to behave!” 👏🏽 this brown queen is spitting FACTS! I wish more people in Desi culture adopted this mentalityWas sexually assaulted as a 9 year old in my fairly modest school uniform. It’s not about the clothes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 03:13 AM |
| 7 | “Imports” poor wife from developing nation to cook and clean whileSame! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:29 PM |
| 20 | “Imports” poor wife from developing nation to cook and clean whileTotally. I’m more appalled about the way the comment was phrased, like this guy hit the lottery by stripping a poor rural girl of her autonomy and making her the bang maid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:27 PM |
| 16 | “Imports” poor wife from developing nation to cook and clean whileIt’s challenging! I know if I do marry, it’ll likely have to be a desi man. But really, I doubt that the HVM we talk about in FDS exist in desi circles, and if they do, they’re unicorns. Like HVM in desi circles feels like, not a chauvinist pig with decent hygiene and no mommy issues. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 05:25 PM |
| 20 | “Imports” poor wife from developing nation to cook and clean whileGo to the ABCD sub and it’s the post titled “Does anyone know any ABCDs who actually go for an arranged marriage?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:24 AM |
| 29 | “Imports” poor wife from developing nation to cook and clean whileThey really are. And the fact that no one had called out that comment scared me even more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:22 AM |
| 85 | “Imports” poor wife from developing nation to cook and clean whileUsually they have limited education or transferable skills. Even if they could technically get some money in a divorce, without a job or education, it’s hard to find the nerve. Plus if you come from a rural community, there’s the stigma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:20 AM |
| 146 | Throw the entire husband outPasting it here: WIFE I’m confused. Unless you left out a crucial detail — your husband does all the cooking and cleaning, for instance, or performs most of the emotional labor in your relationship — the man you describe as “caring and considerate” sounds like a freeloader. It’s time for you to take it up a notch. When we live with other people (much less marry them), there’s no room for subtlety about household expenses. The bills must be paid! It doesn’t sound as if you’ve made a direct reques… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:21 PM |
| 5 | He was not amused and blocked meI thought this was about a dog slobbering over a picture when I first read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 09:51 PM |
| 28 | This is true 100% of the timeOnly acceptable in academic/technical writing contexts imo! Like % of female applicants/users! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!I was dumb and dated him for another three years after 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:41 PM |
| 8 | Men telling on themselves lol. Just a reminder a HVM will never let you take on unneeded stress!This reminds me of the time my ex refused to help me return my wheelchair rental. I was recovering from a broken ankle and had made the transition from a wheel chair to crutches and needed help loading the wheelchair onto the bus. He flat out refused because he didn’t want to make the 10 minute drive out to my place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:27 AM |
| 6 | i started my own business, and men are revealing their true selves!You’re going to kill it! I’d love to check out your stuff if you’ve got a link handy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 01:23 AM |
| 32 | i started my own business, and men are revealing their true selves!10000% had the same experience my first few years in business. Both men and women were awful. They’d call it my ‘little project’ even though I was making more than I was at my previous job (which wasn’t terrible, $50k annually) 3 years in, they now ask me to hire them or give them advice. Just you wait, when you’re super successful they’ll be lining up to know you. Just don’t give them the time of day then. Running a business is incredibly hard, but so gratifying. You’ll learn a ton about yourse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 12:50 AM |
| 4 | If it wasn't for arranged marriage, most desi men would never be getting married.Same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 06:55 PM |
| 17 | If it wasn't for arranged marriage, most desi men would never be getting married.I couldn’t agree more OP. I went to uni with a quadriplegic dude who wanted to marry a nice, fair skinned, highly educated, conservative, religious, modest girl, and THEN wanted her to quit her job and look after him because he needed a caretaker! This guy literally smelled like drool all the time, and rode around his wheelchair telling people that he deserved a gorgeous domesticated wife because God made him suffer physically. :) Obviously he hasn’t found someone yet, but he WAS dating a girl f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 06:50 PM |
| 21 | If it wasn't for arranged marriage, most desi men would never be getting married.I just wanted to say that I know the guy over 40, Srini IRL. He’s super successful, has a 7-figure business, and 1000% a HVM. He’s also very very humble, and I think the show did both him and Aparna dirty. Aparna’s mom calling him a loser was uncalled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 01:50 AM |
| 73 | It's not your responsibility to make your or any man feel like a manI’m actually glad they had it that way in the book, so many women make that mistake. The book was a great lesson in what not to do! I’m glad she eventually left him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 07:30 PM |
| 10 | The look on his face was worth every pennyLast year, I bought myself a brand new Jaguar paid in full. Everyone assumed my dad paid for everything, I wouldn’t say anything because I didn’t want to rub it people’s faces, but my dad LOVED telling people that his 23-year-old daughter paid for it in cash. Best feeling ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 05:06 PM |
| 9 | Woman Co-Founder pushed out, silenced, and gaslit by a white man - Take credit for your work!Tell me about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:45 PM |
| 63 | Ladies, Separation and Infidelity More Common When Wife is a Patient, link in commentsI’ve spent countless hours driving my ex to medical appointments and paying for medical bills. I got insecticide in my eyes once and was nervous to drive because my vision was affected and asked him to come with me (he doesn’t drive), he bitched about it the whole way. Breaking up with him was one of the best decisions I made. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 04:18 AM |
| 35 | Ladies, Separation and Infidelity More Common When Wife is a Patient, link in commentsCame here to say this. My mother was bedridden for over a year and my father waited on her hand and foot. Bathed her, fed her, tracked down every specialist in the country for a second opinion. Good men exist, but for every HVM there are 100 LVM sliding into DMs and ruining lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 04:13 AM |
| 5 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcAny advice on how you can unruin something? My ex was great until he wasn’t anymore, and I have a decade’s worth of memories and favourite places ruined. How do I reclaim them in my head? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 04:12 AM |
| 11 | As expected, men in the tweets calling her “childish” and “materialistic”. Lol it ain’t hard to put effort into a relationship, men are just lazy and entitled.Totally! He was a good guy, but there were just too many instances of him taking me for granted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 05:33 AM |
| 115 | As expected, men in the tweets calling her “childish” and “materialistic”. Lol it ain’t hard to put effort into a relationship, men are just lazy and entitled.I was dating someone for 8 years. And I’ve always wanted to do something for Valentine’s Day, but it never really happened. Every single Valentine’s Day we had a fight, because he just didn’t believe in it. It didn’t matter that it was important to me. He did make it a point to send his mom a card though. Anyway, I dumped him today, and I feel good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 03:34 AM |
| 26 | For every woman who thinks she "doesn't deserve" a high value man.Just wanted to say I love y’all. And you’ve been so good for my mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 11:52 PM |
| 19 | Men Exposing Themselves as the Rapists they Are and Plotting Rape of Iranian WomenToo real 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/20 06:08 AM |
| 7 | How to fix things if you screw up with a HVM?Just chiming in to say how he handles this will say a ton about him as a person! So if can’t handle a bad fight, then he might not be a great fit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/20 12:06 AM |
| 72 | Examples of how a high-value man thinks.Holy shit. The comments on the last link. They’re horrifying. What’s wrong with people? I would pay for a stranger’s people if they were hungry, and his LVM ass wouldn’t give her $10!? And people were justifying it? God. I hope she got out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 05:35 AM |
| 2 | If you are single and childfree, don't date single fathersWhat about if you aren’t able to have kids of your own? I’m in the middle of tests, but it looks like I won’t be able to ever have my own children. I always did want kids, so I’ve been considering dating single dads. Do you think that’s a bad idea? You should I date someone childless and then adopt? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 06:50 AM |
| 9 | Indian social media is in shock due to a young woman doctor brutally raped and burnt to death in the city of Hyderabad, meanwhile her name is now the top most searched thing on Indian porn sites as men are searching for porn video of her rape and tortureI’m torn between sobbing and feeling the urge to throw up. As a survivor, this is incredibly disturbing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/19 07:50 AM |
| 40 | Men who want to get married do so.100% My boyfriend and I are long distance, and he doesn’t make much money at all (not an issue for me). He will save every last penny to be able to afford a ticket and fly 15 hours so we can meet halfway every 3 months. If he wants you, he’ll work for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 08:57 PM |
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