FineOakBarrel Archive

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1	Can you train yourself to become more physically touchy? Yes. Been there done that, kino was one of my biggest first sticky points. I grew up with the idea that touching someone is aggression, had to work my way through becoming more touchy. First thing I did is increase my social touch. I would start patting strangers on the shoulder with the back of my hand to get their attention (like at the Starbucks I'd pat someone and ask if they're in the queue or waiting for their order), or spread my arms and say "c'mere!" to greet friends with a hug (or hold…	/r/seduction	13/09/21 04:44 AM
6	Is it a bad idea to assure the girl I asked out that it's ok to say no instead of ghosting? Yes it's a bad idea. Don't waste your time with girls who ghost. Ghosting is rude and everybody (girls and guys) have excuses like the one you posted for their poor dating behavior. Sometimes it's valid, more often it's just a bad excuse to be shitty to someone. Because you can't know, don't bear a misplaced grudge, but don't waste your empathy either. Learn to move on. That skill will go a long way to preserve your mental health on your dating journey.	/r/seduction	30/08/21 04:39 AM
5	How to KEEP a guy seduced? Tough truths ahead. The usual comment within the community when a guy asks girls for pick-up advice is, you don't ask a fish how to fish. Holds true the other way around: most guys who will reply in this thread don't know what would really make them stay with a girl--or will tell you what would make them stay, but that might be different for someone else. You're better off looking elsewhere than reddit for advice. Second to that: you have to come to terms with the possibility that he's way less …	/r/seduction	24/08/21 10:22 PM
2	Is it really possible to seduce a woman you want to be with or do you have to settle for who chooses you? You're going from one extreme to another. Yes, you're right, there is no such thing as "sniper pick-up." The idea that you can spot a woman at a bar--any woman--and, if you're good enough, have her in bed a few hours/days later, is BS made up by seduction coach companies to sell dream to the virgin masses. Even the best car salesman in the world is gonna meet people he won't be able to sell a car to. On the other hand, you do have some control over the amount and quality of women who show intere…	/r/seduction	17/08/21 03:25 PM
9	Is asking girls for feedback on what you did wrong when approaching a weak move? If a salesman comes to your door and you tell him you're not interested, would you allow him to run his 45-min "how did I do?" questionnaire on you? A friend of mine had a slightly different approach. He'd go talk to girls and try to become friends with them. About one girl out of ten he'd manage to have a friendly chat with, and in the process he'd game her a bit too. Then, in the middle of the conversation he'd open up about looking to get better at gaming girls, and would point out to things …	/r/seduction	09/05/21 05:53 PM
3	How to remember all these dating advice in the moment? Pick-up is not like a college exam where you'll do good if only you can remember all of the right content. Nobody remembers it all, and nobody needs to remember it all. Rather, put yourself out there. Do 10 approaches. Then sit down and reflect on your sticking points--where did you sense the most friction, where were you the less smooth, where did the girl react the worst. Look up advice on that particular point (opening, or taking her number, or taking her home, whatever) in any book you trust…	/r/seduction	09/05/21 12:39 PM
4	Some Legitimately Curious Non-Judgemental Questions From A Real Live (Well Online) Female AFAIK yes, The Game was the book that revealed to the world there is those guys called pick-up artists who theorize and practice the art of picking up girls. For many guys it was an eye-opener, telling them that it's not "some guys have it, others don't, and you can't change that," but rather that you can actually go from zero to hero on the seduction scale. And while the book is great for that eye-opening purpose, it's very much embellished and better read as reality-based fiction. First reas…	/r/seduction	08/05/21 09:17 AM
1	Should I leave the Bay Area? Forget about blaming external circumstances. It's not about the Bay or COVID; it's about you and your approach to pick-up. Unless you're in rural Alaska you got enough potential around you to get laid. That being said, if you wanna move to another place, go for it. Traveling around is gonna open your mind. Just know that you'll bring your hardships with you, no place is gonna be easier until you change yourself.	/r/seduction	07/05/21 10:36 AM
2	Kudos to the guy that just tried to pick me up And kudos to you for putting this out there. I used to think women absolutely hate being approached, gauging things from the internet. Thing is, women who hate it are most vocal about it, writing blog posts about it and tweeting and posting youtube videos, and women who appreciate it rarely post like you did. It's only when I started doing direct approaches and seeing reactions first-hand that I realized most women--even those with BF or married--are flattered by it. As long as it's done in a no…	/r/seduction	06/05/21 01:11 PM
30	What's your unpopular seduction opinion? Something you secretly think, but would otherwise be down voted to all hell on this sub More likely than not, you're spending too much time on online seduction communities, reading pdfs and watching youtubers, and not enough out there meeting people. More likely than not, you will give up. You will either not try at all, or try a little and settle for the little results you will get. And you will blame women for the bad results. More likely than not, you're an awkward guy with poor social skills and you creep people out. If you can't turn strangers into friends, that's what you sho…	/r/seduction	25/04/21 09:39 PM
2	After lots of experience with cold approaching... I still find myself wondering what the hell my opening line should be Your problem is not what to say, because you already know the answers to the question you're asking: I’ve consumed so much of this courtship literature over the years so you know about opinion openers, direct/indirect openers, compliments, etc. There's tons of 100-page-long pdfs out there listing dozens and dozens of openers, you could try them and see which one work for you. But also, as you said: what you say doesn’t actually matter as much as your overall vibe and delivery and looks. If ladie…	/r/seduction	24/04/21 04:24 PM
1	What does good flirting look like? The first encounter in Vicky Christina Barcelona: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ih6Baoop5G4&t=44s	/r/seduction	24/04/21 04:51 AM
6	8 Surprising Ways To Beat Approach Anxiety Recently me and my friends got numbers and instadates from the streets of Seattle and Austin, so yeah, girls are still happy to be approached.	/r/seduction	23/04/21 07:06 PM
2	I have a date with 2 roommates on the same day. If anybody brings it up, laugh, say "wow that's crazy" and just proceed as if it didn't matter. Because it doesn't: you don't owe any of these girls not to date the other one.	/r/seduction	23/04/21 03:04 PM
10	Is cold approach seen differently today? Top-notch unis like Cambridge lean heavily on the left. Think feminism, men-are-the-source-of-all-evils and those kinds of ideas. So it's no wonder people on that sub react so strongly about any form of game. For fun I once asked a group of people at Cambridge how they would seduce someone. After a few awkward answers the group reached a consensus that seduction was bad because it negates the consent of the person being seduced. That gives you an idea of the philosophy out there.	/r/seduction	23/04/21 02:53 PM
1	I cannot get over approach anxiety and It’s fucking my life Figure out the closest thing you can do to approaching that is actually manageable for you. Maybe it's just making eye contact when passing by. Maybe it's asking an old lady what time is it, or a cute girl where she bought her sweater. Once you've figured that thing out, just keep doing that for a week or two. Slow and steady wins the game. Once a week, update that thing. Maybe now you feel confident enough to try holding a 5 min chat with a girl. Maybe you feel you can try giving her a complime…	/r/seduction	15/04/21 03:34 AM