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Fundamentals Fine_Leather/r/seduction20/02/25 11:37 AM
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LifestyleFine_Leather/r/seduction24/01/25 07:44 PM
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Nope. She wanted to kinda hang out without benefits and I realized that I didn’t want to hang out unless there were benefits so I ended communications. I also want to get married now and build a life with someone (without kids since I already have mine), so my focus is more balanced. As much as good intimacy is something I want, I also need other things like someone supportive, who accepts and loves me for me, and won’t bail when things are tough. For myself, I feel there’s work to be done for m…
/r/seduction13/05/25 03:06 PM
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I don’t. 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction10/04/25 10:48 PM
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Persistence can be a game changer.
/r/seduction05/03/25 11:49 AM
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I find Mark Manson’s book “Models” more helpful than “The Game,” because Manson’s book is less complicated. The Game requires you to have a wing, to peacock, have time constraints, neg women and etc. I think it could be useful in a club scene but there will be a learning curve, big time. Mystery still does seminars so if you want to go that route, there’s options but they start at $5000 USD. Models is a more “realistic” approach with a learning curve but at least you’re working from an honest ap…
/r/seduction03/03/25 05:19 PM
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Makes sense. I agree
/r/seduction03/03/25 05:03 PM
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I once stopped a woman walking while I was in my car, got her number, went on a date and made out with her but that was it. Ballsiest was maybe when there was a woman in a coffee shop surrounded by friends both male and female and I went in and asked her out in front of everyone. She said she had a boyfriend and didn’t give me her number and looking back I’m not surprised it didn’t work, but the guys at the table were impressed and complimented me on my balls.
/r/seduction03/03/25 03:24 PM
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This goes against a lot of seduction theory, but taking a page from my dad’s book (he was a tall and unattractive red headed man but a total master at picking up women). He told himself that if he asked a girl out often enough, eventually she’d come around. He didn’t have this pride thing happening and he absolutely wasn’t needy. I think he truly believed in his heart that he deserved to be with the best looking women, so he focussed on that and ended up marrying everyone’s wet dream woman in th…
/r/seduction03/03/25 02:42 PM
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Most men lose interest after sex. If you want a relationship, withhold sex. That’s how marriage used to work and though times have changed, our instincts are pretty much the same.
/r/seduction03/03/25 01:46 PM
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Coffee, a drink, a game of pool, mini golf, a hike, any activity is good but I’d avoid bowling because it’s hard to talk since it’s either her turn or your turn and you have to step away to throw the ball. Pool is a good one. Always had fun on those dates. Whatever you do, just make your intentions known. Mark Manson calls this polarizing. You want her to know where you stand so that she can pick a side so to speak. Have fun. Make sure she feels comfortable. Escalate when appropriate.
/r/seduction02/03/25 06:21 PM
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Yes DM her and ask her out.
/r/seduction02/03/25 04:33 PM
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My passion was learning how to play guitar — I was obsessed with it for years. Joined a band and what not. But playing guitar is pretty solitary. If you want to do something social, find something you like that can be done in a group. Cooking, dance, yoga, etc.
/r/seduction02/03/25 04:03 PM
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I dated a crazy Latina and it ended in a fireball. It wasn’t boring but it sucked because of her constant irrationality which led me for a while to walk on eggshells and eventually just cheat on her because I was miserable. She was however incredibly hot and I still miss her despite it being a terrible match.
/r/seduction02/03/25 01:03 PM
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Dude, get over yourself.
/r/seduction01/03/25 03:51 PM
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If he asks for her number he’ll either get it or not. If she says yes he can try and pursue. She says no, move on. No?
/r/seduction01/03/25 01:58 PM
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Congrats on the approach. You need to get her number next time. No number = nothing.
/r/seduction01/03/25 01:55 PM
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I would approach 1-3 daily depending on the day. Rejection is a part of it. Say thanks anyway and move on. It’s never personal. The big lesson I learned was to not creep women out so be careful. Cold approaches can blow up in your face if you’re too excited about the prospect and not reading her body language or hearing her tone.
/r/seduction28/02/25 07:03 PM
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Hold her hand over coffee or just over conversation. Don’t explain why. If she asks why you’re holding her hand, state that it’s better, no? If she lets you hold it, you know you can be sweet.
/r/seduction27/02/25 04:37 PM
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When you’re talking to a mom you like, just bite the bullet and ask them out on a date.
/r/seduction26/02/25 08:22 PM
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I’ve done this and it blew up in my face big time. It’s possible but I totally fucked it up. You can have a relationship and if at some point you’re unhappy you can break up and start again. You won’t lose your skills. If you don’t want a relationship be honest about it and protect your reputation. You’re allowed to want to keep dating and stay single for as long as you wish.
/r/seduction26/02/25 03:08 PM
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I think he took it down. You don’t need that either. Just keep working on your confidence and self esteem.
/r/seduction25/02/25 10:08 PM
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“If he truly loved her, he wouldn’t leave her alone.” That’s not necessarily so and it certainly doesn’t excuse your (and her) shitty behaviour. Basically you’re going to have an affair with a married woman and you want us to help you achieve this. Anyway, just be honest and upfront.
/r/seduction24/02/25 06:14 PM
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You can ask him: can I suck you off? Stick to your guns if he gets all flaky like he doesn’t understand.
/r/seduction21/02/25 01:38 PM
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Yes. Kiss him. Put his hands on your breasts. Grab his crotch, and escalate to the BJ.
/r/seduction21/02/25 12:32 PM
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Blow him in the car.
/r/seduction21/02/25 12:19 PM
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Roger that bro. The community has spoken and I have received the message. No texting!
/r/seduction20/02/25 01:07 PM
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Appreciate the feedback. Ya I think I’m going to refrain from texting until I’m on my way to the coffee shop we agreed to meet at. Escalating in person is much better for sure and now that I think of it, sending a virtually meaningless text ahead of time comes off as needy.
/r/seduction20/02/25 12:09 PM
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No texting certainly shows greater confidence than sending an empty/standard text.
/r/seduction20/02/25 11:59 AM
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Appreciate the response. Right now there is no texting hence the question. I’m leaning on a Friday afternoon text. That said I’m looking for best practices and lessons learned from the community.
/r/seduction20/02/25 11:55 AM
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Lol! Ok. No Friday text to show that she’s on my mind? Something simpler than the monstrosity?
/r/seduction20/02/25 11:50 AM
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Don’t dwell on the actual conversation. Your purpose is going to be crystal clear when you ask her out and women find boldness really attractive. Is it weird? That always depends. Asking a woman out is a risk so I make sure I find her attractive enough that the risk is worth it.
/r/seduction20/02/25 10:54 AM
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Say hi, how’s it going, ask them out. I did that yesterday.
/r/seduction19/02/25 10:33 PM
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Malls, grocery stores, coffee shops, lounges, bars
/r/seduction19/02/25 07:02 PM
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I used to practice listening to how I sound. How I looked. I’d invent scenarios and introduce myself. It’s like preparing for a presentation but it just can’t be static. You’re not going to experience an exact replica of what you practice but you can still work on your presentation. Practice in the mirror, with a trusted friend, with your cat. Make sure you get out there though and set yourself a goal of talking to X number of women and try to get a phone number a day for a while. Good luck sold…
/r/seduction19/02/25 06:41 PM
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Sometimes we just don’t know why a woman backs away. There’s a thousand different life circumstances that could arise. In this case she seemed more invested in this other guy where she had a lot emotionally invested so there’s not much you could have done here imo. Learn from it, move on to a new woman.
/r/seduction18/02/25 11:44 AM
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I can concur that many women see this as a deal breaker. At least you won’t be knocking anyone up by accident though so if you want a long term relationship you’ll need to find a woman who thinks your vasectomy is the best.
/r/seduction17/02/25 08:35 PM
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The embarrassment won’t last forever. Keep at it.
/r/seduction16/02/25 06:37 AM
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The only solution I know is what you’re doing with Viagra. You can try Cialis as well. I’m not sure what the difference between what you’re calling a micro dose vs what a normal one is, but my suggestion is to talk to your doctor about it, go regular dose and don’t worry too much about the outcome. Be kind to yourself. You’re doing a lot to keep this woman sexually satisfied. Is there an issue with the woman at all? I’ve had beautiful women but sometimes the sex just didn’t do it for me for what…
/r/seduction15/02/25 10:15 AM
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Get a dating coach. He’ll put you on a program for your situation.
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:15 PM
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Dude, start reading up on seduction. It comes down to how you make a woman feel. No woman actually cares about Gucci when she’s into you and women are into men that stimulate them.
/r/seduction08/02/25 09:47 AM
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Years with breaks. Eventually she wanted kids
/r/seduction04/02/25 12:29 PM
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Hey my man. If you haven’t held her hand and got a kiss yet, you best escalate on this third date. Here’s what you do. On Saturday, out of the blue while you’re sitting across from her, lay your hand out until she puts hers in yours. Hold it and keep it. Read her palm. Make it funny. Then ask her for a kiss on the cheek. Flirt. Push and pull. When she brings up that she’s leaving bla bla bla, change the subject and talk about something interesting. Have topics ready. Once she’s warmed up, kiss h…
/r/seduction31/01/25 03:17 PM
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Usually if you’ve already had sex there’s no big issue in repeating unless she’s got buyers remorse. I like the idea of playing pool and when she gives you an indication of interest, you can add some physical touch. In short, seduce her again.
/r/seduction29/01/25 12:39 PM
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Chocolate and ask for a kiss on the cheek in return. Nothing is free.
/r/seduction28/01/25 02:48 PM
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Most women like the fact that they can’t accidentally get pregnant; however, because they know you can’t have kids, younger women, or any woman who wants kids, may keep her eye on the prize and move on. I don’t usually bring it up, but if they ask, I’m honest.
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:59 AM
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Just getting out there
/r/seduction25/01/25 03:18 AM
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You can send her insta reels that are funny or about something you know she likes to show you’re thinking of her.
/r/seduction15/01/25 11:29 PM
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I concur. Practicing makes you better like anything else. Your friend will remain an AFC.
/r/seduction15/01/25 03:13 PM
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Read a couple of PUA books. They talk about this. Your approach matters in how she responds. If she responds with hostility, apologize and tell her it was nice meeting her and move on. Never take things personally. Always be respectful. Move on to someone else.
/r/seduction13/01/25 11:35 AM
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I really like this!
/r/seduction09/01/25 03:16 AM
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Tough choice. I’d wait to see her again and get her instagram or #. Otherwise it may come off creepy.
/r/seduction08/01/25 11:56 PM
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I’m about as subtle as a tornado. That said, I like things being clear and all that. But I’m not creepy about it. I try to be fun. I’m just honest. Women find it amusing because it’s childlike (not childish) but that’s my personality. That said, I’m not a bona fide PUA so others may have more data-driven answers.
/r/seduction08/01/25 10:40 PM
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You can ask her. She was quite temperamental
/r/seduction07/01/25 04:56 PM
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No. She hates me now. But it was nice while it lasted. It’s too much work and money though in the end.
/r/seduction07/01/25 03:08 PM
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Isn’t there a woman you can approach that doesn’t involve a transatlantic flight? I dated a woman from Brazil (I’m in Canada) and went to visit her once and paid for her to visit me another time. It’s extremely expensive and she wouldn’t have visited me on her own $ unless I had incredible skills, which I didn’t.
/r/seduction07/01/25 01:43 PM
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