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| 65 | "Sit down with him and have a conversation"Yes, they prefer young women because younger women don’t have as many people to compare him to and are therefore easier to manipulate. It’s easier to make them think “This is how it’s supposed to be, everyone is like that”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 04:52 AM |
| 72 | Wife benefits vs girlfriend benefitsWife Benefits: sharing a living space with him, children, possibility of cleaning and cooking for him, a deeper emotional commitment Girlfriend: dates, exclusivity, traveling together, some emotional commitment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 08:00 AM |
| 17 | I can’t believe how long it took me to realize that the “nagging wife” sitcom stereotype is literally just “useless husband is incapable of doing his share of the housework despite being repeatedly asked” framed to demonize the woman.Thanks to you, I just realized that for LVM, nagging is when the woman communicates about something they don’t want to hear/do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 05:38 AM |
| 60 | So many women are in relationships where they are just thankful the man doesn’t hit them, control them, rape them or cheat on them. That’s how low the bar is for men.Not being a criminal is a bare minimum, not something to be thankful about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:06 AM |
| 2 | If you catch yourself having any of these thoughts, end the relationship and work on your self-esteemHow does it manifest itself? Do relatives try to convince women not to divorce? I know that in some East Asian countries, men outnumber women by a large extent. It is beyond me why the society still tries to get women to stay in unhappy relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:24 AM |
| 2 | If you catch yourself having any of these thoughts, end the relationship and work on your self-esteemMe too. That is why I’m putting it out there so that other women don’t repeat our mistakes. These are the most dangerous illusions we can have as women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 05:19 AM |
| 24 | If you catch yourself having any of these thoughts, end the relationship and work on your self-esteemExcellent addition. We shouldn’t praise men for not being criminals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 07:29 PM |
| 21 | And if you decide we’re splitting the bill, it’s no longer a dateWhen this happened to me, I looked disappointed and said “I thought this was a date...” He doesn’t want to be friend-zoned, so he will say “Of course it is a date”. If he still pretends to not get the point, say “I have never had to pay for myself on a date before” or “I was raised to believe that a person who invites, takes the bill”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 05:33 AM |
| 1 | How do you strike a balance between being sweet and remaining mysterious?I don’t think a man who falls for a sweet and kind girl is necessarily controlling. After all, no one says “I want a girl who is not sweet”. And I didn’t mean that they specifically search for nice girls, they just fall for them because they are fun and comfortable to be around, and because those girls tend to have a lot of guys chasing for them. It’s usually poor unemployed men who feel the need to abuse women to make them stay on their level. Wealthy and accomplished men who have plenty of opt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 11:04 AM |
| 7 | How do you strike a balance between being sweet and remaining mysterious?Thank you for the insight. You are right - while I want people to feel comfortable around me, there is no point compensating for his lack of social skills, while I am essentially vetting him to become my partner. It is difficult to distinguish between being naturally nice and being a pushover, but I will try to be more mindful of my thoughts and behavior to make sure my kindness does not turn into people-pleasing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 10:57 AM |
| 15 | What was your turning point to follow FDS?That embarrassing feeling when a man asked me out on a date and expected me to pay for my half. Everyone I had dated before was a gentleman, but it was literally insulting that he expected me to pay for the pleasure of being out with him, while so many other men were begging to take me out. He was also the first guy ever to ask me for nudes, tell me I should lower my self-esteem, etc. I figured there must be a correlation between encountering a fuckboy and going Dutch, so I started researching a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:09 PM |
| 10 | What was your turning point to follow FDS?I am so sorry to hear! I hope he is in jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:02 PM |
| 17 | Dating in the country that invented 'Going Dutch'Having high standards means a smaller dating pool, which is completely normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 03:46 PM |
| 18 | 1. Lawyer who can’t properly use grammar 2. A real king. I have no words 🤮 3. Classic “I’m a 3/10 but I only accept 9s and 10s” 4. Fucking criminalIt is insane that these guys (especially the second and third one) expect girls to audition for their attention, while men outnumber women on this app by a LARGE extent. And there are always plenty of guys without aggressive bios who are willing to write first. Yet these men still wonder why they are not getting any matches. I’m not even talking about the last one, he should be reported and permanently banned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 05:28 AM |
| 15 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.Examples of sneaky behavior that women may fall for - maybe. Or something genuinely funny to collectively laugh at. But those disturbing posts about men leaving their wives when they get chronically ill or sexual assault are simply depressing and not empowering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 06:16 PM |
| 120 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.A weekly "LVM showcase" thread is a great idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 05:36 PM |
| 79 | Things seem to be taking a negative turn here. Please, let's focus our energies on building each other up and IGNORING trash men.100%! It is unnecessary to see captions of trash behaviour here, since we see it so much in real life anyways. Like, there is no place to escape it. Plus so many people here are emotional abuse survivors. This type of content brings up hurtful memories rather than encouraging to look forward. More success stories! Trash messages and reddit posts from m*n don't deserve a place here, its an all-female community! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 05:33 PM |
| 46 | Men’s Pockets are Bigger to Help Carry Their AudacitySo familiar... They really think they’re the first ones to ask us “random” and “by the way” sexual questions. They really think they are being sneaky. The only right answer to this is block. You WILL have to block him sooner or later, but rather now than after 5 years of a subpar relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 04:41 PM |
| 41 | And they say romance is dead 🤢Just proves that they should be blocked right after asking for snapchat. The fact that they even use snapchat already tells you enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 08:29 AM |
| 56 | Telling men that I don’t have a Snapchat saved my life100%. Whenever I continued a conversation with these guys (after saying I don't have snap) they were absolutely not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:30 PM |
| 23 | Telling men that I don’t have a Snapchat saved my lifeSame. It gives me teenager vibes => major turn off. I have never ever met a decent guy who uses snapchat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:24 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/20/2020You’re right. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but now I realize that I am always afraid to be not intellectual enough for those types of guys. In the long run, it will get quite tiring. I’ll try to see how he reacts to something down-to-earth. These guys are used to everyone else being less smart than them (for a reason), so it often shows in the conversation style. Some of their comments or remarks feel like mansplaining to me, because I already know the things he is so vigorously trying … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 05:49 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/20/2020Any experience with "artsy philosophical bookish nerd" type of guys? The ones who have pictures from museums on OLD profiles and want to discuss literature and philosophy. They tend to be really interesting to talk to. I love reading and we seem to have similar taste in literature. But are those guys difficult as potential partners? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 02:16 PM |
| 2 | LVM want you to think this is a pipe dreamIsn’t paying his share, like, the basic minimum when living together with someone? Why should it be praised? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 04:55 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/20/2020Anyone who brings up something sexual within the first three dates is creepy. Like, hello, I am just getting to know you... An automatic block. I used to think that it is normal, but I know better now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 08:19 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/20/2020Personally, I explicitly write "If you are looking for ONS or FWB, I am not the one" or simply "Not interested in FWB arrangements". Those who are looking for a free prostitute will not bother for their own sake. Those phrases actually attract guys with serious intentions, they see that you value yourself and your time. I have received positive comments on my profile info from men who are looking for meaningful connections. And you are right, I wouldn't use Tinder. Not sure about the good altern… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 08:13 AM |
| 107 | I’ll just leave this here...👀🤫It is because that value is naivety, or how easily a girl can be manipulated. Less experience = fewer people to compare him with = more chances to get away with being trash Guys who think like this are scared of being compared with others for a reason. They wouldn’t stand a chance if a girl had better partners before him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 06:02 AM |
| 19 | 'Mgtow' seriously affected by FDS despite 'Going their own way'They can’t comment here for a reason - BECAUSE WE DON’T CARE AND DON’T WANT TO SEE THIS HERE. Reposting their opinions here just beats the entire purpose of banning them from commenting, IMO. It’s like they can’t comment here, but we will feature their opinion if they write about this sub elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/20 05:13 AM |
| 32 | What’s a good comeback for “Why buy a cow when the milk is so cheap ?” Or “don’t buy a car without a test drive “ , things they say to try and lower your standards for sex ?“Go get the cheap milk then, why are you still here? Oh, maybe because you can’t get it?” “This date was a test drive for you and I’m not interested after all. Bye!” “I prefer guys who are not afraid of the challenge. That’s sexy. That’s something I am looking for in a man, because it translates to other areas of life as well. Guys who like it only when it’s easy don’t interest me.” And my favorite one: “Nice try”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 10:56 AM |
| 12 | That's why we should test men first, beta men always seem nice at first...I am glad his face is not blurred. Just proves that they look like normal people, which makes it so scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 08:07 AM |
| 1 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameYou’re right. Posts about subtle red flags can be really useful. But a post about a guy making a girl swallow his cum against her will? Not so much. I am not sure what is achieved by it. At least I become less and less hopeful with each of these posts, as you said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 05:50 PM |
| 39 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameFDS is not only about avoiding LVM, but also about having successful relationships with HVM. Endless posts about LVM make it seem like LVM are the only types of men that exist and any decent guy compared to that is a treasure. I think high value behavior should be normalized instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 04:24 PM |
| 3 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameI agree, it’s lovely to see women putting men in their places on OLD, as opposed to random reddit posts by scrotes, which are not rare at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 04:18 PM |
| 75 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameI know, right? Ugh. Maybe there should be a different sub for those who want that kind of content. It is overwhelming and, frankly speaking, depressing. Not empowering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 01:34 PM |
| 68 | This sub is turning into a LVM hall of fameI am also here for empowerment, and there is ZERO empowerment in a reddit post from a completely different sub where a girl says her boyfriend makes her swallow cum. Like, why do we need that here? It creates a mindset that HVM are scarce. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 01:31 PM |
| 9 | Can we please stop giving LVMs the time of day on this subreddit?I agree. It seems like we’re recommending women to block and delete the LVMs immediately without wasting any more energy on them, but we do waste our energy uploading and commenting their posts here... But I have to say, I do like screenshots from OLD where I can see their ego crashing after perfect HVW responses. Everything else, like AITA posts, does not really deserve a place here IMO. Personally, I wouldn’t even waste time on screen capturing that trash. I would like to surround myself with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 05:17 AM |
| 17 | Lets talk about famous PickmeishasI came here to say Hailey Bieber! She is all about fixing Justin, while he left her multiple times for his ex and other women. But hey, let's get married, while we are undergoing couples' therapy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 06:05 PM |
| 14 | This is all it takes, gentlemen. He read my profile and created a great message.OP did not say that she will marry this guy. She just said that this is the message that will get her attention and a thoughtful response. It does not mean that from now on, everything he says will be accepted. This post is about a decent conversation opener on OLD, not about whether he is an HVM or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 03:04 PM |
| 13 | “Synonyms” for HVM and LVM??"Big dick energy" vs "small dick energy" :) They have no direct correlation to the dick size itself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Signs the LVM you are talking to will never ask you outAbsolutely! And a guy who starts a conversation with "When are we going on a date?" does not ever take you out on a date. He just wanted your attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 06:59 PM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020He is your ex for a reason. The decision was made to go separate ways, and I know it’s tempting to go to him for the emotional comfort, but think of all the reasons you broke up. Maybe they are starting to fade away in your memory and you only remember the good things, because that’s how our mind tricks us sometimes... Your level of self-awareness is admirable. It is evident in how you describe your desire to get in touch with him, realizing it makes no sense and you’re only doing it because you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 05:22 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020One my hobbies is baking. It is super relaxing and therapeutic to me. Whenever I mention it along with my other hobbies on a date, 100% of the men reply along the lines of “Maybe I can try something one day?” or “Can you make something for me?” What is a proper response to that? I don’t want to hide my passion for baking. If I say something like “Yes, when our relationship is established a bit better”, it sounds like I want a relationship with them, which I might not be sure about at that point.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 10:47 AM |
| 6 | What’s Your Instant Red Flag/Trigger Word In OLD or Texting?Mentioning puppies is so basic. Travel junkie often tries to enlighten you about your boring life and does not have much going on in the career department. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:42 PM |
| 7 | “Come over, let’s cuddle”They think that girls are addicted to cuddling or something. Maybe their ex sometimes wanted to cuddle while he always wanted it to escalate to sex, so now he thinks it is cute to offer cuddles and any girl will be thrilled to touch and be close to a man she hasn't seen before. They are tone-deaf and can't read the situations properly. Since when is it normal to offer a girl an intimate thing such as cuddling before getting to know her? It's offensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 11:20 AM |
| 20 | Female nicknames for menAmazing advice! It’s definitely worth doing if I notice I get too attracted to a guy who hasn’t proven his worth to me. Another thing that helps me is writing “He doesn’t care” as a contacts nickname to a guy who, well, will not care about my message. Seeing it reminds me not to send that emotional message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:17 PM |
| 41 | Do I go over to his house alone (on the second date) to work on his project ?He said he understands, but kept insisting? This sounds like “I understand this perfectly. I just don’t care.” A rule of thumb: don’t go to a guy’s house at least within the first few meetings. It is not a neutral space, it is his space. Anyone who does not respect that is not worth your time. You can work on the project in the library or another neutral space. Do not invite him to your place either until you know him well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:10 PM |
| 26 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriateHaha here you go! I'm happy you didn't need to waste time on seeing him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 01:38 PM |
| 9 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriateIt's not only about coffee, also drinks. Drinks are even worse though. What kind of person will take a girl out on the first date only to drink alcohol? That's pretty telling. Some shy guys may ask a girl out for coffee, but those are the minority. We here don't think his 2 dollar offer is worth dropping whatever we would do instead and dolling up for a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:18 PM |
| 10 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriateI agree with you. I pride myself in being graceful, and I don't feel the need to drop to their level and be rude. It doesn't cost me anything to make it clear I am not interested in his date idea or in him in general. It's basic social skills. If he keeps talking to me, sends a rude text or disrespects my choice, ghosting is definitely the best option. Edit: Netflix and Chill or similar is definitely not even worth a reply. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:10 PM |
| 14 | I went on my first date in months.I agree with most of your points, but I think it is sometimes dangerous for the woman to embarrass men in public. They can be unpredictable when their ego is hurt and its not worth the risk. Also, being insulting means you care about the situation and are bothered by it. You don't care. You are not bothered by this loser. You just don't care about his existence anymore and don't see him as a man. You just lose interest and he should see it. The roughest strategy that will embarrass him is to jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 12:54 PM |
| 37 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriate“I would prefer you to choose the place (this time). I like seafood and/or XYZ”. What he will choose is telling, while you also make your preference clear. Plus you make it clear that you’re not going there for coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 03:39 AM |
| 53 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriateWe’re all about dating on your terms, and the definition of successful dating is not dinner. It’s seeing an effort from the guy, which will then likely to translate into effort towards your relationship. If you don’t want to appear low value, you can say that you’re super busy, but you can fit him in after your class. This way, he understands you have a lot going on and he is not the priority, but a nice addition to your life. That screams HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 03:31 AM |
| 209 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriateAfter he suggests coffee/drinks/walk: Innocently: "Oh, I thought we were going on a date... Did I misunderstand? I want to make sure we're on the same page". Confused: "Hmm, I am not sure if I gave the impression that I am looking for a new friend, but I am actually looking for something more". Simple: "I am not sure if our definitions of dating match". Make him competitive: "Hmm, someone on here just asked me out for dinner that day, but you come across quite interesting as well... Should I cho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 08:02 PM |
| 7 | I can't tell if he just called himself a dog or thinks I see him as one... but point is: he completely missed MY point. 🚮🚮🚮"I understand that you are a tactile person" I literally cracked up at this! They're still using "I'm a tactile person", "My love language is touching", "physical contact is important to me" or other variation of this bs to touch women against their will in 2020?? First of all, duh. He likes to touch girls. How rare, good thing he let you know, you wouldn't have guessed. Secondly, no worries; they do fuck off very quickly when I reply with "My love language is gifts/acts of service". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 06:15 PM |
| 7 | Wanted me to drive 90 minutes to him after saying Hi. Blah. I'm done with OLD.Congrats on your progress and recognising low effort, or in this case, no effort at all! I have given up on OLD as well. Not worth the time and effort. The HVM ratio is too low. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 03:34 PM |
| 19 | Wanted me to drive 90 minutes to him after saying Hi. Blah. I'm done with OLD.If I were you, I would say "Take care" and stop engaging in the conversation right after his unreasonable demand. It told you all you needed to know about him. No need to waste your energy on him any longer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:50 AM |
| 5 | How to justify a guy paying for the date if I realize I am definitely not interested?Could you share what you do before the date to avoid these situations? I could use some advice, apparently :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 07:16 AM |
| 27 | Men do not get attached through sex - Make them work for you if you want to create love, dependence, attachment, commitmentHe is older than me, and extremely reliable, says "my money is your money", takes care of me... I am very young, and the prospect of spending the next 30 years of my life being sexually frustrated and unsatisfied doesn't look good... So there's a mental dilemma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 07:14 AM |
| 48 | Men do not get attached through sex - Make them work for you if you want to create love, dependence, attachment, commitmentI made my current boyfriend wait for a year and a half before having sex, and he did not have a problem with it at all. When we started doing it, everything in the relationship was wonderful... but our sex life. He has a much lower libido than me and a ton of insecurities about sexuality. Eventually, we had to open our relationship on my side because our sex life was simply subpar and unsatisfying for me because of his insecurities, and I don't have any special kinks or fetishes. If nothing impr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 07:00 AM |
| 11 | Their stupidity knows no boundaries. He says he will take me somewhere nice, but then offers disgustingly low-effort drinks. I knew he was LVM when he asked me what I'm doing tbh, but was curious if my gut feeling is right. It always is. Next!I'm getting wiser every day thanks to this sub :). He is obviously blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 08:08 PM |
| 35 | Their stupidity knows no boundaries. He says he will take me somewhere nice, but then offers disgustingly low-effort drinks. I knew he was LVM when he asked me what I'm doing tbh, but was curious if my gut feeling is right. It always is. Next!Thank you for the insightful advice! Next time I will definitely let the man plan out the date, or else there is no date! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 03:53 PM |
| 23 | Their stupidity knows no boundaries. He says he will take me somewhere nice, but then offers disgustingly low-effort drinks. I knew he was LVM when he asked me what I'm doing tbh, but was curious if my gut feeling is right. It always is. Next!Good point about the bar! Why do they think we would go for drinks with them if we can have random dudes to do that for us? I am not even kidding, yesterday I just smiled and said something nice to a man at another table in the restaurant and he bought me dinner. Haha I am literally out of places in town to go with my new dates, I have to go to the same ones 🤣 Kind of felt embarrassed about it up to now, but your comment changed my perspective :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 11:32 AM |
| 62 | Their stupidity knows no boundaries. He says he will take me somewhere nice, but then offers disgustingly low-effort drinks. I knew he was LVM when he asked me what I'm doing tbh, but was curious if my gut feeling is right. It always is. Next!Thank you for the tip! I was confused why he was eager to go on a date and said he will take me somewhere, but ended up offering drinks... I guess he was thinking with his dick in the evening, but with his broke bank account in the morning LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 11:05 AM |
| 1 | I need advice ... I should know better & I think I already know my answerSounds like he is a waste of time. Also, I would have preferred for him to tell me he likes me first. It is probably fun for him to have a girl he can talk to whenever he wants, and it does not sound at all like he is serious about it if he hasn't made effort to meet you in three months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 01:48 PM |
| 0 | Traveling to see a man. Is he expecting sex?That's so horrible! What happened on that holiday that made him cancel her ticket? Unbelievable! Only shows how stupid it is to trust men... I should really reconsider my trip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 07:40 PM |
| -7 | Traveling to see a man. Is he expecting sex?Thank you for your response. I am honestly too scared to say that, because then he can start pressuring me and I would have to be polite, while otherwise I would just walk away. Is there any "excuse" I can use to avoid being pressured? For many men, a girl's feelings are negotiable and only things like being sick are valid excuses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Traveling to see a man. Is he expecting sex?That is what I also feel but could not articulate properly. But before I cancel the trip, I want to know for sure that this is the case. Texting can be so tricky... After all, he was such a gentleman when we met... You see my train of thought here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:17 PM |
| -10 | Traveling to see a man. Is he expecting sex?Thank you for your thoughtful post. I am starting to reconsider the trip, but before I do that, I want to text him to hear his side. What if he is okay with not having sex, even though he is of course hoping for it? What message can I sent him to see what his true intentions are? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:14 PM |
| -6 | Traveling to see a man. Is he expecting sex?Could you open it a little bit? :) I want to understand why it is so creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:06 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)I am of approximately the same age and my boyfriend is up for sex twice per month maximum, and it is BAD, he is so passive and boring... I also wish my boyfriend would be literally aching for me and expressing how much he wants me... He does not use porn, just some mental issues. We don't deserve to have shitty sex life at this age! The saddest thing is there are heaps of guys that are after sex with me and are literally thirsty for me, but my man does not even want me when I try to initiate som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:00 PM |
| 16 | guys are learning astrology to try to get laidOr just “get your head” lol. I tend to avoid all those astrologists as well. They like to tell you how you should feel about what’s going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 08:25 PM |
| 2 | Let's create a list of the professions/hobbies/appearance traits/other categories with the highest ratio of LVM!In 3, you swipe left I believe? I do the same. It’s hilarious how proud they are to say they are a musician or a photographer in their dating profiles. Well, makes it easier to next them. It’s a wonderful hobby to have, but as a job? Many haven’t even made a cent doing it, invested in it more than they ever got back and still list is as a job. With older men, depends on your age. The men my age are mostly extremely immature. If I want a man with a stable job, I have to look at least 3 years olde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 08:21 PM |
| 3 | Let's create a list of the professions/hobbies/appearance traits/other categories with the highest ratio of LVM!About students - even if they are of the appropriate student age, many of them just should not be in a relationship. They are too young and therefore often too immature and focused on their own needs to take care of someone else. There are definitely exceptions, but that’s why I tend to avoid them at least on online dating websites. The possibility of him turning out to be a child or simply wanting to fuck (or both) is just too high. Meeting in university settings over shared courses is okay, at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 06:37 PM |
| 5 | Let's create a list of the professions/hobbies/appearance traits/other categories with the highest ratio of LVM!I love philosophy, but the ego of many philosophy majors is ridiculous. They also often pose as "loner wolves" whom no one understands. Dating them is too much work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 08:32 AM |
| 3 | Let's create a list of the professions/hobbies/appearance traits/other categories with the highest ratio of LVM!Because their professions make them seem desirable and sexy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 06:19 PM |
| 11 | Let's create a list of the professions/hobbies/appearance traits/other categories with the highest ratio of LVM!I recently met a guy who is a cop and is into hunting. Sometimes he gets distant or annoyed easily and unexpectedly. Is that why they're on your list? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 06:11 PM |
| 6 | Met this dude on a dating app and he won’t straight up ask me out, what’s the deal? Low effort or what? I’m not chasing anyone 💁🏻♀️I would not mention at all why I am busy and can't see him on the weekend. I'd just say I already have other plans. You don't need to inform him what you are up to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 09:49 AM |
| 48 | Met this dude on a dating app and he won’t straight up ask me out, what’s the deal? Low effort or what? I’m not chasing anyone 💁🏻♀️Say that you are too busy living your life to endlessly text back and forth. You prefer to meet people in real life. The ball is in his court. If he suggests drinks, delete him. Some HVM I met said that some shy men feel like they can only play "the date card" once. If it's too soon, the girl is creeped out and he risks being ghosted, which is a shame if he was genuinely interested and not a fuckboy who will just go on swiping. By stating you are too busy to text (= you have a fulfilling life wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 09:44 PM |
| 7 | Dating in Europe vs dating in the statesYes, it is. That is why it is more difficult to identify both mysoginists (they are just scared to state their opinions openly or around people they don't know well) or provider men (they are afraid I will get offended at them trying to pay). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 04:04 PM |
| 27 | Dating in Europe vs dating in the statesI live in Finland, where going Dutch is unfortunately considered a normal practice. I mean, once a guy, who has an extremely well-paying job, took me to a fancy place and at the end of a dinner quietly and nervously mumbled something along the lines of "would you.. would it be okay... you know... if I pay for both of us? It's okay if you don't want that, I am just offering". Later, when I asked him why he was almost embarrassed to offer, he said that Finnish girls can get offended if a man takes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/19 04:58 PM |
| 19 | Timeless Quotes from Female Dating Strategist Jane Austen“A man always imagines a woman to be ready for anybody who asks her.” Reminds me of LVM online with their "casual dates"... Some things never change | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 08:15 PM |
| 6 | How dare a women deny his mediocre coffee and boba date?!Does anyone have any tips on how to make them show their true colors from the start? It's annoying to waste time time on seeing them in person and boosting their ego by being on a date with them. If I am meeting him for lunch, how do I know if he is paying for it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 06:30 PM |
| 21 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffMost glaring: talks about how men and women should be equal, but turns out he only thinks that when it comes to paying on the date and making effort in the start of the relationship 😂 Like, "if you don't want to take an hour's train ride to see me today, why do you expect me to do the same? iS YoUr TimE MorE ValuAble thaN MiNE??" (I had plenty of commitments that day, while he had none). He ended up eagerly taking the train to see me after I said "in that case, we're done"... Most subtle: has di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 07:57 AM |
| 5 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)And he even has a nerve to write "I don't think its fair you keep equating being pushy as me not caring about your thoughts and feelings". It was an expression of desire, after all, and I was supposed to be flattered 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:07 AM |
| 7 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)Well, he could not find a response to this directly, he just said it made him more attracted to me when I told him that he's good-looking, so he assumed the same works on girls 😂 Little does he know that good-looking girls can literally do nothing and get a ton male attention. He thought he would be special to me by showing how much he desires me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:03 AM |
| 9 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)The funny thing is, he often mentioned that he has a low self-esteem and should work on being more confident. I think it is a trick to appear safe and innocent or to get some pity ("aww, he is so shy it's cute") from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 06:53 AM |
| 33 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)We attend the same course, so it happened after a lecture. I was just super baffled how someone can be so delusional. He even went on another date in-between, but said that he didn't like her and came to a realisation that he only wants to date me. I said that how can he even expect another date with me after trying out someone else a couple of days before and coming crawling back? Moreover, I told him about my upcoming date with another man. He goes "Why are you giving me a hard time about me s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 09:35 PM |
| 24 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)I can't get my head around how men can ask a woman if she wants to pick it up this time and not feel like complete losers. Heck, they even think they legit have a chance of getting some afterwards and act like nothing happened. He died as a man in my eyes, that is what happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 09:05 PM |
| 18 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)Not if he finds a woman who takes his sh*t until he gets tired of her, unfortunately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 08:28 PM |
| 28 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)Needless to say, a week after this exchange he asked me to give it another go, because he really feels like there is a potential... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 08:27 PM |
| 25 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)What are your thoughts on giving guys reality checks like this? Is it worth the time (not for me, but for the future girls he will try to seduce like this lol)? My biggest inclination was to just block him right away, but I thought about all the other girls who might be subjected to this in the future... I don't know if my explanations make any differences though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 07:57 PM |
| 22 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)Thank you! I literally joined reddit just to be a part of this beautiful sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 07:50 PM |
| 55 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)You said it! And also "I let you know what I want because it may HELP you come to an idea of what you want yourself" in the start. Since when women need help to know what they want? Can't believe someone can feel so entitled | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 07:46 PM |
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