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Fir3start3r/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 07:11 AM
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...that's an opinion because unless she continued it was done and now she gets to reap the rewards of her actions. ...it's clear that's she warning him at the same time with the clenched fist. ...had that been you and you stuck after the one and only hit nobody really saw, guess who's going to jail? Yup. You. ...I'm not saying that's right, but that's the societal knee-jerk reaction people have about Woman beaters so very careful about your battles.
/r/MensRights06/10/18 07:30 PM
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It wasn't a planned, plotted murder so 2nd degree.
/r/MensRights05/07/18 02:42 AM
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...these are the kind of people I'm cordial to (I don't want to be the one looking like a dick here - their own words say enough about them to anyone with half a brain), but otherwise keep across the room from me and certainly don't seek to engage conversation with...
/r/TheRedPill15/06/17 03:32 PM
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I was with a covert narcissist for almost 20 years and had no idea. I knew she had baggage when we started but like a good co-dependent / man I wanted to help fix her and become her white knight. She was a highly intelligent, beautiful woman and I had built her up so much in my head that I became fearful. Fearful of abandonment/isolation - my family had moved across the country so I had no local family to support my decision to leave the relationship. Fearful of an unknown future - my fairy tale…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/17 03:03 PM
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...pretty sure he wasn't staying for the meltdowns... ...(crazy sex is good sex?)
/r/MensRights30/08/16 04:44 AM
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/u/Overkillengnine is right. Control is an illusion. The only person you can truly control is yourself!
/r/TheRedPill09/11/15 07:11 AM
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...been there, done that. Ex (Dry Drunk / Narcissist) took the children back across the country despite loving extended family and that she's an alcoholic (not drinking, but has never truly embraced sobriety). These facts didn't even matter when I was in court trying to stop the move. I felt the final decision was only based on case law and that the mother was, 'Under stress that would effect the children'. Well yea, she's an alcoholic who's behaviors weren't acceptable to the family as a whole,…
/r/MensRights03/11/15 10:49 PM
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I agree generally that anything with two heads is a freak, so be the lead in the relationship. However, a couple of points if you want to be taken seriously: 1. Grammar. Learn it. 2. Attitude and frame is great, but don't come off as a complete douche either unless you plan on simply going through the numbers and testing theory all the time. 3. Who the f&ck wants to f&ck a trained monkey? I'd rather have the 8-9 with brains, a career, who wants me and wants me to lead the relationship. It really…
/r/TheRedPill30/10/15 05:23 AM
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Sounds like another level of maturing needs to be achieved. It's great that there are men out there feeling positive about the changes that are going on in their lives as a direct result of the TRP mantra and we don't mind a few field reports and questions, but lets have some humility too. And OP is right, no need to be a dick about your new found ways either to your friends. TRP doesn't require evangelists. The proof of your TRP endeavors will be self-evident to those around you. Those that rea…
/r/TheRedPill30/10/15 01:16 AM
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Damn dood... You've just inspired me to think about telling my story....of 20 years that went south...
/r/TheRedPill07/07/15 06:46 AM
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I think you just explained yourself as being the DUFF...
/r/seduction14/06/15 07:21 AM
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It's not ego you're worried about, it's rejection. And the only solution is to just do it. You are going to get rejections, you just need to get over it.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:06 AM
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After my Ex left and I actually started dating again (which is interesting itself after many years of being out of that game), I was always up front with them. That I wasn't out to commit to anything. I'm out having a good time, with hopefully a good person and have some fun. EOD. If they want something more, sorry. I know I need to clean my side of the street up before I let anyone on my side but at the same time, I'm not going to sit my ass at home and do nothing either. IMHO that's the worse …
/r/TheRedPill25/02/15 03:55 AM
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The line is so cringe worthy....ugh...
/r/TheRedPill14/02/15 08:55 PM
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Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer. /u/RPinCA speaks the truth; there is value in having woman orbiters. Their observable behaviors and how they behave in situations can be gold!
/r/TheRedPill01/02/15 02:49 AM
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Is there an app you use/recommend to log and track yourself? I've just started researching this and there a TON of them out there...
/r/TheRedPill29/01/15 07:02 AM
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I always like to say, it's not what happens, it's how you handle it. It's not an easy thing to do - it takes practice to control that back-handed comment or feel compelled to want to 'out do' your opponent in the heat of the moment. We're conditioned to be competitive with each other. This is definitely a great example of having confidence in yourself, keeping a cool head and winning in the end.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/14 07:57 AM
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Thanks for that reply; it just hit me square between the eyes. This is exactly what I was doing too! Wow, how fucked up is that right?? I believe I'm starting to come out of my depression phase and concentrating on myself. Learning to find and love myself again. And never again shall I want to meet that empty, half-shell of a former man AGAIN...
/r/TheRedPill03/12/14 05:48 AM
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Good post. Still haven't quite cut off the 20 years part (divorce on horizon), but sooo looking forward to that getting past that milestone and to the new me. For now, learning....
/r/TheRedPill18/11/14 03:35 AM
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Perhaps it's the word, 'ultimatum'? 'Discuss like adults' works.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/14 06:17 AM
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I was with you up to 10 and then lost it. Giving the wife an ultimatum about needing sex sounds quite narcissistic and comes off like an emotional 12 year old. Yes there's probably going to be a lot of pent up animosity but the worst thing you can do let it spill out into an ultimatum. Channel that energy and use it as fuel when you're at the gym. Do that extra set. Run that extra mile. One can be confident about their needs, but holding the LTR/marriage at gun point like that isn't what I'd cal…
/r/TheRedPill04/11/14 05:28 AM
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4 years? Worth every god-damn second. Props to you my man. I can't wait for this happen to me!
/r/TheRedPill02/11/14 11:46 PM
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It's call being, 'Co-Dependent' and pretty common among men like myself who are in Al Anon (support group for those that are dealing with an Alcoholic). It's the biggest pill I've ever had to swallow because you realize how crazy you've been trying to, 'make it work'. Trust me, after 20 years of, 'trying to make it work' it's not worth it in the end. I was a total BPer and thought I had it all; a woman who was great looking, highly intelligent, ex-gymnast who staying in shape but to say she has …
/r/TheRedPill01/11/14 11:51 PM
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Supreme Court ruled that assault is not consensual and even then, even if he has texts/emails that doesn't mean consent can't be rescinded during the act. It's obvious there was no foreplay, he just started slapping them around much to their shock. Has anybody been reading their stories? How can anyone be viewing this as acceptable behavior? The guy was an obvious dirtbag and I know this because I have friends who knew him in Toronto. There was a big fucking red light over this guys head and all…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/14 04:22 AM
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There's a lot of chatter in the local Toronto entertainment community that it was known he had a bad reputation with women and there are multiple accusations coming out. That just makes matters worse IMHO - the silence from the community itself. If it really was that bad, what did it take so long? Because he's a star? /u/dootspagoot is right; let's make an informed decision before beating our own chest in here...
/r/TheRedPill27/10/14 06:01 AM
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...and very hollow victory it would be... ...best sue the employer and make millions rather than try to sue some no-name...
/r/TheRedPill27/10/14 05:51 AM
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Never lend $$ to friends/family unless you can afford to loose it. And never have any expectations regarding repayment; if they do - gravy!
/r/TheRedPill20/09/14 09:20 PM
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Yea but by totally denying her, he would gain a lot more respect from his circle of friends (and himself!) rather than put into question a possibly of it actually happening because, "He f#cked her once"... I agree with /u/alisonstone on this one...just let it go and don't even think about boarding that train, there's LOTS of other opportunity...
/r/TheRedPill20/09/14 09:18 PM
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She sounds a train wreck waiting to happen for sure. The emotion and drama she looks like she'd conjure just isn't worth it when there are other women out there that actually have their shit together (if and when you're looking for that). Off-hand comments like her about being married to you at 35 are just f%cking bizarre in my experience. No thanks and I don't care how good looking you are cause my serenity isn't worth giving up trying to fix someone else's sh!t; been there, done that for 20 ye…
/r/TheRedPill20/09/14 09:09 PM
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Reminds me of an article I was reading where it stated that your brain can't truly distinguish between rewards in the real world and the virtual.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 04:23 PM
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My network of friends in this area is actually just starting, so part of my strategy is to use networking to find what I'm looking for. I already have a built in referral so long as I'm not a total dick to the referrer. It's deadly close to sounding like an orbiter but the difference is, I'm not pining for Girl A because I'm looking for Girl B (or C).
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 12:11 AM
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Haha, sorry man, I was totally trolling...
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 12:07 AM
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I'm getting the drift that I'm missing some information and need to be clear on something else. First, anyone who actually believes in the horrorscope should be shot (maybe even pissed on and then shot again just to be sure). Obviously my trolling in this forum actually hit some nerves. Too easy...Moving on... Second, I'm guessing based on some of the replies that the demographic here is quite young. The bang-em-and-leave-em approach doesn't require me (or anyone else) to read TRP. Any idiot can…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 11:58 PM
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Why would I do that if I don't see her in my overall agenda? What a great way to confuse things. You like drama? Because that's how you get drama...
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 07:59 AM
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It does sound that way, but in relation to this subreddit, that would be the wrong word to use. According to the TRP definition: Friendzone - See Orbiter. Orbiter - Also known as Beta Orbiter. A beta guy who accepted the proposal to "just be friends" from a girl he has oneitis for. He will stick around her and constantly validate her whenever she requests it. Also known as "friendzone." She will keep him around because he will do anything for her and provide validation, giving small hints that h…
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 07:49 AM
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But do not let her moods, or her words, shape your course of action. You shape your course of action 100% on your own. Funny, I essentially just said this very thing to a guy in my Al Anon men's group. He said he was getting a hard time from his current GF about a course he's always wanted to take but it's taking a lot of time away from her between the course and a full time day job. I told him, you do what YOU need and want to do; don't let her jealousy and lack of trust ruin it. I said, look, …
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 06:16 AM
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Thanks man. Yea, different groups have different dynamics and there are definitely groups I've heard called, "Stitch and Bitch" where it literally is just a big bitch session. That's not at all what Al Anon is about. It was put to me like this; the Alcoholic learns how to deal with themselves, the Al Anon person learns how to deal with the Alcoholic (for their own sanity). Yea, I have to get a copy of those books too!! I've heard they're quite good...
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 06:15 AM
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Thanks brother. Not the result I would have wanted it for the kids but then, I didn't make that choice. I have the full support of my family and all my friends and I can sleep at night with a clear conscience.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 03:05 PM
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Wow, I'm reading myself in your post - we're almost exactly the same. 0_o Was together with my EX for about 20 years, I'm in IT, mid-40s, three kids... Slight differences - I'm not divorced yet but it's looking very much like it and I'm in Western Canada while the Ex and kids are in Eastern Canada living with her 'enabling' mother. I have been going to Al Anon since everything starting going to shite last Fall. My wife was an active alcoholic for the first 10 years and a, "Dry Drunk" the last 10…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 06:00 AM
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