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I mean they are having less sex but that’s not really exclusive to men. Things like bills and school take up most of your time and energy. Idk about you but the choice for being homeless or celibate is a jo brainer. The average japanese salaryman works 80 hours a week. Minimum. Where is anyone going to find the time to date and marry when they spend more time at the office than at home? Red pill guys are usually trying to sell something so they present things in the most upsetting, misleading wa…
/r/ExRedPill17/07/26 04:16 PM
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Well now I’m curious. What are the hobbies that you speak of? For the second part that’s not a hard line. It’s just there because if it doesn’t work out then you still have to interact with them and things get weird if you can’t let the rejection roll off your back.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 02:38 PM
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Someone who is digging for scraps radiates an air of anxiety that’s incredibly off putting and casts doubt on the authenticity of their interest. In your case that doubt would be correct. I hope you are good in conversation because at the very least being good company ups your odds of being invited into a group over time. Do you live in a city? Or near one? Because a lot of cities have events that only get posted on social media as opposed to websites like meetup.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 02:02 PM
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I… don’t think you will find artsy or philosophical people at night clubs. You’re better off signing up for art classes or those sip and draw painting sessions where you drink wine while you paint. Though, for similar environments you do see more of them in convention afterparties though. Maybe try to get into those?
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 01:51 PM
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A long term monogamous relationship is still going to look very different for different people. So I suggest trying to get more specific about what you want. If it helps, try to get far enough into a hobby you find some rabbit holes or controversy. That’s usually where the fun kind of socialization happens. Examples of this include, the babies on fire debate from ravelry, 3d prints at craft fairs, plastic sewing machines, and hand made vs purchased cosplays I question the wisdom of searching for…
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 01:34 PM
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The communities where you meet people are the communities where interacting with others is encouraged. My partner does belagarth and other battle sports but that’s not exactly something that’s local to everyone. That community on the other hand tends to over lap quite a lot with rennaisance fairs, cosplaying, dnd, and gaming. Which, hey! More conversational topics and places to meet. This also means they can tell if you aren’t actually interested in the hobby for its own sake. Additionally this …
/r/ExRedPill13/07/26 01:16 PM
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I think you need to address that first. Because if you don’t it won’t matter what you look like how your life goes, your brain will just find ways to spoil it.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/26 04:20 PM
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Just because you aren’t your type doesn’t mean you aren’t someone elses. Style, posture, and hygiene go a long way in polishing appearances and those are well within your control. Confidence too, but that’s something that comes with time and practice. Also, please keep in mind that nobody will ever be louder than the voice you use to talk to yourself.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/26 03:58 PM
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I think you need to try and figure out the root of your thoughts. What is the difference between someone with experience and a whore, a slut, etc etc? What are the different standards for each? Do your expectations change? Do the same standards apply for a man? Talk to a therapist. Or go back to being single. The former is more productive. The latter shrinks your dating pool by a substantial margin.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/25 11:41 PM
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Seems like a way to fish for validation and reassurance. If you fight to prove him wrong that’s proof of his position over you. If you reassure him that you will stand by him in his worse then it’s proof he doesn’t have to hold back. And if he can treat you like crap then his status amongst the red pillers like him goes up too. Because the rest of them are likely single.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/25 03:07 AM
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The thing about dating advice is that you have to be discerning about it. Not every advice is for every situation and so you have to be self aware and choose what might apply to you and reject what doesn’t. The advice that works for a guy with no sense of personal space or boundaries is going to be different than what works for the guy that doesn’t talk to anyone.
/r/ExRedPill09/07/25 05:10 PM
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That advice is frequently taken out of context. The phrase is also generic and intended to apply to the average individual without needing to account for details. What being yourself means is being authentic in your interests, priorities, and values when interacting with others and accept what happens. Over time will naturally repel people who disagree with them leaving the like minded people behind. Neediness and desperation are traits that inherently cast doubt on the authenticity of someone’s…
/r/ExRedPill03/06/25 04:13 PM
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Yes it’s possible to have relationships when you have OCD it just comes down to how well you can manage it. No you are not guaranteed a partner in life. And that possibility is something you have to accept even if you don’t like it. Because constantly trying to avoid thinking about that possibility ironically makes you ruminate on it more. Plus it gives you that air of desperation which is far far more off-putting than OCD. This notion is called radical acceptance, which helps a surprising amoun…
/r/ExRedPill02/05/25 05:35 PM
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Most people are some of those and romance is very different from your goal of being in the top 1% of sexy and attractive people. Those people looking for romance are looking for a specific flavor from one kind of person whereas you seem to want everything from every one.
/r/ExRedPill29/04/25 06:15 PM
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Therapy. And a life. This post is barely legible and certainly not helping your case. Desperation like this makes everything you do come across as insincere. And there is nothing more off-putting than insincerity when it comes to attraction. Not to mention what’s considered attractive will vary from person to person. The basics involve being good company. People want to be with you if you are fun, interesting, and charismatic. And it’s hard to be any of those if you don’t have anything else movi…
/r/ExRedPill29/04/25 05:55 PM
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The 80/20 rule is the notion that 80 percent of something comes from 20 of something else. In the work place, it’s safe to say that 80 percent of the work is done within 20 percent of the time. 80 percent of complaints come from 20 percent of the people. In that sense you can apply this idea to numerous things in dating.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/25 10:56 PM
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A lot of people who declare they are operating on logic rather than emotions are actually just mistaking their emotions for logic.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/25 07:24 AM
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A lot of relationships come down to the kind of work both parties are willing to put in. So it’s good that you are working on yourself. I would suggest seeing a therapist if you haven’t already. If it helps, what you say about your relationships is pretty normal. The honeymoon phase is intense but it always ends after a while. Nobody is perfect, so trying to hunt down a flawless woman is a waste of time. And frankly trying to pursue a woman like that without being similarly flawless is the heigh…
/r/ExRedPill10/03/25 01:32 AM
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I would like to point out that the floor is higher than you think it is. What a lot of “nice” guys think is the result of a great effort is the standard for the rest of society. The lack of awareness regarding the discrepancy is something of a red flag in and of itself. So what your describing is effectively wanting praise and affection for basic human decency. As to the rest of your post, a lack of boundaries for one person is not the responsibility for everyone else to manage. It’s supposed to…
/r/ExRedPill10/01/25 06:18 AM
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I disagree with your statement of most people being not being polite or well mannered because even if the details vary from region to region you can’t really have ordered society without it. I would like to point out that being able to separate your emotions from your actions and conducting yourself properly is the bare minimum of being able to function in society. It’s right up there with maintaining personal hygiene and using a toilet. None of those things are praiseworthy because someone who …
/r/ExRedPill09/01/25 07:13 PM
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I think it’s one of those situations that has layers to it. Especially on the preference front. Most people also don’t understand that being a being a nice guy isn’t a selling point in and of itself. There’s a difference between being a nice guy and a “nice” guy. A nice guy is someone who is polite, well mannered, pleasant to be around, and generally considerate of others. Basic human decency in a nutshell and a minimum requirement to function in social situations. A “nice” guy is someone who de…
/r/ExRedPill09/01/25 06:45 PM
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Yeah, a lot of that boils down to how they carry themselves.
/r/ExRedPill23/06/24 08:59 PM
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First things first get off social media. Think of posts on social media as the highlight reels rather than the real deal. It’s really hard to keep that in mind when you are constantly being bombarded with pictures and posts though. Secondly, therapy. It helps to have someone who can ask you questions. It’s good for introspection and figuring out why you feel a certain way and how to go about addressing it. Every one has the same needs, but how they go about addressing them may differ. Third, sin…
/r/ExRedPill30/05/24 11:09 PM
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The suggestion was never meant to be bulletproof. My reasoning is that someone with autism would be more likely to share a communication style or social language with OP than not. It’s a place to start. I also figured that there were autism support groups and communities that OP might be a part of which would also be a good to socialize. Plus even if the traits clash there would be a mutual understanding that it’s not intentional. At least if the parties are mature and actually ready to date. Pe…
/r/ExRedPill24/05/24 03:04 PM
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Have you tried dating other autistic people? Or friends you might be attracted to? It seems logical since they would either be familiar with how you’re like or they would understand your awkwardness.
/r/ExRedPill22/05/24 12:01 AM
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Find ways to build a comfortable and happy life for yourself while also making room for someone else’s. And socialize of course. But the nature of socializing is to find ways to spend time enjoying yourself with other people so yeah
/r/ExRedPill08/04/24 03:56 AM
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Yeah, but that’s something that’s something that’s way more out of my hands than appearances. So i think it’s easier to move on from.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/24 01:03 AM
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a lot of the supposedly good looking dudes i know of are also rich or have relatives in high places. But if I ignore those, people then its 50/50. Snapping bra straps at the office isnt cool be it from a hot guy or johnny lobster face.
/r/ExRedPill04/04/24 12:08 AM
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Nah. Ugly—-> appearance Creepy—-> behavior I speak as a fine artist who has drawn quite a lot of people but it’s pretty hard to be repulsively ugly. Plus a lot of your appearance can be affected by things like posture and style. Things definitely within the realm of control. Creepy is contextual and is usually from either disregarding the boundaries of the other people involved. Or a lack of social skills that gives the impression of disregard.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/24 11:54 PM
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It’s not that one is more important than the other so much as there is a substantial overlap between the two. You have a lot more control over your appearance than you think, and the effort you put into it will imply certain things about your personality. Presentation is important and it’s a way to express yourself. You might not have control over your features but you do have control over your style and posture. Someone who slouches, reeks of grease, old socks, unshaven, and in oversized and st…
/r/ExRedPill31/03/24 10:42 PM
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Yes having a girlfriend is time consuming. The point of having a partner is making room in your life for theirs to overlap and a fair part of that is going to be investing time and effort into maintaining that connection. And that’s something that needs low but constant maintenance. If you don’t then you no longer have a relationship. Might i suggest that instead of a girlfriend you search out a group of friends instead? Friends are generally much less time consuming.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/24 01:50 AM
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I have found that how you feel about yourself matter very little in the grand scheme of things. Do what you have to and ignore the voice inside telling you about yourself.
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:28 PM
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She poops and pees and farts like everyone else.
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:34 PM
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No. Do not do this. The unspoken expectation/desire is something they can pick up on and it feels super skeevy and disingenuous. This is where the creepy “nice guy” vibes start. The “why wont she screw me, im such a nice guy” attitude starts. especially after an extended period of time where nothing happens. Do not do this. Cut your losses and move on.
/r/seduction04/08/19 06:59 AM
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