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I may not have written it very well; as if that is how you understood what I was suggesting then I would agree with you; that is a terrible idea. The poster said that them spending all their time together was being an issue so if they go on into marriage now that will not change. Getting more space (with moving out being the most extreme) would give them a short term solution; from which they can better coordinate making sure it does not happen again when they get married. The advise I gave was …
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 03:06 PM
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Do come back if you need further advise from us, as the situation progresses with him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 02:18 PM
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You are welcome. Go slowly, and use your head to think about what is best for your heart in the long term and I am sure you will make the best decisions for your future. Do keep us updated.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 02:08 PM
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You are welcome.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 02:06 PM
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I would definitely recommend getting this issues resolved before marriage because if you go into the marriage with your relationship as it is now, these problems will only get worse. Ideal you would want to go into your marriage and instantly start the honeymoon period, and then when that slowly starts to decline you can fall back on the firm foundation you would have set up during the vetting and dating periods. Hurting him now, or delaying the wedding will be awful; but it will be no where nea…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 02:04 PM
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This is very common for relationships that follow this structure. People assume that sleeping together and moving in with each other before marriage is more likely to yield a stronger long term relationship but actually it is the opposite - it drastically increases the likelihood of divorce later on down the road. There are many reasons for this; but in your case the biggest ones are; letting the honeymoon period happen before vetting could be properly completed an a firm basis of the relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/24 01:50 PM
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No.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 01:19 PM
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In what way?
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 12:56 PM
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Incapable of being assertive or dominant would be a basic answer, but in reality it is much more nuanced.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 11:58 AM
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I am so sorry you have gone through this. I am also a Christian. Be assured that God loves you, he forgives you and he wants nothing more to support you and bring you out of this situation better than you were before. (Even if it takes a very long time) Virginity is important, but it is not a defining characteristic of a Godly wife. Read proverbs 31:10-31 for the Bible description of a Godly wife. I am guessing that you have already repented, which is good, God will have justified you by Christ'…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 03:39 AM
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Right.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/24 03:09 AM
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Strong men can be soft whenever they want, but soft men can never be strong. Do not lump strong men, choosing to be soft around their wives, into the same group as soft men being soft because that is all they can do.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 10:06 PM
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A man who stays too long in 'cherish mode' turns into her cuddle b*tch and she eventually loses attraction. This is only true for some women. There are a lot of women who do not have their view of their men ruined by a him being soft towards her for prolonged periods of time; provided he maintains a consistent ability to be strong and assertive. In fact I know a few women who enjoy a reversal of the dominance/submission roles with their husbands in the bedroom; and after several years, far from …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 10:04 PM
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After 6 months, that is not that uncommon.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 08:07 PM
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"If he wanted to, he would" and "bare minimum" are not really redpillwomen talking points; they are more used by women to unfairly criticise men. The both of you need to take a step back and evaluate your relationship and vet the both of you. This is going to be much harder now you have started sleeping together, as that is going to make making the best decisions for your relationship and futures a lot harder. In your post you have listed far more of what he is doing for you, than what you are d…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/24 07:25 PM
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The whole biology of it all and why it works and is pleasurable is actually rather interesting. The best thing about it though as that if you become proficient at it, is is not even a sub-par alternative, as many women report having stronger climaxes - so as you rightly said, with a lot of patience, practice and commitment you can have just as good a marriage bed.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 04:07 PM
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This is a good solution I have heard other couples use before. A lot of couples find that it is much more specious in the back than the front; which is actually why a lot of men go off it after the novelty wears off as they get a lot less stimulation apart from at the entrances where the sphincter muscle is. Anyone reading this, before trying make sure you do a lot of research and preparation first and the muscle needs to be trained before it can take a heavy workout - just like going to the gym…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 04:00 PM
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You have concerns about marriage or is it just not your cup of tea?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 06:20 PM
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but I agree that I may not be ready to have sex outside of our relationship You should not being doing that outside of a relationship ever. Sleeping around is very bad for mental health, especially women. At best it should only be within a long term committed relationship; but the only best situation for be sleeping together is in marriage. You are young, you have plenty of time. Do what is best for your future now.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 06:10 PM
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Dr Henry Cloud Dr Henry Cloud is great, and John Townsend; I second this recommendation.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 06:03 PM
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Leave this open relationship situation; it will not end well. In reality, there is probably more you need to change about your approach than about yourself. Vulnerability is a really good thing (especially for women) when it comes to intimacy. In future, you need to find out a man's values soon into the vetting process. If his values match yours, great, but keep monitoring him. If he breaks his own values in a major way, just leave. If he breaks them in a minor way, point them out of him, if he …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 06:02 PM
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Men are not easily changed, but they are easily inspired. Generally speaking men like to feel useful and capable and this can be externally rewarded by targetting his ego. You nagging or being blunt and past bad treatment of him will have caused damage, the more men are nagged, the less they want to do whatever it is their wives want - that is of course unless they have been broken, then they need a lot of rebuilding. If your husband has not been broken, your best bet is to target is ego. Stroke…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/24 09:21 PM
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Different cultures have different views of submission. Islamic cultures for example view submission as week as they follow the example of Muhammad. Only women are to submit in Islam, or non-Muslims. Christian cultures tend to have a stronger view of submission as they base their view on Christ's example. Jesus taught that the stronger man submits to authority, as a weaker man would not be able to hold himself back and try to rise up, or would give up out of embarrassment. Christianity teachers t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/24 06:14 PM
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there is so much chatter about it being a good and logical idea. That is true, but the actual evidence does support that whatsoever. If it were actually a good idea, then that would be the traditional way of conducting a relationship, and there would be a long standing history of it being successful and praised. For your own sake, and your relationship; stand firm, treat your yourself, and your love for your Captain with the respect and it deserves. Your relationship and love for him is so speci…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 06:57 PM
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It is not a good idea. Living together before marriage is one of the most frequent predictors for divorce later down the line. There is a reason why the most stable and longest lasting societies in the world have had socially enforced rules about not living together before marriage - because it often does not work well at all. Before you are married, you want to make it as easy as possible for you to walk away; if you become too emotionally or piratically dependant then you will be more inclined…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/24 06:49 PM
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It is a very good idea to wait until marriage. Why do you think it is promoted by long lasting traditions and cultures? Because it works and is very very stable. Sleeping together before getting married is high correlated with increases chances of divorce later. You want to be the sort of person who can remain as clear headed as possible during the dating/vetting phase. Too much physical touch and any sleeping together, physically rewires your brain so you become more emotionally dependant on th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/24 02:48 PM
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He told me he was a believer, he went to church every Sunday, etc. so I was under the impression that he was actually a Christian. Boy, was I wrong. After being together for 4 months, I learned that his beliefs DO NOT line up with Christianity. How is he now? Are the difference in believes causing difficulty in your relationship?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/24 08:37 PM
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It sounds like he probably will. Not all men however will have the same view however. If he does end up breaking up with you, your best bet in the future would be to look for a man who greatly values redemption and personal improvement. People who have such values tend to judge pasts; however it might indicate that they have pasts of their own they have sought to rise above and overcome. You would still need to be open about it however with any boyfriend in the future. Personally I would not bre…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/24 06:41 AM
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Indeed, and if that does not work you can try the findfashion, subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/24 07:59 AM
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It would depend on the content of the argument. Show with your actions that not only you will not disrespect him in the same way again, but that you actively love and respect him. Do not make him feel weak for being hurt or disrespected by the argument. Praise him for being strong and dealing with your poor actions so well. Make it clear you maintain confidence in him and you trust him as your leader. If he tends to hold on to things, that is an issue you should get sorted out, as if he gets wor…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 01:42 PM
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Unfortunately not, I shall add it to the list.
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/24 05:57 AM
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Can he drive a stick? Cause I am pretty sure that's another unicorn skill at this point. These cars are the default in the UK... I guess that is why American women seem to love British men so much.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/24 08:28 AM
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I know of a blog post that was written by a man who wanted to give up but kept going back to it and being too ashamed to talk to his wife. His wife then came up with a new method which helped her help him and he has been clean for something like 10 years now. It only works however if the user really wants to stop for reasons beyond his/her spouse. So in this example he was a Christian and believed it was wrong regardless of if he was married or not. I cannot guarantee the blog would be helpful f…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 02:50 PM
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Different methods work for different people. Does he want to give it up?
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 02:46 PM
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This is exactly right. It boils down to men wanting to feel useful. If the women is more educated and earns more, then he can neither impart money nor knowledge to her, making him feel useless.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/24 11:19 AM
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Fellow Christian here. I might suggest you focus on the parts of the Bible that deal with suffering for your faith. For example this passage from John 15 where Jesus said: “If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first. 19 If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. 20 Remember what I told you: ‘A servant is not greater than his master.’[b] If they pers…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/24 07:01 AM
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Saying it is shallow might be a bit far, but the common response to height is that it is pretty much the one physical thing that cannot be changed. Hair colour, muscle size, bra size, body fat ratio, clothes, appendage size... everything else is changeable either easily or with surgery. Height cannot be changed. This, as far as I have seen, is the usual objection to women liking taller men, it is unfair because it is the one thing they cannot change.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 03:27 PM
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You should really work on that anxious attachment, men really do not find it attractive. You want to focus on making yourself as secure and attractive to him as possible.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 09:15 AM
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Wow, this is my first (sort-of) endorsement from an Endorsed Contributor. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 09:01 AM
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Thank you. It was not intended to be deep or beautiful, merely factual but I am glad it answered you. To answer this question we would need more information. The same behaviour can be different things from different men. It could be that your boyfriend wanting to spend time with you means he is less interested, or it could be be he has a lower social battery. All men are different, but I would say it is not unusual for men to want to spend less time with their girlfriends then they do. Giving le…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 09:00 AM
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Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 08:31 AM
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Men and women are different, with different instinctive natures due to their evolved/designed biological roles. The men are the hunters, providers, protectors, fighters... who need personality characteristics to optimise them for those roles. Where as women are the gatherers, the nurturers, the encourages, the comforters... who need personality characteristics to optimise themselves for those roles. Now, do not fall into the believe that men and women's behaviors are two distinct categories; ins…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 08:20 AM
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It was a good thing that you broke up; he is clearly not a good man for you. If your relationship only lasted 2.5 mouths and you jumped to being intimate that quickly then breaking up was the best thing to do. You want to remain clear headed during the dating phase so you can first vet the man, and then after build up your relationship, developing relational structures, trust and confidence in each other and your ability to handle anything. Being intimate changes your brain so you are more emoti…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 12:05 PM
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Oh no, I would never do that; although I can completely understand it would look that way. I do my best to be a stringent follower of rule 9 and am very committed to this community - while being respectful. I am happy to have made some friends here as well as to have introduced others.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 11:14 PM
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Thank you for sharing your story, kind words and sentiment. I am so sorry you went through that. I hope you are healing and you and your husband is supporting you (and you him) through processing all of this.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 09:49 PM
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Sorry, I introduced her to the subreddit. I was just happy to see her here.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 09:39 PM
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Good evening.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/24 08:21 PM
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My mistake. I was thinking of another Red Pill community when I wrote that. Thank you for the correction.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/24 01:09 AM
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If you made is life better, then that makes you seem like a great person - getting revenge would undo that. If you think that doing this will make you feel any better or help you recover in anyway you will be sorely surprised. It will just make things more real and magnify the consequences and divide your mutual friends.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 10:07 PM
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Do not do it. Revenge and justice are not the same thing; this is definitely revenge. What he did was awful, and I am so sorry; but that does not justify you acting awfully two. An eye for an eye makes the world blind - and this is not even an eye for an eye. This behaviour is neither traditional nor feminine. Red Pill Women methods are mostly based on traditional Western thinking and Philosophy which emphasises more the turning of the cheek and being a bigger person than being petty. Doing this…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/24 09:54 PM
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Can you cross over to Northern Ireland?
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/24 06:56 PM
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I am sorry. I was unaware I was breaking rule 9. My views of commitment were instilled in me by my mother and other women so I did not think it would be a gendered thing. I can however see that it would be personal preference, but it was not intended to be advice. I thought I had left it open by saying "well it depends". I am sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 09:05 PM
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Have a discussion about love languages then; it sounds like one of yours is words of affirmation. At the same time you can ask him what he thinks his are so rather than looking needy it would appear mutually beneficial. Do you know about love languages?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 11:26 AM
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Have you told him how you feel and that you want to be complimented more?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 11:21 AM
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Well it depends on whether he wants to honour his original commitment or not. I certainly would if I ever end up divorced.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 03:38 AM
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and there are lots of different reasons it could be; I don’t think it’s fair to assume it was his fault or he was the problem I never assumed it was his fault. I only pointed out that if he is not keeping to his vow then he has broken his commitment. Even if the break down of the marriage was entirely his first wife's fault him moving on and dating again is breaking his commitment. You are not committed if you give up if things do not go your way; the only way out of it is for either the commitm…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 03:27 AM
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I prefer divorced men over never married men. To me it tells me they can make a commitment Being divorced says the opposite to me. If he got married then he publicly vowed before his community and the government that he would spend the rest of his life married to his first wife, "for better or for worse", "until death do they part". If he is divorced and looking to date and marry again then clearly he does not take that commitment as seriously as the vow itself implies.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 03:15 AM
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Well continuing to be promiscuous will not make things any better, it will just make them worse. I am a man, I am saving myself for marriage and I am a follower or Jordan Peterson. My concern it not with body count, but with attitude towards intimacy, and past failings in that area. I realise that men like me are not overly common but we do exist. To see examples of this, you might want to research adult film stars who convert to Christianity. A lot of them end up marrying Christian men who can …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 02:30 AM
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Perhaps I should consider not ever dating or trying for marriage again and just being a hoe? That is a terrible idea. Being promiscuous is bad for both men and women, but especially for women as it causes mental health problems. Humans are a pair bonding species; we are at our happiest and most mentally healthy (excluding external events) when in long term committed relationships. If you think you are feeling bad now, being promiscuous will make you feel worse.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/24 01:44 AM
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He's said he bets some women would provoke men to abuse them for alimony, that most of the abusive relationships he's seen had the female as the perpetrator of violence, that I just don't know if the physical abuse was caused by "something they did", etc. This is actually a real thing. A friend of mine is a solicitor who had a practice where she represented men in divorces. She can tell story after story of women provoking men into ranges so they look bad later in court. It got so bad that judge…
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 07:49 PM
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I have already reported it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 08:36 PM
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This is not acceptable on this subreddit; I would suggest you delete your post and leave promptly.
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/24 08:28 PM
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I would suggest stopping doing anything remotely close to intimacy. Doing this like this changes your brain chemistry so you bond to each other emotionally. These bonds make it much more difficult to vet each other and your relationship. If you are very emotionally invested early on, if you then find problems you will be more likely to ignore them or hide from them than to solve them or break up. You want to remain as clear headed as possible until you are married. Your negative feelings most li…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/24 11:58 AM
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Would the idea of being his cheerleader seem better to you? That should hopefully give him the push he needs to go further and achieve more without being overbearing. It would also mean you could submit to his leadership. Read these posts: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/chfcer/the_cheerleader_vs_the_soccer_mom_and_how_to/ https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/5pt40s/the_five_faces_of_the_perfect_wife/
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 08:25 AM
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Man here. I am very similar to your boyfriend, I can talk for hours vigorously about anything that interests me but other people's personal lives never interest me and I usually switch off pretty quickly. I do also include talking about my own personal life in this as well, as I am more than familiar with my life so recanting it would be boring and a waste of time. I am on the autistic spectrum which is believed to cause my lack of interest in other people, although this can just be a common thi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/23 12:57 AM
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I am glad to hear it. I hope you find a lovely husband to whom you can give it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 05:04 PM
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You are welcome. I am glad I could be of help. Do let us know what you decide.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 10:12 AM
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Yes you should. Sleeping together before getting married dramatically increases the likelihood you will get divorced later, the same goes with just living together. it would be​ easy to get my virginity taken Which is exactly why you should not let it. Treat your virginity as something valuable, something that only your husband will ever be able to have; not something that you can easily give away. Sleeping together before marriage, causes premature mental bonding. This bonding effects the brain…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/23 09:58 AM
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You should certainly step back and let him deal with this, but you should still let it be known to him that you support him and want to help him if he needs it; that help probably being, serving his emotional needs during this difficult and stressful time for him. This might result in you seeing him more, as time he would have spent worrying about the fight for custody, can now be spent with you there supporting him.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/23 08:00 AM
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I will just warn you than some men may be put off by you being divorced, and they will probably reference the verses where Jesus says that anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. You should go forwards doing what you think God thinks is the right thing for you to do. God bless you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 07:13 PM
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confidence: remember he's lucky to have the wonderful woman you are spending an evening with him A good point, but make sure you do not over do this or he will think you are self-obsessed or a narcissist and loose interest.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 04:03 PM
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There are definitely Christian men out there who would also want to wait for marriage, and if that is your standard then you should not settle for less because if you do the difference in your values will probably cause your relationship to end badly.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 08:26 AM
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So he is discussing potentially private parts of your relationship, yet views the breach of privacy telling you to whom he is talking? That seems a little hypercritical. Do you consider if talking to others about your arguments a breach of privacy, if so you should tell him and thus explain that because that is the case, he cannot hide behind the excuse of privacy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 08:17 AM
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I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:54 AM
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Actually the most common response given by an innocent person to a false accusation is to get angry and protest. Innocent people get offend by false accusations and concerned about the negative effects of the it. Brushing it off would be more indicative of trying to hide misbehavior. Tell your boyfriend that if he is unwilling to trust you, you need to review your relationship. If he cannot come to trust you then you need to find a Captain who will.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:51 AM
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This is of course assuming they are physical, they may be waiting for marriage; that is not uncommon in the Red Pill Women community and is quite frankly recommended for long term relationship stability.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:47 AM
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You can use cash to buy gifts, or use cash to buy gift cards you can use online. I believe both Visa and Mastercard both do gift cards or prepaid cards or something like that you can use too. This is one of the reasons why if I get married I shall maintain a personal account.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 10:07 PM
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Tell him to read "She Comes First", which is a book that goes into specific technique on how to do it properly so it is enjoyable and results in multiple climaxes. Also stop faking it, it helps no one in the long run. Men would prefer you be truthful so they can improve.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/23 11:26 AM
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He is the Captain, it is his job to lead you and your relationship through problems such as this. If he is unwilling to try and find a solution then you should go and find a better Captain.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 02:45 AM
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You are welcome. Let us know how it goes.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 02:32 AM
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Man here. Firstly, do not tell him that "he is just a great guy" because all men know that means she is not interested. Just tell him what you have told us: I really like you and would be interested in exploring having a relationship However I am not in the right place for a relationship right now I do not want to lead you on, which I why I am telling you I think I might in a better place in a month or so - (Make sure he hears this) If you are still available then, I would very much like to star…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/23 01:34 AM
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As a man, I would always want to know if my first-mate, is upset. It is my job to take charge and help solve her problems; and I would get a great deal of satisfaction out of comforting her and supporting her as I am fulfilling my function of being useful. I do agree with your point because sometimes that can be the case; but a lot of the time Captains do want to help their first-mates and would be annoyed if the first-mate hid problems or feelings.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/23 11:25 AM
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it’s natural for men to want to spread their seed or be with multiple women. This is a highly questionable belief, especially since it is ascribed to nature. Both biologically and socially we know that humans are not a polygamous species. Species that are polygamous tend to have a lot more of one gender than the other. If men really were supposed to have multiple wives then the birth rate for girls should be much higher than for boys; where as in reality it is nearly 50/50. Socially polygamy has…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/23 10:33 PM
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I have never used a body pill before, let us know how you find it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 08:18 AM
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Single man here. My love language is physical touch; unfortunately my last source of platonic physical touch was my mother who died 2 years ago so I have been pretty touch starved since. Eventually you sort of get use to it, sometimes it gets really difficult and I feel like I need to find somebody quickly, but I know intellectually that rushing to do so or hiring a professional cuddler would not be a good idea so I just put up with it. A pet or childhood cuddly toy might make good temporary alt…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/23 06:27 AM
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How many people does that concern ? 1% of the working population ? I think you are misunderstanding me, sorry I must not have phrased it very well. I am not saying it is common, I am just saying that it is one of many reasons why you might keep your phone private from your spouse; even if they are not very common. ​That is the general rule. Exactly, you are talking generally; I am talking specifically. Also nudists might disagree with you, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 08:37 AM
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The only limit case I can imagine Any job that requires the worker to sign a confidentiality clause or non-disclosure agreement would mean that any computers with work information should not be accessible to anyone else - even if the work information is not critical to national security. If a tab is left open with work information on it and the other spouse comes along and views it that is violation of the contract and could lead to a very serious civil and sometimes even criminal case.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 05:10 AM
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Your phone should be less private than your genitals. People who do not understand that have updside-down system of values. Privacy is not linear like this, different things are kept private for different reasons from different people. There are several valid reasons why someone would not let his/her spouse have access to phones. The phone contains confidential work documents/information/emails that cannot be viewed by anyone else and it would be a violation of the job to let anyone use that com…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/23 07:09 PM
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You could try a form of exposure therapy? Look into all the good men do for society; watch documentaries about what life is like as an infrastructure worker or policemen or soldier. Read positive testimonies from women about how much their appreciate their husbands and other men in their lives. It will not work over night, but if you spend long enough focusing on the good that a lot of men do and the positives of masculinity in society; then eventually your brain will start to associate those po…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 09:57 PM
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If you like, you could try writing a draft of what you want to put on your dating profile and post it here for people to read and review.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 07:00 PM
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Are you just wanting to vent or are you looking for advice?
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 06:30 PM
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You should talk about it like you would talk about any of your interests. Talk about it positively giving reasons why you like it and want to find someone who also shares such an interest. Give a little detail on the sort of things you enjoy doing as the women in the relationship and how it makes you feel feminine and also say the sort of things you like men doing and why. Just imagine you are talking about your hobby or passion or life goal or something and the light-hearted earnestness will co…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/23 06:28 PM
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Step back but make sure he can see you are interested. If he thinks that you are not into him that may discourage him from pursuing you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 06:50 PM
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Are phone calls not an option?
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/23 06:48 PM
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All relationships are different. What some men would consider mothering, others would not. Talk to your man about how he feels about how you have been acting. If he feels you are mothering him then make some changes based on what he says, if he does not then you are fine and should continue being as nurturing as you are.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/23 09:00 AM
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I do feel trapped to go forward without sounding too needy and telling him that I miss him. I feel like I have to wait for him. A lot of men need and enjoy alone time, if this is the case with your man then you certainly do not want to interrupt that as it would interfere with his ability to unwind and help you later. If possible you could try consolidating your neediness into bursts to express to him, rather than a more constant bombardment. At the very least you could try telling him you are s…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/23 08:13 AM
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I feel extra vulnerable, and needy, and wishful or hopeful Man here. A lot of men like to feel useful, it makes them feel good, manly and dependable. See if you can find a way for you to channel your feelings in a way that you can go to him for help and support and he would actually be able to assist you with your emotional needs. Then you should make a big deal (honestly) about how much his support meant to you. Tell and show him how much you appreciate him and how useful he was. If my future g…
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 09:01 PM
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I would saying sleeping together this early would be a bad idea. You are still in the vetting process of your relationship. A lot of physical contact and s*x causes a type of bonding to build that literally changes the way your brain processes information about your SO - it sort of puts you in the honeymoon phase quicker than otherwise. You do not want to do this too early in a relationship as this kind of bonding blinds you to red flags and negatives about your significant other. This is one of…
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 02:59 PM
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Hopefully she will continue to not make these comments.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 01:27 PM
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Any updates on how it is going with your friend?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 08:40 PM
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I would saying sleeping over would be a bad idea and you certainly should not sleep with him yet. You are still in the vetting process of your relationship. A lot of physical contact and s*x causes a type of bonding to build that literally changes the way your brain processes information about your SO - it sort of puts you in the honeymoon phase quicker than otherwise. You do not want to do this too early in a relationship as this kind of bonding blinds you to red flags and negatives about your …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/23 06:44 AM
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I am making him less successful because if he would be allowed, he would be more motivated to achieve more in life. Yeah that is not true. Societies that become more polygamous become less productive very quickly. Look at Russian under the Bolsheviks in the 1920s for example.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 11:03 PM
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You need to be very careful Oh I was just asking hypothetically. I am not planning on asking anyone anytime soon. Thank you very much for your answer.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/23 04:04 PM
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Thank you, you are most helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 10:29 PM
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Forming bonds with multiple women is not damaging to men. It’s the breaking of those bonds that cause issues to mental health. I never said it was. I have not focusing on a specific aspect of my polygamy is bad psychological for men in any of my posts. ​ This is why men can fall in love with multiple women. I know. And your earlier comment disputing men seeking sexual variety is simply wrong. Either I misspoke or you are misreading what I said. I know men seek s*xual variety. ​ You are also inco…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 10:02 PM
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permanent makeup Do you know of any websites or resources that go into this in detail? Asking for a friend.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 09:21 PM
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What is your relationship status? Do you have any outside sources of appreciation and gratitude for your facial toils?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 09:20 PM
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I believe you are correct. I just wanted to give examples of systems that were still going rather than of a society that ultimately fell. (Albeit not due to monogamy) The earliest parts of the Old Testament go back further than ancient Rome as well so Judaism could also be a very old historical example. (If you consider modern Judaism to be a continuation of pre-second-temple-destruction Judaism)
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 08:25 PM
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Society enforces monogamy because it provides stability and allows communities to procreate en masse. I do not think most societies had that rational. I think that most were naturally included to enforce it due to our own nature; and those that did not, just died. My sociology that allows us to measure and make these conclusions has not been around that long. And certainly in the societies that knew that monogamy is more stable, that knowledge would only have been known to the intellectuals, not…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 08:16 PM
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Men release more vasopressin when mating which causes territorial and mate guarding behaviors. Hence why I said in one these comment threads: men seek polygyny, women seek monogamy. Why does that mean that men are seek polygyny? Just because they do not pair bond as much as women does not mean it is better for them to be polygamous. We have a lot of evidence that suggests it damages men's mental health both on a personal and societal level. Polygamy is not even practical for societies. Most soci…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 06:23 PM
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I am not sure that is as true as you think it is. Humans are a pair bonding species, we are naturally monogynous. Both men and women become more mentally unhealthy and less productive when being nonmonogamous. For example in the 1920s the revolutionary Bolsheviks who were trying to take over and destabilise Russia, deliberately attempted to destroy marriage in favour of polygamy and bigamy. It absolutely wrecked the people mentally (especially the women) and made the country so unproductive they…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/23 06:01 PM
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I am a man in his 20s and I would be fine with dating and marrying a woman with a past such as yours provided that her current life produced fruit of having completed a complete 180 of that lifestyle. She would have to have a philosophy and/or theology that was antithetical to being promiscuous and clearly demonstrate her adherence to those principles by how she lives, acts, talks and strives. So for example, I am a Christian, so she would also need to have become a committed Christian who clear…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/23 01:44 PM
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I may be being dumb but what is GOFL?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/23 11:08 PM
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That is very interesting, thank you. I am a Christian so I do not know much, however I was recommending a book called "Halachic Positions: What Judaism Really Says about Passion in the Marital Bed" by some others as a lot of Christian teachings on s*x is unbiblical due to interference caused by St Augustine by-and-large inventing Christian purity culture single handedly - which has effected Christian views for more than a 1000 years. As the Jews do not recognise St Augustine's work, their interp…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 04:55 PM
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Interestingly Judaism is the of the religions that historically has been the most accepting of an*l compared to others.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 02:31 PM
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You have to do it slowly. Have you ever been to the gym for the first time? You do a heavy work out and the next day you wake up with sore muscles everywhere - this is because your muscles are not used to working so hard. It is the same with the sphincter, it is not used very often, and when it is it does not work very hard. This means it is very weak so when it is suddenly under heavy stress during an*l it gets tired and you feel uncomfortable. So you have to train it slowly to become stronger.…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/23 10:51 AM
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Polygamous societies do not work. In most societies in history there have been more men than women (except at times of war) due to woman dying in childbirth. Right now we have roughly equal numbers, so men having multiple wives would leave a lot of other men single for life or having to marry very young woman. Polygamy is also correlated with abuse against woman on a societal level. So in other words, the more wives a man has, the more likely he is to abuse them. The man also has to split his ti…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/23 03:13 PM
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