FishermanWorking7236 Archive

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–	Most women subconsciously understand that less desirable men are more likely to harm them, but they’re hesitant to acknowledge it because it conflicts with commonly held assertions That’s fair I agree that a lot is behavioural. Oh yeah for sure men can be all, there are some that definitely skew one way. Like my former coworker was the always in your space and not so much nervous as incredibly socially oblivious. Yeah, totally get it, people that have had negative performance reviews often act shamed and awkward even around colleagues that don’t know about their review etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 12:25 PM
1	Hookup vs Relationship Okay fine, I date guys that are the same level of fitness as me 🤷‍♀️ I consider that mildly toned.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 08:31 AM
–	Most women subconsciously understand that less desirable men are more likely to harm them, but they’re hesitant to acknowledge it because it conflicts with commonly held assertions I do find that guys where they err too far on the side of distance/quietness tend to be interpreted more as awkward/shy than creepy if they aren't physically imposing. I think nervousness about being perceived as a creep can significantly worsen how someone acts, but people that would have generally had great social skills still have great social skills. I do know a guy that's a little more 'thoughtful' about approaching women in general from the whole could be creepy situation though. I mean I …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 01:38 AM
–	Most women subconsciously understand that less desirable men are more likely to harm them, but they’re hesitant to acknowledge it because it conflicts with commonly held assertions I agree that people with social difficulties often give off an off-putting vibe and girls/women are more likely to feel threatened by it. The last guy that severely creeped me out, I found creepy, but my boyfriend at the time just thought he was a 'fucking weirdo' and laughed it off. We both viewed him as odd, but I found it mildly scary and he found him annoying. But I think a lot of it is more poor social skills/awareness in general rather than being castrated by society. Like this creepiness …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/25 06:36 PM
1	What are The weirdest dating preferences that you've heard from any gender ? This is more my experience, neither gf cared, 1 guy preferred 'fluffy' (I do have quite fine hair), the others didn't care so long as I wasn't spiky.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/25 06:04 PM
3	Do women with brothers understand the struggles of men better My brother hasn't really had issues dating, when he was younger he had a gf that was kind of terrible, but that's typical teen dating. He's had the same girlfriend a few years now and is happy with her. In terms of shit he has mentioned it's mostly things like him being defaulted to when it comes to lifting things at work sometimes (which is a valid annoyance since it interrupts him) and having to organise meet ups with his guy friends.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/25 03:52 PM
-2	Hookup vs Relationship https://i.pinimg.com/736x/b4/06/2e/b4062e8c3409883472c5916eb3f42bc5.jpg roughly like this. But in general like many of the guys at my weekly Parkrun, minimal excess fat, what can be achieved with a generally healthy diet and a few hours of exercise a week. ETA: just realised that Parkrun seems less popular outside the UK. It's a weekly 5 kilometre run, most people that do it (like me) also do some casual runs/exercise 2-3 other days of the week.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 06:56 PM
7	Hookup vs Relationship I'm not into chubby, but mildly toned is the sweet spot for me. Super ripped guys are generally already married to the gym, so an actual relationship with someone that dedicated to their physique will generally have a lot of compromises in terms of time and meals together. Mostly in shape is attractive and matches my diet and lifestyle, it's hot but not high maintenance.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 06:50 PM
0	Q4M: Why don't males shoot their shot anymore? I haven't had any issues with this, although I also don't tend to want to date total strangers. If you take care of yourself and make eye contact with the guy you like and show interest in him when the opportunity comes up you will generally get asked out if he's interested in you? I don't think zoning yourself off in a gym and then expecting to be approached out the blue is a winning strategy and honestly it's not one I'd go for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 10:24 AM
2	Women and their Disgust for Prenups Typically if they make big sacrifices they might get alimony. Like my friend moved for her husband's career which meant leaving a good job with progression for one with lower pay and hours that mean she's home for the kids when they get home from school. They are perfectly happy together, but she would likely be entitled to something based on the massive hit her career/earnings took through the marriage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/25 10:04 AM
2	Why do women seem to struggle to honestly admit to preferences which might be considered shallow? 1-3 People read too much into preferences and see them as dealbreakers when most of mine don't mean I'm not attracted to people that don't meet them or they read it as a checklist and think I should be attracted to anyone that ticks most of my preferences. You also get men that will feel insecure if they don't perfectly match your stated preferences. If you then date someone that doesn't line up with your stated preferences people view it as lying. I'm bisexual and I don't have a strong height p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/25 05:19 PM
1	women don't like men dating within their social circles It would 100% be an issue for me matching him with any friends regardless of how attractive he is, I replied to someone else but: He's terrible with money, it's fine as a friend, because he just asks to borrow constantly. As a partner having someone that is constantly overspending, being late on rent, late on bills etc is very stressful. He has a really badly behaved dog (nips, constantly jumps up, destructive) that he is very attached to and doesn't view the behaviour as an actual problem. Betw…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/01/25 09:51 AM
3	women don't like men dating within their social circles It's not like my girlfriends so no reason they should live like that 🤷‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/25 01:05 PM
5	women don't like men dating within their social circles He's terrible with money, it's fine as a friend, because he just asks to borrow constantly. As a partner having someone that is constantly overspending, being late on rent, late on bills etc is very stressful. He has a really badly behaved dog (nips, constantly jumps up, destructive) that he is very attached to and doesn't view the behaviour as an actual problem. Between this and being a bit of a slob his place is a mess. These are all fine in a friend, none of us ever go to his home, but it mea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/25 12:51 PM
3	women don't like men dating within their social circles If you think he's decent enough to be friends with, and have women friends who are looking to date My only single male friend who is having a hard time dating is a good friend but not good boyfriend material. He is a 'decent' guy but there are traits that don't affect friends much but would affect girlfriends. The other single one I would have no issue matching up with people but he really doesn't need any help, I'd be surprised if he's still single in a month or two. I'd say I'm fine with datin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/25 01:54 AM
10	Most men don’t really have an effective way to quell loneliness outside of a romantic relationship. I'm pretty happy socially and currently , but I also started my own group, went out of my way to take a couple night classes partly for the purpose of socialising and generally get on well with coworkers. I also dropped baked goods off at my neighbours occasionally so now we sometimes cook and eat together. I definitely have a better social life than a lot of people but I also worked on it, I don't like going out and meeting new people, but I like having friends and that's the first step. It's a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 11:19 PM
1	Women Aren't Going to Openly Discuss and Comment About the 20+ Short Term Relationships She Had, But It's Significantly More Common Than BPs Want to Admit Yes, I've found when it comes to looking for a more serious relationship since you know so little about them before the first date it's a very scattergun approach. I've had everything from objectively okay men that I just didn't click with in person, to a man that went to the bathroom and didn't wash his hands (had a tiny bit of tomato from his starter on it) and then wanted to share a dessert to a man with a cat allergy who'd said he likes cats when we were messaging, I OWN A CAT and had brough…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 06:30 PM
3	Women Aren't Going to Openly Discuss and Comment About the 20+ Short Term Relationships She Had, But It's Significantly More Common Than BPs Want to Admit I prefer going dutch LOL. My ratio went terrible when I was trying online dating. I ended up in a relationship with like 1in4 of dates with people I knew pre-date. OLD a lot of the time we'd meet and then sometimes there was just zero in person chemistry, or they'd want to meet early without much chatting first so there was minimal vetting of compatibility pre-date. I also had one guy message someone on tinder during the date...... I decided OLD isn't for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 12:00 PM
2	Women Aren't Going to Openly Discuss and Comment About the 20+ Short Term Relationships She Had, But It's Significantly More Common Than BPs Want to Admit I agree, I've gone on a lot of first dates, but I don't sleep with people I'm not getting into a relationship with and I won't get into a relationship with someone I see as incompatible. If you take out all the dates before I was sexually active, my ratio of first date:sex is like ~25:1 maybe?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/25 09:57 AM
4	Men should care about friendship for the sake of friendship on its own, but if that’s not compelling enough, they should care because friendship has benefits for potentially leading to romantic love Also people with no friends tend to over-invest in partners early on and are reluctant to leave bad relationships because if they leave they have nothing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 07:33 PM
1	Q4M: Would you be upset if your girlfriend got you a subscription as a gift? What if you were okay with poetry, because you'd appreciate your boyfriend bringing you a poem that made him think of you but don't have any strong feelings about poetry in general? That's roughly how I feel about flowers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 10:24 AM
1	Are women in (current year) forced to wage slave? A homemaker doing long hard labour back then is no better off than pursuing a career now. If you married into a family you had to do the type of labour that would support them and that was very restrictive in terms of choice. A modern day homemaker will typically do significantly less labour compared to her ancestors. A woman pursuing some kind of career has more options in every aspect of that career. 'Pure' homemakers are uncommon but part time work is common still and is less labour than work…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 04:54 AM
2	Q4M: Would you be upset if your girlfriend got you a subscription as a gift? Yes, unless you've repeatedly expressed dislike for flowers or it's a budget issue, I agree getting mad is entitled. I definitely can enjoy practical gifts that are just for me too, anything that takes something off my plate and shows thought about making my life easier is on the good side. It is so much better value! I think a really off-putting thing is the cost of it, because £240+ (the cheapest I was able to find for most services) is a pretty serious gift amount. Unless he's much better off…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 04:41 AM
2	Q4M: Would you be upset if your girlfriend got you a subscription as a gift? I wouldn't be upset at him, but as someone that doesn't adore flowers, spending £240+ on them for me misses the mark a little. Yes, it's a nice gesture, but it's a similar amount of thought as getting them for me once and it almost guarantees no spontaneous flowers for the year. It is misunderstanding my enjoyment of flowers which isn't an issue in a new relationship, but makes it not an amazing gift for me. For example a gift I loved from my late boyfriend was a pack of fancy hot chocolates and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 02:47 AM
2	Q4M: Would you be upset if your girlfriend got you a subscription as a gift? For me the value of flowers is the I thought of you moment and then having them around as a reminder. I don't specifically love flowers as their own item and a lot of other people also mostly like flowers due to the attached sentiment. It depends on how the person receiving it values the item, imagine receiving a subscription love poem in the mail each month? If your boyfriend one day gave you a poem and said he read/saw it and thought of you that's a wow moment where you really value the poem a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 02:09 AM
7	Q4M: Would you be upset if your girlfriend got you a subscription as a gift? I wouldn't be mad to get it but I also would only consider it okay as a gift (at least for me). Many of us don't really buy ourselves flowers because it's the omg he thought of me and loves me so much moment that gives them value and then we put them somewhere we see them as a pretty reminder. Consistently receiving subscription flowers means he's probably not going to buy spontaneous 'I thought of you' flowers for a year. If he wrote personal messages to go with them each month, especially if t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 01:53 AM
1	Q4M: Would you be upset if your girlfriend got you a subscription as a gift? This is it for me, I mildly like flowers, but the joy of receiving them is the 'I thought of you' moment you get when receiving them from a loved one. This is a £240+ gift and while I wouldn't be upset to receive them it wouldn't be my first pick for a £200+ or even £100+ gift. It's not a terrible gift for me, a little generic, but for £240+ it wouldn't even be in my top 100 so I wouldn't really expect a long term partner to get me them. It's not get mad territory, just 'you missed the mark' ter…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/25 01:37 AM
13	Would you volunteer dirt on your EX for money? Because they want to participate in the conversation/debate, but aren't part of the demographic being questioned, so shouldn't make top level comments.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 09:41 PM
1	"The bar is in hell" and other such sayings... Thanks, yeah in my experience higher physical attractiveness makes getting into a relationship a lot easier whereas the less immediate attraction you have the more attractive your personality needs to be. So I think part of it is honestly that you get to know less attractive people better before getting into a relationship with them and red flags are more likely to come up as well as less attractive people having to be nicer overall since they don't have the halo effect. I do agree that people w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 01:10 PM
1	"The bar is in hell" and other such sayings... I disagree with this, I've had a partner that was definitely attracted to me slowly stop doing his share because no one wants to do housework and he went from his mother doing everything to me expecting him to take care of his own shit. People (of both genders) can just be lazy and put in the minimum overall effort they think will secure the relationship then panic when they actually do get broken up with. Yes, there are people that will put in more effort for someone they are happier/excited ab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/01/25 08:46 AM
1	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub I somewhat agree, however when I wasn't single it wasn't theoretical (in my most recent relationship) because I'd already done it. So while I'd say people who have always been single talk about relationships hypothetically, people that are currently in one probably have some experience being single. I'm not sure how to hypothetically flair relationships in the most useful way. My longest relationship was almost 3 years (he died) but I've been single roughly half my adult life and in a relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 09:30 PM
1	To women who had sex on a first date in the past - would you date a guy who openly says he prefers to do this prior to meeting? This is the kind of technicality where using your mirrors isn't a requirement for your driving test, because you can go to the test without doing it but you won't be successful. You can go on the first date without having sex but a sexless first date with no second isn't what most people looking for a serious relationship would consider a successful date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 03:00 AM
2	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub I think there's more to dating strategies than just attraction. Like I think the higher female access to physical (platonic) intimacy with friends and the physical differences that make sex with strangers less appealing than with men play a key part in the dating pool. A lot of my straight female friends are both single and not actively looking in contrast to the single men in my life who always seem to be looking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 02:28 AM
1	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub I was answering your commented question "why are they on a hetero dating debate sub?" I have no strong opinion on flairing my orientation, but I see more about gender dynamics than attraction/lack of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 02:12 AM
1	To women who had sex on a first date in the past - would you date a guy who openly says he prefers to do this prior to meeting? Hard Pass for multiple reasons. - How is it clear he's not looking for a hookup when immediate sex is required? There is pretty much nothing he can write in his profile that will make me even vaguely sure he's not looking for a hookup. - Having that in his profile directly makes it seem like he has weak social skills. - The difference isn't that he's being more transparent, it's that while for a lot of guys it would be great on a first date, it's not a dealbreaker/expectation for anywhere near m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 01:51 AM
6	There should be a requirement to flair your sexual orientation when debating on this sub I'm bi and a sub about the different expectations for dating men and women is something I feel like I have a reasonable opinion on when I've mostly dated straight men and bi women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 01:09 AM
1	The Reason Getting Dates is So Much Harder For Men Is Women Won’t Look Past Any Flaws I get that, I had to move back in with my parents for a bit in my early 20s after moving out and it was definitely an adjustment. I will say that my parents have always been the kind to get incredibly involved (with the best intentions) and very much tried to parent me while I was back under their roof. So I would never bring a partner over as an adult while living at home and would prefer not to spend time at a partner's family home early on in a relationship. I will say in fairness to my paren…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 09:18 PM
2	The Reason Getting Dates is So Much Harder For Men Is Women Won’t Look Past Any Flaws That's fair, I'm not childfree so for me the main negatives to parent with a kid or two are additional adult partner involved in everything and in the case of a break up potentially losing a child I love but have no legal rights to. Morbidly the other parent being dead 'solves' most of mine although the child may not want to be adopted which still leaves that as a potential pitfall.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 07:55 PM
2	The Reason Getting Dates is So Much Harder For Men Is Women Won’t Look Past Any Flaws Without sounding like a psycho, dad with a teen kid or young child with a dead mother is less of an issue for me than one where the mother is still in the picture. A lot of it for me isn't about the children it's about having a third adult in our relationship. Everything from house rules, to discipline, to moving, to holidays (both in the festive sense and vacation), to finances all involve taking input from a third party.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 06:00 PM
1	The Reason Getting Dates is So Much Harder For Men Is Women Won’t Look Past Any Flaws That's fair, personally I feel kind of the opposite where I am more open to dating someone living with their parents when not living with my parents simply because of the logistics of spending time together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/25 05:53 PM
–	About "pity sex" - I'm not sure women can't help men, because I know that men CAN help women. For me it's a mix of not wanting that level of intimacy/discomfort and worry that a close male friend that has no/minimal other experience would develop feelings or have the friendship vetoed/limited by future partners. There's a lot of women that won't be comfortable with their boyfriend/husband hanging out with the woman they had their first sexual experiences with especially if those experiences are recent?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 05:40 PM
–	About "pity sex" - I'm not sure women can't help men, because I know that men CAN help women. Yeah I was attracted to my ex but he wasn't that experienced and even with me being into him our first time hurt like not terribly, because he was considerate and I know how to work around my own body, but there was still a little blood and it wasn't enjoyable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 01:18 PM
–	About "pity sex" - I'm not sure women can't help men, because I know that men CAN help women. Like best case scenario that it's a friend that treats you with respect and won't tell anyone, it's still likely to be uncomfortable and he might still catch feelings for you or have his next girlfriend be uncomfortable with your friendship. Even the best case scenario is a negative for a lot of us.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 01:14 PM
–	About "pity sex" - I'm not sure women can't help men, because I know that men CAN help women. There's essentially no benefit to having sex with an inexperienced man I'm not attracted to for me. If it's a friend at best it's mildly unpleasant, socially uncomfortable and he doesn't get feelings for me, what seems pretty likely is him getting feelings I don't return, and worst case is that it hurts (I bled the first time with my last boyfriend), it gets spread around and socially judged, he gets strong feelings for me that either mess up the friendship on their own or make his future girlfr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 01:13 PM
1	The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion. Ironically I do have a friend that pays child support for an unwanted child, although it's rare because you can't unilaterally put your baby up for adoption if the other parent changes their mind and wants to assert rights. Yeah feminists are more likely to support welfare measures for children/families and more likely to support abortion rights both of which would lower child support.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 02:15 PM
1	The reasons women show while talking against "financial" abortion is eerily similar to the same reasoning that conservatives show for banning abortion. Yeah for me it's this, where I'd rather taxpayers cover a child than a child go without necessities, but I'd rather the parents pay for the child than the taxpayers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 01:52 PM
1	As a woman, I really don't get the logic behind "I got used for sex" I'd say I've only been used for sex by one person because he completely lied about our future, so I went scorched earth after. Sex can be pleasurable but it can also be intimate and an intimacy you wouldn't share with someone you weren't close to, so someone feigning affection and closeness to have sex you wouldn't have otherwise offered is using you. You can delay sex, but sexual compatibility is also important to me, so there's a limit to how far I'd be willing to delay it, maybe a month is ab…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 09:56 AM
6	Being unable to hold a conversation on a date is not a gendered issue. It’s an effort issue. That makes some sense. But I don't get a lot of free time and not being close to the city it's 1 hour getting ready and an hour each way so giving up ~half of my days off for 2-3 weeks isn't ideal for me. I work and am finishing a degree so 10 hour weekdays and 3-4 hours Saturday-Sunday.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 01:35 AM
8	Being unable to hold a conversation on a date is not a gendered issue. It’s an effort issue. I mean that's fair, but if he/she doesn't give a great impression on the first date, how long do you want to invest in getting to know them? However I also don't tend to ask for dates unless I already know the person enough that I like them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/25 11:34 PM