TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Fit_Kiwi9703 Archive

View 1 post and 365 comments by Fit_Kiwi9703 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Title Category Author Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

ScienceFit_Kiwi9703/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 05:47 AM
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

I am thinking of joint ju-jitsu soon. That sounds like fun. I believe that you are what you attract. When someone smiles back, you know that a little piece of you resonates within them as well. Wishing you the best!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 04:53 AM
1

Everyone has different reasons for waiting. Let people live at their own pace. Some 20-somethings aren't ready to handle a commitment. In my 20s, I was a depressed late-bloomer with low self-esteem, and had trouble juggling my school & work schedules. Dating felt so out-of-reach, and I stayed a virgin until my early 30s. I'm glad I waited, because today, I'm in a much better place to be in a relationship. Commitment is something you give to another, and it takes a certain level of maturity and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 09:01 PM
1

I admire how open you are to strangers. It takes guts and self-assuredness. There will always be people in this world who are not open to our advances, and that's totally fine. Some women have poor self-image and complimenting them brightens up their day. Others won't react so kindly, but with experience, you'll be able to tell whether or not someone is approachable by reading their body language. Music concerts & exhibitions are good places to meet people. I also recommend joining a community c…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 08:17 PM
1

It seems like all you do on this sub is defend your own mental positions. There’s no attempt at empathy or camaraderie. It’s not conducive to friendship, if that’s what you’re looking for. Sorry, but like your other respondents, I no longer find these conversations to be fun or satisfying, as they’re predictably critical and one-sided.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:26 PM
1

From my observation, talking about sex & relationships is avoided amongst men working in large corporations. The more professional the setting, the more professional conduct is expected, I suppose. That being said, tight-knit work groups tend to gossip more. My boyfriend used to work in a busy kitchen at a restaurant. Those men & women gossiped about relationships all the time! That gossip often continued after work at a bar. I've seen men open up to women rather than other men. Male workers see…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 10:07 PM
1

Some discovered that they actually prefer to have minimal social contact. Nah. I came to that conclusion during the pandemic, also from reading about modern social phenomena such as the Hikikomori in Japan. I’m also an introvert and so are most of my friends. The pandemic simply made introverts more introverted. My boyfriend and I have greatly reduced our social circle since 2020. That year, we met up with 1 friend IRL. At first it was about social distancing. Today it’s become more normalized, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:14 PM
1

I think we've landed on a point here: Some men don't like women, and they're happily single. When u/nexkell says "men", he likely refers to "I" or "men like me". It implies that he's at home enjoying video games with other men. And when he says that people don't go on dates, it implies that people like him don't go on dates. Each individual perceives the world through the filter of self. We are all self-centered, drawing conclusions from experiences and observations, and these vary from person t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:29 PM
2

Time changes people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 11:09 PM
2

Sorry, I don’t know many Lesbians IRL, do you? Not aware of their fantasies, and honestly it’s not my business.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 02:23 PM
–

I have an anecdote: Before we met, my boyfriend used to be more resentful towards women and frequented masculinity forums. Somehow this changed after we got together, and he no longer participates in those spaces. His feed is now made up of sports, politics, and awesome animal videos which he shares with me. I'd say the same for myself. My media consumption has become less negative thanks to his presence. I believe that love can overcome hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 06:40 PM
1

I think what bothers me is that tech companies have created large inequalities without trying to be inclusive, and in doing so have raised housing prices to unattainable levels for all but themselves while being composed largly of foriegn workers. Big tech outsources their "dirty" blue collar jobs, and keeps their white collar ones domestic. Production happens in Taiwan, China, Korea, and India for its cheap labor, lax environmental & labor laws. The CEOs, managers, engineers, designers, and sal…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:10 AM
14

That's how I see it too. I've only read one article about all-female communes, and they seem to be exceptions to the norm. A lot of those women have gone through estrangements and abuse. The idea that most women want to completely isolate themselves from men IRL is a sensationalist claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 12:50 AM
1

I think it's totally cool to think that. Lots of people dislike religion as a concept. As long as you're not harming anyone on the basis of your beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 10:11 PM
10

Elder millennial 🙋🏻‍♀️. Mostly here to see what the kids are up to. And yes, insecurity gets better with age. Younger people tend to be more anxious about the future. They are constantly exploring their sense of self through others and through current technologies. Millennials still remember what life was like before social media. I’ve inhabited both lifestyles, and feel nostalgic towards the “good old days” before we were all plugged in. It doesn’t necessarily mean that we’re out of touch. We l…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:36 PM
1

I think what you’re getting at is that money can corrupt people. Making money often becomes a means unto itself, which rewards greedy behavior. I remember this quote: “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” But corruption can exist everywhere: amongst the rich, the poor, and even within religious communities, sadly. There are kind and gracious rich people as well, though rarer. Personally, I wouldn’t write anyone off because o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:03 PM
1

Unfortunately in this case I’m not a typical young single woman, hahaha. However this Atypical middle-aged taken woman can say that it depends on the individual. Haven’t read the Bible much, but I remember that Jesus’s teachings center around welfare towards the downtrodden and unconditional love. When I think of the Old Testament I think of the 10 Commandments. I’d say Jesus’s teachings are a little more liberal and The Old Testament more conservative. Makes sense due to the time gap. I’m gonna…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 07:22 AM
3

Oh I see. Religious women would find religious men sexually attractive, no? Birds of a feather flock together, or so they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:22 AM
2

If someone tells you that they're repulsed by your religion, I'd call it religious discrimination. This is different from religious disagreement. If someone holds different views, but does not attack you for having yours, it is not discrimination. There is nothing inherently wrong with being religious. It's the people who use religious dogma to attack others who are dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:17 AM
1

Anonymity creates an environment with few consequences. My boyfriend calls social media "The venom cup", where people empty their poison glands by depositing inflammatory comments, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 04:39 AM
–

Am I not entitled to my opinions and free to post wherever I please on the internet? I allow you these liberties so give me mine. Incel culture is toxic, but these young men exist as human beings, albeit misguided by their own anger. Alienating and dehumanizing the already down-trodden only angers them further. I choose to make peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:45 PM
–

Can you point to where I said Asian women weren't allowed their liberties? I'm an Asian woman. There's nothing wrong with Asian women (or any racial group) participating in a multiracial society and dating interracially. My comments explore the phenomenon behind WMAF couples and the root causes of Asian male anger. Also, as 37-year old millennial, how am I supposed to know whether or not r/PurplePillDebate historically targets Asian women for dating interracially? Haven't noticed that on my watc…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:36 PM
–

Yeah it is, and it’s backed-up by personal experience. I grew up within a large established Asian-American community in Silicon Valley. These are my observations, as well as those of my parents, relatives, and through encounters with other Asians. If you’re interested in further parsing my opinions, feel free to dig through the thread below, where I tried to work through the root causes of internalized racism such as: colonialism, the emasculation of Asian men by Whites from the 19th century, co…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:02 PM
2

Yes, financial education is important for girls. Unfortunately we live in a capitalistic society where every penny counts towards survival. If you can't fight the financial system (even though it's corrupt), you can only use it to play to your advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:33 PM
3

And that's why I'm saving. My boyfriend isn't a saver, but that's fine. We keep our accounts separate. Have you ever met a woman in working in finance? People simply have different perceptions of money. Speaking of housing: buying a house is often out-of-reach for young Americans due to inflation. My grandparents could buy one for $100K. Today, the average price in my area is $1.5mil. A lot of young people have given up the dream of home ownership and are renting instead. In cities, they commute…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:13 PM
7

"Money is the root of all evil." -Paul the Apostle I have 5x savings compared to my boyfriend. I am very frugal. He dabbles in sports betting, gadgets, and male jewelry. It makes him happy, so why not? You have one life to live. Spend money on the things you need & enjoy, whatever these are. You can't take money with you to the grave. Have you ever watched the Christmas Story? Poverty of the spirit is worse than poverty itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:03 PM
1

I’d say there’s about 50% AMAF and 50% WMAF here. AMAF couples tend to be older or are recent immigrants who speak English as a second language. Many have multiple children. WMAF couples tend to be American-born and my age. I’m a millennial. There are fewer white women in Silicon Valley as the techie demographic leans towards single white male or Asian. The ones I knew ended up with men who are White, Asian, Hispanic, Middle Eastern, you name it. Plenty of AMWF couples around here as well. My st…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 03:17 AM
1

I’m from Silicon Valley, a racially diverse environment with a large Asian population. My childhood friends were East Asian, Indian, Middle Eastern or White. In high school, everyone tried out dating different races. White boys were relatively more athletic and therefore more sought-after by girls of all races. As a result, WMAF couples were statistically common. The Asian & white communities here aren’t really separate. We work at the same companies, shop at the same mall, and share similar rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:46 AM
2

Aww thanks. It took a long road to get where I am now. There were nights of crying alone in bed, comparing myself to my boyfriend’s exes, and putting on makeup at 5am so he never saw my bare face. Years later I learned that he couldn’t even tell whether or not I wore it! Insecurity gets better with age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:12 AM
2

I feel you on that, and try to remind myself that the media is simply trying to sell us products & services. Models sell us clothing, influencers sell us affiliated goods, and celebrities sell us entertainment and branded products. The cosmetics industry makes us feel insecure about our looks to hook us in. They tell us that aging is unacceptable, when it's the most natural thing in the world. Worth in our capitalistic society equates to how "marketable" we are on the outside. It's gross if you …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:48 AM
1

I can relate to that. Gender expectations often gets passed down generation by generation. What's that saying, "Birds of a feather flock together"?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:16 AM
1

It's better to be successful and slip under the radar than be bombarded with unwanted male attention. As a woman in her late 30s, I've experienced both. Why is being envied a good thing? It's just the ego seeking validation. Being happily successful is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:47 PM
1

Early conditioning influences dating preferences. For example, my dad is well-mannered, kind, sweet and agreeable. I have fond memories of spending time with him, so naturally I seek out similar men. You could say the opposite for other women. Cocky, assertive men who use profanities scare the shit out of me. My boyfriend's father is this way. Oftentimes I excuse myself from his presence because his ego rubs me the wrong way. I can't stand that type of red-meat aggression. Hey, but my boyfriend'…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:40 PM
2

My grandmother’s feet were bound as a child. She rested them before marriage and had them rebound after marriage at husband’s request. And yes, luckily girls like myself who has received a Western education are highly aware of the lack of progress in women’s rights globally. It just seems like many men on this sub vilify the privileges of modern Western women without acknowledging the rest of the world. Their use of the term, “women” actually points to a very specific demographic of women. The p…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 10:29 PM
1

The same Asian American women have adopted liberal ideologies that denounce racism, so the thought of being accused of being racist themselves creates cognitive dissonance. The reality is, many don’t know how they’ve developed their dating preferences. They have yet to identify the fact that growing up inundated with Western media has heavily influenced their taste in men. It’s like asking an American kid why pizza & burgers are their favorite foods. They’ll say, “They just are”, without realizi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 09:38 PM
3

Loneliness is not a direct prerequisite for violence. I’ve been lonely for a lot of my early life and never thought about harming anyone. Also, many people with poor mental health are nonviolent. Poor anger management and lack of self control are prerequisites to violence, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:25 PM
2

Read up. You're only referring to Western women, specifically targeting feminists. Many women in developing countries such as in the Middle East still can't speak up against their husbands, get jobs, let alone leave their homes. Punishment is severe, and in extreme cases have resulted in maimings and murder. Many are still illiterate as they're banned from schools. My grandmother's feet were bound as a child so they would never grow above 5 inches. This was a traditional custom to prevent women …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:29 PM
3

Men can also learn to let go of gender expectations. Don't be traditional if that's not you. If women don't like it, it's on them. If you seek your self-worth through the approval of the opposite gender, you will begin to lose your own identity, and become bitter. Rally other men, get some journalists involved and reach out to those in power. You gotta take issue and start making them known if you want to see change. Complaining about it to me, an anonymous stranger on Reddit, won't change thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:17 PM
1

Hey, but is it a "death sentence" like OP stated? If given the opportunity, wouldn't you want to trade places with him? His autism doesn't seem to be terribly debilitating seeing he's the richest man in the world. And Bill Gates, the previous richest man in the world was married longer than most non-autistic couples. I'd say successful autistic men have more game than the average non-autistic man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:07 PM
2

Everything has consequences. Humans usually only learn in hindsight. Look at the global conflicts happening around us right now. Do you think the participants care much about psychological consequences? Social blindness is human nature. We're a trial-&-error kind of species.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:03 PM
3

The gender wars this conversation is about involve males and females. It's an age-old issue. Why do you bring up non-binaries?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:59 PM
3

Male & female. Those are the 2 genders originally designated to all sexually-reproducing animals on this planet. Other than intersex (biological hermaphrodites), any additional genders are symbols of identity confined to modern human civilization. But additional genders are very important in our current culture, as people spiritually identify with them, especially if their physiologies don't match up with their psychological makeup. Most other species don't even have the social constructs in pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:53 PM
2

I was born and raised in SF, moved to Silicon Valley in high school. They’re just 50 miles apart and the upper-middle class in both locales are essentially homogenous. Since the tech boom, the cost of living in SF is actually higher than in the valley. The same progressive tech workers have pushed city housing prices to the brink. Even the inner east bay is getting gentrified. It’s just expensive to live in the Bay Area. Most tech sphere women here have advanced degrees and have adopted feminist…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:06 PM
2

That’s awesome you’ve seen what’s happening in China firsthand. Growing up I was inundated with horrific stories about the lack of women’s rights from family members and friends. My grandmother had her feet “bound” (by tradition) to prevent her from leaving the home on husband’s orders. This is the kind of thing I grew up hearing about. Western women have no idea how good they have it. It’s ironic that this post is called “men have hit bottom”, when the opposite is true in most parts of the worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:53 PM
2

Whose to say how all women feel or want? Neither of us are sociologists. I know women who have been happily independent all their lives, including my mom. There are also plenty of women who are happily dependent on their spouses.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:32 PM
1

Tell that to the author(s) of the article I shared. Shooting the messenger accomplishes nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:28 PM
3

Sure a man’s life is tough. But for most women the freedom & newly gained independence is worth the additional responsibilities. Plus in this dreaded economy, a couple making double income will be better off than one with a stay at home wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:26 PM
2

I guess the gender wars we’re referring to traditionally involved the 2 basic genders. Non-binary wasn’t a part of our vocabularies until recently. As far as I am aware they have placed themselves outside the gender war.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:22 PM
4

Yes, modern suffrage in Europe in the past few centuries spearheaded the women’s right’s movement. Keep in mind Europe is 8% of the world’s land mass. They are an exception. I’m not European, but Asian American who has had roommates from East Asia, India, Pakistan, and the Middle East, and am highly attuned to traditional wedding customs in non-European countries. Sexist customs still persist today, especially amongst the impoverished. Here are some of the stories I encountered: I had a Pakistan…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:07 PM
2

Aww thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:01 AM
0

Elon Musk is autistic (Asperger’s) and he seems to be doing not-too-shabby in the dating market. So is Grimes. I’m not saying their high-profile relationship has been a great success, but they do have 3 children together. Here’s a list of autistic celebrities. Some of the most powerful & influential men in history are on this list. Lionel Messi, Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, the creator of Pokémon. None of them seem to have had trouble getting women: https://www.totalcareaba.com/autism/famous-peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:37 AM
3

? No to what? Or did you mean: “Noooooooooo”.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:19 AM
-4

If that worked for women, why don’t men start doing the same? Cry about it to governments and corporations. Make them work for your dollar. It could end up that way down the line. Who knows? It took hundreds, if not thousands of years of rallying for women to gain access to a proper education and be able to vote. Let them have the limelight for a little longer, and wait in line for your turn. Like I’ve said, every revolution is followed by a counter-revolution. When the balance between genders i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:27 AM
15

In many ways yes. In other ways life gets harder. Modern women are no longer indebted to their husbands. There’s a decrease in child brides & dowries. Women have gained more self worth beyond being traded around as property. Most women can now participate in civic discussion and make a difference in the world. They can vote, though not in every country. Access to education can make women more insightful but also more depressed. With knowledge comes power but also the weight of the world. Ignoran…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:15 AM
2

Who can say advancement is good or bad? It’s just movement towards a change in previously-held norms. We can only know in hindsight. Again, with every revolution there is a counter-revolution, and we’re seeing that already: right here, right now. It has already begun in you. Just reread your own post. From my perspective, it takes balance of power to sustain a healthy society. When the balance of is off-kilter, the other side will revolt. True equality means both genders compromise to get their …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:33 AM
4

When they demand it in large numbers. Nothing will change until your voices are heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:12 AM
13

Historically, men always had the option to stay single. Single men were not ostracized by society to the extent that women were. In the past, women were often sold off as brides and traded around like property by their families. Some even to this day. The option to not marry is a fairly new development for them. The progress made for women in the past century has been monumental.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:11 AM
2

Sexual Dimorphism exists across nature. Today, we tend to deny this for our own species, but it still exists in a slightly more subtle, but behaviorally noticeable form. The biological reality is: If you look big, bold, and exhibit visual talent, you will get noticed by women. It has been studied. Men from the Wodaabe tribe in Africa still exhibit this behavior during their mating ritual. Men in modern society are just repressed: https://youtu.be/PjmgRlR3zeM?feature=shared More on sexual dimorph…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 03:05 AM
2

Actually I’ve had wonderful encounters with non-violent men. Not all men act on their anger. They have great self control. However, when you push men to the brink they will act out. Think about it: Why are most violent criminals male? Why do men tend to start wars? Why do they tend to collect weapons? Why are they highly competitive? Why do they excel at sports? See things from the perspective of entire populations. This is why people on gender-affirming hormone therapy report dramatic changes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:35 AM
1

No. I said, the only difference between us and animals is that we have created mental constructs that go against what is natural. Humans have become the most exploitive and destructive species on this planet. We should be comparing ourselves to other species, and more importantly -learning from them, as we have strayed far from the balance of Nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:48 AM
9

Having unprotected sex increases your chances of getting an STD. Having unprotected sex can also make you pregnant. Just have protected sex and get tested, for God’s sake, or abstain. It’s not just Syphilis, but Herpes & HIV. These are incurable diseases that stay with you all your life. Many STD transmitters are dormant carriers that show no symptoms or fail to disclose their disease to their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:21 AM
1

It has everything to do with success. If you’re a successful male in society, women will look up to you as a good provider. Genetics are important but only to a certain point. Men with strong visual talent can succeed in the visual field. I know quite a few who made it big, and ones who didn’t became awesome art teachers. If you don’t try at all, you won’t succeed at all. Historically, dressing opulently was a male status symbol. Lots of jewels & silks meant you were wealthy and did not have to …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 11:06 PM
3

In every species of mammal, including primates, the female is smaller, more submissive and more drab-looking than the male. The only difference between us and them is that we have built strong mental constructs that go against what is natural. These concepts come & go with time. Look at the Romantic/Rococo Period, the Renaissance, the Byzantine empire, the Sultans of Arabia, or Chinese emperors. Visual opulence used to be symbols of power & masculinity, but today in our post-industrial society, …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:50 PM
1

Well then, get successful or get going. That’s the message Nature seems to be sending. Back on topic: Visual expression is self-expression at its most beautiful, and men should not feel this is “women’s work”. Before the industrial revolution, European men spent a lot of time on visuals: powdered wigs, satin bows, furs, high-heel shoes. They decorated rooms to the tilt. Sultans and Emperors dressed themselves in fine silks and brocades, and lived in golden palaces. Visually beautiful things equa…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:39 PM
1

Well, if you don’t see humans as a part of Nature, then you won’t gain wisdom from it by drawing parallels.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:27 PM
10

I just said: “There will be regressions”. With every revolution, there will be a counter-revolution. Have you heard of phrase: “3 steps forward, 2 steps back”? That’s the push & pull of humanity’s progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:24 PM
1

Don’t become a painter if you’re going to be a shitty painter. That’s advice from someone who graduated from art school, lol. Do what you’re good at. Whether or not you succeed is survival of the fittest, like everything else in nature. My point is that males who are exceptionally visually-talented will get noticed by females.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:11 PM
7

That’s great to hear! I’m glad you’re both happy in the arrangement. It’s through empathy and cooperation that you & your partner are able to do this. Many young single men here are worried about getting the short end of the stick in a relationship, when they have never been in a partnership of sharing IRL. You can only fear the unknown.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:50 PM
2

Male peacocks don’t get dressed, they’re all born green. It’s the way they flaunt themselves. Now take the male bowerbird. He decorates his nest with the most beautiful objects he could find to entice a female to join him. Now that’s artistic expression: https://youtu.be/E1zmfTr2d4c?feature=shared In fact, the best human artists, architects, fashion and interior designers were historically male. Sure, a few were gay, but many were straight. Look at Diego Rivera, a 300-lb toad of a human being, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:44 PM
0

No drugs. Just a sense of humor and an active imagination.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:14 PM
8

Men’s continued desperation will eventually lead to a larger men’s rights movement. It already has. Call it a counter-feminist movement. Like I said, with every revolution there will be a counter-revolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:13 PM
9

At some point men will stop trying so hard. Then women will take more initiative. It’s already starting to happen now, as you can see. The balance in dating has been upset, and it’s time to recalibrate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:09 PM
8

Not evolution in a purely Darwinian sense, but in the sense that human civilization is always progressing towards a more advanced iteration of itself. There will be regressions, but the overall trajectory is towards advancement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:04 PM
12

Well then, sounds like the next step is to wipe out those gender roles as well. Wash your own underwear, fold them yourself. That’s how my bf & I do it. We alternate dishes every other day. He takes out the trash, I replenish the trash bags. We don’t owe each other any housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:03 PM
15

And that’s what women need to work on. I’m from Silicon Valley, a place as progressive as it gets, where double-income couples pretty much split everything down the middle because the cost of living is so high. In order to reap the rewards of equality, both men & women have to pitch in.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:56 PM
14

This is true. Women need to apply their newly-earned equality to the dating space as well. That includes splitting bills, splitting chores, taking the initiative when needed, etc. A lot of independent women do all these things and feel great about it. But some women don’t. With equality comes responsibility. The responsible women are not the ones constantly complaining about men online, they’re collaborating with them IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:47 PM
3

To each their own. People have different needs and at different stages of their lives. Just do what makes you feel good right now. There is no need to justify your preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:31 PM
64

The real issue is that the traditional concept of marriage & family is no longer attractive to young women as before. In the past, marriage was a requirement. Today it is optional. If women can live independently like men, they are no longer desperate to depend on them for survival. They see them as equals, if not competitors in the same fields. There will be a lot of backlash towards this breaking of tradition, but that’s where modern society is headed, and I believe it’s a part of human evolut…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:16 PM
5

Culturally, yes. Biologically, no. In Nature, males have stronger visual capabilities. They have excellent spatial perception and an intuitive grasp of color theory. It comes to no surprise that the most colorful, flamboyant creatures are male. Females are more receptive to visuals, and males aim to impress. Think of the flamboyant male peacock and the drab peacock hen. She likes his style, but he “is” stylish. Thanks to the industrial revolution, modern culture represses men from expressing the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:22 PM
3

Sex is overrated. Maybe we’re meant to evolve into asexual self-replicating creatures and this is just the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:03 PM
3

Biologically, men are just angrier. Higher testosterone levels make men more ambitious, driven, and passionate, but also angrier, more impulsive and potentially violent. They tend to hold stress in their bodies that seeks release. Think about it: Why are the best athletes and the most violent criminals male? When faced with similar setbacks in life, men tend to create outlets for their anger, while women tend to let it go. They’re complementary traits. Male aggression & female mediation balance …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:06 PM
1

Do you live in a non-coastal US city? Feminist/sex worker/bisexual is all you’re gonna meet in NYC & SF/LA. What you consider “normal” might actually mean “red-blooded American”. Your sense of reality is based on your current location, specifically by a lack of proximity to large Asian communities. In other words, what you’re feeling might actually be racial isolation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:57 PM
1

Blame it on Michelangelo. He was openly gay, and you can see that in his gaze. He only used male models, even for female nudes. Just think about The Statue of David for a minute. Talk about high standards: https://commons.m.wikimedia.org/wiki/Category:Nude_males_in_drawings_by_Michelangelo_Buonarroti
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:46 PM
1

Women reach menopause in their late 40s-50s, leading to an overall decrease in sexual desire. Good luck being high-libido when you’ve become biologically infertile. Priorities will change as you age. Relationships become more spiritual and less physical, which is in perfect timing with the body’s deterioration as it nears death.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 10:22 PM
1

I know quite a few short men with shorter partners. Those women are not planning to leave because there are taller men out there. That’s not how love works.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:59 PM
4

The advice of married people is only useful if you also plan on getting married. Otherwise, find people with the same outcome as the one you would like to achieve. People have been “dating”/mating for over 10,000 years. The fundamentals haven’t changed much, just the logistics.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:51 PM
2

You’re presuming here. He didn’t say what race those girls were, or whether he’s a citizen himself. If you’re referring to Asian American women, many only date white men because of their internalized racism. Historically, Asian American men have been culturally emasculated because they’re seen as competition by white men. Just look at how they’re portrayed in the media. The stereotypes are still around. Many Asian American women simply want to “blend in” with other Americans so they adopt their …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:34 PM
0

That sucks but don’t give up yet. I’m in my late 30s and all of my male Asian friends have partnered up nicely with girls of various races. I’m Asian, and chose my bf specifically because he’s also Asian and from the same part of the state. For me, familiarity breeds comfort.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 09:25 PM
1

You will stop feeling insecure once it sinks in that it’s the only body you’ve got! Treasure it. Love it. It’s a gift from the universe, and your soul gets to inhabit it for a limited time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 08:30 PM
1

As I get older, I'm realizing the most comfortable relationship is with someone you can be your authentic self around. No one is perfect and nobody knows how a relationship will turn out. Everyone just tries to make the best decision in that moment. Mistakes are the best teachers in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:29 PM
3

Well then, neither of us can know for sure if they don't tell us, lol. What I can tell you is that I'm still very attracted to my boyfriend after 4 years, and that our bedroom is not dead. You'll hear about dead bedrooms on r/deadbedrooms. Don't forget the silent majority. One thing Reddit doesn't tell you is that ~50% of every long term relationship involves witnessing each other snore, poop and fart ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:56 AM
2

I don't know anyone who would marry someone they don't have a basic primal attraction towards. Pure mental attraction = platonic roommates. Most people I know don't consider marriage until at least 5 years in. That is, if you survived beyond the honeymoon phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:34 AM
2

We all went to the same art school and were offered similar career opportunities after graduation depending on major. Our school has an 18% acceptance rate. Entry is based on evaluation of your portfolio, test scores, and a home drawing test. Last time I checked, there were no gender-based scholarships. The quota is actually skewed towards men, because the applicant ratio leans more female. One of my friends & his wife met in the same grad program and are now both art teachers. They're literally…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:25 AM
4

Actually, they all ended up with girls they went to college/grad school with, whom they met after graduating. Girls a lot like me: Serially monogamous, Asian American, career-oriented, artsy. Some were my acquaintances in school. Not every woman was a slut, you know. A single income in this economy? Are you kidding me?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:09 AM
5

Seems like it! We've all been through some nasty relationships that have changed our perspectives forever. As your grow older, your needs will evolve, as well as your definition of "attraction". They're a lot of people you can feel "attraction" to, but are they all a good fit for you in the long run? The more you get to know yourself through others, the clearer your needs & wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:53 PM
13

I like your optimism. As a woman in my late 30s, I saw every single one of my male friends get married in the past couple of years. We were all nerds/doomers in our 20s, got stable jobs in our early 30s, and found somebody around 35. I'm still in awe by how many weddings we've had recently. To be honest, I never thought we'd get here (sheds tear of joy).
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 10:26 PM
4

My boyfriend & I were both virgins into our late 20s. Late bloomers unite! There's nothing wrong with starting out late. Life often gives you what you need, not what you want. Be grateful that you skipped out on a lot of STDs. Life won't get better until you learn to accept yourself and what life has given you. The way you treat others is a direct reflection of the way you treat yourself, and that is: with little respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 09:35 PM
6

That's exactly it. Historically, young, poor women sought out old, wealthy men, often through arranged marriages. This dynamic still exists today, though it is more democratized and less often arranged by parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:40 PM
–

I had a traumatic childhood with a single mother. Social media opened my eyes to the reality that many young women experienced similar trauma, and share similar fears surrounding motherhood. However, I'm in a wonderful long-term relationship so I work on overcoming these fears. Discussing motherhood on such a global scale is unprecedented and a double-edged sword. Back in the day, women could only discuss these fears with immediate family members and in small women's groups. Some worked through …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:13 PM
–

Such a vivid memory! Isn't it crazy how big the queen ant is?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 05:41 PM
2

Thanks! I went on a bit of a tangent, sorry. It was to demonstrate how sorely lacking basic social programs are in this country. From that perspective, dating feels like a secondary issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 11:13 PM
3

Lucky for you. Just making a joke about the lack of universal healthcare in America. Who needs d**k if I can finally get free urgent care in my network? Lol. I wanted to visibly point out rule #12 to whomever downvoted. Don't take it personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 11:00 PM
3

Lol, no thanks, I'm taken. I thought you were gonna say universal healthcare. Do not downvote. That's Rule #12.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:50 PM
2

Sweet take! Unfortunately human Egos are far too developed to be content in a matriarchal commune such as theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 10:00 PM
2

Cute take! Unfortunately human Egos are far too developed to be content in a matriarchal commune such as theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:58 PM
3

I put out some ant poison once, and only on the last day of the massacre did I see the queen emerge. She's true royalty and let her pawns go in front!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:51 PM
2

Anything a women needs can be purchased or provided free with a phone swipe. Cool. What are some things I can get for free with a phone swipe?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:30 PM
1

The expectation for men to "succeed" and for women to "breed" is historically ingrained in traditional societies. Widespread social isolation is a complex issue caused by a broad range of factors: Urban planning, ecology, population growth, demographics, job market, popular culture, current technologies, availability of welfare & social programs, and so on. You keep bringing up the devaluation of men in communities, when I have made no mention of this. Again, I have not attacked men, yet you kee…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:58 PM
1

Whatever floats your boat. Nothing wrong with preferring to isolate. Just know that the polar opposite also exists, and everyone else in-between. My old coworker used to joke that he can't go to the bathroom without holding his SO's hand, lol. Some people are just more co-dependent than others.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:28 PM
1

Yeah that's true was well. I watch a lot of Nature documentaries. This clip's my favorite. Adorable and heartbreaking: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scCZ8aoq_sA
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:24 AM
–

Also, the software OP is running involves using photos of people, so there's a new visual element involved in this type of profiling. Paradoxically, people often feel self-conscious about being "seen"online despite the fact that many publicly distributed these photos themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 01:14 AM
–

I was joking about how bringing up background checks during a date can sour the romantic atmosphere. Background checks are widely used nowadays. No biggie. AI facial recognition is a fairly new technology so there's gonna be a little more stigma towards that amongst the general population. Anything "AI" these days can stir up negative connotations due to the way its being marketed to us. Until the technology becomes ubiquitous, I'd probably avoid bringing it up on a date in case it makes the oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 12:40 AM
3

Forget gender for just a moment. I was talking about how poor city planning and cheaply-designed housing factor greatly into this problem. I live in the suburbs, but I've also traveled extensively across Asia, and have seen gentrification at various stages. Both suburban housing and urban tenement housing encourage social isolation, just in different ways. Loss of community affects both men & women: It affects every human being. However, single men are more vulnerable to social isolation, namely…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:45 PM
2

High five on raising your kids! We live with 3 dog-children as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:17 PM
5

Lol, bitter take. My boyfriend & I were having a serious conversation yesterday about the lack of community and growing sense of isolation in modern society, and I thought to share a few takeaways. You calling my boyfriend & I dumb bitches with pets? XD I mean, we do live with 3 dogs that behave like unruly children, hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:12 PM
7

Props to you for being such a loving member of your community. That's super awesome. I know how painful it feels to be single when everyone around you is coupled up. I hope you know that your inner worth has nothing to do with your relationship status. You already know how much you're worth in your community! Personally, I think society puts too much pressure on people (especially men) to equate sexual prowess with self-worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:12 PM
1

So which class is most affected by the "childless epidemic"? Or is it across the board?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:19 AM
27

I know you're hurting, but this is a much bigger problem. Modern societies lack a strong sense of community. It doesn't matter if we're living in densely-populated urban centers or sparsely-populated suburbs. Despite the advent of the internet, Americans are more disconnected from our communities than ever before. Ask yourself, when was the last time you participated in a neighborhood-wide event or volunteered at a community hub? When was the last time you met someone new in town? Do you even ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:38 AM
1

You're absolutely right about that, good point! Which means the richest and the poorest are reproducing, while the middle class stagnates. I assume Reddit users mostly fall into the middle class category, where we see the most complaints about childlessness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:51 AM
0

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH LOOKING OLD. The media puts youthful appearance on a pedestal in order to sell us cosmetic enhancements. We'll all look old someday. Looking alive should be the main criteria when choosing a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:35 PM
1

Not unreasonable, sure. Romantic? Nah. Better to keep it to yourself if you're not sure how your date will feel about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:57 PM
3

This is a class issue. Celebrities & the ultra-wealthy are popping out babies like rabbits. Why? Because they have no problem affording high-quality healthcare, hiring surrogates & nannies, paying for children's educations, and so on. Meanwhile, many from our generation come from broken/dysfunctional homes. We don't have the best perception of parenthood to begin with. Along with the rising cost of living, having children not only feels out of reach, many us feel pessimistic about its outcome. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:53 PM
1

Women are doing better today thanks to the Women's Rights Movement back in the 60s. Before that we couldn't even vote or attend college. It's still this way in some 3rd world countries. Of course men are more aggressive & sexually driven. It's Testosterone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:40 PM
1

Ask yourself these questions: Who is the "We" with huge amounts of data that conducted these studies? Academic institutions, specifically Western academic institutions. What is "Established Science" and who is its authority? Again, Western academic institutions. As I've stated several times, IQ measures one segment of human intelligence, but it disregards the broader spectrum of our abilities. It is incomplete. Climate change & the Earth's shape are based on ecological & geological knowledge (kn…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:18 PM
1

You'll find more middle-aged singles in large cities. Urbanites tend to stay more career-focused & enjoy the night life longer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:15 PM
1

IQ tests ask you to apply intelligence towards answering a specific set of multiple choice questions that involve shape-turning, abstract mathematical equations, and advanced vocabulary recall. These don't relate to most real-life scenarios. One way a higher IQ person might benefit is that they also tend to score higher on other aptitude tests such as the SATs, which will place them in a more prestigious institution and help them land a cushier job down the line. This however, does not mean they…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 07:12 PM
1

Funny analogy: In order to operate a car, we show proficiency by taking both a multiple choice test and a driving test. But in order to show proficiency as a human being, we just take the multiple-choice test, without having to show how well we operate our bodies, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:02 PM
1

Least-flawed does not equate unflawed. A fruit salad with only 2 types of fruit is better than no fruit at all, but it still isn’t what most people would consider a “fruit salad”. A better gauge of intelligence would be through observing conduct in real-life scenarios. Does this person treat others with empathy? How efficiently do they deal with responsibilities? How do they problem-solve when responding to conflicts, emergencies and crisis situations? And so on… How & where you apply intelligen…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:37 PM
2

That’s very empathetic of you, but you must consider that not everyone is going to see things in the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:01 PM
1

Yes, we’re living in the Wild West of facial recognition technology and there aren’t a lot of laws & or regulations surrounding it, so nobody knows for sure what’s okay or what’s not. Until we reach a widespread consensus, people will keep doing what they personally think is ethical, which is why it’s even more important to consider each other’s feelings regarding online identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:02 PM
1

Knowing they are flawed, IQ tests should not be used to quantify a person’s intelligence. Also, some people are simply better test-takers than others. No one is “too smart” to become someone’s romantic partner. It is what skills are lacking that become issue, such as lack of empathy, interpersonal skills, or survival instinct. Intellectual ability is a bonus.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:54 PM
1

That’s a very considerate way to go about it. I’d do the same. People snoop all the time. At work, we used to browse the Instagram profiles of prospective hires. Nude pics were a definite no-no. If an image is made publicly available, then it is publicly open to scrutiny.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:15 PM
5

Let’s start by saying that IQ and intelligence are not the same. IQ measures a particular segment of human intelligence: Mathematical logic, word recognition, recollection speed. Human intelligence spans a much wider range of skills, including real-world problem solving, survival, hand-eye coordination, creativity, kindness, empathy, people skills, the list goes on. It’s more likely that high IQ scorers spend more time cultivating their mental skills, which means spending less time socializing a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 03:03 PM
1

Ya see what I mean? Don’t tell your prospective date that you searched for their nude pics. Keep it to yourself. Some people are sensitive and will be turned off. You reassuring them that it’s okay does not make the atmosphere any more romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:43 PM
1

Of course everyone is entitled to personal security and the means to obtain it. Just saying it’s not the most romantic item to bring up during a date. This subreddit fools you into thinking that every user is a spokesperson for their entire gender, when everything is subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:29 PM
1

It’s not a gender issue. It’s about personal security. The only gender-sensitive part is whether or not you feel comfortable disclosing your background checking activities to your date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:25 PM
2

Wow, you must be from a different generation (or dimension) cause that's not how people behaved when my peers & I were still on the market. I'm an elder millennial btw. I was just joking with my boyfriend that kids these days with their "icks" don't realize a good portion of any long-term relationship involves witnessing each other fart and poop, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:16 AM
1

Yeah, that's what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:12 AM
1

Yikes! I feel like most fathers would love custody, but some simply cannot afford child support, or don't want to bear that financial burden. I know my dad loves me and wanted to see me as much as possible, even with his new life. He just doesn't want to bring up not being to afford raising me or helping me pay for college. I empathize with his decisions, though there were times when I felt life was unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:46 AM
7

If you have nothing to hide, there's nothing to lose! I'm just saying that background checks wouldn't be the most romantic thing to bring up during a date, that's all. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:16 AM
7

I'm glad you don't feel self-conscious if someone sprang that on you. Not everyone is as understanding, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 11:04 PM
5

Most of life is unfair. But that's not what life is about. It's about accepting what IS, enjoying the present moment, and making the best of what you have, no matter how challenging your current circumstances are. I know that's a hard pill to swallow, but these are the lessons I've learned along the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 10:51 PM
40

It's not illegal to do this. Just don't tell girls about your activities. How would you feel if a girl on a first date said, "I ran some background checks, and yours came back the cleanest!" ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 10:31 PM
–

I don't know, those aging Billionaires seem pretty content with their younger, gold-digger girlfriends/wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 10:22 PM
2

Don't typecast yourself. Treat others as you would expect to be treated yourself. And if they don't like it, they're not meant for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 10:15 PM
–

People who spend a lot of time on social media will be influenced by it. People who don't won't be. It's simple as that. It's an influencer's job to sell you a fantasy lifestyle so you're enticed into clicking on their affiliated content and purchase their sponsored products. That's how they make $$$. Make friends with real couples, and your mind will be changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 09:58 PM
0

Sure, lots of young people are casual nowadays, but plenty choose not to, whether it's for religious, cultural, or personal reasons. Most importantly, you choose what you're comfortable with, and let that woman know. Make your boundaries known and the rest will follow. And if they don't, they're not meant for you. Edit: Here's a good story: My old coworker started talking to a guy who said he was "Poly". She really like him otherwise and asked if he could stop doing that. She was prepared to mov…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 10:41 PM
3

Marriages extend lifespan only if couples stay together until death. As we age, we become increasingly physically debilitated and isolated from society. Having a partner around to help out & cheer us up improves quality of life immensely.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 10:00 PM
50

Reality: When my parents divorced, my mom received $0 in alimony and did not instate child support because she was concerned about my dad's finances. My dad paid what he wanted, but completely dropped off a few years in when he moved states, switched jobs, and met a new woman. Meanwhile, my mom & I lived below the poverty line and I started working (illegally) at 13 to support myself. I'm not the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 09:39 PM
–

Log off the internet and go into the real world. Everyone will seem a lot nicer & less judgmental than what appears online. In our capitalistic society, media campaigns are designed to make you buy more products & services. You can ignore them. Also, the people with the biggest online presences are usually the most toxic. They feed off controversy, and are not representative of the larger population. Without physical presence, online users can only evaluate each other using objectively discernib…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:54 PM
1

Look at Nature: Females were designed to look for the highest value partner: someone who can best secure their family's survival, and be the best provider for the next generation. Whether Females admit it or not, we subconsciously see things from a nest-building perspective. There's a reason why Males in the wild duke it out to gain access to a female. The winner gets to pass down his genes. It's cruel, but that's Nature, and we're a part of Nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 05:50 PM
1

We were being yelled at on the street and harassed by a guy walking towards us, quite common towards Asians where I live. That's the real problem, not you. I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you & your loved one. May I ask where you're located? Asian Hate is completely unwarranted and needs to be cracked down on a wider scale. It disgusts me that the victims are always women and the elderly. The offenders pick off the weakest because they're weak themselves. My bf and I are also Asian. He ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:38 AM
1

It depends on what your life goals are: Spending quality time: $ Eating out & nice gifts: $$ Vacations: $$$ House & car: $$$$$ Starting a family: $$$$$$$$$$ Putting kid(s) through 4-year college: $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ (Just showing how ridiculously expensive American life is. I have nothing against unemployed people. Never let your employment status define your inner worth.)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 04:22 AM
2

Your last paragraph is spot on, and so is the retail analogy. I call dating apps “social media” because they all feature an infinitely scrolling feed, built-in chat, and use similar algorithms to measure engagement. They all follow this feedback loop: “Like” or “Dislike”, “Update algorithm”, then “Update content to meet algorithmic change”. I’m an UX student so have begun noticing these underlying patterns. It’s true that chronic users become addicted to the dopamine hits they get from validatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:44 PM
1

I suck at social interactions too. A lot more people struggle with it than we think. I was celibate for 5 years before meeting my boyfriend. The two things that kept me going were: not comparing myself to others, and learning to enjoy doing things alone. If I could give a pep talk to my former self, I’d say: Stop worrying about what’s missing, focus on what you’re good at, and what truly interests you beyond dating. Some things naturally fall into place when you start to feel whole inside. Maybe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:14 PM
1

Yes, it’s best to have honest, realistic expectations about our sex lives. These conversations are especially important as our bodies age. Setting unrealistically high expectations to “secure their partner” is unhealthy and unsustainable in the long run. Congrats on your upcoming marriage!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:53 PM
2

Another factor to consider is Menopause. A woman’s reproductive hormones start declining in their 30s. We become mostly infertile by our late 40s to 50s. A decline in sexual desire is to be expected. Men on the other hand, keep producing sperm until they die. Their libidos see a much shallower decline. This is why you still see old men fathering children into their ripe age.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:55 PM
2

Look at Nature: all animals have sex, breed, and then die. If you spend some time observing birds, you’ll often see males dancing in front of females, only to watch them fly off. Females reject sexual advances most of the time. It is just the way. Edit: Wanted to add that by design, females reject sexual advances because the risk of pregnancy and the burden of childrearing is great. We were created to be discriminating when choosing the right time and partner to breed with. Sex for recreation se…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:43 PM
2

I wasn’t talking about sex denial. Where did I mention that? I’m talking about couples with children who are both too tired to have sex, and elderly couples who are less physically active and hormonally charged due to age. Ask any new parent how much sex and sleep they’re having and you’ll know what I’m talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:11 PM
1

I feel a lot of empathy for you and other singles coming out of the pandemic. It put a huge damper on dating and public interactions in general. I’m not sure if we’re totally back to normal, but it’s nice to see everyone making an effort to socialize again. We used to hang out at parks, in libraries, classes, inside stores, at the cafe; that’s where we met people before screens! I’m hopeful that these spaces will be filled again once COVID is finally done & over with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:10 AM
1

This is true. But ask any parent or elderly couple if they have sex at the same frequency as when they were young. Get to a certain age and it’s quality over quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:56 AM
2

Sounds like you’re quite skilled at this! It takes finesse to juggle multiple potential partners, something our ancestors were not used to. All social media apps are designed to scroll infinitely. Doing so maximizes engagement by creating the illusion of unlimited possibilities, encouraging users to “keep looking” instead of “settling” with their current options. And since there are more men on apps, women have more options, and so are more likely to “browse”.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:48 AM
1

Don't let it get to you. Like my bf says: The only thing you should take seriously on your phone is your bank app, lol. There are probably a lot more men than women on these apps, so women get more attention as a result. Faced with "unlimited" options, a user could talk to multiple people simultaneously (and indefinitely) until they decide to become exclusive. In the real world, we can usually only interact with one person at a time. I've used this analogy before: Imagine getting the new iPhone …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:25 AM
3

I see how you're feeling. The problem with OLD is having too many options. I could see multiple men at once until I decide to become exclusive. Unfortunately, the men I didn't choose will feel used. Of course from their perspective, it's completely dehumanizing: they've just invested a lot of time, money, and energy in a lost cause. However, from the girl's perspective, she was simply taking her time weighing her options, especially if she's considering long-term. I am guilty of this. I was talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 03:06 AM
1

Thanks for sharing. I've only used Bumble, where I met my bf. It's possible that algorithms are skewing matches towards premium & high-traffic profiles, leaving most users in the dark. I also suspect that there are a lot more male users than female. There are simply more women IRL, with greater variety. Personally, I never used an app until turning 30. App or no app, I wish you success!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:45 AM
1

I feel like men work harder on these apps. My boyfriend matched and dated "a lot" of women before he met me, while he was the 2nd match I ever had. Don't be too hard on yourself. If someone's meant for you, it will come in time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:36 AM
3

Sounds like you're popular with the ladies, but you're picky (nothing wrong with that). Be patient and you'll likely meet someone down the line, and if not -you know how much you're worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:28 AM
1

I wouldn't say a complete waste of time, as I met my boyfriend through it, and my coworker met her husband as well. Interacting IRL is more rewarding, but not always an option if you're disabled, have social anxiety, or trouble initiating face-to-face encounters. Out of curiosity, which app(s) were you using?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:21 AM
–

Sexual history matters for your health. Inquiring partners about their sexual history can reveal a lot about their preferences, but more importantly: potential STDs. Herpes & HIV often get spread when one or both partners fail to discuss their sexual histories.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:10 AM
1

??? I'm 38 and have been in a committed relationship for 4 years. We live with 3 dogs. Been in 2 other long term relationships -but no cats. Guessing you like cats?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:37 AM
1

Uhh, I met my bf on a dating app and a major reason I chose him was because he lived closest to my apartment, and his hometown is close to my hometown. Does that make me "old fashioned"? We tend to see only the negatives of online dating because negative experiences trend on social media. The reality is not as grim, but you'll never know that until you've experienced it yourself. I wouldn't be so concerned about "social credit" as much personal safety. STDs, unwanted pregnancy, cat phishing, ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:22 AM
1

The same reason why the Taliban exist is also why Extreme Feminism exists: they are both Extreme -just at opposite ends of the spectrum. Extreme views lead to extreme outcomes, which are not sustainable. Only moderation can win over the masses in the long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:03 AM
2

This is true. Algorithms reward engagement, and toxic content gets the most engagement.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:57 AM
1

To answer your question: Last night my boyfriend showed me a video of a man playing piano to elephants, and he was so touched that he started crying. It made me love him more and we both cried together, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:54 AM
1

You do realize that social media platforms like TikTok employ algorithms that encourage extremist content, right? Viewers are more likely to react to toxic posts, which is why these get bumped to the top of your feed. It's a negative feedback loop: The more you react to negative content, the more of it you'll see. What we perceive as "society" on the internet is completely distorted by algorithmic optimization. I recommend reading Jaron Lanier if you'd like to learn more about this phenomenon.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:44 AM
–

You're living in the present as though little will change, but it will. Nothing lasts forever: Your looks, currents aesthetics, "A.I", EVs, even the internet -which is only 40 yrs old. All of these will cease to exist one day, and none of these will bring you true happiness. What's considered "good-looking" today won't be tomorrow. Just look at old paintings & sculptures throughout history. Aesthetics are reflections of our current technologies and these come & go. All of our devices will become…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:03 AM
0

Everyone is headed for a dead bedroom. Factor in stress, insomnia, kids, menopause, and a decrease in sexual hormones due to aging, even the horniest of couples will end up having a lot less sex in 30 yrs. Relationships become deeper & more spiritual as we approach the end of life, and this is totally okay!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 11:24 PM
–

If you're in a dangerous situation, wouldn't you want the people near you (Male or Female) to help you? This is much broader than a gender or political issue. Bad things happen all the time, not just person-on-person crime. You could be in an accident or a natural disaster, and you better hope that a stranger will be there to intervene!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 10:58 PM
4

Hahaha, I was just at the San Diego Zoo. It was so crowded, I wondered if the animals were really watching us. A lot of couples start to "let themselves go" after kids, unless they're very wealthy and have live-in nannies. Otherwise it's all sacrifice for the kids while they suck all the life force out of you. I did see a middle-aged man looking adorable in a Gengar Hawaiian shirt. Probably did it for his kids as well!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 11:52 PM
16

Asian woman here with hapa family & inlaws: I concur. American culture places hypersexual expectations on young people. Generally, Asian cultures don't condemn late bloomers, so men & women aren't pressured to get "experience". Instead, the pressure is placed on academic & career achievements.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 02:43 AM
3

As a 5'5" Asian woman whose knee-deep in student debt and is under constant pressure from my parents to make a 6-figure income, I also disagree with OP. My looks are secondary, and they will only decline with age. My bf's not rich. Building job security & status is how I will survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 11:54 PM
1

Exception: As a woman, I'm constantly worried about not making enough income for my worth. I'm a 2nd gen immigrant so financial independence is valued to the highest degree in my family. I was taught to feel worthless until I reach wealth & status through studying & hard work.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 11:32 PM
4

Never heard of MGTOW until today. Learned something new. You sure only women naturally have high anxiety? I thought it was hereditary and/or based on life experiences & environment. My male partner is. It runs in his family, and he takes care of the symptoms. Pretty sure I'm less nitpicky towards him than he is towards himself. Doesn't it make sense for people to go their own way if they feel used & abused in a relationship, regardless of gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:57 PM
1

Hahahaha, when I look back at 33 I feel like a different person from then and now. It's crazy how life changes you (not to mention the pandemic). I went from hard-working alcoholic to sober and unemployed in 1 week, lol. No regrets!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 10:51 PM
1

That is a good question, which raises other questions. What if they did? How can we know for sure? Can we help them? What if they do not want help? How much impact do we really have in other peoples' lives? A caterpillar cannot choose when it will become a butterfly. If you believe in Fate as I tend to, the greater transformations in life are often beyond us.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 09:56 PM
4

Life is a journey to spiritual awakening, and everyone is on their own path, going at their own pace. You did not waste 3 years of your life. Those 3 years allowed you to realize that this was wrong for you. By finding what made you unhappy, you learned to define what truly made you happy. The power of Now is only available for those who seek it. Keep in mind that awakenings happen in their own time. You cannot force it upon others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:01 AM
5

Has anyone seen Dick Cheney's biopic "Vice"? There's a scene where his wife almost left him because he did nothing but come home drunk every night. I almost felt sympathy for his character when he was pressured into "get a life" in order to keep his marriage intact. The irony is that he did find a cause. He became a ruthless politician and businessman. I personally don't believe it's necessary to force anyone to find their passion. I believe passion arises when you're ready for it. Fate will oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:48 AM
1

Irresponsibility Inflated ego Lack of compassion
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:21 AM
1

I'm a 50/50 kind of person because I don't like owing people money and vice versa. I can't think of any more reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:56 AM
1

I'm not emotionally equipped for casual sex. It took me 4 years to get over a one-night stand that I mistook for something more. The guy, who was my school friend at the time was totally fine afterward. I was dumb enough to stick around until Valentine's Day when he finally put his foot down to remind me that we were not dating. Even my current partner says he was able to detach during one-night stands. But not me. I attach very easily. It's how I am naturally. It's a detriment but sometimes a b…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 05:24 AM
2

🙌🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:27 PM
2

The beauty industry sets the standard for Women to look a certain way to be acceptable by societal norms. The bar for beauty is artificially raised. Women often receive compliments from both genders when they use beauty & fashion to enhance their looks, so they become invested in these products. It's positive reinforcement and a great business model. Buy this, use that. If you're not on top of the latest looks, you might as well be uncultured, or god forbid: look like a man. The beauty industry …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 10:19 PM
1

I'm glad you're opening up about this because while the consequences are becoming more common, people rarely discuss it in public. SSRIs and birth control decrease libido. There's nothing wrong with valuing your mental and reproductive health over it. I think it helps to be honest with a partner you trust about how medications affect you. Otherwise, they may come to the wrong conclusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:42 PM
1

I witnessed every single major fight they had over the years, lol. These people do not hesitate to hash over the past. Were you there? Have these memories been etched into your young mind like they have mine? When your dad apologies to you all the time that he is broke and that he has nothing to offer you, he is telling the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:24 PM
1

Yeah, school is a pretty safe setting to meet someone. If she trusts you, she is more likely to open up to you. I don't know how introversion/extroversion plays into promiscuity though. I just know that I'm an INFJ.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 05:44 AM
1

No worries, I was joking. My guy & I were both late bloomers. We didn't want to reveal that to each other when we met, but eventually our parents peeped!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:27 AM
3

Cool! Does that mean I can tell my partner that he's actually been with a virgin all these years?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:54 AM
8

I'm sure many women don't, while others strategically place themselves in these settings, secretly hoping to be noticed. I was one of them, lol Trading glances is a good place to start. If the glance or smile is returned, then something is reciprocated. Maybe one of you will even approach the other. Maybe I'm just a romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:51 AM
6

If you like drawing manga, I'd give it a go! Even if you don't meet anyone, you'll be getting better at something that you enjoy and expand your social circle. I met my 1st long-term boyfriend at a figure drawing class.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:36 AM
1

What's a breeding fetish? I'm not considering having a child. I am illustrating the seemingly magical nature of childbirth. Freedom of expression.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:31 AM
23

Have you considered signing up for a recreational class or group? Introverted women like hanging out in academic settings, cafés, farmers' markets, bookstores, and often out in Nature. I used to go to the park every weekend to read alone on a bench. I've never voluntarily walked into a bar alone. I've only been with 3 people in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 03:25 AM
2

No, I wouldn't either. And it cuts both ways. I come from the other extreme: I grew up with a single mom. My dad cheated, refused full-time work, funneled all of my mom's income into his bank account. He also refused to use contraception, forcing her to have 3 abortions. My mom left, took me, and they agreed on 0 child support. There are selfish men & women everywhere. There are giving ones too, but they're harder to find. There is no pressure to commit to anyone in this present day, but do real…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:07 AM
2

I gather you do not plan to get married to a woman and have a child. To each their own. What's your age? I'm 36 btw. Generational difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:47 PM
2

If men in the future can carry an artificial womb, where does the baby come out from? Hopefully not his anus. Or would they cut the baby out via C-section as they do to women? Are you sure that's the future you want... If so, why gender genocide?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:39 PM
3

Women can't even do the one thing they can claim as unique to them without a guy's help lmao That goes without saying. And likewise, you as a man, cannot get pregnant and give birth, as you do not possess a womb. Let's be real. You would not be alive today if you were missing either a father or a mother to conceive you. Seeing this obvious biological equilibrium, what is your argument for superiority or inferiority?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:25 PM
2

Sure. All sperm comes from a man's testes. Sperm are not life as-we-know-it. They are cells carrying genetic material. Life as an organism begins as a fertilized egg within a woman's body. The sperm enters the unfertilized egg and unites with it to become a Zygote, which then undergoes mitosis to become a human embryo, and eventually a human fetus. That whole process takes place inside the woman's womb. Separately, eggs and sperm are brainless, single-celled organisms.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 11:13 PM
4

True. And how lucky! Rational thinking focuses on what we already know, while irrational thinking puts faith in the unknown. Both are needed for innovation. For example, Einstein came up with a theory about the universe that was considered irrational to his predecessors, so he spent a lifetime trying to prove it using rational thinking. It worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:52 PM
2

Oh yes, of course. The prerequisite conditions needed for creating new life are beyond rationalization, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:31 PM
3

Every single human life on this planet came from inside a Woman. Didn't you? How valuable is human life to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:11 PM
3

Yes, they have periods because their wombs are designed to create new life. Mothers are the origin of all human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:54 PM
0

Women are valuable because they are real, living Time Machines. She can transform a single-celled organism into a fully-formed human being. She can make 4.6 billion years of Evolution happen inside of her womb over the span of 9 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:46 PM
1

The number of matches also depends on the ranges you assign to Age and Proximity. When I was on Bumble, I set my proximity range to within 1 Mile. I got 1 or 2 new matches per day. I didn't have proper transportation at the time and was looking for someone living very close by. If they turned out to be from my home state, even better!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:31 PM
2

Let's say I'm a 1/10 (objectively, by Western standards) and I meet another 1/10. However, I personally find them attractive and compatible in many ways. To me, they are 10/10. It is also possible for me, an objective 1/10 to choose not to get with an objective 9/10 because I feel more compatible with the 1/10 (who I now consider as 10/10). While single, when I saw a profile with "the whole package", I knew that wasn't really for me. Our lifestyles would be incompatible, and his looks were hones…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:39 PM
1

I meant that as a joke, lol. Of course, someone you love is going to rate you higher than a stranger! My point is, when I get into a relationship, the attractiveness score is no longer important. I am already attracted to them. Why keep score? Although in a relationship, a person's attractiveness can increase or decrease depending on other, more important factors, like their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 11:20 PM
1

Firstly, the numbers rating system is a joke. My gay college roommate thinks I'm a 6/10. My partner tells me I'm 10/10. On days I don't shower, I swear I'm a 1/10. It's all relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 10:06 PM
1

On point! The repression of male adornment seems to be a recent phenomenon. Now, why is that? Something to do with the fall of monarchial societies and the industrial revolution? I wouldn't mind bringing back more acceptance of male expressions in beauty. My bf loves walking around with a blanket wrapped tightly around him while pretending to be an earl, hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:21 PM
1

Yes totally. When some friends visited S. Korea a few years ago, they were shocked to see billboards advertising plastic surgery with huge before & after photos plastered on them. I feel the phenomenon is related to westernization and the perceived value of looking westernized. In Asia, those with more western facial features appear more cosmopolitan and are often more successful. There's internalized racism going on there that I don't exactly know how to unpack, even though I'm Asian myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 07:06 PM
1

I can imagine that, if he wasn't living with his parents without any form of transportation, lol. At some point, I realized that monitoring someone's actions takes a lot of energy, and life is too short to spend waiting for someone else to change their behavior. I can choose to stay or I can go.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:56 PM
1

That’s okay. Thanks for taking the time to talk me through this, and echo some of my thoughts! I already have a feeling that he likes or interacts with ppl on Twitter that he thinks I’ll find offensive. I worry that an investigation will lead me down a rabbit hole. Is the easier way to just not to care?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 06:39 PM
1

How can I investigate safely? (And not lose my mind hahaha).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 06:03 PM
1

I chose to point out sexual dimorphism in Nature because it is without artifice. These are innate traits that get passed on through sexual selection. Humans invented the beauty industry. It is a completely artificial construct. You can’t inherit cosmetic alterations. You are lying about having “good genes”. To reiterate my question: Why did women start using cosmetics to alter their mating potential, and since when? Also, historically, why have we stigmatized men for employing the same device?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:44 PM
1

The incentive is for males to stand out so they can compete with other males. That’s why male animals strut their goods and often fight to the death over mating rights. Ever watched two rams butt heads, or two male gorillas maul each other? Why do boys fight so much? Women are choosers. Male suitors greatly outnumber her. She waits for the males to duke it out. The winner takes her body. Some human males consciously restrain from acting out the instinctual pageantry and violence involved with ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:35 PM
1

Not all, but an affluent majority. Surgeries are expensive. I went to an art school with a lot of Korean-Americans and exchange students. The girls would visit Korea on vacations and return with a “slightly different face”. None of my Korean-American guy friends did though. I suppose they were too “macho”. A close friend of mine moved back to Korea several years ago. She has somehow resisted surgery. Also, don’t forget the boomers and elderly. While they encourage the younger generation to go un…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:28 PM
2

I thought it was a bad sign too, even asked his mom if that’s just his personality. She said not to worry, just like he told me. He didn’t block me on Insta. Do you think he’s simply self conscious or embarrassed of his Twitter content?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:22 PM
1

He said that he didn’t want me looking 🤷🏻‍♀️. Maybe he knew some of the things on there would upset me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 05:16 PM
1

Truth!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 09:06 AM
2

She just dropped out of the sky. That's quite a beautiful analogy. I agree and wish you & her the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:54 AM
2

Also would like to point out that a good portion of celebrity women we see in mass media, especially in porn have had breast implants and sometimes Brazilian butt-lifts. While a few women are born "thicc", you can fake it if your budget allows. Not sure if you are aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:44 AM
1

Hahahaha, are we not also animals living on this planet? What does your argument have to do with color & boldness, which is what I'm pointing out? Btw, many women were not born voluptuous, and men can also have long hair. For example, my SO's hair is actually longer and a lot fuller than mine. He also has the bigger butt (hope he's not reading this, lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:22 AM
2

Here are some mammalian examples: Male Lions have manes. Females don't. Male Silverback Gorillas have a majestic grey patch on their back. Females don't. Male Baboons & Mandrills have colorful butts. Females don't. Male deer have awesome-looking antlers, Females don't. If you're interested, check out Sexual Dimorphism (I'm a bit of an animal nerd).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 04:08 AM
1

Spot on! I want to understand why some women go through the trouble to erase what they were born with. About 1/3 of South Korean women between 19 and 29 claimed to have had plastic surgery. It's not my place to judge though. Your avatar is really cute btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:53 AM
1

That is true. But how come human females are compelled to dress things up? In nature, female animals are small and muted in color, so they can stay safer by blending into their environment. That comes in handy when you are brooding.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:36 AM
5

I'm gonna agree with you here. I think some of us have gone overboard with trying to hide what we were born with. We can also get fillers or surgery so that the changes become permanent. That's where the beauty industry is headed. It makes me a little sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:33 AM
2

Don't forget injectable fillers, botox, plastic surgery, facials, and other body modifications that are popular today. Some are very subtly done so unless you have a keen eye, you would think it was natural. Sometimes, not so subtle. Check out r/botchedsurgeries What's funny to me is that in Nature, Male animals put a lot more effort into appearance, and are naturally more bold & colorful than Females. It's a part of sexual selection. How have humans become the opposite? https://en.wikipedia.org…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:24 AM
3

That's what I'm assuming is happening too, which is why I decided to let it go (though he blocked me from his Twitter account which I hardly visit). It's probably better for my mental health.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:12 AM
2

I'm sorry that happened to you, and thank you sungod!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 02:03 AM
1

I believe in that too! It took a long time for me to understand. We can only ever experience life through our own lens. Letting other people's actions define who we are and how we live takes away our individuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:57 PM
1

Yes, that's a great point. I also got blocked from his Twitter account which I hardly look at. Gee, I wonder what's happening there? Lol. After much frustration, I decided to move on emotionally and just focus on myself. I can't change someone when they don't want to change, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:33 PM
0

Yeah, I'm surprised he hasn't cheated IRL. When I confronted him, he justifies: "But I haven't done anything IRL". I just take his word because he lives with his parents and can't drive, hahaha. If he cheats in the future, he can deal with the consequences by himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 11:16 PM
1

"Missing out" on what? Personal growth is nonlinear.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 10:56 PM
6

If you judge people solely based on their income & social statuses, you reduce them to these criteria. A person is more than their status in society. If you don't look past that, you will never know your full worth, nor that of other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 10:40 PM
1

You can order a burger anywhere in the world and everyone thinks that it's American. True. I live in America, and I never eat burgers, hahaha. I'm pretty idealistic and wish that the "hive mind" could have a more equal representation of all cultures. It would be sad to see civilizations lose their identities because of tech companies. Even Anime and K-pop are heavily influenced by Western culture. Anime characters have western facial features, and K-pop bands emulate American/British pop bands f…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:47 PM
2

It's that they went global and ended up absorbing not only the individuality of people but also the identity of once segmented/separate groups. Sounds like America has a big influence abroad. I guess the question is now, why do some countries have more social media influence than others? Is the "Hive Mind" a reflection of an imbalance in global politics and power structures? Your English is great, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:26 PM
3

That's very true. Personal quirks are clumped together into "vibes" and become commodified. When I go to Spotify for example, I can instantly find a pre-made playlist that encompasses my personal tastes which took years to develop. I don't feel that special anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 09:14 PM
1

She said, "Lol, that's okay" which I see as a fairly neutral response. Sounds like you are worried about being judged by her, and maybe you feel embarrassed about something that you enjoy. She hasn't openly judged you yet, and I won't be judging you. You have done nothing harmful to her or to me. Some people will judge you, some won't. Don't let it get to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:40 PM
5

This is why I feel a little worried when my SO has many female friends and likes pictures of them on social media. It's easier for me to stay faithful.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:24 PM
20

From looking at this subreddit, both genders seem to like Doom-posting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:19 PM
5

Do you think the "hive mind" mentality is related to the widespread adoption of social media? (e.g. Algorithms that create feeds showing people with similar looks, tastes, hobbies, mental positions, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:14 PM
1

In Korea also. I don't know how these couples truly feel, but on the surface, they appear content with their fate. My close friend was married off that way. She does not tell me anything negative about her marriage. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 08:06 PM
1

Happiness cannot be found in others. It comes from within you. When you are attracted to someone, you see something that you perceive to be missing in you. Perhaps you even see a glimmer of yourself reflected back at you. And you want it. Physical attraction inevitably fades over time, but it can be surpassed by a deep respect for the other person's being-ness. Then, having sex can feel like giving and receiving a beautiful gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:40 PM
0

Do you realise that women aren't a hive-mind and different women may like different 'traits'? Agree. If women are of a hive mind, please get me out of this hive!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:26 PM
2

I'm scared to become the goddess you're describing here. She doesn't sound like a very nice person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:12 PM
2

❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 07:09 PM
2

The term "Toxic" wasn't in my vocabulary until a few years ago when I saw it in the media. Now it's used everywhere. It's funny how new terms can change the way we talk about society.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:49 PM
1

Never thought about it, but maybe? I'm not a good example though. I went to a small school with a 7:3 F/M ratio. I got asked out by 2 guys there, but they were already sleeping with other girls. I refused because I'm monogamous. After college, I was dumped by a mutual friend in public on Valentine's Day. I became depressed and did not date for years. I really felt like a loser up until I met my current SO.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:33 PM
1

It's good to communicate openly! I used to be curious about what my SO posts online. I stopped trying because he will never reveal. It's futile.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:19 PM
1

Gotcha. My SO blocked me from his Twitter account a while ago with little explanation. Perhaps he is talking shit about me or of my gender. Oh well...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:12 PM
1

ROFL. I am dyslexic. Does your SO know you're here?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 06:08 PM
2

Overall, a normal person in America is chubby in Europe. I'm from America and have recently visited Italy. This appears to be true. It is diet.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:57 PM
1

men who come off "neuteR" are sexless, juiceless, lustless, passive, without "strength or vigor" I honestly haven't met one like that IRL. Maybe because I'm from a slightly older generation. Do you know any celebrities, media personalities, or historical figures who are examples of being "neutered"? If you've met a neutered guy before, what did he look like? In what context did you meet? How did you find out that he was sexless? Curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:50 PM
1

LOL. Congrats. That's the problem with the internet. No context. If you're married for the long haul, I guess you've come here to circumvent. Hope my SO isn't here as well, hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:45 PM
1

Honestly, if I were in your position I would probably take a little break from dating. Maybe focus on a personal passion or even travel. Just doing things that make me happy without involving someone else. I didn't meet anyone for a couple of years after my last breakup, and I grew a lot. Just my 2c.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:36 PM
2

Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:25 PM
1

Why do you categorize men into two distinct categories? Should women be categorized as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:24 PM
1

It appears to be cyclical: Pleasing > Pain caused by pleasing > Receives Pleasure > Pleasing...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:55 PM
0

That's exactly what I meant, lol. I do not know what you are debating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:40 PM
1

I'm not like those women so you don't have to view me as a representative of an entire gender. What's a good example of "It's one of those things that women say they want until it happens and it's not what they expected." ? How did the man show his emotion(s), and how did the woman respond?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:37 PM
1

If your life experiences have hurt you, perhaps it is a good idea to change where your life is headed, and not worry about trying to please someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:32 PM
1

So what you're really alluding to is "low or non-existent sex drive". Neutering on the other hand is a sterilization surgery given to male animals, like young dogs, at a medical facility. Have you also considered poor diet, poor mental health, and the now-widespread use of SSRIs as causes for low sex drive? Just search for "SSRI libido" on Reddit. https://www.healthline.com/health/erectile-dysfunction/antidepressant-sexual-side-effects#side-effects-in-men
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:23 PM
1

Will you clarify the analogy "coin of the realm between your legs"? What is the thing I have won?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:16 PM
1

You know, when I was single, my thought patterns were a lot more negative than they are now. From what I'm reading, you do not think highly of women, and that an apocalyptic event is looming: the "collapse", am I correct? Ask yourself: Do you really want to be with a woman? Being with one means that you'll want to make peace with all the gender-specific traits that you're critical of in your comments. Nobody wants to find out that their SO is secretly resentful of their entire gender, and is ven…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:03 PM
1

Amen. My dad's side is veg. Every time I visit home my body needs a little time to readjust, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:21 AM
2

You can, just be careful. Certain vitamins & minerals may need supplementation. Make sure to get enough plant-based protein. Beans are your friend :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 05:18 AM
0

Vegetarianism is attractive to a lot of ethically-minded people. A healthy diet is attractive to me. It shows that the person is conscious about what they put in their bodies. For me, their weight comes second to lifestyle habits. Often the two are mutually inclusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 04:56 AM
2

The shift in relationships did not grant all the power to women or men. It’s actually steadily equalizing both positions. I agree with this. I'm 36 F.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 02:58 AM
2

A lot depends on the type of user research you’ll do to determine the scoring system. What’s your sample size? What’s your target demographic? Who will you interview? What interview questions will you ask? You could conduct an online survey using Google Forms and ask a pool of people to rate each criteria. r/samplesize is a good place to look.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 01:16 AM
1

Sorry I have to disagree. No man in the world is "sexually neutered" unless they were medically sterilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 12:45 AM
1

Here's my take as a middle-aged woman in a LTR: (Sometimes) men get burned and ghosted by (Some) women for displaying weak emotions (in response to a particular situation). From my personal experience, when I can sense a guy is hurting or showing "weaknesses", I'll ask him what's wrong. If it's my partner, I'd probably give him a hug.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/22 12:07 AM
1

"it's more so compete with other human men" That is definitely still alive and strong, hahaha. I'm imagining men back in the day would find a sabertooth tiger carcass, carve a sharp weapon out of its tusk, and use it as a javelin to impale them. It's interesting to see that the more our tasks get outsourced and automated, the more indirect our threats become.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 08:19 PM
1

What's fascinating is that our primal instincts have survived thousands of years of human advancements. Like we're not worried about getting eaten alive by saber-tooth tigers anymore, but men are still protective of women by the same psychology. As lifestyles evolve and all of our physical threats have shifted, how are men adapting to new things to "protect" women from?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:40 PM
1

What's "pill sphere"?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:33 PM
1

Reality is relative to its perceiver.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:32 PM
2

Thank you! While my dad was selfish, I still love him as a person and a free spirit. We're friends. Now I see that he wasn't really meant to have a family with kids. It's not for everyone. Yes, kids are really, really hard work, especially if financial stability isn't a high priority for you. I think it's good to have an honest assessment of our priorities before jumping into having kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:22 PM
1

Of course, but in your previous comment you were pointing specifically to the net gain of "Attracting some man to help you". That's not a skill I've acquired. But maybe I should. Do you know what it's like to grow up without a dad, or any male family members around? Mom taught me to fend for myself. In the past, I have denied help from other men when offered. I didn't want to be seen as "weak". Speaking of which, I'm about to install a new toilet seat and a bed frame for my mom with no help. I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:09 PM
2

True
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:01 PM
2

Both my guy and I lost our jobs during the pandemic and we're both looking for work 😢 There is no being "tired of doing that". Just gotta survive. My mom is a breadwinner. I was born into a double-income household. My dad refused to work, my mom left him, and he didn't pay child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:57 PM
9

Can I point out that this woman is of a particular demographic? She’s white, of a certain age and background, and appears to have injected fillers into her cheeks and her lips. That is not every woman. Not me, certainly. I can not fathom her being a representative of every woman on this planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:41 PM
1

I was raised by a single mother to be self-sufficient and never ask for help from anyone unless absolutely necessary. Guess I’m missing out on these net gains, lol!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:14 PM
1

Are humans objects by essence? If I was a called a slave, am I not in essence still a human being? Is not objectification a labeling process, to which we assign names or roles to one another? All of this is superficial, and your roles may shift as you grow in a relationship. You may play many roles in one lifetime. I’m middle aged now. I don’t meet all of my partner’s expectations and he doesn’t meet all of mine. So the expectations are forced to shift, and the labels start to fall away. That’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:50 PM
1

I’m 36, in a long term relationship, and have hardly gone outdoors since the pandemic. Don’t take my advice. FYI: I met my partner on an app. My 2 previous relationships I found IRL. Either through college or an extracurricular class.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:00 PM
1

As a 36 yr old woman, I see the gender typecasting that you write about starting to fall away. When you spend years being intimate with someone, the facades start to come down. You start to realize that we’re all just children inside. Also, having children of your own and experiencing the world through their eyes can pull that inner child right back out of you. Nobody is an object unless they are willing to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:24 PM
2

My dad’s generation was taught that as well. It gets passed down I suppose. Personally I perceive unemotional men as aloof, uncaring, even robotic in extreme examples (thinking abt my dad & FIL). I know that’s not how they are deep down (I’ve seen them crack), and I feel sympathy for them. Though, as they’ve become older, they have begun to drop the act. Which women have they left to impress? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:11 PM
2

Sounds like that’s how it is traditionally. Here’s the thing: I’m a 36yr old woman. Everyone’s looks are starting to fade. Hormones are waning, and life’s responsibilities takes precedence over the game of attraction. Just like men, all I want is to be respected for my character and my actions. Honestly, after spending a long time with a partner I feel comfy with, it’s really touching to see him cry. It shows humanity. Like hey, you’re more like me than I ever thought. By sharing that moment of …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 02:55 PM
4

Geez, sounds like global warming but with dating. I’m an older millennial so I’m kind of out of the loop. When I was single, Reddit didn’t even have an app. Guess times are changing fast.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 07:47 AM
1

Yes, that makes a lot sense. There’s something self-defeating about that… almost like the more you stereotype the other gender, the less likely the other gender will be attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 07:41 AM
1

Sorry, I’m 36 and when I see someone younger than me online the “aww” just kicks in. Maybe it’s some kind of protective, maternal instinct lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 07:24 AM
1

Aww, I wish the best things for you. A lot of this world is going to feel wrong. Knowing what feels wrong to you will help you define what feels right. Through adversity, we get to know ourselves even better. I learned that the hard way, hahaha.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:51 AM
3

Sounds like you really want the concept of "bad boys" to exist, as though women in their 20s had no choice but to be attracted to them. Why? How is perpetuating that stereotype helping you?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:41 AM
3

Sounds like you have had some terrible experiences. You know, when my partner was single, he posted some pretty nasty stuff about women too (now deleted, lol). The more we got to know each other, the more we realized that neither of us fit into our previously-held stereotypes about the other gender. When you meet the right person, the way you see the world might just change. Just saying...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:26 AM
3

Same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:16 AM
8

That's okay. Everybody is different. I wouldn't call my friends effeminate. They're all in their late 30s, married, or in long-term relationships. They all seem to like doing woodwork and drawing. We all love hiking and occasional camping, though that has stopped since the pandemic. (One of them collects crystals though, shh).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:45 AM
11

I agree with you. I'm a 36 yr old female who is part of a platonic friend group of all guys. They approached me in college when I was still single, and they were all taken. I don't find my friends flirty or creepy when we talk. To this day they are like a second family to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:25 AM
1

Surprisingly, some people do. Good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:10 AM
2

Oh no! I didn't mean to dishearten you. I should've been more specific. I'm 36, sedentary, and have been in a relationship for years. My preferences shouldn't matter to you. I'm guessing you're 19. I see lots of people your age mingling out there, app or no app. If you are going to use an app, I've heard good things about Hinge. It's for people looking for long term. Now get out there (just be careful)!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:31 AM
2

Don't worry, you are where you are at this present moment, just as the universe intended you to be. There is nothing to regret. And there is nothing to change unless change comes to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 04:06 AM
2

When I was lonely, I wanted a relationship. When I had the relationship, I cherished being alone. Do what feels right for you. Wishing you the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:48 AM
1

Yes!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:32 AM
3

That seems unhealthy, even abusive to boys & men. Also, I don't understand why women drop men for being emotionally honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:23 AM
9

Sorry to hear you are feeling disheartened. When I first saw my partner's profile, he didn't put many details, actually and I thought that was mysterious. He did write that he was an introvert. I liked that he was a homebody like me, and I thought he looked cute too. The one thing that stuck out to me: Favorite Song: "It's Not Easy Being Green" by Kermit the Frog. That was it. I had to message him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:17 AM
3

Awww, sounds like Tinder really sucks. I've never used it. I met my guy on Bumble. I've also heard good things about Hinge.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 03:01 AM
1

L O L
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 02:59 AM
1

LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 02:59 AM
3

I'm still trying to understand why men sometimes refuse to share emotions. I'm very transparent so I'm coming from the other side. I've met a lot of toddlers through work, and have noticed that both boys and girls are equally transparent and equally vocal about their emotions. Is hiding emotions acquired through conditioning?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 01:21 AM
1

Really? When my partner opened up to me on a few occasions, I felt really touched and we grew a lot closer as a result. When he cried, I cried too. It felt as though he finally trusted me enough to share his pain. On the other end, my dad's generation rarely shows emotions. I never got close to him as a result, and I'm afraid of him for what he conceals. In movies too, when I see a man shed a tear. My empathy for that character grows 100x. If what you're saying is true, am I even a woman? Maybe …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 01:11 AM
1

Deleted my post. I didn't mean to offend you. Your language appalled me for a few minutes there. There are ungrateful people everywhere. Guess working men get taken advantage of all the time where you're from. I'm from a family of single mothers (early deaths, separations, unemployment, imprisonment, lack of child support). The women were all breadwinners. I don't know what it's like to be financially supported by a father or a spouse. There is no point in generalizing gender when we come from s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 12:18 AM
3

Birth control makes you infertile all of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 11:57 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 10:55 PM
1

A good idea for some, but sorry I can't bring myself to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 10:43 PM
2

Doesn't matter to me. Still getting pepper spray. Sinophobia in mainstream journalism is on the rise. It's not helping. I should stop cause I'm going off-topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 10:17 PM
1

Good acting is all about expressing genuine emotions on camera by completely identifying with a character. It's called typecasting. Historically, the majority of the writing was done by men. (Fiction, non-fiction, history, science-fiction, playwriting, journalism). How is that an unacceptable form of expression when they've dominated the field all along? What's a real emotion?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:58 PM
4

LOL. Thanks for the comic relief while I figure out where to get pepper spray to protect us from hate crimes. A few days ago: https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-60793383
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:45 PM
2

Kay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:39 PM
1

Sorry, I spend more time on Reddit worrying about the 330% rise in Asian hate crimes in America than whether or not my SO is lurking.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:30 PM
1

Dunno. What are your criteria? Both my partner and I are below average in terms of income & housing. Is our long-term relationship bad?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:21 PM
3

Me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:14 PM
7

Nope. I just don't want to hookup at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:13 PM
0

Totally!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:50 PM
1

Whoa. Things sure are different where you're coming from. My grandmother had 8 kids, not of her choice. My mother had 3 painful abortions, because of a lack of contraception. They did not want children, but they love the children they brought into this world. I have no children, and thinking about them makes me anxious. My friend with 2 toddlers just confided to me that she regrets having them, even though she would never say that to her family. Women tend to hide how much they suffer for their …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:46 PM
4

What's behind the motivation to train every day? What's fueling the drive to keep you going during a marathon? What's the high you feel when you win a competition? What's the unconscious impetus driving you to react immediately to my comment? Emotions. You have the choice not to get emotional in anything you do. That's up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:06 PM
5

I would pay all the men in my life to share more emotions with me. Trying to get an answer from my partner after asking: "How are you feeling" feels like pulling teeth. I love men more when they share emotions. It shows humanity. Emotionless folks scare me because it feels like they're repressing something very large that would eventually implode.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:56 PM
15

Sports? Literature? Acting? Activism? Parenting? Conservation? Motivational speech? Politics/debate? Culinary arts? Content creation? Passion for any hobby? You can channel your emotions into a passion for anything if you allow it. Talking it out is good too. I'm constantly wishing and asking for men in my life to share more emotions with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:37 PM
20

Pre-pandemic: Meet at a social gathering or in a class Post-pandemic: App Personally, I would not ask for sex on the first date. An ideal date would be a nice meal at a quiet place with a beautiful ambiance. That's where conversations can take place.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:31 PM
2

I guess what I really mean by manual labor is (Dangerous/ Demeaning) manual labor. My family has a farm and if there was a job opportunity, I'd sign up to be a gardener for them any day. My partner and I weeded, hacked, hauled fertilizer, and dug holes for 6 months last year and it was fun, despite all the fire ant bites. Positive physical labor is life-affirming. Dangerous, demeaning work is not, regardless of whether its blue or white collar.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:22 PM
1

I didn't say they weren't skilled. They were life-long indentured workers to the Pharoah, who was perceived to be God. I'm glad to hear the guys got a pension and found ways to entertain themselves. If they were alive today, I think they'd ask for a raise.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:12 PM
1

LOL! Don't worry too much, we'll all eventually look the same: Skeletal. Personally, I find it more reassuring to be with someone who looks similar to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:05 PM
2

I love your linework, especially in the Amy Rose drawings. Would love to see more Pokemon ones too. I no longer have a tablet, so occasionally I play Doodle or Die. It scratches the drawing itch.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:31 AM
1

Definitely. Labor should be paid according to the amount of sweat and tears one endures. I just thought of the great pyramid builders, and how they were paid almost nothing for a lifetime of physical labor. Things have only gotten slightly better, but not nearly enough. This deep injustice is embedded within an outdated economic system that values white-collar work over physical work. That being said, I believe the most physically painful and difficult labor a woman can endure is childbirth, wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:11 AM
1

The internet is where people can share messages anonymously without any context or accountability. It's because ppl can get away with it. I know it hurts sometimes, but don't take it personally. Nobody can claim to know the full you by glancing at some lines of text on a screen, and they probably never will. I love that you're making art. It's so good for the soul!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 09:08 AM
2

For me, it's less about willingness than about physical limitations. I injured myself so many times trying to lift heavy boxes up flights of stairs when my male counterpart carried them with ease. Tiny bone structure, fewer muscles = Not cut for the job
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:53 AM
2

True to me. I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:48 AM
1

The truth is, neither men nor women want manual labor jobs. Can we work towards automating them instead? In general, biological women are physically weaker and have less stamina than men. That is why I still ask my boyfriend sometimes to open a jar. That is why he is a better ditch-digger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:45 AM
2

Lol at the person who thought you were pedo. That's insane. Spot on, your view is accurate to me (I'm Asian). And yes, I do think some major trends are moving towards the effeminate. In Anime, there's often a fine line that separates how boys & girls look. In K-pop, all the boy bands are just as pretty as their female counterparts. Kids nowadays are also more gender-fluid, so effeminate qualities in men are increasingly seen as the norm. People will change when the rules change.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:21 AM
2

Yes, in East Asia, more effeminate men are often perceived to be more attractive. Aggression is less of a desirable trait there. Cuteness is highly valued. Even in the wild. For example, some female sea slugs choose more feminine-looking mates. They feel reassured by their physical similarities and their docility. Big, aggressive males just scare them off.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 08:00 AM
1

I hope you found your pen! I feel like a lot of folks on this subreddit are horny and male, so it's hard for them to see otherwise. Some may have been deceived by women who claimed they were horny when they weren't really. I'm one of them. I feel guilty, but it's easier to be pleasing than to deny my partner all month long.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:45 AM
2

Same. I am not horny 26 days out of the month. I pretend to be for my partner because it helps him to feel more loved. I am not horny right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:31 AM
2

Women rate men harshly because, at a primal level, we are judging them for their viability as mates. Those requirements vary from person-to-person, and by culture: Feminine features can convey sensitivity, youthfulness, grace, but also immaturity. Masculine features can convey intensity, drive, bravery, but also aggression. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:28 AM
1

I was in an all-female department at an art school with a ~70% F/M ratio. Some of my classmates became bisexual. As far as I know, they are all with men now. For them, it was a matter of circumstance and a desire to experiment.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:12 AM
1

I saw the gay penguin couple (Rio and Eduardo) at the San Francisco Zoo. They're great parents too apparently. https://sanfrancisco.cbslocal.com/2019/06/20/same-sex-penguin-couple-san-francisco-zoo-model-foster-parents/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 07:10 AM
1

Bringing more children into this world eats up more of its resources. Higher population = Higher consumption = More environmental degradation. I believe history is cyclical. Society is in constant ebb & flow. Not too concerned. Also, birth control is great. I no longer have to have 3 abortions like my mom did because my parents weren't ready for a baby, or 8 kids like my grandmother did because she had no choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:57 AM
1

The pandemic sure made it easier to stay indoors and a lot more convenient to order fast food. Even pets are obese. You can always do the opposite: Go outdoors and eat less fast food.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:45 AM
2

I am a cardiologist from the Virgin Islands who is here to train. I will sew your heart up in exchange for your secrets. ROFL
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 06:24 AM
2

I guess you can look at this electronic screen and read my sentence made up of tiny pixels. Yay!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 05:58 AM
1

I've watched a lot of nature documentaries. Male creatures tend to force sex upon the females and have little or no investment in childrearing after the female gets pregnant. I have yet to see a female creature force sex upon a male. Biologically speaking, females are pickier about sexual partners because just having sex once can result in pregnancy, which is a huge investment in time, energy, and resources. Wouldn't every female want the best for their new family? I don't think we've evolved to…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 05:35 AM
0

Well, it depends on how many women are seeking a mate. If a woman is not looking, she will be seeking out 0% of the men. If she is looking, it depends on whether she wants a short-term or long-term partner. If she wants a long-term partner, she'll go for the 10% because they won't die quickly. It's relative to a woman's needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 05:21 AM
1

Emotions can increase Empathy, which helps with relating, social bonding, caring for others, and creative endeavors (for women, that includes creating more humans). ​ Crying can help release repressed negativity which is great for mental health. Anger can release pent-up energy which seeks to be let go off. Joy just feels great, and it's infectious so you can spread it to others. I've seen both men and women unconsciously repress their emotions by excessive exercise, harboring resentment, harmin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 04:48 AM
2

The risk of pregnancy, STDs, physical pain, rape, and potential violence is always in the back of women's minds. Look in Nature. Nearly all female creatures are this guarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 04:32 AM
1

There's no right or wrong, it's just culture. I didn't grow up with that vocabulary so it surprises me when I hear it. I did have gay colleagues address me in that way, and I assumed that was vernacular. Guess I'm wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 04:26 AM
1

Though fun to do virtually, in reality, no. It took Billions of years of evolution for the universe to create You, a variation of its manifestation. That's too special to just throw away.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 04:18 AM
0

Sorry, still trying to work through that generational trauma. I think it may be cultural too. My parents were immigrants, and where they're from, men dominated women physically, emotionally, and financially. Though imperfect, there is much better gender equality here in the U.S. As a consequence, the standards for men also became a lot higher, sometimes unreasonably. The fact that you said "everyone should do what they can for their family" would bring a tear to my mother's eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 04:05 AM
8

Hello!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 03:53 AM
0

So, if all women want resources from men, and few men have a lot of resources, as resources are limited on this planet, wouldn't be easier for women to gather the resources on their own? If a woman has built their own wealth, status, and power, what do you think they would look for in a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 03:50 AM
0

Exceptions: Before my parents divorced, my mom worked 3 minimum wage jobs while my dad refused to work full-time or be outside the home. She gave him all of her income and he didn't budge after she was mugged on the street. He withheld her spending and didn't let her buy a winter coat for her night commute. He didn't do certain things. She called him "less than". I think that's pretty justified. My partner and I both lost our jobs during the pandemic. We're both unemployed, live with parents, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 03:36 AM
6

Brings a tear to my eye. All I can see in these pictures are genuine-looking souls that I hope will all find somebody to love and be loved. One thing I noticed is that a few of the girl's pictures may have filters applied to them, which I didn't notice on any of the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 03:09 AM
2

We're spending more time in front of a screen than ever before, just like we're doing right now. The pandemic also drove a lot of people indoors for long periods of time. Long screen time + Social distancing = Enjoyable social distancing. Maybe some people grew tired of that and are starting to head outdoors,
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 02:56 AM
1

I have never hooked up in my life. If anyone asked me to hook up, I said no. Anecdotes: I met my now 4-yr partner online, and we didn't sleep over until the 5th date. We're monogamous. My friend told her now-husband that she doesn't do polyamory as indicated on his then dating profile. They are now monogamous. There may be someone out there for you if you're willing to keep trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 02:42 AM
57

When I was single, I was rarely approached by men because as my now partner puts it: "You looked unapproachable." Looking back, perhaps it was my all-black outfits, lack of smiles, or exuding general anxiety that comes with living alone in a big city. Who knows? Places I did get approached: Parties, classes, public parks, sharing taxis. A simple "Hello" brightens up my day. Catcalling, though, makes me anxious because I don't trust strangers and what they might do to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 02:29 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter