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What are your interests? Go to events where others with similar interests go to. Go volunteer. If things aren't working for you right now, you need to switch up how and where you're meeting girls.
/r/seduction30/05/14 07:02 AM
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From my experiences, it's rare. Girls absolutely fear rejection, so they'll instead drop subtle hints to get you to ask for the number.
/r/seduction05/05/14 10:45 PM
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Damn sorry I saw this too late. Where in LA are you based?
/r/seduction30/03/14 01:52 AM
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Not necessarily. There's been an instance where I've followed up with a girl who never replied and we ended up going out. Things were just too hectic when she got my message, so she ignored the first one. Look at it this way - if you don't send the follow up, there's 0% chance you'll meet up, but if you just spend a minute to follow up, you've got a (small) chance.
/r/seduction18/03/14 01:24 AM
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Your first text is fine. Sometimes a girl is so busy that she mentally replies but physically doesn't. You should definitely follow up. Wait two or three days. And if she still doesn't reply, then don't waste any more time.
/r/seduction18/03/14 01:20 AM
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It depends on whether I'm looking for a relationship or if I'm looking for a hookup. If it's a relationship, looks of course matter, but I'd much rather date a girl who's on a similar path as me and has similar philosophies on life. If it's for a hookup, then looks, but even then, I'd rather hook up with a girl who's better in bed - although it's not always clear whether or not a girl is good in bed until you get into it.
/r/seduction17/03/14 09:03 PM
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Look, numbers don't mean anything. You need to build some level of comfort, and then a deeper connection with these girls. It seems that in some of these situations, you could have gone for the insta-date.
/r/seduction12/03/14 06:38 AM
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It's tough. Not a lot of people are going to admit that their lifestyle is inferior to yours and that they need your help. And that's fine - the world needs variety and not everyone can be or should be decked out in the best clothes, or be CEOs, or be amazing with women. Even though it sounds sad, there needs some type of balance.
/r/seduction12/03/14 05:46 AM
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I'm going to add to the second point. From personal experience, it's very tough for one guy to engage a group of three girls alone. Two is okay, but three is definitely a challenge.
/r/seduction11/03/14 10:48 PM
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LA checking in.
/r/seduction09/03/14 09:32 AM
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I've been in your exact situation. It's not easy at all, but once you do it a couple of times, you realize it's actually fun. Basically, in my mind, I always thought I could either 1) stay in and do nothing or 2) go out and put myself out there. It helps if you go into a venue and start talking to people right away.
/r/seduction09/03/14 09:30 AM
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I'm going to agree 100% with this advice. I've followed up and gotten a date I otherwise wouldn't have gotten. I know some girls who have told me they don't always reply on the initial text because they happen to be super busy that day. Persistence is okay, as long as it's not annoying - following up after two or three days is perfectly fine.
/r/seduction06/03/14 11:04 PM
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Good for you man - glad you went through with it. It sounds like you made an objective speech about the topic and didn't try to promote PUA necessarily.
/r/seduction06/03/14 09:56 PM
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Sure, girls go through periods when they're busy. But that's generally a phrase that girls use so that they don't hurt anyone's feelings. What do you want from her? If you just want a hookup, then just invite her to meet up one-on-one ("Would like to hang out before you leave") and make a move. If you want to take her out on dates, then it doesn't hurt to follow up, but if she continues to say she doesn't want to date anyone, then it's time to accept it and shove off.
/r/seduction06/03/14 09:50 PM
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Confidence is a mix of self-efficacy and self-esteem. Everything you're saying is "I'm great at this, I'm great at that." While that is an admirable mentality to have, self-efficacy is not just being great at things, but also achieving goal after goal. This might be a stretch, but is it possible that you're so comfortable with your life (outside of women), that you're "too comfortable?" Here's my question to you: Do you have flaws you're willing to admit and want to work on? Is there something y…
/r/seduction06/03/14 06:36 AM
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You should never let what a girl thinks about you determine your self-worth.
/r/seduction06/03/14 01:12 AM
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Easy, you can ask girls where stuff is on campus. Places to get coffee or food. Or where the gym is.
/r/seduction04/03/14 01:53 AM
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Good points, but the overarching message of "looks don't matter" is just as generalizing as if you said "looks are the only thing that matter for guys." Let's face it, for some girls, looks matter a lot more than for others.
/r/seduction04/03/14 01:45 AM
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This is an interesting argument, but I don't think you can say with such certainty that online dating is not "worth the effort, and you deserve better." For some people, it a good investment of their time and energy. For others, it may not be. Plus, I don't think dating behavior on apps is that much different than dating behavior in the real world. The argument on the opener is valid, but the big picture is differentiating yourself from everyone else. A "hey" won't do on online dating because it…
/r/seduction03/03/14 02:19 AM
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Sounds like you may just be afraid of rejection. Once you're able to put yourself on the line and be okay with rejection, then you'll see a difference.
/r/seduction03/03/14 02:07 AM
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Here's a tip: when you go to a venue, don't go straight to the bar area. Just start approaching girls right away.
/r/seduction03/03/14 02:00 AM
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I don't necessarily agree with the "be a challenge" part, especially the "fake it until you make it" tactic. If you’re deliberately creating the appearance that you’re unavailable, you’re still putting the girl on a pedestal, changing your behavior solely to attract her. I think the focus should be more on living the type of fulfilling and satisfying life where unavailability is organic.
/r/seduction03/03/14 01:57 AM
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Nice FR. Sometimes all it really does take is putting one foot in front of another. So many missed opportunities because people are afraid of doing something "unusual."
/r/seduction02/03/14 03:08 AM
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Decisiveness and assuredness. Knowing that there's a chance at failure, but doing something because you truly believe in it. Confidence also stems from knowing you have other options.
/r/seduction02/03/14 03:00 AM
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Dude, your weight's just a mental barrier. You'd be surprised how many girls are into the big, teddy-bear type. If she wasn't into you, she wouldn't have agreed to go out with you.
/r/seduction02/03/14 02:36 AM
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Damn, this post encapsulates what this subreddit is all about. I wish others in the same boat as you would step up and share their stories too, because I loved reading this.
/r/seduction28/02/14 07:18 PM
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What you wear does matter. Many girls put an emphasis on how you dress because they care about fashion themselves. What's crazy is some girls will find an average-looking guy who is well-dressed attractive, and find a good-looking guy who is poorly-dressed unattractive. Wear clothes that fit. Wear clothes that fit your personality. You don't have to go out and buy fancy suits or $200 jeans.
/r/seduction27/02/14 01:01 AM
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Lots of people are in the same boat, man. Our brains trick us into thinking that attractive people are smarter, more sociable...all-around better people. The thing is you've got to realize that all types of people can provide value. I've got friends who are unattractive girls - it's not a big deal. Doesn't hurt your chances at meeting other people.
/r/seduction27/02/14 12:53 AM
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Actually many girls find persistence attractive, as long as you're not constantly bugging the girl about it. You can ask her again. Continue to approach and build up reference. Approach at any time - planning is okay but it generally sucks, because you can't plan for the girl who you pass in the street and will never see again.
/r/seduction27/02/14 12:47 AM
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Dude, it doesn't matter what your race is. The girls who are "racist" are the type of close-minded girls who you don't want anyway. Stop using it as an excuse. If you want to meet more Indian girls, join an Indian organization in your school or community.
/r/seduction27/02/14 12:36 AM
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Detach yourself from the result emotionally. It's okay to wonder what you did wrong, as long as you are logical. You won't connect with every girl, and you shouldn't. The thing is girls tend to mirror your emotions. So if the girl wasn't any fun, it could be a reflection of yourself.
/r/seduction27/02/14 12:31 AM
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You're not going to wake up one day with all of your problems (confidence issues, failings, difficulty emotionally connecting with people) solved. It's really a journey. There's no magic pill, there's no e-book that you can buy for $19.99. It's all about going out and putting in the time. It seems like you're on the right path - keep it up and don't get discouraged.
/r/seduction21/02/14 08:26 AM
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If you absolutely have nothing to say (and this should happen less frequently as you get more practice), just tell them you've run out of things to say. And then just laugh and move on to something completely random.
/r/seduction21/02/14 08:15 AM
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They either do or they don't. There's no trick to it. I've been approached by girls - ironically, most of the time it's happened, I hadn't made eye contact with them. They just approached out of the blue. I think once you make eye contact, you're expected to approach.
/r/seduction21/02/14 08:08 AM
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I posted this not too long ago. A lot of people in this subreddit seemed to find it useful.
/r/seduction20/02/14 11:07 PM
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From personal experience, completely freezing a girl out doesn't always work. First time it happens, I'd say something along the lines of, "If you don't want to have sex, that's fine, but life is short." It's worked for me. If she still resists, then you can freeze her out. If she still resists after the freeze out, you can tell her that you're passionate about her but that you won't touch her panties. Physically escalate without touching her panties. Grab her hand and put it on your crotch. If …
/r/seduction19/02/14 04:36 AM
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Very good post. I'm glad this community exists because it can help guys like us extend our confidence towards all aspects of life outside of seduction.
/r/seduction17/02/14 11:39 PM
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It's actually not recommended to compliment girls on their physical attractiveness at first. You can go up to a girl and tell her that she's cute and you wanted to meet her, but don't shower her with other compliments. What I've found to be effective is to compliment her on her style (must be genuine). After all, a lot of girls put a lot of effort into picking out what she's going to wear, so she'll love to hear that. Or, if she looks like she's having fun, let her know that she looks fun. Somet…
/r/seduction17/02/14 11:31 PM
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Cool. This subreddit needs more of this kinda stuff.
/r/seduction17/02/14 11:23 PM
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This is probably not what you want to hear, but you probably are a bit needy. If you weren't you wouldn't be venting on reddit. Have other things going on. Girls shouldn't always be the most important part of your life.
/r/seduction13/02/14 09:04 PM
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Girls with lower self esteem want validation. They'll flock to a wide range of guys.
/r/seduction13/02/14 09:00 PM
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Texted her every day for a year? Sounds like a recipe for disaster. If you want to ask her out, you can't beat around the bush. Ideally you'd ask her out within a couple days of getting her number. If you need any other tips feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction13/02/14 07:05 AM
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This is definitely important to keep in mind. It can be mentally exhausting to have a drawn out conversation, if it's not natural.
/r/seduction13/02/14 06:58 AM
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Just take care of your basics: not dressing like a slob, showering, grooming. The rest is just an excuse - plus you're probably overestimating how other people judge your looks (spotlight effect)
/r/seduction13/02/14 12:13 AM
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All of that is good. You're starting to invest in yourself - awesome. Now, continue to do that. Read a book, learn a new skill, find out how you can help others. It's a process.
/r/seduction13/02/14 12:09 AM
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With some girls who aren't as outgoing, you need build more of a connection with them before meeting in person. Also, you need to find out what common interest you two share, and do something related to that. For example, maybe you two both love art, so logically, you two can go on a date to the museum. The more specific the common interest, the better.
/r/seduction13/02/14 12:01 AM
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Yep, talk to someone right when you get to the club. That helps you get the juices going. The longer you wait, the harder it is.
/r/seduction12/02/14 11:56 PM
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Naw, you go on Valentine's Day dates with girls you love. Not girls you want to bone.
/r/seduction12/02/14 11:53 PM
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Sometimes its really doesn't matter what you say but rather the way you say it. That doesn't mean spend an hour talking about cheese if she clearly doesn't care.
/r/seduction08/01/14 07:31 PM
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