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DebateFlat-Zombie-95/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:33 PM
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I used to think like this till i realized how much women genuinely respect them. Lusting after them or just being fine with a fwb is one thing but i learned that women be on their best behavior in those situations. Ive seen so many accommodating and sweet boyfriends get walked over by their GF/wives but women will literally respect and admire the type of man OP is describing just cause they arent pussies and do what they want.
/r/seduction20/08/25 12:48 PM
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Take dance class. I dont think therapy will help.
/r/seduction20/08/25 11:13 AM
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It’s the same reason the silver back gorilla has all the female gorillas to himself. It’s just biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:33 PM
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Most men would at least sleep with an average woman. Above average men are more selective with who they fall in love with though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:31 PM
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Do you not understand the concept of settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 11:12 AM
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Lol the cats out the bag already, there is no turning back the clock. It doesn’t work like that. That is a pure fantasy. Come on now be realistic. Honestly something that would actually help is elevating the average man with job programs, get free healthcare and college so social mobility is easier to attain. If men are given the opportunity to level up through different avenues a lot of them will be in a way better position to date. How it’s going only rich men their wives and concubines will f…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:28 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:23 PM
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This is mostly a cope. Average women never had a chance of making chad their relationships. They’re happy to settle with a fwb relationship but they would still prefer him. I know this is true because studies show more attractive women have lower body counts and more likely to be in long term relationships. (with im assuming chads) if the difference between the most attractive and average women when it comes to dating is the more attractive ones getting more long term committed relationships fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 03:26 AM
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Golden retriever energy is a near bottom tier personality trait that only works on masculine women when the man is attractive in a few other ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:50 AM
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No i disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:41 AM
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More like basic pattern recognition from the boy/girl friend groups ive been in in my 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:11 AM
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Oh brother. Shut up. You know that all that shit is taken very seriously with at least half the population democrats and most moderates.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 01:10 AM
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Just been my experience irl. Reddit women are more neurotic so im not surprised every time i say this and specify most there is some push back like its a 50/50
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 10:15 PM
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Most women have fwb when they are “single”.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 09:54 PM
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Ehh basic empathy for their problems. Seems like women who are struggling have way more support. Ive seen short men get teased and humiliated irl for being short and you see most of the majority of any discussion about it goes like just be confident its all in your head lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 04:13 PM
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Yeah man, women barely acknowledge poor and undesirable men as human, they genuinely do not care.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 12:57 PM
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Lol someone on the mod team explain to me how this is a rant.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/25 12:16 AM
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You would rather be a single mom from an incubator baby than suffer a relationship from an average man lol, this proves my point. Average men will drop out of society, its inevitable, we are near the point of everything being automated so it doesnt matter that much. Me saying sharing doesn’t mean all 17 are in a long term relationship with that 1 high status man but that when women do engage with the opposite sex it will be the top 20-30% and no one else below. I also believe it won’t be as dras…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 11:14 PM
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Monogamy is a social construct to keep average men productive and invested in the rest of society. Teenage girls regularly spend a phase where they form female kinships around worshiping boy bands or pretty boy actors, some grow up and become traveling groupies as a hobby. Nothing to do with cucking and everything to do with human nature. Women regularly sabotage and end decent relationships and marriages because their man is average and they start resenting him for it. Now that women are nearly…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:41 PM
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https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success/ About 8000 years ago, for every 17 women having children, only one man did likely who was probably high status, attractive , tall and whatever else women look for. With rising inequality, gender equality in middle management jobs and social media amplifying status, it is inevitable we return to this dynamic in modern society. Average men will cope with passports, sex dolls, AI girlfriends and women will willingly start to share men more…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 10:31 PM
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well there you go, you dont need anymore books or videos. Get your money up before trying to get into a long term relationship. You already know whats holding you back. If you were 22< it would matter less but especially once you hit your mid 20s you need disposable money to maintain a long term relationships. Also just trust me a LTR when youre broke or not financially comfortable will most likely turn into a humiliation ritual.
/r/seduction26/07/25 11:01 PM
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I did it with the third. Yeah its as bad as you’re assuming
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 09:09 PM
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I think its highly highly exaggerated how much women want to get married. I think even most of the women saying they want to get married dont understand that they don’t really want it that bad
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 09:08 PM
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One of my worst gripes with men bitching about women online is this assumption that they all want marriage as much as men do. Women are much more likely to live happy single lives than men. Its like theyre stuck spiraling in the denial phase, women just dont care anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:30 PM
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Being on Reddit and a few examples irl has really helped me realize how annoying the over explainer is to talk to. Ive actually put in the effort to cut that out as a personality trait.
/r/seduction24/07/25 10:01 AM
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Anthropologists found that 8000 years ago 18 women passed down their genes for every 1 man. Modernity and feminism has freed women from having to reproduce with average men. Already women genuinely don’t recognize the bottom 40% of men as men and when they marry average men they eventually resent them. It seems odd the change society is going through but in a way we’re returning back to normal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/25 01:57 AM
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They are more likely to stay married because they have access to men who are more likely to be educated as well and above average in finances and life. But theyre also more likely to initiate divorce than their uneducated counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:30 PM
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Both but political conservatives or honestly even the ones who are mostly not political have pretty good relationships from what i see anecdotally. Theyre less concerned with the outside world, have shallow understandings of political and social issues, they live smaller lives and have more gratitude for what they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:16 AM
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Yeah you’re right.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 02:06 AM
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I think 60-80 percentile men will occasionally be friend zoned, orbiters, get pity sex or kept around if they have useful skills, be in those 1 woman multiple men relationship, they will pretty much have very little dignity in those situations.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 01:53 AM
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Yup, mostly traditional and conservative average relationships are much happier. Liberal women specifically are much less happy in heterosexual relationships than their male partners and women in conservative relationships. Im far from conservative but i think the trends are what they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 01:48 AM
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I think men mostly haven’t changed, theres a small loud minority who scream about going their own way, being incels, whatever but wven most of them would lose a limb for life long companionship from a regular woman. Its the masses of women who are showing us with their actions that they dont want the traditional arrangement with average men anymore. Men who fall short (at least the bottom 40%) will become more desperate and resort to sex workers and porn more often in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 01:33 AM
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Yes, no, sometimes. The living arrangements with their situationships, children’s fathers, flings, long term relationships with men will matter less and be less traditional by the year. Women already have greater long term platonic communities with other women, theyre on average more sexually fluid, and are apparently more happy single than in traditional monogamous relationships. What I’m noticing recently is the average woman will inevitably begin to resent their average/ low status husbands. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 12:51 AM
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Marriage is trending down. I think women will cohabitate with each other a lot more in the future and raise their kids together that way. They’ll occasionally go in and out of relationships with men but long term heterosexual relationships will be less common. Other than elites, theyll continue the tradition.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 12:03 AM
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My prediction is women will slowly start approaching the men they find attractive and will eventually find out they all mostly like a small handful of men and eventually settle on sharing that small group of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 11:33 PM
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Ehh maybe some people are just extremely difficult and would drive themselves miserable because of petty things like this but most people know if their partner is a genuine slob, forgetful or cant make them cum before walking down the aisle. Ive come to my conclusion recently from my own personal experience and a few other couples where ive seen this dynamic play out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 08:38 PM
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No it comes from nice guys finish last and women describing the men they’ve friend zoned as “nice but…”. Which im not saying is bad thst they arent attracted to them but creating these narratives that theyre all raging misogynist instead of saying those personality attributes are not attractive is a silly game we play in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 07:31 PM
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And youre proving my point by reinforcing one of the retarded boogeyman narratives about nice guys. Nice guys are hated because no one wants to deal with a passive adult man. 99% of them genuinely are just nice and considerate people who are a little socially inept because they e been raised to think niceness will buy respect and reciprocity instead of just establishing expectations of a one sided relationship. Having known and befriended a couple passive people like this as an adult I do unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 06:57 PM
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Yeah i remember a bunch of posts on twitter going viral when i used to go on there a few years ago about women hooking up with disgusting men from how they described them, i didn’t put it together that those men were probably decently attractive to get away with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 06:31 PM
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Im stating a fact. Not taking credit for anything. Whats your actual point?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 05:36 PM
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And ill add that the reason that nice guys are hated so much is not because they ever do anything half as offensive as “bad boys”. One of the most viscerally disgusting things to a woman is considering sleeping with a man with high inhibition + average looks. Sleeping with a shy/nice guy is on the same level as disgust for a regular woman as prostituting themselves to ugly men. They just cant respect a man that cant lead but he isnt actually doing anything wrong other than being a pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 05:10 PM
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Also this generation of men are the most empathetic in probably all of human history. Still getting the worst results from LTR. Probably more to do with the power balance becoming nearly equal between men and women, and women just not being satisfied with the average man
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:54 PM
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Same with strippers
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 04:50 PM
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Mostly like a humiliation ritual
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:49 PM
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I think it’s more accurate to say women divorce men at such a high rate because men become complacent after marriage. Nagging is just a symptom of that. Women always want more and are always comparing themselves to what other women have or are getting out of their partner. If a man who makes 60-70k a year going into a marriage, becomes comfortable with that lifestyle, while playing video games or poker nights with his boys while having no further ambitions on top of being over available to his w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:42 PM
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No. Women simply don’t find at least 60-80% of men attractive period. Their dream man wanting to fuck 5+ times a week would be fine unless she is a sexual or low sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:22 AM
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Yeah this is correct. If you approach a woman as a neutered version of yourself, thats all youll ever be to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:17 AM
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Its easier if its initiated by your wife is my guess.
/r/seduction21/07/25 12:24 AM
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Lool i respect it man.
/r/seduction21/07/25 12:23 AM
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Entrepreneur. 100 out of 100 times. Even 9/10 female engineers will choose the entrepreneur. It signals calculated risk taking , low inhibition, ambition, being competent socially and self mastery/discipline. Engineer signals intelligence and discipline but not necessarily ambition.
/r/seduction20/07/25 07:36 PM
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I think flirting over weeks and months isn’t good, like it shows that youre not confident enough to escalate. But youre gonna have to flirt with them at some point
/r/seduction16/07/25 02:49 PM
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Relationships are better and more fun when they start off as flings, just my opinion. Save the therapy stuff for you patients, flirting is more about having fun and lightly pushing boundaries to figure out vibes/personality. The info about who they are will trickle in the longer youre with them so no need to rush that. Also just remember most women have gone through a scandalous phase by 21. There are no nuns at a rave. Text them something like its too bad youre not looking for anything right no…
/r/seduction15/07/25 11:04 PM
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Honestly u probably give off boyfriend vibes not 1 Night stand energy
/r/seduction15/07/25 10:09 PM
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Maybe theyre calling you cute in a lil brother or boy best friend kind of way. Try being more direct, flirty and polarizing
/r/seduction15/07/25 06:32 PM
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Honestly it can work in your favor being older, but only if youre more socially dominant and put together than guys their age.
/r/seduction15/07/25 06:14 PM
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I with you. Integrity is for yourself and close inner circle. Little white lies is fine to do with strangers
/r/seduction15/07/25 06:11 PM
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If thats what it is then i have to just flat out disagree with the other side. Ive done both and had a few successes with the indirect, texting method cause i can be clever in both methods but women will always value the inside jokes, escalation towards sex, innuendos in person more than the man trying to do that all in her phone. When i got more confidence and focused on in real life interactions more i realized how much time I wasted on the indirect stuff. Way higher chance for things to fizzl…
/r/seduction29/05/25 02:19 PM
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Dont label it so you can further overthink and analyze whats blocking you. You have to brute force your way into having a better time at approaching. Like expect it to take dozens and dozens of attempts and even when youre better at it the success rate is really low but it will be better than the bozo that swiped right a million times on tinder just for a few matches. But think of it as learning how to flirt and youll always be learning but dont think too hard about expectations.
/r/seduction28/05/25 05:27 PM
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I think i know whats going on here with the difference in experience. The women hes getting off of reddit are probably introverted and need all the extra txting fluff to buy in.
/r/seduction28/05/25 05:19 PM
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Nah you’re getting a bunch of downvotes but youre right. Women know if they want to fuck you if you have a strong profile if its online dating or just the first 15 minutes if its irl. You can do some light teasing through text, be clever flirty etc but you should use texting just to get her into the next irl meetup. Yes you need to be a little consistent to show interest and text are a cheap way to keep that going but women put low interest prospects and nice guys in Textuationship bucket.
/r/seduction28/05/25 05:01 PM
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The love bomber comes into your life to teach you discernment. Learn the lesson and move on. Love bombing is a gender neutral thing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 03:07 PM
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Its only marginally becomes more important when men or a woman is ready to settle down. Its either important from the start for an individual or they decide its a little important when they decide they want stability out of the rest of their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 03:05 PM
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The only thing chad is more likely to be is less faithful. Even most chad criminals women like wont be abusive. They just cheat because they can. The good guy is probably not even a good guy. He doesnt know if he would cheat because he will probably never have the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 03:02 PM
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Good girls are a myth fr. Not in the mood to type a bunch of stuff rn but you both are right from my experience as well
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 07:51 PM
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Unique and gated experience for sure. Thanks for sharing. I can’t totally relate to your experience but there are parallels for poor/middle class people when it comes to dating. Women that have been candid about what they want out of dating also just go for the most financially secure guy they can get and still be attracted to by their late 20s. The slow/immature ones end up being a baby mama to a guy that is 30+ working in a theme park. It can be harsh and a lot of “good” men get trampled over …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 01:37 AM
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I found your post interesting. Whats your background, any more stories like it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 06:48 PM
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Yeah Kindness isn’t attractive. Having common courtesy, respectful and not an asshole is the social buy in everyone pays to have and maintain regular relationships. Unless you’re very attractive or have something people are attracted to like money or drugs you have to be kind. I really hate that the be kind advice is so popular, cause its like step 0, a pre requisite, barely gets you in the game. Developing a personality, having interesting opinions and hobbies, being pleasant to talk to, curati…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:20 PM
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“You are a mediocre, privileged twit whose investment in social justice begins and ends at payloading your naked class contempt and ecstatic sadism. You are a coloniser. A GENTRIFIER of social justice.” Lol man you have a way with words. This sentiment is why i don’t make any apologies for disliking feminism. The most self serving useless ideologies around that only makes sense if you accept the prepackaged gender/bio essentialism it derives from patriarchy to explain itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/25 09:13 PM
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Assume it’s 15+ and don’t worry about it
/r/seduction12/05/25 01:38 PM
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Always assume that fr. Especially past like 21. Every body adults and most people know how to get there thrills while still looking for the “one”
/r/seduction09/05/25 02:37 AM
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You’re boring. She’s not interested in your lifestyle or how slow you move with her. This was a really nice break up text. Just being blunt so you know for next time
/r/seduction09/05/25 02:34 AM
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Women love to talk that commitment shit and still got a handful of options. Make her go through some shit test to see if she’s down for you fr. Make her run errands for you, women that are falling for you love to do shit to prove how useful they can be to you.give her the opportunity to get invested in you, not just you wining and dining and fucking her as the entire basis of the relationship. And if you find yourself falling for a girl again and it feel premature just imagine how stupid and lit…
/r/seduction07/05/25 02:19 AM
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Every women I’ve ever known to do some slut bashing to talk down on a woman they’re jealous of or make themselves look more pious ended up doing some slut shit or had some slut shit in their past. They really just like to hear themselves talk.
/r/seduction07/05/25 02:14 AM
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Minority of women are like this. They’re usually religious or reserved.
/r/seduction07/05/25 01:59 AM
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That first paragraph is literally gold. I agree with your whole post but will say it’s ok to try to break the touch barrier early, but don’t get too touchy so you don’t come off as friendly or needy. It’s good to come off as a little aloof but curious/interested. I’ll also say don’t even go for a kiss on the first date unless she giving you fuck me eyes
/r/seduction07/05/25 01:58 AM
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It can take longer for women to build attraction, don’t lie, I mean you can if you want to but that can get messy. Just be vague about your intentions,:“open to a relationship, seeing if there’s a connection first, I’m not in a rush”. Gives you opportunity to stay in the game, and escalate sexual energy without guilt. I wouldn’t worry about about not smashing on the first date, that’s rare unless you have good status+looks. Even most regular handsome tall men won’t smash off most of their first …
/r/seduction07/05/25 01:53 AM
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Women will compliment stuff like hair and clothes if you take care of yourself. I never assume it means anything more though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 04:23 PM
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Because it does. I’ll say only like bottom 30% of women in terms of income actually live terrible lives or are oppressed in the women feminist talk about
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 04:10 PM
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Malicious is hilarious wording though. A1 trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 04:08 PM
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That’s what they will tell you online and you don’t see it a lot anymore but as long as it isn’t vulgar I’ve seen women just walk away flattered from being cat called.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 04:08 PM
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lol they were telling me cat calling was only nefarious dehumanization on my posts. As if sometimes men don’t just give random compliments to strike up conversations and break the ice. I’ve seen women get legit cat called, not super vulgar but somewhat sexual and just walk away flattered and smiling afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 04:06 PM
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You could fill a whole book with stuff like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:55 PM
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Gets a pass if it’s funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:51 PM
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Yeah it’s a stupid misrepresentation of data that won’t go away now because it keeps getting repeated on social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:50 PM
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This is my take on it, most rape jokes aren’t worth the squeeze and are just cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:44 PM
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Rape jokes for the most part are tasteless and bad. But I don’t think there is any type of rape culture and it’s just something feminists made up as a buzzword and they won’t let it go. Women aren’t oppressed in America. Poor women are in real ways that data can show. The average middle class or rich woman isn’t oppressed in any meaningful sense in this country.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:43 PM
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A lot of ugly rich men have ugly wives as well. Go to where rich people hang out and you’ll see for yourself. Rich people marry in their class for the most part. But anyways women are single because they would rather be alone than with an average man. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:36 PM
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Crazy how your comment gets upvoted. It’s a good comment that adds to the conversation but the other end of weirdos high jacking the post to bitch about the feminist extreme me too objectification def gets upvoted as well. How were people able to rightly understand objectification in the context of my posts with your comment but also get hung up on extreme dehumanization shit that I wasn’t talking about. Some of the people here are genuine morons
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:33 PM
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It’s a matter of socialization. I hate to do the we live in a society thing but yeah women are made to feel that they’re in more danger than they are from media and news. Actually all types of violent crimes are down across the board for like the last 30 years but our 24 hour news cycle over reports and sensationalizes crime and crimes against women and children really pull on the heart strings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:46 AM
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I honestly thought it was pretty mild and fair lol. I didn’t even blame women for this or anything but that’s what people keep getting from it. And other weirdos hung up on their “me too” definition of objectification. But this posts was more to make men self aware about why they might be frustrated from missing out on a phase they didn’t have and a porn star dick they never will have. And I see the same circular argument about dad bods vs ripped bodies happening on Instagram. Both sides at an i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:39 AM
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Speaking as someone that was really shy before, the interactions i still regret the most are the ones where someone initiated it and I was too awkward or in my head to help steer the conversation deeper. It’s actually pretty selfish to be so passive that you can’t just reciprocate a conversation especially if you’re already interested. You don’t have to let it be a regret since you still see him sometimes. Next time you see him say “hello, last time we talked I had a lot on my mind and couldn’t …
/r/seduction04/05/25 10:41 PM
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I know, I also didn’t imply any of that is negative just that most average don’t get to experience both sides so that’s the root of their frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 03:04 PM
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I more meant they change their type when they get more serious about a LTR. I honestly don’t know how you didn’t pick up on that. Maybe just nitpicking to argue
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 02:46 PM
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You brought up some good additional points
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 08:22 AM
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It can be the same and it isn’t always negative like you’re assuming
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:48 AM
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Idrc if they do or don’t. They still get to experience something a lot of guys never will. Hence the frustration
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:47 AM
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People have threesomes all the time so idrc about having some negative moral judgement about it. I learned about it way after the fact anyways, but the thing about it that stood out is that they’re normal group you wouldn’t assume got into that stuff. Like I’m talking about College graduates, living regular lives not attached to a biker gang or raving every single week. So it always made me think these kinda things happen even if it’s rare, it’s not that rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 05:41 AM
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Guy could be regular looking and a girls friend group will share him because he has a porn star big dick. Real story btw(not me) I guess 85-90% of men will never experience anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:37 PM
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An average man won’t get into a fwb situation, they have to offer stability and relationship material to women before they grow to be attracted to them in that way. Some end up in That deadbedrooms reddit after all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:31 PM
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Being sexually desired is a privilege, yes. Make it weird if you want to. Thats not the discussion I’m having.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:25 PM
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Yeah just depends on the vibe of the friend group. Men and women in real LTR don’t get into the details as much but when they’re dating around both genders will run their mouths about the partners the encounter sexually
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:21 PM
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I didn’t address it cause I don’t think it’s a real standard for women to have sex with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:19 PM
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She’s committed to making it weird. Better to ignore all together
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 10:13 PM
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I’ve met men obsessed with safety in that way except it’s about getting mugged downtown or being really scared of homeless people. It’s an off putting fixation from either gender and especially when it’s forced into a conversation where it wasn’t relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:18 PM
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That does seem to be the case for some of the posts. The insecurity part not necessarily the projection part.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:07 PM
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Most men are average size so it shouldn’t be a big issue theoretically. It keeps getting discussed because average guys want to be desired and objectified for something only a minority of guys have.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:46 PM
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Men are frustrated they can’t access a fantasy of being casually desired. Your explanation is just a small part of the root frustration
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:41 PM
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I’m not really talking about true crime scenarios with the objectification stuff. Not really relevant here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:38 PM
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Look at the rest of my comments I’m not bitter about it just explaining a common perspective. What’s good with you though? You seem resentful at average people for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:34 PM
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I think you’re projecting. I didn’t ask to be pitied
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:17 PM
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Grass is always greener but do you ever hear when celebrities say they wish they could be a regular person sometimes. Do you actually believe they would throw away the fame and fortune? I’m sure you wouldn’t throw away whatever it is you’re objectified for if it meant being average.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 02:06 PM
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Yeah I meant for this to be my overall point but I guess it didn’t come through that well
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:43 PM
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Tldr: men want to be the fun guy or the big dick guy but most of us never will be leading to frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:40 PM
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Idk just imagine you find out through the grapevine or some way. Or you don’t know but you become more into him after you do the deed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:39 PM
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Yes I agree. But it’s easy to become fixated on the dick thing cause it’s easy to imagine not having to do the work for all the other stuff if you had a big dick. But lifestyle is the most important thing over all and the hardest thing to curate overall
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:28 PM
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Ehh I’ve only met a few men irl that actively hate women and they didn’t seem like they got a lot of play. I’m talking more so about the average guy and gal. But I’ll also add that I don’t resent women for anything I said in the post. Most men are average or uninteresting, women who are just as average and uninteresting don’t have to settle for the average guy while they have more interesting options. I also think it’s a minority of women (I guess 30-40%) who even go through that phase and a sma…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:25 PM
2

I absolutely agree, the problem is a lot of people resent being average. Grass is greener thing but unfortunately most will end up just being average.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:13 PM
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That’s not my point with this. I say in the post that I believe it doesn’t matter to most women in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 01:00 PM
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True, but I think there’s a difference between that and getting sexually validated without having to offer your commitment. Most men are average in most ways though so it is what it is. It causes more frustration now because social media makes us more aware about the different lives other people are living. Back in the day more men were happy with whatever they got.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:59 PM
3

I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 12:54 PM
4

Use text to set up real life meet ups. If she wants to write novels in ur messages you can just give her enough to keep going. Respond quicker when it’s something you’re interested in like the next date but take your time to the paragraphs
/r/seduction02/05/25 04:03 PM
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Nah you show attraction but you don’t come off as accommodating before it’s appropriate or on your time.
/r/seduction02/05/25 03:58 PM
1

This is really good advice. You can front load as the emotional tampon and if you have enough good qualities eventually they might fuck and see you as relationship material. This is kinda of a pathetic way to start a relationship that sets a bad precedent. Or you can be a little selfish, steer the conversation to be more casual, come off as fun care free and less engaged in their bitching and they can like you for that as well. Eventually you can become a little more responsive to her bitching i…
/r/seduction02/05/25 03:48 PM
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Correct and I’ll make it more plain, women don’t trauma dump on the men they’re actually attracted to. They will want to present as their best self, just like a man will. Doesn’t necessarily mean you cant fuck, but it will take longer and overall it’s not worth seriously pursuing.
/r/seduction02/05/25 01:26 PM
1

That’s not crazy to say
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:10 AM
2

I’m glad the men saying that aren’t as naive as to buy that line of bs
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 02:01 AM
1

It’s really hard to build rapport in the beginning. Most will flake. Don’t take it personal, they just don’t care about you yet. Like 7/10 will end like this believe it or not. You’re not doing anything wrong but try to be more bold, light humor and a little arrogant when building rapport. Text game isn’t a real thing, only use text to plan dates etc
/r/seduction30/04/25 10:14 PM
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Just feels like it hugs your dick more. Exactly what tighter implies. And I know the point you’re making about her not being aroused, that’s not what I’m saying, I know that difference. It’ll be warm wet and snug.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 09:58 PM
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Yeah I think it be pretty safe to assume the women who prefer and can accommodate big dicks are less “tight” when aroused than an average woman or the woman’s that say they don’t like big dicks at all. Common sense and my own anecdotal experience confirms that for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:49 PM
2

Most annoying thing about Reddit is the scarlet letter “I would never” thing they pull about cheating. Not that I’ve ever cheated but Ive been cheated on and probably at least half of relationships from friends and acquaintances I’ve know have had cheating involved. I get believing that cheating is bad but to act like it’s this extremely rare thing is really naive at best
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:51 PM
0

All that study says is people overestimate how much sex others are having but another survey asked if people 18-82 have had casual sex. 72% said yes. So it’s common
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:47 PM
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Cheating and casual sex are very common. I think people on reddit are recluse and have recluse circles so they underestimate how often regular people engage in both.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:36 PM
2

Some women’s vaginas are tighter when aroused. They’re not all the same
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 04:30 PM
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I’m not reading all that shit. God damn some of you are overly neurotic. But I agree with you based off the title
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 03:32 PM
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Who are you actually trying to convince here us or you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 11:44 PM
2

Someone else also said it’s probably a hangxiety episode and I agree with that on second thought
/r/seduction22/04/25 11:59 AM
3

Yeah I was being flippant but he does come off as depressed or something
/r/seduction22/04/25 10:24 AM
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Not really my point, he could’ve framed the story like I’m happy i went through this experience, now I’m sure of what I want. Nothing bad or disgusting happened to him, he wasn’t forced into anything yet he’s miserable and ruminating over it. Something about that isn’t normal
/r/seduction22/04/25 10:23 AM
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You probably need to get on depression pills for a few weeks or months. You come off as being very neurotic. “i want something meaningful and not fleeing pleasures like what happened to me .” What happened to you? When you think of yourself and your life story as being the victim of every scenario you get into like this you’re literally always going to be miserable.
/r/seduction22/04/25 03:23 AM
2

It’s straight up just a coping mechanism and likely projection.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:40 PM
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No you’re wrong. Women genuinely need men less for anything they can get out of a relationship than men need women . Especially if they are attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:37 PM
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Yeah. Takes different faces for both genders, but the neurotic ramblings of a black piller and the half coherent musings of feminists who can’t pull are both nauseating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:33 PM
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Ehhh maybe if the man is submissive. I don’t see how that dynamic could work with a man that has his own opinions that aren’t female centric
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:30 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 05:21 PM
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He probably knew the girl from the same social circle and he has enough status and charisma in that social circle for the girl to have grown to be attracted to him. He wouldn’t be able to bag her on a cold approach if the disparity in looks is as big as you say.
/r/seduction21/04/25 02:58 AM
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Girl told me pretty bluntly once after I shared one of those articles about how most women don’t orgasm from sex that it really isn’t hard all they have to do is find someone they’re attracted to that also has a big dick and they’ll have an orgasm. At the time i thought she was just being half serious and joking, like it’s probably more complicated than that but few months ago i came across an article about how there’s a second g spot closer to the cervix that has to be hit to make it easier to …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 01:54 AM
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Nothing wrong with it just weird there’s like a mass gaslighting about it going on
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:53 AM
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Talked very briefly with a few honest women about this over the years, guess I’m endowed enough(not porn star big) for them to feel comfortable being honest but everything you said here is pretty spot on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 12:52 AM
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