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Flat_Shower/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:27 PM
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>I have a high body count, I party, drink and feed external validation ... I have cheated before and all these behaviours (except for the cheating) I've never considered morally wrong as a feminist. It sounds like you've realized that these behaviors are unacceptable. They don't have to be "morally wrong" - they can also just be unhealthy coping mechanisms. Have you considered why you're so insecure, and how you're going to work through this? >I want authentic connections and not always feel lik…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/24 11:05 PM
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Only because I’m a word nerd and learned this recently; you mean “complement” not “compliment” in this context
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 03:09 AM
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Same answer every time this question comes up - make him something :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 08:17 PM
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Make him something. His parents devalued money for him. His parents never knitted him a pair of mittens, a scarf, sewed him a pair of pants, or painted him a beautiful painting.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 03:09 AM
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To your second point, there’s a principle in the corporate world that goes “Disagree and commit” which means; individuals are allowed to disagree while a decision is being made, but that once a decision has been made, everybody must commit to it. It’s a class-act move for either gender.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/23 06:41 PM
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Generally speaking: Red pill is the belief that men and women are equal, complementary, and different. Men and women have different physical and biological strengths, weaknesses, motivations, and goals. Blue pill is the belief that men and women are physically and biologically identical, have the same strengths and weaknesses, and should be viewed as a gendered melting pot.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/23 04:17 PM
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https://youtu.be/yBRHkUU-7JU?si=o0NmpnhbXVPhDZ5J
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/23 02:28 PM
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Welcome to RPW. This is a safe space.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/23 07:19 PM
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I thought this was a serious post until I got to “Armed Robbery”, “Vigilante Bills”, “Enemies Stress”, and “Demonic Attack Stress” 😂 10/10
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/23 04:27 PM
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Alternative suggestion; if sleeping over helps the logistics, state your intent up front “It is a long trip, it would be great to stay the night. Do you have a comfy couch I can sleep on? Should I bring my own blanket or pillow to sleep on the couch?” Men can misperceive intent when the decision to stay over sounds spur of the moment. I don’t like him saying “there’s no pressure to do anything you don’t want to do” - I get rape-y vibes from this comment. “Don’t worry, I won’t murder you”
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/23 05:29 PM
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My most powerful relationship argument tool (this should be illegal it’s so powerful) - Ensure all arguments are 1-sided. Him: “You don’t make enough money you’re a horrible wife” You: “I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling that way. Let’s think about how I can contribute more to the relationship. What ideas do you have? Let’s make a plan” (3 days later) You: “Hey I wanted to let you know that it hurt my feelings when you said I’m a horrible wife” Him: “Yeah, well if you would stop … and be more…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/23 04:59 PM
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I think you answered your own question - there are all different types of men, who are driven to accomplish different things at different stages of their lives. It’s ok to say yes to sex when you’re comfortable and decide it’s the right decision for you at that time.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/23 12:46 AM
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There’s your answer. You think people who participate in competitions of vanity are trashy and the people look fake.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 06:11 PM
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How would you feel if you found out that your husband competed in a bodybuilding competition?
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/23 05:04 PM
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FYI - your challenge led me to my ultimate answer! Section 3.1 of: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S016748701630277X
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:31 PM
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I don’t think women look bad at all. I think there’s a simple societal or biological explanation for why men and women approach competition differently. To define competition; I mean how men and women view others of their same gender while pursing their biological goal to obtain their highest-value match Men and women are perfectly equal in value. However, the redpill ideology recognizes that they are not equal in all dimensions (physical strength, child-bearing, average height, nurturing, asser…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 04:10 PM
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I haven’t seen it in person, no. If a guy talked shit to another guy, there would be an instant physical altercation. What happens on the internet isn’t indicator of either gender, and isn’t a consideration of ours for either side. Men and women can be insecure and petty behind closed doors. Edit: I have seen this once. A man called another man a “weak bitch” and got his nose broken. I spent the night in the hospital with him. I haven’t seen women be direct, either. I see women avoiding women, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 03:25 PM
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I think I may have used a bit of a strong word. If I rephrase it as “I don’t see women rooting for their direct competition in the ways I see men rooting for their direct competition” does that help? In the workplace, my fiancé sees women’s disdain for competition expressed via undermining. This could be neutral or poor peer-feedback, not giving credit when due, or asking overly-critical and unnecessary questions about their work (passive aggression) My interest in this topic came about in the g…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:24 PM
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We (my fiancé and I) have both experienced a fairly large population of men and women over the past 2 years at the same gym. Many of these people are regulars. We have witnessed women avoiding other women, not forming friendships/shallow relationships with other women, not working out with other women. We witnessed this today, but have also been observing this pattern for the past 2 years. Whether it’s on the cardio floor, weights floor, or locker room, men appear to be much more social and enco…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:17 PM
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Apologies, my bullets are actually drawn from a conversation with my fiancé. These are her observations from some combination of gym interactions and interactions she experiences daily in the workplace She’s in a women’s employee resource group (ERG) and sees a lot of surface-level “Yay women! Support each other!” but doesn’t see that same camaraderie play out in practice when those same women interact with one another professionally
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:08 PM
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No, I see that my curiosity is invigorating some passionate, passive-aggressive, and emotional disagreement in you. That isn’t my intention. I am, however, interested in having a polite discussion, and I’m open to being told that my perception isn’t an accurate view of the broader population. It’s less about working out alone, and more about actually pushing other women away who approach them. Yes, more women do cardio than men. Men seem to pick treadmills near other men, and strike up conversat…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:58 PM
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If I could ask a follow-up question; why do you think that is? Is there a deep-down, biological, societal, or other cause/explanation as to why you believe the behavior you describe exists in the ways you’ve experienced it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:50 PM
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A general mentality of men spotting other men (strangers), striking up conversations/making friends, pushing one another, complimenting one another. Women not conversing, side-eyeing one another, refusing attempts from other women to engage with them. These observations (over the past several months) spurred a conversation today, but was a recognized pattern of behavior that seemed to fall along gender lines that made us curious
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:49 PM
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Apologies, I see that my post strayed from my intent. Do you believe men enjoy competing with men more than women enjoy competing with other women? Equal? Less?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:44 PM
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I agree, and my point is more focused on how “friendly” the competition is. I feel (and please, share you contradicting view if you disagree) that men enjoy competition with other men, and women do not enjoy competition with other women
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 01:42 PM
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I love this. I encourage my partner to tell me when they’re getting attention/validation. I want to celebrate their wins. I want them to feel confident. I want them to know they can talk to me about these things. I trust them infinitely, and with that trust, I love to hear how highly other people think of my partner - I’m confident about how much I have to offer my partner, and I love and appreciate them more than any “distraction” ever could. When I hear about the attention they receive, I’m re…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/23 05:23 PM
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Sorry, why would he agree to give you property that he acquired prior to the marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/23 10:20 PM
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Weak Physically weak? Mentally weak? She needs to find a better job In what context? To find a husband? To make more money? To have the pedigree to attract a high-quality husband? people use her That can also be a compliment; “You’re so trusting and kind, people take advantage of your generosity” I think there’s a lot of situational context missing for you to get any credible answers from the community
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/23 03:31 AM
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She’s said in other comments; because she was broke and he was paying the rent. It was financially convenient.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/23 02:38 PM
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You are a cheater. You cheated on your boyfriend for the last 6 months, up until yesterday when you broke up with him. Your new boyfriend should not trust you; you are a cheater. How would you feel if your new boyfriend said “By the way, I lied to and cheated on my ex-girlfriend for the last 6 months”? Would you trust him?
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 10:32 PM
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You shouldn’t reassure him. He shouldn’t trust you. You aren’t trustworthy. Your ex’s cheating is on him. Sorry that happened. That’s on his side of the street. 2 wrongs don’t make a right.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 07:26 PM
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You broke up with your boyfriend yesterday? You’ve been dating a new man for 6 months? You’re worried about your new boyfriend trusting that you won’t betray him, while you’ve been betraying your ex for the past 6 months? For the love of all things holy, please go nun mode and work on yourself for a year.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/23 07:22 PM
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You have a lot to unpack here. I think you should speak with a therapist.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/23 01:43 AM
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Just a man giving man advice in r/redpillwomen. I’m referring to the other user, not you OP
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 09:39 PM
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You’re in the wrong sub, friend
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/23 09:13 PM
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Let me pull this apart rationally - Your goal: Improve your relationship with your husband Complication: Your emotions, or insecurity, for what happened when you were on a break It sounds like you believe your husband is being honest. He could have not told you (and in hindsight, you probably should have both let this sleeping dog lay.) I recommend you use that emotional energy productively in a way that improves your relationship with your husband. Speak with a counselor, or a close friend abou…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/23 03:02 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/comments/15w5jm9/breakup_letter_to_my_fianc%C3%A9/?
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/23 11:41 AM
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He belittles you, disrespects you, doesn’t respect your sexual boundaries, emotionally abuses you, shames your body, has no concern for your safety, is a drug addict…. but orgies is where you draw the line?
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 09:25 PM
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I think you need to go back to focusing on the contents of the breakup letter you wrote him. I think you’re wasting your time stewing on this comparatively minor detail
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 09:17 PM
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To hold up a mirror, and restate what you’re telling me: You both have inner thoughts, and pre-conceived irrational “ideals”. One such example; the Disney fairytale. You have the cultural norms and tact to know that comparing yourself to such fantasies and ideals is harmful and unproductive. His culture is to say whatever is on his mind. He believes he is coming from a place of “honesty” in speaking his mind about his irrational ideals. You believe you are coming from a place of loving and prote…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 12:37 PM
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“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” You can’t change your husband’s ideals. They are; however, just ideals. Your ideals are probably a billionaire with a yacht and a 6-pack. However, you’re loving and respectful enough to know that comparing the husband you love to “ideals” is absurd and cruel. You can change your exercise and eating habits, with the caveat that you love yourself before, …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/23 12:28 PM
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Do you only have 1 chance in your lifetime to finish your training and qualify? If not, keep trying until you do. Perhaps don’t focus so much on what people will think of you. I hope your boyfriend and mother will be supportive of you whether you succeed on your 1st attempt or 5th attempt
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 03:57 PM
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Sorry, I’m not clear on your situation. You’re scared he will think less of you and respect you less… if you finish your healthcare training and work in healthcare? Or if you don’t finish your healthcare training? Would guys look on their girlfriend in a bad way who ______? You would disappoint your mother if you ______?
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/23 03:45 PM
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You deserve to feel valued and appreciated. From his side, he works X hours per week to support himself and yourself (his job of the domestic partnership.) He signed up in your agreement to fulfill that obligation. He doesn’t expect or require your undying admiration for fulfill his end of the agreement. In return, he expects you to expend the same X effort benefitting your domestic life together; whatever that arrangement looks like. Whatever you do to take care of him above and beyond the mini…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 01:34 AM
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Men swipe right on 100% of women anyway. It matters very little what you put on your profile. It’s your job to screen for the type of person you’re looking for, unfortunately.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/23 10:55 AM
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https://ofdollarsanddata.com/what-is-considered-rich/amp/ https://dqydj.com/height-percentile-calculator-for-men-and-women/ https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/obesity-overweight.htm
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/23 03:29 PM
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Top 10% income is $150k Top 10% height for men is 6’2” tall Top 1% earns over $150k and is 6’2” or taller Top .3% earns over $150k, is at least 6’2” tall, and is within a healthy BMI range The majority of this top .3% are just normal people. Tax accountants in HCOL cities. Tech nerds in Silicon Valley. Just want to point out that you’re using examples of rich powerful people that fall in the top .0001%, but saying “top 10%.” I’m aligned with your message - successful people attract successful pe…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/23 11:39 AM
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“I love you and I’m committed to rebuilding our marriage. It soothes me to be involved in the acts of putting your past in the past. Could we go through and delete all of your previous contacts and communications together? This would really give me closure and reassure me that you’re equally committed to moving forward”
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 12:10 PM
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Your post reads that you’re quite desperate. You don’t want a desperate man just like the man of your dreams doesn’t want a desperate woman. I think you need to focus more on being the kind of person the man of your dreams is going to pursue. Build your self confidence, start some admirable hobbies, build useful skills, and learn to love yourself. He will find you when you least expect it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 02:31 AM
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Ah - I see you’re a sugar baby. Is the man you’re seeing one of your Johns? This is a critical piece of information you left out
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 12:46 PM
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If he asked to kiss you, it’s not a friendship. He’s moving slow. Why he’s moving slow we can’t know. Could he be intimidated?
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 12:31 PM
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We can only speculate. He could also just slow (at a glacial pace) and wants a deeply intimate connection before getting more physical. RPW prescribes delaying physical intimacy until you’re in a committed relationship, and it sounds like you’re not. He could also be waiting for the same. We can’t know.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/23 12:06 PM
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Based on this information in connection with your post history, this man is insecure and controlling. I will confirm that this is a red flag. You have not found a competent captain.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 11:14 PM
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In my relationship, my partner and I put equal time, money, energy, and effort into our appearance. The double standard exists if you settle for it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 02:04 PM
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I wake up every day and spend a half hour on my routine to be the best version of myself out of love and respect for my partner. That’s the person they met and fell in love with, and I owe that to them. I also enjoy how it makes me feel about myself. Sure, she sees me at my best and worst, but how I present myself reflects on her, and it’s how I demonstrate my respect for how she’s perceived.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/23 02:01 PM
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I’m in a successful longterm relationship; I’m engaged. That’s all I’ll choose to contribute about my (irrelevant to this discussion) personal life. Nothing the previous reply referenced was mentioned in my comment; nothing about me or my background was mentioned in my comment. The user dug through my profile to dig up information about why I shouldn’t be replying, and then agreed with my opinion by rephrasing my suggestion.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 03:29 PM
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The “with all due respect” was quite emptily followed by an ad hominem attack while simultaneously agreeing with my opinion. What works for you might not work for the next person, and I can just as easily bend and manipulate your words, but will take the high road. Let’s grow up here - I’m not going to respond to your questions about my personal life; they aren’t relevant to the discussion at hand, and I won’t go digging through your profile to attack you. Have a great day.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 03:13 PM
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Maybe if he goes to therapy he won’t be angry
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 03:35 PM
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“Things will improve” This is concerning. More children (of either gender) won’t improve issues in your relationship. Work on your issues. Have more children if you want to bring more children into this world.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/23 08:54 AM
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Solving your overweight problem will be your biggest uplift (I just lost 55 pounds.) While in nun mode, focus on weight loss above all else. Great style complements your body, and a great attitude complements your style. If you don’t pass the physical appearance bar, your style and attitude won’t have a chance to shine with the type of men you wish to attract. However you decide to lose weight (there’s a tremendous amount of information and differing opinions on this topic) pick a strategy that …
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/23 06:17 AM
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Either gender using physical aggression because their communication skills and emotional management skills are inadequate is unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 02:54 PM
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Your post is a bit all over the place. In our red pill ideal, men should want to lead and women should want to follow - yin and yang. More leadership elicits further submission, and vice versa. The woman should indeed be vetting the man. To hold off on submission until he’s properly vetted, however, is a problem. While dating (vetting) you’re both feeling each other out. You’ll know if he’s a leader, he’ll know if you’re a HVM who submits by your demeanor, actions, and words. He’ll “lead” during…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/23 04:31 PM
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Just to hold up a mirror, you’re saying: You acknowledge that hair and makeup is important to femininity, which you desire, but are unwilling to change you hair or wear makeup. You don’t like feminine clothing, such as dresses, and wear men’s clothes. Respectfully, I might suggest you take a step back and ask yourself if you’re actually ready to change, even if you say you want to change.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/23 02:45 AM
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“Alpha” has colloquial meaning today to mean something along the lines of; confident, successful, strong, protective, charismatic, dominant, and masculine. Some women gravitate toward these men because they arise a deep primal instinctual lust in them - sometimes called “lizard brain”
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/23 01:03 PM
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It sounds like your highest return-on-investment progress would be on mental health. Next highest; nutrition. Next highest; self care.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/23 06:56 PM
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No, I’m really not sure where you’re getting this notion.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 06:46 PM
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Modern women are seen as the diametric opposite of traditional women. You are among those of the community of traditional women here. With polar belief systems, such as politics, both groups are vocal about why their belief system is the superior belief system, and therefor all opposed should join their own belief system. This is a group of women who believe in the less popular belief system in current zeitgeist. The opinion you will find here is that indeed, traditional women is the better life…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 06:35 PM
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I don’t think redpillwomen believes “modern women” are inherently bad, per se. Women being equal to men in all ways at all times is a belief that some people deeply believe in, and we respect them. Women being soft, lovely, feminine, caring, submissive, nurturing and supportive, while their men are strong, driven, protective, masculine, dominant, and providing is another belief system that the red pill community subscribes to. If one model speaks to you, join that community. If neither model spe…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/23 06:02 PM
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The redpillwomen approach is to be lovely and encouraging to him when he pays the bill. Carrot, not stick. Shape, reward, and encourage the behaviors you want from him. It sounds like him paying the bill turns you on - make sure he knows that the favors/acts he gets when he pays the bill are connected to him paying the bill.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 11:28 PM
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Male ^ Your goals are great, congrats on putting in all the hard work! Your comparison to RP men is a bit confusing to me. It seems like you’re comparing men’s self-improvement areas to increase their SMV/RMV to your personal goals; mostly unrelated to your SMV/RMV. I think if you go to a general “accountability” sub, or “achieve my goals” sub, you’ll find men and women achieving all sorts of goals. RP men (and r/RedPillWomen) is primarily aimed towards those looking for a forum to discuss their…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/23 03:00 PM
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We were in our early 20’s. I was ambitious; I had a long list of things I wanted to accomplish. She had a long list of things she wanted to accomplish. Over the following years, I worked hard to accomplish my goals. She was a waitress and wanted an adult job like her friends, but would never write a resume or apply. She wanted to lose weight, but instead ate fast food and gained weight. She wanted to pick up hobbies and learn skills, but she just binged Netflix. She wanted to be financially resp…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/23 10:01 AM
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Yep great point, couldn’t agree more. I picked a poor hypothetical. One closer to home for me is ambition. A gal I dated for many years portrayed that she had ambition (I use this word generically to mean “tendencies to improve herself and her surroundings”) and proved early on in our relationship - that it was not true. I used encouragement, positive reinforcement, and all of my other tools to try to get her to work towards becoming the person she wanted to be. It took me almost 5 years to cut …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 08:04 PM
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Male ^ I agree that men will go to extreme lengths for the right woman. I was attacked by RPW in the past for stating this, but that is what I know to be true from personal experience and witnessing this happen in my circles and in friend, colleague, and family relationships. My opinion is that; if it’s not crystal clear that you’re his priority, you’re not his priority. One distinction I think is important to add to your last paragraph. In committed relationships, change can be healthy. I want …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 03:17 PM
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What culture is into car sex?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/23 01:01 AM
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:) Feel free to DM me u/Lea_Ugly_Lea - happy to help
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/23 07:53 PM
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Got it. I misunderstood. My apologies.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 02:48 PM
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I’m not sure how you got that message out of my reply - I am giving specific direction on “what to do in school if you don’t plan on having a career”
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 02:43 PM
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Practical in the context of a goal of not having a career; being a professional home maker. I agree they are not practical careers.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 02:39 PM
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If you don’t like your situation, change it. If people in your area don’t get married until 35, go to a different area. You aren’t a tree. This is what M.R.S. Degrees are for. Study whatever you feel like; arts, psychology, English, underwater basket weaving; it doesn’t matter. Do whatever entertains you. You could also look into something practical like culinary school or interior design. This can elevate your RMV.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/23 12:02 PM
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It seems like you’re finding unimportant things about him (height, arms) to justify that you’re not into him. I would encourage you to continue exploring things that aren’t working in your potential relationship. I don’t think you’ve quite put your finger on it yet.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/23 08:53 PM
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I think you’re violating rule 9. Delete your post and leave, or the mods will help you
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/23 10:48 PM
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He’s just spamming it in every sub he can find
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/23 01:56 PM
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Your post will be removed by the mods. This isn’t a place for men to ask questions to women. Try r/purplepilldebate
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/23 11:08 AM
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Sorry, you’re in the wrong sub. See rule #9
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/23 11:03 AM
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As a male, I’m absolutely blown away that you’re losing sleep over this. You violated his space, went through his stuff, and found an old picture. Is this any different than finding his old MySpace with pictures of his girlfriend from 8th grade? You have incredible jealousy issues. If anything, you need to fess up that you violated his trust and forget about the picture; stop going through other people’s things. If I found out you did this to me, this would be a serious red flag. You didn’t find…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/23 10:21 AM
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Cute dress, cutest shoes that you can still walk trails in
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 08:46 PM
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Just went on a hike and looked around with this in mind - with a great variety of cultures represented. The feminine women wore dresses. The Eastern European and American feminists wore skin tight clothing (yoga pants.) Hiking isn’t distance running, a marathon, or really require any special equipment except for a good pair of shoes, if particularly strenuous. I (male) wore Sperry’s on a 5-mile hike because they went with my linen button-down better than running shoes.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 08:39 PM
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You’re disagreeing with quite a non-sequitur subtext of my reply. Men and women compete with other men and women, for life. Your wonderfully healthy marriage doesn’t change that fact. The precise point I’m illustrating is; men and women have needs. When those needs aren’t met, many men and women look elsewhere to have those needs met.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 09:27 AM
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Let me premise this with - I agree that it is desensitizing men - and that isn’t good for the dating market. Like the stock market, we want the dating market to work in predictable and fair ways for both sexes, and porn is damaging the market conditions. You talk about “competing” a few times. I take it to mean that women must compete with the hyper-sexuality, or appearance of porn stars? Men and women are competing for one another; whether in the dating phase or marriage phase, for their entire…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/23 08:51 AM
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Those words would make me quite uncomfortable - I’d prefer to be shown love, and feel that words are cheap.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 05:44 PM
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(If words of affirmation are his love language)
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/23 11:26 AM
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Man here (I say this to say; take this with a grain of salt, not because I think it gives me any credibility) - Think about this perspective: If you begin dating now, the best you’ll end up with is the guy who is willing to accept you in your current state. You intend to get better over time. Will he? Will you? There’s a lot of uncertainty. What’s certain is that you and he are both trying to optimize for meeting the best possible mate, and you would be his best possible mate, if he picks you. I…
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/23 01:57 PM
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Sorry, why would a man take you shopping on a first date? Are you looking for a high value husband to settle down with? The way you’ve written this makes it sound more like “you buy me expensive things and I’ll sleep with you” (prostitution) but I feel like we’re missing some details here
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/23 06:55 PM
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One observation: I never knew I wanted a male-led relationship until very recently. My whole life, I was in the equality/feminism boat (raised by my sister+mother who are pretty far-left feminists.) My relationships didn’t work. The power struggle was miserable. Constant bickering for pecking-order. When I finally dated a girl who played first mate well, the captain/first mate clicked.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:55 AM
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You are a lovely person and he is incredibly insecure and manipulative. So manipulate in fact, that he has you asking the internet if you’re the one who was being unreasonable. Forget that man ever existed.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:50 AM
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Her first special was my favorite ever
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 06:21 PM
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I saw her live. She’s most excellent. Her humor has drifted away from who-I-discovered-her-as (more towards self awareness, poking fun at herself) and more towards relationships/dating (just a bit more generic, but probably better for her!)
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 06:07 PM
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Well said. The more feminine women are, the more masculine leaders they attract. Rather than saying you’re looking for a male to lead, show that you are a feminine woman.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 12:03 PM
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My only actionable feedback is to drop the Tate sentence. Reason being; the “don’t wants” in dating profiles are inherently pessimistic. Also; the “yucky-in-love” sentence. Perhaps avoid mentioning marriage on your dating profile. I’m also not sure how I feel about the “extremely loyal” part. Totally wonderful trait. Taylor Tomlinson (comedian) has a great joke about her boyfriend telling her that a girl flirted with him and he turned her down. “Wow babe, thank you for honoring the most basic te…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 11:40 AM
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To take a step back; I don’t mean to imply you had any intention of doing so, but seeing his search history is a major invasion of privacy. How would you feel about him seeing your Google search history? Some weird stuff, probably that you can explain away if given the chance? I think you’re getting in your own head. If I understand correctly; your boyfriend searched for his friend’s fiancé? Why did he look her up? Did you ask him? If you don’t know why your boyfriend searched his friend’s f i a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/23 02:28 AM
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You’re breaking rule 9. Kindly take your RPM nonsense elsewhere. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/23 12:32 PM
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No, you don’t owe him an explanation. You have more respect for yourself and higher standards than he can fulfill. “Sorry, I’m not interested in taking this farther, and it was good to reconnect” is all that’s necessary. Being respectful and lovely in telling him that you’re going to pursue other options (while portraying how disconnected you are from the matter, emotionally) is the most powerful last-word you could possibly have. A deafening silence. You don’t need to put him down (“you hurt me…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/23 06:33 PM
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You’re breaking rule #9
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/23 02:29 PM
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To agree with Sunshine; yes, this is unrealistic. You are searching for probably a pool of 100 people in the US; and perhaps 5 of them are within your age range and single. It seems like the general theme of your wish list is apathetic and disconnected from their partner and their life? You also have some contradictions… Fit, financially responsible, anti-consumerism. If you want a man who is motivated, he is likely motivated by having some finer things in life. With motivation comes fitness. Gi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 08:13 PM
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r/redpillmen You’re in the wrong place You’re breaking rule #9
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/23 04:47 PM
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I’m a male, and after learning of his existence from the whole international sex trafficking incident, I’m extremely unimpressed by him. His tough guy facade is quite thin and transparent. How he gained any notoriety; I don’t quite understand. He is quite obviously insecure and attention seeking.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/23 09:16 PM
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I think you should reconsider drawing lines along political boundaries. A conservative (politically) and a woman who dresses conservatively share no causality. I’m also a New Yorker, I’m a-political, and I’ve consistently observed that individuals who say make generalizations about others based on their perceived political affiliation are quite immature and close-minded.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/23 05:15 PM
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2 ounces of gold A stack of $20 bills A check made out to “cash” Venmo/Zelle
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 11:23 AM
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I think you missed my intention a bit. If a gal is getting cat-called, for example (in the OP) and a man were to intervene, this escalates the situation. If it goes further than a cat-call, I have no opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 12:50 AM
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I’d argue the woman rejecting an advance is in less danger. A man intervening is escalating the situation.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 12:45 AM
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In certain cultures that are alive and well in other countries, men would let another man force himself on a woman in the streets. Men know it’s acceptable, and they are culturally allowed to do as they please to any woman they see. As I said in another comment; while the average man won’t look or act protective, if it actually came down to your physical safety from an unwanted advance, we are programmed to intervene. Not because “chivalry” but because lizard brain “protect the women”
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 12:44 AM
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Male opinion - I think the whole concept of white knights is impacting this. You have to realize, if I’m going to disagree with another man in public who is already showing signs of being creepy an aggressive, I have to be willing to put my fists behind it. Last week I told a kid whose skateboard almost hit me “hey be careful” and just about ended up in a physical altercation. Will it turn into a fist fight? Probably not, but when men argue, there is an implied threat of violence. If I don’t kno…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/23 11:42 PM
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Male opinion - regardless of faith, you pose a red flag. This is like meeting a girl who is very overweight, but will “definitely lose weight if you marry me” or a girl who drinks daily, but will “definitely quit drinking when I get pregnant”. If you could lose weight, or could stop drinking, wouldn’t you have done it already? I understand that on one hand, there’s this religious contradiction, and on the other hand, there’s a redpill contradiction. This in itself should be telling you something…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 12:05 PM
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I clearly have far less knowledge/experience about pedophilia than you, I bow to your expertise on the subject.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/23 01:16 AM
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Agreeing that the RPW principle of submission is being applied a bit too liberally here. To play devil’s advocate, we aren’t talking about him driving off a bridge, we’re talking about him driving along a bridge with no guardrails, in full sober control of the car. Will he hit a patch of ice and plunge you all to your death? Will he navigate the treacherous bridge diligently? We preferred that he didn’t end up on this narrow, dangerous bridge in the first place, but now that we’re here, we need …
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 11:36 PM
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Yes, but to move forward we need to be willing to. What if he does acknowledge why he did it? What if he does work through it?
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 11:30 PM
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Removing my comment because, as comments and this story has evolved, it sounds like a dangerous religious situation, and not a matter where the self-improvement advice that RPW is great at providing can help. I fear for the safety of the children.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 11:03 PM
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OP said that her post was getting auto-flagged previously. OP is aware of this. If OP types the word, they can’t post their question. They are not confused on this.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/23 10:48 PM
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Well, to give some constructive advice: You’re playing crazy games. I read some of your post history. Your husband cheats on you. He’s done it before, he hasn’t changed (I know this because you made this post.) My question for you is: What is your goal? Is it truly to give him 1 last chance? Or is this a mechanism to clean your conscience with the inevitable divorce (“I did everything I could, this was his choice”.) If your goal is to give him 1 last chance, you need to be abundantly trusting an…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 05:21 PM
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Damn, girl. You are crazy like that glue.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 05:07 PM
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Is your husband a software engineer, by chance?
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 11:24 PM
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In the spirit of actual redpill women, I’d like to offer some constructive advice. If he isn’t being the kind of person you want him to be, the only thing you can do is be the kind of women that inspires him to be the kind of man you want. Why did he buy you the laptop? It sounds like you were having a problem, and he solved that problem for you. You didn’t go solve your own problem, you simply showed that your life would be easier if he did that thing for you, and he did that thing for you. Hav…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 12:20 PM
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You’re in the wrong sub :) this is redpill women
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 06:44 PM
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It sounds like there’s common ground to meet in the middle. If you’re able, and he’s able, this sounds like a fairly easy resolution
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/23 05:41 PM
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It’s quite easy to differentiate. Watch how he influences other men. Does he force his will on others, or does he lead by example? Is he loud, and talks over others, or is he calculated and decisive?
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/23 03:09 AM
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Cut this person out of your life he is wasting your time and energy
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/23 07:52 PM
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There was a very recent thread exploring the exact same question: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/10g87so/what_are_signs_a_woman_is_high_value_what_are_her/
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 08:00 PM
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Focus primarily on your diet, and secondarily on your fitness. If you’re hungry and don’t have the energy to work out, don’t work out. Focus less on toning and building muscle. Count calories, and/or focus on cleaner eating and eating fewer calorie-dense foods.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 02:15 AM
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Male opinion - Yes; just per general redpill ideology, your observation makes sense. Just how in the corporate world, your resume gets you the interview and the interview gets you the job. In the dating world, your appearance gets you the date and the date can evolve into a relationship. There are different ways to improve yourself depending on which stage of the process you aren’t getting the result you want. If getting dates with the men you’re interested in is challenging, then you can work o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/23 07:09 PM
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What I mean by “uncomplicated relationship” is that pearl’s literature doesn’t touch on spouses get hit by busses, cheating, or turning into reptiles. There are near-infinite reasons that unconditional love or respect isn’t granted, but a vast majority of reader’s can still benefit from the general guidance.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 04:40 PM
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I answered that question to the commenter above
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 04:07 AM
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Silly, willing to let loose, be goofy, get excited about silly things, be expressive, honesty, sweetness, innocence
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 01:59 AM
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Drop your comments in pearl’s thread and tell her what you disagree with. My interpretation of Pearl’s literature is that it’s a general framework for navigating uncomplicated (marital/domestic) relationships. Life can always throw all sorts of things at you, and how/whether you choose to implement the framework is up to you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 11:13 PM
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Yes, love and respect must both be unconditional. See: www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/ppjvd2/back_to_basics_september_love_and_respect_for/
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 10:40 PM
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It's not about achieving all of these things, just common traits I've noticed among the women I've dated.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 07:55 PM
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I don't think of this as some checklist, where I won't give a woman the time of day unless she checks every box. You can list all sorts of things that many high-value men overlap on, and that doesn't mean any HVM has all of them. I see this as "ideals to strive for" not some "minimum bar for entry"
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 07:53 PM
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Male opinion: Well spoken, sweet spoken, positive. Kind, calm, cool, collected. She is both humble and prideful, as demonstrated by her great posture, femininity, self-care, and beauty habits. She has reasonable boundaries that she is quite sure of, and enforces strictly and gracefully. She is childlike, and never childish. She is emotionally mature and other women gravitate toward her due to the way she conducts herself. She can follow, takes direction well, solicits feedback, and respects unco…
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 06:13 PM
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you don’t need to do anything special to deserve gifts Actually, and from personal experience, I’d suggest that be changed to the only thing you need to do to be deserving of gifts is to be appreciative of gifts
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 02:20 AM
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I think you’re mixing up trad and redpill. Redpill is an idealogy to improve the closeness and communication in your relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 06:33 PM
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“What’s your opinion on argyle sweaters?”
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 02:18 AM
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I’m not sure what any of this has to do with Redpill. Redpill: Focusing on the way you act towards, and respond to your husband. The only thing that the redpill community can comment on in your entire post is “I flew into a bit of a rage” - you could have responded better. If you’ve consistently done what you can to look your best, be your best, make his life easy, and treat him as well as you can, you shouldn’t have any regrets. You can’t change the past, you can only change your future by mast…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 12:28 AM
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Being someone worthy of his marriage. Being more of a long-term asset (in all areas) than liability. Being the best option for him in the short and mid term. Providing enough value, positivity, and uplift to his life for him to feel certain that he will continue to want those things in his life
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:45 AM
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What differences do you see between trad women and RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/23 02:26 PM
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My issue with Tate is his clear insecurity and need to put on a façade to impress people. Men who gravitate to him are quite unimpressive.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/23 02:54 AM
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“He automatically dismisses me as being overly emotional or argumentative” This is a 🚩 While redpill ideology does suggest that the man has the final decision, it also describes a fair and equitable judge. When you trust your captain to be the judge and the jury, he must be a fair and impartial judge; listening closely to both sides of the argument, voicing his understanding of both sides, even walking through the benefits and merits of each side, before issuing a ruling. If the judge is banging…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 10:44 PM
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I think that’s a valid fantasy, but there are also emotional connections that can only be formed over time - like inside jokes, favorite TV shows, etc. Yes, you could find a guy that’s very attractive and easy to talk to that you could fall in lust with. To have a healthy emotional connection naturally develop, you have to be open to that (and I have a feeling you’re a bit closed off due to the recency of other guy.) I’m sort of wondering if you’re telling yourself you’re emotionally available f…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 10:22 PM
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Have you considered that your ex still might be a bit too recent for you to fully emotionally detach from him?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 10:15 PM
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Shallow? No, there needs to be attraction. If he cut his hair and lost 20 pounds, would he be there? I speculate it’s more than just those 2 factors. Does his personality show you that he values self improvement? If so, why hasn’t he done it already? I see 2 routes; Cut things off. You aren’t attracted to him, and he can’t get there. How you choose to end it is up to you, but as a male, I’ll say that “I just wasn’t feeling the spark, I really gave it a shot, I don’t want to lead you on” is the b…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/23 09:50 PM
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I’m applying redpill to OPs post. This is all documented stuff. You’re putting words in my mouth. I fully agree you and all other women are getting the nicest most masculine men they can. This is basic evolution. I didn’t say settle for what you can get. Im saying appreciate what you have. No, I don’t want to be settled for. I
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 10:12 PM
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This isn’t an issue of nice or masculine. She will get a man who is masculine (on a spectrum, half of men are more masculine than feminine.) Half of men treat her above-average. Everything is a spectrum. Let’s say OP’s SMV is 8/10 and her RMV is 6/10. If OP sleeps with a man who is 8/10 SMV and 8/10 RMV, he won’t want to commit to her. If he is 10/10 SMV and 5/10 RMV, OP won’t commit to him. If he’s 5/10 SMV 10/10 RMV, OP won’t go on a date with him. She got together with alpha guy based on his …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 10:04 PM
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No, this statement does not depend who you are - your post tells everything anyone needs to know. There are very few exceptions to people truly pairing out of their league. You found your upper boundaries. 8’s are conventionally very attractive, as are 10’s. There are top 10 schools, and top 50 schools. Across all factors, we play in our own leagues. You found the guy in your league with high SMV, and you found the guy in your league with high RMV. The guy with SMV of your alpha and the RMV of y…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 02:34 PM
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It sounds like you feel like you’re making a trade off for a less attractive, less assertive, less dominant man. In exchange, he’s kind, caring, and commits to you. I speculate you think that you’ve settled for less than you deserve, because you slept with the “alpha” and want everything the alpha had to offer, plus everything your current guy has to offer. Quite honestly, picture this man: has his shit together, is successful, assertive, owns a business, is conventionally very attractive, takes…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 02:14 PM
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Goddamn I heard the mic drop from all the way over here.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/23 02:05 PM
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Single male perspective, take with a grain of salt. I actually admire people (men, women) who address their flaws or insecurities. I might slightly value the woman more who got a nose job to have “the nose” than the one that was born with it. Are our kids going to have your nose or my nose? We don’t know. We’ll start a savings account and give it to the kid when they turn 18 to either buy a car or nose job. Not a big deal. The genetics factor; not a big deal. Cosmetic surgery? I don’t have some …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 03:31 AM
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Interesting. For me, I think there have been times when I’ve been on a date and realized she is or isn’t relationship material. For men, this doesn’t change the trajectory of the first few dates. It just sets a subconscious expiration date “don’t let this go on too long” - sometimes it does go on for too long, and that’s the territory where even guys will say “come on man, let her go.” I don’t think it comes from a malicious place like I hear some gals saying “I’m just going to get sex from her …
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 05:53 PM
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Online dating has had interesting consequences. By control, I assume you mean “he won’t leave me, because he could never do better?” The difference between in online dating experience for a man between a 6 and a 9 is drastic, but that difference isn’t felt by either the 6 or the 9. The 6 might have a .1% match rate, and the 1 might have a 1% match rate. Soul-crushing for men. Meanwhile, the female 6 and 9 might be 75% vs. 90%. The only impact is a boost in confidence. It’s an interesting game wh…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 05:40 PM
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I thought your observation that women have to date-down for commitment is interesting. Research shows that men rate women on a pretty normal distribution, whereas women rate 80% of men “below average.” Do you think that women might overestimate themselves, and instead, their actual equal feels like dating-down to them?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/23 05:29 PM
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I’m not perfect. One skill that I’ve grown tremendously in is realizing the actual relative importance of things - even in the heat of the moment. I’m pretty good at realizing “this disagreement is counterproductive, will hurt my feelings and disrupt my day, my reaction doesn’t match the importance, therefor I forfeit completely”. Where I have the most room to grow is staggering the thought (“I want milk, he didn’t get me milk”) and the action (“go get me milk”). With a bit of a delay, and a bit…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 05:19 PM
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Who messed up here isn’t relevant. That isn’t what TRP is about. If you want to assign blame, check out r/relationshipadvice. TRP focuses on skills to maintain harmony in romantic relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 03:15 PM
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Not that this is some sage wisdom, but the devil is in the details (and by details, I mean how you approach situations.) You woke up. You’re laying in bed. You’re thinking about making your breakfast, starting you day, putting milk in your coffee… “wait a minute”, you think! He didn’t get the milk! Ok, we’re good up to here. All’s well. Next, we need a freeze frame. We zoom out, and Morgan freeman’s voice comes on. He describes options; “Honey, will you go get me milk?” And “My coffee really mak…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 02:58 PM
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I don’t know what he’s feeling, but I would feel pretty emasculated if I didn’t perform a basic, easy, simple task that I know is my duty for my wife who recently birthed my child. I would beat myself up. I would feel awful. Conflict-free relationship? Tell him how much milk would make your morning the best morning ever. Then detach from the outcome and go about your day. I suspect milk would probably show up :) it sounds like he was pretty exhausted. He’s just some guy doing the best that he ca…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 02:49 PM
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I speculate he is feeling like you nagged him, there’s some pattern of behavior that this altercation fell into, he feels inadequate, and/or disrespected. If what happened today was purely and strictly an isolated incident, there’s a very low likelihood for his behavior. I lean toward him feeling disrespected by your attitude. I don’t say this to put you down. Your feelings are quite valid, and your situation sounds frustrating. I’m sorry that you’re going through this. What can your takeaway be…
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 02:47 PM
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Male opinion - take with a grain of salt. You may have thought you hid your frustration, but been passive aggressive or tipped him off that you’re irritated with him. There are 2 issues here which are important to separate - The milk - It would have been nice for him to happily and lovingly gotten you the milk. Your feelings are quite understandable. Your approach - you could have gone a day without milk. The harmony in your relationship is more important than the milk. He could also be feeling …
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/23 02:38 PM
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You sound like a boss babe ✨ go get yours, girl
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 08:57 PM
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Why are you posting this here?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 08:05 PM
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It sounds like you haven’t surrendered
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/23 07:28 PM
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I take all of the gals seriously, but it’s a two-way street. They might not like something about me. The first date is frequently a bit awkward/tense. Some gals take that as a sign from the gods that we aren’t “destined to be together.” There are all sorts of reasons I’ve been given that she wasn’t into me, when I was into/serious about her. What do you mean by “a cheap guy”? He’s taking you on a date to a jazz club. He’s getting to know you better. He is interested enough in your to take you on…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/22 02:01 AM
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I don’t have a strict formula. Generally speaking, my first date is casual and non-committal, but has a good premise for getting to know one another. Coffee shop, walk around a lake and froyo, etc. (never alcohol) Second date, I like to do something more meal-oriented but informal. Grab sandwiches at a hole-in-the-wall excellent sandwich shop, sit at the top of a big hill to watch a sunset, or go to a super hidden/secretive local restaurant that’s a “if you know, you know” kind of place with gre…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 10:38 PM
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Male perspective - when dating, I want to get to a 2nd or 3rd date before trying to impress her. There are a lot of first dates, and about half of first dates become second dates (and half on third, and so on.) It can be expensive and frustrating trying to woo a woman at such an early stage. In my early 20’s, I caught myself getting frustrated after dropping $$ on a big 1st/2nd date and having the gal say “sorry, I didn’t feel the spark” and ghost me. It wasn’t fair of me to grow resentful towar…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/22 10:14 PM
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As kindly as I can put this; if you aren’t losing weight, your diet isn’t working. Exercise is a great way to widen a caloric deficit, but without the diet dialed in, exercise is completely ineffective. If your goal is weight loss, double down on fixing your diet and don’t focus on exercise. If, on your diet, you’re starving and telling your friends and family “I’m on a diet” - you’re doing it wrong. Diet isn’t something you go on and off of, it’s an adjustment of decisions and lifestyle. Focus …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/22 12:34 PM
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Based on your asking this question, I’m going to assert that you should probably be texting him less often. There is no golden rule. At least once per day, if you’re committed to one another. Focus your texting more on “Thinking about you, have a great day” and less on asking him questions that demand a reply.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/22 11:44 PM
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Kid Francescoli
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/22 08:06 PM
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I’m specifically referring to the language and culture of RPM subreddit. I should have been more clear about that.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 11:40 AM
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It seems like alcohol is a common thread. Why doesn’t he stop drinking? It seems like that would improve almost everything.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 03:35 AM
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I’m a male. I’m here because I don’t quite agree with the red pill men, but find the red pill women’s perspective more aligned with my goals. We men are simple creatures, and communicate with metaphors. We don’t see women as inanimate objects. “Wouldn’t you check the Carfax before buying a car” is a “manly” way of communicating feelings, because we suck at feelings. What we mean is “before making a big long-term commitment with potential massive consequences, do your research.” It’s also “trendy…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/22 03:23 AM
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You’re making a pretty broad leap. Changing yourself to improve your surroundings isn’t negative.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 08:32 PM
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I got my tattoos removed because I used to want them, and now I don’t want them. “I’ve never had tattoos” would be deceptive. I got mine removed because I used to not care about finding the highest value mate I could, and when my goals changed, I made the changes that helped me accomplish my goals.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 08:06 PM
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Got it. ​ To address your husband - he is hearing you say "I wish my weight was lower, I'm not committed to weight loss, I have other priorities right now, and I don't feel good about this incongruity" to which he replies "Yes, you're right. You aren't committed, I'm sorry you don't feel good about yourself" - there's no problem for him to solve. If you want to process your feelings about not being ready to lose weight and being insecure, vent to your girls, not your husband. "I can’t seem to ge…
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 03:56 PM
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What would you seek counseling for? Maybe I’m missing your question. You’re 50-70 pounds overweight. Your husband wants you to be more healthy. You want to be more healthy. You’re frustrated with your husband. You aren’t motivated enough to lose the weight. You’re in a cycle, where your husband encourages you to lose weight, and you don’t lose weight. I don’t think you need counseling, I think you need a nutritionist? Why are you making your husband manage your weight for you?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/22 02:44 PM
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I (male) have mostly focused on upper body and neglected core. I could write pages about upper body workouts. Just a few weeks ago I started getting more serious about core. I like to do twisting ab crunches, vertical leg lifts, glute bridge, and planks.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 03:47 AM
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Every day is leg day. Or more seriously, many women at my gym do legs/core/HIIT exclusively. Just like men skip leg day, women can skip push/pull (upper body) days
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/22 03:17 AM
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