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By convincing those who already have kids to have more. Someone who’s militantly childfree is probably gonna stay that way. Someone with an only child who’s on the fence about giving them a sibling might change their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 01:51 PM
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They’ll be like “you’re lucky guys don’t like you” and think it’s a compliment 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:54 AM
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The very top tier might get legit job opportunities based on their looks alone, but I really don’t think that life for a 6/7 is radically different than life for a 4/5. People will dismiss women’s accomplishments regardless as diversity or pity hires.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:52 AM
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A bit unkempt with the eyebrows but he fits the male beauty standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 09:06 PM
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Dressing well won’t turn a 10 into a 1 but if someone’s style is actively making them look worse, why wouldn’t they want to change it? No one has to wear designer fits but wearing clothes in the right size with colors that work for you isn’t gonna hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 09:04 PM
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The discourse around pretty privilege being a major disadvantage feels off to me because most of the problems they mention are also things that mid and even ugly women deal with as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 09:03 PM
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Being a pick me is more about actions. Like trying to embarrass your friends as a joke to look better to guys, not caring if a guy has a gf, and fishing for compliments. The opinions you listed are all pretty popular and not extreme imo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 11:05 PM
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I’ve seen guys on here say it’s “gay” to just…not look sloppy. Like no one should be wearing pajama pants in public. Going from graphic tees to regular t shirts, cargo shorts to jeans that fit right, and crocs to actual shoes isn’t that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 10:57 PM
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They’ll do all this while having their own type that probably isn’t that into him, likely because he’s not matching his style/aura to attract them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 10:54 PM
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Q4M: what does “cute” mean to you? Is it a gentle letdown? Is being “cute” instead of hot/sexy good enough for your personal taste?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 02:01 PM
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I have a friend like this who complains about being harassed and used due to her looks and it’s like…you know this happens to average and below average women too right? Except they’re less likely to be believed.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:58 PM
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They usually mean “an average looking person that I personally find attractive”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 01:56 PM
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I’m generous and non materialistic. I value effort over money when it comes to things like gifts and would much rather receive a $20 gift that’s related to one of my hobbies than an expensive piece of jewelry. I like to go out and do fun things. I’m very loyal and naturally kinda submissive. I put a decent amount of effort into my appearance (makeup, gym a few time per week, healthy bmi).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/26 09:39 PM
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They purposely go for women in bad situations or with low self esteem. They don’t mind lying, often to multiple women at a time, to get what they want. There are guys that are willing to fake a whole relationship and a family with a woman because it makes them look good to their peers and families. Male gold diggers are a thing as well they just stand out less because instead women get blamed for “choosing badly.” Your average guy is more risk averse, doesn’t particularly try to stand out and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 03:34 PM
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Shaming just pushes the already loud childfree people further to the extreme. They’ve already managed to convince an entire generation that having kids is financially impossible, selfish, conservative and anti feminist. The idea that poor people shouldn’t have kids is the dominant viewpoint for gen z and millennials. Instead of focusing on the people who are vehemently anti kid, society/governments should help those who have 1-2 kids and want more, and those who want kids but can’t afford childc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 12:17 PM
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My first thought was “who would be able to afford this?” Even if this becomes a thing it’ll probably just be for the ultra rich
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 05:54 PM
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Social skills have gotten much worse across the board. I’m 28 and the amount of otherwise normal people I know under 30 who have never dated is super high. At my job some of the younger men just stare at women they have crushes on but refuse to engage in an actual conversation. I think the fear of being seen as a creep is a huge deterrent for shy and awkward guys. The only people consistently making moves these days are fuckboys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/26 05:53 PM
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I probably wouldn’t date a trans man. I might experiment with one but I’m not really into that look. My ex has been with trans women and I’m still in love with him and would take him back in a heartbeat so I guess the answer to that one is yes. It’s not my preference but not a dealbreaker
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 06:41 PM
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No. As long as he can take no for an answer there’s nothing wrong with shooting your shot and missing, in my opinion. I had to politely turn down a male coworker and he was super chill about it. We’re still close friends to this day and it’s not weird at all. I’ve also had dudes I barely know slide into my dm’s and harass me after I’ve said no multiple times. But as long as you’re not acting like that, simply having unrequited feelings for me is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 11:57 PM
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In your orbit but not your closest circle. Maybe a coworker in a different department or a friend’s relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 05:55 PM
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Even mid is pushing it. The women I know who literally sleep around indiscriminately are not conventionally attractive at all. They’re usually obese, don’t take great care of themselves, and use sex as validation. Average looking women mostly stay single or have normal relationships. I’ve worked in food service for over a decade. The biggest ho at my store is a fat Disney adult with two kids who makes $15 an hour and doesn’t change her clothes for days at a time. She’s just very openly sexual an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 02:14 PM
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If looks are your main priority, then you’re probably gonna have to sacrifice the socially impressive and ambition parts. If you’re below average looking and not super rich, I’d recommend looking for people who are slightly better looking than you and slightly worse off financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 02:00 PM
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My brother is 24 and met his gf in college 4 years ago. Before that he had a gf in high school for a couple of months and at least two situationships at the end of high school and the beginning of college before meeting his current gf. Lookswise he wouldn’t be a “Chad” by this sub’s standards because he’s half Asian and 5’8 but he’s super athletic, has tons of friends and was in a frat. His girlfriend is slightly above average (white brunette, skinny and toned with no curves, trendy clean girl a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 08:33 PM
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Attractive enough: body within a healthy weight range, taller than me, a full head of hair, good hygiene, decent style. Someone who prefers going out to staying in, is confident in himself, and who shares enough of my values. He has to have a decent job and a car. No drug use beyond occasional alcohol, weed and maybe shrooms at most.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:20 PM
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I like going out and traveling. Staying home occasionally is fine, but I prefer to do things, even if that just means going for a walk or checking out a new bar. There’s nothing wrong with being a homebody, that kind of lifestyle just isn’t for me and I have enough awareness not to date someone who doesn’t like to go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:11 PM
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I’m 28F and childfree but it was not an easy choice to make. I’ve had nearly constant baby fever for the past few years and am fighting my strong biological desire with reason every day. I love the idea of watching a child grow, teaching them new things and creating special moments on birthdays, Christmas etc. I have name ideas and everything. I think it would be a great experience however my mental health issues and family situation are so dire that there’s no way for me to do this safely.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:24 PM
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At almost 30, I don’t care a ton about a guy’s past because nearly everyone has one at this point and some are even divorced or have kids. However once we’re in a relationship I need the guy to set clear boundaries such as unfollowing past flings and not talking to exes unless it’s absolutely necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 05:11 PM
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Probably because they’re not fully consciously aware of what they’re attracted to so when they’re not attracted to someone they look for reasons why, hence the “icks.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/26 08:36 PM
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5-7 years between meeting and having a kid in your late 30’s seems a bit long. I think this can be done healthily in 1-3 years if you properly vet the person. Giving birth between 35 and 40 isn’t that weird and is even the norm in some places.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 09:02 PM
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This is probably somewhat true for most of us but not as exaggerated as this sub makes it seem. I personally want a somewhat fit (not fat beyond a dad bod or stick thin and who does some regular physical activity) man who’s taller than me (I’m 5’3) and has a job he can support himself on. That’s not asking for too much. If I’m actually attracted to a guy, his texting style won’t bother me beyond extremes like bombarding me with messages I can’t keep up with or never texting back.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 08:56 PM
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Overall, no. If I actually like a guy, differences in texting patterns don’t mean much outside of the extremes (something like 10+ messages in a row when they know I’m working, or not replying to me for days).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:13 PM
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This has never been a factor in any of my breakups. A lot of people including myself have had sex on the first date, but that’s often after talking to a guy regularly for weeks if not months.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:10 PM
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In my experience, these women have little to no straight male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:07 PM
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The only times I’ve had to pretend were when I was using dating apps and could already tell that I wasn’t feeling it, but didn’t wanna be rude. If I’m interested in a guy, I’m usually genuinely interested in his job, family, hobbies etc. to some extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:32 AM
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I agree. Compared to other cultures, we’re a bit antisocial and awkward in general. Dating apps are trash for everyone, but significantly worse for men. And there aren’t a lot of ways to meet women naturally once you’re out of school unless you’re very extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:29 AM
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I prefer to be friends with women who have different types, but my type is also kinda specific so in general there’s little to no overlap other than the occasional celebrity crush. I don’t think any of my friends’ partners are super ugly, they’re just not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 04:23 AM
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If I’m really into a guy, I text him back within a reasonable time frame (30 min to a few hours depending on how busy I am) and try to keep the conversation going. I don’t talk about other men around him unless he specifically asks about my past. I let him pay for me and don’t apologize or thank him like I do with my guy friends or guys who I see no future with. I don’t make the first move but if he does then I’ll reciprocate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:08 AM
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I friendzoned a coworker last year who has only been in one relationship and the girl was ugly (super short, fat, no sense of style). I’m not the hottest girl out there but I’m in shape put effort into my appearance so I think most people would say I’m better looking than her. I’ve turned down a few acquaintances here and there but I didn’t know them well enough to know what their exes looked like.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:00 AM
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No, it’s not a huge deal if he genuinely accepts the rejection and doesn’t act weird after. I’ll probably pull back from the friendship a bit if he gets into a relationship with someone else in the future out of respect for the new girl but that’s about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 01:42 AM
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This is so ridiculously black and white. Self improvement doesn’t have to mean therapy. It can mean working out, finding some hobbies so you’re somewhat interesting, getting a better job, being physically healthier etc. So many guys don’t even do these basic things and wonder why they struggle
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 02:47 PM
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What’s considered excessive? There’s a big difference between thinking abortion should be legal and wanting to ban certain words and force “inclusive language” on people. I realize that people ruin movements by trying to force a bunch of trivial issues under the same umbrella as life threatening ones and that that turns people away. However this doesn’t mean that going to the opposite extreme is the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/25 06:02 PM
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I don’t think this.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 08:56 PM
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I also grew up UMC and this is so true. There’s a certain expectation of behavior in the middle class and above, and things like abandoning your family and kids will make nearly everyone turn their back on you. There’s probably some correlation between the discipline it takes to finish a degree and hold down a professional job and being a loyal partner who takes relationships seriously. Wealthier men are more willing to go to therapy and things like that. The broke men I’ve dated have much more …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/25 03:24 PM
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It would be nice if the guy treated me every once in a while with like meals and stuff but I’d pay my share in major expenses like rent. For financial reasons I wouldn’t be able to pay more than 50/50 but 50/50 is fine I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 01:13 PM
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Well irl women are scared of hurting people’s feelings so I’m sure that carries over to online. Also most people don’t deeply examine their attraction so they might THINK they care more about personality while subconsciously caring more about looks. Personally I think it’s kinder to be honest but I try to be tactful about it. I’m helping a male friend with his love life rn and he initially asked me out but I rejected him because he’s not attractive and not my type. I emphasized the type part to …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 01:09 PM
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Because the same men who say this are often the ones who don’t even try. Instead of improving the couple of things that are within their control like weight, style and personality (to some degree), they ramble on about jawlines or something which just accomplishes nothing. I’m much more receptive to guys who already maximize that they’re working with and are STILL struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/25 12:45 PM
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I mean, relaxing in social situations and being more observant won’t hurt but for most dudes that alone won’t make a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:34 PM
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The men “not liked by anyone” are usually extremely introverted, don’t socialize, and have subpar hygiene or self care habits. I’m a food service manager and I see guys like this often. Ugly guys who are successful with women are usually very outgoing and/or fit a niche. They know their market and try to find similar women. Weird gamer dudes date weird anime girls. Addicts who often look awful and don’t shower date other addicts. Ugly men of color date women with a fetish for their race and play…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:31 AM
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I don’t do this but I might find other things to compliment besides their looks like their style or makeup.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 04:19 AM
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It’s either because they’re genuinely clueless because almost no woman struggles in the same way or they’re scared to hurt the guy’s feelings. Mid and even most ugly women can usually get a boyfriend if they want by being a bit more outgoing and taking regular showers. So for them, this advice works and they don’t realize that dudes usually need to do a bit more. Also many people will ask for advice then get mad when it’s given so some people find it easier to just give a neutral bullshit answer…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 12:26 PM
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No. It’s a green flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/25 02:13 PM
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One of my best friends used to be an escort and it didn’t bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/25 01:03 AM
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-having lots of friends who cheat on their boyfriends. -refusal to work or pay for anything. I wouldn’t mind paying A BIT more, but I can’t fund someone’s unemployment. -lots of straight male friends
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:56 AM
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Mostly because I find the conversations interesting. I don’t agree with most of the stuff on here but I think I have an interesting perspective due to my job, life experience and demographics. Although I agree with feminists on issues like bodily autonomy, I don’t agree with blaming men for being lonely, encouraging a lack of accountability (such as excusing side chick behavior and ONLY blaming the man), and canceling people. I’m genuinely interested in the male experience and feel like I can so…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:51 AM
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It’s true but it’s a different 20% for each woman. Almost every woman I know who’s not a sugar baby or something is picky and has a specific type. My friends and I joke all the time that if one of us finds a guy hot, the other will find him ugly and it’s basically always true. Women can get away with things like racial fetishes/excluding entire groups much more than men. Dudes with “yellow fever” for example are seen as massive creeps, while white women who only date black guys might get the occ…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:44 AM
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I’d wanna have a good conversation first and end the convo by him asking for my number. Quick and to the point might work at parties, clubs and bars for hookups but if I’m at the coffee shop it’s not gonna land.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:38 AM
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As a woman who DOESN’T do this, I don’t know. I think it’s normal to have more stability related standards as you get older. Dating a man who has a minimum wage job in his 30’s is not wise (I unfortunately don’t follow this advice myself). But that doesn’t mean dating people you aren’t attracted to; if anything it raises the bar higher because the options have to be financially stable and good looking (enough). The women I know who do this are able to compartmentalize enough to have sex when the…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:36 AM
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“I don’t owe her any loyalty” when it comes to dating men who are in relationships already. Contributing to cheating (when you know) is just as bad in my opinion, and I’ve dropped friends over this because anyone who can’t empathize with the type of pain this causes isn’t someone to be trusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 12:29 PM
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Yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 01:54 PM
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Lying about paternity to make your husband/bf raise another man’s kid is disgusting and would make me think way less of that family member and not wanna associate with them anymore. I’ve been cheated on in multiple relationships and will always support the one who’s been betrayed regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/25 11:25 AM
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Mostly yes. I’m not attracted to certain races at all and I’m not sure why, but what would be the point of dating someone whose physical features aren’t appealing to me? I’m not gonna be rude to people who aren’t my type but dating them just to be more inclusive makes no sense to me tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:46 AM
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There’s nothing morally wrong with them and imo it’s worse to date someone you’re not into out of desperation or a desire to seem more woke. But having tons of minor preferences can make it much more difficult to find someone. I think it depends on the person though, as some of us have a stone cold type that can’t be changed for some odd reason and fail to be attracted to anyone who falls outside of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/25 11:41 AM
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No. I can’t get into a relationship with someone I’m not sexually attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 12:53 AM
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I have social anxiety plus I’m a minority in a conservative and non diverse town and although I’m thin, feminine and dress well, many guys around here only date white women which is fine because I don’t think we can control our types. For that reason I wait to see who’s interested in me and go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 09:00 PM
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I wouldn’t care unless it was like a 40 year old cougar dating high school seniors. But even then it wouldn’t be my business I’d probably just side eye her and keep my distance. I think the outrage around age gap relationships is over dramatic most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:57 PM
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I’ve met some people who do this for reasons like financial security or because they don’t wanna be alone and literally can’t find anyone else. But maybe it’s not as common as I think it is?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 06:30 PM
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Some people might take it as you calling average or below average women ugly and get offended on their behalf. Someone can be conventionally mid but hot to you personally, which is great. But if someone is conventionally mid and ugly to you but you date them anyway for some reason and also complain about it, thats weird. I’ve been obsessed with guys who were not conventionally attractive at all but I thought they were hot as hell. I’m not super into tall or muscular men, not because they’re “too…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:20 PM
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He ain’t that bad he just has NO sense of style and seems awkward. But I wouldn’t consider him below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:21 PM
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Yes but only if YOU want them and you don’t go overboard. A few well done tattoos add edge and style without looking trashy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:20 PM
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Chris Hemsworth is conventionally attractive but not my type. I prefer slim or lean muscle body types and am not usually into white guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 02:18 PM
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I don’t care HOW I find out, I just wanna know, with evidence if possible, ASAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 11:09 PM
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East Asian dad, white American mom
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 09:00 PM
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Yeah my ex admitted to feeling this way about me. I think it’s better to be “shallow” at the beginning and reject someone than break their heart years down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 04:50 PM
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My parents actually try to push me to date a “provider” type who pays for everything, owns property etc. and my mom told me that attraction doesn’t matter as long as I’m not repulsed by him. To me this always felt unfair to the guy and to myself, so since my early 20’s I’ve only dated guys I’ve been genuinely attracted to. I have a specific type that my friends often find ugly but they’re hot to me. I don’t think I could compromise on this even if it meant more material success because it feels …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 03:42 PM
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No. If they became sick or injured after I’ve already fallen for them then yeah, I would because love is more important to me and the chances of them cheating (at least physically) would be very low. But I wouldn’t get into a relationship with someone like this if that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 09:21 PM
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