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ADVICEFlockofpuppies/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 12:36 PM
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This is the opposite of what she needs to be doing right now. Her neediness and insecurities and self-doubt are at toxic levels, chasing him and begging for attention is just going to make it worse. There is a difference between need and neediness. Need is healthy, needing your spouse makes him feel valuable. Neediness is unhealthy, over reliance on others to fulfill you is maladaptive behavior. She's doing everything out of neediness right now.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 02:39 AM
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This is the answer, the neediness and insecurity and clinginess are all still with you. I would go to therapy by yourself. Challenge your old beliefs, find new coping strategies, heal your emotional wounds. Everything else is just going to be a bandaid solution.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/18 02:25 AM
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This isn't a support sub where you'll hear "Girl, just be yourself the right man will come along. Just lower your standards and don't be too picky!". This is about taking a real, honest look at your life and why you repel men. Seriously think about what people are saying. I come from a family of women that always put their energy into careers and married later when they finally realized they didn't want to grow old alone. The fundamental thing you're not getting is that a man wants to feel like …
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/18 11:18 PM
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Is this typical of your interactions in real life? Somebody is trying to be helpful and suggesting a specific group of people to target who might be late bloomers. Even if you disagree (and I do) there are more graceful ways to express that
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 10:36 PM
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No kids at 40 is a very big demand. Most men at 40 either have kids, want kids in the near future, are already taken, or are interested in dating women in their 20's. So you're hunting in a very small pool.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 12:39 PM
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If you are plain, introverted, and not highly involved in online dating, then I think it's actually pretty easy to reach 37 without a boyfriend. Relationships don't just happen, you have to make them happen. Agreeing that it's a giant red flag and scaring off men, especially considering she is attracting non-traditional men. I think she needs to stop emphasizing how inexperienced she is, because it's leading them to ask how inexperienced, and then she tells them, and then it scares them off. She…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 11:39 AM
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1) Expand your network. If you join a hiking group, you might be lucky and a nice man will invite you for coffee. If you are very lucky, a nice woman will invite you to a house party, where you will meet 3 new friends who will introduce you to their friends. 2) Expand the circle of men you're interested in. Maybe he's 55, maybe he's 30, maybe he has a 17 year old daughter, maybe he's 5'6". Your story is not typical (thru hiking, child free, musician, etc.), and because of that, you're already el…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/18 02:52 AM
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Man's age / 2 + 7 is a good rule of thumb. Puts you at dating up to around 22 years right now. That's pretty reasonable.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/18 11:38 PM
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Absolutely, a genuine smile because your soul feels happy can transform your face.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 12:28 PM
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In real life, I see a lot of the alpha widowed ladies have daddy issues. They didn't grow up with an example of real manliness, and were more easily fooled by counterfeits.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 12:27 AM
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I dunno why everyone is taking this at face value. She's purposefully making outlandish suggestions so you argue against men's involvement, leading you to side with her that men shouldn't be involved in abortion laws. It's just a rhetorical device. Calm down, internet.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 12:15 AM
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Nope, it's about how so much of a woman's attraction is mental, and how acting like a MAN is attractive, no matter what the man looks like. When you're 19, you think acting like a MAN means riding a shiny motorcycle and being a loudmouth. When you're older, you see manliness in different ways, like him quietly helping someone in need without asking for praise. Standing up for his value system.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 11:46 AM
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Easiest way to raise SMV? Hair, clothes, makeup. Most impactful way? Weight loss/light muscle gain.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:58 PM
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SMV is highly overrated here. Being Alpha Widowed is not a lesson about how SMV matters, it's lesson in reevaluating your priorities. Some day you will meet a man with a similar level of attractiveness that you enjoy looking at, but what really sends you over the edge is him changing your car tire, his passion about his dreams, and him playing with his nieces and nephews. What you appreciate at 19 isn't what you appreciate at 30.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:32 PM
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Priorities. It's not realistic with small child and pet to come home to a spotless house with the laundry done, floors mopped and vacuumed, bathrooms cleaned, sink empty, windows washed, shopping done, kid and pet bathed, and a healthy dinner ready. So just pick an area or two that you would most appreciate, like the dishes or gas in the car, and make that request. She is probably working as hard as she can now, so it's not about working harder, but shifting her efforts. Also, Amazon subscribe a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 01:57 AM
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If there has been abuse in your life, perhaps therapy for cptsd.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 01:37 AM
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Are you chatty? Women bond through talking, it makes us uncomfortable if you aren't participating.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 11:15 AM
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It's a big red flag to me when a woman doesn't have female friends her own age. Too soft? Be fun and lively and sparkly (note, not argumentative and brash). Be ready to laugh and make your friends laugh. Show genuine interest. Nobody wants a boring milquetoast friend.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 05:28 PM
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I think it's easier to "bounce back" when you're youner. It probably did take a year, but I've seen young mothers looking hot in a bikini after kids.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 12:24 PM
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TRP is highly against dating single mothers. RPW is against dating TRP men, suggesting a mix of alpha/beta traits instead. (I also think these young moms trigger a damsel-in-distress response from these men)
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 11:31 AM
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I have seen many young single mothers marry high value men (not so much at an older age). I didn't understand, and always thought, "Why is he with her instead of somebody with less baggage?". My guess is that the men were just at a point when they wanted children, and the women had a proven track record of being excellent mothers. Their love and devotion to their kids was extremely feminine and endearing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/18 01:45 AM
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I often see that here: the idea of men dating "down". Where does that come from? What does that look like? I've only seen it in terms of money, where he makes 200k as a doctor while she makes 50k as a nurse but she's young and beautiful and charming. So hardly a mismatch of SMV.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 04:00 AM
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Sometimes men choose women with lower SMV/RMV because they want the upper hand in a relationship. Maybe he cheats, maybe he just doesn't want to put a lot of work into the relationship, maybe she waits on him hand and foot. Because they both know he is the best she will ever get.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 03:12 AM
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"When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years." - Mark Twain It's not gracious to be so condescending to the woman who (presumably) raised you and changed your diapers and loves you with her whole heart. Learning how to get along with people you disagree with is a valuable life skill, and now is a good time to practice.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 11:26 PM
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How about "Men will be men and will be brave and honorable and hard working"? It's sad that we've associated male traits with shit talking and crude humor.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/18 04:27 PM
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If you don't plan on doing anything else with your life, then you're embarrassed to tell people because it is embarrassing. Tell people you aren't working now but you're focusing on projects A, B, and C.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/18 12:09 PM
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Thanks, I was trying to identify why I found it annoying and thought it was lack of consideration, but you're right, it was lack of leadership.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/18 12:54 PM
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Don't let your family ruin your relationship with the weight of their expectations. What do you have want? Not your family, not your boyfriend, what do you authentically want?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/18 05:13 PM
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The career, the home, the car: these are positives that can quickly turn into negatives. A focus on achievement is admirable and attractive, but there are only so many hours in a day. Is there also a similar investment in the relationship? Is he devoting his time to car maintenance at the expense of relationship maintenance? Women look to relationships for fulfillment and sometimes (often!) have too high expectations, wanting life to be like a romantic movie. So there is a big divide between wha…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/18 04:02 AM
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I know you asked for books about gratitude....but coming in to contact with people in need is absolutely life altering. There are so many children in your community who are hungry, parents who rarely see their kids because they are busy working to make rent money, families who sleep on a mattress on the floor. If you don't have time for a full commitment, you can still help with occasional needs, like delivering Christmas turkeys. Maybe somebody in your circle has been hospitalized for a month a…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/18 04:51 PM
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I agree, women here are looking for something that men their own age often can't provide: financial stability, confidence, leadership qualities. That doesn't mean you need to date 10+ years older, it means you date potential. Maybe a guy is broke but he's filled with an ambition and energy you respect. Or he's a little shy but your admiration motivates him. An age gap of 10 or less probably is ideal, nobody wants to be a lonely widow for a long period of time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/18 09:04 PM
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RP women are discouraged from dating typical alpha males, as soft alphas/greater betas make better fathers and life partners. It's not settling to find a man who is both kind and humble as well as strong and brave. That's the real jackpot!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/18 12:54 AM
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"I had a ton of debt from school but I got in to IT, did some certifications, and now I'm making more than I ever would have doing art. Im still passionate about it and here are my latest paintings" "After the divorce, I did a lot of thinking and realized I needed to be more giving/patient/assertive/selfless/whatever" "I did a lot of journaling and meditation and I'm finally at peace with my mother's illnees"
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/18 12:33 PM
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Love this! Be a quality person and men will naturally be attracted. When you were desperate and needy, you couldn't hide it, it came out as game playing. You didn't change your behavior, you changed who you were as a person.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/18 11:34 AM
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A divorce, an expensive incomplete art degree, an NPD mother. All red flags. I don't think OP is going to do much better at 30 until she addresses and overcomes these issues. Your baggage doesn't magically go away in a new relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 10:44 PM
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Get your life together. Move out of his mom's place, with or without him. Whether you stay or go, whether he stays or goes, you need a better job and financial picture. You need to be in a more emotionally healthy place, definitely away from his mother. Have you healed from the (lack of) relationship with your own mother? Beware of "the thing that will finally make me happy". Kids will not make you happy. A different husband will not make you happy. You actively choose happiness every day, and y…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/18 12:01 PM
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"I had always categorized sweatshirts as workout clothes, but hers was fitted, cropped and flattering" - from cupofjo.com about her brother's beautiful french girlfriend. If you're extremely beautiful, you can be sexy in a potato sack, but for the rest of us, if you're going to wear a sweatshirt, make sure the cut is excellent and wear something tighter on the bottom to balance proportions.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/18 02:58 AM
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If she were a man, I would 100% agree. She's a woman though, and it becomes exponentially more difficult to meet and attract well-educated men after she graduates and ages. She can focus on career later but she's only young once. If she chooses to prioritize dating over networking/letters of recommendation, that's a legitimate life strategy for her, and my suggestion is focused on minimizing risk and maximizing reward.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 08:52 PM
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During the birth itself, I think the focus of the mother and the medical team should be entirely on the baby. It's a medical procedure, birth trauma does happen and can have lifelong consequences for the child. There are seasons of giving and taking in a relationship, and this is a time where a father has a big opportunity to give.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 08:23 PM
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You either have to rise to the level of the men you want, or learn to be happy with the men already available to you. I think either one of those choices is a good strategy, but yearning for men way hotter than you is going to get you alpha widowed.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 07:53 PM
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I think those activities would be off-putting to a nebbish accountant who prefers video games, but could be attractive to an outdoorsy person, especially if she's eager to learn from him and not criticizing or competing. Maybe those are activities she enjoyed with her father. A woman can't be attractive to every man, she has to find that one complementary person.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 01:13 PM
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Can you organize a get together outside school for the entire group, offering your phone number to everyone for RSVP? I would definitely not ask a specific man out. Let him know you're receptive, but let him lead. If he wants to take you on a date, give him the opportunity to ask. Don't steal that moment from him. (Adding, especially in this scenario when there are 2-3 potential prospects, it would not give you a great reputation to ask each of them out. A group setting allows you to vet first)
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 11:57 AM
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I think getting a job will solve a lot of your issues (money to correct your overbite and new clothes, a sense of accomplishment) and give you more clarity about what's lacking in your life. In general, just don't forget your inner self and building your self esteem and curbing debilitating perfectionism as you work on your external self.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/18 11:51 AM
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When a woman says "All men are dogs", guess what she finds? Dogs! Call it karma, law of attraction, rising to your expectations, call it whatever, but you attract what you are.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/18 05:58 PM
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1) Wake up early every morning, put on real clothes, and spend 8 hours a day looking for work so you can move out ASAP. Unemployment and living at home is depressing and will drag you down. 2) Volunteer, preferably with underprivileged people to build gratitude and contentment with your life. Big Sisters, Habitat for Humanity, Meals on Wheels, soup kitchens, teaching English as a second language. I think that inner beauty is even more important than outer. A woman who's a 4 who has found inner p…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/18 05:40 PM
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If there is a woman out there, there's a man who wants to date her. If you're are a 3, you attract 3's. If you're a 9, you attract 9's. Evolution hasn't wiped out ugly people. Just focus on developing a positive, feminine energy. I agree that OP is still hung up about weight. People are treating you the same way because you're acting the same way. Also, why are women coming here saying they don't wear makeup? Wear the makeup. A nice no-makeup makeup look takes 2 minutes and you increase your SMV…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/18 12:03 PM
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Quit the porn, at least for now. There is a simple pleasure in having a man's hand on your arm, guiding you through a crowd. Or brushing back your hair. Is porn robbing you of that enjoyment? The problem with porn is that it can gently lead you down a path of ever increasing thrills, where you need more and need it sooner, and your senses are dulled to the beauty of those tiny moments of intimacy. Develop your sensuality and take the focus off your sexuality.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 10:56 PM
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Keep a very, very, very low N count. You can't ride the cc and then try to pretend you're not easy. You can't fake who you are. A virgin or a girl with an N count of 1 from a three year relationship? She's not going to be sending nudes after the second date. Her innocence, her nervousness, her inexperience, they should be very obvious. Dont underestimate how incredibly sexy it is to be shaking because you're nervous about a KISS. And if a guy so acclimated to ONS from Tinder mistakes it for prud…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/18 12:52 PM
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You're not busy enough. Put more hours in at work, volunteer at an animal shelter or senior center, hit the gym, do something nice for a friend, pick up a hobby, clean the house, learn to sing, take a class, bake something complicated, read the Iliad, go for a bike ride. Be so busy having fun and enjoying life and improving yourself and your home and your community that your inner hamster is too tired to worry about your husband's innocent words.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 09:27 PM
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You don't sound fun. I don't mean getting drunk at the club dressed like a hooker every weekend fun. I mean being delighted with the world, seeing humor in small situations, enjoying stupid movies as well as serious literature, finding joy in sunsets and puppies and being secure enough in yourself that you don't judge women who are different from you. Be fun. Seriousness and stoicism are for men. Girls are full of light and joy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/18 01:19 PM
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