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Damn. Well she didn't go emptyhanded but I'm sure she will be surprised how quickly a big bag of money will disappear .... That is what my exwife is experiencing right now. She didn't want any retirement accounts so she got most of her money in cash ... easy to spend. My exwife also didn't work - and still doesn't really work. I only made around $200k though. Luckily we had put money away for the kids education. Money in the kids names that she couldn't touch. Although she tried. I paid $1000 fo…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 01:46 AM
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OK. Odd. Then I don't understand why you got away with only paying 72k annually. Good for you. I'm tired of hearing about men who get slaughtered by the courts, having to move back home to their parents to live in the basement ...
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 01:31 AM
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Then you got very lucky. I guess your exwife also makes a ton of money
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/23 12:32 AM
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400k and 975k??
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 11:26 PM
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Think with the BIG head. That should resolve any doubts ...
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 07:01 PM
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Give it time. She will file a domestic violence claim and the police will escort you out of the house. She will then live in the house - that you continue to pay for. It happened to me. Took me two years to get her out of the house. File first.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/23 11:57 AM
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This is exactly what my EX-wife did several times. She was (and is) a huge narcissist and I presume has BPD. Everything you wrote was similar to what I experienced with her. I'm soooo happy she is now my EX. Get out.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 02:00 AM
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You read the tax law like the devil reads the bible. This is the 2nd paragraph from your link. The tax law was changed in 2018 and new alimony orders are taxed at the payer (not at the receiver): Note: You can't deduct alimony or separate maintenance payments made under a divorce or separation agreement (1) executed after 2018, or (2) executed before 2019 but later modified if the modification expressly states the repeal of the deduction for alimony payments applies to the modification. Alimony …
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 01:37 AM
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Not true. In some states an affair bars a person from receiving alimony. The judge is simply not allowed to grant alimony. I was married for almost 20 years and my exwife was having an affair. I spent $9k on a private detective who made a nice report about the adultery including pictures and video (although no “smoking gun”) and that was enough to get me off the hook for alimony. My exwife was a SAHM and didn’t work for all these years. She got ZERO alimony but a lot of money in Equitable Distri…
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 09:45 PM
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the ability to walk away Well said and 100% correct
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 09:27 PM
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That's what I did. I scanned EVERYTHING and shredded all the original documents. The digital copies in keep in OneDrive (no I'm not too worried about that) and I have copies at home and in a safety deposit box. You never know when you need some of the information.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/23 07:49 PM
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If you sponsor her by signing a I864 you can be on the hook for indefinite support. Read this: https://www.justia.com/immigration/marriage-family-based-petitions/i-864-support-and-divorce/#:~:text=Divorce%20does%20not%20release%20a,only%20to%20eventually%20divorce%20them.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 03:38 AM
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Get out now! I was in your shoes a few years ago. Primary bread-winner for almost 20 years. Wife started talking about divorce. I hired a PI who found out she was having an affair. I filed for divorce and got out without having to pay alimony. Saved me a TON of money. Get out. Don't be her fall-back second choice. She is only going back to you because she needs to - not because she wants to. Don't have sex with her again. If you do you have legally accepted her adultery and can't use it in the d…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 04:50 AM
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Mine does the same. I just ignore her :-) And yes, she was also a repeat cheater ....
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/22 09:11 PM
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Everything a woman brings to our life can be outsourced. I like that one :-)
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 08:42 PM
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Wow that sucks.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/22 10:29 AM
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Check that your state allows separation in the same house. Some states don't accept separation under the same roof ....
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/22 01:11 PM
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I left my house after false allegations from my now ex-wife where she called the cops on a few occasions. A few days later I wanted to go back with a moving company to get my stuff (personal stuff, clothes, furniture etc.). I called the cops and asked them to escort me and explain to my ex-wife that I was allowed to pick up all my stuff. Just to make sure she would not make any scene or otherwise create a problem. I'm happy I did because I never again sat foot in the house. What I didn't pick up…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/22 03:46 AM
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She is most likely already f'ing somebody else. Many of us have been in similar situations. Most often there is no way back. Time to cut your losses and move on ... Being in a relationship where you are not loved and respected is not worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 03:09 AM
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10 years is not exactly lifelong (unless she is 70 years old)?!
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 02:28 AM
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Not sure why you are annoyed about the tax thing? I can understand that you are annoyed about a lot of other things regarding the separation and divorce though. But consider yourself lucky .... a lot of guys here are fighting for the right to see their kids ... a day or two per week or sometimes even per month. You are lucky that you got the kids - almost fulltime. Be there for your kids and forget about the ex! I would assume that you make more money than she does? As such you should also benef…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/22 10:02 PM
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What I have learned - the hard way - the very hard way: Don't marry somebody with a significantly lower education than yourself Don't marry somebody with a significantly lower income than yourself Don't create a stay-at-home mom. Over time they will resent you for not having a good working life and you will pay up in divorce. Create a solid prenup using an attorney. Get the prenup verified by another attorney. The short version of the above would be: Don't get fucking married ...
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/21 02:32 PM
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In finance we use a term called "sunk cost" meaning money that has been spent and cannot be recovered. Therefore you should not consider that cost in your future decisions. That should apply here also. I'm in the same boat as you. 54, divorced last year after almost 20 years. I just feel so happy that I'm no longer with that abusive egoistic woman. I feel so much more at peace with myself now. Would I have preferred to live with a great wife in a healthy marriage? No doubt, but that was no my si…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/21 10:14 PM
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Always rent anything that flies, floats or fucks. "Always rent anything that flies, floats or fucks." HAHAHA I got to remember this one. That was funny :)
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/21 10:16 PM
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The guy is apparently also on the dating apps. That's how he found her profile ... But it's a bad idea altogether. Wait until the divorce if final would be my recommendation.
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/21 10:22 PM
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In most states the judge decides how to split the money. But scenario would be the starting point. Certainly not scenario B. Also if you have co-mingled your $250k them you might be out of luck. E.g. if you used the money to buy a house that is now marital property ... If you decide to pay a one-off alimony then it would be taken from your share (of course). If you offer her a one-off settlement in lieu of alimony you should ask for a discount. Remember you have some upside if she re-marries, di…
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/21 07:54 PM
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I think you're forgetting that she also picked you at one point ...
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/21 01:53 AM
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You are completely wrong. Child Support is based on the income of both parents. If they have 50/50 custody and parent A makes more money than parent B then A must pay child support to B. It's quite simple.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/21 05:13 AM
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Get out while it's cheap and easy, having no kids and no assets. It's not going to get better so cut your losses now and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/21 09:25 PM
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Right! My lawyer always said what I wanted to hear. Until he saw the court house or until my ex-wife's lawyer started to talk. Then suddenly he was not so confident anymore. In my divorce process I have really come to dislike most lawyer's.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/21 05:25 PM
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My problem now is that I don't know what to do.... Keep fighting throwing thousands of $ after blood thirsty attorneys or try to settle and hope for a reasonable deal. If I win I could get off better but if I loose I will get off worse and on top have a ton of attorneys fees to pay. The attorneys involved don't seem to be in a rush either. This game is just rigged. If there is any money in the marriage you need to spend a fortune on attorneys just in order to get divorced. Each sides attorney ju…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 10:37 AM
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I'm in the same boat. I'm about to hit $70,000 on my side only. Insane. Trapped and can't find a way out.
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/21 03:05 AM
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My story as well. I'm down $50,000 in legal fees. She used dirty tricks to get me out of the house which I'm still paying for. System here sucks!
/r/Divorce_Men10/05/21 11:48 PM
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In some states it's allowed to record conversations if you (the person recording) are part of the conversation. Check your state here: https://www.mwl-law.com/subrogation-laws-in-all-50-states/ I would doublecheck your state elsewhere as well. Don't move out of the house. That is also what my lawyer told me. Problem was the ex-wife called the cops on me a few times after 6 months (co-habitating) and I was forced to leave the house in order not to get arrested (I was afraid that she would self-ha…
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 03:11 PM
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I agree 100% with this. I got cheated on multiple times with multiple men. Got put through legal hell for 2+ years. I don't want to be her friend. I only want to communicate with her around the kids. And only in writing. Fuck her! My life is so much better now. And there are so many nice women out there .... sane women you can actually have an adult relationship with .... Never turning back and never looking back :) Happy x-mas to all divorced men out there.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/20 03:37 PM
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I can't tell you what to do but I can tell you what I did when I was in a very similar situation 10 years ago. Around 10 years ago I found out that my wife (now ex-wife) had an affair with another guy. Right under my nose. We had kids around the age of 5 then. I decided to stay with her because I didn't want to lose my kids and half my shit .... Marriage went up and down in the years since. A couple of years back it went real sour and wife started to go out with friends and lot while becoming ve…
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/20 06:30 PM
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I have been through the same process. A little over 2 years and still ongoing. I can second most of what you wrote. Life is sweet now :) compared to how it was previously. Real sweet.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 02:08 AM
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Right on! My X called the cops on me a few times. Without reason. Cops didn't believe her but I moved out anyways. Was afraid she would pin self-harm on me ... That of course means that she has no interest in getting the house resolved. I'm still paying 100% of the mortgage after more than a year. Don't move out!! And get ready to spend more money than you ever thought possible on lawyers. With almost $400/hour it goes fast. And remember that your lawyer might not have the same motivation as you…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/20 08:27 PM
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What would the point be in hiding expenses? The less expenses she has the more money she has leftover to pay in support to you?!?! I thought people hid income and bloated expenses ...
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/20 05:19 PM
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If the money is in the kids name the she can't just withdraw the money, unless it's for the benefit of the child AND used for what is beyond the normal obligation for a parent. I.e. she cannot take money from your sons account to pay for rent or food. But she could take money out and pay for a car, school trip or vacation. Two good articles to reference: https://www.thebalance.com/spending-childs-utma-money-illegal-358134 http://archive.boston.com/business/personalfinance/managingyourmoney/archi…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/20 12:59 AM
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never go back to a dud! As somebody else said. Be happy that you didn't get kids etc. before this happened. Cut your losses now ...
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/20 02:08 AM
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Fight for your kids, don’t fight against your ex. Excellent comment: " Fight for your kids, don’t fight against your ex. ". Don't loose your kids just because your x is nuts. Fight back. Your kids are very young and you will loose the connection with them. At least I believe so.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/20 01:32 AM
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When I started reading your post my initial though was thas this must be a joke ... Because your feelings seem to be so far away from what I felt when I had my 3 kids. Now teenagers+. I have never been happier than when I got my kids. It's the best thing that ever happened to me and I would give anything and do anything for them. They are - without competition - the most important thing in my life. I don't even recall their early years as especially complicated. They early years were fun and wen…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/20 04:20 PM
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Agree 100% with this one also!
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/20 04:08 PM
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Agree 100%
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/20 04:07 PM
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I paid a little less than $9,000 for the PI. His hourly rate was $75 plus expenses and miles. The alimony would probably have been around $40-50,000 yearly for around 9 years. So payback in a little over 2 months. If the PI had concluded that she was not having an affair I might have continued in the marriage. I would have no problem staying in the marriage after having hired a PI. But, if you are having thoughts about hiring a PI there is a significant lack of trust in the marriage and that is …
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/20 04:46 AM
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I live in the US, in a state where adultery bars a spouse from alimony (spousal support). I ended up hiring a PI and it was the best thing (and investment) I have done in years. My STBX started becoming very hostile a few years before I hired the PI. Always arguing and criticizing, always dissatisfied, always wanting more and better. Around 9 months before the PI she started going out extensively. Always saying that she was out with friends, often coming home after midnight and early in the morn…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/20 08:12 PM
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I felt sorry for you until ".. I'm getting remarried tomorrow.". I'm personally not joining that club again.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/20 10:17 PM
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It does not sound as if you wife has been treating you well so it's time that you look out for yourself and your kids. The wife is not your concern when she becomes your ex-wife. I have had to tell myself this over and over again. In the beginning I felt sorry for her - despite her being abusive and having affair(s). Today I don't feel sorry for her. I pity her! She has done everything to turn our separation and divorce into a shit-sandwich and now I'm only looking out for my kids and myself. Ma…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/20 05:25 PM
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This sounds very much like the situation that I have been through. My advice to you is the following: Don’t trust anything your (soon to be) ex-wife says. She is cornered and will do anything to get out on top. This will most likely include lying, calling the cops etc. Hope for the best but plan for the worst!! My wife called the cops on me twice, two days in a row, which cause me to flee during the night after 8 months of co-habitation (after I server her the divorce/separation papers). If your…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/20 03:54 PM
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