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Is this what you all day? Go back to the womens divorce sub. At least here men will try argue their points. I brought up accountability in the women's sub and got banned. That right there tells me everything I need to know.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 06:41 PM
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Read my follow up post. It takes 2 people to kill a relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 09:18 PM
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Typical woman. Lol. You're mistake is thinking I care about your opinion. Go away and come back when you learn accountability.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 05:43 PM
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Strange how that works, isn't it? The day after my wife dropped the bomb, we had some of the deepest, most intimate and vulnerable conversations we'd ever had in our 16yrs of marriage. She started crying and said "why didn't we talk like this before." Then confirmed she still wanted/needed to divorce. My wife built up resentment over the years due to several factors: our emotional shortcomings(both of us), her inability to clearly communicate her concerns to me. her night shift work schedule and…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 03:00 PM
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Focus on yourself and the kids. The more you try to fix the marriage, the more pressure she feels. The more pressure she feels, the further she moves away from you. You can't control her actions or decision. The only thing you have control over is yourself and the man you want to be whether she stays or goes. Either way you'll be a better man when this is over.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 12:26 PM
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What you are describing is the same pattern I see over and over. It is not about intelligence and it is not about insight. People can be smart as hell in every other part of their life and still have zero emotional accountability in a relationship. When a person is carrying resentment they never communicated, their brain eventually shifts into self-protection mode. Once that switch flips, accountability disappears because accountability would create shame, and shame is the one thing their nervou…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/25 03:22 PM
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Why not? Lol If you have nothing to lose, what harm can it do?
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 11:34 AM
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The real issue I’m pointing at is who gets to define what “communication” actually is. A lot of wives say they “communicated for years,” but when you look closely, the communication was usually vague hints, offhand comments during banter, emotional tone with no clear request, or expecting him to connect dots she never spelled out. From her point of view that feels like communication. From his point of view he never received a clear, direct message he could act on. Men don’t need mind reading. We…
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/25 02:20 AM
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Lol. One of my favorites.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/25 11:49 AM
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Indeed we are.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 10:58 PM
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A lot of guys have reached out to me because this really hits home for many of us. For guys who want more, I put the rest in my bio.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/25 03:46 PM
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Lol. Thanks man.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 05:03 PM
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Cant say that I disagree.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/25 05:03 PM
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Another example from my own situation shows exactly what I mean about “communication” not really being communication. My wife and I had a long history of banter. It was part of how we interacted, joked, and played around with each other. Sometimes it was light and funny, and other times she’d throw out something like “you’re an asshole” in the same joking tone we’d both used for years. It was part of the pattern we had built together. During her big emotional dump, when I asked her when she supp…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:38 PM
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I hear what you’re saying, and I can agree with some of it, especially the part about both people usually bringing imperfections into a long relationship. Nobody’s pretending men are flawless communicators or always attuned to subtle signals. Marriage is two people learning each other, stumbling through habits, and missing things along the way. That’s just reality. But the scenario I’m describing isn’t about subtle hints or ignored clues. It’s about partners who never communicated clearly, direc…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:33 PM
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I’m not claiming men exist in a vacuum or that men don’t contribute to problems in relationships. Of course they do. Every failed marriage has two human beings in it, and both bring flaws, blind spots, and patterns into the mix. Nothing I wrote denies that. What I’m talking about is a very specific dynamic that shows up again and again in modern divorces: the cultural script that gives women an easy moral exit and hands men the bulk of the blame, regardless of the actual situation. You say many …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:11 PM
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In my own situation, the imbalance in accountability was impossible to ignore. My wife spent two hours unloading every single thing she felt I did wrong in our relationship, going all the way back to when we first met. It was a complete emotional purge. At one point she even said she knew she wasn’t innocent in the marriage, so I asked her to name one specific thing she thought she could have done better. She couldn’t come up with anything. Not one concrete example. That’s exactly the problem a …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:04 PM
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I get where you’re coming from, and you are right that a lot of men ignore red flags because we’re loyal to a fault and convinced we can fix problems through effort and commitment. A lot of us grew up believing that sticking it out makes us good partners, and that love means absorbing more than we should. So yes, there is accountability on our side when we overlook patterns that were visible early on. But acknowledging that doesn’t erase the dynamic I was talking about. Both things can be true. …
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:00 PM
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You’re missing the point entirely. Wanting fairness, accuracy, or cultural balance isn't seeking validation. It highlights a double standard. Saying men shouldn’t acknowledge systemic bias because "men built society" is just posturing and ignores real issues men face in modern relationships. Recognizing a problem isn’t weakness; pretending problems don’t exist is. No one said men need women, or that men should look to women as father figures. The point is that emotional labor, communication, con…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 01:57 PM
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We all make mistakes. Honest men tend to own theirs. Women....not so much.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 03:19 AM
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I've said the same thing regarding the influencers. I've seen exactly one female influencer comment on her struggles post-divorce. The rest encourage other women to leave and live their best lives. Sadly. We all know women will never publicly admit to their mistakes or regrets surrounding divorce. Misery loves company.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 03:15 AM
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They do indeed seem to take pleasure in the grief and shock they cause when discussing with other women.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:53 AM
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Speak for yourself man. Unlike the women described in my post, I am acutely aware of my shortcomings in my marriage, take responsibility for my actions, and am currently working of fixing myself.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 02:13 AM
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100% agree. No fault state here. Its bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/25 01:48 AM
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Lol...I've been jotting down thoughts for a few days. Needed some quick formatting so I could post. Thanks goes out to chatgpt.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 11:26 PM
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She actually has to communicate to be heard. Dropping hints doesn't count. Hoping he just "gets it" doesn't count.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 11:07 PM
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Not a bot dude. 48 yr old father of 5 who just had the rug pulled out from under him after almost 17yrs of marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/25 11:06 PM
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Thanks for the input man. Appreciate your perspective.
/r/askMRP15/10/25 11:10 AM
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Fair enough man. Cant argue with that. I'm calm now, really. Just taking a step back, reading, lifting, walking, hanging with my kids,riding my motorcycle and getting shit done around the house. Doing shit for me now. Working on getting my head right. Thanks for the reality check.
/r/askMRP06/10/25 08:00 PM
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At this point. I think the marriage is too far gone to save. Talking to her, I pretty sure Negative Sentiment Override has set in. Saw this with my parents a few years ago.Years of resentment made mom rewrite almost everything in a negative light. It was like everything memory(even the good times) were rewritten to support her decision to leave. Dad made a joke, she turned it into an attack.....Wife has literally done the same thing to me and our marriage. She came home from work one morning las…
/r/askMRP04/10/25 10:59 AM
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Working on it. One day at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/25 12:59 AM
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Hard no. Not happening.
/r/askMRP04/10/25 12:58 AM
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What do I want? I want to fuck my wife. I want to tell her to knock this shit off and fuck me already. And I want to fix myself. I've had insomnia since quitting tobacco 3 weeks ago. No more than 3 hrs of sleep per night(on a good night) with OTC sleep aids. Half the comments here say the marriage is most likely finished, the other half essentially say it's big shit/comfort test. I'm fucking exhausted. I can't get a read on the situation because I'm worn the fuck out. The silent treatment thing,…
/r/askMRP03/10/25 03:44 PM
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Understood. Thank you
/r/askMRP03/10/25 01:46 PM
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Fair. But I have read them. I did try to escalate. She's not having it. Tried to push through what could be LMR. Hard No.
/r/askMRP03/10/25 07:15 AM
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WTF is going on here?!?! Today she clearly tells me with 100% certainty that she no longer wants to be my wife, no longer wants me to be her husband, ad there is ZERO change of reconciling....The marriage is done, "she wants off the ride." She throws a small shit test my way while she's in the tub tonight, and I pass it. 15 minutes later, she's walking around in booty shorts and a belly shirt, smirking and smiling as she walks by. I look at her and smirk, she give me a "what?" with this little s…
/r/askMRP03/10/25 12:55 AM
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Already spoke to an attorney. Consultation on Monday
/r/askMRP03/10/25 12:27 AM
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I checked. No evidence and i dont think she is.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 10:40 PM
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The Marriage is over. She's insisting on divorce. No turning back.
/r/askMRP02/10/25 06:55 PM
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None of this made or make me feel good man. I own all of this. It stings like a mother fucker. Calling an attorney and my friend today. Thanks man.
/r/askMRP02/10/25 03:54 PM
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Told her I'm not intersted in divorce but if she wants to file, its on her. Not going to fight it.
/r/askMRP02/10/25 03:02 PM
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Completely fucked that up.
/r/askMRP02/10/25 02:43 PM
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Update: conversation tonight turned into her saying she's done. Not in love with me anymore. Moved back into the bed so as to not upset the kids. 6 months for us to get our debts paid off and toys sold off. No paperwork yet, but the end is coming
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 11:16 AM
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Your entire comment is 100% accurrate and I hear you. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/25 11:11 AM
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I had some stupid thought in my head that i wanted her to touch me first since she's shown me little affection over the last few months. I really fucked this up
/r/askMRP02/10/25 12:15 AM
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Yeah, I did. I fucked up big time
/r/askMRP02/10/25 12:07 AM
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Understood. Thanks
/r/askMRP01/10/25 11:38 PM
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Thank you
/r/askMRP01/10/25 11:37 PM
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Refined Mission: My mission is to unfuck myself. T stop chasing validation, kill the Nice Guy in me, and lead my family with calm, steady confidence as a better man, father, and husband.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/25 12:37 AM
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OYS #1 9/30/2025 Stats: 48yrs, 5’6”, 160lbs. 19% BF (Navy). Wife 42yrs. Married 16yrs, together 17yrs. 5 kids- 21yrs and 19yrs(hers from previous), 15yrs, 13yrs, 10yrs. All boys except for the youngest. Reading: NMMNG x1(working on x2 now), MMSLP x1, WISNIFG x1, Frame x 1. The Rational Male x1. Pook x1, Various sidebar posts. Rian Stone and Rollo podcasts daily on my commute. Lifting/Fitness: Just starting back after almost 2 years off due to auto accident. All SL5x5. Squats 90lbs, BP 70lbs, OHP…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 04:15 PM
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Holy shit. I thought I was fucked up. Sounds like she's already gone dude. Work on yourself.
/r/askMRP29/09/25 02:38 AM
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