FluffyApartment596 Archive

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10	UPDATE: Just had the talk Don’t worry about the next few months of he🏒 🏒. Consider the years of peace that follows.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/26 09:00 AM
3	UPDATE: Just had the talk Lawyer up. NAL and not closely familiar with CA laws. Absolutely do not believe her lawyers advice that she’s relaying second hand. Depending on how the trust is set up, it may not be part of any settlement discussion. You may have used marital funds to pay rent, but she also lived there and received that benefit. Too bad you didn’t put it towards a mortgage 😉 She won’t get much by taking 1/2 of what you don’t own. (I’ve seen other parents do this. The spouses got nothing. But again, it wasn’t C…	/r/Divorce_Men	03/07/26 03:43 AM
7	My [40m] 5 year marriage to my wife [40F] just blew up and my wife ended up in jail and I don't know what to do. Full disclosure - I am a wife contemplating divorce This is abuse. It is domestic violence. It needs to be recorded and you should not be intimidated into dropping charges that by law the police were forced to file. Charges should also be filed against her brothers for home invasion and assault. Restraining orders should be placed on them. And do you really want to share custody with someone who is abusive and unstable? Let the charges stand, let her face the consequences of her own actions. Tho…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 12:36 PM
14	Do I tattle on my ex wife and her paramour? (After divorce is final) I wouldn’t go scorched earth, but I would inform the school and the wife after all is said and done.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/06/26 06:00 PM
17	Wife just called me and screamed at me after getting my lawyer’s response to the equitable distribution. Just need to vent Okay - now stop playing nice. She had a choice. Now go back and include the entire downpayment of the house, her new car, the $10k to put a new deck on the house AND, ask for alimony since she makes more money.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/26 12:36 AM
1	20yr Relationship Split - GET HER Read (or listen to) TED: The Empowerment Dynamic. It will help you stop reacting to what comes at you and realize you do have the power to take control of your life.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/26 06:52 PM
2	20yr Relationship Split - GET HER Get a lawyer. Depending you your location, your new home may be considered a marital asset and could be split 50/50. Spend your energy getting advice so you can move forward.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/06/26 06:49 PM
4	Someone just offed his ex wife and himself over custody and divorce To be clear, full custody isn’t to control the child(ren), rather it is to control the other parent.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/05/26 06:52 PM
1	Ruling within 1 week after court hearing ? Am I already late in support ? If you gave “gifts” in terms of cash payments that you can prove (checks, cash apps, STBXW agrees you made payments, even receipts that prove the items only benefitted the minor children, etc.) those can be credited to what you owe. Take proof to the court office, typically Friend of the Court. Friend of the Court is notorious for bad record keeping - so keep your own documentation until the minor children age out and the case is finalized. For example in one situation I know the parent presente…	/r/Divorce_Men	27/05/26 08:59 AM
2	How do you guys cope with the idea of losing your hard earned assets during a divorce? This. Get a lawyer. If you can prove there was deception and fraud entering the marriage, there may be a chance for annulment based on fraud - which then you will each keep your own assets. (Local laws may vary. My attorney wanted me to do this since proving fraud was easy.) Worst case, you should only “owe” 50% of what was accumulated during the marriage minus expenses. Each of you should keep what you brought into the marriage. Get a good attorney. You’re still young, this should just become a…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/26 09:36 PM
5	Can my wife first leave me and then have me pay her child support for 18 years? Save yourself some legal (and travel) fees and file first in the US.	/r/Divorce_Men	13/05/26 10:52 PM
1	Dealing with joint debt and loans during my divorce Recommendation - if the spouse is irresponsible with paying bills, that won’t get any better after the divorce. “Splitting” the bills in 1/2 means nothing to creditors: you’re still responsible. It takes massive effort to change that. And then when the creditor sells the bad debt, the process starts all over again. If that’s the case - agree to pay off all the debt with the assumption of acquiring an increase in assets to cover her 1/2. For example, there’s $50k in consumer debt and selling the …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/05/26 09:33 PM