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| 10 | What is a "Red Pill Woman" | DISCUSSION | Forsaken-Station-113 | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/26 12:10 AM |
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| – | Everything that men claim women are is pure projection.Ughh...no, girl. This ain't it. Women also cheat, are gold diggers, etc - everybody can be awful. But placing everything as "pure projection" makes you look even more than awful. Most men are far from all these things, just like most women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Everything that men claim women are is pure projection.Ughh...no, girl. This ain't it. Women also cheat, are gold diggers, etc - everybody can be awful. But placing everything as "pure projection" makes you look even more than awful. Most men are far from all these things, just like most women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/26 12:24 AM |
| 5 | If you were born male, do you think you'd be doing better than other men in areas that you criticize men for?If I was a guy I wouldn't reach my 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/26 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Fellas it isn’t a matter of women not being into you because of lack of moral character but seeing you as defective/incompetentOP says that ALL WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO POWER. Which is untrue. However, there are women who are attracted to power. Well...not really power, more like social status. There are women who are attracted to money, status, influence, social, and physical power, and can find them hot. In most cases that's not what women go for attraction, and it's even less important when women go for relationships. It's a very small demographic - most women you meet on a day-to-day basis do not aspire for such thing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/26 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Men do reject women at similar rate, it’s just different.Yes, we’re the ones who often make the first move, which leaves more room for us to get rejected by women. But when a bunch of guys come whining about how their dating prospects are harder because of this, take it with a grain of salt — they aren’t telling the full truth. Women reject men overtly, while men reject women covertly. It’s different. A guy can ask a woman out and then show zero interest outside of a sexual encounter. This is called “sex-zoning,” and it happens far more often than you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/26 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Who's worse: a man who pays for sex or a man who lies to get laid??I'm confused here. My superficial opinion: A Man who pays for sex is just repulsive (not mainly because of ethics) while a lier is a strong man (socially) thus still attractive. That's....weird. I feel I'm missing something, looking forward for your opinions, thanks. Men who's problem is the lack of peepee in vajayjay action don't have any issue paying for sex. Most men don't have a "lack of sex" issue, they have a "lack of love/desirability", desirability being almost as important as love. They… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/26 09:45 PM |
| 9 | Fellas it isn’t a matter of women not being into you because of lack of moral character but seeing you as defective/incompetentBecause truth be told ALL women are into a man who is competent which often translates to POWER, and yes I will say it again ALL WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO POWER. 😄 😄 😄 😄 😄 ...nope. Married lady here. I think you see competence from a very "masculine" viewpoint, especially in accordance to power. Women want competence that translates into emotional support and safety, interest, and effort. Not a constant role of leadership, not POWER. I can also confidently say that women are afraid of a man who pla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/26 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Men fail to understand that women want to be chosen, not settled for.It's not insane at all for people who actually want healthey and stable long term relationships, that is the whole point is it not? There is a difference between wanting to be treated as the best out of the roster someone has, and wanting to be the best for them now that you are theirs and they are yours. First is a romantic fantasy, second is a realistic approach at appreciating whatever you can have or the relationships you stumble into. Why on earth would you marry someone who you believe is … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Men fail to understand that women want to be chosen, not settled for.It's not insane at all for people who actually want healthey and stable long term relationships, that is the whole point is it not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Men fail to understand that women want to be chosen, not settled for.Thank you! 😄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 09:30 PM |
| 20 | Men fail to understand that women want to be chosen, not settled for.It's true...but you also have to be realistic regarding a guy's own situation, and also about how REAL ATTRACTION AND BEHAVIOURS work. You can't expect a guy who's never had any experience to act like you're the best he'll ever see if the dude doesn't even know how it feels like to be desired. It's like asking a homeless person to wish for a villa compared to having any shelter at all. Also, if you expect a guy with plenty of options to simply choose you...that's insane, girl. 😄 Most men who hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/26 01:42 AM |
| – | Life as a woman currently is much much easier than a manI am not denying that there is some truth to what you say, but everything is an overgeneralization compared to what real women go through from person to person. It's just like saying that most men are tall and strong, and are good with cars, therefore they are good at protecting and repairing everything. Which is BS. I for example, have never had a relationship until two years ago. Went No desirability, no love no nothing. because i didn't have curves, wasn't overly feminine, and didn't know how… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/06/26 11:42 PM |
| – | Men should be taught that they are most likely going to be aloone if they don't improveThis. Is. Insane. Not only do NONE of this is necessary, because there are plenty of men who have none of the things you think men should have - which do have girlfriends, wives, or casual sex. You don't need to compete with any "top percent", you need to stop using dating apps, or use apps that are more catered to specific types of people (dating for short people, BBW/BBM, etc.) Also...what the f*ck is anyone supposed to do about their height?? :)) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/04/26 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Dating isn't fair and it shouldn't be.Better to be loved out of pity than dying alone, imo. The ability to choose is a superpower. Well...if it's a superpower, then it's not meant to be for everyone, by that logic. :) In that case seeing pity as "pathetic" makes thinks harder for most people, since most people don't have a choice. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you actually pursue men you like?Yes. I initiated all the relationships I've been into, including my current one that I'm engaged with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/26 08:40 PM |
| – | Does the female PPD community actually represent mainstream women?“Women also don’t have that much sex.” Reality: According to data, 29% of surveyed women aged 25–29 have had sex with at least 10 different men. https://nypost.com/2025/03/22/lifestyle/young-french-women-are-having-tonnes-of-sex-shock-survey-reveals-how-many-men-gen-z-ladies-have-bedded/ I am European. This is a data focusing on French women. French people, in general, along with Italians, are a highly sexual population due to being highly progressive. Which the study already says, that most wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/04/26 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themOk... But since sex is still an existentially validating experience for most men, where do you think are gonna look for sex? Because nobody just moves on from feeling undesirable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with them..........GIRL, you're the one who made a post complaining about this! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themThat's not at all what I suggested. I am simply saying that you're complaining about something while there are no other alternatives for that "something" to thrive without it affecting you. You can go for it No thanks, i'm engaged. :P | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themI mean...sure. But it's also what causes most men to get in relationships for the wrong reasons. So I repeat, if you dismiss men's priority for sexual experience, while also thinking that women hold no blame in that regard, then your issues in dating are a result of your view on those two factors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 02:25 AM |
| 1 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themJesus Crist, "man whore" signifies that someone has sex constantly. NOT having sexual experiences is what leads to men only caring about sex, especially more than actual relationships. It's hypocritical to be annoyed by most men dating for the wrong reasons while you don't care that most men can't get laid outside of romantic bonds. If you truly consider it only men's problem that they can't get laid, with no fault on women's side, then you have no right to complain that most men on dating apps … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themGirl, every adult virgin is an incel/femcel by definition, wdym?? :((( You don't date virgins? Mean... :)) And that's still not the point I'm making. You can't expect to find men who want to settle down or not use you for sex if they lack certain experiences firsthand. Unless they are religious, I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 01:24 AM |
| 2 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themYea that's gross. That's their problem and choice. No it isn't, lady...because it affects your dating life too and the types of men you come across who are looking for LTR or just sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/04/26 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themMen bond through sex, as in, sex sometimes needs to happen first before the emotions appear. Obviously not everyone is fine with that, and there needs to be a middle ground. But, when men feel like they can't even be desired by women, there is less of a desire to involve themselves romantically, for many reasons. Mostly being the reason that there is no reason for somebody to love you if nobody even desires you. Or...they look for relationships solely for the purpose of exploring their sexuality… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/26 10:18 PM |
| – | fat women are hypocritesI am a chubby to fit woman. My man is chubby. I love him from head to toe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:32 AM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Wdym? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themI wouldn't call it a "them" problem alone, since it involves women too. Most importantly, it affects the way men in general see dating and it affects the kinds of men women who only care about LTR get to interact with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 08:31 PM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”It’s not “fine”, it’s just the way freedom works. | | If all women would think like that, it's no surprise that most men are lonely. And it's also no surprise that men have no interest in being empathetic to women, take the most toxic advice when it comes to dating, or become creeps. Then...I guess it is what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 01:20 AM |
| 3 | Men that want to be seen as "hookup material" should only date women who hookup with themWhy not just try to get hkups only and then try to get in a relationship with those women instead? Not to be mean to men, but...hookup standards are very shallow, and most men don't fit it. :)) If they can't get hookups then that is a them problem and they should just accept that they are not hookup material and be done with it. Whether it's a "them" problem or caused by excessive standards from women, being dismissive isn't helping anyone. men care about their sexual identity and prowess. For s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Men confuse their desire as effortSometimes it’s even said openly: “Effort is for relationships.” Because...it's true? Being sexually desired is desire, which is not the same as romantically desired or love. Even if a woman is convenient for a guy, that's still leading to desirability. But I do get why you feel the way you do, but you're only looking at this from a female perspective on what sex signifies. Why? Because sex isn't a means to an end when it comes to men, or a reward. Sex is the goal; it is the sign that they desire… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 12:50 AM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Their “match” and “league” is whatever they can get, nobody is obligated to date someone similar to them. Well...that is a very big issue. If it's fine to lack self-awareness or feel entitled to shooting way above your "match", then it makes total sense why dating is so horrible. Like I said, dating has a discrepancy between genders. If all women would think like that, it's no surprise that most men are lonely. And it's also no surprise that men have no interest in being empathetic to women, tak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 10:05 PM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Might have to take it to DMs You're welcome if you wish to do so. I didn’t say anything about “fine”. It’s also not necessarily “shallow”. I happen to prefer other autists myself, but I’ve personally known many neurodivergent women who’ve had awful experiences with autistic men and are put off of them because of that. It seems to be a neurodivergent female rite of passage to seek love on the spectrum seeking mutual understanding, only to be severely disappointed. I agree that bad experiences are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 12:01 AM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Not being pressured to partner up doesn’t mean pretending to be fine with singleness. That's not what I meant. Treating relationships as the norm leads to people being annoying to those who wanna be single. But it does give a big helping hand when it comes to those who can't get a relationship on their own do to many factors. If being single is the norm, then it's harder to ask for some help when it comes to dating, without looking desperate or looking up to bad role models. Men go out of their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/26 09:11 PM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”It looks like you’re being more prescriptive while I’m trying to be more descriptive. It doesn’t matter what men “want”, we don’t get to have whatever we want in life. I was referring to the fact that the freedom to not marry or singleness was something meant to benefit women. It's not for men, it doesn't make sense to expect men to not care about dating and how the lack of it affects them if that's what they want. This is not what decentering means, you seem to be conflating it with 4B. Let me … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/26 09:14 PM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”what is stopping men from unlearning their conditioning? I assumed you were referring to relationships, my bad. Feminism has been able to largely destigmatize singlehood for women, similar can be done for men. But....that's not what men want. Women wanted freedom of choice and autonomy over their lives along with the ability to have careers without being bound by competitive men or children. It's not about being ashamed of being single. It's about lacking the aspect of life that you genuinely ca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/26 10:34 PM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”You're right, but also...not(?) Love, relationships, sex, marriage, aren't just part of social conditioning, they also came from intrinsic social and emotional values that, with time, became staples of society. Self-love, by the way, is also social conditioning - whether your parents teach you that, or friends, or a therapist - nobody is equipped with the ability to love and forgive themselves...unless it comes from a place of narcissism. As for how modern society works, we are already de-centra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/26 08:41 PM |
| 2 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”It's a lot to unpack...it's a mix of multiple factors. Men socially not being raised to form a support system, therefore it becomes hard or shameful to do it later in life. Men associating vulnerability with romantic dynamics, so the only person they would have this relationship of vulnerability and honesty with is a romantic interest...or at least a female friend. A lot of men's issues are tied to a lack of physical connection, companionship, feeling desirable, being a virgin, etc - so a romant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/26 01:51 AM |
| 2 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Oh...sorry :)) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/26 12:48 AM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2025/05/21/lonely-young-american-men-poll/ (you may not be able to read the whole article without your mail or subscribing) https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37563853/ https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12877-023-04201-9 https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12889-024-17892-5 https://link.springer.com/article/10.1186/s12889-024-18770-w https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2025/01/16/men-women-and-social-connections/ https://nypost.com/2025/01… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/04/26 12:12 AM |
| 1 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”It's just stats; and towards the end it's my personal opinion on the matter, based from experiences I see online and experiences from my life or the people I know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 11:14 PM |
| 2 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Why? Where? What? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 10:54 PM |
| 9 | CMV: Women should not pay for their own flight to see a guy.If you don't wanna be there, don't fly. If you want to be there, buy your ticket or split. The fuck is this "so you had to pay for fly there AND fuck him??" mentality...? All it took was that initial scary witch laugh to realize that she's obnoxious :)) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/26 11:49 PM |
| 1 | You're just not that guy. Its ok. There's nothing wrong that.It doesn't take a lot of work to find out that men are more prone to dating down their "looksmatch" than women. PLENTY of men date fat, crippler, ill or old women. Actually...I already had this discussion, regarding a boy and a girl with Down Syndrome. The girl still chose to be with an average guy compared to someone who is very unique and similar to her. I hope you don't mind if I copy-paste my response from that post: ---------------------------------------------------------------------------… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/26 11:24 PM |
| – | You're just not that guy. Its ok. There's nothing wrong that.I feel like you are missing the whole point of this depressing post. Nobody actually cares about grinding, especially men. It's just what modern society ended up becoming; selling your soul and your worth in order to be good enough to be desired, to be loved, to have what should be one of the most common adult experiences and lifestyles. And all of that is because nobody actually cares about how having shallow preferences, prioritizing superficial traits and success, and not being humble and mat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/26 09:13 PM |
| 5 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Being a nurse(almost a full licensed doctor <3 <3) :)) And liking psychology and personal and social self-awareness | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/26 08:47 PM |
| 6 | We need to stop calling it a “male loneliness epidemic”Research from organizations like the World Health Organization and surveys in countries like the US, UK, and EU consistently show that a large portion of adults report feeling lonely at times; often 20–40% depending on how it's measured. With women, the loneliness mostly comes after breakups, in emotionally unfulfilling relationships, or during life transitions (moving, motherhood, etc.). So yeah, it’s not accurate to say only men suffer from loneliness. Oh average, every every gender experience… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/26 12:57 AM |
| 1 | If your bf/husband died how would you react? How would it impact your life and how long would you wait before moving on?I would be devastated. It would probably take me years to move on, and even then, not completely. As for the actual moving on, i don't even know if i have the capacity of finding someone willing to date me. I only had two relationships before my current boyfriend, and it happened out of luck. To be completely honest, after I move on from the crippling and depressive state of mourning and learn to live my days with the happiness I have left, I would give myself ten years to find someone new. If I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 10:32 PM |
| 1 | The amount of American women willing to have sex with a guy within 30 days is the same amount of American women willing to split a bill on the first date.I meant "scarcity" as in being poor. All the comments reflect some lingering issues; women who do not settle for low-effort dates or having to split the bill, whether it involves sex or not. Besides that...I agree, wanting quick sex while not putting any effort yourself is stupid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 02:46 PM |
| 0 | The amount of American women willing to have sex with a guy within 30 days is the same amount of American women willing to split a bill on the first date.Nobody said that splitting the bill has anything to do with scarcity, it has to do with self-respect. If it comes to dating apps, I always split the bill, whether I am with a man or a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 02:30 PM |
| 1 | Men often don’t really know what they’re attracted toWhat kind of men told you that personality is not important...? It's all i hear about from guys. As for being "thin", that's not really an issue. Plenty of men like chunky women. as for being obese...I think there are also plenty of dating events and apps for BBW. I used to be overweight, and bullied for it or ignored. After college, I found people who don't care more easily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 01:31 PM |
| 1 | Men often don’t really know what they’re attracted toThey want her to be agreeable. They want her to be nice to them. They want her to admire them. They want to feel respected, appreciated, and important in her eyes. They want warmth, encouragement, validation, emotional comfort. And here am I...looking for a man who is disagreeable, mean to me, ridicules me, disrespects me, gives me coldness, dismissiveness, and emotional neglect. Obviously a man would want and appreciate such traits, so do women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Dating isn't fair and it shouldn't be.Well...not everyone has plenty of romantic or sexual opportunities, or none at all. Plenty of people would like some pity, Besides, there is a big difference between simple pity and pity that turns into actual feelings. Many married couples end up with people they would have never guessed they would choose for the rest of their lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Women often give horrible dating adviceMany women give bad advice, but not everyone. The problem is, men don't understand that different behaviors attract different types of women. What you initially described is what a decent woman looks for in a long-term partner; yearning, being a gentleman, emotionally mature and direct, etc. What you and other men look for, is advice on how to make women find you hot enough to sleep with you, or how to attract bad partners. Women want different things from someone who is "hookup material" and so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Would you be fine with not getting the "full Girlfriend treatment"?Depends. I would probably talk about it with him. Maybe certain past experiences made him more apprehensive of how much effort he should put in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/26 09:45 PM |
| 1 | A relationship is not trading commitment for sex...oh you have no idea... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 10:02 AM |
| 2 | A relationship is not trading commitment for sexI mean...each with their own. The past also matters - I wouldn't wanna date a criminal or worse. As for past experiences, they can impact present relationships inside and outside the bedroom. It's something both people should consider about themselves and each other, without too much judgement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 08:35 AM |
| 13 | Men should date conservative women instead of wasting their time online arguing with self-proclaimed liberal womenEhh... Conservative women care about gender norms, even if they take the initiative to praise you for the efforts you make or don't comment on the things you don't make. You are also wrong about conservative women being "more honest" than liberal women. Part of growing up in a real conservative family is to learn how to not take up space and do whatever's necessary to keep the home peaceful, at the expense of her well-being. Which also means that most cheating scenarios are going to be kept hidd… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 11:10 PM |
| 2 | Dating isn't fair and it shouldn't be.Encouraging unfair dynamics and access to something that everyone wants, while being aware that you are part of the only demographic that has something to win, or access to filtering, is shallow. In other words. Wanting to get a relationship/date as a woman, while encouraging behaviors that still make dating hard for men, isn't helping anybody. Being fine with a game where the people you need to play with struggle more than you, while maintaining those pressures, makes you shallow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 10:49 PM |
| 2 | A relationship is not trading commitment for sexIf it's something he truly cares about, sure. Though...it doesn't help anybody to lead into a relationship with that question, nor be dismissive of compatible people just because of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 10:39 PM |
| 2 | Dating isn't fair and it shouldn't be.What makes you stand by it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 01:56 AM |
| 3 | A relationship is not trading commitment for sexHi, woman here! ...from a traditional perspective, yes, women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Why? Because women have easier access to sex (being desired/sexualized) while it's up to men to commit and value that access to sex or not. Also, a relationship that provides connection, companionship, emotional support and shared experiences is called friendship. But, all of that + romantic and sexual intimacy = romantic relationship. Your partner is your partner, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/03/26 12:15 AM |
| 7 | Women hate arranged marriages because it brutally proves they are incompetent children who get better results when others choose for them.Nah...I think OP is right. I am just a girl, I don't know any better :P | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Only Mid Girls give up sex freelyYou can not know your value and give your body away easily. You can also not know your own value and not give your body away easily. You can know your value and not give your body away easily. You can also know your own value and still give your body away easily if you're consciously looking for casual sex with people you don't see a future with. You can also have any opinion of yourself and still be dumb and ask for commitment from the wrong people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 11:28 PM |
| 9 | Dating isn't fair and it shouldn't be.True. Have luck finding someone to like you while thinking like that. :P | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 09:24 PM |
| – | Dating isn't fair and it shouldn't be.You know...it really takes me a while to fully grasp when people say things like this, especially other women. I don't know if it's bait or genuine sad advice. Dating isn't fair, but considering that it literally requires understanding, intimacy, compassion, and cooperation, I would say that "fairness" is a must. It would make men less lonely and give women better options. This whole "from an evolutionary perspective- blah blah blah blah" - WE'RE NOT ANIMALS. We are human beings capable of compa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Men are just as picky as women. They just pretend their type of woman is the norm.He's not lying. :)) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Men are just as picky as women. They just pretend their type of woman is the norm.Thank you, thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 01:06 AM |
| 3 | Men are just as picky as women. They just pretend their type of woman is the norm."Man with all his noble qualities... with his god-like intellect... Man still bears in his bodily frame the indelible stamp of his lowly origin - curves" Charles Darwin | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Men are just as picky as women. They just pretend their type of woman is the norm.Me wear fancy clothes >>> cute, beautiful - man: nice! Me wear sexy clothes >>> sexy, beautiful - man: oh damn... Me wear casual clothes >>> comfy, cuddly, cute, vulnerable - man: kdfefehhu...error...loading.... >>> Alert! Baby-making hormones override --- emergency release. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/03/26 12:01 AM |
| – | Modern men are struggling with dating because they’re too fatHi, woman here! No, we don't actually care about such things, unless hooking up is the purpose of the attraction - or if the woman is an athlete/gym girl and is looking for someone to share that lifestyle with. Or if she's shallow. I am pretty sure that "expecting someone to not be obese" is not the same as "expecting someone to have clear muscles, V taper, and sharp jawline". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Men are just as picky as women. They just pretend their type of woman is the norm.Tell me? :)) There's no need to, he can show me ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 10:07 PM |
| 3 | It’s very important that men fight against paying on the first dateI also split the bill, but I do know that other women do it out of courtesy, and if guys do accept, they don't see a second date. -_- | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/26 10:12 PM |
| 15 | Men are just as picky as women. They just pretend their type of woman is the norm.I can 100% promise you that what you're describing isn't "top 20%" of women. Sometimes I dress like a Banshee and barely talk to anyone for days, other times I dress more elegant (for my boyfriend) and feel more bubbly due to feeling confident. Everybody is more or less like this. I also learned that men say one thing, but act on another thing. I am more attractive to my boyfriend when I wear sweatpants and Rick & Morty pajamas than when I wear lingerie or a dress. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/26 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Men are in a desert and women are in swamp is misandry.I don't know...I don't think women who feel "undesirable" really talk about that outside of women-only forums, therapy, or IRL with close friends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/26 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Men are in a desert and women are in swamp is misandry.Not to dismiss what you are saying, but dating for women is just like swimming in a pond; the water may be clean or dirty, and it may also have crocodiles that eat you alive. There are also plenty of women who can't date because they are undesirable, have bad facial features, or have weight issues that cannot be fixed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 10:32 PM |
| – | Women should not be asked to settleI don't really agree with that. Sure, there are people who genuinely cannot see past the things they find unappealing, but encouraging connection over normalizing shallow or undeserving expectations is way more healthy. Most of the genuine guy friends and partners I've ever had are men that did not jump to my eye as hot or confident. I chose to focus on what made them special and that led to a lot of fulfillment. Even now, i am both a nerd and a gymgirl. My boyfriend is a nerd, on the chubbier s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/03/26 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?W-Wha...? What is that supposed to mean, lady? I am a woman too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?I mean...sure. Though their partners have great jobs too. Plus, not everyone cares about expensive stuff. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?I saw what I saw and said what I said. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ A man not being dominant in his nature will 9/10 cases be an issue. I don't really care as long as there is equity and both partners pull their own weight in the relationship, and speak both their minds. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 08:35 PM |
| 4 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?I mean, most of them are in cool relationships. A couple of them are chronically single, but I do try to help them, though, their height always seems to be an issue for most women. It annoys me too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?If you do not need that type of behavior (or men in general) in your life, that's fine. But you can't speak in the name of most heterosexual and bi women who do not mind or really love male leadership and dominance. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 12:11 PM |
| 4 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 12:08 PM |
| 2 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?I agreed with the first part...but you are exaggerating at the end. Plenty of men like "strong independent women", and plenty of men dislike submissive women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?It depends on the woman, but yes, most guys who do not lead or are too agreeable do get treated as doormats. Eventually, either she leaves or he leaves. Most people still care about gender norms. The amount of times I heard "a man should not make me use my brain when I am around him" is insane. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 12:00 PM |
| 7 | Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women?I know at least 20 men. 18 of them see "being a sole breadwinner" as a lack of self-respect, a reason for pressure, stress, and depression, and a catalyst for financial abuse. I personally think that such things are complicated. Some women do want to have financial freedom out of a need of autonomy, but other women do it out of respect for the man. If I was a guy, I would feel horrible if a woman expected me to be the only one making money. Having such a pressure on your shoulders is also going … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/26 11:53 AM |
| 2 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to.I personally like that type of thinking. Less chances of feeling unwanted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 09:10 PM |
| 3 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to."A lot of dating discourse revolves around “leagues.” Stay in yours. Be realistic. Humble yourself. Don’t ask for more than you deserve." - The idea of leagues is to be humble and realistic. Being against it means being against the principles it implies. "People date who they think they’re allowed to want, not who they’re genuinely drawn to." - People are often attracted to people that are out of the margin of what they are capable of giving and reciprocating. That is not realistic. "Dating isn’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to.Everyone wants hotter, better, stronger, smarter, etc men or women. That's not the point. I am not saying to be with someone who doesn't want you. I am saying to not believe that not having "leagues" and that everyone should go for whoever they want, no matter how absurd, is not going to cause severe issues. I am not saying to settle for someone you absolutely don't like, just to be realistic. Moreover be realistic with where you fit and what types of men are available to you. If somebody out of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to.I will assume you're an average woman, with average looks, average interests, and average social life. If more people, especially men, thought the way you do, less and almost nobody would choose you - only look for the attention of hotter women(no offense). Which, by the way, already happens the other way around to men. Being loved for who you are and loving others for who they are is about choosing from "acceptable imperfection", making it work, and having the commitment of not chasing somethin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 12:39 PM |
| 2 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to.This! I am so tired of people blaming loneliness on politics, media, and socio-economic status. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 12:09 PM |
| 4 | Dating isn’t about what you deserve. It’s about what you’re attracted to."how? and why should i care?" is a pretty delusional take to have. I assume you want to be loved and desired for who you are, right? Then how do you expect that to happen if you think that it's fine for everybody to only choose from the best types of people that everyone ALREADY chooses from. For many people, not being chosen, is not just bad luck. It becomes their entire life. You're also saying that "people obsess over measuring their own value, label themselves high-value while no one actuall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/26 12:08 PM |
| 4 | A lot of guys here endlessly whine about dating, but only give the most lukewarm effort into actually doing itYou're taking away the real meaning behind what this guy is saying. He's not talking about being mad that he has to put some effort, and that he expects dates to just come to him. He's talking about feeling like he has to sell his soul and authenticity in order to be accepted by someone who takes him for granted without "that someone" ever feeling like they had to go through what he went through . And I agree. There is no real love in feeling attracted to some confident and hot guy or girl who p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 11:59 AM |
| 2 | A lot of guys here endlessly whine about dating, but only give the most lukewarm effort into actually doing itEverybody is different when it comes to their surroundings. When I was 8-12, many would already talk about losing their virginity, especially girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/26 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Feminism is extremely dangerousI kinda get it, but you're exagerating a lot. Feminism is there to make sure that society keeps an equal space for women to men; in rights, career choices and progression, relationships and family, and autonomy. Can feminism be extreme? Absolutely. Villainising all men is not cool, believing that flauting your sex appeal without attracting unwanted attention is stupid, supporting bad people just because they wear the same label as you is not cool, using false SA claims to destroy a man's life is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/26 04:59 PM |
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