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| 3 | This BS about how she grieved the marriage for a long time…Man, all I can say is just ignore all this bullshit. You’re going to go through ups and downs while you work through everything. One day something won’t bother you and the next it will eat you alive. It takes time to process everything and it’s not easy but it does become easier over time. She’s simply being selfish and many of these so called therapists just continue to enable that behavior. They’ll make up all kinds of excuses so they don’t have to take accountability for being a horrible huma… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/25 03:09 AM |
| 13 | I hate that men call victims of cheating “cucks”There are plenty of other subs around here that will be happy to hold your hand and dry your tears on this particular topic but this isn’t one of them. I personally consider all cheaters to be trash but let’s set that aside for a moment and consider the level of difficulty between the two. Women can go on dating sites and find a man rather quickly to simply sleep with. Men cannot do the same. The level of effort required is exponentially more depending on the level of attractiveness for the pers… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/09/25 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Dude I’m fucked upTherapy can be good or bad. If you go into therapy thinking it’s some kind of cure all then you’re going to be disappointed. If you go into therapy with the outlook that maybe this person can offer you a different perspective you haven’t considered and perhaps that can help you then you might get what you need to get through tough times. Therapy isn’t for everyone but it’s an option for people to try. There shouldn’t be any shame in just giving it a chance. If someone thinks it may be helpful fo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/25 12:05 AM |
| 6 | On verge of divorce .. What do you say to your wife who says “why aren’t you trying everything”.As someone who has gone through marriage counseling (it didn’t work) I don’t think you’re too far off. I didn’t see the ganging up part because the counselor seemed to understand that I was the reasonable one. It still lends to the stories you’ve heard. My ex was mad and immediately complained that the counselor was on my side. I think the only way couples counseling is effective is when both parties go in legitimately wanting to improve their relationship. I think most couples that go in tend t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/25 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Eminem’s Superman song help’s me!Y’all out here listening to his more positive songs. I had drips on repeat. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/24 02:27 PM |
| 4 | I really need some help... I am rock bottom...***First of all I can’t speak to the legal side of your divorce considering I’m not a lawyer. Unfortunately the legal system is setup in her favor as you’re well aware and there’s not much you can do except consult your attorney and get their advice. As for the hell you’re being put through right now I understand it’s excruciating and it feels like it will never end. One day it will and you’ll finally be relieved of all this stress. You just have to endure it for now for the sake of your son. Don’t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 04:29 AM |
| 10 | Have you considered celibacy?So I’ve been divorced for nearly ten years now. I dated a woman somewhere between 6 months and a year after my divorce was final (honestly it’s been so long I can’t remember an accurate timetable). I dated one more woman sometime after that (again I simply can’t remember the timeframe). Neither of those lasted more than a year and while one wasn’t bad and ended in a fairly neutral manner the other was a complete disaster. I tried a fwb situation after that but even that fell apart pretty badly. … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 04:32 AM |
| 12 | What are the top things that you don’t missThere are so many things I don’t miss that I could be here all week and probably still not be halfway through the list lol. The biggest one would probably be the stress. I was always stressed about what was going to piss her off next because I knew I would no matter how hard I tried not to. After a while I simply no longer cared about making her mad because I realized there was nothing I could do to stop it no matter what. Then I’d just stress over having to deal with the inevitable argument. We… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/24 05:07 AM |
| 3 | Why do I have homicidal feelings?I think this is why a lot of men turn to lifting weights. For whatever reason it does help channel the anger. I’m not knowledgeable in the science behind it but I did this during my most angry points and it does help. If you don’t want to pay for a gym membership or don’t want to have to leave to go to one you can just grab some smaller weights for home. It’s not the cheapest option but it’s much more convenient. I don’t know about anyone else here but for some reason bicep curls always seemed t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/24 06:23 PM |
| 4 | BackpedalingShe’s just bullshitting you because she’s running out of options. Once she’s found another option to take she will. My advice is stand your ground and continue with the divorce and don’t let her use her sad puppy routine to get anything out of you. No need to be cruel but first and foremost you need to do what’s best for yourself and your children. During and after a divorce you won’t have any say in who she can bring your kids around which sucks but that’s how it’s going to be from here on out … | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Will having a baby w AP affect my divorce settlement?During my divorce many years ago I remember reading somewhere that by law all she was justified in receiving from the value of the house would be half of payments made towards that property during the marriage. You may want to ask your lawyer about it as I’m not entirely sure how accurate it is given my divorce was almost ten years ago and I don’t know what, if anything, has changed. My state was also a no fault divorce state and I entered into the marriage after I had already owned the home. Al… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/24 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Missing somethingI think a healthier way to look at the idea of boundaries is to set them for yourself and not so much for your partner. Set boundaries as to what you’re willing to deal with and work through and what you aren’t. Boundaries aren’t some invisible wall of protection and voicing them to your partner isn’t going to magically make them adhere to them. Use them as a tool like anything else. Let the person know that if these boundaries aren’t respected you will leave and that is the most important one o… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 07:22 AM |
| 3 | Residual feelingsAs with most things in life it simply takes time. It’s a shitty answer I know but that’s really all there is. The problem is most people think it’ll take a week or two and that’s an absurd underestimation. It can take years unfortunately but in the end it will fade if you let it. Times like this are when a little resentment can actually be a positive thing and help you to move these feelings along faster. You just can’t let yourself get too carried away with that. Keep it under control and it ca… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/03/24 08:43 PM |
| 5 | Men are you okay with Woman on this sub commenting and posting?While I agree that echo chambers are bad that doesn’t tend to be what this subreddit is about. Just because only men are here doesn’t make it an echo chamber. Many different men can give many different perspectives on this topic because all of our situations are different. Sometimes men simply need to vent their frustrations because this system doesn’t tend to listen to us but that’s different from simply coming in here to strictly have your opinion validated by others. This is a place for suppo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/24 11:11 PM |
| 1 | just read a news article in Canada that feminist want to block "parental alienation" as a reason for dads to have more visitation.I think there’s multiple things at play here. First is that feminism is not and has never been about legitimate equality, it’s only ever been about gaining privileges and preferential treatment. Second is that for some reason society still always defaults to the woman as a victim and the man as the villain. The only ones who see it for what it is are the ones who have gone through it and not even all of them have broken this programming. Hell, even after all the shit I’ve gone through I still ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/01/24 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever get lonely, and start missing / thinking it wasn't as bad as it was?You just have to remember these things take time. We’ve gotten used to things getting faster and faster but our memories and emotions are still working at the same slow pace they always have. I’m roughly 8-9 years (can’t remember exactly) post divorce and I can tell you that the things that are troubling you now get much easier to manage but it’s not going to feel that way in the moment. Just be patient and keep going and you’ll eventually get over the hump. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/24 07:28 PM |
| 6 | Do you ever get lonely, and start missing / thinking it wasn't as bad as it was?It lasted the first few years for me. It didn’t help that being apart makes us get along so much better. Eventually the whole idea just went away on its own. Now it doesn’t even cross my mind anymore. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/24 10:57 PM |
| 5 | Wife cheated on me with my fatherUsually irreconcilable differences is kind of the default answer. Depending on what state you’re in most don’t require a specific reason. I’m sorry for your situation but if nothing else you have a confirmation of the kind of people they are and you can cut them both out of your life completely. You deserve so much better man. Keep your head up, it’ll be rough but you can do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/24 03:35 PM |
| 2 | trying to get full custody from an narcissistI can’t say I was in a situation similar to yours in most ways but the issue of abandonment did come up and I looked into it. You’ll want to look up your state laws on what the definition of abandonment is. It’s usually a specific time frame that they haven’t contacted the children. From what I understand it’s usually something like a 90 day period but I’m not sure how much that varies state to state. How much the courts will follow it to the letter is also a question as some courts will be a bi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/24 06:08 PM |
| 3 | trying to get full custody from an narcissistUnfortunately it sounds like this is going to be messy for the kids regardless. Maybe looking into some kind of therapy for them throughout this process and after might be good. I honestly don’t know what age is best to start therapy for children but at least looking into it to get more information might give you a better idea. As for the divorce part I’d say that you seem to be doing what you’re supposed to and I’d recommend documenting as much as you can. Your lawyer should be able to guide yo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/24 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Boob jobIs it a normal response? Honestly, I don’t know. I think everyone has their opinion of these particular subjects (plastic surgery) and that’s what dictates your response. Can I ask what your thoughts are when you here about other women getting surgery? If it’s the same kind of pity that they’ve succumbed to societal pressures then that’s more of a preference. If it’s different because you have a personal attachment then it’s more tied to the feelings you still have for your ex (whether conscious… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/24 01:51 AM |
| 11 | Wife asked me to move out this morning…Do not move out of the house! Speak to a lawyer immediately. Moving out can effect more than just who ends up getting the house. Absolutely do not move out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/24 05:33 PM |
| 10 | Just a ‘Friend’!Just wait until you find out about the “gay” friend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/24 09:28 PM |
| 6 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…So I understand what you’re trying to say here. I’m not sure if it’s that your point wasn’t articulated as well as it could be or that general reading comprehension here isn’t as good as it could be but it seems to be most likely a mixture of both. Only the person themselves can have any idea of their current state of health. That being said if you have some underlying health issues or some risk factors then consulting a doctor would be good for you. Just tell your doctor you want a physical che… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 05:00 PM |
| 2 | Need support and need help just a sad situationLet me start by saying that I’m sorry for the situation you’re in. Many of the men here, including myself, have gone through some terrible experiences to varying degrees. This period is going to be rough for you but you can make it. You just need to focus on your child and yourself right now and doing what’s best for you. The first thing you’ll want to think about is the whole divorce vow issue you mentioned. You haven’t broken your vow only she has. Filing for divorce isn’t your fault and you c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/23 08:52 AM |
| 12 | How to handle ex wife dating someone younger?Exactly this. The only time an ex having a new partner would have anything to do with you is if you have children and you worry about their safety or well being. Outside of that it’s best to simply move on and pretend they no longer exist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/23 08:35 AM |
| 8 | How would u respondAt the end of the day you can’t make someone else want to be a better parent. If she wants this minimal arrangement I say let her have it. Keep in mind that when your child gets older this will likely be used against you by the mother saying that you somehow pressured for this. If it ever comes up make sure to talk to your kid about it and explain the situation keeping in mind their age and maturity level obviously. Also try not to talk bad about your ex to your kid because that can end up leadi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/23 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Anyone get a ‘couples tattoo?’Was it a ring finger tattoo? If so that’s wild, my place was a $75 minimum per session so I had to pay that but they changed the price to $50 shortly after I started going. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/23 04:19 AM |
| 3 | Anyone get a ‘couples tattoo?’The removal process is annoying just fyi. It’s a little painful but nothing extreme. The irritating part is how many sessions are required. The woman who did mine explained it as the further away it is from your heart the longer it will take to be broken down and reabsorbed. I did about five sessions and it’s almost no more faded than it would have been anyway. I gave up and now I tell people the s on my finger stands for stupid. Whether it’s that she was stupid or I was stupid is a coin flip an… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/23 10:13 PM |
| 4 | No explanationYou might feel like she owes you an explanation and you might even be right but that won’t make it happen. It’s been almost ten years since my divorce and the best I’ve gotten is a simple acknowledgement of wrongdoing followed immediately by an excuse that she used to justify her actions. I’ve never gotten a true apology and I never will. I’ve never gotten a logical explanation for her actions and I never will (mostly because there’s no logic involved). What I did get didn’t give me any kind of … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 02:06 PM |
| 2 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?Exactly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 04:07 AM |
| 3 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?It’s a bit difficult to describe really. If you know what it feels like when you’re more emotional like angry, happy or sad then try to also notice when you’re relatively neutral. Try to do any critical thinking during that neutral period. As for instincts I can only speak for my experience. From a relationship perspective it’s noticing when things don’t seem to line up. I would say it’s similar to anxiety but it’s not quite that. I would usually have a little part of me that said this doesn’t m… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/23 02:20 AM |
| 26 | Is marrying a God-fearing woman the answer?Religion is no guarantee of morality. People can easily use religion as a type of virtue signal and I’ve met more than a few who have. At the end of the day there is no sure fire way to find a good partner. The best strategy I’ve come across so far is listen to your instincts and not your emotions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/23 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Not attracted to women after divorce?It’ll probably come back in time. Think of it like some specific food that gave you food poisoning. After that it seems to kill your taste for it but eventually it comes back most likely. Or maybe you’ve learned one of the best lessons, that the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze. Sex is nice but it’s simply not worth the risk or hassle it comes with. Your hand can work just as well and give you peace of mind that it won’t cheat or give you a disease or risk an unwanted pregnancy. It’s a rather … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/23 05:40 AM |
| 16 | The forgive your ex crap really pisses me offI think forgiveness is often misrepresented in situations like these. I’ve never forgiven me ex for what happened and I never will. She created a broken home for my child to grow up in and that’s something I’ll never be able to forgive. Indifference to their existence I think is the best and not dwelling on the past too much. Occasional thoughts are going to happen no matter what but eventually you can get to a point where thinking about it doesn’t actually produce anger. You simply stop caring.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/23 01:53 AM |
| 2 | Anger turning into bitternessSo it’s different for everyone from what I’ve seen. The anger goes away after a while but there’s no set time limit. For some it may only take months and for others it may take years. It took me personally a couple years to get over that but I’m generally an angry person so it might be different for you. Resentment will most likely take longer to go away. I’ve been divorced for almost ten years now and I still get thoughts that bring out the bitterness from time to time but they never stay for v… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/12/23 02:59 PM |
| 8 | Ex-wife asked me if I was interested in becoming "friends with benefits". It was the greatest day of my life....I think this is something a lot of men don’t understand when it comes to friends with benefits. It sounds great on the surface but in reality it’s a more loose relationship when it comes to trust expectations. Essentially it gives the woman less of a reason to be honest with the other party (or parties) involved. This is usually a lot of what led to the divorce in the first place, a breakdown of trust. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/11/23 03:59 PM |
| 5 | the step-"dad" walking the daughter down the aisle along the bio father has to be a humiliation ritualSo I think this one depends on a number of factors really. First things first is the ex wife’s spouse also her affair partner that ended your marriage? In this case I’d have to side with the dad not wanting anything to do with it. Second is how old were the kids at the time of the divorce? If your daughter was 17 when it happened and she gets married within a couple years then I could see still holding a grudge especially if you were a present dad. Third would be if you didn’t have very much tim… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/23 04:40 AM |
| 3 | Fell in love with a young women while separated now my wife want us together and I am torn!That’s the first instinct I had about it. Either a troll or someone who wouldn’t listen to any of our advice if we gave it anyway. I think it’s best for everyone to just move on from this one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/23 01:17 AM |
| 3 | *Who* are these men that go through divorce once and then *get married again,* and WTF are they thinking??The tax break might be nice but does it cover the cost of divorce? If not then that isn’t a wise financial decision. She can legally change her name if that’s what makes you happy. In my opinion I think her legally changing her last name without the added possibility of taking your assets shows a greater level of devotion. Maybe you could even pose that question to her and see how she reacts to get a better understanding of what she wants out of your relationship. As far as the concept, I get it… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/23 03:25 PM |
| 3 | *Who* are these men that go through divorce once and then *get married again,* and WTF are they thinking??Out of curiosity, why do you still desire the title? There’s nothing else that changes that can’t be done without legal marriage. I can see some argument for a religious reason but even then allowing the government to get involved is still a big risk prenup or not. Prenups do get thrown out even when drafted by lawyers. Lawyers aren’t infallible by any means. All I’m saying is to be very careful. No matter how well you cover your bases all it takes is one clever idea to watch it all crumble. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/23 07:25 AM |
| 9 | Why do you guys even bother getting married?Societal influence/pressure. Biological programming to provide and procreate. Ignorance of the legal system in regards to family court. Stupidity (either long term or momentary). | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 12:19 AM |
| 1 | What Did You Tell Mutual Friends?Not to mention that she’s probably seen this end coming for a while anyway. This means she’s most likely been laying the ground work with friends talking shit about you behind your back. Sometimes it’s subtle and other times it’s not but you better believe by the time you get there they’ve already heard plenty from her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/23 04:39 PM |
| 13 | Divorce Realization: Housework is really not that much 'work'I tell people all the time that I wish I was gay. It would make my life so much less stressful. I mean even if you had arguments they’d more likely be centered around logic. Unfortunately I’m just not attracted to dudes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/23 10:45 PM |
| 4 | If a new love interest is worried you're not over your ex...Nope, my mother is a wonderful human being. I’m simply pointing out that not all mothers care about their kids. Too many “mothers” have abandoned, neglected or abused their children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/23 01:24 AM |
| 6 | If a new love interest is worried you're not over your ex...Unfortunately even that isn’t always true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/10/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Why are we telling men to wait a year before dating?It might sound sad to you but like I said I’m happier than I’ve ever been. As a man I chose this path for myself and I’m enjoying it. Think of it however you want. It doesn’t make a difference to me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 03:57 AM |
| 5 | Why are we telling men to wait a year before dating?It’s not just you. I’ve been divorced for almost a decade and I attempted dating the years following my divorce. They essentially ended the same way just with less paperwork since there was no marriage. Since then I’ve just been done with women altogether. It’s been about three years since I gave up on relations with women and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I focus on my kid and myself and it’s awesome. Honestly one of the best parts is no more compromising. I do what I want, when I want and I… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/10/23 06:17 PM |
| 14 | So weird how many of us saw our wives get addicted to scrolling TikTok constantly.I had an ex-girlfriend use the excuse of her grandfather getting cancer and her going to be with her family. It’s really sad what lows they’ll go to just to cheat. Then they turn around and say we’re the monsters. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/23 07:06 PM |
| 4 | Would like a man's perspectiveSo you post long form explanations in two other subreddits that are more likely to validate your opinions (copy and paste btw). You then bring this short form version here with no context where you could have posted the original. What exactly is your purpose? Are you trying to make this subreddit look bad for some reason? Are you angry with your husband and feel like taking that out on other men, who most likely have been slighted by women in their past, so you post something to intentionally pr… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/10/23 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Did you ever feel like getting back together with ur ex?I think some of us go through this phase after a divorce or a breakup. We get lonely and that clouds our judgement. I’ve been there myself. My ex and I considered getting back together at one point (because apparently I’m a moron on occasion) but that fell through pretty quickly. Luckily I’m in my right mind now so I wouldn’t even take a second to consider the possibility. The problem is that the moments when you get along tend to make you forget all the bad things that happened. Never forget th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/23 02:10 PM |
| 3 | Ukrainian psychologist says 70% of his clients are men who at the start of the war took their wives to a safe place in Europe and came back to Ukraine, only for their wives to ditch them for European husbands. He asks what's wrong with Ukrainian women?Hey now, let’s not bring equality into this conversation. /s | /r/AntiFeminists | 10/09/23 08:26 PM |
| 3 | Wife thinks she's coming in my house tomorrow to take inventory of things after not being here for 15 months.These guys are right but I’ll add a small side note to this, it wouldn’t take much for her to have the time to plant something illegal in your place. Even if you don’t think she’s capable of doing something that evil don’t chance it. You’d be surprised at what people are capable of under the right circumstances. Keep your kids, yourself and you property safe. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 04:57 AM |
| 2 | No fault with kids is child abuse.The problem is the courts. At fault or not the courts are biased against the men. The only thing it would change is for a man to be stuck in a situation he doesn’t want to be in or a dangerous situation. It’s not going to change the outcome financially or with regards to custody. Look at how often prenuptial agreements get thrown out. Almost none of that will change with at fault divorce. The only thing it would change is men who want out won’t be able to get out as easily unless they can obtain… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 03:56 PM |
| 3 | No fault with kids is child abuse.I think the issue you run into with some types of abuse is a difficulty in acquiring evidence. The no fault process just makes it easier to get out faster in many cases but it does have its downsides. With the courts being as biased as they are against men I’d be curious how an at fault divorce would play out. They’d probably be more lenient on women who have been shown to be abusive anyway just like they are when it comes to any other crime. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Found out my wife was continuing to have an affair with her coworker after I forgave her.So, not an answer to the post but a question that comes to mind while reading it and the responses. After reading the initial story and seeing many comments essentially telling him not to take revenge, do any of you ever think that maybe this is why we have lost so much ground in the area of family equality? We aren’t willing to play dirty in most cases so therefore we rarely win however women play dirty in court all the time. I’m saying this as someone who not only agrees that men need to prior… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/23 06:49 PM |
| 2 | Men that cheated before they left, what’s happened to the woman now?It’s really not hard to know. You’re trying to justify it to yourself in order to not hold your friend fully accountable for her part in this. What I meant was did they meet before or after the divorce was filed. If it was before then your friend is trash. If it was after then that’s simply dating during divorce which people do and everyone has their own opinion on this. Maybe your friend really needs someone to tell her to stop being a piece of shit instead of sitting silently so you don’t offe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Men that cheated before they left, what’s happened to the woman now?So did they get together after the divorce was filed or is she the reason the divorce is starting? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 01:45 PM |
| 3 | She Started Bringing a "Friend" OverIf you’re really honest with yourself about it though some of those women in your life could be able to do that and maybe you just don’t see it. I’d like to think that the women in my family wouldn’t do that but at the end of the day I can’t say that they wouldn’t actually do that. There’s only one woman in my family that I could be confident enough in to not behave that way and that’s my mother. I’m not saying that because she is my mother either, I’m saying it because I’ve seen her handle situ… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/08/23 12:37 AM |
| 4 | She Started Bringing a "Friend" OverThey think it’s ok because our society has coddled them. Other men have put too high of a value on that commodity between their legs so they don’t care as long as they can get what they want or have the illusion that they can. Those men will often help them financially. Men have been conditioned societally and more importantly biologically to take care of women even when that means sacrificing their own security. The states take care of them financially in the divorce and in the rare case it doe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/23 03:38 PM |
| 1 | Do I acknowledge her birthday?So you say she needs to be alone and that she moved across the country and that doesn’t give you your answer? Just ignore it like it’s any other day and move on because from now on it will be, might as well get used to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 04:05 AM |
| 3 | Soon to be ex moving on to other partnersDogs are just so loyal though. Something I’m sure more than a few of us here have never had from a woman so it’s very appreciated. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/23 11:50 AM |
| 2 | Soon to be ex moving on to other partnersOr a dog if you hate cats like I do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/23 11:13 AM |
| 6 | Was it a waste? What is this feeling?In my experience, her desire to want to maintain friendship and keep tabs on you is only for her benefit. It’s only so she can feel like she’s doing something good and it has nothing to do with your actual well being. My suggestion is be as vague as possible when you talk to her. You don’t want to alienate her completely because you still need to finalize the divorce and you’ll have to coparent. Just try to get as much independence as possible because it will be most likely to help you deal with… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/07/23 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Kid's birthdays after divorceMaybe a little late but your plan to stay away is just fine. Your daughter may want you to attend but she doesn’t fully understand the situation. It’s not any different than not letting your child eat 50lbs of candy. You are the parent and therefore you make the decision based on what you think is the best. One day they can learn more about the situation and why you made the decisions you did but for now you just have to tell them no. Try not to overthink it because you’ll only make yourself mis… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/07/23 02:15 AM |
| 5 | A record-high share of 40-year-olds in the U.S. have never been marriedYou’re not alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/23 03:39 AM |
| 8 | Wife cheated on meIn my experience what xan is telling you is spot on. It’s been 8 years since my divorce and I can think about exactly what happened and I don’t even get angry about it anymore. It just takes time. There will be moments where it’s overwhelming but those will pass. At the time it happened I could barely control myself and nearly went to jail multiple times. I don’t know the details of your situation so I don’t know exactly how bad it was but I know mine was really rough and it doesn’t bother me at… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 05:29 PM |
| 8 | Is my loose-change bowl a permanent home for my old wedding ring?I just sold mine. Kind of like a rebate on the divorce. It might not be much but a dollar is a dollar. Better than being a useless piece of metal sitting around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/23 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys ever feel guilty for the kid’s sake?It’s weighing the pros and cons. Are you in a better place to be able to effectively parent your child because you have distance from this person? My ex and I do a much better job parenting separately because we can’t communicate when we’ve been around each other for more than a very short amount of time. Our communication has been improved through distancing. It still sucks knowing my kid is in a broken home and dealing with that situation but it’s much better than the alternative. I’ve been di… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/23 04:49 PM |
| 2 | Kevin Costner wife want divorce and $250k to maintain her lifestyle, even after she signed prenupIt depends on the lawyers arguments and the judges opinion. It also depends on whether or not some tricks were pulled around the time of the signing of said prenup. Either way it’s still a risk even if it’s smaller than without one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/23 12:33 AM |
| 3 | Down in the dumps todaySince you said you are going through the legal process I’m going to assume you haven’t been separated for a long time. That being said it does take a good while to get over these things. I can’t give you any exact amount of time as it varies from person to person. It’s been about eight years since my divorce and I still think about it from time to time and get a little down in the dumps but it has gotten much easier to deal with. When that happens I don’t focus on the good parts of the relations… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/23 05:56 AM |
| 3 | Video Games in your 40s?You could try tabletop gaming. Not everyone gets into it but there are many aspects to explore. Most people know warhammer but there are plenty of others. Being into rc cars maybe lookup gaslands. Anyway there’s a social aspect if you want to game with other people and it can be done in person rather than online so you’re much more likely to interact with people on a personal level. If the gaming side doesn’t appeal to you the painting and model building might. Again it’s not for everyone but ju… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/23 07:18 AM |
| 4 | If Your Getting Married In The U.S Remember These 3 ThingsAs an outsider it sounds like she just wants to be married and you are the one currently to be able to fill that role. If a man wants to get married (although I discourage this) he needs to find someone who wants to be married to him not just married in general. It can be difficult to tell the difference sometimes and not all men (myself included) are very good at reading the signs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/23 02:55 AM |
| 7 | Advice on how to deal with Ex who constantly goes into the house without my permission?Everybody here saying to change the locks has the right idea. If she breaks in after that then for sure get the police involved. Another bit of advice is to check the house to make sure she didn’t plant anything like drugs. You never know what lengths people will go to sometimes. It’s best to cover your ass. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 09:57 AM |
| 14 | As my divorce is coming to an end, I’ve been thinking a lot. I think the signs were there earlier and I just ignored them.Hindsight is 20/20. You missed all those red flags. You were an idiot. I say this to you as someone who missed all the red flags (even with previous experiences that should have taught me) and was a complete idiot. It happens to a lot of people. You like to think the person you are with is a decent human being otherwise you wouldn’t be with them. You aren’t the only one who has done this and you won’t be the last. I’d guess there’s someone else who has gone through this before and is ignoring th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/23 12:44 AM |
| 2 | I had sex with a Singaporean escort (UK)Unfortunately this is not a one size fits all solution. Some men will find this to work for them while others will not. The key is to do some self reflection and figure out your own needs. That is the best way to handle these situations. The main things you need to learn after a divorce is what you want, what you need and what your true value is as a man. After you figure out those you have all the information you need to move forward. I’m not against this personally and I do think it should be … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/23 03:55 PM |
| 2 | My soon to be ex is a stay at home…she wants to keep the very expensive house which is solely under my name since she can’t afford it for roughly 7 years until she can refinance it under her name…would you do it? We have several kids and she says I owe it to them since I destroyed our marriage.I’m calling bullshit. Your limited story and responses here don’t make any sense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/23 02:54 AM |
| 7 | Ex having baby todayI’d say the level of discussion you can have with your children should go along with their age and only you can know what you feel is correct timing. I’m of the opinion that you should never talk down about your ex to the kids because whatever issues led to the divorce weren’t your childrens fault. You and your ex are still and will always be your childrens parents. That being said there’s nothing wrong with disagreeing with the other parents lifestyle choice. You should be able to have whatever… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/23 07:54 PM |
| 2 | have you heard this one about the fooballplayer?While this worked out well and absolutely could work out for others there’s something else to keep in mind. With more single mothers now who are growing more and more entitled sometimes this might not have the desired effect. Some mothers can’t be trusted to have their child’s best interest at heart. So if your mother is one who can be trusted with it then great but make sure before you do something like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/23 08:40 PM |
| 6 | Been dating a girl who I told I was in the process of getting divorced but otherwise didn't want to discuss it. Finalized a month ago and let her know I'm divorced. Told me today she was following the docket the whole time.I feel like a google search is reasonable and you could even have fun with it on an early date or something. I don’t think looking up someone on google is too far but the double standard is the problem. It’s also subjective so someone having a problem with it doesn’t make a difference just the hypocrisy of doing it to someone else and then getting mad when they do it as well. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/23 04:22 AM |
| 38 | Been dating a girl who I told I was in the process of getting divorced but otherwise didn't want to discuss it. Finalized a month ago and let her know I'm divorced. Told me today she was following the docket the whole time.I’m kind of surprised by so much support for this woman’s actions on here. Could she be looking out for her safety, sure. I could understand checking to make sure you are, in fact, moving forward with your divorce if the intention is a long term relationship. To me that would mean seeing if it has actually been filed and when it’s finalized but not following anything in between. Multiple paid background checks seem excessive in my opinion. Looking up the value of your house sounds more like gold… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/04/23 02:44 AM |
| 3 | For those of you who were upfront before marriage and not willing to negotiate on having a prenup, trusts, and strategic legal separation (before the marriage, as crazy as that sounds), did it backfire on you? If so, did you regret it and would you do anything differently?Just be careful no matter what because the issue with prenups is that they aren’t 100% fool proof. They can always claim it was signed under duress. People can always find ways to manipulate anything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/23 05:42 AM |
| 4 | It takes all my strength to even function for my kids.Ask a woman for a definition of what love is, that’ll make you laugh even harder. Most of them don’t have a clue! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/23 10:43 PM |
| 14 | I give upIs it fair for him to grow up without a father though? I understand the frustrations but if you sit down and actually think about it what is best for the child? To grow up without a father or to know his father never gave up no matter how difficult things got all because that little boy is worth every second of misery you have to endure? If you leave now he’ll be stuck with a toxic mother (I’m assuming given the context) and no father. That’s worse for a child than arguments between parents. If … | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/23 04:01 AM |
| 3 | Am I being unreasonable?I’d see what your lawyer thinks but if it were me I’d let it go to court just out of spite. Honestly when children are involved you unfortunately don’t get the luxury of it being over post divorce. Learning to minimize the stress is the best you can do as a father in this court system. It’s not easy and it’s different for everyone depending on the woman involved. I know one thing that helps me through it is knowing that the day will come when my child turns 18 and I block my ex completely. Just … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/23 04:59 AM |
| 7 | Am I being unreasonable?You’re not being unreasonable, you’re standing your ground on an agreement that was previously made. Do you by chance have the agreement in some kind of written form because if so then that will most likely help you in court if it goes that far. Obviously speak to a lawyer to know how to proceed but don’t feel bad for standing your ground. She’s being petty because she isn’t getting her way and that’s all this is. If there’s no written agreement I’d be sure to get one now especially if you have … | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/23 03:50 AM |
| 6 | As a woman who finds herself dating a lot of divorced men, what should I ask to gauge if he is in a healthy place mentally for dating post divorce? What should I watch out for?Women don’t pick up on signs any better than men do. They just like to think they do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 04:33 AM |
| 2 | Why didn’t marriage counseling work?My personal experience with marriage counseling didn’t go well. I won’t say it can’t work but I think there are obvious flaws in this system. The main problem was when one person talks about what issues they may be having with the other it opens the door for the person being talked about to feel attacked rather than someone simply airing it out to get some ideas. The next issue is that both of you have to be in agreement that you’re willing to try and fix things. People can say they are willing … | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/03/23 02:12 AM |
| 8 | Ex is mad I plan on doing seperate kid bday PartiesYou are divorced so it’s not her call. If you want separate parties and you feel like that’s the best option it’s entirely up to you. My ex and I have always done birthdays and holidays separate and have had no issues. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/23 09:18 PM |
| 2 | So, can they just lie with no negative consequences?Judge J. K. Rowling? I prefer judge Judy myself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/23 02:42 PM |
| 5 | What would you guys do?I hope you did your due diligence on confirming because I’ve seen “medically impossible” pregnancies happen before. Never take their word for it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/23 12:19 PM |
| 3 | She finally moved out today....It sucks but it’s part of the grieving process. When it happened to me I made some holes in some walls. I also destroyed a clock that she didn’t want me to get rid of that always drove me crazy so that was therapeutic but it was still a rough time. Dark thoughts and lows are a part of it. The trick is to not let them get the best of you. Seven years have passed since my divorce and I can’t remember much of what it was like to have her here with me in my house. I also can’t imagine sharing any bi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/02/23 04:54 AM |
| 10 | Woman is jailed for more than five years for making 10 false rape claims against two different men who were able to prove they weren't even in the areaI’m hoping what they mean is that we shouldn’t be “happy” about this because it’s too lenient. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 16/02/23 04:51 PM |
| -1 | Why do feminists get so hostile and defensive whenever you suggest men are way hornier than women?I’ve never seen a women get legitimately upset by this but I have heard a few attempt to argue that it’s wrong. I think something that feels like it’s missing from this is the reasoning behind excessive sexual encounters. Just based on my personal experience, the women I’ve met who are more promiscuous seem to do it because it gets them the attention that they crave. Maybe it’s because they lack other traits that could gain them attention or it’s simply the easiest way for them to get it. Whatev… | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/02/23 07:48 PM |
| 0 | Have you noticed even chicks well into their late 30s and 40s think they can afford to be picky?Lmao! If that’s what you took from my comment, I’d venture a guess that you missed my point entirely. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/02/23 07:26 PM |
| 13 | I have come to the realization that the unfortunate reality is our biggest enemy in this war is not feminists themselves, but rather the men who enable and empower them - simps, white knights, and leftist male “feminists.”The right to vote without the same responsibilities required. That’s not equality. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/02/23 12:22 AM |
| 16 | I have come to the realization that the unfortunate reality is our biggest enemy in this war is not feminists themselves, but rather the men who enable and empower them - simps, white knights, and leftist male “feminists.”First and foremost feminism has never and will never be about true equality. It didn’t start that way and it’s never been motivated by that idea. It has only ever been about privileges. Second thing, we can start teaching our children about actual equality and point out the hypocrisy in the feminist movement. We have to start by teaching the youth of today because that’s the only way we can have hope for the future. I mean let’s be honest the present is lost. There’s nothing we can do to fix it … | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/02/23 05:02 PM |
| 10 | Paternity Fraud What would you do episode that was removed online. In an entire day of filming, no one spoke out.This is what happens when society promotes men being disposable cash machines. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/02/23 08:19 PM |
| 8 | Paternity Fraud What would you do episode that was removed online. In an entire day of filming, no one spoke out.They aren’t being forced to raise someone else’s kid, only pay for it. At the same time many fathers aren’t even allowed a meaningful amount of time with their biological children. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/02/23 02:58 PM |
| 4 | Wife says we don’t spend a enough time togetherOnce the shit-test is passed and you feel the boundaries are solid then you could introduce her to your hobbies if you want. There’s actually a perfect game for this exact situation. It takes two is literally a game about a stressed marriage where both partners have to learn to work together to solve puzzles. This could be a pallet cleanser once the issues are resolved. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/23 04:41 PM |
| 5 | Tell me she is going to destroy her new relationship.From your post it sounds like you just want someone to affirm your hopes of some kind of poetic justice. I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. The truth is bad things can and do happen to good people and good things can and do happen to bad people. Statistically speaking it probably won’t work out in the end but what if it does? You said your divorce isn’t final so my assumption is you still aren’t over it and you won’t be for some time. This is why you need to do some work on yoursel… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/02/23 02:46 AM |
| 0 | Anyone here become extremely frustrated with how unnecessarily shitty and difficult dating has become for men and how inflated women’s egos are now due to social media, OLD and feminism/female empowerment?Some of you are, yes but I have an ex wife and a few ex girlfriends that can prove there are some bad apples. That’s why I just quit. Apparently my taste is absolute trash. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/01/23 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Can we banned the haters from subreddit who doesn't support their fellow men?The only two reasons for banning someone on Reddit is 1. they clearly violated the rules set in place or 2. Your ideology doesn’t hold up to scrutiny and you don’t want it challenged. Let’s stick with #1 and if you have a problem with all the “haters” you need to do a little work on yourself and learn to not let them bother you. The best thing to do is to discuss the topic with people who don’t agree. The outcomes of this can be used to perfect your argument. This is the internet after all so ju… | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/01/23 04:26 PM |
| 2 | Agree?No men do not, I completely agree. So why do so many feminists seem to get upset over men caring about body count? Isn’t that a man’s choice whether or not that has an bearing on his decision of who he chooses to sleep with? And if it is a man’s choice, and I believe it is, why don’t women just deal with it? Instead they make generalities that all men are trash. Not all of them but this sentiment isn’t rare. These are ideological opposites and these are going to occur when at least one side goes… | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/01/23 11:25 PM |
| 3 | Agree?What in the hell are you talking about? That has nothing to do with either of our comments here. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/01/23 08:39 PM |
| 2 | Agree?There could be an argument made that feminism does tend to promote the type of behavior that has led to this by pushing for female sexual liberation. If it pushed the idea by saying “sleep with whoever you want but remember this can have negative effects” then this might not be happening often enough to generate this sentiment. However as it stands feminism tends to say “sleep with whoever you want and there should be no consequences and men should simply deal with it”. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/01/23 08:28 PM |
| 6 | Why do women/feminists still refuse to acknowledge that men are way hornier than women, and that the entirety of their social/political privilege rests on this simple fact?Tom segura has a fantastic bit about this exactly. I can’t remember which special it’s in but it’s worth watching them all anyway. Essentially the problem is perspective. A woman might want sex all the time but she hasn’t met the equivalent in a man. There are some guys who would go for it with any spare time they had available they just might need short rest breaks in between for the equipment to cool down because men and womens sexual organs don’t function the same way. It seems to be much eas… | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/01/23 06:03 PM |
| 2 | Is the feelings I'm having are valid or am I in the wrong for having them?I don’t know that I can give you the best advice on how to fix this but I think I can help clear things up for you. You’re right, it is hatred plain and simple. Everyone sees this as an inherently negative view and that’s to each their own. It’s more about perspective. Let me give you an example to clear up what I mean. There’s nothing wrong for a person to vehemently hate racism but in most peoples opinion there’s a lot wrong with hating someone just because they have a certain color skin. So h… | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/01/23 05:46 PM |
| 1 | This is how the people on r/askuk treat a kid who's clearly suffering from some sort of depression because he is ashamed of himselfThis is precisely why young men need mentors and positive male role models. He needs men in his life who can show him that being in the military isn’t the only way to be masculine. This is purely hypothetical but let’s say a man in the military is a dead beat dad. Is he more manly than a guy who wasn’t able to join the military, has children, handles his responsibilities and provides for his family? Just because his idea of manliness is wrong doesn’t mean he needs to be berated for it. He needs … | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/01/23 05:32 PM |
| 2 | What did you do with your old wedding band?I took mine to a goldsmith and sold it for the gold value at the time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/23 04:38 PM |
| 11 | Why are the phrases “you aren’t entitled to women’s bodies” and “women don’t owe you sex” the default responses when men complain about how hard dating is?I like this concept “women are entitled to a man’s body”. It puts a different spin on the my body my choice argument. A man uses his body to acquire his finances and in turn a woman who divorces a man feels entitled to that currency that the man sacrificed his body to earn. I feel like there’s a good argument to be built upon this. | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/01/23 02:35 AM |
| 15 | No one cares about your trauma. You’re dangerous.Cheating is wrong no matter what, yes, but 80% of divorce is initiated by women and then they’re taking children and money from the men. They do this even in cases where the women are the ones cheating and they aren’t held accountable due to no fault divorce states. So in the context of marriage this is still a gendered issue. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/01/23 09:46 PM |
| 8 | Have you noticed even chicks well into their late 30s and 40s think they can afford to be picky?This is what happens when women are constantly being told they look great. This is done by men trying to get in their pants and it’s being reinforced by this whole body positivity movement. Most people want to think they’re better than they are and it’s understandable. The problem is it’s going to the extreme now and it doesn’t look like we’re going to see an end to this anytime soon. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/01/23 04:40 PM |
| 4 | Should we even out the amount of females and males in workplaces?We could make every single human being the ceo of a multi-million dollar company and people would still complain about not being the ceo over a different company. The arguments will never stop so we might as well go by merit to ensure the most qualified person gets the job. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/01/23 12:34 AM |
| 3 | How do u guys trust women again? Or can you?Anything is possible I guess but I haven’t figured it out yet. I’ve been divorced for roughly seven years now and I’ve had two relationships since then neither lasted a year. The relationship that turned into marriage was very unique for me. So I just kinda thought that I wouldn’t have another one like that again and tried dating after. It was about six months to a year after my divorce before I did but it went ok. Even though I have no proof for one I still find myself just assuming she cheated… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/23 11:54 PM |
| 5 | Can’t even play a simple game of would you rather🤦🏾♂️But you’re stuck in a closet. It doesn’t say you’ll ever get out. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/01/23 10:28 PM |
| 18 | Can’t even play a simple game of would you rather🤦🏾♂️I don’t know, she could potentially turn you into a vampire and then you’d be locked in the closet with her forever. One avada kedavra from umbridge and you no longer have to deal with her. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/01/23 04:26 PM |
| 8 | saw this on meirl (idk does this even belong here)But at least he’s not murdering. That we know of. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/01/23 04:21 PM |
| 10 | (Delete if not allowed) Apparently, traditional gender role models are "bad" & the comments are calling the mom & dad a piece of (you know what) for raising the kids with traditional values. Feel free to share your thoughts in the commentsAlso don’t just leave it stuck to the side of the shower. It’s funny to me that both sides on this argument are essentially bitching about the exact same thing. How about both parties pick up after themselves and save everyone the trouble. Why is this such a difficult concept for people? | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/01/23 01:52 PM |
| 3 | Female She/Her Non-Misandrist Feminist. Want to have a genuine conversation, no bashing.Twisting someone’s words is not typically seen as a sign of someone being open to discussion. No one said anything about men or women being “better” with regards to anything. What I said was privileges which is not the same, but you already know that. When you decide that legitimate discussion is what you’re open to then feel free to reach out. Until then you can play your games with other people on Reddit but I’m not going to indulge you. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/01/23 12:18 PM |
| 1 | Should i appealIt’s up to them. I’m not saying he should. I’m not saying he shouldn’t. This is the internet and sometimes it’s only here to entertain us. | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/01/23 06:48 PM |
| 5 | When you ask feminists to backup their claims, it's always the sameThis has the same feeling of the old “I know you are but what am I?” responses from grade school. Some are just lost causes at which point you have a decision to make. Are you going to give up or are you going to keep responding just to entertain yourself? | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/01/23 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Should i appealOr you could just to annoy someone and possibly live rent free in their head for a day or two. It’s whatever entertains you. | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/01/23 04:26 PM |
| 13 | Female She/Her Non-Misandrist Feminist. Want to have a genuine conversation, no bashing.Feminism has never stood for equality. It has always stood for privileges. Feminism has also gone through different phases or “waves”. While the original feminists weren’t necessarily about equality they were much more reasonable than the modern day feminists we see now. I can understand the confusion with terminology as it has evolved over the years. The same with your “bitch” example. The common use definition of modern times has evolved from its original meaning in most contexts. It can be us… | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/01/23 01:36 PM |
| 8 | Because, I said I was a female: I am apperantly not.“I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude cause we’re all dudes, hey” | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/01/23 05:45 PM |
| 13 | she's literally hotter thoTo be fair here, it’s all about preferences. Everyone has their own thing they’re into and there’s nothing wrong with that. The problem is shitting on someone for having preferences simply because they’re male. They actively encourage this from feminism and women not “settling” but from men apparently it’s disgusting. | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/01/23 05:42 PM |
| 8 | Need strengthHonestly man it sounds like you need to take some time for yourself and figure out your true value. If a woman sees you as just an option then remove that option. You’re better than that. You two have been married there shouldn’t even be a look at options on the table and yet that’s exactly what she’s doing. A lot of women these days think that marriages should be happy all the time. The truth is they go through rough patches that could even last for years but in order to get through them it req… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/01/23 11:09 PM |
| 27 | It happens,if you have nothing to offer except the said holes.. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/01/23 03:55 PM |
| 5 | Maybe because women keep prioritizing it in men.We should coin the term “emotional management” because both sides could use some work on this. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/01/23 03:45 PM |
| 8 | Why I don’t like Andrew TateThis is one of the most well written explanations of why he’s a dislikable guy. I’ve only seen one interview with him and a couple clips. Didn’t really care about him either way. Him referring to himself as “top g” is one of the most annoying things I’ve heard in my life but egotistical people always do stupid things like this. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/01/23 02:26 AM |
| 2 | I am a feminist, I want to have a friendly debateI would like to say I applaud you’re willingness to have a reasonable discussion here. We do tend to get feminists who are aggressive in their initial comment and then act like you’re the one being unreasonable when you don’t engage them or act courteous. My personal beliefs are based on my own experiences in the family court system during my divorce as well as the experiences of close friends and even some acquaintances. Before any debates could be had we need to define what feminism is in this… | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/01/23 02:10 AM |
| 2 | 37m - Less than a year divorced - "talk to dad' opposed to "talk to your dad" difference in language?Thinking back, my ex wife and I never once just said mom or dad before or after the divorce. We always added the your in front of it because it’s the child’s parent and not the spouses. I would assume there’s absolutely nothing to this and if nothing else at least it’s being spoken correctly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/23 04:34 PM |
| 2 | NormalcyDo you ever find it strange that women who hate on men constantly, are attempting to act more like them? | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/01/23 03:27 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys hate feminism or just women in general?I think your question oversimplifies the sentiment a bit. I personally hate feminism as well as certain types of women like the entitled and abusive ones. I know I have a strong bias against women and that mostly stems from the incredibly negative experiences I’ve had in my romantic relationships with them. I also have women that I love very much like the ones in my family as well as having a few female friends who I care about a lot. I don’t hide my bias from people and the women in my life kno… | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/01/23 03:17 AM |
| 2 | I wonder how they'd feel if we changed: the word ''men'' with: ''women''?It makes sense that their best jokes are stolen from men. | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/01/23 01:13 AM |
| 2 | just got a gun pointed at me.In your state you may want to look into whether or not you can request for her to have a psychiatric evaluation. In some cases they will hold them in the hospital for an amount of time. See if the family member who heard her say it before could back you up. If nothing else getting this hold could give you time to get your things from the house so when she does come back you won’t need to get anything or be around her. If she tries to contact you again make sure it’s only through text so you have… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/01/23 12:58 AM |
| 2 | Seriously curious...A lot of that is due to the legal system having no repercussions for women divorcing in most cases. The man will be forced to support her financially as a consequence for paying the majority of the bills during the marriage. They also aren’t being taught that relationships take a lot of effort to maintain so they run at the slightest bit of discomfort. Not all of them obviously but enough to be a major problem. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Seriously curious...That’s good to hear! It’s nice to see that the next generation is willing to open their eyes to reality. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 05:41 AM |
| 3 | Seriously curious...The one that wasn’t bad for me actually did pay her share. We went on a couple trips together and we split it. She was the only one who came from a home where her parents were still together and honestly they were great. If I could choose in laws they would absolutely be who I’d want but it just didn’t work out. Even when the woman is willing to pay it still doesn’t make up for the work required to put into a relationship in the end. I’d say most of us have been simps at one point or another. I … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 05:28 AM |
| 3 | Seriously curious...Same here. It’s been about 7 years since my divorce and I dated two women since about a year or so after. One lasted 8 months and the other lasted 6. Only one was relatively positive but I learned that some women just aren’t willing to work at it and will leave over the smallest argument and that doesn’t fit with me and the fact that I absolutely refuse to beg a woman to stay. The other was a nightmare and I still don’t know how I could ever be that stupid after everything I had gone through bef… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/01/23 04:10 AM |
| 1 | Separated for 6 months. Hopeless...Honestly I’d put my money on this relationship is over completely. It sucks when it’s someone you’ve planned on spending your life with but all the signs are there. You said she’s gone out partying on the weekends so she’s tasted that freedom and she won’t let it go. I think the best move is to file for divorce and get it over and done with. You’ve already wasted your time this long, don’t waste it anymore. Think about it this way, since the start you’ve been missing out on time with your kids b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/23 08:45 AM |
| 2 | Going through an “uncontested divorce” and on 3 it states “This marriage is irretrievably broken” and I don’t agree with this. Can the wording be changed to reflect that she believes this but I don’t? Or is this just standard language that’s needed to file an uncontested divorce?As far I understood it during my divorce is that it’s standard legal language. I don’t know of any ways it could hurt you down the road signing it but not necessarily agreeing. I agreed with it in mine so I can’t give you any personal advice on the matter. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/01/23 03:10 AM |
| 26 | I have noticed there are alit of lurkers in this sub. most of them don't even like the subreddit. I feel like they just come to hate on this sub.To be fair there have been some women here too. As men, we aren’t the only ones negatively affected by this repulsive ideology that is modern feminism. We may be affected more by it but it still hurts women too. I think we should keep that in mind and show a little appreciation for them as well and not just our fellow men. Remember we are about actual equality and not the privileges that feminism demands. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/01/23 02:56 AM |
| 0 | how would you deal with a rape accusation/lawsuit?You go do that and maybe work on your approach a bit. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/01/23 01:50 AM |
| 0 | how would you deal with a rape accusation/lawsuit?You come here, insult someone and then expect them to do your bidding? Seems like you’ve brought your own example. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/01/23 12:24 AM |
| 1 | how would you deal with a rape accusation/lawsuit?I’m sure plenty do but I wouldn’t be one of them. It’s crazy nowadays as a single man being able to own my own house and take care of my own child with primary custody but some of us are still capable no matter what negativity feminism has brought into our lives. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/01/23 11:32 PM |
| 2 | How feminists workFair enough. I was assuming the discussion was between the removal of the clitoris (clitoral glans) and the removal of the foreskin. It’s not the most clearly stated by either side. If the argument is between the removal of the clitoral hood and the foreskin then that’s fair but it doesn’t seem like that’s what’s going on from the screenshots. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/01/23 05:20 PM |
| 0 | How feminists workOk I understand what you’re saying here but I have to disagree that these two things can be compared. I completely get your argument that it’s very one sided but in this case I can see a reason for that. Male circumcision may decrease pleasure and in later life potential disfunction but female circumcision is pretty horrific. There are many different things that can be argued are extremely unfair for men but I have to say this ain’t one of them. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/01/23 03:00 PM |
| 4 | how would you deal with a rape accusation/lawsuit?Even then all a women have to say is no or stop (which they can do during and not actually mean it) and then they still have an argument. I don’t know anymore honestly. All it takes is a biased judge and you’re done. Maybe just looking at adult content online and being alone is the best way to protect yourself but even then a woman you’ve never spoken to could lie and make claims that would be believed by some so there might not be a way at all. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/01/23 02:03 PM |
| 2 | what happened to this case?A 5/10 female to a 5/10 guy isn’t anything special but to a 2/10 guy it’s a pretty big jump. It’s all relative. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/01/23 01:48 PM |
| 13 | how would you deal with a rape accusation/lawsuit?Even a video of consent might not be good enough anymore. If you remember that “mattress girl” a while back her argument was that she consented initially and then withdrew consent during the act. She even put out a sex tape later as an example. I don’t think her argument was successful in the end but that doesn’t mean it never would be. I’m also guessing her accusations still led to repercussions for the man involved in the court of public opinion especially in the beginning before any facts cam… | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/01/23 01:39 PM |
| 3 | what happened to this case?You really shouldn’t be. Let’s be honest we have a lot of dumbass men in the world who add to this problem by continuing to want these women all because of a pretty face and the chance for a piece of ass. They are just as big of a reason for this kind of thing being able to continue. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/01/23 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Female Nature: Never take responsibilityIn the beginning of my divorce this was the case but now she admits she fucked up at least to me. She won’t take all the credit for it but she’ll at least admit some. And I can’t say that it was all her fault either because I am a very difficult person to deal with at times. We just had clashing personalities so it was never going to work anyway. I still could have dealt with this for the rest of my life because I truly believed in marriage being forever but the only thing I can’t handle is infi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/01/23 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Is mainstreaming obesity to sell your products by playing wokism to fat acceptance crowd the pinnacle of marketing?I agree with that. The problem is the media is trying to say it is healthy in a lot of cases. I don’t bother my overweight friends by telling them they need to lose weight, I just enjoy their company. If they want to lose weight I encourage them and cheer them on. I also don’t lie to them and try to tell them it’s healthy so they stay fat, I just leave it alone. | /r/AntiFeminists | 06/01/23 09:51 PM |
| 0 | Is mainstreaming obesity to sell your products by playing wokism to fat acceptance crowd the pinnacle of marketing?I don’t think the majority of people care much about having fat people in advertising as models. I think the issue people have with it (including myself) is that with this they are pushing that it’s perfectly healthy when it’s obviously not. I have nothing against fat people whether they care to do anything about being overweight or not. It’s their life let them live it how they want. I’m a smoker, nobody is telling me to keep smoking and it’s actually healthy for me so why are we doing this for… | /r/AntiFeminists | 06/01/23 09:40 PM |
| 2 | I am fucking losing it guys!The only legitimate advice I can give you is to see what your lawyer says this next meeting but with the amount of evidence you say you have as well as what seems to be a reasonable offer (the original one of 50%) and not to mention the way she has acted I’d fight her tooth and nail for everything just to be petty. It honestly sounds like you might be screwed either way unfortunately but if nothing else you can choose to go down swinging. If nothing else you can at least enjoy being a pain in he… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/23 05:50 AM |
| 17 | Am I wrong for this comment? This was posted on r/tinder and the women’s comments were just mostly the same jist as this. Now I’m at -13 karma :(Let’s take a look at a little logic here. The man doesn’t want to get drinks and offers a less expensive and safer alternative and still gets labeled a potential rapist. The thought process they’ve acquired is astounding. What if we turn this around and say that judging by her comments she seems like the type to look for a man she can falsely accuse? | /r/AntiFeminists | 06/01/23 05:38 AM |
| 2 | Old SpiceI’m not sure what you’re talking about but old spice did have terry crews as a spokesman and he had an incident that came out during the me too movement and got either completely ignored or made fun of simply because he’s a muscular man. In case anyone didn’t know this he talked about someone in Hollywood grabbing him (sexually) while at an event. The media just laughed it off saying things like “why didn’t you just hit him?” All because of his gender and size. Meanwhile they fully supported all… | /r/AntiFeminists | 05/01/23 10:50 PM |
| 7 | It's a 'no' then...“I AM THE MACHINE” (in Russian) - Bert kreischer | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/01/23 08:21 PM |
| 1 | Casual Sex Isn’t Worth It for WomenBirth control is optional, as is sex where the woman controls access. This makes pregnancy, child birth and raising a child optional as well. If a woman chooses to have sex and gets pregnant (which she knew was a risk) then she is the only one who gets to decide from then on whether she’s going to keep it, have an abortion or perhaps put it up for adoption, the man gets no say (with the exception in the case of adoption if he wants the child). If she does keep it and the man doesn’t want to, she… | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/01/23 07:33 PM |
| 99 | Based AIAnyone else find it funny that in order to tell a joke about men it had to use an old joke about a dumb blonde? | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/01/23 01:54 PM |
| 41 | It's a 'no' then...It’s interesting that they focus on the violence and completely ignore the idea of morality in the question. It doesn’t surprise me at all. | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/01/23 11:29 AM |
| 2 | Feminism is a mental disorder and Feminists say the craziest shit ever...Fair enough. | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/01/23 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Casual Sex Isn’t Worth It for WomenWomen control access to sex. Therefore they bear a little more responsibility in that instance. They also know what pregnancy entails physically if not emotionally as well. Knowing this ahead of time somehow feminists seem to absolve them of any responsibility. I’m curious, is there anything that feminists expect women to take responsibility for in their lives at all? | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/01/23 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Feminism is a mental disorder and Feminists say the craziest shit ever...I didn’t say none of us are like that. Everyone has their own ideals. Nothing wrong with that. People simply disagree on some things whether you’re on the same side or not. To each their own. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/01/23 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Casual Sex Isn’t Worth It for WomenThe man and woman equally control whether or not they have sex (with obvious exceptions that are illegal of course) full stop. Both parties are responsible but only one gets decision making if pregnancy occurs. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/01/23 10:47 PM |
| 2 | Filing from the Couple that "had it all."Working, for women, can just be a hobby because they are with high earning men. It’s not required by any means to support anything at all. In this scenario they have a safety net such that they have no real understanding of the weight that men hold. Many don’t understand what the weight of that responsibility really feels like. Women claim to be more able to have empathy and yet most never consider this. So many men sell themselves short because society has told them for years that they are expe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 09:40 PM |
| 2 | I'm in the anger stage of grief, and it has opened my eyes to the truth of marriage.My advice would be to make sure to take enough time for yourself to work through everything. It’s also a good idea to do some self reflection. Not to blame yourself for any mistakes you may have made but to learn what they are so as not to repeat them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 08:11 PM |
| 8 | I'm in the anger stage of grief, and it has opened my eyes to the truth of marriage.In some states if they start living with someone who has a criminal record for any or maybe certain types of sexual crimes the court has to give you custody by law. You may want to look into his background and state statutes on that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 07:09 PM |
| 6 | I'm in the anger stage of grief, and it has opened my eyes to the truth of marriage.Even prenups are getting work-arounds now. The women will claim they signed it in duress and it’s null and void. There’s almost no way to legitimately protect yourself in marriage as a man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Feminism is a mental disorder and Feminists say the craziest shit ever...Not everyone on the right is like that. It sucks that you had that experience. Both sides have some pretty ridiculous extremes that are all worthy of ridicule and condemnation. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/01/23 05:17 PM |
| 19 | Casual Sex Isn’t Worth It for WomenPhysically, yes but men would still be expected to provide for the child in the case that the woman decided to have it. Also the woman is the only one with any decision making power through the entire pregnancy and often times even after depending on custody arrangements. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/01/23 04:33 PM |
| 3 | Filing from the Couple that "had it all."Therefore men are part of the problem. Now we must be a part of the solution and stand up to this broken system. Help more men understand that marriage is no longer built on a firm foundation but rather a house of cards no matter a persons circumstances. Once men stop falling prey to this idea that marriage benefits them then we can make the necessary corrections. Until then it’s all we can do to help each other when a need arises and teach the younger men coming up in this world today. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 03:58 PM |
| 6 | American Men Are No Longer Interested in American Women: The Dating Wars Are OnWomen are better than men at some things and men are better than women at some things. I think the point some men are trying to make is that when looking for a life partner they’re looking for someone who compliments them. Not in the superficial “oh you look nice” kind of way but in the strength and weakness equalizing type way. A large portion of men see one of their strengths as being a provider. When a woman comes into their life also as a provider it becomes a competition between the two and… | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/01/23 03:46 PM |
| 4 | Filing from the Couple that "had it all."I think it has a lot to do with a life of privilege. Not necessarily in a sense of money but the fact that life now is easier (at least in first world countries) than it ever has been. Men still have to work for what we have almost entirely so it makes sense that it tends to affect women more. Feminism hasn’t helped any essentially saying that life is handed to men on a silver platter so women should receive the same. It doesn’t take into account the difficulties we have to go through to get any… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/01/23 02:02 PM |
| 3 | And here I was thinking honesty was the crux of healthy relationships! I thought men who cared about body counts should be avoided, now feminists have to lie to secure their commitment? They just can't grasp personal responsibility.....Here is a study conducted on prairie voles as a model organism. Many other social effects are studied in this not just monogamy. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5815947/ Here’s an article where multiple psychologists and studies are cited. https://psiloveyou.xyz/what-happens-to-your-brain-after-having-too-much-casual-sex-41a206c7f303 Here’s an article from Gizmodo disputing the idea that oxytocin leads to lowering of a bond with sexual partners over time. https://gizmodo.com/myths-a… | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/01/23 05:21 AM |
| 6 | And here I was thinking honesty was the crux of healthy relationships! I thought men who cared about body counts should be avoided, now feminists have to lie to secure their commitment? They just can't grasp personal responsibility.....It actually negatively effects a persons ability to pair bond which is very important in a relationship. The more partners you have the less likely you are to form a meaningful connection later on. I think the money is assuming it ends in divorce which is a higher probability in this case. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/01/23 12:16 AM |
| 0 | How’s this an incel?I was only asking to clarify whether or not they heard that themselves to ask if that had any substantial effect on whether or not they considered themselves a decent human being. I never heard it from my father but I had seen it in practice and I tried to follow many of the stoic ways myself. In my experience it has led to more inner peace and a greater ability to control my emotions such as anger which I think has been incredibly beneficial to myself and the others around me. I was simply fish… | /r/AntiFeminists | 02/01/23 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Serious question: Should the possibility of sex work be used to impute income to a divorced mom?This seems similar in a way to the Walmart greeter position. I believe that position, requiring almost no physical labor, has been used to lower settlements for work related injuries where the person who was injured claims that they can no longer work due to the injury itself. I could be wrong but I think I’ve heard it before. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/01/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | How’s this an incel?Is that what your dad told you? | /r/AntiFeminists | 02/01/23 09:36 PM |
| 44 | Trying to get Feminists to answer **how** women have it harder than men is one of the most amusing spectacles of all time. They cannot do it.What’s sad is that video isn’t even the full conversation. Sydney Watson talked about it last night on a YouTube stream and pearl said something about it on a post that I saw. Those were obviously the best two on the panel by a mile. There were a few that I disagree with but they seemed to be able to remain civil at least. The two on the far right and the wheelchair lady were fuckin awful. They were condescending and insulting the entire time and couldn’t argue the point without adding something… | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/12/22 10:36 PM |
| 40 | I bet if you ask ''The Redheaded Libertarian'' what exactly toxic masculinity means, she will have no answer.Am I missing something? It seems like she’s calling the label by the apa a problem, which it is. Maybe I’m misunderstanding. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/12/22 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Gold diggers r usFair point. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/12/22 07:01 PM |
| 11 | Gold diggers r usUsing a man for your own nefarious purposes, in this case attention and resources, shows some prejudice towards them and doesn’t seem to see any value to them outside of finances. Misogyny is always blamed when a man uses a woman for sex and then discards her seeing her as having no other value. What’s the difference? They both have identical definitions aside from whether it’s towards a man or a woman. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/12/22 12:08 PM |
| 19 | Gold diggers r usAnyone notice how the people who try to come here to this sub to try to prove our beliefs wrong or sexist never seem to show up to defend this type of behavior from feminism inspired misandry? Curious, very curious. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/12/22 12:24 AM |
| 2 | How many of you lovely lot have actually found a genuinely nice and kind woman who makes you happy ?I can tell you they do exist. Whether or not it’s for romantic purposes, I don’t know. I have a couple friends that are women and they are legitimately good people. There’s nothing romantic between us and it’s honestly better that way. I can stay single and do what I want to with no one to worry about except my child and myself but it’s nice to know they are out there and modern feminism hasn’t killed them all off yet. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/22 01:49 PM |
| 3 | Latina Girl Wants DNA Test Mandatory At Birth "It Would Be A Great Idea"Good thing I don’t care about the Canadian government. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/12/22 11:33 PM |
| 93 | Just wanted you my friends to know...Also forgot witchesvspatriarchy. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/12/22 10:52 PM |
| 5 | Latina Girl Wants DNA Test Mandatory At Birth "It Would Be A Great Idea"I think the most concerning part of the database would be the ones owned by or funded by other governments. Similar to China being able to take anyones information from apps owned by Chinese companies no matter what country they’re from. And many countries already have scientific and medical links so there’s no telling where your information could end up without you ever knowing. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/12/22 09:52 PM |
| 1 | Why are you anti feminist ?You can take a look at the census bureau here: https://www.census.gov/content/dam/Census/library/publications/2016/demo/P60-255.pdf This gives a partial picture. There are mixed statistics on this depending on which agenda is being pushed from other law firms and organizations. There’s not so much a comprehensive set of statistics that give a clearer picture of the how and why. Many men don’t challenge custody in court due to being told that they will lose both by society and their attorneys. 50… | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/12/22 09:45 PM |
| 7 | Why are you anti feminist ?Having to go through the family court system myself and see many of my friends and acquaintances do the same opens your eyes to a massive imbalance in the system. This one did it for me but plenty of other things just add to it once you start examining them. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/12/22 07:14 PM |
| 6 | Latina Girl Wants DNA Test Mandatory At Birth "It Would Be A Great Idea"I feel like this one is a mixed bag. On one hand I think it would be great for a man to know whether or not it’s his child. On the other hand giving the government access to everyone’s dna without consent seems like a bad idea. Let alone labs that are affiliated with other governments around the world. Considering all that has to be done to fix this issue is for women and men to stop having unprotected sex with multiple partners. For some reason we act like this is a difficult thing to ask for. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/12/22 07:10 PM |
| 3 | Remember bros… they want the cash and prizes without delivering anythingOk so I was incorrect when saying she didn’t work. I missed that part at the bottom. Edit: looking again it’s not clearly stated whether or not she does work. It seems to be able to be taken both ways so I don’t know. As for a so-called leisure gap it’s pretty difficult to take it seriously when they continue to refer back to the gender wage gap which doesn’t exist. How did this study arrive at these results? How did they verify the information was accurate? Were any of these times over or under… | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/12/22 12:19 AM |
| 8 | The new famous ChatGPTMaybe the joke here is it’s idea of equality? | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/12/22 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Remember bros… they want the cash and prizes without delivering anythingWould working a full time job not add to her cause in weighing her individual situation. It would do nothing but help her position. Aside from possible forgetfulness there’s no reason she would leave it off of the list. Just like there’s no reason why you would continue to push the issue unless you were more interested in “winning” the argument rather than getting to the truth and having a legitimate dialogue with someone who believes differently than you. You made an assumption and you have ver… | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/12/22 06:44 PM |
| 7 | Remember bros… they want the cash and prizes without delivering anythingIf she was working a full time job then why wasn’t that on the list? She even clarified that she does grocery shopping and other shopping (probably clothes and such). The assumption that she has a full time job seems to be the stretch here. I admit we don’t have enough context to make these assumptions but that puts both of us in the wrong. If both parties work then both parties should be doing housework. That housework can differ and she didn’t say anything about yard work or maintenance so who… | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/12/22 03:22 PM |
| 7 | Remember bros… they want the cash and prizes without delivering anythingThe one here doesn’t pay bills or have a job. You can tell because it’s not listed and she obviously wouldn’t have passed on that opportunity. So since she has no job to pay for things these things are her responsibility. The man works and makes money to be able to pay for things. How are these things so uneven? | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/12/22 02:18 PM |
| 6 | If My Man Wants Me Take My Lingerie Pics Off Of Instagram, He's Insecure "That's A Red Flag"The man is not after validation in return. He’s simply looking for stimulus to make masturbation as quick and easy as possible with no connection between the woman in the porn and himself. Men are visually stimulated creatures and that’s simply all there is to it in the majority of cases. If the man could get it from his partner in all those instances when he wants it I’d say he’s likely to do that instead but most women can’t keep up with the male sex drive. So it’s not the same validation as a… | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/12/22 04:31 AM |
| 3 | If My Man Wants Me Take My Lingerie Pics Off Of Instagram, He's Insecure "That's A Red Flag"No. As you can read for yourself I said it’s not an accurate comparison unless the man was messaging the girl in whatever adult medium he’s using (onlyfans being the most relevant).At that point he’s trying to get attention from that person. No woman has ever posted a picture online for the purpose of no one seeing it. They are seeking some form of validation. Especially if the pictures are them in rather revealing outfits because that means that the validation is expected to be sexually related… | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/12/22 12:20 AM |
| 5 | If My Man Wants Me Take My Lingerie Pics Off Of Instagram, He's Insecure "That's A Red Flag"This isn’t an accurate comparison unless he’s looking on only fans and talking to the creator. I’m sure most men would have no problem if their partner watched porn. There’s a big difference between posting pictures to get gratification from strangers and looking at porn for arousal. I’m sure most women wouldn’t be comfortable with their men posting risqué photos online to get attention from other women. | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/12/22 10:19 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts?I think that’s fair. I’d say some don’t have the option as much as others but a good deal do have at least some form they could use whether legal or illegal. I think the main thing is the term has essentially been twisted simply to be an insult. I’d wager most who are called that by women or white knights aren’t actually incels but mgtow rather, men who have chosen to no longer take part in the shit show that is the current dating scene. People who are against mens rights will always try to demo… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/12/22 09:19 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts?The connection between the two people can have a pretty significant effect on whether or not it’s pleasurable. At that point why pay for it when your hand can do it for free? | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/12/22 03:54 PM |
| 11 | when you disagree with a feminist (context in comments)He didn’t say they don’t get raped and murdered, that’s a blatant lie. We have the ability to go and look for ourselves and confirm any statements being made. At the time when I looked nothing was deleted so the full context seemed to be there. It was chaotic to say the least but when you show up and instantly throw out a lie for whatever reason that really destroys any ability to have a reasonable discussion from then on. You could have come in here and reasonably added whatever context you fel… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/12/22 03:40 PM |
| 1 | fact?In America only some have realized how terrible feminism is. It’s still absolutely horrendous in the family court system which is arguably the most important place for there to be equality. This still isn’t a good reason for it to be looked at as a revenge type thing. It’s just swinging the pendulum in the opposite direction so it’s the same problem from a different angle. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/12/22 05:18 PM |
| 2 | fact?This is true but that doesn’t mean that looking at it as revenge is necessary. It makes the mens rights movement look like it’s coming from bitterness rather than a legitimate hope of fixing the system for the betterment of everyone. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/12/22 01:52 PM |
| 2 | fact?This is simply going to the opposite extreme which will eventually lead to the same problem from the other end of the spectrum. It’s about finding a good spot in the middle not enslaving women. All this does is set mens rights back. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/12/22 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Are you dating during your divorce? Are you repeating your same patterns?I tried dating a little after my divorce was finalized. I changed things about myself to see if the outcome improved. It didn’t go well. So there was either something about me that still needed to change or I wasn’t the biggest problem. No idea which one it is since after a few failures I’ve given up entirely. I’ve always been more comfortable on my own and after all these years the idea of sharing my space with someone else is not appealing. I’m overall happier and more content than I’ve ever b… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/22 01:23 PM |
| 6 | What is a body count?Others here have already explained what body count is so I won’t continue to repeat it but add a little context on why it matters. A higher body count lowers a persons ability to pair bond. Pair bonding is the emotional attachment people form with one another in a romantic relationship. Essentially more partners hurts your ability to create an emotional connection with your later partner. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/12/22 04:45 PM |
| 1 | "What brought this on?"It’s almost like a virus of human nature in a way. Something starts for a good reason by people who are genuinely working towards the original goal. Then along the way bad people realize they can use this to benefit themselves without ever thinking of others. Typically the honest and genuine people don’t pick up on these bad actors and eventually get pushed out. Then it’s simply a matter of those bad people manipulating as many others as possible to believe the way they do and they’re very good … | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/12/22 01:29 AM |
| 74 | Wow.When you build the foundation on lies, don’t expect it to hold up to the truth. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/12/22 01:12 AM |
| 8 | A Man Should Pay All The Bills, Its Insulting For Me To Use My Resources "It Makes No Sense"Kids, don’t do drugs! | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/12/22 12:38 AM |
| 4 | Latina Wants Child Support Payments Monitored On Single Mothers "They Use The Cash For Nails & Hair"The only time any government has ever actually cared about children is when those children benefit them for another purpose. It’s essentially a benefit by proxy situation. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/12/22 04:59 PM |
| 0 | How do most anti-feminists lean politically?I do really like this question! Myself, I’m more right leaning. I’m very pro gun and small government. Not a big fan of taxes but I understand the need and believe it’s been overdone by a lot. Very pro fathers rights and mens rights in general. Personally I’m anti abortion however I don’t feel the need to force that upon everyone else although I think fathers need some rights when it comes to this subject. I’m not religious myself but I do see a value of religious moral principles but like with … | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/12/22 05:00 PM |
| 5 | of course femininity plays a roleIt started by fighting for a right to vote but I never heard them fighting for the responsibility of signing up for selective service therefore from the beginning it hasn’t truly been about equality. | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/12/22 01:58 PM |
| -3 | Hello. I'm just 22 yo guy and I'd like to thank you for your stories you posted. I've never been married and I'm not going to. Divorce law is just extremely unfair towards men. Women are so confident and try to force you into marriage cause they KNOW IT.The representation of marriage is subjective depending on the people involved in the marriage. The representation of divorce is due to a failed system. Some men get lucky when it comes to divorce but only because the woman herself isn’t unfair and sometimes the courts will decide different than what the woman herself wants and not typically in the man’s favor. This guy is seeing the bad contract for what it is and has drawn his own conclusions. Nothing wrong with that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/22 08:13 PM |
| 3 | LibelIt’s my understanding that slander and libel lawsuits simply aren’t worth the time in the majority of cases. I believe it has to be proven that you have had significant financial losses as a direct result of whatever was said or written. It’s also very difficult to prove. Just proving the lies isn’t really the key but rather the correlation of the material to your losses. If it’s simply lies that had no financial effect I don’t think anything can be done. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/22 03:29 AM |
| 14 | Men, what's something that happened to you that caused a divorce?Same. I feel like for me personally almost anything is able to be repaired but once they cheat I’m completely checked out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/22 03:18 AM |
| 2 | Should I be updating my soon to be ex wife on the divorce process? She wants to know when and If I filed.You could try sticking to text message. It tends to help when they can’t hear attitude in your tone of voice. It helped in my situation years ago. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/22 12:36 AM |
| 3 | Just decided to get divorced. How can i move forward now. I’m scared.The best advice I can give is to be alone for a while. Give yourself some time to do some self reflecting and get used to being by yourself. Many people have difficulty with this part but in the end I’ve found it’s worth it because it really helps to figure out who you are and what your value is. If being alone doesn’t suit you then later on start dating but for the beginning you need to make sure your head is in the right place. Counseling can help if you’re open to the idea which I’m guessing … | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/12/22 12:05 AM |
| 3 | Found condoms when getting my stuff.Then you’re potentially dooming a child for something it had no part in. That’s a bit much. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/22 05:41 PM |
| 4 | Found condoms when getting my stuff.I’m not gonna lie, taking the rest of the condoms and using them yourself with other women is petty as fuck but it’s a fantastic idea! The only way this could be better is to use them with her friends and save the wrappers to give them back when you’re done lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/22 09:54 AM |
| 26 | Wow. She's willing to give me more custody time to be with her boyfriendThere’s nothing wrong with being disappointed but make sure to leave it at just that and don’t bother mentioning it to her. Make sure to get it all worked out and in writing when you make the custody agreement. Also given what you’ve mentioned here it’s possible that she could try to move later and take your kid with her. Make sure to cover all your bases with the agreement to prevent any hassle in the future that may come up. You have to be prepared for anything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/22 01:11 AM |
| 0 | Dads with little ones. How do you do this?A lot of women get too tangled up in their own negative emotions to consider the situation fairly for the children. I’d assume she just sees it as she’s hurting you and nothing more. Just keep documentation as much as possible. I’d make sure anything by phone or FaceTime is specifically only to interact with the children. Anything having to do with the arrangement stick to text and explain to her that you feel like that’s the best way to minimize conflict. Honestly I’m sorry you have to deal wit… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/22 02:07 AM |
| 2 | Dads with little ones. How do you do this?Is there a court ordered agreement involved or do you have to wait for it to be finalized? If there’s already an agreed upon arrangement with court documents then be sure to hold her to that or take legal action. If there’s not then I’m sorry but you may be out of luck. I’d be sure whenever you need to discuss who’s keeping them keep it to text message as this could come in handy later if she continuously tries to change it after you have agreed on the arrangement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/12/22 01:54 AM |
| 5 | How many you have come to the realization that…After my divorce years ago I was still open to the idea of dating. I dated two women after it and I never rushed into a relationship. I thought maybe I could still find a decent woman at the time. Then after those two fell away in similar ways to all of my previous relationships even from before the divorce I decided to give up. I figure maybe there’s something about me that only attracts horrible women. If that’s the case then I just assume the women who show interest will end up being the same… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/22 01:29 AM |
| 4 | Should I take half the house?She initiated the divorce and you’ve tried to make the marriage work. I don’t see a problem of getting what’s legally yours. You can’t put a price on effort in a relationship and if you contributed substantially more effort I think that makes up for the money for the house. At the end of the day you aren’t getting what you want out of the marriage why should you be concerned with giving her what she wants from the divorce? | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/22 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Divorcing at 37, wife cheated any suggestions on how to move on?It seems like you’ve gotten a lot of good advice in the comments for the most part. Here’s one thing I can add about the long term. Since you have kids together be very careful with the communication. Down the road it’s possible for you two to start talking more and you may get along with each other very well. This can lead to you two deciding to try to work things out. I’m not saying it will happen I’m just saying it can. There’s a reason that you two started the relationship and those same tho… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/11/22 01:48 PM |
| 6 | Pretty woman wanted me to be non-emotionally engaged to her, I set my conditions, she didn't accept them.Then how are you saying that what he did is goofy when he literally pointed out the hypocrisy? If you don’t think it’s wrong to call women out on it then that’s exactly what happened here. You can attempt to insult me all you want it, I don’t take it personally because it doesn’t disprove anything in my arguments. That is exactly what happened here. You may want to go back and reread the original post. “I also added that in “my world” a men’s world, we are demanded to buy love in one way or anot… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 26/10/22 01:13 AM |
| 9 | Pretty woman wanted me to be non-emotionally engaged to her, I set my conditions, she didn't accept them.Men aren’t women, I absolutely agree. Women aren’t men also so what’s wrong with calling them out for attempting to act like they are? No one’s calling women goofy for striving for mens roles. Calling out the double standard is exactly what happened here. What’s wrong with that? | /r/PussyPassDenied | 26/10/22 12:49 AM |
| 4 | Pretty woman wanted me to be non-emotionally engaged to her, I set my conditions, she didn't accept them.Why even bother bringing up the me too movement. Some of them deserved it and some of them didn’t but using that as an example is pretty poor considering some of them were legitimately rapists. Cancel culture hasn’t strictly hit men so once again poor example. You’re right, our generation didn’t grow up with the resources like these young guys have. That’s not bad for them. Our time has passed, it’s the responsibility of the older generations to pass along knowledge and wisdom. Our generation is… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 26/10/22 12:34 AM |
| 12 | Pretty woman wanted me to be non-emotionally engaged to her, I set my conditions, she didn't accept them.I’m not far behind you age wise and the game has changed since our early dating years. Should it be this way? In my opinion, no. But this is the reality a lot of young men live in now. They are more at risk for false allegations and manipulation and no one will stand up for them. How long are men going to have to put up with getting the shit end of the stick all because it may not be the traditional “proper” way to do things? Things have changed and I applaud any man who will stand up for himsel… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 25/10/22 11:15 PM |
| 16 | Pretty woman wanted me to be non-emotionally engaged to her, I set my conditions, she didn't accept them.If it’s ok for her to ask for friends with benefits then why isn’t it ok for him to ask to be compensated for his time? If he’s agreeing to the removal of emotional attachment then he’s wasting his time while he could be out looking for someone who wants all of it and not just a part. That time is valuable considering it’s a finite resource. He’s not forcing her to agree to the terms so there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this. Especially considering a lot of guys pay for dates simply for the … | /r/PussyPassDenied | 25/10/22 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Kick rocks, lady.I couldn’t tell you what the name was. It seems to have been rendered moot as well. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 19/09/22 06:39 PM |
| 7 | Kick rocks, lady.Don’t worry about him, he’s irrelevant. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 19/09/22 11:46 AM |
| 27 | Kick rocks, lady.To simplify, it means your point is moot. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 19/09/22 10:52 AM |
| 49 | Kick rocks, lady.No one’s saying their isn’t but I think gay men have better app options and women have their own subreddits to say this. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 19/09/22 08:42 AM |
| 1 | So when it happens to a man it’s fine, but when it happens to a woman...Inefficiency is the surest sign of the government being involved. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/22 11:10 PM |
| 1 | So when it happens to a man it’s fine, but when it happens to a woman...I feel like that problem could have been remedied in court a little easier than attaching people together legally. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/22 11:03 PM |
| 2 | So when it happens to a man it’s fine, but when it happens to a woman...Thanks for the info. It shouldn’t even have been a thing in the first place. Just another way for a woman to trick a man into losing shit. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/22 11:00 PM |
| 6 | So when it happens to a man it’s fine, but when it happens to a woman...When did they deem it unconstitutional. I know it individual states that had these laws so they weren’t everywhere but I never heard it was struck down. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/22 10:45 PM |
| 5 | So when it happens to a man it’s fine, but when it happens to a woman...I agree but it’s been done before. There was a pro basketball player who told the story of when his fiancé tried to pull that shit. He had a prenup done way in advance of the wedding and kept telling her to sign it and she never did. So finally the wedding day came and right before the ceremony he’s told she never signed it and he confronted her and she was crying and saying she would sign it. Had she signed it then she could have argued that in court later if they divorced. Thankfully he didn’t… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/22 10:43 PM |
| 3 | So when it happens to a man it’s fine, but when it happens to a woman...Prenuptial agreements have loopholes. The other party can claim they signed under duress which is a common tactic to sign it at the last minute before the wedding. There are other such ways to get around it so it’s far from a sure thing. Essentially the best deal for a man is to simply stay single and not even live with a woman. I’d agree it’s not good for relationships especially with kids involved but until the deal gets better in the courts it’s just not worth it. Men have to stop putting up … | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/22 06:14 PM |
| 19 | So when it happens to a man it’s fine, but when it happens to a woman...You still have to be careful living together though. I think it’s called common law marriage where once you’ve lived together for so long legally you’re considered married. This has fucked over a lot of guys. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 09/09/22 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Obviously if you're a woman and it's your birthday you're above the lawIs it just me or does the timing actually seem perfect? She can pay the ticket with the birthday money she’ll get. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 05/09/22 05:25 PM |
| 13 | How dare females committing crime be jailed, let’s change that.Seems to be a bit misleading. Of the 86 and 77 percent mentioned, how many were in lesbian relationships when the violence occurred? The writer simply makes you assume that a man committed the act. Clearly cherry-picking the information available and not comparing to some that may prove you wrong would be intentional malice. So in essence, just another lying hoe. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 04/09/22 04:15 PM |
| 1 | This needs to happen *every single time*It happens all the time. I’ve been in that situation too many times and it took me a long time to learn that lesson. I’ve learned it now and have essentially given up on dating. Not entirely but overall pretty much. I’ll put absolutely no effort in to finding someone and if someone comes along, cool, if they don’t, cool. I learned a while ago that I don’t like one night stands so I simply stopped going after those types. Now I enjoy my time and my money and I’m a hell of a lot less stressed. Peo… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/08/22 05:06 PM |
| 15 | This needs to happen *every single time*Also for those of you who say you don’t know they’re crazy until after, next time you meet a girl actually pay attention and see how many red flags show up and ask yourself if you’d ignore them just to smash. As men we have got to stop ignoring them just for a piece of ass. Consider if this chick hadn’t gone to such crazy lengths, there wouldn’t have been enough evidence and they most likely would have sided with her. Obviously the man had been in jail due to her previously so that proves the po… | /r/PussyPassDenied | 22/08/22 12:03 AM |
| 2 | YupYou should also check out Jim jefferies. I would recommend his special “bare”. If you haven’t already seen it that is. | /r/PussyPassDenied | 11/06/22 10:26 PM |
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