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Here’s a good place to start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:18 PM
70

This is definitely satire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:48 AM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/m36e4k/i_thought_i_knew_the_full_extent_of_pornsick_mens/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:39 AM
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The line for acceptability is now gone. Like the article suggests, porn permeates everything online. Not only can we not really properly protect kids from coming across it while using the internet, it’s shoved into your face sooner or later if you use social media. I’m glad I deleted my Instagram account over the summer. My Facebook is deactivated. I don’t even feel like LinkedIn is safe anymore. Between this article and the horrors of DeepFake, where is there left to hide? We are consumed by po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:27 AM
20

It’s sad! And it is offensive for them to tell you that, but you’re right to focus more on what the positives are for you. They’re going to have to deal with maladjusted children because they have an absentee parent in the household.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:36 PM
2

Lifting. When I clean and press a barbell I get to let go and hear it slam into the ground. When I deadlift 275 it seems to make the men in the weight room scatter to another part of the gym. The weights aren’t fragile. They can’t break. No one tells me to “calm down”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:03 PM
6

Imagine not taking any responsibility for a life-changing decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:45 PM
375

“Lol I’m a single mom but I live with my husband.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 04:49 AM
5

When the whole man and his house needs to be condemned, definitely a dealbreaker. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:25 AM
3

Girl I have two podcast episodes in mind that talk about this very thing. Backed by research. one Two
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:15 AM
24

My god. This took me back to a memory I try unsuccessfully to block. One of my exes excitedly told me he cleaned his room so I could come over. Ok...Already pretty fucking terrible start. When I entered his room, there were still bags (!) of trash in the room and when I peeked behind the room divider for his office area, the desk was stacked high with dirty dishes. In another part of the room, his guns were just laying on the floor. I asked him about a huge stain on the chair in his room. “Oh, d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:04 AM
39

How do people live their entire lives being completely useless? A waste of a whole human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:02 PM
36

“Experts”. Mmmkay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:32 AM
3

What kind of internalized misogyny is this? “Let men harm sex workers so they don’t harm you.” A resounding FUUUUUUCK YOOOOUUU to whoever wrote that hot, festering garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:06 PM
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Why do I feel like he did that on purpose because he saw how happy she was? A once in a lifetime moment ruined. They really do fucking hate us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:43 AM
4

Fingers crossed for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:32 AM
55

It’s just...fascinating to me that he thought he could just put friendship coins in but make a relationship/sex pop out. Then there’s the horror that he would scream at his “friend” at the top of his lungs. Then there’s the goosebumps when considering that he didn’t care that his “friend” has the autonomy to choose. And finally the disgust that he believes he can dump his whole life of unmet expectations onto the rare woman who was willing to be his friend in the first place. Men: work. on. your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:21 AM
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Have you seen a dermatologist? It’s quite possible that the damage was to the surface layer of the skin, and with the right exfoliating routine (specifically recommended by a doctor) and time, your skin can repair itself. But I’m so sorry that happened. That’s so upsetting, objectively scary, and just a huge blow to one’s self-esteem. I hope things aren’t as dire as they seem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:11 AM
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“Strong” as in, will take their shit without requiring the emotional labor needed to ever repair the harm they cause. They want a woman who will smile to their faces and cry on her own time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:05 AM
70

And some women have literally done this as a way to compete with the porn their partners watch! These men create a never-ending cascade of unreachable bars rather than just admitting they don’t even like women in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:59 AM
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I can feel the respect for women and the empowerment of sex positivity just radiating off of this mess. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:56 AM
17

What in the Great Value brand Arthur Fleck is this sociopathic nonsense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:51 AM
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Yep. I just got a rape threat message for saying I’m sad that men hate women. The knee jerk, reactionary stance that men take is alarming. The “logical” gender doesn’t read for comprehension. Somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 08:15 PM
75

One step further, when you’ve never experienced gender-based violence yourself, it’s all too easy to judge what trauma recovery looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 02:40 PM
24

“So you can make me cum? That doesn’t make you Jesus.” -Tori Amos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 01:01 PM
54

Lol how old is this creature? No woman is going to be fooled past the first date. What an absolute turd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:19 AM
3

Oh my god this is so accurate. We live in a horror film.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 07:36 PM
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The media teaches men in other countries what women in America are supposedly like. Male gaze. Male focus. Catered to a male perspective. Why is she blaming feminists for what the MEDIA and Hollywood do to women? She’s confused. It’s not like foreign men are reading literature on liberal feminism. She clearly doesn’t read it either because she’s conflating the “sex positivity” of libfem and the “fuck your sexual pressure disguised as empowerment” of radfem. You’re mad at the wrong people, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 04:09 PM
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I met three abusers, a guy who snorts heroin, and an actual murderer on OkCupid. I’m good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:03 AM
22

Unforgivable. At least she can rest in peace without his worthless ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:33 AM
45

I’m sorry. That’s horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:26 PM
47

More than likely you’re probably right. To add to that the fact that he has so little regard for his mother or respect for their relationship is chilling. If he kills his whole family at Tropical Island over this fuck toy I won’t even be surprised. His voice is fucking scary. He needs serious help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:04 AM
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The fact that he recorded this conversation is just as depraved as the subject of the conversation. This smug deviant gets enjoyment out of his mother’s distress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:49 AM
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“Women choose to be better more often.” That’s at the heart of everything we talk about here, and all the cognitive and actual dissonance we experience. That one sentence sums up everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:16 AM
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Standing ovation 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:53 PM
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Yep. I get so angry because what even is that life? They have to be so miserable to choose to stay broke, stuck, disinterested, lazy, uninspired, unhealthy, unhappy, emotionally stunted, bored, inactive, willfully intellectually stagnant, etc. No wonder they are depressed. They choose to have zero purpose or drive. They choose it! What a waste of life. It enrages me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:03 PM
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People really hate when women are angry. When we say something negative about something that’s supposed to be widely accepted. When we don’t smile and thank a guy for dumping his useless cum on us. When we say no. When we don’t smile for others period. When we ask for what we need. When we express ourselves on our own terms. When we hate things that hurt us. When we reject a rigged system. When we demand financial equity. When we don’t care that we hurt men’s feelings. When we are evolved. When …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:59 PM
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Why do men think that if they feel nothing during sex, it’s the woman’s fault? It’s you, dude. You’re dead inside. A woman isn’t your fucking golden chalice. Also, “immature 32 year old man”? Fuck these Peter Pan assholes. You’re a fucking drain on society and you’re wasting your life by being this useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:49 PM
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I’m relieved to hear there were at least some people who supported you at that extremely difficult and life-threatening time. I’m often discouraged from standing up for myself at work in the ways that I would like to, which is one reason I’m in the process of transitioning to a new job. I really hope there are still authentic male supporters of women out there. The idea that they’ve all been infected by porn and misogyny is too depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:43 AM
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Great question. She’s doing such important work. I would definitely consider supporting her if so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:34 AM
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You right, you right. sobs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:16 PM
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Sex and porn are two different things, you fucking idiot. 🤡 Talk about not answering a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 07:38 PM
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Right? Like now he has to write part 2 where he gets to learn the stepdaughter’s size and her preferences for underwear. NOTHANKS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:27 PM
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Disgusting. Thank god you survived and were able to leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:09 PM
70

That reminds me of the feminist podcast about cases of “sex gone wrong” aka sexually-motivated murder. Men are swiftly becoming too dangerous to date or marry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:56 PM
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“Where’s the pASSiON? Why she No WaNt medioCRe sEx nO MoRe?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:14 PM
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I agree. The conversation is nuanced, we both have valid viewpoints that were brought forward, and it’s great to hold bisexual pickmes accountable while still validating bisexual women as a whole and making sure they don’t feel alienated here. 🤝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:10 PM
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Right, but if we’re going to go down this very precarious rabbit hole of toxic female behavior, we can also use a critical eye to examine lesbian “fuckbois” and other stereotypically male behaviors that bleed into lesbian spaces because of female exploitation and objectification in our society as a whole. To act like all lesbians are immune to the patriarchy in the way they view and treat other women is a little bit disingenuous. Bisexual women aren’t a danger to lesbians because of their proxim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:04 PM
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It’s not biphobic for lesbians to choose to date lesbians. It is biphobic to say that a standalone story about how one woman felt the need to contort herself in her expression of her own sexuality in order to receive male validation is evidence that lesbians are right to avoid bisexual women. Like, come on here - it’s not patriarchal to be critical of the concept of conflating one person’s actions with all bisexual women. Please don’t gaslight me for asking for clarification and pointing out som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 07:56 PM
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You love to see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:51 PM
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You’re gonna have to walk us through why you think saying something like this would be useful here. Because it’s very biphobic and offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:34 PM
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I lift heavier than most guys at my gym. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:50 PM
8

In reality those are all circumstances of rape or sexual assault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:40 AM
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It’s one horrible, hideous thing to blindside your wife of 15 years without ever making a single effort to communicate about your long list of grievances, but it’s another thing entirely to leave your three children without any hesitation for a woman you’ve never lived in the same fucking city/state as and don’t know well enough to bet your future on. Four lives ruined for who knows how long, plus most likely this new woman’s because the baggage of abandonment of the children and an inevitabilit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:22 AM
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Imagine the podcasts for buttwipes. The brosplainy commercials. The Instagram PSAs. The clean butt Tik Toks. The anal clarity book deals...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:07 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:45 AM
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They’ve been saying the same thing since the first wave of feminism. Also, still with this idea that women want to abuse men the way they’ve abused women. Nah, I’m tired. We’re all about them leaving us the hell alone at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 06:06 PM
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“Don’t a mistake”, boys. The only streak they should be worried about is the one they leave in their boxers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 05:47 PM
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“I love this man.” Does she??? What’s there to love? Where’s his contribution?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:22 PM
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I wish washing their ass became a hobby, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:02 PM
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They craved a way to sexually exploit the female component of the relationship. He probably tried to tell her their sex life was too boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:23 PM
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Unfuckingbelievable. But tell me more about empowerment and how sex work is valid. How much it’s helping women. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:04 PM
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I’m so sorry. Men are dangerous to us in so many ways. Thank goddess you are getting out of this situation. Please keep us posted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:02 PM
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It’s horrifying. How dare the people who operate these media sources pile their dysfunction onto actual children. And for what? Oh right, profit. They aren’t peddling eating disorders these days. Straight to sexual degradation and exploitation for this new generation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:15 AM
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Teen magazines have changed rapidly because porn has encroached upon so much of our culture. We’re talking degeneration over the past decade. So unless you’re like 20 years old, you’re pretty much old enough to remember when shit wasn’t like this. But yeah the whiplash is intense and depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:38 AM
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Look at them talking about exactly what they know! They’ve always known. Never again will I believe otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 03:28 AM
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Teen Vogue. This is from Teen Vogue. How rapidly we are expecting children to adopt the vices, abuses, and addictions of their parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:44 PM
2

I came back to this nearly a full week later just to start my weekend off right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:31 PM
4

These women sexualized abuse as a way to cope with it happening regardless of their consent. I guess if you have to choke on a dick, pretending it was all your idea to begin with is the spoonful of sugar you need to help the medicine go down. It’s a sickness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 11:26 PM
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“Just let him hit you. You’re so mean. If you don’t even send him nudes to share with his friends, how will he know if you’re hot enough for him? What a killjoy, you degradation-hating man-ruiner! You can’t even accept men for wanting to punch you with impunity! Misandrist!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:41 PM
20

Ah yes, the position humans shit in, depending on where you are in the world. Very sexy, ladies. Be sure to shit right on that butt floss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:51 PM
54

This man would rather see her dead. Fucking piece of garbage. Edit: I don’t call people garbage lightly. But this is an ER visit waiting to happen and all he sees is fucking candy that he should be entitled to. This enrages me so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:47 PM
24

This is a woman who cleans out of anxiety. She has to constantly be over functioning to make up for his lack of basic adult behaviors and overall dysfunction. I’ve been in her shoes. Pure hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 10:46 PM
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I just wish women like this could perform their self-hate in private. But to be clear she really should have grown out of it by now. She allowed herself to be put into this category and she seems fine to self-flagellate for clicks. She should just start posting this shit straight to PornHub so we don’t have to see it anymore and she’s speaking directly to the audience she intended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:13 PM
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When you call yourself a feminist and in the very same moment talk about sexual oppression and violence like dabbling in it is one big “lol”. This reads like AI was forced to watch every episode of Sex and the City while also absorbing thousands of hours of graphic female subjugation. But that’s giving Tracy Clark-Flory far too much credit. She’s just crushing women she believes are beneath her now and acting like it’s cute and quirky. Manic pickme dream girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 07:05 PM
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This made me really sad for some reason. Damn, dude. You don’t even know what you don’t even know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:42 PM
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That’s how I think of everything too. However, I know some people want the comfort of knowing they’ll be lovingly assisted to the other side, and I think that’s valid for anyone who wants that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:02 PM
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In the most absolute, literal sense, yes. But you know as well as anyone else that that’s not what I’m talking about or referring to here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 09:07 AM
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Hmm yes I do so enjoy being talked about as if I am not able to speak for myself and must be spoken of on my behalf. One of the charms of being mixed race! But also wtf are they even saying? At least make sense. They’re just out here with no filter saying anything that pops into their heads which is apparently just unchecked misogyny and blanket statements about people they don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 01:03 AM
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“How do I reconcile this?” Gee whiz, I have no idea how you continue to stand by a violent racist but best of luck to you and your white supremacist family, ma’am!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:57 AM
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Yeah, it’s wild to imagine what life could have been like without the enormous setbacks but we somehow turned out all right, despite the odds stacked against us. The cycle of abuse has been destroyed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:51 AM
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I’m sorry. It’s horrifying. People think abuse and a toxic relationship is this big explosive thing, but the other kind is a slow death of the self, every day, until your body finally follows. I wish we could show their generation that women are allowed, and are in fact owed, a fucking do-over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:43 AM
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It’s ironic that he so obviously wants to die and yet his heart continues to beat, while she so badly wanted to live and was robbed of that opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:41 AM
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It’s heartbreaking when a friend gets sucked into the mental abyss caused by abuse. Just keep reminding her that you are there for her (if it’s safe for you to be).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:37 AM
5

She doesn’t deserve it. A patriarchal society has some harsh consequences for women who slip up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:35 AM
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Denial, mental illness, Stockholm syndrome, low self-esteem, children they can’t afford...so many reasons, but it’s why I no longer keep my mouth shut if I know a friend is in a bad situation. Either you’re gonna see the light or you’re gonna want to kick me out of your life but I won’t let a friend suffer while I stand by and say nothing, like so many of my mom’s friends did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:33 AM
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Ironically it’s not even necessarily that we want to be alone, it’s that we’ve chosen the path that best serves us. Create a miserable life with unhappy children and die early of a disease. Or curate a fulfilling existence with carefully selected friends and maybe die alone. Early or too late or right on time, who knows. We are guaranteed so little in this world that we have to be cutthroat with that which we can control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 12:30 AM
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Boy don’t you come at me with that fucked up neck floss and expect me to know what to do with it. You wanna be oblivious about something society expects you to do? Well that makes two of us, only you’re the one who will go out into the world looking stupid for it for once.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 08:00 PM
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Internalized misogyny really has women out here being like, “If only he could have stolen my youth away sooner.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:58 PM
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It seems she is abusive across the board with most people in her life. It sounds like using cultural misogyny to break you down is an effective tool that she would obviously, as a woman herself, skillfully wield for maximum damage. I’m pissed that she is a gender traitor on top of being a bad parent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 07:54 PM
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Thank you. 🖤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 06:04 PM
10

They tell on themselves as easily as they breathe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 03:37 PM
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I think I was not specific enough: your looking out the window and him thinking it was cute makes the whole story cute and endearing. After all it’s the little things that make a relationship click in the very beginning. But yes I agree. Not being device addicted is a bare minimum requirement. It’s always interesting to see how people show up for you (or utterly fail to do so) though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:29 PM
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That’s so endearing. In contrast, one of my exes would make fun of me when he would walk into the room and catch me looking out a window instead of being nose deep in a device. As if there is only one way to spend time. I’m glad you found a guy who likes you for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 08:14 PM
2

That’s so fucked up and traumatic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:55 AM
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Red flags just pouring out of this interaction and I’m only at 2:00 Edit: The things you wish you would have said to their face...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:40 PM
32

Great minds are thinking alike this weekend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:35 PM
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This sounds disturbingly similar to how judges appraise animals at fairs and dog shows and such. It has a predatory and cold indifference of tone. This guy sounds like a fucking serial killer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:22 PM
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A friend and I, back in junior high, found her mom’s Playgirl stash and would howl with laughter over them. It wasn’t a sexual discovery so much as a way to laugh at the desperation that pornography caters to. Years before that I had stumbled upon my step-dad’s Playboy and Hustler mags in the attic, and it was a much different experience. First of all I felt like looking at them was somehow tarnishing my very soul. But also I felt even at that young age that the female form commands a sort of re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:17 PM
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The titles when I used to stumble upon porn subreddits are when it really clicked for me that men actively hate us and have woven that contempt into their sexual expression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:09 PM
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But only one of the sexes subjugates the other and feels that the only way to live is by stepping on people of that gender. Women don’t do that shit. The sex difference is that one gender lacks humanity and refuses to acknowledge the humanity of the other. But then again I guess I just find it hard to imagine a world where queer people are safe because we live in one where they are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:34 PM
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What the FUCK. Also I hope you’ve recovered from that horror show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:04 PM
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In the South, East Coast: They have a big truck and a big beard. They love Trump. Women should be traDiTiOnAL. Muricah. Will fight when drunk. “Nice” country boy. Low education. Low effort. Momma is bae. Obsessed with sports, guns, or both. Will fight when drunk or cry. Transplant from somewhere else. Loves craft beer. Mansplains your career to you. Treats people of color as exotic. “Nice” local. Not country. Obsessed with local sports. No goals beyond whatever makes his parents happy. Not a gre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:45 PM
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I have been powerlifting for almost 7 years. I do it for myself, because it’s fun. I’m not doing it to prove anything to anyone, to participate in competitions, to reach a certain goal and then be finished, to lose weight, or any of the other reasons puzzled-looking men at the gym have asked me about over the years. Boyfriends have squeezed my flexed bicep to the point of pain. They have told me it looks like my ass is going to eat my pants while I’m squatting. I’ve had all ages of men tell me I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:41 PM
1

It’s fine for who? Your penis? Please cease and desist, sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:25 PM
3

The way grown ass men have relentlessly bullied Greta Thunberg is a perfect example of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:23 PM
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“Just saw a video of a girl saying, ‘We do not objectify men, we personify them.’” dramatic ‘mystery solved’ type music begins “It has not left my brain. When I see a boy in some old, heh, H&M cardigan, I think that he’s respectful. It is so upsetting that I associate a cable knit sweater with empathy. That is ridiculously humiliating.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:20 PM
1

Your last sentence almost made me reflexively throw my phone. Men like this are so hateable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:02 PM
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“That’s just his way of talking to me.” Good god in like 6 months she’s going to be horrified. Absolutely horrified that she put up with even a fraction of this shit. She is going to thrive and be so healthy and happy. She’s so vibrant and beautiful already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:32 PM
24

Have you ever read any of the pornfree or antiporn subs? This is actually super common these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:04 PM
48

This seems like a troll but I guess you never know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:21 PM
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Nope. Enjoy paying child support because we’re fucking done here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:36 PM
5

Came here to say this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:44 AM
12

“Part Viking”, but definitely full stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:59 AM
18

Oh we get Yelp reviews now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:56 PM
86

Steal her joy and then...what? You systematically dismantle the woman you love so then...I’m trying to follow what happens next, because logic is simply that you discard her for not being the woman you fell in love with. Fucking mastermind right there. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 06:55 PM
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Yeah, but men on Reddit are largely unconcerned about the negative impact of porn. They are more concerned with keeping women “in their place” if they dare to say anything bad about every man’s favorite peen pretend time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 10:29 PM
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This is so cruel. Just a special kind of shameful mindfuckery. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:44 PM
112

He thought saying, “I love you hoe.” On MY Facebook wall was romantic while hiding all evidence of our relationship on his own. Yes I am ashamed. But also we aren’t together anymore. A different ex looked up at me while he was going down on me...and he fucking winked. HE WINKED. This still haunts me. I’m scarred.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 08:36 PM
9

Won’t someone, anyone, think of the MEN?! 😭😭😭 🎻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:04 PM
164

Chilling. This kind of blatant disregard for other women could get these new mothers stalked, raped, or killed. This goes beyond pickme behavior. This is criminal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 07:01 PM
15

A post you can smell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:55 PM
63

Good lord, every time you get trapped in a conversation like that you should give them a billable hours invoice for the time they’ve wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 06:26 PM
10

Why even stay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:35 AM
19

This just made my whole night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 12:11 AM
18

Here is what I think of them: eyes roll into the back of my head You know who the original “swirlers” were? Rapist slave owners. It’s not cute, nor is it original by any stretch of the imagination. My skin tone isn’t an aphrodisiac. I’m a whole ass person. I’ve yet to meet a man who doesn’t act like a fucking fool about me being light skinned. So they’re all trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 03:17 AM
120

Imagine defending your make-believe that you do with your dick over everything else that could bring meaning to your sad little life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:48 AM
21

This sounds really unhealthy for the woman who did this. Also a guy who is addicted to looking at women won’t care that these pictures were given out of spite. He’d still use them. I hope they aren’t together anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 01:54 AM
352

Ew. This guy even made a baby announcement all about what his dick likes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:05 PM
7

This guy clearly has Valentine’s Day and marriage in the bag. Took some time out of his day to make sure to spread his wisdom. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:00 PM
196

Do we judge them based on how many times they watched pixels on a screen? Do we judge them based on the porn-induced ED? Or is it only “fair” if they judge us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:31 PM
53

Before: he was pursuing. After: gotcha, b+tch! It’s only folded clothes and, “Aren’t you going to thank me for doing the dishes and babysitting while you slept all morning?” from here on out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:11 PM
25

Just as soon as we can dig them out of the pockets of the rich and powerful. I like where your head is at though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 08:07 PM
97

Only women are held to standards of absolute perfection in all areas. Western male anti-intellectualism, combined with extreme objectification of women, means that men can perform respectability without actually having to behave respectably. They can have trashy traits in plain sight. To them there’s no dissonance because they believe they are performing masculinity correctly and are above reproach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 07:01 PM
152

Important message! That “ride or die” thing gets shoved in our faces an awful lot but there is rarely a message to men to not be pieces of shit that their partners have to endure a relationship with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:56 PM
65

I don’t think there are any former “submissives” who don’t have a story about being assaulted or being coerced into “consent”. I never trust a man who calls himself a Dom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:35 PM
7

“I get used for sex all the time, it’s no biggie.” This person is so dead inside. What a miserable existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:32 PM
73

They are downright abusive. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:29 PM
51

It’s ok, they’ve got the best seat in hell waiting for them all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 06:28 PM
122

Oh so he thinks this is a scripted conversation. Next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:54 PM
4

No, it never stops. It escalates until someone ends the relationship or the man starts physical abuse. It’s not a matter of “letting” people abuse you. That was absolutely inevitable with a man like this. It’s more like, now what? Stay for the worst time of her life, or leave. Those are her only options with a man like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:50 PM
4

Imagine wasting energy to type a response to this circle jerk. Every time I read shit like this, I truly have to wonder what a man like this is doing with his life that he has the time and the bile to produce this vitriol. It’s certainly not “having a full life and being sexually satisfied”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:44 PM
62

How the hell would he know what “so many women” would do? Is he married to them? No. He’s married to you. He can’t even get that right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:32 PM
89

I would be humiliated if the man I married outed me for how much of his shit I ended up tolerating, tbh. He watches her over-functioning and all he can think is, “Yes, this is good.” AHHHHHHH!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:45 AM
6

💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 09:20 PM
55

Dorothy knows. All the ladies she lives with know, too. I think about the memories I want to reflect back on when I’m old and I have no more space in my brain for cringey shit. I bet Dorothy can tell you exactly why she says to let his mother have him, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:49 PM
45

From one woman who lifts weights to another, your picture just lifted my spirits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:45 PM
17

Yes, it’s excellent. You may also enjoy Narcissist Apocalypse. It’s nothing but people telling their relationship horror stories about dating or being raised by narcissists. I find it extremely useful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:44 PM
42

How long until he starts abusing her? Once he starts seeing her as the cause of his depression and rips that pedestal out from under her...that’s a long, hard fall. I worry for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:42 PM
55

There are two deeply offensive things about her assumption: one, that having your shit together isn’t an accomplishment so much as a reason to inflict a man upon you to rehabilitate. Two, that you could be this on top of your life but you’d be expected to settle for someone who barely tries or cares about life. It’s shocking and infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:38 PM
42

Everything you say is true. I have a hall of shame from past exes: 1. One had gingivitis that I could SMELL and he snored so loudly that I refused to sleep in the same room as him. Guess who wouldn’t brush his teeth every day, let alone give a shit about his obvious sleep apnea? He would also overeat to be funny. Bro you are in your third decade. Your indigestion is disgusting, not funny. 2. I dated a guy who had an untreated hemorrhoid the whole time we knew each other. Even when we moved to a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 08:34 PM
141

Fucking hand to god, this is like some universal truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:45 PM
46

From experience: they’re not nicer, they care even less about hygiene, they will immediately start gaining weight (has happened FOUR TIMES NOW), they’re often more critical of your “flaws”, and they are terrible in bed. DO NOT RECOMMEND. A guy who doesn’t know how to make the most of his attributes even when he’s trying to impress you will be a repulsive pile of revolting flesh once he thinks you’re trapped. Also they’re always fucking mean as if you made them ugly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 07:44 PM
2

You are right to want nothing to do with their extreme dysfunction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:48 PM
255

She’s so desperate for senpai to eat her with fava beans and a nice Chianti. Ok then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:39 PM
2

He lets her do that. He chooses to answer the phone and enable her behavior. Also, what is he doing all the time that makes her that insecure? I know you love your dad but it’s his responsibility to have boundaries with her and he chooses not to. I’m sorry he’s such a lameass. There are way too many shitty dads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:37 PM
3

That’s what evil sounds like to me. Glad he’s your ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:01 PM
2

I was thinking that was the one! Thank you. I just couldn’t remember any names or faces so I was grasping at straws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 03:10 AM
27

It’s also a great lube for men while they watch porn. Men are advised to use generous amounts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:19 AM
61

She makes money off of an app that does nothing to protect women and the work culture of the company is dripping in misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:17 AM
245

Why do men who make these types of videos always look like different species of fish? Like ok sir you look like you belong in Bikini Bottom, please do not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:44 AM
7

Guys who are offended by women existing are so damn angry. They just go through life seething at a woman who dares to have boundaries. They hate the concept that women have bodily autonomy. Scary shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:36 AM
71

Also, was he hoping you said giving head, cooking, cleaning, or back massages? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:32 AM
21

That’s abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:29 AM
16

There’s so much bitterness aimed at other women when we all know where that bitterness originated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:28 AM
31

Exactly. But men pay to rape, and love every minute of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 12:24 AM
22

Beware of the cute dogs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:39 PM
56

He already isn’t wearing a shirt. This is an example of a guy dressing for the job he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:20 PM
41

I told my therapist almost a year ago that I don’t want to date men anymore because I’m tired of trying (and failing) to teach someone how to be nice to me. The last woman I dated thought women in her life are there to be dumped on too. Just, no. If you’re not house trained, you stay outside and pee on someone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:55 PM
34

Is this female empowerment? To have hundreds of men looking up your skirt? To stay with a man who cheats? I don’t want that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:43 PM
173

Also customer service is already BRUTAL but now the customer can demand to see whatever intimate part of you they feel like. Nothing is off the table because it’s harder to enforce limits. Many sex workers are raped by their johns. Imagine making an intimate act into a marketed package. You’ll never see sex the same way. You’ll always have the dirty, fingerprint smudged lens of all the profane and degrading things said and done to you, or demanded of you. Does anyone ever stop to think that when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:38 PM
20

I cannot remember which show it was but when I was a kid I remember there was this one black sitcom where this African prince proposed to one of the main characters but everyone kept telling her that he might not be what he says he is. The episode peaks during an argument she’s having with family/friends and she slaps her hand against something in the kitchen to prove the ring is real but it shatters. Cue moment of betrayal because he didn’t even give her a real diamond. She lets him know the en…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:28 PM
2

Oh my god I’m horrified! I’m so sorry you were assaulted on top of all the other mindfuckery. I truly hope that he gets some kind of charge stuck to him. Fucking disgusting, violent degenerate of a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:15 PM
9

I’ve been listening to a podcast called Narcissist Apocalypse and it’s people (mostly women) simply telling their stories of dating (and sometimes marrying) an abuser. It’s horrifying how similar the stories sound when there are kids involved. They always, always do something fucked up to the kids too. I wish every woman could know just how similarly abusive men behave. The patterns are so very similar. The end is always a nightmare scenario too. Getting disentangled from an abuser means you fac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:40 PM
17

They use us. Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. We’re a sex prop, a therapist, a nurse, a maid, an incubator, a child care center, an ego fluffer, arm candy, a willing shoulder to cry on, a cheerleader, a trash receptacle (ever had a guy try to give you stuff he didn’t want anymore?), a life coach, and for some, we’re a life insurance policy, a bank account, a form of transportation, and anything else they need to get by. They’re just a proboscis shoved into us, draining us, breakin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:26 PM
286

Labor is already some of the worst pain and suffering a woman will ever feel...and some women have to go through it with a shitty or abusive man. I just cannot even imagine that level of hell. No physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual comfort during one of the most vulnerable and life-threatening times of your life. Pure torture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:18 PM
31

The guy who sent you those horrific messages would have eventually done it sober too. He was a sadist. He was getting off on your suffering. These men are sick. Really, truly sick. I’m so glad you blocked and deleted him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:10 PM
44

Cosmo is now canceled. That headline tried so hard it popped a blood vessel in its forehead. Taking such leaps in logic it might as well try out for the Olympics. Never thought I would read something so incredibly dangerous and stupid from this magazine in particular. This goes far beyond run of the mill misogyny and pickmeism that I’m legit afraid of the people who wrote, edited, and published this filth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:06 PM
13

Classic case of shooting the messenger. They get furious at the idea that a woman would fake it with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:01 PM
38

Holy shit you faked orgasms because the alternative was emotional abuse. I have always been the opposite- never faked it and had to deal with a partner being angry, disinterested in trying harder, bored, resentful, but never, EVER motivated to just do better. They’re always mortally offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:59 PM
8

Some of them are just waiting for the opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 12:41 PM
1

He was trying to get them to be a “third” even though he never talked about it with me and even by the most generous standards of the most open minded polyamorous people he was a fucking idiot. He tried to say he wanted to be “poly” but just thought it meant fucking whomever he wanted and not telling me. Mind you our relationship started out monogamous and all of this was sprung on me out of nowhere. He was ten seconds away from slapping my face onto a FetLife account but I begged him not to. In…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:40 AM
90

This guy is almost guaranteed to have never touched a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 02:06 AM
20

Sounds like self harm to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:51 AM
123

They call FDS an echo chamber but Redditors literally tell women to stay with men who hit them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:55 PM
8

Poor woman is LOST.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:00 PM
11

Girl isn’t even born yet but she’s already being degraded for a punchline. This is a piece of shit father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:26 AM
63

Their dick is their whole personality. And yet they still can’t even get that right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:55 PM
59

Even when I’m mean to them they find it funny. Even us being mean they can twist into something that flatters themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:07 PM
99

I had an ex send my lingerie pics to his boss, his friends, and his uncle. He also sent them to women he was talking to on OLD. I used to check Reddit regularly to make sure I didn’t appear on some of the likely body part/amateur subs. I’ll always be looking over my shoulder so to speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:23 PM
12

Agreed. She doesn’t need ridicule, she needs a rescue team.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:54 AM
40

It’s definitely a clear sign of abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:53 AM
6

There are signs all over her body that this woman is in a deeply abusive relationship. I’m scared for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:52 AM
16

especially the ones we know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:30 AM
141

When misogyny is so woven into the fabric of society that it seems routine to a lot of men, I guess misandry feels pretty terrifying. How DARE we feel contempt for those who seek to harm us, right? Nobody cries MiSAnDRy louder than a next level misogynist, though. A man with empathy will see the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:51 PM
59

What the FUCK. Abusive psycho. Porn makes men fucking evil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:37 PM
51

This is why we can’t tell men anything about our intimate past. It’s not even a trust/bonding experience for them. It’s just fuel for them to shame and abuse us later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:35 PM
81

That was absolutely rape. I’m so sorry. Men are fucking scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:32 PM
41

Disgusting. A man who compares a woman to porn is trash. Racist trash with the whole “Latinas in porn like it” thing. My god, the objectification, the stupidity at not being able to decipher fact from fiction, the brainwashing, and the lack of basic respect for your body and your choices. Thank god he’s an ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:28 PM
39

Guys who force you into anal are sexual abusers at best and rapists at worst. Do they joke about it all the time? Do they ask about it after you’ve already said no? Do they constantly act like it’s just a matter of time before you give in? That’s not your boyfriend, ma’am, that’s a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:23 PM
169

Tale as old as time: “The patriarchy created conditions that made something fucked up a very common occurrence for women. This fucked up thing is pretty much guaranteed to be perpetrated by a man. Men suck (because the ones who do it are criminals and the ones who don’t enjoy the privileges that a low bar brings, i.e. if you don’t beat your wife you’re a good husband).” Men: HaTE SpEecH. Women oppress me. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 12:38 AM
10

There’s no such thing as a “real dom”. There are only men who want permission to abuse and take from women under a “sexy” sounding label. Abuse is abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 03:33 PM
10

Exactly. They use their “dominant” role to steal, coerce, force, fake, and take. Reciprocity is just a word when it comes to someone like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 12:36 PM
54

Ladies and gentlescrotes, I present to you, the very essence of a conversation with a “dom”. I spelled it with a little d to emphasize the little dick energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 01:04 AM
43

It seems like she doesn’t want to be pulled into the backlash that a more accusatory stance invokes. She wants to maintain her image while not being pulled into the chaos. Thank god she’s not saying anything disparaging about his victims. She also probably feels extremely sorry for him and probably had a shitty mommy-type dynamic with him. He seems to enjoy making his partners feel pity. I’m sure she has a lot to sit with. Notice she never said he didn’t do anything to anyone else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:53 PM
69

This boy wrote a whole ass incel soapbox on Facebook?! Cringe factor is astronomical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:49 AM
380

Women NEVER talk about their partner like this. But it’s so common to hear this shit from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 09:25 PM
18

It’s only fair, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:26 PM
7

Yeah I’m over here like, ok but on top of trying to figure out my N squared status, I’m also like so we are already back to this after what happened last summer? Also this song was co-written by an abusive white man. This is too much for not even being 9am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:34 PM
3

I am getting mild secondary trauma from imaging this dump truck full of shit we have to call “interactions with your ex’s mother”. I’m SCREAMING internally because this is fucking horrifying. Do I laugh? Do I cry? I wish I could buy you a drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:21 PM
3

You can’t tell me this article wasn’t written by a man under a pseudonym. No woman hates other women THAT much...right...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:14 PM
106

Great insight. If he’s scraping the bottom of his pipe to get that one last hit when he’s run out of x drug, imagine what he’ll do to you to wring you dry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:01 PM
270

What a fucking psycho! You cut yourself 158 times because you’re a narcissistic asshole! She “abandoned” you because you were a scary motherfucker! Omg reading that made me want to vomit. That relationship probably still is deeply traumatizing for her to this very day. I’ve learned over time that if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, it’s a damn duck. Look at his dead eyes and tell me there aren’t even more women he has harmed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:55 PM
77

Until society respects, values, and protects women, queer people, and people of color, BDSM will continue to host the most extreme manifestations of misogyny, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, racism, and a generally destructive outlook on sex. You are right that BDSM very blatantly caters to men and the depths of their depravity. Even the extreme age play kinks are men fetishizing little girls and being allowed to either underperform in a relationship because it’s the “DYnaMic” or being handed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:01 AM
59

Your grandma knows what’s up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:26 AM
132

You know what you need to do. You just have to make a plan and put it into action. Leave him to act helpless in his own filth. You work AND go to school. You’re killing it now and you have a vibrant future ahead of you. Don’t sell yourself short. This relationship has run its course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 01:16 AM
24

PornHub: hosts underaged porn for years and only purges it when it impacts their bottom line. Also PornHub: “WoN’T sOmeBoDY THiNk oF tHe CHiLdren?!” Fuck you, MindGeek.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:42 PM
14

It’s really sickening how even dating can become this commodified space where people are pitted against each other, insecurities are prodded for cash, and self-esteem is drained in different ways as the apps find ways to make people feel more and more desperate and undesirable, thus becoming more reliant on the app for a way out of their “forever aloneness”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:25 PM
487

“Women made me a bad person because they didn’t want my pp.” Spoken like a true sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:22 PM
61

It sounds like you were having a completely natural reaction to horrific abuse. Your sister is so deluded by misogyny. I’m so sorry you weren’t supported when you needed it most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 08:00 PM
36

This makes me so sad. At some point she was taught that this is all she can hope for and all she deserves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:51 PM
22

Excellent points, and nothing to take lightly. The difference between genuine distress and, say, a narcissistic tantrum is profound and absolutely should be viewed through the lens of who benefits from the outburst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:23 PM
17

Interesting question. I haven’t come across anything specific yet, but the fact that these conglomerates usually call themselves “tech” or “entertainment” groups means they can’t be but a few handshakes away. I mean, even the group that owns Only Fans calls themselves a “tech” organization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 07:18 PM
14

They’re really just out here hogging the mic for literally any garbage thought that their porn-damaged brain manages to fart out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:47 PM
50

Yeah, men on these apps are disgusting. They don’t even try to hide their misogynoir. As other posters have encouraged you to do, definitely focus your attention on yourself and your hobbies/interests. I’m glad you deleted the apps because it’s not worth taking significant damage to your mental health to sort through TRASH just to find a decent date. It’s just an egregious waste of your precious time. Meeting someone organically will be a lesson in patience but believe me when I say the alternat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:44 PM
91

When you realize large corporations own all the apps (Blackstone/MagicLab own Bumble and Badoo) and Match Group owns the vast majority of them, and even the most basic of research into the company culture of these places reveals horrific misogyny, you know the game is rigged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:39 PM
142

There’s no such thing as a HVM who watches porn. There’s also no way of being 100 percent certain that a man isn’t objectifying women online. You can talk about it, you can set up your boundaries, and you can trust. That’s all the protection you have available. If he breaks the trust, he’s not high value and you walk away immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:13 PM
67

But the key is: how were you treating your sister during this time? Were you horribly cruel to her, flying into a rage and saying vile things that you couldn’t ever take back? If not, this post doesn’t apply to you because you weren’t abusive to someone who loves you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 03:46 PM
53

In addition to this projection that the right man can change a woman’s mind with mediocre sex, there’s also this idea that women who DO like sex a lot are scary or slightly unhinged. I can’t tell you how many times the sex just absolutely disappeared in a relationship with a man when I was honest about liking and wanting sex. The onus is then, inexplicably, on women to fix it in this situation, too. People blame the woman if the man isn’t interested in sex. The harder she tries to “coMMuNiCaTe” …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:53 PM
7

If she wasn’t telling him about the birth control, and his reaction to her finally coming clean about her feelings is to flip the fuck out, I wonder if he’s also abusive. Something about this post screams ignoring reasonable boundaries and being a shitty partner by using spite instead of teamwork.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:19 AM
35

Stinky, gross feet ruin a perfectly good face imho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 02:16 AM
56

My jaw dropped. Somebody send help to this poor lost soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 07:59 PM
81

Zack lost his whole shirt and his whole damn mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:55 PM
10

Horrific. Glad you’re rid of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 06:53 PM
8

Men ruin it. Pickmes are just willing to work for scraps. It’s not their fault that they want to be loved. Men take advantage of people and use everything as leverage. A pickme is merely a stepping stone to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:30 PM
121

The amount that “iT’s nATuRaL” has been twisted to sound like an innocent thing is so absurd. No human on earth is here today because you splooged into a napkin while looking at a cigarette advertisement, Robert. Shut the hell up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 03:14 PM
24

This seems one of the most likely reasons. Apparently you’re not allowed to enjoy anything as a woman unless it’s some lukewarm half-assed thing he thought to do at the last minute. But definitely not those 3 minutes of terrible sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 02:31 PM
59

They usually won’t even give peen on a special day. Basically the concept is: if it’s something she wants me to do for her, I’m not doing it ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:40 PM
31

Men think of us as “a resource”. Not a person. Not a partner. “A resource”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:43 AM
3

How many guys in the comments are calling her “a keeper”? I’m afraid to look. Something similar happened to me in a relationship. I laughed to cover up my horror at the fact that this grown man ruined my stuff and had to shower while I laundered his clothes and my sheets. Not fucking fun. Not funny either. It sucked so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 01:30 AM
27

These messages smell like old Taco Bell bags and crusty socks under the bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:58 AM
84

“To this day, I have no idea what he said,” is exactly the kind of energy we want to be blocking with. 💅🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:50 AM
218

A PSA to remind men not to commit incest (?!!!) but still leaving things open-ended about rape in general...what the fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:11 AM
34

Translation: “My hair is your problem because I won’t wash it even when it stinks. Wah don’t make me do work to not be gross.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:03 PM
30

Whew. That was A Word. We are all here because we are done with that life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 09:34 PM
51

Of course his name is fucking Chad. Also when does he wash his hair? I swear, pro sports teams are crawling with sick assholes like him. What an utterly disappointing waste of a human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:24 PM
43

I dated a guy who would have bags of garbage and dirty dishes hidden in parts of his room that he thought I wouldn’t notice like I don’t possess working eyeballs. Absolutely disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:13 AM
1

This is why I proudly wear “pant liners”. Weed em out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:11 PM
2

I’ve had all of my photos stolen and used on a catfish profile so I hesitate to ever use OLD again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:17 PM
1

I agree that the number one reason it is spreading is because people don’t know to explicitly ask to be tested for it. Additionally, there is some misinformation in terms of how an outbreak presents. If the majority of HSV2 infections are so mild that people don’t realize they’re infected, that’s on the medical community. Furthermore, many in the medical community refuse to test people without clear symptoms present because of the social stigma. Many medical professionals think the pain of diagn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 11:24 PM
18

If this many people are living with HSV2, those stats follow us to FDS women too. Then what? You know women are stigmatized for having HSV2 but you don’t want to promote less stigma around it? What’s your advice for the women here who might think they can’t be HVW? This de stigmatization isn’t all good or all bad. It helps women who may already have been infected by a LVM. I see no point in being alarmist when this is a supposedly safe space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:55 PM
67

Because it’s easy sex, easy attention, and easy affection. They know they don’t have to try, and so they don’t. They’re selfish and your life trajectory and goals mean nothing to them. It’s that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:37 PM
10

This made me feel sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 01:49 AM
2

“Wash your ass,” should never be revolutionary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 02:50 PM
1

I had to stop. This broke my heart. She has boundaries? She feels joy? She had an opinion? I swear to god, men don’t even like us. So they certainly can’t love us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:40 AM
27

This is honestly the most important lesson for young women who want relationships and many of us have learned the hardest ways possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 01:14 AM
3

HORRIFIC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:18 AM
27

There needs to be a lot more of this porn shaming and abuse shaming in comedy. What woman didn’t feel that, “Do you even like me? Should I leave?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:48 AM
18

Thank you for sharing your experience. The English-speaking side of the Internet can be very Americanized and Eurocentric, meaning it’s rare to see Muslim perspectives, especially women’s perspectives. I expected this type of scummy behavior from men but it’s still appalling to read. Your strength and intelligence outshine all of these dirtbags. I’ve also struggled with trying to decide how much of my body I make available for consumption (because, you know, existing = implied consent to be cons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:25 AM
4

Hold up. Reddit will tar and feather a woman in a made up story about how she hid a man’s PlayStation or threw away his porn collection but a woman IN SCHOOL FOR DERMATOLOGY isn’t “allowed” to have an investment in skincare and to experiment with it? This is not only completely bonkers on an intellectual level, he’s also mad about something that benefits him AND he’s abusive garbage. I low key hope this is fake because his selfishness is off the charts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:06 AM
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