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I honestly never want to legally marry, but at the same time I expect my boyfriend to perform husband provider role at this point in our relationship as well. The large bulk of our living expenses are paid from our joint accounts and joint savings with his income. I get treated with our group credit card. We make large purchases together. He has named me beneficiary of his life insurance policy. Stuff like that. His sacrifice is knowing I could drain the bank account at any time and he would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 09:01 PM
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In general, this. Men get wife goggles for their older SOs if they met in their twenties. The dude remembers the babe he wooed in her prime and kinda always sees her like that even in old age. Once the relationship ends, he's still going to go for at least five years younger than him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 08:40 PM
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Either genuinely enjoying their lives and doing stuff like volunteering or kind of overly obsessed with men and their past. My sister never married or had children and is in her late 40s. She is very involved in the dog showing community and travels around the country showing her dogs and doing other charity work. She has a big network of friends involved in philanthropy and seems to be more adjusted than I am. The other friend I know around my age in her 30s reminisces about being twenty too mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 07:30 PM
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I dunno, it cuts both ways for fat and petite girls. It seems like guys are only into the mythic slim thicc body type, which is the tiny body structure with big boobs and a big butt. Actually kind of rare unless you have the right genetics. Flat butt and A cup girls with low body fat kind of have it rough too, not nearly as bad as fat girls. It's hard to ignore all the dancing TikTok thots with huge racks and bursting out of yoga pants getting so much attention. If you're an all around small gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 06:33 PM
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Lol right? The idea that women have a bunch of guys waiting around on deck for them is ridiculous. That might be true in like freshman year of college, but that's about it. Most people pair up and phase out of the market. Those guys get girlfriends who become wives and stop contacting single women. Most people become married couples who hang out with other couples. This is another reason why remaining single is not ideal. Your college bar hopping friends eventually prioritize you less as time go…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:19 PM
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All those things are not bad, obviously, but distract from the work it takes to establish a brand new relationship. There is an ideal order to how life is supposed to play out. The relationship part of it is ideally established when there are less responsibilities on the table and people are not already set in their ways. Obviously people make it work in not ideal ways or get burned wandering around on the fringes of the ideal life structure. And if my relationship/marriage turns out to be the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 09:06 PM
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People act like every disagreement should be contained and structured like you're both sitting with a therapist in the room. Your SO is not going to be mindful of your damn love language, astrology chart, or remember to use "I" statements every time you guys get into it. Stupid shit set both parties off in unpredictable ways. Deal with it and realize that you love each other. Apologize to each other and move on. Hopefully you'll be more mindful of what started the argument in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 08:37 PM
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This. As a woman, I can tell you that other women drop relationships because of a snap emotional decision in the heat of the moment more than men. I often end up on the other side of a heart to heart where the woman I'm talking to wistfully wonders what her ex is doing now or expresses regret that she was young and didn't know any better, and that the guy she dated in college actually was pretty great and she should have stayed. It happens a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:47 PM
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Yeah I get that. It is just she seems regretful about the one past boyfriend as if now that she has the perspective in hindsight, she admits she should have stayed. My mom has the same perspective on her first serious relationship. The sentiment is he would have made a great husband, but she was young and shortsighted and now she's stuck with my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:39 PM
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For sure. Just that the "just leave" advice seems to be heavily targeted at women. I've been told countless times to leave my boyfriend because I deserve better or I'm worth more or whatever, but my life is countless times better than it would have been otherwise because he's in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 07:21 PM
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This is why open Instagram use is a deal breaker for me. It's too much of a temping thirst trap for even good men. Any red blooded man who wants to do right by his partner will actively avoid apps and sites where he knows he can get roped in by his "second head".
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 03:39 PM
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I'm an aspie woman who runs in social circles where neurodivergent men tend to congregate ( Magic the Gathering, anime, Star Trek, etc). The difference between attractively eccentric and repelling weirdo is IQ, status, and decent looks to some degree. Very much TRP alligned. The autistic men that do well with women are highly intelligent and monetarily successful, typically computer scientists or engineers. Thier special interests and obsessions are attractive because they are both lucrative and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:55 PM
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Also agree. Had to skip out on attending a college friend's wedding because I knew an ex who was still unhappily single after our break up would be there. I was reassured that things would be cordial, but I do not take any risks in preserving the integrity of my current relationship. I do not mess around anymore with potential sabotage coming from jealous third parties from experience. Some "guy friends" will call or text you with the subconscious intent on causing strife in your current relatio…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 06:14 PM
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My man and I are homebodies and we both work from home. We are always staying in and hanging out together, which is great since we love each other's company, even if it is nearly 24/7. We are not very exciting lol. Travel and attending events are often more of a pain in the butt than fun to us and we both have maybe two or three friends between us we hang out with once or twice a month. We dine out, listen to podcasts, have sex, nap together, play video games. He's a bit of a home chef and will …
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/22 07:39 PM
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I am currently on my period and just normal conversation with my boyfriend sometimes just irks me for no good reason right now. I keep this in check but I'm cognizant of normal stuff like clutter and chores annoying me more than usual. It's like I hit a certain point in my cycle and my bubbly, fun energy tanks and gets replaced with a more no nonsense vibe. I find myself working harder to keep the positivity going. My boyfriend doesn't notice anything off about my attitude all month long other t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/22 07:45 PM
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I don't really have the expectation of marriage, but do expect increasing levels of commitment as time passes. In my mind, marriage and commitment are two very distinct concepts. One can exist without the other in a relationship. I question the long term commitment level of a guy pressured into an engagement after one year versus a guy who finally gets around to popping the question on his own terms after several years. Men are the gatekeepers of commitment, after all. I already know my boyfrien…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 05:20 PM
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If you value maintaining a relationship with this guy, do NOT go into ANY length of detail about ex boyfriends, your feelings about the break up, the details of how you met, or the reasons why things did not work out. None of anything you outlined. Other commenters here have laid it out pretty well. Guys do not want to think about you with anyone else and often have VERY strong opinions around things like N count. Bringing up exes is like bringing up a very controversial political topic like gun…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 08:56 PM
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The emphasis on good genetics and having attractive offspring is a little bit too baseline animalistic for me. Obviously mate selection is subconsciously primal, but to me, value is dirived directly from virtue. Are you a smarmy hedonist or disciplined, loyal, and honest? Feminine and masculine virtues are different but have underlying characteristics based on the higher calling of humanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 05:33 PM
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Savage and true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 04:55 PM
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Ooo yes. Behavior in front of company is an important one too. Best not to broadcast your issues in front of his friends and family. Very cringe and uncomfortable for them! A friend hosted a couples game night with her ex, and she bickered endlessly with him about everything from the choice of music to the game rules. Things escalated to open fighting about their relationship and some pretty disrespectful name calling from both of them. My boyfriend and I were shocked. We made our exit as polite…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 04:36 PM
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I like that imagery here! I guess that's why guys get annoyed with frivolous conversation when there's a task to be done. It's about external focus. Women are more in tune with their own emotions and wants, so it's easy to pull internally from that and express that. But not too much. Too much is when you're doing things like over sharing and chatting to chat without getting to any point. It's a bonding mechanism between women, but a distraction to men. Men are like, we're closing on a 20 year mo…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 01:11 PM
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That is kind of the idea. But more than that, being a high maintenance woman requires more emotional labor than a man worth his salt is willing to take on, to steal a term from the feminist realm. Life is hard. Life is frustrating. Most of the burden of building up society so that life is easier and more convenient for all of us rests on men. Our job as partners is to ease the demands of that burden, not add to it. Imagine being a very successful guy looking to build a legacy in life and having …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/21 12:00 AM
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Yeah this pretty much. He knows that he gets fussy about cooking very fast, so rarely tries to make it a group effort. I've learned to not jump in and help unless he asks. I will hang around the kitchen sometimes and ask about what he is doing. He is happy to explain his process and demonstrate, but prefers he handle things himself.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/21 02:25 PM
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Thanks! That is a great idea. He gets a kick out of being "head chef" and I can tell it's an ego boost for him. When we host people, I make a point to sing praises about him being the cook in the relationship, especially in front of his single guy friends who are all living a stereotypical "microwaved ramen" lifestyle. Leaves him chuffed.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/21 08:35 PM
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