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| 1 | Giving a compliment | Conversation | FranciscotheBull | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 11:04 AM |
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| 1 | Girls asking me to buy drinks in clubsAsk them to buy you the same drink they want first and then you give that drink to them. Just saying. | /r/seduction | 10/07/23 04:34 PM |
| 1 | How can I take rejection graciously?First step is just talking just to get used to chatting with women. If you do it at work or school, great! You know how to do it at some capacity. If they are respectful with it and say they have a boyfriend or aren't interested, just don't take it personal; she doesn't know you and she was respectful enough to say it sp just be respectful back and move on. Even if she is rude, the best thing to do is walk away. If she is rude when trying to start a conversation, she probably isn't going to be p… | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Why Cold Approach doesn’t WorkTheir are so many variables to approaching in general that the results can vary greatly depending where, when, and how it happens. Bars tend to have mixed results depending which one you go to (in my experience). Strip cluds....good luck. Certain restaurant chains can have its perks as well while waiting in line for food. Coffee shops can work. I think the dynamics of guys being perceived as creepy, weird, or judged by things guys can't control become a big barrier to why guys don't approach. So… | /r/seduction | 22/09/22 07:52 PM |
| 2 | I feel like I have missed the boat when it comes to dating. And once that ship has sailed, it is never coming back. What advice do you have?You are not alone. Lots of guys have struggles with getting a girlfriend, date, or get laid. 54-56% (approximately) are single and have no children and 1 in 3 men are either virgins or haven't had sex in a year. It is sad and unfortunate that you have autism and my heart goes out to you. Believe me, many guys are looked over for various reasons; height, their job, their perceived looks, etc., but never looked at as a person with depth and substance. Many women won't look at most men or in their … | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Does day game/cold approaching work well because women aren't approached at all anymore outside of bars and apps?Their are so many mixed messages. Some women will say it is fine, cute, and wouldn't mind it and some absolutely hate it. Honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if their are more bad or not so lucky experiences than good and positive experiences in general whether daytime or otherwise. Apps are always lopsided. In my opinion, it is better overall to find community based places where people meet up who have common interests whether it is forums, activities, or other forms where their are opportunities… | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 07:24 PM |
| 1 | A new problem with approaching that happening to often this days, how do you guys manage your way around itNot all women do this, but their are some women woth an attitude right away. Just take it with a grain of salt. Some women don't want to be bothered and will do that right away. Some women want a guy to keep hitting on them and like that and then it gives the impression that all/a lot of women want that so it makes it hard for guys who don't know who wants it and it makes it difficult to know who. Just keep it moving. Work on yourself (school, work, trade, etc.), find the right place and find th… | /r/seduction | 09/09/22 04:31 PM |
| 2 | which will be a better thing to do ?Well, you are getting some success so you are on the right track in terms of some social skills. If I was in your shoes, I would get in shape, but still approach women. I don't know you, but based on the post, it looks like you have some success. I would just work on getting in shape and probably sharpen up the social skills more. Not saying you don't have any, but I am only speaking since I don't know fully and again, you stated you have some success and not sure what you are saying. (Just an u… | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 04:43 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if a woman is looking at you because she is interested?Guys definitely struggle with this on a constant basis. You are not the only one. We don't know how each woman will react to any approach and do not know how to do the right one for each person. Signs are so hard to read because you never know ow if it is just a look in terms of observing the surroundings or showing interest. Some women have RBF and either genuinely want to be left alone or do it just to be "playing hard to get" in hopes you chase them. In my opinion, I do not think women can ha… | /r/seduction | 06/09/22 04:50 PM |
| 13 | Got her number, what should I text her?This is why some guys are confused and/or get bad advice. You may think it is cute, which is fine and fair, but another woman will be completely turned off by it and call him thirsty, desperate, weird, has no game, and wants sex (either one of them or all). | /r/seduction | 03/09/22 10:24 AM |
| 1 | Where do I go from here?Just ask her one last time. If she still holds on to being just friends, move on. Don't let someone tell you twice they don't want to pursue you in a relationship. I wouldn't even do friends with benefits, unless she is down for it. Just let it go and keep it cordial. | /r/seduction | 30/08/22 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Text GameAt first, it shows she was possibly interested, but after ghosting, she is not worth it. Move on. If she was trying ro reschedule for another day and follow through, then that is okay; life stuff happens and we all go through it. This instance, she rescheduled and then ignored you. She had an opportunity and didn't even have enough decency to say she wasn't interested. We all have a right to say that, but can't complain about the consequences. Find someone else. Their are plenty of people. | /r/seduction | 29/08/22 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Any advice for college?We all have had that happen. You just got there. Their will be other people their and you can't control that. Find your niche in a new area. | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Distinguishing friendly behavior and romantic interestIt depends on the other person. If that person is like that with everyone, then it it just being friendly. If it is only you, then their is at least some kind of interest. (Generally speaking) No harm in asking. Now it is a different conversation with dating co-workers. Most people find their partner at work, school, or mutual friends/family/word-of-mouth. You are already spending time together at work; might as well try it outside of work. Now the bad part is that it cam backfire so it is a dou… | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 06:03 PM |
| 2 | It's not that 'nice guys' finish last, it's men who only act nice as a result of them being too weak to stand up for themselves or their beliefs that will lack success.Their is a difference between a nice guy and someone who people take advantage of. I think sometimes when nice guys set a healthy boundary, then it is viewed as toxic and not being nice because the woman sees she cannot take advantage of the "nice guy". Some women also call a guy a nice guy only to reject them and go out with the wrong person. Some women want to take advantage of a nice guy and think they can roll over them and once a nice guy stands up for his moral ground and has a backbone, t… | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 02:20 AM |
| 2 | Going to the bar by myself, while sober?It depends on the vibe. For me, it is usually eye contact and saying something as simple as hi and thinking on the fly on the environment. | /r/seduction | 26/08/22 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Going to the bar by myself, while sober?It takes practice. People are easier to talk to with a little bit of alcohol so it will be easier on your end. | /r/seduction | 26/08/22 12:22 PM |
| 1 | how do you tease someone about their line of work?It depends on the joke and the job. Certain jobs are okay for certain jobs. | /r/seduction | 26/08/22 02:05 AM |
| 3 | Going to the bar by myself, while sober?You will come out on top when you are sober. You are more aware and able to pick out what you want whether it is a one night stand or something more. Nothing wrong with that. I have had my fair share of luck while sober and alone at the bar. Just know how to do it. | /r/seduction | 26/08/22 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Question: How to know whether you’re giving up too early or walking away with your self-respect intact?It depends. Sometimes you can tell right away that someone isn't interested and you just walk off. If it goes well, and then pulls away or doesn't keep the flow going, just casually take yourself out of it. Just depends. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 05:25 PM |
| 3 | Do I move on?I think you blew it, but ask her. She may still have some interest. I can be completely wrong. Ask immediately before it is too late. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 03:11 PM |
| 2 | 27M Feeling very sexually frustrated and bummed from lack of connectionWell, one in three men either virgins or haven't had sex in a year. As frustrating as it is, do not let it get to you. Don't let it get into your mind and change you. As for your relationship (I am guessing, not saying it actually happened), but maybe you weren't talking to people in general and lost your extra touch in getting it (sex, relationships, or both). Just sharpen it up. You are almost there. Just bring them home with you and go from there. They are already making out with you so might… | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 12:32 PM |
| 2 | Can an introvert loner get a gf and how?I absolutely think it is possible. It is just harder to do it now. The only thing you can do is work on yourself whether it is school, trade, work, hit the gym, be disciplined and put yourself out there. Just go up and start talking to people in general or at work and it will build to talking to women and then building it to asking women out. | /r/seduction | 24/08/22 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.It is harder to get sex for guys than it is for women. If a woman goes in a public place and yells that she wants to have sex, their will be at least some guys willing to take her up on that offer. If a guy does it, he is looked as a creep, weirdo, or too desperate. (Generally speaking. Not talking about some guy who looks like Chris Brown) | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.Remember, it is better to be single and alone than miserable and in a relationship. I would rather be on my own in life and die alone than to be in a toxic relationship and not being respected or treated right. Self respect is self love. Treat yourself don't cheat yourself. Improve on yourself whether it is school, trade, work/career, and/or some combination. Go to the gym. Be disciplined in your life and create a routine and stick to it consistently. Depending on your schedule, the first thing … | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 02:52 PM |
| 0 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.Their is always someone willing to do it. Believe me. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 09:34 AM |
| 2 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.Look it up. Remember, it is either virgins or no sex for a year. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 09:31 AM |
| 5 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.Well, just work on yourself and be the best version of yourself. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 12:52 AM |
| 35 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.Well, remember, rather be lonely and single than miserable and in a relationship. Just have sex with what you can get until you get the right person for you | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 12:51 AM |
| 12 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.Don't sweat it. One in three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in a year. | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 12:35 AM |
| 289 | Had sex with an attractive girl now i'm depressed.You won. You got sex. What did you expect? Sorry to be blunt, but you weren't dating her. You are still having sex with other women (even if you aren't fully attracted to them). Besides, she was on drugs anyways. Might have been a hidden blessing. When you are ready for a relationship, then you have to change your mindset, but if you are just looking for sex, keep doing what you are doing. That lust is getting to you. Let her go, their are plenty of other women. Overall, it is a good thing she g… | /r/seduction | 23/08/22 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys ask for Instagram when you meet a girl on OLD?I think it depends on the circumstances. If you meet in person, I think you can ask for either. Honestly, I think most women are more likely to give their Instagram than their number (generally speaking) because of this fear of being "stalked" if they give their number out to a guy. Are their some/few guys who may do it, yes, but again, it doesn't happen nearly as much. Either way, the results can be varied regardless if it is a number or Instagram; ghosting, teasing, polite at first and rude la… | /r/seduction | 22/08/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Need advice -- what I did wrong? and if she is interested?Just ask a simple question when organizing a date or say it with confidence. Either one is good. Don't offer Uber. Doing too much. | /r/seduction | 18/08/22 02:19 PM |
| 1 | How to seduce woman over text, make her horny?Well, it is implied you at least had some sort if conversation and are showing interest/trying to date/beginning stages of dating. It is a mixed bag. From a guy's perspective, if we don't do it and wait too long, a lot of guys will be in the friend zone. If we do it or do it too soon, we get that response you mentioned. This is why guys typically are considered creepy or weird regardless of what we do because we don't know what to do, the right time, or how to properly do it. We don't know what … | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 10:56 AM |
| 1 | How to seduce woman over text, make her horny?Flirt and use dirty lines/meaning. (Just got out of the shower. Come make me dirty again. You are welcome) As it progresses you can send sex gifs too. | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 10:40 PM |
| 1 | how to get physicalIt depends on the vibe and the woman. I would say make a small move and keep going. Some want to wait. It just depends. Invite her to your place and go from there. | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Maybe Im genuinely……..a nice guyTheir are genuine nice guys out their, but when a nice guy sets a healthy boundary, then the nice guys are called everything on the book. Are their some who are not actually nice, yes, but it is not like it is the majority. FYI-We all are responsible for choosing and weeding out the people we date. | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Fake STD resultsI don't trust anyone with that anyways; especially if if it is a one night stand. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Fake STD resultsI don't trust anyone anyways with that anyways, especially if it is a one night stand. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Fake STD resultsI would just require a condom and make sure the condom doesn't break. Sad to say, but people will do anything to feel it without the condom. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Fake STD resultsGenerally speaking, people don't wear condoms when it comes to oral sex. They do have flavored condoms for that though. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 09:03 PM |
| 0 | Fake STD resultsCondoms are 99.2-99.6 percent effective. The factors that causes it to break are keeping it in wallets (due to it being folded up and compressed), expired, or near something sharp that can cause a hole. Always check the expiration date and check if their are any holes before you put it on. It doesn't take that long to check it. Don't let lust cloud your judgment or safety. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Fake STD resultsI am wearing a condom regardless. I don't trust a woman when she just tells me she is on the pill or a device that prevents pregnancy. I don't want to have a STD. We all know the results of unprotected sex. The only time I am having unprotected sex is if I am married and ready to have a kid and/or with a trusting partner who is responsible with it and also on the page as I am (even there I will still wear one for our safety). | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Do you think it's okay to flirt with your girl friends?Depends. If both know it is play flirting and know it won't go any further, it is fine. Their shouldn't be any problem with it in general honestly. Some might take it the wrong way so it can be a bad thing in that regard. It depends on the relationship dynamic. | /r/seduction | 15/08/22 08:51 AM |
| 1 | If they overlook your question when you ask for their number, should I just not talk to themJust walk off. If you are asking, and she doesn't even respect you enough to say that she isn't interested, then she isn't worth the respect of you contacting her in the first place. Not worth it. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Help guysI am not sure who you are, what you do, or your life experiences are, but sometimes practice always helps navigating things out. Nothing is ever an exact science and nothing happens in a vacuum. I would just approach people and have a conversation as a start and branch out from there. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 02:51 PM |
| 1 | First thing to realise.You are right. It is true, but their will always be some people who will think something completely different. I always say that some go very well, some go really bad, and the rest are in the middle and some people think that giving and compliment is having and intention, getting a reaction, or hitting on them. Example: I saw a couple with a beautiful dog and I pet it and gave a compliment and went about my day. I discussed it with co-workers and some of them said I was trying to hit on the fema… | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Do women who smile at you want you to approach them?Their is no harm in smiling. It can mean so many things. It can be a form of acknowledging someone, it could be feeling the vibe, or it could be just making the first move with a smile. If you are in close proximity, you can ask a simple question like how are they doing and you can possibly start a conversation. I am sure women in general will give a positive response, especially if they smile at you. If they don't say anything, then keep it moving. Go ahead and approach. Won't lose anything. | /r/seduction | 13/08/22 02:04 AM |
| 3 | Rejection gets me down!It can take a toll and on your self esteem. Honestly, I don't think women fully understand how much rejection hurts and how much a guy has been rejected before and I think if it was reversed, I don't think women can handle the rejecting guys go through on a constant basis. Don't let it get to you. I know it is hard, but stay strong, be yourself and do not change yourself or change your morals and character. You are way more valuable than people in general realize. Remember, not all women are bad… | /r/seduction | 12/08/22 02:11 AM |
| 7 | I see people here saying women are rooting for you, just approach. But ive also seen the darker side of women. Some women i approached used me to brag in their social circle in a negative way. One woman even said to me ‘not if my life depended on it”Their are women who reject men in the most horrible ways. Some women complain that their lives are in danger when they reject a guy, but we all know that is rare. More and more women are taking more pride in rejecting men in bad ways and posting it on social media. Question for the ladies: Why are you scared of rejecting a guy in a public space, but have absolutely no fear going into the privacy of the man's house for a one night stand? (Going to a stranger's house for sex is WAY more dangerous … | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Do girls get off on ghosting guys?Various factors. Could be the girl gave her number out to 10 guys and doesn't have time. It could be she just gives the number just to keep the guy going away and blocking or ghosting them. It could be they are interested at the moment, but not interested later (doesn't make sense, but a theory). Or sometimes they just want the attention of seeing a message received. A lot of the time guys are ghosted for any unknown reason. In my opinion, if a woman is not going to text or show interest, she sh… | /r/seduction | 11/08/22 01:44 PM |
| 3 | What is good sex?Well, it depends on the mood. Sometimes we want to make love and sometimes we have guided horniness and since we don't want to cheat, we want to do it with the person we love. Generally speaking, it is almost always wanting to make love and comes off as being horny. In a monogamous relationship, both parties have to accept sexaul responsibility to each other and please each other as much as possible. If both parties are agreed to no cheat, then it comes with that responsibility as well. Yes, I a… | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Where can I find smart (or nerdy) women?I am sure college is a place to look for as well as book stores, but sometimes it is people you don't pay attention to as much that are the smartest and have the best character based on my experience. I have ran into some of the best people who I wouldn't notice at first and bare minimum had some of the beat conversations. Broaden your spectrum more and look at everyone. Some people are way more attractive when chatting with them more. | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 03:15 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with loss of confidence/not knowing what to say?Well, you gotten used to being in a relationship and just lost your touch with approaching because you never needed to find a relationship because you were already in one. Just start approaching. I would even just start talking a bit and be out there a little bit. I am not saying you will get into a relationship and break up again and I don't know your last relationship, but while you are in a relationship, still keep in contact with people more. Some people sometimes forget to have some time fo… | /r/seduction | 10/08/22 02:12 PM |
| 2 | What are your second date ideas?I think it depends on her personality as well. Since it was drinks the first date, bowling or billiards are good options. If you two want more time for each other to chat and all, I would suggest something lighter and chatting like a brunch date or some sort of relaxed environment. | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 05:25 PM |
| 1 | I need advice 😂I think it would be common gym etiquette to wait I'm between sets to strike a conversation and keep it brief. Some people, men and women, might be in the zone of their workout, but most people are okay with a brief conversation between sets with rest periods with their workout. If you want to jeep the conversation going, let her do her workout briefly and talk woth her when she is resting in between sets. You can start off with a compliment and has her name, and then go from their. She doesn't k… | /r/seduction | 09/08/22 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Why is it that only old women check me out?Well, ask them if they have a granddaughter your age. You can get a partner for life. 🤷♂️ | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zeroI get it. A lot of guys struggle with this. One in three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in a year. Over 50 percent of the men are single and childless, 30 percent of people are married and have at least one kid, and about 20 percent have most of the kids. You aren't the only person struggling to find a partner. Don't beat yourself up. I know it is hard, but take small steps. Stay firm to who you are and don't change your mindset or characteristics as a person. | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Do you need to make friends before trying to date? I currently have zeroDon't be hard on yourself. We all go through lonesome times and have a sense of hopelessness with not feeling like you are wanted. It can be hard feeling alone for various reasons (small town, other being noticed, etc.) Some people are pushed aside for whatever reason. Don't lose hope. We all go through things and it is never easy to get yourself out there. The only advice I can give is to improve yourself and take steps to put yourself out their and take steps to do better. Small steps are alwa… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 09:09 PM |
| 1 | A few things I've learned online dating as a man. I really wish I could have told myself this a year ago:Definitely a different perspective to look at. Not bad points at all. While I did do online dating, I think it is too slanted for women. Women typically get way more matches, likes, and messages than men generally speaking. I think people should meet in places with common interests whether it is in person on social media/forums. I would also just put myself out there more in many ways and to never burn bridges. | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 03:01 PM |
| 1 | i... i may have a date from daytime cold approach? wowIt just depends on the vibe. For me, I make sure I plan to do something regardless if she joins, great. If not, I am still going to have fun. If she flakes, just keep it moving. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 06:17 PM |
| 1 | How to cold approach during the daytime in parks?I would talk to the whole group so that their is a chance one or two will be genuinely interested. Also, give other people a chance as well. You never know what people have the best characteristics of a great person or life partner. If you want an icebreaker, use a dog (preferably a smaller dog: French bulldogs and Boston terriers are very good choices) and some will stop to pet the dog and be a good conversation starter. You're welcome. 😉 Some people already have commented on it, but again, you… | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 02:56 PM |
| 2 | How to bring up sex without seeming trashy?I think it depends on the vibe. We are all sexual beings so wanting sex is not wrong in it of itself. I think it is important to be clear with intentions and be respectful as well. No harm in at least being honest, direct, and respectful. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Should I leave it alone with her having the last text here, or reaffirm that my position won't be moving and she can come to me? I really do think she genuinely wanted to hang with meIt seems like she is not interested, but wants you in the back-burner until she goes around. She wants to move on, but have onvme foot in the door. Just find someone else. | /r/seduction | 06/08/22 02:10 AM |
| 1 | How do guys pull girls at church, and if it doesn't work out, how do they keep going and keep trying if it doesn't work out.Well, firstly, going to church for any religious is a positive thing. You and potential partners already have the same beliefs in your Maker and have the same realm and in the same environment so that is a first step and can really help with being in a relationship and potentially a family due to the same beliefs. Just approach it like anything else after that. Put yourself out there; join or create a study group pertaining to that religion (Bible, Qoran, or any religious text you worship), do c… | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Are women ever truly single?Unless the numbers have changed, approximately 51-52 percent of women are single. (This doesn't take into account if they are into men or women and not count for people who are divorced or widowed) If women want to have fun and have people in rotation, then technically, they are single. If they reject you after you ask them out (for whatever reason), just keep it moving. | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 03:07 PM |
| 2 | I’m so afaraid of being a creepWe all have a form of not wanting be rejected and paralysis by analysis when approaching a woman. Just have enough condifence to approach a woman and start a conversation. If she says no, your life didn't go up in flames. I think people are recognizing that some women (not all) put guys on blast just just for attention, likes on social media, and wanting some form of attention/clout, but we as a society see what they film and post and makes them look bad instead of the guy. As hard as it is, don… | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 12:01 PM |
| 6 | What are good non-sexual sexual words to throw in the conversation?If she is driving a car, you can say, "Nice body." 🤷♂️ | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with sexually escalatingWell, I got mine from the Buraeu of Labor and Statistics and Pew Polls. That is just a general and definition of a term rather than actual numbers. | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Struggling with sexually escalatingWell, firstly, it is hard for guys to get sex versus it is easy for women to get sex. Men get rejected more often than not. We value a low/ no body count on women, but women don't want a virgin or a man who doesn't have much sexual experience. Women who have no sexual partners before marriage have an 80% chance of a happy marriage after 10 years. If it is more than 5, it goes down to 25%. One in three men are virgins or haven't had men in a year. | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 02:53 PM |
| 2 | How much has your dating life improved since finding this subreddit?No difference. For me, I learned from trial and error, experience from other makes and females, and just life as a whole. | /r/seduction | 03/08/22 01:10 AM |
| 5 | Honesty gets you a very long wayI am only honest if it is a serious relationship or heading towards that. If it is just a conversation, I am being myself, but I am not going to spill out everything. | /r/seduction | 02/08/22 11:54 AM |
| 1 | Where are these single women you guys cold approach to?If you see a group of women, approach all of them. It is brash and bold, but it shows a lot of confidence. You definitely need to have some that courage, but that is where you can stand out and not care about it. Single women keep single women single so be careful when approaching all of them as well. Find a way to catch one by themselves without the other friends looking or one of the women will come to you if and when you walk away, but let one if them do it. Do not single out one woman right … | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 09:41 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys tell girls that you are older than you actually are to get with them ?In terms of the question, I think it depends on firstly how someone takes care of themselves (no/little alcohol and coffee, life stress and how to handle it constructively, working out, diet, etc.) Alcohol, drugs, and/or smoking make someone look older overtime. Some people just plainly look older or younger naturally. Most of the time, people in general can tell if you are older or not. In terms of your preference in age, based on my experience, women who are over 30 feel uncomfortable with tel… | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 03:18 PM |
| 2 | I Never Get the Women I Truly Desire (Help)Just keep doing what you are doing. You aren't doing anything wrong. You will lose money chasing women, but never lose women chasing money. Success may not be singular, but greatness is by yourself. Also, in terms of the rating system, if I had the choice between the two, I would rather have a woman who is a 6 who is a better fit and treats me right compared to a 10 who might not be the best fit. Do not sacrifice the value of family, monogamy, and the perfect relationship just for a preference. … | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 11:15 AM |
| 1 | got 1 solid number from 43 day time approaches, thoughts?Honestly, I don't think their is anything wrong. Let's be honest, guys don't know what woman likes us and don't like us for a relationship or find us attractive. If we did, we would ignore the ones who don't find us attractive and go for the ones who do. Some (not all) women will want to talk, not want to come off as rude, and don't want to say they aren't interested so they give their number and purposely ghost just to get the guy to go away that instant. Just keep going. You will be rejected s… | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 10:17 AM |
| 1 | Absence makes the heart grow fonderHonestly, it depends. If it is someone you met, it can go either way. She can just ignore/forget you two had met or she will wonder why you haven't messaged/texted her and wonder whgmy or what is happening to you. If it is a relationship, you would have to keep in contact even though you two aren't seeing g each other physically. | /r/seduction | 01/08/22 10:11 AM |
| 2 | what movies should I watch to know more about seduction or pickup.Just ask other people their experiences and get some yourself. Always use it as a reference and go from there. | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 11:12 AM |
| 2 | Getting phone number vs Getting Instagram?I feel like either way, the results are still the same. Whether it is Instagram or phone number, their is always a risk of being ghosted, blocked, etc. Instagram may have an advantage in the sense of being not as personal, but if someone already shows their life online, the personal aspect doesn't make sense because you are showing you life (in any degree) to everyone. Also, Instagram can be used as your "resume" and show who you are and your timeline. At the same time, I think cold approaching … | /r/seduction | 31/07/22 11:08 AM |
| 2 | How to approach someone you used to talk to?I think if you are dating around, you should at least keep in contact with the other person so that you can explore your options as well as being fair for her and you that you are clear with what and her are expecting put of the interactions. By all means, of you are dating, having fun, etc. have fun. If you are looking for a relationship that has meaning, you would have to approach things more seriously. Broaden your spectrum and keep contact with people who you are interested in. Don't burn br… | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 11:53 AM |
| 7 | Why do you guys want to make out on the first dateCouple things: We are all sexual in some way, shape, or form. It depends on the contexts. If you two know it is only just friends with benefits, then go for it. If not, communicate and say it is not what you are looking for. I can't speak for women and not say all men and/or women, but guys are very into trying to get as much as possible. It can be flattering that he finds you attractive. Depending on the chemistry, he may like you as a person and turned on by the chemistry on the first date. If… | /r/seduction | 30/07/22 12:55 AM |
| 1 | yes but noHas happened to a lot of guys. Just keep it moving. She isn't worth it. If she doesn't want ti be with you, then leave it at that. Their is always someone willing to go on a date. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | The clubAnytime. I am open for other questions too. Just let me know. ✊️ | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Has anyone successfully asked a waitress out?Just ask her out. You will never know until you actually do it. If you don't do anything, you will never get a response, never know, might regret it, and/or miss out on a future partner. | /r/seduction | 29/07/22 12:35 PM |
| 2 | The clubAt this current time, one in three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in a year so don't put yourself down like that. It is okay to go to clubs and not drink. It is how you go about it. I would also say broaden your scope to more than just clubs. Their are many places to meet people depending on the context. Approach women and feel the vibe. If they have a good vibe, keep it going and you will succeed more than you fail. If they say no, keep it moving. | /r/seduction | 28/07/22 03:50 PM |
| 1 | Best places to meet girls while still living at home?Don't worry about it. Put yourself out there. Be involved on campus, workout, approach women and go from there. Crea opportunities and put yourself out there and you can find a woman anywhere. | /r/seduction | 28/07/22 02:52 PM |
| 3 | How to meet girls on a cruise?Making yourself available is half the battle. Just do what is available on the cruise and have fun. Approaching people will come along and their is "less pressures since it is pleasure" like I always say. Approach women and see where it goes. Like some people experienced, some women will approach the guy. Make yourself available and social. | /r/seduction | 28/07/22 01:29 PM |
| 1 | How often should I text a girl?I actually polled women about this (female co-workers, some family neighbors, etc.) and it is mixed. Some like it and like it often Some don't like it as often, some is a mixture. Honestly, for me, I will text twice in a week and then one call withing a couple days after. If I don't get any response, I just keep it moving. If they ci tact me later, great, but I am not waiting for them. Don't let someone tell you they aren't interested in you whether verbally or through their actions and don't pu… | /r/seduction | 28/07/22 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Strategies for picking up girls at a music festival?I think you do have to ha e some sort of strategy, but don't put any pressure to it. I would write a message and my number. That is just me. | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Strategies for picking up girls at a music festival?That works. | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 09:58 PM |
| 1 | How often do girls agree to a date solely to be entertained freeThe only thing you can do is go on the dates and go from there. If she ignores you and comes back periodically for dinner dates, she more than likely may just use you for a free meal. Some full proof ways to mitigate that is to go on coffee/brunch dates. I know it is not the ideal thing, but it is not that expensive and you really get to have a control of the environment on that way. Another is maybe places and events that are inexpensive. Where I live, their is an outdoor mall and has some good… | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Struggling with sexually escalatingDon't feel any sexual shame. Lots of guys go through this and you aren't the only one. I would say try and flirt sexually, but VERY LIGHT. If the woman vibes with it and likes it, you can escalate a little bit and/or keep it around the vibe. It depends on the woman and each situation is different so keep that in mind as well. Don't do it too much because it may look like you just want sex (if it is a one night stand, then it that is different). It depends on the date and how many you have been o… | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Why are women such in the moment creatures?I am only speaking from a guy's experience, when a guy text often, more than likely he gets ghosted or put in the friend zone. Are their women who like guys who texts often, yes, but that is not the majority and/or who guys run into. Guys are more likely to be ghosted (for whatever reason) than someone who will mirror the same actions. In terms of meeting the right person (male or female) I think most people don't do the best job for making them available. Guys don't know who finds them attracti… | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 11:43 AM |
| 1 | Why are women such in the moment creatures?Not a lot of women are like that or will keep in contact with a guy who texts a decent amount though. Generally speaking, most women will just ghost a man for texting a couple times out of the week to get their attention. One woman will say they like it and another woman won't like it and guys don't know who likes it. Also shows how guys ask you if they are annoying showsnthat most women, in our experiences, that find it annoying and we don't want to mess it up with a woman who we are interested… | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Next move?Exactly. It isn't pressing. I just find it confusing when woman does they same thing, us guys are confused and/or upset or say we don't understand women when they do the same exact thing to us. | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 10:50 AM |
| 11 | Next move?Why didn't you answer? Just pick up the phone and talk to her. You texted her first anyways. 🙄 Don't play games like that in being "hard to get", "look busy", etc. If you are able to pick up the phone, do it. This is part/factor of the reason why dating is messed up. We like to play games like this and then wonder why people don't take other people seriously. | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 02:18 AM |
| 2 | Why are women such in the moment creatures?I think also it depends on the relationship too. If guys do it, it is perceived as clingy. It is different for everyone and guys don't know how to do it because guys typically don't know how to balance it. Generally speaking, guys don't want to text too much and be viewed as clingy, but if not texting enough, it is viewed as not being interested. What works for one woman would t work for the next and guys will never know. | /r/seduction | 27/07/22 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Why are women such in the moment creatures?Disclaimer: Not saying all women. Women sometimes live in the moment. I think now women try to act like men in the sex market, but it doesn't work for women than it does for men. If a woman has zero/one sexual partner their success at a happy marriage is 80 percent. If it is 5 or more it goes down to 25 percent. Unless a guy is extremely attractive, men have a hard time getting sex. (One in three men now are either virgins or haven't had sex in a year while women having sex haven't changed). If … | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 11:29 PM |
| 3 | Modern womenI understand it. If I get rejected (for whatever reason), I just keep it moving. If she says yes, great. If she says no, I didn't lose anything and my life situation didn't get worse or change with that rejection. The only thing to do is improve yourself a man, be discipled, work on career, school, trade, etc. and hopefully find a woman who will be a wife for you (but still have protected sex while you are single along the way). Life is too short. Don't waist time and energy on someone who isn't… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 10:06 PM |
| 4 | Most effective Cold ApproachWell, it depends on how the person takes it. This happened to me today: I was eating at Chick-fil-A today and heard a cashier talk to a supervisor about clubs and all. After I was done, I asked that same person for a pen and wrote on my receipt, "I hope your day is as nice as you are. (Then my name and number) Would like to go to Eleven (a club in my city)." She texted me later on and will be seeing her tonight at her place. It just depends on the vibe, the person, context, and how they will tak… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Don’t be afraid to call her a B*tch!!If she doesn't respond, don't waist your time. Do not waist your time and energy in someone who doesn't put the same effort in you. I understand the frustration of women acting a certain way, but don't go that far. Just keep it moving. Work on yourself and be with people who actually want to be with you. In that instance, I wouldn't call a woman that word. She is just not worth your time. I believe a woman is that (bitch) if she has a bad attitude for no reason, rude to everyone, entitled, think… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 09:47 PM |
| 1 | ideas on cold approach at work (same building not in the same office eh)Depending on the job, co-workers, and supervisors will dictate the approach. If it is an admin type of job, do not do it. If it is a regular job where people are respectful and don't take offense, go ahead and ask. Just depends on so many variables and nothing happens in a vacuum. | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 09:34 PM |
| 1 | sad and down after she lost interest suddenly after 6 months of talkingWell, in the post you mentioned that you found it odd that her obeying you was not something you were used to. Based on that, it seemed that she was trying to be "submissive" and expected you to lead and be more "alpha" or masculine. Not sure how the date was in detail, but she probably wanted that. She might not have been able to read it through text, but when the date happened, she felt that. I don't know you personally so I am not the one to judge you. It sucks that you wasted six months, but… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 06:00 PM |
| 2 | Girls are attracted to you if they see you with another girlDisclaimer: Not all women. I always put this in just to make sure. Once a woman sees value (in any degree) in a man, other women will say, "That guy must have some sort of value for that woman to be with him. I want to shoot my shot at least." It could be also women want what they can't have. Also, women don't want a man no other woman wants, yet wants a man who makes $100,000 plus a year to be monogamous. Sorry to say this, but generally speaking, guys who make that kind of money will want to h… | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:58 PM |
| 1 | 🚨 My gym crush came up to me, smiled, and giggledJust introduce yourself. Seems like their is already a good vibe so their isn't any risk of anyone being rude or disrespectful. You can even talk a little more and chat if permissible. Maybe you can be spontaneous and join them on the next workout and make a gym date 🤷♂️. You two are already gym people; it is a perfect setup. | /r/seduction | 26/07/22 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Should I pursue women or focus on myselfOne hundred percent work on yourself. Be discipled with how things are. Career, college, skill/trade or something to improve yourself on. I would also do networking as well. Don't burn any bridges. Always keep things open. Make friends (male and female). Go to the gym, do any extra curricular activities if able to. Be the best person you can be. I would also approach women as well, but don't worry if they reject you. Take it gracefully and respectfully ad keep it moving. If they just want to be … | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 09:12 PM |
| 0 | A study of 65k+ women finds that "Attractiveness" is not a top 5 feature that women look for. No wonder OLD sucks for men.Disclaimer: I am not saying all women. Women usually say one thing, but then when they hit the dating market, the list changes. The goal post always changes. Guys are always passed up for variety of reasons based on certain looks without even knowing the guy's personality. Some examples: Height-If a guy is 5 feet 4 inches, he will be passed up like no one's business. The guy cam be a great person and check off every box, but height is always looked at and short people are frowned apon. Women can… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 09:00 PM |
| 1 | To what degree do looks actually matter?Well, the most attractive people will get the best pick of the litter regardless of income, personality, and usefulness. Now money does help, personality and character are important, and someone who is useful (job, career, some type of skill) are definitely a key, but people will look and have certain biases. It depends what you are looking for. Some guys may have a few things going for them, very few have everything put together (perfect looks, great job, makes at least 100,000 or more), but ma… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 08:13 PM |
| 1 | She gave me her number but has a gf, whats the next stepWell, it is more out of scarcity. People (men and women) feel like they won't find another person so they stay in the current relationship instead of being single and finding someone else. The devil you know is better than the devil you don't. Men will feel like they can't get sex from any other female (if they are strictly monogamous and rely solely on their partner for sex/intimacy) and women want a return on investment from the time in the relationship (marriage and kids). I would rather be s… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 07:50 PM |
| 1 | How to make a connection on a first date.This is why dating, especially first dates, are so difficult. If you flirt in some degree, it can be perceived as that all you want is sex. Of you don't do some flirty words or actions, their won't be any form of tension of attraction and won't be viewed as a partner and just as a friend or brother. Chemistry, flow of the date, environment, and other factors are so unpredictable that makes the results all the same to your experience. You are not the only guy who is experiencing this. Do not let … | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Have any of you ever had strong feelings for a fat girl(not curvy fat just plain)? What would you tell a guy who caught feelings for one?Personally, I haven't experienced that, but their is nothing wrong with that. I don't know the whole details or what does that particular woman looks like, but if you know the person to some degree, maybe she is a good person. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 07:05 PM |
| 1 | How important is social media presence when it comes to dating?I am on the same boat as you with not having any social media. I think it depends on the woman, the situation, the approach, and the environment. I think it does play a factor. Some women will feel more secure with giving their Instagram instead of their number in fear of being stalked and tracked with their number. Some people view social media as a "resume" for dating and to put yourself out there. Not quite like online dating, but in the ballpark. I think it can be useful to connect with peop… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Women are visual creatures tooTrue. We all can't hide the fact that we (both men and women) are visual. We all are sexual and have needs and desires. At the same time, guys are more willing to look past the visual and be with a woman who is average and be with that woman versus the other way around. Women typically will try to be with that top guy who all women want only to find out that it is not worth it until it is too late (he won't pick you to be the sole person to be with, women wanting kids but reaching close to, at, … | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 06:04 PM |
| 1 | honestly speaking, how is anyone supposed to be confident in this day and age?Don't know what gender you are so keep that in mind. Guys get rejected on a constant basis from attractive, average, and even below average women for various reasons (looks, height, not as rich, etc.). Guys are actually more willing to be with an average woman who brings them a piece if mind than an attractive woman who is not the best fit for the guy. A woman who is unable to control her mouth and attitude is the same as a guy who is unable to a guy who can't keep his hands to himself. I am not… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:45 PM |
| 1 | You're talking to a girl you approached and her boyfriend appears. What do you do?Well, take it as a subtle sign that she is taken. Wish her a happy day and just leave. Their are so many women who are single. If it was just a simple conversation and the boyfriend has some sense of security in the relationship, he won't have a problem woth you just talking to his girlfriend. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:32 PM |
| 2 | I'm a good flirt but only when I know you "like" me tooJust make a move. If she rejects you, you can still talk to her as a co-worker, friend, etc., but gracefully move on with respect and find someone else. Don't burn bridges either. Maybe she may know someone who is single. Word of mouth still works. It will take the grey area out of everything too and you will know where you stand if you make a move and ask her out. If she says yes, perfect. If she rejects you, don't worry about it. You didn't lose anything anyways. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Why so many rules when it comes to approaching girls? Like “oh don’t approach them at the gym” “don’t approach them in the streets” why so many rules?Disclaimer: I am not saying all men, all women, and/or all situations. This is why a lot of guys do not approach women in general. Guys who may genuinely try to ask a women let alone just give a compliment will never do it or rarely do it because of being perceived as "creepy", "weird" "rapey" (yes, I anecdotally have heard some women call guys that for no reason), or have some complaint against them and get into trouble. Are their some guys who harass women; yes. Are their some guys who can't r… | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Is cold approach overrated now?Cold approaching can and does work, just depends on many variables. It includes you, the person you are approaching, how the two of you calibrate, the environment, context of the meeting, and the approach overall. Typically, a lot of guys will get rejected regardless; it is just a part of it. Take it with grace and respect and keep it moving. Some guys can't take rejection and are immature and some women reject men for whatever reason and sometimes rudely, but just take itnwoth a grain of salt a… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 10:13 PM |
| 1 | I(19m) have been told that I am very attractive by a lot of women. I just got out of a relationship and honestly need some guidance on how to attract really good looking womenI don't know you as a person so I can't make any judgement, but don't worry about being insecure about not getting women. Generally speaking, guys don't have luck in getting a lot of women or women in general unless you are extremely attractive (extremely attractive- women come to you automatically without you trying, tall, certain handsome look, etc.). I think it is okay if your friends help you out with getting a woman. That is how most people meet their partner, girlfriend, and/or wife. Use t… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 11:26 AM |
| 1 | How to ask if she has a BF without being weird?Well you can ask her two indirect questions to kind of feel for it. You can ask her about her plans on her days off. Sometimes, she will mention a plan with her boyfriend if she has one, but doesn't work all the time. You can also ask what she like to do in her spare time if you haven't asked already. If you are really interested, you can ask her out directly. The worst she can say is that she has a boyfriend or she isn't interested. If that is it, just take it with grace and you will know. Will… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 01:08 AM |
| 13 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Their are many reasons why that is the case. Approaching women is so much difficult. Guys don't want to come off as "creepy" or "weird" so most guys don't approach women. Also, some women are too harsh with rejection, too rude, or once giving a guy a number, ghost the man who ask for their number instead of politely rejecting them. (True: their are some guys who can't take rejection and they are should grow up and be mature to walk away with grace and not hold a grudge). This is one reason why G… | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Is it worth staying friends with a girl I dated?I would first say to not burn any bridges so you should keep in contact, but not so much. Keep her in the circle, but not tell her anything extra or give any more information that you would any other friend with the same timeframe. I would say move on from the romantic mindset and start finding and dating other people. If I was in your shoes, I would cut my loses from a relationship standpoint and find other people to build a relationship with. If she isn't willing to put the time and effort to … | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone know guys who insult women after they reject them?For me, I don't get mad or retaliate when a woman rejects me. For guys, it is front end rejection and how a guy handles it. Anecdotally, guys I have hung out with never did acted out after rejection. Some guys just don't take rejection well and are angry and immature. I am not justifying the reaction, but rejection hurts and some women do it too hard which may explain that reaction and part of the reason why guys don't approach women. I think those two dynamics play into why some guys react that… | /r/seduction | 22/07/22 12:43 AM |
| 2 | She gave me her number but has a gf, whats the next stepIf you keep switching people, it shows you can't make up your mind, don't know what you want, like playing around, or just want toxic behaviors. (Unless of course that person changes) | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 08:22 PM |
| 1 | She gave me her number but has a gf, whats the next stepNot saying it is always the case and their are always exceptions to the rule. I only speak generally speaking. | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 04:40 PM |
| 1 | How do I start approaching?Definitely not the best schedule for time, but sometimes starting a conversation always helps. Can always start off with a compliment and see how their reactions are. If it is a smile and appreciate the compliment, you can start a conversation. I think it depends on how people respond as well as how you approach it. Online dating now seems to look like it is lopsided so I would use it as a tool, but not something to rely on in most instances. If you don't go out at all, then you'd have to rely m… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:53 PM |
| 0 | She gave me her number but has a gf, whats the next stepMy pleasure. Just putting my two senses to it. Hope it helps. 🙏 | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:12 AM |
| 27 | She gave me her number but has a gf, whats the next stepIf she is willing to do it with you, she will be willing to do it to you too. If that that woman breaks up with her girlfriend for you, she will leave you for someone else and it will be the same way how she got with you. If you are willing to let that be you, that is entirely your decision. The only way I could see it work out is that if you and her are only friends with benefits and you find a partner in the meantime and not to invest in anything into it. At the same time, it might work out. M… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Should I just focus on improving or still cold approach?Firstly, I would like to say don't let anyone or anything diminish yourself as a person and change you in any way. Self respect is self love. I don't know you on a personal level or know anything based on the post you just put in, it seems like you are a good person. Focus on yourself. Do what you were mentioning; get in shape, work on some sort of style of fashion in dressing nice and/or presentable, and develop yourself in school/career and keep improving yourself as a person overall. Guys typ… | /r/seduction | 20/07/22 01:07 AM |
| 12 | how do you game very attractive girls in their mid-20s if you're 10+ years older?Women typically go for guys who are 4-5 years older than them anyways, so that is already an advantage (guys typically look for women who are 4-5 years younger). I am sure people will say some form of this, but staying in shape, working on yourself, and having social experience helps a lot. Playing the field is never a bad thing. Styling your hair a certain way and smelling nice are minor things that go a long way. First impressions are important. They always say not to judge a book by it's cove… | /r/seduction | 19/07/22 07:13 PM |
| 1 | what are reasons you should date multiple women at once?Dating multiple people is not cheating at all. Just have to find the person you are compatible with and who fit you and your personality and life. It changes when one person becomes the right person for you and decide to make it exclusive. Once, a partner is chosen and decide to be in a defined monogamous relationship, then dating other people is cheating; whether it is physical, mental, or emotional, it is still cheating. That is where the line is drawn on whether it is cheating or not. Dating … | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 10:09 PM |
| 6 | Would redditors benefit from a 15 minute conversation with an actual woman?I am only speaking in general terms and not saying it is everyone. Just as a disclaimer. Guys typically don't have a problem making friends. A lot of guys get rejected from dates for whatever reason. (Women have the right to not go out with someone and guys should respect their decision and reason regardless of what it is) Guys typically don't get a lot of compliments. I think the dating market changed a throughout the years. I can only speak for myself, but a lot of the times I approach a woman… | /r/seduction | 18/07/22 07:30 PM |
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