| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 9 | My ex wife found out I wrote poetry about her during divorce, now wants to talk...can we see some of it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 02:38 AM |
| 3 | Nys rules and men - divorceWhy don't you tell her you're considering divorce because of the way she treats you before you just blow up your family? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 11:15 PM |
| 1 | The real reason why women stop loving menIf female mistreatment could turn a man gay I'd be Freddy Mercury. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Seeing my kids makes it difficult..Because it's not right. It's fucked and she's going to learn the hard way that's not how life works. What are YOU going to do about it? How are you going to proceed in life? This woman is gone and not worthy of your continued attention, design your life and rid yourself of thoughts of her. Correct yourself when you think of her. Ask yourself what purpose it serves to allow her to occupy your attention. Realize that there are better women out there. Better for you, better for your future. Better … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 06:34 AM |
| 2 | The real reason why women stop loving menI can tell. That's why you're here, right? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 10:53 PM |
| 1 | The real reason why women stop loving menMa'am you were married to a gay man. Really doesn't get worse or more embarrassing than that. Take your L and move along. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 10:50 PM |
| 2 | The real reason why women stop loving men...what percentage of heterosexual married men do you think are getting divorced because theyre secretly gay? 1%? 2%? What percentage of women getting divorced can't explain why without a word salad that basically comes back to her own selfish inability to work through issues or have any kind of self reflection? Probably a bit more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/24 10:39 PM |
| 1 | Not even a month and she’s sending me stuff about couples that lasted longer than us.had a rule that if ever someone tried to split us up, we dump them. It made us prioritize each other and went very well… Wild. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/24 04:21 AM |
| 3 | Not even a month and she’s sending me stuff about couples that lasted longer than us.Imagine having a poly relationship, Could have stopped there. Such a dumb and gross trend. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/24 04:19 AM |
| 1 | For those of you who have been betrayed. When you're ready.Gayest thing I've ever seen on this sub. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/24 03:14 AM |
| 2 | I think I’m too picky/ hypocriticalNot so much about owning the house but women who brag about having a job/car etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 03:20 AM |
| 0 | “The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage.I personally don't understand how being with someone or not can dictate your entire sense of happiness unless it's truly a nightmare relationship. I don't understand how this mentality of yours is going to lead to "happiness", which is a fleeting feeling. An emotion. This mentality works in a high-school relationship, in casual dating. This mentality does not work for creating functioning families. It doesn't work for creating the strong bonds in relationship that, in my opinion, bring a deeper … | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 02:27 AM |
| 0 | I think I’m too picky/ hypocriticalFor me the ones who say "own house car job." Is the red flag because automatic assume she get the house off from Babydaddy... To me it's a red flag because they're bragging about being a functioning adult. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/24 02:00 AM |
| 2 | “The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage.Interesting that you would suggest that I grow up by looking at my comment and assuming I was talking about a pet peeve or minor inconvenience. You literally said there's "no poor reason" to leave a marriage, moron. So yeah, that would include "pet peeves" among...literally everything else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/24 10:35 PM |
| 5 | “The spark is gone” is a poor reason to leave a marriage.How do you expect to ever be in a lifelong relationship with someone and never suffer them? Grow up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/24 09:22 PM |
| 1 | It is never OVER and I am tired dealing with her and the kids!Do what you gotta do man. If she had full custody of the kids do you know how much you'd be obligated to pay? Can you pay it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/24 10:35 PM |
| 7 | I’m struggling. Separated wife is guilt tripping me. Am I crazy for still caring about her? Doubting myself for wanting a divorce.You're paying her rent by the opportunity cost of someone else who could rent your second apartment for actual money in your pocket. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/24 03:38 PM |
| 2 | I‘ve to pay alimony to wife?Found the bitter woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 03:46 AM |
| 5 | Am I wrong for feeling this way?Why would you ever talk to that guy? Get busy with your own life. Make a total gamble. Start a crazy business. Become a zealot for a cause other than your wife, for Christ's sake | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/08/24 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Is your new girlfriend way better than your ex wife?It takes a man and a woman to make people in order to have a family. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 10:47 PM |
| 4 | Do you wish her happy birthday?Men, we need time step up and stop with the pettiness. How about you sit down and shut up? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/24 02:37 AM |
| 2 | My wife just threatened separating.Kids are far more resilient than you think This is so wrong. All the statistics around outcomes for divorce show that kids are not "resilient" to the impact it has on their lives. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 07:05 PM |
| 2 | Just Had A Terrible ThoughtSo true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 04:11 AM |
| 1 | My Ex wants to adjust her income to $0 on CS calculatorWord choice and gender identity are separate things Really? Wow that's amazing. Pretty wild how I could guess you weren't a gay dude then. I must have LGBT-ESP. Frankly my comment was in support of the op and was me sharing my bf’s experience. Yes but we don't want to hear a man's experience as told by a woman. That's the point. We're here for an explicitly male discussion on a specifically male perspective of divorce. That's all this is. It's not a place for you to show support as a woman or to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 08:58 PM |
| 2 | My Ex wants to adjust her income to $0 on CS calculatorI can tell by the way you type. "That was not it". Lmao. Look lady I've grown up with women my entire life. You all want equality when it suits you and privilege when it doesn't. This is just another example of that. I didn't say gay men can't come here for divorce advice and support, I said it's not a gay group. We're not victim-complex ridden identity grovelers. We're men supporting each other during a hard moment in our lives and most of us would probably appreciate it if you kept your perspe… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 07:42 PM |
| 3 | My Ex wants to adjust her income to $0 on CS calculatorWe don't want "Allies" this isn't a gay minority group. We're not in the oppression Olympics. And no - there aren't men posting in women's spaces that explicitly are designated for women. Go try to say you're a male in the single mom subreddit. You'll be permanently banned. There's many places like that on reddit. This is ours. What's the issue here? Just go post somewhere else lol. It's not that hard. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 07:27 PM |
| 3 | My Ex wants to adjust her income to $0 on CS calculatorThen read about our experiences. I can't go to the single mom's subreddit and post about my experiences dating a single mom. I don't see why you expect to come here and do that in a place where men are supporting one another in our process. Sorry if that seems bitter or whatever but if there's any purpose at all for having a place to vent, immune from the perspectives of people who can't directly relate - that's here. That's this place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 07:12 PM |
| 1 | My Ex wants to adjust her income to $0 on CS calculatorPlease go to the divorce subreddit. This subreddit is for men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 07:08 PM |
| 5 | The idea of dating again disgusts me… 2 yrs post/divorceThere's just so much wrong with this kind of thinking. Women seem to have a hard time distinguishing probability from possibility. I mean all the evidence suggests divorce is absolutely devastating for children, long term and short term, except in all but the most brutal home environments. And even the children whose metrics as far as health and education are concerned aren't as impacted - we have no idea what sort of long term emotional damage divorce does to them, to their perceptions of famil… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 10:15 PM |
| 14 | The idea of dating again disgusts me… 2 yrs post/divorceIt's crazy to me the logic behind it. In the first place you now have 0 control over who your partner dates - so as far as you know there's now a far more toxic relationship being modeled for your kids 50% of the time, with none of the love or the natural bond for your children that can at least mitigate them being the target of relationship drama. You can say you trust your ex to choose a good partner, but if that's the case it sort of begs the question why you'd abandon a stable environment wi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 05:09 PM |
| 1 | How to forgiveWhy are you here? You're an autistic woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/24 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Money obsessedUh... the divorce subreddit? | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Learning the truth and growingThat's a good point. It's the perspective that matters I guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 04:29 AM |
| 2 | Learning the truth and growingWhy are you here? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/05/24 04:25 AM |
| 9 | Dating in your 40sYeah, dating shouldn't be on your radar ATM. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 01:00 PM |
| 2 | Divorced and nofap?What kind of porn are you looking at that it's giving you "mind cancer"? I don't understand this crazy zealotry against porn. Unless you have a real issue with watching it too much, it's not really trying to "avoid" anything when I watch it. I watch it to jerk off. It's not that complicated. Not everything needs to be pathologized to death. When I was single I'd just not whack off on days when I was going out, like the weekends, so my libido was still high and I was still eager to meet women. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/24 04:56 AM |
| 5 | Thought's about the reality of being Single againLife is about people. There's nothing wrong with seeking companionship or relationships. They do make life more meaningful. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/24 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Will she ever regret or have any remorse for what she did?I don't think you understand that the vast majority of women whose husband's cheat on them are either okay looking the other way or can be placated by the most implausible excuses from their husbands. A man might have his entire life destroyed finding out his wife cheated on him, but many women are okay sharing a man who they seem as valuable. It's a messed up world out there but that's the truth. That being said I'd still tell the other spouse. Just don't expect anything to come of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/02/24 04:43 AM |
| 9 | Why is it so hard to watch recent ex wife date?It's honestly astonishing to me how gender-specific this kind of thing is. It would never occur to me to view my partner, my wife or my girlfriends' current job or current employment status as a condition of our relationship. It's incredible to me how much more willing men seem to be to move themselves, adapt themselves and ignore their wants for their families than women seem to be. If my partner lost her job or something, I'd immediately look internally for what I could do to step up and help … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 04:23 AM |
| 2 | Why is it so hard to watch recent ex wife date?Start dating. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 03:57 AM |
| 12 | Why is it so hard to watch recent ex wife date?Lmfao exactly. People's true colors don't come out in the frictionless parts of life. It's when things get challenging, when life gets harder - that's when the nature of a person shows. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 03:56 AM |
| 3 | Wife and lover not working outDo you have kids? Are you struggling badly financially? If answer is no to either of those- don't do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/02/24 07:31 PM |
| 0 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…In what scenario is going to the gym to feel better not a "positive thing"? What constitutes a "positive thing" to you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 10:52 PM |
| -1 | The Gym is NOT the Answer for Everyone…and Could Even be Dangerous…I'm so confused how one can go through the harshness and cold reality of divorce, especially with children, and not come out on the other side realizing that the gym is an essential part of reconnecting with the controllable parts of what constitutes "progress". It's insane to me that the word "fat-shaming" would ever come from the mouth or be typed in seriousness by any man who has gone through the harder parts of life. But here we are I guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/23 10:48 PM |
| 6 | Why Women are Walking AwayI love this attitude. You mean women take on the aspects of the relationship that aren't quantifiable? How convenient! 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/23 02:59 PM |
| 30 | I hate the modern mindsetWe live in a world that has a corrupted, individualistic ideological framework which champions the "self" above all else. Breaking your home apart and destroying your family, causing immeasurable trauma to your own children and the person you pledged yourself to for life is considered an act of personal bravery. "Guilt" isn't a bad thing because of the harm you put on others that caused you to feel it. It's a problem that you're feeling it in the first place. It's the very notion that you're fee… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/23 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Is a self-described hoe phase any reason to be concerned?No it's not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/09/23 11:08 PM |
| 3 | If your wife returned what was said?I doubt anything will come from it, who wants a messed up guy with 3 kids? An ungodly number of women. Truly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/23 04:42 AM |
| 11 | Handling depression.The trick is to adjust your mind to an immediacy mindset. Don't think "I need to get up and go to the gym". Think "I need to get one foot off the couch. I need to get the other foot off. I need to go to the fridge. Open it. Grab a water." That level. Divide every seemingly insignificant task you're knowing you need to do into the smallest fragments of time and space. Stay away mentally from things that aren't in your immediate ability to change. Stay away from goals that are longer than a day ou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/23 01:47 AM |
| 1 | No fault with kids is child abuse.There is absolutely no evidence that staying for the kids "does more harm in the end". Your kids don't care about your romantic life. They want stability and consistency. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Losing the stepkids that I raisedI'll say it. This is why single mothers are the payday loans of the dating/relationship world. It's quite literally the worst idea of all time to even date one, let alone marry one. For countless reasons it's a bad deal. And it sounds like even with your skepticism and your experience in your previous marriages - you still got the stick. tbh the carrot doesn't even look attractive even WITHOUT the risks you're experiencing the consequences of. I hope every man going through a divorce of their ow… | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/23 12:50 AM |
| 4 | working through it... i think.I love how they all say "that's the bare minimum", completely oblivious to the implication that your efforts still qualify you as a good partner. "Minimum" for what? Keeping your family together? Yeah... sometimes people need to tread water for a bit. Sometimes we're not able to be the MOST charming, high earning supermen on the planet. "Minimum" implies it's acceptable. And if you expect to have a relationship that lasts 50-60 years without any periods of "acceptable", you're not cut out for re… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/08/23 04:43 PM |
| 4 | STBXW getting serious with some dudeThe man making the post? Her husband who presumably thought he was married to the woman now ripping his heart out for the rest of his life? What kind of stupid question is this? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/08/23 09:53 PM |
| 3 | The last photoNothing strange about it. The cruelty of the situation when there hasn't been anything done that justifies the breaking apart of a family demands that kind of response. When you really sit and think about the implications of it all - your children not being able to come "home" in any meaningful sense. The grandchildren never having Christmas/Thanksgiving at Grandma and Grandpa's house. It's a disgusting, selfish thing to do to your own family. Turning a loving father into a part time dad is a ho… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/23 03:26 PM |
| 1 | The stats don't lie..What "massive moronic shit" has DeSantis done? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/23 04:35 AM |
| 0 | The stats don't lie..How are you on this subreddit and still so insanely blueAnon? Get a grip. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/23 06:30 AM |
| 23 | FWB questionsJust make sure you get this in writing and notarized. Don't want to find yourself in FWB court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/23 01:40 AM |
| 2 | FaithfullyThat's great. Alexa play Larger than life by the backstreet boys. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/23 04:48 AM |
| 2 | Noticed a trend, they always leave when it gets hard... no. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/23 04:47 AM |
| 12 | Today is the anniversary of her telling me she wanted a divorce.I'm proud of you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/23 03:36 PM |
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