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| 2 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child. You are the only one who creates your reality. For no one else can think for you, no one else can do it. It is only you, every bit of it you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Awesome | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)One chooses who they decide to love but never determines who will love them back. The woman’s first two considerations are respect and financial security which centers on the core of personality traits, a man reveres physical attraction and sexuality, these two impostors have little relevance of one’s persona. Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It … | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Divorce is a time of change. It really rocks a foundation of most people's lives. When we have our heart broken or our dreams taken away from us, it is a time of growth and change. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours it is an amazing journey and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Fact | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Just when you think it can't get any worse, it can. And just when you think it can't get any better, it can. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:54 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)True | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:52 PM |
| 0 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience co… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:51 PM |
| 3 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, at ease, and secure. You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone change begins at the end of your comfort zone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:48 PM |
| 3 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. An intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you'll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:47 PM |
| 5 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Never chase a person, because if they want to be in your life, they will. It amazes me how people go out their way for someone who does nothing for them, doesn't encourage or support their efforts. Stop seeking attention from people who don't give you the time of day. Value your time, comfort your spirit, have peace of mind. There are people who love you and care about you. Give your smiles to them, Reciprocate!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:44 PM |
| 3 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Your heart’s strength is measured by how hard it holds on. Your self worth and faith is measured by finally letting go. However, your peace is measured by how long you don’t look back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:40 PM |
| 3 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)The feelings that hurt most, the emotions that sting most, are those that are absurd. The longing for impossible things, precisely because they are impossible nostalgia for what never was the desire for what could have been regret over not being someone else dissatisfied with the world’s existence. All these half-tones of the soul’s consciousness create in us a painful landscape, an eternal sunset of what we are. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Ok | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:32 PM |
| 3 | Financial ruin (divorce) vs. Wasted life (stay)Fact | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/24 03:32 PM |
| 1 | I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all?Well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/24 04:27 PM |
| 1 | I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all?As we might be overwhelmed by the dictate of a mindset at odds with reality, and cannot get a grip on our unconsciousness, rather than curling up in the hive of uncomfortable expectations, let us cry out and unshackle our free will. Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. When you're different, sometimes you don't see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn't. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/24 04:13 PM |
| 1 | I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all?To have regret is to be disappointed with yourself and your choices. Those who are wise, see their life like stepping stones across a great river. Everyone misses a stone from time to time. No one can cross the river without getting wet. Success is measured by your arrival on the other side, not on how muddy your shoes are. Regrets are only felt by those who do not understand life’s purpose. They become so disillusioned that they stand still in the river and do not take the next leap. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/24 04:03 PM |
| 6 | I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all?Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves. Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you d… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/24 03:59 PM |
| 1 | I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all?Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain, perpetuating the past. Listen those who hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you now unless you hold on to the pain through resentment. Your past is past! Nothing will change it. You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/24 03:54 PM |
| 1 | I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all?True courage is about facing life without flinching. I don't mean the times when the right path is hard, but glorious at the end. I'm talking about enduring the boredom, the messiness, and the inconvenience of doing what is right. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/24 03:46 PM |
| 9 | I've been divorced for 3+ years, and still feel as lost as I did since day one. When and how did things start getting better for you all?Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. When there's a big disappointment, we don't know if that's the end of the story. It may just be the beginning of a great adventure. Life is like that. We don't know anything. We call something bad we call it good. But really we just don't know. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/24 03:42 PM |
| 1 | I talk a tough gameReality is harsh. It can be cruel and ugly. Yet no matter how much we grieve over our environment and circumstances nothing will change. What is important is not to be defeated, to forge ahead bravely. If we do this, a path will open before us. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:39 AM |
| 2 | I talk a tough gameIn a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he or she hurt you, they feel remorse and they make amends. It’s safe to be honest. In an abusive system, vulnerability is dangerous. It’s considered a weakness, which acts as an invitation for more mistreatment. Abusive people feel a surge of power when they discover a weakness. They exploit it, using it to gain more power. Crying or complaining confirms th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:37 AM |
| 1 | I talk a tough gamePerhaps there is more understanding and beauty in life when the glaring sunlight is softened by the patterns of shadows. Perhaps there is more depth in a relationship that has weathered some storms. Experience that never disappoints or saddens or stirs up feeling is a bland experience with little challenge or variation of color. Perhaps it's when we experience confidence and faith and hope that we see materialize before our eyes this builds up within us a feeling of inner strength, courage, and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:30 AM |
| 1 | I talk a tough gameOne of the main dilemmas that's pretty common to a lot of people who are getting older is the idea that maybe there's a finish line and that maybe there's a time in your life when you start to slow down and stop and smell the roses and just kind of settle into what will be a comfortable period in your life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:27 AM |
| 1 | I talk a tough gameLetting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness. If, in our heart, we still cling to anything anger, anxiety, or possessions we cannot be free. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:25 AM |
| 1 | I talk a tough gameLife, in her experience, had a kind of velvet luster. You looked at yourself from one perspective and all you saw was weirdness. Move your head a little bit, though, and everything looked reasonably normal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:23 AM |
| 0 | I talk a tough gameTo be human is to confuse a satisfying story with a meaningful one, and to mistake life for something huge with two legs. No life is mobilized on a vastly larger scale, and the world is failing precisely because no novel can make the contest for the world seem as compelling as the struggles between a few lost people. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:22 AM |
| 1 | I talk a tough gameThere are going to be times when you learn more about the world you’re entering and feel defeated when you see the gap between the ideal and the reality… But that’s something we’ll all face. The people that face those obstacles and overcome them are people whose dreams come true. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:15 AM |
| 3 | After 49 years. I think maybe I'd rather be alone.This then is the true lesson there is nothing romantic about love. Only the most naive believe it will save them. Only the hardiest of us will survive it. Connection is why we're here it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The power that connection holds in our lives was confirmed when the main concern about connection emerged as the fear of disconnection the fear that something we have done or failed to do, something about who we are or where we come from, has made us unlovable and … | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:06 AM |
| 2 | After 49 years. I think maybe I'd rather be alone.And lawyers are just like doctors. Whatever one says, the other says just the opposite. But they all take money and give advice. Each of them, different advice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 09:00 AM |
| 1 | After 49 years. I think maybe I'd rather be alone.Good | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 08:57 AM |
| 3 | After 49 years. I think maybe I'd rather be alone.People who feel the most alone consistently hold attitudes and take actions that separate themselves, exclude themselves and hold themselves incomparable to others. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/24 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Got ghosted by fiancéeAgree | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Got ghosted by fiancéeFact | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 11:33 PM |
| 1 | Got ghosted by fiancéeFunny you | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 11:31 PM |
| 0 | Got ghosted by fiancéeWell said bcos if some area of your life sucks do something else. Life is too short and too long to spend it being miserable. Life may indeed be short but it is for a fact wide. It is high time we started settling for more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Got ghosted by fiancéeSustained high gross profit margins relative to industry peers tends to indicate durable competitive advantage. Zeroing | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/24 11:27 PM |
| -6 | How is your online dating experience after separation?The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your sense for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can't be any large-scale revolution until there's a personal revolution, on an individual level. It's got to happen inside first. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 05:35 AM |
| 0 | How is your online dating experience after separation?Well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 05:30 AM |
| 1 | How is your online dating experience after separation?There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy. By being happy we sow anonymous benefits upon the world. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 05:28 AM |
| 0 | How is your online dating experience after separation?It may be expedient to take stock of all the affecting pieces that might shatter in the wake of an emotional earthquake, once red flags come up in a committed relationship and an overarching scene has to be fashioned for a recast life experience. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/24 05:15 AM |
| 3 | Mental staminaWell said | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 06:48 AM |
| 2 | Mental staminaHow? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/24 06:47 AM |
| 2 | Mental staminaHaving a relationship with people of questionable character is like playing with a razor blade on your skin, and pretending to observe that it is harmful to your body. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Mental staminaThe idea that there is are all these people who are going to make all these great and wise decisions with guns. Because you know all the people who can make the best decisions in the world always want to be armed; because they are really smart, really wise, know exactly what should be done in society so naturally they want lots of guns. You get how insane that is right? The only people who want to force you to do stuff are people who know their ideas are shit to begin with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:40 PM |
| 3 | Mental staminaWell said | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/24 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Learning to move onWhen we think we have been hurt by someone in the past, we build up defenses to protect ourselves from being hurt in the future. So the fearful past causes a fearful future and the past and future become one. We cannot love when we feel fear.... When we release the fearful past and forgive everyone, we will experience total love and oneness with all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Learning to move onOne day you will just realize you’ve made it through this part of your life and you’ve accepted what cannot be changed. That is when you’ve moved on. It will feel like it happened suddenly, but in reality, it’s been a work in progress. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Learning to move onPrinciples are fundamental truths that serve as the foundations for behavior that gets you what you want out of life. They can be applied again and again in similar situations to help you achieve your goals. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Learning to move onWell said | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 02:46 PM |
| 2 | Learning to move onThere will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your accomplishments and judge your soul. It is a fact that we all must face. However, if you realize that God is a best friend that stands beside you when others cast stones you will never be afraid, never feel worthless and never feel alone. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Learning to move onWell said | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/24 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Woman as a friendLong-term, we must begin to build our internal strengths. It isn't just skills like computer technology. It's the old-fashioned basics of self-reliance, self-motivation, self-reinforcement, self-discipline, self-command. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Woman as a friendWhen you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on the faces surrounding him. In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Woman as a friendWell said | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Woman as a friendYa but not everybody like a dog | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Woman as a friendYou win over people just like you win over a dog. You see a dog passing down the street with an old bone in his mouth. You don't grab the bone from him and tell him it's not good for him. He'll growl at you. It's the only thing he has. But you throw a big fat lamb chop in front of him, and he's going to drop that bone and pick up the lamb chop, his tail wagging to beat the band. And you've got a friend. Instead of going around grabbing bones from people... I'm going to throw them some lamb chops… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Woman as a friendAgree | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 03:00 PM |
| 2 | Woman as a friendFact | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 02:59 PM |
| 0 | Woman as a friendAcceptance doesn't mean tolerating unhealthy relationships or problem behaviour. In relationships, acceptance has two key qualities. First, it means being willing to recognize that your partner, right here and right now, is struggling too. It means allowing for the possibility that his motivations might be good and constructive, even if it doesn't feel that way. It means not getting caught up in the belief that he's wrong or doesn't care about you, and instead embracing the possibility that he's… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Woman as a friendWhen we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a frien… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 02:55 PM |
| 2 | Woman as a friendWell said | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/08/24 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Are you doing better than your ex?The trouble with lying and deceiving is that their efficiency depends entirely upon a clear notion of the truth that the liar and deceiver wishes to hide. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/24 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Are you doing better than your ex?Well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/24 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Guys who initiated the divorce and did NOT get cheated on, what’s your story?Well said | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/24 10:40 PM |
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