FriedMinus Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Moving - was there anything you got for your new place to “soften the blow”? PlayStation 5 Dog (Great Company) Speakers/sound system	/r/Divorce_Men	26/06/25 03:56 AM
9	Would you remarry and have more children in your 40's? I had my first child at 31. Split up with wife at 36. Remarried and had another child in my early 40s. I can tell you, everything is harder. It’s harder to muster the energy like I did at 31. It’s harder to pull the late nights at work. It’s hard to change my relationship with a teenager who was used to being the only recipient of my attention to now someone in a family situation. There is so much love in our house. And our world is greatly enriched with the addition to our family. But everythin…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/06/25 02:19 AM
9	After 20 years she blindsides me with “i dont want to be married anymore” You need to compartmentalize the emotional and financial aspects of this. On the emotional side you’re going to go through some tough days especially the first times you’re without your son. Holidays will be tough. You’ll need friends and hobbies. Stay away from all the vices (alcohol, drugs, gambling, low class women). It’ll take some time but you’ll eventually come through. You’ll need hobbies. On the financial side you may end up better than you realize. The house should be community property…	/r/Divorce_Men	02/03/25 07:00 AM
5	How the Fuck I wonder what my ex’s new man must think and feel knowing that I’m paying to support their current lifestyle. I assume it must be emasculating. I could never live off another man’s dime.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/02/25 11:46 PM
6	I loved my wife and the life we had, I’m doubtful I’ll find another woman like her. Yes, I had a similar feeling when I split from my long term partner. I don’t think she cheated. And I’m not sure she had the magnitude of negative issues as you mention with your ex-wife. However, I very much can relate to the feeling of wanting to reclaim what we had. The empty house, the loss of assets, the loss of my child’s time, etc. were all hard to accept. At some point though I began to really appreciate ME and what I brought to the relationship both emotionally and financially. It was o…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/25 07:40 PM
2	Buying her out of the house Get an appraisal (and if you can afford it get two or three and take an average). Deduct the current payoff amount (you can get from the mortgage company). You also have other potential liabilities that you’d incur if you sold: 1) the cost of realtor commissions you’d incur if you sold. 2) any property taxes accrued to date that haven’t been paid to the county/city/etc. You need to understand these liabilities as they serve to decrease the amount of actual cash you two would receive if you sold …	/r/Divorce_Men	04/01/25 04:37 PM
9	Are any of you in this group on good terms with your ex? Absolutely not. I choose to not make friends with the thief that stole half my property and half of my child’s time.	/r/Divorce_Men	31/12/24 05:34 PM
29	How many of you are still friends w your ex wife? Do you make friends with the thief that breaks into your house and steals your stuff?	/r/Divorce_Men	30/11/24 09:16 PM
5	Another restless night almost 10 months after divorce. Longing for a woman I shouldn’t even want. Does it ever end? You are romanticizing the good times and glossing over the bad ones in your head. You said it yourself; you’d never been able to forgive her for the affair. You won’t ever (nor should you). You’re mourning a person and time that doesn’t exist anymore. Focus on you and the kids (and dog). Gym, hobbies, work, kids/family. Skip the drugs/booze/hookers and be the best you that you can be.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/11/24 02:43 PM
2	Divorce and splitting up assets - this sucks. He wouldn’t be paying $150,000 as a lump sum… he’d be writing a contract to pay $1,665.31/month for 10 years. Roughly $200,000 total. The equivalent of $150,000 at 6% simple interest.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/11/24 02:14 PM
4	Divorce and splitting up assets - this sucks. Oh yeah, remember, your equity isn’t just what Zillow says you could sell it for minus what you owe. You have to factor in the realtor commissions to sell the house, any repairs/deferred maintenance and other costs associated with selling.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/11/24 06:20 AM
5	Divorce and splitting up assets - this sucks. I had a nearly identical situation about 8 years ago. Doing it without attorneys, she kept the good car, etc. A couple of suggestions. First, try and get a HELOC on the balance you pay her. Even if it’s 8-9% interest it’s still likely better than refinancing out of that 2.75% interest rate for 30 years. Just keep in mind that some HELOCs have different structures where the payment may balloon at a future date. Another suggestion would be to see if SHE wants to carry the note. You might agree tha…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/11/24 06:18 AM
6	I made a mistake MGTOW (but not misogyny). Honestly, prioritize yourself, focus on your kids, stay healthy, avoid the drugs/booze/hookers and gambling. Get some hobbies that are healthy.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/11/24 04:41 AM
6	My wife is leaving me I have been in your shoes. You can try and spend time figuring out why (e.g., cheating, etc.) or not. That’s up to you. One thing that was hard for me was that I felt like she “owed” me (as her partner) an explanation for why she was leaving. With the benefit of hindsight I realize she didn’t “owe” me a reason. Would it have been the nice thing to do to help me understand? Of course. But ultimately she didn’t in fact “owe” me an explanation. So, you may choose to not try and understand the why p…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/10/24 08:31 PM
15	Wife and I Separating and Divorce Be careful not to be so little concerned about your marital assets that you promise whatever you think she wants to hear just to keep her around. You may be right, she may be checked out, she may be done, and you may have to see her start a new life. But if she’s already thinking that way be mindful to not try and buy her affections for a while longer. Eventually if you do divorce you’ll be starting new again too and you don’t want to have to handicap yourself more than you need to out of some m…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/09/24 06:19 PM
10	It's not going how she planned That, or job issues —> money issues. She probably is just trying to recreate the stability she had with you…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/09/24 02:24 AM