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Question For MenFriendlyBranch3035/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 12:02 AM
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DiscussionFriendlyBranch3035/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 01:22 AM
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Oooo don’t let the other men hear that they’ll tear you apart. But seriously the vast majority of men watch porn and I’m telling you this because it happens like every week the mere mention of a man who watches porn in a relationship being something negative will absolutely make you public enemy number 1 with them. So you’re say that those men do choose to fuck up their relationships with whores lol not even celebrities just an average homwrecker if that’s all it takes to lead them astray i can’…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:34 PM
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There’s already a lot of men ruining their relationships just to watch another woman get fucked lol. I’m not saying it’s the majority of men and I’m not saying it’s every man but it’s not some super small amount. Even in the community you identify with a loud talking piece is the belief that men are only as loyal as their options. So it’s not a stretch that a lot of men would ruin their relationships by most likely cheating or entertaining that woman thinking that they wouldn’t get caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:03 PM
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There’s already a lot of men ruining their relationships just to watch another woman get fucked lol. I’m not saying it’s the majority of men and I’m not saying it’s every man but it’s not some super small amount. Even in the community you identify with a loud talking piece is the belief that men are only as loyal as their options. So it’s not a stretch that a lot of men would ruin their relationships by most likely cheating or entertaining that woman thinking that they wouldn’t get caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 03:02 PM
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How dare those women deciding to focus on the things other women died for rather than just having a family IMMEDIATELY! My brother in christ not every women is living the stereotypical Miami girl lifestyle. They’re working normal jobs, occasionally going out for drinks with friends, trying to find themselves like any other human being. Most women still have kids just later and fewer because there’s really no need for 16 kids not to mention kids are a big hinderance for career and financial goals…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:27 PM
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A list celebrity men don’t want average women either. A listers usually date A listers and other super rich folk. Unless they were already with someone before the fame. But i promise you a shit ton of men would ruin a decent relationship if their favorite pornstar asked them to fuck. And those women are typically considered c list celebrities now imagine someone like Sydney Sweeney or that lady from blade runner.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 02:16 PM
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If that’s how you interpreted what I wrote I don’t see a reason why we should keep dragging on the conversation. Nighty night
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:52 AM
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I’m talking about this thread specifically that started with the conversation on pop culture
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 01:44 AM
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As I mentioned before the way you framed your initial comment. You begin by listing things women are attracted to (things that already have a bad connotation especially on reddit and in the red pill community might I add) these things are wealth,status, being a “girlboss” and independence. Next you made the statement that men are attracted to niceness and expect women to be as well and that unfortunately women are attracted to different things. Further solidifying that these things are meant to …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 12:18 AM
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My own personal observation is that the way you framed your initial comment was obviously not in good faith probably because you hold some kind of animosity towards women especially when it comes to dating. I’ve seen women do the same stuff It’s pretty common on Reddit tbh especially on a sub like this where a lot of jaded people congregate. I think what I didn’t like about your comment and other comments that do that is just how disingenuous it is. But I’m just yip yapping rn i think the convos…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 10:44 PM
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There’s probably some data out there that says men are attracted to similar things that are just labeled differently. Or the weird stuff people say men are attracted to. Most people are attracted to the same stuff we just describe it differently. More over what you did in your initial comment is more telling as to how most people enter gender based discussions especially those related to dating when they’re resentful due to whatever failures or misfortunes happened in their life. That’s really w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 10:13 PM
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OP also said in a comment that it’s more likely that men who cold approach do it to any woman. As I said it’s clear to her that those cars were never decent in the first place so there’s no loss. It’s pointless to tell someone they’re just losing out without actually explaining why those people were decent in the first place. Also the initial comment I responded to wasn’t even much of an argument just a very vindictive statement. I’ve been approached by objectively attractive men and I’m close t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 09:31 PM
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Funny thing is men do the same thing they flex their money and their desirability to women in many ways. One could argue exactly what you just said but apply it to men instead. But I don’t think when it comes to this behavior it’s actually intended to involve the opposite sex as more than trophies. It’s purely used to target things that’ll make you insecure. I’m attractive you’re not I’m rich and you’re not I’m liked and you’re not Also I get the vibe that you’re trying to make your described pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 09:06 PM
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Off of OPs text and comments they already strongly believe that men who do cold approaches are men who’re not actually interested in you and just playing a numbers game to gain access to casual experiences. So with that type of argument nothing would be lost either way a counter argument to that would probably focus more on why those men are good men. desired men do approach arguably more than “undesired” men because they have more confidence in it working. Just because their cold approaches are…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:55 PM
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So if we focus on the context behind my comments we’d see that it can become an issue when we see certain men claim they were being used. Which is already an issue because obviously no one wants to be accused of something like that just because you were being nice. But it also gets very hostile very quickly when certain men believe they were tricked or deceived. I’ve explained that was the problem point several times. I think quite a few women can deflect when caught leading a man on not to ment…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 07:01 PM
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I can say women lead men on a lot of them do but as I said in my first comment there’s also a lot of men who do misconstrue things. I know that because I’ve experienced it and other women have experienced it. And yes I’ve been nice to men I don’t find particularly attractive why wouldn’t I?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:54 PM
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I can understand what you’re saying but I guess all I can say is that it doesn’t really offer much to the conversation I guess by OPs own words a woman not properly choosing the right man to cold approach is shooting herself in the foot. But op largely seems to dislike cold approaches in general. So like I said saying what you said just felt unnecessary. I’m also ngl as a woman who’s very vocal for her dislike of being approached it felt idk.. weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:30 PM
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My issue with that is when you do that you still offend a lot of men. They see you as arrogant if you immediately let them know that you’re not interested in that way. I personally would not want to be approached at all in my lifetime but i understand I can’t hate a man or woman for shooting their shot so for my case i appreciate a person who immediately lets me know what’s up so I can immediately tell them no.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 04:26 PM
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. My issue is this specific situation where a guy interprets a girls common decency as signals and when the girl rejects him she was a “validation junkie”. Just to be clear being attracted to a nice woman isn’t wrong and it’s not bad to want to pursue her. But too often once that girl rejects that guy she’s seen as a user. So it’s best to ask yourself was she flirting with you? Was she stringing you along? Or was she just being a good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 04:20 PM
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Yeah I don’t particularly disagree with that tbh. Although I don’t think it’s very effective for an average guy I do appreciate as a woman being able to flat out say “no thanks” and move on with my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 04:02 PM
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Are you saying the onus is on the woman to disclose that? Because from what I’ve seen a lot of men find it rude to and arrogant to mention your relationship status while having platonic conversations as a way to shut down any romantic intentions. If you’re saying the onus is on man in this situation I don’t disagree with that really.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:56 PM
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There are a lot of women who share men but you’re implying that not wanting to be cold approached is tied to not wanting monogamy. Also I called it an imaginary harem because it doesn’t even seem like that’s something OP mentioned and more like something you projected onto them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:51 PM
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How do you know she was actually giving you signals tho? I’ve had guys think general kindness or something as small as well maintained eye contact as interest… I do think there are a lot of women who do this but i also think that there are a lot of men who conflate any positive attention from the opposite sex as flirtatious.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 03:44 PM
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What does not enjoying being cold approached have to with being in some imaginary harem?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 01:07 PM
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I think I’ve definitely experienced gender based privileges. People tend to be nicer and go out of their way to help me. They also are more receptive to me as a person (i think it helps that I’m apparently an attractive woman).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 11:27 AM
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I personally don’t believe that I think both types of men perpetuate that stereotype for different motives. Self described nice men will say that as a form of fear mongering women without expecting to be lumped in with those men. Whereas the men who actually only see women as sex objects say it to convince women that’s all they can get. Thats my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 07:43 PM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 07:20 PM
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You’re a hopeless romantic but will continue to see others and deny exclusivity until you have sex? I’m also not buying that lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 03:52 PM
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Ugh reading what he said instantly annoyed me like seriously what is wrong with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 03:48 PM
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This is where men really confuse me. On one hand yall tell us that most men only want sex and that they want to experience things like casual sex. Then when you get treated like you only want sex now it’s not true and you don’t know why you’re treated like that. Also from my experience the church boys are the first ones to try and coerce you into a sexual activity. I literally had a better experience with a full blown Atheist than supposed Christian men. So don’t let people fool you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 02:15 PM
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I think it’s just that cuteness is so overwhelming you don’t know what to do so your brain just farts an action out lol. He doesn’t mind it though and it’s not a hard bite :).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 11:59 AM
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I really appreciate hearing this from a man i think the idea of personally not wanting to be approached is met with hostility too often.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 01:02 AM
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I feel like the same can be said about women tho? A women being undesirable to men which is supposedly supposed to be very easy is something that is looked down upon. We even see it in pop culture when popular music basically parades that this girl has more acsess to men then you do therefore she’s better than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/25 12:59 AM
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That is on topic because you are correlating the two your statement was saying the same reason why women say till death do us part while initiating 80% of divorces. You are essentially saying that these women included that bit into their vows when truthfully you don’t know if they did. If you intended to say some people break their till death do us part vows that makes sense but to add a number you are in fact implying that number of people are doing what you’re saying. I also doubt you added th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 09:31 PM
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I’m confused first it was “I didn't mention anything about the majority of divorces.” Now after it’s been shown that you did in fact imply the majority suddenly the 80% doesn’t matter? Like I’m confused I feel like you’re flipping back and forth rn. Also lying with the intent of gaining consent can be considered rape/fraud in America. People have been held legally accountable for that. Rape by deception is a situation in which the perpetrator deceives the victim into participating in a sexual ac…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 10:30 PM
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“Similarly, women lying about until death do us part and initiate 80% divorces” Is 80% not the majority are we talking about numbers higher than 100%? It’s morally wrong to lie to someone and lead them on you may have this attitude but I bet if a girl pretended she actually liked you and was secretly just using you for money you wouldn’t be so nonchalant about it. If that’s the person you want to be remembered as then be my guest. There are many bad things that are done with the goal of it being…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 11:50 PM
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I mean if you’re going to mention how a majority of divorces are initiated by women and that it’s bad because of the to death do us part how you’re assuming they all or an overwhelming majority of them even includes that bit. Changing your mind is ok and bound to happen but i doubt you just woke up and changed your mind. Not communicating the uncertainty you have towards marriage is wrong. Most dead bedrooms I’ve seen start from pregnancy or something genuinely valid. Also yes monogamy would sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/25 11:29 PM
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I can see how it seems that way since it could be answered pretty quickly with a simple “they’re selfish” but i personally wanted to get into the nitty gritty of why someone would lie. By lie I mean communicate that they will be getting married but secretly has no intention of being married. I also kind of extend that to men who eventually change their minds but never communicate. From a lot of people in this thread I think the general consensus is that they don’t want to lose that relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:41 PM
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I pretty much disagree and agree with this I think for the most save a few details women are doing exactly what their grandmas did. As a woman you are expected to do things like clean and cater to your potential husband because the goal is to SELL yourself as a wife. Plenty of people have probably seen a woman say something like “I’m not cooking for him because that’s wife duties on a gf budget” and everyone basically say what I just mentioned which is that she has to prove herself. The only dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 06:32 PM
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Respectfully if he doesn’t want to get married because he’s scared but expects me to do one of the scariest things on earth. And presumably prioritize him as if he were my husband then yes i expect a ring if he doesn’t want to do that he can find a woman who doesn’t see things the way I do. Also I’m going to be honest society is already conditioned to see a gf and a wife as two separate categories and will treat them accordingly. Men themselves admit often that they would do certain things for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 03:25 PM
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Not everyone includes till death do us part in fact most people opt out for their own personal vows. But regardless i think divorce is something that is acceptable. Just because someone initiates doesn’t always mean they necessarily caused the end of the marriage. I believe most things can be resolved but there a definitely some big no nos. Dead-bedrooms are also just a case by case thing I remember having a discussion about this I told my partner before hand that having children can cause a dea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 08:17 PM
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It’s also dependent on how that man views you tbh. My bf wants to have kids with me specifically because he sees me as someone who would add more to his life and be a good mother if he wants to have me and if he wants to have kids with me he has to marry me. He is benefiting by getting a woman he views highly and having children with her. If he doesn’t view me like that then he can leave freely. Also I want to add I wonder how many of those women actually wanted to have children out of wedlock?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:19 PM
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I was just about to mention my reasoning behind this but since you replied I’ll explain it deeper. How I view marriage is different from how you view it obviously so I can’t say you’ll benefit from this that and the third if you don’t value this that and third in the first place. For example one belief ive mentioned In this thread is that i believe expecting and being ok with a woman accepting all the risks of child birth and to take that leap of faith with you but you draw the line at you equal…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:00 PM
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I can give an answer as to what my boyfriend benefits from marrying ME. I can’t give an answer as to what every man benefits from marrying in general. That’s why i said that’s up for a man to answer because ultimately what he values about marriage is different from what WE value.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:00 PM
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I think that’s something a man would have to answer personally. I know for my bf who is an atheist so i think that’s secular (?) it’s more of a love thing for him and also a commitment. Edit: I agree I think it’s completely your choice to dislike marriage but lying about it is so scummy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:51 PM
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Just to put this out there the black panthers weren’t a violent group that’s mainly propaganda from the CIA. The black panthers were mostly community based like helping kids with homework and feeding the homeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:25 PM
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I mean it’s hard to give an opinion when most women genuinely don’t think about it or feel particularly strongly about it. Me personally I think it’s interesting how AI is advancing interesting but scary in a Detroit become human way. As for AI girlfriends specifically I don’t even think I would notice what’s going on unless it popped up on social media tbh. Edit: I get the vibe that you want women to feel anxious about AI girlfriends with the possibility of being replaced. But truthfully I just…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:14 PM
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No i said i want him to propose around that age from the age we are now to that age it’ll be six years inbetween to figure out if that’s what he wants. Sorry for the confusion :).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:47 PM
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“ Why should you get married? Isn't being with someone enough? Choosing them every Day? Also it costs a lot.” I thought this was a question for me apologies if that wasn’t the intention. But as long as you’re honest I don’t see an issue it’s just different strokes for different folks :).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:50 PM
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It all depends on the woman you pursue her reasons may be different from mine. All that matters is that you’re both honest with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:47 PM
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If he truly wants to sleep with other women he’d have to make the choice if that’s more important to him than being with me. I do trust his actions he has women that are interested but he never entertains it he doesn’t even have social media aside from Reddit and I’ve seen those conversations it’s all his friends and family and we literally spend most of the day together. He’s just that kind of guy ig…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 12:45 PM
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I’m cool with not being married rn I’ve made that pretty clear. But yes those words from the man himself because yet again me and my bf like talking to each-other so we’ve cover a lot of topics already! This question actually came up midway into our relationship where we were talking about sexual stuff and threesomes came up. He said on his own he wouldn’t want to have sex with a woman he did not love (which is so tea honestly). If that changed I’d wonder why but similar to how he would rather d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 12:16 PM
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Yes me and my bf have had a lot of conversation about this. Idk the ages here but I’d bet I’m younger than a lot of the men in this thread coming up with excuses and reasons why they deserve to lead people on and i think it’s ridiculous. It’s not hard to just talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:56 AM
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I think if you get cold feet it’s best to communicate that with your partner you’ll more than likely be comforted and will be able to talk about where that fear is coming from. If it’s truly something you can’t do consider ending the relationship. I feel that’s the mature adult route to go. I’ve explained this a little better in another thread but basically if we have kids I see that as a huge commitment and if you can’t make the equal commitment of actually making me your wife then I don’t thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:54 AM
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For one he’d never want to have sex with other women but if he suddenly felt that need I’d have a conversation about where it’s coming from to see if it’s something we can fix together, ultimately tho the answer would be no.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 11:49 AM
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I think those expectations should also be discussed like what is a dealbreaker for you in a marriage or do you believe in staying with someone no matter what they do. These are all conversations me and my bf were able to have very casually. Equally if you’re someone who has dealbreakers in a marriage don’t lie about it. What are you on about? Like seriously what are you trying to do that correlation is such a reach it’s insane lol. Literally just said abuse is a reasonable reason to get a divorc…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:55 AM
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If he wanted to stop having sex right now i wouldn’t fault him for it and I’d probably wait till we’re married if he wanted. So yet again he’s not completely out of control he’s actively making a choice. Paying child support for a kid he wanted is the right thing to do if I have majority custody. I’d pay child support if it were reversed it’s only fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:47 AM
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No not at all But I do think divorce gets thrown in over literally anything nowadays. I believe in working through trials and tribulations as a couple. But ofc some things for me are nonnegotiable. Stuff like abuse full blown cheating (if you like drunkenly kissed someone that can be worked through but if you had sex or an affair then no imo) genuinely trying everything you could and it didn’t work, or the other person absolutely wanting out. Committing crimes Probably more that I can’t think of…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:22 AM
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I appreciate the concern but I’m 18 and he’s 19 I’m not expecting him to propose rn lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:16 AM
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There is ultimately no fear of getting me pregnant if he isn’t having sex with me. Pregnancy isn’t completely out of his control the same way it isn’t completely out of my control. That being said if he doesn’t want to be a dad he shouldn’t have to be. Obviously I’m not chopping up my limbs and giving it to him but I am giving something up and putting myself through a great change and risk for him I’d expect the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:13 AM
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I literally never said it’s bad for men to change their minds I’ve actually said the opposite several times. It’s bad to not communicate that change you see the difference here. My whole thing is communicating those needs so everyone understands the situation they’re in. I’ve said it up and down this thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 07:07 AM
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He decides also he can choose not to have sex with me or to wear a condom. It’s not like I can just flip a switch and I’m pregnant. If I choose to have his child after he also consents to have a child with me. I am giving him my body I’m literally going through 9 months of torture and hours worth of pain and tearing something that will change my body and alter my mind. And is also dangerous. To bring our child into the world so yes I don’t think I’m asking for too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:51 AM
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That’s silly ofc there is such a thing as a plan to get married even before you’re engaged and it’s important to disclose those plans and if you’re interested in marriage or not. It’s honestly very headache inducing how many loops some of the people here are trying to jump through to avoid having a simple conversation. It’s not that hard just tell a girl you’d never get married or don’t see marriage as an option for you. What is genuinely wrong with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:45 AM
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I’m not going to try and convince some internet stranger why they should or shouldn’t get married. Your reasons to not get married are valid for your personal life. But to refocus what the main post was about I find it absolutely disgusting to lie about it. Just be honest about what you want and find a woman who wants the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:39 AM
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I do know him as a person and I know he wouldn’t have me being a gf while pregnant with his child. I’m asking him to take the same leap of faith I am by committing my body,my womb,my safety and my mind to him. The least he can do for me is make me his wife. If he feels that’s not something he wants to do he can come to me and figure out why together and whether or not we’re compatible still.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:36 AM
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If you change your mind about being married or you’re unsure but you haven’t voiced that properly you’re still being dishonest. This post is based off men who admit that they never wanted to get married tho. Idk where you’re even getting that from my friend I’m literally encouraging men to follow their intuition about marriage but to also be honest with their partner in the process like idk how you’re so mad by that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:28 AM
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Because I’m not going to be his gf when I have his kid. Legally I’m his wife which carries more weight to me than being his wife in name only. Unless I have something officially saying that I am his wife in every way I’ll always just be the gf. Which as i said before I’m not doing. A lot of women don’t say what I said they truly want their baby or were lead to believe the father would be active. But I’m being so fr I’m not going to be a single mother I rebuke the very idea everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:24 AM
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Because he knows me as a person I didn’t even need to ask him if he’d want to marry me he was Adamant about it first. I demand marriage as a sign of respect if he wants me to carry his child we’ve also already had moments in our relationship where I showed I had no intention of giving up on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:19 AM
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Honestly I love my bf and we have a lot of time left before that deadline hits so i wouldn’t leave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 06:06 AM
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If that’s what’s said then you aren’t being dishonest it’s good to voice how you feel about marriage. That way you can both make a decision that’s best for y’all. My post is about men who don’t want to get married but lie and say they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:51 AM
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So hey uhm i actually do care about what I said I care about I never even think about whatever you’re talking about and it seems like you’re projecting your fears on to me a woman you DONT know. Also i wouldn’t be caught dead having a child a man told me he didn’t want lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:16 AM
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Ofc i highly encourage men to only get married if they’re sure they want it. I just also happen to highly encourage honesty. It honestly gives off the vibe that you support this act of lying as some form of revenge towards women who don’t even know you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:14 AM
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If our marriage ended I’d try to make it as fair as possible but I really am in it for the long haul soooo.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:11 AM
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I think it’s best to communicate that it’s also the other parties job to communicate that they want to get married in a timely manner ofc. From then either the man decides that he can do that or he can’t and he tells the woman he’s interested in. Equally it’s her job to see if she can live without marriage or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 05:01 AM
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When exactly did I say this phrase? Or do you just assume because a few women online said it now that gives men freeway to string people along and waste their time with no consequences? Plenty of women beg men and ask them what they’re doing wrong. Truly if a man doesn’t want to marry you he doesn’t want to marry you it’s best you move on and find a suitable partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:58 AM
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Ugh that’s insane to me just leave the girl alone or be honest! It truly is infuriating…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:40 AM
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Then find a woman who feels the same way lol. I mean I’m sure you’ve heard a thousand people tell you why marriage is great if you truly don’t like it I fully support that decision. I don’t support lying about it and stringing people along because you don’t want to risk losing options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:38 AM
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It’s about how you feel in the end a lot of bad people have nothing equally bad happen to them so should I be a bad person? My eldest sister is unironically a gold digger and a lot of men like that should I now go ahead and start treating men like ATMs? I could but I won’t because I don’t want to do that someone. If the only thing that’s stopping you from being a bad person is whether or not you get rewarded as I said before you’re probably not a naturally good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:34 AM
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I mean I think I’ve already found one and it wasn’t too hard for my sister find one either so i think as long as I keep my wits about me I’ll be fine. But I tend to be a really like give the benefit of doubt type a person so that’s what concerns me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:29 AM
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If he didn’t want children we wouldn’t be compatible. If he wanted kids but wanted me to be his girlfriend when I have em we still wouldn’t be compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:13 AM
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We’ve been together since I was 17 and he was 18 that’s 6 years of figuring it out. I don’t really see it as an ultimatum just more of a conversation about where his head is at and if we’re still in this for the long haul. If he doesn’t see marriage as a viable option anymore I’d ask why and explain to him that we’re more than likely going to break up over this. I’d try to comfort him through whatever feelings develop after that but I’d stay true to my values. Edit: just to clarify we haven’t be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:12 AM
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I mean you can love someone and not be compatible that’s just life. Me personally it is a prerequisite to whether or not I’m going to tear my vagina open and risk death. I’m not doing that for a man who doesn’t want to take that leap of faith but fully expects me to take it… Also the person who truly enforced my views on marriage was my dad. Maybe it’s because I’m his little girl or maybe because him and my mom are literally devouted to each other but he’s always had much more harsh words for me…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 04:07 AM
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Wouldn’t you feel bad about that tho like you’re wasting someone else’s time essentially. Marriage is important to me because it’s a sign of respect and commitment. Especially in the context of having kids. If you expect me to go through everything that comes with pregnancy but you can’t even make me your legal wife then the respect isn’t there. I also take marriage very seriously like I’d do anything to save my marriage it not flimsy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:58 AM
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I would like the thought of building those memories at a wedding. Also I am very firm in my belief of marriage I already told my bf if he doesn’t propose at around 23-24 there’s going to be a big make it or break it talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:50 AM
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I can’t imagine doing that and not feeling bad about it tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:41 AM
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I think the government takes it seriously but we as everyday people really don’t. So why do these government policies matter if we as people don’t even use them as often as we should. Child support isn’t necessarily a mechanism from marriage tho. It would make more sense to say you don’t want kids than to say you don’t want marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:40 AM
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I’ve definitely see a few videos here and there where men are talking about chads and how having options means it’s ok. Those people aren’t the norm tho obviously. There’s a difference between being an asshole and someone just throwing a temper tantrum. If you still feel good about yourself knowing you used and took advantage of someone in such a way then maybe you were always just an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:36 AM
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I would be ok with a courthouse marriage if we couldn’t afford a wedding. I’d like to have one later tho if possible it doesn’t have to be big and extravagant but more like a celebration or party for being together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:29 AM
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That’s a good thing imo you should pay your child support. Not a lot of people actually push that hard for it tho unless they’re in dire need of the money.or in the shitty case your bm actually hates you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:28 AM
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I’m sure there’s a crowd of people who defend men ghosting as well the point is most people view it as mean and immature. Well that’s just being butthurt they couldn’t play you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:19 AM
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Well that certainly sucks but I guess it is what it is as long as you’re still getting what you contributed back. Which isn’t necessarily wrong I’m just saying that from what I’ve seen people actually aren’t that strict about men not paying full child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:17 AM
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Because it’s the right thing to do? I’ve never ghosted anyone in my life does that mean I deserve to be lead on because some women out there have? Also people objectively view ghosting as immature and mean. Those women played themselves btw. It’s not right to say you don’t want to get married when you secretly do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:08 AM
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Because those contracts usually have that clause in there you can also create a contract stating that if someone cheats in a marriage all assets go to the non offending party. If you choose not to do that most judges favor a more even and quick 50/50 split. Yet again if you decide it would be better for the mother to have the children that’s obviously your choice. Lastly there are a lot of men who do Break the law not a lot of people actually go crazy over you not paying in full. Or there are me…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 03:03 AM
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I mean dividing the assets you both contribute to makes sense even if someone did cheat. Also i could be wrong but aren’t most custody cases settled outside of court. As for child support it’s truly a case by case thing but it’s rarely enough money to actually raise a kid and not a lot of men pay it in full either. If you don’t want marriage don’t be d!ck and use it as a dog toy for sex or waste people’s time hoping they’ll just give up on wanting marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:52 AM
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I agree I already made it exceptionally clear to my bf that no child is coming from me without a ring lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:49 AM
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If a man dislikes marriage then he isn’t for me honestly. Which is fine as long as everyone is upfront about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:48 AM
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I feel like if that’s the case there should be a lot of check ins along the way to make sure everyone’s getting a full picture on the possibility of marriage if that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:09 AM
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I feel like the latter isn’t bad because he wants to get married but just hasn’t communicated his fears.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:06 AM
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I mean it’s not like I can only have one or the other? But for me I see marriage as more of a respect and commitment thing especially since I want children. In my opinion a man who wouldn’t sign a piece of paper or give me the official and legal title of a wife but expects me to experience unimaginable things during pregnancy and to possibly risk my life doesn’t respect me enough. That being said I respect if others don’t want to get married but it’s personally not something i want for my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 02:04 AM
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I honestly agree if you’re hesitant on marriage don’t do it and don’t pursue relationships with women who are dead set on marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:38 AM
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I personally disagree I think most women who are ambitious do it for themselves and to be able to say they did it. I’ve quite literally never heard a woman say she did big things to attract men. Also there are absolutely men who get upset when a woman is doing better than them and will try to diminish a woman’s accomplishments out of envy. I’ve had men that I had no sexual attraction to and honestly thought they were my friends get very upset when they find out how much money I pull in as an 18 …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 01:12 AM
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20-25 get educated and build up to a stable life 25 get married 28-30 have a kid or two 30-40 raise our children together while hitting achievements and making lots of money together. My standards are for my husband to be my age or close. To at least have a job and a car. To be kind and understanding. Height doesn’t really matter tbh. I hope I can marry my bf tho
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/25 12:46 AM
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Any man that believes in treating women less than is a bad man to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 11:46 PM
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I think guys are free to comment just like gals are free to take offense. Me personally if my bf tried to tell me what to wear because to him I look slutty i would have a conversation with him about it and ask him not to do that. If he felt he couldn’t stay with me based on my clothing choices the relationship would be ended.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 11:33 PM
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Most women ik wear underwear at home or really cute shorts with an oversized tee. Basically we’re more nude indoors lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 11:27 PM
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If he’s still attracted to me it’s fine if he has litteraly no physical attraction to me I’d break up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 11:14 PM
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I usually try to be really understanding of all peoples opinions because it’s the right thing to do. But OPs original post just grinds my gears tbh. I’m heavily attracted to my boyfriend I initiate sex almost more than him during some weeks. I still can’t cum off of penetration only. It’s just how some peoples bodies are it doesn’t mean I don’t like my bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 11:13 PM
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What I’m saying is that for most of people’s developing years the adults are going to tell you to be nice to your crush they aren’t going to talk to you like an adult because you are not an adult. Even my dad said the usual “be nice and buy her nice things” to my brother when he was growing up. In fact the boys in my family were usually outnumbered by girls and both of them do really well dating wise. Not to mention the media we consume will often tell you the same things and it’s not women crea…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 06:16 PM
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I feel like that’s a cop out to just blame women. “Be nice to the girl you like” is the most basic advice a young child would be given. No one is going to give 10 yo Timmy a step by step game plan on how to bag a baddie men or women. Most importantly we act like men just don’t exist in children’s lives at all if you ask your dad when you’re a young boy how to get a girl you like he’ll probably tell you to be nice to her. We have tons of media catered towards kids about being nice to your crush t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 02:46 PM
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I think this is why I believe performative niceness from both genders has to be the worse thing to ever exist but I especially hate how people have made it into a dating strategy thing. Now you really can’t tell the difference between someone who’s actually nice and someone who pretends. You can’t see the red flag until that niceness doesn’t give them the reaction they want and they start crashing out. It’s truly a scary thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/25 12:38 PM
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I hate that being nice has been weaponized as a dating strategy so much that I have to wonder what type of nice are we talking about. Because if your niceness is performative then I don’t think you really should be in a relationship. Whereas there are genuinely nice guys out there like my bf. The type of guy who would feed strays and volunteer to help others. The type of person who is just such a wonderful person it makes me want to cry those guys I see usually get married really young and aren’…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:29 PM
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