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Friendly_B/r/seduction09/02/16 10:37 AM
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I'm a 37 year old who married someone my age and it was miserable. Now that we're divorced I pretty much date 19-23 year olds. Every time I've tried dating my age she's ready to have a kid, like, right now. It's a basic expectation of mine that any girl even close to my age isn't on birth control, from my experience. The most recent girl I was very much into, and could have imagined building a longer life together with, but she wanted unprotected non-birth-control sex from our first time, and th…
/r/TheRedPill19/06/17 01:56 PM
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Your example is ridiculous. However, I married a virgin, at 27. A lasting paradise, it was not.
/r/seduction15/05/17 07:15 PM
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*I've tried everything to better myself and I crash and burn every time. It's in your head. Your goals are wrong and you're setting yourself up for failure because you kind of love playing this role a little. * You are literally saying there is no hope, you tried every remedy, there's no way to be a better you, you're at your peak already, and also mixing in some self-loathing about how you aren't strong enough to follow your own goals or routines. I suggested that you "love kind of playing this…
/r/seduction14/05/17 05:10 PM
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That's a reasonable focus for you. Don't beat yourself up over calories too much, you know what is good for you and what isn't good for you. Switching from bread to corn tortillas for sandwiches had a massive affect for me, and cutting out rice and pasta (literally threw them out) helped a lot too.
/r/seduction14/05/17 04:59 PM
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eating right, exercising For how long? Seriously, what is your "for reals, I actually did this thing for reals" record of eating right? What is exercise? You have made a series of meals of grains, cruciferous veggies, acceptable dairy/lean meat for your body type, for months at a time? With daily walking without your cell phone and some activity which raises your heartrate so much that you sweat and have quickened breath for at least 30 minutes a day? Have you approached your youth pastor? He's …
/r/seduction13/05/17 11:27 AM
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I've tried everything to better myself and I crash and burn every time. It's in your head. Your goals are wrong and you're setting yourself up for failure because you kind of love playing this role a little.
/r/seduction13/05/17 11:19 AM
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I really like my hair, it's receded but not too thin, and I get real proud of it... then SOMETIMES I either see a mirror which shows the top of my head or I see a photograph of the top of my head when I'm looking down and DAMMIT it sucks.
/r/seduction13/05/17 11:17 AM
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Do yourself a favor and go buy "The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie. So much of what is in there is what you need to read every day, and this issue you struggle with is fiercely codependent stuff which could turn around and bite you even worse later. You need to learn to love yourself. People pleasing? Chewing fingernails? Wishing doom on others? Suicidal ideation while ignoring what is basically other people placating you? I'd not be worried about those manly men putting emotionless b…
/r/seduction13/05/17 11:16 AM
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I didn't brag about getting laid in High School either and I was getting chased pretty regularly. I only initiated about half my sex in those years I think. Flirted with everyone, but didn't talk about it.
/r/seduction13/05/17 10:54 AM
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Middle age chicks do nothing for me. I am not attracted to them. I don't want to screw these old bags. Plus, I was even getting rejected by some of them. I'm 37, and have a similar ex-wife story. Also, EVERYTHING you're saying about young women has been true. I don't even pursue women my own age. They're either completely mentally deranged, or they WANT A BABY AND THEY WANT THAT BABY NOW and I will "do just fine" as the father. Almost every mid-30s to late-30s woman I've been out with has sugges…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/17 05:10 PM
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I see how you can view it as a morality red flag, but taking a picture and bragging about it is clearly more about establishing dominance over the other woman to me.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/17 05:39 AM
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I've been doing this often lately. A LOT of little knick-knackedy jewelry has been getting left at my place lately. I have a wall where my artwork is pinned to the wall, and all the rings and earrings just go on a pin now. It's exactly what you say.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/17 05:38 AM
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Many of the spoiled kids will run away from the age of 25, knowing it's all hell from that point on, you will welcome the age of 25 with open arms. Are you kidding me? I moved out of my parent's house and started my life at 15. We're living in an era of never-ending childhood. This is ridiculous.
/r/TheRedPill26/01/17 07:28 PM
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You're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction22/01/17 07:25 PM
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Yes, but you need to rephrase that or consider it different. You are comparing yourself unfavorably to others, and judging yourself unworthy of attention from women. This is poison to you. Body, mind, spirit. What self improvement steps could you take in a daily practice to reasonably and realistically improve each area of your personal life? We each have to not judge ourself, but rather do something every day to be a better version of ourself. When you are better each year than you were the yea…
/r/seduction16/01/17 05:22 AM
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What is your confidence level like?
/r/seduction15/01/17 07:13 AM
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Yeah, so who here has had a paternity test done? It's been on my mind. Can you have one done at birth? Can it be a separate thing? Can someone share a story?
/r/TheRedPill31/12/16 12:33 AM
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That's what I came to say. I wonder about the age of the posters on here sometimes.
/r/TheRedPill24/12/16 12:32 AM
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In a world of "we don't know what hot sex really means anyway" then I guess so.
/r/TheRedPill14/12/16 04:24 AM
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Can you explain "safety text?" How do you impliment this, what form does it take?
/r/TheRedPill13/12/16 01:31 PM
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Thank you for your comment.
/r/TheRedPill10/11/16 03:27 AM
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It's not about today. We're saving the political system for the next generation.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/16 08:37 AM
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I have.
/r/seduction10/10/16 05:57 AM
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True that. I mostly just mean decorate like an adult, not a kid with more income than he knows how to manage responsibly. I'm also writing about this stuff so I'm overreacting. Ignore me.
/r/seduction08/10/16 04:33 AM
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When I used to drink, I would have red and also a chilled white. While I hate to say "girls like white wine" because who knows who likes what it's just easy to have on hand and it's nice with a dessert. I don't drink anymore and so there's no more 12 bottles hanging out in a rack for a perfect night, so my main reason to respond is to point out a few alternatives if you don't have booze stocked. I like to keep lemon seltzer water, and consciously try to keep a few pieces of fresh fruit, peaches …
/r/seduction07/10/16 09:55 PM
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Lol.
/r/seduction07/10/16 09:50 PM
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If you've got the cash, get some lights/fixtures from somewhere besides Wal-mart (e.g. no bare lightbulbs hanging from the ceiling). Anything that shows you put some effort towards breathing some life into the place. Maybe a potted plant, even if it's fake. Yeah, this is good. Honestly there's a lot right about having real plants. Many plants are easy to take care of and won't die if you forget for a few days to water them. Nobody wants to live in a place with a ton of soil and empty pots but I …
/r/seduction07/10/16 09:50 PM
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Are you in the seduction subreddit, or the "please love me despite the stains on my shirt" subreddit? I have nerd crap. It doesn't live where I live, because I'm a grown ass man.
/r/seduction07/10/16 09:26 PM
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Scents. Clean as a whistle. Bed made. Laundry done. Showered. Brushed teeth. Shaved. No nerd crap.
/r/seduction07/10/16 06:54 AM
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My last 3 girlfriends were 19. My random 2nd date hookup on vacation last week was 27. I've turned into the dude I used to hate when I was in my 20s and I'm not letting it get to my head. It's natural.
/r/TheRedPill27/09/16 09:00 AM
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I learned not to move in with girlfriends after the first one.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/16 10:00 AM
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They DON'T care about your right to free speech. One of my social circles is wildly SJW and the men just talk about how horrible they are, while the women will openly say that men should not be allowed to speak in public or be published in writing.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/16 03:27 AM
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It's a tendency I've had before. I won't go into detail but eventually you hit a point where you get fed up with feeling like life dominates you and you're not getting everything out of your days that you need. Maybe you're there. Get male friends, don't try pleasing all the time. I'm not saying be a dick or be sarcastic or mean... just build boundaries. Be willing to say no. Be strong about your own feet and the ground they are on.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/16 07:07 PM
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If you lose anyone by being a better version of yourself, another person will come along to replace them and they will be a higher level of quality for you. However you're not saying that other people are beating you down, it sounds like you're doing your own mental gymnastics without outside coercion.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/16 09:13 PM
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You've already started. Listen to everything else here, but guard that sobriety like it's all you have. Don't push yourself too hard, eat well, rest when you need. Self care.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/16 09:10 PM
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Yeah, I had a girl get all warmed up a few weeks back and then just disappear on me. I was reading the signals right and she was into me big time but I was using my normal habits of escalation and it was too fast for her. She said I "did not respect her space" because we were "in public" so that's okay, we both just moved on. She's not the type for me.
/r/seduction30/08/16 01:29 PM
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It would be good to lower your level of planning and "research." There is something in you actively holding you back. What are the main activities you do to improve your value and be attractive?
/r/seduction29/08/16 12:51 PM
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Sounds like happy sarcasm you lucky chad.
/r/seduction27/08/16 11:49 PM
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Wikipedia: In an interview with Vulture, the entertainment section of New York, about her film Ruby Sparks, actress and screenwriter Zoe Kazan criticized the term as reductive, diminutive, and misogynistic. She disagreed that Hepburn's character in Bringing Up Baby is a MPDG: "I think that to lump together all individual, original quirky women under that rubric is to erase all difference."[22]
/r/TheRedPill27/08/16 10:56 PM
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I got a new rad haircut today, and moved slow, minding my posture. This was happening to me all night. I had this article in mind so I was being a little self-conscious but I think I tune that out.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/16 09:01 AM
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Oh! I checked it out at the time I wrote that today, based on this post. We'll see but probably.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/16 01:09 AM
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Okay, I checked out Esther's book.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/16 06:49 AM
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I'm grateful you were able to detox and resist the mental obsession. One day at a time.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/16 05:10 AM
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Voltron of game.
/r/seduction05/08/16 06:17 AM
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I feel lucky to have survived a divorce with a virgin woman, who was cheating on me with other men by the third year. She used her family's wealth to destroy me.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/16 07:03 AM
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This is also how my mind works.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/16 06:31 AM
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You're in the right place. There are dozens of guides in the sidebar to the right. You have decades of your life to enjoy. Read something from the side menu regularly, and approach and talk to everyone, every day.
/r/seduction29/07/16 05:48 AM
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A girl gave me her car and then met me at the door in a robe when I returned the keys. Missed opportunity?
/r/seduction26/07/16 07:23 AM
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Can you point me at a guide to a quality first suit? I'm starting to save for one.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/16 07:40 AM
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Collective Mind is a good concept for social planning.
/r/TheRedPill24/07/16 07:36 AM
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Pearl Street Mall
/r/seduction08/07/16 11:22 PM
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Why that mall in particular? I know it's dead center and easy to reach in Broomfield, but is it location?
/r/seduction08/07/16 06:22 AM
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She knows what she is doing.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 04:25 AM
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Be funny. Don't let them bother you, you're better than that. Give no fucks. Remember: "People will LOVE me. People will HATE me. NEITHER of those outcomes have anything to DO with me."
/r/seduction29/06/16 08:30 PM
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As a side note, glue-ons are unattractive to me.
/r/seduction27/06/16 10:37 PM
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I'm 6' and have been interested in a woman who is about the same height. She's tall. She left the dance with another guy on Saturday, that sucked. He's like 6'4." I chose to blame it on this fact, rather than that he was more aggressive than I was.
/r/seduction27/06/16 06:02 PM
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I like to call girls "bro" on the text. It raises their eyebrows and makes them defensive.
/r/seduction24/06/16 07:22 PM
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I read ZERO douche content.
/r/seduction23/06/16 07:07 PM
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"Destroying attraction" may be a heavy handed way of identifying this, but as a 36 year old man, I certainly have a hard time using a phone to communicate with young women. Most of the girls I date are 19-23 since I live blocks away from a major university, but my normal "don't use texts to communicate" laws seem to break down sometimes. It's like they are afraid of talking on the phone, but I think it's just generational commonalities.
/r/seduction23/06/16 05:39 PM
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I would advise not bringing it up, but you're right about honesty.
/r/seduction06/06/16 01:07 AM
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Yes, that's pretty much what I meant. I took the keyword to be "inexperienced" and I know how suddenly getting laid can make you behave out of character in a negative way. It's probably worded poorly.
/r/seduction06/06/16 12:58 AM
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When things go your way, don't get cocky or "rest on your laurels." Try not to be too proud of yourself just because you've managed to charm a woman.
/r/seduction05/06/16 11:08 PM
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Don't get excited about it when your interest achieves results.
/r/seduction05/06/16 05:53 AM
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Your friend is 24 and has had sex with more than 10 girls? That's not really saying much. Anyway, what is "this persona?" Don't try and be a persona, I don't know what you mean. You need to be authentic. If there is something about your personality you want to improve on (and you've listed those things) then GREAT! We're all about self improvement.
/r/seduction01/06/16 07:07 AM
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You may be going to study with her, but she doesn't want a study session. I doubt she gave you her number so you can help her with homework.
/r/seduction30/05/16 10:09 PM
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She will resent you immediately. Expect a honeymoon of screaming, and then a slow chipping away at your independance as a person.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/16 08:48 AM
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You're saying be ready and willing to lose her and move on, and don't compromise yourself. I feel like we read the article different but I see your point now.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/16 08:36 AM
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I want to disagree with this. You sound like you're saying "don't get caught in a trap" but it's expressing a fear and your solution is to not be a provider.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/16 08:06 AM
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You're texting too much. How many hours do you need to talk about the weather through texting?
/r/seduction29/05/16 08:12 AM
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Make a cute, obviously not true joke out of it. Leave some mystery to it. You're right to not want to sound a little crazy, but we've all done horrible things to ourselves at times or been steeped in depression. Maybe just let it be something for a later time.
/r/seduction29/05/16 03:34 AM
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Stay sober, your emotions are already out of control. Talk to many women. Do not place expectations on yourself, get your mindset ready for a fail/win ratio you won't expect. You won't alleviate anxiety! Don't drink to alleviate anxiety before you go out there. Go out there an feel it, and come to realize that those feelings do not have anything to do with your relationships or public performance, they are just something you are doing to yourself. You'll need to overcome thinking "how truly bad …
/r/seduction26/05/16 06:46 AM
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None of your history is relevant in this situation. You don't have to forget it but you can close the door on it. Tomorrow is a fresh day. Besides, why are you worried about PUA sites? It could be setting you back, just go be happy, confident, straightforward, and not a pussy.
/r/seduction26/05/16 03:47 AM
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This is great advice.
/r/seduction19/05/16 11:40 AM
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Making a move wouldn't ruin anything worth keeping.
/r/seduction16/05/16 04:33 AM
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1 - Fair enough. I don't know how giver is quite equivalent with "benefits self first" but no matter. Clear enough. 2 - This one has as much to do with fears and emotional drives as much as benefits. Like... financial security, sexual pleasure, emotional comfort, social excitement, et al. So it sounds like in this case just all these and more as a generalization. 3 - Taken with the less specific and more general context above... okay. So > Go by the old adage, you get back what you put in. Don't…
/r/seduction15/05/16 10:05 PM
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It doesn't sound like you would lie to a crowd about such matters to look like a bigshot.
/r/seduction15/05/16 12:08 PM
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1 - Would you say that your first case and your second case are descriptions of a giver and then a taker? 2 - Can you identify a few specific types of "pleasure" you are most concerned with? Not to over-inventory the types of pleasure available, but what personal comforts concern you most directly so we don't get off into tangents? 3 - Do you want to talk about the "differences between needs of men and needs of women" or "just talk about commonalities between the needs of the sexes" because that…
/r/seduction15/05/16 12:05 PM
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You don't want to teach lessons to strangers on expectations vs. reality. Real life is hard enough for all of us. You want to meet new people, learn about them, and take one home.
/r/seduction15/05/16 11:30 AM
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Oh, you beat me to it and I didn't notice.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/16 04:11 AM
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"But alcohol is not that addictive." Alcohol is nearly impossible to stop. Some people have a body tolerance to it, but for many it has an immediate, first time effect of causing the body to need more. Not all bodies are the same, and many break alcohol down through a series of bodily processes into water and sugar, but many more bodies cannot properly process any quantity of alcohol and break it down improperly resulting in a desire for more.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/16 04:11 AM
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Thank you thank you thank you for writing this. These are lessons I wasted TWENTY YEARS learning the hard way.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/16 04:03 AM
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This sums up every one of my long term relationship failures. Whether it is six months, two years, or eight years. Always keep that frame.
/r/TheRedPill15/05/16 03:58 AM
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Spill as in "accidental loss." He'll get fired for that if he tries to tell his boss he comped a bill that big, and weekly inventory will narrow it down to his shifts if he covers it up. I doubt he's going to cover any of that. Leaving aside that you shouldn't be buying drinks for other people, you're lying to people about buying them drinks which is worse. That's pretending to be a big shot. I'm not trying to be mean, here, keep going out and talking to women regularly, but you need to be hones…
/r/seduction14/05/16 11:38 PM
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That's cool. We're 100% all codependent. My own codependency was what kept me sleeping with random girls all through my 20's and never building any kind of attachment whatsoever. This is a book I recommend to EVERYONE because it blew my mind when I read it and I still read it daily: The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. It is a daily one page book and super cheap. The page I read today is basically summed up by your last line.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/16 10:54 PM
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He's not making fun of you. He's saying you're codependent. Be an example to your friend, but don't let it mess YOU up emotionally. You will have one hundred friends in your life who will not take care of themselves, stand up for themselves, or be balanced.
/r/TheRedPill14/05/16 09:37 PM
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I don't know what the bartender has to do with anything. Was the bartender stealing from his boss? Or was he paying the tab out of his own wallet?
/r/seduction14/05/16 09:26 PM
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Did you misspell something in your post? It's not making sense. I think you meant "I've never been." It's none of her business. Don't assume that she'll interrogate you about past relationships. You've known women. You've been around women. You've had relationships. Do not under any circumstances second guess that about yourself or make up anything false. It doesn't matter what she thinks about your dating history, she doesn't need to know anything about it. It's insecure of her to ask (HOWEVER)…
/r/seduction14/05/16 09:24 PM
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I'm confused over a part of this. Did you offer to pick up an immense tab after they had rung it up, and then left them with it?
/r/seduction14/05/16 09:09 PM
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I love dancing. It will be a huge benefit when you're older. You don't need it. Honestly though it sounds like you should learn some steps so you have that level of confidence once you are put in a spot you have to.
/r/seduction06/05/16 06:01 PM
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About going dancing? I'm a 35 yo guy who goes swing dancing for free at the college. The girls are all 18-22ish and they're drawn to me. WAY better than a club.
/r/seduction05/05/16 05:58 PM
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As a shit test?
/r/seduction05/05/16 08:15 AM
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There is only now. That's a big reason that it is so important to take care of yourself and stay on top of your body's needs and your mind's needs.
/r/seduction04/05/16 06:30 AM
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I have to be conscious of basic things... sleep when tired, eat (well) when hungry but not too much... because it is so easy to slip into bad habits when working on the computer all day. Also things like getting up and walking around. Yeah, I am an extrovert and a social butterfly so when I'm inside for days on end... you're right. Lots of time to either sort out my shit or get a little rummy.
/r/seduction03/05/16 11:56 AM
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"Move a muscle, change a thought." I have to force myself to go out and walk and hike every day. My thoughts race uncontrollably and I let negative thoughts overwhelm me. There's an overall blanket of negativity and "giving up" all over this post, and it probably started when you were really young. I want to ask what your hobbies are which take up so much of your time, because I am like that too. Get rid of some of them. You aren't happy with yourself, so you need to change something. Retire som…
/r/seduction02/05/16 07:52 AM
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This is a very good summary for the topic.
/r/seduction02/05/16 05:29 AM
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Wait.
/r/seduction09/04/16 08:06 AM
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This isn't a healthy outlook. You don't have to be a late-night bar regular to have a love life. I don't know what "figured it out" means. They figured WHAT out? I do agree that it's better to be out talking to people in college than to be sitting around getting high. That may have more to do with your current lack on confidence.
/r/seduction09/02/16 07:27 PM
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My sole motivation is because if the only man she has in her life on Valentine's day this year is me, and I've set up this structure, then what is she going to feel like and tell her roommates when they get the little baubles from their college boyfriends and sit around giggling and she's just sitting there wondering. I'm a little bit secret side guy but I'm not THAT secret since when she's gone, her other dorm mates get to have their guys over.
/r/seduction09/02/16 07:16 PM
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Are you ashamed or embarrassed? Don't lie about things.
/r/seduction26/02/15 07:55 PM
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