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| 8 | 39 Domestic Violence Lethality IndicatorsJust learned about these factors in family law. Very real. Thank you for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 04:57 AM |
| 8 | Family annihilators and how to spot one quickly when dating. Long-ish post. TW [murder, suicide]I know, awful. Scalia in the opinion of the court Literally redefined “shall” to avoid compensating her even though the court holds the definition of “shall” in the Fourth Amendment as something clear. Disgusting. Old white men have been running our country and controlling women for far too long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:48 PM |
| 43 | Family annihilators and how to spot one quickly when dating. Long-ish post. TW [murder, suicide]The part about cops not being here to protect you is so true. I’m currently in law school and just reas the Castlerock case. A woman did have a restraining order against her ex husband, he took her kids when she wasn’t home (which should have counted as kidnapping), but cops refused to go after him. Don’t worry, they said to her panicked calls, he’s their dad after all. She warned them over and over that he was an abuser, they called her dramatic. He killed them all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 02:46 PM |
| 26 | Husband “face fucks” pregnant wife for 45 minutes, gets verbally abusive when she wants an orgasm too; OP thinks it’s her fault for “not communicating”I hope she sees this and leaves him. Imagine being married to someone this selfish in the bedroom. That must roll over to so many facets of their relationship. Disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 12:22 AM |
| 15 | The slow normalization of pedophiliaI can’t even finish reading this it made me sick | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 12:17 AM |
| 2 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.That’s abhorrent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:35 PM |
| 12 | To anyone who needs some encouragement.Me dealing with law school readings right now😩. No, but seriously, this is something I’m getting much more comfortable with in all facets of my life. When I left my ex a few months ago, I didn’t think I’d feel like me again for a long time… but already, i do and find myself finding new ways I love myself daily. Turns out, it’s easier without him putting me down. He made me miserable so many days… but change can be so hard and scary. Leaving him was terrifying. Especially as someone who grew up i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:58 AM |
| 178 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?THIS!!!!!!! I brought this up in group therapy with a leading therapist and guess what? She completely agreed. A therapist admitting that sometimes “ComMunIcAtIOn” is bullshit really did it for me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 10:25 PM |
| 113 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!Bingo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 04:21 AM |
| 62 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sPleaaaaassee do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:21 PM |
| 71 | Shower thought on why the scrotes are angry with us..To quote Virginia Woolf when discussing the reason why men put down women, “he was concerned not with their inferiority, but with his own superiority.” They’re such cry babies with fragile egos, but love to point fingers and call women overly emotional. Ha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 12:56 AM |
| 48 | Men on Reddit are Porn SickI love this community more than words can describe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:07 AM |
| 33 | I am so glad I didn’t end up with any of the losers I pined over in my pickme yearsThe last paragraph is so pivotal! I relate a lot to this post and want to add that the trajectory my shitty relationships have sent me on has been upward in the same sense that yours have. They have shown me what I don’t want and have motivated me to work hard on my own goals and I am grateful for it. It’s nice to be able to look back and laugh. Wouldn’t be so funny had we married and had kids with one of those losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Since finding this subreddit, I have realized that I need therapy. Nothing could have prepared me for how painful it is, but I know that in the long run it is saving me from a life of choosing an abusive LVM.Thank you so much and you’re so right. We are our own people and letting go of the sadness I have for my mom is something I really do need to do and come to peace with. I agree in that therapy is pivotal for healing and think that within a few years I will truly look back and smile at my growth. Thank you so much for the love I really appreciate it ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 02:40 PM |
| 5 | Since finding this subreddit, I have realized that I need therapy. Nothing could have prepared me for how painful it is, but I know that in the long run it is saving me from a life of choosing an abusive LVM.Thank you so much. Realizing that I have figuratively been dating my dad has really hurt me the past few months, but I’m so happy that with awareness I can finally stop. My dad says the same and makes jokes about therapy.. it’s always the people who need it the most. Sending you love Queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 05:42 AM |
| 13 | Since finding this subreddit, I have realized that I need therapy. Nothing could have prepared me for how painful it is, but I know that in the long run it is saving me from a life of choosing an abusive LVM.So true thank you I really needed to hear this. And the truth is healing really is not linear. There are times I feel so freed and other times I feel depressed thinking about how poorly I treated myself in the past. But really it is a blessing to become aware and to not already be locked into a marriage with an LVM and then have these realizations... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 05:39 AM |
| 8 | Since finding this subreddit, I have realized that I need therapy. Nothing could have prepared me for how painful it is, but I know that in the long run it is saving me from a life of choosing an abusive LVM.I spent months studying the LSAT everyday and for me it took a lot of meditation, caffeine and will power. I understand your pain and I am sending you love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 03:35 AM |
| 37 | Since finding this subreddit, I have realized that I need therapy. Nothing could have prepared me for how painful it is, but I know that in the long run it is saving me from a life of choosing an abusive LVM.Thank you, I really needed this. I am really struggling with self-esteem issues despite the conventionally successful aspects of my life. I didn’t know healing would be so painful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 09:55 PM |
| 24 | As someone who’s writing a story that young girls and women are likely to read, what are some helpful lessons/themes I can integrate?.this morning in therapy we talked a lot about the patriarchy and how men often aren’t held accountable for their actions. we talked about how this often results in men being poor fathers and the bar being relatively in hell (at least in the u.s, can’t speak for other countries). This has impacted me personally as my mother ended up taking on all childcare, housework, etc. while also working long and intensive hours. My dad meanwhile did not support me or my siblings and has left a severe damage … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 09:07 PM |
| 46 | Please share stories of some weirdly specific rules you set after *that* one guyHave you watched good on paper on Netflix yet? Definitely check it out if you haven’t, this is sort of the whole premise it’s hilarious, but so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 03:32 PM |
| 24 | The High Costs of Moving in with a LVMSo sorry ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 05:07 PM |
| 1 | This sub just unlocked a memory I had repressed for years...Rip linda mark and cupcake ): crying at the gym now. And no he never apologized. My mom took on the blame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Is anyone feeling particularly sad for their pick-me mom after finding this subreddit?Wow, was it hard to cut her off ? I hate the “boys will be boys” attitude so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 09:20 PM |
| 67 | Update: I dumped him!Even the way he reacted ... so telling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 07:09 PM |
| 12 | This is my worst fear. Hope she can take her kids and get the hell out ASAPWow.. painfully true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:05 PM |
| 33 | This is my worst fear. Hope she can take her kids and get the hell out ASAPExactly how my mom looks after her 35 years of “50/50” Absolute bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 02:04 PM |
| 9 | I saw someone else roast themselfes and I want to do the same for the sake of humor xDThank you for this. Sometimes. I feel bad about all my past horrible tendencies but this really does give me a warm solidarity. The patriarchy harms us all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 07:25 PM |
| 28 | Just in case anyone still thinks video game addiction is “not that bad”...This is an example of how being a pick-me can literally be dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 07:23 PM |
| 19 | A man with self awareness realizing men are the problem? This is rare.Have you read Andrea Dworkin? It sounds like you have. I’m just finishing “pornography”, by her and she talks about this a lot. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s so true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 11:57 PM |
| 3 | The trauma of growing up as the only female in a sibling group.Yes! I recently wrote a post about this as well. I’m glad we are finally realizing the damage and ending the cycle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:58 PM |
| 118 | Women are under no obligation to be inclusive towards people who are hostile to us. Calling us an "echo chamber" and whining that we "don't include opposing opinions" isn't going to shame us into changing our mind.Words cannot express how grateful I am to this sub. It saved me from an abusive relationship that I believe would have escalated into marriage. Men have no business speaking here. They will never understand what it is like to live, breathe and date as a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:29 AM |
| 6 | A clown in his natural habitatHi, I am so sorry you were surrounded by that as a child. I am so proud of you for how far you have come! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 09:45 PM |
| 10 | Saw this on Twitter — horrifyingI hope he gets maced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 08:23 AM |
| 3 | Is anyone feeling particularly sad for their pick-me mom after finding this subreddit?Hi, r u me? I teeter between anger and sadness towards her, but I love her too much to not visit. I just don’t see my dad when I do. I’ve said I hate my dad, it rolls off her like water | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:53 PM |
| 2 | Is anyone feeling particularly sad for their pick-me mom after finding this subreddit?The last sentence. Thank you so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 09:52 PM |
| 33 | Woman whose friend just had a boy, she has 5 daughters & her friend's husband instantly mocks her for having only girls! In the comment section she even mentions having lost 2 children, which her friend knows. Pickme friend says "he's the sweetest" about her husband??? AFTER he put down her friend.Insecurity. Cultural reinforcement centered around not holding men accountable. Pick-Me disease? The list goes on and on, but at the end of the day it’s just sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 11:31 AM |
| 10 | Is anyone feeling particularly sad for their pick-me mom after finding this subreddit?Thank you for this reply, needed this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 11:15 AM |
| 59 | Other Women’s Subs Are Starting to Slowly Figure Out What We’ve Been Saying All Along About Males In Women’s Spaces. It’s Starting to look a little FDS-y out here.So sorry will make sure to always include the peeny weeny from now on 🙏🏻 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:58 AM |
| 135 | That update tho 🙌It’s weird how often this is. My last ex begged me to stay with him, claiming he loved me more then he has ever loved someone. His actions did not align with this whatsoever and I truly think he just idealized the idea of me. Weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 04:55 PM |
| 3 | “Male entitlement” isn’t nearly as common as women make it, they project their own entitlementFair enough. Fair enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/21 07:24 AM |
| 0 | “Male entitlement” isn’t nearly as common as women make it, they project their own entitlementso well put | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/21 07:05 AM |
| 6 | “Male entitlement” isn’t nearly as common as women make it, they project their own entitlementI thought the same thing haha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/21 07:04 AM |
| 3 | “Male entitlement” isn’t nearly as common as women make it, they project their own entitlementDude stop replying to this incel lmfao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/21 07:03 AM |
| 2 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.Agreed, it would take a lot for me to marry someone at this point. As it should! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.It’s so ironic and upsetting. I’m so grateful I can vent into this sub because I would be so isolated in these feelings otherwise. So many women are blind to it and all the micro aggressions contributing to it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.Thank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:59 PM |
| 10 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.that’s disgusting... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:56 PM |
| 6 | As usual men doing the bare minimum in relationships.Ha, my last ex was like this. When I ended things, he bought me something to try to Hoover me back in. Before going no contact I said “should of had that energy on my birthday” and he was livid. Fucking idiots, the lot of them. If you can only appreciate something when it’s gone, you need help. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:55 PM |
| 2 | I wanted to share a really informative article that does a great job of outlining what it means to be trauma bonded to a narcissist as well as why it makes it so hard for the abused partner to leave.Totally agree. Thank you for sharing❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:50 PM |
| 10 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.these dusty boys truly do not deserve us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:29 PM |
| 9 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.There’s no valid excuse, yet many men would find excuses for this father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:24 PM |
| 7 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 01:43 PM |
| 7 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.Yep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 01:43 PM |
| 31 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.The depravity ... wow. Imagine passing away and your husband does that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 01:41 PM |
| 25 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.My mom did this and it made both my brothers utterly incapable. They are 25/28 and live at home. I’m 20 and going to law school next year... lol. You are. Soo. Right. It’s sad because it’s truly a disservice to society as a whole, but these dumb pick-me moms perpetuate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 01:39 PM |
| 122 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.This. This times a hundred. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 04:50 AM |
| 436 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.I don’t know if it’s inherent or not, but with the pressure society puts on women of course we are “more resilient”. We need to do four times what men do to obtain the same position at work.. the same respect.. ugh. Totally agree. So sad. This is what happens in a world where men are not held accountable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:48 AM |
| 62 | I’m tired of guys who say they just want to be friends, yet end up trying to pursue me intimately/(romantically?)Block n repeat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:46 AM |
| 88 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.I am so sorry. It breaks my heart hearing so many stories like that that were on this subreddit. I learned how to cook before both my brothers despite being 8 years younger than them and then cooking dinners for everyone and constantly filling the Mother roll, so these comments really resonated with me. We. Will. Do. Better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 03:38 AM |
| 1 | This sub made me realize that I need to spend more time alone with myself before dating.I feel lied to, cheated, and angry at my past. But I am making the most of my future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 08:26 PM |
| 121 | This needs to be an actual song I can blast in my car. 👑Watch a bunch of pick mes and guys in the comment say “ok prude!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:35 AM |
| 10 | There are worse things than dying alone.This post made me cry because my mom is in a very similar situation and there’s just no way to help them. So sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 12:34 AM |
| 51 | Don’t ever accept being treated as less than a Queen!It’s really depressing how it seems that many of the women in here have been traumatized by abuse and statistically how many women have been traumatized by abusive men as a whole. My heart goes out to every one of you. Men / boys criticize this sub, but they will never know what it is like to date as a woman. They will never understand, yet they will still try to silence us from discussing our experiences. They want us to stay silent and to keep accepting horrible behavior from them. Why wouldn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 03:47 AM |
| 3 | When you have kids with a manchild, you are literally taking away resources from your children. It is child abuse to have kids with a man if you know he is immature, lazy, selfish, needy, and/or insecure.Feel the same as you. Low effort dad, pick me mom. Would love to talk more about this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 09:52 PM |
| 91 | Hold the line, ladies. Never lower your standards. Men can meet us on our level or not at all.100%. Im 20 and have already been in a good # of relationships and have been treated like shit. This sub made me realize I’m literally better off alone and men hate that. I’m thriving right now. Straight as and law school soon. It’s also funny that men are once again weighing in on something they don’t have experience of (dating as a woman). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:22 PM |
| 48 | "Women Are Warning Creators About The TikTok Silhouette Challenge"Andrea Dworkin is rolling in her grave | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 04:34 PM |
| 2 | Equality only where it benefits men. This is why we don't pay on datesI relate to this so much! There were times growing up Id ask her “why are you allowing this???” And she just wouldn’t answer. It’s sad. Same to you, we will not repeat the cycle ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 03:11 PM |
| 2 | Equality only where it benefits men. This is why we don't pay on datesWow, I have never even heard a complaint... it’s actually bizarre. She made more than my dad growing up and still does too. The clownery.. she got really nothing out of being with him and he basically ignored my brothers and I. It was a horrible set up that definitely damaged me. I have a really hard time leaving toxic, abusive relationships. But this sub is helping me more than my mom ever did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:17 PM |
| 11 | Slow FadeYep. Bad for both parties and definitely shows immaturity. Something I used to do but know now is wrong to the person on the other end and also super noticeable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 09:52 PM |
| 83 | Slow FadeThe funny thing about this is that when you bring it up, they’ll deny anything is up and place the blame on you in many cases. That’s why fds “block and move on” method is so important. Then, they’ll do it on their terms or continue low balling you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:34 PM |
| 96 | Equality only where it benefits men. This is why we don't pay on datesMy mom is libfem and the accuracy of this hurt. I am working so hard to undo all the damage of my childhood. She did all the cleaning, cooking, emotional labor with her children while my dad did nothing and she genuinely doesn’t see the problem. It’s delusional. I’m torn between anger and pitying these women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 01:56 PM |
| 37 | What Red Flags Have You Ignored That Later Became the Reason You LeftSilent treatment is such a big one. Stone walling is actually one of the top four reasons relationships end; it shows really low emotional intelligence. Proud of you for leaving that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 10:05 AM |
| 17 | LVM wanting other men to participate in their LVM behavior. Disgusting.Yes oh my god! I’ve been trying to explain this to my friends who stay friends with guys who constantly try to have sex w them. Being treated like an object is never okay ): | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 02:35 AM |
| 28 | Ever get angry that FDS works?I was thinking about this last night. It’s funny because it really does work and is so accurate, but male lurkers come in here and call us weird , bitter, whatever. But it’s another example of men, yet again, trying to but in and add judgement to an experience they have never been through! Im 20 and I’ve already experienced so much of what FDS talks about. I dated all of high school and my first 2 years of college, but I am now single because I realized the person I was dating was abusive. But m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:51 PM |
| 50 | This Man is a Rising British Rapper and Certain of His Mixtapes Have Charted in England. I Don’t Find This Funny.Dr.Ramani talks about this on youtube as a tactic which narcissists do... purposefully disrupting your sleep to make you more emotionally unwell/ more unwell has as a whole. Easier to manipulate. This does not sit right with me at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Redirect that energy sisI really needed this right now. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:26 PM |
| 1 | I am really grateful to have found this sub at 20 years old.Thank you❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:32 PM |
| 11 | I am really grateful to have found this sub at 20 years old.https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1300/J358v08n01_03?journalCode=wzpy20 https://ajph.aphapublications.org/doi/pdfplus/10.2105/AJPH.86.11.1607 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3693773/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3142010/ https://www.taalk.org/resources/statistics/76-child-sexual-abuse-consequences A quote from the last one: "More than 75% of teenage prostitutes have been sexually abused." Another: "An estimated 60% of teen first pregnancies are preceded by exper… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:50 AM |
| 8 | I am really grateful to have found this sub at 20 years old.I just looked her up, do you have any specific books you would recommend? She has quite the collection! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:46 AM |
| 9 | I am really grateful to have found this sub at 20 years old.I did (-: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 08:43 AM |
| 14 | I am really grateful to have found this sub at 20 years old.Oops! Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 11:13 PM |
| 24 | This looks more tragic than humorous to me...I’ve never heard that term! Thanks, will totally be using that in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 02:40 PM |
| 4 | Yesterday morning I closed on a house. Yesterday evening I was dumped via text. This is not a coincidence.Wow! Congratulations on this and on your house! The way you were able to see through something that was so obviously supposed to manipulate you is fantastic. I know the feeling. I think we all know the feeling. Good job❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 03:42 PM |
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