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| 5 | Is it normal to trash your spouse amongst friends?Hunch man. Women who get together with the sole purpose to bitch about their husband and how shitty their lives are. Lonely he does not help or touch me etc. add a few drinks and the lips start flowing and the next thing one of the talks about how they met the ups driver etc Just a hunch but would not surprise me. Plus you and the other bros need to grow some. If they are disrespecting their lives and their husbands this bad then give them something to really worry about. Like being a single mom… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 03:12 PM |
| 16 | Is it normal to trash your spouse amongst friends?My thoughts are if your spouse is venting to her friends about how shitty you are then time to go. They can address with you or her therapist but to bitch just to bitch with a group of disgruntled spouses is wrong. Especially your private we life. My gut tells me one of her friends is having an affair on one of their husbands too This is big disrespect. If I suck that bad then let me go. Let’s end this shot show | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 02:41 PM |
| 20 | Has anyone changed their mind?Reread what you wrote bro. You summed up why you did the D. Put her parents over you. Worked 7 days to provide and for a step daughter who tolerated you. Nuff said | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/22 03:36 AM |
| 25 | Why do they love bomb you when you call it over?Control - no one likes to be the dumpee - they want to be the dumper!!! Makes them feel better - stay strong and best to you!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/22 10:25 PM |
| 5 | Does anyone else get random DMs from people on this board?Yes - ignore them - trolls/catfishing shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/22 04:49 PM |
| 5 | Finally OfficialBest to you mate!! Onward and upward!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/22 01:39 PM |
| 5 | I want divorce but my wife doesn't know.Sorry man. She is in self preservation. She needs to save her lifestyle for herself and kids. She needs the security - financial etc. I had a step father - he smooshed his way in - not for love but for money - my mom had a farm and he wanted to farm it. I got older and realized the deal. We took it away from him and he divorced and left! The only reason she is in preserve mood is security bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/22 02:28 PM |
| -5 | “Tainted” by your exSometimes you gotta fold. Remember it is only money. Your happiness and line is worth more. You can always make more money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/22 03:23 AM |
| -10 | “Tainted” by your exAt this point for your happiness it may be best to throw in the towel. Maybe give her what she want’s. I know it hurts but it is killing ya man | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/22 02:41 AM |
| 6 | UltimatumNo Ultimatum! Ever! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/22 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Sabotaging Every HolidayWow - she said that???? Unreal - you said BPD - is she getting treated??? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/09/22 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Should I Stay or Should I Go?:( Wow, sorry she feels this way man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/22 07:41 PM |
| 10 | Should I Stay or Should I Go?You are not happy. She does not care if you go or stay. She is clearly not happy and said just divorce if you want. Man you have and maybe sadly been given a chance to reset your life. She really thought you would go to Fla and just not come back?? Dude no offense but does she have a side piece??? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/09/22 06:16 PM |
| 8 | My wife is wanting to leave me. What do I do?Sorry man. Skip separation and go to the D. She has made her choice. Move on with your life | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/22 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Just needing to vent.Yep -never a good time - but I agree with your sister - she sounds like she has all the hallmarks of a serious mental issue.....no way for you to fix until she fixes herself and sadly, the damage is done. Someone like her will continue her ways of cheating, gaslighting. love bombing - she is broken..Best of luck | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/22 10:30 PM |
| 4 | Just needing to vent.Oh man - sorry about her cheating ways. Is she BPD or something? It totally sucks that she cheated on you and then makes you feel bad about hanging with friends - occasionally. Blows up your phone with I hate you and then love bombing - once again - after she cheated. Yes, gotta man up and end this charade. She will cheat again, you know that right? She is suffering mentally from something big time | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/22 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Do I have to pay alimony?One under 18 child so $2K child support and then roughly 40% of my income yearly....No idea if it is a good deal or not but it is what it is! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Well I made an account so I guess I'm here.😞😞😞 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 05:30 AM |
| 5 | Well I made an account so I guess I'm here.Sorry man. What I have learned as hard as it is you can’t let someone get in the way of your happiness. Plus she has treated you really poorly 😞 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 04:53 AM |
| 4 | Well I made an account so I guess I'm here.Nah. All is ok bro. She won’t leave because what else does she have? Where can she go? She also knows that you will fall for her love bombing. She knows you weakness. Stay strong | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 04:42 AM |
| 6 | Well I made an account so I guess I'm here.Yea she did. It is hard to actually hurt someone. Some people do it easily so of us well it is hard and u feel bad. But don’t think she was feeling overly concerned about you when she was cheating! Hell if you want out say so. You don’t have to cheat 😞 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 04:31 AM |
| 26 | Well I made an account so I guess I'm here.Nothing to be embarrassed about dude. She is broken. Has abused you and cheated on you. She has some major issues. This is not your fault | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/22 04:25 AM |
| 3 | Humor from the husband's perspective😜😜 | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/22 03:19 AM |
| 10 | I am ready to finally move forward.....I think32 years. Married children. No failure man. Pretty successful to be honest | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/22 03:17 AM |
| 4 | You can't make this shit up.😂😂😂😂. Well sounds like they are both crazy so the ExSIL has a long road!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/22 03:40 PM |
| 11 | You can't make this shit up.Is the ex SIL worth a throw?!?? 😂😂😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/22 03:36 PM |
| 2 | You can't make this shit up.Awesome!!!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/22 03:33 PM |
| 4 | Do I have to pay alimony?N👍👍👍 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/22 02:25 AM |
| 33 | Do I have to pay alimony?25 years married and in Cali - have a feeling the judge is gonna award her some alimony.....1/2 is hers as you know. If the D is amicable I would try and work something out on the side - CA is not friendly to men. I am 24 years in, amassed only $2M and make $250K yearly - she was SAHM - low income - shredded - had more money when I was in college :( | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/22 07:25 PM |
| 1 | Rollins Band has become my anthem while I trudge through this mess. Listen to Weight, End of Silence and Come in and Burn. This Always brightens my day. Thank you everyone for sharing your stories.If anyone can help you through this tough time Henry can!!! Saw them along with Helmet back in 94 or so. The man is an icon!! Black Flag touring this year too man! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/22 04:38 AM |
| 7 | I still love my wife, she broke my trustMen don’t need love??? Hmmmm. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/22 03:18 AM |
| 18 | I still love my wife, she broke my trustThe minute they say they don’t love you nay more. No worries. Hit the road. I will find someone who will | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/22 02:22 AM |
| 3 | AP is a douche canoeWow just wow - of course that makes sense with someone with BPD or narcissistic behaviors for sure - it is not me - it is you!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/22 04:32 PM |
| 9 | AP is a douche canoeShe may have BPD also. Sorry man. All that education etc but she is a loser. Move on and wipe her off she is a fool!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/22 05:07 AM |
| 7 | AP is a douche canoeI assume she was not like this when u married her? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/22 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Thank You For Sharing Your StoriesBro - so what does something like that cost - to stretch yourself? Serious question?? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/22 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Joining club. Again.Yes, but if in an at-fault - proof I should say - more then just her telling you - do you have screen shots , texts etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/22 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Joining club. Again.50/50 bro unless you are in an at fault state - then prove her infidelity | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/22 03:54 PM |
| 7 | We just bought a house and wife wants to divorce, what should I doWow. Just wow. Rip the bandaid bro. She is unhinged. Granted not cleaning the house is bad but to get divorced? Sounds like her friend and Mickey Mouse told her she can do better and to stop putting up with your shit! As for the house. We’ll get ready to give 50% and probably alimony. Welcome e to the great state of Cali!! Where men get f”cked and if you you don’t pay taxes or are not here legally feel free to take what u want. We taxpayers will handle it 😞 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/08/22 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Wife had me leave house, tips?Sorry man. It is best to give her what she wants. It probably will not get any better for you and if she is that angry best for her to just deal on her own or someone else. Life is too short. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/08/22 01:22 AM |
| 4 | Wife had me leave house, tips?Why is she being so out of control???? What did she or you do to cause her to lose it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/22 11:13 PM |
| 1 | My wife is gaslighting me (I think, I'm so turned upside-down)Bro I listened to it. She is insane. You were not yelling, she is just trying to come up with reasons, anything, to convince herself that the relationship is not working - she wants out - so let her. You will never win with a person like this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/22 05:31 PM |
| 2 | Wife wants to tell our young kids in an hourSorry man - tough pill to swallow for sure. I assume she is wanting the D? Or is it mutual? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/22 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Looking to prepare for worst caseWow - dude, I get planning, but pre-planning your marriage downfall after only being married 2 years and just having a kid?? Sorry dude - I wish you had a rosier outlook but I get it. Premarital assets - for the most part are yours and same for her Keep accounts separate for sure. If she makes more than you - good position to be in. Custody of kid - probably 50-50 unless she is completely out of control - harm to herself or the child. Buy a house - 50-50 as with most marital assets - all this de… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/22 04:31 PM |
| 4 | How do you guys do it?OP - sorry this is happening but it is the right call and you are in the best place - no shared assets or kids etc. She is just holding out because she knows she wrecked her life and it will continue to be a wreck. Go about your life, the paperwork will sort itself out - ignore her and work on yourself. I know it is hard but try and pretend that you never met her - she is just a stranger on the street - and when she cheat - that is all she is - best man!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/22 04:00 PM |
| 5 | I divorced a PsychopathSorry man. Wishing you the best. That live binning can be so addictive and then boom! So friggin manipulative | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/22 03:18 AM |
| 7 | Don't know if I should divorce my wifeExactly. Why torture yourself. She will only get worse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 11:02 PM |
| 4 | Don't know if I should divorce my wifeThe she is probably entitled to 1/2 of all marital assets | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Is there such thing as “open visitation”I would say blow it up. Boss and subordinate but that may hurt ya in the proceedings. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/22 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Is there such thing as “open visitation”Wishing you all of it brother!! 15 friggin years!! 😞 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/22 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Is there such thing as “open visitation”Ducking co workers and bosses. I swear they are the reason so many marriages fail urggghhhh | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/22 04:26 AM |
| 3 | When to give up?I am so sorry my man. She wanted out, you are letting her out. You just want 50/50. I do not understand people - why are they so mean and vindictive - I mean what did you do to her? Nothing right/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/22 10:42 PM |
| 4 | What to do…Lot of support out here my man. Well you got 3 great kids so I guess that is something. My dad always told me you can live someone so bad it hurts but you can’t make them love you back. Sadly you had 15 years of this. She is going to find it to be a long cold road out there for sure. You will be just find. Big weight off your shoulders. You tried more than most men would have!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/22 06:40 PM |
| 8 | What to do…Good call. So she can't find love for 3 kids she brought into this world or the man she married and shared her life with. As you said, she never loved you, sadly. Wow - she is wayyyy over the deep end - she must have some unsettled mental issues for sure. By her saying that my love for her, your 1 reason for staying, would have died right there - yep, adios to you you cold hearted woman! Sadly, I think she may have been cheating on you all along - do you need to DNA the kids? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/22 06:29 PM |
| 13 | What to do…Sorry man - yes, she is saying mistake, because her AP probably said he is not leaving his wife for her - so now sh is lost. OF course, take her back and then down the road she will find someone else and you are back to square one - all of this over crossfit????!?!? WTF | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/22 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Divorce in less than 6 monthsOnly 6 months - google divorce in Ontario CA | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/22 11:38 PM |
| 3 | Just confirmed my teenage child isn’t biologically mine.Sorry OP - yes very shitty of her for sure. As you said, you are not in love with her and lost love a while ago - this just adds fuel to that sentiment. I say, let her know that you know the truth, and then I would jettison her and her family out of you life the best you can. Co-parenting can be done and then you can live the life that to me has been stolen by her lies. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/22 10:15 PM |
| 18 | Really looking for some advice…So, she gets a whiff that other women maybe on your tail and now she has an epiphany??? Sadly she had you as good as dead and was out doing her own thing - basically, like you never existed. Now she wants you back?? No, sorry, you will take her back and it won't be long and she will be back to her ways. As for the kids, man, she was bolting during the weekends - your kids will be fine - it is you I a worried about - the see-saw she is doing with your head. You need to tell her, that it is not wo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/22 09:04 PM |
| 10 | I need some adviceDepends on how important a "head turner" GF or wife is to you - sounds like a lot foryou. Head turning is awesome, but you need to worry about every swinging dick and if she will be and stayed committed to you due to all the temptation. Plus controlling and jealous! Yikes! Entitled and negative - Face it - you are with her because she is HOT and you like the drama I think. To me it is a no brainer to go with the woman who maybe a nt more stable. But, sounds like you will get bored and run back t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/22 04:20 PM |
| 8 | Posthumously pursuing correction for misinformation?Dude - in Cali no kid to take care of and no alimony - thank your stars!!! I would walk away. Maybe in a few years right a letter to the IRS or State. Whew - how did you get out of paying??? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/07/22 07:18 PM |
| 6 | Just having a tough timeDude stay strong. Better days ahead for sure. Focus on yourself. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/07/22 11:10 PM |
| 2 | How do you build a new life without time or money?Wishing you the best bro!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/22 04:06 AM |
| 7 | How do you build a new life without time or money?Sorry man. No advice, just to try and make time for yourself and kids. Remember unsecured debt - who cares when you are 80! Plus when you are 6ft under the late payment calls stop :) Try and get out there if you can - if fact make time to do it or you will go crazy. You put up with a lot and you are out of it now!!! Question - was she always like this or did something turn in her head and she just changed and went off the rails? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/22 09:34 PM |
| 2 | My wife ended it tonight…Here is my advice me. Never ever get too comfortable or complacent. Just like a job or career. Things happen behind the scenes that we never know about. Next thing you know you are called down and told your job is eliminated and you are let go. Just like the OP here - he has been let go. Relationships are like a job/career. You need to keep your resume up to date, take care of you mind and body - workout go to therapy. Always, always be working on your skills. The minute you get lazy complacent … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/22 04:00 PM |
| 18 | Officially divorced today.Sorry man sounds like you are doing good!! Busboy 16 years younger. Unreal just unreal. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/22 07:20 PM |
| 3 | It’s finalized as of June 22nd😢 Horrible to think your EX is encouraging that behavior. So harmful for kids to harbor those feelings. If this is what they learn they will take that to their adult relationships and it could be disastrous. Wishing you the best OP. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/22 11:30 PM |
| 5 | It’s finalized as of June 22ndSometimes something just snaps in people. Men and women - you wake up and say, why am I here? I just do not like this person anymore. It is sad for those of us who want to try and make it work, but are bloodied to the point where it is not worth it anymore. Won't live long enough to retire or enjoy that 401K :) | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/22 11:12 PM |
| 20 | It’s finalized as of June 22ndWow - it is amazing what the spouse, who is not the main breadwinner, thinks is owed to them monetarily when a divorce happens. I get child support for sure. We men, for the most part, are completely screwed financially. I think many of us stay in toxic marriages because we already lived in a one bedroom dump with roommates in college who wants to do that again when you are 40 or 50!? 😢 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/07/22 11:01 PM |
| 2 | Divorcing wife with escalating black and white demands, INCAPABLE of compromising. Help!Sorry man - your wife is unhinged and needs help big time! | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/07/22 04:26 PM |
| 5 | FinancesWell I was gonna say it but I think u summed it up man! More power to ya!! Sadly there are evil people out there like her!! And of course idiotic!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 05:38 PM |
| 10 | FinancesLove it my friend!! Been following ur adventures. Stay strong. I will say no offense but you Ex is out of her mind!! Yikes | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/07/22 06:54 AM |
| 5 | Contemplating divorceDude - do not hurt her anymore. You asked for an open relationship, she is not cool with that. Sounds like you need sex A LOT and she can not provide you with it. You said you can get it anywhere. I say, cut her loose. Let her find a dude who is cool with who she is and the same for you - you want to F a lot - then get out there and find someone or many someones to make you happy. But, let her go - you will not stop "hunting" for it now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Things are so badStay strong man! Stay in the house for as long as you take it! She is gone, lost and so let the trash have her. She will come to her senses some time but it will be too late. Best to you and the kids. Please don't tell me she met this loser at her shitty PT Job!?!?!? | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/07/22 07:14 PM |
| 6 | Omg I’m so annoyedHang in there man!! It is becoming all to real for her and she is seeing that you are not backing down and giving her what she asked for. It hurts but it is what you want so move it along! Sorry man. Stay strong 💪 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/22 05:02 AM |
| 2 | The ConfrontationNice. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/22 01:51 AM |
| 5 | The ConfrontationYour good. I got 2 boys too. I tell them the truth about how the system is rigged against men. When we move to Cali was told well anything u got is now 1/2 hers. No matter if she cheats or whatever Best of luck!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/22 01:46 AM |
| 3 | The ConfrontationHahaha. I’m in Cali too. She is one lost soul. 2 teenage boys and she dies this??? Not a good example. I am sure you are teaching your boys to be very selective in the women they date and want to be with when they get ikder | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/22 01:39 AM |
| 4 | The ConfrontationScorched earth is what they call! Do u live in an at-fault state? Sounds like her AP is a real winner. I am sure she affaired down. They always do!! 💪💪💪👍👍👍 | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/22 01:32 AM |
| 7 | The ConfrontationRock on my man!!! Let it rip!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/22 01:21 AM |
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