FrowzyCosmogyral Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	How do you handle when a male friend cops a feel?	DISCUSSION	FrowzyCosmogyral	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/08/21 03:28 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
63	21yo woman and her 30yo 🚩 homeless boyfriend 🚩 has moved in to her home 🚩within 2 months 🚩 I'm glad younger women are finding online forums as well. I had no direction and sometimes wonder if I would have been brave enough to ask anonymous online Qs when I doubted the direction I was going with relationships.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/02/22 01:40 AM
44	The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling. So glad you left. My aunt has stayed in a miserable marriage like you describe. Wish she had the courage to leave. The irony is, her mentally abusive husband makes sure she never will have the courage.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/22 11:27 AM
36	FDS wisdom prevents DISASTER Honestly, this is a great support system. Glad it helped you take a positive leadership role in that situation.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/01/22 12:30 AM
1	This sh*t right here!! Acquaintance is a healthy dynamic and leaves plenty of room for light socializing and community networking. Friend territory with men is rife when unspoken expectations and most of the time, they aren’t even cognizant of the unfair unspoken ultimatum. At least, they’re rarely forthright about it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/21 08:24 PM
206	This sh*t right here!! I’ve given up on male friendships because of this.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/21 07:22 PM
29	Roe will likely be overturned. It's an emotional and spiritual immaturity, I think. I'm not sure if sex strike would work if it was only women who were already not having sex anyway. But it's a great idea. In response, I could see religious conservative anti-abortion women begin to flaunt their sex lives.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/12/21 02:55 AM
38	Roe will likely be overturned. I agree. Great talking points. Although there were times when I let my hormones and dysfunctional patterns rule me, and I didn't think I could go without sex-- either because I wanted it or because the man in my life wanted it. I hope this information age is helping women bypass those stages who may have otherwise struggled with the same thing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/12/21 02:52 AM
37	Roe will likely be overturned. The fact that women have to be so careful because we are stuck with all the responsibility that comes with unprotected sex means the anti-abortion agenda is working. It means there will be less sex for many of us. I agree with OP who wrote that we should be guarding our womb; casual and risky sex encounters have so many negatives. However, sexual freedom was part of our journey of independence. That's what feels like is being taken away: our independence. Be safe. Be careful. There are "Auntie" …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/12/21 02:48 AM
5	Never feel bad about enforcing boundaries 👏👏👏 great post	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/11/21 02:51 PM
38	Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasm Yes! I love this level of maturity and respect.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 06:33 AM
62	Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasm I like this post because it’s not vindictive. It’s actually got some great suggestions that could help make relationships more fulfilling for both partners.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 06:32 AM
9	Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasm 👏👏👏	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 06:24 AM
6	Testing for "sexual compatibility" is a bullshit lie to cross boundaries and get sex So grateful for finding this sub where these things get called out so plainly. My self esteem is growing.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/21 06:05 AM
80	Why Splitting the Check Isn't as Feminist As PickMes Think It Is I used to take turns paying for lunches and dinners and coffees in one of my most promising relationships. I sometimes wonder if i would have set a higher standard, if we would be together. It's hard to expect more after letting the man be a slacker in the relationship from the start, and after a while, his lack of ambition and his lack of willingness to share as much (proportionally) as I shared, made me end it (among other things, of course).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/11/21 12:31 AM
16	Sad, unfortunate truths about the “friend zone” 100% !!!!!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/11/21 01:12 AM
3	Every LVM's apology ever, to a t. Bonus points: doesn't include an actual apology :) So brilliant!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/11/21 11:22 PM
25	FDS is not the place for you if you’re not willing to examine your own attitudes, beliefs and behaviours Self examination and self responsibility is the path to ultimate freedom and self agency for those of us in the western world, in my opinion. Let go of the insecurities holding you back. Be brave, go deep, get help and support for the self work journey.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	13/09/21 02:45 PM
69	If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no. It can be hard to find the right words or way of doing it, but being direct works best for me. Next time she brings it up: "Friend, I'm uncomfortable discussing your relationship, I think it's best if we didn't go there anymore-- at least for a while." Has she considered therapy? Counselors can be so helpful and it sounds like she needs one. If a friendship isn't moving along in a mutually respectful and engaging fashion, and I let a friend's dysfunction rule our interactions without confronting…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/09/21 03:02 AM
164	If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no. Putting up a boundary and taking a break from this friend's personal life sounds like the way to go. It would be good for you since she's only using you and it would send the message that boundaries are healthy (which she apparently doesn't get yet).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/09/21 02:47 AM
1	too true This is why we have to build ourselves up. Self first.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/21 03:14 AM
7	I’m glad that pick me’s are getting called out on just how crazy they sound Guilty. I'm guilty, my aunt's guilty, my other aunt's guilty. It's a lot of generational unlearning to do. (But I'm doing 1000% better and this forum is a great way to keep centered about it)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/21 03:11 AM
107	Don't take initiative in adding or interacting with your crush on social media Same! A revelation that I had: romantic feelings are sacred. They must be treated with respect by me and by any potential romantic partner. To awaken those feelings we must both live up to high standards. Having self respect feels so much better than indulging in a fantasy world and hoping guys will like me back. I wish I'd had this learning sooner, but I'm glad to experience it now. It's taken a lot of work since I was raised in a very dysfunctional family, and it feels great to own this growth…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/21 02:54 AM
46	Don't take initiative in adding or interacting with your crush on social media Yay!!! I got my flair! Thanks mods!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/21 02:49 AM
146	Don't take initiative in adding or interacting with your crush on social media I am sooo proud of myself for applying this RIGHT NOW! I used to indulge in toxic stalking and baiting tactics and that has never produced a healthy dynamic. I'm so proud to say there is someone who got on my radar because we ended up having a long conversation in a public space we both randomly showed up to recently, but he hasn't shown any interest or effort in communicating with me after that, so I'm simply not indulging in simp or pickme behavior. I don't want a relationship where a man isn'…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/08/21 02:49 AM
24	If men really wanted to be good boyfriends/husbands, there would be more communities on it. But instead, we get communities where men share advice on how to use women for sex and other benefits. The internet is a reflection of men's true priorities. They can't lie to us anymore. This perspective is critical for women to keep in mind as we navigate abusive relationships. GAH I wish this would have clicked for me sooner.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/05/21 01:34 AM
4	If men really wanted to be good boyfriends/husbands, there would be more communities on it. But instead, we get communities where men share advice on how to use women for sex and other benefits. The internet is a reflection of men's true priorities. They can't lie to us anymore. Dang. Good freegin point.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/05/21 01:30 AM
53	Men hate us both for being “high maintenance” when we’re young and “not taking care of ourselves” when we’re old Reminds me of a very sweet boyfriend who was shocked that hair grew on my toes; not even much hair, mind you; just: any hair at all. I felt like a fu**ing monster for missing hairs when I shaved. A hairy, unfeminine grizzly bear. He was looking for a woman who was naturally hairless (or could keep up the illusion better than me).	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/05/21 11:16 PM
1	No amount of body positivity for men will ever change anything for non-traditionally attractive guys. It will only make women less comfortable admitting their actual preferences. Body positivity should be for the person practicing it. It doesn't need to seek validation. Validation seeking from one person is likely to match with people pleasing from another; both phases of immaturity. Go for gold~ practice practicing body positivity and self love for yourself; for a better outcome for you... not for the purpose of attracting another person's validation. Then maybe you'll be more likely to attract a mate who is equally mature and self assured, not needing to fake it for yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/21 12:05 AM
2	[Q4ALL]What would you say is the biggest mistake you see your gender make in dating/romance? Women not gaining control of their hormones and participating in hookup culture, taking dangerous risks, which does nothing for their low self esteem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/21 06:20 PM
21	How to talk to men Nailed it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/04/21 06:10 PM
2	Why do successful, independent, women even want husbands? The desire for companionship is a basic human need. The reasons why people get so far along in life without doing things one way, and then see value in doing things a different way, are many: conditioning, re-evaluation, difficult beginnings, a new schedule/lifestyle that leads to more time or openness for a partner, the need to be self secure first, a steep learning curve, bad luck, good luck, medical progress or regress, restlessness, lust, passion, curiosity, boredom, maybe the strict overbea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/21 11:45 PM
1	Hollywood Pushes Male Actors to the Brink of Organ Failure for Shirtless Pics Had no idea. It should never go that far!	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/21 09:48 AM
6	An Heir and a Spare: how many men does the average woman have waiting in the wings? Both sexes do this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/21 10:45 PM