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Same. I come back to this to remember I'm not the only one going through s***. And maybe it could be worse
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 07:21 PM
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Fairytales and reality TV
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 03:20 AM
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I saw some statistics that after mother's day more people separate than any other time. The algorithms are wild. Convincing women that mothers day is a reliable indicator of the marriage and their worth.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 03:15 AM
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The sex stuff is crazy. So many women need xyz to even consider banging their husbands. My friend just divorved and is soothing himself what seems like a 30 woman rotation. It's amazing how they need a 50 point bulletin to connect with their husband but they need 2 compliments from a stranger and all is good to go.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 03:05 AM
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Accountability will be zero. Closest thing you'll ever get is childhood trauma excuse.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:56 AM
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Choosing myself is almost always "have an affair"
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:48 AM
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One thing I've learned going through my shit is women have sub zero accountability and they don't hold each other accountable at all . We've had some guy friends fuck up and none of us cheer that shit on. We normally tell each other you're fking idiot go fix it. Women. Oh hell no. Just look at any Facebook post where a man said a woman did something wrong like had an affair etc. 75% of the comments from women immediately come up with a justification scenario.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/26 02:46 AM
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I mean, yea it sounds like shes checked out but nobody knows her but you. It's a big decision thats why marriage counseling even if just for 2-3 sessions might be helpful to get the truth laid out. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 03:35 PM
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Yea this shit sucks. I would set some boundaries fast and not make mistakes like most of us. Splitting could be tough financially so I would give it a shot through therapy. I mean if youve totally lost control of your image maybe getting healthy can help the attraction thing. Many women just believe for no reason whatsoever they deserve a fairy tale and get caught up in social media etc. One thing for certain you can't continue on like that. And if you've brought separation up what did she say? …
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 05:00 AM
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Telling you social media has ruined this shit. They all believe their purpose is to sit home and pretend raising children is a 60 hour a week job for 18 years. They're all entitled to a fairytale romance
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 04:51 AM
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Yep. The 0 accountability plan. " Affairs don't happen in a vacuum"
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 11:00 PM
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Nope. The only point of marriage apparently is to split assets equally.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 10:00 PM
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Yes the avoidant. Wish I knew that hell before hand.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 11:52 AM
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Yea same here validated my wife everyday. It's about their personal insecurities and what external validation they need.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 06:00 AM
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That sucks. But FYI your boss can absolutely fire him in just about every state. What he can't fire him for his for being white / black, Christian, Muslim, gay, or straight. But he has cause to fire him. He probably will qualify for unemployment but that's about it. You can certainly fire someone for fucking another employees wife. That is conduct detrimental to the team etc but most states you don't need any reason to fire someone. You just can't fire them due to their religion, gender, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 02:49 PM
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For sure. And then they're still not happy because of what they've been sold in movies and social media. They wanted to be married and have kids. Then they're upset they're "just" a wife and a mom. Suddenly everything they demanded was unfulfilling and they can't process it so it becomes your fault. They often cannot manage their own happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/25 11:17 PM
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Most affairs happen at work etc. So it's a lose lose in that regard. On the alimony and child support side work is good Always weird to see women who "gave up their careers" to be a stay at home mom or "weren't ready to be married" but begged to be a stay at home mom and get married. The excuses they come up with are nuts.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 01:46 PM
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This. My stbxw thought it was special and didn't realize he just wanted her for sex. Um. His opening line was "I used to think you were super hot. Can I buy some naked photos?" I mean fuck. That's really special.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 01:21 PM
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It is pretty wild how that connection is so important in the home with the husband. All the stars have to align, timing, etc. Then some guy comes along without any of it. And suddenly they just trying to fuck 24/7. Almost like they're in complete control.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 01:19 PM
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As a guy who's infinitely horny and could cheat if I wanted I'm going to say that its really not that hard if you're committed, have boundaries, and an understanding of attraction, needs, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 01:18 PM
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If they're good looking, they can't only get all the dick they want they'll find a douche with money and can be back on the high side of divorce in 12 months. It's that simple for them.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 01:16 PM
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This, and if they're an attractive 9 or 10, well shit. They can do whatever the fuck they want. One photo on tinder will get them literally 1000's of interested parties. As a man I'm still astonished at how thirsty some dudes are.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/25 01:14 PM
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I'm sure she just regrets being caught. Good on you for protecting yourself. Things change when you're losing it all.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 07:06 PM
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haha. Crystals. My wife is now into those and a member of some other weird shit. It's all spiritual and I just don't have an open mind. She's got open legs and an open mind apparently.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 01:56 PM
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This. Affairs are hot and glamorized on social media. Its the only way to find true love and yourself. Not feeling seen?? Have an affair, you deserve to be happy and seen.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 01:54 PM
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Oh yea her divorced friends are already in her ear and of course she's only confiding in people that are old friends and don't know me at all. Friends she sees one night a year or less. "Get a good lawyer," " he doesn't see all the work you're doing" You should divorce him etc. Some of the shit I've read is just unbelievable. Honestly, for a second I got confused and wondered if I'm the one having the affair. Bitches with ZERO accountability. All of them miserable looking to get dicked down toge…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 01:52 PM
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she probably doesn't understand that I have to buy her out of my business or that she would likely still get child support at 50% custody. I certainly wouldn't say tolerate. I just haven't paid the 600k and walked away with zero yet. And I really really don't want to give up time with my kids. I lose on all three fronts.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 01:40 PM
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I feel the same way. I have to give my wife dream home and maybe 600k just so I can keep my business. Responses I get is its only money / cuck. Uh dude I'm mid 40's it's not just money. Its 5-10 more years of work and retirement and 50% of the time I spend with my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 12:44 PM
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Modern Day Woman
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/25 05:51 PM
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yea me too but she's well above average looks. She definitely affaire down too. One of the things that I wanted off the bat was her to actually leave for the loser. She affaired way down to a guy who doesn't own a car. none of it make sense but it normally doesn't.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 06:30 PM
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I just feel like if there is infidelity or your husband is a great guy but you've out grown him. Or just want to be your true self you should automatically lose standing and access to your husbands business or retirement etc. If it's not abuse etc but you just decided one day you didn't want to keep your pants on or watched so many tv shows you are looking for that new spark. Good riddance but you don't get a golden parachute.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 05:46 PM
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The good looking ones have their pick too. Plenty of men out there.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 05:44 PM
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good question. It's not that simple. It's not just money. It's time with kids. quality of life, stress, etc. Self respect. It's not just a little money. That money also dictates how long I work, when I retire, the life I can give myself, kids, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 04:24 PM
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I agree. I'm basically buying her out of my own labor. Really not much difference like you said of a w2 employee etc. If this were to play out that way she would be so far ahead of my financially it wouldn't make any sense. That doesn't even include all the other benefits. She pays cash for a home I save for 6 months to get a down payment. Then take a home at 8% interest while still paying her child support etc. I'll have a negative net worth while her's will be nearing a million in 2 years.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 03:28 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Glad there are some successes out there.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 03:26 PM
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Not sure if I can or not. I really just want to think that if it comes to this she'd at least have the decency to settle things fairly but I doubt it. Her mom is 3x divorced and has 0 friends. Her divorced friends are all fking bitter. There's nothing to even be upset about with me and I'm still getting shit on. They were all pissed I told her we were divorcing after the affair. I just dont understand how women don't hold each other accountable at all.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 03:25 PM
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I wouldn't be able to sell it because it's literally just me. I do staffing and some other things but there are no contracts. SO they can look at what I made last year and 2.5x it but that would not be realistic in nature because nobody would buy it. It's such a cluster fuck. My only hope is she would just take half of assets and let me keep the business to myself. Lawyer said they always say they'll do the right thing but when they get their lawyer and see how much more they can get they change…
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 03:03 PM
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My wife basically had 2 affairs, same guy. I went through texts with her friends last night and they're saying she should divorce ME because 3 month later I'm not "recognizing" the changes she's making and I'll never be happy. Just unbelievable. Completely different worlds. Of course all those friends barely know me and have all been divorced. Just scallywags
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/25 12:38 PM
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Don't you know all the movies and algos say you're going to find the most true forbidden love. Something so deep you didn't know it existed.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 01:58 PM
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Do you really love her though if you aren't making ridiculous made for tv gestures with someone elses money? Do you even know what love is? lol
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 01:50 PM
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exactly. The r/Divorce sub is just full of women divorcing with no explanation at all and other bitter women cheering on the separation of family. It's wild. Men don't cheer on divorce to good women for no reason or prop there friends up for infidelity. Thats a women's only club.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 01:48 PM
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Most of these women are just selfish. They just need more women to be miserable with them so they can live in this fake utopia where getting dicked down by several men is self care.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 01:45 PM
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To think you have to pay alimony and/or support this person is fking criminal
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 06:13 PM
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Yea, I mentioned in a infidelity group how I had been doing everything the cooking, cleaning, running the kids to and from school. Remodeling our home, all the yard work and laundry will working OT and my wife was working 4 days a week. The 1st comment was some lady telling me she had an affair because I don't appreciate her and she hoped my wife enjoyed every inch she was getting from her affair partner. Good stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 12:54 PM
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The word Trapped is used 100x in those posts. And I guarantee every single one of them pressured their husband into marriage and kids. Who's really trapped?? The person who loses half custody and half their shits in a divorce. Or the person who generally loses nothing but complete security.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 01:48 PM
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This in a nut shell. And no mention to how they fell for them. How many boundaries need to be broken for this to happen. How they didn't work on their own relationship. 0 accountability. They all live in a fairytale. Just look at all the movies. Forbidden love is the best.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 01:45 PM
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I've been posting about this for a minute. If you look at women on the divorce page they'll give no reason for a divorce and they'll get 100 upvotes from women. "you go girl" there is ZERO accountability and they're completely jaded.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 01:42 PM
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I also want to kick my wifes AP Arse but understand it brings issues into Custody and that's why I don't. Most men know that an "Asswoopin" should be expected. Every man knows you don't fuck with a married woman. In fact. I'm not sure why it's against the law lol. Its almost universally assumed and accepted that you deserve to have your ass kicked. So I leave you with this. Why aren't affairs treated like abuse. Domestic violence is against the law. You can't push a girl onto a pile of feathers …
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 02:54 PM
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At some point when Op goes through her 4th divorce if she hasn't already she'll eventually realize that men are allowed to have feelings to. The laugh paragraph is the epitome of the narcissistic trait seemingly learned from copious reels and movies. Woman cannot believe that she's neglected her husbands needs for 2 years and marriage hasn't gotten better and husband did not redirect and focus 100% of his time on the woman and her endless needs. He is forever responsible for her happiness and a …
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 03:36 PM
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I've seen this post on the r/Divorce sub so many times. It's the reason I posted this. 99% of those came from women. Mens requirments are much lower.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/25 01:16 PM
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ITs what they say. I man will sacrifice his happiness for his family. A woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 01:39 PM
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For sure. They watch these shows like "Love is Blind" the think all these relationships are special and believe there is some true love, and all these acts of kindness yet forget its all for show 99% don't work out and it's all on the shows dime. They're getting paid for all of it and know they're on TV. Same shit with the movies and social media. It's all for show. It's almost all pretend for the Cameras.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/25 01:38 PM
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I listened to a podcast and the host used to speak at conferences to women entrepreneurs etc. Building them up, helping them grow their business etc. She eventually got out of it when as things start become successful she started to notice that all the women who had become boss ladies etc started divorcing at an alarming rate saying they outgrew their husbands etc. She's now a podcaster / marriage coach or something but said it was the most alarming thing she noticed and that she couldn't believ…
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/25 12:58 PM
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Haha. and it was the 1st take. Unreal, talk about gaslighting yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:59 PM
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Modern Day women. Its wild. I've seen a shit load of divorce posts in the general sub from women divorcing for next to no justifiable reason and if you dare question it you'll get a gaggle of women saying "any reason" is good enough. Same women who made that thread. They're out here wild. ZERO accountability for anything
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:58 PM
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Dude, I haven't officially divorced my wife but when people ask why it's like. I'll have to giver her 300k forgo are 3% interest rate and million dollar home that I remodeled to fit us perfectly. Lose 50% of childrens custody and probably move into an apartment or the ghetto and still be paying monthly what I am now. It's insane to admit that our situation right now financially will crumble just due to interest rates incomes loss and current state of the housing market. Its complicated.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:33 PM
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Could be several things I suppose but mostly the delusion of her saying things like I simply asked you to do this or that. She would speak to me as if I were a child, belittle, or frame demands as innocent questions etc. Then try and gaslight me into believe she was just asking a question etc. Its difficult to explain but yes talking down to someone and lying to them for years would make them slightly more distant even though I wasn't very distant per say. I guess less tuned into deep needs as I…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 06:29 PM
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It's the way they justify it. It's just me, me, me.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 05:12 PM
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so many buzz words. Focus on self was also what my wife said during her affair glow up.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 04:59 PM
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it was. Not sure if she even wanted me to fullfill the dating side tbh. She just didn't think we went on enough. Honestly a lot of what happened at this point with my wife I think was her searching for the reason she had the affair. Creating deficiencies albeit there were some but much of it was her perception. Honestly I think social media really created a deficit. When your feed turns into fake social media relationships you start to have fake expectations. She sees that now and is doing parts…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 04:10 PM
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There are so many things you can do. like many posters said though is Diet is #1. I would not worry about calorie maintenance or surplus to build muscle. Lose weight 1st while taking creatine to try and limit any muscle loss. You'll look better off the bat. Plus you need to get used to eating in a deficit or equal intake / burn. There are tons of online programs for muscle gain. Cardio is probably the least important as it pertains to weight loss but it certainly will improve stamina. Lifting we…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 04:03 PM
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In my house my wife was not solely responsible for any tasks so not sure what you mean.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:56 PM
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My wife brought up the date thing / doing more events in MC and she listed off the things we had recently done / hadn't. I then asked. So which date in the last 5 years did you plan.... Crickets. Self awareness is just gone. They literally think this is a tv show.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:49 PM
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They click on one thing that sounds nice. The algo will validate that shit for eternity
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:47 PM
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For sure. Most of that is all a front. We have 3 or 4 divorced women in our group and they only people my stbxw gets advice from are the ones divorced and outside of the group because she knows full well nobody that actually knows me / us are going to placate her and her bullshit. Not to mention all the divorced women in the group suck. They're all struggling running around late 30's at the bars getting pegged by kids in their 20's telling each other how much "happier" they are.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:32 PM
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Same, not a chance. Then coming to reddit which I understand is probably no the best reflection was eye opening. Not that people were getting divorced but the ease and for what reasons. Just completely shocked at the disconnect and the victimhood. Its just Me, Me, Me. Even when I tried therapy it became very apparent once my wife started talking she had never looked in the mirror and she had a really hard time coming to terms with the fact that she had to acknowledge that I was reacting to her b…
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:26 PM
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Same, I did so much from the beginning it just was. It was never appreciated because I had always done it all. Laundry, Cleaning, Kid Care, Housework, all remodels / repairs bringing us 300k in equity and none of it mattered. Even the Gottmans researched showed "perception" was a greater predictor of divorce than reality Then once it's over retrospective bias kicks into save them mentally.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 03:21 PM
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I'm sure the security is a factor, working or not if they were not the breadwinner they can walk away better off than before. The breadwinner will certainly be worse off and the sad part like in my case they can be left with no choice or divorced for no fault of their own.
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/25 02:51 PM
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ok, lol
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 05:25 PM
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lol. you actually think you know or relationship. This is funny. If you knew anything you'd know we never spoke about that. You'd know that I did most of the house work as well. She's in therapy and she'd tell you it wasn't my fault. My wife has issues, issues from her childhood etc. It's not an excuse. And there was only one person in our relationship who wasn't respected and that was me. Friends and family have confirmed. She indeed, was / is the problem.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 04:01 PM
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Lol, this is not why we're getting divorced.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 02:31 PM
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Dude doing this same thing. Gonna end up in a fking apartment due to my wifes indiscretion
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/25 05:33 PM
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exactly, how does this help marriages when women know they can do whatever they want. say they didn't feel "seen" and walk away better off.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 03:51 PM
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I am man. I've been amicable the whole damn time. Still camping with this woman this weekend. It's just hard being taken for granted and realizing your love is completely conditional and you're if anything often rewarded for your affair.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 03:36 PM
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