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Question For WomenFudstersecured/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:51 AM
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It’s been a while. Hope the PPD family has been having novel and interesting debates in my absence
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 05:10 PM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:09 PM
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Amused by some of the replies. Lake Wobegon Effect in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 06:23 PM
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If you are dating a 4, then you might be a 4.. https://twitter.com/baddanadanabad/status/1468058250947923974?s=21
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 06:06 PM
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First
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:03 AM
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I thought Kong: Skull Island was really good, so the drop-off in quality was pretty distressing. Maybe I need to go back and watch the OG Godzilla/Kong flicks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:37 AM
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To be blunt, what you are searching for is a very rare quality in men. I feel like this post reflects a lack of understanding of how male sexuality works. Most men just need to see a glimpse of an beautiful woman to feel attracted in a visceral sense. It’s animal hindbrain stuff. I suspect these thoughts occasionally run through the minds of even the most honorable men, before their rational side reminds them of their love for and loyalty to another.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 05:54 PM
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Hot: They Live Not: Godzilla vs Kong
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 04:37 AM
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I think there’s an imperfect correlation, but a correlation nonetheless. One of my exes was rather introverted, but extremely wild in bed and a fantastic lover. Another ex was kind of traditional and inexperienced, I expected intimacy to be a work in progress and things never really got better. All this to say, I don’t think people always neatly telegraph how they are in bed, but there are often some signs. I’ve been surprised by people’s sexual selves and most people that know me would be surpr…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 06:07 PM
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Exercise more. Just an extra half an hour daily of walking makes a difference to well being
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 03:26 AM
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Hmm, that’s a good question. I count everything from slashers to creature features to paranormal frights. The horror genre definitely has diversity of content
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:51 AM
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Interesting, haven’t seen any Hitchcock. OG Star Wars is great (I even liked the prequels too). The final destination movies were on HBO and I only got to see the first one before they left :(
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:39 AM
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Die Hard is a Christmas movie!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:38 AM
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I loved Fury Road and it makes me want to see the originals
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 02:36 AM
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Action & horror
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:57 AM
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Looking for classic movie recommendations. Right now I’m considering: Poltergeist, 2001 A Space Odyssey, the original Mad Max, Reservoir Dogs…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:29 AM
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Online dating has always been a spectacle for people’s amusement and if anything, most people become pickier as they get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 12:27 AM
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I exclusively only date women who steal and copy my house keys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/21 04:32 PM
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In defense of both of you, it’s sometimes hard to accurately determine a persons age at first glance. Doesn’t make it less mortifying in the moment though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:50 PM
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I think it’s not just the pandemic (although that did remove two years of dating experience for a lot of people). My generation is kind of over-socialized
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:47 PM
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Mid-20’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:10 PM
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I think it’s always far easier to diagnose other people’s problems. Friend #1 had one unicorn hot girlfriend, but badly needs more dating experience and needs to tone down the over the top flirting Friend #2 is dating someone she likes, but isn’t attracted to. She needs to lose thirty pounds and vet for sexual compatibility next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 05:06 PM
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One best friend hit on a 17 year old at the gym yesterday. The other told me that sex with her boyfriend is terrible. I want to see them happy, but they are obviously down bad..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/21 04:53 PM
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An ink pot for every quill
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/21 04:58 PM
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It’s not particularly important. I’d wonder about the circumstances surrounding someone’s virginity just like I’d wonder about the circumstances surrounding someone having a ton of partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 09:21 PM
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Your post reminds me of the 30 year old guy earlier who admitted to very little success with women, but was posting about how men’s hypergamy is justified by women’s hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 01:03 AM
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Hmm, maybe something’s wrong with the way you are filtering men if you never feel a spark, making conversation always falls on you, and the experience is draining.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:51 PM
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Happy for you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:41 PM
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I think you’re right. Some of this is always taken on faith. But if you have a good thing going with someone and their actions over a period of time merit trust, I think it’s reasonable to feel and assert that they are a good partner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 05:41 PM
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I feel like there’s overlap between arousal traits and husband traits, women don’t want to marry a eunuch. I think if you are relationship minded you probably need a balance of alpha and beta traits, for example: attraction, competence, safety, reliability, strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:56 PM
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Yes, the phrase “needs freedom” is a bit of a yellow flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:47 PM
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The woman I’m seeing is like this. And if I’m honest, I’m pretty slow in replying at times as well. I wouldn’t read too much into it as long as the effort is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 04:21 PM
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Not married, but having spent stretches of my life bitter and angry, I much prefer the alternative . I think a lot of men feel like they can protect themselves against emotional risk by understanding and criticizing women’s ways, but I don’t see how dwelling on the worst behavior of the opposite sex ever made anyone happier.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:34 PM
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I feel so out of place here sometimes with poster’s comments about women. Users, manipulators and crazies exist, but isn’t that even more of a reason to cherish good women? Evolving into my final form as a wife-guy..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/21 03:09 PM
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Men: dress better, groom in a manner that suits you, have interests and passions outside of the pursuit of women, put yourself in settings where you can display your strengths, know that you will do better anywhere that lots of single women are present and receptive to being approached, cultivate and express a healthy sense of masculinity (more rare than you think), learn the power of physical touch, seduce her with your words and storytelling, become a closer (a lot of inexperienced men struggl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:53 PM
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Time to send my dating apps to Valhalla
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 04:16 AM
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Unprotected sex with anyone I wouldn’t want to have a kid with
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 03:52 AM
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I plan on starting a website: OnlyBadBoys. Going to make millions, what can I say
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:44 PM
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I reject the premise. Women avoid bad boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 06:40 PM
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Psychologically, why do you think men have a preoccupation with how quickly women slept with other men? Are they inexperienced? Do they want to feel like her best choice? Is it the product of sexist expectations? Does it reflect sexual jealousy? Are they afraid of cheating? I’m curious about your answer (ladies, I have my stopwatch running!)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:52 PM
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I know a lot of people who have tried it, and I like women with a little edge to them but casual use would be a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:45 PM
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They don’t. But being a friend and being friend-zoned aren’t exactly the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 02:28 PM
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I wish I was a little bit taller 💿
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 04:14 AM
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I think Myra knows men are attracted to her. She says some are intimidated by her. But she seems to have a very specific way she wants to be approached. Can’t be a stranger, can’t be casual, has to be a pursuit. So she probably comes off as closed off and unavailable to the men she encounters IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 03:36 AM
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Good question. I agree that attractive, stable, relationship-minded women will probably meet cute and leave the apps relatively quickly. I also agree that women being inundated with rude and lewd messages would make them question if they even want to remain on Tinder/Bumble/etc. I also posit that men are often very visual, often more comfortable with casual sex and often far more desperate. Single men don’t have as many options so they can’t afford to not be on the apps and besides, an app where…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:54 PM
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And my answer is, women have more options because of sociosexual dynamics and market forces. I’ve found quality women on dating apps, but it’s just plain harder as a man to get your foot in the door.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:27 PM
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I feel like college/several years post-college can be a big stages and experiences gap. I don’t necessarily think it’s pervy, but it’s still probably a bad idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 07:18 PM
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Couple of points. OLD gives most women lots of options because of lopsided gender ratios and male thirst. The apps are not your parents OKCupid and have truly changed the dating experience of most young people. I think both men and women have valid critiques of how the apps influence their dating experience, but due to the aforementioned factors, men will complain more about quantity and women will complain about quality
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 06:42 PM
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I know. It’s a state of mind..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:33 PM
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Same woman. She’s adorable
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:24 PM
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Everyone older than 30 is a Boomer
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:55 PM
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My impression of millennials is that they are pretty avoidant as well. I think the churn n’ burn of hookup culture has really caught up to some.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:45 PM
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Guys, I think I’ve met my wife. Not sure she knows this yet :D
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:21 PM
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Tell me about it. I’m trying to download hundreds of thousands of pieces of data and neither the database nor the terrible work computer can handle it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 03:16 PM
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Likewise. I’ve gotten good results from witty and relatively short bios. I feel the more specific you get, the more you narrow your matches off the bat.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 02:54 PM
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I could never more than casually date a woman I didn’t find fascinating, but the facts are that most women don’t have to cultivate not being boring to attract most men. That’s why every second Tinder profile is: real life Leslie Knope, dog mommy, love wine, no hookups, be the Jim to my Pam..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 02:46 PM
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I’ve long wondered about your second to last point. I feel pretty invisible to both unattractive women and extremely attractive women. It’s like the former group auto-rejects and the latter doesn’t notice me. Maybe we are subconsciously on top of our game with people we perceive to be a realistic match?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 02:32 PM
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I snorted with laughter at this characterization
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:54 AM
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Women? Working? No way
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 04:46 AM
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This is an extremely well written set of comments. I agree with you that women’s sexual selectivity can inspire powerful emotions in men. I think that’s why we witness so much anger in pillosphere spaces about the rejection experience. One of our gender roles is to lay it all on the line and be told again and again by women “no thanks!” I think there are several common unhealthy developmental responses to this selectivity. One is to become the stereotypical nice guy who engages in superficially …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 05:55 AM
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Well said, niceness doesn’t make up for the absence of other attractive characteristics.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 04:44 AM
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Sounds like a good day!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 03:38 AM
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Agreed. These are big life stages and can cause maturity/experience gaps for people dating across them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 11:46 PM
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I’m curious about the framing of the question. I feel like men would be better equipped to define the desired outcomes/victory conditions of their own dating experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 11:43 PM
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Arbitrarily, I’d say that anything more than a 3 year gap at those ages is probably too much. My best friend had a 4 year gap with his ex and they were in very different life stages.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 11:19 PM
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Can I PM you?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 05:00 AM
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From a values standpoint, why is her being an “untouched virgin” ideal?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:57 PM
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I reached out to Mormon Jesus for a rules clarification but he was unable to respond to this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:41 PM
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That’s my thinking also. If the person is that great, I’d wait
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:39 PM
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We have wedding bells folks
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:25 PM
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No. Does that change your answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:25 PM
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I’m amazed that this is a loophole.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:24 PM
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Evening Hypothetical 4All: You meet your ideal partner: compatible personality, good looks, strong values, intelligent, heavy chemistry, however you can’t have sex with this person until marriage. Wyd? I’m really curious about the responses across genders and pills..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 11:20 PM
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Absolutely, men will put more effort in and do things for women that they see as wife material that they wouldn’t consider with other women. I see this in myself right now. The woman I’m seeing is really unique and personable. She brings out the wifey treatment from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/21 09:08 PM
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Damn, this is a wild story. Happy for you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 03:03 PM
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These are both things I’ve been focusing on this year: >7500 daily steps, put on cetaphil/acne cream. I don’t even lift but might add that as a goal for 2022. Even relatively basic self-care has shown results I’m pleased with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 05:51 PM
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I kind of like my current life. Having an average face at 6’4 ain’t so bad
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 05:29 PM
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Sure, but that’s not the world we live in today. In fact it’s even more of a reason why men should seek to improve themselves, earning an average income today isn’t going to impress women who can go out and do the same (and that income doesn’t go as far as it used to in regards to things like houses or education). I don’t disagree that the bar has been raised in certain respects, but what about the ways it’s been lowered. I doubt most men today (myself) are nearly as capable with their hands as …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 05:07 PM
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I can relate sometimes to what you write about being seen as a dancing monkey for others amusement. That being said, thousands of years of human history have molded and acculturated men to be pursuers. I agree that people shouldn’t be doing things they hate just to get a partner, but sometimes things that are hard or challenging are worth doing and may be found fulfilling in the long run. I absolutely agree that intrinsic motivation is important for men. If it’s all about external results or rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:42 PM
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That wouldn’t work. But realistically only a fraction of men will meaningfully pursue self improvement and actualize themselves into strong, capable, fulfilled people. I’m increasingly convinced that part of the crisis of modern masculinity is the failure to do this
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:23 PM
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Improve their fashion, physical and emotional strength, knowledge of the world, abilities, mental acuity. I think men should try to do this regardless of their success and failure with women (but it helps with the latter in my experience)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 04:11 PM
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True. Which is why it’s important for men to stop whining and get good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/21 03:50 PM
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No, we only want one thing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 10:17 PM
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Gotta wear the Billie Eilish
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 09:56 PM
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Sitting quietly on a couch for an hour —> nice girls are so expectant. Maybe if they worked on themselves they could attract a man /s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 09:48 PM
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This is honestly one of the craziest aspects of our legal system. “You were married to her, so you’re the Dad anon.”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 03:55 PM
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Coed frats were pretty mild when I was in college. They were more like social clubs than actual members of the Greek system
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 06:38 PM
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Stockings (ooof). I told a friend in college and she briefly had this really concerned look on her face. Later told me she thought I said “stalking” fetish..
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:30 PM
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6.333, seems like a happy person
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:36 PM
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I snorted with laughter at “keep pretending you’re not stupid”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 03:26 PM
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Tsk tsk, you paid for coffee. FDS Interpol will be hunting for you
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:24 AM
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Wow, the mods really hated that thread. I feel like these bullet points are common knowledge in the pillosphere and IRL (but not in polite company) Heck, it even matches a surprisingly redpilled discussion my mom and my best friend had a few days ago. He made some offhand comment that women our age (mid 20’s) have a billion choices and act like it. She retorted that they don’t find most of those choices attractive and have a narrower age window to work with. If the 30 year old woman doesn’t want…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:22 AM
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Thanks. We’ve been going out for a couple of weeks. I honestly didn’t expect much from OLD, but our first date went really well and it’s been fun since. I noticed that she put the dating app on pause and I feel like it’s reciprocal to focus on our thing (even if a specific conversation about exclusivity comes later).
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:14 AM
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She paid for our last date and it was kind of expensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:14 PM
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I’d feel upset, but it’s a leap of faith work taking.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:11 PM
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Thanks to all advice givers yesterday. I decided to not go on the date and exclusively focus on the woman I’ve been seeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 10:04 PM
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CS LEWIS Pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:25 PM
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I know the type. Agree that the combination of fun to talk to, just a bit flirtatious, confident and non-threatening is a killer combo. The thing is, I feel like straight men often struggle with being genuinely outcome independent, enjoying interactions for their own sake and talking just to talk. It’s kind of man with a hammer syndrome. We find a receptive woman, really badly want to get laid and then proceed to mess it up with obvious displays of neediness and desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 03:03 AM
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So, will finally answer this question. I matched with this woman on an app. She’s been away for a while due to a personal matter and we’ve just been chatting online to this point. I think she’s interesting, but obviously I’ve met someone that I have chemistry with in the interim.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:52 AM
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I feel like clubs are a particularly unforgiving environment for introverted and/or inexperienced men. I used to fear them and now I go to have fun, but I know that it’s a terrible environment for me to attract women in. Bottom line, the club scene is tough for the uninitiated and I’d recommend that OP work on the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:08 AM
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All are great choices. I still haven’t seen the original Halloween, but might since I enjoyed the recent reboot of the series. Have you seen other John Carpenter films like The Thing (warning a bit of gore practical effects) and They Live?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:45 PM
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What is your typical taste in horror films?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:36 PM
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Have confidence in what you have together. There may be temptations, but if he respects you he won’t act on them
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:27 PM
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Yeah, I don’t think she would find out but it’s just a matter of principle. I wouldn’t like it if the shoe were on the other foot
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:21 PM
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Even as a teenager I knew porn was unrealistic, especially the ridiculous positions and extreme sexual availability. That being said, I don’t think most of the unenthusiastic or unpleasurable sex I’ve had was because of my viewing habits. Often I just wasn’t on the same wavelength as my partner or vice versa. Ie the attraction wasn’t there, the communication wasn’t there, the emotional connection wasn’t there. In regards to inspiring sexual desire, I think maybe porn causes problems for some men…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:17 PM
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Ethics question. If you had a first date on the calendar with woman A (scheduled weeks ago) but things have gotten more serious in the interim with woman B, would you go on said date?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 10:03 PM
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I’ve seen it a few times. The guy that really comes to mind isn’t bad looking and was headed places, but his OCD got the best of him with every single chick. He would always invent reasons why it couldn’t work out
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 04:00 PM
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The French Dispatch is a solid movie, not without its quirks. I’d give it a 7/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 03:51 AM
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Kim Jong Un posts on PPD confirmed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 03:45 AM
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I mostly agree with you. The way I see it the two big dynamics we are discussing here are A) women becoming pickier because of the apps and the plethora of choice on offer (even if a lot is fools good) and B) a lot of men failing to launch today and thus there is a perceived dearth of good romantic prospects. It’ll be interesting to see which gender makes bigger adjustments about their approach and expectations in the decades ahead
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 11:04 PM
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Women (and men) are entitled to demand whatever preferences they want. If they are pricing themselves out of the market that’s not my problem. I just question whether average women getting more picky on the apps right as men are getting more schlubby, less masculine, and increasingly oversocialized will lead to positive social consequences. To quote Fountains of Wayne, a lot of people are going to find that “an hour in the shower is the best that you got”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:18 PM
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I’m sure demanding a 10 will end wonderfully for everyone (And by that I mean a lot of millennials are on track to end up lonely coomers or dog mommies)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 10:01 PM
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90k is middle class where I live. Need at least 150k to be UMC
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:26 PM
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A Storm of Simps, A Feast for Thots
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 09:24 PM
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The statistics seem to reflect that 2-3 years is a demonstrated preference of men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 05:42 PM
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I think younger people cling to group identity more strongly. It makes sense because people are figuring out who they are. All the strong, independent, older women I know sort of do their own thing and don’t have a complex about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 08:56 PM
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You talk about low-N women as if they were a wine vintage. “They aren’t making any unopened 1995 Stacy anymore, that’s for sure”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 08:08 PM
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Bringing the butter
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 07:37 PM
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Going on a third date tomorrow. Movie and drinks this time. Optimistic about where things are headed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 05:33 PM
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I don’t stereotype those who astroglide
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:22 PM
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UMC = Upper Middle Class UC = Upper Class
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:24 PM
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I’ve also never done one without the other. My n-counts are perfectly symmetrical
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:51 AM
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My best friends sister always used to say “you’re smirking now but I’m going to cut you off at the knees and then you won’t be so tall”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:47 AM
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Counts double
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 04:14 AM
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I’ve always known after 3-5 dates. Wondering if the woman I’m currently seeing sees me as a boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 03:26 AM
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I’m sure this is going to be a lovely thread in which we all learn something
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 12:03 AM
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There’s no epiphany phase for someone in that deep
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 09:54 PM
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Something something mirror neurons. We identify tribally with what’s happening on screen..
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:36 AM
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I wonder how the mom feels about all this. Ooof.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 04:19 AM
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Everyday is the first day of the rest of your life stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/21 03:16 AM
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I agree completely. The average guy is going to be secure knowing she really likes him
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:10 PM
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I agree with most of this. A woman who sleeps around a lot is commonly perceived as a bigger cheating/cuckoldry risk and that’s what sends off the ick meter in guys heads. It might be sexist/archaic/unfair but that’s where a big part of the fear is coming from. That you won’t be secure in her affections and that she has more sexual options than you. Also, I think the investment thing can also relate to a desire to feel special or unique in regards to intimacy and a disappointment that she doesn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 11:06 PM
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I don’t see how this will help a guy utterly obsessed with her past and N-count. It probably would mitigate things though for men who merely are worried about being desired, if romance/sex emerge concurrently in the relationship. Jealously is a pretty visceral thing in my experience and people with wildly mismatched attitudes towards or experiences with sex should contemplate if they are compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:35 PM
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I described it as a me thing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 10:25 PM
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I’m polite because I respect the directness and also how many women feel unsafe rejecting men. There’s no point in acknowledging the text besides basic human kindness. If a first date fails with a random, you are never getting another chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 05:11 AM
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Agreed, if the generational disconnect is too much to bear, it stands to reason that maybe he should be dating a little older. I’m 25 and I have little in common with anyone under 21. It would take a unicorn to get me interested in a relationship with a woman that is <21
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:26 AM
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I don’t know exactly. For one, I find beautiful women extremely intoxicating, so part of me wants to hold back against the loss of control that comes with fatal attraction. Also, some childhood stuff and observing my parents marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:21 AM
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I prefer to lead with generosity and then go dutch later on. Oddly enough, I’ve never attracted gold diggers. I think it’s a combination of growing up UMC so the women are used to money/have money of their own and also not flashing around wealth in obvious ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:18 AM
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I feel like both ideologies are selecting for things that don’t lead to long term happiness.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:39 AM
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I somewhat agree. It’s not inherently bad to pay and I was raised that the man pays for first dates, but I still have a fear of being used by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:35 AM
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My cardinal gripe with FDS is how extractive it is. I’m happy to pay for dates, but these ladies really want men to pay and pay. As with TRP, some of the advice sounds reasonable and common sense, and the rest of it comes off as bitter and selfish. Vetting men’s character better and looking for indications of his investment are some of the best solutions available to relationship-minded women in the current dating marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 02:15 AM
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I’ve kind of been pleasantly surprised lately, but then again I just met a woman I really like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 12:25 AM
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For LTR’s Reciprocity - a good relationship has balance and people take turns doing things for their partner whether it’s messaging first, planning dates or going South of the Border Integrity - honesty is the bedrock of deeply intimate relationships. You want someone who does the right thing when no one is looking Dependability - says what they mean, does what they say they will. A lot of people don’t honor or appreciate trust Intimacy - you want someone who’s on your wavelength regarding emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 06:05 PM
2

Be the sex toys you want to see in the world /s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 03:57 PM
2

He was good a decade ago, but needs to be put out to pasture
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 03:29 PM
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I can imagine. Psychedelics and nature settings 😎
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 03:26 PM
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I’ll have to check it out. On a definite self improvement kick of late..
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 12:44 AM
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/ thread
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 12:32 AM
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Lol. I find this place very entertaining, but you’re probably right.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 12:31 AM
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In my case, a friend had some leftover and was leaving the country. Don’t want to violate any rules here, but I will say that it’s easily findable if you search with intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 12:17 AM
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For sure. I badly needed to introspect today. It’s a “check yourself, before you wreck yourself” kind of situation and I need to work on my anxious-avoidant behaviors so I can be happy and actually trust a romantic partner
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 12:15 AM
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Took some LSD earlier. Meditated on how I’m insecure and need to do more self work to avoiding mucking up future relationships. Hope everyone here had a good weekend
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 11:55 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 09:53 PM
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I don’t think most men want to be treated like movie stars. That’s kind of a straw man. Also I don’t even disagree re physically unattractive women and them perhaps feeling sad/unwanted. The gist of my argument is that young women have some big gendered advantages compared to their male counterparts in the area of dating. Women of PPD often refuse to acknowledge this state of affairs and men here often whine incessantly instead of accepting their lot and working with what they have
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 11:15 PM
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Ok, that’s understandably annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 10:41 PM
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I think a lot of young men are upset that they will never be intrinsically desired the way an average young woman is. Maybe they don’t see the downsides as much: harassment, objectification, etc., but a lot of men struggle to get a date and so they envy women with a seeming panoply of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 10:37 PM
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Thanks. Yeah, it’s once in a blue moon for me also.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:12 AM
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It means that the phone says she read it (receipt) but she left it without responding
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:11 AM
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You can’t let it get to you. That’s going to happen a lot. The memories of the ones that do like you are worth it. Live it up
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:10 AM
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I went on my first second date in a while. There’s a weird amount of chemistry. I just want to listen to this woman talk..
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:03 AM
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I’m not going to go with a band but rather an era. Since my parents are the last of the Boomers, I appreciate music (that I grew up listening to) from the 60’s through the 80’s. But the 90’s are just a black hole for me musically. It’s hard to feel nostalgia for an era that feels so foreign.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 04:00 AM
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For me it’s a probability thing. How many lesbians am I realistically going to regularly socialize with (keep in mind that not all of them are out, so I might not even know). I have a decent number of male friends who are gay or bi, but I also happen to know the details of their intimate lives. A lot of men mostly socialize with men. I have one female best friend for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 07:49 PM
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One of my big problems is neuroticism/social anxiety and I’ve found I can’t resolve these issues with more thinking or substance use (well, besides psychedelics). My advice is to literally touch grass. Make and accept social invitations whenever reasonably possible. Your social skills are likely rusty and you need more reps interacting with people. This is advice is cliched AF, but in life there is no substitute for going out and doing the thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 07:37 PM
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My thoughts on what’s happening: The government printed a ton of money to bolster the economy through loans and unemployment benefits, there are Corona and China related supply shortages of nearly all materials and goods, American consumers and corporations are relatively flush with cash, many Boomers have to seriously be considering retirement thus removing supply from the labor pool. Its a perfect storm of factors for higher inflation, a tight labor market, and higher nominal GDP growth..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 11:59 PM
2

When you know, you know
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:55 PM
2

“A real life Leslie Knope” - half of white girls on Tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:52 PM
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The daily thread is where the magic happens. Gotta hit me harder to make it personal
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:48 PM
2

Condolences, your flair checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:47 PM
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I thought I should beat my chest like Tarzan
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:38 PM
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How quickly do you people tend to enter relationships? I tend to after 4-6 weeks and I’m trying to assess whether that’s normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:19 PM
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I think a lot of people here were raised on Marvel movies, blank statism, and the just world fallacy. To discover that life isn’t fair, that manipulative people often get rewarded instead of their comeuppance, and that life comes easy to the Uber attractive are genuine redpills to the willfully blind or uninitiated.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:32 PM
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Virginia doesn’t really have institutional problems though. Chris Chan is the kind of weirdo that could be raised anywhere in the US today. All of our scandals are like “ooh the governor wore blackface and moonwalked”, which isn’t great but then you look at the rest of the country and you’re like “phew!”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:26 PM
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Definitely a consequence of the society we live in. Men often see sex as another notch on their belt and women often see sex as a nifty bargaining chip. Both make a surprised Pikachu face when they end up used by others.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 04:19 PM
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Very true. I look at my Dad with his full head of white hair and I’m a little less worried about aging.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:36 PM
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Attractive man hands down. Career, social status, hookups, relationships. The world is your oyster as a 10. Having the elusive qualities that get you to such heights would be pretty enjoyable in my imagination
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 08:45 PM
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Ah, the “I am 100%” ad
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 05:54 PM
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I think location is key. The city is good to me. Lots of educated, single women. Maybe you need a change of scene. I hope things work out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 05:10 AM
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College years: average guy in college manages to hookup once or twice. If he has a decent personality, he might maintain or enter one or two LTR’s during this period. Usually a high school girlfriend and then after they breakup, a college girlfriend. Early 20s: leaving college is hard on your typical guy. He guys from decent access to potential partners based on proximity to starting over socially. Socially 22-25 is a pretty tough zone because you’re usually away from college girls and your comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:14 AM
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Do be attractive, don’t be unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:12 PM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:11 PM
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We did cocktails and charcuterie..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 07:01 PM
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That’s exceptionally petty. I don’t think I’ve ever blocked an ex’s number. Part of me wants to be there if they truly need to talk. Obviously it’d be a different story if they were obsessive or abusive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:32 PM
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Yeah, I definitely agree with how reactions to common occurrences can get pretty gendered. In general though, I am suspect of people who are too busy to make time for people they ostensibly like and want to date. It’s a demonstrated preferences thing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:20 PM
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I think people are often taking out their dating frustrations with the opposite sex/their partner/their exes on random Reddit posters.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:11 PM
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Haha, I really enjoy good conversationalists and she’s a talker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 06:08 PM
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I’ve met someone I really like. We talked for like three hours on our first date. It’s honestly pretty exciting and a bit anxiety provoking. I haven’t felt potential like this in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 05:44 PM
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Yeah, sometimes we should encourage OP to ask themselves “am I the baddie here?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 05:26 PM
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I definitely wouldn’t frame this as practice, describe it as exploration or learning what feels good for the two of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 05:19 PM
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Maybe he found the Madonna of his dreams
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:45 PM
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I feel like some of these things have always been true. -For all of my life, women have been more active dancers and a lot of men wait around in what you label the “penalty box” on the outside -girls wear skimpy clothing in a place like Cancun. It’d be weird to come dressed for church. Showing skin isn’t even a slut tell when everyone is doing it -ugly or non-confident guys struggle in a dance floor setting. There’s no opportunity to show off other traits and they often seem out of place or anxi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 02:34 PM
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Height is a human right
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 01:54 PM
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I feel like this is a pretty insightful comment Smurf. I’m probably a 6 or a 7 and I’ve found personality, confidence, and intellect are pretty big determinants for what dating possibilities are available to guys like us. I’ve met guys who have a lot in terms of looks, wealth, personality. They are in a tier of their own and that’s what a lot of guys obsess over missing out on. I think I’ve only met a few stereotypical chads in my life. One buddy in college slept with 75+ women and I believed hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/21 04:17 AM
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I can’t disagree with you there. People meeting people through those they already know can potentially provide greater compatibility and safety. There’s a greater opportunity for vetting and folks are generally better behaved when their reputation is on the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:32 PM
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In terms of society, yeah. Not much I can do to change where we are at. I can love my friends and family as best as I can. Control things close to you and all that…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:27 PM
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For sure. I see a lot of the behaviors discussed here as a cause & symptom of declining social trust
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:19 PM
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I think the women of PPD enjoy how she plays us like a piano. She’s good at generating engagement
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:10 PM
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Do people today constantly talk about their standards, lists, red flags, and tells because they are deeply insecure and afraid to engage in vulnerability for the fear that their hopes are dashed yet again? I see it in myself, no one wants to put their heart on the line in this dating market. In a closed society, every stranger is potentially out to get you. It’s sad to see
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 10:08 PM
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Hollywood loves to punish the harlot. The final girl needs to be a chaste Madonna
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 04:45 PM
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I hope
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 09:02 PM
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PPD women want only one thing and it’s a cunning linguist
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 08:26 PM
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Yes, this was a satirical reference to a certain niche sex act!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:11 PM
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Had a great date tonight until she asked me if I let previous girlfriends peg me…when I said I don’t do that anymore she got mad and said I still pined for Stacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:04 AM
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I think it is surprising to the kind of person that believes all gender differences are because boys play with trucks and girls play with dolls.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 04:58 PM
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I honestly feel like it’s a combination of internal feelings and external perception. I’ve lost 17 pounds this year. I feel more energized. I’m sleeping better. Anecdotally strangers are nicer to me, but I also might be in a confident, friendly mood
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:21 PM
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As one of my flings used to say: “you have to be this tall to ride”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:05 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:22 AM
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Yeah, I think a lot of men have someone that they still think about in the wee hours of the morning. I for one am proudly alpha widowed
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 03:09 AM
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Going on a date tomorrow and she sent me a looking forward to it text, that was cute
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 02:59 AM
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“Her past, your future”, a common male hang up
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 09:05 PM
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Men do know what women are attracted through, mostly through trial-and-error and by watching women’s demonstrated preferences. I value women’s opinions on plenty of matters. For example, I enjoyed the husband thread the other day and it gave me ideas about how to be a better partner. But I generally wouldn’t ask a straight woman about how to seduce women, because that’s not something y’all have expertise in. It’s also blatantly untrue that there’s no female cultural narrative about men. People c…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:31 PM
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I don’t think there’s anything wrong with women settling (feel bad for the guys though). For a lot of them it’s the right move, you can’t always get what you want.. Good for you, strong standards will help you get what you want out of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 06:20 PM
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Good for you. I think well-considered standards are a wonderful thing. My comment was most directed at the behavior of young men who don’t know the ropes or bottom tier dudes. I actually disagree strongly with the idea that men aren’t trying to attract women, many are simply failing badly at it. What I see in our generation is that we are often poorly socialized and lack courtship skills, we display an appalling ignorance of feminine psychology, we don’t get out enough and adventure, we are ofte…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:50 PM
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Most men can’t afford to have a quarter of the standards that women have and ever get laid. This is doubly true in the realm of casual relationships. We might want Colombian powder, but we’ll settle for a Heineken..
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 04:29 PM
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Absolutely, comfort and familiarity with preferences are very important. In hookup culture, these are often missing. Elaborating on your last point, it’s honestly confusing to me that some men don’t put in any effort. From a purely self-interested perspective, it leads to more and better sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:55 PM
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I really enjoy going down on my partners and like to see them satisfied. I’m baffled that other men see oral sex as demeaning rather than confident or even dominant. When a woman’s eyes are rolling back and she’s crushing your head with her thighs, you’re in a good territory with your intimacy. That being said, a women’s orgasm can be a tricky thing. I think there are often more psychological barriers at play. We have to do far more work to figure out mood, preferences, tempo than women do with …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 03:07 PM
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Of course
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:29 PM
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Damn this is an underrated comment right here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 07:01 PM
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Why is it dumb? It’s within the letter of the law and seigniorage is the prerogative of the government. I don’t think minting a trillion dollar coin is crazy in comparison to people paying millions for a single crypto punk NFT. Money is a social technology and if Republicans don’t want to raise the debt ceiling, the Dems should call their bluff
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:43 PM
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Some men have serious issues (The FreudZone, extreme possessiveness and sexual jealousy). The rest of us simply know the ways of men. On the extreme end, I’ll never forget the time in college a guy told me with cold dead eyes that he was excited to go out that night to find girls to rpe. So yes, I would especially worry about the physical and emotional vulnerability of a daughter in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:37 PM
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I really hope that Yellen mints the trillion dollar coin. Do it for the culture Janet, cross the Rubicon!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 06:26 PM
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I think they could raise the bar, but it’d be hard to get women to unionize again post-sexual revolution and demand better treatment. There will always be scabs that do nearly anything to get the attention of top-tier men. Also, changing this dynamic would require more women to pursue serious relationships in their youth and they generally don’t want to do this. I knew a wonderful Brazilian girl in college. Gorgeous and smart. Men would fight wars over this kind of woman. She was waiting for a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:56 PM
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Ok that makes more sense. We’re talking about a large statistical population here. Why do you think girl #1 decided to kamikaze the relationship through a sex strike? Were you guys young at the time? My first kind of had this attitude of “oh you’re just into me for the sex”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:56 PM
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Jeez, you’ve had terrible luck with women. Girl number one sounds like a basket case. Girl number two sounds like she was in a bad state.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 11:51 PM
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Women love assholes. Just wanted to present an original idea on this sub for once.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:11 PM
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Agreed. The fact that vaccines aren’t perfect isn’t the magical gotcha some people wish it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 09:49 PM
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Lilith is the G.O.A.T of all harpies
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:49 PM
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I agree. People settling for people they find totally unattractive is sad to see. Fortunately, I don’t see it as that common a behavior among people I know. One best friend generally dislikes women, so I seriously doubt he’s going to settle for someone he can’t stand. Another one of my guys gets along well with women, but it’d take a special woman to get him to commit. Definitely better for these dudes to be single than in suboptimal pairings
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 06:26 PM
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I’ll admit to Blonde Stacies being my weakness, but I object to point #2. I find a broad range of women physically attractive and have dated accordingly. A lot of folks here do “would you rather” posts between cute girls who are a little curvy and women who are model thin and my reaction is that it’s not self evident that one is more attractive than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:50 PM
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I think the sexual revolution had some pretty good aspects, but we are definitely starting to see some consequences such as developed country birth rates dropping like a rock
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:09 PM
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I think we need more context. But my first thought is that you need to vet better, use your experience to evaluate men’s character and what they want from you. My second thought is maybe you aren’t putting out the vibes that attract guys who want a relationship. The 2 or 3 month breakup is a pretty common drop-off point in my experience and so I’d examine the past and introspect about why things didn’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 05:02 PM
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Imagine not seeing potential in yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:28 PM
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The power of our will
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:23 PM
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It’s good to see that self love. We’re all gonna make it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:52 PM
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Either a church lady or a harlot in scarlet..
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:37 PM
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No, they should be buried with him. Based and pharaoh-pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:35 PM
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Have none. Will borrow yours
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 03:24 PM
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I really feel that last point. I have a family member who is often night and day in her treatment of people external to our family versus close relatives. That’s a pattern of behavior that I want to be vigilant about on dint of seeing it so much growing up
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 02:57 PM
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I like that last bit about having a growth mindset and find it universally attractive in friends and romantic partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:41 AM
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I think it baffles men here, because typically they are the ones placing emphasis on purity and chastity. Hope you find that charming virginal fellow of your dreams
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:32 AM
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Yeah, this is another great set of points. I think part of my problem to this point is that I wasn’t dating or living with a ton of intentionality. I’m starting to zero in more on what I want out of life and it makes sense to search for a woman with a compatible vision and set of values.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 04:17 AM
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It’s time to Dddduel
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:21 AM
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Thanks. I liked the parts about good lovers being able to adjust to their partners needs and being able to just “be” with the person even when there is nothing going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:20 AM
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Thanks. Thinking about this in terms of both core values and stages of life makes a lot of sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:11 AM
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I don’t know what that is, but I look forward to showing the ladies my YuGioh collection
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 01:06 AM
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I wish I had a girl who looked good, I would call her 📀
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:25 PM
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The thing is some of us do complement our male and female friends for their accomplishments, sense of style, humor, etc. At the same time, men are capable of noticing the rarity with which we get a compliment and how women get 25x the complements. Most men go through life without many positive affirmations from women and it seems to me like women get a lot of compliments that fall flat due to insincerity or inappropriate behavior or being exhausted by male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:17 PM
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Saudi pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:01 PM
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Definitely girl on the left, because she’s more my type. Girl on the right has a lot of angles to her face and has been described as a flight risk, why bother?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:59 PM
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Doritos locos fingerbang, sponsored by Taco Bell
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 02:38 PM
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I was joking, but your denial has made me more suspicious. How is the weather at the secret Antarctic feminazi base?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:18 AM
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Any relation to the German Luftwaffe? Secret Nazi confirmed..
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 04:12 AM
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Yep, cute girls that don’t put up with my bullshit 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:53 AM
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You’re talking to me about stuff…Why? I’d rather see your tiddies
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:23 AM
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I think it’s both a character thing and an opportunity thing. And celebrities have a ton of access to hot, interesting, enthusiastic women. To quote the Millionaire Matchmaker, “the peni3 does the picking”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:15 AM
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Men want only one thing and it’s…toxic femininity
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:12 AM
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“Show me your genitals, your genitals” - Jon Lajoie
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:10 AM
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Well, height is the first thing people always seem to notice about me and open conversations about. I’ve had some great relationships, but I’ve realized that my confidence has set me back to this point. A lot of romantic success comes from how we feel about ourselves and how we make others feel. I think this is a big thing that people here who are obsessed about looks miss.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:36 PM
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It’s a tried and true insult. If you want to insult a man, say something about his virility or strength. If you want to insult a woman, say something about her virtue or appearance. Modern man worries about being seen as disposable and modern woman worries about being seen as inferior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 07:04 PM
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They seem convinced that height is a cheat code. As a tall dude, it sometimes gets my foot in the door but I still screw it up with things like social awkwardness and not having my life together. Being tall is like a 1 or 2 point boost in SMV for men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 06:54 PM
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Honestly I never want to be this dude. Don’t want my wife to think of me as some coomer
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 04:53 PM
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I actually agree somewhat. Some manipulation and guile go a long way in attraction. It’s fvcked up but that’s the honest truth. At the same time, I’m not completely willing to equate casual sex with use of women. Maybe a younger me would have agreed, but when women hit men up for casual sex, who is using who? The important thing is expectations and men who pretend to offer exclusivity to get sex are trash
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 11:03 PM
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I just reject the idea that kindness in men should be associated with only having sex in serious relationships. I also think that a decent percentage of nice guys are simply clueless and unattractive, they don’t know how to attract women but they don’t want to use them either. Nice guys being secret misogynists is often deployed as a just world fallacy about why they can’t get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:52 PM
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So a nice guy by your definition is a guy who is attractive, conveniently does what women wants and foregoes exercising his options. Maybe that does make him great husband material, but that behavior is suboptimal in today’s social environment. Dude is going to get walked over
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:45 PM
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“Real nice guys” -> so basically religious, rural dudes. Because those are the only men marrying before 23 these days
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:36 PM
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8, male
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 10:04 PM
1

That sounds wonderful. A city Chad and a country Chad. Tips hat m’lady..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:08 PM
1

You don’t believe in free range Chads?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:57 PM
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Women, a scrote ain’t getting no love from me. Sitting in his best friends ride, trying to holler at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:56 PM
2

Cats are more loyal than humans and no one can CMV
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:41 PM
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We have peace, happiness and security all thanks to the annual purge and the new founding fathers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:02 AM
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Can confirm. We’ve spent at least 4 hours watching sports on this boys trip. Currently watching monster trucks..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:46 AM
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Fatalism about height. As a 6’3 dude, dating isn’t sunshine and rainbows.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:31 AM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:24 AM
1

HONKY TONK WOMEN
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:27 AM
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What is Love Island? It sounds so Brave New World. Is there state-supplied soma and grade B bimbos?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:22 AM
1

HARLOTS
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:13 AM
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I’d venture that a decent percentage of millennial and Zoomer women are so picky about surface level traits that they are also shallow in their approach to dating. Men could never maintain half of these standards and ever hope to get a date. Our gender gets dragged for objectifying women and only wanting them for sex, but women also engage in an objectification of men that is insufficiently discussed outside of this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 02:09 AM
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I pretty much agree with all of this: socially isolated hermiticism on the rise, depression/anxiety zonking men’s ability to meet and attract women, etc. I’d also add economic circumstances: housing prices are high, inequality has made it harder for the average guy to earn a decent living, and women earn money now too so a guys decent job is just not impressive. Men were always shallow about women’s looks and now OLD enables women to be equally as shallow. We are also undergoing a revaluation of…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 01:48 AM
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It didn’t work. Now she wants me to shower with her, but she doesn’t have any Axe body wash. I politely declined
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 12:43 AM
1

Accurate except for the fact that my engineer friend fvcks
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:27 PM
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Guys, I took a shower earlier and now women are biting their lip and glaring at me. Please send help!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 10:07 PM
2

Damn South Florida is nice. Vacation warms my cold, cold heart
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 06:37 PM
6

Smurf survives. Let this be a lesson about betting on the Bungles!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 03:22 AM
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We don’t trust you either. Modern gender relations are mutual suspicion.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 09:31 PM
1

It’s truly one of life’s great things
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:29 PM
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It’s true. You usually get a few months to right the ship and then it’s game over.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:29 PM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:04 PM
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The hot 26 year old. I feel my biological clock ticking and can’t wait for the 18 year old to become a good provid…MommyMcBangMaid. Actually it’s a life-stages thing and I don’t think I could seriously date anyone younger than maybe 22 at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:34 PM
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For sure, I was needlessly edgy on these topics at 15. That was the era of The Game and The Mystery Method. Some of the advice was actually useful, but even at the time I remember being skeptical about the absolutely outrageous techniques or gimmicks on offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:31 PM
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I agree. It doesn’t require early experiences, people can certainly play catch up and grow into themselves. Just observing that not experiencing milestones everyone is seemingly enjoying can make people bitter and angry. I’ve been that guy at times, but at least I have those dalliances to look back upon
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:25 PM
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Being with a woman who’s super ambitious as a chill dude sounds exhausting. That’s ultimately the conflict that ended my parents relationship. At the same time, I can’t really blame this woman for not wanting to remain married to a guy stuck in neutral. A lack of ambition and interests is particularly unattractive in men and that’s just the reality of it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:20 PM
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It’s not always about sex. It’s also about desire..
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:08 PM
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I’m really glad I got laid on prom night and joined a fraternity or I would be posting about how women treat husband material men all the time. I feel like part of this is a developmental stages thing. If you have never inspired lust in women, that’s a huge bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 06:05 PM
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Women aren’t silly to fear random men and fathers may or may not be overprotective of their daughters. A neighbor with two daughters once said to my father “you have to worry about two boys, I have to worry about all of the boys.” Which is funny now because he treats my brother like the son he never had..
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 09:08 PM
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Does she fear being consumed by a humanoid alien manning the cash register like in The X-Files?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:45 PM
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I’ve always wondered if this aforementioned shift in pleasant treatment towards attractive women (pretty privilege) actually occurs in a perceptible manner or if it’s more of a revenge fantasy about the wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:44 PM
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Well it’s either us or them. Should prove interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 06:21 PM
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They got a name for the winners in the world, I want a name when I lose
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 04:12 PM
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R.I.P.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 03:37 PM
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Depends on the woman. If she’s attractive, she goes to the top of the option list. I think there’s a bit of projection going on in this post. Women get messaged/approached by tons of guys and devalue that attention (for reasons that are imminently understandable). Whereas for most of us guys, getting approached is kind of rare. In my past, it’s lead to one great fling and one great friendship. If you really want someone do you want to sit around hoping they feel the same way?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 03:31 PM
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Women need to stop assuming that just because they are nice we owe them s…weatshirts
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 05:39 PM
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I think that I need to get around to watching the original
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 05:04 PM
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Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:28 PM
1

Ok! give us the details
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:24 PM
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It’s kind of random and esoteric. It’s a play on the acronym for Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt (FUD) Don’t know why I chose it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:18 PM
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“What would someone have to gain” —> Exactly. It’s an absolutely brutal thing to say to your partner and no good can come of it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:09 PM
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One can be tall and lack facial symmetry, good physical health, a job that pays well, emotional health, meaningful relationships, charm, etc. Half the people I meet comment on my height, but that doesn’t mean women are dying to be with me. When I didn’t have my life together interest dried up to practically nothing…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:30 PM
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I meant they don’t have to be an academic, but perceptive and curious are must.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:08 PM
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Cute, vaguely intellectual, good conversationalist, hobbies or interests that will give us something to talk about, pretty to me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 04:04 PM
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Yeah, I think average guys can do fine in the right context. Obviously being tall helps or possessing any other standout characteristics that elicits interest and attention. Something I’ve woken up to is needing to get the basics handled: OLD profile that fits ones personality with decent photos, physical fitness (even if not looksmaxing), better hair/skin care, a more active lifestyle in general. A lot of people will respond and say these things are obvious, but I’m finding there’s an art to co…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:58 PM
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Yes intellectually, but not in the same visceral sense of “wow I’ll have so many more opportunities to meet people I like here”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:45 PM
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2/3 were my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:42 PM
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I got a billion matches yesterday. Starting to realize that I should simply move into a city if I want to date
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:25 PM
2

Fraternity
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:21 PM
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I think any woman with basic exposure and situational awareness can tell if a guy is a sex pest or if he is saying obviously misogynistic things. OTOH, emotional or physical abuse is often a pattern of behavior that is revealed over time. Also, a lot of male behavior is forgiven or excused if you simply are attractive. My bio grandfather was a modern Genghis Khan, probably had 50 grandkids for all we know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:02 PM
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FreudZoned
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:11 PM
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This made me laugh. At some point you were a glimmer in your daddy’s eye
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:10 PM
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This is a fantastic dealbreaker. Someone who struggles to have any friendships with the opposite sex is displaying a caution flag
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 03:14 AM
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Hmm. When vetting, I’d find the constant casual flings more concerning than several failed relationships by ones mid 20’s. But to each their own..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:30 AM
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I think it’s a major reason, but not the only reason. Some men are worried about how they measure up to other guys or that she still pines after them. Some men have an instinctual revulsion to high N-count women and/or buy into double standards about the morality of sex. Maybe I have a bit of both, but I’m more concerned about falling hard again for someone that doesn’t reciprocate the intensity of my feelings for them
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:27 AM
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I’d go with 4-10 with at least some of it being in relationships (this range includes my n-count). My reasoning is that dating a virgin would be tedious and dating a woman that gets around would send my anxiety surrounding intimacy into overdrive. Ideally I’d find someone that really likes LTR’s, but also has a high sex drive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 01:03 AM
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I wish I had a girl who looked good, I would call her 📀
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 09:22 PM
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And I want a sexy blonde with double D’s that went to Harvard.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 09:17 PM
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Couple of points. I think sexualization of media has intensified, but there seems be less and less Eros in everyday life. It’s as if we’ve fallen for the image of the thing (sex in your face everywhere trying to sell you things ) as opposed to the thing in itself (people having lots of wild sex and passionate romances). I think we could get more of what you call materiality but that would require functioning substitutes like realistic VR and/or AI that is very good. I’m doubtful this comes to pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 01:32 AM
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M 65/35. I think I’m a bit rusty when it comes to dating and that’s on me. I also aim to improve my lifestyle and meet more people by moving into the city. I’ve also been trying and succeeding at losing weight and started a new hair/skin regimen. Aiming to take control of what factors I can. The 35 is because many women in my generation are really difficult to deal with and because OLD is a dumpster fire for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 11:38 PM
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Being unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 06:43 PM
5

Sounds like husband material
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 10:22 PM
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Scarlet Letter Pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:47 PM
2

On some level, he still likes you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:55 PM
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Yes, what happened to letting kids be kids
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:57 AM
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No, but I seen ‘em do it in Holland
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:44 AM
3

A tasty burger
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:42 AM
5

Currently enjoying a royale with cheese
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 03:27 AM
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Fair enough, I’m a fan of consistency as well
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:57 AM
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Smurf, you’re practically the leading cheerleader of the no-hymen, no diamond club at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:10 AM
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It’s obviously pick-me’s, who else is going to make my morning pancakes just like mommy made
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:38 PM
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I don’t know about boring but certainly repetitive at times. People have already staked out their position on issues and the discussion becomes circular
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:10 PM
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I see it’s abusive partner week on PPD and we’ve got something for everyone. Nice guys vs assholes. Cuckolds vs Cuckqueens. Crips vs Bloods.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:02 PM
2

You don’t have Ashley Madison on your work phone?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 06:48 PM
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“Poor old Grandad. I laughed at all his words. I thought he was a bitter man. He spoke of women’s ways: They trap you, then they use you, before you even know. Well, love is blind and you’re far too kind. Don’t even let it show..” Felt these lyrics belong in this thread..
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:11 PM
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I mean, I think stereotypical nice guys should stop being fedora wearing doormats and develop a personality and learn to generate attraction. At the same time, I think that women in a certain phase of life devalue “comfort” traits and a way to rationalize that is to say that all nice guys are expectant and feel they are owed something.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:39 PM
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I like this answer. Relax and enjoy life gang..
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:43 PM
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Definitely feel like an ugly duckling sometimes, but I’ve had attractive women approach me at least occasionally
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:42 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:26 PM
1

Dating/sex/fulfilling romantic interactions
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:19 PM
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Something that confuses me in my dating history. Why do I have more success with better looking women than less attractive women? I know it’s an incredibly vain thing to say, but I feel like women who are a 7-8 looks wise and 8-10 INT wise are my sweet spot as partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:09 PM
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He certainly excels at action star badass. I’ve never seen him in anything other than the Matrix and John Wick trilogies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:55 PM
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<Tips Fedora>
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:46 AM
1

Damn, they’re all with you King
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:36 AM
4

Polanski Pilled
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:26 AM
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25 and make 70k, where’s my harem?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:23 AM
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Things are apparently so bad out there that my grandmother read the paper and asked me what’s wrong with young men today. She was pretty concerned about all the boys that got sent to Vietnam. I told her at least we don’t have to worry about that anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 04:11 AM
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I hope our tribal warlords will need a good accountant.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:38 PM
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I don’t think that’s an irrational fear. Maybe a bit gendered, I don’t think I’ve ever feared that the women I’ve been with were with me because I was their only option. I have worried though about being Mr. Right vs Mr. Right Now. It’s good to hear that you had mostly positive interactions with various suitors. Most of the women I’ve dated have been decent people. A blessing for sure. Thanks! Hopefully I find the right one and have the good sense to let her in. In the meantime, it’s time to wor…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 06:00 PM
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2 months. I’ve moved on emotionally, but am out of practice when it comes to dates and the app game. I definitely think it’s flattering and refreshing when women pursue, but I’d never reciprocate if I didn’t see decent potential. It’s understandable that you feared that though. A lot of people will latch onto the first person that shows an interest in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:35 PM
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Damn. That’s a brutal, but fair comment. As a recently single guy, I think I need to go on as many first dates as I can. You can only glean so much from a profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 05:20 PM
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I think the ‘how much casual sex question’ is very situationally dependent. Someone living in the suburbs with their parents is not going to have the same time as someone in a fraternity living with sorority girls. The people of PPD come at this with anecdotes. The evidence I’ve seen in aggregate suggests a declining number of sexual partners in young people and and an increase in the number of people who are virgins into their 20s. But then you have people liked my buddy who’s slept with 80 wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:38 PM
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“New dog mommy, looking to find the Jim to my Pam, a real life Leslie Knope, love the gym, here for a good time not a long time, impress me, here for dating, no hookups!”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:06 PM
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FYI - Just found out that word can get you cruciatus cursed around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 04:03 PM
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Thank you. Trying to understand what precisely is being overlooked here.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:17 PM
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It certainly does show the importance of openers though. A girl I probably wouldn’t have pursued too hard came out of the gate with some great lines. Coffee date on Saturday. Seize the day ladies and gents!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:08 PM
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I think one of the big challenges for modern man is not getting blackpilled by our gender role (beast of burden) or the culture we live in (a digital Skinner’s box). It’s far easier to collapse into creature comforts or unhinged anger or self pacifying delusions than to accept the competition inherent to nature and use that adversity to fuel and shape you. A lot of people, including me, like to complain about the ugliness of our world rather than accepting it as part of the tapestry of our exist…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:06 PM
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That’s definitely true. What’s probably best is striking the balance between killing the vibe through over-texting and keeping enough interest alive to set up another good date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 07:34 PM
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Anyone have thoughts about the frequency/tenor of texting in the early phases of getting to know someone. I always struggle with this and get in my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 06:37 PM
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Because we live in a culture that mistakes being an asshole for inner strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 06:08 PM
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Thanks, I think I’ll watch it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 06:06 PM
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Been considering watching it on the TeeVee. Do you think it’s worth a look?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 04:46 PM
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= quitters
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 10:43 PM
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People who can’t find happiness within themselves and while maintaining their obligations to others are best avoided as romantic partners. This is true of women chasing feels and men chasing younger, hotter… If you see strong signs of narcissism, run don’t walk to your nearest exit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 09:15 PM
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Who knows? The wisdom of investing in ones relationships is a question with an inherently subjective answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:34 PM
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Reading Nietzsche on my porch…how do you do my fellow kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:21 PM
2

As with everything else in life, you pay your money and take your chances.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 07:51 PM
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-failure to launch. It’s hard to get established these days and make a solid income. I’m just about to move out again post-pandemic. This affects men more because our social and economic status is more important to attraction. -a lot of men don’t take care of themselves physically and mentally, they have small hopes of having a peak. In the age of online dating, it’s hard to get laid as a man if you don’t have any standout characteristics. It’s so much easier IRL, but we have a pandemic right no…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/21 09:33 PM
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Because we both like food and discussed this one restaurant multiple times. Ordinarily, I’d think it’s a risky first date choice. Not everyone wants to sit for 90 minutes with someone they just met.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:48 AM
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No, parties are for socializing and meeting new people. Folks always expect a few people no one knows to show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:46 AM
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Actually I lied to my PPD constituents: When you’re a Chad they pay for dinner, drinks and dessert
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:25 AM
1

Thanks! Hopefully next week at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:14 AM
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The all important question, I paid
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:13 AM
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First date went well. Got dinner and cocktails like real adults. She’s a good conversationalist which is necessary for a nerd like me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:06 AM
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That sounds like a healthy, happy relationship. Happy for you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 03:48 AM
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Interesting. The big things I’m hearing are inefficiency (despite having a few years experience) and letting other things in the workplace or elsewhere distract from core responsibilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 07:00 PM
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Out of curiosity, what kind of things did she do to get on thin ice? I’m a relatively new member of the American workforce and could use your perspective on what irritates managers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 06:43 PM
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Mauritius has a very visually appealing flag. Check it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 06:14 PM
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I think most men know the difference deep down, they just resent not being considered the latter and feel lied to about what actually works.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 05:37 PM
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Of course. PPDer’s want only one thing…and it’s to know who pays
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:49 PM
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Going on a dinner date. Haven’t done this for a first date in years. High hopes for this one
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:39 PM
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I love this post. Picturing Brady in the film room scrolling PPD and analyzing the Saint’s defense…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:24 PM
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Scoop ‘em up and have ‘em do the Presidential fitness test with you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:32 PM
2

Would definitely simplify things
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 04:00 AM
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Q4All: who has more unrealistic standards in their 20’s, men or women?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 03:51 AM
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I don’t necessarily mind. We just tend to cluster on certain topics for a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 09:45 PM
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I see this weeks theme on PPD is going to be women & the workforce
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:48 PM
1

Sarcasm. I’m not narcissistic enough to demand a TradCath Virgin MommyMcBangMaid that cooks, cleans and doesn’t get upset that I’m the town bike…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 03:25 PM
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The relationship described by annabee sounds lopsided and borderline abusive. I don’t have many issues dating a woman wealthier or more successful than me, but not if it means putting my life completely in the backseat and being subordinate to and dependent on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 03:18 PM
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Idk, haven’t met any men that would openly admit to desiring/accepting that relationship type. Well, besides my brother who jokes about marrying a European prince.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 03:04 PM
0

Obviously yes. That sounds like a great trade deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:48 PM
1

It depends. If I really cared about her, it’s hard to maintain the friendship the way it was. If serious feelings aren’t involved, probably can restore the status quo. I’ve had this happen in the opposite direction with a girl who feel completely head over heels. She’s still one of my best friends, but it was a tough stretch. I suppose the following is the operative question: is there value and enjoyment in your friendship independent of your desire to date/marry/sleep with the person. Don’t sim…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:34 PM
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It’s a new lap record
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:28 AM
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First date was a dud. Nice girl, but conversationally it was like ‘two ships passing in the night.’ I’ll write it off as a decent conversation and practice for the dinner date I have later in the week.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 11:41 PM
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Yeah, I’ve actually never been stood up in my nearly ten years of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 09:00 PM
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No doubt they were the best and the brightest. IMO, they suffered from several major issues in their approach to the ME. Emotional decision making in the aftermath of national tragedy, believing that a certain historical and institutional context could be translated to another very different culture if enough effort and resources were expended, and making decisions based on abstract knowledge (think generals in a map room) as opposed to the understanding of people intimately familiar with the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 04:41 AM
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Because they are over-confident pencil pushers that confuse the map for the territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 04:05 AM
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That’s a tough question. I find it hard to rate objectively once I start to get to know a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 04:03 AM
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Thanks bro, have a good week
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 03:56 AM
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Have two dates planned this week. I’m metamorphosing into my final form, aka Chad. Ask me anything!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 03:42 AM
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Maybe jaded is a strong way of putting in it. I agree with some of what you are saying, but detect all or nothing thinking. Yes, most women won’t be thrilled if you suddenly quit your job on a whim, but I think a lot of women would stick with their partner through unexpected illness or hardship. I also agree that working hard to be an attractive and an alluring choice is a great approach to things. But sometimes you just need to be good enough to get your foot in the door. I’ve dated some attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 01:21 AM
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You sound like a good and reasonable person. I think he’s jaded and you’re a bit naive. As a man, I’ve definitely seen the benefits of being perceived as a woman’s top option. One doesn’t even have to be the best in all categories, as men here often exaggerate, but having some standout characteristics really helps. Men need to work hard to be seen as a worthy option as women tend to be pickier about their window for attraction. I do disagree with OP that an egalitarian relationship is impossible…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 11:40 PM
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I have. Damn sororities are great.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 03:07 PM
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The posts are pretty entertaining in a sad, trainwreck kind of way. I don’t get the sense he expected the cheating on her end and how confidently she ended the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:58 AM
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I love how he’s like “20 years of marriage down the toilet” and it’s like “play stupid games, win stupid prizes”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:40 AM
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You make me laugh Smurf
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:49 AM
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That’s so cute
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 04:46 PM
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Some days I feel like I’m going to end up a male ‘cat lady.’ Tired of doing circus-like tricks for women I probably wouldn’t even get along well with anyway. The dating landscape today is just plain depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:39 PM
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Reject modernity, embrace wolfie
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:49 AM
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Yes, rechanneling my energy into creative pursuits such as howling at the moon
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:03 AM
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You’re a flashlight to me. Not the kind I keep in my pantry for power outages, but the cheap kind they give away at corporate events. Jk, have a nice weekend
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:07 PM
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I think we tend to think of perfection as meeting some kind of universal ideal constructed in our heads. Yet, everyone is flawed and everyone has their own unique set of preferences derived from genetics, culture, environment, upbringing, belief, and life experiences. So I’d say you are perfectly normal for finding what some consider flaws to be attractive and also being seen as attractive despite your flaws…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 04:44 PM
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The one time I asked, I regret asking. Ignorance would have been bliss and I got insecure. OTOH, I was asked by my most recent ex and she definitely felt insecure about the number of partners I had. My advice to the entire purplepillgang is to not ask this question unless you are ready to hear the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:55 PM
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At 25, I think I’m in a range of 22-27 w/ possible partners. Going any younger is just too much of a life mismatch, going any older and they are just plain disinterested (bummer because many of them are rocking it in their 30’s and 40’s). I think age mismatch relationships are cope for some men, but at the same time realistic for men who have taken care of themselves and built themselves up. Men are graded on more things than women and it takes time to improve your confidence, finances, career, …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 03:28 PM
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What app do you pay for if you don’t mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 02:40 PM
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In terms of looks, maybe slightly lower on average than women that would be interested in me IRL. In terms of maturity and reliability, some women I’ve matched with seem pretty solid in these areas. But I really don’t have enough data. I’ve met all of my serious partners in person through my social circles
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 11:56 PM
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Oh, I agree. There were always some unattractive men and there always will be. I also share your belief that fatalism is an unhealthy response to failure. On the other hand, according to a survey I read in the Washington Post, male under-30 sexlessness has gone from a single digit percentage to upwards of 25%. If studies like that are to be believed, that’s a huge shift in the proportion of men that are failing to reach a significant life milestone. Anecdotally, I believe this to be true of wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 11:01 PM
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That’s for sure!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 09:45 PM
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I like that I get to enjoy traditionally masculine vices like beer swilling and cigar smoking. I like that I can go out and about without fearing much for my physical safety. I like the camaraderie, brutal honesty and sense of adventure in my male friendships. I dislike how society doesn’t have much room for my emotions. I dislike that often men aren’t expected to or raised to do as much homemaking, trying to remedy my cooking and decorating skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 09:06 PM
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I feel society as a whole is a lot more black pilled these days. A dominant mode of thought in current era is that our problems are some other group’s fault. 10 years ago, when I was starting to read this dating/sex stuff, communities like seddit had a more optimistic tone about the possibilities for men that improved themselves. That being said, I think the current wave of pessimism is also rooted in certain material realities. Us young men are being outcompeted by women in the education system…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 08:53 PM
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I think it’s less about the high notch count (a common male fixation) and more about knowing other women want him.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 06:10 PM
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Yup, you hit the nail on the head. Musk and Grimes match each other’s weird
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 05:01 AM
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This is good advice. I think I need to play it cool and see if she invests more in the conversation. I honestly can’t get a good read rn on whether she’s interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 03:49 AM
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She’s pretty. But I should shoot my shot and not get my hopes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 03:12 AM
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I’m simping so hard. Someone needs to stage an intervention and be like “boink, go to horny jail”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 02:48 AM
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I definitely see how a hookup that she doesn’t desire to repeat could knock a guys confidence. I more so had short flings in mind, which I’ve generally found to be pretty chill and enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 12:29 AM
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Why? Most of my flings are happy remembrances. Honestly thankful to these women for knowing what they wanted and not forcing some half-@ssed relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 10:46 PM
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I have the opposite problem of what I usually have. Too many matches of dating apps. Need to start prioritizing dates so I can find the future Mrs. Fudster. Also matched with this family friend who is way out of my league. Wish me luck folks. Starting to enjoy this dating in my mid 20’s thing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:59 PM
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“You want a good girl…but you need the bad pu$$y.” A lot of men here are deeply in denial about how much they are going to enjoy being with extremely low-N count, inexperienced women. Most men don’t actually want one thing from as many women as possible; only some do. What many of us really want is the experienced of being genuinely desired and treated well by someone we are attracted to and respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 03:58 PM
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In my experience, you flirt with intention and respectfully accept when you get clear signals that she isn’t into you or isn’t comfortable. In the bedroom for the first time, you can escalate slowly and judge their reaction. When in doubt, communicate, but keep your words light and not clinical. You’re always somewhat at risk of crossing boundaries, but if you’re mindful of the other persons words, expressions and body language, the risk that you do something unwanted is reduced
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 03:47 AM
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Fair enough. As a man, I’m kind of used to women playing coy and maintaining plausible deniability. Directness is a rare and refreshing trait. Also, the conversation is going well overall. I’m just amused by the emoji usage.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 06:07 PM
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Sorry, I didn’t realize this was r/asexuals
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 05:58 PM
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That’s probably what’s happening here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 04:42 PM
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Woman I’m chatting with sends a wink emoji with every message. I’m flummoxed. Should I be moving things along faster?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 04:10 PM
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Just lending my perspective on men. Look, I have no doubt that some men are attracted to fat women and loudly protest to the contrary. With those guys, maybe they are defensive because their desires are socially unconventional and they need to defend their ego by being derisive towards the type of woman they deeply desire. Maybe there’s an element of shame too, like this isn’t what men should want or what society says reflects men’s status (skinny Stacy on his arm). I also think there’s the seco…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 02:43 AM
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Hmm. I have a couple of thoughts about this. I’ve never made fun of women for their weight, because that just feels like a mean thing to do. I’ve had my own struggles with weight and I know that can really undermine ones confidence. At the same time, I don’t have and I don’t think most men have some secret desire to date people who are significantly overweight. When men say they like curvy women, they are imagining a woman that has fat in all the right places. Personally, in the UMC culture I’m …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 02:25 AM
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The only 3 people I know who made it out of college as virgins: had severe OCD/anxiety, were autistic, or were very religious. As a man on Reddit, I have several of these traits. Fortunately, I am very tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 04:50 AM
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808s & Heartbreak was an underrated album
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 04:18 AM
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Neither of my parents ever offered me much in the way of platitudes. My mom is the definition of an alpha female. She never hesitated to tell us that you have to work hard to get what you want and that often involves manipulating other people. My Dad is a very empathetic guy, but when I was growing up, he always opined about the nature of women and the need to be careful in one’s affections.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 06:37 PM
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Yes, but also depends on the gender ratio of the city (in my case, lopsided)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 10:18 PM
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Sounds like city life wouldn’t suit your nature
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 10:04 PM
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Nice, hope you find your new surroundings well
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 09:54 PM
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Thinking of moving to the big city so I can meet a nice girl before I hit the wall. Thinking of about whether my last two girlfriends reflect a latent Madonna/Whore complex. Thinking of you anon and hoping you are having a good week..
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 09:39 PM
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I’m a fan. The women on this sub have interesting personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 11:40 PM
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Yep, it’s certainly not helping
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:47 AM
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Opposite problem. Maybe I’m dating the wrong women, but often they aren’t comfortable receiving. Which is sad, because that is one of the most enjoyable things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:35 AM
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I can relate to that, especially when younger. I was deathly afraid of talking to women I liked through most of high school. Learning how to socialize was a long and winding road. I feel lucky to have the success I’ve had with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 03:38 PM
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What if you have Aspergers, but are tall? Saved by the bell I guess...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 03:32 AM
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1) indirect communication as opposed to direct approach. The older I get the less I mind feeling each other out and subtle flirtation 2) boundaries surrounding sleeping together. It can be more fun when you are building up to intimacy. I wouldn’t fault a woman for waiting and going at her own pace. 18 year old me would be pawing at her panties but now I’m curious if there’s something more.. 3) Desiring a man with status, wealth, accomplishments, magnum dong, good taste in fashion, etc... There’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 04:47 AM
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A) I don’t think it’s ever justified if one’s partner is faithful and committed to their monogamous relationship. B) Some people are just disloyal and impulsive. Some people are very unhappy in their current relationship. A former roommate of mine had a very paranoid gf and his profession was very social. Sure enough, he ended up cheating on her with a more compatible woman. I think opportunity is another factor that can lead to cheating, if people are away from their partner, ie gone to college…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 11:41 PM
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That’s true. But thinking about where you might be in 5 years makes these jobs somewhat bearable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 07:54 PM
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I’m tall
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 12:12 AM
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You miss all the shots you don’t take. And you will always miss some of the shots you do take.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 05:54 AM
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That’s definitely the rub. The hourglass of time is always running down. I have a tendency to be critical of myself for failed relationships, but a lot them hit their expiration date. I struggled to deal with emotionally what my pragmatic side was already telling me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 08:52 AM
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Yeah it is dangerous because we treat each other well, but the differences in preferences and culture keep me up at night. It’s the most smoothly functioning relationship I’ve been in, but not nearly the most compatible if I’m brutally honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 08:41 AM
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Q for All: In your opinion, how important is congruency in overall life goals to a successful LTR? At what point would you leave an otherwise successful relationship if you felt there were disagreements about things like where to live and whether to have kids. I like this girl, but I don’t see us ever marrying.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/20 10:55 PM
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I agree with this and sympathize in the sense that the grass is always thought to be greener on the other side. As a dude, I can’t imagine the body standards you confront, the amount of time y’all put into looking good, and biological things like periods and pregnancy (and fear of that). That being said, you have an easier life on the narrow subject of pursuing sex, which is an outsized concern of incelgang and really most young men. Being a person is tough at times. Don’t be too hard on yoursel…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 07:01 AM
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As a fellow anxious person, I can understand why this complex first date scenario would be a bad time. I used to have a lot of anxiety about meeting new people, which has thankfully lessened a lot over time. Unfortunately, being anxious often makes my stomach upset so this is another reason why I avoid dinner dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 06:47 AM
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There’s a lot of economy of words in this post. 10/10 for brevity
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 09:12 PM
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Also, dinner is expensive, coffee is cheap and Netflix is free
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 09:11 PM
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I think it’s pretty normal to eat at the campus cafeteria with someone you are or might be into. I would often try to get girls a bit off campus though for coffee or something. A big reason is that I wanted to get to know them one on one without the risk of my or her entire friend group deciding to join us. I don’t understand why people want really elaborate first dates though. What if someone or both people want to bail?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/20 09:07 PM
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So recently I found out that my SO wants to eventually move to Texas (halfway across the country). Don’t really know how serious she is, but it might put a shot clock on our relationship. It’s the most stable relationship I’ve ever had, but I wonder about long term compatibility issues, especially kids. Anyone have advice here from prior life experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 11:02 PM
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No, not really. I often acknowledge that someone is attractive by societal standards, while not really feeling them. By contrast, there are women that I see and I’m just like “ok, she can totally get it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 09:02 PM
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I think another angle that drives division is rampant consumer capitalism. We all want more, more, more. This is bad for women because their entry into the workforce made it harder for men to provide economically at a level that impresses them. This is bad for men because, let’s face it, few of us are going to get to date Bella Hadid. So there’s a greed angle in which both men and women ride the carousel, hoping for better each spin, yet many are left alone and miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:21 PM
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I know I’m going to get hate for this, but I honestly think identity politics combined with social media have played huge roles in fueling the divide between men and women. First of all, Ipol encourages us to see people less as individuals with complex identities and more as members of discrete groups. Women are encouraged to see themselves as oppressed compared to men, even though it’s the greatest period of personal freedom and achievement for women in human history. Men notice a changing worl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 09:13 PM
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Just grunt at her animalistically and the panties come sliding right off...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:33 PM
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I mean hey, the majority paid or offered to pay. Your mistake is refusing to invest effort in dating, even if you resent having to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:27 PM
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The thing is that behaving this way makes you seem cheap and boring. People like to go out and do interesting things. Whether she’s waiting for marriage or has a rotation going, she will appreciate that you put in a modicum of effort. Even girls I wasn’t super serious with appreciated the occasional date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 08:03 PM
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Why isn’t women offensive to women? It has men in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/20 12:37 AM
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Female strangers: only a few times. The first time I was hilariously nervous because a college girl was hitting on me senior year of high school. Male strangers: even rarer. Female friends: occasionally. Fifty/fifty they want the D Male friends: never. Compliments are based on skills, attributes, actions Women you’re sleeping with/dating: depends on if she’s in a good mood
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/20 12:21 AM
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I too have noticed that products with lots of reviews garner more purchases...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 05:56 AM
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I hear you about talking to the person about their views, but in my experience my expectations about what women would be like in bed have often been completely confounded by the actual experience of sleeping with them. People in this sub often have very stereotyped ideas about what women are like in bed based on superficial characteristics about their identity. To invert a saying, some girls are freaks in the streets and ladies in the sheets. Some women can talk to you about Dostoevsky and then …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 12:27 AM
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I would also encourage you to examine your values and if they are more important than putting your dating goals at risk. In my personal experience, few people deeply prioritize abstinence without also possessing hangups about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 12:06 AM
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Yes, but the bar for compatibility would be far higher. In my mind, getting married without any sort of sexual intimacy is a huge risk because you can only guess at whether your sexualities match up. What if the woman is a total prude or the guy is awful and inattentive in bed? A couple would have less information on these things and the potential for negative surprises is consequently higher. On a different note, from a game theory perspective I can get laid without commitment, so why would I r…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 12:01 AM
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I’ve had some great friendships with women, but they work out the best when there isn’t attraction on either side but we enjoy each other’s personality/interests. I also have a rather tumultuous close friendship with a woman who is persistently interested in me. Let’s be real, the friendzone sucks for both genders and it’s disingenuous for both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/20 05:52 PM
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Ding ding ding. Elliott was above average looking but a fvcking weirdo. I’ve watched some of his videos out of curiosity and five minutes of talking to this guy would make any woman drier than the Sahara. He was vain, insecure, and his mental perception of the world was that of an alien trying to understand human relationships. At one point in a video, Elliott goes off about a couple he sees frolicking on a beach. He doesn’t know these people, how they were raised, how they met, and yet has alre…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 04:55 AM
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I used to think about this a lot. But honestly the waiting time has varied a lot from mere hours to several months. It doesn’t feel super meaningful to me as an indicator. I don’t pursue too much because the early part of courtship frustrates me but if the interest/chemistry is there then I bed women quickly. To answer your questions: 1) If you express your desire to take things slow, through words and actions, that tends to filter out guys that want to hit and quit it. But some guys may play al…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 03:10 AM
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The shivering truth is that if porn is more interesting than sex in relationship, you have bigger problems as a couple. Another scary truth is that most people will still be attracted to other people even when in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/20 10:11 PM
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1) I’m tall 2) I eat pussy 3) I have lots of good boy points
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/20 07:39 PM
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Yeah, if you act like a doofus, the womenfolk will eschew your dick and take their bomb a$$ pu$$y to men who treat them appropriately like the Real Dolls that they truly are. Don’t try to build rapport because that’s something a simp would do. If you compliment a women, she will entrap you as a beta genie that owes her three wishes. When you see a woman you’d like to mate with, stare her down aggressively saying nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 08:27 PM
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The approach I would recommend is many dates and outings with a person. You can assess compatibility with the guy and build rapport, which takes some of the emphasis off of sex and signals that you are a relationship kind of girl. The guys that just want sex will scurry off quickly, leaving people who like you as a person and want to have sex with you, but also would be open to a relationship with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 05:07 PM
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I mean yeah, pills alone won’t be enough. I think a holistic approach is needed for incels to make big lifecycle changes: things like reading, exercising, asking other people if your mental models make sense. These things are beyond the scope of the subreddit but are achievable by those motivated to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 07:18 PM
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I agree with this. I know plenty of women that are good at understanding people, but there are aspects of being a man (or failing at that) that a dude might analyze better. Incellery is an interesting social phenomenon and I’ve noticed some definite themes in the personality and behaviors of the few incels I know irl. I think loneliness and poor emotional regulation are a definite part of many incel and nonincels approach to male dating strategy. As such, I think these things bear discussing as …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 07:14 PM
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I feel male loneliness is a legitimate subject on a pill subreddit. If men had better social support networks and mental heath resources, we would have less of an incel epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/20 02:53 PM
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Modern men are simps
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 02:51 PM
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I would suggest vetting the person to assess their personality and attitudes. You are never going to be sure exactly how much casual sex a guy has had, but if he goes to the trouble to invest in getting to know you and building rapport, you may have a good candidate. One of my best friends got around a lot in college. Girls were flavor of the month until he went on semester abroad and met a sarcastic, confident foreign girl. They are going on 5 years now. Maybe the sweet spot is someone who coul…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 01:18 PM
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I think this is a deceptively hard question to answer. The easiest tell is that a high N man often will often push hard for sex very quickly and like they’ve been there before. Back in college, our friend group did well with the ladies, but one dude would literally maintain a calendar of girls he was pursuing and the type of investment he thought it would take to get them into bed. He was very clinical about it and it often worked. I don’t think too many of the girls were fooled though. He had t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/20 01:10 PM
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I think you are definitely right that aging and life experiences change what people want. Most women are going to want more security and many men don’t want to be perpetual bachelors either. I also don’t disagree about women’s desires being a huge driver of casual sex culture. But where I’d perhaps disagree is the proportion that follow the AF/BB dichotomy. I’ve met a good number of Some women. Some find hyper romantic relationships too demanding and a distraction from career or personal goals. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 09:12 PM
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@mimoxs Some women. Some find hyper romantic relationships too demanding and a distraction from career or personal goals. Other women claim they want “to death till us part” but do everything humanly possible to avoid the kinds of men and dating situations that would lead to it. Others make no claim to wanting anything besides some d*ck. My point is that peoples attachment types, neuroses, preferences, etc are varied. You for instance place a heavy commitment on fidelity and don’t really underst…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 09:00 PM
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I think neither gender is perfect at calling out cheating. People justify it in themselves or people they know for a variety of reasons. Most recently, my roommates ex was super paranoid and clingy. He is a very social guy and is entering a profession where networking drinkathons are important. Sure enough, I watch as ex demands to know where roommate is more and more. Eventually, he assumes they are on a break based on some comments and fucks a girl that had been playing the waiting game on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 08:14 PM
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I didn’t really understand fucking someone and not having it mean something until I met my second girlfriend and had a bunch of talks about it.She is a bit of an oddity compared to most women I have met on that point, but ever since then I kind of gravitated towards a more Greek understanding of love. In our culture, love and sex are very much assumed to be attached. I think that’s why some people feel casual sex is so icky. But the concept of one man, one woman, no affairs, to death till us par…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 07:55 PM
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I agree to an extent. Even if the person claims to love you, their actions betray how much that means to them in practice. But reflecting much of my genders attitude towards sex, I could totally have a romp in the sheets with someone and not have it mean anything versus a relationship that means a lot. I think that your revulsion for male lust driven infidelity as opposed to emotionally driven infidelity reflects a lack of understanding of male desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 07:33 PM
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1) I would never date an SJW but I have met several women who are avowed feminists and total sweethearts also. I would say that they are kind of the exception to the rule and most of the uber feminist women I’ve met I certainly wouldn’t date. 2) Depends. Certainly has been known to happen. 3) Could be high or low for feminists depending on values, worldview and personality. Likely very low for women I regard as SJWs because we just wouldn’t agree on anything and I wouldn’t respect their intellec…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/20 12:13 AM
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I like this comment and relate to it. Honestly, I feel that the consolation prize of being born in the mid 90s is that interesting stuff will probably happen in society by the 30’s. I envision sort of weird generational change that blows turn of the century culture out of the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/19 12:05 AM
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A lot of the women I’ve slept with have been more desiring of casual relationships than me (not sure whether to feel used or flattered or both). I’d say that the most avid playboys/playgirls who have low inhibition and like variety are unlikely to wait 3 months for most people. From the male perspective, I just want to see signs that a woman deeply desires me and understand that people have different timelines on intimacy. There’s a sweet spot of waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/19 12:59 AM
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