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Nice. It might feel like you are repeating things, but if these are still at the forefront of your mind, it's worth being more verbose? Fair point. I’ll condense the fitness stuff. I really enjoy it and the objectivity of it is appealing, but you make a good point. I'm the same, I fucking love it. Could happily share notes about the minutiae of programming, periodisation, martial arts, basically any physical pursuit. It was a sanity check as I used it for a cope for major issues instead of like …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/22 11:49 AM
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This isn't r/Fitness. What are you trying to achieve through MRP/OYS? What are your lessons and challenges other than a bullet point format?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 05:28 PM
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This is a shit-load of bullet points and words. I would focus on what is important and expand on them. Have sex at least 3 times What part of this goal is in your control?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/22 05:21 PM
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Not giving up, just sticking to the plan regardless of how it's working out for me. Having to go over an assault course to get access to my daughter makes it less about quality time and more about an ongoing shit test from a woman I'm no longer interested in. It's better for everyone if I DGAF (or at least give the impression that I DGAF) so that access cannot be weaponised. At least that's my current strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 01:04 PM
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Big believer in affirmations then :D
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 10:08 AM
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True, otherwise I wouldn’t mention it. I’m in a weird position where I want to be outcome independent but still strive for that outcome, which isn’t translating. It shows in my latest interactions with a girl (hence the nice guy behaviours). I think the key is to enjoy the process more, but in the back of my mind the intent of fucking/adding 5lb to the bar/getting dickskin shredded.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/22 09:54 AM
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OYS 21 - Divorcing/separated 11 weeks. 38, 6ft, 200lb, 1100+ total, sidebar. Divorce I have become super aggressive on this front. No more trying to be nice to STBX to make it smoother or hope she has an epiphany and comes around. I just want it moving forward as quickly and fairly as possible. Nothing else matters. She has currently blocked me and is denying access to my daughter, no fucks given - just get it done so I can move on. Location I created a matrix on where I should live to try and d…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 03:59 PM
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More "she's" than the last feminist parade you attended
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/22 11:39 AM
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Weight loss of 22 lbs so far since beginning of August. Not trying, just side effects of the fuck up. Looks mostly fat so far, but I know there's going to be major loss of gains over the next few months. TRT should help some with that, as well as high protein. Timely article from Stronger By Science (Greg Nuckols) yesterday
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/22 12:37 PM
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IME, the respect is gone and only gets worse. 10 Levels of Disrespect this covered my journey down to a tee. Don't try and play a game of divorce chicken - just get your affairs and the paperwork in order. Then when/if the time comes you're ready. I played divorce chicken for too long. Guess what, part of me still hopes she does come around. I started filing early, but it still wasn't early enough. I delayed my own happiness for no reason. You might not learn the lesson until you hit max pain, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 08:33 PM
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My point is just that some dudes seem to keep looking inward, when we all know that action is what changes thinking, not the other way around. The artist formerly known as u/red_koan springs to mind, though he's hopefully swimming in poon by now. It's been like a pendulum so far. I bias towards action, get excited, fuck it up, retreat and introspect/re-gather myself before taking massive action again. As I get better and fix my broken mental models it should be less extreme.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 09:42 AM
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Are you in mental and preparation shape regarding the divorce to only pay attention to it once a week until it’s done? I'm doing more than once a week, but the time block is to review if there's more I can do. I had to ask myself what I was afraid of in regards to big divorce actions. A lot of it was just fear of rocking the boat or wanting to be the nice guy because “we can’t effectively co-parent if we don’t get along.” This is definitely something I'll monitor myself for, thanks. Limitations …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 08:59 AM
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Is this from the book(s) or something you came up with? Seems pretty legit and doable. Yeah it's from Way of Man. I'm ex-mil and I liked the way he put it: Men organize the same way. For example, take military units. Army: 80,000 – 200,000 members Corps: 20,000 – 45,000 members Division: 10,000 – 15,000 members Brigade: 3,000 – 5,000 members Regiment: 3,000 – 5,000 members Battalion: 300 – 1,300 members Company: 80 – 225 members Platoon: 26 – 55 members Section/Patrol/Squad: 8 – 13 members Firet…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 11:44 AM
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OYS 19 - Divorcing, 1 kid, separated 8 weeks 38, 6ft, 200lb (-1), 1100+ total, sidebar. Reading Way of Man + Archwinger/Whisper. Happiness/pleasure/joy/contentment/whatever the fuck I no longer give a fuck about what my emotions are telling me to do - STFU is also a good internal tool. My day didn’t go the way I planned or feeling low? STFU, don’t eat ice cream and talk like a bitch, go lift or have a hard sparring session. Branch swing to another woman to fill the void failed? STFU, be internal…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 08:45 AM
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Agree with /u/Alpha_Chupacabra9 that volume should definitely do the job. Also found the deload weeks unneccesary. I did the 5/3/1 reps/sets and then followed up with 5x10@60% for 3-4 months, which gave me the maximal strength work as well as the BBB accessories. I am still progressing steadily with some modifications to allow me to manage fatigue and do BJJ
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/22 11:32 AM
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Felt so disgusted, the final time I went to talk to her, I packed her stuff, gave it and left, and now no contact. Delete her number, photos, any missed calls or artefacts that might help you find her number when you're feeling weak. She doesn't exist any more, you don't even have kids. I'm restarting a previous musical hobby, starting the process on how to ride motorcycles, and taking up trekking/camping. Nice. Lean into this, I left my own pleasure out of the equation for too long. I'm angry, …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 08:25 AM
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I'm doing the beginner template (3 lifting days, two main lifts during workout + accessories like 100 chinups, 100 leg raises, 100 pullups, etc). Do you mean not enough for hypertrophy or for improving strength? I do think it leans more towards strength than hypertrophy/power building as the the stimulus coming from the top AMRAP set and the program has built in back off sessions. Also pure volume will help you get your technique dialled in and beginner gains out of the way. A linear program whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 07:53 AM
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Nice, BBB is the key to getting enough volume so I’d say you’re fine. Enjoy, it’s working really well for me with a balls to the wall AMRAP followed by BBB. Add 10lbs on squat and deadlift, 5 on bench and OHP
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 07:37 PM
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Something in your gut led you here, you put in the effort to search for it and start owning your shit. You may not be able to articulate it yet, and it may get worse before it gets better. Definitely stick with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 02:39 PM
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5-3-1 program Which method are you doing? I think you might benefit more from a linear progressive overload program with more volume
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 10:23 AM
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Then I took 2 weeks off because I kept seeing posts and comments from men who are so obviously miserably that I wasn't even sure if I wanted to stick around. What are you projecting here? Nursing your ego after your rule 9 ban? When I'm uncomfortable physically or mentally, I default to someone else's frame. I have let her emotions control a few conversations and mood over the last 2 weeks. Ah there you go. The misery you see in other people's OYS is actually your own.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 10:08 AM
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Lifting stuff What accessories are you doing? Unless you are doing 5/3/1 + BBB I don't think it is enough volume for you at your levels and trying to bulk
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 09:25 AM
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I personally value LISS over HIIT so I can save my energy for weights and other fun stuff. Cardio also seems to make me hungrier. Just watch your fatigue levels and how it affects adherence when it comes to your cheat meal (was it a cheat "meal" or a cheat "day"?) To Cheat Or Not To Cheat
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 09:13 PM
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Pretty annoyed at the lack of shift in my weight but I need to trust the process. I do feel better in my body even if the scales don’t reflect it yet. I haven’t been eating enough protein in part because I’m trying to keep fat low but I do feel weaker at times and cranky. How are you measuring your weight? You want to be watching your weekly average, taken at the same time (morning after a piss) every day. Don't try to snapshot the lowest weight you see on the scales for that week. Too many fact…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 09:02 PM
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Now just act as if you're actually RP - validation ain't free. Abundance will magically make most of my problems and subtle desperate sub-communications go away. Dinner dates are for chumps. This was just a bitch looking for free food and validation. You were right to drop her. Nice one. I tried to logically navigate my way around it, but my gut was screaming "don't fucking bother." Who the fuck videochats(?!) anyway. It worked quite well for LinkedIn girl for converting it from indirect to dire…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 08:53 PM
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Happiness doesn’t “look” like anything. It’s just feeling good about your situation. Make sure not to aim for contentment because that breeds laziness. In fact, i don’t think I want “happiness” if it requires being content because then I wouldn’t be moving forward. Journey > destination. I want challenge, progress, fulfillment, and being content undermines that. You're right, I haven't found the word/labels for this stuff - but it doesn't matter. Action to improve my situation until I waste away…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 08:44 PM
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Glad to be part of your wank bank. Your warning shot is a good reminder and what I want to avoid, but it's still better than living there.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 08:44 PM
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Same as you, I filed late. But the official paperwork is done, just waiting for legal/childcare agreements between legal reps. I might try and bypass this by going direct to STBX with the right approach now that the emotions have simmered down.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 01:42 PM
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Oops, I thought you had deleted out. I often do this myself. Allow "decisions" to be included in the "things I did" and thus enter OYS. Be careful with it, as it gives that stupid mental thing where it emotionally feels like you are moving, where in the actual real world nothing has changed. Got it, I've borrowed the money though. Just waiting for legal work to be done. Homelessness is next. Inb4 rule 9 here. Fair. I sensed it but didn't have another way to dump it and reflect. When you write "f…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 01:30 PM
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OYS 18 - Divorcing, separated for 7 weeks. 38, 6ft, 201lb, 1100lb+ total. Reading Way of Man, Archwinger/Whisper Divorce I’ve been lying to myself on this, IZ persisted and I have now suffered enough that I finally get it. Even though things are moving, it is not enough and is severely delaying the next stage of my life. My financial predicament has been a tar pit. I’ve ran the numbers and once the divorce is done I will be cash flow positive. So I’ve decided to borrow enough money to make it ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 08:47 AM
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When done, run the numbers and post in next weeks OYS. Or spin your wheels so you can stay in the safe zone of "looking into the future for happiness". Roger. I look forward to seeing how much truth there is to this. I'm sure its fleeting, let's see.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 05:44 PM
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What is the downside in borrowing money to live on your own and get divorce finalized? What's the dollar tag for you? And conversely, how large is the upside in waiting measured in dollars for you? I'll think about this. About the new bitch, if you're anything like the rest of us you'll fuck some stuff up and learn some lessons. I'll be interested to follow the saga. I'm going into it with this in mind, get some of my early mistakes out of the way, then exit. If it stops me pursuing other women,…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 04:29 PM
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Alcohol was the biggest factor, it was my birthday and I had events all weekend. I will re-focus on diet this week. Which problem do you want to fix, alcohol or calories? You can drink strategically - Leangains - Alcohol and fat loss/muscle growth The rules are as follows: For this day, restrict your intake of dietary fat to 0.3 g/kg body weight (or as close to this figure as possible). Limit carbs to 1.5 g/kg body weight. Get all carbs from veggies and the tag-along carbs in some protein source…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 04:09 PM
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These are your goals, bolded is the first, second and third priority. Not much about what you've DONE to achieve that one ASAP in here. So. What have you done? Finances have all been locked in and now we are drafting up agreements. I know her leverage is debt, I am playing the Beta divorce strategy until it stops working in my favour. It is dragging out longer than it should, but I keep running out of money for fees, I've contemplated borrowing money to speed up the process and my bandwidth, but…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 12:21 PM
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OYS 17 Divorcing - 38, 6ft, 202lb, 1100lb+ total. Reading TRM - Positive Masculinity and Whisper. 6 weeks post-seperation and things are calming down mentally and I am able to think straighter. I still have my moments/days, but ONEitis for STBX is fading and divorce is moving along. I have a bad habit of always looking into the future for happiness… But in this case an infinitely more joyful and adventurous life awaits on the other side of the work I’m doing now; getting a new job, losing fat, d…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 09:41 AM
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Careful now. Seems she is plating you. Just keep your emotions in check. Or rather, act in your best interest, not on emotions. Shit. I just realised how much women can teach me about plate theory. My STBX had a bunch of plates, and the new girl has a load of men that hit her up. It doesn't have to be sexual either - just enough to keep the man chasing and hoping for their chance, in case the woman's hypergamy realises there's no better option. I don't know how many times I'm gonna reference TRM…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/22 03:52 PM
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anything further is just some internalized need to look cool to others. And I hate that shit. I have massive ego investment in this. I also prefer exotic women, "look at me, I went outside of the tribe and got THIS." Stupid. There might be some caveman evo-psych/genetic diversity benefit in it though - I fucking hate applying sunscreen. Careful now. Seems she is plating you. Just keep your emotions in check. Or rather, act in your best interest, not on emotions. Nice catch, I am weary of this. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/22 01:09 PM
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This reads like you're a woman, being emotional and reacting to your environment. Acknowledge that you feel like shit, have emotions, then drop the bag of rocks you are carrying and do something about it. When your mind isn't where you want it to be, use your body to control your mind. Go kick the shit out of a punch bag, run up a hill or do more reps than you think you can. I'm projecting, I also over think on the feelz. But the more I get out of my head and do something the more it fixes itsel…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/22 09:44 AM
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I initially found WISNIFG pretty monotonous so moved it to audiobook and have found there's nuggets of gold in amongst it. I didn't think I was going to get through this book but now can see why it's mandatory. Check out Rian Stone's series on WISNIFG/NMMNG on YouTube, good supplemental learning and relatable to MRP
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/22 09:33 AM
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Thanks for your notes. this might be because I am only at seven and/or I have not been fucking hot enough (to me). I also think it's less about volume and more about quality. Though some average women could turn out awesome. I'm not sure how to set up my environment for this, OLD seems to cover volume but I haven't explored Bumble/Hinge or tailored my profile yet. There are no hotties in my gym, BJJ class, office (WFH) or on the golf course. Cold approach/daygame is probably the way (for me)... …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/22 09:10 AM
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Start posting your OYS or go to r/askmrp
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 05:30 PM
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Yep. Even the feelings about the new girl were always about my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 04:22 PM
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Other than lifting and chasing new pussy (before monk mode "activation" anyway)....what other hobbies or endeavors are you doing with your free time? Nice mind reading. I just picked up my BJJ gi and dusted off my golf clubs, just need to free up some finances. Also, don't stop fuckin. Maybe just don't make it a main focus? But if you see a chick and your pecker flinches, go for it. Yeah this is a nice approach instead of all or nothing. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 04:08 PM
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Once I close an important chapter in the proceedings, GFTOW will be a much better option. Cheers.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 12:12 PM
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Still full of shit, but there's a gap in the clouds now and again! Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 12:07 PM
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OYS 16 38, divorcing, 1 kid. Sidebar complete x3. Reading TRM - Positive Masculinity 6ft, 203lb. DL 470, Squat 375, Bench 260, OHP 170 Physical 5/3/1 is back on track after a few poor sessions - recovery is a mess due to sleep and training 7d/w to keep my head straight. I might switch the BBB accessories up to do them on alternate days instead of 8 working sets per session - I start failing on the 5x10@60% OHP. Hit a 470 single DL after my normal session to get on the leaderboard at my gym, plac…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/22 08:36 AM
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Your story sounds familiar. Keen to see how it progresses after your R9. I'm curious: Is there any sign of respect in your marriage? I saw you DNA tested your kids. Have you investigated that feeling in your gut that she's looking for a branch swing? I'm projecting, but there might be some major details missing here, or they're yet to come.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 08:57 PM
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No porn for 4 weeks. Masturbate 1-2x a week (down from daily). No sex for ~10 days (+/-). I haven't been initiating because I'm not very attracted to my wife right now. I realized I was initiating out of a combination of habit and/or validation seeking You're jerking it but not even trying to fuck your wife? Seems like a cope, using "validation seeking" and "lack of attraction" as an excuse. I was still initiating with my wife who was actively seeking a branch swing, yours just got a bit fat and…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 08:11 PM
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So you’re expecting to have this be smooth and free of conflict? That sounds Nice… First option yeah. I am not getting comfortable, but the nice guy / beta (sidebar) approach has worked well so far. I'll watch out for signs of your experience. I am preparing for scorched earth from her, not me. I just want to GTFO as fairly as possible. It took me way too long to find out that my wife’s Achilles heel is debt. Nice. I am in the same situation then, the more I incentivise financial convenience the…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 11:48 AM
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Where I am, if we can reach an agreement on finances and childcare it doesn't go to court. If it does, it gets expensive as fuck for both sides. My biggest concern is the huge differential in our salaries, child maintenance is based on my salary if she's the main carer. Best case: house equity goes more in her favour and I protect my pensions for a clean break, child maintenance is based on my salary. Worst case: it gets dragged out in court and the fees zero both of us out. Shit deal for both, …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/22 06:57 AM
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Thanks for the reminder. I'll push harder on this than I think I need to.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 12:40 PM
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A deficit makes me more emotional and bitchy once I get under 14%ish (Navy/Strongur.io method). If you're less affected go for it of course. Great point, I keep forgetting this then wondering why the knobs seem turned up slightly on being an emotional bitch when I'm cutting. I'll adjust if I sense that I am becoming a ticking time bomb. Part of me loves the challenge because more growth comes from it. Come out of the other side shredded, dial back up the calories, get the divorce and house sorte…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 12:32 PM
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OYS 15 38, divorcing after 9y, 1 kid. Sidebar complete, re-reading TRM. 6ft, 204lb. Bench 235 x4, Squat 347.5 x5, DL 395 x5, OHP 167.5 x2 I like to shortcut and achieve things quickly, but still have a lot of shit to process. I’ve slowed everything down. Finances Still couch surfing to keep flexible and costs low during the divorce, but it’s not sustainable or fun long term. I’m creating a budget this week to see what I can do. Physical After 6 iterations of 5/3/1 + BBB, I stalled on bench and O…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/22 08:45 AM
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Thanks. You think it's purely an ego thing, being wrapped up in the identity of being a "good dad" and being there for them? Curious how I can get there other than just time and acceptance - I was a bigger part of her life than I should have been before nuking.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 10:17 AM
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OYS 14 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 235 x4, Squat 335 x5, DL 385 x5, OHP 167.5 x2 Divorcing/3yo daughter. Reading TRM again and TRP side bar. Most of my burning issues were addressed in my last OYS comments. ImpatientZen mapped me out perfectly. This week I’ve taken a step back to re-evaluate my goals, get in a better financial situation and focus on my divorce instead of flying high in the clouds. Game “New pussy messes with your head” - I got caught up on the new girl, perfect mixture of youth, hotne…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/22 09:01 AM
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Mate you've got me mapped out so perfectly it's almost scary: Divorce - ex pretty much followed up your reply with weaponisation of my daughter and attacking finances. I let her get one step ahead of me, now I am taking 3 steps forward. Pussy - I knew it was coming. But experience and then awareness (usually your comment from before it even happens) is the only way I can learn. I’m more like the war horse that needs to be beaten to the bone to learn a lesson than the one that just needs a gentle…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/22 03:29 PM
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Thank you, I will keep all of this in mind moving forward. I have grounded myself from flying high as fuck in the clouds and started doing more than I thought was required.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 05:14 PM
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Thanks man and for sharing your journey. Good to have active post-divorce members stick around
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 03:36 PM
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Trying my best to avoid this. It’s especially tricky when the first good pussy I get seems to tick all the boxes on my shopping list.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 12:47 PM
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Already seeing this, her trying to create a lose/lose situation. It sounds like I have a lot less to lose than you did so I can be a bit more free to give less fucks. Thanks for the perfectly timed reminder to bring myself back down to earth.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/22 12:44 PM
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Fair one. I do get a good buzz from kicking the fuck out of a bag/pads/sparring, but it's fleeting for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 10:54 AM
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I need to learn to love and respect myself in all situations. And what are you doing about it? Train your mind like you train your body. Improve your Inner Voice Meditate daily. I use Sam Harris app.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 09:33 AM
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Thanks man, you've been a big help. Keep your focus on divorcing well for you. Expect and prepare for the worst. This is where your time should go. You will be tempted to dump it into bitches, curb this. Oh shit yeah I still have that divorce thing... rgr
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 09:16 AM
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OYS 13 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 235 x4, Squat 335 x5, DL 385 x5, OHP 167.5 x2 Divorcing/3yo daughter. Reading TRM again and TRP side bar. All of the staples - lifting, sidebar, OYS, being called out on my bullshit, not being a lazy cunt and doing something about it have paid off tenfold. I can sense my blue pill alter-ego popping up with things like shame and guilt about being so selfish - I just STFU and keep moving towards what I want. My life has become so unbelievably good over the last 2 weeks…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/22 08:39 AM
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Fair one. I might simplify then.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 09:55 AM
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OYS 12 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 235 x4, Squat 335 x5, DL 385 x5, OHP 167.5 x2 Divorcing after 9y, 3 y/o daughter. WISNIFG and NMMNG x3. Reading TRM again and TRP sidebar. Divorce 10 days later ONEitis is still lingering - thoughts of my ex-wife fucking someone else, finding someone better, etc. Truth is she is not mine, nor is it even my turn. I’d love to sever all comms and delete her existence, but more growth will come from the challenge of dealing with the fallout of my actions and co-parenting…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 08:54 AM
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I was in London last night and Tinder started lighting up. So the pure volume of the location helps. I will improve my pictures so I can convert more of what is available in my area to matches/meetings.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/22 12:12 PM
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Yeah there must be something that stands out about your pictures if they are low effort, looks or otherwise. Probably some variance in location/country too. I'm in the UK in a semi-rural area. This guide has some good research and points: I repeat the Ultimate Tinder Maxim: IF YOU ARE NOT GETTING MATCHES, YOU HAVE BAD PICTURES. PERIOD. ​ Moral of this story? You really don't have a high bar to clear when it comes to having a top tier Tinder profile. Most guys Tinder profiles suck ass. All you ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 11:34 AM
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I've been at it since your reply on Tuesday and so far only had matches with average girls and 3-5 conversions to number exchange. Two girls flaked on meeting. My profile is truly shocking, low effort but in the sense that I never take pictures so don't have any decent ones, nothing that shows status, that I'm in good shape, etc... A selfie, an old boxing picture and one of me hiking. I've just cycled my pictures to more casual/low effort ones, but I'm gonna get some good ones taken based on the…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 09:41 AM
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Thanks man very helpful. My profile needs work. I'd say I'm a 7 or 8, but my profile makes me look like a 6 when it should be an 8/9.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 08:38 AM
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now I gotcha
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 07:56 PM
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Thanks, found this one from mallardcove looks good. What's TRP EC?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 03:15 PM
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then why not move out and start living life like a bachelor? Immediately. Get a lawyer, like today, and set up a week on week off schedule with your ex. Get your life back dude. I already did. It's going well.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 02:47 PM
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Thanks. Any tips or references for setting up a profile? Only getting cave trolls so far. So far I've got pictures of: my face adventurous things showing I am capable of killing someone I need: Showing I'm in shape but not a bathroom selfie Something 'cute' like with a dog Something with mystery
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 02:32 PM
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Your post smells a bit of you sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. I get it, I've been there, it's what most of us do. But why? You are better than that. Fair point. I have been keeping myself consumed by doing things, but the busier I am the more it catches up on me when I lie in bed. I think it's similar to dealing with the grief of losing my mother a few weeks ago - it's important to be present and invite these emotions as intensely as they come without distraction so I can move on effe…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 02:27 PM
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OYS 11 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 235 x4, Squat 335 x5, DL 385 x5, OHP 167.5 x2 Finished sidebar x2. Divorcing after 9y, 3 y/o daughter. Marriage I was flogging a dead horse. I thought “be more attractive, less unattractive” and kept working on that, but my wife has started messing with other men. It’s game over, no amount of work can fix it. Thanks SBIII and AlphalfaSprout for pointing this out in a way I could not autistically interpret it as a chance to save my marriage. I needed the wake up call.…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 09:26 AM
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Thanks. Not what I wanted to hear, but what I needed to hear.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 03:58 PM
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Not the reply I wanted, but the one I needed. Is your wife fucking other dudes a boundary that you do not accept being crossed in your marriage? If so, why haven't you more forcefully pursued divorce? Divorce is in progress, I took my foot off the gas because my first choice is still to make this work and I still have plenty internal work to do. I don't have any proof that she's fucked anyone. My guess is you are waiting for some "future awesome you" to be so awesome that she crawls back to you,…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 03:37 PM
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I'm being autistic here, what difference does it make if she is or isn't? I can only move towards having the life I want... with or without her.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 02:01 PM
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You're right it's something I shouldn't put up with, but communicating it achieves fuck all. I either leave or continue focusing on myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 10:11 AM
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So is that all this week? Yes. It's been a good week. why do you feel the need to embellish what you did this week to impress some internet random? Do you need me to validate you and tell you you're a good boy? Because I appreciate you reading over my OYS and it helped me reflect and clarify. I'll take the feedback to provide more substance in future. You're a good boy. Well done. Yay!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 09:58 AM
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Thanks. Think this might be more about my shitty style of writing and trying to avoid rule 9. I wanted to keep it short, I'll report on more stuff that confirms that I've learned/changed something: Wife has male friends she talks to on the phone until early in the morning, also disappearing acts. I no longer give a fuck and now sleep 8 hours a day. She sleeps late and doesn't wake up so I end up baby-sitting while trying to work from home. I deal with it. I do my hobbies, go out with friends or …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 09:46 AM
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OYS 10 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 235 x4, Squat 335 x5, DL 385 x5, OHP 167.5 x2 Marriage u/man_in_the_world saw straight through my bullshit last week: STFU already, and stop trying to covertly negotiate the relationship you want with her by playing the relationship chicken game to see who will blink first. Put your wife's shit, and your own resentments and needs, entirely to the side for now. Put your focus and energy instead, for a few months at least, entirely into becoming the person that you wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 09:12 AM
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Nailed it, thank you. I’m on this path now but will give it time.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:04 AM
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I read it back and the exact thing jumped out to me. Thanks for the confirmation sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:57 PM
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Thank you, I think I answered this responding to Blarg. I've made it clear and I've also started going out solo and meeting more women in classes to build social skills/game.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:56 PM
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Thank you. You're on the right path of doing the thing, then sorting the thing (right-left). Let's talk about planning to do the thing (left-right-left). I've only just scratched the surface of left/right hemisphere stuff and how to integrate it, but it's fascinating and 100% something I need. My career and all hobbies are hugely right brain dominant, I get as much out of keeping a training spreadsheet or macro tracking as I do the training/diet. BJJ and boxing are like intense physical chess I …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 03:54 PM
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OYS 9 Married 8y, 3yo daughter 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 225 x5, Squat 330 x4, DL 375 x7, OHP 160 x3 Finished sidebar. Listening to WISNIFG + NMMNG again. Marriage We’ve mutually agreed to proceed with divorce, but neither of us have checked out. I’ve communicated clearly that: I’m still attracted to and like her. She is capable of providing value in my life (but does the opposite). I will have my needs met. She usually responds with her own terms, which are all things I do naturally when I am getti…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:48 AM
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This is a good podcast with him to get you introduced, it has instantly helped me applying the concepts: https://youtu.be/HvSY0dKY7AM
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:43 AM
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Edit: My bad, replied with my OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 09:31 AM
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Thanks, seems good so far.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 08:57 PM
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OYS 8 Married 8y, 3yo daughter 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 230 x 4, Squat 330 x 4, DL 375 x 4, OHP 160 x 3 Finished sidebar. Re-reading NMMNG. This week I lost my mother suddenly. Handling it well thanks to putting in some good work making myself stronger, self-reflection, meditation, etc. Gym has been my therapy and I have been a pillar to everyone in need. I've cried in private. 60 DOD Social - I’ve been connecting with old friends that have had a positive impact and organising meet-ups. However I d…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 08:56 AM
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OYS 7 Married 8y, 3yo daughter. 38, 6ft, 198lb. Bench 230 x 4, Squat 330 x 4, DL 375 x 4, OHP 160 x 3 Finished WISNIFG x2, NMMNG x2, MMSLP, MAP. Reading Bang + Day Bang 60 DOD Career - I stagnated here to focus elsewhere. I’ve reviewed some time wasting activities and added in 1-2 hours a day of studying for new certifications and job prospects. Goal: Move towards getting paid more and for knowledge instead of time, possibly as a freelancer/contractor. Apply for jobs out of my perceived reach. F…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 08:40 AM
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Absolutely, had no idea I was doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 02:41 PM
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Your feedback was all 100% on point, thanks for showing me some of my blind spots. I couldn't catch it live and it seems to spend forever buffering, is there an encoding/upload issue or something with the video?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 09:18 AM
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Shite. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 12:43 PM
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I'd be honoured if you could dissect my life and tell me why I suck.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:18 AM
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OYS 6 38, married 8, 3yo kid. 6ft, 201lb. Bench 225 x 5, Squat 320 x 6, DL 365 x 6, OHP 155 x 5 Finished WISNIFG x2, NMMNG x2, MMSLP, MAP. 60 DOD Health - Back on track after a “diet break” where I basically overcomplicated the shit out it and broke what works for me. I’m better at tracking calories now, at around 1800-2000. Finances - I make good money but my finances have gone to shit lately. I sacrificed too much in an attempt to quickly create financial freedom and fucked myself with the mar…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 11:12 AM
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OYS 5 Married 8y, 3yo daughter. 6ft, 38, 205 lb. Bench 225 x5, Squat 320 x6, DL 365 x6, OHP 155 x4 Finished WISNIFG x2, NMMNG x2, MMSLP, MAP. 60 DOD Health - I went down a path of being super strict on my diet which fucked me up and my weight keeps yo-yoing. Once I mess up I say “fuck it” and drink beer, eat chocolate and stop tracking my calories. Flexible dieting and intermittent fasting works best for me, there is no need to change what works… mental masturbation making things worse as usual.…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 02:39 PM
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Thanks man, this gave me a couple of days of reflecting and accepting that I've put myself in this headspace then snapped out of it. No need to dwell on things outside of my control and make things miserable.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/22 12:35 PM
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Fixed it for you. Good catch and re-frame on my re-frame. At least you realized.Something about the way you write is like a man defeated. You're angry and lashing out because your life isn't what you want it to be. You fail to remember that you are in control of you. Only you.And you can get angry, pissy, throw a tantrum, feel sad or whatever you want. But ultimately you are responsible for your circumstances.You can take that as a statement of hope, or of despair depending on how you frame it. …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 02:36 PM
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OYS 4 Married 8y, 3yo daughter. 6ft, 38, 203lb. Bench 225x5, Squat 320x6, DL 365x6, OHP 155x4 Finished WISNIFG x2, NMMNG x2, MMSLP, MAP. 60 DOD - Hygiene Nail biting. This has been one of my biggest challenges and MAP reds, deeply engrained habit at 38 that isn’t glaring enough to make me stop, but it’s childish and has many negatives such as wearing down teeth, germs, hands looking like shit. It’s been a journey diving into the triggers that cause me to do it; mostly boredom and anxiety. Since …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/22 09:22 AM
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OYS3 Married 8y, 3yo daughter. 6ft, 38, 203 lb. Bench 225 x5, Squat 320 x6, DL 365 x6, OHP 155 x4 Finished WISNIFG x2, NMMNG x2, MMSLP, MAP. 60 DOD - Health I’m not capable of having a cheat meal. It just makes adherence harder. Mike Israetel has a good video on this: https://youtu.be/8YvtEpG7aVs Tracking calories was going really well, I got COVID so in a calorie deficit but I kept my protein as high as possible. First time in a year that I’ve been out of the gym for more than 2 days. Keen to g…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/22 09:20 AM
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Thanks for that, definitely still some conflict in my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/22 10:39 AM
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Thank you. I'll work on the buzzwords and bullshit. I've definitely moved past the covert contracts and am no longer upset about her not upholding her end, but what's next if it's not divorce? I have put it on hold until I can explore this further and make sure it's not just a last minute covert contract to whip her into shape.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 03:23 PM
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OYS 2 Married 8y, 3yo daughter. Finished WISNIFG x2, NMMNG x2, MMSLP, MAP. 6ft, 38, 205 lb. Bench 225 x5, Squat 320 x6, DL 350 x6, OHP 155 x4 General Focusing on my own locus one control and managing my fucks has given me a huge sense of freedom and happiness. I unlock a new layer of DNGAF, stripping away more layers of bullshit that clouds my decision making and mission in life. I sleep much better at night. 60 DOD - Physical Goal is to have a sustainable sixpack by the end of DOD. This will be…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 11:43 AM
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I'm in. Good stimulus to post OYS regularly. Health/Physical - Sustainable health and training. I use the gym to flexible diet aka offset my shitty eating habits. I will be six-packed by the end of DOD - which means tracking my macros from now. Training 3-4x per week instead of 5-6. I used training as an escape/cope from other areas being shitty, so the idea is to use my time wisely and train/eat like an adult instead of a child. Hygiene - stop biting my nails. I have no clue why I still do this…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 09:59 AM
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Thank you. I'll think on this and read the posts a few times.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 03:33 PM
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OYS 1 Married 8y, toddler. 6ft, 38, 196 lb. 3RMs: Bench 235, Squat 325, DL 385, OHP 165 Read WISNIFG x2, NMMNG x2, MMSLP - reading it again, Unchained Man Physical Continue to build strength and physical readiness 5/3/1 (big but boring accessory work) 4x pw Do personal trainer / nutritionist course for a second income stream. Maybe online coaching. Work on posture - shift position, stand/move around more. Learn to nasal breathe for better quality sleep. Started using tape. I use the gym as a buf…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 06:02 AM
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