Fun-Grocery-3643 Archive

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1	Why is it redpill guys tend to have more hookups or more causal sex partners ? Same here. I'm a men's coach and spend significant time un-brainwashing redpill bots, and see exactly the same thing: Doing significantly worse than the average man in every dimension with very few exceptions.	/r/ExRedPill	18/04/26 11:19 PM
2	Brutally Honest Advice (24 M) Hey brother, I'm not fishing for business here, just trying to help out. I have a lot of programs for sale that are great (I'd recommend The Power Switch for your situation), but honestly, I've got a ton of free content on YouTube that would keep you busy for awhile. Bottom Line: You've got to stop telling yourself there's something wrong with you (there isn't, insane sexual urges are normal for a kid your age, masturbation will not make you weak, lol). You have to connect to the depth of your t…	/r/ExRedPill	18/04/26 11:12 PM
2	Brutally Honest Advice (24 M) Men's coach here for over 20 years-- not sure you even need me to chime in because you've already gotten some very solid advice. First and foremost: Relax Beavis! You're 24! You've got a good 25 years of solid fertility for starting a family :) You should not be in hurry to get into a relationship at this stage. The "hurry" in your case is neediness around wanting validation, comfort, security, and a nice safe place to cocoon so that you don't have to do the hard work of growth that the dating w…	/r/ExRedPill	18/04/26 01:50 AM
4	The Biggest Problem with the Red Pill: The Disease of Generalization To answer your question: Booboo got his little heart hurt by a big bad mean girl. Facts: Women get their hearts broken exactly as often as men in relationships. But immature men completely lack the resiliency or emotional tools to manage rejection and they feel a level of humiliation that is too painful for them to manage while remaining within a rational narrative. So they adopt an irrational narrative where women are evil, stupid robots that can't escape their simple and idiotic programming, w…	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/26 12:55 AM
1	Help me not grow resentful This might be too difficult to absorb from where you are now-- or it might be the game changer you need to hear, but if you can get this, it will change your life in profound ways: The problem is not only basing your confidence on your shortcomings, but it's equally problematic to base it on your strengths. This is all just external validation and it assumes you have to perform for your worthiness. This is simply not true. I mean: It is not actually the way the social context (the "matrix" if yo…	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/26 12:41 AM
2	Why is it redpill guys tend to have more hookups or more causal sex partners ? Not sure I totally tracked this, but women much more commonly choose men for mates on non-physical traits. Obviously this varies widely by individuals, but women are far more interested in things like stability, emotional availability, maturity, openness...and passion, ambition, humor, and more... For a one-night-stand they are sorting first for confidence, emotional stability, humor, and signs that he's safe and not an ax-murderer or rape-strangler. One-night-stand is also more of a physical at…	/r/ExRedPill	02/04/26 12:32 AM
2	Help me not grow resentful Hey brother, I think you are framing this wrong and have gotten crap advice from these women. I am a men's coach, have worked with hundreds and hundreds of men directly and thousands through my programs, and I also have worked with a significant number of women. I have done large scale surveys of women on what they sort for in men as well. OF COURSE some women will rule you out because of your height. But that would be true of race, baldness, bad teeth, fat, or a thousand other things. MOST wome…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/26 01:12 AM
4	Why is it redpill guys tend to have more hookups or more causal sex partners ? Yes to what curiious cat said. In my example she changed her mind and decided maybe not to go for sex because this guys was someone she wants to actually get to know first. But of course, and I just can't say this too often, EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT. And also every night is different. And every man she meets is different. So yes, of course she may still decide to have sex that night, but now the stakes are higher and she's going to have to really feel that chemistry is right and the man is emoti…	/r/ExRedPill	24/03/26 10:26 PM
25	Why is it redpill guys tend to have more hookups or more causal sex partners ? Okay, I've been working as a men's coach around relationships for years, and a lot of these answers are spot on, but they are missing a few features. So... yes, if you think women are sub-human and do a zillion approaches just looking for sex, all not not giving a fuck because you don't care what women think... there is some real efficacy to that vs being insecure, putting women on pedestals, and deeply worried about offending someone or missing out on a great woman with every single approach. A…	/r/ExRedPill	19/03/26 03:36 AM
1	Sexual selection This.	/r/ExRedPill	11/03/26 04:59 AM
6	Tried to get away but honestly I’m right back where I started Brother, I hear that you are in pain, confused, trying to sort out truth in a world where truth is a moving target and subjective most of the time. The main difference between Red Pill and Not Red Pill is ACCOUNTABILITY. There are a ton of shitty people out there, both male and female. Misunderstandings in trying to make things work where sex is involved are more common than not. Attraction is mysterious and sometimes goes our way and sometimes not. There are so many variables... Red Pill guys t…	/r/ExRedPill	13/11/25 04:40 AM
3	How much does status and experience matter? I love that some women chimed in so beautifully here. I often hear single women saying that it drives them crazy when men are threatened by their success. This is just a symptom of low self esteem and nothing else. What women (and all humans, really) crave more than anything else is a partner who deeply believes that the value of a human doesn't come down to what they earn or their skills or how well traveled they are. Who wants to fall in love with someone who measures life in that way? Of cour…	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/25 05:27 PM
8	Thoughts from a woman on redpill tactics I think her point was that if the romance doesn't work out, friendship is still a possibility and female friends are wonderful for introducing you to other women :) That said, you are correct, acting like a friend on a date will put you into the friend category. If she's attracted to you, she'll be flirty, and then you'll be flirty, and nobody will be acting like friends anymore. If she's uncertain or shy, you will have to start the flirty stuff. What is seriously taboo at work is expected on a …	/r/ExRedPill	22/10/25 03:36 AM
1	Dating red pill? Edit: I don't mean with this guy necessarily... He may have already gone too far off the rails... and of course I don't mean that crazy men are your fault! But we all arrive in relationship with our own baggage, and it can be quite beautiful when partners can help each other grow.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/25 10:22 PM
1	Dating red pill? It's annoying that you have to hit upvote on reddit when you mean something like "crying emoji" but want to show support. This is staggeringly depressing, and of course nobody can properly conduct the study to know if it's just that there are very few decent, mature men... or if you are somehow attracting the bad ones. So... Instead of guessing at that, let me take a stab in this direction, which may or may not be fruitful, but I have a hunch. Humans are wired with a very powerful, "don't tell m…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/25 10:00 PM
1	Dating red pill? Sorry, yes, I misunderstood. Still... there is room to call attraction, "a delightful and sometimes mischievous gift of biology." You can enjoy desire without always indulging it. Of course every faithful partner in a monogamous relationship has the choice to be guilt-ridden, indulge sneaky feelings, or embrace the spicy allure of beauty in life all around us without it in any way impacting our respect, love, and desire for our partner. In the same way I think attraction can be an enjoyable part…	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/25 09:49 PM
1	Dating red pill? Snow, I'm so grateful for your beautiful, detailed, and intelligently considered reply. It's quite useful for me as someone who finds himself in something of a war against these negative online belief systems that are poisoning relationships. Your first relationship described above-- ach, sounds awful, but also sounds quite prescient of what is happening now in your current relationship. I counsel a LOT of men like your first partner. And I've gotten pretty good at fixing them.... but of course …	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/25 03:59 AM
3	Dating red pill? The wake up call is not to abandon the idea of true love, to call it biological bullshit, but to ask the deep questions of why you end up with insecure men who are jealous of you. "I don't know" can be the context for quitting... but it can also be a profound call into curiosity and growth. After 20 years as a relationship coach, my off-the-cuff thought (and I don't know anything about you so this is truly a shot in the dark, so if it doesn't resonate, apologies) is that you have been dating ins…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/25 10:14 PM
2	Dating red pill? Oh no! My friend, my heart breaks for you. You need to cut this man-child out of your life. I know it's hard when you've invested emotionally, but no good can come from this. I am actually a men's relationship coach, and I often have the conversation with a man who says, "she treats me like garbage, rolls her eyes at everything I say, zero intimacy in bed, has nothing but contempt for me and my ideas, calls me a loser in front of our friends... but I'm in love with her so how do I save my relati…	/r/ExRedPill	06/10/25 10:04 PM
2	Do incels also have that hate for men? So I think it's probably a mistake to think that all incels are the same, have the same emotional motivations, and the same ideas about who is the perpetrator that is making them feel so badly... The Women, The Chads, etc. The biggest consideration here is that the person they hate the most are themseves. Self hatred, or at least self contempt is a fairly common thing for humans, and the degree to which we feel it, take it seriously, ruminate on it, etc., is often the predictor of how badly life…	/r/ExRedPill	05/10/25 01:40 AM
6	One thing that causes their “logic” to fall apart is the fact happy couples exist Agree it's a bad example to use in front of a red pill audience. The whole Chad thing... But the basic premise of the post is 100% sound. Plenty of ecstatic couples out there that make love last a lifetime. I think an important and somewhat generational distinction is that social media and RomComs have created a lot of mythology around love "happening to" you. Happy couples generally understand that True Love is something you "choose to do" with someone that lights you up.	/r/ExRedPill	30/08/25 08:28 PM
2	What main reason why women divorce ? Well of course anyone who files for divorce does so for selfish reasons. And usually these reasons are pretty persuasive because divorce is expensive, destabilizing, and often creates serious concerns around childcare, etc. At the current moment, as we continue to re-think and re-invent romantic partnerships in a world where women work and earn about the same as men, everyone is playing catch up on what sustains a marriage and why we should make that effort. I teach classes and coach men, women,…	/r/ExRedPill	20/08/25 08:49 PM
0	Men we really are doing it to ourselves No brother! Worthiness does not come from genetics and most certainly NOT from anyone else's opinion of you! I can hear that you have had a hard path in this life-- but that is what makes your greatness. You are the hero and protagonist of your Universe. Philosopher's have grappled with the truth of the fact that in the entire universe the only thing you can be certain of is your own consciousness. Everyone else might be simulations, but you know your own awareness, and it began with your first …	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/25 11:26 PM
6	Men we really are doing it to ourselves Brother, this is a great observation-- but allow me to challenge some of the foundations and see if this resonates... For quick background, I've been coaching men, women, and couples for 20 years and have seen this morph and evolve over a long period of time and have helped a lot of couples (and single men) find happiness and fulfillment with their lives and relationships. So here's the 2 counterpoints I want you to consider (please read the second before getting angry about the first): There is…	/r/ExRedPill	10/08/25 09:26 PM
1	Once leaned toward Red Pill content—but over time, it only made me resentful and confused. <3	/r/ExRedPill	02/08/25 05:04 AM
2	Once leaned toward Red Pill content—but over time, it only made me resentful and confused. Whew! Glad to hear you were joking-- of course we know that some women are competitive in a way that can be cruel... but in my observation that is somewhat limited to outside social interactions and not so much in 1-1 conversational support. And also, of course, more common among women that are very young.	/r/ExRedPill	01/08/25 04:37 PM
1	Once leaned toward Red Pill content—but over time, it only made me resentful and confused. That's a super interesting comment/opinion. I feel like launching an informal study on it with my readers. When I was younger it certainly seemed the case that women suffered broken hearts far more frequently than men. And if you listen to pop music, well you certainly get that impression from Taylor Swift and Olivia Rodrigo :) Yet measured in the amount of complaining online it feels like perhaps the trend has reversed (if the trend was ever real). What we do know from research is that when men…	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/25 11:59 PM
3	Once leaned toward Red Pill content—but over time, it only made me resentful and confused. Beautifully articulated and I'm sorry that you ran into that toxic dump and that it left you with some ambivalent feelings towards men. The entire RedPill thing is driven by one over-arching and achingly pathetic truth: Little boo-boo had his feeling hurt by a bad, bad person with a vagina. People with vaginas are bad! My eyes pop out of my head when I read this sometimes-- men saying that women are all incapable of loyalty and will lie, cheat, and deceive in every situation in order to extract …	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/25 10:00 PM
0	I have read a good comment on YouTube regarding the so called dating coaches. But one question though Hey brother, the answer to this question is a bit complex and nuanced. I have been a relationship mentor/coach for 18 years for men, women, and couples, and waaaay back around 25 years ago I stumbled into friendships with most of the famous dating coaches who began the entire PUA movement. At the time I was writing in Hollywood, and had produced a reality show, and after "The Game" came out, my production company spent a year or two trying to produce a reality show about the PUAs. I spent a lot …	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/25 09:48 PM
2	Please tell me YouTubers like Casey Zander have it wrong with women…. All of these comments are spot on. And Casey Zander is a sociopathic moron. I remember coming across his videos years ago. He had a very sexy girlfriend who would smile and nod at everything he said, which I get can be persuasive but, you know, that's n=1, AND... he's a very handsome kid with ripped abs, etc. Also, in the sad but true department, sociopaths and individuals with severe personality disorders are often extremely magnetic (both male and female). I think many people know this from un…	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/25 07:17 PM
3	Is it true that the whole “height thing”, especially about men, isn’t really a thing in real life? Or, not as much of a thing as on the internet? I've been working with men in the area of relationships, self esteem, and self efficacy for 18 years, and obviously I get a huge number of questions on this subject from men who are concerned about their height. The most basic analogy that I think you might find helpful is a woman with average or below average breasts feeling like men will only date her if she has larger breasts. Naturally there is some truth here in that some small percentage of men have a strong fetish for boob size and really…	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/25 06:50 PM
2	Is there a non-redpill alternative to Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy"? I love this question. I have been leading workshops and teaching men to find their sense of worthiness without external validation (for example, from your woman's approval) for 18 years. As advice for men goes, I don't find Glover relatively misogynistic. There is some truth to the idea that changing sex roles has created some confusion for men (and women) and a vacuum of good alternatives. I think we can allow that without it saying anything negative about women. I agree with most of the recomm…	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/25 06:35 PM
-2	PsycHacks relationship adivice So... quick disclaimer, I do this for a living and he's my "competition," so I might be biased. That said, I think the comments here are more harsh than my view. Dr. Taraban lives up in Silicon Valley and reflects a lot of that culture. I don't find that he's anti-woman nearly as much as he's simply anti-human emotions. On Myers-Briggs he's super high T(hinker) and probably zeros out as a F(eeler)... and that is probably true of all of his clients as well. His book is kind of like, "Dating with …	/r/ExRedPill	01/09/24 10:26 PM
2	How to stop caring if a girl looks at me or not Hey brother, I've been coaching men in this space for nearly 2 decades, and the first thing I'd recommend is that you just go easy on yourself. We humans find it very easy to find evidence for our wrong-doing and why we're messed up. Relax and accept that all kinds of crazy happens in your head and that you're fine. The truth is that millions of years of biology have sensitized you to the glance of a woman. It's okay to feel something, it's okay if you don't. You can enjoy it, you can ignore it,…	/r/ExRedPill	30/08/24 12:50 AM