| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 100 | My separated wife won't share custody of our son with me. Other than getting a lawyer what else can I do? | Marriage/Children | Fun-Possible7676 | /r/MensRights | 12/04/22 10:39 PM |
| 26 | My STBX has a restraining order against me and she decided she is now living at my apartment. | Fun-Possible7676 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/05/22 11:53 PM | |
| 23 | Would this phrase be a good thing to write on my divorce cake? " I wanted stability, she wanted freedom, After divorce I got both she got none. | Fun-Possible7676 | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 01:58 AM | |
| 9 | Gentlemen, I am losing heart. | Fun-Possible7676 | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/04/23 09:08 PM | |
| 6 | What kind of relationship should I have going forward with the mother of my child? | Fun-Possible7676 | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 01:41 PM | |
| 4 | Any advice for cross state co-parenting plans? | Fun-Possible7676 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/06/22 03:12 AM |
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| 1 | What can a law team tell from internet records?Utah is a no fault divorce state. You could do real cheating and it won't change the outcome of the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/23 05:21 PM |
| 12 | Happy Father’s DayI'm currently camping with my son and my Dad. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/23 01:43 PM |
| 2 | How did you decide to call it quits?Her suicide attempt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/06/23 01:34 PM |
| 1 | All the petty shit I left out of my last rant.This is just fascinating. You had a wife that cared about money and was thrifty. I've never met a woman that actually cared about spending money. You may have lost a 1 in a million person. Is it bad I agree with your ex-wife on a lot of those things? | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/23 01:04 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on divorce settlement?It seems like you are both very well educated and employed. Split the large physical assets 50/50. You keep your work benefits and she keeps hers. You can make a clean cut which is a very good opportunity. If you want to get dirty, You could try getting alimony from her since she will make a lawyer salary but that might be more trouble then it's worth. Do you roughly make the same amount of money? If she makes 2x or more maybe go for alimony. It might help if sue her for fraud since you put her … | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/23 04:18 AM |
| 3 | Would you marry again?Unless your religion demands it, there is no reason to marry | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/06/23 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Gigantic ProblemThat sounds like a her problem and not a you problem. Tell her to pound sand if she thinks your going to file. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/06/23 06:53 AM |
| 1 | Why do the responsible ones end up paying?Be careful with accusations. Gender is not mentioned in the post nor in my comment. Women can be responsible and strong. Men can be responsible and strong. However both can be irresponsible deadbeats. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Advice 2.0"Hey honey, I am unsatisfied and have been for awhile. I feel neglected and that my feelings are being ignored. This is only going to get worse when your dad gets out of the hospital. I feel now is the best time. I don't want to be married anymore and I want a divorce." | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 01:32 PM |
| 12 | Gigantic ProblemFirst she already has smeared you whether you know it or not. That is standard for separated couples. There is nothing you can do about it so there is no point worrying about it. Every divorced person blames the other person. Women holding grudges, sounds about right. I can see why you don't want to pay 10k and it makes logical sense (rare for divorcing women) that she doesn't want to pay either. I don't understand what a divorce will do for you. What do you gain from the divorce? You already ha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 12:40 PM |
| -2 | Why do the responsible ones end up paying?For the same reason the strong must protect the weak | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 02:41 AM |
| 0 | Ex refused to clothe or put shoes on kids on exchange todayCall CPS as well. Shit behavior is a sign of shitter behavior. She is likely abusing them in other ways to get back at you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/23 12:35 PM |
| 3 | She’s moving onHave you tried the new Legend of Zelda game? Find things that fill your time. I have the same thoughts too but only when I sit down alone in a quiet area/time with nothing to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Beginning the divorce process and hurtingFree consultations and free healthcare! If only they offered free flights to Canada. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 01:44 PM |
| 2 | Beginning the divorce process and hurtingConsultations are not free. Good lawyers will always charge. (May not be true everywhere, I'm in California) | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/23 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Abolish the matriarchyWhat would we replace it with though? And if we replaced it how would we know if it actually changed anything? Patriarchy and Matriarchy are just symbolic personifications, they aren't actually clubs or organization | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/23 01:42 AM |
| 2 | My STBXW wants me to fill in the information on her lawyer intake/consult form?Proper channels is your lawyer to her lawyer and her lawyer to your lawyer. Don't discuss the divorce with her or her lawyer, just your lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 03:42 PM |
| 1 | Bipolar wife said would either kill me or our daughter...Yes a restraining order would be the proper action. A TRO covers both you and any family members listed. California is very even keeled when it comes to genders in a divorce. You can file a TRO yourself without a lawyer. But you need a lawyer for the divorce. You have plenty of evidence to get the TRO (temporary) changed into a RO. Don't waste time with the DNA test. People lie especially when they are trying to piss you off. Also your wife sounds crazy, don't listen to crazy people. If it won't… | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 12:39 PM |
| 3 | My STBXW wants me to fill in the information on her lawyer intake/consult form?Don't fill out that form. Get a lawyer and have it go through proper channels. Don't give a verbal no. Drag your feet, lie about completing it, lose it, ask for another paper. You can keep that going for months with how slow lawyers work. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/05/23 12:10 PM |
| 1 | Need help with partner DMsTherapy rarely works and when it does it is only individual therapy and only when the participant initiates it and actively chooses to follow thru. (Therapy did help me with my depression and divorce) Couples therapy does not work. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/05/23 04:14 PM |
| 2 | I'm losing the only family I have. I can't afford therapy and don't have anyone, while she has a great family to support her. Honestly, thinking of ending it.https://youtube.com/shorts/asq3DVczAvA?feature=share | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/23 04:03 AM |
| 12 | Need helpThis isn't the right place to ask. You're not a man and your not divorced or divorcing. However, since you asked for advice, Don't wait. That is a super lame excuse. If he wanted the relationship to happen he would find a way to make it work. If he respected you he wouldn't ask you to put your life on hold. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/23 03:00 AM |
| 6 | Will Divorce Damage Our Kids?Stop thinking like that. Women never take responsibility so you shouldn't either. Savings mean nothing in a divorce. If she needs insurance she needs to find a way to get it. She is an adult. My wife quit her job and made our family lose medical and dental. I couldn't take my child in for his 18 month checkup until he was 20 months old. She left me in the lurch to fully cover rent ( still stuck in a lease) which was more than half my income. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 01:21 PM |
| 7 | Will Divorce Damage Our Kids?Your kids are young enough to not fully take the damage of divorce. Divorce now before they get older. Quit your job. If she is the main bread winner you need to make her the sole bread winner. That way during divorce you get the kids for the majority of the time. She will get shafted like most men in court. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/23 01:10 PM |
| 1 | My soon to be ex subpoenaed all my bank accounts months ago but I am getting a new job. I want to setup a new bank but I’m not trying to get in trouble with the courts. Can I setup a new account?There is no benefit to hiding assets during discovery. Especially something as easy to find as a bank account. Yes some divorces are adversarial however its a game of chess not a bar brawl. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 07:43 PM |
| 1 | Would this phrase be a good thing to write on my divorce cake? " I wanted stability, she wanted freedom, After divorce I got both she got none.That got an audible laugh out of me | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Would this phrase be a good thing to write on my divorce cake? " I wanted stability, she wanted freedom, After divorce I got both she got none.my 2nd idea This Page Intentionally Left Blank symbolizes how my future is a blank slate free from obstructions or past actions. Or do you think most people won't see that symbolism? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Would this phrase be a good thing to write on my divorce cake? " I wanted stability, she wanted freedom, After divorce I got both she got none.That is good. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 02:49 PM |
| 3 | Would this phrase be a good thing to write on my divorce cake? " I wanted stability, she wanted freedom, After divorce I got both she got none.My wife is hilarious. She blames me for filing. Months earlier I came home to an empty apartment and had to get lawyers just to see my son. When I lawyered up she filed a TRO to interrupt the child custody hearing. But yes apparently it was 100% my choice to divorce her according to her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Would this phrase be a good thing to write on my divorce cake? " I wanted stability, she wanted freedom, After divorce I got both she got none.Wow that is powerful. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 05:41 AM |
| 2 | Would this phrase be a good thing to write on my divorce cake? " I wanted stability, she wanted freedom, After divorce I got both she got none.Thank you for your feedback. If it's blank though, it will just be a normal cake. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 03:13 AM |
| 6 | My soon to be ex subpoenaed all my bank accounts months ago but I am getting a new job. I want to setup a new bank but I’m not trying to get in trouble with the courts. Can I setup a new account?I figure if you don't hide it it can't count against you. Just let her lawyer know you got a new bank account. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Is my frustration with my Ex-wife reasonable?Claiming mental health problems is probably the most common form of manipulation and abuse. Taking shots back is more helpful for the kids. Accountability is an important lesson for kids to learn, forgiving abuse is not. Therapy can only help the willing and nobody else. This is why marriage counseling never works, it requires two willing people. Yes he can do anything for his kids because they aren't abusers. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/23 01:43 PM |
| 9 | Is my frustration with my Ex-wife reasonable?Frustration is reasonable but not helpful. Anytime she trys to blame you for the divorce just say cheater, nothing else, and ignore her. She will probably never take full credit again for the divorce. Her suicide attempt might be the only time she acknowledges her actions caused the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/23 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Kinda lostYou have two choices and you need to make the decision. It's obvious how things currently are they have to change. You can leave her and start new with somebody else (your hesitant because of the child) or invest in yourself and the marriage. If you want to invest read "No more Mr. Nice guy". The audio book is available on YouTube. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/23 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Is it just me or is my STBX delusional?I wouldn't say delusional but she doesn't understand the value of money, like most women. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/23 01:05 PM |
| 2 | child support- acceptance post divorceIt's very easy. Set up extra beds in your room if they are being kept overnight and then spend most of the free time during the day out and about like at the park or library. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/23 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Working and childcareYou are not a chump for letting your kids spend time with their Mom. You are a good man. There is more risk involved but as a military man know that doing the right thing often carries alot of risks | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/23 07:34 PM |
| 3 | Working and childcareIf you are a stay at home, how come you aren't racking in the money with alimony and child support? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/23 09:56 AM |
| 2 | Hello everyone. First of all, I can’t express how thankful I am to everyone here for their posts & advice. I need some now. I have filed for divorce. I plan to take my 3 children out of state on a beach trip for 4 days. Can I get in trouble for this? Or can she prevent me from this? Thank you!Have you had the first hearing? If the court hasn't said you can't leave you should be fine. Just make sure you do return in 4 days and make sure your wife knows ahead of time. I imagine at this point both of you still have full custody so you can take them anywhere you want without thier other parents permission or approval. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/23 12:52 AM |
| 3 | needing adviceThat is thinking logically like a man. Woman often make decisions and take action that are not in their own self interest, especially during a divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/23 01:08 PM |
| 2 | needing adviceLet the lawyer notify her of the divorce. You don't want to give her notice before the divorce is filed. She will just file a false TRO and get you kicked from the house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/23 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Any father here got sole legal or physical custody?Yes. She committed suicide (unsuccessful) and spent a week in an inpatient center. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/23 06:56 PM |
| 3 | What music did you listen to during your divorce?These three mostly. Tragic: https://youtu.be/2vZfkbaNWGs Komm susser tod: https://youtu.be/oIscL-Bjsq4 Abide with me: https://youtu.be/mClf1cpfajg | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/23 11:58 PM |
| 0 | Dating after divorce (rant)It's not childish to ghost. It's the mature and proper thing to do. Creating drama, conflict, and confrontation when it is not needed is childish. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/23 08:16 PM |
| 2 | Dating after divorce (rant)Ghosting is proper etiquette and it's polite. Explaining to you or confronting on why they never want to see you again is not. Making up a lie is not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/03/23 06:44 AM |
| 8 | Big expenses during divorce processDoesn't matter, cancel all cards. Close the bank account and give her half. Keep receipts and documents of all of these actions. Any money she takes, the judge won't make her give it back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/23 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Second try at divorceI want at least a small wall of text to explain this, preferably a large wall of text. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/23 02:17 AM |
| 9 | Considering Divorce: 2 kids under 4"Wife and I have no physical or verbal conflict " the grass isn't always greener on the other and you are standing on a fricking golf course. Any future woman will also lose her beauty (using broad assumption of western definition of beauty). | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/23 02:07 AM |
| 6 | Ex's car broke down, can't make exchangesIf your car broke down and you were trying to get a new one would you like it if your spouse withheld your child? We must rise above women's pettyness. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/23 06:05 AM |
| 5 | Men who initiated the divorce and datingI've always wondered is it 1 year after separation, or filing, being served papers, or completion? I filed divorce back in September and I'm still not done with hearings and it's almost April. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 05:45 AM |
| 2 | My wife let me know she feels like she is no longer in love with me.Yes that is the author. It seems like you just need to sit down with her ( with a neutral friend/family member as arbitrator) and have a discussion on whether the next steps are divorce and if not the time table for improvements (both sides, if she says you have to do all the improving that is deciding divorce) and reevaluation | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 05:15 AM |
| 3 | My wife let me know she feels like she is no longer in love with me.You are not a failure. It is not your job to force an emotion on your wife. It is her job to maintain a feeling of love towards you. Your job is to maintain your love towards her. If you still love her you are not a failure. I never wore a "wedding" ring the whole time I was married. They get in the way, thier dangerous and there is a chance to loose them. I always wore a safety ring made out of silicone. This could be an option for your wife if things work out Don't trust a lawyer with a free c… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 01:39 AM |
| 6 | As a woman who finds herself dating a lot of divorced men, what should I ask to gauge if he is in a healthy place mentally for dating post divorce? What should I watch out for?if he starts to rant and rave you know he hasn't healed | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/23 12:37 AM |
| 7 | TROHow much money are you paying that lawyer just to ignore or second guess them? File the TRO, they know what they are doing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/03/23 12:21 AM |
| 1 | I quit my federal job from two states away to be closer to my son. Now my soon to be Ex is mad at me. Did I make the right choice?If your ex is like my ex, she will be pissed off no matter what you do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/23 03:11 AM |
| 1 | (UK): Advice on initiating divorce and etiquette.I can't share from my own experience. My mother in law was pushing for us to separate and my father in law wouldn't approach the subject with a 39 and a half foot pole. But I can give advice on some fundamentals. First thank them for their efforts since they come from a place of care and love. Second explain to them that the marriage can't be fixed. Fixing a marriage is a metaphor/personification, not a literal statement. The marriage isn't broken, it is what it is. I would use a car metaphor ex… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/23 01:48 AM |
| 1 | (UK): Advice on initiating divorce and etiquette.Don't tell your spouse you want a divorce. Just talk to your lawyer about it. Let the lawyer notify her. If you share a house be prepared to never engage in any conversation about it after she is notified. She will ask why, don't respond. There is no way to have a civil discussion on divorce outside of a courtroom. If you are willing to be patient and manipulative, get her to get a job and work there a few months. If she does, you won't have to pay as much alimony. If she doesn't and leaves you … | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/23 02:57 PM |
| 4 | Working it out or divorcing? Is it worth trying or just to simply let go?I agree with all of the above. I would just change 2) to say "when a spouse suggests...". | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/23 09:22 PM |
| -2 | Women now a days are incapable of making logical, reasonable decisions. I’m at the point where I’m starting to believe someone somewhere has taken advantage of them and is leading them down a path of ruin. I don’t see nor know what this path benefits but it is utter ruin for them.All explanations for why someone does what they do are abstractions. People's reasoning is not measurable or quantifiable. You can't see their thought process from their point of view. Logic itself is an abstraction. Logic isn't some primal force that justifies action or prove reasoning. It's not tangible or seeable. Claiming something is or isnt logical is the same as claiming it is or isn't satanic, Unprovable from an absolute point of view. "Abstractions only serve to confuse and muddle reali… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/23 02:19 PM |
| -9 | Women now a days are incapable of making logical, reasonable decisions. I’m at the point where I’m starting to believe someone somewhere has taken advantage of them and is leading them down a path of ruin. I don’t see nor know what this path benefits but it is utter ruin for them.That someone is Satan. He delights in all failed marriages. He tempts them with lies of happiness and freedom. But all they receive in divorce is sorrow, suffering, and a limiting of choice. He also loves to enlarge people's pride until they perceive everything as a sleight or offense against themselves. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/23 11:42 AM |
| 3 | Caregiver Question (Going into Divorce with Huntington's Disease)Damn, so she literally took the best years of your life and now wants to cut you loose when you go down hill. She even forced you to pass your curse to another generation. She's a parasite of the highest degree. More likely than not she will have to pay you alimony. So she kind of has to take care of you regardless of the divorce. If you do work, medically retire now before she files. Not every divorce is societally acceptable. She will probably loose a lot of friends and family over this. Bring… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/23 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Should I get divorce?Normally Im more turtle/wait and see on divorce decision than most people on this sub but yeah you should. You don't agree on child status, she doesn't respect you, and it sounds like only you care about the marriage. She doesn't, her friends don't and her dad doesn't. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/23 04:27 PM |
| 6 | What are some things you do with/for your kid(s) that make you feel like you're a good dad?Turn off the TV, turn off the phone and get off the couch and play with them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/23 03:38 AM |
| 8 | Male or Female attorney?I had a female and she was very effective and attentive. Aggressive and wouldn't back down when wife wanted to push off hearing on her paying half daycare fee. My lawyer got the judge to decide then and there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/23 03:21 AM |
| 3 | Feeling insane anxiety bringing up divorceI feel sorry for your situation. This is why you don't date much less marry a divorced woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/23 04:57 AM |
| 3 | **Do I inform my ex spouse that I’m bringing my new GF to meet our son ?**Tell her after the visit if you must. Don't waste 14 hours. Just know since she isn't your wife she has no right to know anything about your personal life. She is a stranger. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/02/23 03:44 PM |
| 6 | Spouse asked for a divorce yesterday, I was told this was a good group by someone. I have some basic questions.50/50 will look like 2-2-3. She also has to get a job. Divorced women don't get to be stay at home moms. That's a right reserved for loyal women. You will probably need to find a daycare or a nanny. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/23 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Spouse asked for a divorce yesterday, I was told this was a good group by someone. I have some basic questions.The absolute first thing you need to figure out is this really the path you want to go down. You don't get to change your mind half way. If you have regrets it will just cost that much more in legal fees. If you have to ask about intimacy I'm not sure your ready for divorce. Most men on here have had dead bedrooms for years. Alot of others can't physically stand to live in the same place. My wife moved six hours away months before we got the divorce going. If it is 100% amicable you can do it wi… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/23 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Is it better for a man to go back to his wife of 30 years…for familiarity and sentimental reasons….or move forward with new love and fulfilling sex life and risk not having full time companionship?Divorce rate goes up the more a person has been previously divorced not down. You are going to find that nearly (99%) all women are the same. Your description matches nearly everyone's stbxw on this sub. In a few years you will find all these problems with the new woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/23 01:56 PM |
| 1 | (29M) - my wife (30f) went through my phone while I was asleep, and found conversations between myself and other women, that were inappropriate. I know I was wrong, but I need advice.. We have a 5 month old child as well.How did you find time to cheat with a 5 month old at home? I literally didn't even get to spend time with friends for the first few months of my son. Wake up, work, take care of infant, sleep repeat. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/23 01:49 AM |
| 2 | I want a divorce. When did you all realize that divorce was your best option to move on in your life?After reading her suicide note (attempt) where she claimed I was cheating with her friend. A friend who is a decade and a half older than me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/23 03:02 AM |
| 3 | My family is completely against my divorce.I am in a completely different situation where everyone around me said I should divorce my wife. I was the last person fighting for my marriage and my son's birthright to live in an unbroken home. In my life I have found when everyone around me disagrees with me it is usually because I'm wrong. Now I'm not saying your wrong but there is something they either do/don't understand that you don't/do understand. I couldn't imagine going through my divorce without the support of my family. You need to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/23 06:53 PM |
| 3 | Pay the lump sum to dodge lifetime maintenance or fight for a different settlement?Things can never go worse than not getting a lawyer. Yes not all surgeries are successful but you sure as hell better have a doctor there. Doctors and lawyers go to school for the same amount of time. They are both professionals. Don't be fooled into the lie that you don't need one, it's all propaganda. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/23 02:34 PM |
| 3 | How screwed am I?Find out the age of the debt and how soon to the date of separation it was. You might be able to argue she accrued the debt in bad faith. Family court judges have near unlimited discretion to do what they see fit to do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/22 07:21 PM |
| 33 | We are outcasts hereThat's why this sub exists. Nobody understands unless they have experienced it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/22 01:10 AM |
| 5 | She's keeping the kids from me on Christmas...Not seeing your kids on Christmas is straight up Pearl Harbor. There is no escalation in open warfare. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/22 12:57 AM |
| 2 | What’s the right thing to do?I wouldn't contact her then for any non-mandatory reason then. The pictures are just a risk. She is not your friend or your family anymore, don't treat her like one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/12/22 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Is it normal to find your ex wife incredibly attractive ?Yes | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/22 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Ex taking my parenting timeIf she is taking them by plane try calling the TSA. Human trafficking (illegally moving minors across state lines) is rather serious. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/22 06:25 AM |
| 5 | How does this make sense?Its my understanding that possession of keys to the property establishes residency as far as police officers are involved so unless she gives you a TRO she can't kick you out. Potentially good advice: You can file a TRO before her and get her removed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/22 09:08 PM |
| 5 | How did you know it was time to pull the rip cord vs "working it out"?I made a lot of excuses to ignore the writing on the wall and keep working on our relationship. Then she sent me a suicide note, both guilt tripping me and accusing me of cheating on her, for her first suicide attempt. I filed shortly after. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/11/22 08:15 PM |
| 3 | change of venue?That seems like a good idea. If you could change venue, I can't think of a more appropriate time to use it. However are you representing yourself? If so STOP IMMEDIATELY. You will lose and you will be taken to the cleaners. You wouldn't do surgery on yourself and doctors go to school for the same amount of time as lawyers. If you can't afford it, get a loan. Paying off the loan is way better than losing everything and then paying alimony/child support | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/11/22 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Harassment advice ex will not stop.Have you tried filing a TRO? It could stop her from contacting your family members But a good rule of thumb don't read her messages and respond immediately. Check your messages twice a day and respond even less and only when absolutely necessary. Starve the narcissist. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/11/22 02:28 AM |
| 9 | How to deal.It going to be hard to hear. The only way to deal with the frustration is to let go. It can't be controlled or stopped. Your ex will have other relationships, you will have other relationships. Sharing a child and divorcing doesn't make both parents celibate. If she acted properly in front of your child when you were together she will do the same with other men. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/11/22 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Feeling guilty: my depression + ADHD destroyed my marriageI overcame the guilt by using the opportunity to improve myself, through forming healthy habits, therapy, and new medications. I failed my first marriage but I will work hard to not fail my next marriage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/22 07:37 PM |
| 2 | My win still feels like a lossI am currently going through exactly what you are going through. Thank you for making a reddit post. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/22 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Wife is going away this weekendI wish rent was that cheap. I'm paying $1800. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/22 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Wife is going away this weekendYou don't need to buy a 2nd house. Rent an apartment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/10/22 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Great marriage but, I realized I'm gay and I fell in love with a friend.Is a recovering alcoholic choosing not to drink living a lie? I want to be a doctor but have so far failed to get into medical school, am I living a lie? I am divorced but I want to be married, am i living a lie? A person isn't just what they currently are but also what they want to or try to become. At one point he wanted to marry his wife and have a family. It seems hard to believe he married someone without loving them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/22 03:28 PM |
| 2 | Great marriage but, I realized I'm gay and I fell in love with a friend.Your sexuality does not define who you are as a person or control your choices. You found someone more attractive then your wife and fell in love with them so you are considering divorce. Thier gender doesn't matter in your decision. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/10/22 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Decisions for MediationYes you need a lawyer. Don't cheap out on something this important. If you needed surgery you wouldn't try to do it yourself. Doctors and lawyers got to school for the same length of time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/22 01:00 PM |
| 0 | What's the majority take on marriage here? Just stay away?Unless your God demands it, do not marry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/22 07:36 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys do with pictures?I kept all of the pictures. I made a mental separation between pre-covid wife and post COVID wife. They are two separate people. The pictures I have are all of pre-covid wife. COVID wasn't the main thing that changed the realationship but the timing was uncanny. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/22 05:35 PM |
| 7 | Looks like I’m joining the clubActing like nothing happened is part of the strategy. I always advise men to do the same when they are moving toward divorce. Screaming and fighting about it just makes more challenges. Let the lawyer do the work, and while you wait act like nothing is happening. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/08/22 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Can someone help me answer this question for Discovery?Also remember to group items. although a single shirt might only be $20 a wardrobe is worth all of them added together. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/22 10:36 PM |
| 1 | Can someone help me answer this question for Discovery?Bank statements also work as receipts. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/22 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Thinking about ending it, need some advice.I don't know about UK law but in California if you file first you get the residence temporarily until the hearing. Without a professional evaluation it's unlikely her mental state will make you the main custodial parent. Divorcing couples will say anything so your word is not useful in family court. Now you haven't given alot of info but it seems you should try to get her some therapy before taking the divorce dive. A new born baby is a huge stressor and nobody is their true self under that much… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/22 03:23 PM |
| 5 | What age and how long were you in the relationship/married and when did the relationship end(divorce).27 years old and divorce after 5 years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/22 05:22 PM |
| 33 | She's taking half of everything after spending our marriage doing nothing.This is going to be hard to hear but you didn't treat her like a princess as much as you treated yourself like a slave. Getting away with only half is still good. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 09:24 PM |
| 5 | Marriage questionThe main benefit is religious in nature. Most Christians are required to marry because otherwise it's fornication. Atheists should never marry in America. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Divorce in less than 6 monthsYou should look into getting an annulment. You should qualify having no kids and only being together 6 months. Also it sounds like you guys don't have any shared property so it could be a clean break. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/07/22 04:44 AM |
| 5 | Advice for a friend.Three usual steps of advice. Secure communication channels by changing phone and email passwords, contact a lawyer, and act like nothing has happened until instructed otherwise by lawyer. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/22 04:51 AM |
| 3 | Can my mother be my witness ?Did you confess to punching her? Did you get arrested? If neither things happened it's unlikely that the tro will be successful. It's all hearsay anyway so if your mom was there then I guess you could use her as a witness. Also both you and your wife are biased but that's how family court works. If you have physical evidence that would be better. For example pictures of bruises when she hit you or texts threatening you. (I'm not a lawyer) | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/22 04:40 AM |
| 0 | I need advice on what response to give to my kids when mom uses them to communicate with me.I don't know where you live but in California that is considered child abuse. It alienates your relationship with the child because it puts them in the middle of your arguments as the messenger. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/22 02:27 AM |
| 1 | Should I contact CPS?If you think you might need to call cps, you need to call cps. Part of their job is determining if they are needed or not. It's propaganda that cps takes children away all willy nilly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/22 11:56 AM |
| 5 | is it illegal to hide $€£ from my ex-wife?Another trick that works is move your money into personal capital. Buy those expensive work boots that will last 5+ years, buy tools, buy food storage, buy new tires for your truck. You want to go to Disneyland go to Disneyland. Basically think of any long lasting expensive purchase or experience you see yourself making in the next 5-10 years and buy it now. Stay away from cars, real estate, and appliances unless you now she won't take them. I made sure to drop 10k on tuition and 3.5 for the law… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/22 05:25 AM |
| 3 | Can I ask the court to grant me more time with my son?Women will never show mercy or forgive. Don't treat her like a man. Show no mercy, no benefit of the doubt, no status quo. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/07/22 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Need divorce advice w/kidsFirst get a lawyer. Everyone on this sub regrets not getting one soon enough. Next file a restraining order against her for slapping and throwing things. As part of the restraining order you can get temporary sole use of the house. You can also get 100% custody of the kids if you include them as part of the restraining order if she has ever hit or thrown things at them. If not a temporary custody order can be filed as part of the restraining order that will make her share the kids. (California, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/22 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Ex wife’s “job” is bullshit. Do I have any recourse?I make 50k a year and even I can afford lawyers. Don't have a mortgage though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Please Advise me!If she wants alimony you need to lawyer up. The no fault, do it yourself divorces are for people that want to split everything and go thier own ways. It doesn't work for people who still want to be tied with child support and alimony. Also if she cheated on you she can't be trusted. Courts and lawyers were made to counteract dishonest people, use them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/22 02:41 PM |
| 1 | My STBX has a restraining order against me and she decided she is now living at my apartment.To be fair I had to do a Google search the first time I saw it too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/22 03:44 PM |
| 4 | My STBX has a restraining order against me and she decided she is now living at my apartment.She is also on the lease. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/22 03:43 PM |
| 2 | My STBX has a restraining order against me and she decided she is now living at my apartment.Yep her name is on the lease still. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/22 03:43 PM |
| 1 | My STBX has a restraining order against me and she decided she is now living at my apartment.She was. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/22 03:41 PM |
| 4 | My STBX has a restraining order against me and she decided she is now living at my apartment.It was given a continuation to June 23. Right now it is just a temporary restraining order. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/22 12:14 PM |
| 11 | My STBX has a restraining order against me and she decided she is now living at my apartment.California | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/22 12:09 AM |
| 2 | My separated wife won't share custody of our son with me. Other than getting a lawyer what else can I do?Well he's only 8 months old. How much can he be manipulated? | /r/MensRights | 13/04/22 03:34 PM |
| 1 | My separated wife won't share custody of our son with me. Other than getting a lawyer what else can I do?I can only communicate by phone or text so recording should be easy. I should start journaling know that I have the time. I would always try and then drop it after a day or two until months down the line. Making the journal a Google doc helped. Well I got the stop drinking part done as I don't drink. She left so I still have the two bedroom apartment with the crib. I don't know if I should invest with how volatile it is (I don't gamble) and I plan to go into a quarter of a million dollars in deb… | /r/MensRights | 13/04/22 03:31 PM |
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