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This right here, OP. You have to use hands too. Either one hand or both hands, whichever is most comfortable for you or more effective for him if you don’t have a preference. I use one hand + plus mouth. The hand or hands should make a swirling motion opposite to each other or the mouth, depending if you’re using one hand or two. If using hand + mouth, just make them go slightly opposite of each other with the mouth and hand going down together, then up together, this overlaps the area covered b…
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/26 05:50 PM
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Commonly recommended books here are The Empowered Wife, Fascinating Womanhood, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/26 05:03 AM
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Thank you. That means a lot to me. I’m definitely ready for quiet change, growth and sisterhood.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/26 10:10 AM
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You make a lot of great points here. I can tell by your nuanced response that you see beyond the simplistic views that seem everywhere these days. Like I always say… nothing is ever a two sided coin, it’s a diamond with a million facets. And I deeply gravitate towards those who can see the million faces of the finely cut diamond. I have also always believed in an idea I’ve lived and observed my whole life… that humans are like chemicals and in relationships, each person influences the other in u…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/26 10:13 PM
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Thank you so much for this reply as well. I truly appreciate your wisdom and found your words thought provoking again. I’m in a phase of deep loss and searching for growth and hope right now, so that really means a lot to me. I’m getting somewhat tired of feeling like I’m on this endless journey to grow and improve. This is in part because I am more passionate about it than most. A deep thinker to a detriment at times. And still carrying “You’ll never be good enough” trauma from my childhood. Wi…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/26 09:40 PM
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🥹🥹🥹 That is what I want. I don’t know if I could’ve had that with him, but I know the path we were on was not the right one. I agree with so much of what you said and at my core, I was trying to elevate him. I know he’d disagree but I supported him building his business and funded most of it. I helped with logo design, ads, posts, website and social media, etc. I tried my best. But where I really failed was things like trusting judgment on training the dog, raising the kids, etc. and perhaps tha…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/26 07:35 AM
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Your husband sounds so sweet!
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/25 05:34 AM
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Yeah, I could see this being more common in southern states too because they kept a lot of the traditional, sweet stuff as part of their culture. That’s really wonderful that people are still doing that tradition.
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/25 01:03 AM
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Wow, that blows my mind that potentially 50% of families still financially contribute. I haven’t seen that at all in my area, friends or family. My parents paid for none of mine, none of my brothers, none of either of my sisters weddings and one was married twice…. and none of my aunts or uncles contributed to any of my cousins. I guess that’s just very uncommon in my area. My nieces and nephews all paid for their own weddings as well. And some of them did big weddings… I can only imagine the co…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 11:25 PM
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Lmao, that’s hilarious. I’ve fallen off the wagon with a lot of the healthier stuff I did in my 20’s too. I used to walk for miles and eat all organic. But now it’s more like clean, do chores, pamper the king and grab Dairy Queen. lol. I do have big goals if getting back to it though and still love my organic salads. But right now life is lifing like crazy, so it’s more like a next Summer kind of thing when things settle down. Renovating two houses, supporting multiple households, raising kids, …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 10:54 PM
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Yeah, back when couples had family that paid for it regularly, that was a wonderful show of support. Economically though, not only do most families no longer pay for the weddings, but wedding costs and expectations have skyrocketed. It’s disappointing how weddings have taken on such a “keeping up with the Jones’” vibe. But if the budget is kept reasonable and people pitch in, it can still be just as beautiful, memorable and financially reasonable. My sister paid $200 for the church and service, …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 08:06 PM
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What becomes more regular on the coasts? Yeah, adversity is necessary and promotes so much invaluable growth. I’m no pro abuse either but I’m glad my dad was the way he was. I mean, it has some negative consequences but on the whole, everything I gained from it was extremely beneficial and positive. It made me determined, driven, ethical, logical, down to earth and possess great patience, self control and tolerance. All of which come in so handy throughout life. Yeah, in my state, most of the me…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 07:55 PM
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I had not heard of the prisoners dilemma before but I can easily see how that applies to relationships. It’s probably more necessary in relationships than almost any other situation. Back in the day, relationships were almost necessary for survival, but that’s not the case anymore. Now that we don’t have mutual need for each other, it can be a much easier choice to stay single or in a relationship but never marry. To me marriage was never that important, and looking back on the complications of …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 05:43 PM
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Gosh, I don’t what world these women grew up in cause I never got that memo at all. lol. My Dad taught me I was useless unless I had a man, that women aren’t ****….. and that I deserve nothing and must work hard as heck to earn my nothing. I would envy these women who got that “You’re wonderful, you deserve the best” message if it weren’t for the fact that it creates societal induced pseudo-narcissism. Like it must be a pretty life for a bit until reality hits that you too, are only human… will …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 05:13 PM
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Hmm… I’m sorry you’ve encountered such naivety… if that’s true of the people you’ve been involved with, maybe vet for higher IQ and greater self awareness? I’ve had by all standards, tremendous luck when it comes to dating but I’d still say dating sucks. My goal was always a stable, settled relationship, with trust, team mentality and mutual meeting of needs and desires. I guess not everyone sees the value in that because some may view dating as fun, it’s the unknown, it can be exciting, etc. bu…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 03:25 PM
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Yikes. Yeah… that sounds extremely difficult. I didn’t really catch the suicidal part before… it sounds like he needs therapy… and if he’s already in therapy, it sounds like he benefit from switching therapists and/or exploring options for medication. I’m sorry for you have to deal with a hope that you two can find ways to navigate. If he’s not in therapy, definitely encourage it. If he is, encourage pursuing other avenues and forms. In addition to that, him taking up a healthy and joyful hobby …
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 03:16 PM
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The equivalent risk for a woman is spending years of her most vibrant, youthful, sexy, desirable, fertile self… trying to show consistency to a man who may never marry her and may only end up leaving her and thus reducing her marketplace value and the window of opportunity she has to find a suitable mate to produce off spring because she is only young once and only fertile so long… and in today’s ages of bad food supply, stress and poor health, fertility can end shockingly quicker than expected.…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/25 02:44 PM
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It is interesting that “needing to make sure you eat” and “get up on time” shifted so much in your descriptions of them, to him wanting to do those things and you doing them on your own. I’m not sure what to think of that and if it’s true you’re already taking care of your wake up time and that he doesn’t need to make sure you eat, then maybe trying to tell him to leave waking up to you, might be helpful? If he doesn’t need to worry about it, then maybe making that clear to him might help reduce…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 07:23 PM
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If he needs to make sure you eat and make sure you get up on time and potentially other things you haven’t expressed yet … combined with him saying he needs more time for self care… it sounds to me that it’s possible you’re leaning on him too much and it’s leading to some of the issues you’re unhappy with. Since you come from a relationship model of a domineering woman/submissive man… have you evaluated if you’re perpetuating this in your relationship? Because things like that can be emasculatin…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/25 07:35 AM
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I hate to break this to you but … “I don’t want to do it.” — IS no. How can you think that the only acceptable “No” has to be an unequivocal full-on protest to count?? The rule of thumb is “Anything but an ENTHUSIASTIC YES - IS a NO.” That means: - Maybe is NO. - Not really is NO. - I don’t want to is NO. - I guess is NO. - Sure in this context, is NO. - (Because you KNOW he doesn’t want to.) I could go on and on but what you really need to do is reverse your definition of yes and no. Instead of…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/25 03:43 PM
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It was the dirty hair part that really made me think. Like that makes so much sense about letting yourself go being a sign of slipping into mother mode. And what’s more representative of that than being content walk around with dirty hair. My mom always had dirty hair when I was a kid and looking back, yeah it was cause she was letting herself go. I get so bummed when I don’t have the energy to tend to myself and I think that happens most, when we ladies are giving too much energy to mothering a…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/25 01:38 PM
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Is it possible in time he’ll learn to anticipate your needs and desires — if you just go ahead and ask him to do the things you want him to do? Like don’t limit yourself and don’t let the frustration of having to ask, stop you. I think there’s a lot of hope in the fact that he will happily do what you ask. A lot of guys would not happily load the dishwasher just because you asked and I think that’s a positive that could use more highlighting. If you ask me, he sounds like he has a good foundatio…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/25 03:57 PM
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Parts of your comment really spoke to me, as a woman trying to learn how not to mother, thank you. Because it took your perspective to make something really click with me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/25 03:37 PM
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My grandmother and grandfather were married for nearly 70 years before he passed away. When she was younger (and by younger I mean still well into her 60’s) and could still do it, she had a ritual of always standing at the window or driveway (depending on the season and circumstance) and waving until his car was out of sight, every time he had to go somewhere. And I mean every time, even if it was multiple times a day and even if he was only running to the store to grab a couple groceries. These…
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/25 01:35 PM
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The part about him directing the kids to wait their turn. That extra reverence he gives you, absolutely encourages you to give him that extra reverence too. I am very reciprocal and matching like this too. I love when a partner brings the energy they’d like to see and both partners just show up for it. This is one of the sweetest things I’ve read in ages. Thank you for sharing it.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/25 01:11 PM
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I loved your essay! Thank you so much! I think I was spoiled because I always looked incredibly youthful, which is a blessing now but was definitely a curse when I was 18 and everyone thought I was 11. And when I was in my early 30’s and getting offered the children’s menu and asked if I was on a father daughter date by wait staff. 😳🤦‍♀️🫣 Talk about embarrassing. lol. Thankfully I still look youthful for being nearly 40. I’m less than a week from my 39th birthday right now, which I’m dreading. l…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/25 05:25 AM
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Can I ask some questions? First… do you have a brand of face masks you recommend? What face oil do you recommend? I used to use this one brand, I think… Emminance or something like that… and I liked it but I have no idea if it helped. Do you know of one that helps? Second, does face yoga and face massage help if you’re already showing signs of aging and technically old? (I’m 38) Bonus points if you can teach me how to tackle under eye and side eye wrinkles because truthfully… without that… I’d s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/25 06:15 AM
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A month is really short. How long were you together/in contact prior to living together? I know the immigration/visa process can take time. I feel like there are similarities in our relationships as well. Mine doesn’t study the male/female dynamics/RP/TradCon stuff but he was raised in a very patriarchal household with a highly submissive mother and so that was his relationship role model and is quite ingrained in him. I began studying all those things after input from him. I am grateful he’s no…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 08:54 PM
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My situation is that my fiancé wants me to always be happy around him, not bring up issues that don’t need to be brought up — I.e. only bring up objectively relevant issues regarding life/house/car/business stuff, but not personal things or things he deems trivial, like emotional stuff or holiday related stuff, etc. He prefers days when we don’t have serious discussions at all, and primarily focus on day to day stuff, like what’s for dinner and what to watch on tv. He gets stressed pretty easily…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 02:47 PM
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As it turns out, it was never a break up to begin with. He explained afterwards that it was just intended to be time apart to focus on bettering ourselves and I misunderstood that. I’m on the spectrum and sometimes if things aren’t explained thoroughly, I don’t fully understand. But looking back, I recall that he never used the word breakup, he just said he was going back to his place and I mistakenly thought it was a breakup. But things have been only getting better and better for us. There’s b…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 08:28 AM
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First of all, he has never, ever hit me. There were two incidents that were somewhat abusive and none of them involved hitting. And that ended a long time ago. He’s in sobriety now and doing vastly better. We hardly even fight or disagree at all anymore. I’m not sure why you talk like you know everything but maybe that’s something you should consider looking into. Also, if you read the books, like Fascinating Womanhood, she speaks about turning men who have had occasional violent reactions into …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 08:17 AM
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A lot of this sounds like my partner, minus the financial stability and wanting to sleep around part. And our age gap is nowhere near as big as yours. Honest opinion? He’s not going to be a good choice for you. I don’t personally think this relationship will be healthy for you. You also mention nothing about love. Do you love him? It sounds abusive. I know my situation is one of great sacrifice. Yours sounds like even more sacrifice and I think it will make you resent him in the long run. Also y…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/25 08:04 AM
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About 8 months ago, my partner and I got into an argument because I somewhat jokingly but pretty seriously meant it when I said to him “I am just like a guy.” — he argued saying I was nothing like a guy and I should never say that. I was so offended that he didn’t see my awesome, typically male associated great qualities. He was offended that I compared myself to a guy. I think it was ridiculous because to me being compared to a guy is a huge compliment and him arguing that I was nothing like a …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/25 01:47 PM
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Of course attractive women still do get flirted with but it is far less and I beg to differ. Straight men in my area are rampantly flirting with other straight men and they are most definitely straight. As I said, it’s a sick coping mechanism of dealing with an environment that has made flirting with women scary and toxic to men. It’s an acting out thing. I also said it’s likely geographical because certain areas are worse than others it seems. Men in my area lack the confidence to flirt outside…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/25 11:29 AM
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Actually, maybe it’s geographical… because truth be told, I’m seeing what OP is talking about in my area too. Few men approach women anymore… long gone are the days of seeing a pretty woman in my area and a guy striking up a conversation. They simply hold it all back. Guys aren’t asking for numbers of women hardly at all. Instead… we’re over run with straight men constantly flirting with other straight men. The whole shift is not great imo. I don’t like that guys are no longer striking up conver…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/25 05:13 AM
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lol, my comments are always really long too. I try to be less wordy but I’m just a talker and like to explain things thoroughly and have a lot to share when I do choose to communicate because for the most part, I don’t really talk to many people. Especially now. Mine would graphically threaten to cut himself too. Take my phone, threaten to drop it in the fish tank, etc. I do believe he needs to have some sort of breakthrough to truly change and I believe almost certainly it needs to happen alone…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/25 05:45 PM
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You’re welcome. I’m happy to try and help. I think it’s really sweet you want to help him feel better. For added ideas, I asked Chat GPT — “I’m away on vacation but my boyfriend back home had a bad day. Can you give me a list of long distance surprises I could do or arrange to help cheer him up?” and this was the ideas it came up with: — — ⸻ 💌 Personal & Emotional Surprises 1. Handwritten letter in the mail • Write a real letter or postcard from where you are — talk about your favorite memories …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 11:20 AM
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I’m not sure what he might be interested in or appreciate the most but here’s some random ideas… — — Door dash him a favorite lunch or dinner. Rather unconventional and I’m not sure if it would be RPW approved… but maybe flowers? This is inspired by a Dax song where he’s singing about how hard it is to be a strong, masculine man and one of the lines is “The only flowers you get are on the day you die.” — in theory it sounds potentially good to me but who knows how it would fair in practice, lol.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 10:05 AM
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I could’ve written so much of your last reply as well. Everyone in my life judges me for not leaving him sooner, mind you, it’s a small circle now because I had to cut out all but 6 people (all 6 were immediate relatives) for him. And half those judging don’t even know the half of what I went through and put up with. I’m pretty sure they would’ve banned together to have me committed if they did. But my ex even had problems with female friends, so zero friends were allowed. If it wasn’t an immedi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 09:21 AM
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Thank you so much for writing this. 💗💖💞💖💗 You have no idea how much I needed to hear things like this… the breakup is so fresh still because it just happened Monday night. This is our third breakup and he was trying to reconcile this morning. I feel terrible admitting this, because I should be grateful to be free… but I’m truly afraid I’m going to do what I’ve always done and take him back. He wasn’t all bad, he had many great qualities but I know any other woman would’ve thought he was just pur…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 06:44 AM
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I’m so sorry you went through that. I’m literally just coming out of a relationship that has things in common with your previous relationship. So I relate because I can tell it’s going to take quite a while for me to get comfortable with being able to talk or even look at another guy.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 03:33 AM
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So I know dating apps can be a rough place to find serious, marriage minded men… but I thought I’d let you know that it’s not impossible. I met my former partner on a dating app and he was extremely marriage minded, committed and not at all looking for a hookup. We were together for 15 months and even engaged… and had it not been for some unfortunate things, we would still be together. Truth be told, the breakup was only Monday, so it’s still fresh and as of currently, he’s still trying to recon…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/25 03:00 AM
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Thank you 🙏🏻
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:39 PM
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Thank you! 🙏🏻
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:01 PM
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Thank you, that is really comforting, because I feel my situation is incredibly easy to judge. It was just so complex and went through so many changes in such a short time, that it’s hard to convey how or why things unfolded the way they did. And the fact that he was genuinely and meaningfully changing in the last several months, made things all the harder for me to see clearly myself. I don’t by any means think he’s a lost cause because his dedication to truly changing was incredibly meaningful…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 04:52 PM
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It’s a unique situation and I suppose hard to understand but they were never aware of any of the breakups. Also my son is well into his adolescent independent mode and things are a lot easier to mask when he is very focused on his own developing life. But I’ll concede that perhaps it affected his daughter and my son in ways I couldn’t see. His daughter perhaps most of all, because though I never disclosed anything to her, I know that at times he’d share too much with her when I wasn’t around. Sh…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 04:35 PM
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Thank you so much. That means a lot to me. I plan to fully invest in myself, my circle and my life, for the foreseeable future until I feel ready to try again. I’m going to devour books, cuddle up in my resort vibes bed by myself, drink hot chocolate when I need something warm, cuddle with my puppy when I need love, pour all the love I have within me, into myself and loved ones, get back into yoga and long walks if boredom strikes, not worry about the future or love or him and his daughter, and …
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 04:19 PM
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Thank you for this. It helps affirm my own belief and intuition that nothing will ever be more important to him than his ego, how he’s perceived and receiving the undying adoration and respect of those around him. An older male relative of mine suggested to me last night that this guy sounds like a narcissist. I usually avoid using labels like that at all cost but I can’t see any other reason how he could be so completely blind and out of touch with reality and how others perceive him. And it’s …
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 04:10 PM
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Thank you for your support and encouragement. I really appreciate it because I know it will take a lot of fortitude and strength on my part to make this end. Our lives were so entwined, like a married and we had built a vision for the future… now I have to find the strength to tear down that vision and build a new one.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 04:06 PM
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That is the fear talking. I’m a talker and like to talk things out but have zero female friends to do that with. I’m lacking a feminine tribe to process things with and get feedback from. That’s why I’m here. And despite what I’m saying… this is the most committed to giving up, I’ve ever been. Last night after the breakup, for the first time since getting my rings, I took them off. My need to talk through both sides is just how I process things and I understand how that can be confusing. I don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 03:07 PM
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It brought tears to my eyes when I read “But it’s not now and it’s not you.” — but I am of the belief that people are only truly hurt by the truth… so the feelings and tears only add to the validity that you are right. And I can see that in him… he needs to do this on his own. As much as I would’ve been an asset in the process, he wouldn’t be able to take full credit for it with me at his side, supporting and catering to nearly all his needs. I recognize now that this is part of his journey. And…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 02:56 PM
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Even though it’s unhealthy, it’s hard to leave the security of a man who is willing to commit like him and despite the breakups or talk of breakups, he was always committed. It was just conditional commitment, which sucks. But commitment nonetheless. I’m getting close to 40, and despite having a youthful appearance for my age… I’m not a spring chicken anymore. I was blessed that I have a good figure, I’m petite and have the wrinkle levels of a 25 year old… but I still feel the fear of getting as…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 02:40 PM
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Well I was intending to make a large financial investment this week but right now we are on a break or broken up… I’m not sure if we will reconcile. I would have loved to help him build that empire. This week I was going to design and print his business cards and despite the break, I think I will actually still do that. But financially speaking, it makes no sense to drop thousands on his start up because he just doesn’t seem stable or reliable as a partner, for such an investment. It is such a s…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 02:20 PM
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Again, it’s had no impact on the kids. Everyone goes about life as though things are normal and happy. But I agree that as a partner, he’s a loser.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 02:08 PM
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Because breaking up is his go to move. He likes to use it as a way to keep me in line, if I ever do anything and I mean anything… he doesn’t like. No matter how big or small. And despite me apologizing repeatedly, it wasn’t good enough for him. I had to deliver the apology in exactly the way he wanted + agree that he was right, I’m incompetent and need him and everyone would train the dog not to lick or sniff hands. And I wouldn’t do some of those things. He’s admitted in the past that he uses b…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 02:06 PM
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That’s the thing, conversely, he was excellent with my son. For whatever reason, he shined like a star in dad mode. It was almost like it wasn’t even him. He’s done so well with my son, and that was just another reason it was hard to leave him. My son would talk to me regularly about how much likes my partner and how much he likes having him in our lives, etc. and though this appears to be a lot of back and forth stuff… and yes, for the adults, it’s certainly a lot of emotional whiplash… but for…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 01:57 PM
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Though I’m not OP, I really love and appreciate your advice. Similar to OP, I have that “but I provide so much” mentality because I am the breadwinner and exceed my partner/former partner’s income by a ton and was helping him to start a company as well. The part of your post that caught my eye was about pulling out chairs, opening doors and just general gentlemanly behavior. I wished my partner would’ve done those things because it would’ve helped me feel in my femininity so much more. He bought…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 01:46 PM
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It’s more than just using me. He doesn’t even want to just use me… I’m pretty sure he just wants to own me. And not even just for financial things but for everything else I bring to the table. And because I’m generally what a guy like him would want… small, attractive, good morals, deferential, kind and compassionate and understanding and forgiving to a fault. He waited 7 years of being single to find someone else who fit the bill and was dumb enough to date him. 😔 I’m a naive idiot, a hopeless …
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 01:13 PM
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I know the way he was with the dog made me uncomfortable and I felt like it was unnecessarily mean and confusing to such a young puppy. So yeah, it bothered me. But not that I think back on it… I remember during the worst of our relationship, he was sometimes really mean to his cat too… it had just been so long ago and in all the haze of the emotional abuse, drunken shenanigans and chaos… and then the months of improved behavior, I had forgotten that.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 01:02 PM
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Right? I felt the same way too but this is my first dog and he has had many in the past and just likes to belittle me… so he told me I was going to raise a killer and that I’m too irresponsible and misinformed to raise this breed. (It’s not a known mean breed or anything… but it is a large breed, a Great Pyrenees) — and the puppy is being taught not to mouth because he is teething but the puppy is making great progress in all the areas of training. I felt like my partner/former partners behavior…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 12:57 PM
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Thank you. 💗 I suppose all I can do is try to get through the tough parts and hope he doesn’t just show back up here on Friday with his young daughter for the weekend and try to pretend nothing happened, like he did after the break up two weeks ago.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 06:00 AM
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I began reading it a while back. Maybe like 6-8 months ago when things were at their worst… but I didn’t read the whole thing, I’d say I got through about 2/3rds… but it was hard to find time to discreetly and safely read it. He didn’t work from April 1st 2025 till pretty much the end of September of 2025, which meant he was always around, watching me. I had the kindle version and sometimes I’d be able to stay up a little later than him and discreetly read it while he slept but it was a challeng…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:33 AM
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lol, I know you were serious but your response made me laugh and smile. So thank you for that. It is really sound advice. It’s just easier said than done. And part of why I wrote here is because I’m afraid I’m going to be an idiot and take him back if he tries… and I realize that makes me sound terrible and naive and like a door mat… like I’m some kind of idiot… which I agree that I am an idiot. I just have no idea how things got so out of hand, so fast and so insidiously.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:26 AM
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I really don’t want to believe that he is… but yeah… I think he is.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:22 AM
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I agree. Thank you for your input.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:22 AM
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Yeah… it feels like a losing battle… 😔
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:11 AM
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The puppy will definitely stay with me because I paid for him and he lives in my house. What does he bring to the table? Gosh… I’m always thrown by this question but if I had to list some things… He is good at working on cars, construction, he’s strong, manly, fit, has beautiful blue eyes, I enjoy being close and intimate with him, I love his hands… he has such beautiful, strong, manly hands. I’m comfortable with him. We built a life together. His daughter and I are very bonded and adore each ot…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 05:08 AM
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lol, I apologize. I didn’t mean for it to sound like I wanted puppy training advice. I wanted input on the situation in my relationship and the breakup. Thank you for your input on my relationship and the breakup. That’s kind of what I’m thinking. It’s just too unstable with him always turning right to threatening to breakup or take time apart. To me, I feel like going to separate houses for days at a time or resorting to threatening a breakup, just isn’t how a couple should resolve conflict and…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/25 03:25 AM
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Aww, that’s a bummer. Thank you for letting me know though. I wonder if one of the veteran RPW’s would ever consider picking up where it was left off. I was really excited for that portion, especially given that I’m in a relationship that is relatively LT.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/25 05:04 PM
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The series about women late to the red pill had no link to the ones for women in LTR’s - do you know if those posts were ever written and where to find them? I read all three that were linked together and did a search for the others but didn’t find them. For clarity the 6+ months of trying his version of “supportive” and being “the good woman” - were months 4 through to like month 10ish… so I didn’t start out that way… it was after months of him convincing me he was Mr. Perfect. I was looking fo…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/25 01:34 PM
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My thoughts weren’t exclusively things like “Babe, you should maybe work on your car this week while I’m away, the weather is going to be perfect.” — but in defense of my suggesting that… his vehicle broke down the first month we were together and he has been using one of my vehicles for the last 13 or so months. My suggesting he work on his car, wasn’t nagging in any way. I would say it once a week before leaving for the week (after I began working on renovating my house) and I made that sugges…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 05:19 PM
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Your response is so refreshing and thought provoking. That’s definitely why I’m here. For things like this. There was another response that made me feel like I was home too, so I’m really grateful for you guys and this group. This is exactly what I need. Intellectually stimulating conversation to help me figure things out and untangle it all. I have always needed to talk to figure things out, I don’t know why.. it just helps so much. Unfortunately I have zero female friends in the real world, so…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 07:03 AM
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Your response came across as a bit catty. I apologize if my previous comment to you offended you somehow. I explained that the antibiotic I’m currently on makes me a bit loopy and I was genuinely confused and thrown by your comment because there had been two incidents of physical violence in our past, so I had to try to recall if I had mentioned that or not. Which I hadn’t because it’s not my goal here to drudge that up. My goal is to learn and to assess if this relationship can become the one I…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 05:49 AM
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Oh, I’m so sorry. No, I’m not miserable. I’d say there have been moments of struggle in the past but it’s gotten easier and better since we began working on things months ago. Also, the sex is just okay sex, lol. I mean it’s good… but it’s not great and certainly not why I’m staying… at least not directly. Indirectly though, I do pride myself on keeping my count low, so when I take on a new partner, it is always with the intention of forever and forever takes work sometimes. So I’d say, my prefe…
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/25 02:27 AM
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Oh, I believe I am RP… just new and still learning but a lot resonates. Hmm, those comments weren’t very nice. There’s good with the bad. I feel like my thinking is less clear, which results in feeling not quite as sure (intelligent) as I previously was… but I’m not judging him for that, it could just be that I’m having to think harder and examine things more than I used to. A sense of confidence in decisions and actions can feel like intelligence but it’s not necessarily intelligence. I questio…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/25 05:36 AM
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Did I say anything about being hit in this post or comment? I don’t recall saying anything about being hit. Oh, you must be referring to the “borderline abusive” comment. I meant that in a verbal/emotional way. Not a physical way. I apologize for the misunderstanding. And sorry for being so slow to pick up on what you were referring to, lol. It’s been a long day and I’m on antibiotics that are definitely hitting harder than they should be. Lol. No pun intended. But yes, it feels abusive in a men…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/25 03:29 AM
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I do believe that I need a higher intellectual level than he is providing, in terms of discussion and planning and communication in general. He’s very smart about some things… but also not very deep about some things. And I’m not super smart by any means but I almost feel like I am becoming less intelligent after being with him. It feels like a mix of Alzheimer’s and emotional paralysis. But I believe those things come from the fact that for quite some time our relationship was high conflict… it…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/25 03:21 AM
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They’re so beautiful. I love them too.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 11:06 PM
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My niche “desires” are a man who doesn’t ogle other women and get his appetite elsewhere. A man who doesn’t utilize porn. A man who brings his desires to his real woman, and not his hand and thoughts of others. A man who doesn’t believe in casual sex. A man who has also worked his whole life to keep his body count reasonable. A man who takes intimacy seriously but also views it more romantically. A man who understands that making love to his woman is one of his jobs. Etc. and this man has those …
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 10:59 PM
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I am new to RPW, but I think a major part of it is knowing what you want… and if this is not how you want your future husband to behave, then try not to let yourself justify and make excuses for it. My current relationship is 15 months today, despite our issues and complications, one of the things that drew me in was he instantly knew what he wanted and that is me. He is a handsome man, fit, six pack, got all the onlookers as he works shirtless in his good, manly job… (construction) — but stayed…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 09:20 PM
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Thank you for sharing this. I’ll definitely be reading and studying this resource.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 07:30 PM
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He has some qualities in a man that are pretty hard to find. He’s very sexually proper. He doesn’t believe in, nor utilize porn or masturbation. He is incredibly faithful and loyal and I know he’d never cheat on me. He never ogles other women or gets his appetite elsewhere. He’s very pure and yet intoxicatingly masculine in the way he makes love. Whispering the sweetest, most loving, sensual things. He takes making love to his woman very seriously and like gentleman refuses to call it anything b…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 07:28 PM
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I felt so much relief reading the first three sections (excluding my quote) of your response. Thank you so much. Because I can’t recall if I mentioned in my post that the man I’m with and I are engaged. I don’t think I realized it when posting this question but a side bar of how to vet was in the back of my mind… and that was “is it too late to continue vetting?” And maybe deep down, that is why I asked how to do it… because somewhere inside me, I know I should still be vetting. Not settling. My…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/25 02:16 PM
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My engagement ring was only $115… it’s just high quality sterling silver and a series of moonstones. I think it’s beautiful and fiance is really struggling financially, so it made sense for us. I wouldn’t worry about the financial value because really all that matters is that you love it and that it’s a symbol of your guys love. No one else even needs to know what it cost and if you think it’s beautiful, no doubt others will think it looks beautiful on you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/25 10:57 PM
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