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Here in Australia it’s most common for the wife to take the husband’s last name. Not doing so - or having hyphenated names for the kids - is generally considered pretty low income. It’s indicative of people who have kids without getting married, which is what people will assume you are unless you correct them. I personally wouldn’t do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 04:56 AM
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That may be true but for two things. That’s assuming I met someone right now, you don’t go straight to having kids a couple of months after meeting. I’m Catholic and as such will never have IVF. All that said, since posting, I actually did meet someone, yes she is my own age (she’s 30 I’m 31) and we have been dating a few months.
/r/MensRights25/02/25 10:05 PM
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If you are looking for serious advice - don’t consider someone who is quick to anger. Goes for both sexes really.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 09:46 AM
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Yes usually it’s more.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:45 PM
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Vows mean nothing to you? Let alone the sacrament?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/25 09:45 PM
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Yeah now that I think about it. I think the assumption comes because the Republicans are further right than most right wing European parties on most issues, the Democrats must be further right too…
/r/MensRights18/01/25 05:31 AM
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Yep health insurance/universal healthcare is the only one I can think of off the top of my head.
/r/MensRights17/01/25 08:30 PM
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As I’m sure you guessed, original comment was posted during a 5min break at work and the later comment was done when I got home.
/r/MensRights17/01/25 08:29 PM
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I dunno, the onus is on the person making the radical claim that the far left Democrats would be considered right wing in Europe. Wanton support/encouragement of abortion to full term, defunding the police, abolishing immigration and customs enforcement, open and brazen support of terrorist organisations like Hamas and Hezbollah, and fully partaking in the delusion that men can become women and vice versa while literally indoctrinating children to think that way. These are all mainstream Democra…
/r/MensRights17/01/25 10:57 AM
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Not at all.
/r/MensRights17/01/25 12:43 AM
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It’s all Marxism. Feminism is just one aspect of the Hydra that is identity politics, the aspect that is designed to sow division between the two sexes.
/r/MensRights17/01/25 12:42 AM
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I will always be the safe choice, just by the nature of my personality, but I don’t think I would ever be boring enough for driving a Camry.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 03:56 AM
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That happened to me at 15 and it broke me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:00 PM
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What is the point of showering if not with soap?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 09:59 PM
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Typical of what?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:22 PM
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I feel really bad for blokes like that…probably no emotional intimacy ever in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:08 PM
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Okay I pretty much have had the worst possible experiences romantically and have zero prospects despite being a good match on paper…I think at least. But do blokes really go ahead and say that sort of stuff to you? Because I could never imagine it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:04 PM
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Someone can be significantly above average in many respects and below average in ability to find a romantic partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:01 PM
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Agree with all of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 03:50 AM
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No I don't. If I want to get married, which I do, I have to find someone to get married to who feels the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:42 AM
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Not to mention these are American stats, where quickie divorce exists. Here in Australia - and I would guess most other countries - it’s less.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 11:11 AM
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Every word of this is the truth. The left know how to get the revolution they want - and that is to completely destabilise the nuclear family.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 11:10 AM
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As if I have a choice in the matter 😂😭
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 11:05 AM
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If anything it’s the inverse of true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 02:32 AM
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But it’s not (only) chronically online men who struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 11:32 PM
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100% based and Christpilled. The Lord will welcome you with open arms unconditionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:53 PM
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I can only speak for myself but: I personally show every day, don’t watch porn, interact with real humans every day be they family friends or work colleagues, don’t play video games (though I do have a guitar addiction), eat healthy and maintain normal weight, and have immaculate hand hygiene. To think that you must be like this to struggle getting into a relationship is just nuts.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 10:40 PM
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She’s correct, this is heartbreaking. Both men and women are victims of feminism, it’s just one tentacle of the Communist plot to destroy the nuclear family.
/r/MensRights26/12/24 01:23 AM
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All excellent points especially #1
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:45 PM
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That makes perfect sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:44 PM
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If the sexual revolution’s goal was to make people have more frequent and enjoyable sexual experiences, then yes it was a complete and utter failure. If the sexual revolution’s goal was to destabilise the family unit, hook millions on welfare and introduce socialism by stealth, then it was a smashing success.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 08:42 PM
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I hope it all works out for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:41 AM
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Every single bit of this. I feel it. I am a literal millionaire with a successful business and investment homes etc in my early 30s...would give it all up in a second and be destitute if it meant that I was a husband and father. Which is all I have ever wanted to be, ever since I was a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:36 AM
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I'm 31 and would rather be married myself. I was never fat but I was unattractive and still am. The thing I'm the most sore about was being raised with a single minded focus on study and career goals. Which is fine, but nobody ever told me the best way to do it all was to marry young and then build the career up. Just like my parents did. Women (and men) absolutely can have it all, they just need to do it in the correct order I reckon. Marriage first, then build career, have kids when you wish b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 10:34 AM
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I know it's bloody hilarious😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:15 AM
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Easy mate I'll bash out a few AC/DC riffs while watching the Big Bash in honour of your return.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:03 AM
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Fair enough. I guess my point is it's seemingly a lot easier to succeed in the actual economic free market than to settle down and have a family... Also I just saw your username. G'day mate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:49 AM
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The dating market is considerably less fair than the actual free market...and yet I don't think you'll see the "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" types on here rush to defend the actual economic free market any time soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 09:43 AM
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Yeah I just personally find it extremely unattractive…it’s an instant attraction killer to me. Even more so than the ink. It’s up there with those fake nails.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 09:32 PM
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That is true I feel like it symbolises more left wing political beliefs too, that don’t mesh with my own at all
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:47 PM
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Yes it is absolutely disliked. Same with tattoos and especially lip filler.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:05 PM
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Reddit is left wing to an absurd degree and left wing politics is generally misandrist. That’s all, real life isn’t like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:53 AM
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Johnny Depp was an imperfect victim.
/r/MensRights05/11/24 10:15 AM
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No doubt there are some shitty fathers out there. But it’s not common in my experience and about the same as shitty mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 09:56 PM
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That’s almost every man I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 09:28 PM
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If you think a man being an active 50/50 father is rare, then I don’t know what to tell you. I have a great father, as is my grandfather, and are all my uncles. Only exception is my dad’s sperm donor, but that’s one out of eight in my family alone. Winning the wife lottery is getting together with someone loyal, who won’t leave you at a moment’s notice, and won’t dump you the second someone more confident or extroverted comes along. Who won’t use you only for finances. Who is able to have a dece…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 09:26 PM
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Sweet, modest, religious? Sounds like an absolute dream to me. And I would rather a “boring” girl than a party girl. The issue is when these quieter women go for hyper-confident guys…or they go for you initially and leave you for someone super extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:54 PM
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Because it’s a lot easier for a 30+ woman to win the husband lottery than for a 30+ man to win the wife lottery.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:43 PM
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It’s probably easier for a woman to meet someone 30+ and eligible later in life, than for a man to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:33 PM
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Yeah that’s it. It’s even true for men too. A lot easier to find a spouse at 22 than at 30 particularly if your car is demanding. Actually, the premise of this thread is wrong. It’s easier for women to have it all than for men to, I reckon.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:12 PM
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It’s absolutely possible to have it all if you do it in a certain order. And that involves meeting and marrying your spouse before you make the big moves in your career which is exactly what you did. Heck, it’s that way for men too, I’m a bit resentful that nobody told me this.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 08:09 PM
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In the state I live in (Victoria, Australia) you are de facto after 6 months cohabitation. All states in Australia have de facto marriage. I didn’t know most of the US doesn’t have it, just one of many ways the US is fairer and more equitable than here I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 05:39 AM
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You lose that with de facto. With marriage you can at least get a binding financial agreement - and no I would never marry someone who refuses.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:59 AM
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What vulnerability does marriage give that living together as de facto doesn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 07:04 AM
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Nothing was wrong with it. There has been a concerted effort to destroy it since at least the 1970s. Because if you break down family bonds, people are more likely to be destitute and it’s easier to bring about the Marxist revolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:51 PM
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150 at 5’4 is fine. People are talking more 200+ here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 09:12 PM
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I feel the same for the same reason mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 08:38 AM
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Yes. Absolutely yes. A chaste woman my own age? Be still my beating heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 09:24 PM
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My own girlfriend feels exactly the same way
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:59 PM
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Oh yeah absolutely. That's exactly why I would never do the passport thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 10:01 PM
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Men just want to be desired. They want to be found attractive by their woman. That’s hardly difficult to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:22 PM
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Oh yes. Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:33 AM
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I’m just speaking for myself… A loyal, virtuous woman who shares my values and is a good communicator. Looks don’t really matter at all, being 10kg overweight is fine, being 40kg overweight isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:13 PM
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I can’t believe I had to scroll so far to get this answer. This is exactly it. The people pleasing passive personality works well with making friends and in your career. But it actively hinders you with dating (if you’re a bloke).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:06 PM
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The best deal is marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 05:04 AM
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Of course. Without a doubt, and I wouldn’t even hesitate. That said, I would never consider having sex with someone who wasn’t also staunchly pro life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 01:20 PM
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Thank you kindly. I have just gotten to the point where I can barely tolerate spending time with my parents, they just wear me down so much. They don’t need to be hard on me any more! You do you though. Run your own race, but take the opportunities that inevitably will present themselves in your life, don’t shy away from them due to anxiety or fear of failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 05:02 AM
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That’s me exactly right down to the glasses and haircut. But I do prefer button up flannel shirts, or check/plaid at the very least. That said, the only girl I desire affection from is my girlfriend. Couldn’t care less what random Insta-type gals think.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/24 04:59 AM
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I would much rather have Adam - but do everything that I can as a child and teen to make sure his social skills are as good as possible so he doesn’t have the same struggles his father did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 05:27 AM
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With family, sometimes you can’t win. I am a literal millionaire with houses, cars and a successful profitable small business at age, 30, I go to church weekly (if not more often), I have a university educated girlfriend with a respected job in healthcare, I have meaningful social connections with both men and women - and my parents still think I’m a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 09:22 AM
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Male losers are dating professional women if said male loser has “charm” or “confidence” (which is in reality arrogance).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 09:17 AM
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Yes but if anything that was even more the case decades ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 03:04 AM
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Modern women have been subjected to anti-family propaganda to a greater degree. That’s all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/24 02:41 AM
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I feel much the same. Then you find someone, and you’ll be thankful you never changed your personality just to fit society’s idea of what a man should be. There’s nothing more beta than changing your entire personality to be “alpha” for a sniff of a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 06:54 AM
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Just be yourself then, do what makes you comfortable and have confidence in your true nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 10:37 PM
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Agreeableness as a man will get you very far in your professional life but absolutely nuke your dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 10:03 PM
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This is the truth right here, study is far more important than socialisation during important formative years, then they wonder why we’re so stunted as adults. I never got the secret GF, but then again, I wasn’t attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 08:53 PM
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Outside of a dead bedroom I have no idea why a person in a relationship would ever watch porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 11:54 PM
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I actually really love what you mentioned in the second paragraph. There’s something really sweet about it! As a bloke, we love to feel competent. Not just for attraction but also for our self confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 10:10 PM
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The only thing that matters is arrogance/extraversion. A quiet bloke with a tendency towards getting imposter syndrome - no matter how good looking or rich - will not ever be successful. I’m wealthy, top 2-4% earner for my age, and apparently look like Zayn Malik. Very little success with women still.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:56 PM
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I’m not a 7 figure earner, but I am a 6 figure earner with a 7 figure net worth by 30 inclusive of a fully paid off home and successful profitable business. I realised it has no impact when my first girlfriend ghosted me for a week and then came back and told me it was because “everything is about work with you”…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:53 PM
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No six pack here but have the seven figure net worth…didn’t help me one bit. Agreed with the improving game stuff, but I don’t want to marry a woman who isn’t into the real (beta) me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:43 AM
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All this assumes you live in a city.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:18 AM
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Ahh so that was my problem all these years. Should have ditched the electrics for acoustics. Righto.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 02:02 AM
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I would say a good looking broke felon would have an easier time than an equivalently good looking self employed accountant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 11:36 PM
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It doesn’t really matter…it can be either and the point still stands.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 01:47 PM
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I was referring to my first ex who dumped me, sorted my life out, she still wouldn’t take me back. These days I’m dating someone 1000x better but it took me years to get over the first gal. I’ve had plenty of other rejection but it never hurt as much as my first GF
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 12:48 PM
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Men and women look for different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 03:14 AM
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It doesn’t but leftists do legitimately think that. They have a different idiotic word for that, it’s “Uncle Tom”.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 02:46 AM
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Exactly and it works both ways. I would never want to date a casual sex haver. Did once and it was terrible. So why would I expect a decent woman to want to date me if I hypothetically had casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 01:35 AM
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Nah not at all. I want to live the fuckboy lifestyle - but the fucking will only be done with a wife whom I adore. That’s the real dream lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 01:33 AM
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And that is exactly the reason I don’t have any alcohol at all except communion wine. It’s such a slippery slope for us socially awkward guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 10:05 PM
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I feel every bit of this comment. The characteristics you need to be successful in business - be dependable, reliable, honest, hard working and put others first - actively work against you when it comes to maintaining attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 10:03 PM
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The hardest thing about dating is that you can do everything right and the girl of your dreams can still reject you…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 09:52 PM
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The same leftist Marxist shit really. There’s an in group and an out group that is by there very nature worthy of hate. Whether it’s the “rich”, the self employed working class, white people, rural people, women, Christians, all those leftist philosophies act the same towards them. It’s driven by pure internalised hatred. It’s baked into leftist theology.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:28 PM
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Black pill and blue pill are the same toxic falsehoods with a different spin on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:25 PM
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The irony is those same people will say that capitalism/free markets are inherently unfair…the economic free market is considerably fairer than the romantic relationship one in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:24 PM
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Yup that’s it. A broke single mother relying on welfare is a rock solid Democrat/Labor/Labour/Syriza voter.
/r/MensRights31/08/24 12:57 PM
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Communism. Destroy family bonds, it’s easier to usher in the revolution.
/r/MensRights31/08/24 07:21 AM
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Do you feel the same about women who need to be choked? Or those who make themselves hairless like a six year old? Because that’s porn too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 10:43 PM
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Tired of Sex is incredible.
/r/MensRights30/08/24 10:08 PM
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It was hilarious because she viewed me as being a worse option than men who were literally eating themselves into an early grave! Hurt real bad at the time. So glad she never took me back though…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:24 PM
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She absolutely is phenomenal…yet she considers me so intelligent and inspirational and she says that I’m the one who is way out of her league! Yeah she needs glasses clearly 😂 no idea how I lucked out with her but I guess good things come to those who wait. The ex had outward beauty, but nah it didn’t translate on the inside. I could never imagine being that cruel to someone, there’s just no need for it. And to add icing on the cake she was on Tinder within the hour, apparently. The first moment…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:22 PM
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Too sweet. I’m absolutely nuts about her, she’s a wonderful person in pretty much every way. We’re aligned on life goals and I can truly be myself around her. The attraction is real on her part too - which is always going to be what I’m worried and insecure about due to my previous experiences. I was lucky enough to meet her when she moved in across the road, how she remained single all these years I don’t know. But I’m a lucky fella for it. A big part of my awful feelings on the matter was actu…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 03:09 PM
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I’m only now getting over it, after having met my current GF. I have dated women in the past but my current gal is the only one I have had a connection with. I spent way too much time pining after her, from age 24 to 30 she occupied all my thoughts. Pathetic I know. It hurt a lot because I would have rather she dumped me for a fitter more attractive man. I’m the same height as your BF but I’m 152lbs. He seems like he has a good head on his shoulders and you treat him well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:31 PM
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Haha I know. I just get offended that my ex has been with 300-pounders since unceremoniously dumping my skinny arse six years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:22 PM
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You love fat men? You must be my ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 02:13 PM
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When it takes literal years to find someone interested in you, it makes much more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:49 AM
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It’s true. I’m not. Nor am I attracted to Middle Eastern looking women despite being Middle Eastern myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:49 PM
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Yes I do. Some women are so pornsick they think men prefer the pornstar look. Come on. Most men prefer a demure kind, and most importantly, chaste, woman. Shaved intimate areas reminds one of either a porn star or little girl. Hardly attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:17 PM
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The only odd thing is that I prefer unshaven legs/arms. Even then most men would prefer unshaven intimate areas because who wants their girl to look like a 6 year old Most men I know share the other opinions with me - though to be fair that may be just Australia
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:53 PM
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I can’t even. Soon you’ll tell me that when I say I prefer women with no makeup…I really like women who wear supposed natural looking makeup. And when I say I prefer unshaved legs, I’m lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:40 PM
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I’m not particularly white. I’m Lebanese-Australian. I like whoever I find attractive. Nothing more to it than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:39 PM
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I swear women don’t understand what men find attractive. If they did the Botox/lip filler industry would die overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:25 PM
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Is her height meant to be attractive? The beauty on that show was Bella Thorne. Before she ruined herself of course
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:23 PM
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And yet there are so many women completely baffled that I find Pearl Davis attractive, and wouldn’t give Zendaya another look. Sydney Sweeney though? That woman is the literal embodiment of a perfect ten.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 01:06 PM
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I’m average height and decent looking (probably more than decent if you’re into Mediterranean/Levantine looking blokes). But it took me years and countless failed attempts. And it certainly didn’t come through dating apps, she moved across the road from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 08:19 AM
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My current girlfriend - who took me years to find mind you - is plain (but I think she’s beautiful). I’m not into the Instagram look at all. And I’m healthy BMI, wealthy, have no kids or baggage otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 08:17 AM
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If you’ve been struggling to find someone to create a family with, I struggle to conceive how anything could possibly be more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 07:57 AM
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That’s actually not been my experience, my current GF is actually considerably more extroverted than I am. My experience is introverts have been turned off by me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:14 PM
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Just reinforces the thinking that I have, given my nature, anyone together with me would just be putting up with me because they can’t get with anyone better. I hope that’s not the case with my current GF.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:02 PM
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Thanks for the extra explanation…but it’s still a blackpill.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 03:29 PM
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The “Madonna”-Whore complex is the dumbest thing I ever heard. A woman being a “Madonna” would make me considerably more sexually attracted to her. Someone who desires me and me only? Yes please!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 09:33 AM
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That’s such a blackpill
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 04:30 AM
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Clearly I can’t shift your opinion, but I must ask, have you ever had a relationship with a man? If you have, I’m sorry that he was so odious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 07:02 PM
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Well I don’t know how you can be so dismissive and hateful towards a literal half of the human population. Why would a man care more about what his friends think vs what his wife thinks of him? Men don’t have any desire for human connection? Desire to respect his woman? Desire to agree politically or religiously? Desire to just have fun spending time with his spouse? Give me a break. Bloody hell I’m not even married yet, and I can’t even look at any random woman (be it in a picture or in real li…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 06:48 PM
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Congratulations I think I have officially read the most retarded take on this sub. What man would prefer a faceless bikini model he’s never met over his loving wife? To say that 99% of men think this way shows how deep leftist feminist programming really runs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 05:45 PM
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I feel exactly the same way. Knowing that a woman has dated a man like that, however briefly, kills all attraction to her. I would always be thinking she has no genuine desire for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 04:19 AM
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I am a fella with a BMI in the normal range. It will always baffle me that every fella my first ex dated after me was massive. She isn’t fat either. Really wrecked my confidence after the way she dumped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 03:33 AM
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I thought I was wealthy until I read your post. No hate though, well done.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 10:42 AM
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High libido and chaste? That’s the dream woman right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 10:43 AM
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Hate to break it to ya, but there is something that comes with being self employed…you have to put in serious hours. My first GF dumped me like a hot potato over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 10:39 AM
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Agree, it matters to the point of covering basic necessities. Once a woman establishes that the bloke isn’t going to be a financial drain, then it doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 05:59 AM
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If you’re not fat, guaranteed there’s someone who finds you stunning.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 06:48 PM
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I value virginity and it’s honestly something I find attractive in my current girlfriend. And she and I are significantly older than you are. Of course, I’m Catholic and being religious does make a difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/24 03:05 AM
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Great point. "I want to hold your hand" is a long long way from bitches and hoes and busting caps.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:07 AM
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A lot of blokes desire a boring religious woman, myself included.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/24 03:10 AM
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A guy with all those characteristics who is introverted would not be someone most women would want.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 01:15 AM
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Well if that's the case you should have much better luck than here in Australia.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:04 PM
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Most guys would prefer an introverted woman. Myself included. Why? Less drama. Higher attraction too, I'm so not into party girls. I'm actually crazy into my girl for this reason, she holds high standards for herself but isn't really judgemental of others at all (considerably less so than myself lol) I guess what I'm saying is I've known a lot of women to get fooled from media programming that men love abrasive "confident" women rather than someone who is kind and introverted. Out of curiosity w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 10:02 PM
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Ouch. A bit harsh. Says more about him than about you. My ex said similar to me after trying to drain my dry, she was beyond awful. My advice would be to focus on blokes with more “beta” traits, good career, education, high agreeableness, pleasant and non-abrasive personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 09:55 PM
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Appreciate that, but my dating history is absolutely insane! Only just recently have I found someone I vibe with, and I’m fit, make good money and have no baggage… Edit: And she is a virgin who wants to wait until marriage. Fine by me, totally worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 09:44 PM
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Why would I resent women making me wait? If I were to resent anything, it would be women not committing to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 09:39 PM
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Exactly. This has huge “why don’t you read my mind” energy… Communication isn’t all about listening, it’s about speaking clearly too.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 11:51 AM
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I appreciate that. I do try though. I have a fantastic career, self employed and independently wealthy, though my first girlfriend dumped me over it (admittedly I wasn’t wealthy yet then and was quite stressed). I am fit but not jacked, and probably won’t ever be without steroids, but I’m not willing to go that far. I have friends, get along great with my family, and am well respected by most in my town. I am most likely autistic though, not that I’ve been diagnosed, and what’s the point at my a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:04 PM
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One or two options a year? Look at Chad over here. One option every three years or so, maximum, for me…and I’m bloody 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:03 AM
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Other blokes can have a hoe phase. I just want a husband phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 08:53 AM
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Bet he’s extroverted.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:32 PM
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“Confident” yeah there it is. A bloke can have everything, but if the kuhnfidenz ain’t there he ain’t worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:29 PM
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Porn has done way worse for women’s expectations than men’s. Why on earth would a bloke want a woman who’s hairless below the neck, caked on makeup, and has got lip fillers?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 05:28 PM
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Ummm…what? I want children and it kills me every day that I didn’t have a chance to have them by now at 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:03 AM
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I haven’t read all the comments but I generally believe the US has a large earnings gap because they allow income splitting between married couples. This incentivises women to stay home or work part time jobs. Here in Australia the earnings gap is 12 cents on the dollar, which is partially explained by the lack of income splitting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 08:31 PM
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Yes I don’t know a single bloke into polygamy in real life. Maybe only low confidence soyboys on Reddit are into that, and that’s because they feel that’s the only way they can get a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 12:37 PM
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The vast majority of men I know in my life, and the vast majority of human history. Who wants to be old and alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:10 AM
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Most men would pick whichever one they fancy the most. I’ll pick the plainest one who has a calm demeanour and is Catholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:05 AM
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90%+ of men would stop jerking off to those pixels if they had a woman who loved them to be intimate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:25 AM
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So did my brother and sister 😛
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 08:45 AM
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One awful way it has wrecked the dating market is having to deal with women trying to look like porn stars. Fully shaved, fake lip fillers etc. No thank you. Perhaps even worse is women thinking porn like sex is what men want. No thanks, choking is such a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:57 PM
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Upvoted for reference to the best board game of all time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:12 PM
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Your mum sounds like a good woman, I’m hoping my current girl has much the same nature. A good saver with a non-flashy mindset. Edit: wealth wise I am top 5% in my country (Australia) and would be top 1% for my age group most likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:40 AM
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I’m more a savings account and investment property bloke, not a watch bloke. My car is a three decade old Ford Falcon.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 09:36 AM
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At best, men will put up with that if she’s hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:01 AM
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Exactly. If the title is that wrong, I would hate to find out what’s between those covers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:01 AM
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Being wealthy never helped me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:52 AM
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Dating a single mum is so weird. Half the people you know would say "are you crazy? Stop thinking with your dick!" and the other half would say "don't you dare break up with her, you're nothing if you don't step up" I personally had a horrible experience. Never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:39 PM
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Yeah 10kg overweight is fine. 50kg overweight is a completely different matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:32 AM
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Makes sense. Destroy your body in one way, destroy it in another. No thanks for either. I am not fat and have never smoked even one cigarette, having this standard makes total sense
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:31 AM
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Seriously? Smoking is feral.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:30 AM
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Stated reasoning: “it’s best for the child” Actual reasoning: “it’s best for the state” An actual baby daddy likely has very limited ability to pay anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 12:01 AM
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Umm lots of them fled communism
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 08:12 AM
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Thank you. I've recently met a lovely woman who really does it for me, who happened to stumble into my life just by moving across the road from me. She seems to share the superficial stuff that I loved about my first girlfriend, but doesn't seem to have the same attachment issues, heck she will at least cuddle me which is a step up! Certainly no guarantee that things will work out well but she's nuts about me and it's been far too many years since I've been genuinely excited by a woman...let's s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 05:16 AM
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So basically just like leftist feminists lie to women about how men are - so that women can be bitter alone and on welfare therefore reliable left wing voters? Same shit, different smell.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 03:12 AM
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Couldn’t agree more with what you wrote. It can really mess with you mentally, particularly if you’re like me and have an anxious attachment style. It took me years to recover, wasted my twenties being messed up by this woman who wants nothing to do with me, only now at 30 I’m beginning to crawl out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:41 PM
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Fair enough. I wasn’t saying that avoidant attachment necessarily means hoe phase though. My first girlfriend had a count of one before me and her avoidant attachment broke me mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/24 10:50 AM
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Your last paragraph kinda hits the nail on the head. A difference in earnings is fine when the lower earner earns a normal middle class income and the higher earner is making a top 10% income. It’s less fine when the higher earner has the middle class income and the lower earner is a welfare bum. I feel like that’s the nuance lost in this conversation. I am a man but I am a top 5% earner in Australia, I would never date a welfare bum again, having a reasonable job and savings is attractive becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:34 PM
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Well put. Every single one of those is a massive turnoff to me. ESPECIALLY the avoidant attachment style.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:28 PM
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That happened with my first girlfriend. Ever since her I became attracted to thin fair women with plainer faces. It just stuck. Even though she didn’t treat me well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 10:26 PM
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Tanya Plibersek, is that you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:42 PM
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I know. But I’m a Catholic that chooses not to partake. I’m an Australian Catholic with a background that’s often thought of as being “Muslim” by the Anglo population - I don’t know if that makes a difference but my family is mostly teetotal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:37 PM
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Fair enough. But it’s not out of arrogance really, it’s that most teetotallers want a spouse that’s the same, it’s a compatibility issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:33 PM
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Teetotaller church going virgin - that’s exactly the woman I’m seeing now and it makes me soooo attracted to her. Vice is unattractive. Surely that isn’t controversial.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:19 PM
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Catholic in my case…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:18 PM
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Because I don’t do any of those things, never will, and would like a woman that feels the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:17 PM
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Sounds like my sort of bloke. I’ll be mates with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:05 AM
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Agree. Same vibes as “I wouldn’t do that for my children but I would do anything for my dogs”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 06:04 AM
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Exactly correct! That’s my experience too, as a 30 year old bloke. I would put myself in the category of being decent looking and fit with a good education, and I definitely want a wife and children. What I will never understand is the women who seem to lock down the grossest no-hoper guys in their 20s - and these guys usually don’t exactly have a great personality to make up for it. I just don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 11:30 AM
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A marriage just doesn’t “fall apart”, you know that. People give up, cheat, or get influenced by bitter friends into thinking the single life is better.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 11:27 AM
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Careful with the downvotes bud 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:00 AM
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My fantasy: to have a woman not leave me because she’s bored
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 07:56 AM
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No, I like plain women, current girl I’m seeing is not objectively pretty at all (she is to me) but she is gorgeous, kind and chaste. I can’t speak for all men but I can speak for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 04:24 AM
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Yeah everyone’s different but I am not even into the Stacy vibe at all. I like plain women. I have my good points and flaws, it just so happens the flaws I have are exactly in the department that makes women not find me attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 12:41 AM
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Who said anything about not wanting to go for a looksmatch? My own looksmatch would be totally fine by me, even a few notches below.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:09 PM
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This is it. That’s probably the blackest pill of all, you can work so hard to get everything right and succeed, but the woman you’re into still may not find it good enough because she’s just not into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:48 PM
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Agree there. I couldn’t ever date someone who was both conservative and a Trinitarian Christian of some sort. Some things you just can’t compromise on.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:38 PM
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Same here. I am an Australian Catholic and attend regularly, our parish is reasonably gender balanced but skews older. Hence I have many older ladies always asking me if I’ve found someone yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:39 AM
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Nothing to do with colour. I'm into very fair women on the plainer side, yes, but Salma is just butt ugly to me, she looks like my sister but even worse. The fact that her magnum opus is her film portrayal of someone considered one of the ugliest and most mannish women of all time should say it all. Aishwarya is mid to me, not as ugly as Salma but not someone I would seek out. And I consider myself to have no standards these days...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 03:30 AM
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I guess everyone’s different with what they find attractive, but she would have to be one of if not the least attractive normal weight woman I’ve ever seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 10:11 PM
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Salma Hayek is fugly. I would bet OP looks ten times better.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:56 PM
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If that’s the case I totally agree with you. The issue that I have is the assumption that every loser with women is a total loser in every other aspect of life. You can’t get a woman so you spend all day moping in your parents’ house? I don’t think that’s really ever accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:55 PM
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That’s true and so does mine. It’s 40+ mainly, and mainly men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:48 PM
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I dunno. Having money and hobbies never increased anyone’s attraction to me, ever. And everyone I ever dated thought my hobbies (music/guitar) were a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 09:47 PM
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They were celibate then they got married. The girl I’m currently seeing is 30 and a celibate virgin and will remain so until she gets married, for example…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 10:05 PM
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I will never give up skinny jeans.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:02 AM
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Are you being sarcastic? I kinda don’t really get porn. And I definitely don’t get why a man would choose porn when they have a real woman by their side.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 09:15 PM
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Exactly the same here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:54 AM
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Nah. I want children because I like children.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 10:54 AM
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Yeah I had a female friend who showed me her 1000+ matches. And they were DECENT guys, clean cut, good jobs, looked like relationship material. She was so overwhelmed it was shocking. The girl was mid, of Asian background, honestly I would never have been attracted to her. I said to her: Don’t look at them all, pick just one you like the look of and start a conversation with him first. If that doesn’t work out, move on to the next bloke. If it does, brilliant, you have yourself a relationship th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 12:35 AM
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Well if I were to be an equivalent woman, I would fare a lot better. Loyal, thin, introverted, uni educated and hard working. I reckon I would be a catch as a female.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:22 AM
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I personally do, in so many ways. I was almost in tears last night at a social event, thinking how lucky I am in so many ways. The only thing I lack in life is a wife and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 11:14 AM
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The thing is, there’s a not insignificant amount of young men whose literal only problem in life is their lack of romantic success. Of course they’re going to focus on that one aspect. Even though women have other privileges they’re nowhere near as strong or significant as the one they have in the relationship sphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 08:50 AM
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Yeah, I couldn’t date a non Christian, or a left wing woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:12 PM
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There ya go. It’s a good idea when others do it, but not you? Spoiler alert: it’s never a good idea. Get a real job instead, you make more that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 03:00 AM
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It’s not the celibate women, celibate women are great and that’s a green flag. It’s the women with 100+ body count who only now realise they want something more serious. And while there is a chance that some celibate women will be dating in their 30s or 40s, more than likely they would already be married.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 10:59 PM
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Yeah, I've hit 30 and it still hasn't happened for me despite being stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 08:20 AM
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Great post and agree 100% - sometimes it seems the only thing women pick for is confidence and low inhibition.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/24 10:03 PM
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No. I would rather starve. Or better still, get a real job.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:39 PM
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I feel like you're missing my point, if a woman falls for a charming extrovert, wouldn't she be disappointed when the real me comes out later? We're all flawed, but it seems like my flaws in particular are concentrated in an area that repels the vast majority of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:30 PM
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I already do that, that’s just being social. Being extroverted means that you naturally derive energy from doing that, instead of finding it tiring by nature. In the end, being accepted for who I am seems like a bridge too far…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:16 PM
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Yeah but if I get into a relationship, and then she sees the real me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:12 PM
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Fair enough. I feel like I lost the genetic lottery a bit, being born an introvert, because it seems to put SO MANY women off. Both in real life experience, and what I read here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 04:03 AM
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My experience with this is completely and utterly the opposite. I'm sure there are exceptions, but I can't say that's what I've noticed. I've noticed 18-25 year old women are much much more likely to be coddled by their parents and not put any thought into setting up their financial future. Edit: Maybe because I'm a man who's looking to date women, so I just haven't come across men who are immature in that respect.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 12:07 AM
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It works a little differently here. Both members of the couple have to be unemployed, and you have to show that you’re seeking work, if you’re a married couple. If you’re a single mother, you get welfare without having to look for work, and it’s a higher amount. It lasts until the child is age 17, or forever if the child is disabled. My cousin’s mother forbade my cousin from getting a job while he lived with her for this reason, he could qualify as “disabled” if he was out of the workforce. Than…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 11:56 PM
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Not to mention the absolute worst personality trait that allows a man to make good money: spending too much time at work.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 11:45 PM
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Is being extroverted really a good quality to have? As a man looking for a woman, extraversion is unattractive to me, particularly considering I'm not an extrovert myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 11:40 PM
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Australia? No questions asked welfare until the child is 17. This privilege is not extended to married mothers, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 11:14 PM
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I agree with the fella you're replying to, but I would say that it's not unethical to use, it doesn't *really* fool anyone, it's just a boner killer. The professional look is not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 07:41 AM
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Not deceptive. But I don't find it particularly attractive. Particularly the caked on look, the gloopy eyelashes, and the heavy foundation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 07:40 AM
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“Women tend to remember and respect men who caused them emotional distress, rather than those who genuinely helped improve their lives.“ Some women fit this category. Many women fit this category. My sister fits this category, sadly. As have ex girlfriends of mine. However my mum definitely does not fit this category. She committed very early to an intelligent beta man, had kids as soon as she was able, and is still married to him to this very day without a hint of infidelity. She can't even beg…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 07:35 AM
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The $300k I'm talking about in my case is my own earnings from my business, I'm self employed. Equity in the business is outside of that in my case. However I keep my cards very close to my chest on that one in real life. I just don't talk about it and live reasonably modestly. I drive a 28 year old car, for example. I have never really had success. I've had relationships, but only one girl I was into and she dropped me like a hot potato and went on Tinder the next day. Everyone else, I was scra…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:11 AM
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Rappers have orgies because they're tattooed badboy criminals. I don't think your average 6 figure earner who invested well is having orgies every night.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:52 AM
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If you can compromise on the earning things to $300k, I would fit all those standards. I still struggle though, and am very beta. Needless to say, I don’t think your standards are high at all. Your third one is really the most important though. Coming from a warm family is something you don’t appreciate until you date someone from a broken home, it can be awful. I’m Catholic and my most recent girlfriend had a Jehovah’s Witness background, needless to say they were terrible to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:17 AM
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Not unreasonable at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:12 AM
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They’re usually plastic AF when they lead with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:12 AM
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I think that’s great. I should have waited. It’s my only regret, and someone loyal and attracted to me would have made it worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:10 AM
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If you were to relax your views on the height thing, I reckon you’d be able to find may more blokes who meet your standard. If you’re not willing to compromise there, that’s fine, I personally won’t compromise on fair skin and we’re allowed to have superficial dealbreakers. But I reckon apart from the height requirement, my brother and pretty much all my cousins (myself included) would fulfil your other requirements. They aren’t rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 10:07 AM
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I would be fine with it either way. I would gladly cook for someone in the talking stage. No issues with it. And actually, I have done that in the past with everyone I’ve dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 11:36 PM
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Extroverted. There it is. That’s it. That’s all it is. No extraversion, and you’re screwed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:33 PM
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I won’t argue that their decision making is fucked. I won’t argue that they’re often no better than the men they have kids with (though if they’re actually raising the kid and the bloke isn’t, they are better in that way). Some welfare mums are very attractive though, looks wise, but get to know them and the attraction is killed completely. Anyway, my point is, hypergamy isn’t female nature. Female nature is to get together with a guy who satisfies your base desires, someone arrogant, domineerin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:17 PM
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Every single person in my country, even someone who has never worked a day in their life, can afford a mobile phone. Though I guess you bring up a point. Here in Australia, people essentially work because they choose to, given how generous and easily obtained welfare is. Nobody lives in abject poverty, unless they’re an addict, which even then isn’t an income problem. In another nation which has, say, significantly lower minimum wages and less generous unemployment or pension benefits like the U…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:11 PM
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I have three and am getting a fourth built. Still dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 01:45 PM
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I know having money is important for many things in life. Keeping a roof over your head, keeping healthy, saving for your future. But it sure as heck won’t get you a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 11:03 AM
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That's disingenuous. There's a big difference between having literally nothing at all, and what OP is describing. The majority of 18-30 women in Australia would have no problems dating a bloke on welfare. As a matter of fact, he's more likely to be seen as "bad" therefore attractive, unlike a bloke with a good job who will often be seen as too square for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 10:45 AM
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I think OP is absolutely correct. I'm very well to do for my age, and I don't think it's ever helped me land a woman, even once in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 08:41 AM
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Women already date men beneath them in every conceivable way. I’m a man and I think hypergamy doesn’t exist. If hypergamy did exist, we wouldn’t have endless single mothers on welfare having kids to absent fathers. Hypergamy used to exist, when there was no welfare, and more social stigma to being divorced. Hypergamy is no longer useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:30 AM
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Not even harsher standards, just different ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 11:49 AM
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That's bloody depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:29 AM
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I was told this on the Discord server last night: the real red pill is that doing all that stuff, being fit, being financially successful, will only get you *a foot in the door*. The personality has to do the rest of the heavy lifting.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:23 AM
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Is it really difficult to fathom why someone would not be into bar, rave or club scenes? That said, I'm not into all that but I do love live music and that's kinda adjacent to it. So I'll see as many local bands as I can this year, original or covers, don't care. Probably won't find a wife from it but I do enjoy myself heaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/24 03:09 AM
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Extremely well said. A woman having standards is a good thing. A misanthropic woman complaining about anything and everything isn't. I don't know why people conflate the two.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:18 AM
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I'm fully convinced women are attracted to complete slobs. Because there is no way an adult man above eighteen should be avoiding doing that stuff. I can't imagine an adult male doesn't put his clothes in the washing basket and doesn't vacuum the carpet. Yet they're always the men who are in relationships. Lord have mercy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:14 AM
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Yeah, that’s just me. All talent and zero charisma. I have the personality of wet tissue paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 12:18 PM
1

Competence is very sexy, men find competent women sexy. Not sure about the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 12:17 PM
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I’ve played since I was 9 and play at a professional level. Hasn’t helped me diddly squat. Though I did have that discussion with my mum. I would rather get on stage with 5000 watchful eyes and no preparation, than go on a first date. The first date would give me so much more anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/24 12:15 PM
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Yeah, I guess if you’re scraping the bottom of the barrel. But I have no baggage, I’m fit, have assets and make good money, am considered good looking, have a good relationship with family and friends and a social life. And I want marriage and children. Yet I can’t seem to go anywhere approaching the centre of the barrel, it’s gotta be the bottom? Also I would be fine with obese if she’s conservative and Catholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:30 AM
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Why would I want an obese woman if I’m not obese myself? A couple of extra kilos is fine of course. And why would I want an older woman if I want children? A couple years older is fine of course. I’ve been hearing for 15 years how men need to be better, but it’s a struggle to even find a woman anywhere near my own level.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:17 AM
1

Yeah, if you could let me know of mine, that would be great.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 01:13 AM
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It's extremely common. I don't think I can think of a single relationship out of anyone I know where the man is considered objectively better looking. Likewise, I can't think of a relationship with anyone under 50 where the woman is considered more social. I don't think the men are rejected because of their looks, that might be the convenient explainer, but it was more likely down to lack of confidence/arrogance. Or maybe, they heard "I'm not attracted to you" and took that to mean "you're not g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:50 AM
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Of course women care about their own looks. It's that women don't care about looks in a potential partner. Otherwise, explain the slovenly gargoyles with pot bellies that a lot of women find themselves with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/24 02:31 AM
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Agree completely. And I would argue, apart from height, most women don't care about looks one bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:09 PM
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Of course it does. Men see those with anti-social personalities being more successful than them in finding relationships - and they will want to obtain that success themselves. Hence they will adopt those traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/24 10:02 PM
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Zero, outside of cases of sexual assault. If a man sleeps with a woman consensually, it's because he's attracted to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 11:08 AM
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Old mate above is just being a complete dickhead. Anyone who would judge you for being a family violence victim is, frankly, not partner material.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 11:06 AM
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Very well said. Some people are ridiculously charming *when they want to be*. Family can warn you but it's easy to cast their thoughts aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 11:05 AM
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As a male survivor I can't really speak for everyone - but I will say my experience with the court/legal system and police (in Australia) has been excellent and helpful. I was expecting the worst and to be handcuffed by default but that wasn't the case at all. However, I can't say any woman has viewed me negatively because of this. I only told a select few (all family and all female) but again, the response I got has been nothing but supportive. Especially from my auntie, who married my uncle af…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 11:03 AM
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Thanks for your kind words. The final straw was when I got screamed at after the Christmas party I treated my staff to. I got home at the ungodly late hour at 11:30pm.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 08:44 AM
1

Quote from my dear mother: "Every woman deep inside wants to be pampered, even if they don't say it out loud".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:16 AM
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I agree with your statement "The only way a man can be loved is to start a family and that means taking a lead." A lot of men who are not natural leaders will want to play the part for the opportunity to experience the joy that a wife and children will bring. However, I am utterly unconvinced hypergamy is real. It doesn't match with my real life experiences. If anything, *hypo*gamy is probably more accurate, given the amount of good men whose wives/girlfriends have left them and then shacked up …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:15 AM
2

To be fair, there's a retired gentleman I know in my town, who loved being a teacher and absolutely hated the administrative load of being a principal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:12 AM
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The amount of women I know together with man-children (including, sadly, my own sister) indicates women very much like baby partners. I can't speak for all men but I personally find competence very sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:09 AM
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I have never met a woman in a leadership role at her workplace, who also wanted to lead a relationship. Invariably they were submissive, and wanted absolutely no part of taking control of the dating process.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 05:08 AM
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My sister who is 21, is good looking, fit, educated, kind and social. She is dating a loser with no job, ugly, smoker, no prospects. No, I don’t know why. My mum refers to him as “that thing”. I’m in full agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:52 AM
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Exactly, the factors that make men stay in their marriages don’t usually exist in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:50 AM
2

You seem reasonable. My most recent ex would scream bloody murder if I spent time with my employees outside of work. Needless to say she was turfed, but that happened way too late.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:47 AM
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I would argue very little, it’s much more likely to be fear of not seeing the children. Fear of losing the house would be second.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 04:45 AM
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Great work. You and I have exactly the same goal. I work a career where I deal with a lot of 60+ individuals and the differences are staggering.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:03 AM
2

I must have grown up in the sweet spot, obviously before vaping, and after smoking was considered cool. Yet my younger brother became a smoker…who knows why.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/24 01:01 AM
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I'm 30, I love phonecalls. You can talk to someone on the phone for hours while driving, doing chores, etc. Texting requires your sole attention. When I get bored I call my mum, or grandfather. I think they appreciate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:43 PM
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I'm self employed too and feel like hiring is harder (and some hires feel like they can bully me) due to looking quite young. Some men fill out in their twenties but that never happened for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:35 PM
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You treated your body well, you're reaping the rewards. Well done. Some people who didn't do the same may just be a bit bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:33 PM
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Part of Gen Z regressing to traditional ageing norms is down to the plastic surgery obsession and the resurgence of smoking. Smoking is self explanatory - when I was growing up in the 90s and early 00s it was seen as filthy and disgusting (as it should be) and you were essentially a social pariah. Not so much these days, plenty get started with vaping and then graduate to cigarettes when vaping no longer satisfies nicotine cravings. Not to mention how weed is pushed everywhere in the media, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:31 PM
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You're correct there, my mum who has olive complexion and I kinda suspect is neurodivergent, was much the same in her late twenties. Never wore makeup except for her wedding day, and always had a more "teen" style of dress at the time. Even as late as 30 she looked like a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:27 PM
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I'm 30, and seeing photos of my late twenties mum with toddler me, she looks like a child. Probably helps that she never wore makeup at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:24 PM
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Okay. Well I'm in my 30s and get mistaken for being a teenager all the time. Especially when unshaven. Though I do recognise that given Dad's history, I'm lucky to have a full head of hair and to not be grey by my age.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/24 10:23 PM
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I’m not sure what’s keeping you in this relationship. Find someone that appreciates what you have to offer. Life is so much easier that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 11:01 PM
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Hahah this is so wrong. Are you really trying to say that people who aren’t successful in dating can’t do anything right? Do non-troll people really think this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:58 PM
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Very well said. Being nice is a good thing when it comes to everything except for women’s attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/24 11:57 PM
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I’d like to think so. And if there’s anything a bloke can do to improve in that respect please let me know
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 09:10 PM
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You see. That's what I want. I can only hope to find someone that wonderful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:39 AM
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Was? That is still the case here in Australia, ask Paul Hogan.
/r/MensRights10/05/24 12:49 AM
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Teachers get paid very well here in Australia, crazy to think that’s not the case everywhere.
/r/MensRights08/05/24 03:38 AM
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She sounds absolutely wonderful and is so lucky to have you and your family. I’m Catholic myself, the stereotype we have of Baptists is “virulent hate”, and my own experiences with some members of my dad’s family have proven that to be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 09:11 PM
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Baptist? Yeah, that tracks like how you would expect sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:54 PM
1

I don’t know what sort of blokes you’ve been talking to but I’m 30 and very much want a family
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:53 PM
2

They’re cute and cuddly in all the ways I’m totally not. Because I’m bad. 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:33 AM
2

A koala bear? 🐨
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:32 AM
2

You got me. I’m a crim. On the run from the law. Bad to the bone. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 11:30 AM
2

Oh yep I've made that mistake before. I've been super attracted to someone and that just allowed me to fall head over heels way too quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:34 AM
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Yeah fair enough. I’m actually moving to a “satellite city” on the outskirts of Melbourne, the idea is it gives the best of both worlds, small town vibe to a degree but half an hour to the centre of Australia’s largest city.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:17 AM
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Hmmmm. This is why I ask these questions. Great point. The amount of people in my town who already assume I’m married is immense. Granted, it’s older people usually, but older people talk to younger relatives and friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:08 AM
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Well that’s it, everyone did get married here so the pool of women my age is quite small. I can think of one “eligible” woman here who is around my age and single but am a bit anxious to hit her up for obvious reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:04 AM
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What the heck is a reel? One of my staff talks about them at work and I swear she speaks another language sometimes. She called an outfit a “fit”…the word makes me think of epilepsy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 08:01 AM
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That’s where living in a small town makes it harder, but I am building a house in my country’s largest city soon. Hopefully moving in next year.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:58 AM
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Nail guns don’t give me anxiety 😥
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:58 AM
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You’re just a spring chicken. I’m way too old then 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:57 AM
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Extremely easy thanks to an uncommon last name. Plenty of photos of me, being featured in a magazine once does help. As does my work being featured on Google Maps. The photos aren’t flattering though 😂 I have a namesake in another state in Australia, but that’s it. I’m not of Anglo background.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:56 AM
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How old are you out of curiosity? I'm 30 and honestly feel waaaay too old for that stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:46 AM
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What if my name is easily identifiable with all my work related stuff - so it's obvious I'm not making up names/locations/ages? Just no Facebook, Snapchat or Instagram?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:46 AM
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Really? For me it's been years and I get rated as above average. I don't get hit on at all by anyone my own age. Fairly regularly I get 60+ year old women being astounded that I am not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:27 AM
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Great point and I agree 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:26 AM
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Plenty of women date down. My life is full of women that date down. I have no idea why. I mean, they don't date *me*, but they date down in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:22 AM
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My ex was beyond cruel about texting her back and calling her back quickly. It was insane to assume that I would *always* be able to respond. Nope.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:20 AM
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I always thought the whole "I love hiking" thing was just a way to weed out people who put no effort into physical fitness/health.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:18 AM
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Yeah exactly. "Go to a meetup group instead of those dating apps, you'll meet better people" "No, no dating here! How dare you even think of me like that, you creep!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:17 AM
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2 is just plain WRONG. I played guitar for four hours straight yesterday, then spent time with cousins for another three. Then spent two hours driving home - and that was on a Sunday. I agree with all the others except #6, unless you're just talking about looks mattering a lot to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 05:16 AM
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If my mother wasn't married to my dad, and she went on a date with a fella who used coupons, she would be ecstatic. Funny how things change. My parents' generation never wasted a dollar. My grandparents' generation didn't even have two dollars to rub together, and they made the most of what they had. My generation waste ungodly amounts of money on crap and constantly cry poor.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 11:10 AM
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Weirdo nerdy Catholic wife? I want mine too 🤣✝️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:59 AM
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Could be a Linux user. Choice of a G word or a K word, maybe even an X word.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 08:58 AM
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Well you called me "dude" which we never hear here in Australia, so I gave you an Australianism back :) I'm really interested to know, what sort of internal work did you do? Obviously the loser overweight fella my ex left me for clearly has some good qualities. I can't see them, but they would have to be there. I would love to know what they are, so I can push myself in that direction and become a better prospect. I'm working on my confidence which admittedly comes from a very low base, ironical…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:43 AM
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Fair enough but it's probably better he recognises there's a problem rather than being in complete and utter denial about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:24 AM
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I know, cobber. It's just that you get told your entire life that you need your shit together for a woman to want you. I am admittedly quite bitter about my ex that I still love leaving me for someone that didn't. In a way, I actually appreciate being told all that. My parents used that one a lot as a teen. "Girls don't want someone who doesn't eat their food properly", "Girls don't want a messy guy"...and they ended up raising a conservative workaholic neat freak. And I would rather be a lonely…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 11:21 AM
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Statistically the most dangerous woman to children are their mothers. By your logic, toddlers are raised by their “predator”. Of course, it’s ridiculous to assume all mothers are Akon Guode.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 10:23 AM
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You are turned off by shyness and like it rough. Everything that turns you on in a guy is exactly what I’m worst at.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 06:25 AM
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Awesome take. It goes both ways though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 11:13 PM
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Oh wow…with all due respect you seem like you would be a nightmare to date. So I guess I’m glad someone like you would never be interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:53 PM
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😂😂😂😂😆 Instant karma!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 10:47 PM
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Of course I care too much. I want children. I’m 30 and childless with seemingly very few prospects, why shouldn’t I care? And also - when did I ever blame women as a whole?
/r/MensRights03/05/24 12:25 PM
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Fair enough. I’ve been called a lot of things…but never small 😂
/r/MensRights03/05/24 12:23 PM
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Average height and actually above average where it counts. Not that I broadcast that in real life.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 06:50 AM
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Exactly. And who would want that? There are (most likely) actual children to take care of! I remember reading a parenting book by Steve Biddulph back in the day. He said something to the effect of “a wife already has children, she doesn’t need another one she’s married to”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 03:48 AM
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I never said that. All I said was that I personally have tried everything but still come up short. Actually, in my experience it’s the 3/10 guys that get access to relationships. It would hurt less if I were rejected in favour of a 10/10 guy, but I usually get rejected in favour of a 3 at best.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 03:36 AM
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Everything on the list. I am financially successful with a career, business, assets of multiple types, homes, dress well, have hobbies, am fit (though not ripped), have friends and family I’m close with.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 03:31 AM
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Really? Not my experience at all.
/r/MensRights03/05/24 03:28 AM
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Again, glad you’re through. Have you ever tried dating again since then?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:15 AM
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Sounds bloody horrible mate. I'm glad you're through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:14 AM
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I'm glad you have standards. I would much rather be rejected by a woman with high standards than be rejected by a woman with no standards at all (which is how my romantic life actually has worked out).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:11 AM
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"The issue wasn't the job, the issue is that the passive, go-in-whichever-direction-the-wind-blows attitude was prevalent in everything he did." Yes absolutely. To me - as a straight bloke - this is a highly unattractive trait in a potential partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:09 AM
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Oh man. That's a true bait and switch. If you guys didn't have children at the time, that's pretty crummy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:07 AM
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Great post. My own mum married a boyfriend with great prospects at 22 and still remains married to this day with a thriving family. She warned me about "thinking I can fix a woman"...and like most things she was 100% correct. I've roped myself into relationships with women I was never into after being rejected by dream women - and it's always ended as badly as you would expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/24 02:06 AM
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I guess everyone is different but I would say the same is true for me in reverse. If I catch a whiff of a woman being lazy or acting helpless (even if it’s in a so-called cutesy way) it turns me off completely. It’s actually crazy how binary this is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:37 PM
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I feel exactly the same way. Competence in women is extremely attractive to me! I actually like working hard, I definitely don’t need to be financially supported by a woman (I’m financially independent already pretty much) but I do want someone who at least puts some effort in.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:36 PM
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Great post, thanks for taking the time to write it all out. It just gets a bit wearying being told you’re not relationship material and guys like this exist - like I could never imagine racking up debt for any purposes apart from investment. I keep hearing “women are attracted to competent men” but in my experience that doesn’t seem to be true at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:29 PM
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Yeah “overweight” is really the secondary thing…plenty of hard working fat guys out there, I’m mainly talking about the lazy ones. I personally can’t handle being with an overweight woman, but I can understand why people wouldn’t mind. But I can’t wrap my head around how someone can stand to have a lazy boyfriend/husband. Degree qualified women with great jobs and good family backgrounds getting together with lazy people, make it make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 11:23 PM
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Clementine Ford has a son. God help him. I can only hope her real life persona is not as extreme as how she portrays herself in media.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:50 PM
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Actually now that I think about it, I don't get that either. And what I really don't get is *men* being hairless below the neck. I could never ever do that to myself ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 10:24 AM
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Catholic myself but totally agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:28 PM
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It’s hard to grasp because it’s completely arse backwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:27 PM
1

I haven’t been able to get the nerve to actually use the app.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:26 PM
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Not the case at all from my anecdotal experience. My first girlfriend left me for a fatty with bottom 20% looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:21 PM
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I have all that already 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 11:18 PM
1

I’m straight?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:47 PM
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Absolutely. I should know, I’ve been dumped for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:36 PM
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I don’t want to dox myself for obvious reasons, but there is not a word of a lie in anything I said. Yes, I am average height, average face and fit with slim build. And I have all my hair (dear old mum mentioned this to me as being an asset…) I will give it another go but I just don’t want to be hurt again. You can only take so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:33 PM
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You really reckon? My company has a website and I do have 100% equity in it. I’ll work up the nerve to actually have conversations on Hinge soon, hopefully by this weekend. As for location - I live in a small town two hours away from Melbourne, Australia. However I am getting a house built half an hour away from Melbourne’s city centre and will move there, intending to commute out and scale back down to three working days per week. Yikes, when I write it all out even I wonder why I struggle! Dea…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:29 PM
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I actually have 3 houses, and am building a 4th, and am purchasing a 5th commercial property. The house I live in is fully paid off. I have three registered vehicles, one a 2023 model, one a commercial vehicle. I have a business which has turned over a million a year ever since establishment. I know this is Reddit and you don’t know me from a bar of soap, but there’s not a word of a lie in anything I said. And NONE of it was obtained by parental help, both my parents are alive and well and under…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:12 PM
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I see lots of short fat confident men with no career prospects getting women. Like, all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 10:00 PM
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Well it’s funny that you mention that. I have always had a beta-type personality, go with the flow, don’t rock the boat. Even throughout leadership roles at work, I don’t have any typical “alpha” traits, and to be honest that’s the way I like it, I would rather be myself. But man does it turn off women. One woman I was on a date with admitted that I wasn’t alpha enough for her…straight after I paid for a $250 per head meal that she demanded…the money is not an issue for me at all but that really…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:59 PM
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“I’m established and looking for a wife and kids”. That’s exactly my scenario. But where the bloody hell are the interested women? Went down to visit my parents and grandfather last night, got the usual “why don’t you have a girlfriend at 30” speech. Apparently Instagram is the one thing that will make women interested, and nobody trusts a guy without social media. Love you so much Mum, but you got married to your first boyfriend at 22 and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:54 PM
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You are actually mainly correct with what you say but the way you’ve said it is extremely fluffy and long-winded. To put it simply: women are attracted to arrogant pricks with massive egos. All else comes second.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 09:49 PM
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“Desirable men are sexually experienced”…that’s a bigggg generalisation and I can’t imagine all that many would agree with you. The worst woman I was ever with was the one with the three figure body count. Laid there like a starfish and wanted to be choked. Ewww. I should have just followed Church teaching on sex when I was younger. It’s my only regret.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 04:36 AM
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Agree (not that I have a GF). It baffles me why women shave down there. I get the legs and armpits though.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 10:15 PM
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Yeah that is a good point. Feels brilliant to be the sort of bloke where the only woman I ever loved thinks “I want to date a guy as little like him as possible”. Yay. I’m out. I have friends family and work. Maybe a tattooed single mother might sniff in my direction. Nope. No thanks. I’m done.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:33 PM
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Yeah she was so stunning and still to this day I’ve never so much as held hands with anyone like her. If I’m reading you correctly you’re telling me that women are more into 9-5 pay-as-you-go employee type jobs, and I get it. Most people with an owner-operated business like mine are already married prior to the start of said business. Unfortunately I did let the stress get to me in those times and she left me - even though whatever I was stressing about back then seems so insignificant now at ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 10:14 PM
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This man gets it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:53 PM
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In my experience having a job is an active hindrance…look at all the unemployed blokes with beer guts with stunning girlfriends. My first girlfriend was the only one I ever loved and the only one I didn’t settle for. She sure settled for me though, and seven years later I’m still madly in love with her and can’t stop thinking about her. Anyway, when I was 23/24 and trying to get a business off the ground she said “why does everything have to be about work with you!” She dates unemployed fatties …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:53 PM
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From your list #6 and #7 are big ones for me…as a health conscious conservative Catholic I just can’t accept it one bit
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 09:37 PM
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Sounds like quite the loser actually. Clearly I know too many decent successful farmers and made too many assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:48 AM
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I think you have this absolutely completely backwards. As a straight 30 year old bloke I don't think my attraction to any woman was ever influenced by social status. Not in high school and definitely not now. If anything an unpopular or quiet/bookish woman is *more* attractive to me. I do agree about how heavy and trashy makeup makes you look worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:25 AM
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Is he a literal pig farmer? A self employed man in the agriculture field? Doesn't sound too bad status wise if so.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 11:22 AM
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Haha I’m being sarcastic because I’m a total loser with women but am pretty mechanically knowledgeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 01:03 AM
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I have conversations like this all the time with random people. It’s not uncommon to have a 30min conversation with the girl that lives over the road for example. And my grandfather’s across-the-road neighbour will talk to you for hours. It’s so normal and expected. I think it’s people desperately trying to equate those that are unsuccessful finding a girlfriend with shut-in losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:37 AM
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That’s true in the workplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:32 AM
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If “knowing how to fix a car” got you women then I would have a girlfriend 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:31 AM
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For a fair chunk of women it’s basically the only attribute they are looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 12:31 AM
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Excellent post. The posts in this thread that are talking about women getting things wrong because they go after “Chad” are missing the point. All the women I know who go for a confident and good looking guy with a good ability to support a family are very happy with their choice as they should be. Well done to them, I wish them nothing but the best, my cousin’s fiancée fits this description and she’s wonderful. It’s the women who go for socially confident guys with nothing else to offer that en…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 09:52 PM
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Great username and excellent post. I wouldn’t say I’m really “good looking”, I’m probably a 6-7 looks wise, but I have my life together in a way that’s supposed to be attractive to women. As in, I’m fit, great job, own houses/cars, hobbies, good family/social life and most importantly no baggage at all like ex wives or kids. But yeah, I feel you with both your points. I live in an Australian small town which is known for being full of oldies. The median age is 50+ here which is over ten years ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:55 PM
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I love this post so much and congratulations on finding someone so wonderful 🥲 A decent bloke that’s in love with his woman will think nothing of spoiling her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:39 PM
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You’ve just described my dream date. Next date will be the same but I’ll change it up by cooking up some medium rare steaks 🥩
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:35 PM
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You bring up great points but at least you get asked out. Whether you think the people asking you out are worth a second look is a different matter - but I am fit and reasonably wealthy and have friends/hobbies and absolutely no baggage and I might only get asked out once every few years, if that. I’ve asked out women who acted like it was the biggest insult ever that I would even dare to be interested in them…yet even if a woman I was completely uninterested in would ask me out I would be thril…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:14 AM
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Love your posts in this thread, you really get exactly the way I am feeling. Having friendships - and strong extended family bonds - are excellent and an essential part of life. That doesn’t mean it’s a substitute for romantic love. I have no idea why those that seek romantic love are so demonised…and where does the assumption come from that anyone struggling to date is automatically living an unfulfilling and empty life outside of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:38 AM
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Women wear makeup for other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 04:48 AM
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Of course it does but did you read the OP which literally said that 5% body fat is what men find attractive? That was what I was referring to. I know women don’t do everything solely to make themselves attractive to men. If that were the case, nobody would bother with trowelled on makeup or ridiculous cosmetic procedures like lip filler or buccal fat removal.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:39 AM
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Yikes. For me that is “pull you aside and set you straight” time. Not to mention - how can a woman that underweight be considered the attractive ideal by men, who by and large want their wife to bear their children?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:33 AM
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I pretty much only have female friends and it sure has ruined my self esteem. Mainly through my female friends do I realise that I am NOT at all what most women find desirable. I have no desire to be with any of my female friends by the way. The only woman I truly desire is my ex girlfriend from years ago who I’m still admittedly crazy about
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:27 AM
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With body fat that low, can you even have periods? That’s life threateningly low. Have a great day by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:26 AM
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No it’s not a waste of time. League is very important. Parramatta vs Manly tomorrow night at 8. Come on Eels!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:18 AM
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5% body fat? On a woman? Come on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:16 AM
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You lucky bastard. I hope for the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 10:08 AM
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I looooove fit women with plain faces. I dislike all cosmetic procedures 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 02:43 AM
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Of course. Why would I want “variety”. I want a loving relationship with a woman I’m deeply into.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:46 AM
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Help me out here. When you say “I play league” you’re clearly not talking about rugby league, but what else could it be?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 11:21 AM
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It's not unreasonable at all. As a matter of fact, if all women thought like this, society would generally be much better. Less broken homes and less reliance on welfare.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:40 PM
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Red pill also gives conflicting messages on what women want. Red pill usually says women are into looks, money and social status...to be honest I only see women being interested in the last of the three. Never so much as met a woman who selected partners for looks or money. I'm sure they exist but I've never seen it outside of purely cynical "Filipino girl gets with old rich Western man for money and residency" scenarios. That's not to say there haven't been women who try and clean out their hus…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 12:37 PM
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Ahhh, the northern hemisphere chilly Straya
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 09:15 PM
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Straya?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 09:12 PM
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I’m definitely 2nd category too. But the smart and socially adept men I know are nowhere to be found on TV.
/r/MensRights22/04/24 08:16 AM
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You have to realise there are two ways men are portrayed in comedic TV. Complete idiots Smart but extremely socially awkward
/r/MensRights22/04/24 06:41 AM
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Nothing to do with age, more to do with what exactly you’re doing during life. When I was 21 I graduated uni, lived alone and worked. Now that I’m 30, I still have the same qualifications, still live alone (although in a different house), and am still working in the same field. Some 21 year olds I feel are at the same stage as me, some seem like children, just like how some 30 year olds seem like children too.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:37 AM
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I’m very agreeable lol and checks down there I’m a bloke… Agreeable or neutral is fine, combative is not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:24 AM
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Yeah I’ve noticed. I’m not attractive enough to be that harsh 😂 but I do have other things to offer I swear!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:23 AM
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Lip glosses are fine. Not big on lipstick though particularly red lipstick. The makeup I don’t like is foundation, concealer, tinted moisturiser (what’s wrong with standard moisturiser?) and most importantly eyeliner. Eyeliner is a real mood killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 02:21 AM
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I find makeup unattractive, I find women to be prettier makeup free. She’s fit and fair and doesn’t wear makeup. Doesn’t dress revealing either. Looks wise I don’t know how anyone could be better! 10/10 for me. That said I don’t agree with a lot of what she says, and only really know her from debates with Catholic influencers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:29 AM
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Definitely a dealbreaker. Seems like a recipe to a difficult married life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:26 AM
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I just wanna say, this has nothing to do with her opinions or anything, but I find Pearl extremely physically attractive. I find it baffling when people criticise the way she looks because to me she is stunning.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 01:24 AM
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Remember Steven Miles laughing/smirking at the senseless murder of Vyleen White? I can’t wait until they’re thrown out of office. The Labor party hates women. They are pro-criminal up there, just like here in Victoria.
/r/MensRights19/04/24 09:05 AM
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I’ve seen a lot of attractive woman date complete losers with “confidence”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:25 AM
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I always find this hilarious because I love receiving compliments from anyone - no matter whether they find me attractive or not. I live in an Australian small town with a median age over 50 - and I get compliments from 50+ year old women and it feels amazing despite obviously not being any attraction there. I was walking out of my town’s hospital and a woman who was about 60 waves hello to me - I didn’t know her - and shouts “I love your hair!” from the other side of the road. Felt amazing. And…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/24 04:24 AM
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It’s so cringe when women call other women pick me’s. It’s even worse when men do it to other men. Have you thought that it’s pretty normal for a man to want to please his wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 02:22 AM
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I’ll put my hand up to include myself in that group
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:52 AM
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That’s exactly the type of relationship I dream of.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:50 AM
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The black pill is false, it’s harsh in all the wrong ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:42 AM
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Agree completely on the second paragraph. It’s actually comforting to know that - as a conservative man that is admittedly peepants terrified of what you mention. True story: Second most recent woman I dated hopped in the shower with me and literally said my dick wasn’t as big as her ex’s was. So yeah, peepants terror is kinda justified sometimes. Extra true story: my one regret in life was not following the Catholic teaching of sex/marriage, I wish I was still a virgin. Should have never given …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/24 11:35 AM
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No makeup sounds like a dream to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 08:24 AM
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When literally the only issue in your life is not being in a relationship (as it is in my case) of course getting into a good relationship fixes it. Pretending otherwise is delusional. Issue is that desperation becomes a turnoff because indifference is like crack to women. It’s something I’m working on myself. Ironically as a bloke indifference is a huge turn off. Nothing worse than having to battle your own girlfriend to give you affection.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 09:18 PM
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Absolutely uninterested in casual sex. I don’t see the appeal at all. 100% interested in marriage and children.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 12:31 PM
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From 35-50 or so, about 80%. And the remaining 20% are mainly smokers or people who treated their body badly over the years through drugs, alcoholism, tattoos etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/24 03:28 AM
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It’s pushed by either side of the grift as you say. Not pushed by conservatives, or the Church, and probably wouldn’t be pushed by your grandparents either. What does that tell you? Those with a vested interest in keeping you alone and miserable want you to date around.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 10:18 PM
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Well said. If women did that sort of stuff for men, heavy makeup and lip filler trends would die. It’s always been for other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:50 PM
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One of my best employees is a 50+ woman, she’s really sweet and wonderful, just became a grandmother, she is on cloud nine right now. In the workplace, if you want to make yourself valuable you can. No matter what age or sex you are. Unlike the dating market, the workplace is much more likely to be a meritocracy. And unlike the dating market, the workplace rewards an easy going nature and trait agreeableness. Edit: as a 30yo male employer - a 50+ woman may actually be more valuable than a 20 som…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:46 PM
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Not irrelevant, but completely undesirable as a prospective partner. And why would that not be the case? Men want children - or at least the vast majority too. Once you’re married and have had your children, a woman doesn’t have less value once the fertility window closes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:40 PM
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It is reality. But as a bloke I will never get it. 90% of women are attractive to me looks wise. The exception of course is women that are obese. Personalities are a different matter, but if you’re talking purely about looks then that’s how I feel. But with a lot of women I know they will view a decent, in shape, well dressed above average bloke the same as a slovenly ugly guy with a big gut. And in many cases will actually choose the latter over the former of the latter has a more extroverted p…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:31 PM
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I have a very attractive brother. I am probably a 6-7 but my brother is easily a 9. We look the same facially but he has an extra few inches that pushes him over the 6’ barrier, extra muscle and better fashion sense. My female friends, my staff at work - and even my sister’s friends - go absolutely gaga over him. One of my girls at work makes a drool face every time I even mention my brother. He has only ever been in one relationship though and he is currently single. And that relationship wasn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/24 06:27 PM
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Well said. To know church history is to cease to be Protestant. And isn’t it funny that you get the virulent Catholic-hate from Protestants no matter where you go?
/r/MensRights12/04/24 07:42 PM
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I’m a 30 year old successful guy with a body count that fits on one hand. Self employed, own property outright, plenty of hobbies outside of work, in shape, no vices. And yet society sees me as a filthy misogynist for wanting a woman with a reasonable body count? It’s ridiculous. Thanks for posting that, it’s okay to have standards, if you haven’t slutted yourself around to everyone with a pulse, why should you have to settle for that in a spouse?
/r/MensRights31/01/24 09:57 AM
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I wouldn’t have a clue what you would call a person like that. I personally have a low body count, and have wanted to settle down since about age 21 or so. Still hasn’t happened yet though at 30. The celebration for “becoming established” is more to do with economic factors. 90+% of men wouldn’t care a jot about how much their partner makes, but I notice that isn’t the case at all with women. That said, I’m very financially stable and that doesn’t seem to have helped me one bit with finding a wo…
/r/MensRights28/01/24 07:07 PM
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I find this hilarious. I was rejected constantly when I was young. Now that I’m 30 why on earth should I settle for someone who can’t have kids?
/r/MensRights28/01/24 03:55 AM
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Leftists of all types are usually jobless and as such have ample time to false flag.
/r/MensRights27/01/24 12:27 PM
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It’s done on a macro level by communist sympathisers who want to ruin the nuclear family, therefore making people subservient to the state. This is admitted fact.
/r/MensRights20/01/24 09:13 AM
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Toddlers in adult bodies indeed. That’s my ex in a nutshell. So glad I got rid of her, I still feel guilty that I had to involve police but now that my home is back I’m so relieved. You’re right about those cultures being better. I’m Christian so a Muslim specifically wouldn’t work, but I’ve thought about going for say a Orthodox Greek girl or Catholic Lebanese girl. One from a good family where the parents are together and set a good example. And she has to be conservative! I’m not going to was…
/r/MensRights08/01/24 01:13 AM
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I just broke up with my girlfriend and had to get police involved, after six previous breakup attempts. Just don’t bother. And if you do, go for someone WHOSE PARENTS ARE STILL TOGETHER.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 12:43 AM
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Not true thankfully. However if you live together for 6 months they will get you and make a claim on your house here in Victoria.
/r/MensRights08/01/24 12:33 AM
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To be fair, men in Australia also get let free. Look up cold blooded murderer Jye Kenden. Australia is a lawless hellhole.
/r/MensRights21/11/23 11:32 PM
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Exactly the reason most radio stations in Australia are “female skewed”. And only target younger people, at least on FM. The so called oldies station in Melbourne plays the Black Eyed Peas.
/r/MensRights23/09/23 01:48 AM
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Half of those men listed are portrayed as smart and socially inept. Actually, I’ve only seen about half of what you listed, and the only ones that I’ve seen that aren’t portrayed as having some sort of social disorder are the Suits duo.
/r/MensRights23/09/23 01:45 AM
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Deadbeats should be shunned regardless of sex. The issue is when men are called “deadbeats” despite doing everything in their power to obtain custody of their children, but they are faced with a woke family court that’s preventing them from access.
/r/MensRights30/08/23 03:27 AM
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You’re Strayan aren’t you?
/r/MensRights29/08/23 09:01 AM
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