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You're in new territory and falling back on your socialization in response, instead of trusting in what you've learnt in your time here. Not surprising (and quite natural) considering the length of your marriage and age. MRP Isn't your daddy but it might be useful to consciously check yourself when you are thinking about relationships, love or sex and consider if your thoughts and feelings align with what you've learnt and taken from here and whatever your goals are. Some things to think about (…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/25 01:51 PM
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Learn to format. After that, read the bit of text at the top of this post. Your stats suggest you're fat - what are you doing about that? Seems like your no.1 problem seeing as your lifts are good. Older guys find this much harder work and this isn't a great start. Do you have a MAP?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 08:30 PM
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Nice. Assume you meant 2026. I assume this will help with alimony too. If they use a net figure rather than gross for either, considering maxing out your pension payments too (but remember she may have a claim on that so do the math). Keep in mind tax too, anything that'll be taxed on sale isn't worth the headline figure, but you can negotiate like it is. For example, lets say you have investments worth 100k but if sold you'd be taxed at 20%. You negotiate like that 100k is actually worth 100k k…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/25 02:20 PM
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If you went to college and learned to be a bricklayer and then spent 10 years working as a full-time bricklayer building houses and apartments across the country, would you listen to anyone's opinion about your skills? Could anyone outside of your profession actually provide validation about your bricklaying skills? Would you care?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 09:47 PM
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Some great notes here on divorce. FF Mostly covered the infidelity but I'd add that wilful ignorance of infidelity is something I see way too much of here. If infidelity and the consequences are not something you want to face head-on right now that tells you something. These seem obvious (to me) but I'll list them out for the benefit for others; Advised not to let my wife decrease work hours if I can influence that I’ve managed to convince her to work more which will help me - the higher her inc…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/25 09:24 PM
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Yeah it's not so easy in a hotel room but give it some thought and have a plan in your back pocket for whenever you might need it. You want to withdraw from whatever you're doing that she's enjoying (kissing, petting, two in the pink and one in the stink etc.) so she feels the loss and maybe compromises and accepts your (unspoken) demands. "Damn it's getting hot in here" - walk to and open a window and then go sit on a chair. All that aside, there's a whiff of desperation I pick up from this OYS…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 01:51 PM
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I'd reflect on it rather than jump straight to a book. Be observant/more present the next few times you have sex. You could be god's gift and she's just not able to enjoy it for her own reasons. Pay attention, see what you see, then decide - OODA and all that. Nothing more to add to what wmp has said on trust.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/25 01:28 PM
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1x half-starfish (started by her putting-in the work, then gave-up halfway through and just starfished it) You didn't wonder why she gave up? Dare to ask yourself maybe you suck at sex? I realize that she doesn't deserve that amount of trust. And your answer to that lack of trust isn't to ask yourself why you're with someone you don't trust but instead accept both a) her untrustworthiness and b) having to negotiate when you leave and therefore eventually sleep any night you're being social. LTR …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 11:14 PM
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Maybe think about why time is probably not the thing you need (or that's missing).
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 10:59 PM
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LMR that I have never seen Surely you've heard of the 'freeze out'
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 10:46 PM
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You've changed - thank fuck - keep going
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/25 10:37 PM
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So you're essentially recreating destructive childhood behaviour patterns and relationships because they feel safe and familiar. Glover touches on it when he talks about life paradigms and toxic shame in NMMNG. Good you're in therapy and I hope that leads to some actual change (rather than just understanding of the source). You might find How to do the work by Nicole Lepera useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 03:44 PM
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Honestly, I don't want to be divorced. But I know she's not changing and I'm unhappy with how things are so I either suck it up, get drunk and be miserable, which I've done for a decade, or leave. So commit to it. There's some useful info in the sidebar. The worse thing you can do is be passive.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 03:36 PM
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This is hard. Gym: I've been not taking this serious Diet: Not much eating with all the stress and anxiety. Giving myself a break here I didn't do shit. I was tired all the time, depressed, and just completely lacking any motivation in my life Social: Not even interested in going out Work: I neglected work for the last week See the pattern? I get why it seems justified right now but you need to change that pattern and how you think about and respond to stress. The negative self talk, victimisati…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 03:21 PM
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Tbh, after this, idk if I will ever get married. Seems like a pretty bad deal. How can you only be coming to this realisation now? After the victim puke last week, I've put a plan together to end the relationship I can't imagine any new one will go any better for you. It's great to LARP here Clearly that's all you've been doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 02:51 PM
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Told my wife that we finally had enough money to go on vacation and she booked a trip for a few days by herself instead. A master at work. Why are you suggesting holidays with her? Are you not committed to divorce? Been messaging women on my OLD profile. Have had a few decent interactions but nothing has progressed to face to face. Assume you're not in an at fault state? I'm at a loss. With what? Cartledge damage, bone fragments, broken bone, vascular damage in addition to the missing and damage…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 02:43 PM
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WTF Is this navel gazing word salad? This is own your shit not put it off. Start by doing something about your lifts. It's the foundation for everything else, including your hamster ridden mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/24 02:36 PM
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The problem with sex. You hit it with your last 7 words. The deeper question is, would you focus on other areas of your life, or would you be done - mission accomplished. What I'm getting at is: are you a dancing monkey?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/24 10:41 AM
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It's not her - it's you. Keep on battling her emotions with your logic and see how far this can go
/r/askMRP28/05/24 11:19 PM
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I have to Uh oh. Did you take it's not about the nail a little too literally? I do it, because I love and am committed to her, and I know it makes her feel good. Is she rimming your ass (i.e. doing something she doesn't enjoy but you do) for an hour every day for the same reasons? Suspect not.
/r/askMRP28/05/24 11:12 PM
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While traveling, got a text to take care of some admin stuff. No “hi”, just screen shots of mail. I wanted to ignore it to “pass the compliance test”, but they were issues that needed attention. "Something you want me to deal with? It's not clear. If so, just ask." Just ignore it until she actually asks. You get the idea. Set some boundaries/expectations around how you want to be communicated with. She's delegating to you with this. That might be okay but her method of communication isn't or may…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 10:54 PM
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I had the following asked of me, “Do you think we are boring.” I responded with no, brushed it off and went back to what I was working on. I came back to this statement later on. I wondered if this translated to “ do you think I’m boring” and was being projected onto me as the above statement “ Do you think we are boring.” This statement lead me to think about how I could be less boring and more interesting. Something for me think more on. The male hamster at work. In particular; This statement …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 10:32 PM
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DG?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 10:24 PM
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What you need to ask yourself is, if that 'problem' was solved, what's next. Seems you've taken a step in that direction but give it some thought. Job done, I'm happy isn't actually the point here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 07:10 PM
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Put down Rollo if you want the bitterness to end. Your deadlift seems a bit light? Diet of 1500 calories a day Probably this. Eat more, but clean. Focus on posture exercises (Conor Harris, mewing, core strengthening) after observing my posture in a side profile picture. It is fucked, chin goes directly into neck, head forward - fucking weird. Objectively from the side I'm a 2-3, where direct on I'm a 6-7. I can't ignore this, it needs to be fixed. A 3 with game has better odds than some fucker w…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 07:05 PM
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I have some good muscle but overall I think I need to continue bulking and upping my gym days to 4/week rather than 3. I agree with the former, not the latter. Let your body recover. Which leads me to: There are definitely some muscle groups I'm not hitting with my usual lifting. Am looking into a boxing/bjj gym membership. Both are good and will do a world of good for confidence but I'm not sure they will hit what you want muscle wise (especially boxing). Cardio will help, as will regular yoga …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 06:45 PM
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and instead just focus on improving my life in simple categories like health, social, lifting, sport competition Seems like your only focus is sex. Your lifts are shit for someone this far in. I don't see anything about the things you apparently focus on outside of sex - when it isn't happening. No kids? Tough audition for her - I'm glad it is but boy are you gonna hate the final curtain.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 06:30 PM
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What program are you following, seems you are making it up as you go? I highly recommend cardio at your age, just not on lifting days - don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I do 1x yoga, 3x weights, 3x cardio every week, covering all 7 days. I'd highly recommend the yoga before your lifts get heavy so you have experience and knowledge on good ways to stretch and warm up before they do. Supplementing? Considering your age, the length of your marriage and number of kids, at this stage I would reco…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 06:01 PM
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Learn to format, it's not hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 05:42 PM
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You need to let this go unless it materially matters and there is a consequence - it's all ego and validation if it doesn't (you're smarter, you're intelligent ...) and she'll feel constantly judged, for zero benefit. "Is that parcel due today babe?" "Yeah, I got an email from Federal Expression saying it'll be here between 1 and 2" "Great" You know when the parcel is coming, who cares what the correct name is of the company that's delivering it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 05:41 PM
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I'm in the backyard or woods staying busy enjoying myself You've got four young kids - I know that makes for a busy house, lots of chores & stress and little time. Are you playing your part at home before you make time for enjoying yourself? 100% You should be making that time and doing things for yourself and meeting your own needs, but you should be on top of everything else too.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 05:30 PM
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You're taking your wife's words and behaviour way too seriously and because of that you're missing the point: she's scared of losing you and the relationship. Don't let that go to your head, it's not because you're a high value man, or even a average man but simply because she has a lot to lose. The medium is the message. She's angry at your clumsy attempt at dread because you DID tell her that cheating (and the consequences; divorce, financial issues, trauma, parenting etc.) can be justified. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/24 05:22 PM
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My rationale here is that if i can't handle the worst possible outcome, then divorce is off the table. I can't act like it's not a possibility, I need to go into this eyes wide open. There's some merit to this. I'm not telling you to go either way however I think your reasoning is flawed. You dying in your car in a pile up is a very real possibility but it doesn't stop you driving. Your grandmother falling and breaking a hip and rapidly deteriorating and dying is a very real possibility but it d…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 11:25 AM
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On OLD, these are helpful; - https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/how-to-really-succeed-at-tinder-not-just-another.50612 - https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/detailed-roadmap-on-how-to-actually-succeed-at.246600 Lots of often kinky girls looking for something casual on Feeld - it's a good way to experience the truth that women are far more sexual than men given the right circumstances (and man). You could also read My Secret Garden to really hammer the point into your subconscious. It's a …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/24 10:10 AM
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I could pluck out all the phrases that demonstrate you're a passive, self victimising, comfort & safety seeking chump, but you know that already. You're where you are and unhappy because of your choices - it's all your fault. So, enough of the pity party and get to work making some different choices that might lead to a better life - you only get one and it's running out fast. Start with the sidebar and the first two recommended books and get into the weekly OYS thread.
/r/askMRP20/05/24 03:34 PM
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A lot of men find their wife lacking when they start to up their game. Give her some grace. Some people just don't have it in them to improve or change but you won't know that for some time. Beware you're not unnecessarily creating a cage for yourself where your child is concerned.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 12:14 PM
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OYS Isn't a place for your diary. Your obsession with sex and women is tiring, as is your constant negotiating and monkey dancing for sex. What's your height? What about diet, appearance, finances, social etc. All locked down? What's the goal, mission and vision?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 07:50 AM
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Make sure you praise her when she does reduce your load in summer, assuming she actually does and assuming your praise is worth something. Good stuff on the pot. What's going on (or not) with your weight? Ditto finances, business and getting out the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 07:00 AM
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Doesn't look like your weight has gone down, or your lifts have gone up since you started OYS. You really don't need to be 'the primary caretaker' in order to secure access to your child post divorce. Just be involved and if you're actually considering divorce, start recording that involvement - it's all in the sidebar. It's really not clear a) what you want and b) what the issues are with your relationship (or life) - why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/24 06:25 AM
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It's not clear cut because it seems like such an easy thing to do to gain an advantage around who you already are (which is attractive) and some of the downsides are subtle. What are they? you are entering their/her world, who's frame is this in? it's performative. Are you going to keep interrupting your awesome life to stop and take photos, are you going to start thinking about angles and lighting and staging instead of enjoying yourself? Are you going to never give this any thought when you're…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/24 09:40 AM
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This all sounds like it's straight out of a book by Dr Peter Attia called Outlive. He's got a good podcast and email list too. On the grip strength, it's pointless specifically training for it. It correlates with longevity because it is a consequence of overall strength and activity levels. If you're lifting you're good. On VO2 max, you need to do something purely aerobic that gets your heart rate close to max for a short period. Think full pelt on a air bike for a minute, a minute at normal rat…
/r/TheRedPill15/05/24 08:00 AM
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It's your first OYS so I'll save the 'think harder' for some other time. It's performative, it's inauthentic, it's you qualifying yourself and it's putting on a show. It's a step on the way to being a dancing monkey. If you don't know what that is, looks it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 08:49 PM
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Why are you doing mediation? Is this a prerequisite where you live? What are you doing to prepare for the divorce, practically? If your wife is all about money, even more reason to be prepared for every eventuality. Action will get you what you want. Focussing on your emotions won't.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 07:06 PM
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I'd go great lengths in planning new activities, make sure we'd eat at places my son would eat from, and I'd be the main parent entertaining my son and running after him since he's still little. I was unhappy about the whole deal. I'd get a wife that would sit back and watch, while I wouldn't even get joyful sex or at the very least, an effort to make conversation. Cover contract. Take out and entertain your son because you want to. If she adds nothing, don't bring your wife. I remember reading …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 06:55 PM
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One thing I noticed is that she wanted to exchange instagrams leads me to believe that for the younger girls IG is going to be somewhat important especially if I can show off a good lifestyle. Can you guess why I think this is a bad idea, at least for the reason you're considering it?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 06:44 PM
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Shit sucks. Sit with your feelings and mourn but don't turn it into a pity party and let it drag on. Good to see you recognise it's all your fault (her, the job, your living situation). Reflect on that most of all. Why did you get comfortable and complacent? Especially considering you're a long way away from having a life that's sounds like it could be comfortable. Lost my job that I was beginning to hate Passive. Why weren't you planning your exit instead of just complaining about it. Thats als…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 06:22 PM
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Well worth doing. It's empowering knowing no woman can play the baby trap game.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 05:36 PM
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I need to adjust the diet to incorporate more fiber as the high protein has given me rock hard shits that are like passing a baby. Add some inulin to your shakes, or your coffees. You'll be gassy to start but it doesn't last long and it's well worth it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/24 05:28 PM
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WTF. You said something very different in your response to 2wo2wo3hree.
/r/askMRP07/05/24 08:18 AM
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And should I get all my ducks in a row and then divorce, or should I tell her my intentions now? Should I commit to my plan and blindside her after I've set everything up for her departure, or should I tell her what I'm thinking now and let her be more involved in the logistics of the separation? You're not even close to ready. You've lots of work to do first.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 07:04 PM
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I got back to my powerful frame after this Whaaaaat? I think there is a term or book that is being referenced in this community about man's monogamous relationship with mother You posted on the NMMNG subreddit so I'm not sure why you claim not to know. Read your post history. It's a mess. Reread NMMNG, slowly. Do the work. Then move onto WISNIFG, that one's gonna change your life. Move slow, do the work, reflect, introspect and implement, slowly. STFU.
/r/askMRP06/05/24 01:45 PM
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If you'd read even just the table of contents of the sidebar you'd have your answer. Keep going
/r/askMRP03/05/24 07:57 PM
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Good you understand your failings but there was no need for this long DEER. What would you have done differently? Doesn't change my advice. What are you going to do?
/r/askMRP02/05/24 08:53 AM
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No it's not. Anything other than leaving her would not be in his best interests regardless of what he might want
/r/askMRP01/05/24 08:17 AM
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All fair enough points Why? What aren't you telling us? I’m living in her home country at the moment You moved to be with her? Weak I scrambled to get a job to tide me over while they were here since we were spending so much on entertainment You got a job simply to pay to entertain your family, who didn't ask if they could visit? all in all multiple members have been here for what has been a month Everyone wanted a piece of that that free action. followed by more things I’ve done really wrong in…
/r/askMRP01/05/24 06:31 AM
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Remember this from 9 months ago. Still applies. She's not testing you, why would she? What would she gain if you 'passed'? Your wife doesn't want to feel your strength, resolve, authenticity, deep love or power. She wants nothing from you, although she's lonely enough for your company and a little comfort every now and then. She's trapped in the same kind of cage you are. Deeply unhappy but trapped by the things in her head. You don't have any options when you believe every option will lead to y…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/24 03:04 PM
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I’m the one that made her cry So it's your fault? Maybe I ... should have been more understanding. So it's your fault? The fact you felt this was a good time for comfort is. As is thinking it wasn't enough. Personally, I feel I need to watch what I say especially during these times. So it's your fault? The fact you feel you have to walk on eggshells is. was hoping to get head Get? Hoping? ... every now and then You mean every time you get a shit or shitty comfort test then, every time she's upse…
/r/askMRP10/04/24 06:40 PM
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Ticking along, as you have from the start. What are you looking to get out of MRP? Why are you here?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/24 05:00 PM
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Good the lifts are going up. For the sleep, try taking ZMA 30min before you go to bed. Get re-reading NMMNG, it'll be like a biography for you. Maybe split your OYS into sections, it might help you focus your thoughts and priorities too. Your girlfriend is calling the shots on everything, she's in charge - expect a lot of pushback and drama when you start trying to take back control. Go slow, STFU, keep lifting and reading and leave it at that for now. Keep in mind you're young and you're not ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/24 04:44 PM
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Yeah women will nearly always have a better support network (who likely knew this was coming before you did), and the partners of the female friends are usually happy to do so too once they've been told the inevitable sob story (if that's even necessary). I'm not US based so I'm not confident I understand how the process works over there so bear that in mind. I could also do with understanding when your lease is up? Once you're apart she's likely to become more aggressive. Nothing you've written…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 10:56 PM
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Sounds like she's playing a better 'game' than you - she's putting herself first - but right now that's not a big issue. How does she have you by the balls? She will have if you keep up with the learned helplessness and insist on being a passenger along for the ride. On the finance/career part, plenty you can do to put yourself in a good place but probably best not to get a promotion or a pay rise anytime soon.
/r/askMRP05/01/24 10:02 PM
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You've been together 13 years but it's your debt, despite the fact she works? I'll assume she won't have the same issue. I'll put that to one side for now. I'd tell you to put some heavy focus into increasing your income and doing something with your career but right now that might not actually be that wise. Is the divorce started or in progress? It doesn't sound like there's much to be divided. How long will it take to pay off the debt? Is there a formal custody arrangement in place? In other w…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 07:33 PM
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You shouldn't be taking first dates out for a meal. Some great commentary in one of this week's OYS: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/s/uKHxKs2hZY
/r/askMRP05/01/24 03:42 PM
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I think others have hit all the high points; give/do what you want to/for/with her without expectation - not out of guilt or because you feel you owe her, or to maintain a place in her life - if it's reasonable and explicitly for your son that shouldn't be a problem keep it cordial and friendly and don't ever bad mouth the other parent to the kid you don't owe her anything accept your past failures and errors, learn your lessons and move on I'll add; she's moving on, you need to do the same, you…
/r/askMRP05/01/24 02:56 PM
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You can't do this yourself? She's your social assistant because you're too lazy to do it yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 11:40 PM
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As you didn't DEER the rest, I'll assume everything else I said was spot on.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 11:36 PM
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Her problem isn't the lack of dick variety, it's her boredom with yours and what you do with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 11:27 PM
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What do you gain by tracking and rating the sex you have with your wife. Others may have taken it seriously but you're 5 OYS in and sex should not be a focus.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 11:18 PM
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You've taken a leap, I think. Divorce is on the table. You leaving it there? Are you going to execute or not? I'm not pushing you either way but I've seen you progress, dance like a monkey a few times and work all that out and all the rest. I think I've actually read all your OYS and you are a slow fucker but I think you are getting there. Did you really need tinder to tell you you're attractive? That you won't be alone? What age range did you put in? I'd think I was wasting my time but it alway…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/24 10:58 PM
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As has been said, do the fucking work. You've done very little and it really shows: Always right, don't dare correct her when wrong, flies off the handle about stupid shit etc. Lots of bitching at the kids. 13 yr old gets embarrassed by it when widows are open and the neighbors can hear...... You're scared of her, have no boundaries, walk on egg shells I assume and let her verbally abuse your children. I'll also assume there's more. She runs circles around you, practically and emotionally/psycho…
/r/askMRP02/01/24 10:42 PM
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Your wife made you hate life? Do you have so little agency and self esteem and respect that your wife's attraction to another man can literally bring on the clouds and rain and ruin your world and your enjoyment of the singularly most important thing to almost everyone, life? Every woman you've ever met has probably choked on ten or more cocks before yours and will choke on plenty more afterwards. So? She probably fucks herself with a dildo that's bigger than your cock every now and then. So? Go…
/r/askMRP02/01/24 10:32 PM
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Be more consistent and consistently show more emotional control than her and all will be well. Remember, she wants you to win - by consistently being the good, strong and loving man she married and fell in love with.
/r/askMRP02/01/24 10:08 PM
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Why are you in a relationship with a woman who; is out of shape (and is presumably unattractive) puts in little effort isn't feminine I didn't list the sex because fucking is your responsibility. Despite all that, she's demanding a proposal? You have work to do because this is all on you. Stop blaming her. Words won't work.
/r/askMRP29/12/23 03:30 PM
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Part of my joy of sex is doing things she isn't into, and listening to her retroactively justify to herself why she lets me do them.
/r/askMRP23/11/23 04:57 PM
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I 100% know what she likes in the bedroom, it is an open discussion that we have had before. You sure? Words from her are meaningless as you should know. On top of that, she probably doesn't know herself anyway, likely neither do you. It's taken me years, and time with some very slutty, adventurous women to work out what I really like and work through the shame I had attached to that. Time to make your wife (and you) a little less comfortable (and I don't mean just in the bedroom). The only thin…
/r/askMRP23/11/23 04:44 PM
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Stats? Kids ages? Doesn't seem you've been married long? Get out the house much? Why's she on SSRIs? How long have you been consistently owning your shit? Flirt much? Fuck outside of the bedroom much? At different times? Are you fun and funny? Exciting? Do any cool shit together? Any shit tests? Comfort tests? Do you actually know what she really likes in the bedroom? Are words your only form of domination? Does she know deep down you ain't going nowhere? Do you?
/r/askMRP23/11/23 04:08 PM
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Post earlier and you'll likely get more feedback. Yes, introversion is an excuse. Follow the standard advice here, start small, saying hi to shop staff, people in the queue you're in, the gym, looking people in the eye, then move on to making little comments (it's hot/busy/quiet in here today etc.) and go from there. Push yourself slightly past your comfortable limit as often as you can - especially when you start the new job. It takes effort and will make you feel uncomfortable until the practi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/23 09:04 AM
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It's a plan, that's good, although it sounds like it's YouTube you need to block. Agree on the second part. I suspect you don't know what you really want though. Don't let that stop you where your wife is concerned, you've gotta walk the path and peel the layers one at a time and take her with you. You'll be surprised where you end up, especially if you can rid yourself of the shame and judgement you subject yourself to and assume in others.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 09:21 PM
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I really need to... What's the plan?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 06:01 PM
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Try patching the holes in your ship, not hers.
/r/askMRP16/11/23 11:26 AM
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I just stood strong Good little boy. I allowed myself to be used, abused, accused, manipulated and belittled for a year but I stood strong when she was out of my life. So blue you don't even know it. How about you spell out where you went wrong, what lessons you learned and what you learned about yourself? We all know what she was.
/r/askMRP16/11/23 11:02 AM
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This reminds me of an Rpeed comment. "I tried, I really tried" - "they all say that". Just fucking leave, or maybe, just maybe, accept that this is your mess and give everyone you care about a leg up and some hope and fix your shit instead of blaming it all on her. You're a fucking victim. You've been sober 2yrs but married 26 - that's all I need to fucking know. Fuck off and let your family have a better life without you. I don't say it often, but your wife is a saint and I feel sorry for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 11:35 PM
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You need to eat way more. You are seriously skinny. Good work on the protein, but you need more overall. How are you tracking calories? You need to lift heavier. How many days a week do you do? Do you do cardio (you should)? Upright Row (Standing) Infrared pad flaring up the issue - discontinuing for now. Chin-Ups (15 Lbs Assist) / 5/5/8 What do these mean? Standing, infrared, assist? spend time with friends or family Still keeping a healthy distance from family Which is it? Your program seems t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 11:26 PM
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I'm gonna go all zen on you. What you're finding with all these interactions (and practise), is that people are not scary and with the fear and anxiety removed, as well as your previous expectations (of yourself, of judgement), you enjoy connecting with others, find other people interesting and like being fun and probably, being you (without thinking about it or wondering what they think). How might you apply this same mindset, this flow, this lack of concern about judgement, this connectedness …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 11:04 PM
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You know how you come to learn here that your approach to relationships is a feminine defined one that won't work (for either of you) and you flip your plus for a negative and build polarity. Your approach to sex is also a feminine defined one. You get off on her getting off. That's also how she works - so know that it does work for her (because it does for you for now because you're approaching it like a woman). Flip that too. Use her for your pleasure. That doesn't mean she's always doing some…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 10:42 PM
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Lifted x4, MA x5, Conditioning x2, Zone 2 Cardio x2 since last OYS. Last OYS was two weeks ago so you lifted 2x per week. Do more.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 09:58 PM
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Because of symptoms like heartburn, I have to take recovery serious and won’t exercise for another 10-14 days after testing negative What! You don't need two weeks off because you got Covid or you have heartburn. Get back as soon as you feel able which should be right now with the light weights you're lifting. JFC. Stats in kg, 15x3 I assume this is an error and you're not actually doing 15x3? Add value to whatever situation I find myself in Think about it and tell me what's wrong with this. Sam…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 09:45 PM
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So your dreams are you know, getting in the way of improving your life. Perhaps have some stepping stones along the way. Take those small steps. Don't let 'it's your fault' be an excuse to enable your wife. No is magic. STFU is magic but not here. Say no. Watch the world explode. Stand firm, or fuck the shit out of that bitch so hard she want more. Go big or go home. Or stick with what you know and slowly die inside while your life slips away one day and boring fuck at a time. As I often say, wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 08:57 PM
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And? Does this objectively mean anything other than she didn't get or see what she wanted? Why are you taking this seriously, any more than you did your wife and her emotions. Are you going to be gutted next time you get 99 balloons and she wanted a hundred. Guess what happens when you get 100. Literally and figuratively 101 RP. You gonna be the same when she cries because you won't let her on TikTok and Facebook when she's 8, or 9? Does her comparison against the standard (right now) mean she i…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 08:48 PM
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PPL in the gym every other day with cardio on the days in between. Nice. Too many people ignore cardio. You don't need premium for calorie tracking but if you can afford it why not, at least you can scan bar codes. So, what are you setting calories at and what macro split? Do you know your TDEE?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 03:56 PM
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I still have crazy guilt and a low opinion of myself from failing at marriage/fatherhood Why? Great job ignoring it but in what fucking way did you fail as a father? Not being there 24/7? I set up a few other options in case it backfired, but she was cool with it and we managed to watch at least 15 minutes of the movie. I hate talking about myself but just this once. I was at a men's 'talking group' this Monday. Sat in a circle of maybe 15 guys. Divorce this, drugs or drink that, her emotions, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 10:20 PM
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Perhaps state is as: wife 33f, married 2yrs, together 14. Good shit on not being cucked. STFU! This is difficult because I don't have any savings I'm not sure why you need savings? Get a better job, time things right. An appointment for retraining. What does that mean? You sound like a victim, where's the action and control here? Again, good shit on the nofap and day trading. On the supplements, for ED I'd highly recommend Tribulus Terris and Tonkat Ali, plus Fenugreek, especially if your T is d…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 09:58 PM
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Doctors will rarely help with this sort of thing - your not dying, there no biomarker or test to make it easy, no pill to prescribe. Either find a really good physio or do your own research and try and work it out on your own. Lots of good advice in this week's OYS from RPeed. Good stuff on WISNIFG. Have a long hard think about your kids and the example you are setting and how powerless you are to actually do what you think is best for them. There's no point being present and available if you ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 09:33 PM
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Stick with the lifting and STFU. Sort the 'injuries' out. Add in some cardio. Do you work? Put down MMSLP. Your wife is a controlling, abusive cunt and you're tolerating your poor treatment. Stop trying to save your marriage and save yourself. Pick up WISNIFG and start slowly implementing the tools within. Stop being afraid of your wife. Your daughter's will end up the same if you don't do something. Get the fuck out of the house as often as you can. Better yet, start planning your divorce and l…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 02:18 PM
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This is literally a copy and paste of your OYS 1. Are you using MFP to track? What are you setting your calories at? What program in the gym?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 08:06 AM
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Why state your relationship is an LTR when you're married? What happened about your wife wanting to fuck other men? What's are you doing about the job you don't like? Have you maintained nofap and stopped day trading? Are you taking any supplements? I think this might be helpful. Do you have a social life? Hobbies?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 08:01 AM
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36 OYS In and you're still fucking blue
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 10:54 PM
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What's your weight and height? How old are the kids? How long have you been married? What have you read? Things sound like a hot mess. Have they always been? What are you looking to gain from being here?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/23 04:13 PM
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I wouldn't be humble, just make sure you have your shit in order, in order to be entitled
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 09:37 PM
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This why I don't find Rollo useful. You were happy before right? Why the focus on her and sex? Fuck her best, what's yours, in the bedroom? There's a J10 thread on this. You'll never be happy till you've tasted all the flavours. Then you'll find out you are the problem, not them, not her. Follow the program and be rPeed and you're good. Don't and spend a life in regret because you couldn't go all the way. Don't decide now. Push her, hard, and when you're the one giving duty sex maybe you'll feel…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 09:33 PM
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Italian or Spanish? Pretty sure sex is on tap right? What have you read? Sidebar? NMMNG? WISNIFG? If I'm right about where you're from WISNIFG is what you should be reading first. Pick up Praxeology for the basics and get those covered. You sound entitled, focus on the things that make that a reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 08:50 PM
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How long has sex been like that? I think Praxeology would be a good read for you to cover some of the basics, along with the sidebar. Are you attractive, physically and emotionally? Fun and funny? Do you ever cave man? Tell her what to do? Use kino day to day? Try in the daytime, outside the bedroom? Do you like her? Why are you with her? Why does she claim to be unhappy? What are you hoping to get from MRP and OYS? What program are you running in the gym? Your recovery problems can likely be so…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/23 12:30 PM
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X3 Look like a scam to me. A $500 metal tube and a resistance band. Keeps you at home though. You like the safety and security of that. Right in the middle of your comfort zone. How will you know if you are reaching your goal without tracking, at least for a while? Appearance; Are you attractive? Hygienic and clean? Do you smell good? Dress well? Cut your hair often? Cut your nails? Shave? Would you fuck you? Are you off putting to your wife? Use a calendar and reminders and alerts. Use a note t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 10:11 PM
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You can't but being immersed in such a shitty environment with such awful people, who clearly have an influence on you and your outlook is going to be a massive drag on your progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 03:30 PM
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What is x3 bar routine? Do you do any cardio? Are you tracking calories? What are you aiming for with protein? How's your appearance? What exactly are you going to do about your lack of cleanliness and organisation?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 02:49 PM
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Given how utterly shit everyone (yourself included) and everything around you is, why don't you just walk away and start again?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 01:29 PM
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You've got a long list there of practical things you need to do to improve and move things forward, and things you know will hold you back. If you haven't already write, a list of the former and get it done - add divorce preparation. Bury your feelings for now and avoid the latter. You can only change the future. Fear and loneliness and going to be your companions for a while. The quicker you learn to live with both the better. Lean on friends and family when you need, don't isolate yourself or …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 01:03 PM
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Paging u/throwra-guaty
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 12:41 PM
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On the social; Toastmasters Get on Meetup and find some mens, social, sports or other groups and go to events Go to gigs in your area and talk to people Join a sports team Join a club (book, chess, connect 4, kayaking, climbing whatever) Got to festivals (with kids or without), events, marches, meetings, car meetups, markets, shows, the theatre, the damn opera if you fancy Volunteer somewhere Whatever you do, talk to everyone you meet, start with saying hi, move on to observation (long queue eh,…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 10:36 PM
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I do however tend to let things slip / getting lazy Do you? What are you letting slip? Being lazy about? Your wife works part time, for pleasure it seems. You take the kids off her hands at the weekend. You take charge where needed. Money isn't a problem or concern. What exactly is she doing well? Does she cook much? What is she bringing to your life other than handling shit (seemingly badly) when you're away and teaching you to deal with rejection?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 10:05 PM
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no physio ever recommended dropping the reps with increasing weight. No physio would. When the weight gets heavy you'll probably find out why (considering your back pain history), but maybe you're lucky (genetically) and you don't spend all day sat in a chair which helps. Suck it and see. You've had all the right advice on ILYBINILWY - take it seriously and take action accordingly. You literally haven't had sex with your 'wife' for 9 months and you've found this place but you still deeply believ…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/23 09:47 PM
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Good going on the weight. 1200 calories is insanely low. If you are hitting the gym 4-6 times a week 2000 probably isn't enough. Don't rush. When do you rest? You're at an age where anything above 3/4 days is probably unhelpful. You need recovery time, especially if sleep is a problem. For your test, I'd recommend; Fenugreek Tongkat Ali Selenium ZMA (will also help you fall asleep if you take it before going to bed) Also look into how you can avoid parabens
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 10:16 PM
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I also realized that my sensitivity came from the fact that I'm telling myself that I'm not a good provider, and that after clarifying with my wife, she doesn't view me that way. So she soothed you. Be your own judge. This is a Nice Guy trait to not allow myself space to be imperfect. 3 Kids and a fourth on the way, you're never gonna have as much money as you'd like. This is negative self talk. 400 Is low. If you don't fancy pinning twice a week, look into supplements. That, some weight loss an…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 01:25 PM
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Is it just me and unrealistic expectations? Yes (at this point). As has been pointed out, your words (especially your mission) are totally at odds with your actions (and your feelings). Spend some time thinking about why you have such a strong need for affection, validation and reassurance from her. Mommy issues? Some prior messed up relationship? Really dig into the thought patterns around it, what does it really mean when you don't get what you want? Why does it matter? What are you afraid of?…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/23 01:06 PM
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Put some effort into your OYS - take it seriously and provide some detail that actually allows us to hopefully help or guide you. Look at the other comments and work it out. Or don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/23 12:46 PM
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Odd considering the impact it's had on your lives but expecting people to act logically, or even in their own best interests is a fallacy. Or maybe she's a gamer too? Think about how you'll 'frame it' when you tell her.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/23 12:43 PM
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OK. A plan is better than no plan. Just remember (per NMMNG) nice guys do things in secret. What are you gonna do when she eventually realises? I'm curious why she wouldn't want you to get rid of something that has led to a) her total loss of attraction for you, b) presumably her feeling isolated from and unsupported by you at a critical time of life and c) an addiction that required 8months of therapy to sort out?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 01:15 PM
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I obviously need to be able to pass comfort tests for the sake of my future partner. You sound like you're still deep in the matrix and Disney fantasyland, which is quite surprising. I often tell people not to read The Rational Male too early on but I think it might do you a lot of good. You're very much painting yourself as the victim and TRM's probably going to feed into that somewhat (that evil global feminine imperative is out to fuck you (unfortunately not literally)) but you would benefit …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 09:57 AM
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I'm glad to hear there's no anger or resentment towards your partner in this because any of that should be directed at yourself. Assuming they are not too far away I'll guess your families have been carrying your load. I'd love to know how you got shoulder and back injuries playing video games. I'd also love to know how you didn't have time for the gym but you did for video games, especially with first a pregnant partner and then a newborn around. No idea why you couldn't just throw the switch i…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 09:43 AM
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Sounds like fuckarounditis at the gym to me. It doesn't sound like your job pays well if you're broke? But everything is expensive, so it's not your fault. ​ haven't used a condom in 4 years. You seem surprisingly relaxed and passive about the fact your woman could unilaterally decide she wants a child and lock you in to child support payments for 20 years as well as all the practical and emotional loads being a father involves. Is that something you're comfortable having no control over? This w…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/23 09:14 AM
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What are your lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 05:03 PM
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This is OYS, not some random note taking app.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 05:00 PM
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I've failed quite a lot of the comfort tests. That is what I am currently focusing on, going forward. Why would you bother if you are divorcing? What is your actual weight? I don't get it, your the second person to talk about dropping/forgetting RP. Why would you intentionally harm yourself (and your relationship)? High protein meals? Try meat and veg, however you prefer it. Come back soon and tell us what you actually did.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 04:58 PM
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Met my LTR at the job and started pretty much living together after 4 months. I knew about TRP/MRP and have read a lot before we started dating Clearly not, or at least you didn't understand or internalise anything otherwise you wouldn't have moved in after 4 months (IR4) and you would have left, not said you were going to. Sounds like you're doing better this time around and OYS will help with that. What exactly is your gym routine? It's not clear. Is it worth putting some effort into the caree…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/23 04:51 PM
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Reading this literally sucked the life out of me, lord knows how you make your wife feel. I'm not going to waste time on someone who'll probably disappear again. What stands out for me is your T - possibly the cause of all the enervating, passive and weak rest of it. Get a proper testosterone test done (not of the postal or fingerprick kind but an actual blood draw with a needle) and if it's low, get on TRT ASAP. If it's not that, well, I don't know what to tell you. OK, more more thing: Look in…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/23 07:59 AM
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You crack me up; she's 'your girl' after what, three weeks? You're so proud to say/write it. A girl fucked you more than once. I'm not knocking it but put this into perspective. Why stop there? Does this really align with; > live for myself and answer to nobody > be a free, independent man Life is improv, game is improv, relationships are improv. You only need improv training if you don't have frame, it you don't know what you're about, what you want. > "I haven’t showered" Couldn't wait for 5 m…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 10:26 PM
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So unpack it. Lean into it and ask why? Really think fucking hard, no matter where it goes or how deep or absurd. I'm worried about what happens if my wife finds out Why? I care too much about what my wife thinks. Why? Unhappy wife negatively affects my day. Why? What do I want? To get laid like tile and get woken up by blowjobs. Why? Don't blow this off with 'who doesn't'? Why is this important to you? Is this realistic? How do you achieve this? I really don't think this is really what you want…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 10:04 PM
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What are those shitty mental models?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 09:32 PM
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Some good notes on 'don't be unattractive' in this. I don't know what else you do around dental hygiene but flossing makes a big difference. Skip the tape and, if you can get them there, check out Tepe Interdental Sticks. Try and use them whenever you eat, not before you brush, they will make a huge difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 09:03 PM
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Why don't you? What's stopping you? Most guy's here have (or had) wives that use sex to manipulate and control them to some extent, it's a pretty simple, obvious and effective lever for a woman, until it isn't. Your lever is the biggest, most sensitive and powerful I've ever seen. I don't think you've got much chance of succeeding until you learn some self control and restraint. Your big swinging dick (not to mention your ego) makes you a puppet on a string. Jacked or not, you're a desperate pet…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 08:50 PM
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You've got a lot going on. At this point I'd keep it real simple. STFU. Lift more, get that to at least three days a week. What program are you doing? Get your diet under control. Start tracking and make sure you get at least 1g protein per pound bodyweight. Work out your TDEE (Google it, also in Steel's Guide (sidebar)) and eat 500 cal less than that. Hit the sidebar and get a copy of NMMNG ASAP. STFU some more. It sounds like life is happening to you and everyone has a say in it other than you…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 08:27 PM
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You are expecting a response to your changes from your wife - you are looking for and invested and investing in a desired outcome. I get it, you want to save your marriage and your family. Considering where you are on your journey, it's not surprising, most start out that way and as they make progress their thinking changes (or they are happy enough and leave). The reason I have with you is that your wife really clearly doesn't give a fuck. You are (granted not entirely) expending time and energ…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 05:34 PM
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You've been told plenty of times now that you're a dancing monkey, it's obvious to everyone but you. Your obvious appreciation of all the external validation just makes for an even stronger case. I'm wondering why you are so willing to ignore this obvious fact, and that your wife doesn't want to fuck you, or spend time with you. Maybe acknowledging the underlying cause could offer some benefit; You are scared of/would feel shame for breaking up the family if you left your wife You believe leavin…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/23 10:41 AM
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The question you should really be asking yourself is why you asked this question. I'm sure others will give you the answer. I know I look fucking good (and there's more gains to be made) - that's all that matters to me.
/r/askMRP07/08/23 09:47 PM
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Everything is temporary and nothing lasts forever. Good or bad. Keep this in mind with both the relationship and your feelings right now. With a clean break like this you'll be feeling much more positive in 2-3 weeks, grind through. Wipe her from your life; archive emails, block her on social media and your phone, cleanse her from your timelines and chat histories, delete the photos and get rid of all those reminders you've got lying around. Keep in mind IR7, especially now; It is always time an…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/23 12:40 PM
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She just doesn't want to be lonely and is already contemplating moving in This is the most telling part. Don't you have a say in the matter? Who's in control of your life, let along this 'relationship'? You're scared of making her angry, probably of making any woman angry. You'd do well to ask yourself why.
/r/askMRP28/07/23 05:14 PM
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Last week you recognised you were scared. This week you've been angry. Give some thought to the link between the two.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 07:37 AM
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I see your wife wrote your mission for you again this week. Despite that there's some good introspection here. There lots I'd like to respond to and comment on but I don't want to add to the noise in your head. You are reactive and changing tack with each new thought or realisation. Perhaps find some time, when you're not feeling emotional, and think about what you might do to gain respect for yourself before you even consider anyone else. What can you do that would make you feel competent and c…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/23 12:23 PM
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Perhaps you should ask your inner child? Just find a mirror you gigantic pussy. What exactly are you trying to save? What do you get out of this relationship? Why are you willing to give up so much for it? What needs or wants does she meet that someone else couldn't? You know there are 4.5billion other women out there right? Where the fuck is your self respect? She won't fuck you but she'll fuck other men. It's over. Grow up and fucking grow a pair you soft, spineless, immature, quivering baby. …
/r/askMRP21/07/23 12:16 PM
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This is #7. We don't need to know what page you're on, or minute. Keep that for your journal. Keep up keeping it down on the nofap, be patient. Reconsider freelance. You're 30, it's a little late for the corporate ladder maybe. Stop being a pussy and clinging to security. Find some guys who do it and see what they say. "More money, less responsibility, some risk" probably. Don't take it off the table. If you're being lined up for a career path you've got the skills. No one in your company will a…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/23 09:52 PM
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All sounds good buuuut feels like you're holding something back. Maybe contentment is your new bitch? Lift harder and it's all good? What's the mission, the vision? Where you heading (lifting aside)?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/23 09:34 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/23 02:02 PM
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You're clearly highly anxious, insecure and validation seeking - AWALT. Your anxious attachment style has depolarised the relationship. You thought you had a chance because she'd had a drink. Classic nice guy. Lift. STFU. Sidebar. Spot the neediness and whatever it is driving you to do and don't do it. This 'one simple trick' will make a huge difference if you can stand it long enough.
/r/askMRP19/07/23 07:48 AM
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So what are you doing to do about these errors and weaknesses? Why would you ever buy a drink for one girl let alone a group. Plus you're in debt. Why finger a girl you know you can't fuck? Oh, the validation points. You could have left her hot and wet and left an impression, not now. She knows who the prize is. What are you actually in control of? How will you gain control (of yourself for starters)? Eat motherfucker. Jfc
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 09:39 PM
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I'm not sure of the timing but if the hot session was after you went to the beach, RPeed hit the nail on the head. I don't think it was. This is the first OYS of yours that didn't bore or frustrate me. Looks like you reached the first of (hopefully) many turning points and epiphanies. Good stuff. Let's get a few basic things out the way; Take being a good father out of your mission. This is a given, a natural consequence (for most). It can also be a source of validation; from your wife, your fam…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 09:20 PM
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So she fucked you when she was drunk. You rewarded her with your cock rather than maintained your boundary. She might be a total bitch but you're a bigger one. Can you see why (and it's not just about what I wrote above). What happens when you have the sexual abundance you seek? How is that going to help you with your mission/vision? Is it going to help you avoid your father's fate? What other things might better serve you in that goal? Are you afraid of being alone?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 04:43 PM
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I see you've signed up to the dancing monkey program and the ink is fresh on another covert contract or two. You're heading in the right direction but you'd do well to reframe the whys; Self improvement/care Having/developing standards Owning your shit Improving your social skills and interactions Becoming more capable I'm sure you can come up with more. You can think about these from a few perspectives; - Are they positives, or avoiding negatives? - Are they primarily of direct value to you? - …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/23 01:50 PM
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This is good advice. I'll add: save the direct dirty talk for when she's already turned on, don't try and use it to turn her on. You're not at that level yet. I think you are looking for some kind of validation doing what you are. Testing her level of desire in the day. To expand on that last sentence in feddyman's comment; If you're going to use words to warm her up, be indirect and use innuendo and humour, but don't be too crude about it - you want it to be a nudge that's she's not conscious o…
/r/askMRP18/07/23 10:55 AM
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All the tools are in the side bar. Have you found it? Are you married? WISNIFG Is gonna help you a lot. If you still can't quite get it in your head that what you want is the the only thing that matters, check out The Virtue of Selfishness.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/23 07:44 PM
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The story of another man fucking another woman got your wife on her knees. Those kinda feels work magic with women scared to be alone in their fifties. It's your cock or some cats. You're happy where you are so I won't tell you to do the work so you can cast your own... 'Chad's Shadow'
/r/askMRP16/07/23 07:33 PM
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I'm reminded of a scene from The Boys. Homelander's masochistic Nazi girlfriend Stormfront has been battered in a fight and is lying, broken and wounded, with three limbs amputated, in a hospital bed. He comes to visit, never asking how she is, complaining about how he's not appreciated, how his life sucks. She offers to make him feel better ("no one suffers like you suffer baby"), so he lowers her hospital bed and she uses her (only remaining) hand to give him a hand job. He continues to whine …
/r/askMRP16/07/23 06:57 PM
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Your wife, mommy and leader is a fucking saint. I'm amazed you didn't need her to help you dress before you stormed out in a sulk. The truth hurts and you lash out, you don't want to hate yourself, you want to escape, you want the bad feelings to go away. You're angry the person you rely on to feed the fantasy that you're worth shit (that's why you really love her) pulled back the curtain. No thought to how you might change that truth, how you can be better, to everyone's benefit. Just run and h…
/r/askMRP14/07/23 09:21 AM
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The test booster content sounds okay, if the amounts of each ingredient are decent. You won't lose muscle doing cardio (as long as it's not excessive and you eat enough protein) , it'll also improve the health and efficiency of your mitochondria which improves your ability to burn fat during any kind of exercise. You can obviously adjust your calorie intake as you go. Keep going on the social, it does get easier. Maybe reflect on when/how this issue started (was it really always?) and if your fe…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/23 06:32 PM
30

I'll ask if she'll settle for a blow job Sounds like you always will. You seem very focussed on orgasm. A few questions to dwell upon; Do you ever not try and escalate to sex? Would you drop to your knees and eat her if she asked and you weren't horny? Ever got her hot and steamy and walked out the door? Joke about sex or drop innuendos without any motive other than fun? Kiss or touch her neck? Do you still sulk when you get a hard no (including to the blowjob)? Do you give her attention when yo…
/r/askMRP12/07/23 11:00 PM
1

Slow, steady, positive momentum mostly, especially the protein and socialising, keep going - it's all compounding. Next time you line up a date, maybe try something a bit more exciting. Her grandmother can take her for a meal. Bouldering, something on the water, bowling or pool even - something that's arousing emotionally. You could even scout out activities you're interested in exploring while you're at it and practise your social skills.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 10:02 PM
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Let's keep going. Why is it a waste of time?
/r/askMRP12/07/23 02:59 PM
2

Let's try the socratic method for a bit. Why is it annoying?
/r/askMRP12/07/23 02:49 PM
6

https://youtu.be/-4EDhdAHrOg it is almost impossible not to address it directly Why? Why do you care? Do her irrational/illogical feelings have a material impact on your life or well being? If they do, you've got work to do.
/r/askMRP12/07/23 02:09 PM
4

8 Months since the last time you posted and you're; still drinking too much still biting your nails still fucking around at the gym probably still wanking still talking too much still lazy still expecting pornstar sex from your wife What unattractive behaviours have you actually eliminated? What have you done to be more attractive? In what ways have you actually improved? How are you better? How is YOUR life better? What are you looking to gain, outside of sex? Seems to me the odd night with a h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 11:42 AM
3

What you're doing is working but I think something like AJACs ectomorph program (specifically for skinny men) would work even better: https://www.ajac.io/l/Ectomorph. You need to be progressively overloading and you can't just keep upping the reps. Plus you won't be hitting some muscle groups hard enough. If the belly won't shift (and I assume it didn't even when you weren't drinking) you should get some cardio in on days you're not lifting, zone two, 3x per week, aiming to get up to 45 continuo…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/23 08:02 AM
1

Did you judge the NENM woman? She was upfront about what she's doing and she had something you wanted. Probably not. I ask because you seem to think there's something 'bad' about what you want. You also seem to think sex is something to be given or something you can manipulate someone to giving to you. I don't think there's anything 'wrong' with your motivations (although if you succeed I'm not sure you'll gain what you think) but I do think there's plenty of social conditioning you've yet to wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 10:31 PM
2

What are your lifts like? I can't see they've changed from your OYS #1. What's your diet like? How much protein? You seem constantly anxious, is there a reason for that? Considering your debt and anxiety, is going to bars the best way for you to socialise and practise your game? You'd do well to pay attention to (as you are) and write a list of validation seeking behaviours you identify for say a week, at work, on a date, with your family, when socialising. Then stop yourself from displaying tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 09:24 PM
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Your first born child is 8 weeks old, you're in debt and you're getting high and wasting our time and yours with this rambling shit. GTFO.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 03:52 PM
1

JFC. Where you high when you wrote this? I pity your wife, and your father.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/23 02:37 PM
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"I spend time with my wife, when I can and want to, because I enjoy it. She's interesting and fun sometimes, she's anxious and stressed sometimes. She pokes fun at me or complains sometimes (AA/AM), sometimes she wants advice (lead), sometimes I just listen to her vent or worry and I give her a hug (be the oak). I never know what I'll get but whatever it is I soak up that feminine energy and radiate my own masculine. She'll test me and I'll tease her. She spots my bullshit and I see hers. Freque…
/r/askMRP11/07/23 10:04 AM
2

You're scared (for you, for your kids, for the future), wounded and confused. You have two options; Do whatever it takes to 'fix' this and make all those unpleasant feelings go away asap. Short term gain for even more pain, possibly over years or decades. Keep doing what you've always done and get what you've always got. By trying to avoid pain and discomfort you guarantee it. This is the emasculation paradox. One of many in the red pill. Lean in, learn, grow and honour yourself and her threat. …
/r/askMRP09/07/23 12:01 PM
2

Women want a man who's better than they are in every way. Play games with your friends. Let her win... your praise, your cock, you.
/r/askMRP08/07/23 07:54 AM
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Browsing your history it doesn't look like you make much money and I'd hazard a guess she makes more. I'd guess she also runs the finances. I'd guess she's probably running your life. You were (are?) drinking daily and dabbling in drugs. You're physically attractive, probably a good fuck and she's no doubt happy to show you off but she's likely seeing a lack of potential and drive. She's realising you're not husband or father material. You're a good looking loser. You're young but what are you a…
/r/askMRP07/07/23 08:00 PM
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Still trying to find the magic formula that'll make your lazy, entitled and sexless (with you) wife like, love and lay you? If you're not gonna pull the plug, focus on yourself at least, instead of trying to work her out - you won't. You've got the money, bang a few high class hookers and see if you still think your wife's hole (you only get one of the three don't you) is so magical. You won't because hers is the only hole you don't feel ashamed using. Become a man worth fucking and you won't ha…
/r/askMRP07/07/23 06:43 AM
1

Good work on the diet and tracking, keep going and get better. Lots of easy to spot covert contracts in this. You spotted one, there's more. You nailed it at the end. It's easy to go scattergun, remain consistent at the gym and with the diet and focus on just STFU for a week. Stop trying and fucking do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/23 07:24 PM
6

First things first, if you're gonna post here or on r/marriedredpill, get a new account and delete this one. Your history reveals too much about you and there's plenty of people that would be happy to expose you and make your life even more hellish. Lots of good advice here already; start small, therapy, do whatever you can to increase your self esteem. I'd add, to help with that last one, sort out your diet and stop making excuses about lifting weights, you can train around your injury, use mac…
/r/askMRP06/07/23 06:51 AM
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She's not testing you, why would she? What would she gain if you 'passed'? Your wife doesn't want to feel your strength, resolve, authenticity, deep love or power. She wants nothing from you, although she's lonely enough for your company and a little comfort every now and then. She's trapped in the same kind of cage you are. Deeply unhappy but trapped by the things in her head. You don't have any options when you believe every option will lead to you looking bad (and you care deeply about that),…
/r/askMRP05/07/23 06:57 AM
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You talk/write too much. You are dealing with your financial problems well, aside from the fact your are avoiding the real issue - your wife's spending. It's too early to deal with that because she has a pussy that you'd like access to and, apart from your daughter, that's all you really care about. Do you see the cage you've built for yourself? Actually, the cage you have accepted, that's been handed to/drilled into you by society, your culture. Do you see the fucking awesome power wielded agai…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 09:56 PM
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adding in compound lifts What's your progress look like over 4 months? How often do you lift? What's your diet really like? How much protein? ... the last few years shes felt likes shes lost herself and how she has no interest in having sex with me. This is why I'm here It's all your fault but if you're gonna 'follow the program' just so she'll fuck you, it's not gonna work (look up dancing monkey program). I know it's gonna sound like a riddle but if you want her to want to fuck you, you've got…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 09:22 PM
1

how off track my mission development had veered What the fuck does this mean? ... all this nonsense It's only nonsense if you're conflicted. Are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/23 08:53 PM
1

Fuck people I actually wanted to fuck for starters. You're not conflicted, well, not about what you think you are. You just don't want to feel bad about leaving the 'good' one because she's so, well, good. Your actions to reassure her after she found out show that. You're scared to hurt her. Happy to fuck bad girl most of the relationship but as soon as she knows, desperate to slap on any bandage you can to make it better, for her.
/r/askMRP30/06/23 06:18 PM
1

Does that last line mean you talked to her about it? Sounds like you've got the physical side of things in good shape and most of your work is going to be internal (and how that changes how you approach the outside world). I assume drink, nicotine or drugs are not a problem? Do you like her? Does she like you? How does she treat you? Things are likely to get worse before they get better. Are you ready for that? Skip all that if you want, the real question is, what are you here to achieve? This p…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/23 06:10 PM
2

Only you can be the judge of that, and reality will provide appropriate feedback. You got these two. "If you settle for what you have, you'll never get what you want." NMMNG
/r/askMRP30/06/23 12:44 PM
3

Go find her then, and let go of these two, neither are actually what you want.
/r/askMRP30/06/23 06:31 AM
12

What you should really be asking, yourself, not us, is why you're so fucking desperate to be in a relationship, any relationship. Really can't stand yourself that much? Not over the single mum cheating on you yet? You've been told before exactly what will help you. Now make like Cipher and fuck off back to la la land because you clearly prefer fantasy to reality.
/r/askMRP29/06/23 03:36 PM
1

Seems you have a great foundation to build upon. As 3KL said last week, it's somewhat vague. What are you unhappy about? What are you missing that brought you here? Maybe you're just crawling out from under the load (and endless compromise) of having two very young children and it's as simple as it seems or maybe there's more? On the initiations, it would be a good exercise to not initiate via a massage for a week or two and force yourself to try alternatives. Or alternate, one that way, one not…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/23 09:49 AM
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This is a more positive OYS and more focused on you (although half of it is still about her), good stuff. You're reshaping yourself and your life, conscious of your incompetence, as a man, a husband, an adult - take your pick. Sounds like you have a handle on coping with it. Your wife probably genuinely believes he's just a friend but subconsciously she's lining him up, or at least the opportunity. It's a great way to offload responsibility later when "it just happened", "I started having feelin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 11:06 PM
1

My wife has started noticing the changes in my style and said that she liked my new rakish look. I've gotten a couple of compliments from both men and women when I'm walking down the street with my wife Hmmmm, is this why you feel a lot more laid back and confident I haven't been able to convince her to have sex Now, I'm able to have enthusiastic sex with her A long way from 'you're the prize' You've read a lot but you don't seem to have done much with the information. What have you done, rakish…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/23 07:16 AM
1

Alright. You're a bit fat but it's not too bad. You're probably not tracking calories or anything else. Start. Get MyFitnessPal and start using it. Get a scale. If she does all the cooking try and involve her so she's game to give you the numbers and weighs. Don't fucking guess. The bars are shit, see if you can replace with high protein yoghurt drinks but check the carb/sugar content. Don't be afraid of fat, as long as your sticking to a calorie goal. Work out what that should be. It's all in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 09:11 PM
1

Good stuff. Remember, by working hard and focussing on YOU and your gains, everyone else you choose to have in your life gains too. Stop using your son as an excuse to be weak, he's a reason to be strong, and get stronger. Commit to yourself and your growth like you've committed to his. Everyone wins. On the SL 5x5 and your back, look into AJACs Ectomorph and Tall Man programs. There's less barbell, more dumbbell and machines. At your age you shouldn't need to switch but you're of a generation t…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 08:38 PM
1

Gonna answer the questions? Rollo's stuff is great, but it's not practical and it's one hell of a shock to the system for many and the resulting bitterness for some isn't helpful.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 01:35 PM
1

You're inconsistent, lack courage, skinny fat, weak (physically and mentally), lazy, unattractive, eat poorly and are a doormat. How are you the provider if she's a high earner? A bad back doesn't stop you training arms, legs, shoulders or chest. What program are you running? Do you drink? Smoke? Take drugs? Lots to fix but lots of easy gains. Are you using the tools from WISNIFG? Start lifting consistently, start eating more (esp protein) and consistently. STFU and start using the tools from WI…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 12:22 PM
2

Should have known better suggests a history of errors and a lack of trust (and leadership). Her defensive fight response suggests she's knows and she's angry (ego defense) and maybe shamed by that, or at least angry she had to bear the responsibility, particularly as it went south, confirming his poor opinion of her. Probably not much value in going further with the hamster but fuck it. If she respects him, she feels like a failure. If she doesn't (likely), well, all the more reason not to and w…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 11:18 AM
1

Basics. What program are you doing? Are you entirely skipping leg day? Weight and height? Diet? You're very sensitive to the judgement of others. I'd steer well clear of TRM at this point but it's too late, just remember you got the life you deserved and people treat you the way you let them. Use the anger in the gym. WISNIFG should be your go to, along with a reread of NMMNG, I'm guessing you sped through it pretty quick. Hope isn't worth shit but you're here so that's something. Your marriage …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/23 11:05 AM
2

Great on the tracking. The protein is way too low. A general rule of thumb is 1g per pound, 2 per kg. This, with your stats and moderately active, puts you at 219g: https://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/calpro.htm. You'll progress faster if you get enough. 10g Collagen peptides in your morning coffee (it's tasteless and mixes easily) is a great way to start and is great for your joints, ligaments and tendons (and skin and hair). Throw in a high protein yoghurt with breakfast and you're already at 35g…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/23 08:29 AM
1

Good stuff. Easiest win for you is to eat more and put on some weight, 2200 isn't enough. Some junk food is fine at this point. Are you tracking? Do you know how much protein you're actually having? What about the other physical basics? Hygiene, style etc.?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 07:20 PM
1

Yet another guy who needs to gain some weight. What's your diet like? Browsing your history, you're seriously fixated on your wife and sex. Do you do much without your wife? Do you have friends that are 'yours'? What do you do, just for you?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 03:15 PM
1

What makes you 'still gay'? Why is your relationship your weakest area? What happens when you leave your job? How much protein are you actually eating? Do you know? What are you actually going to do to make new friends and socialise? Lots you're not saying here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/23 07:01 AM
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Refreshingly open OYS. I think you're the third guy this week who needs to seriously put on some weight. You're plan is good and it's simple but what are you doing to gain weight? I try to take photos so I could keep a pretty cool Instagram profile, but I don't know if that shit's just needy behavior. Sweet, sweet validation. She also made me feel like I was forced myself on her in a non-consensual manner You were asleep, why would you think this? You have no frame and live in her reality. No wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 07:21 PM
1

Good stuff. I'd up the protein at least 10% - do some research. Keep up the eating, you want to pack on another 10-15kg. Weights would help you add lean mass not fat. Must be hard cramming those calories in. Is it 'clean food? Seems you're pretty content, I think you'll disappear when things get rough, or when she decides she wants a child. We'll see. Try and post weekly.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 01:36 PM
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What's your weight and height? What's your diet like? Your macro split? Are you tracking? What program did you do before? You need to become a man worth fucking and lifting is a large part of that. Rian's Praxeology book would be a good read for you to get the basics of dread and frame covered, after you've finished NMMNG. It's a short read before you get onto WISNIFG. I can seeing you shuffling into the dancing monkey program. Don't. When she gets baby rabies and starts fucking you like you wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/23 11:56 AM
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Alright, I browsed your history. Tough swallowing the pill in your part of the world. Sounds like a dead bedroom so I guess sex is the primary reason why you're here. It's going to be a frustrating few weeks at the cottage. She doesn't find you attractive but you know that. The social focus is good. You're skinny, you may want to take a look at AJACs Ectomorph or Tall Man programs instead of SL. Seems you eat well but how much protein are you eating? Are you tracking? Why do you think it'll take…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 06:09 PM
2

I'm struggling to articulate what I'm really getting at. You didn't have time for it but you ended up doing it anyway. You didn't think she could do it (or that you should have asked) but you asked her anyway. You jumping straight to logical problem solving and questioning to 'fix her mistake'.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 11:36 AM
2

Does she know you plan on divorcing her? Not from what I can tell, although she knows that you know she cheated. What's the advantage in not telling her? I know it's the standard advice (for those in the US) but considering the delay you're facing, the mental burden and confusion/compartmentalisation of playing happy family seems unnecessary. Seems like you are living a fantasy to avoid the consequences not doing so requires and you have the perfect alibi? Why you'd fuck her raw knowing she's ch…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/23 07:34 AM
1

woops, need to just handle that shit myself, should have know better You don't trust her and she knows it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 10:16 PM
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This is crap and I need to deal with it How? You sound very emotional and 'in your head'. I've no idea how a single 4yr old could be taxing you unless you are overthinking everything. Lots of pointless filler detail in this. You're holding back trying to avoid criticism and 'breaking the rules'. What are your lifts? What's your diet like? Why are you here (sex aside)? I've no idea why you're reading TWOTSM at this stage. WISNIFG (again if need be) would be a better bet. Try fogging for a week or…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 09:51 PM
1

You were 229 on OYS #1? I'd leave SGM for now and pick up TWOTSM instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 03:18 PM
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This OYS is a long way from demonstrating indifference. Why landscape if it's 'gonna have to go'. Why mention the card? Dinner? The ice cream? Why masturbate in front of her after the rejections? Here's a gold star for all the shit you handled ⭐. Why didn't you go to the neighbors without her and take the kids? You're not where you think you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 03:02 PM
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I has similar thoughts to sea-tease on your mission. The second half might help with the first, but the first doesn't have a lot to do with you directly. You 'initiated' by asking on Friday too didn't you - while watching TV. You're actually afraid to touch her without permission. I'm guessing neither of you are affectionate. I see surprisingly little ego in your posts, a little might go a long way for you at the right time. Right now I think it's a good thing - it won't get in the way of the ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/23 12:27 PM
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