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I think laws protect us from stupidity more than they protect us from evil. The average person doesn’t have a desire to beat or mug other people, but they will do thing that put their community in danger like driving while very intoxicated, putting dangerous fixtures on their homes, growing their grass very tall and barbecuing over it, selling radioactive charms that ‘purge bad blood from your body’ and so on. Anybody who think that a lawless society would only be scary for women needs more pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 07:29 AM
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That seems like a lofty ideal since it most likely wouldn’t be a monopoly if they had those kinds of ethics to begin with. Most companies become monopolies by sinking existing competition and blocking new ones from being formed. This on its face requires nefarious behavior. A monopoly like you describe is one that’s so good at self improvement that nobody else could keep up. That would be really neat but it is an ideal. Pertaining to the point is that some people would rather just liberate thems…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 05:14 AM
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I think we should aim to make society serve the majority rather than serving people at the top of the hierarchy. Women’s right is only one part of this, but women’s rights without any other improvements would just allow for loopholes that would end up putting women at the bottom of society through other means anyway. I’d prefer labor rights, breaking monopolies as soon as they form, limiting what corporations are capable of, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:17 AM
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I’ve seen myself that they don’t do this as often as they should.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 04:12 AM
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The connections men have with other men help them get ahead in life which helps them become more desirable. Networking is the most valuable tool to getting ahead in life. That’s a bad excuse to not hold other men accountable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 03:15 AM
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When one of my best friends from middle school went after a guy my other best friend was dating, she lost a bunch of friends. We didn’t have to explain to her why we cut her off, it was obvious when she got chewed out by that friend and everyone else stopped hanging out. You don’t have to consider this a way of holding someone accountable, but losing good friends is a consequence of your actions and it helped her understand that what she did was wrong and make attempts at amending the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:04 AM
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She can use her brain and figure it out. She’s old enough to know right from wrong and if she’s incapable of figuring that out, that’s even more of a reason to cut her off.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 11:05 PM
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It’s obvious when the benefits of the friendship suddenly disappear right after what they were ousted.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 11:05 PM
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If you haven’t been in the position to enable anything, then this isn’t directed at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:27 PM
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Women often do this in ways that doesn’t cause too much of a scene and don’t ruin friendship dynamics with other women in the group like cutting her off as a friend, not inviting her to places, etc. You won’t see this because it’s mostly out of sight. However defending them if you know they behave like this and haven’t shown any remorse or taken accountability for their actions is shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 10:26 PM
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Enabling bad behavior from other men. It shows that even if you’re in a neutral position in the whole discussion that you’re contributing to the problem. If a woman uses a guy for his money or treats random men badly even when they did nothing wrong, I and other women who aren’t similarly shitty women would hold her accountable. Men should do the same with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 09:00 PM
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There’s no reason to get angry and cause a scene when you weren’t tricked into anything, only uncomfortable and maybe disappointed if she really liked the guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 01:02 AM
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I’ve had untreated severe anxiety for most of my 20s and I struggled a lot with dating. I can’t imagine it’s any easier for men with moderate to severe anxiety. You can predict whether someone will have trouble dating if you know enough about them, but predicting that before they’re born is a stretch. A lot of women aren’t going to judge a guy based on his family anyway unless she thinks it’ll affect her negatively. If his mom is one of those women who hates other women and is mate guarding her …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/24 12:30 AM
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It’s better to be honest than lie to someone and manipulate them to get what you want obviously. However that doesn’t mean that women who are dating with clear intentions of getting into a serious relationship aren’t going to frustrated that you’re trying to steer them in a direction they don’t want to go in or that they won’t be offended that you think she’s that kind of women to begin with. It’s like being a sales person who’s upfront versus one who tricks people. Many people won’t like what y…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:00 PM
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Number 6 is literally better. I don’t need someone who’s going to be a downer when I don’t want to go out in 95 F weather.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 01:00 PM
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Only if the condition isn’t treated by a professional adequately when it starts to cause problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:39 AM
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I don’t know what the answer is here, I just know as someone with a nuclear family, the idea of my parents dating other people is horrifying. There’s just no way. My friend growing up was in the middle of a nasty divorce at a young age and it did a number on her mental health to see her parents hate each other and date other people. I wonder how many people would’ve changed their mind if having kids has been framed from a young age as “being tied to the other person and their family for life”. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/24 03:25 AM
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I think there are much fewer men who want to do this than women, but when left with no choice they take that option since it’s better than throwing the kid into the system and having them being taken care of by strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:52 PM
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Sec 8 has a 10+ year waitlist and each one I’ve seen is already packed with people that are doing their best to never leave, trailer park is probably the only option for broke single parents at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:50 PM
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But how many men want the responsibility of caring for a child alone while trying to make money to support the child? I don’t even know how women can handle that but they do on a regular basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:42 PM
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I know for a fact the majority do. They outright say it and they were the ones who questioned me on it when I said I didn’t want any. My experience from dating was that a lot men don’t just want kids, they want a lot of kids. I was told by 2 guys that they want 5 kids! I’ve never run quicker. I’m fine with a small family but going through pregnancy more than twice just seems like too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:39 PM
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Yea but lesbians have more of an incentive to care what other women think and yet that incentive leads to lower standards for appearance and much higher standards for personality and aligned values.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:54 PM
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My point was that people need something to unite them in order to revolutionize. The average American sees themselves as better, more hardworking and smarter than the poverty class even though in reality most of us are one hospital bill from joining them and having our lifetime effort to climb up the ladder be a complete waste. That’s what the average American needs to realize, but they won’t until it’s too late and everyone’s lives are in shambles.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:50 PM
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Most revolutions in the last 300 years happened because youngsters considered (rightly or wrongly) that the old people's regime was fucking them over. So they overthrew the regime with all the brutality required for that. You’d have to convince the average American to stop seeing themselves as a temporarily embarrassed millionaire and think about the bigger picture for a change. Unfortunately it seems like that won’t happen until the most extreme worse case scenarios are reached, such as the maj…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:57 AM
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Arguing with numbers and speculation doesn't work here. Stats aren’t created in a vacuum. They’re usually swayed by people’s circumstances. That’s why you can’t really take stats like that seriously. The average woman can’t afford to work less hours than men. We still have all the same bills + a few female specific ones. It doesn’t make sense to just decide “yeah women just work less than men, don’t question how that works.” Women with kids became 25% more likely to be SAHMs after the pandemic s…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 04:37 AM
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If that’s the case why are the standards for looks much lower for lesbians? They can get away with much more appearance-wise than straight women. And frankly the average women doesn’t really care what other women think of her appearance. The majority of employers are men and they’re trying to get into relationships with men so they’re going to care more what men think.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 03:18 AM
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Yes, it's absolutely accurate, men in the US work on average 4hrs longer per week and commute 60% more. These kinds of stats are skewed by the few women who do have kids. Again this doesn’t apply to the majority who don’t have any. Also it fails to account that women move closer to their new workplace to cut commute time and get more value out of their earnings. your boss will try to get as much work as possible for as little $ as possible. Yes but any experienced business owner knows that valua…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 02:40 AM
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Women on average choose lower-paying fields, work less hours, women are not willing to commute longer distances Not true in the slightest. motherhood and childcare affects them more The number of millennials and gen z having kids is very low so this doesn’t apply to the current generation. women are less likely to job-hop or to ask for a raise Job hopping is very common among young adults and asking for a raise is a waste of time. If the boss valued you enough he’d give you a raise on his own. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:29 PM
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People have been wishing for that for decades now. Instead we keep getting worse politicians who pass even worse laws than before.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 11:15 PM
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So how exactly are these adventurous women going to make any difference? Their kids will just end up making the same decisions the majority did since they won’t be able to afford their own apartment or car and there’s no guarantee the job market will be better, so it’s entirely possible they won’t have kids because they don’t have any money in their pockets to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:48 PM
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The women with an “adventurous spirit” and their children will get fucked over by the much larger aging population who will increase taxes and rent on them to fund their retirements. That’s how reality would go outside of your fantasyland.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 10:30 PM
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If I’m not doing anything I don’t mind, but if I’m the middle of something and he does that or tries to have a long conversation with me that’s really annoying. Just learn how to read the room before doing that. Forgot the number. I guess 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:45 AM
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You’re the one trying to convince people that they can’t know something just because they haven’t experienced it. That’s the epitome of incompetence.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:24 AM
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We’re not pandas dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:19 PM
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I've caught myself sanctioning girls for things I've let the boys get away with. First time I’ve seen a teacher admit to this very common problematic behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:17 PM
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I’m sorry but I wish the teachers had the power to kick the stupid kids out of class permanently. All they did was cause more stress for a teacher who’s already responsible for the education of 40 children and make it more difficult for the intelligent students with broke parents to focus on what they need to do to get into a good college.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 11:00 PM
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I mean I watch stuff with no naked women so I’d be a hypocrite to care. As long as he’s not trying to make me watch stuff with naked women 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:41 PM
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You don’t need to have sex to know what it entails.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:22 PM
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Those countries have an aging population. Any birthrate at all would make an impact.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 02:14 AM
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I don’t know about this, I’ve known a couple Muslims throughout my life and they adapt pretty good to western lifestyles. Muslim women get PHDs, good careers, get married 28+ and have 2 or maybe 3 kids. It’s not as cut and dry as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:53 AM
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I don’t know about this, I’ve known a couple Muslims throughout my life and they adapt pretty good to western lifestyles. Muslim women get PHDs, good careers, get married 28+ and have 2 or maybe 3 kids. It’s not as cut and dry as you think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:52 AM
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Frankly, I don’t think I’m an expert, I just don’t care that much. Sex is sex. When you like someone, you both adjust. It’s not complicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 01:44 AM
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If I don’t like a guy I cut off his attempts at doing favors for me to prevent stuff like this. It definitely takes a certain kind of person to do that knowing that person likes them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 11:04 PM
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So being in a relationship is about the woman being the servant to the man? When are men expected to do such things?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 10:36 PM
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So what, they’ll learn once they lose their virginity. It’s not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 10:23 PM
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This country has been actively working on fucking over the young adult population and taking away as many opportunities as possible. Those women aren’t helpless or children, they’ve simply adapted to a hostile environment. You understand that you’re calling your own workers who helped make the business functional helpless children right?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 09:12 AM
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I’m smart enough that I’ve been able to able to grasp what my options are and learn what I want at a young age. Some small, minor things have changed, but the big picture of hadn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:28 AM
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Obviously it’s reality but that’s what feminists want to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:26 AM
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Yeah that’s pretty rude. He’s going to get a bad reputation in his own neighborhood if he keeps doing this, if he hasn’t already.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:09 PM
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This is a pretty common strategy for terrible women because they know they can get your heart in a vise though that. Even better if they can trap you with a kid so the number of quality women that’ll want a relationship with you is significantly reduced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 11:04 PM
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Gay men can’t get pregnant from sex. Does that mean you’re right? No, but it does mean women are going to be more cautious and slower in expressing their love to a man. I’ve had lesbian friends growing up and while they are cautious too, they’re clearly much more comfortable being expressive about their love because they don’t have to worry about pregnancy. That why the most common joke about lesbians is “the first date is U-Haul and Tiffany’s.” I think if a woman was comfortable around a man, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 10:35 PM
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Ask out women in your league.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:30 PM
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I do want sex, just after marriage not a random romp.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 07:25 PM
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As long as your ok with being treated like an asshole and having people avoid you because you’re a pain to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:52 AM
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Thanks but I don’t need it. I’m doing fine that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:48 AM
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Have a full time job, work out regularly, get a nice haircut, take care of your appearance somewhat and be a good person. Really high standards there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:46 AM
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They have an easier time finding a guy who doesn’t have insane expectations, but I don’t think it’s easy for them either. One of the most well adjusted women I met in my college years said that she felt lucky that she found her boyfriend and that if she broke up she’d probably never date again. Her boyfriend wasn’t knock out gorgeous either, so it wasn’t about appearance. That was a pretty common sentiment among women I’ve met throughout my life too. The men they’ve dated made them wish they cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:42 AM
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For men pain is situational rather than a part of their biology. Women go through menstruation and pregnancy which cause a lot of pain (only 1/5 women never experience pain during menstruation).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:31 AM
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I have an idea what I want in that realm too but to a lesser extent than women who are experienced. You figure it out when you cross that hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:44 AM
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It’s difficult to find a single man who doesn’t have ridiculous standards. That’s why so young adult are single these days. The women are single because they just couldn’t be bother to try and meet them. It’s too much so it’s better to remain single and continue having your relaxed life. The men are single because there are only a small number of single women who actually meet their standards so they’re actively competing for them and complaining how those women all want chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 05:41 AM
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Both of those happen. Some women have bullied me individually and in groups and some women have been great friends who’ve helped me get further in life than if they weren’t there for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:42 AM
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they don't know what they want You’re free to have your opinions, but this is not true. I’m still a virgin because I’ve always known what I want and don’t compromise on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 04:04 AM
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I’ve heard women use the word situationship to describe when they’re hanging out and getting to know a guy but aren’t dating, aren't having sex and aren’t friends either, at least not in the conventional sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:58 AM
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Fair, the effort needed to keep up with rising COL has drained me of any soul too. That’s why I like learning new things and frequenting this sub, it keeps my mind ‘in shape’.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:53 AM
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Because it’s women who are expected to be beautiful and skinny with no skin flaws, have a full time job and help pay half the bills while still doing most of the housework, having as many kids as her husband wants and doing a perfect job of raising them into healthy, well-rounded adults. Where is the time to just relax and enjoy your life in any of this? There’s literally none. Women are just expected to be machines with no thoughts of their own. What’s the equivalent for men? Go to your job, pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 03:10 AM
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Women can survive through more pain and health issues because in the wild we were the ones caring for children and grandchildren, so the future generations’ survival depend on our survival. That doesn’t mean that women don’t suffer a lot though. I’d rather live a short life with less health issues and pain and not having to go through pregnancy than living a longer life with more suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:55 AM
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I want to fit the standards of whoever I get in a relationship with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:53 AM
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No I don’t think that in the slightest. What does having it all entail? If it means being rich, there’s more men that qualify. If it means living a healthy, pain-free life, more men qualify.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:44 AM
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The concept is strange to me. No one got away, he just didn’t ask me out or express love so things didn’t progress. That’s pretty much all there is to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:42 AM
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I disagree that love is pushed onto people. I think all those love songs are made by people who’ve fallen in love and feel a natural sense of urgency in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:35 AM
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I don’t want to be on the receiving end of a compromise. I want a guy who’s loved me from the start.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:00 AM
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And that’s wrong. We should be treated as equals. That’s the premise.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 12:56 AM
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Women watching porn and using toys is more common than you think. Women who are staying single for longer periods of time need a way to tone down their sexuality so they can focus on something else. Are men insecure about this? The alternative is that the woman is staying single because she has a low or no sex drive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:53 PM
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Because your conclusion is completely off. Men and women being different means we shouldn’t be equal? Again I’ll ask you, what other human differences should be a factor in this? You are not the same as a man who’s a different height, who can lift 500 lbs., who is an Olympic runner, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 11:20 PM
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So you believe without all this subliminal messaging, men wouldn’t fall in love with their crush and would instead only think about having sex and raising any resulting children without any other feelings for her?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:46 PM
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That’s completely incorrect. We have human DNA, human build and both are capable of performing human-specific tasks. The differences are strength and sexual dimorphism caused by the sexual attraction of each gender or and resource competition. That doesn’t mean we are completely different. Our gender differences are like every other difference between humans. What other difference should we use to justify not promoting equality? Because there are plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 10:25 PM
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Because that’s like asking if a human and a bird are equal. You’re comparing to completely different things. There’s no similar in 1 and 0 except that they are numbers. I scored top 10% in the math SAT so I can tell you with confidence that no they are not equal and your analogy sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:52 PM
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1-1=0 and 0-0=0 end up being equal even though there were two different approaches to the end point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 09:43 PM
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Equality is more about making things more fair and giving women more freedom over their lives than treating both genders exactly the same. Jobs that need a lot of strength are going to hire men most of time and that makes sense. Midwives are going to be women most of the time because women are more comfortable with strangers that are women seeing them naked and that makes sense. There’s inherent differences and that’s ok. What’s not ok is pushing rules that don’t make sense and are inherently un…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/24 03:25 AM
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I have a similarly tragic childhood and I still remember more about the friends I made from online game chat rooms and forums better than I remember students and teachers from my school. Everything from those 20 years of school is a blur but not the memories I made online. I have a lot of fond memories of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:24 PM
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They probably weren’t ugly when they got together. Once you’ve been in love with someone long enough your spouse aging badly matters less.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:14 PM
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I’m attracted to fat men but I’m kind of fat too so it doesn’t count.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 11:05 PM
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Do a poll and ask the women here if we want men to get laid or not. If we want men to find love or not. We universally want men here to succeed, but men won't listen to women. Exactly. Even if it’s something that guys don’t want to hear, I always make comments on dating that I think will help. Guys say “don’t ask a fish how to catch one” but we get more honest feedback from other women our age than the average guy does. We talk and exchange info. We see what men other women get with and which on…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:59 PM
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Sounds like you’re one of the people whose brains retained some of its elasticity. I know people who can still learn a new language in old age while I can’t string together sentences in languages I’ve heard for my whole life. Everybody is built different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:47 PM
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They’re slightly right. If you didn’t learn social skills during your formative years it’ll be much more difficult to learn them as an adult. That’s why we make school mandatory for children and not adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:40 PM
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Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 10:15 PM
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Dating advice from older generations don’t work because the youth of every generation change what’s accepted. Some basic things might still apply though. If I wore boyfriend jeans during my teens and early twenties I would’ve been considered outdated and unattractive but now they’re popular with the youth. That’s just one of the more obvious examples. Point is young people find ways to differentiate themselves from old people and how society functions changed so much over the past few decades th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:25 PM
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Ah. Personally I’ve mentally checked out of memes by this point. It feels like most of them were generated by AI these days and they no longer leave you hunched over in laughter like I remember them from their peak days. Thanks for confirming I didn’t make the wrong decision lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:09 PM
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She’d reproduce asexually?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 06:53 PM
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It is if you have anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 08:43 AM
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Everyone goes to college to get a piece of paper that’ll help them get a more desirable job, finding your future spouse there is just a bonus and not very likely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:18 AM
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Exactly! If Chads doesn’t want a committed relationship then why would he get into one? He can just stay single and hookup with a bunch of different women if that’s what he wants. He doesn’t have put up with women with standards and expectations and one who has a life/views of her own that don’t match his.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:32 PM
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It’s funny because research shows that there’s no correlation between attractiveness and likelihood to cheat. Cheating has more to do whether there’s major stressors in the relationship and whether the guy is in love with his wife or if he just doesn’t like her that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 11:21 PM
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If it bothers a guy that women want more fairness and want to live in a better world for women, they can kick rocks. No amount of hotness can excuse this nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 10:07 PM
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It does sounds like the OP wants that to be true so badly. The reality is that attractive men are just normal dudes with emotions and want the same love and stability that most people want. They take care of their appearance to fit in as best they could and are good at it. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 09:56 PM
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Sure he can just like she could, but he wants someone with standards, someone who will only be vulnerable with him. Who knows maybe he enjoys the mate guarding on her part. It means she loves him a lot and doesn’t want to lose him. It’s not like she’s telling him he’s too ugly to get anyone else, he knows the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:16 PM
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Mostly just music that promotes questionable things. Otherwise I don’t care even if I find your music annoying 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:31 PM
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Who treats all men as predators? That’s obviously bad, but most of us just treat most men as strangers. It’s normal to have anxiety around and not trust strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:18 PM
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Emil. Smart, chubby and living a modest middle class lifestyle sounds perfect for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:01 PM
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Attraction is required for love though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:44 PM
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Nope it’s only happened once in years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:43 PM
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I envy you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:11 AM
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So you don’t have anyone that you like a lot?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:00 AM
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These days that’s true. I’ll admit it’s been years since I’ve dated anyone. But I do frequent diners with family and there are still cheap options as long as nobody orders the steak dinners.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:58 AM
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Yeah sure dude. Ask your crush to do that and report back to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:24 AM
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You’re overthinking it. It’s just the most comfortable environment where I can take a moment between bites to think of topics instead of having to constantly talk. I’ve went on cafe dates and you pretty much have to be on the spot with them. If a woman wants a man who makes a lot of money, she’ll only go on dates with a man who takes her to high end restaurants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 12:09 AM
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I should’ve clarified that I was talking about ultrasound technology.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:51 PM
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Would you still love a woman if she suddenly gained a lot of weight or just got much unattractive in some way?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:45 PM
1

Yeah that is weird. I don’t think the technology is advanced enough to detect signs of a Y chromosome that early but I could be wrong about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 09:20 PM
1

That’s some neat history and anthropology. I mainly said that because I’ve never really seen it from anyone in person. Even smokers don’t seem to think it cool and see it as an addiction nobody should start.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 08:54 PM
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People can switch off the love they have for someone for many reasons. That doesn’t make the love they had shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:38 PM
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Usually it is, but it can also be the second step after the starvation ruins the person’s metabolism.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:35 PM
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Regardless, it’s learned and reinforced behavior. That’s the crux of it. You typically can’t write off a lack of empathy by saying “they were going to be that way no matter what” because it’s not true. Our model doesn’t work because we reward bad behavior and punish good, honest behavior leading to a society where the majority of people at the top are antisocial. People who’ve worked hard all their lives and helped many people end up homeless from medical debt all the time. American society does…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 07:27 PM
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Where in the world is smoking considered cool? Where I live it’s seen as an unhealthy choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:44 PM
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Starving yourself is the first step to getting fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:23 PM
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There are genetic components, but for the most part they are made not born that way. Children’s brains are molded into adult brains based off their experiences. The Nordic model works because the entire society supports everyone. In many Nordic countries, housing, food and medical care are considered a human right for all. They are much more advanced and have a society that works for the majority. It’s also worth noting that those countries are blistering cold year round and crime tends to skew …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:49 PM
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A child that learns that your terrible actions won’t have any real consequences will grow up to be a sociopath or at the very least will not view harming others to get what you want as a bad thing. That’s really bad for the people everyday citizen who wants to live a life where they don’t have to worry about becoming a victim of a crime. The single mom’s themselves could be robbed of the little they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:27 PM
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That’s true, but personally I’m all for legislation that punishes bad actors and encourage good decision making. This makes society better as a whole. If a mom was sued for stealing money or supplies to support her child, should she get away with it because it would harm the child for her to have to pay it back? It would in a way, but that’s an important lesson to both the mother and the child that there are serious consequences for your actions. And that’s how it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:11 PM
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I don’t think the kid should starve and at least where I live there’s food stamps/WIC for struggling parents. I just don’t think a man should be guilt tripped into accepting that he’s been tricked. He should decide on his own whether he wants to remain in the kids’ lives and support them. Think about what a woman should/would do if she found out she was raising someone else’s kid for 10 years because of an accidental swap at birth. She’d probably sue the hospital and want help finding her bio ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:57 PM
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She can always go after the bio father.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:35 PM
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That would be depressing if it was true. If we’ve really gotten to a point where it’s a common problem, I can’t blame the increasing number of women who are choosing to never have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:33 PM
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I didn’t know I was a part of a significant percentage. I guess a lot of women are fine rotting away at work/home these days. The internet is a good enough distraction from the loneliness I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:54 PM
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You don’t get to use the kid as a shield after making bad decisions that backfired.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:46 PM
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It was pretty wild seeing a bunch of people jump on guys for not wanting to pay and raise kids for that aren’t theirs. If women were being tricked into raising kids that aren’t theirs it would be considered a human rights abuse. If a guy ended up abandoning a kid because of this, it’s the mom’s fault period.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:44 PM
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I don’t think they go after young men at all. Too much competition for the few who have money.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:41 AM
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Many times it’s not that the father has questionable character but that things weren’t planned and discussed well before the pregnancy was in the picture, so things went predictably bad. A lot of people don’t think things through before making decisions especially at a young age. This is one of those cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:17 AM
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Well if they didn’t want to have sex with someone and they just wanted someone who pays half the rent they’d get a roommate, but if you want love then a relationship seems better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:14 AM
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Maybe if she’s hooking up with men old enough to be her father.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 03:10 AM
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You get those by being born to wealthy parents or getting lucky with a business idea, not by being beautiful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:11 AM
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No they can’t. Looks fade eventually and even the most beautiful women can’t keep up forever. After your looks fade your relying on personality and hobbies. The other user is right. Trying to rely on your beauty until death is a futile effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:46 AM
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I wish I got to go to an all girls school during my elementary and middle schools years at least. A non religious one though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:22 AM
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Being so desperate for a man’s affection that she’d do things against her own interest without expecting an equivalent in return. That has to be the most pathetic thing I’ve seen a woman do. The worst part is her just looked at her with total discomfort too. In general though being a pick me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 12:10 AM
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What does he offer that would entice a woman who would be consistently like this? Is he actively pursuing her or is he expecting her to fall in his lap? What he wants and what he can get are often 2 different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 11:44 PM
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I’m not the biggest fan of beards, but if a guy does grow one, he’d look much better letting it grow than clean shaven.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 09:33 PM
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Hell no, I’m kind of one too (not as much as I was before). As long as it doesn’t consume so much of your time that you don’t get your responsibilities done, it doesn’t really matter if you game in your free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:18 AM
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Short (5' -5'8"): +1 6 Muscular with Abs: -5 1 1 previous child with one mom (man is a widower): +1 2 Possesses both high intelligence and emotional intelligence: -4 -2 Socially awkward, unfunny, sits in the corner at parties, only has internet friends: +3 1 High school graduate: +3 4 Net Worth 50k: -1 3 Around the same age as you (within five years of your age): -1 Younger than you (any age gap): freebie. Didn't know how to score this option LOL. either one but we’ll say 2 pts remain Good looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:11 AM
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Short (5' -5'8"): +1 6 Muscular with Abs: -5 1 1 previous child with one mom (man is a widower): +1 2 Possesses both high intelligence and emotional intelligence: -4 -2 Socially awkward, unfunny, sits in the corner at parties, only has internet friends: +3 1 High school graduate: +3 4 Net Worth 50k: -1 3 Around the same age as you (within five years of your age): -1 Younger than you (any age gap): freebie. Didn't know how to score this option LOL. either one but we’ll say 2 pts remain Good looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 08:05 AM
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Haven't these guys ever fucked around at work, not even once? I’m too dead inside and sleep deprived for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:05 AM
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Warehouse job = we got a shipment of sex toys that was completely crushed on half the pallet. The epic "lightsaber" battles that my all male coworkers had throughout the day with the gigantic, floppy, double ended dildos was hilarious. Ah, Amazon Prime returns. Probably the most entertaining part of having a warehouse job.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:49 AM
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Yes men are expected to shave their face and that’s only if the beard grows too long. That’s different than being expected to have hairless body (have you for a moment considered how difficult it would even be to keep the back of your upper leg hairless since you seem to think that’s generous somehow). I’d like to hear what men go through in dating that’s anywhere near as expensive and time consuming as makeup and shaving. Frankly being expected to take the initiative and pay for a lunch at a di…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 04:28 AM
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Keeping your whole body hairless is way more difficult than asking a stranger out who is weaker than you and cant impregnate you. Try it. Try keeping everything on your body that’s not your scalp, eyelashes and eyebrows completely hairless for a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 03:21 AM
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Because no woman wants to consider that the men she trusts with her life would do something unthinkable to her. Strangers are the unknown variable and you meet a lot in your day to day life, so it’s easy to think that any number of them might be looking for an opportunity to harm you.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:42 PM
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No disagreement there.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:38 PM
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That is sad but that’s why it’s important to just do a private paternity test very early on. But a lot of guys were completely blindsided by the cheating. I think she should be required to pay it back to the guy who isn’t the father if he can prove he didn’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:32 PM
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Fair, but it’s her fault if she’s just giving it away without commitment anyway. She can’t blame anyone else when she consented to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:03 PM
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I mean the vast majority of women in the U.S. are at a minimum overweight and a significant percentage are obese, and guys here keeping whining about fat women so that just about answers your question. But if we’re not including overweight women, I personally got much less attention when I was at a healthy BMI than when I became overweight and fit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 07:37 PM
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Does anybody actually believe that men should be forced to pay child support for kids that aren’t theirs?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 07:32 PM
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All one has to do is look at how many STDs that were easy to treat have become effectively incurable to see how bad it could get if more people started living this lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 07:29 PM
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Being rejected is a little different than breaking up, but I’d generally agree that women are a little harsher during breakups. I’ve seen guys talk shit but spewing absolute slander is something I’ve seen much more from women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 07:22 PM
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The last time I saw someone get cruelly rejected was in middle school. Most of the time the person outright says they’re not interested or does so indirectly such as mentioning their boyfriend/girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 07:19 PM
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That’s good, the majority of guys simply aren’t. They still like the gender roles women are expected to perform and show that with their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:31 PM
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You think of her as a goddess. Then lose it if she farts, shits or gets dirty. Exactly. Nothing else needs to be said really.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:18 PM
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That true and the reason for that is because there’s still a lot of unfairness for women in dating. Men still expect women to shave and wear makeup (I won’t include pregnancy in this even though it’s the most important component of the unfairness but it’s still the only way we can have kid). So it makes sense for women to expect some tradition from men when men won’t give them any grace on their gender roles. Why should women give men some breathing room when we’re still expected to waste time a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 06:15 PM
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Have you not been seeing how the STDs have been mutating as of late? If everyone just had sex unfiltered then yes it will become deadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 05:47 PM
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She’s a healthy weight, she’s just wearing a shirt that doesn’t hug her figure. Those guys probably think anime girls are icons of healthy weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:34 AM
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No lie, I never knew I was supposed to care about height until I joined reddit. Exactly! It’s never even crossed my mind beyond a guy being your height or taller. If anything a guy being too tall might be a downside since it would be more difficult to see his face and kiss him without craning your neck or him constantly having a terrible posture.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:43 AM
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No being tall doesn’t matter. What would matter at that point is which treats me better and I’m more comfortable with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 01:40 AM
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The majority of the electoral college not the majority of Americans. So a bunch of rich people who don’t know what the average American has to go through decide the presidency for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 09:50 PM
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That argument falls flat when the U.S. has had 0 female presidents and our White House looks like a retirement home. Are the options we have really the most competitive options for leading a country? That’s pretty sad if true.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 05:01 AM
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I’m way too old for this nonsense and I haven’t even hit 30 yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 02:33 AM
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Plenty of us are always scared of being thrown away even before this figurative wall. You don’t have to be old to be cast aside.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 12:32 AM
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getting knocked up This is the only thing on your list that can only happen with girls, but with boys you might suddenly have a child that needs to be raised and your son being made to pay child support as soon as he gets a job. Not anywhere near as bad, but unplanned kids are a pain regardless of gender, just much more of a pain for women. My parents wanted me to become a doctor but I wasn’t equipped for that and needed to make money asap. What your parents want from you is not always correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:30 PM
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Still waiting to get attention and everything I want just because I’m a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 07:08 PM
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Being a woman has never been a problem for me when it comes to safety so 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:53 PM
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This is less of a problem if you live somewhere where conceal carry is legal. Nobody is going to mess with a woman if they think she might be armed and able to defend herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:16 PM
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I’ve walked alone at midnight without any issues. This largely depends on where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:12 PM
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Glad you realized that. Many never learn that proper upbringing is more about the individual personality rather than the gender of the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:26 PM
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I’d prefer a girl personally because I’d want to raise a girl to meet her full potential rather than drag her down and try to force gender roles on her. I’d give her the upbringing I wanted for myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:21 PM
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who resent the step children I mean that’s obvious, but there’s a lot that goes on that the public isn’t aware of. That resentment is probably because of the behavior of the mother who is actively targeting the step mom in smear campaigns because she’s a part of the reason the mom isn’t getting the max child support she can. Step mom can watch the kids while dad’s at work so his mom doesn’t have to take time off work. That makes it easier to get split custody arrangements. So yes there is resent…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 04:45 PM
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I think there would less women who’d have a problem with being a step mom if there was some proper boundaries placed with the mom. She doesn’t have a right to know what I’m doing in the privacy of my own home or infringe on my right to privacy in any other way just because her kid is there with me. She’s just gonna have to deal with it. I’m also not doing her job any more than I have to to ensure the kid is healthy and happy. That’s on her and the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 06:01 AM
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Yeah there’s something really off about that research. Obviously women and men have different brains because we are built different and therefore have different experiences. I think that’s common sense. But there should still be some overlap since we are a part of the same species and don’t have enough sexual dimorphism to where there would be no similarities in thoughts. Also this seems to imply that gender roles are good (stuff like women like makeup and baby dolls and men like car toys and ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:48 AM
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Definitely Jake. I don’t really care either way about having children but I’d rather be with a guy who can’t have them than someone who expects me to have more than 2. I thought Adam seemed alright until I saw he supports Trump. Nah. Everything else about him is fine though as long as the mother isn’t a pain in the ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 05:28 AM
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I always found the logic behind that questionable, because if you’ve experienced/seen too many bad relationships, it makes the one that’s actually good stand out better.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 03:20 AM
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Why reinvent the wheel? Regular marriages works just fine and people can decide for themselves how much money they want to spend on the festive parts. Removing the divorce option doesn’t stop people from breaking up anyway, it’ll just keep them unhappy for life if they want to break things off or remarry. It just seems like another way to separate the haves and the have nots.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:50 AM
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That would make sense for the majority of users. Neurotypical people or those who are good at masking as one have an easy time getting into relationships most of the time. It’s just something that happens when there’s mutual attraction and you get to know the other person. It’s people with visible mental health issues or past unresolved trauma that have barriers around dating and having successful relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:30 AM
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So it’s more of a money making scheme than anything symbolic of a strong marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 07:23 AM
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Yeah that seems obvious. Sounds like just being married for a lifetime would be a more frugal super marriage anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:53 AM
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Seems like a big waste of money for the most part. Also I’m not a big fan of tattoos personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 06:48 AM
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I was contemplating the idea that I might be asexual before, I didn't really enjoy sex, I didn't mind it, it didn't cause me any pain, but it was more of just a duty, it was expected so I did it. But with the real one I turned out hypersexual. This is similar to my experience except I’ve never had sex. I didn’t really make any attempts to get into a relationship when I was young because I honestly thought I was asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:21 AM
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For women it’s better to be loved because men already lust women at a baseline level. Those feelings are interwoven for me. I have to be in love with someone to lust after him and from experience it’s difficult for me to take my mind off him for either. If the feeling of love isn’t returned then I’d be stuck with unreturned feelings and wasting my time on someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:14 AM
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I imagine if you never fallen for someone it’s possible you might not realize you weren’t actually in love in hindsight
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:08 AM
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That’s not a sustainable way of losing weight. Crash diets just causing your metabolism to drop meaning you’ll gain all weight back and more once your diet goes back to normal. I know that from experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 02:03 AM
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I don’t need people to hound me about my weight, the health issues that creep up are a good enough reminder. Losing weight takes time, it’s not good to lose too much too quick and if you work out too intensely while carrying that much weight, you risk pulling a muscle or hurting your knees putting you further from your goal. Believe it or not, a lot of us are actively working out and cutting on food, but the effects are slow and gradual.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:52 AM
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I think if you have something major that doesn’t go away on its own, you’re probably better off seeing a psychiatrist regardless if you’re a man or woman. There’s nothing wrong with breaking down with someone you’re in a LTR with though. I’ve watched plenty of men cry and need their space when their parents pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:32 PM
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It was probably obvious from your body language and behavior. When people are in love they behave a certain way with that person. It’s not always perfect but body language says a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 10:21 PM
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People who are close to you want what’s best for you so they encourage getting into a relationship with someone you like rather than mindless lust with someone you don’t like. People who care also are aware of the risks of having sexual relationships with women you don’t like (the “potential pregnancy to crazy accusations to get as much child support as possible from you” pipeline, following you home and causing problems when you break things off, etc.) Nothing is free in life and your parents d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:46 PM
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True, but I think the progress we’ve made on that front is part of the reason I’ve never seen it happen in person. Also most of the women I know had their first kid 25+ and they had 3 or less, so that also impacts that. But yes I know death is still possible which is why it’s important to keep women informed and to vote in the interest of our reproductive rights.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 05:46 PM
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I’ve seen this happen to so many women in their 20s and early 30s. It’s so much worse for a guy to gradually treat you worse as time goes on until you break rather than be honest that he’s just not feeling it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 07:12 AM
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No, because doctors can test you for any life threatening problems and terminate if any were found. However the majority ended up with some sort of lifelong problem that impacted their quality of life in some way and many of them had their lifespan cut because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 06:59 AM
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When the average man’s T levels drop significantly enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:22 AM
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Making money, sleeping a lot, playing video games, treating my mental health issues and working on reversing my acid reflux. Pretty much just self improvement and learning more about myself. There was no sex or any sexual behavior involved in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:00 PM
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If you make a similar income then this makes sense. But if one side makes much more than the other and expects the lower income partner to pay half on overly expensive items and experiences. I don’t think that’s going to work out very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:53 PM
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Ah, those can be a hit or miss from what I’ve heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 09:48 PM
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You didn’t consult a divorce lawyer?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 07:29 PM
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But you realistically lost most of it to the lawyers which would happen regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:55 PM
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I wouldn’t be against signing it but guys need to understand that if I’m signing something like this, it’ll limited any risky investment on my part. I’m not going to be a housewife or even have kids if that’s the mindset we’re going into marriage with.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 10:54 PM
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Physical traits I like: black hair, generally masculine traits like visible muscles in arms and strength to match, deep voice, and stylish. Other traits I like: integrity, intelligence, calm, gentlemanly, an overall good and responsible person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:36 AM
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This is the unfortunate truth. The main way to stay healthy is to eat everything homemade from scratch prepared with good kinds oil instead of the basic vegetable oil. If you don’t have an exhausting work and money is plentiful then it’s much more realistic to be healthy. Otherwise it’s difficult. That pretty much explains why we have such a big obesity crisis compared to countries with a larger number of financially comfortable individuals and better food regulations.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 03:32 AM
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Some people have more difficult children. Just because you have kids doesn’t mean you can tell others how to parent theirs when you don’t have any idea what their kids temperament is like. Some kids need to spend more time studying than others or they just don’t put any thought into their future and need the stricter rules and deadlines.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:45 PM
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Me neither, I valued my health and education enough to go to sleep at a reasonable time. It’s not like it would’ve been worth it to spend 7 hours at school sleep deprived anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 10:31 PM
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I know I don’t speak for all women, but I prefer to get flowers and have a gentleman for a boyfriend, but men are afraid of being taken advantage of or being made fun of (and rightfully so with the way social media is used). So I aim for the second best option which is a guy I’m attracted to who seems like a good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 01:19 AM
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Compared to other countries yes, but a comparison doesn’t look at the big picture because becoming a legal citizen of most countries is ridiculously difficult and not even guaranteed to be permanent. From what I’ve seen in recent years becoming legal US citizen takes many years and costs a lot of money and it’s being projected to become more difficult as time goes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 12:45 AM
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You’re right for her situation, I was just saying that in a general sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 12:38 AM
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Italy’s job market is ass and they tax the fuck out of young people to pay for the elderly people’s retirement. It’s just smart for young people to leave a place whose laws are so anti-youth and move to neighborhoods where more young people live so they can actually date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 10:40 PM
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Becoming a legal citizen here has never been easy or cheap unless you’re lucky enough to be born here.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 10:30 PM
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Not everyone wants to date long distance though. That’s the benefit of moving somewhere where the singles are more likely to match your values and relationship goals. You can visit them and spend time together regularly when you’re dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 10:26 PM
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I might consider that one day, but not in the near future. Having your family around is pretty important in general. I’d consider moving to a new place if both me and my future husband wanted to and we were able to buy a house in a more adorable neighborhood. Otherwise I’m not interested. I don’t want to live alone in a place I’m not familiar with and have no friends or even acquaintances in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 10:17 PM
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It’s fine for a guy to want to know if she’s attracted to him before getting to know each other but expecting her to act too quickly on that is putting the cart before the horse. Any reasonably smart woman is not going to act on her feelings too quickly. She wants to know him a little better first.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 10:12 PM
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If she's not frothing at the mouth with need for me I can say as a woman who’s been in this position it’s not that simple. You can be crazy about someone and still be unsure if getting in a relationship with him is a good idea or not. That’s just millions of years of survival instincts kicking in. Women who date like this don't really see men as human beings, but as wallets I don’t really care if he makes a lot of money, but he has to be someone trustworthy and who will care about my well-being …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 09:31 PM
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The thing about a "friends first" approach to dating is that it's very hard to game and that's a feature, not a bug. Oh absolutely! The point is to get to know the real person not just their first impression.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 03:06 AM
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I think there's an element of "men are not broken women" to this. Expecting men to mirror how you form attachment/attraction is kind of...odd That mentality doesn’t help you when you’re trying to convince a woman to have sex with you. You need to find some sort of commonality and make compromises when needed for her feel comfortable with you. Otherwise there’s no reason for her to bring her guard down with you in particular and she’s going to remain in a defensive position. Men want women to hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:58 AM
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I think the best balance to this is to make your feelings known but give her time to get used to you if she seems shy or anxious. Some women need to get know a guy before knowing whether she wants to date him.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 02:50 AM
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I’ve always thought it was a pretty simple dynamic in that men have an easier to time getting married and women have an easier time having flings and short term relationships. Both of those lead to sex but each of them poses more of a significant risk to the gender who has an easier time getting to that point which is why it’s easier. Am I wrong in my thinking?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 12:51 AM
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There are plenty of virgin adult women. I and many women in my circle are saving ourselves for marriage. We just don’t hang around sleazy dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 08:56 PM
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While this could be true, some people are more vulnerable to being targeted by terrible people. People who’ve suffered from visible mental or physical health problems are a good example. This is one of the reasons it’s so important to get treatment for them so that you stop driving away good people with your victim complex and attracting bad ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 08:41 PM
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7 masculine features matter mostly and he has to be at least the same height or taller than me. I don’t know if this counts for the question, but since smell was included I will say that a very deep voice also makes a big difference. Those are the physical features that matter for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 08:33 PM
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Civilization has been formed and is being shaped by the desires of the majority. If the majority are naturally monogamous, then it’ll be shaped as such. Forcing things doesn’t work. I’d prefer a man spends his life with me and remains faithful because he wants to, not out of some obligation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 06:15 AM
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