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Question For WomenG4M35/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 09:06 PM
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Question For WomenG4M35/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 09:57 PM
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I'd be fine with it. For the past 5 years I have been trying to sell my bath water, I want women to exploit me, but.... unfortunately, no takers.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:49 AM
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https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/ask-fds-public/what-is-fdss-stance-on-who-pays-in-a-relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:40 AM
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FDS is literally self preservation and not about gold digging at all. Female Dating Strategy Valentine's Day rules: Disclaimer: I know not all cultures/countries celebrate Valentine's Day, so this post is for any woman who is dating a man in the U.S. and enjoys celebrating Valentine's Day. Here are my rules: If a man does not gift you something you consider on par with your standards, block and delete. Examples: You expect dinner at an expensive restaurant, and he takes you to a less-than-expens…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:33 AM
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Women expecting men to have a normal job and pay for a date is not gold digging, and gold digging is mostly a myth nowadays Not according to PPD or FDS. Just do a quick search on this sub or on FDS site.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 03:10 AM
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I am a guy, hence why I post here: whose accountability are we talking about? Hers? His? Both? I am a big fan of accountability and responsibility, and I just don't see it out there, either IRL or on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:29 PM
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According to PPD the present of my presence would be enough. Nothing is ever free silly, men just don't understand the ways we pay. Tell that to PPD
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 04:07 AM
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LOL, no, not all men. I, for one, would surely enjoy the free drinks and meals.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 03:56 AM
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Every day I make the mistake of getting online. and every day I see men moaning about or hating on women in some capacity. So, it's not "all men", is just the men online with whom you choose to interact. Keep in mind that autism & mental illness are rampant within Reddit's population, so take everything you read on Reddit, and especially on this sub, with a couple of lbs of NaCl. Do that, and the discourse in here will make a lot more sense. You people are MENTALLY ILL!!! There you go, you go it…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 04:34 PM
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IMO it's a matter of what someone brings to the table vs what they expect. If someone is broke AF and expect someone who makes 6-figure then there might be an issue if the other party doesn't agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:18 PM
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Let's introduce Agency + responsibility + accountability: Anyone who is 18YO should not be dating someone who is >23 yo. There, I fixed it for you. Now, OP: what is these 2 individuals share the sex kink of age gap?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 03:16 PM
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The "When you ask a girl out in social circle, you’re not just risking rejection. You’re risking your reputation" is a fair statemenmt. Howeve4r: Especially if you're in the US, trying to date at work is a very bad idea. Period. If you, like me, like graphs, imagine a graph where the X-axis is time and the Y-axis is expression of interest (aka: vibing). At 0.00 you have strangers, at y=100 you have fucking; and everything in between is somewhat of a smooth escalation. If you're interested in som…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 02:17 PM
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Every generation claims that the previous generations had it easier within any context. The good old days syndrome.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 11:43 AM
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OP: you misunderstand quantity with quality. Older generations might have had more quantity of sex, and it was more evenly distributed (less incels and solitude); and a lot less hooking up/casual sex in both relative and absolute terms. These days there might be less quantity of sex, but the amount of hookup and casual sex both in relative and absolute terms is higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 11:41 AM
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Hey there, I am not going to argue with you, you know what they say about people who argue over the internet, right? Right? Well, I am not one of them. Good luck with your logical fallacies comments, you seem to enjoy them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 01:48 AM
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LOL, another logical fallacy. Alt account? That Wikipedia entry has stats about marriage, OP was talking about women in their 20's "dating" older men, not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 01:00 AM
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Not a logical fallacy. LOL, oh yes it is (your comment).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 12:37 AM
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LOL, nice logical fallacy! OP's post, and therefore the discussion, is about dating, not about marriage. No stats needed for that, it's a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 12:29 AM
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This Wikipedia entry has stats about marriage, OP was talking about women in their 20's "dating" older men, not the same thing. The vast majority of these women end up marrying partners who are closer to their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/25 12:22 AM
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Men dont deserve sympathy Because their biggest problem in life is that they cant get multiple hot young women to have casual sex with them. Yup! ALL men are exactly like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/25 04:35 PM
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Being able to sit back and do nothing for your partner romantically while receiving everything sounds like some modern TikTok divine feminine guru crap. Did anyone else read Gift of the Magi in school? Just because it's on TikTok doesn't mean that it's not out there. Here, take a look https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/top-posts-today/valentine-s-day-rules
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/25 12:12 PM
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Sex is an activity, at times it's within a broader context of LTR, while at some other times, it's a mean to its own self, with no other meaning or context of development; just for the fun of it. The "problem" arises when, within the context of sex for fun, one of the parties, unilaterally, transmutates it into something "more", when "more" was never on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:49 AM
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Yes both men and women cheat but we can first be honest and admit that men do cheat more. HOW do they cheat "more"? If 1 guy cheats with 1 woman, can we agree that, in this edge case, both men and women cheat equally? Let's examine 2 more edge cases: One guy cheats with 10 women 10 guys cheat with 1 woman In which case do men cheat more than women? #1 or #2?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 08:56 PM
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LOL, not at all. My first marriage I married "the love of my life", she was great, we were great together, it was so much fun, I could not wait to live the rest of my life with her. And then, we got married. She changed 180 degree after the wedding, and by "after the wedding" I mean the very same night of the wedding she was a different person, and it went downhill from there. I divorced her 7 years later, I should have done it after 2-3 years but..... I was young and stupid and in love and in d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 07:27 PM
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Here you go: This is what constitutes a high value man: A man that is respectful, loyal and faithful A giving man that pays for dates and a relatively higher proportion of expenses in the relationship A man that is confident, consistent and reliable A man that listens to what you say and tries his best to do as you ask A man with a good, sustainable job A man that appreciates you and shows you that he loves you A responsible man that keeps his word A man that takes care of his body, his face and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 12:15 AM
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Anything that the person should/could do to help themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:59 AM
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So, you have outlined a "problem" and it's cause(s). I am not agreeing or disagreeing; but I am asking: so, what's the solution in your opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 11:54 PM
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Get what you need from men while you're still young, save, build assets... There are quite a few women who have this strategy. Some others monetize their dating life by sugaring. Welcome to 2025 and beyond!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/25 10:42 PM
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I am very confused by what you're trying to say in your post, very unclear to me. But your post title is very clear, so I will address that: Finances, career and success are overrated for men Funny thing is that these days I am thinking quite a bit about this in general, and IMO "Finances, career and success" are too underrated these days for men, women, and all other genders too (let's be inclusive). Maybe it's because I grew up poor AF in generational poverty. Maybe it's because I worked hard …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 08:13 PM
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Yet you’re doing exactly that right here, pontificating about how you think I should keep my mouth shut instead of asking a guy whether he truly thinks money is the most important thing for attracting the kind of woman he truly desires. LOL, nope I didn't. Re-read what I wrote. Projecting much? You seem to be picking a fight with me right now over me asking a question, so I think you surely do! LOL, nope I didn't. Re-read what I wrote. My first statement was that I agreed with you. Projecting mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 06:46 PM
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Come to work with me, you'll observe the same behavioral manifestations IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 06:45 PM
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That is not the point of this thread. And that is what Billy and Jordon want, therefore more power to them, I don't see any problems when 2 consenting adults do adult things. I don't partake in the widespread practice of pontificating on PPD/Reddit about what other people should/should not do. And I surely do not pick fights over the internet, do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 03:40 PM
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I’m not wrong That's what I said. LOL men using this as an excuse to call me a misandrist when I simply repeat what men say. Welcome to 2025, everyone talks shit, and then they hate it when they are confronted with their own words, decisions, actions, behaviors. And that applies to mostly everyone: men, women, and everyone else; and not just in "dating" but in all walks fo life.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:31 PM
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Bill Belichick and Mark Davis have entered the chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 05:03 AM
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I have always said most men don’t find most women attractive enough for a relationship. You're not wrong. But the causation / correlation is complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 05:01 AM
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Yup. But it's somewhat recent. I grew up poor AF, but my grandparents, and their family, and their neighbors worked honestly and together to make do, regardless of sex. In a way my parents too, a bit different because although poor AF too (generational poverty) they were toxic AF, but they were toxic together toward me, not so much toward one another; it was a united front. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:05 PM
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It's mostly the lack of accountability, responsibility, and willingness to do the work; the nastiness is a byproduct of needing someone else to blame.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:01 PM
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Very much so. PPD, Reddit, and IRL is like that; and not just about "dating".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:57 PM
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2 consenting adults engaging in lawful activities (aka: exercising their agency). I don't see any issues. Alas, if you feel strongly about your statement, start an NPO promoting such a hypothesis.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:35 PM
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I had dinner with some friends last night, and the topic of dating came up. I had mentioned recently seeing a flyer for a speed dating event coming up nearby. It turns out one of the gals had been to a couple of them hosted by the same org. If this is in the US, and they are at least decent-looking, chances are that they both have a FWB or two, just because.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:14 PM
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LOL. Men: there's a shortage of good women out there. Women: there's a shortage of good men out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:11 PM
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It was about muscular men, it was more a celebration of the practice of sports, and showcasing the results; and less about the actual aesthetics. Just count the statues/paintings depicting women vs men; popularity is a good measure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:00 AM
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Maybe because I am a str8 guy, but I am also into Art, Design, and Architecture; but IMO a woman's body, generally speaking, is Aestically more pleasing than a man's body.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 09:35 AM
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oh, how do you objectively measure both how pretty someone is, and how pretty they think they are. Maybe I miss some AI development? In my world those are subjective measure. And then, most everyone I see has unrealistic expectations, and I mean most everyone: men, women, and everyone else too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 09:05 PM
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So, they ask, you respond honestly, and then ghost them? Did I get that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:59 PM
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You don't get it. See #4.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:58 PM
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It's 2025, how about we stop talking about one's past sex life and we just enjoy one another? Nothing ever came out from talking about people past sex life: someone is always hurt by the other's supposedly high count, and the other one is offended. Don't forget the rule of 3: the successful party will divide their N count by 3; the unsuccessful one will multiply their N count by 3. Just have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 05:10 PM
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low value people have few options because they have little of value to offer.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:24 PM
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Men (and women) who are successful in the dating marketplace would be successful anywhere. We all need to look at the person in the mirror when we don't like the outcomes of our decisions, of our actions; and start making different/better decision and take different/better actions. There's just so much that urban planners can do (for a long while I have dated an award-winning urban planner).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:23 PM
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The following have 3 different meanings: Men have no options [OP's statement] I have no options [What you implied] I have no options yet
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/25 03:13 PM
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Let's use logic and reasoning for a change. I know, I know this is Reddit, but still, humor me. For am interpersonal relationship of any type, and I leave this broad, from ONSs, to FWBs, to Sugaring, to - why not - LTR/Marriage, the 2 individuals must be "like-minded". Would you agree with this? And being like-minded does not mean being the same. Nope. Just wanted the same outcome(s), or - better - portfolio of courcomes. Would you agree with this? Let's also agree that there are not absolutes i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:55 PM
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So, you think that men today have only 3 options to find a mate? Cold approach, warm approach and OLD? I would call this a limited view of life, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:30 PM
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Because by the time we find out what they are, we are emotionally invested and want to help them to be the man we think he is. Are you saying that women in general (but not all women, of course) once they are [checking your words] "emotionally invested" will put up with abuse (I am going to leave this vague, from mild to wild) because they want to help him to be the man they think he is? I don't want to talk for all men, but .. I hate to make a distinction between men and women, since I usually …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 09:27 PM
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Not bad. I would add: there's a higher % of autism in this sub/reddit than in society at large. Same for mental illnesses. Realize that, and this sub will make a lot more sense. You do the math! PPD/Reddit is not representative of IRL.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:17 PM
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This, like many other things in life, are subjective individual choices; and IMO it's silly to pontificate what other people should do or not do; especially on PPD. Live and let live.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 08:41 PM
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Of course! Normal Distribution (Bell Curve).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:16 PM
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Of course! Men who are successful of something, don't complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:23 PM
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I believe in Laissez-faire, let the market be the ultimate feedback mechanism. The question is shortsighted, it should not be targeted toward women only, but should be expanded to the whole population. Combining 1 + 2 above, look at the population and you see that the people who are "coupled" represent the subset of the population who have found a partner who they deem "suitable". Now the real question would be to analyze the meaning of "suitable", because it's not a universally accepted meaning…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:22 PM
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... both usuitable..... .... and? "both" implies 2 things, you only mention "unsuitable".
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:19 PM
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and I don't believe complaining or anger will help people struggling. This is the only sentence I agree with. IMO you have the incorrect analysis of cause -> effect. Anyway, despair not, the future looks brighter, if you connect the dots of social normalizing, "sugaring" will soon become a large-ish part of dating, and with sugaring everyone wins!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 02:33 PM
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All men? All women? Use logical fallacies and you lose my respect and interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 12:13 PM
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Ask Jordon Hudson.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 09:26 AM
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There's a discrepancy between what people say and what people do. Henry Ford and Steve Jobs monetized on this, and it's a well-documented fact. Forget what people say they'll do; observe their behavioral manifestations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 05:43 AM
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Archetypes are real, and we (humans) play a set of archetypes (multiple, depending on the context, with 1 or 2 being the dominant ones) and we are attracted /gravitate towards certain archetypes. Nothing new here. You have come up with a finite list of archetypes (wrong), then some cause/effect (wrong), and then to your own cause/effect. Not sure what is that you are trying to accomplish here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/25 04:43 AM
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I personally think of the friendzone is when a guy either mindfucks himself into never confessing to a girl he likes so they just stat in a weird limbo of “friendship” Yup, self imposed friendzone, and the guy is at fault since it's not a true friendship. When a woman mindfucks a guy into thinking he has a chance and leading him on but never committing whether deliberately or unknowingly. uhmmmm not really or extremely rare. When a woman either mindfucks herself into thinking that fucking a guy …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 01:40 PM
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If you want to make sense of this sub you have to realize that there's a high concentration of autism and neurodivergents. Does it all make a lot more sense now?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 07:49 PM
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I'll take a different spin on it: For those people/dynamic for whom/which was easy, it's actually easier now. For those people/dynamic for whom/which was hard, it's harder now. I am talking about "dating" in the broadest sense of the word. Alas, despair not, IMO "sugaring" is the future of dating as we know it today, and with sugaring everyone wins, and SugarDating makes things more accessible to everyone. The Future is not what it used to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 04:34 PM
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It was certainly not inflammatory, It certainly is, denying it won't change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 07:02 AM
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The choice of mate is often emotionally driven. But then LTR/Marriage is full of practical tasks. I am a guy, and I made the same "mistake" with my first wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 06:50 AM
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If you want to be taken seriously in an argument and you open with such an inflammatory statement, you might want to research it thoroughly so that you are taken seriously. Sudan has a population of 50 million people, which is statistically insignificant within the world context, and Sudan is not one of the prime targets of Reddit/PPD, therefore my statement that you are using Logical Fallacies still stands. I seriously hope that you are trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/25 06:46 AM
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Philippines for example is 12 Not according to Wikipedia https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent_by_country ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 11:06 PM
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Premise: I am not a RP, hence why I post here, but: Have absolutely no issue having sex with a 12 years old kid girl, as long as it's legal! Yuck. ☠️ Logical fallacy here; you open with this, and you lose my respect and interest. I suspect you did that on purpose so that you can play the victim AND also feel like a white knight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:56 PM
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Well, it's not women's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:54 PM
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What do you consider emotional cheating? Two people who enjoy drama for drama's sake, getting together for drama for drama's sake. Bonus points if you include how you developed your opinion. Objectively observing reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:53 PM
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New information changes behavior. I see information that has been available for a very long time but ignored. I believe the technical term is willful ignorance. If you really want to go deeper into human's behavior google "change or die". For example, if you actually look at feminist issues and really unpack their reasoning... it justifies the condescending, patronizing kind of misogyny. LOL. Have you seen Female Dating Strategy? This is my all time favorite post there: https://www.thefemaledati…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 08:30 PM
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Aesop's over 2,500 yo fable can explain to you why: The Fox & the Grapes A Fox one day spied a beautiful bunch of ripe grapes hanging from a vine trained along the branches of a tree. The grapes seemed ready to burst with juice, and the Fox's mouth watered as he gazed longingly at them. The bunch hung from a high branch, and the Fox had to jump for it. The first time he jumped he missed it by a long way. So he walked off a short distance and took a running leap at it, only to fall short once mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 12:15 PM
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The only way to make sense of this sub, is to realize that there's a very high concentration of autism and various neurodivergent conditions. Recognize that and the dialogue makes a lot more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:17 AM
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LOL, believe everything you see on Social Media. They are amplifying things for shock value to gather eyeballs. Same for traditional media. Regardless, what if you are correct? What does it change knowing it since you can't alter/control it?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 09:15 AM
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What's stopping society from going back to an era where people prioritized meeting in person and took a more diligent effort to get to really get to know someone through long term relationship oriented values? Technically speaking: nothing. Practically speaking: it's not going to happen. Proof: look around. Why? Who knows; societal changes are the summation of individual behavior manifestation, we get the society that we want, by way of our actions (regardless of what we say we want).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:22 PM
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2 like-minded people who are compatible who agree on the expectation of each other and from the relationship who get together for the right reasons who respect each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:20 PM
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It's probably kinda creepy if you blatantly wear this intention on your sleeve. I agree wholeheartedly. Pre-covid I ran 3 meetups, 2 were business/professional, 1 was purely social (with a theme). 90% of people came only with the intend to find dates. Established groups don't want to be infiltrated by dudes who are just trying to get laid. In my experience running meetups, there were more women looking for dates, than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 09:19 PM
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Under what circumstances is it okay for men to pay? Whenever they decide to do so. A friend of mine — let's call her S — meets this guy at a club, and he pays for all the drinks. The next day, S and her friend Z go out for some drinks, but the bill is too high, like very high. They come up with this brilliant plan to call the same guy, acting all like, “Hey, our treat this time” The guy shows up, and he still pays for everything. And the girls pay for literally nothing. Oh. So what do you all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/25 05:10 AM
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LOL, I learned that a very long time ago, it changed my life (for the better). The vast majority of "single" women out there dating have 1 or 2 regular NSA FWBs.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 09:43 PM
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I really think ambition and goal oriented is an attraction factor for me... So, why are you with her? I am like you, I was always attracted to career women in STEM/Business, and that's who I engaged with even when I was single and sowed my wild oats by way to FWBs/ONSs. And then I married a great woman, with a great career too. Smart AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:45 PM
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This is what happens: 2 consenting adults get together and do what adults do. And then Reddit/PPD gets up in arms debating how there's something wrong, all the while they are not getting any. LOL. When I was young, I dated older women. Why? Because I was attracted to older women. Then, at age 30-something, something switched, and I was attracted to younger women; and then I married a younger woman. Live and let live.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/25 04:41 PM
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well why are tehy gathering to vent out to blame everyone else for their sexual frustration and loneliness Is that a question? I assume so. Mostv everyone today gathers to blame everyone else/society/the systems for ALL of their "problems". And Reddit is a great gathering place too. Because they are told by everyone that following their path would yield result. You're not wrong. After years of not seen results I started to question the source. That's when I fine tuned my critical thinking skills…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:01 PM
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You're missing the point. When Plan B is the only viable alternative, it's practically the only plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 12:47 AM
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Men absolutely know better. They use the red pill as a means of displacing personal accountability, a place to gather and blame everyone else for their sexual frustration and loneliness. People absolutely know better. They use PPD as a means of displacing personal accountability, a place to gather and blame everyone else for their sexual frustration and loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:23 PM
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I have a running theory that, when a man meets a single mother, he doesn’t just see her present situation, his mind builds a backstory. He fills in the blanks. And most times, it’s not flattering. Whether fair or not, a lot of men assume the baby daddy fits a certain profile: irresponsible, emotionally unavailable, probably didn’t commit, maybe even toxic/cocky asshole. But he was the one she gave her best to. Her youth, her body, her freedom. He got the raw, unfiltered version of her before lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 10:18 PM
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but it seems like an obvious win-win. If it were a win for women in general, they would be doing it. Ask yourself, what is a "win" that you have decided NOT to do in life? women hate being approached by men Women don't likem to be approacched by men they don't like; they don't like for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 09:04 PM
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TL:DR- paying for sex alone is typically a waste, especially the more rich& famous you are, because women will typically fuck you off the status alone. You forgot to mention that some women (not all women) will see these men as a meal ticket to life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 07:40 PM
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A) more attractive women who are willing to get paid to have GFE sex with men they aren’t attracted to instead of having sex and relationships with the men they actually want? Extrapolating from trends. Why do you think that those women won't have/do both? B) more men who have the disposable income to afford frequent GFE sex and the level of denial necessary to pretend that she really wants him ?? can you re-write that? I don't understand the point you're trying to make. C) less stigma around pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:18 PM
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Correct. In any type or relationship, even transactional ones, both all parties make their own choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:16 PM
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Most of life is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 05:09 PM
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Most men would prefer a relationship I think OP agrees with you on this one, it's just that when/for whom relationships are not viable options, pay-to-play is a viable "Plan B".
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:59 PM
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I've been saying for quite a while now that "sugaring" is the upcoming future of dating. With "sugaring" everyone wins! And it's coming.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:56 PM
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Within 10 years "sugaring" will me more normalized, pervasive, and effectively replacing most of "dating" as we know it today. And "sugaring" is great, everything is clear and on the table, and with "sugaring" everyone wins! 20 years? Welcome to the era of robot girlfriends, and - to a lesser degree - robot boyfriends. Is there gonna be population decline ? That has been predicted for a while now, and yes population decline is our future. Do beauty standards continue to raise to impossible heigh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 04:52 PM
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Your mistake is that you make pontificate a rule and you want to apply to all single men out there today. Not all men are the same, not all women are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 10:08 PM
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I meant single men I described my situation when I was single. How did you meet the women? OLD but mostly social events.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 09:55 PM
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Cold approaching is the answer to every man's problems when it comes to dating... I am now happily married, but when I was single and successfully sowed my wild oats, I never once cold approached any woman. In this sub it's the same old story, most everyone (but not everyone) pontificates with their own opinions, neatly packaged as if they were fact, and apply to everyone, be they men, women, or whatnot. Contrary to popular belief, we are not all the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 09:28 PM
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LOL, what year is this? 1908?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:43 PM
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I don't know, often I feel like the only one who believes in: a) Laissez-faire. b) Personal accountability/responsibility. Let me give some examples of practical meaning: Someone wants to call themselves Red Piller? Knock yourself out. Want to chase after shallow people? More power to you. Want to combine #1 and #2 above. Go for it! Want to criticize people who do #3? Don't do it. It ha no utility to the world except stroke your own ego, and make smart people roll their eyes and laugh at you. Wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 08:42 PM
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Keep your preferences hidden until you see the person So, let me apply your advice: don't say that you want to get married within the year, if that's what you want. don't say that you are looking for a hookup, if that's what you want Anything else?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 03:57 PM
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LOL if you think that being poor and been financially mediocre is similar, again, you're delusional. Alas, I do agree that, as far as "dating" especially hooking up, being financially mediocre is a lot better than being - like you said - rich. Because if you're rich, the money component blinds most women and then it's all they can see, you become a wallet to them, and nothing else. So, do you wear a Richard Mille?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/25 10:50 AM
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You are confused between "dating" and "having kids" within the context of money. I grew up poor AF in generational poverty, well below the half point of the median income; I called my way out of poverty and I am doing better than OK financially, and guess what? I have no kids, and married (we are DINKS); and - guess what? - all the people that I grew up with that are in semi-poverty they all have kids, the less money they have, the more kids they have. But trust me, I have "dated" a lot more the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 11:32 PM
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I would argue that a guy who is poor but.... Maybe, a lot depends on your definition of "poor". the age bracket we are talking about. a guy who is well off financially but introverted and socially awkward. if he's 30-something and "flexible" he might have a lot of options. And yes, there are exceptions, but they are called "exceptions" for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 10:44 PM
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If you think that money is not important in dating at large or in life, you are delusional. Sure there are exceptions, but that's why they are called "exceptions"; because they are nor the rule. I grew up poor AF in generational poverty, I clawed my way out and I am doing OK with money. I have tried dating when I was poor (LOL) and when I was doing better financially; night and day.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/25 08:07 PM
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LOL. That explains a lot. Maybe in multiple spectrums too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:35 PM
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Gotcha!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:54 AM
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If you understand the meaning of these words "causation", "correlation" and "spurious correlation" (this last one is not that common, hence the link); it's pretty much self-explanatory. If you don't know the meaning, let google be your friend. If you know the meaning of the words and you don't get it, either you're trolling or you lack critical thinking skills; either way I can't help you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:46 AM
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What does this have to do with my post? Everything!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:31 AM
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There's causation, there's correlation, and then there are https://www.tylervigen.com/spurious-correlations. Then again, as time passes by, technology advances; it has been that way since the discovery of fire and the invention of the wheel. As time goes by it's interesting to observe the development of social norms; IMO the biggest issue in today's dating world is "unreasonable expectations". Most everyone who complains in this sub and IRL about the dating world, expects the other party to deli…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 01:18 AM
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Is there a problem with the modern dating scene? yes and no. The world is not perfect nor fair. What I see is a lot of people who point finger at the system/other people and not take accountability/responsibility for their own shortcoming. And it's not restricted to the dating world, but also to the job market, and life is general. Is that a problem? Maybe yes, maybe no. The few individuals who recognize this see an opportunity that, by working a bit hard, they are able to achieve a lot. YMMV.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 12:00 AM
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Because life's not fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 11:21 PM
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How do ugly, fat, short, boring women get casual sex so easily? Who cares! They (some) just do. Who the fuck told you women need to be “Femme Fatale” to get casually laid? IMO be(coming) a Femme Fatale is not a choice. They are born that way. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 05:15 PM
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We (guys) have the same mentality. The Femme Fatale trope is a lot more fun than the safe woman. Sale for the Madonna/Whore complex. Same for cars: it's a lot more fun to drive a Ferrari than a Prius. We're all human.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/25 02:22 AM
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Nietzsche has entered the chat! Well said, it needs to be expanded more alas, well said nonetheless. Unfortunately, most people don't get it and will continue to be shortsighted, selfish, blind to their own accountability and responsibility, and arrogantly blame the world/the system/the other(s) for the outcomes of their own decisions and actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 05:00 PM
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"Your value is what you can get" is a useless tautology that purely serves as a thought-terminating cliche. LOL, oh really? This sounds like something out of FDS or a similar disillusionary narrative. In any marketplace, the value of something is determined by the price/value at which there's a successful exchange.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/25 04:54 PM
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More dating options. Men have more dating options than any of their ancestors would of had. In the past men had to choose from small pool of women in their town or village, now they have endless options with dating apps making it easier than ever. They can select someone perfect for you based on personality and looks at the wipe of their finger tips. Women have more. Access to sexual variety. Its easier than ever for men to satisfy their want for sexual variety. There is no longer strict expecta…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:42 PM
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Part? Maybe. But the BIG issue is that most everyone points their finger to the other party and nobody is willing to sit down and talk about common grounds. Everything and everyone promote further divide and the battle of the sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/25 02:31 PM
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Pretty much everyday here on reddit men will openly admit to wanting to be in a age gap relationships but I hardly ever see young women expressing the same desire. Statistically speaking, pretty sure that the sample population of PPD is not representational of the population out there; quite the opposite is skewed toward certain socio-cultural niches. ... but I don't ever see young women expressing their desires for older men. When I was young I was always attracted to older women, then at some …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 08:54 PM
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There is no good Bluepill Dating Manual. Well, there is and there isn't: a guy just needs to follow Female Dating Strategy's guidelines and they'll be 100% Blue Pilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:07 PM
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True empowerment means freeing yourself from needing to be wanted. If that threatens people, maybe it was never about your growth in the first place. 10/10 highly recommended to men, women, single or otherwise, young or old, good looking or fugly AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 01:21 PM
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It is not about men intentionally playing hard to get like some high school game. Amen. It is about men who naturally have options, confidence, and priorities outside of chasing women which makes them harder to get. Some are "naturally", some actually work hard to creating their own life, and living it on their own terms: career, interests, social circle.. do not underestimate the power of hard work, especially if combined with smart work too. That distinction matters because women are not drawn…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 09:35 PM
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If I prove your point, then I am correct that you mislabeled/misunderstood that saying [quoting you] "men that play 'hard to get' " is incorrect. It's nuanced, but important to understand what's going on out there. My saying that I was “playing hard to get” in high school was a bit tongue in cheek, I was an awkward, shy, anxious, nerdy dude. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 09:24 PM
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Maybe. IMO you're misunderstanding the situation and mislabeling things. Those men aren't playing hard to get, trust me, I played playing hard to get in high school I was the best! I was so good that.... nobody "got" me, LOL. These men are busy with their own life and interests, and - at the same time - they have plenty of options so... they don't bend backward and don't chase women. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 08:39 PM
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Nope, it's part of the patriarchy. Everything in life has pros and cons.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:56 PM
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I'll take 1 step further: most advice today is complete BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 07:56 PM
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Let's stop listening to what people say and start observing their behavioral manifestations: Most women prefer that the man make the first move, and the move must be appropriate to the context; and no means no. Period. Most women prefer that the man foots the fill for the fist date/s; otherwise, it's a turn off/red flag. This has been documented many times in this sub. Some women, but all women; at times, but not always; with some guys, but not all guys; just want to have sex and #1 and #2 above…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 03:10 PM
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It is. But that's the other side: all parties involved in sex activities are responsible for safe sex. A guy has choices: condoms and getting fixed. Have sex responsibly and there won't be any pregnancy. And that's advice for all the parties involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/25 11:40 AM
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These types of questions create a lose-lose situation: They are detrimental to the individual formulating them, unbeknownst to themselves, since they perpetuate certain unhealthy thinking. They are detrimental to the people who decide to engage. They lower the quality of the discourse between men and women. They lower the quality of this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 10:06 PM
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They're results Results and outcomes are the same / synonyms. You state "Reasons" in your post titles, and then list results / outcomes kind of not very logical. Women are already doing the same Good. Let's all rise to higher levels, not descend to the lowest. I actually meant man-to-man friendships You might want to be more specific. It's about lowering harassment I don't understand the logic here.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:48 PM
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Those are good points, but: I don't see them as "reasons" more like outcomes. Women can and should do the same, nobody should be defined by their relationship, or anyone else, or lack thereof. I am not so sure about "- Men can foster deeper platonic relationships", it is my own personal experience that men and women cannot have a platonic relationship. I'd eliminate "- Women will be pursued less, as they claim they want" especially due to#2 in my list.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:15 PM
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Posting here because I am not a RedPiller, but I thought that TRP ideal situation was to have multiple non-committed sex-only situationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/25 11:25 PM
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Expressing any urge to have sex is viewed by women as a pest. The average woman is eons more misandrist than the average man is misogynistic. You need to listen to more hip-hop music.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 07:42 PM
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OP: are you asking women how can the man do less work? Why would they help you? Alas, the answer is: become more attractive. Look at Rock stars, they have groopies who travel far and spend money just for the change to hang out with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:35 AM
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It's also my experience, there's a lot of FWBs, affairs, and situationships (all casual sex) that happen between people who know each other. Even ONSs often happen between friends. On a side note, I never understood ONSs, if someone is good enough for 1 time, unless that are awful in bed, why not go back for more?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 11:30 PM
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Ok, I'll play. So this hypothetical person who pays too much video games and hasa lack of confidence because they are dateless. Is this state the highest potential they can achieve? IMO you are misunderstanding the cause->effect too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/25 03:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 08:21 PM
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Bdsm is real and grey area in nature… The first 3 rules of (human) DBSM are: Explicit, continuous consent (prior to the events) Explicit, continuous consent (prior to the events) Explicit, continuous consent (prior to the events)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 07:49 PM
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IMO OP should have worded the post differently: Q4W: what do you think would be the proper punishment for false accusation of sexual harassment or false accusation of rape?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 03:04 PM
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lol tell that to every woman that enjoyed “50 shades of grey”… few copies got sold I heard… every mother at my sons school got a copy including the lady teachers lol There's a difference between what people enjoy reading and real life. If you are really interested in understand this concept, read/study about C G Jung's Shadow. I am not going to comment on the rest of your comment. I seriously hope that you're trolling and you don't believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:25 PM
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Ignoring resistance, not only turns a woman on, it drives her wild for you, you have amazing sex, and she leaves after coffee the next day with a text: “last night was amazing”. You need to go back and understand the meaning of the word "consent". Women who do that are not well psychologically and you should not touch them not even with a 10-foot pole IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 02:07 PM
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The solution isn't to traumatize oneself by sleeping around with strangers just like them, and then be transformed by hate into being like them, to be at the same demonic stage. That seems a bit harsh. In a way you sound like Ben Shapiro. I can see that in people who do a lot of ONSs with strangers; but there was a time when I had given up on traditional dating and instead opted for FWBs/ONSs (with people who were not strangers)/casual dating/situationships and it was a lot of fun, I can say tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:19 PM
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Adapt. Improvise. Overcome. Life's grand, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 01:15 PM
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Men's problem with comittment For most men (not all) the entire dating activities at large have become a "why bother" situation. So, why bother with traditional dating? It's time consuming (back and forth with the apps), expensive (over and over most women in this sub have gone on record that they expect the man to pay for the first date/s, otherwise it's a red flag), and have you seen the price of restaurants and events? FWBs/ONSs/Casual Dating is, for the men who have access to these situation…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 12:04 PM
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Meh. Ghosting is now ingrained in the culture, not only within the context of dating but also at work and other interpersonal interactions. This is the funny thing that I have observed: everyone does, nobody like to be on the receiving side. Use the Force!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/25 05:07 AM
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In a way: Female Dating Strategy This sub too They don't really try to "decode"; but they do talk about relationships and strategies. You need to understand that: broadly speaking most women (but not all women) are relationship oriented, they like people, not so much things. Conversely most men (but not all men) are process oriented, they like things more than dealing with people. That's why women tend to gravitate toward professions that are people centric, e.g.: teaching, nursing etc.... while…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 08:41 PM
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Literally stfu with "suck it up and work on yourself", would you tell that to a woman struggling. U ok there? I tell myself every day to continue improving. Period, unrelated to any events. Please re-read my post. I never said, nor implied, that a guy should suck it an work on themselves just because of women. IMO everyone and everyone (yes to be clear also women) should constantly work on themselves improve, personally and professionally. This sub tries to act like it's absolved from playing in…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 11:15 AM
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Premise: I am a guy. For the sake of argument, let's say that you are correct: woman live life on easy mode. So what? What are you going to do? Give up? Give up in life and nor improve any aspects of your situation? I was born in generational poverty, poor AF. And I could see people who were luckier then me financially. My family was toxic, and I could see my peers with loving parents. I could have given up, my shrink was surprised that I didn't end up doing drugs. Well, I didn't give up, I work…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/25 02:01 AM
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... and it's the same for men the way we look at women: take Alexis Ren and Lizzo. No man would say: meh, I could go either way. I am a guy, let's be realistic, objective, and non-hypocritical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:54 PM
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Same in my country, and the fish disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:49 PM
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Experiences of myself and others aren't projecting CG Jung and Freud would disagree. What you write only works when you have nonselfish people around you. You must pick terrible people to surround yourself with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:12 PM
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LOL: Projecting much? It takes one to know one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:04 PM
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LOL: I served you the comment you served me https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/1jdomb2/cmv_women_dont_care_about_money_when_looking_for/mikrzkl/ Sounds like you enjoy dishing it out, but don't like to be on the receiving side. According to you it's always a man's fault, no matter what. Got it!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:54 PM
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Thank you for your teachings. These are the teachings that I like: Two wrongs don't make 1 right. Be the change that you want to see in the world. We can choose to raise to the level of the best humans, or to descend to the lowest; the choice is ours, and we reap the benefits of our choices. Choose wisely. Lead by example.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 02:52 PM
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You must pick terrible men to date!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:44 PM
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You must pick terrible women to date! LOL, this is a very interesting comment. I will make sure to use it next time a woman in this sub complains about men:
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:43 PM
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Even before she's gotten to know you properly? Then what makes you think you're special if she gives you so much interest early on? Critical thinking skills + my own personality. She probably does that to all the other guys she's seeing too. Smells like insecurity meets projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:59 AM
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Well, maybe. Depends on the context: What a woman wants in a husband: 1 (absolutely), 2 (negotiable, especially depending on #3 below) 3 yup 4 (negotiable, especially depending on #3 above) 5 meh. (depending on the severity and negotiable depending on #3 above) 6 absolutely. What a woman wants in a ONS / FWB / Fuck Buddy / Casual dating: 1 negotiable, depending on #7 below 2 yes 3 doesn't matter 4 yes 5 negotiable, depending on #7 below 6 absolutely. 7 the "cool" factor. This is hard to describe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:49 AM
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As a man, I get turned off if a woman displays too much interest early on. I am a guy, and "enthusiasm" is the biggest turn-on for me. At any stage.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:42 AM
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I genuinely haven't had a single woman ask me about my finances. Once you tell them that you're a doctor... they know.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 11:20 AM
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My experience has been quite the opposite: I found myself divorced in my early 30's and trying to date age-appropriate women was like going to a job interview, or applying for a mortgage at a bank: on the first date they were probing about my finances one woman asked me, on the first date, how much my salary was, how much I had in savings and in debt. one women told me "I have enough friends, I am looking for a husband" I know a handful of wealthy women, all single, and all complaining that they…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 10:49 PM
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A while back I was reading a personal finance article of the biggest financial mistakes people do / best financial choices that people make. And #1 on the list were: marrying the wrong person / marrying the right person. I could not agree more. When I was single (I am now happily married) I was looking for someone who brought to the table somewhat I brought to the table, meaning: Characteristic Her Me Education 4-year STEM/business degree 2 BSs (business/finance) + 1 MBA Career Career woman Esta…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 10:43 PM
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Stupid people say stupid things. Ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 10:02 PM
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I'll take the 5th.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:30 PM
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A fair amount of women have an item on their bucket list: fuck the older dude. So, if you're older and look good-to-great, you're the perfect candidate.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:22 PM
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Bitter angry people say the stupidest things. Ignore them. Age of consent legislation is the only litmus test.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 05:20 PM
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Bitter angry people say the stupidest things. Ignore them. Age of consent legislation is the only litmus test.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 12:21 PM
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What is it like to date a non-forever person? I had to google what a "non-forever person" meant, just to be sure. I have had 1 experience and 1 experience only. Back in the days I got together with an incredible woman, we liked each other very much, but the timing was wrong. We knew that from the get-go, so we made our mission to have the most fun possible, and boy we did have a boatload of fun. It was supposed to last ~6 months, we were together for ~18 months, and then we parted ways. I rememb…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:36 PM
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'#1 Is something I experienced and calling it a mental illness is just plain fucking stupid because it would be like calling a tooth ache an opinion. "My tooth is infected!" "Bro, that's just, like, your opinion man." 🤨 U ok there? let's ease up with the S-word, see rule #2. '#2 Your idea of love here is just a contract. By that definition the faceless company I work for fucking adores me and I'm officially married to it! lol Interesting opinion. I still remain of the opinion that a relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 10:30 PM
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'#1 is definitely some kind of abormal line of thinking at the very least... Alas is very pervasive IRL and on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:23 PM
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Fair enough. Honestly though, your story kind of proves my point. You levelled up, played the game differently, and it led to better outcomes. That’s what I’m talking about. It’s not about theory versus reality but about men making different moves and watching how the environment responds. It works in all aspects of life. You did it on an individual level. I’m just saying if more men did the same, especially those with leverage, we’d see broader changes too. but it doesn't happen. To expand on t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:22 PM
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I hear you. I am not saying that your theory is wrong, quite the opposite. Theory vs reality. No need to believe me, go out there and see what's happening. So yeah, it’s a meta-game. And in any game, you can’t control everyone’s move but you can control how you play and which strategies create better outcomes. Indeed. I went from a shy awkward nerdy dweeb to be able to sow my wild oats by way of ONSs/FWBs/Casual Dating/Situationships, and now I am married to an incredible, smart, young woman wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 08:58 PM
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TIL: Philophobia. Philophobia is the term for an irrational or disproportionate fear of falling in love, often stemming from past experiences or anxieties, and can lead to avoidance of romantic situations and emotional intimacy Oh. It all depends on one's mindset. Some people believe that unrequited love is possible and exists. Some other people don't believe in #1 and believe that love is a 2-way street, therefore they are not capable of falling in love for someone who - at best - is not in lov…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 08:41 PM
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Sure, it sounds great on paper. Just like old school Economics, that came about in the late 1800's. Then, thanks to John von Neumann, in the 1920's we discovered Game Thery, my favorite (check my username), which changed our understanding of things. And then, in the 1970's, thanks to Daniel Kahneman we discovered behavioral economics. OP can make his logical argument loud and clear how all men should raise their standards and..... [you know the drill], but.... not all men will do that, not all m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 08:36 PM
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Being able to have sex at any time is still a privilege. LOL, very much so, I can't think of anyone who would claim differently with a straight face. a crowd of people immediately appears declaring: "Men just want sex and are driven by lust! And women want to be loved and be in more than just sexual relationships!" That is true, but it's not the entire story. This is the rest of the story: some women, but not all women; at times, but not always; just want to have fun sex. As simple as that. More…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 08:31 PM
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We should talk about the objective reality of the world. I am, that was one of the points of my comment. This whole men and women lives are equally difficult is bullshit. I am in the US, the first world, most of us have 1st world problems. Men and women have different problems and privileges that can be described qualitatively but are very hard to measure quantitatively. Women claim that they have it worse than men. Men claim that they have it worse than women; and the unproductive circlejerk co…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:15 AM
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IMO these type of discourse is divisive, and worsen the status quo, and it does not improve it. Men and women have their own pros and cons, if we try to measure quantitatively and qualitatively who has it worse, it becomes a big circlejerk. I am a big fan of both game theory (check my username) and behavioral economics. And yes, the dating marketplace is indeed a marketplace. And just like most marketplace, it's not perfect, and has its own rules. It's silly to complain about what we don't have …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 10:25 PM
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Dating/Restaurants are getting very expensive, sugaring will be a deal for quite a few guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:41 PM
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I see your point(s), I never claimed you were incorrect or wrong. Did I? But let's look at the present state of things: quite a few women have gone on record on this and other subs, that they would not go on a second date if a guy doesn't pay for the tab on the first date, or they would not date him at all; even if all the other flags were "GO". So, look at it from the guy's point of view: the only impediment for him to have sex with that woman is money in the form of paying for the date(s). Fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:29 PM
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[George Orwell has entered the chat.] Walk me through how that's not just prostitution with extra steps uhmmmm what makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 08:18 PM
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IMO "sugaring" is the future of dating. With "sugaring" everybody wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 11:17 AM
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Do women generally struggle with dating today? It all depends on who you ask, and how they interpret what happens. "Generally" most women: have a lot of matches on dating apps, aka: suitors; mind you, I am not talking about quality, but mere quality here; while most men don't have as much quantity. have a handful of suitors IRL; mind you, I am not talking about quality, but mere quality here; while most men don't have as much quantity. most women if they wanted, could get sex quick and easily; m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:17 AM
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From what I've seen, neurodivergence is MASSIVELY overrepresented in all these spheres. Yup! Same for the femosphere, PPD, FDS, and Reddit at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:38 PM
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Well, got any factual sources? Because otherwise what can be asserted without evidence can also be dismissed without evidence. I seriously hope you're trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:35 AM
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"All women......" while "all men .......". Yup, sounds live a very constructive factual argument. Sorry, this is really a bunch of catch-all generic faulty opinions packaged to feel like facts. We need better in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:31 AM
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Most of the people outside TRP hate the people inside TRP. Most of the people inside TRP hate the people outside TRP. A few individuals monetize on TRP, and/or feel important pontificating within TRP. Same for FDS. My prediction is that in the near future someone will distill TRP, taking the wholesome core concepts (there are a few), remove the garbage and hate, re-brand it so there's no mention of TRP, and start something really useful for the male community. It won't be big, but it will be use…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:39 PM
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At the individual level, you play the game as it is. Level up, I am all for leveling up. lower your aim, or take what you can get. LOL, very unpopular idea, even among individuals with unrealistic expectations. Please STFU whichever choice you make. U ok there? But there can be legitimate criticisms of the mating market at the societal level, including what the culture and society are doing (or not doing) to help shape outcomes. We are society. Be the change you want to see in the world. Be a Ni…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:29 PM
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Market value is not the only legitimate way to evaluate something's worth. Maybe. But if you want an "exchange" to happen, it happens at the market price. Let's say you bought TSLA shares at $436 on DEC 9, 2024, https://finance.yahoo.com/quote/TSLA/ you thing they are worth $1,000/share. But today you're only going to get ~$242/share (and falling). Beyond that, there has never been--and still isn't--a completely free mating market. "Completely"> Nope, I agree with you on this one. I don't even k…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 02:03 PM
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Whether we like it or not, the "market" works perfectly. The market as a whole, behave according to the summation of the actions of its participants, even if the participants don't transact. Let me give you an example: I want a Lamborghini, but I don't have the resource to be able to transact in the marketplace and walk away with a Lamborghini. I don't like it, but it doesn't mean that the market is flawed. Quite the opposite Lambos sell pretty well. The market is efficient (https://en.wikipedia…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 11:27 AM
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Money and resources do not lead to sexual arousal .... Ask men if they have ever witnessed a woman "get wet" when encountering a very wealthy man. Some women get very aroused by money/resources. I used to live in one of those premiere zip codes in suburbia US. 99% of women, married or not, had the Zillow app on their phone. Whenever they met someone the second question would be to ask them were they lived, then somewhat discretely they would check the value/price of the house of the person they …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 11:37 PM
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Yeah no one believes that sex gets better for women as men start slacking. Source: every relationship sub on Reddit, every advice column everywhere, and tv tropes which are now so elderly they can collect social security. LOL. True. Sex has always been and will always be better when men are trying to impress. LOL. Mostly true. Some men impress some women, with money and resources, and then they are selfish in sex. And they (the women) love it. Source [censored].
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 10:04 PM
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Yikes! Sounds like "projection". My wife doesn't feel that way. Source: my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 09:39 PM
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No it isn’t, and that’s a wildly dishonest misrepresentation of toxic masculinity https://trends.google.com/trends/explore?date=all&q=Toxic%20masculinity,masculinity&hl=en I don’t think I anyone is inclined to discuss it with people who argue in bad faith. Couldn't agree more. Have a great rest of your weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 09:34 PM
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Oh I see. Your description is your opinion of the manifestation of "femininity". The definition of the word "femininity" according to Wikipedia is: Femininity (also called womanliness) is a set of attributes, behaviors, and roles generally associated with women and girls. Femininity can be understood as socially constructed,[1][2] and there is also some evidence that some behaviors considered feminine are influenced by both cultural factors and biological factors.[1][3][4][5] To what extent femi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 09:21 PM
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Not really. Shy and socially awkward men get nothing. Zip, zippo, diddly, diddly-squat, bubkes, bupkis, goose egg, nil, null, void, naught, aught, nix, nonexistence, emptiness, absence, vacuity, nihility, negation, scratch, jack, squat, sweet F.A., cipher, blank, oblivion, nonentity, nobody, air, vacancy, hole, loss, extinction, dearth, lack, deficiency, vanishing point, insignificance, trifle, triviality, whiff, vapor, wisp, shadow, phantom, nothingness, non-being, non-presence, zero-sum, non-e…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 08:47 PM
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Only for women who allow men to identify femininity. Most women don’t care what most men think of them and most women don’t ask or seek male approval of their behavior or attitudes. Oh. What is your definition of "femininity"? As in: what is "femininity" (not its expressions)?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 07:34 PM
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I believe it was C G Jung that said that one's personality is fully formed and done between the age of 5 and 12. That's it. I see it everywhere, at work and IRL, people just don't change, even the ones who claim they want to change. You can google "change or die" for very interesting articles about people who get early health warning and they refuse to change can't change their habits, and therefore they die. Being human is an interesting experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 04:50 PM
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So you believe this does not happen in reality ? Let's analyze the facts (not opinions) The behaviors that you highlighted do happen. Among men and women too. The word "masculinity" exists. Some people associate #1 with #2. You do too. I disagree with #4 above. You refute my opinion. This last comment of yours is a Logical Fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:32 PM
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You do not know what justification is ? You do not know what justification is ? Hey, you posted on Reddit soliciting comments. You get comments, what you do with them it's up to you. That is the true value of Reddit. You picked a very controversial topic, and what you wrote, at the very least, is ambiguous. I am trying to understand society and stating my observations. No you're not. I am part of "society" and you are refusing my observations. You have an opinion, and want to prove it right pack…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:26 PM
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Where am I justifying criminal behaviour ? People do not realise how much crimes some men committed due to feeling emasculated. I honestly have sympathy for such men because they did not choose to be born in such system. They did not ask for the brainwashing. So many domestic violence against women occurred against women due to men feeling emasculated. But I feel sympathy not only for those women but also for the men committing it. Now as a consequence all men are blamed for the crimes of few me…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:13 PM
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Your post deals with opinions and not facts, and yet you stuffed your post with lots of your personal opinions, neatly packaged to feel like facts, when they are not facts at all. Sorry. And therefore your post is a meta-logical fallacy. And with your: People do not realise how much crimes some men committed due to feeling emasculated. I honestly have sympathy for such men because they did not choose to be born in such system. They did not ask for the brainwashing. So many domestic violence agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:00 PM
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Im anonymous Even better, you can share with us your net worth and income, they are part of the "topic" and we can give you better comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 12:39 AM
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You say that your "target" is 100 kids sauce: https://i.imgur.com/KiGUcle.png What is your financial situation? What is your net worth? What is your yearly income?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:45 PM
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... but wait! It gets "better" https://i.imgur.com/KiGUcle.png
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:43 PM
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LOL, I seriously hope that you are trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:41 PM
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The problem is... money. Sorry to be so materialistic, but - for most people - the #1 financial decision in life is the choice of partner. In the US, the financial situation of the average single mom is pretty grim. And the financial situation of the responsible male who sends alimony and/or child support is also pretty grim. And the statistics of life's outcomes of most kids raised in broken homes is not something to brag about. I am an atheist and I'd say pretty progressive, I am not a zealot …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:40 PM
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Q4W: Do you wish you were approached IRL more? LOL, I am a guy. Q4M: How often do you shoot IRL shots? LOL, I am married, but I must say that I cringe, when I hear "shooting shots". Q4A: Do you think social media, dating apps, the fact that we're all in AirPods 24/7, radical feminism, MeToo hysteria and an overlooked porn addiction epidemic have ruined meeting IRL like before? Meh. Technology is progress, and it affects culture, but humans are the ones who actually shape cultures, not things. Be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:18 PM
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Well, I hear you on the broad categories, but what I am asking is some concrete examples of these behavioral manifestations. Describe a few hypothetical situations, not how you label them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:14 PM
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Can you please give us some examples of these behavioral manifestations?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:52 PM
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I hear you and I see your point. I al old(er) and got lucky to have married an incredible woman. In a nutshell we work hard and work together to take care of the logistics of life (work, house chores, food prep etc...), we try to be efficient and organized so that it takes the least amount of time in our life; and then when it's FUN time, we have a boatload of fun together, including - but not limited to - sex. IMO that's the ideal balance; but it's hard to find couples like us. We know.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 04:02 PM
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You're not 100% wrong, but your post is narrow-minded. There are shitty people the world over, of all gender, and from all walks of life. And they harass and discriminate and bully ads many people as they can, as long as they can get away with it. And some even elect themselves as protectors of a certain category of people, and take it upon themselves to speak on behalf of that category (akin to identity politics that is pervasive today). IMO TRP as we know it doesn't have the interest of men, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 03:35 AM
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LOL, I agree wholeheartedly. But it's not just whitin the context of dating, but in life in general. For instance: Personal Finances. People often become their own worst enemy, and then life becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Unformutaly I used to do that when I was young, lucky me I stopped that shit long time ago. I work in operations, practically I am trying to keep everything and everyone organized. I am a strong believer in Occam's razor; but most everyone else loves to overcomplicate thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 01:52 AM
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So, you get my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 11:33 PM
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Let's talk about cars: A Toyota Corolla is a car. A Ferrari 360 is a car. They are not the same. One is "utilitarian" and practical. The other one is FUN. Guys do the same with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 09:06 PM
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Where in the world is "here"?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 05:42 PM
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LOL Ad hominem https://i.imgur.com/dJbs6yC.png
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 02:30 AM
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Succumbing is succumbing, even if both party consent. Re-read my comment, I did say: men and women are 100% free to go for it succumb or ignore, or LOL (did I mention freedom of speech?). I can explain it to you, but you'll need to understand it on your own, if you're capable. If you're not... it's outside of my contro.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 02:26 AM
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re-read my comment, I talked about "Women and men". Projecting much?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 02:08 AM
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... and that's why I believe that "sugaring" is the future of dating. With "sugaring" everyone wins!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:33 AM
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What’s wrong with this??? LOL, in full honesty I can state that there's absolutely nothing wrong with this. I believe in agency, locus of control, accountability, responsibility and - the cherry on the pie - free will. Women and men are 100% free to have any expectations they wish. And then, on the other side, men and women are 100% free to go for it succumb or ignore, or LOL (did I mention freedom of speech?).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 12:31 AM
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This is also FDS https://i.imgur.com/iRWXm45.png
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:11 PM
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https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 02:30 PM
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I reccomend [sic] you take a hard look at how a society functions. I recommend you take a hard look at how individuals in today's society function.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 09:58 AM
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Everyone avoids accountability for their decisions and actions; and don't take responsibility for the outcomes of those decisions and actions. At the same time they blame society or the system or men/women. Bonus: they pontificate about what everyone else should do. Nothing new. Really. Take a long and hard look at the person in the mirror, and deal with them. Game changer, I promise you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 02:40 AM
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Obviously not ALL men rely on deception Instead of putting this as a footnote, its meaning should be incorporated from the get-go: Some men use deception..... Well, I have enough experience on the subject matter. While I am happily married now, when I was single I sowed my wild oats so to speak, and mostly with FWBs/Casual dating. I am living proof that a man needs not to lie or deceive to maintain a FWB/Casual situationship: it is what it is. Two consenting adults who get together to have some …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:57 AM
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I've seen a lot of these redpillers / dating coaches giving advice on how to raise a woman's interest when she's mid or low-interest. These individuals are in the business of bing "consultants", so they will tell you what you want to hear, and charge you for it. They won't tell you what you need to hear, because otherwise they will get fired. All the pill agree, or should agree, that attraction can't be negotiated, it's there (from the get go), or it's not (let's put aside the money factor, that…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 01:48 AM
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It's a matter of semantic. Using the word "Transactional" doesn't sound right, and doesn't feel right. The people who disagree with OP, actually disagree with the word, because the vast majority would advocate for anyone to leave a relationship where 1 party was not going anything/much in return for "loving and caring" gestures and behaviors. On the other end of the spectrum we have sugaring which is pretty pervasive today and - in my opinion - will be the future of "dating" as we know today. Wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/25 05:44 PM
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I don't believe this guy was "the love of your life"; he sounds like "the nightmare of your life". Lucky you, it's now in your past. Good luck with your future.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 11:59 PM
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LOL. My first wife made me miserable. And I was son glad when I finally filed for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:27 PM
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"Friend": I have a friend who's also single. Anyone: is s/he cute? "Friend"": s/he has a great personality! Anyone: pass! As long as they keep publicising books with covers, we are going to judge books by their covers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 04:36 PM
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Misrepresenting my comment, projection on your part. Good convo, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 04:32 PM
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It's hard to have chemistry with someone who's fugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 01:56 PM
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Correct. That's what most women say, conversely a guy would say: Yeah, I don't understand this at all. I'd rather be hookup material than husband material. I don't want to be the one who wines and dines and fathers her children. I don't think I will ever understand how "hookup material" is an insult. Every time I heard a man call someone "hookup material" it has been because he really, really like to hookup with her. Once you understand both side of the equation, you'll understand the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:33 PM
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You're only looking at half of the equation. Is she wife's material? A guy doesn't mind to be called husband's material by a woman who he thinks she's wife's material. The problem arises when a guy is called husband's material by a woman who he does not thinks she's wife's material.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:29 PM
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LOL, here
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:13 AM
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LOL, here
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 12:12 AM
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In three months, this person approaches you, gives a small goodbye gift, and says that due to a developing crush on you that by all hints seems to be non-reciprocal, they decided to leave the class and do something else with their life, and it's better that you two don't meet or talk again. That's pretty passive-aggressive. What is the outcome that this person is seeking? One last chance? Virtue signaling? Playing the victim? All of the above? is this "the right" thing to do? Nope. Far from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 06:08 PM
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"Ulterior motives" has become such a loaded term that makes people judge their perfectly healthy feelings in such a crippling way. No wonder everyone is so lonely and self-loathing if this is our culture's terminology! That's a meta-logical fallacy. For starters "Ulterior motives" is not a loaded term, it is what it is: people masquerading their true intentions. Telemarketers come to mind. ... that makes people judge their perfectly healthy feelings in such a crippling way. WUT? you want to do o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 03:18 AM
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You talk about "Conversing", OP talks about "approaching". Not one and the same. I agree with OP, and - like you - I often strike a conversation with people in various settings. All sorts of people, male or female, young and old, good-looking or fugly AF. And I have no ulterior motives, I al also happily married to a great woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:56 AM
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I agree: it's not the app, it's the people; specifically people's unreasonable expectations. People swipe right on people who swipe left on them; and swipe left on people who swipe right on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 10:29 PM
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Sunk cost fallacy is real, as is hope. Still 100% conscious decision. I’d call it a learning experience; simply a part of growing up. I do too. But, people call it "toxic" to make themselves feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:33 PM
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Eh, not quite. More of a frog-in-boiling-water thing. Still 100% conscious decision. Both men and women regard failed relationships.. Not all. I don't. .... but there is almost always a gradual slide into neglect or abuse which is easy to see in the post-game analysis. In most cases, it's just disgruntled, emotional, post-mortem flawed analysis to make oneself feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:27 PM
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It's actually your opinion packaged as [checking notes] "sincere advice". You should be in politics or religions. Best advice for struggling men everyone is to recognize we all have agency, and to use it. Best if coupled with critical thinking skills. Choose wisely.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:11 PM
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Somewhat correct. Most of the time those traits are mislabeled as toxic, while instead they are sign of confidence and options. Guys who are unsuccessful in dating label those traits as toxic. Disgruntled women after the end of the relationship situationship label those traits as toxic; a behavioral manifestation similar to buyer's remorse. A guy who only offers sex, at his only terms and convenience, offering nothing/not much is not toxic, it's just exercising his options. And the other party w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:10 PM
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Commenting here because I am a guy. It's called Pigeonholing (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pigeonholing). When we encounter something new in life, we put it into one, and only one, of our known buckets. And this happens within a few seconds from exposure. Marketers know this very well. So when we meet a new person, we classify them too. Hank Moody said it best. When a woman meets a man for the first time, she puts him into one of 3 buckets: Fuck him Marry him Ignore him Yes it does happen that …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:05 PM
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Maybe. IMO pontificating on Reddit/Social media what a certain category of people should do is akin to a futile circlejerk. Life's a concatenation of individual choices: the decisions we make the actions we take our reactions/responses to life's event outside our control Want to have sex? Go for it! And if you don't, just don't. Want to procreate? Go for it! And if you don't, just don't. Want to date? Go for it! And if you don't, just don't. Want to get married? Go for it! And if you don't, just…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 03:57 PM
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LOL, not at all. Nice guys (and nice girls) have covert transactional contracts: I do this for you (even if you don't ask) expecting something specific in return, and when they don't get it, they get angry. Anger is ugly AF. Bad boys are clear in their requests, e.g.: "Nah, I am not interested in dinner, come over and we'll Netflix and chill"; or similar. Everything is clearly in the open, it is what it is. No hidden agenda.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:31 PM
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Weak and insecure people look to affiliate themselves with other people who are weaker and more insecure, it's the only way they feel important.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:26 PM
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Combination of lack of critical thinking skills and hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:24 PM
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The one that always resonates with me is when a husband can't find ketchup in the fridge, insists that it's not there. Google this: scotoma. It happens to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 07:45 PM
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*Weaponized Am I the only that, when I see a post in this sub claiming something negative about a subset of the population, I see the same issue evenly spread and pervasive practically across the entire human population? There's a lot of weaponized incompetence, across various facets of life, but I don't see it restricted to any category of people, but very democratically distributed. Most adults can't do adulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 04:49 PM
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Power makes men sexually attractive: Yes. Correct. Better to be an asshole than nice You're misunderstanding that "power" and "being an asshole" are one and the same. Every poodle is a dog, but not every dog is a poodle. Some people in power are assholes, but not all assholes are in power. Confidence is the answer. Confident people go up the "food chain scale"; while people who lack confidence have trouble doing so, and see all confident people as assholes. And unfortunately, today's society pus…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:27 AM
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I'd say all pills of all colors. LOL. I find FDS funny AF, I believe it started as a joke and then.. people started to believe in that shit, so someone is monetizing on it. Plot twist: it's probably some dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 12:39 AM
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That has always existed, it's louder now due to Social Media and the increase heat on the battle of the sexes. --- EXCERPT FROM THAT POST --- If you really want to see something... how shall I put this, "interesting" you should check out Female Dating Strategy, their V-day post is historical https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/ask-the-admin/valentine-s-day-rules Valentine's Day rules Disclaimer: I know not all cultures/countries celebrate Valentine's Day, so this post is for any woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 09:47 PM
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You shouldn’t date women who are playing weird mind games like that. LOL. I didn't and I don't (I am also happily married now). I am just commenting on the post. This is out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 04:18 PM
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My experience is the opposite (I am a guy). Ask the guys who are out there dating (I said "dating" not "try to date") and these sentences are pretty common: I like you very much, and I want this to go somewhere, so this time I am not going to sleep with you right away. oh with him/them it was nothing serious, it was just sex, with you it's different, I really care about you, so let's wait to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:41 PM
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Responding here because I am a guy. Back in the days when I was a rookie FWBs each and every time I started a FWB situationship where we were both happy to have sex NSA, inevitably, after a while they all wanted to transform the FWB situationship into a LTR relationship, and when I wanted nothing to do with the proposal they were all surprised and upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:38 PM
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Fair enough: so, looking at your dating history (not including your present marriage / LTR) what men/type of men have you been attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:18 PM
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Premise: I am guy, and I am going to make 2 comments: Comment #1 IMO what a guy can provide a guy's financial position is an integral part of who/what a guy is. Period. A while ago I was reading a personal finance article, and the article stated that the #1 most I'm important financial decision in life is the spouse that we choose. But wait, there's more! What is good for the goose is good for the gander! A woman's financial situation is just as important for the guy to make a decision about the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 03:15 PM
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The common retort of “let women be delusional do whatever they want to do it only hurts them” is disingenuous and ignores the very real implications of hypergamy and inflated standards. So, what's your alternative? You decide what women think? And their choices?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/25 02:48 AM
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So being an attractive woman = good moral character, less shallow, etc Being an unattractive woman = more shallow and doesn't care about personality LOL, it's the good old: Friend: I want to introduce you to Jennifer, she's single. Someone: Is she good looking? Friend: She has a great personality. Someone: Pass, thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:06 AM
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Watch this movie: Blue Valentine. Very romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:02 AM
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You clearly know nothing about being in a relationship with a man. That's narrowminded, I am a man, you and you and this sub is force-feeding me about what I like. LOL I know what I (and guys in general) like.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:12 PM
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Real men ( as in those confident in their masculinity) do like receiving flowers and massages. Nope. They are just being polite (their fault). My latest thoughtful gift for my husband was taking him to a wine and cheese tasting, he loved it He was being polite. Again their fault. Don't take my word for it, observe what guys do when they are in a group of guys. Do they give each other flowers? Going to a spa together for massages? White tablecloth dinners? Ballet? LOL, no. Beers, sports, talking …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 12:09 PM
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No. No. No. (Real) men don't like receiving flowers or massages (unless there's a happy ending). It's not a matter of toxic masculinity, it's a matter of respect and emasculation. Sorry, nice try at backpedaling. A gift is about the receiver, not the giver. Think about a man giving an anti-virus subscription as a gift for V-Day to his gf/wife? It's a very useful and thoughtful gift, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:50 AM
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You wrote: I think you need to stoke the fire and add some fuel from time to time to keep the flame going. You don't need the intensity that was during courting period, but small gestures (like randomly picking wildflowers and making a small buquet or giving a masage after a tiring day) can be enough for the upkeep. No. No. No. (Real) men don't like receiving flowers. It's not a matter of toxic masculinity, it's a matter of respect and emasculation. Sorry, nice try at backpedaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:40 AM
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But you "forgot" in your comment. My point is that when people talk about "never stop dating" the onus is on the man to treat the woman, and not reciprocal. That is the collective mindset, and your comment confirms it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 04:30 AM
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What you have described is one-way, from the man to the woman. Shouldn't it be a two-way street going both ways? Asking for a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/25 03:53 AM
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I see unmarried childless women bullied mercilessly all the time.... Where? On Reddit? Reddit is not real life. I live in NYC, I know a lot of childless men and women, unmarried, and nobody GAF. Don't listen to Reddit, don't listen to stupid people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 03:37 AM
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Everyone hates me equally in this sub, because I treat everyone equally, and I also hold everyone accountable too for their own decisions, actions, and reactions/responses. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:37 PM
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OP: cold approach is not working, and it's because of women's fault and society's fault! It's unfair. We should have the right to approach women when and where we want, but they are not playing ball! Comments: maybe you should try a different approach? Others: This obnoxious response is only proving OP's point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 09:08 PM
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Now, what I really, really don't understand, and would love clarification with, is... the second link you sent me, as an "effective" way, is filled with "out of context", "inappropiate" requests to perfect strangers in completely cold situations. Yet you say "1 improper approach is too many" You really don't understand the difference between "cold approaching a woman on the tram PUA/TRP style" and "asking a Kryspy Kreme worker for 6 donus chained like the Olympic symbol"? You think they are one …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:35 PM
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No kidding you're older because this comment is straight from 2002. LOL. Continue you "approach" and once you get maced you'll be back here. Bars/clubs are no longer socially acceptable places for approaching. Here's the skinny, bars/clubs were never my thing, but that's why people go there. Women have been complaining loudly online for years about being bothered when they're just out with their friends Let me know which ones of these 3 was unclear: Context Context Context 90% of the time when a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 08:32 PM
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1 improper "approach" is 1 too many. is to familiarize yourself with rejection and stop fearing it. There are better, more effective ways. this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-vZXgApsPCQ and this https://www.rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy Context has two massive issues: The word "Context" doesn't have any issue. Ever. I sincerely hope you're trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:25 PM
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I was told that in order to get a potential date you have to approach like 200 girls a day, and you have to repeat that for at least a week or two. I don't want to know the source of that. But I am suspecting that they are either trolls, or malicious, or affected by mental illness. I am a guy, and old(er) but not out of touch, the secret to approaching talking to women anyone is: Context Context Context Pick better context, the tram is not a very good one; a bar or club is perfect, that's why mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:05 PM
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Just because you don't like the answer doesn't mean it's not an appropriate answer. As I expected Abrasive personality will take you far (that was rhetorical and tongue in cheek). LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:40 PM
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Please enlighten us, what is the difference? Go ahead, experience it for yourself. Somehow people think if you don't have a degree then you don't know how to read, write, or even talk apparently. There are a lot of stupid people out there, that's another characteristic that I avoid, but some other people seek.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:56 PM
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Its just that this is usually the answer people like you give, but it doesn't make sense to me how pursuing a degree in liberal arts, or her accounting job suddenly makes someone better at conversation. Try having these 2 conversation: 1 with a high school dropout, and 1 with a PhD. See if you notice any difference. It presupposes that people who didn't go to university or of lower socioeconomic status aren't capable of intelligent conversation. Kind of. It's a proven, but controversial fact, pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:37 PM
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Why? Personal preferences are really hard to explain, but I will try: I like my wife, she's an educated and accomplished professional. Besides the "usual", guess what? We talk and hand out, and we have interesting conversation in things other than social media, celeb, and fashion. I enjoy conversation with someone who has something interesting to say, and intelligent opinions. Last, but not least, it has been my experience that sex is a lot better with intelligent/smart women. The brain is the o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:17 PM
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This is a can of worms. I'd say that Most men don't care........ I am a guy, and I do care, I have always been attracted to women who are educated and who are career women. [Personal opinion] My advice to women is: Do NOT depend financially on anyone. Beware of guys who are seeking women who are not financially viable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 02:08 PM
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Being a single guy in your 30's that's exactly how it feel, been there done that!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:17 PM
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So glad I'm not dating anymore. Same here. I am happily married to a great woman. And not in the USA. You're not wrong. I mean no wonder it's become such a battleground for the average person. Yup, most of the people in this sub are from the US, and it has become the battle of the sexes, nobody takes accountability/responsibility, and they always blame the other. Want to laugh? check this out https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/queen-sh-t/it-s-almost-valentine-s-day-get-ready-to-dump-t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:16 PM
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Probably gonna get downvotes for this, but to me that sounds very cold and pragmatic. It's almost like viewing it as a business deal more than a relationship. You're not wrong. Search this sub for discussions on who should pay for the first date. Also, ever been a guy in your early 30's on a first date? It often feels like a job interview. LOL. Been there, done that. I just think that when you meet someone you feel sparks with... I could not agree more. it shouldn't matter how much money they ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:12 PM
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I'd rather be honest with myself, you should try it. I am. I am a creep. I am not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:08 PM
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Compatible doesn’t mean identical Thank you for saying it. My wife and I are also very compatible, yet we are our of person and have our own identity, personality, interests and more.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 04:06 AM
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It is not. Not at all, I am a guy, and when I was dating seriously, I wanted a career women, who was financially literate and financially stable. For FWBs/ONSs/Casually Dating I didn't care since those situationships were means to their own end with no future. Recently there was an article in one of the personal finances subs, and it said that anyone's #1 financial decision in life is who to marry. Therefore, if you think logically, people who are dating seriously looking for a LTR/Marriage, on …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:28 AM
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If you analyze it objectively, the word "creep" is sexist, discriminatory, and therefore a slur.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 03:24 AM
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It's just a game not anything serious. Game Theory rules the world. Check my username.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 12:15 PM
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If you think that social proof is only women and only within the context of mate selection, you're very mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 12:14 PM
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I understand. Bless your heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:08 AM
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That's not what I said, and you know it. I genuinely hope you're trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 05:03 AM
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Are you saying that unpaid women are not capable of being drama-free, participating in good sex, or neither? Genuinely curious here.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 03:59 AM
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Social proof, it happens everywhere, and not just in the context that you mention. If you have no IG followers, nobody will follow you. But people follow people on IG who have 1MM followers. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 01:03 AM
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A true Chad is not rich, if they are, women see them as a "provider", and it changes all the dynamics. True Chads have sexual options, and women consciously know that these Chads are for fun only, and no serious LTR.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 12:04 AM
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Oh sure I did say people, then again is it really cheating if there was never any talk about exclusivity? It ain't. People with options just exercise their options very casually and non-committally. No cheating. It's often the other party who has unreasonable expectations, and - after the fact - tries to re-write history due to buyer's remorse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:39 PM
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This does not explain why attractive men = bad, They are not bad, it's that women, post situationship have buyer's remorse and they want to re-write history calling those men bad. And guys who don't have the same options are resentful and call those guys bad as well. Buy guys with plenty of options "just" exercise those options. Period. And they move from one option to another.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:07 PM
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Often times guys misunderstand confidence with being an a-hole, toxic, arrogant, selfish. Confident guys with lots of options, they exercise those options. Period. And often guys who don't have the same options are resentful, and that's when the name-calling starts.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:05 PM
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.... and portrays men as having poor self control. You're misunderstanding, men people (men and women) with plenty of options do consciously do the things they do, they are not committal and promiscuous on purpose, not "accidentally". 100% control of their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 11:03 PM
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That hurt in the feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 10:56 PM
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I think the words ur looking for is xenophobia Not really: Xenophobia is the fear or hatred of people or things that are perceived as foreign or strange
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:16 PM
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Nobody wants to be seen in public with ugly people with whom they have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:15 PM
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Misandry and misogyny are racist mindsets. Period. I can't believe I even have to say this, but prejudice, xenophobia, racism is bad. I now, right? I'm not asking women to treat every random man on the street as their friend, just don't generalize every man as a predator. I've said this before: treat someone like an enemy long enough, and they will become your enemy. And that's why we are where we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:09 PM
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The sex is good No drama That's it. Really. >95% of guys would agree with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 02:50 PM
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Did you read any of those? I'm guessing not 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 01:00 PM
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More Cougars on the Prowl. Good for the cubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 04:47 AM
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in 1949 George Orwell predicted it when he talked about double-speak. And in 2025 it happens in all walks of life, not just in women's attire.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 05:39 PM
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Feminism has made men weak That's an interesting assertion. Another way to look at it is: Men have let Feminism made them weak Then you could take it one step further: Men have let [insert anything you wish here] made them weak If you want to level up: Men have let [insert anything you wish here] made them [insert something unpleasant here] Leveling up even more: Individuals let [insert anything you wish here] make them [insert something unpleasant here]. If you want to know more, I strongly sug…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 05:38 PM
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Is this level of interaction beyond the abilities of most men ? Unfortunately yes. Most blame society, the system, women, global warming, Kamala, Trump, Bozo the Clown, the price of eggs, BitCoin, whatnot .... I believe in accountability. Here's what's funny: everyone wants friends/meetups/etc.... nobody steps up to organize anything; and when someone does, they don't show up, or if they show up they criticize and subtly sabotage. Pre-covid I ran 3 different meetups, it was an interesting experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 05:23 PM
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https://www.legalreader.com/lawsuit-challenges-gender-discrimination-and-tax-violations-at-male-only-plantation-golf-club-in-california/ https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/sep/08/businesswoman-launches-legal-action-against-the-garrick-club https://6abc.com/pine-valley-golf-club-settlement-new-jersey-law-against-discrimination-attorney-general-matthew-platkin/13255965/ https://www.aclu.org/press-releases/court-rules-favor-woman-who-was-denied-membership-all-male-club https://myfox8.com/news/n…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:22 PM
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When I was young I got married to a woman who I thought was the love of my life: we had so much fun, laughed a lot, and the sex was great incredible. Well, it turned into the nightmare of my life, after a few years where I tried my best to make her happy (Mission Impossible) I call it quit and filed for divorced. During my single years after the divorced, after a while I got really tired of the bullshit of traditional dating and I finally cracked the code and I was sowing my wild oats with FWBs/…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:27 PM
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In the US, opening a "men's only" anything is illegal because it's considered discriminatory. Opening a "women's only" is tolerated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:05 PM
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Smart woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 03:10 AM
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https://i.imgur.com/cEhZrDn.png
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:11 AM
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LOL, You clearly now how to use logical fallacies to manipulate people, but you get really upset when you come across someone who doesn't fall for it and calls you on your BS fallacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:58 AM
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LOL x 2 , pass on addressing you doubling down on logical fallacy. I seriously hope you are trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:51 AM
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LOL, pass on addressing yet another logical fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:44 AM
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Your comment is a logical fallacy, outside the scope and intent of the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 01:35 AM
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Do I am asking you men. How are women stopping you from finding 10 other dudes and forming your own exclusive club? LOL, it's not women, it's society at large, in most of the US that's actually illegal, while - in the same places - there are plenty of "women only spaces" e.g.: my gym has 1 large room full of equipment that is women only. That's just to respond to your question, personally IDGAF, life's not fair, I leaned that at age 5, I don't fight things I don't control, and this issue is what…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 12:14 AM
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LOL. Thank you, that was funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 09:27 PM
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This is not about me, it's about Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 08:05 PM
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LOL, but it will cost them more in bandwidth! I was amused, if I were a stand-up comedian, I'd use their material https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j0qm0KUPeD8
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 07:03 PM
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You are arguing that issues rooted in philosophy are irrelevant to this subreddit. LOL. more logical fallacies + doubling down.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:59 PM
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Which subreddit members/users are a red/yellow flag for you ? members who use "ick" members who use logical fallacies trolls, idiots, stupid people and individuals who covertly manifest mental illness from mild to wild assholes of any gender overzealous mods echo chambers subs racist and discriminatory members/subs For me , it has to be female dating strategy no doubt LOL, go to their web site and see the Valentine's day post. (I can't post the link because it's blocked here at work)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:58 PM
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I just couldn't resist reacting, and I admit that it was in vain You're human. Cut yourself some slack.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:52 PM
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And of course I am supposed to know/guess/read your mind about that language that is. Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:46 PM
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It's not. That's what people who commit logical fallacy say, and then they double down. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:46 PM
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There are a lot of people who justify loneliness and I'm just tired of it There's even more people who are stupid, we all need to learn how to deal with them. Stoicism and Nietzsche have helped me a lot in this matter and many matters of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 06:45 PM
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Now you're guilty of Logical Fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:59 PM
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Healthcare, Social Security, Welfare, and Education aren't needs. These are political issues, deeply rooted into Philosophy. I don't see how we need to debate them in this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:45 PM
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You can't justify loneliness Loneliness exists. We can all agree on this. Loneliness in increasing. We can all agree on this too. I don't see the need to "justify" it, and the people who say "loneliness is ok because some people are okay being lonely" are just plain and simply stupid and we should not pay attention to them. Just like trolls, don't feed them. What's to debate?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:44 PM
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Got an good source so that I can edit Wikipedia?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 05:40 PM
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Reproduction has since been removed. By whom? Maslow? We don't think this is a need anymore. And that's why I said [checking notes] "OP, if you strongly believe in your position, you ought to write a paper on it, who knows, maybe you'll win a Nobel Prize or something."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 04:57 PM
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Abraham Maslow has entered the room. Maslow's hierarchy of needs puts Physiological needs as the basis of human needs, and they are (sauce = Wikipedia): Physiological needs are the base of the hierarchy. These needs are the biological component for human survival. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, physiological needs are factored into internal motivation. According to Maslow's theory, humans are compelled to satisfy physiological needs first to pursue higher levels of intrinsic satisfact…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 03:06 PM
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Big companies' marketing + all religions + all politicians are masterful manipulators that make people do things that go against the very same people's serf interests in favor of Big companies marketing + all religions + all politicians advantage. Once you see life under these lenses, you'll be like Neo (The One) in The Matrix. Morpheus: The Matrix is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. But when you're inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:47 PM
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I disagree. I am a guy, and when I was young I was "unsuccessful with women" to put it mildly; then - later in life - somehow I cracked the code and I was able to successfully sow my wild oats. 10/10 highly reccommended. I am now happily married to an incredible woman. At the same time since my teen age years to well unto adulthood I had severe clinical depression and crippling anxiety; my saving grace was that I a stubborn AF so I put on a façade of happiness and plowed though life. Professiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 02:40 PM
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My comment talks about "we (we = all humans)", and that includes everyone including men. Also, my comment encompasses all behavioral manifestations, not just sexual/romantic preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:26 PM
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The incel crisis hurts more the incels (no sex) then women (generally they have more options). Now, it feminism the cause? this is a can of worm that's best left untouched. When there's a problem, any problem, finding the root cause in the past becomes a circlejerk. Time and effort would best be spent on solving the problem, unless the ultimate goal of the majority is something else and not solving the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:22 AM
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My take on the matter: Dating is about discovering one another, seeing how like-minded you are, and calibrate the expectation that both parties have from the other, and from the relationship. The engagement ring wedding including its cost is a reflection of people's personality and their expectations from the other and from the relationship. The proper answer is: whatever you can afford. At the end of the day, engagement rings are the biggest marketing heist ever perpetrated by a single company:…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:20 AM
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A bit on incendiary headline. There's a big difference between what we (we = all humans) say, and what we do. Steve Jobs said that ad nauseam, and many psychologist agree. It's human nature, not active lies, and everyone does it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 08:37 PM
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You mean "consent", right? That's all that matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 12:38 PM
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There's a big difference between what people say they'll do, and what they will actually do. Men or women; in the dating world and all other aspects of life. Don't believe anything that people say. Observe their behavior, including your own. Often we gaslight ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:56 AM
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Well said. I would take it one step further, and "no complain" is a great way of life for anyone, regardless of the gender, and from all walks of life. I stopped complaining a long time ago, right after I encountered Zen. SOlidified that lifestyle when I met Stoicism. These days I am studying Nietzsche, and - IMO - Nietzsche is all anyone needs. Chew on it, ruminate on it, it will change your life for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 03:53 AM
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This is what I want to know from this esteem sub: is there a difference between "23M with a 17F" and "23F with a 17M"?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:09 PM
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So, in a way, you are advocating the effectiveness of "Love at first sight". IMO there's something about that. I would not go as far as never trust someone, if there was no love at first sight; but surely if it takes some "convincing" most of the time it's a marriage/relationship of convenience than ... well, love at first sight. During a strange time of my life I found myself single (divorced) and living in one of the premier suburban zip codes in the US and... most of the marriages there were …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 10:02 PM
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Well... no This ain't feed the T-rex and you'll get the golden egg once it shits. Did you like the link? I'm surprised yall gets dates at all, please just stick to paying escorts or hookups it's sad to read these comments. I'm actually now happily married to an incredible woman. And when I was single, I had my more than fair share of sowing my wild oats.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:42 PM
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LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:22 PM
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I'm following up with a logical question to a statement. That's all. "Feed me and I will have sex with you." Well... yes. Like I'm honestly laughing so hard rn reading this 💀💀💀 This sub is for shits and giggles. I'll make you laugh harder: https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/top-posts-today/valentine-s-day-rules
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:20 PM
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oh yeah, logical fallacy, how lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 12:17 PM
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.... for the price of a mediocre entrée Fair enough, how about the price of a fancy entrée? Foie gras, filet mignon, seafood tower... ? Is that agreeable?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 04:02 AM
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https://i.imgur.com/wSx4R.jpeg
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:32 AM
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IMO the "money" issue is the most f-cked up issue of the women/men interactions. That's why I think that sugaring is the future of dating, with sugaring everyone wins. It's that I think it's a tad bit wild to have attitudes like.... If you want to see something really wild: https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/top-posts-today/valentine-s-day-rules
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 03:16 AM
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I am now happily married, but when I was single and later in life when I also has some disposable income, I was only doing casual dating/ FWBs / ONSs so very few "light" dates. I paid for everything, I didn't want money to get in the way of my desired outcome, so I considered it cost of doing "business". Worked for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/25 02:06 AM
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I do special requests too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:20 PM
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Eventually, those doing the toughest, dirtiest, most exhausting, and dangerous jobs will recognize the unfairness and refuse to continue. Good! Why should working-class men endure stress, premature aging, and grueling labor while some diversity hire collects a hefty paycheck in a cushy office for doing next to nothing? Meh, statistically not significant. Life's not 100% fair. Sure, it’s what the company chooses to pay for yup. Their money, their choice. Your money, your choice what to do with it…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 11:19 PM
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I market to anyone who would pay me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 08:06 PM
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Men do. And most men don't have an issue, the ones who do they are either trolling, or overzealous moral police, or just victims of mental illness. What most men find problematic is the dichotomy: these women get money by somewhat taking advantage of gullible men. I don't have an issue since both parties act within the confines of the law. But then, later on, these same women would play the victim's card, state that they were exploited by the very same men who gave them money; and most of PPD an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 06:48 PM
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My moral are different than yours, I guarantee it. And I don't have the right to state that my morals are better/superiors than yours, and neither do you. That is freedom. You do not have a personal moral system, and only abide by laws because you must. LOL, I do, you just happened to disagree with it and IDGAF. You associate your moral system with the legal system, and as long as something is legal, it is therefore moral, and thus you do not have an issue with it LOL, not at all either. You sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 06:06 PM
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LOL. Not at all. I am no morality/ethics police, neither I want one. I own shares in Palantir. The stock is up >20% today, I am happy. https://finance.yahoo.com/quote/PLTR/ It's legal, 100%. Are Palantir's business practices moral and ethical? There are a lot of people who would say no. And there are a lot of people who say that my owning those shares is not moral or ethical, and IDGAF. In a way your comments are indicative of the issues with this sub: People elect themselves to moral/ethical po…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 05:56 PM
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Then why did you say “as long as it’s legal, I’m good” Because as long as it’s legal, I’m good.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 05:52 PM
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This implies legality == morality/ethics. Which is not the case That was not my intention, legality is not morality/ethics. Even more so in 2025's USA. Wanna buy my bath water?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 05:50 PM
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Women use social media and are shown they can be revered for not doing much more than existing with a phone camera. It’s affecting the mentality of women of feelings of superiority and how they treat and perceive men. Lucky them! I posted that I had a Pastrami Sandwich other the weekend and I got 3 likes: my wife, my sister and my mom. I look at it optimistically: 100% of my likes were from women who love me. Women use social media and are shown they can be revered for not doing much more than e…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:25 PM
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That refers to self-grooming and hygiene. Also working out at the gym, clothing.... By "nice physical appearance", I meant the facial structure that you're born with. If you're facially ugly, then taking care it's appearance wouldn't make much of a difference. I did state in my follow-up comment about things that we have control over, for the ones we don't have control, we don't have control, so no need to create a circlejerk. Women would rather date/have sex with a Chad who looks like a hobo th…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:22 PM
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Meh, it's a free world and a free marketplace, if someone finds a way to capitalize on anything, as long as it's legal, I'm good. I am a guy, and I am been trying to sell my bath water unsuccessfully for a very long time, I can't seem to crack the code to have women exploit me. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:20 PM
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Fair enough, I edited to add "taking care of one's appearance" which means physical and also more, as long as it's within one's control: weight, fitness, clothing, tattoes etc..... And all the other things contribute too. Also note that my comment is gender neutral and applies to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 04:00 PM
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Let me both agree and disagree with you. Agree: "....about attracting women". Absolutely, PUA shit and similar? Fuck that. Disagree: What attracts women is what "attracts" people, specifically confidence, taking care of one's appearance,mastery, social skills, interesting careers, interesting hobbies/activities, life's skills... a man person with all these skills will get more job offers, better job offers, genuinely more liked by friends/acquantances/family/strangers, better treatment with cust…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:27 PM
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It is my observation that when it comes to the topic of "money" (and material things), within the context of men/women interactions one things is true: men and women have quite different experiences/analysis of what actually happens in reality. So, something is terribly wrong. Weird. Really weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 02:22 PM
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Not a RP guy, hence commenting in here. Contrary to popular belief and Reddit and PPD it takes 2 to have a baby; and there's a lot of covert mental illness out there; so the responsible thing to do is for each of the parties involved to take their own precautions and not rely solely on the other party. Unless - of course - you decide not to do the responsible (and smart) thing. I got snipped a long time ago, and - when I was single - I also wore a condom, Sagami Original 0.01 expensive and worth…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/25 03:45 AM
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No, just no. Relationship and cheating are not compatible, regardless of the gender or how "attractive" someone is. Evidence: the word Reddit has 5 letters (sounds stupid right? So did your "evidence"). Redditor for 6 days, I hope you're trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:59 PM
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Exactly, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:49 PM
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Now you're changing the subject (logical fallacy). But.. I remember you know, a while back we engaged in a similar discussion and you were using the same tactics before switching to PPD harassment. LOL.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:48 PM
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LOL. I bet I am older than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 11:46 PM
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Nobody knows FDS.... I got you fam: https://np.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/ It's pretty well known, I knew about FDS before I new who Andrew Tate was. FDS is the otehr side of TRP, if we analyze one, it's a fair game to analyze the other one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 08:22 PM
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How does this sound: And yet, FDS continues to wonder why people think they are misandrist. I did say that it was a not that bad analysis. What's a good reason not to do FDS now? Let's not do it in the name of Equality?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 07:22 PM
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This is what I have learned the hard way (the best way): Until two people have had the exclusivity talk, and both have explicitly and enthusiastically agreed to be exclusive, assume you're not exclusive. During the talk, go over the behavioral manifestations that you both agree are off-limit. During the talk, also go over what is considered sex and what's not sex. If you've dated a bit, you know why I am saying that. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:47 PM
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Not that bad as analysis of how people think of TRP. Do FDS now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 06:43 PM
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Lonely people People who feel they have a problem need to stop passively go through life and make use of their Agency, go out there and: Analyze the source(s) of their problems. Get educated. Take matters into their own hands and try try try fail fail fail try again and again till they see some improvements. This works for loneliness, dating, sex, body weight, fitness, cooking, financial literacy/habits, investing, writing, running.... I can't think of any aspects of one's life where this does n…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 04:33 PM
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I have a serious problem with the terminology, we should just abolish the term "pumping and dumping" since, after all, it's one-sided and biased. It's casual dating, two people using each other, till one decides that they have had enough or moves on, or they upgraded or whatever. There's nothing wrong with consensual mutual using each other. Have fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 02:48 PM
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Well said, I am glad this is the top comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 12:22 AM
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Let’s start here. What top 3 things do you think TRP gets right? LOL I am at the very least partially accountable and responsible for the negative things that happen in my life, e.g.: gf cheating on me. Some women, but not all women; some time, but not always; just want to have fun, no wining and dining needed. Attraction cannot be negotiated, it just happen. It's very easy to figure out what makes a guy attractive to women: a good body, confidence, a social life, and something cool about him, e…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 10:04 PM
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If you agree with TRP Check my flair: "Thinking outside the Pill." I find a lot of things wrong with all the Pills (especially blind followers), and a few things right with all Pills, including FDS. That's why everybody hates me. P.S.: I like your flair.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:35 PM
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Another interesting comment. Thank you. I'd love to see non-TRP commenting on this one too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 08:33 PM
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Quite interesting. Thank you. I'd love to see non-TRP commenting on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 08:20 PM
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In your opinion, what are: Top 3 TRP aspects that you agree with the most. Aspects commonly attributed to TRP that you don't agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 08:03 PM
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Search this very sub about discussions on who should pay for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 08:00 PM
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Bless your heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:56 PM
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You're mistaken.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:42 PM
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1-3: Generally considered below average or unattractive. 4-6: Falls within the average to above-average range. 7-8: Typically seen as attractive or very attractive. 9-10: Considered exceptionally attractive or close to perfect by some standards. TL;DR: https://i.imgur.com/aM3ReI9.png
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:30 PM
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10 Myths about Introverts Myth #1 : Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days. Myth #2 : Introverts are shy. Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:09 PM
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NSFW ... and then 'she' said: fine, I will cum with my pp in your mouth, and then you can spit it back into my mouth (or ass).
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 04:02 AM
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You think people will start having kids again because of...demand? No, sorry I should have explained myself better. Someone will want a kid, and they will be willing to pay to have a "surrogate" provide what's missing (womb or sperm or.... both) for a price. Such technology is decades away .... yup. But it's coming. I am a long term type of guy. and morally questionable if the purpose is to substantially raise birth rates. oh, I was not accounting for morality or ethics in these comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 02:05 AM
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Oh no, not everyone's needs/wants will be addressed 100%, that's not how markets work. Supply/Demand curve will take care of reaching an equilibrium https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Supply_and_demand Also, don't write off tech, google artificial womb.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:57 AM
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Life imitates Art.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:42 AM
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Commerce addressing demand when there's supply happens, whether it's legal or illegal. You can say that "Commerce solves problems."
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:39 AM
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I said "sex and procreation." Prostitutes take care of the sex part. Other parties will address the procreation part. Civilization has progressed also thanks to the specialization of duties. "healthy family formation" was not part of my comment, and... do you see much of that out there today Saturday Feb 1, 2025 8:38 PM EST?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:37 AM
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A 2 wanting an 8. Then complain that they are single because: Nobody out there is good enough for them. They are not going to lower their standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:24 AM
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I don't think it's that weird, quite the contrary. I am a guy and if she has an iPhone and not Android, I'm out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:23 AM
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Nice switcheroo buddy. It was your dealbreaker. Why not? /-s How about Seagulling? https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Seagulling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:20 AM
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Maybe. Except that commercialization of sex and procreation will come to the rescue. There's a price for everything, and everything is for sale at the right price.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:19 AM
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Is "successfully cross the chasm" in terms of simply continuing the self-improvement, or is that finding success in dating from the self-improvement? Not exactly. I know this sub is about "dating", but IMO within the scope of self-improvement it is too restrictive. That's why I talk about "personal/professional development". Look at it this way, if someone looks for tips, trick, silver bullets on how to "finding success in dating" at best they are going to be disappointed, at worst they will be …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 06:13 PM
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You're not wrong, at the onset anyone on their journey to personal/professional development they will feel resentful for a handful of reasons; but it's also wrong, they are wrong. If they successfully cross the chasm, by continuing on their personal/professional development (unfortunately a lot of people whit at the resentment state); they will achieve true mastery where, for luck of a better word, they don't give a fuck about the opinion of others, because those opinions are not fuckworthy, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:36 PM
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This is it. We see it in dating, politics, family life, work.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 05:32 PM
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Any sub once it gets moderately successful becomes an echo chamber. That's the case of this sub, add to it also becoming a circlejerk, with everyone pointing finger to the other side. Well… why are you on Reddit debating about it instead of meeting people? Because this is Reddit, remove the Reddit drama, and these people have nothing left.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/25 12:39 AM
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This is a non-partisan comment. Politics today in the US is based on stupid opinions and not facts. You mix both political stupidity with the battle of the sex and you're trying to make a rational statement? It's impossible. Freezing Federal Funding wreaked havoc for a lot of people, of all genders, colors, political affiliation, shoe size and whatnot. It sucked pretty much across the spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:27 PM
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There are stupid people (of any gender), making stupid comments every day on any topic. To each of us the choice to descend to their lever, or go even lower, or to increase the quality of the discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 05:44 AM
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I agree. My getting married was a fluke.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:30 AM
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I am now old(er) and happily married. When I was young I was a simp, but I am stubborn AF, so after a lot of trail-and-error and a lot of reading about online dating (mostly crap, of course) I cracked the code, so to speak, and I had a long-ish period when I sowed by wild oats, I had FWBs, ONSs, and dated casually; I had no problem securing sex. I am not saying that it got boring, but after a while it was ok; but I did enjoy having choices. I was not looking for a serious relationship, and I had…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:19 AM
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Well, are you speaking from personal experience, or are you expressing your own opinions onto others. You might want to ask that 4% (your number, not mine) who, according to you, went from unsuccessful in the dating world to sex by only paying "four easy payments of 9.99". Well, if you were to find these individuals, my bet is that they would be very happy with their investment, and probably aware that they are using people who are also using them (mutual using) and they are very ok with it and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 07:45 PM
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Everyone is always mad when things don't go their way, whether it's true or only perceived. The dating marketplace (for lack of a better word) is what it is, it's the product of collective actions and it's really hard to pinpoint one or more characteristics of the dating marketplace to one or more causes. IMO the dynamics are pretty clear, and just like any marketplace, we cannot really change the rules dynamics, but we can become better participants, if we so choose, or we can stand by the side…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 06:45 PM
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"Power" is the best aphrodisiac.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 05:27 PM
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Same situation as you, decent career, overeducated, >6' tall, gym body, happily married to a great woman (after having sowed my wild oats) just (much) older and childfree too. We used to live in suburbia where everyone had kids, we now live in NYC. Kids are a choice, and chilfree rocks!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 12:41 AM
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Everyone needs a bit of degenerate fun here and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:12 PM
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Agree. Moreover, everyone needs a bit of degenerate fun here and there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 09:11 PM
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Hypocrisy and cluelessness are big issues in today's society, coming from everyone regardless of gender, and in all topics, not just dating/relationships. Everyone talks, most of what is said is nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:12 PM
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How can we rescue these young'uns.... They are going to have to find their own answer and their ow ways. "We" can lead by example. The 2 main issues that I see are: Lack of critical thinking skills. Society at large disseminates bad information, and this sub is also part of the problem, and no part of the solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 01:23 PM
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For people who are coupled: That would be me. how many of these posts seem to be from people who just need better parents, aunties, uncles? Loaded question. I don't think this is the case. This is what I see: Post by people who have little to no actual dating experience, and by dating I mean from casual to traditional dating. Post by people in relationships who give awful advice. Various pills militia trying to promote their agenda. The comments are a clusterfuck, aside from the very bad comment…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 12:59 AM
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Thoughts? Well yes! Increasing already unrealistic expectations when unsuccessful in dating is the norm these days, it provided the alibi "There's nobody out there good enough for me, and I surely am not going to lower my standards". It's a way to avoid accountability and responsibility and put the onus (fault) on the other party. I am talking about both women and men doing that, in the dating world, as well on the professional world as well (unemployed). So we have individuals who bring not muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 08:04 PM
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It's not "getting played" if no one catches feelings after a casual encounter If one catches feelings afterward, it's their problem. They were not played, they are doing it to themselves. since you've made an investment in someone who isn't going to return it back. We're talking about ONS/FWB/Casual fucking here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 06:56 PM
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Women (not unlike men) get regularly played by highly attractive men, since they can get away with murder if they're magnetic enough. Don't you think that women are willing participants in that mating ritual? They are not played, they play. It's exciting and fun! 10/10 highly recommended. 2 consenting adults, DTF meet and do the deed. The "problem" arises if, after the fact, one of the party has unreasonable expectations about what that casual sex encounter meant and where it leads in the future…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 06:48 PM
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... push for sex immediately, At times, (but not always), some women (but not all women), just want to fuck someone they just met. That's how ONS/hookups happen; and - to some degree - FWB too. At times the other party is also DTF. No push is needed; just 2 consenting adults doing the adult thing. And it flows naturally, it's a lot of fun. 10/10, highly recommended.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 06:42 PM
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The "Rule of 3" is a bastion of dating in then XXi century. Whatever number he says, divide it by 3. Whatever number she says, multiply it by 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:10 PM
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To me it does matter for example That's awesome! I am sure your prospective partners cant wait to have those conversations. And don't forget the "Rule of 3".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:58 PM
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You can look at a different way: Not to worry about things that don't matter. Live your life looking at the future, and not the past. Alas, at the end of the day it's an individual choice. Whatever bakes your noodle (aka: whatever works for you).
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 04:51 PM
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Let's play your game. What level of details are we talking about? Frequency? Duration? Physical measurements? Show & tell with pics/videos if available? I'd say that details are part of the transparency, don't you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 12:22 PM
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For someone who is both insecure and inexperiencd, successful mating confidence looks like being an a-hole; but it's not. It's confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 05:04 AM
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I’d rather a policy where it’s easy for newcomers to identify and get good advice.... If you want "good advice" you need to sort by controversial, there, in the gutters, with the trolls and seriously mentally ill, the most useful comments are buried by being downvoted to oblivion since they don't fit the Reddit's narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:05 AM
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I'd settle for IQ.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:02 AM
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Most people in here are shitposing, but at the same time they know the rules of the sub, so they play their comments and post in a way to get their kinks by circlejerking and getting upvoted while also pleasing the mods.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:02 AM
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Some people are willing to cross the chasm between casual and serious, some other people believe that those two are independent worlds. To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:58 PM
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IMO you're missing the point. Hank Moody said it best: when a woman meets a guy for the first time, she put him into one of three buckets: Fuck him. Marry him. Ignore him. Only guys who fits into bucket #2 have to wait.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 06:41 PM
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More people desire living in NYC than in Scranton PA. I know, I live in NYC and - incidentally - I have also visited Scranton PA once. The same principles applies to most everything in life, some are more desirable/appealing than others. OP: what's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 05:48 PM
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Noting good ever came out from a discussion about past sexual history. At least one of the two people ends up upset, most likely both.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 03:55 PM
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Here's another way to look at it: One of the main reasons age gap relationships fail is that the women approach them thinking older men will let them get away with laziness and irresponsibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 12:45 PM
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Well, it's hard to read OP's actual intent with their post. It's fair to assume that they want a serious relationship and they are not successful at the moment. Dating, just like life, is a game of chance, where we control the odds. So if OP want to increase their chances, improving their financial situation, improving their physical appearance, and wait for a time when most women and looking for that they are looking for (serious relationship) will maximize OP's chances. I don't make the facts/…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 05:22 PM
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IMO you need to ask better questions, I am going to read through the lines and address the question(s) that you actually wanted to ask. You don't just want to "meet" women/a woman do you? You want this meet to develop into more. Did I get that right? And the problem is not really where/how to meet women, but the state of dating at large today. You want to meet people? People meet anywhere and everywhere. From dating apps, to clubls; but those two venues are not for everyone, my guess is that the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 11:14 PM
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All the Archetypes are out there, roaming through life. Some are more common than others. Some are more overt than others. And others are "protected" by society at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 02:18 AM
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The average willing buyer is simply unlikely to want to deal with all this. People, especially horny guys, do crazy things for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:58 PM
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Life Business finds a way. There will be an underground market for haking/hacked bots. Anything you need, it's just a matter of $.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:43 PM
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Continuing with patronizing language continues not to be helpful. Have a great weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:53 PM
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We are amused. Good response. LOL, thanks. I'm not denying that those activities don't exists, they do happen (don't ask me how I know), but in my experience is done more covertly than overtly going out on dates from apps, especially the monkey branch. It is carefully planned, the long term game. You can ask me how I know, I have a very funny story.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:28 AM
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In my experience is done more covertly than overtly going out on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 12:24 AM
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Patronizing language never helps. Have a great day!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:15 PM
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Precision in language is important not to be misunderstood. IMO a lot of problems start with misunderstanding and then nobody bothers to clarify the air, and everyone starts pointing fingers. Nothing wrong with clarity, mean what one says, and say what one means, no interpretation, no reading between the lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 09:07 PM
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IMO every pill has some truth, at the same time believing in 1 pill means that you belong to a cult, that indoctrinated you due to your lack of critical thinking skills. Look at the facts, and understand what is going on; experiment with cause->effect and then figure out what works for you and what doesn't. In dating and in life too. Also, laughable: nobody agrees on what TRP (or any pills) really is or its philosophy. Everyone is triggered emotionally by a label.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:39 PM
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I wish they’d come on the date free of every romantic connection, but that’s rarely going to happen. Well, in a way they are, those are not "romantic" at all. Also, this is 2025, not.... 1960's. Don't complain, use The Force.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:22 PM
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Guy 1: Her ex.. some, but not all Guy 1: .. still living with her boyfriend, married, or cheating behind his back to try and monkey branch... Insignificant minority Guy 2: Her situationship Very common to have 1 or 2 FWBs Guy 3: Her backup. Common, but she doesn't have sex with him. Welcome to 2025, and this has been going on for at least a couple of decades. Don't complain, use The Force.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:17 PM
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you're partially correct, just add "some" as in some men, and those are the successful ones. Does not invalidates OP's post, quite the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 06:15 PM
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I have a few women friends who are/were wealthy and single and they were all complaining that: most single guys out there are broke AF; and the ones who are not broke don't care much about the financial situation of the woman, they go mostly for the looks/young age being wealthy discourage wealthier men from pursuing them I know one who is not happily married to a younger man, high-earner but not wealthy like her; living in her mansion where he doesn't feel very comfortable (his words).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:20 PM
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Humans are drawn to dangerous things. It's thrilling and not boring. Just like guys are dawn to La femme fatale.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 03:14 PM
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Take any Romantic movie, if a guy were to act that way IRL, he would be labeled a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 01:41 AM
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Insecure losers are intimidated by successful women. My wife is an award-winning [insert STEM career here], she kicks ass!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 12:24 AM
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LOL, partially true. It would remove the sense of validation by rejecting them, and some free food.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 07:32 PM
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I google it for you: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/a-profile-of-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 07:31 PM
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I am happily married to a great woman now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 04:16 PM
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.. or a mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:17 PM
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I loved being single, I had a couple of FWBs, the occasional ONS, and I would shoot the breeze on the apps. Life was grand.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 03:16 PM
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FTFY Women DO approach men. They just only approach very conventionally attractive men
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:03 AM
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Different rules for different categories of people. Welcome to life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:02 AM
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What you are describing is something that most everyone, across all genders, across all ages, across all contexts manifests: the "just do it mentality" seeking emotionally-driven short-term gratification believing they are powerful, at the same time take no responsibility of the later consequences and play the victim. Rinse, repeat. It's entitlement at it's finest. I see this at work and with my friends/acquaintances every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 02:01 PM
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So I recently thought back to the show Everybody Loves Chris and remembered how toxic Rochelle and Julius' relationship... How about Everybody Loves Raymond? That was beyond toxic, it was abuse. Yet, society didn't blink. Imagine if the roles were reversed, but the dialog and treatment remained the same. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 04:31 AM
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Conventional dating has become expensive AF for a guy, and that's why I believe that suagring is the future of dating, with suagring everyone wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:09 AM
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Ever been to Dubai?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 02:06 AM
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LOL. no. At least not all. My first marriage: LOL, yes she and her mother expected me to be at their beck and call. I gladly filed for divorce. My present marriage: she's a great woman, smart, with a lot to offer, great personality (and sexy AF too). We are partners in crime, we have each other's back. We both work hard at our jobs and we tackle life's necessities together; we do that as efficiently as possible and with no drama, so that we have as much free time as possible to enjoy life at its…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:57 PM
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You touched on a good point, but I believe you mislabeled it, and you did not go far enough. I am all for standard, when I was single (I am not happily married to a great woman) I have pretty high stancards for the women that I wanted to interact with, be it for FWB, ONS, or casual dating; at the same time I also had and I still do, high standards for myself. When people have incompatible standards (e.g.: ard-worker with a lot of free time) it's a matter or stupidity; but an even bigger problem …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 05:53 PM
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LOL, it's not limited to the manosphere: nobody likes to be dumped, but - at the same time - they want to be able to leave any relationship at any time for any reason. IMO both feelings are correct when one is open to be on both sides of the equation, since... that's life. The issue arises when there's hypocricy wanting one (being the dumper) bit not accepting the other (the dumpee).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:47 AM
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$350k between ages 20-37. Dates, vacations etc. That boils down to $428/week, since OP states that that includes vacations... while still on the high side it's believable/possible. If someone has a problem with the numbers, they can do their own math, lower the weekly average and come up with the own number, since the overall principles is sound. And that's why I am a big believer that "sugaring" is the future of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 09:23 PM
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Sex always makes me happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 11:06 AM
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RemindMe! 7 days
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 03:15 PM
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Dating in your 30's: all women want to get married, since the clock is ticking. Dating in your 40's is a lot more fun for a guy, lot of women who are recent divorcees and just want to have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 06:05 AM
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Luck does have a role in dating life, denying it would be silly. But... also relying just and only on luck would be silly as well. And, when we see someone who has achieved more/better than use, attributing their successes to just and only luck would be silly as well. Can we agree that "luck" is a combination of: Being at the right place at the right time. Preparation meets opportunity. Therefore we can help luck by: Being in many places, and often. For instance, is it a surprise than shutins do…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 02:29 AM
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If I'm expected to date men I'm not attracted to, I'd better be financially compensated. Best. Comment. Ever. And guys have been compensating for their shortcomings with money since ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:22 PM
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Men improving themselves wont fix the dating market, I am a guy, I have this thing that I am constantly learnign something new, and improving myself both professionally and personally. But I don't do it for the dating market, I do it for myself. Incidentally I am old(er) and happily married; but I have been on the constant improvement kick since ever. women need to lower their standards. It feels wrong to tell someone to "lower their standards." The dating market is, after all, a marketplace; an…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:20 PM
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Rejecting someone due to preferences is effectively forcing the preferences upon them. LOL. You can't be serious, I hope you're trolling. Or you think people are okay and consenting with being passed over? Not relevant. Use your brain: what would be the alternative? You pick someone, and they must oblige?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 07:30 PM
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It's 2025, we all have agency, we all have preferences, we all make choices. Let's all choose wisely according to our wants and needs, and let's not "force" our preferences upon others.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 05:57 PM
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LOL, we can't change other people's behaviors. Live and learn; and -- use The Force. It works.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 09:24 PM
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At the dawn of 2025 hypocrisy is pervasive among men and women; the dating world and most aspects of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:26 PM
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LOL, the subset of women who care about a man's car is pretty small; and - as a guy - I was never attracted to this type of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:24 PM
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LOL, logical fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 04:29 AM
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This is Reddit after all!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 04:20 AM
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If women are cars, men are also objects. LOL, you missed the whole point: I compared men to cars.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 04:05 AM
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Corollas are used to go grocery shopping, taking the kids to beach, volunteer at chuch.... Lambos is instagrammable, memorable, talk about it with friends, brang about it....... Utility vs #FUN
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 03:58 AM
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We live in a time where casual encounters are normalized, and many women freely admit to having slept with certain men on the first date—sometimes even after minimal/no effort on the man’s part. If a woman has demonstrated this behavior in the past but then makes another man wait for physical intimacy, it raises a critical question: why the double standard? Such behavior suggests a lack of consistency and signals that the man being made to wait is viewed differently, perhaps as less desirable or…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 02:46 AM
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I got new for you: With whom do you think straight men hookup? Women. And vice versa. It's fun, easy, lighthearted; highly recommended. OP, IMO, you have a skewed view of men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 10:15 PM
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I am a guy and I agree wholeheartedly. Just ask Jolin (Keren) Zhu.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 03:15 PM
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IMO I don't believe that "attraction" can be reduced with a logical argument; it just happens. When I was young, I was attracted to older women; then at one point something "changed", and I was then attracted to younger (legal) women. I am now old(er) and happily married to a beautiful young woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:16 AM
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IMO some of TRP principles have permeated the current culture, mostly unbeknownst that they were originated adopted by TRP. Only Red Pillers recognize them out there, while everyone else is oblivious about the parallels/overlaps of some of today's thinking with TRP. Cuture evolves, borrowing from everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 05:58 AM
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I've never been to a cheesecake factory How come? Too fancy for you? LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 05:53 AM
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That was a lot of fun to read, very good creative writing. I understood every single paragraph you wrote, but I could not relate to the logic, my bad, oh well. I guess instead of the HB1 to HB10 scale we are now adopting a different scale, from Popeye to Olive Garden to Shake Shack to Four Seasons or something along those lines?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 02:40 AM
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You sound like the type of guy to be like "Actually letting your girlfriend/wife get railed by other guys is the most masculine thing you can do, she does it because I enjoy it so actually I'm winning" LOL, far from the truth. I am happily married to a great, young, beautiful woman; but I don't "share" her with anyone. Sorry buddy to burst your bubble.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:07 AM
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So 'does he pay for the first date' is actually a way to find out how much a guy likes you. You are correct. The "problem" is that the guys doesn't know how much the woman likes him, she could be there for the free food/drinks. Ask any guy, most everyone has been taken advantage of; we could sweep it under the rug and label is cost of doing business but it doesn't make the situation any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:14 PM
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I am a guy, and I have to say that you're not wrong. Alas, we all have agency, so we all have choices. I am now older and happily married, and when I was young, single, and broke I struggled with this same very issue. Later in life, when I was divorced and not that broke anymore, after a while I made the conscious decision to always pay for all the dating activities as long as it was FWBs, ONSs, or casual dating; and while it was somewhat expensive at the onset, it was a much better deal in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:04 PM
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And that's why I believe the future of dating is sugaring; and the upcoming AI developments are going to accelerate the transition from where we are to sugaring. And after sugaring we are going to see the transition to synthetic relationships/sex (100% AI relationships/sex). Mark my words.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:45 PM
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LOL, you're not 100% wrong, but it feels wrong to see that written explicitly somewhere hence all the enotionally driven comments. Happy New Year.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:42 PM
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So? You have your personal worldviews. Good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:08 PM
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The way most people talk about the other sex is shortsighted and arrogant, hence offensive. More so if they subscribe to a pill, any pill. Try to get along, instead of pointing fingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:08 PM
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I am a good person in all aspects of my life, now, and in the past; as a married man now, and when in the past I enjoyed FWBs, ONSs. and casual dating. Shitty people are shitty people. It's a lot more fun to have a FWB/ONS/Casual dating when both parties are good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:05 PM
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Yes. Same for money, politics, religions, sports, the role they see themselves in the relationship the role they see the other party in the relationship the expectations from the other party the expectations from the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 10:04 PM
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Girls make their own money, most of the girls i recently dated were usually very happy to pay for dates, splits the bill, pay me gift etc (im in western europe) Yup. it's different in the US (I have lived & worked in western Europe)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 04:01 PM
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Everyone is missing the real point here: a "compliment" or "offense" lies in the eyes of the recepient, not on the giver, regardless of the intentions. So, if the recipient of a message is offended, the message is offensive to them; telling them that it's a compliment and not an offense is bouble-offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/24 02:29 PM
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There's hypocrisy on both sides, and that is one of the main issues in today's dating marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 11:52 PM
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Tl;DR: people are delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 04:09 PM
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Bad for the men who disagree but put up with (their fault IMO), not for the women who want to set that precedent. Source: I am a guy, happily married now, but when I was single I happily paid for first dated with potential FWBs, ONSs, Casual dating (if any); but I prefer to go Dutch the few times I was dating "traditionally.".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 03:13 PM
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Men treat men worse than women do The behavior of Redditors is not representative of all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/24 01:46 AM
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Any content creator that promises to teach you how to “approach women” or attract a “high value man” is a scammer plain and simple. This stuff is just a ploy to get money from desperate men and women. True. Not only about the dating world, but 99.99% of what experts/gurus are pushing. The only way to be attractive to the opposite sex is by being physically attractive, intelligent, competent and being a decent person. Add a decent career and some resemblance of social skills. There is no secret .…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 03:04 PM
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LOL. no.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:37 PM
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It took me a long time to realize that, once I did, my "dating" life changed dramatically and for the better. Lucky me, I didn't stop there, and I started taking accountability and responsibility for everything in my life that I didn't like. Today I am old(er), happily married, with a decent career, financially stable, healthy, living in the city of my dreams (NYC), and very satisfied with my life. And I am not done!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 05:37 PM
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Mandatory? Since when? I didn't get the memo, will I get fined? Jailed?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 04:51 PM
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Maybe. Once can just ignore these "standards". Be cool, do everything legal (this is Reddit so it must be said), and ignore the haters and naysayers. I am now happily married, but in my single's days I sowed my wild oats, so to speak; when I was young I prefered older women, then at some point I switched to younger (legal) women. And yes my wife is younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:18 PM
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I am now happily married, but when I was single and I was trying traditional dating to find a partner for a LTR, I was looking for someone who would bring to the table approx as much as I was: easy on the eye, I think I was too fit and not fat, I was toned/muscular with abs age appropriate financially stable, since I was career in STEM/business, I had the same, and I was always attracted to career women and not SAHM no kids, same as me no lurking ex's, same as me college edcuated, I had an MBA w…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 04:54 PM
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FTFY Telling women pepple that they’re not entitled to protection or human decency shows a sense of entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:20 PM
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I believe when guys challenge women in this way they are telling them "I can have my preferences, but you can't have yours, therefore, you need to appreciate us all" That's what everyone is doing to everyone else. So if men can like what they like in women, women can too. Anyone with 3-5 brain cells agrees with you. The problem is that most people don't have/use 3-5 brain cells, kind of joking, but not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 09:19 PM
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LOL, good question. I am happily married so that's hard for me to address. If I were to become a billionaire now, I'll remain happily married to my wife. Now, if I was a billionaire when I was single, then.... no, I would not have sought a romantic relationship/marriage. Truth be told, prior to meeting my wife, I was not looking for a romantic relationship/marriage, I was happily sowing my wild oats between FWBs, ONSs, and casual dating. Money changes things, let's not fool ourselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 03:36 AM
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Jesus! What year is this? 1884?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 03:52 PM
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FTFY Many Men Most People Struggle in Dating because they are Not Very Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 02:13 AM
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LOL. No. no. no. no. no. I love to have the the opportunity to have easy, NSA casual sex. I am now happily married, but I had a lot of fun prior to this. No regrets for what I had, no regrets for giving it up either. Happy then, happy now. Life's grand.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 07:52 PM
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Why are you your pill? LOL. no pill. Or independent, freelance pill-free Has your pill changed over your lifetime? yup, I was nice guy blue pilled Regarding question #2, why? didn't work Are you open to having your pill change? Meh, doubt it. I am now happily married, and old(er). If my wife were to pass unexpectedly, I would go back to my pre-marriage lifestyle: FWB/ONS/casual dating, no serious dating. Regarding question #4, what would it take? Life's working fine for me (now). I have "solved"…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 08:17 PM
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I used to think that way. No more. It's crucial to analyze what "right" is. I used to think that "right" was what my mother and older sister told me to do/be, what romantic movies told me to do/be, what women in general told me to do/be. Practically, I had become a "nice guy" and a "provider". I failed. Then I started observing women's behavior, to the type of men they were attracted to. Game changer. Life-changing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 02:42 PM
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Again, fingerpointing a certain class of people is never the solution. I'm seriously hoping you're trolling and you don't mean what you write.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:19 AM
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LOL, that's the right attitide. /-s Divisionism is the problem. Dialectic (google it) is the solution, both parties, all parties, coming together with no fingerpointing and finding as much as common ground as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:13 AM
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It's a personal choice. I was always attacted to women with a career in STEM/Business, and never cared for SAHM. I need to be able to have a conversation about something with my choice of partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:11 AM
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Well, it's actually pretty simple: treat people like enemies, and they will become your enemies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:08 AM
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First and foremost, I like your flair Accountability Pilled Man, I am also a big accountability fan. But I am delusional, and I observe the world out there, and accountability is very rare. Yes women do make bad choices, and so do men. And often they go from one relationship/situationship to another that are just carbon copies of the ones that came before. And good shrink says: what is the common denominator? Attraction is not based on logic and reasoning, but it just happens on a primordial lev…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:41 PM
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Dating has become transactional for both genders. I agree on that. I disagree with your solution, I believe that the solution will be sugaring.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:06 AM
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Some boys are brainwashed to become good providers men in order to attract a good wife. And they don't know any better. I know I was. And it worked in attracting women who wanted a provider. I snapped out of it, you feel cheap and used by ungrateful women. And some women are raised to seek providers.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 11:05 AM
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The tool (dating sites) are not the "problem". People are. And we can't fix the people, we are who we are. The major issue that I see is unreasonable expectations: people swipe left on people who swipe right on them, and swipe right on people who swipe left on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:33 PM
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push for change Push for change? IMO you're going to be disappointed. Culture and costumes develop organically, evolution-style. They cannot be pushed. Alas, I have been wrong in the past, I'll grab the popcorn and watch from the sidelines.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 04:34 AM
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I hear your point OP. The "problem" with celibacy is, you know, celibacy. I am now happily married, but before being married, I too got frustrated with the dating world in general. I "solved" the situation by engaging in ONS, FWB, and hooking up. It worked great. If something were to happen to my wife, I would go back to ONS, FWB, and hooking up, or maybe sugaring, why not? There's never 1 single solution to a problem, got to be creative.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:48 PM
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I did start wih most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:18 PM
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There's a very simple explanation: most people (men, women, and everyone else) don't account for much, and yet they want the unreacheable. Once they can't get it, then they turn around ans say "There's nobody good enough for me, and I surely I am not going to lower my standards." Aesop verbalized it perfectly about 2,500 years ago: The Fox & the Grapes A Fox one day spied a beautiful bunch of ripe grapes hanging from a vine trained along the branches of a tree. The grapes seemed ready to burst w…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:50 AM
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Uhm... yeah. I am a guy, and there was a very long time when I was very unlucky with women. Then I changed a few things about myself, both physically/visibly (including, but not limited to, going from skinnyfat to toned/muscular) and in my mindset/mental health, and .... somehow my luck changed. Same for my career; I was a loser, drifting from one dead-end job to another, then I decided to get an education and 2 BS an 1 MBA later .... somehow my luck changed and I was making 6-figures. I am flue…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:14 AM
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... and that's how you get banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:06 AM
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.... or something else? I don't make the rule, I observe the world as-is. Then I improvise, adapt, overcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 12:17 PM
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OP specified: Barring someone grotesquely ugly or morbidly obese or horrifically bad in personality, morals or something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:03 AM
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Are There Really Men Who Make Over 175K A Year And Have Difficulty Finding A Mate? Doubt it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:27 AM
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I clarified that those weird beliefs are being red pilled/ black pilled or just plane angry. That's a mix of complex equivalency + good old fashion backpadeling. If you want to have an intelligent discussion and be taken seriously you need to stop with the logical fallacies and other manipulative techniques. Bless your heart, hope your day gets better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 04:25 PM
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Now you're changing the subject of the conversation; it's called Logical Fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:20 PM
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Well, it's true: Bye bye, the money is on the table. Don't call me, I'll call you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:07 AM
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LOL. I found her, and I married her. Not because of splitting the check, but she's an incredible woman in all aspects of life. And yes she's a successful career woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:19 AM
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LOL there's another thread about "who's paying for the date" and clearly most women believe that the man should pay because it's "normal" and not paying it's "weird". Go take a look. So, being unemployed or underemployed is practically impossible to date for financial reasons. Dating is expensive for a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:10 AM
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They pay for sex because ... the sex is free. The payment is for them to go away and leave the guy alone with no drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:07 AM
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weird beliefs about paying for dates "weird" LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:05 AM
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Adopting check-splitting or similar alternatives would foster a dating culture based on mutual respect, where both people contribute equally. You are correct. And that's why it's not going to happen. I am not happily married, but I remember being single, and this was my rule: for traditional dating, I would pay for the fist date, and then I would tell her: the next date is on you. for casual dating and ONS, I would always pay. Sex was my only concern, so I didn't want the money issue to get in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 02:00 AM
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In before all of the “they must be chasing Chad “, I challenge all men to make a woman’s tinder profile and just look at all of the absolutely uggo men that are looking for “short term fun”…the distribution across attractiveness zones is very even. Most everyone agrees with you on this one. I think men have been fooled by other men into thinking that there’s a huge casual sex market that they should have access to and don’t realize that the ratio of men to women on the apps is actually lower tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:19 AM
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You're good, one of the main points of good discussion is to improve our thinking/writing. Thank you for the note.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 09:44 PM
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Generalizations are, at times, necessary for communication. E.g.: Italian food is delicious. French cuisine is rich. But abuse of generalization often leads to discrimination. Pure and simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:43 PM
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Yes, and these are my political beliefs: I have my philosophical beliefs that drive my political and socio-economic tendencies, and I vote to the best candidates within the choices that I have, not blindly following my political philosophy. I can talk intelligently with other intelligent people who might have opposite philosophical political difference then mine, I am very interested in what they have to say, and I am not interested in silencing them and showing my own belief down their throat a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:37 PM
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All AI ratings place me around 9/10. Perfect body proportions. .....and I haven't dated in 6 years. If that's the case and you're on apps, a lot of guys swipe right on you, the problem is that you swipe left on them. And it's not that "looks aren't shit", is that looks aren't everything. Sure that there are guys that just want to get laid, but the other guys want something more besides the looks. ...I have no friends.... That doesn't surprise me, normal looking women won't relate to you and prob…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 03:41 PM
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Nowhere in my post did I claim or make a blanket statement tha "doesn’t free women from taking initiative.." you use the word "women" in your title to imply all women. LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 01:16 AM
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I think you're falling in the mistake of judging an entire group of individuals for the shortcoming of one (or a few). Dating is about getting to know another person and how we agree on things. Your interaction with this woman shows that the two of you are incompatible, so move on from this person, but not all women are like that. Had I been in your shoes, I would have probably moved on like you did, and blocked her for good measure. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 12:51 AM
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I don't decide how to call it, culture at large does. Sugaring or some other euphemism. I understand what you're saying. You're not understanding what I am saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:46 PM
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Do men realize those women don’t like or respect those men? not part of the equation, and in sugaring there's no respect from either side. It's just transactional sugaring. I was not talking about love or finding love, I am not even talking about me (I am happily married), I am just looking at the breadcrumbs and see where things are going. If tomorrow is going to rain, it's going to rain whether we like it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:28 PM
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If you're a guy actively dating today, the more you spend on a date, the greater the chances of getting laid are. Let me explain, let's say you have 5 dates lines up with 5 different women, all women are equal in all aspects: Date #1: you take her for a walk in the Park and a 99 cents slice of pizza Date #2: you take her to McDonald. Date #3: you take her to a movie and Shake Shack Date #4: you take her to an average restaurant. Date #5: you take her to a Michelin starred restaurant. My money is…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:22 PM
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Let's be fair: everyone blames everyone else. And that is true within any context. Welcome to 2025.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:05 PM
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LOL. That's why sugaring is the future of dating. It works for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 11:04 PM
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If no one asked you, shut up. That's interesting. Does this apply to women too? Because, you know, nobody asked you (for this post). Just sayin.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 01:05 PM
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Sugaring is the future of dating. And it's fair, very fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 02:14 AM
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Feminist hate and lies helped Trump to win Maybe. Here's another theory: Misandry (and lies too) helped Trump to win. Quite possibly is the combination of both. The solution: stop the hate, stop the battle of the sexes, and Dialectic to find common ground and cooperate to find a win-win instead of win-lose. Politics is no different than the status of dating circa 2025.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 08:56 PM
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Flash a wad of cash, metaphorically speaking that is. Take her shopping. #SUGARING
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:25 AM
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Hookup culture is a subset of the "Fuck-it, why not? (YOLO)" culture. You see that everywhere, very little adulting, just playing around. I am now happily married, but when I was young(er) I did partake in the hookup culture and had a lot of fun, at the same time I had a very responsible life outside the dating world. A good balance. On the same like I have my own balanced investment portfolio but I do enjoy observing WSB.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 02:19 AM
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Wait for the AI-powered sex robots to come onto the market in 6-24 months.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:12 AM
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It's not the apps, it's the people: People lie. People have unreasonable expectations: they swipe left on people who swipe right on them; and they swipe right on people who swipe left on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 03:07 AM
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Like for any advice in life: Read and understand the advice. Process it using critical thinking skills. Decide whether you want to give it a try, or not. If you decide to give it a try, go out there in the world, and try it out. You decide whether it worked for you, or no. Iterate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:53 PM
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LOL, isn't that a personal choice and not one that can be policed? What year is this? George Orwell's 1984? If anything, shouldn't the statement gender neutral? Men and women need to stop believing and spreading the idea that having sex with a lot of people is more ideal than just having sex with people you can find through your passions. Unless... OP can make a good argument that such a statement does not / should not apply to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:40 AM
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LOL, not at all! The issue with dating today is unreasonable expectations: people swipe left to people who swipe right on them; and swipe right to people who swipe left on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 02:39 AM
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I can understand the the BDSM kink, sure. But IRL? Everyday relationship? Meh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 07:41 PM
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Who in their right mind would want a "submissive" partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 03:35 PM
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It's not the app's or the events that are the causes of disappointing outcomes. It's the people. You touched on the key fact when you mentioned top guys, I would expand to say top men and women, and these individuals don't go to single's event because they don't need to, and for them the apps work great; on top of their IRL activities. The dating world as a whole is the product of the actions of the individuals in it as a whole; everyone does what's most convenient for them in the short term (sm…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 01:14 AM
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OP: Your flair says Blue Pill Man, but you don't sound like Blue Pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 12:21 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 02:35 PM
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Wikipedia says that the only difference between a man's circadian rhythm and a woman's is 0.10 hours / 6 minutes. So, that invalidates the comment that men operate on just a circadian rhythm and women don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:04 PM
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Consistent with this research was a more recent study from 2010, which also identified sex differences, with the circadian period for women being slightly shorter (24.09 hours) than for men (24.19 hours).[88] In this study, women tended to wake up earlier than men and exhibit a greater preference for morning activities than men, although the underlying biological mechanisms for these differences are unknown.[88] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Circadian_rhythm
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 03:55 PM
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.... but I hardly ever see the reverse. ... You're correct, women don't talk as much as guys do about dating at large. But the topic of this debate is not whether they talk or not, is whether it happens or not. I am old(er). When I was young I was attracted to older women, and I had no trouble whatsoever to find takers. Then at one point, around age 35, I switched, and I was then into younger women. Successfully "Dating" younger women is not as easy as "dating" older women, but still very feasib…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 03:18 PM
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This is Reddit, the proper spelling on Reddit is sauce. sauce here Logical fallacy much? If your statement were true, the consequence would be that you have no problems whatsoever dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 03:12 PM
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How are those relevant to this context? I seriously hope you're trolling.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 02:00 PM
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Because your on a *you're also many high IQ people tend to have personality disorders such as autism LOL, Sauce? Please don't say Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 01:49 PM
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I disagree. We should have laws to prevent certain actions .... Like... what? and social stigma to prevent others Like... what? No, I'm trying to convince you through argumentation Oh I see. Good use of your 1st Amendment. The same Amendment lets me LOL at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 11:56 AM
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Cheaters want the cake, and eat it too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:18 AM
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LOL. People should do whatever they want to. We all have agency: use it. Society is better off when children are raised in stable, two-parent households. This tends to occur when the parents are married to each other. That's difficult to do if males are not getting married and are going their own way. So what? Are you "forcing" something on me? It's impossible for a woman to pursue her passions (like fashion blogging, photographer, event coordinator, etc)... Yikes, IMO those are bad examples of …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:07 AM
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Depends, if someone is used to it like they have had women attracted to them all their life, I guess it's not a big deal. Me, personally, I'm like the ugly duckling story, so I went from an awkward skinny-fat low-self-esteem nerd to a confident guy with abs/biceps and no problems securing FWBs/hookups/ONS(s). I have a few stories, LOL. It feels amazing. I am now happily married to a young, beautiful woman with an incredible body who adores me. Here and there I look back at some of my ex(s), and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 04:03 AM
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