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| 1 | Minorities of seddit, how do you work around blaming your failures because of racial negative stereotypes?I know lots of tall guys and even some guys who are both tall and good looking who absolutely suck with women | /r/seduction | 08/02/16 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Minorities of seddit, how do you work around blaming your failures because of racial negative stereotypes?There is nothing to be proud in of what you are born with because you didn't work for it. (whether you think what you were born with is positive or negative) What you become proud of is how you live your life, and how you do the best you can with what you got. That being said, I have a friend who is a 5 foot 6 asian guy who has had sex with lots of very hot white & latino women. (some models) But he's worked ridiculously hard at himself (gym, professional life, approaching women -- he's talked t… | /r/seduction | 07/02/16 11:38 PM |
| -1 | Where Neil Strauss is NowHe shouldn't be a victim. How old is he? Come on.. You shouldn't throw your mom under the bus in order to write a really popular book and pretend your doing it to be "authentic" | /r/seduction | 05/02/16 05:45 AM |
| 11 | Where Neil Strauss is NowImage re-branding. Just his ego trying to get people to like him and try to make people think he's a good guy. He said bad things about his mom apparently in his book. | /r/seduction | 04/02/16 09:23 PM |
| 7 | Gaming should be supplemental, not coreNice, agreed! Great post Do actually cool stuff with your life! The only time "pickup" should be your "core" thing is IF YOU ARE A PICKUP INSTRUCTOR. Because then it IS YOUR JOB. But then people who digest pickup material think their core should be the instructor's core too lol | /r/seduction | 03/02/16 01:46 AM |
| 3 | A simple trick to get people to like you (x-post from /r/socialskillsThe key is to be 100% sincere, and say it with zero neediness or zero care for how the girl reacts. The key isn't to "immediately disappear" lol. Only if you were insincere would it be good for you to immediately dissapear. Immediately disappearing is you trying to look like you were not being needy, rather than ACTUALLY not being needy | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 09:31 AM |
| 3 | A simple trick to get people to like you (x-post from /r/socialskillsWere you 100% genuine and sincere? Or were you making the compliment to try to get her to like you / just to make convo? Sincerity is key | /r/seduction | 23/01/16 09:30 AM |
| 1 | Scientists say there's one quality in men that women find even more attractive than good looks: selflessness.Even if you have ONS using what game teaches, you are being valuable to the other person for that point in their life. Not necessarily. Lots of women are really hurt and damaged from feeling like guys used them during ONS. | /r/seduction | 19/01/16 08:56 AM |
| 1 | Scientists say there's one quality in men that women find even more attractive than good looks: selflessness.I don't think game and altruism are at odds with eachother.. If you think your game is selfish.. it may be time to evaluate how you are interacting with women and if that lifestyle is making you proud of how you live your life? I'm very impressed with Zan Perrion. His message doesn't even have a hint of misogyny in it. It's all about loving women. Checkout The Alabaster Girl if you are ready for a heart-shift. "Game" has tainted lots of men. There is a Jedi way about going about this. You don't … | /r/seduction | 19/01/16 07:19 AM |
| 6 | After I read/watched some PUA, tried it and used different approaches, I found that Daygame works best and makes most sense, personally it has eliminated ALL approach anxiety compared to others. What do you guys think, what do you prefer and why?I have some friends who are average looking who do awesome doing day game. Day game is easier than night game for average guys. Day game is probably easier for all guys actually. But it takes balls. And social calibration. And core confidence. Takes practice too. I have a friend who's probably done like 3k daygame approaches. I've met and hungout with Sasha too. He's a beast. His daygame and charisma talking to random girls was incredible. He's a beast Night game you are competing with other guy… | /r/seduction | 27/12/15 08:41 AM |
| 3 | YOU ONLY FUCKING LIVE ONCEReincarnation may be real haha. :) | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Destiny happens in a secondAgreed with what you said. Sometimes you can meet the right girl too even if you didn't want to talk but forced it. "a art which you know nothing about" haha where did that come from? | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 09:38 PM |
| 1 | Destiny happens in a secondThat high is an illusion. It's your ego. Well.. eventually your going to plan on seeing her again for a date... Text and phones is primarily to set that up | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Destiny happens in a secondWell.. think about when you hangout with eachother the first time after meeting (a "day 2"). That'll probably be 20 min to an hour long. Or longer. Do you have trouble then? | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 09:35 PM |
| 42 | Destiny happens in a secondGoing straight for the number is good for this situation. But most guys ask for the number too soon. They want to feel accomplished by getting the number. It's their ego. The longer you talk to her and give her a chance to get to know you before you ask her number.. the better chance she'll respond. Most pickup guys now ask for a number fast, and then are surprised when they never get a text back. Getting a phone number means nothing nowadays. Getting a phone number is not an accomplishment or s… | /r/seduction | 22/12/15 07:39 AM |
| 1 | The Alabaster Girl from Zan Perrion free on Amazon for a few days, best seduction book I've readBest seduction book I've read too. Beautiful book. It's a hidden gem. | /r/seduction | 14/12/15 07:42 PM |
| 1 | My game was just too smoothMaybe she was intimidated and just prefers takings things slow. Lots of girls dont want the perfect smooth guy because it makes them feel insecure. And when they feel insecure, they dont feel good. Therefore wouldn't want to further do stuff with you. | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 09:24 AM |
| 1 | How do you be Vulnerable without being needy?You be vulnerable for it's own sake, rather than as a tactic to deepen connection. You be vulnerable because it feels good to be vulnerable and real with others. | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 09:05 AM |
| 1 | What self-growth/development books do you guys recommend?The Alchemist | /r/seduction | 13/12/15 09:04 AM |
| 1 | Are there any good youtube channels about talking to women and social skills that aren't silly like SimplePickup or any joking pick-up channels?www.youtube.com/shogogarcia is awesome. Shogo dramatically changed my life a lot. He's very very natural. Check me out if you want: youtube.com/GoldJacketLuke | /r/seduction | 12/12/15 01:24 AM |
| 54 | Great quote I remember when feeling insecureLove it. Awesome post. I stutter everyonce in awhile. Lately I've just been accepting it. And recently someone commented, "You know your stutter is actually kind of cool. When you stutter, it makes me really pay attention on what you are saying. It grabs the energy of the room and get's people focus. Your stutter works for you". Something like that. He was being serious and actually admired my stutter and that it gave me a charm After that compliment, I've been a lot less insecure about my stutt… | /r/seduction | 10/12/15 09:25 PM |
| 1 | I thought I was the only one who felt this kind of anxiety around women, then I saw this film...BEAUTIFUL | /r/seduction | 08/12/15 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Anybody ever seek psychiatric help?Sounds like you just haven't met a girl where you have great chemistry yet. I'm wired the same way where with most girls I don't have chemistry. But then I meet a girl, or even a male friend, and we just instantly vibe. Maybe you are like me. Do you have any close friends or any relationships (male, female, family, coach, etc.) with whom you really vibe with?? | /r/seduction | 07/12/15 02:35 AM |
| 5 | "We should stop hanging out because you'll break my heart. Bye"Yep. This is the first thought that came to my mind too. Are you giving her vibes that you are a player? Contrary to lots of guys on this sub's views... lots of women are not attracted to guys who "try to be the player". Are you a player OP? | /r/seduction | 07/12/15 02:33 AM |
| 1 | "We should stop hanging out because you'll break my heart. Bye"Great advice and nicely said. Very true. OP is getting great advice here. | /r/seduction | 07/12/15 02:31 AM |
| 1 | "We should stop hanging out because you'll break my heart. Bye"Nice. :) Yeah STX gave you great advice here | /r/seduction | 07/12/15 02:31 AM |
| 4 | "We should stop hanging out because you'll break my heart. Bye"STX gave great advice. Well here's the real question.. are you going to break her heart? Are you that type of guy? Do you have the intention of seeing other girls while dating her? Do you wish to be exclusive with her? etc. Does her statement have any validity? Really think about those questions. While it's easy to just go "she's just an insecure mess", and while that probably is true. Is what she is saying have validity to it? | /r/seduction | 07/12/15 02:30 AM |
| 2 | Finding balance between talking about her or yourself?I've found girls really don't care about accomplishments. Just let those come out naturally.. If anything, I often try to hide my accomplishments. Me talking about them makes me sound try-hard as if I was trying to impress her, rather than just enjoying the connection. Girls can just sense your core confidence off how you act, you dont need to tell them.. | /r/seduction | 06/12/15 08:15 PM |
| 4 | What are some fun alternatives to lifting/fitness?Lately I have been playing pickup basketball at my local universities gym. And then trying to lift 2-3x a week. Balance between fun and health I guess. But I'm in the same boat, lifting is much harder than how it used to bring me joy 3 years ago. Getting back into basketball has been really fun though. I used to play a ton as a kid. | /r/seduction | 06/12/15 08:12 PM |
| 2 | If a guy has no libido is it possible for a female to find him attractive?Forget about seduction for the time being and focus on having the healthiest body you can for now. srs. It's challenging. But tons of people heal their anorexia. It may take massive effort and discipline though. But after momentum and habits are established, will be much much easier. | /r/seduction | 06/12/15 10:23 AM |
| 2 | I'm never aware of what my situation is with a chick.You've gotten great feedback so far. I think this vid might interest you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEW3wxS3RbQ Applying that mindset here. I wish you the best brother! :-) | /r/seduction | 06/12/15 04:30 AM |
| 4 | "Nobody can hurt you without your consent."Great post! At the same time, sometimes it seems that some guys "try to be tough guys", and repress their emotion. It's ok to be sad. It's ok to be hurt. We're all going to have times where we don't have the strength. So don't repress your emotions if they are real. Don't pretend. But at the same time, take full responsibility, and with all your strength move to positivity the best you can :) | /r/seduction | 06/12/15 04:28 AM |
| 2 | If a guy has no libido is it possible for a female to find him attractive?I'm sure. Probably be more platonic / life partner thing though. But I'd like to ask, why do you or whoever doesn't have a libido? Kissing, cuddling, human touch, and just intimacy is some of the best things about a relationship anyways. And just knowing someone cares about you and having a partner in life | /r/seduction | 06/12/15 04:26 AM |
| 3 | I might be too picky about a women's looks. How to you get over this and become more realistic?Another point, is make sure you are not rationalizing when you are actually being a pussy. If you start connecting with a girl and then make the excuse "she's not attractive enough for me.." Is she really not attractive enough for you? Or are you just saying that as a rationalization, an excuse, because you are a pussy and afraid of being real with a girl? Afraid of rejection? Be really honest with yourself here. Because if it's a rationalization / or an excuse.. you gotta push through that Best… | /r/seduction | 03/12/15 09:18 PM |
| 2 | The REAL Reason You're Afraid To Ask Girls OutThe Boys In The Boat The title and synopsis didn't super excite me at first. But my dad highly recommended it to me so I started reading.. But just after reading a few pages, it REALLY sucked me in! Damn it's a good book. AMAZING book. A page turner. Very exciting and inspiring. Learning a lot about history too. I'm only 70 pages in or so.. but so far I highly, highly recommended it. It's been an awesome book so far. True story too. So very extra inspiring because it's real. | /r/seduction | 03/12/15 08:15 PM |
| 2 | The REAL Reason You're Afraid To Ask Girls OutGotcha. Awareness / acceptance and making that internal decision to move forward IMO are the two most important things I'm currently reading a book about a guy who lived during the great depression, his mom died a traumatic death when he was around 4. At about 8 his dad re-married. The new wife kicked the boy out of his house a couple years later and he lived with a school teacher in trade for working a shitton. Imagine an 8 year old doing tons of labor. Eventually he moved back in with his dad … | /r/seduction | 03/12/15 08:10 PM |
| 1 | The REAL Reason You're Afraid To Ask Girls OutCan you elaborate? What was / is your relationship with your mom like? | /r/seduction | 03/12/15 07:59 PM |
| 3 | I might be too picky about a women's looks. How to you get over this and become more realistic?For GUYS, looks is what gets women in the door. First impressions. And therefore, us guys project our perceptions onto females. Thinking that looks matter to females, because they matter to us. Not realizing that women operate sooo sooo sooooo differently than men. For females, it's your energy that gets you in the door. If you can make her FEEL GOOD with positive, and secure energy.. you're in the front door. Secure energy as in your not being a clown, or trying to get her validation, but just … | /r/seduction | 03/12/15 07:24 PM |
| 3 | You are more attractive when you don't seem to care for the other person. [Question]There is a difference between love, and validation. The optimal attention that you can give a girl.. is a wrong question to ask. That's like manipulating your behavior in order to get her to like you. Rather than just being your congruent self, whatever that is. Girls you don't care about who seem attracted to you just want your validation, it's fake ego stuff. That's not real attraction. That's validation. Rather than even thinking about these things.. just focus on building an awesome you. And… | /r/seduction | 03/12/15 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Seduction for Indian/Asian/Insert Minority Here. A general Guide to Improving Yourself and Gaining Success with Women in America. Part 1.I have an asian friend who is 5 foot 5. He has pulled the most physically attractive girls out of my network. I'm serious. He banged a famous model. That being said, he's completely worked his ass off at improving himself and his life. Just adding that in to give some of you guys inspiration. :-) | /r/seduction | 01/12/15 07:12 AM |
| 1 | The world is small.. And I am letting my fear of developing a bad reputation get in the way of saying care free about how interactions play out.The fear of developing a bad reputation is valid. I know some "creepy pickup guys" that developed a reputation on their college campuses and it really hurt them. Most people will say "dgaf.. fuck what people think" But I digress. Rather, how about you calibrate to where you can go after your desires, but also do so in a more elegant way? What are you doing now that is damaging your reputation? | /r/seduction | 01/12/15 02:53 AM |
| 2 | I turn 27 in a few days, and I feel like I'm stuck in the same place I was when I was 17Cool. Yeah, a big thing I see in seduction groups is guys soley focusing on women. That's a terrible strategy. Focus on ALL your connections in life. Friends. Family. Coworkers. Dentist. Everyone. Girls you are attracted to. Girls you are not attracted to. Old/young. "cool" people, "not cool" people. Everyone. Making female friends that you are not attracted to is a big thing guys in the seduction community don't seem to do. This is HUGE and one of the best ways to meet women. Now when I say tha… | /r/seduction | 30/11/15 02:18 AM |
| 3 | I turn 27 in a few days, and I feel like I'm stuck in the same place I was when I was 17Wow, ignore that thread OP. The guy completely misinterpreted you. Seems like he's just an insecure guy and wanted to be a dick to you.. ignore that thread. Sad that someone would make that thread and twist your words around soo much | /r/seduction | 30/11/15 02:15 AM |
| 0 | I turn 27 in a few days, and I feel like I'm stuck in the same place I was when I was 17Yeah I'm very impressed with your self-awareness. Being self-aware and honest with yourself is the biggest step that most guys struggle with. And in my opinion, the most important step. Hmm.. in regards to vulnerability. Could you practice opening up and being more vulnerable with friends first? Or anyone in your life? A brother. A coach. A family friend. Your dentist. etc. I made an awesome friend 3 years ago. A male friend my age. And we shared tons of insecurities together. My mind had no fil… | /r/seduction | 30/11/15 02:03 AM |
| 4 | I turn 27 in a few days, and I feel like I'm stuck in the same place I was when I was 17It's great for noobies. As it it really energizes you and gets you to take action. But for me, all that action was coming from a place of insecurity and ego. I was connecting with girls because I wanted to "feel like a guy who could pull hot girls", rather than genuinely connecting with the girl. I wanted to prove to my friends to my self that I was a "high quality guy". RSD teaches that connected with girls is WORK. And that you should force yourself to approach girls. Force yourself to be valu… | /r/seduction | 30/11/15 01:32 AM |
| 1 | I turn 27 in a few days, and I feel like I'm stuck in the same place I was when I was 17Interesting. Good, yeah do it for the adventure / experience / career growth. It seems like you have a healthy mindset about everything. Often times when people post stuff like "27 year old virgin.." it's pretty apparent pretty quickly some things that could be improved. But so far for you, you seem like a bright guy who is thinking things through clearly and intelligently. And to be quite self-aware. I have a friend who's 33. He said as he's aged, and true for most guys, just the dating scene g… | /r/seduction | 30/11/15 01:18 AM |
| 1 | I turn 27 in a few days, and I feel like I'm stuck in the same place I was when I was 17Ahh very interesting. Thanks for the reply. Teaching English in Japan would be fascinating. I'm curious how you'd do dating over there. Are you into Japanese girls? Perhaps their dating culture would more suit your personality | /r/seduction | 30/11/15 12:50 AM |
| 12 | I turn 27 in a few days, and I feel like I'm stuck in the same place I was when I was 17There is a population of men who GET WORSE from the seduction community. I was one of them too. Although it was a necessary step for me, and looking back a process that I'm very greatly that I went through. So I only have love for the seduction community, and it seems like everyone in the community is evolving into healthier and healthier and more effective mindsets. But for some of us, it's important to really think about what we're learning and really be self-aware of the information we are di… | /r/seduction | 29/11/15 11:43 PM |
| 0 | Wanted to share some small advice about changing your choice of words depending on the age of the targetCan we stop using words like "target" and start just saying "girl" or "women"? Seriously.. how cringe can we be.... It's not 2006. | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 04:58 AM |
| 0 | Losing faith in women, or, the trouble with successWow, just read some of the replies to this thread and I'm impressed with lots of them. Good stuff gentlemen :-) | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Losing faith in women, or, the trouble with successChange your aim. Too be honest.. pickup puts "physically attractive" girls on a pedestal, and marginalized actual high quality girls with good personalities. Stop being a PUA, and start to go for more high quality women who have class and good personalities. | /r/seduction | 26/11/15 04:57 AM |
| 1 | How do you stand out to a '9' or '10' who knows she can get '9' or '10' guys?Think about "chemistry" rather than "social value". If you date some "9s" or "10s", you'll soon find that they maybe have some serious issue, or that you just don't enjoy their presence. Likewise you may date a "6", and learn you love her presence and her presence is sexy as you got past initial first cultural impressions It's an individual case for each person. | /r/seduction | 25/11/15 08:57 AM |
| 1 | For "incredibly shy" or "slightly autistic" men: How to improve with zero social status?Not strange at all. I think that's a great question. Honestly, I'm not really sure exactly. But the first thoughts that to my mind is you just enjoy being in the present moment with someone in a "real connection." (rather than talking to them as if you are just trying to seduce them and get their sexual approval) So I don't think there's any "structure" to realness haha. You definitely don't need to go with her to group social events if that's not congruent to you | /r/seduction | 24/11/15 07:32 AM |
| 1 | For "incredibly shy" or "slightly autistic" men: How to improve with zero social status?Gotcha. Thanks for explaining in more detail. Sorry if I judged you a bit. I guess my only thoughts would be, rather than focus on a goal like "just a one night stand", maybe focus on actually having a real connection with a girl? I honestly think lots of guys who aren't getting laid get brainwashed by lots of the stuff they see by PUAs, etc. I think focusing on getting laid actually repels girls. But if you focus on realness, you'll have a better shot at realness, and have a better chance at ca… | /r/seduction | 24/11/15 12:19 AM |
| 3 | Any time I show vulnerability to girls it ends terriblyShowing vulnerability shouldn't be used as a "tactic" or "strategy" to get laid.. Vulnerability is used to deepen and have a real and authentic connection with another human being. If you're being vulnerable because "vulnerability works", and it's not congruent for you to be vulnerable at that time.. it'll come off in your vibes / body language. | /r/seduction | 23/11/15 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Fatal Dating MistakesArticle is GREAT because with all this onslaught of information that we get.. it's very easy to hyper judge ourselves and to think that we messed up somewhere because there is a "right" way to do something. Or that we did something "wrong". And while all this information we receive is great, and very helpful. It's best to remember it's just a general guide.. and that we are all very unique individuals. It's very important to let go, take it easy on ourselves sometimes, and to not be always super… | /r/seduction | 23/11/15 02:35 AM |
| 1 | For "incredibly shy" or "slightly autistic" men: How to improve with zero social status?May I ask you to explain why you have the goal that you have? I found it very odd. If you just want to get laid once every three years, why not just go to Amsterdam every three years? You are not interested in having a real relationship with a girl? Real intimacy and caring? Not judging you, but just being honest that I found your desire odd. And if you clarified your desire I think it'll be easier to give advice for you :-) | /r/seduction | 22/11/15 09:53 AM |
| 2 | What can I do to improve myself?Limit your internet usage Read The Alabaster Girl Read The Alchemist Remove bad habits Try new things Travel if you can Be honest | /r/seduction | 20/11/15 04:55 AM |
| 2 | My adolescence has ruined meProps and good job losing lots of the weight though brah :) And believe me, you are YOUNG AS FUCK. So much potential for growth and change in the future. Your mind will be blown | /r/seduction | 20/11/15 04:12 AM |
| 3 | My adolescence has ruined meStop complaining or making excuses. Take full responsibility for your life. Your past doesn't create the now, or the future. Imagine yourself at age 23 if you stay positive going forward Best of luck brah :-) | /r/seduction | 20/11/15 04:11 AM |
| 2 | Do you have oneitis even if you have good game?The better my game, the more oneitis feels I have haha ;) It's not a bad thing. Oneitis' are AMAZING for growth and learning who you are as a person. These things take time and patience. | /r/seduction | 14/11/15 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Possible to get a girl attracted to you again?I have learned that anything is possible in life. Life is incredible. That being said.. lots of times are fantasies are not aligned with reality.. And we are hidden behind ego delusions. But anything is possible my friend :-) | /r/seduction | 14/11/15 06:23 AM |
| 1 | I dont know what went wrongAwesome job to go on the date though and to put yourself out there :-) Every experience is a learning experiencing helping us grow stronger. Keep it up | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 08:09 AM |
| 2 | Seduction is BEING ATTRACTIVEGood point. What I'm saying is that often we hide behind facing our real insecurities with "approach approach approach". The truth is that working on overcoming “approach anxiety” isn't the only path the the top of the mountain, as the OP made it sound. It’s an obstacle that makes people feel inadequate, and then that inadequacy is used as a puzzle/distraction/diversion to avoid intimacy, to suppress other aspects of one’s personality, and to hinder and an excuse for them as to why they are not … | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 07:59 AM |
| 1 | /r/ hey guys i'm really nerveous around girl it started when i was young going to highschool partiesMaybe start with compliments? | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 07:50 AM |
| 1 | How does your approach change when the goal is meaningful conversation?I'd probably approach less. and instead focus on building a life that I am proud of and focus on my social circle, and my interests. Doing more fun activities. Because odds are, your chemistry with a stranger to have meaningful conversation is probably low. And you can be using that energy into more productive things. (clubs, dance class, education, your career, improving your current friendships and expanding you social circle, family, your passions, travel etc.) and from the above.. more oppor… | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 07:46 AM |
| 2 | How to proceed with shy girls that indicate interest?It sounds like everything is perfect so far. There was no reason for her to text you back, so don't worry about that at all I think you are just craving her validation via text. That being said, I think your text is good. I think it'd be better to propose a date and time, rather than having her tell you her schedule though. I'd go with this: "Hey X, I have something really fun I want to do. I can't tell you what it is but are you free Wednesday evening?" something like that I think it's fine to … | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 05:21 AM |
| 6 | Telling co-workers I'm 18?I disagree with "don't shit where you eat" That advice more applies to being careful if you are in a serious career, where there can be serious repercussions. If you are 17 and working at an ice-skating rink lol.. go have fun! Agreed about "not lying" though. Be honest | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Seduction is BEING ATTRACTIVEFun post! The only way to do that is to face rejection directly and make it your bitch. There are other ways to become attractive besides just growing your rejection threshold. Walk up, and say "I have to go, but you seem cool. Can I get your number real quick?". It won't work every time; it won't even work MOST of the time, but that doesn't matter; you're getting experience. I think there's more value in trying to have a real conversation with a girl, rather than just going in for the kill. Goi… | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 05:15 AM |
| 1 | Should I tell my gf[22] it's my first relationship? I'm 27.Fist off, congrats on getting your first GF! Very inspiring to lots of us I'm sure that you finally got your first GF at 27! :-) Definitely do not lie. Period. I don't think there is a "right" answer. I'd go with your gut. Eventually, she should know the truth. But for now, just say what you are comfortable telling her Best of luck! :) And to be honest, if she likes you for you, she really won't care. IF ANYTHING, it could be a GOOD THING. She feels special that she's your first. She's glad you … | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 05:01 AM |
| 2 | She told me I sucked in bed.Ah, my bad. I read it wrong the first go-around. I guess my point still stands though. You gave him a very good guide, but it has to be sincere. | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 04:14 AM |
| 2 | Stuck on the first hurdle - approachingNo "right answer". Perhaps baby steps? Next time say "hi". Or ask one question to her. My favorite thing to do when I feel like how you express is to give compliments. Just give a women a sincere compliment, and then continue walking. Better than doing nothing, and a step in the right direction. Compliments are gold. Perhaps that's a next action step for you to slowly move in a more confident direction. Best of luck brother :-) | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 02:58 AM |
| 2 | Are all people equal?Great question! :-) How you think is how you think.. you shouldn't judge how you naturally think. I think she is hinting at something, but not very good at expressing what she is hinting at. She probably truly doesn't understand what he is trying to communicate to you I think it's more "When you judge others, you are subconsciously judging yourself" type of thing that is the real truth. Let me know your thoughts on this video: https://youtu.be/sVd-eV2RH6A | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 02:56 AM |
| 2 | She told me I sucked in bed.Agreed. I'd be appreciative that she was being honest with me. So I know what to improve on. It's easy for our egos to always attack the girl. "She brokeup with me for no reason! What a bitch. I wish she just said why.." to "She brokeup with me because she said I such at sex. What a bitch!" The key is to not blame the girl, not take things personally, but to focus on improving our insecurities. | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 02:53 AM |
| 3 | She told me I sucked in bed.See the main thing is that it he has be to sincere. If he says "I want to tear your ass up" and tries to be seductive without being congruent about it. He's going to look even worse. | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 02:51 AM |
| 4 | I'm fun in person, and I do interesting things. However, I don't know how to convey myself over text as an interesting individual.I'm kind of the same, I feel you bro. I literally just text spontaneously now. Often just say first thing that comes into my mind. Text the first thing I feel like saying. Without judging it.. just whatever I spontaneously do. BOOM. And then I double check it to make sure it's not retarded in some way.. and then send. Curious to the other advice on this thread | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 02:49 AM |
| 1 | To "super like" or to "like" on Tinder, that is the question.Lol I can't believe I'm posting about this. So much more substantive or valuable things we can be discussing haha.. But curious if any of you had thought on this. I'm guessing one of you will blow my mind with some tinder theory.. | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 02:47 AM |
| 1 | To "super like" or to "like" on Tinder, that is the question.I'm thinking girls prefer to be super liked. And that if you "super like" you have a better chance of getting into conversation. Girls desire to be desired. But I guess the counter-argument would be that it shows too much interest too soon. I prefer the more bold approach I guess | /r/seduction | 13/11/15 02:44 AM |
| 1 | The easy way to always avoid rejection?Very cool post. I'm guessing most sedditors will find probably valid reasons for you to push more. But let me say this.. The guy I learned the most "game" from, his name is Shogo, he basically NEVER gets rejected from women. Like EVER. It's insane and it's very different than most pickup guys. You know why? He's a MASTER at sensing the girl's energy, and whether she is interested. So I think there is some truth to what you are saying. :-) Thanks for sharing & best of luck brother! | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 01:29 PM |
| 2 | Something is wrong with my game since I found a FWB.Very very cool that you can easily attract younger girls being your age. One thought that came to me.. Since your sex drive is being filled with your FWB, perhaps you have less of a drive to find sex. And therefore, your "game" is weaker. Because you know you already have sex. I mean, that's kind of the first obvious thing to point out. However, on the contrary it can be argued that you should have a more abundant and less needy vibe because of the FWB too.. May I ask you how your "game" is with… | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Not having one night stands or multiple fuck buddies? You are probably TOO high value. Here's what you do.Very interesting post man. "You don't want to be going around consciously manipulating people's perceptions of you ... because that's kinda creepy." Isn't that kind of what you are implying with your whole post though? Your whole post is about manipulating her perception of you, rather than just being yourself. Albeit, your post is very interesting because it's about trying to lower that perceived value, rather than raising it. Very interesting man. I enjoyed reading your thoughts! Thanks for sh… | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 01:21 PM |
| 7 | Good kissers: what do you do when you first kiss a girl?Curious to hear other guys' answers to this thread. All women prefer different things, so there is no "right answer". But for me, I often find I kind of start to calibrate to how the girl kisses. I can feel her energy and can kind of just sense how she likes to be kissed. Sorry to be vague, but not sure anything concrete I can say. So yeah, curious to see what advice other guys have for you. Best of luck mate :-) | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Should I ask her out for a coffee?How much have you talked to her so far? Like 20 second conversations? Or anything substantial? Did she seem to be interested in you? What vibes did she give off? How often do you see her? When does the class end? (like how many more months to give us a timescale) (In the future, I'd recommend going into more detail in the OP brother. :-) It's hard to give advice based on limited info.) | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Should I ask her out for a coffee?Thanks for clarifying. I would say, baby steps. It sounds like you've talked to her a little bit. How did it go? You obviously still like her? Maybe next time talk to her for another minute. No need to go straight to asking her out, I like to idea of getting to know her more first. If she gets to know you more too, better chances of her saying yes to you asking her out | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 01:03 PM |
| 1 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'"every guy is a dog/player/etc" Or she might of gotten the vibe from OP that OP was a dog/player/etc She maybe doesn't have that perspective about all guys, just OP based off their interaction. But agreed on your last sentence regarding that there is not enough comfort and trust | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 12:33 PM |
| 1 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'Any of these would yield a different result than what OP got. If you want, I can elaborate on why. "Any of these..". k. Only if you had the time and desire, I would appreciate if you elaborated why to this: Or maybe she didn't like OP that much. Maybe she wasn't insecure, and just didn't like OP. I'm curious to what you would say, because I'll probably be able to provide a different and valid perspective. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 11:54 AM |
| 2 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'Thanks for keeping it civil and mature too. I just realized in my last post I was talking a bit out of context. I apologize for that. When clicking on the red letter on reddit and replying there.. you only see the last post, rather than the entire conversation history. With experience, you'll learn that patterns repeat. In my experience, I've learned to always expect the outlier. In the game of love, the only constant seems to be surprise after surprise after surprise. (At least from my experien… | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 11:46 AM |
| -1 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'This is insecurity. Insecurity that she isn't good enough to keep his attention. You are projecting. You don't know why she did what she did. Maybe her grandma died last week and she just didn't feel like kissing him. Or maybe she is recovering from oral herpes. Or maybe she just doesn't enjoy kissing very much. Or maybe she didn't like OP that much. Maybe she wasn't insecure, and just didn't like OP. Did you think about that? | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 11:08 AM |
| -1 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'The definition of fear is: An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain Her fear of HIM was larger than her enjoyment of him. This has nothing to do with her insecurity. Insecurity, is about yourself. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 10:53 AM |
| 5 | Enjoying Yourself vs SeductionWould you have enjoyed yourself more if you hit on girls? I think you're a bit confused.. The trick is to ACTUALLY ENJOY YOURSELF. NOT "to look like you belong there" or to "make girls think you are enjoying yourself" | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 10:17 AM |
| -1 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'Not necessarily "definitely insecure". Maybe she thinks OP might just makeout with her and never call her again. Or bang her and never call her again. A biggest fear of a women is being used. So she is just testing OP to make sure he truly does like her, and not just using her for sex / intimacy / validation. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 10:14 AM |
| 0 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'To me, I like her behavior. Shows she has high-standards and is making sure OP has got what it takes. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 10:12 AM |
| 1 | How would you answer 'why do you want to kiss me?'"Because you are beautiful and I really like you." Only if you mean it. | /r/seduction | 12/11/15 10:12 AM |
| 2 | Do we have any guys here that have an obvious facial flaw and still succeed with women?Nailed it. Perfectly said. I have a stutter at times. Before I was pretty insecure about it. Then I realized that if I didn't give a fuck about it, and only then, girls kind of found it cute haha. And now lots of times I'm actually GLAD I have a stutter at times. It's what makes me, me! :-) Uniqueness is the most attractive thing we all have. All of our little quirks is what a women will fall in love with. I personally desire my future women to have some quirks here and there (perhaps even a ser… | /r/seduction | 10/11/15 01:03 PM |
| 2 | Appearance as a minority.. Having little to no success.I don't think your problem is your appearance. IMO You're a good looking guy OP. :-) Sure, improving that could help. But not your top priority. Maybe improving your aesthetics should be like your 4th highest priority. This might sound a bit odd.. but maybe working on your spirituality can help you connect with women and other people. Not to sound harsh, but just being honest.. you seem to have a very judgmental and condescending view regarding others and just life itself. Judging people less an… | /r/seduction | 10/11/15 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Americans on seddit, have you PERSONALLY known an Indian guy that had a lot of success in your country?Yes, he was dating a hot brunette for over a year | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Americans on seddit, have you PERSONALLY known an Indian guy that had a lot of success in your country?Yep, I know an Indian guy who has done quite well with women. | /r/seduction | 09/11/15 01:50 AM |
| 2 | What's the best book for learning seduction for a guy?From someone else, but I think he nails a huge lesson: "I like how the author talks about just enjoying being with women and loving women for who they are, without any ulterior motives. It's sad for me because i feel like i used to have this same type of mentality. I wasn't caught up with meeting women to have sex with women, and because of that i think i had an aura and loved life. Looking back I think alot of girls liked me for that, but without realizing it I rejected them. Now through years … | /r/seduction | 06/11/15 03:58 AM |
| 0 | Today I hit rock bottom: Seduction will not save you.Awesome post! Thanks for sharing us your incredible journey so far! Lots of the writing reminded me of this amazing video, that I think you'll really connect with: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=49bMfbYg4ZM | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 10:37 PM |
| 1 | How do I know if a girl genuinely likes me?Who knows. Maybe she is nervous Maybe she legit had to study those times Maybe there's another guy she's crushing on so it's her way to politely decline you, even though she thinks your a cool guy. Why not invite her something even more casual. Wanna see your stamp collection in your apartment, or "I'm about to make a smoothie, want some", or some chit lol PLUS, does she even know you? How can she know if she likes you if she doesn't even know you.. Best of luck brother! :-) | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Is it a lie if she says she wants to wait to have sex while being serious with someone, yet I know for a fact she has had ONS every other weekend after her bad breakup this summer?For me, if I actually really like a girl I prefer to wait a bit. Maybe she's doing the same for you. | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Canadian vs American womenIf you think about it.. almost EVERY PUA is Canadian lol. Tyler Durden Sasha Daygame Vadim Honest Signalz Zan Perrion Maybe it's just the guys I like haha | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 09:21 AM |
| 1 | What's the best book for learning seduction for a guy?The Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion. Hands down. I really enjoyed it and got waaaaaay more value out of it than Models. | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Partner dance is a fantastic way to meet new people and especially womenGotcha, This thread is an awesome thread. Thanks for posting this. Going to seriously look into dancing. I'm a tall lanky awkward mother fucker. I have no rhythm I feel I'll be the worst one there. lol | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 09:01 AM |
| 1 | Partner dance is a fantastic way to meet new people and especially womenOP, aren't you married? | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Partner dance is a fantastic way to meet new people and especially womenAre you actually in the video? haha | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 08:41 AM |
| 1 | Partner dance is a fantastic way to meet new people and especially womenAwesome post OP. I should do this | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 08:34 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop being so needy about getting a girlfriend?Agreed. How about you are a God AND she is a Goddess ;) But both of you have serious flaws too that you must accept. | /r/seduction | 04/11/15 02:09 AM |
| 1 | RSD Infield FootageYeah I've had plenty. To me it's just ego. I prefer getting to know a girl.. | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 09:56 PM |
| 1 | What's a fun/easygoing job to meet women?Looking forward to hearing what people say. the only reason I'd be joining a club is to meet women Then I would recommend yoga. Not as a job, but just take yoga. Do you have any interests at all that also involve a place where women would be? Regarding jobs.. yoga studio. coffee shops. spiritual book stores. What type of women are you attracted to? Think where would they shop? whole foods. health stores. What type of job would you want to get too? Just any low-paying job to meet women? | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Making the final moveYour looking at it light a light switch. Touching should start when you first meet the girl. The whole date. More like a dimmer that you slowly amp up. Hopefully naturally. Not a sudden surprise out of nowhere at the end of the night haha :P A move you can go for is a massage :-) Best of luck man! | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 07:45 AM |
| 2 | She wants to go easy?Sounds like things are going perfect. She just doesn't want you to think she's a whore. The biggest fear most girls have is the fear of being used. She wants you to think that she's a women of high self-respect. She just wants to know that you genuinely do like her for who she is, and that you are going to treat her right. She's taking her time to get to know you to make sure that she can trust you. (Hopefully you are a good guy and that she can trust you..) I'd say just go with the flow. Try no… | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 07:28 AM |
| 2 | Autistic bro here. doing fine, but just need some feedbackAwesome growth! While try to become the best version of yourself, also don't be someone you are not. Just curious, how old are you? And honestly.. maybe bars and clubs would be fun to get out of your comfort zone a bit. But is that really your environment? Maybe there are better ways for you to meet girls / spend your energy. And especially meeting women you are compatible with. I myself rarely go to bars and clubs. | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 07:18 AM |
| 1 | RSD Infield Footagehttp://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=169383933 Better rep me phaggot. :-) | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 07:16 AM |
| 1 | RSD Infield FootageI was on the bodybuilding misc forums a week ago and there was a big thread about how apparently an assistant leaked a "non-disclosure" contract regarding actresses. Something like that And apparently the thread was RSD was using actresses. No clue if it was true. So don't want to spread rumors. I've met Owen in real life. Cool dude. I trust Owen. Lots of his partners seem to lack integrity though.. However saying that, I haven't seen much of their "infield". Barely watch any RSD at all anymore.… | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 07:06 AM |
| 1 | Picking up Asian girls?Nicely said :) | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 07:01 AM |
| 1 | How to stop using 'likes' as a measure of self worth?When posting anything to social media think, "Am I posting this because I genuine want to share" or "Am I posting this because I want to impress people" If it's the latter, don't post it. | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 07:00 AM |
| 2 | So to compliment and be straight forward or not?I don't like your "what works" mindset. When you compliment a girl, you should do it because YOU want to compliment her. Not as a tactic to get her attracted to you. | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 06:59 AM |
| 1 | Picking up girls every day?!If they are pickup coaches out to make money, obviously that's going to be their message because they want you to be as "bought-in" to their ideology as they can, almost like being in a cult. At least their getting you to take massive action though. I used to do pickup a ton. I realized it's a very misguided mindset to have. Rather than going out to approach women, now I mainly focus on living an awesome life and living a life that I am proud of. And I talk to women as I go about my life natural… | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 06:17 AM |
| 16 | How do I stop being so needy about getting a girlfriend?Awesome post by Jamie Smart on Zan's forum: "My biggest epiphany doesn't just apply to women, but to life in general, & it's this: If you're looking for an external experience to make you happy (I'll be happy when I get the girlfriend / the 100 lays / the MLTRs), you're basically saying "I need the girlfriend / the 100 lays / the MLTRs in order to be happy". This is uber-neediness - the idea that your happiness / security / wellbeing / OK-ness comes from outside you. Happiness is an inside job -… | /r/seduction | 03/11/15 05:37 AM |
| 1 | I think I am emotionally scarred/damaged...Tough situation man. Nothing out of ordinary though. Almost all guys go through a very identical experience. Time heals all wounds. Honestly, some guys are just more sensitive and take longer to heal. I'm one of those very sensitive guys. I would delete her number so that option isn't even available. And only option now is keep focusing on yourself and moving forward. And knowing that the future will just get better and better. Try to let go. Honestly, getting professional help at times can be a… | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 12:34 PM |
| 1 | One-itis, I never thought it could happen to me: A cautionary taleTough stuff man. As hard as it is.. time heals all. And you will only grow stronger. Any improvement at all since it's been a month? Honestly.. that's barely any time.. This will probably take much longer. Thanks for the journaling shoutout, hope you've kept the journaling up! Best, Luke :-) | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 12:06 PM |
| 5 | How to Have Casual Sex and Threesomes With Lots of GirlsThis has to be congruent for who you are. If you guys are doing this as a tactic TO TRY TO BANG HER.. she'll just sense that vibe and your incongruence lol. I can imagine some guys "trying this out" while inside still seriously judging the girl lol. But, awesome post. The non-judgmental thing is huuuge! :) | /r/seduction | 18/10/15 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Neil Strauss: “My thinking was: If this woman’s going to be naked with me – I must be OK. It doesn’t last”I just hungout with Zan in Romania a couple weeks ago. Zan and his girl seemed very happy and fulfilled. His women is very beautiful, real, kind, and has a great personality. Zan seems like one of the only "OG"s who found realness and true fulfillment imo. | /r/seduction | 11/10/15 05:55 AM |
| 2 | Neil Strauss: “My thinking was: If this woman’s going to be naked with me – I must be OK. It doesn’t last”What's wrong with being a "not so famous" journalist, or having an "okay house"? It sounds like his gf/wife and him have TONS of issues... I wouldn't be surprised if they separated again in the future. It honestly sounds like his life turned into a bit of a mess.. I wonder what would've happened if he had found a healthy way to overcome his insecurities? I'd much prefer love and fulfilling relationships than the superficial. | /r/seduction | 11/10/15 05:52 AM |
| 1 | Reverse Gold Digger Prank. These german guys prove that girls don't give a flying FU*K about status and moneyAwesome vid. I thought the "gold digger" pranks are kind of toxic to society. Sure, there are some gold diggers out there.. but overall most women are great and real. So thought it was awesome to see this reverse gold digger prank. Good stuff, keep it up! (not sure if OP is the youtube creator.. but if so) | /r/seduction | 09/10/15 11:09 PM |
| 5 | Why is it that the moment a girl becomes invested in me, I suddenly lose interest?Yep. He's seeking validation rather than chemistry. Most pickup and seduction content subconsciously makes guys who consume their content seek validation.. | /r/seduction | 09/10/15 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Book recommendationsThe Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion. The best book I've ever read on seduction, hands down. | /r/seduction | 05/10/15 08:06 PM |
| 3 | 24 Year Old Virgin: Beggars Can't Be Choosers?Agreed. 24 is still very very young.... Getting an escort will really hurt your self esteem. And its a memory you'll have the rest of your life. Would you feel comfortable telling your future wife how you lost your virginity? That conversation will eventually come up. | /r/seduction | 05/10/15 12:51 AM |
| 2 | 24 Year Old Virgin: Beggars Can't Be Choosers?You sound like an RSD robot lol. For me, the hottest girl I've banged from a one night stand was one of the worst sex I've ever had. I met her that night. I don't see the appeal of trying to get laid at a club. Most quality girls, almost all quality girls, don't go to clubs to try to get laid. The going out to clubs mindset is a mindset that some pickup guys like RSD will brain wash you with. If your goal in life is to just get laid now.. and fill the hole.. I'd recommend day game. Especially be… | /r/seduction | 05/10/15 12:48 AM |
| -1 | Why Avoiding Relationships in Your 20s Might Be the Biggest Mistake You’ll Ever MakeAwesome post! | /r/seduction | 04/10/15 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Being honest and vulnerable about your negative qualities.Working with many guys, I came to understand that the main function of speaking your truth, and letting her know that you desire her, is getting over the fear of speaking your truth. To speak your truth it is a great way to overcome your fear and accept your sexual desire. Once you are no longer afraid to speak your truth, once you have fully accepted your sexuality, you may want to choose to not direct your sexual desire at her. You may choose to not let her know you desire her, because the blu… | /r/seduction | 01/10/15 09:21 PM |
| 1 | If you're an American that went to a college loaded with hot girls, will any environment rival that kind of setting once you get older?Yes, that's they key for improving your pickup skills. The worse you literate, the better you pickup. | /r/seduction | 13/09/15 10:01 PM |
| -8 | If you're an American that went to a college loaded with hot girls, will any environment rival that kind of setting once you get older?haha lol :) | /r/seduction | 13/09/15 03:14 PM |
| -14 | If you're an American that went to a college loaded with hot girls, will any environment rival that kind of setting once you get older?take it easy on me! it's 5:45 am and I just spent all night talking to hotties here in SB haha. need to go to bed.. | /r/seduction | 13/09/15 12:45 PM |
| 1 | What do you guys think about NoFap?I'm super glad I did 90 days. Now I just do No Porn. NP is ideal | /r/seduction | 13/09/15 12:45 PM |
| 6 | If you're an American that went to a college loaded with hot girls, will any environment rival that kind of setting once you get older?To give guys some perspective.. as I've aged (still very young lol), raw physical attraction goes down and a girls "energy and personality" goes up in matter of importance. So yeah maybe you missed out on raw looks if you didn't go to ASU and UCSB (i live in SB and have tons of friends at ASU where I visit often).. but as you get older you value realness more than the superficial. Also going to ASU or UCSB.. lots of guys become insecure and superficial and judgemental cus they can't deal with al… | /r/seduction | 13/09/15 12:41 PM |
| 2 | If you're an American that went to a college loaded with hot girls, will any environment rival that kind of setting once you get older?Yep, it's amazing here. | /r/seduction | 13/09/15 12:37 PM |
| -11 | If you're an American that went to a college loaded with hot girls, will any environment rival that kind of setting once you get older?Yep. I live in SB and have visited ASU a bunch of times. TONS & TONS of superficial and dumb people, especially at ASU. But the physical hotness everywhere is INSANE. UCSB has a cooler vibe with amazing girls imo. But ASU does party harder. (prolly cus overall their dumber and in middle of the desert. no offence) | /r/seduction | 13/09/15 12:36 PM |
| 1 | “Fake It Til You Make It”? - Final Thoughts On Pickup Artist Julien Blanc & RSDWoops, read the rules and realized I broke them by not making this a text post. Mods go ahead and delete this if you want and let me know if its cool to repost just using a text post and linking these thoughts from a text post. My appologies if I broke a rule! Best, Luke | /r/ExRedPill | 13/09/15 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Help! I'm a commuter on my sophomore year in college and not only do I find it difficult to talk to girls, but also making friends in general. What can I do?Is there anything you can join? A sports team? A club? Greek organization? Intramural something? Anything. Do you have any friends there at at all? | /r/seduction | 31/08/15 08:25 AM |
| 0 | Am I supposed to lie about being a virgin?Great answer If you are confident in yourself as a virgin, and are honest, that's the best way to go. If you lie about being a virgin, they'll be able to sniff out your incongruence just by your energy and how your saying it. Just your bodylanguage and energy will exude that your not confident being yourself | /r/seduction | 31/08/15 08:21 AM |
| 8 | How I picked up a 10Honestly felt like you were maybe the douchebag here... And to have this many upvotes just for getting a girls number who your friends of a friends with.. and to get 250+ upvotes for that.. doesn't sound like a "pickup".. You still have tons of time to experience to see if you can actually genuinely attract her. Not trying to be a debbie downer. Just being honest. Seemed like your whole style was making her jealous and pumping your value and trying to look cool, rather than genuinely getting her… | /r/seduction | 31/08/15 08:17 AM |
| 4 | Lined up a few Tinder dates, but I've never been on a date in my life!Honestly, good chance you'll surprise yourself on how natural things play out and how good the interaction will go. looking back at my first dates.. they always went better than expected You just gotta dive in and go for it. Goodluck! :) If not now, it's going to get harder and harder as time keeps passing.. so the best time to do things is always now | /r/seduction | 04/03/15 08:18 AM |
| 3 | Don't let women know that you are learning from the PUA community.Wow. Completely disagreed and am amazed that this has 13 upvotes. "There is nothing more unattractive than a pretender" and then you go on to say that you should pretend that you're not into PUA with women. How insecure can you get? I completely agree with staying humble. But I love talking to girls about seduction and what I know about it. Chicks dig it. It's who I am too. I'm not going to pretend I'm not into it.. | /r/seduction | 24/02/15 08:44 AM |
| 1 | I am a 21 year college student with braces. Should I even bother trying to talk to women?To the degree you let it affect you, will be to the degree that it will affect the girls. Also, imagine if you did well with girls now, when braces are off you'll be superman! The mind will always make up excuses. Talk to girls as if you'll die in 4 months maybe. Most importantly enjoy talking to girls! Maybe even joke about the braces! | /r/seduction | 20/02/15 08:46 AM |
| 2 | The Biggest Mistake Newbies Make: STOP COMPLIMENTING HER PHYSICAL APPEARANCE.Completely disagreed. Who cares about the "value" game. If your still in "value" thinking.. your insecure. I compliment a girls looks because I think she's hot. I'm complimenting her for my own pleasure, not to diminish my value by being nice and honest to her.. | /r/seduction | 15/02/15 01:27 AM |
| 1 | I've lost my desire to game anymore....Take a break and only go out / do approaches when naturally inspired. The "forcing" mentality that lots of PUAs gives really fucks up lots of guys. There's value in learning to force, but the best connections with girls and just people in general all seem to come when doing something because naturally inspired | /r/seduction | 13/02/15 06:17 PM |
| 1 | I fall in love with girls from just talking to themI'm the same. haha Be aware of the fantasies.. and go 100% for the girl. Even though I have HUGE fantasies in my head about girls I barely ever know.. as long as I still take action and go for that girl, things work out. Be outcome independent though, surprises always happen. But don't resist your fantasies, embrace them and take massive courageous action to make them reality. | /r/seduction | 13/02/15 09:20 AM |
| 1 | I can't open up to women and it's killing me.The more you hold your insanity in, the more insane you'll get ;) Share your insanity, and the more sane you'll get as you calibrate to people's reactions. Plus, most of those fears of judgment of people thinking your insane are in your head. And if not, what's wrong with people insane? I give you Marcus Aurelius: "The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane." | /r/seduction | 14/12/14 09:59 PM |
| 0 | I can't open up to women and it's killing me.BTW, also watch this AWESOME vid by my friend Shogo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ECVIjmWzUeQ --GoldJacketLuke p.s. I'm sharing with you and want to help with you because I relate to you. I was in a similar predicament as you. I am a pretty good guy similar to you explained (fit, smart, young, tall, etc.) yet I couldn't be myself with girls. And it's been a long calibration process for me, but now I'm almost TOO myself around girls. I share things maybe TOO FAST sometimes haha. Keep improving… | /r/seduction | 14/12/14 02:43 PM |
| 0 | I can't open up to women and it's killing me.Start saying EXACTLY what you're thinking. It'll be a calibration process for you as you learn to trust yourself. Girls respond to truth. In my opinion confidence is almost an illusion. What confidence really means, is TRUTH. Can you be truthful with her? Can you truthfully be yourself with her? Can you truthfully express your thoughts? Sure, tall, fit, funny could give you one degree of confidence. But is that giving you truth? Girls respond to truth. Here's a vid I made on sort of the same top… | /r/seduction | 14/12/14 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Love is the goal. Why r/seduction needs a paradigm shift.good thread | /r/seduction | 30/11/14 08:27 AM |
| 1 | A Job That Helps With Seduction - Sign HoldingGoldJacketLuke here. I approve this thread. First job I ever had was a sign twirler LOL. Fun memories | /r/seduction | 30/11/14 08:27 AM |
| 1 | I keep putting beautiful women on pedestals. I just can't fucking stop, and it's killing my potential.Hey man, Checkout this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18Hh7LSiG1o and then checkout the video that is linked on the outro card of the above video. Hope it help! :) | /r/seduction | 11/11/14 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Nice Guy SyndromeI made a video about this awhile ago, maybe it'll help :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4AKNHN0rcVA&list=UUvsH-OTxTuZ1bo1Z4XHn1Zg | /r/seduction | 09/11/14 11:32 PM |
| 1 | 18 year old goodlooking virginhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOpINk6JNl8&index=9&list=PLYy6GDb6c3MqdzyxdTdA6jZDIIDbleTQ0 I'm the guy in the video above. I lost my virginity late at 19 so I relate. I'm also tall and goodlooking. Between 19-22 I've approached thousands of girls and am sort of a dating coach now. In that video I break it down pretty good for you. Hope it helps :) | /r/seduction | 09/10/14 12:30 PM |
| 1 | 29 year old virgin. What would you do.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOpINk6JNl8 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/14 11:05 PM |
| 2 | How do you get past being a virgin?Here's a guide I made. Hope it helps :) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZOpINk6JNl8 | /r/seduction | 12/09/14 07:48 AM |
| 1 | It's Not Always About YouBTW, I have a youtube channel where I share lots of my thoughts on dating / attraction (aswell as lots of other things) if any of you were interested in checking it out :) http://www.youtube.com/goldjacketluke | /r/seduction | 30/07/14 11:29 AM |
| 1 | It's Not Always About YouReally great thinking & cool analysis. I don't know the exact details of how he set the frame etc.. but I do know Knut is a very honest guy. So I'm sure he told her everything about his situation / details / he was just on vacation etc. basically right away.. so that's setting the frame through honesty. And I guess when you just get to know someone for a super short time it's hard to even know, let alone communicate, what exactly your intentions are regarding the relationship because it's so sp… | /r/seduction | 30/07/14 11:26 AM |
| 2 | It's Not Always About YouKnut was spending all this time analyzing his "game", when the truth was that this girl didn't want to see Knut again because Knut's "game" was TOO GOOD! lol He hit PERFECTION, and that's what scared her away. She didn't want to let herself fall in love with a guy she knew was just on vacation she couldn't have anything long-lasting with. Next time your analyzing your game, there's always the possibility you hit PERFECTION like Knut haha. Maybe we all need to stop analyzing our "game" so much? … | /r/seduction | 30/07/14 07:06 AM |
| 1 | A Big Lesson LearnedI don't think who invested in who matters that much. Sure it does, but that's an outward symptom of who's letting who have freedom and letting them be themselves. Your girl wasn't letting you be yourself. So you supplicated towards her. You did things you didn't want to do for her. You weren't yourself for her. On a deep level she doesn't like you supplicating to her and you not "being yourself to her.. so she breaks it uo. You should've stuck to your guns and been more honest with her about thi… | /r/seduction | 04/07/14 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Really thought provoking article for you guys on the "Dark Side" of Pickup. Just to get you thinkingbtw, if you're into this type of stuff, checkout my youtube channel and I'd appreciate if you considered subscribing: http://www.youtube.com/user/GoldJacketLuke | /r/seduction | 25/06/14 05:01 AM |
| 1 | The biggest trap fucking you upIt's a huge problem man. There's always going to be the next excuse to why not going after what you really want. Always going to be insecurities to overcome. Best is to embrace the adventure that life is supposed to be! Yeah red pill can definitely give some negativity and self-consciousness for sure. BTW, is this post still up on seddit? Seems like 7 upvotes, but I don't see it on "hot" or "new". Seems like my posts on seddit never show up for me? Know what's going on? | /r/seduction | 24/05/14 12:07 AM |
| 1 | The biggest trap fucking you upIt's hard. But after acne what's going to be the next excuse? Embrace the adventure that life is supposed to be. BTW, is this post still up on seddit? Seems like 7 upvotes, but I don't see it on "hot" or "new". Seems like my posts on seddit never show up for me? Know what's going on? | /r/seduction | 24/05/14 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Announcing your truth & being vulnerable is the TRUE key to connecting with girls. Here's a video of me & another semi-famous youtube prankster/pick up artist sharing some of our deep secrets & insecurities.picking up girls as an art isn't "pick up artist"? It's literally the most on-topic thing possible here too be frank | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 03:35 AM |
| 1 | Announcing your truth & being vulnerable is the TRUE key to connecting with girls. Here's a video of me & another semi-famous youtube prankster/pick up artist sharing some of our deep secrets & insecurities.Thanks for the kind words. If you've seen our videos on whatever, and FreddyFairHair, you've seen we've done the most craziest chit to pickup girls. (Picking up girls with a boner, proposing to random girls, how to get any girl's numer by "pretending to call mom", Justin Bieber picking up girls, nervously picking up girls, etc. etc.) So I'd say we are "Pick Up Artists" just because we literally are artists of picking up girls. Our "art" was youtube videos of us picking up girls haha. We literall… | /r/seduction | 22/05/14 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Predicament Of Most Guys & The Solution: You can talk to girls, but when the girl is HOT.. suddenly you get nervous & stop being yourself.You must've seen the video earlier? Or just read through the description? You commented like 2 min after I posted the vid lol. Here is an article that Shogo did on this concept if you want a "script": http://www.thesocialgeneration.com/illusion-physical-beauty/ | /r/seduction | 10/03/14 08:12 PM |
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