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| 11 | This is how you cure approach anxiety.This advice is a lot more universally applicable than it might seem. Focusing on the needs/wants of others is the key to getting jobs, starting businesses, inventing, relationships... in other words, success. | /r/seduction | 15/04/23 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone have any tips for overcoming a feeling of inadequacy due to not being physically attractive?Seconding this. You don't need ALL these things, OP, but any of them will help tremendously. For your situation in particular it's good to go with the leadership and teasing angle, because it sounds like you're just not keeping women interested. Physical attraction is what gets women, but it won't keep them, so that's not your issue. | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 08:48 PM |
| -1 | If a girl says „we’re not having sex”, but we proceeded to make out intensely before and after, what should I take from it?The fact that she's religious makes it not unlikely that she's just trying to justify having sex with you in her head without feeling like it's her fault or just trying to communicate to you that she's not a slut and "doesn't do that." | /r/seduction | 31/10/22 07:43 PM |
| 13 | Any advice on how to avoid the "i just didn't feel the spark"Could also be the height I suppose, but there's nothing he could do about that. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 08:49 PM |
| 60 | Any advice on how to avoid the "i just didn't feel the spark"If you're getting first dates then it's not your looks. No spark usually means one of two things: No sexual tension. You probably didn't flirt or tease her, didn't allow for any sense of conflict to build. Don't be a yes man and perfect gentleman because it makes you unattractive. No conversational compatibility. She didn't find you interesting. The things you talked about or the way you talked about them was boring. | /r/seduction | 23/10/22 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Tips for sexualizing things?Inject your conversation with innuendos, just try not to sound like you're 13. Push the conversation boundaries gently and see how she reacts. | /r/seduction | 16/10/22 08:21 PM |
| 1 | We so often believe that we’re never good enough for them… when in fact we may actually be too good for themProbably the best comment I've seen on this sub so far. | /r/seduction | 16/10/22 02:46 PM |
| 7 | How to deal with a low effort person?You move on. | /r/seduction | 10/10/22 08:28 PM |
| 7 | How to not get friendzoned by a girl?Don't take too long to take your shot. Start flirting early on so that you set up the right expectations. Women aren't like men - they won't wanna fuck you just because you're showing interest in them. You have to spark her emotions yourself. | /r/seduction | 02/10/22 07:01 PM |
| 0 | To the MALES: glitch for Karisma, less approach anxiety, and more confidenceThis is a joke, right? Or are there really people who don't know the difference between testosterone and semen? You don't lose testosterone by ejaculating, or the guys who fuck all the time would have low testosterone. Not jacking it often will help you, but only because you'll be dissatisfied and won't have an easy way out. It's the same idea as only keeping healthy food in your home and preventing yourself from ordering takeout. | /r/seduction | 02/10/22 02:51 PM |
| 2 | What are some things a guy can do to become more attractive?In my experience a man has to be attractive physically AND mentally to be attractive at all. Even the hottest guy will lose attractiveness if he's an insecure needy manchild. Quick ways to improve your physical attractiveness are to simply have excellent hygiene and to dress well. For more long term attractiveness, fitness and weight matter a lot. For emotional attractiveness, be dominant (initiate things, know and do what you want) and don't be too available, allow sexual tension to build. Hide… | /r/seduction | 01/10/22 11:05 PM |
| 6 | Is it ok to call a girl out on her bs?She's playing around with you to raise her self esteem. You usually should call women out, but in this scenario you need to ghost her. Make plans and stand her up and block her. | /r/seduction | 25/09/22 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Would being "just friends" with girls increase your chances of hook ups and relationships?Yeah that's fine, you don't have to be friends with women. Just saying it's an option that can help your sex life, but it's by no means a requirement. Also, that's sick, I feel like everyone used to be into trains and then no one was out of nowhere. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 02:03 PM |
| 1 | Would being "just friends" with girls increase your chances of hook ups and relationships?I mean, it's not much different than a man. You just talk about common interests and have fun together. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Would being "just friends" with girls increase your chances of hook ups and relationships?Disagree with the first point, it's a case by case thing and depends a lot on you and how you communicate. The second point is true if you have feelings for the woman, but if you were just trying to hook up or casually date then there's really no issue. Especially if she's good looking, cause it always helps to be with attractive women whether you're doing anything or not. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 08:09 AM |
| 3 | Would being "just friends" with girls increase your chances of hook ups and relationships?Yes. The more female friends you have, the more favorably women will look at you. Also, having a female wingman is the best. Have the women who friend zoned you be your wingwomen. | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Why are women so confusing?Oh, it wasn't clear you did that. Yeah def shouldn't have done that. That should have been fine gradually and carefully. But you live and you learn. TBH it didn't sound like women like that are a good match for you anyway. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 09:19 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so confusing?It's not your fault that you've triggered it. Voicing your feelings isn't wrong. Many traumatized avoidant women would react like this. You showed her how serious you were and that may have reminded her of her last serious relationship. She has to heal herself first before she can go on to a new serious thing. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Why are women so confusing?Don't worry about it. Your only real mistake was chasing her after she said she was done. A girl saying she needs space is like a job telling you you're on a performance improvement plan - start looking elsewhere. As for why she's confusing, she's not. It's clearly a trauma response she's dealing with. This is a good thing that it happened now, because it just would have happened later down the line, where separating would be a lot more painful. | /r/seduction | 16/09/22 09:07 PM |
| 5 | Skipping foreplay, rushing, and not using your fingers are the biggest mistakes you can make during sexAhaha murdered by words. Fair point, though, the thought did cross my mind. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 02:42 AM |
| 9 | Skipping foreplay, rushing, and not using your fingers are the biggest mistakes you can make during sexI keep hearing this, but in my experience women prefer energetic fast sex (push her against the wall, rip her clothes off, and go to town) and get bored when I try to do foreplay or anything slow/soft. Not saying OP wrong, necessarily, but people seem to think that this applies to all women, which in my experience is definitely not true. | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 12:13 AM |
| 2 | If having hobbies makes you attractive to women, why isn’t attractive if a guy is into video games and Reddit as opposed to more traditional hobbies?I have never seen hobbies attracting women, I've only seen them do the opposite. Into sports/fishing/other outdoor stuff? You're probably dumb. Into history? You're probably a fascist. Into reddit, anime, and video games? You're probably an incel. I really don't know where this "hobbies are attractive" idea came from. Just try talking about your passions, and you'll see how quickly the conversation dries up. What is actually attractive is ambition and achievement at a real job (esports doesn't c… | /r/seduction | 02/09/22 02:18 PM |
| 1 | What is the reason most young women's type in men is "toxic fuckbois"?They're fun. | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 05:39 PM |
| 3 | What’s the most effective way to shift the power dynamic from you chasing them to them chasing you?No no not that at all. Just don't be the one to always initiate or push. Show interest, make it clear, then give her space to make her own moves. Like, don't write huge paragraphs or double text, don't say good morning the day after you started flirting. Give the emotions time and space to blossom. Most guys come on way too strong and desperate. | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 03:06 AM |
| 17 | What’s the most effective way to shift the power dynamic from you chasing them to them chasing you?In my experience making one step forward and two steps back is how it happens. In practice this means initiate and back off. If she reciprocates then you escalate and back off again. Keep doing this until you have sex, in which case your performance/impression will decide whether she will chase you afterwards. I say performance or impression because I've had women chase me post-sex less due to my performance and more due to the cuddles after. So the general idea is, show something worth chasing … | /r/seduction | 16/08/22 07:03 PM |
| 1 | What's your response to this shit test? "You're not going to murder me are you?"This one can either be a joke or come from a place of apprehension. I would diffuse by making a joke but then also comforting her after, like "but we can meet up here if you're more comfortable with that." For God's sake don't make it sexual. You'll either sound like an actual murderer or a 13 year old. | /r/seduction | 14/08/22 08:04 PM |
| 2 | I get dates with way more attractive girls through cold approach than OLD. Am I just that unphotogenic?Not weird at all. That's the whole point I'm trying to make. In online dating men outnumber women 10:1, throwing off women's perception of you as much lower than they would in any other situation (including IRL). | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 05:22 PM |
| 2 | I get dates with way more attractive girls through cold approach than OLD. Am I just that unphotogenic?Then there's your answer. If you're not at least an 8/10 I wouldn't recommend online dating. The cards are stacked way too much against you. It'll do nothing but harm your self esteem and waste your time. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 05:17 PM |
| 5 | I get dates with way more attractive girls through cold approach than OLD. Am I just that unphotogenic?OLD is the absolute worst approach for straight men. Nothing to do with how photogenic you are - if you're not in the top 10% of best looking men you're not getting shit from OLD. | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 02:34 PM |
| 265 | What's your unpopular opinion about women? Something you truly believe based on lived experience, but would get down voted to all hell on Reddit?Even the most independent of women still want a dominant man. If anything, the more dominant women tend to want even more dominant men, and test them more extremely. | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 08:32 PM |
| 1 | To what degree do looks actually matter?Being attractive is attractive. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Why do you guys think most men struggle with girls or dating in general?Because they're the ones who are expected to initiate everything, so they have to be the ones to actually know how to do something instead of just accepting or rejecting someone else's advances. | /r/seduction | 23/07/22 04:00 PM |
| 3 | What do you do when a woman questions your manliness?Tbh there really isn't one. I've never seen a good response to that. You either defend yourself and look insecure (yes, including agreeing and amplifying - everyone knows that trick) or do nothing and look stupid. | /r/seduction | 02/07/22 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Being willing to be offensive makes you more attractiveThis is true, but there's a limit, and it's never consistent. | /r/seduction | 29/06/22 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Women here constantly respond to every complaint by men with some variation of “women don’t owe you sex” or “sorry you can’t get your dick wet” and basically imply that sex is all that men want from women. This is obviously false and used to once again diminish our struggles.Gas stations don't owe you sex! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/22 02:56 PM |
| 6 | do you think being tall actually gets you girls?It doesn't get you girls, it makes you eligible to get girls. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Most common terrible dating advice: Just be yourselfThe worst part of "be yourself" is that everyone starts out being themselves, but many soon learn from experience that doesn't work for them. And it's those people for whom it hasn't worked who are told to be themselves, making it the single most useless advice. You can always be better than your current self. For instance, I'm a passive, anxious emotional dude who first had to learn that I have to get out of my comfort zone and NOT act like myself, by being the one to initiate and take the emot… | /r/seduction | 24/05/22 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Why is sleeping with a huge number of women considered so desireble?Because it shows that you're wanted and therefore valuable. | /r/seduction | 30/04/22 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Had the most amazing first date and now…nothing?Yeah but you guys hit the gas immediately too. And again, she warned you, so there's no issue I'm seeing. | /r/seduction | 29/04/22 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Had the most amazing first date and now…nothing?She said she'll be slow to respond and is being slow to respond. What's the issue? You can't have this much energy forever, it's exhausting. | /r/seduction | 28/04/22 03:52 AM |
| 25 | My tipps for dates over the yearsThis post is a breath of fresh summer air. | /r/seduction | 18/03/22 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Is it bad to be too friendly?Being too friendly prevents sexual tension from building up. Tension is good. Resolving it instantly with friendliness instead of leaning into it is an effective way to kill sexual attraction. This is why teasing is such a common flirting technique. | /r/seduction | 13/03/22 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Why dont women approach men but can approach taken or super attractive men?It's not because they're scared. It's because women get hit on by unattractive and moderately attractive men all the time and never feel the need to approach them. They only approach who they view to be more valuable than themselves. And since men devalue themselves constantly and give women a strong abundance mentality, this translates to women only hitting on exceptionally valuable men (be it super physically attractive, rich, or yes, taken). | /r/seduction | 23/02/22 08:17 PM |
| 27 | How to respond to someone who told that my pickup line was bad?Double down. "If you think that was bad, wait till..." | /r/seduction | 21/02/22 08:18 AM |
| 21 | Girl I am seeing playing mind games, showing some interest and then not showing any at all. RollercoasterThen just stop. Just ghost her. Playing games like that is an immediate deal breaker and the only way to make it clear is to not engage. Go spend your time on someone who deserves it. | /r/seduction | 29/12/21 08:15 PM |
| 4 | My weird unexpected strategy to get girls to approachI think one sign of money you don't hide is the coding. If I saw someone coding while wearing fitted clothes I'd assume they're making six figures. Also you sound sincerely chill so I'm sure that helps with attraction. | /r/seduction | 17/12/21 11:58 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Honestly, even the first balding comment is too much imo. It being a shit test doesn't change the fact that it's rude/disrespectful and if a woman is willing to do that then she simply doesn't respect you (hence why she went so much further). There are shit tests that aren't blatantly disrespectful. So many dudes focus on passing shit tests that they don't consider that you can judge a woman by the tests she gives you and decide whether she's worth your time at all. | /r/seduction | 28/10/21 06:27 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]It could be both! But yeah gtfo. | /r/seduction | 26/10/21 10:57 PM |
| 2 | How do I ask her to pay without making it awkward?She is and has been taking advantage of you for a long time. If you're neither in a relationship nor fucking, then what are you doing? Do you always pay for your friends to hang out? I think you're strongly underestimating how easy it is for a woman to use you for food. My honest advice is leave her entirely because even if you were to get together she'd just use that to take advantage of you in other ways. | /r/seduction | 21/09/21 06:53 PM |
| 1 | I hate the fact that men have to play games with women to get them interested. It's so exhaustingI'm not sure you really do HAVE to play it. Most times just showing mild interest and being straightforward is the way to go. Yes, you will still get rejected often, but that's the case with other strategies too. This way you're not wasting time and still have a comparable success rate. | /r/seduction | 27/06/21 05:59 PM |
| 2 | Things that will ruin a woman's day:Is this a troll? This is a pretty sizeable amount of all complaints I've heard from women. | /r/seduction | 04/06/21 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Failing to act when she's ready for sex?Generally if someone you want to have sex with is making moves on you then you want to escalate. Example: if she said she wants to have sex with you but maybe another day because you don't have a condom then just say, "oh there's plenty we can do without a condom." When she asks what tell her that you'll show her. Then just start making out and start undressing each other and go down/finger her. Things should go naturally from there. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 05:10 AM |
| 3 | The one shit test that will make or break youWhile that's a good response, it's important not to get stuck in the trap of only thinking about how you come across. How does SHE comes across repeatedly doing the same thing? Why did she do it in the first place and why is she doing it repeatedly? I've seen a lot of guys get stuck just thinking about how they're being judged while not judging the person they're after. You're choosing each other, it's not a one way street. OP responded in an edit that it's like an inside joke to them now, but i… | /r/seduction | 11/05/21 11:15 PM |
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