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So a fuckboy Not an automatic thing, no. Being good with women doesn't make you a jackass by default, unless you let it go to your head. Plenty of men do. Altruism? Lol. There isn't any nobility inherent in not having developed social skills and the idea that all men are equally qualified for a good woman's attention just because they are [male] is equally laughable. "Being nice" is the baseline that all people deserve. What do you offer to her over and above that baseline? Do you make her laugh…
/r/seduction08/07/26 01:20 PM
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Like I would probably be devoting more time to solving complex problems for humanity, but instead most of my mental bandwidth and time is spent trying to get laid. On the other hand, men have done incredible things while trying to get laid. That encompasses the entire range from incredibly awesome to incredibly stupid and all the way to incredibly terrible. The very human desire to want more than you have is an excellent driving force in life. Women didn’t select for fuckboys lmao Women don't se…
/r/seduction07/07/26 06:29 PM
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Yeah this is the key here. OP should live his best life and if this girl wants to be in on it great. If she doesn't then he's out at a concert with a girl he already likes spending time with. Bonus points if she's winging for you, plenty of girls know the game too and love this kind of shit. He's got instagram or TikTok or whatever and so does she, follow each other and if there's chemistry at the concert he can slide in later - it doesn't have to be at the concert or the afterparty that same da…
/r/seduction12/06/26 01:01 PM
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Asking costs you nothing, and plenty of people will just blurt out "oh, no I've got ...." when you ask. Are people gonna lie? Of course they will. But take the 3 seconds to have that interaction and do your due diligence.
/r/seduction03/06/26 05:27 PM
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Yes, this is the correct answer. If you're at a bar, she'll make eye contact and be just away from her group. If you're hanging out with a group, she'll make sure she's near you. If y'all are on a date, it's more arm touching more eye contact more pressing up against you etc. So if you're out and you keep catching the eyes of the same woman, that's probably not by accident. If you're interested, go say hi. Women signal interest by making it easier for you to approach and escalate, not by doing t…
/r/seduction22/05/26 05:33 PM
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Better communication sure, but also working on your inner game. Self confidence, putting yourself into new situations like a boxing or judo class to work on non-reactivity when someone gets up in your face or going to dance classes to be more comfortable moving your body to a beat. Perhaps you take a new certification to feel more confident at work or do some therapy to identify a thought process that's holding you back. Regardless, the goal isn't to be a completely unreactive brick wall. It's t…
/r/seduction08/05/26 12:26 PM
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Just go monk mode, focus on my career path & that sort of thing, and just be okay with being alone indefinitely. I do this occasionally. Not indefinitely, but for a few weeks or a month at a time and just focus on a project, pick up a new certification, etc. I got my EMT and started volunteering at a firehouse last year for example. It's important to remember that it's important to be social and have a life, but having nothing going on except a social life can be very draining. You should have p…
/r/seduction07/05/26 07:07 PM
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I dont know how to go about learning to dance tho If you're in the US, cities and towns often have salsa and bachata classes (they're usually on Mondays and Tuesdays for whatever reason) with an hour lesson and then "open floor" dance parties afterwards. They're usually popular in younger neighborhoods. Swing dance is also perennially popular. East Coast Swing is pretty technical while West Coast Swing is more freeflowing. Swing dance also forms the basis for MOST country-style dances like two s…
/r/seduction07/05/26 05:51 PM
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not many people in my Uni are fluent enough in english to actually talk to international students Take one of Mandarin, Cantonese, Korean, Japanese, Vietnamese, etc 101 and really learn the basics of whichever language is popular with the campus community. If you want to tap into a community, you should put yourself in the best position to succeed with it. Once you get a certain level of proficiency (remember, Duolingo and Italki are excellent resources for speeding up your language acquisition)…
/r/seduction05/05/26 02:04 PM
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Agree. I go to a gym that's just as much social club as it is workout space (really awesome for fitness, they just lean in hard on the social bits too) and the guys who are the most successful are the ones who are there to work out and socialize as a side benefit not the ones who are there to spit not-so-fresh game on the cardio bunnies and are never moving the weights. Put the work in, get fit, be seen doing hard shit and generally gregarious and fun in the process = gym game. None of that cold…
/r/seduction05/05/26 01:28 PM
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So my question isn’t really related to, “how do i do it” It’s, is it worth it? If you go into it to better yourself instead of going into it just to sleep with a bunch of women, you'll find a lot more fulfillment. For me, it's been a good journey. From pretty much zero social skills (very nice kid, don't get me wrong just kinda weird and generally uncalibrated) at 19 to leading a life with a very close group of friends at 39 and not "on the outside looking in" any more at any event, gathering, o…
/r/seduction13/04/26 03:51 AM
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You're almost never going to get her feedback. You do get to go over what YOU did and have the mental note of "ok I need to work on xyz". She said no, that's fine. You control what you can control, not what she saw. When I'm out, I tend to have to remind myself to keep better eye contact, even now. That's definitely something that's a work in progress for me cause it doesn't come naturally (even though it's leagues better than how I was in my 20s) but the rest of my game is pretty tight. I'm in …
/r/seduction11/04/26 10:57 PM
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So, yes and no. For general population, it's a numbers game. But if you're smart about it, control what you can control, go where you're celebrated, be willing to learn from every interaction and are willing shoot your shot on a regular basis, you can do significantly better than the "numbers game" crapshoot. If you like athletes, go where they train. If you like raver girls, follow the festivals. Yoga bunnies? Get used to the Sun Salutation class in the park near you. If you have a thing for wo…
/r/seduction10/04/26 02:49 PM
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Hard agree. People lie all the time and "players" telling stories about their game is a lot like fishermen talking about fish. The tale grows larger with every retelling. Using anonymized data over a large sample set lets us see trends that we can (reasonably) apply to society at large that you're generally not gonna get with anecdotal experiences. That goes double for the PUA guys online whose brands depend on being excellent with women and who sell being able to teach you to do the same over a…
/r/seduction10/04/26 02:01 PM
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PRETTY MUCH. I hated socializing in my late teens and early 20s because I figured it was going to a place I didn't really want to be (a loud noisy bar) and talking to a bunch of variously-drunken people I didn't know well about shit I didn't particularly like (sports, politics, what musicians and other celebrities are doing, the hot gossip, etc.) so of course I didn't do it often and was very bad at it and as a result my opportunities to meet new people were limited. Fast forward to today in my …
/r/seduction05/04/26 10:23 PM
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yep, I am fun, not boring and people like to do things with me. Are you social or are you exciting to women? You can be both, but there is a difference between the skillsets I just almost never meet any women who are actually still single. Where tf do you go to meet people? I'm pretty satisfied with the rotation currently and yet I'm still surrounded by single women in most of my activities
/r/seduction19/03/26 12:30 PM
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what is number 6? Fun and exciting to be around, having the social skills to create tension and then the balls to act on it, and also not be afraid to get shot down a couple times as long as everyone's having fun.
/r/seduction19/03/26 03:25 AM
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Control what you can control. I wrote up something similar for this sub a while ago, it's below. It's better to be a 6/10 in every category and have tight game than it is to be 8/10 in a few categories with weak game. You can't control your genetics and how your face is shaped but how you present yourself and who you associate with are well within your control. As a dude, if you are a fun time to be around and are going for it on a decently regular basis, odds are one of these things is dragging…
/r/seduction19/03/26 03:24 AM
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Ok so what the top comment dude said are the basics you've gotta lock in on to be an adult. Men with their shit together are generally attractive to everyone else, whereas men without their shit together have to be exceptional at some other aspect of life (rich, connected, gorgeous, big dick, lays pipe, well-known, familiar, useful in some way, etc.) and aren't generally considered long-term prospects by women with their own shit together. But above and beyond that I've found that most dudes her…
/r/seduction19/03/26 03:14 AM
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Gonna be honest, I opened this one expecting some low-quality AI slop-posting like is so unfortunately common here, but I was pleasantly surprised. This is good info for the younger folks - good plan, good flowchart, probably works real well as long as you're shooting your shot with some regularity and have your basics handled. Good shit, OP. Keep up the good work.
/r/seduction17/02/26 10:59 PM
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And then they ask: “Why don’t I attract women?” Self improvement is for you. It makes you a better person, makes your life more satisfying to live, and will incidentally make you more appealing to most women but that doesn't mean that women are going to be crawling over each other to compete for your attention. Actually talking to women, sparking attraction and taking them home is a specific skill that you have to train if you don't have it innately. Self improvement and game/rizz are separate t…
/r/seduction05/02/26 04:26 PM
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Money and possessions are a lever you can pull to make it easier to pick up some women. It's easier if you're in a "party" city - Miami, Nashville, Vegas, etc. Money isn't even the top 5 of best levers to pull unless the girl you're trying to fuck only likes guys for their money and that's never gonna end well for you.
/r/seduction04/02/26 03:29 PM
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Run clubs are great especially if you go to the after-run events. You show up as a group and it's easier to meet people that way. Ski mountain and to a lesser extent climbing gym are the same way. Generally, if there are part-time or volunteer positions available that get you exposed to more people - outreach, basics classes, ambassadorships, etc. or group classes that you can take (even if you don't need them) you'll find that it may be easier to interact with lots of new people because now you…
/r/seduction02/02/26 12:43 AM
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Where do you meet unmarried women when your in your later 20s? Well, what do you like doing? I'm perennially a fan of going to group fitness classes, becoming a regular there, and chatting with the girls in those classes. Being fit pays perennial benefits all your life and fit girls are usually on the grind elsewhere too so if you like smart women, driven women, professional women, etc, odds are good you'll find them at the gym. If you like artsy women, pottery classes / sketching meetups / soci…
/r/seduction01/02/26 11:24 PM
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people imply in their writings that they are much better than that Keyboard jockeys gonna keyboard jockey. Game is just applied social skills. You can dress it up all fancy and shit to sell a lifestyle product to frustrated dudes, but at the end of the day it's just being able to communicate effectively with other people. If you know what you're doing, you can turn a woman's whole day around and make a bad day into a great one by being fun, interesting, and hilarious while taking her out of her …
/r/seduction23/01/26 07:54 PM
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how much effort men have to put in just to be considered, unless they’re in the top 5% (or less) Social media isn't reality and you shouldn't use it as a baseline for anything, especially not personal validation. Approximately half of it is bots. Lots of the photos are fake or shopped. Rely on socials for insight and your reality will become exactly what you're talking about "I'm not a rich model celebrity with an 11" cock so I can't xyz". Bullshit. Absent a small percentage of women who actuall…
/r/seduction23/01/26 03:15 PM
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The general rule for all social interactions is the guiding light. Step 1 be cool, step 2 don't be uncool. A lot of dudes who violate rule 1 are boring as fuck and dudes who violate rule 2 are dicks. You can succeed with either, but it's significantly harder. The ideal is to be a generally cool person with lots of friends who's fun to hang out with. There's a lot of ways to do that depending on your style, vibe, attitude, etc. but you need to be able to generate positive emotions PLUS intrigue, …
/r/seduction21/01/26 08:53 PM
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It comes down to putting yourself into the texted situation, much like if you were reading smut, and then responding accordingly. Answer #1 read more smut - whether it's here at GoneWildStories, at a site like Literotica, or purchasing some of the excellent (or guilty pleasure) published smut that's very, very popular right now. If nothing else, it will give you a foundation for the flow of smutty dialogue and that is an amazing framework from which to start sexting. Answer #2 recognize that the…
/r/seduction16/01/26 03:30 PM
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Salsa/Bachata and Swing are the primary dances I recommend. Specifically West Coast/Westie swing. East Coast or Lindy Hop is fine too if that's what's close to you, but it's a bit more technically demanding and rougher on the ankles. If your area trends more rural, any sort of swing also translates very well to country line dancing. You could do a ballroom dance program and get other stuff like waltz, foxtrot, rumba, and the like too but the first three are the primary social dances out there ri…
/r/seduction08/01/26 04:20 PM
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Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Match, Field, etc are all owned by the same company. They're all trying to get you to stay on the platform as long as possible AND spend your money to maybe get a better outcome. Tinder's always been what I give to my married friends to let them play around on my account. It's much like social media - absolutely not real and you shouldn't rely on it for any sort of validation. You can have killer photos and the perfect bio and still get no matches; there's someone behind t…
/r/seduction17/12/25 02:51 PM
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Once I've slept with someone new (maybe the first 2-3x) and who I enjoyed fucking, I'll usually send something along the lines of "That was super hot/sexy af/🔥" text 15-30 minutes after we go our separate ways. If I've done my job right, I'll almost always get something enthusiastic in reply. It's a great way to bridge back into regular conversation and scheduling our next meetup once she's already agreed that the hookup was good and is probably down to meet up again. You start to get a lot of u…
/r/seduction14/12/25 05:01 PM
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Honestly, a lot of AI slop posted here would be nearly indistinguishable from the regular dating coach slop that infested the place prior to GPT if not for the enthusiastic purple prose that AI loves to use. If you go back, you can see three very different types of posters: uses a lot of words to say nothing new (common), terrible command of the English language, but onto something good (uncommon, but not rare), writes in complete thoughts AND fucks (unicorn). It's the same first two archetypes …
/r/seduction12/12/25 06:52 PM
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If I'm out in public and see someone I'm interested in, what's the best way to approach that doesn't come off as creepy? Something situational that's a little funny or intriguing is usually the best bet. You want the person you're interested in to feel good feelings and excitement/humor/intrigue are all good options. A lot of guys ask a very simple question, get a straight answer, and then hang around awkwardly for entirely too long expecting something to happen. That's when you get hit with wei…
/r/seduction08/12/25 02:23 PM
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is it even remotely a good idea to pick up girls who might be in my class Probably not the best idea in the history of the world but it's probably not going to hurt you. Just 1 be cool and 2 don't be uncool about it, as usual. At my age Buddy, you're living your "back in my day" right now. Act like it.
/r/seduction08/12/25 01:37 PM
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Not weird at all, a lot of us needed pointers when we were younger. If you didn't have someone already in your life who could give you good, actionable advice when you needed it, paying for a coach or mentor is the logical step. People pay lots of money for career skills coaching or degrees that they never use, why would it be weird to pay someone to help you get a handle on your social skills? It's not much different except that you've gotta use social skills every single day of your life. I di…
/r/seduction26/11/25 01:20 PM
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I have passed the ideal relationship window Hi, 39 years old here. Ignore the statistics like that go "most people get married before they turn twenty-whatever", they're almost always improperly skewed and also don't account for the slew of people who get divorced 1-2-3 years after that wedding. I worked in the wedding industry for a time; plenty of people who tie the knot had no business getting past the drunken hookup phase of the relationship and all of their friends know it. Your "ideal rela…
/r/seduction16/11/25 02:30 PM
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Agreed. I'm an introvert. That just means my social battery recharges from downtime spent on my own and is expended quicker in social situations with people I don't know well. OP, if all of your hobbies have lapsed and you're finding it difficult to even get yourself moving to handle the base necessities of life - food, water, maintaining rent money, etc., that's not something you can lay on introversion or laziness and you should probably have a health checkup.
/r/seduction28/10/25 06:18 PM
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Low escalation is like "hold eye contact with a grin", "bump up against her when you're passing and assume she just hit you", "assume she's hitting on you and act mock offended", etc. Anything you can do in front of a crowd of her friends and not be a creepy guy or lock you in on that one girl instead of being able to come back for any of her friends is what I'd call "low escalation". All of the "be known as a fun guy" shit I mentioned earlier, but with a bit of an edge. Fun guys don't get fucke…
/r/seduction13/10/25 10:32 PM
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100% You are the sum of the six people you spend the most time with or whatever. You hear it everywhere, but it's fucking true. You hang out with losers, they will drag you down with them. You hang out with bros, they will drag you out with them. You hang out with men getting it done, they will drag you up with them.
/r/seduction13/10/25 10:25 PM
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Innuendo and body language is the way you talk about sex without being creepy. You don't get the opportunity to prove your bedroom skills to women that you meet in real life until EITHER the rest of your game is reasonably put together OR she's horny and you're available. Go put yourself in those situations and keep notes on what works and what doesn't. If you keep notes on your phone, keep it in a password locked app or folder because someone's probably going to go through your phone eventually…
/r/seduction13/10/25 10:22 PM
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Hottest thing you can do is live your life and get back on the mission. For public: Yes, go out with your friends whether that's to concerts and clubs or house parties and bonfires. Say yes to more things, show up to have a good time, talk to more people, become the dude with great energy that people love to see. This is especially important if you don't necessarily have friends that like going out. Find a few friends who do - take this post-breakup time to develop that friend segment. Having a …
/r/seduction12/10/25 11:44 PM
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No, game is just a collection of social and personal skills and those are useful and applicable at any age. The process of becoming a better person and more attractive man is incredibly hard as you un-learn bad behaviors - some of which you've had for decades - and replace them with healthier or more productive habits. It's also undeniably satisfying for your soul as a man to keep striving rather than settling for mediocrity.
/r/seduction11/10/25 03:04 PM
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Morning: Cetaphil facial cleanser on a rubber scrub pad in the shower, out of the shower, pat dry face and moisturize with La Roche Posay combo moisturizer + SPF15 sunscreen Evening before bed: Cetaphil facial cleanser on a rubber scrub pad in the shower, out of the shower, pat dry face and moisturize with La Roche Posay moisturizer, non SPF version. Takes like 2 minutes and just is part of my daily routine now. The benefits weren't immediate, but they're definitely noticeable now when compared …
/r/seduction09/10/25 01:14 PM
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Yep, it all boils down to attention. I glowed up hard in my 30s, mostly through the gym + learning to groom myself like an adult + figuring out a skincare routine. You'll rarely get anything direct, but she'll make excuses to be in your personal space even if they're not talking to you. If she's trying to move by you in a crowded space, she'll actually hang onto you to steady herself as opposed to the flat hand that most people get. She'll hold eye contact better and won't be as easily distracte…
/r/seduction08/10/25 09:58 PM
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Hey man that's tough to admit sometimes, especially to yourself. Some men never get there cause it's scary af. I hope you take care of yourself and get past your depression - there's light at the end of that tunnel and you deserve to live in it.
/r/seduction07/10/25 02:48 PM
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Yeah, this is on the right track but you haven't quite got the complete picture yet. Picture the overall seduction like a race track and your goal is to get from the start to the finish. You want to spend the least amount of energy to get from Point A to Point B. To beat the analogy to death here: the track itself is different for each woman. Some women don't need much to get to the end and others start out looking like a marathon. There's things you can do (and things that you have) before star…
/r/seduction30/09/25 10:25 PM
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100%, came here to say this. Shit or get off the pot, OP. If you believe there's mutual interest, make the move. You don't have to do it on a stage in front of your friends but damn, you shouldn't be mad at your buddy cause he's given you uninterrupted months to seal the deal that's literally out there waiting to be sealed and you've fumbled it. Either you make the attempt or you pass up on the opportunity, either through conscious "yeah bro go for it" or by complete inaction.
/r/seduction19/09/25 12:33 PM
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That's the gist of this whole sub - improving yourself makes you a more attractive man. Routines and gimmicks might get you laid occasionally, but being a fun person that does a lot of cool shit will always be attractive.
/r/seduction11/09/25 12:45 PM
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Just one? Here's five. Fucking go for it. Always be escalating. Keep a journal of what worked, what didn't, and how you've improved your game over time. Inner game, outer game, frame control, go-to conversations, etc. Review it regularly, always be leveling up. Control what you can control - be fit, well-dressed, and smell good. Keep eye contact with a smart grin. Show her your intent and your self-control at the same time. You can't just be thirsty all the time. Girls just wanna have fun. Meet …
/r/seduction10/09/25 06:56 PM
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It's logically inconsistent for OP to view dating and relationships as a "waste of time" while also feeling that they are "deprived of sex". Nobody is owed sex for their prowess in other aspects of life - dude could be the best investment banker in the world but odds are that talking about the logical intricacies of the work when out in the club is one of the most pussy-drying conversations on the planet. You get returns where you invest your time and energy. Gardens don't bloom without water. O…
/r/seduction22/07/25 12:44 PM
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you are never allowed to be weak, to feel not ok, to be insecure and so on This is what your bros are for. Men who are actually friends with each other, on their grind together, and able to open up about struggles and ask each other for advice is a vital support pillar. It's difficult to find a woman who truly understands the sort of shit we go through as men. No shade on women here either, they just have different experiences than we do generally. So, while your wife/gf is often able to offer m…
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:14 PM
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Social media in general is super harmful to people's mental health and knowledge base because the goal of places like X, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, etc is to feed you ultra personalized content that keeps you on the platform and scrolling through posts, 1 out of every 3 of which is a paid advertisement - whether it makes you mad, sad, glad, or is true or not. It looooooves feeding young men incel shit and supplement gym bro shit because let's face it - which one of us hasn't wanted a "magic bu…
/r/seduction11/07/25 07:08 PM
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Looks are just like a handicap in golf. There are many other handicaps: wealth, status, fitness, etc. Game is the skillset of "playing the game". If the sum of your looks/wealth/fitness/status handicaps are strong enough, you can do exceptionally well with very little actual game. If your game is strong, you need fewer handicaps to find the success that you want. If you have lots of handicaps and tight game, why are you on this sub? Get back on the yacht. If you don't know how golf works: the go…
/r/seduction10/07/25 04:55 PM
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here are some influencers that are absolutely gorgeous, cool ppl, and or my type. Influencers curate their shit ruthlessly. The persona you see online could be absolutely nothing like what they are like in real life. Makeup is a real thing and you have probably never seen her real face ever even once. Most of my buddies cannot tell when women are wearing light makeup and think that shit's natural. (Thank you mandatory theatrical makeup classes. I talked so much shit about it in college but it's …
/r/seduction01/05/25 02:07 AM
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If I've said it once on this sub, I've said it a thousand times. Stop listening to social media influencers and treating that shit like it's reality. If you put in the work to maximize your best features and minimize your worst, you'll absolutely do just fine. I have watched my 5'3 scrawny (thin as a rail) buddy Jay pull dozens of women on sheer charisma and force of personality. He and I used to work together at a startup in a warehouse-type space space; he had a closet with a cot there since i…
/r/seduction01/05/25 01:54 AM
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In order: Dental work. Get your teeth fixed, it matters. I would also add "go to a stylist for your hair" here as well, especially if your normal hair routine is "go to the lady who charges $10 at the corner to buzz it all to one length". Get all your grooming and hygiene handled first, it's the easiest way to fuck up in business OR social situations. Wardrobe upgrade and fitting. Understanding how outfits are put together is a skill every man should have and you can look incredible in LOTS of s…
/r/seduction07/03/25 08:27 PM
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+1 for all domestic animals should be vaccinated for rabies. Rabies is a terrible disease and there's no cure for it once symptoms show up. If you're interacting with ferals / homeless / alley cat populations, you should take extra care because they are generally NOT friendly and will scratch and bite if you're in range. Any feral that's "ear-tipped" or has the triangle-ish tip of one of its ears cut off has been trapped, spayed/neutered, vaccinated for rabies and other feline diseases, and rele…
/r/seduction20/02/25 07:57 PM
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Different methods work for different guys, and different women like things done different ways. Your method could work for you and his for him. The point is that you've gotta make the move sometime and most women will respect you more for it (as long as you're not a complete weirdo about it) even if they shoot you down.
/r/seduction20/02/25 07:15 PM
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You can do clubbing/raves in the place of any Thursday, Friday, or Saturday night event. It's generally not a great place to practice socializing, especially for beginners or people not in the scene. I like clubbing, but I also love to dance and I make friends easily when I go out dancing. The normal guy who doesn't have any club skills is probably not going to have the same time that I do when I go out.
/r/seduction15/02/25 02:46 AM
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I'm normally against GPT lists since they're hit or miss but this one is pretty spot on. So I'm saving this one to re-link next time someone comes here like "I don't know what to do" Pick 4-5 of these and do them over the course of Friday to Sunday regularly.
/r/seduction14/02/25 05:36 PM
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I will talk to her a couple of times but she never asks any questions about me or even puts forth enthusiasm. Talking to women in a fun, playful way that spikes her emotions and generates attraction is an entirely separate skillset from having a good conversation with your friends. It sounds like you're good at the latter, not the former. I don't think I'm an unattractive guy, many friends and even people I'm not close to have told me I'm a good looking guy. Looks are only one lever that you can…
/r/seduction13/02/25 03:07 PM
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Sure so this is a fun topic for me cause I've been essentially rebuilding most of my "going out" network since the pandemic scattered the last one. You're kind of doing a little bit of everything, including shit that you really don't like. You've gotta dig in a little bit more on the kind of person you actually want to be hanging around with and then go where they are. It sounds like you might want to try to find a good hiking / nature walk / trails club, most major cities have something like it…
/r/seduction04/02/25 05:48 PM
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If it's a thrill that the OP is looking for, something like snowboarding, hunting, skeet shooting, or getting a private pilot license might be a better avenue - get a new skill and have fun while doing it. There are plenty of ways to get a rush, it's just that OP's primary rush so far has been approaching women. That's not a bad thing and it's clearly led him to success, but he's gotta find a new way to achieve it now.
/r/seduction01/02/25 01:18 AM
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I suppose that could be the case but I never got the signal from girls that they are interested in me taking things ahead. Then, assuming you don't have something else going on that automatically disqualifies you within the social group you're in, it's most likely that you're either too chill / boring / bad at creating & maintaining the vibe / etc in that vein or you're bad at reading signals. So make the fucking move earlier. You aren't gonna get a reputation for feeling a vibe and making a [cl…
/r/seduction15/05/24 04:59 PM
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I was talking to a female friend of mine about why I don't get any girls, what's wrong with my personality. She said that I am more of a "friend" personality. Now obviously I am her friend and not interested in her but that got me thinking as to why girls don't ever consider me that way I'd say I am pretty social and outgoing, I am quite funny and witty, I am smart and articulate, not the best looking but decent. I could come off as a asshole or rude or self absorbed from time to time but I try …
/r/seduction15/05/24 02:30 PM
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Same. I don't want a financial adviser who's broke or a personal trainer who's overweight. Sex is something I enjoy a lot and something I'm very good at. I prefer to date women with the same mindset in that area of their life. I honestly do not understand the "she must have a low body count but mine doesn't matter" side by side with "I want a magic pill that lets me get any girl naked whenever I want because I'm <this year's special-man description>" mindset that's cropped up so strongly in the …
/r/seduction07/05/24 06:05 PM
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Definitely read more smut. There's book smut, audiobook smut, podcast smut - consuming any sort of smut media will rapidly level up your dirty talk and sexting game. There's a reason why many of your lady friends have smut group chats and book clubs and it's because they're thinking about sex allllllll the time.
/r/seduction31/03/24 02:35 PM
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Maturity is understanding these concepts are entirely mythical and bare no relevance past the age of ~25 As a 38 year old, this is entirely untrue. Past 25 you are expected to begin having your shit together, including the ability to follow the two prime directives: (1) be cool and (2) don't be uncool, at least in public/social situations. Past 30, most people stop having any tolerance for a person who hasn't grown the fuck up and developed at least average-level life and social skills for the s…
/r/seduction17/02/24 03:17 PM
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Yep I was really curious about where this was going, but the analogy is pretty perfect for even the guys that "don't get it"
/r/seduction20/04/23 03:46 PM
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I wouldn't call that peacocking, I'd call that "dressing like an adult" and that's a great place to start. Peacocking would be something like all of your accessories - glasses frames, watch band, belt, shoe laces, etc - all being day-glo green or nausea-inducing orange - for no reason other than getting people to notice you.
/r/seduction01/11/22 01:39 PM
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Man, I always love seeing your posts here - this one's a breath of fresh air. Lemme add a few of my own 1 - Lots of guys come to Seddit looking for the magic pill that lets them shortcut past doing the hard work of becoming a better person. You see it all the time with the black pill guys who take Tinder/Bumble/The apps/Online Dating and the endless focus on who looks the best on their first dating picture and say that's all dating ever is and could be. 2 - Developing good game when you don't ha…
/r/seduction16/10/22 11:08 PM
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A crew cut or something similar would be fine. Reducing the amount of hair you have on your head will actually draw people's eyes away from it and towards your eyes because your hair is dark and high up on your head - having less of it will bring the overall profile of your face closer to your eyes. Your smile is lovely, do it more. If you have the budget, spend a little bit more on a professional barber for men who will be able to give you better advice than random dudes on the internet and can…
/r/seduction10/10/22 02:33 AM
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Being physically attractive in social situations is much like having a handicap in a round of golf. You have to do less work to get to the same end result - less work to wind up in bed with her than your less attractive buddies. Is it possible to be a short fat ugly smelly weird guy and still pull stunners? Sure, it's possible. Usually men in that category have something else going for them - a handicap that doesn't rely on their looks. Money is a common handicap. Status and lifestyle are less c…
/r/seduction13/09/22 09:37 PM
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Idk whenever someone says "She's a 10" I just take that to mean "She's a 9 but the way she presents herself is personally super attractive to me" like he's got a thing for tattoos and she's a tattoo model or something
/r/seduction02/07/22 03:06 PM
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What is up with all of this random ass bad advice in Seduction all of a sudden? This sort of shit is what Snapchat was designed for. Take photos of your holiday experience and put them on your snap or insta story like you normally do so she sees it. Then once every day or every two days while you're gone - not so often that you overwhelm but often enough that she keeps thinking about it - take a photo of a beautiful vista or a private beach or the resort pool + cabana and send it to her with the…
/r/seduction02/07/22 02:24 PM
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Well what hobbies are you willing to try then? You've gotten a lot of really good suggestions in this thread from myself and plenty of others and you're saying a lot of "I don't like this" or "I don't want to do that" At some point you need to decide whether you place more value in being comfortable and getting what you've always gotten or if you're willing to be uncomfortable and get different results. Almost all growth happens when you put yourself outside your comfort zone and you're right at…
/r/seduction30/06/22 03:24 PM
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How often, though? This should be at least daily practice, preferably multiple times daily, until you're just chatting with most service folks without thinking about it too deeply. Once it's second nature, move up a level
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:31 PM
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Start off easy - talk to people who are paid to talk back and be nice to you. Store clerks, the kiosk people at shopping malls, uber/lyft drivers, staff if you're at a business etc. Just a 30 second to 2 minute chat - open up, ask a relevant question, crack a joke, make them laugh (or not, either way), thank them for their time and move on. Do this at least a couple of times a day until you're not so anxious about it any more and you can get the conversation flowing pretty naturally (that period…
/r/seduction29/06/22 09:30 PM
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Right. And it's hard to start off something where you don't have all the information because you're probably similar to me in that you WANT all the information up front so you can make the best decision. But people don't work that way. You 100% have to get out and be talking with people and interacting with them naturally - and fuck up, probably a lot - to really start to get the hang of things. It's a bit like playing a sport. You can watch all the videos you want, hire any coach, do all the dr…
/r/seduction29/06/22 07:32 PM
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Everyone needs a "lot of work", man. I see that you list "introvert, socially awkward, and weird" as negatives. I'm also an introvert, it doesn't mean that you're destined to be eternally bad with social situations forever - it simply means that you need some time to recharge your batteries when you get tired of people. You're probably also really good at going over things in your head after the fact and identifying things that you didn't notice the first time around - I bet that's helped with l…
/r/seduction29/06/22 01:20 PM
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if you don't have the looks, women definitely won't respect you Looks are not the end all be all of dating. How women respect you (or don't) is basically [1. how attractive you are to her overall] * [2. the amount of shit you let her get away with] 1 is pretty simple. Everyone's attracted to different things but the basics of being attractive are pretty universal - base attractiveness, grooming, style, hygiene, confidence, lifestyle, etc and you should work on leveling up all of them except base…
/r/seduction29/06/22 12:47 PM
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Walks are fine if you're the sort of person that can keep an interesting conversation going without thinking about it or needing outside stimulus to draw upon. But if that sort of conversation skill isn't in your toolbox yet, it's better to go somewhere or do something interesting that generates conversation. Flea markets, local festivals / parades, farmer's markets (especially if you can cook), dog parks, etc are all better outdoor walk-y options if your conversation skills are a bit weak. I do…
/r/seduction26/06/22 06:30 PM
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I'm not dating anyone exclusively right now, but I am casually dating two women and sleeping with three others. The difference between them is with casual dating we go out as a couple but aren't exclusive or looking for anything serious/committed with the other person. More like adventure buddies / wedding dates that clean up nice and like to sleep together
/r/seduction20/06/22 12:00 AM
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Looks are basically a handicap - if you look good, you start out ahead of other people so you have to do less work to get the same result. Style is the same way. So is smelling good or having money or whatever. Personality does all the heavy lifting though. If you're boring as fuck but hot and/or rich, you'll get pussy but the women won't respect you. Not only have I seen this personally but I've actually talked to the women in my life about it - like "yeah if he's got a boat I might fuck him bu…
/r/seduction19/06/22 11:20 PM
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Define "undesirable" though. No guy or approach gets "all" the women no matter how tight the game. Where does it seem to fall apart after you go chat her up?
/r/seduction19/06/22 11:11 PM
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I'm not saying it's not hard. Shit can be real weird depending on what you start with. For example, I didn't talk to people I didn't know when I was 19. Like full stop, stranger danger light was always on inside my head. Like I bought tickets to a concert and got to the show and didn't know which room the show was in so I just turned around and went home rather than ask literally any of the staff members for directions. The last almost-20 years have been a lot of work and alternatively really sc…
/r/seduction19/06/22 11:07 PM
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I agree to an extent. A lot of the things like the escalation ladder or list of fun places to date are useful as a reference for guys who don't know what the fuck they're doing like "Ok I'm doing this, this is the next step" and having references / guides for the basic skills like "What does a good approach look like", "How do I ditch the basic dude clothes and dress like an adult", "how do I never run out of things to say" is great for newbies. But most of the routines, the YouTube "gurus" with…
/r/seduction19/06/22 06:19 PM
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No, Woujo is correct. You can want the world to behave in a certain way and that's all well and good, but reality doesn't behave in what we consider "ideal" ways a lot of the time. Humans are emotional beings and usually make decisions based on emotions and then come up with logical justifications for those emotion-based decisions later. A self-confident person usually makes other people feel positive emotions when they're around that person - safe, relaxed, excited, joyous, aroused, etc. Humans…
/r/seduction28/04/22 12:09 PM
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This turned out to be lots longer than I planned. It's a little fragmented in places but I hope the gist comes across Stimulate him visually — tease him with your body, wear sexy outfits, have nicely manicured hands and feet, and so on This, but to be more specific, foreplay for guys is easier to rush through. Just look sexy or make any reference to sex in the area and his mind will automatically gravitate towards fucking you. But don't just take the easy path and rely on ease - step up and stan…
/r/seduction05/10/21 04:02 PM
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Well, I had mentally included being fun / social / "authentic" aka having actions that are congruent with your thoughts and feelings within the whole "top tier conversation skills" but you're absolutely right and I should have expanded more on that. Per the personality bit, yes and no. Most men are much more visual than most women, as a rule. And an attractive woman walking around a crowded place telling men "Hey it's my last day of vacation before I go home, I've got a hotel down the street - n…
/r/seduction14/03/20 02:05 PM
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This comment should be higher. It's not that the friend was "hot" or "good looking" or whatever else. People do let you get away with more if you're attractive, but being attractive is not a requirement for good game. I have seen some conventionally wtfugly dudes pull some absolutely top of the line women because they've got the skills to do so. For every guy who thinks he can't get laid cause he's 5'5", I think of my buddy Jay who's 5'2", skinny as a rail, but with some of the best conversation…
/r/seduction14/03/20 04:26 AM
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You wouldn't need karma to view the sub, simply to post new topics. This is more aimed towards cleaning up the quality of submissions because there's a lot of weird stuff that drags down the overall conversation in Seddit. And as a side effect, it'll rout more of the newbie or "what do I do here" questions to /r/AskSeddit where they're supposed to be
/r/seduction23/05/19 09:43 PM
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Tbh I'm not sure what this is - it seems like a shit test at first glance but reads like the other person is just spewing their stream of consciousness and hoping that you can make sense of it at the end. The key, as always, is to be unruffled by whatever they say and continue living your best life - not responding emotionally to bullshit like "you suck". Rather, take the first rule of improv: agree and escalate. "Yup, I suck a lot. Isn't that why we're friends? wink" or my personal favorite "Ye…
/r/seduction22/04/19 02:00 PM
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I'm a brown dude, I have facial hair, I dress decently, Skinny fat but look decent with clothes on, I work out whenever I can but don't eat the best and I don't have an accent. Brown dude can be rough to start, especially if you're not well groomed. Not sure what "facial hair" means, I've seen plenty of guys with facial hair that they work hard to maintain and yet it still sucks and suits them poorly. Same thing with "dress decently". I mentored a college kid last year who "dressed decently" in …
/r/seduction10/03/19 02:19 AM
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Also yes, change up photos and upload new ones (even delete photos and reupload them) occasionally so you show as "active" to Tinder's search algorithms
/r/seduction03/01/19 01:10 AM
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It's Tinder. Looks are 95% of the game. This is sarcastic, but only mildly so: First two photos should be you smiling while rubbing a cute dog's belly (not even your dog necessarily) and you smiling while out with some friends, both photos professionally taken and cleaned up. Then fill the rest of the thing up with your normal phone photos of you doing fun stuff - dancing, karaoke, trail hiking, volunteering, building something with your hands, at the beach, etc Only mildly sarcastic because tha…
/r/seduction03/01/19 01:09 AM
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How do you find the confidence? You put yourself in situations where you have the opportunity to do something different - no matter how small. When I started, it was asking people for directions to places that I already knew perfectly well just to convince myself they weren't going to bite me. You do things that scare you. You go to the gym and ask the trainer for help with a machine, you wave at people you don't know, you ask the guy at the liquor store counter for a 10% discount on your order …
/r/seduction04/12/18 06:20 AM
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Idk if this is the right place this but i think its connected to seduction. No matter who i invite out to go to the club, to play a sport, to learn to dance, etc i always get an enthusiastic yes then they cancel the day of. And if i ask the day of theyre always busy. People do this all the time. The solution is to invite more people and then make new friends when you go out to wherever you're going. Next time you go, make sure to invite them too. People who constantly flake will weed themselves …
/r/seduction24/11/18 01:51 AM
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I'd be surprised if you got called out on it, honestly. Moving chairs around at a table is a pretty normal thing. I would definitely not say anything that implies that she's hotter than what you normally date or that she's getting special treatment (especially because of her looks), I'd probably instead go for "There's a way better view from this way" or "I like to see my food coming" something that implies you're making the choice for a reason other than her.
/r/seduction18/11/18 11:15 PM
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LMAO! I'm not saying that opener's never going to work, but I think you might have some trouble making it work regularly. That's an interesting dynamic that you're looking for, you might find a cuddle buddy or something similar but honesty is really the best policy after you make out the first time. I'd recommend something more along the lines of "So I just want to put this out there before we move any further, I'm a practicing Catholic and I don't want to have sex before marriage, so let's move…
/r/seduction18/11/18 11:09 PM
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You absolutely do not need to fuck women to be socially superb with women. However, that does come with a caveat: If you're very good at approaching, making conversation, building interest and sexual tension, and getting her alone, she's usually going to assume that you want to fuck her brains out. Getting her horny and then saying "no, I want to save myself for marriage" isn't going to endear you to many women, so you may have to do a lot of figuring out how to build interest and intrigue witho…
/r/seduction18/11/18 09:54 PM
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Unless sitting next to her (or more likely, at a 90 degree angle) is going to block a walkway, do it anyway. Sitting across the table makes it much more difficult to break that touch barrier unless she really likes playing footsie. It is 100% OK to go against the grain a little bit as long as you own it. Moving a chair around so that you sit where you want to is fine.
/r/seduction18/11/18 09:46 PM
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Don't ignore red flags +1 to this. Also: if a woman tells you that she's legit crazy, believe her.
/r/seduction08/11/18 10:40 PM
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Your best option here is to meet other women and date them instead. This one clearly isn't giving you the time of day and attempting to kowtow to her and apologize for being interested in her definitely isn't going to help you out. If she sees you having fun with other people, she might become more interested (or she might not, but at that point, it's her problem and not yours)
/r/seduction08/11/18 04:13 PM
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Do any women here actually judge guys like this? Of course. Everyone has things that they like and dislike in other people. I don't think it's a stretch to say that most people want to be around other people who are fun, but also know where the line between fun and weird / scary is. You are constantly being judged by other people based on their values, just like you are constantly judging others based on your own values. That's how society works - you get to pick who you hang out with based on w…
/r/seduction07/11/18 04:42 PM
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The louder the club, the less vocal tonality is going to help. You're going to have to scream to make yourself heard and nobody wants to carry on a screaming conversation. Are you talking to them normally/face to face? Being asked to repeat yourself is a great excuse to lean in close and talk directly into her ear. It gets you close real fast and you've got a built-in reason to do some touching that's right on the line between friendly and more than friendly, but in a way that she won't find wei…
/r/seduction12/05/18 08:37 PM
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Playlist - https://open.spotify.com/user/spotify/playlist/37i9dQZF1DWVS1recTqXhf Preferred album - https://open.spotify.com/album/6mdcFb6iCsRo1W7gnPfLZP
/r/seduction31/12/17 09:27 PM
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For counterpoint, meditation and using a journal have been two of the most impactful things for me. I had trouble starting out with solo meditation, but I found an excellent guided meditation playlist on Spotify that I would use before going to bed. Long story short, I'm much more able to separate my instincts and bad habits from my good habits and that's made me easily twice as productive as I was in 2016. Meditation seems to be a bit like weightlifting in that there's a lot of different ways t…
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:53 PM
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Friendzoning is something that you shouldn't worry about unless you're not being bold enough in your interactions. If you are consistently being put in the "friend zone", you need to be more sexual in your interactions. I'm willing to bet that you're not worried about girls that you're not attracted to putting you into the friend zone, only the ones that you are attracted doing so. You cannot treat these two groups of women identically if you want different results between them. If you want to a…
/r/seduction29/09/17 08:05 PM
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Well, I'd change your mindset for starters. When you're out at a club, you can get women to make out pretty easy and come home with you for a bit more effort. However, when you're talking to her in a lower energy space like the library or a study session, making that same transition into make out session or spontaneous tour of your place is a lot harder to pull off. Take three steps back in the interaction and focus on the enjoyment you get from being present with her and meeting someone new. Do…
/r/seduction29/09/17 07:38 PM
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You said it yourself, mate "More on the playful side" - no "but still". As long as both you and she are having fun, keep having fun. Sounds like you might need to make your first touch more natural instead of going directly for a shoulder touch (which can be a pretty bold thing, especially at a first meeting in a low-energy space like a study room), try tapping her arm with the back of your hand to emphasize jokes and other things when she's laughing and having fun. It's super non-invasive, work…
/r/seduction28/09/17 08:19 PM
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It depends on what mood you're looking to set, let's be honest. Songza has dozens of activity-based playlists for "Getting Lucky", "Making Out", "Grinding in a Nightclub", "Romantic Evening", and "Stripping", among others. Even then, take the time and curate the playlist beforehand. More than one Songza playlist has a song that seems completely out of place. Better to find that one early before it comes up and your girl says "haha what is this?" and jumps off the bed.
/r/seduction13/03/15 06:35 PM
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You'll find that everywhere though. Negging has been made into a buzzword representing everything "morally bankrupt" with PUA/seduction for years now. Everyone's got a story about meeting the caricature scumbag PUA who hands out insults like candy and calls it negging, whose only accomplishment is making everyone around him feel like shit. That's one of the pitfalls of the internet. Nothing dies here. You'll find newspaper articles and blog posts from 2004 linked everywhere on Reddit as though t…
/r/seduction27/02/14 09:06 PM
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This is a reduction of a lot of what seduction teaches. There are definitely some parts of it that had me nodding along and there are a few parts of it that had me cringing. If I could, I'd erase that bit where they talk about what's essentially negging. Yes, it works if you do it right, but if you're seriously bad at talking to girls, that part will get you into way more trouble than it's worth.
/r/seduction07/02/14 04:24 PM
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I can definitely see where the mods have been going into overdrive, especially on a subreddit that's usually pretty well behaved. Thank you for that, by the way. I've been around the community for a while and have seen exactly what happens when moderators don't do their jobs. Seddit is a refreshing change of pace. Can we somehow do a public sit-down "How do we address common issues for the uninitiated in a constructive manner" discussion? It seems that lots of us are willing to contribute bits a…
/r/seduction14/11/13 04:00 AM
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Someone sidebar this please. /u/ThrowawayPUA I'm looking at you
/r/seduction14/11/13 12:54 AM
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'Hitch' is one of the only movies that offers real dating advice for real people in the real world. A movie whose plot depends on averting WWIII with tic tac toe might not be the best source of reliable information.
/r/seduction11/09/13 05:58 AM
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Yes. And also no. The gist of outcome independence is that you should not allow someone else's poor attitude to drag yours down. It is not license to bludgeon someone else with the topic of your choice until they declare undying lust for you. Let's talk about my roomie for a second. He's been studying/living/working economics for over a decade now. I'm sure he dreams about data sets and shits out excel spreadsheets in the morning bathroom frenzy. For the longest time, I couldn't introduce him to…
/r/seduction11/09/13 05:50 AM
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You don't need bars or clubs. You're in NYC, you've got one of the absolute best training grounds in the world as your backyard. Go talk to people. Complete Seddit's 100-set challenge to help break through the anxiety of opening new people. Stop people on the street and have thirty second conversations. You'll meet a lot of really cool (and a lot of really strange) people. You'll get cool stories. Your first 100-set challenge is always the hardest, but it's also the most rewarding. Billy's Guide…
/r/seduction11/09/13 05:26 AM
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"Not eligible to play"? Sir, you've benched yourself and are watching from the sidelines as everyone else plays the game without you. You can't be a champion on the field if you're not out practicing or scrimmaging or drilling or researching or somehow pushing your limits every day. Game is no different in that respect. You can sit in the armchair and read the pickup books and read the pickup videos and use the pickup lines until the cows come home, but until you stop making excuses for yourself…
/r/seduction11/09/13 05:08 AM
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I've been following this since I read about it a few days ago and, with the court filing, I went looking for updates on the case. On February 12th of this year, the NY State Unified Court System dismissed Treistman's appeal sua sponte due to CPLR 5061 (appeals as of right) Link to NY Courts summary. (scroll down to pg.10) Legal definition of Sua Sponte (Basically, the court acts of its own accord without prompting from plaintiff or defendant) Legal definition of requirements for appeal as of rig…
/r/MensRights10/09/13 07:03 AM
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Is it possible? Short answer: Yes, but it's time consuming and you're really better off pursuing other women and reconnecting with this one later in life when you're both a little older and a little different. If you wanted to push it now, you'd have to consciously change your personality and activity choices, while being fun, upbeat, flirty and completely non-sexual until she's got her attraction back. So yes, it is very much like climbing out of the nice guy friend-zone.
/r/seduction01/09/13 03:15 PM
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There are three points that will work well for you here. Flirting: Indicators of Interest (IOIs) from her don't mean shit if you don't act on them. If you get an IOI from this girl, please just assume that she's interested and escalate. If you're in a group with her, move to isolate her from her friends, even if you're just positioning her so her back is facing the rest of the group when you're standing in front of her. You shouldn't try to escalate beyond something that you'd do with another gu…
/r/seduction09/05/13 06:45 PM
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My go-to reply for anything along those lines is "Aw, stop, you'll make me blush!", then give her a big shit-eating grin and and lightly push her away. If she's got any game of her own, she'll laugh and move closer to you. From there, proceed as usual.
/r/seduction09/05/13 06:07 PM
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