Garfagnana Archive

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44	“Men are looking for clean water in a desert while women are looking for clean water in a swamp” is the most misandrist analogy I ever heard The “swamp” analogy is really just a way of describing that women are spoilt for choice, especially on dating apps. I’ve gone on dates with women who have told me (and even showed me) the amount of “likes” they get on apps, like Hinge. It’s not uncommon at all for a very average woman who puts minimal effort into her profile to get 50+ “likes” per day, especially if she lives in a densely populated area. Most men aren’t getting anywhere near that amount of “likes.” Hell, I get a “like” maybe onc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/25 03:59 PM
–	The Overabundance of Male Validation Has Made Us Disposable Personally, I think there’s a simping epidemic going on, from both men and women. Men and women simp differently, though. Men primarily simp with their attention and money, whereas women primarily simp with their attention and sex. Men who simp often feel like they get taken advantage of. They usually bitch about how women are all “gold diggers,” because he paid for nice dates and didn’t get any bedroom action after. Likewise, women who simp also feel like they get taken advantage of. They usual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/25 02:28 PM
3	Q4M: Would you date someone who fetishizes you? Why or why not? Hahaha, I actually have encountered that “White men have softer erections” stuff when I hooked up with a Korean woman. I was the first White guy she had been with sexually (or so she told me), and she was like “Oh, wow, you’re a lot harder than I thought you’d be.” I was really confused, until she told me it’s a stereotype in Korea that White guys have softer erections.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 05:42 PM
20	Q4M: Would you date someone who fetishizes you? Why or why not? I’ve dated and have hooked up with Asian women who clearly had a White guy fetish. It never bothered me in the slightest, since it got me laid ¯_(ツ)_/¯	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/25 03:49 AM
5	Men will always have to be the ones to approach In my experience, it’s a lot more common for non-Western women to approach men. Nearly all the women who approached me were from Asia or Latin America. I think the aversion for women to approach men—at least where I live (the USA)—is largely cultural.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/25 09:27 PM
–	Firsthand experience learning looks aren't shit. I just don’t buy this. If you truly have an amazing body, you should have no problem attracting men, unless you have the most tragically unattractive butterface known to mankind or are severely autistic—both of which seem extremely unlikely, since you say strangers compliment you a lot. Speaking from my own experience, losing weight and hitting the gym has made all the difference in the world for attracting women. When I was fat, I was functionally invisible to women; now that I’m in decent shap…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/24 03:06 PM
10	CMV: Passport Bros should not be allowed to marry foreign I never understood why Western women care if Western men become “passport bros.” It’s not like these women wanted to date or fuck those kinds of men anyway, so why would they care if the men go overseas to find love, or hell even to find casual sex? All passport bros are really doing is placing themselves in an area where they are more desirable to women. I fail to see the issue here. As an American guy who spent a month in South Korea, I honestly understand the appeal. I got much more attention…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/24 04:52 PM
3	Guys here refuse to believe any behavior can be creepy and/or hinder one’s social life. Creepy behavior definitely exists; I don’t think many people deny that. However, typically speaking, the more attractive a guy is, the more lenience is given to him before being labeled as “creepy.” Physical appearance matters much more than most people care to admit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 05:06 PM
–	Women can't complain that men voted for Trump, men are just sticking up for themselves So, if someone doesn’t vote the way you want them to, they’re taking action to control you in harmful ways? I’m not sure I agree with that, but okay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 06:42 AM
–	Women can't complain that men voted for Trump, men are just sticking up for themselves That’s the thing about living in a democracy: People can vote for whatever stupid reason they want. Them’s the breaks. Edit: grammar	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 06:31 AM
–	Women can't complain that men voted for Trump, men are just sticking up for themselves People who get genuinely upset over how other people vote need to get over themselves and pick up some hobbies. I genuinely couldn’t care less whom someone voted for.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/24 06:24 AM
–	Feminist hate and lies helped Trump to win I genuinely believe the biggest factors for why Trump won are the border crisis, inflation, and the fact that Harris was a very weak/unappealing candidate who was essentially anointed to the candidacy undemocratically after Biden dropped out. Even though I’m not a fan of contemporary feminism, I’m skeptical that aversion to feminism “significantly influenced the outcome of the U.S. elections.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/24 03:46 PM
10	Fat chicks If you are talking purely about aesthetics, I truly don’t think the number on the scale is all that important. Sure, it’s related, but it isn’t everything. Depending on several different factors (bone structure, estrogen levels, diet, whether she works out, etc.), two women of the same height and weight can have body shapes that look very different from one another. I know the word has been hijacked in recent years to simply mean “obese,” but I genuinely have a preference for curvy women, who ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/24 01:44 PM
-1	Q4M: How do you view women that approach and make the first move? I mean, sure, I’d assume that a woman was interested in me if she asked for my phone number. But just because someone shows interest doesn’t mean he or she made a move. I tend to make eye contact with women I’m interested in, but unless I ask her out on a date, my interest doesn’t really mean anything in actuality. I still don’t think asking for a phone number means much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 05:35 PM
8	Q4M: How do you view women that approach and make the first move? Like I alluded to in my original reply, I wouldn’t consider that truly “making a move.” Getting a phone number doesn’t really mean anything, since like 90% of women’s phone numbers I get don’t lead to a single date. But for the sake of your original question, I’d be flattered if a woman asked for my phone number. I don’t view it negatively at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 04:51 PM
12	Q4M: How do you view women that approach and make the first move? Well, I guess you’d have to define what “making the first move” really means. From what I’ve observed in my life, there are many times where a woman thinks giving a convoluted “hint” (e.g., eye contact, laughing at jokes, texting back immediately, etc.) counts as “making the first move.” In my opinion, if you don’t point-blank ask to go on a date, you’re not really making a move. This applies to men as well. That being said, I’ve had two women in my life (both from China, coincidentally) point-b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/24 04:44 PM
1	Why do men seem to almost exclusively focus on physical things? Oh, no worries! I don’t think what you said was an attack. And yeah, nature is cruel. But that’s the thing, evolution doesn’t “make” anything. We are just a byproduct of millions of years of natural selection. Male and female sexual strategies are always going to differ, even down to the genomic level (i.e., imprinted genes). It’s just how things are	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 05:42 PM
3	Why do men seem to almost exclusively focus on physical things? Call it whatever you want, slavery or otherwise. My high sex drive likely isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. Das ist das Leben ¯_(ツ)_/¯	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 04:16 PM
3	Why do men seem to almost exclusively focus on physical things? Yeah, what about it? Many men (including myself) can largely separate sex and emotions. I agree that having sex with a woman I genuinely love is superior to having sex with a casual fling. However, it’s genuinely difficult to find love and I still have a strong sex drive, so casual flings and FWB fill the sexual gap until I find another woman I want to have a serious and monogamous relationship with. My last serious relationship ended back in January, and I just haven’t found a woman whom I thin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 02:56 PM
3	Why do men seem to almost exclusively focus on physical things? You realize that condoms exist, right? I never rawdog during a casual hookup since it’s just not worth it, for the reason you gave as well as STDs. But at the end of the day, you have a point. Men get basically zero reproductive rights after a woman becomes pregnant and it’s the woman who ultimately decides whether or not she will “baby trap” the man. The logical thing to do would be to not engage in casual sex, but most guys (including myself) have a very strong sex drive that’s damn near impos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/10/24 02:43 PM
11	Why do men seem to almost exclusively focus on physical things? In my experience, I am totally willing to get into a serious, long-term relationship with a woman, assuming I think she’s worth it. But I’m, admittedly, pretty picky when it comes to that, so I’ve only had two serious relationships at 28 years old. The vast majority of women I would have sex with I wouldn’t date seriously. Just like how men aren’t entitled to sex, women aren’t entitled to proper relationships. C’est la vie	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/24 10:14 PM
25	Why do men seem to almost exclusively focus on physical things? Maybe some men are afraid of commitment, but I genuinely don’t think most are. It’s just that men have MUCH higher standards for dating a woman seriously versus just having a casual FWB relationship. A serious committed relationship takes a ton of time and money as a man. I also have to make sure she has a fundamentally compatible worldview, whether she would be a good mother, whether she is financially responsible, whether I realistically think I could be with her long-term, etc. When it comes …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/24 10:05 PM
3	Do Modern Men Want Women to be More Submissive or more Masculine? I’d love to give one, but I genuinely don’t follow celeb stuff. I’m one of the worst people to ask	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/24 05:41 PM
5	Do Modern Men Want Women to be More Submissive or more Masculine? No, I wouldn’t. I don’t see the appeal of that at all. Edit: I worded this poorly. I can understand the appeal to somebody who is controlling and wants to have power over someone else. That’s just not how I am, so it’s not appealing to me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/24 05:06 PM
8	Do Modern Men Want Women to be More Submissive or more Masculine? I can only speak for myself, but my “type” is women who look very traditionally feminine, but are also sassy/spicy tomboys who love banter. To me, it’s the best of both worlds, since I’m physically attracted to feminine appearances, but I get along better with tomboys and sassy women. I genuinely wouldn’t want to date a “submissive” woman who lets me walk all over her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/24 04:49 PM
2	Guys don't have to worry about being judged for having strong sexual desires. Yup, you hit it on the head. Women don’t settle as often as men, simply because women don’t have to. I can’t really blame women for this, tbh.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/24 05:41 AM
3	Do you guys actually have female friends? Not really. The closest thing I have to a female friend is a woman I play Call of Duty zombies with from time to time, whom I used to be FWB with. I also have a female penpal from Singapore, but I wouldn’t really consider her a true “friend.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/24 06:30 PM
1	What is your experience getting casual sex versus a relationship? For me, obtaining a serious relationship is more difficult than obtaining casual sex, but I think that’s largely do to the fact that my standards for a woman I’d actually want to date are astronomically higher than a woman I’d just hook up with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:29 PM
16	45% of men aged 18-25 have never asked out a woman in person before. Men, why do you think this is? Using dating apps has yielded me far more success when getting dates and hookups compared to approaching in person, so I’ll just stick to the apps. Also, if you meet a woman on an app, she’s presumably on the app specifically to seek out a date or hookup. The same cannot be said about some random woman out in public.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 07:07 PM
6	hook ups, fwb and long term dating... I fundamentally agree with what you’re saying. However, I think this ignores the fact that not every man can be good-looking. While there are certain things people can do to increase their attractiveness (good diet, exercise, skin care routine, proper sleep hygiene, etc), there are genetic limits to everyone’s attractiveness. Some people max out at 10/10, some max out at 6/10, some max out at 3/10, and so on. I consider myself a moderately attractive guy and have had success in acquiring casual …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/24 03:48 PM
–	Most of what gives women the "ick" are just perceived shortcomings of masculinity Some women get “the ick” over the stupidest shit. One time I had a woman get “the ick” after I told her I’m red-green colorblind. No, I’m not joking. I think a lot of women have this idea that their perfect Prince Charming is out there for her, and in reality, he doesn’t exist. But to be fair, I don’t think this is exclusive to women. There are definitely some men who think his “perfect” woman is out there, but in reality, she doesn’t exist. Nobody’s perfect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/24 03:47 PM
1	Would you date someone who is bisexual? Again, what are you on about? I never called myself bisexual, because I’m not. She only mentioned that she’s bisexual to me because we were talking about our sexual pasts. She wanted to be transparent and disclose that she has had sex with women. Where are you getting this weird attitude?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 10:08 PM
1	Would you date someone who is bisexual? I have no idea what you’re on about. You really think you know my ex-gf better than I do?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 01:59 PM
1	Would you date someone who is bisexual? It obviously didn’t play that big of a role to me if I dated my ex-gf, knowing she’s bisexual.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/24 01:53 PM
2	Is Anti-Immigration/Refugee Sentiment Partly Fueled by the Fear of Sexual Competition? Maybe for some people it is about sexual competition? Personally, I’m fine with immigration, as long as the immigrant is here legally, is willing to assimilate to wider American culture (including the ability to speak English), isn’t a public charge, and isn’t a criminal. The sex, race, or national origin of an immigrant doesn’t matter to me at all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 12:57 AM
3	Would you date someone who is bisexual? My last girlfriend was bisexual, so I have dated a bisexual woman. She told me she was bisexual really early on in our relationship and even told me that she lost her virginity to a female classmate in high school. That knowledge was somewhat interesting to learn, but aside from that, her bisexuality never really bothered me, as it really played no role in our relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/08/24 12:47 AM
2	Intelligence and Promiscuity I once had a FWB who is physical attractive and a very sweet and considerate person. But she’s a bit slow on the uptake, to put it nicely. This is why I didn’t want to pursue an actual relationship ship with her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 12:20 AM
1	Q4M: When dating, do you find success with being the "consummate gentleman"? Like I said earlier, it depends on what outcome I was hoping for. For some women, I just wanna hook up. For some women, I want an actual relationship. But to answer your original question: 1) Hook up, no ; Relationship, no 2) Hook up, no ; Relationship, yes 3) Hook up, no ; Relationship, no 4) Hook up, no ; Relationship, yes 5) Hook up, no ; Relationship, yes 6) Hook up, no ; Relationship, no 7) Hook up, no ; Relationship, no 8) I never wear hats 9) I’ve never done this 10) Hook up, yes; Relatio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 01:04 AM
1	Q4M: When dating, do you find success with being the "consummate gentleman"? Well, how do you define “success?” Do you mean getting to hook up? Or do you mean forming an actual relationship? Because depending on the women I’m on a date with, I might have different goals than if I were on a date with another woman. In general, I’ve found that if I just want causal sex, being a little bit of a snarky asshole works the best. If I want an actual relationship, being a “traditional” and “romantic” man works the best.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/24 12:46 AM
1	Q4M: Would you rather date a smoker or an overweight woman? In South Korea, a healthy weight is considered to be a BMI of 18.5-22.99 (23.0-24.99 is considered overweight, and 25+ is considered obese). Sure, that might seem crazy by Western standards, but there is evidence that East Asian people don’t tolerate having extra body weight as well as other ethnicities. In fact, there’s a push here in the U.S. to have a specific BMI scale for people of East Asian ancestry. Sources: https://m.koreaherald.com/view.php?ud=20231116000838 https://synapse.koreamed.or…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/24 06:30 PM
2	Q4M: Would you rather date a smoker or an overweight woman? I really think it depends. There are some women out there who might technically be considered overweight by BMI standards, but still look amazing because she stores all the fat in the right places and maintains that ideal 0.70 waist-to-hip ratio. My last ex-gf was like this. She was 5’6” (168 cm) and weighed about 150 lbs (68 kg), which gave her a BMI of 24.1; this is actually considered “overweight” in her home country (South Korea). I thought she looked amazing, because almost all of her fat w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/24 01:26 PM
1	Men Who Want To Hookup Are Ruining Modern Dating I’d be more sympathetic with women making men wait a while before having sex if women didn’t demand that men pay for dates. Why the hell should I pay for dates if I’m not getting anything in return? Seems rather one-sided to me. I’ve heard women say things along the lines of “If he doesn’t pay on the first date, he’s not getting a second date.” Likewise, if a woman doesn’t have sex with me by the third date, she’s not getting a fourth date. I think this is only fair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/24 02:20 AM
3	Men Who Want To Hookup Are Ruining Modern Dating You realize I agree with you, right? Most men on dating apps aren’t interested in pursuing serious relationships. This is why I’m confused that women are seemingly shocked that most guys on dating apps only want to keep things casual. So-called “dating” apps have functioned more like hookup apps for at least the past decade. Men and women who try looking for serious relationships on dating apps are foolish.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/24 02:06 AM
10	Men Who Want To Hookup Are Ruining Modern Dating You’re right. Men literally just want sex. Relationships are purely fictional and don’t actually exist! Sarcasm aside, why are women seemingly shocked that men on dating apps want casual sex? Anyone old enough to use dating apps should also be old enough to know that dating apps are primarily used for hookups.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 11:06 PM
8	Men Who Want To Hookup Are Ruining Modern Dating How does preferring casual sex—and making that preference known—make a man a “degenerate?”	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 10:40 PM
7	Men Who Want To Hookup Are Ruining Modern Dating I understand where you’re coming from, but I think it’s a bit naïve to expect men to wait a prolonged time before having sex, as we don’t live in the 1800s. The reality is that most women nowadays have engaged in sex with a man by the first, second, or third date. Why should I wait any longer than that? Serious question: How long do you expect a man to wait before you’ll have sex with him? I’ve dated three women long-term. I had sex on the first date with two of my ex-gfs and I had sex with my o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 08:33 PM
38	Men Who Want To Hookup Are Ruining Modern Dating What’s the problem with men being honest about their intentions? Would you rather them lie?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/24 06:16 PM
–	Women in their 20s usually like guys our/their own age Yeah, I think you hit it on the head. It’s similar to how, as an atheist, nobody cares if I say I don’t believe in Zeus or Odin—probably because virtually nobody actually believes in these gods anymore. But as soon as I say I don’t believe in Yahweh (the Abrahamic god), a lot of Christians, Muslims, and even Jews get all butthurt and take it personally. But to be fair, green minotaur Xeta-Ephron III women are pretty hot ;)	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/24 04:50 PM
–	I’m a “non-high value” woman pulling “high value” men - AMA Define “pulling” a man, because I have a sneaking suspicion that “pulling a man” just means he’ll fuck you, if given the chance. That’s not impressive in the slightest as a woman, even at 39 years old. I mean, if that makes you happy, good for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/24 02:52 AM
6	Do women often marry men that they don't passionately love? I mean, this is going to depend on the woman, her motives for marrying, and her options when it comes to men willing to commit to her. Sure, some women get married for the reasons you’ve described, but many women get married out of actual love. I think my parents are a great example of the latter. They started dating in their late teens and got married in their mid-twenties. They’ve been married for almost 30 years and it’s very obvious that they still love each other very much. I’d be more surp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/24 05:57 PM
20	Why people overestimate how difficult is for women to get commitment ? I don’t think it’s difficult for women to get commitment at all. It is, however, difficult for an average woman to get commitment from a hot or successful guy (i.e., “Chad,” for lack of a better term). A 5/10, bang-on average woman would have no problem securing commitment from an endless horde of 5/10, bang-on average guys. However, most average women want guys who are significantly more attractive than average. An 8/10 hot guy is probably willing to have sex with a 5/10 average woman, but it’s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/24 05:04 PM
2	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? I’ve only ever gone on one date with a European woman, and that was a woman from Poland. She paid for herself, even after we agreed not to go on a second date—she was a lot more religious than I am, and that was a dealbreaker to her. I appreciated her honesty. Obviously, most of my dating experience is with American women, but both of my ex-girlfriends were actually Asian (one Singaporean and one Korean). I’ve also been on dates with other Asian women from China, Vietnam, and Thailand. In my exp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/24 01:42 PM
2	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? Oh, Sie kommen aus Deutschland? Geil! Yeah, that makes sense. From what I’ve heard from other men, it seems like European women (at least in some countries/cultures) are generally a lot more cool with paying for themselves compared to women in the United States (where I’m from). I’m glad you guys are in a happy relationship! Whenever I’m in a relationship, I don’t mind paying for stuff nearly as much as on a first date. I just think it’s incredibly entitled to show up on a first date, while the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/24 01:01 PM
2	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? Yeah, it’s always nice to go on a date with a reasonable woman like you. It’s always amusing to me when a woman offers to pay for herself, I take her up on it, and she gets butthurt because I’m “supposed to” insist on paying. Why even offer to pay if it’ll cause upset if I accept? The only time I’ll ever insist on paying for everything is if I’ve already been dating a woman for a while and I’m going out on a date specifically to treat her. I just don’t see why I should pay for a stranger on a fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/24 12:29 PM
2	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? All of my FWBs have been 19-23. If you want to spend money to get pussy, have fun. I personally prefer to not waste money on things I can get for free. To each his own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/24 01:28 AM
2	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? Or just pay for yourself and still get laid? I can pull it off ¯_(ツ)_/¯	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/24 12:45 AM
3	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? If I wanted to pay for pussy, I’d just hire a prostitute	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 10:56 PM
1	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? On a first date, I expect her to pay for whatever she orders and I pay for whatever I order. I don’t believe in 50/50, because if I order a $16 entree and water, but she orders a $25 entree and three cocktails that cost $9 a piece, why should I pay $34 (half of the $68 total bill) when I only ordered $16 worth of stuff? Once I’m in a relationship, I’m a lot more cool with paying for stuff, since my girlfriend isn’t a stranger. Also, I’m already getting sex from a woman who’s my girlfriend. I jus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 07:59 PM
3	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? I’m a medical student. I’ll have plenty of money soon enough. But even when I’m making $200k+ as a physician in a few years, I still wouldn’t want to pay for first dates, since I typically don’t spend money on strangers. Feel free to spend your money on strangers, if that’s what you need to do to get laid. I’ve been able to date and fuck women who are willing to split the bill on a first date. Not all women are cheapskates.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 06:26 PM
5	Has adultery historically been a catastrophe in relationships? I disagree about sex not being as important in romantic relationships back in the day. There used to be the whole concept of consummating a marriage, as in a marriage wasn’t seen as legit until the couple had sex. We don’t really see it like that anymore, as marriage is really just a legal document nowadays. Sex has always been and always will be an important part of most people’s romantic relationships. Tbh, it would be kinda weird if it wasn’t. Not even that long ago, a lot of women “saved the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 04:41 PM
18	Has adultery historically been a catastrophe in relationships? You really think sex was seen as less important back in the day? Fucking hell, if I were some serf to some asshole lord, I think sex would be one of the only good things in my life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 04:16 PM
3	We often talk here about how successful, high-performing women want educated and successful men, but do most educated and successful men want ambitious women? Yeah, twin adoption studies consistently show that intelligence seems to be anywhere from 40-60% genetic. That means that genes control roughly half of one’s intelligence. I agree with you that I’d want to have kids with an intelligent woman to increase my hypothetical kids’ chance of success. An uncomfortable truth is that IQ is the number one predictor of a child’s chance at succeeding later in life. I would’ve assumed the most important thing was socioeconomic background of the parents. Nope!…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 01:04 PM
4	Women, what's something (behaviour, presentation, expression) seen as traditionally masculine that gives you the ick? Men, what's something seen as traditionally feminine that gives you the ick? I’m not sure if this aligns with the spirit of the thread, but I find it incredibly annoying when a woman expects me to pay for everything on a first date. It’s like, I don’t even fucking know you yet. Why the hell should I pay for you, simply because I have a Y-chromosome and you don’t? I’ve heard women say things along the lines of “If he doesn’t pay for the first date, he’s not getting a second date.” Imagine if I were to say something like, “If she doesn’t blow me after the first date, she’s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 12:42 PM
2	We often talk here about how successful, high-performing women want educated and successful men, but do most educated and successful men want ambitious women? Do you know what neoliberal actually means? Neoliberalism advocates for free market capitalism, laissez-faire economics, and less governmental oversight. I’ve met very few women who are neoliberal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 04:34 AM
2	Will polygyny be normalized in the future? I mean, some women kinda already choose a soft version of polygyny, in that they get into “situationships” with attractive guys who concurrently have “situationships” with other women. With that being said, I don’t think polygyny will ever be the norm. Most women don’t want that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 03:46 AM
9	We often talk here about how successful, high-performing women want educated and successful men, but do most educated and successful men want ambitious women? Yeah, I know what you mean. This is gonna make me sound like a total fucking asshole, but I one time had a FWB who was a very pretty and sweet woman. She was very pleasant to be around I I found her company to be enjoyable; I would’ve dated her if she wasn’t kinda dumb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/24 03:10 AM
22	We often talk here about how successful, high-performing women want educated and successful men, but do most educated and successful men want ambitious women? I’m a medical student, so I’m not a physician yet, but I will be in due time. Honestly, I don’t really care about a woman’s education or ambition to get a high-octane job. My last girlfriend was always so self-conscious about not having a college degree and working as a bank teller. I really couldn’t care less that she didn’t have a college degree. I knew that she was an intelligent person, and that was good enough for me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/24 10:39 PM
1	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV I think the ideal ratio would be 1:1 men to women. Now, that’s assuming we don’t factor in homosexual men and women who have no interest dating the opposite sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/24 02:23 PM
2	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV So you’re just gonna reduce what I said down to “Incel nonsense”? What else should I have expected from this subreddit? I’m not even an incel. Sure, I lost my virginity pretty late (26 years old), but I nowadays usually have a sexual partner at any given time. I’ve had sex with 14 women (16 of you count only blowjobs). These days, I have a FWB whom I see about once every week or two. I’m also talking to several other women on Hinge and I have a first date with one this upcoming weekend. There’s …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/04/24 02:16 PM
1	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV Well, first off, you conveniently ignored what I mentioned about there simply being more males born than females. If there are more men than women, women can be pickier than men. For example, if there are 105 women for every 100 men, there are gonna be 5 men who left are unpaired, even if 100% of the women pair off with a man. Even this extra 5% gives women a considerable advantage in the dating market, since it’s lowers competition for women and increases competition for men. Second. Sure, you …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 08:40 PM
4	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV If coupling were truly a zero-sum game, then why is the rate of single young men twice the rate of single young women? Also, in most countries, young men simply outnumber young women. For example, in the USA there are 104.8 boys born for every 100 girls. In Spain, it’s 106.2 boys born for every 100 girls. In Japan, it’s 105.1 boys born for every 100 girls. The example you tried to give doesn’t take this into account. Most women date up.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 01:48 PM
12	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV Eating food, playing video games, and playing pool isn’t “couple shit.” If that were true, I guess I’d be dating all of my male friends. Lmao. The term is called “friends with benefits,” so I think it’s only fitting that we’d do stuff friends do together. Seeing basic stuff like this as “couple shit” is just a seeing something that simply isn’t there. Like meeting somebody’s brother isn’t “couple shit.” I’ve met my male friends’ siblings. If I were buying her flowers, writing her poems, and prof…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 04:08 AM
6	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV I agree that in most couples I see, the looks are pretty similar (mostly within a point or so), but usually a guy has to make up for a lack of good looks with money, whereas women don’t. Men are also expected to pay for more things in a relationship than women, hence the “dating up.” Dating involves more than just looks. By the way, I don’t think women dating up is inherently a bad thing. If you’re familiar with anisogamy, you’d know that the sex with the larger investment in reproduction (i.e.,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 03:24 AM
14	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV I can only speak for myself, obviously, but I’ve had two ex-FWBs get very upset with me because I didn’t want to date them, even though I was incredibly upfront about my intentions to keep things casual. Hell, one of my ex-FWBs said that we were “practically a couple” because we’d sometimes eat at restaurants together, play video games together, and go play pool together when we weren’t hooking up. She even told her mom that I was her boyfriend and showed her pictures of me, even though I had ze…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 03:12 AM
1	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV Yeah, I mostly agree with you, but I do think most men are willing to date down a little bit. Like a 6/10 guy would probably be okay dating a 5.5/10 woman, but not a 4/10 woman. Women tend to date up, so by default, men have to reciprocally date down. However, men are only willing to date down so far.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 02:59 AM
19	Young women are not conflating their RMV with their SMV I have to disagree with you. I think a significant amount of young women (not all young women, obviously) shop for guys who are out of their price range, so to speak. I genuinely think a lot of women do conflate SMV with RMV. I think this stems from the fact that—generally speaking—most women wouldn’t fuck a guy she wouldn’t otherwise date. Like, it’s pretty rare to hear a woman to say “Yeah, I’d fuck him, but I’d never date him in a million years.” Whereas, men are pretty much the opposite. Mos…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/24 02:52 AM
4	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? Okay, it seems we largely agree. Personally, I think you’re splitting semantic hairs, since in the vast majority of cases, we don’t criminalize the activities done between two consenting adults. If you want to state why something is an exception—or ought to be an exception—to this general rule, then a specific and compelling counter-argument has to be made (like what you mentioned with minimum wage). In the majority of cases involving two consenting adults “well it’s consenting adults” is actual…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 08:01 PM
8	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? Okay, that’s a fair point about minimum wage. But you still haven’t demonstrated how two consenting adults having casual sex warrants some sort of legal oversight. I brought up the whole 25-years-old thing, because it’s a very popular (albeit unconvincing) argument that a lot of people against age-gap relationships bring up. I’m honestly shocked you haven’t heard of it before. The basic argument is that the brain doesn’t “fully develop” until around age 25, so it’s morally wrong for someone olde…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 07:16 PM
14	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? How is this “obviously untrue”? And please don’t bring up the “muh brain not fully developed till 25” argument. By that logic, people shouldn’t be allowed to vote, sign legally-binding contracts, move out of their parents’ home, get married, rent an apartment, or make their own medical decisions until they are 25 years old. Also, the brain never stops developing—until we die, that is. This is a process called “neuroplasticity.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 07:05 PM
2	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? When did I ever say I don’t believe things are bad? I think drinking alcohol is bad, but I think people should have the right to drink alcohol, even though I don’t drink alcohol. I think OnlyFans is bad, but I still think people should be allowed to have OF accounts, even though I don’t have an OF account. I think cooking a steak well-done is bad, but I still think people should be able to eat well-done steaks, even though I eat my steaks medium-rare. Just because I personally don’t like somethi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 06:36 PM
13	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? What’s your point? I don’t fundamentally agree with all laws on the books, and you likely don’t either. Why even bring up criminalization? It’s 100% legal for two consenting adults to have casual sex. Are you of the opinion that we should start criminalizing this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 06:23 PM
7	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? Of course I’m allowed to hold opinions. Literally everyone holds his or her own opinions. Who said I took my position “automatically”? I’m just rather libertarian when it comes to the affairs of others. Pretty much as long as you aren’t harming other people, I don’t really care what you do. I don’t think casual sex between two consenting adult is harming anyone. I don’t like it when people stick their nose in my business, so I typically don’t stick my nose in other people’s business.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 06:17 PM
2	Dating Simplified: People's best match are other people in the same (similar) profession! Because most medical students—at least in my observations—are arrogant, vapid, know-it-alls, entitled, egotistical, or a combination thereof. I prefer humble women who don’t think they’re the greatest thing since sliced bread. My brother (who’s not a medical student) works out with me at my school’s gym (family members of students are allowed in the gym), and he comments all the time of how douchey and insufferable the medical students (both men and women) are. So it’s not just me who thinks thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 05:55 PM
2	Dating Simplified: People's best match are other people in the same (similar) profession! I disagree. I’m a medical student, and I’d never date a fellow medical student.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 05:39 PM
34	Are Age gap relationships that are EXCLUSIVELY casual sex still problematic to you? In most parts of the world, you are considered an adult at 18 years old. Why should I care what two consenting adults decide to do, including casual sex?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 05:29 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? Well, I obviously wasn’t alive back when my parents met in the 1980s, but this is what I know about them. They were college sweethearts and meet each other when my mother was 18 and my father was 19. They got married in their mid-twenties. My father worked as an insurance salesman back then, and my mother worked as a manager at TJ Maxx. Once my mother became pregnant with me (I was an unplanned pregnancy, btw) when she was 27, my parents both decided it would be better if she was a stay-at-home …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 03:29 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? Women always ask about my income or job title before I ask about her body count. It’s quite literally one of the first things I’m asked on a first date (or even before a first date)—even by women who are extremely liberal and don’t want a “traditional” relationship. I don’t consider myself somebody looking for a “traditional” relationship. The only thing I’d say I’m “traditional” about is that if I have children, I’d want them raised by their mother, not some random childcare worker who doesn’t …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 03:17 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? Do you not think women ask about income? That’s always one of the first things women ask me, either directly (“how much money do you make?”) or indirectly (“what do you do for a living?”). This never bothers me, as I recognize that women care about income. I always answer truthfully, which as of right now is $0, since I am a medical student. I’ll probably make $60-70k as a medical resident, and $200k+ as an attending physician. I also have a lot of student loans to pay off. Well, like I mentione…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 02:59 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? I don’t see what these questions have to do with anything, but fuck it, I’ll bite. Have you ever known any short, broke men? Yes. One of my very close friends is 5’7” and is a broke graduate student who makes like $17k per year. He also has a pretty bad balding problem (he’s 26 and is like Norwood 4). He has a very difficult time dating. Are you looking for a “traditional” wife? Well, you’d have to define what “traditional” means. In any case, I’m personally not really interested in marriage, as…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 02:40 PM
–	For the men who believe having a high body count positively contributes to their status, how does it translate in reality? Personally, I don’t think sex has anything to do with “value,” but more to do with “datability.” I think a lot of women misconstrue a man not wanting to date a promiscuous woman with saying that she has less value as a human being. This is a false equivalence, as these two things aren’t the same. Just because I don’t want to date somebody doesn’t mean I see them as some subhuman scum. So what if women generally don’t care about body count? Most men do care about it. I personally don’t give a sin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 02:19 PM
3	A disconnect between stated values and behaviors? I don’t consider myself a red pill guy since I think the red pill is wrong on a bunch of things, but I’ll take a stab at this. To be frank, the post is a bit all over the place, but I’ll try my best to answer in a coherent fashion. Most guys (myself included, tbh) generally categorize women into one of three categories when it comes to sex and dating: • Women he wants to date (and fuck) • Women he wants to fuck, but not date • Women he neither wants to fuck nor date Obviously, I’m gonna focus on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/24 04:49 PM
42	First dating app for people with autism and ADHD launches You took the words right out of my mouth. Assuming a woman is not patently ugly, unless she is severely autistic and can’t handle even basic social interactions, she most likely won’t have problems attracting men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/24 03:54 PM
1	Do you ever cry in front of your girlfriend/wife (current or previous)? Yeah, it was pretty damn cathartic. It was nice that she never judged me for crying like that. She was from South Korea, so maybe it’s more acceptable for men to be emotional in Korean culture compared to where I’m from (USA)? Maybe I’m wrong, but if my ex-gf were American instead of Korean, I have a sneaking suspicion she would’ve gotten “the ick” after seeing me cry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 06:21 PM
10	Another “Are We Dating The Same Guy” lawsuit Lmao. The Streisand Effect, in a nutshell, is when you try to hide something, but the act of trying to hide something actually ends up bringing more eyes and publicity to said thing. The term comes from when Barbara Streisand tried to sue some photographer for posting a picture of her house online, because she felt it was an invasion of privacy. It was a very obscure photo and virtually nobody would’ve even known about it, but after she made a stink about it, millions of people knew about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 06:07 PM
9	Another “Are We Dating The Same Guy” lawsuit Yeah, this is a total Streisand Effect situation here	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 06:01 PM
4	Do you ever cry in front of your girlfriend/wife (current or previous)? The only time I ever full-on cried in front of a woman was when my (now ex)-girlfriend told me that she loved me for the first time. I was a really late bloomer in that I lost my virginity at 26 and didn’t have my first girlfriend until I was 27. It was the first time I’ve ever had a woman (who isn’t related to me, like my mom or grandma) tell me that she loved me. I genuinely felt unlovable for the longest time, since I was totally invisible to girls and women all throughout my teens and early-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/24 05:56 PM
1	How young does a wife have to be for a husband to get “wife goggles?” Fair enough. But what makes you think that you’ll want to date/marry later, and what makes you think that you’ll be ready then? I ask this as a late-bloomer myself. I lost my virginity at 26, when I dated my first girlfriend. Tbh, I wish I didn’t wait that long.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 04:19 PM
1	How young does a wife have to be for a husband to get “wife goggles?” Okay, serious question: If you’re concerned about this so-called “wife googles” phenomenon, then why do you want to push back dating? Why not date now when you’re still young? Why not look for a husband now?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/24 03:53 PM