GaryLeHam Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Quick rant about objectification and why it's not oppression. I think one of the differences is how often "catcalls" and such happen to women as compared to men. My sister and her friend get three catcalls just walking down Main Street; my ex-girlfriend gets "compliments" all the time. So for them, it ends up being annoying and degrading. For me, who almost never gets that sort of attention, it might be sort of weird, but I am more likely to not mind it.	/r/MensRights	21/07/13 08:18 PM
1	Mods have now reduced subreddit /r/TheRedPill to a circlejerk, banning users who disagree with them If you deliberately try to be alpha, you're not really "alpha."	/r/MensRights	21/07/13 08:09 PM
1	Male Circumcision I try not to care, at least. I already have a severe anxiety disorder, which only worsens my insecurity about literally everything, so I have to watch myself and what I get worked up over. If I start having anxiety or insecurity about something, it will take over my whole consciousness. So I try not to care, in fact I never had any kind of insecurity about my penis in particular until I came here. Thanks for that, /r/mensrights.	/r/MensRights	21/07/13 08:05 PM
1	Solo Mother Blocks School's Day Of Male Bonding Because [the nuclear family] is a defining feature in animals other than humans. Not true, actually. While some animals, such as swans, will mate for life to one partner, most animals do not do so. In fact, one of humanity's closest cousins, Bonobos, are very promiscuous and varied in their sex life. Most ancient human cultures also did not follow the "nuclear family" model. So no, the whole 'one man, one woman + kids' is a cultural influence. Not to say it's necessarily a bad thing, of course.	/r/MensRights	04/06/13 03:29 AM
2	Can't believe I had this conversation. To be fair, my own girlfriend's been stalked before by guys when walking home, so I can understand where this woman's first post is coming from. Her last response, though, I hope it was a miswording, but experience tells me it's probably not.	/r/MensRights	20/01/13 08:13 AM
1	Young American women who study abroad in non-English speaking countries are five times more likely to be raped than those who remain at home. Despite feminists’ insistence that US college campuses are in the grip of a rape culture, other countries are significantly riskier for American women. You're right: American women don't know what it's like in India and Africa--because in many parts of those places women are treated like property and not like people. It's a much deeper problem than just American women being spoiled.	/r/MensRights	01/01/13 01:58 AM
16	Craigslist sperm donor forced to pay child support to lesbian couple despite giving up parental rights. That's so screwed up. If they all signed a legal document saying the man had no rights to the child, then he shouldn't have to pay any kind of child support.	/r/MensRights	01/01/13 01:42 AM
0	Can We Try To Focus on Men's Rights, not "I Hate Feminists!" jokes? Jesus. OP makes a reasonable post cautioning about how we portray ourselves and where we want the movement to go, and suddenly a ton of people are up in arms over the whole thing.	/r/MensRights	01/01/13 01:34 AM
-1	Can We Try To Focus on Men's Rights, not "I Hate Feminists!" jokes? Whoa, now. The OP just said he thought we should be more careful about how we portray ourselves and what direction we want the movement to take. And then you and a bunch of other posters start foaming at the mouth like he's responsible for the goddamn Holocaust. Calm down, man. He didn't pick any fight with you. Why is everyone getting so up in arms?	/r/MensRights	01/01/13 01:33 AM
3	Can We Try To Focus on Men's Rights, not "I Hate Feminists!" jokes? And Feminism is also a "movement for the rights of women." See, you're saying that the MRM can't be judged because it's not a cohesive movement, but is made up of many different factions. However, the same thing is also true of the Feminist movement, as well. I feel like too often MRAs on this sub treat "Feminism" as though it is one monolithic entity, which it is not, just like the MRM is not.	/r/MensRights	01/01/13 01:13 AM
4	Had to explain society's protection to my fiance today I hope your fiance is able to get over her demons someday. I know it can be tough helping a loved one who has mental illnesss or mental issues.	/r/MensRights	27/12/12 02:39 PM
-2	The double standard of having a choice on whether or not you want to be a parent. Remember though that it is the man's child, which means he should also be financially responsible for it, even if he doesn't raise it himself. I know it seems unfair that the woman gets to decide whether to have an abortion or not, and the man gets no say, but it's the woman who's going to be the one carrying the child to term, and most likely the one raising it even if the man is paying child support. I think that if the man doesn't want to help raise it, maybe he shouldn't have to, but he shou…	/r/MensRights	30/09/12 08:33 AM
-1	The double standard of having a choice on whether or not you want to be a parent. I've seen some argue that a man should be able to deny having to financially care for a child if he doesn't want it and the woman does, but I'm not convinced. If any guy could get out of child support so easily, then you're taking all of the responsibility off of the man and putting it on the woman. Yeah it sucks that a man can get screwed because of a woman's decision, but the solution isn't take away all the man's responsibility. EDIT: RadiumGirl made the same argument, but more articulate.	/r/MensRights	29/09/12 06:42 PM
1	Washington State: Come for the Scenery, Stay for the Misandry I meant how the Bible says how to treat women, which is basically as property, or slaves. It's representative of the times.	/r/MensRights	30/08/12 05:36 PM
2	Washington State: Come for the Scenery, Stay for the Misandry I agree with many of his bullet points. Especially how men have suffered in this economy, which is an issue too rarely talked about. However, mankind under the rule of women would have suffered a far more cruel fate. Instead of certain ethnic and religious groups, an entire gender, nearly half of the population, would have been oppressed, and I mean truly oppressed, for thousands upon thousands of years. Um, weren't women as an entire gender oppressed for thousands of years as well? I mean, look…	/r/MensRights	27/08/12 06:02 PM
2	Why should male gamers change their behavior? I don't think it's the trash talk, it's that they get harassed because they are women. As a man I usually get called a "faggot," but women are open to all kinds of harassment, especially sexual, that men don't get. I've been on an all-male team before, but when a woman comes on suddenly it's like everyone's a horny obsessed teenager again. It's not uncommon for women to receive private messages harassing them for pictures of their breasts and the like. Sure, they can mute people's mics and there…	/r/MensRights	18/08/12 06:47 AM
3	Seriously? The lesson of the Aurora shooting is that 'masculinity has become so intertwined with violence that it becomes invisible' Sadly, our culture encourages men to, "put on a brave face," and internalize their problems and emotions rather than seeking help dealing with them. If and when men talk about how they feel, it is seen as feminine, or being weak, so a lot of them don't get the help they need.	/r/MensRights	06/08/12 08:41 PM
1	"Men are basically unevolved dogs", "the Y chromosome is broken", "men are just testosterone damaged versions of women", "all humans are born female". This is the kind of hateful bigotry currently infecting the skeptic movement. Thanks	/r/MensRights	06/08/12 04:21 PM
2	"Men are basically unevolved dogs", "the Y chromosome is broken", "men are just testosterone damaged versions of women", "all humans are born female". This is the kind of hateful bigotry currently infecting the skeptic movement. I want to share this on Facebook so more people can see how ridiculous it is but I don't know how you make it so a link goes to a specific time in a video.	/r/MensRights	05/08/12 10:48 AM
10	This subreddit needs to shake off its anti-women reputation for the sake of these issues being taken seriously. Remember what the OP said about generalizations?	/r/MensRights	04/03/12 11:14 PM
1	How to make sure you have consent Those numbers are indeed disconcerting. I knew that men could and are coerced into sexual acts by women, that is, it wasn't just a problem women faced, but I didn't think the numbers would be THAT high.	/r/MensRights	20/01/12 05:39 AM
2	How to make sure you have consent My interpretation is that when you get drunk, it's usually your fault. But, when someone takes advantage of the fact that you're drunk, then that's when it's their fault. I think the law was put into place because of a small minority of men who see alcohol as an opportunity to get women in bed when they would normally say no. However, I know most men who have had sex with drunk women only have good intentions, and I do think it's unjust that some men are accused of rape and have their lives ruin…	/r/MensRights	20/01/12 02:02 AM
1	How to make sure you have consent The way I see it is, if you get drunk that's usually your own fault, but it's someone else's fault when they take advantage of your weakened state. If you and a girl both got drunk and banged away, well, that would be both your guys' responsibility for whatever came out of it, but I wouldn't say either side raped the other. That's kind of a gray area, I guess. Just an FYI, I never said that "if a man is drunk he's a predator." On the contrary, I think it's just as possible for a man to be taken …	/r/MensRights	20/01/12 01:52 AM
-7	How to make sure you have consent The jerk is strong with this circle.	/r/MensRights	19/01/12 11:08 PM
1	Meghalaya, India: Where women rule, and men are suffragettes Very interesting article, considering in other parts of India, though more especially the North, women are generally viewed as much less valuable than men.	/r/MensRights	19/01/12 10:59 PM
0	How to make sure you have consent Intoxication affects your ability to consent because it messes up your inhibitions and ability to think straight. Someone who's drunk may 'consent' to sex when normally they wouldn't. Surely you've also met some of those douchebags who get girls drunk on purpose so they can have sex with them.	/r/MensRights	19/01/12 10:53 PM
1	Saw this floating around Facebook as being funny, but the stigma bothers me too much :( ??????	/r/MensRights	16/01/12 03:09 AM
2	Saw this floating around Facebook as being funny, but the stigma bothers me too much Wait, is this a satirical poster by the Men's Rights community, or a real poster by the rape awareness crowd? Either way it's a pretty dumb poster.	/r/MensRights	16/01/12 03:05 AM
2	Why is "It's my body" a good argument when it comes to abortion, but not to circumcision? Yeah, I think it has a lot to do with the history behind how various societies have viewed women. Evolutionary-speaking, men are more expendable than women are. Society could have 1 man to every 5 women and it would survive just fine. Can't say the same for the other way around.	/r/MensRights	31/12/11 06:51 PM
3	Why is "It's my body" a good argument when it comes to abortion, but not to circumcision? The man didn't birth that child, so he isn't responsible for it. If it's her body, then why is it his responsibility? He's responsible for it because it's also his child, as well. I mean, he was the one who got her pregnant in the first place, right? He did decide to have sex with her, didn't he? You shouldn't stick your dick in if you're not willing to deal with the possible consequences of having sex. When a man consents to have sex with a woman, he is also accepting the responsibility to help…	/r/MensRights	31/12/11 06:46 PM
2	Guys, I need help. My sister is falsely accusing a man of rape. Keep it out of the hole at all until you know the person well, I would say.	/r/MensRights	19/11/11 04:15 AM
4	After 3 incorrect commands, you get the real content, and boy is is sexist crap! What. The. Fuck. I made her dance. Then my curiosity got the better of me and I typed "take off clothes" to see what she'd do. Then the camera guy starts berating her and threatening to beat her and . . . wtf?	/r/MensRights	23/10/11 06:14 AM
3	I know a lot of people here don't think gay rights stuff belong here. Its shit like this that makes me think that you are wrong. This is discrimination against men. By "traditional," you're using a euphemism for "religious," right?	/r/MensRights	14/10/11 05:01 AM
2	Greeting a baby (from f7u12) I think maybe the joke was that the Forever Alone guy said "HI BABY!" thus implying he was talking about the adult woman and not the baby, causing her to get angry.	/r/MensRights	25/05/11 01:39 PM
1	"If he's pressuring you for sex, he probably doesn't love you." but would people sympathize with "If a woman is pressuring me for commitment, she probably doesn't love me? Sex !=! Commitment	/r/MensRights	31/03/11 09:57 PM
1	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Not all stay-at-home moms "do nothing all day."	/r/MensRights	28/03/11 02:48 AM
5	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Also: habenaro sauce in the condom. ??????	/r/MensRights	28/03/11 02:30 AM
4	My college class recently discussed student expectations. Most of the women expected to have a good career, marry a man who earned same or more, share housework equally, not sacrifice her career for his. Have children around 30, have the choice to work or stay home after kids. Now I'm the one who gets to stay home and not go to a cubicle every day. Hey, now, child-rearing at home ain't exactly a picnic, either.	/r/MensRights	28/03/11 02:28 AM
4	Suggesting that men have rights is now derogatory even on reddit. So let's go ahead and karma-bomb the shit outta them, right?	/r/MensRights	18/03/11 01:58 AM
5	FAQ 14: circumcision Nice use of the old Polio scares--more ice cream is eaten in the summer->polio spikes during the summer->ice cream causes polio!	/r/MensRights	03/03/11 05:58 PM
1	Men: If a male contraceptive was available in pill form, would you use it? (xpost) Because then they might not have to take birth control anymore.	/r/MensRights	03/03/11 12:11 AM
4	FAQ 14: circumcision As to [8], I find it extremely difficult to believe that circumcision could have anything to do with an increase in rape. Yes, you have some cherry-picked data suggesting a correlation between the two, but no clear reasons for how circumcision could lead to higher rape rates. How does the removal of the foreskin make one more likely to commit rape?	/r/MensRights	03/03/11 12:04 AM
6	I'd Give You an "A" He's not being misandric, he's just pointing out that both men and women are capable of being neglectful parents, and we should stop treating it as though it's one gender's fault. I'm sure it was not completely the single mothers' fault (in the article) for their kids' behavior--if the children had present fathers, then they would be better off.	/r/MensRights	02/03/11 01:01 AM
1	"Whatever, just as long as there are diamonds." [xpost from r/WTF] I am a man, but personally I prefer beautiful blue sapphires. I think the diamond fixation is largely manufactured by advertisers and jewelry companies, to persuade us we "need" a diamond ring to be romantic. I think this view is falling out of favor though, at least that's what I see.	/r/MensRights	20/02/11 10:53 PM
4	Does she like you for your pretty smile? Your jokes? Your caring personality? I'm afraid not lads. PIC Well, it is true that if you marry someone with a higher income, you will have more stability, be more able to raise a family, etc. Even though it seems shallow, there are advantages to being rich. For most women I know, though, having a lot of money won't help if you don't have other positive characteristics.	/r/MensRights	08/02/11 03:53 PM
1	Man forced to pay child support after woman secretly kept his sperm after oral sex to get pregnant. And then how would you reheat them without killing them?	/r/MensRights	02/02/11 04:07 PM
1	Man forced to pay child support after woman secretly kept his sperm after oral sex to get pregnant. How did the sperm survive long enough for her to impregnate herself with them? Don't the sperm die not long after ejaculation outside of the vagina? This is fucking weird.	/r/MensRights	02/02/11 02:47 AM
0	Disturbing trends on reddit; A lot of guys are drinking the feminist koolaid in regards to male circumcision. The real feminism/circumcision issue is that so many hardcore feminists support circumcision for cultural reasons WHILE SIMULTANIOUSLY arguing that female circumcision is evil and should be made illegal world wide. The sheer fucking hypocrisy sticks in the throats of many MRA’s. Well, despite what anyone's opinion of male circumsicion may be, female circumsicion is much, much worse and damaging. FC cuts off the clitoris, destroying any pleasure to be gained from sex. It causes massive bleeding a…	/r/MensRights	28/01/11 06:01 PM
4	"Privilege Denying Dude" was great. The question still remains: "What privileges do western males benefit from over women?" I would at least like to know the privileges I have so I know what I'm denying. Well, Western males don't have nearly as many benefits over females as males do in other parts of the world (i.e. female circumcision, legally being forced to wear different clothing from men, stoned for adultery, the list goes on and on). However, there are still some. I think one of the biggest differences is in sports. Men are generally allowed to be rougher and meaner in sports than women are. An example is women's lacrosse versus men's lacrosse. Men's lacrosse allows more physicality betwee…	/r/MensRights	28/01/11 05:46 PM
3	Save Yourself? Sinking Ship Escape Etiquette. I pose another question, who gives a fuck about etiquette when your life is on the line? I'm not sure what the OP is suggesting here. That we should fight only to save our own lives when a ship is sinking, and fuck everyone else? I think that if everyone simply fought for themselves, it would induce mass panic and violence, and cause more deaths. I do agree that "women and children first" is a bit outdated, though. It should be people with children first, then young people next.	/r/MensRights	28/01/11 05:03 PM
4	A former public schoolgirl who kicked and stamped on a gay civil servant during a deadly homophobic attack has been jailed for seven years for his manslaughter. Holy shit, you two are the most offensive people I've ever met on Reddit, and that's saying something. Now locking her up in jail is one thing, but to seriously suggest descending to the level of barbarism that is rape and then crack jokes about it is way out of line.	/r/MensRights	27/01/11 03:49 AM
3	A former public schoolgirl who kicked and stamped on a gay civil servant during a deadly homophobic attack has been jailed for seven years for his manslaughter. Gay rights are rights for all gays, including women, right? "Gay" means both male and female, so I think posts about homophobia really belong in r/LGBT or another similar subreddit.	/r/MensRights	27/01/11 03:36 AM
4	A former public schoolgirl who kicked and stamped on a gay civil servant during a deadly homophobic attack has been jailed for seven years for his manslaughter. Doesn't this belong in r/LGBT or r/gayrights? It seems to be more about homophobia than anything anti-male.	/r/MensRights	27/01/11 03:33 AM
3	Step-up and be a man: A man's ego and machismo was once used to protect his family and freedom; now it's used to tout batting averages and box scores. Enough with the bread and circuses. Men should stop obsessing over sports and instead focus on principles. For some men, it seems "manliness" means trying to show off to girls or act like a jerk. For some women, it's obsessing over the latest fashions in cosmo. I think society needs to re-evaluate the way both genders are told to think, starting with the obsession of consumerism.	/r/MensRights	26/01/11 05:19 PM
0	List of Rights that are being denied to Western Men If a man doesn't want to have his baby adopted, carried to term (and having him pay for it), or aborted, then shouldn't he think of that before he takes the risk of having sex?	/r/MensRights	11/12/10 06:40 AM
1	Reddit, we seem to have a misunderstanding about what feminism is. think I'll email them and suggest 'Feminazi'. You're a Rush Limbaugh fan, I take it?	/r/MensRights	10/12/10 05:48 PM
2	Reddit, we seem to have a misunderstanding about what feminism is. I have seen feminists on reddit who are just angry male-bashers. I have seen Mens-rightists on here who are just angry misogynists. Both sides have some reasonable arguments and proponents, but let's not call a a few people out as being an example of a whole movement, which is unfortunately what reddit tends to do.	/r/MensRights	10/12/10 05:45 PM
2	List of Rights that are being denied to Western Men I'm curious, what do you mean by men not having "reproductive rights"?	/r/MensRights	10/12/10 05:40 PM
4	Should Sperm Be Worth More Than Eggs? But wait, aren't sperm in greater supply since there are millions in one ejaculation, whereas women only ovulate once a month? Or can doctors go into the ovaries to get eggs? Serious question.	/r/MensRights	25/10/10 04:13 PM
4	A wife should be a compliment to me, someone who wants to be with me, not take advantage of me. How classy.	/r/MensRights	25/10/10 12:10 AM
8	A wife should be a compliment to me, someone who wants to be with me, not take advantage of me. where the hell have the respectable women gone? All that seems to be left are skanks, whores, golddiggers and entitlement princesses. Does this guy get out into the real world, much, or does he just not hang out at the right places? I know lots of women who aren't like this.	/r/MensRights	24/10/10 02:57 AM
0	The New Face of Sexual Assaults on our Students I get the feeling those boys didn't suffer much.	/r/MensRights	01/07/10 05:47 AM