GaryOak7 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	How to escalate into a blowjob in a car Develop chemistry. Make out with her and then she should start reaching. Unzip pants and the rest is history.	/r/seduction	23/07/26 07:59 PM
68	Dating/Game Rule Number 1: Never Get Into A Serious Relationship With A Woman Who Makes You Wait For Sex!!! There’s a difference between her making you wait and you not raising her attraction level enough.	/r/seduction	09/11/25 01:45 AM
3	Logic Vs Emmotional Person! Being logical or analytical comes in handy when vetting women or in general interest. It’s absolutely useless in relationships and when it comes to interacting with women. Women don’t want you to solve their problems or give them obvious answers they already know. This is where the whole concept of mansplaining comes from. The emotional aspect is important for understanding social cues and just knowing when to shut up sometimes. In a disagreement you don’t want to use logic and argue. Women will…	/r/seduction	20/10/25 12:16 PM
2	She attempted to ghost me after two great dates. But why? OP you got gas lit. She’s insincere.	/r/seduction	16/06/25 06:42 PM
8	“If she likes you she’ll make it easy” isnt always true is it? Yes they do. My neighbor put her number on my door and we never spoke a word.	/r/seduction	06/06/25 07:12 PM
10	How long is too long for an Uber? 20 min max. If it’s further than that, you’re screwing with the logistics for sex in this phase.	/r/seduction	26/05/25 04:06 AM
1	Would it be better to limit how much I talk to my woman? This is your answer OP. Let her talk so you don’t insert foot in your mouth. Magically, you’ll develop rapport and she’ll feel the spark.	/r/seduction	19/05/25 11:01 AM
2	Question: if they won't meet you at your place to head to dinner on the 2nd date is it just dead before launch? You’re not raising their attraction level properly if you want to abort mission by the 2nd date. There isn’t a set table with women. Some come over on the 1st date, some come on the 4th. There should be interest on her end asking if you have roommates or what side of town you live on. These are indicators that she is considering it.	/r/seduction	13/05/25 02:54 AM
16	Question: if they won't meet you at your place to head to dinner on the 2nd date is it just dead before launch? You’re trying to force it. You need to focus on building rapport.. Her not wanting to meet at your place is a sign she isn’t comfortable. We haven’t even got to sleeping together yet. She’s flat out not comfortable enough to be over there.	/r/seduction	13/05/25 02:37 AM
2	How does one ask out a server My neighbor would like to have a word with you. She left her number on my door when I moved here. Women do reach out. They’re just not going to make reservations for you.	/r/seduction	05/05/25 03:40 PM
1	How does one ask out a server Wouldn’t bother unless she was asking personal questions during the engagement. This is almost like trying to date a stripper. They’re just cordial because it’s their job.	/r/seduction	05/05/25 03:38 PM
15	Have any of you ever pulled an influencer? How did you do it? Yes and most of them were boring. Just pretty faces with no soul. I wouldn’t say there’s a secret method. Either they’re attracted to you or not. Yes you can raise attraction but there needs to be a baseline there. Influencer being < 20K+ followers. Treat them all the same.	/r/seduction	30/04/25 11:44 PM
165	How do you become comfortable with having more than one girl at once? By getting rid of the ‘shining knight in armor’ mentality. Why are you trying to save her? You’re getting caught up in the sugar & spice act. The whole “no, she wouldn’t do that” idea. A lot of men have taken their life over this illusion that most women are angels.	/r/seduction	18/04/25 10:41 PM
5	Girl pulled out last second feel like I fumbled No clue bro, if you don’t hear from her then she was turned off by something you did or said.	/r/seduction	15/04/25 06:47 PM
22	Girl pulled out last second feel like I fumbled I’m just saying in general, this is a pretty common scenario. Maybe you said something that turned her off or you didn’t open her up emotionally. Let her talk and ramble about her day etc.	/r/seduction	15/04/25 06:17 PM
118	Girl pulled out last second feel like I fumbled Anti-slut defense mechanism. You stay the night and go 2 steps forward and 1 step back. Change the subject and wait 15-20 mins. If she says no and still wants your company, she could be gauging to see if you’re just there for sex. Few hours later she may initiate, it happens. When a woman invites you over, she has already considered sex is on the table. So there’s no point in being hasty or acting thirsty.	/r/seduction	15/04/25 06:04 PM
3	Why am I so afraid of intimacy and sex? Testosterone replacement therapy. It’s steroids, but at a significantly lower dosage to help boost your hormones back to normal levels. Hormones affect mood, confidence, optimism, thoughts and even sex drive etc.	/r/seduction	31/03/25 01:48 AM
0	Why am I so afraid of intimacy and sex? Low testosterone levels. At this point, you may need TRT to get you back on track. And stop putting pussy on a pedestal.	/r/seduction	31/03/25 01:36 AM
1	How To Text Someone On Their Birthday? If this is “no contact” then there are no exceptions. I wouldn’t text her. If you were blowing her off and you want to reach out, that’s fine.	/r/seduction	30/03/25 10:08 PM
2	She invited me back to her home but we didn’t have sex Turns out telling her how desperate you were probably deflated the whole thing. She had some interest in you so she would tease you a bit. Failed to escalate properly.	/r/seduction	30/03/25 12:38 PM
9	How to disagree with women without being cocky? Choose a hill and die on it.	/r/seduction	29/03/25 08:46 PM
2	Is 3 dates in less than a week too much? It’s tough, but you gotta let them do the chasing and you just set the dates. If you didn’t accept the friendship offer it’s possible she’ll circle back. However, the 3rd date was still pretty early and it’s very unlikely there was any attachment or reason to bring her back. She needs to invest in order to come back. Whether be driving 30+ mins to see you, cooking or 5+ dates etc.	/r/seduction	29/03/25 04:48 PM
17	Tinder hookup fail True and we also have new developments. OP didn’t even shower before going. Matter of fact, he went several days without doing so.	/r/seduction	29/03/25 04:11 PM
141	Tinder hookup fail You went several days without showering and knowingly went to a chicks house unprepared??	/r/seduction	29/03/25 03:21 PM
15	Tinder hookup fail Failed shit tests. Maybe you didn’t finger her properly or you were too rough? It possibly could’ve been bad breath like someone else said. Did you brush your tongue? Really sounds like she was in complete control that dynamic. You weren’t in masculine frame, she was. Being visibly irritated didn’t help either. Whether she was actually nauseous or not, this is called “anti-slut defense mechanism.” Typically happens before you first sleep with her. She throws some crazy obstacle at you and you ne…	/r/seduction	29/03/25 02:40 PM
7	Is 3 dates in less than a week too much? I get it, but she’s not going to forget about you. If you want this to work, you need to move at a slower pace than her. Women’s emotions are like the weather. It’s still very early and you don’t want to smother her.	/r/seduction	29/03/25 02:25 PM
14	Is 3 dates in less than a week too much? Space it out dude, feelings develop when you’re away from the person, not with them. She needs to miss you. You’re too available and you’ll hit a wall very soon where she pulls back and you’ll become frantic.	/r/seduction	29/03/25 02:12 PM
1	Do girls not like nice guys at all? Being nice isn’t the same thing as being a gentleman. It appears women don’t appreciate men who put them on a pedestal immediately upon meeting. The crux of the issue is being more into her than she is into you. That’s how the dynamic of being “nice” happens. You’re too accommodating. Make her invest and put effort into the relationship. You don’t need to be rude or an asshole to do this.	/r/seduction	29/03/25 10:48 AM
16	When setting up a date with a girl, do you pick her up at home or meet at the venue? Meet her in public until the 3rd or 4th date. If you’ve had her over or vice versa, then you can offer. The logistics of sex is important. Don’t pick a place too far and it’s gets too late in the evening.	/r/seduction	28/03/25 11:01 PM
17	Is "What Do You Like To Do For Fun?" Really Just A Shit Test? No, a shit test is a question that often doesn’t have a right answer. “When’s the last time you had sex?” “Are you dating other people?” “I’m on my period, I can’t tonight” “You’re a player aren’t you?” These type of questions require sharp wit and humor. Keeping it light and then changing the subject. Otherwise you’ll come off explaining yourself or you may say something she doesn’t like. Hence no correct answer. Her asking your hobbies isn’t a shit test, she probably wants someone with a life.	/r/seduction	28/03/25 09:20 PM
3	Why women pull away even when things are going well— and how to react when it happens Luteal Follicular Ovulation Menstrual These are legitimate phases women have every month. She could be distant during luteal and more horny during ovulation. This isn’t the same thing as “oh sorry I’m a Pisces, I hit curbs.”	/r/seduction	25/03/25 08:52 PM
15	Why women pull away even when things are going well— and how to react when it happens This isn’t accurate. The pullback isn’t ghosting or disinterest. It’s her wandering off 2 or 3 days and the guy believes he did something wrong. Women have multiple hormonal cycles. My ex would typically send a good morning text with a sun emoji. Then, without reason I would get a delayed text with no emoji on some days. Just the way it is. Doesn’t always mean you did something wrong.	/r/seduction	25/03/25 04:09 PM
44	Why women pull away even when things are going well— and how to react when it happens Good points. Also want to add she should be doing 80% of the pursuing. Going 50/50 with chasing lands you in the friend zone or she realizes you’re not the man for her. Men obviously start pursuing, but you need to gradually back off as the weeks pass by. Otherwise you’ll over-pursue and you get the “no spark” text.	/r/seduction	25/03/25 04:02 PM
1	Don’t know what to do with this woman 4 dates and no kiss isn’t normal. She doesn’t like as you much as you think.	/r/seduction	24/03/25 06:02 PM
15	Just learned the hard way. Yup, act like it never happened.	/r/seduction	17/03/25 09:46 PM
56	Just learned the hard way. Don’t worry about the other guy. Be confident and shoot your shot. Most men talk themselves out of sex anyway.	/r/seduction	17/03/25 09:17 PM
13	Keep getting ghosted after messaging girls I met at a club/bar This is the correct explanation OP. Capture the moment and try to grab a bite to eat before it’s super late. Grab some pizza or something and build rapport. Then bring her back to the crib..	/r/seduction	17/03/25 09:14 PM
1	She said she wanted sex, I responded, she unmatched Hard to know because we don’t have enough info. The fake pic could’ve been her real pic or she disliked the fact you were ready to smash a person using photos of different people.	/r/seduction	16/03/25 10:20 PM
2	She said she wanted sex, I responded, she unmatched Shit test and you failed	/r/seduction	16/03/25 10:16 PM
5	Is she testing me? How should I respond to this? No, don’t pander. Women don’t like when you people please. Just add some humor or something to get her off your bumper.	/r/seduction	12/03/25 09:56 PM
3	What do players do differently? We don’t care.	/r/seduction	01/03/25 11:58 PM
17	Tips for dealing with a female player The big giveaway here was when OP reciprocates, she pulls back. His logic is that she’s a player when in reality she’s not that interested. He’s entertainment.	/r/seduction	23/02/25 11:39 PM
60	Tips for dealing with a female player You’re overestimating her interest level. It’s not as high as you think. Dial it back and find someone else to date.	/r/seduction	23/02/25 10:27 PM
10	I’ve noticed people can influence others in relationships Wore a cowboy hat on the second date. Girl was cracking jokes and couldn’t understand why anyone would wear those hats. Multiple people complimented me and initiated conversation during our date. By the end of the date her attraction level rose and she never said anything negative about it again.	/r/seduction	23/02/25 09:11 PM
10	Women put no effort This is pretty common now. Women have unconsciously adopted a very lackadaisical approach to dating. You know why? Because they can. Men still pursue even when they’re left on read. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen DM’s of men talking to themselves. Going overseas won’t necessarily solve this issue. It’s not some magical solution. It would be better to just observe responses. Are you jumping through hoops to schedule dates? Is she fine with your event choices or does she suggest dinner …	/r/seduction	13/02/25 04:42 PM
2	Fellas, for real, get off the apps. Bizarre irl example This isn’t bizarre, I’ve seen it happen in real time. This chick who I messed around with years ago made a profile in front of me. Later, we watched a movie, ate etc. No kidding, after about 3 hours she had close to 100 likes that were actual profiles. Granted 98% of these men just wanted to sleep with her but even more bizarrely so, women can’t tell the difference often.	/r/seduction	10/11/24 10:15 PM
1	she’s hot & cold This doesn’t exactly classify as ghosting quite yet. It does sound like she has some doubts and she’s pulling back already. Typically she wants you to be “heroic” and chase after her. This usually results in failure and what little interest she did have quickly dissolves. Reciprocate interest, but don’t “chase” and blow her phone up asking what’s going on with her. Women go through a sea of emotions and she may reach back out. It’s okay to stand your ground with her inconsistency, but don’t act …	/r/seduction	16/09/24 01:21 AM
6	Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteed It’s a moving goalpost. The women who tend to express this saying are the ones who deal with men who don’t have jobs or that play video games all day. You’ll drive yourself into an asylum trying to figure out why they even bothered with these type of men in the first place. Which is my point that it should be taken with a grain of salt.	/r/seduction	19/08/24 02:13 PM
16	Why do women say: "The bar is so low for men" yet to get any results from cold approach as an avg guy, the interaction has to be exceptional basically. And even then nothing is guaranteed Here we are circling back to “everything is his fault” and we are failing to acknowledge the number of women on antidepressants, inabilities to communicate and those who simply just want attention. The bar moves because of the lack of accountability. It’s theoretically impossible for men to solely collapse the dating market. Women have inadvertently created a polyamorous society due to the fact a ton of men lack the triple 6 stats (6 figures, 6 pack, 6 feet). These deemed to be losers by you gue…	/r/seduction	19/08/24 02:00 PM
2	“are you gonna murder/kill me?” A prostitute??	/r/seduction	21/07/24 07:59 PM
2	“are you gonna murder/kill me?” “I was gonna ask you the same thing!”	/r/seduction	21/07/24 07:58 PM
1	It is so hard not to get bitter. People are having less sex, not dancing with each other and finding regular interactions more difficult. I like to call what you explained window shopping. She may dance with you or be friendly, but it doesn’t go anywhere. It doesn’t always necessarily have to lead to sex, but just simply getting to know one another sometimes doesn’t happen either. I had a girl last year track me down after we left the club. Was chatting outside with friends after they closed and she had her friend approach me. …	/r/seduction	20/07/24 06:52 PM
1	It is so hard not to get bitter. Yeah it’s wild, the preconceived notion is that you’re already bothering her before you have even approached in bars. I don’t waste my time unless they send signals like I mentioned. It’s not a priority and they surely don’t prioritize you.	/r/seduction	20/07/24 06:45 PM
2	It is so hard not to get bitter. Several of my friends insist on cold approaching. I’m talking about we’re at the bar 30 seconds and they’re approaching someone. 9/10 times these interactions fail because she hasn’t even noticed you were there and they’re immediately in her bubble. Women at bars or outings like that have their guard up subconsciously. It’s an environment where multiple men will seek their attention and it’s a poor option for mingling nowadays. Now, 30 years ago, sure. People weren’t on phones or as antisocial. …	/r/seduction	20/07/24 03:26 PM
2	She fell into my lap She really tried here.. even helped you out saying how excited she was and still stuck around later that day. Get it together bro.	/r/seduction	19/07/24 01:09 AM
1	Dating influencers isn't all its cracked up to be Influencers are the worse people to date. Idk why thought this was the way. They think they’re A-list celebrities.	/r/seduction	08/07/24 03:59 PM
3	I failed a shit test and I'm worried it's a wrap... Intentionally trying to disqualify her is ridiculous. Stop playing games, or trying to work out a push-pull method. Just ask her out and if she doesn’t say yes then move on. It’s unnecessary to bait her or shit test. If she does something you don’t like, chat with her and if it occurs again, politely let her go. She’ll respect you this way and you’re not coming off as weak or like you’re getting methods from YouTube videos.	/r/seduction	05/07/24 10:58 PM
0	How to ask a girl out over text? Women who are interested don’t need to view your stories and verify you’re doing something fun. If you’re doing a cold approach and still needing to entice them then it’s just low interest. A lot of this is money down the drain. This doesn’t mean you do the routine drinks activity, but it’s not required to go above & beyond. If you ask her dating history, you’ll find out her ex didn’t do any of these things, yet you are to win her over. Do what works for you bro.	/r/seduction	26/06/24 01:35 PM
1	How to ask a girl out over text? That doesn’t make sense if you have to chase in the beginning phase. Like I said, you’re giving her an out if you pick a specific day without knowing any information about her schedule. You’re still picking a day and time, you’re just not throwing out random days and hoping it sticks. And how many of those dates actually panned out into something? When women are interested, they don’t make things complicated or need you to magically know when they’re free.	/r/seduction	26/06/24 01:17 PM
5	How to ask a girl out over text? This is terrible advice. The responsibility absolutely needs to be put on her because you’re the one making the plans here. You’re giving a free essay on how to box yourself out of a date. “I’m free Friday at 8 PM with two tickets”.. next thing you know “sorry, I have plans Friday.” Now you aim for Saturday and she’s also busy. It comes across as if you have nothing going on and you’re waiting on her. You ALWAYS ask what her schedule is like and if she cannot give you a direct answer then you do…	/r/seduction	26/06/24 01:11 PM
14	I'm going broke wine n' dining American girls just to get ghosted. Want to go overseas. Dinner dates are job interviews for people who don’t know each other. Dates should be fun and interactive. Not sitting down going over a list of questions as if you need to align everything perfectly. That’s not how connections are formed and you’re not looking for employment. Most of the time a dinner date is her looking to maximize what she’s getting and leave you high and dry with the bill, like OP and many other men have experienced. She hasn’t even determined if she likes you, yet is asking…	/r/seduction	26/06/24 01:31 AM
15	I'm going broke wine n' dining American girls just to get ghosted. Want to go overseas. Stop taking them to dinner, that’s your first mistake and a sign that she has low interest. Wanna know a trick? Ask about her dating history and I guarantee she’ll complain her ex didn’t take her to dinner or do fancy things for her.	/r/seduction	25/06/24 11:06 PM
6	How do women go about infidelity in their conversations? Depends on the scenario. Sometimes they’re honest and sometimes they’re not. Don’t screw someone else’s SO intentionally bro.	/r/seduction	15/06/24 01:22 AM
2	If a Girl Suggested a Dinner Date, is it Low Interest? OP, this is the best bet. You can be more creative than drinks, but someone refusing any offer other than dinner is an actual red flag. Someone who’s actually interested isn’t going to criticize how much money you’re spending when you don’t even know them.	/r/seduction	14/06/24 12:05 AM
1	Do you text between dates outside of setting them up? Keep texting at a minimum. It can kill the attraction and anticipation. On the flip side, someone insecure will go haywire not hearing from you after a day or so. I see posts all the time where the couple isn’t texting a ton and people will comment, advising the person to dump them because they’re not interested. It’s rough out here.	/r/seduction	10/06/24 11:56 PM
1	How to stand out on a first date Don’t act thirsty, do something other than drinks and banter.	/r/seduction	04/06/24 12:05 AM
3	Stop turning your dates into interviews I find the opposite to be true. Women are the ones who turned the dating scene into interviews with low effort and a negative mindset. She’s looking for red flags before you even know her last name. It’s your job as the man to de-escalate the situation with humor, especially with online dating. Everything is doom & gloom with them and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve went on dates or engaged with women and their conversation was drier than the Sahara. Being rather the attractive guy or unatt…	/r/seduction	31/05/24 03:20 PM
4	Guys who get laid every time they go to a bar, what is your secret? Those men are “projects” for those women. Women have been duped into believing they can mold a man into what they desire. In my opinion it’s a control issue.. if the man is below average in looks or broke they can control the narrative better. There are more insecure people now than ever before. Lots of women date down for the advantage. She wants you to need her and a man that’s desirable or has everything together doesn’t need to worship the ground she walks on.	/r/seduction	24/05/24 08:15 PM
6	Guys who get laid every time they go to a bar, what is your secret? Not realistic and not a thing. Even if you go to a foreign country a lot of men end up paying for sex. Think of it like this, you ask 10 women for their numbers. 6 of them reply to you. 3 of them agree to a date. 1-2 of them you actually sleep with.	/r/seduction	24/05/24 06:23 PM
269	Barely acknowledged me at the club but F*cked me the same night She was in defensive mode until she realized you were willing to walk away. Most likely just a shit-test and you passed because you didn’t care. Although shit testing will always happen, I’m not certain she’ll hang around here. Could just be a fling and she’s off again.	/r/seduction	20/05/24 12:44 AM
42	I always forget to respond to girls on dating apps People with this mindset is why dating apps fail to work effectively. You’re using it for your ego.	/r/seduction	17/12/23 04:36 PM
1	The fact that women are so easily influenced by trends, what other women find attractive and the approval of their peers completely discredits their whole “we can’t control who we are attracted to” narrative. Preference of height is not the same as “ew, you’re not 6’3”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/23 11:23 PM
2	Bluepill people, do you agree with the redpill views on female attraction? Not bluepill, but Redpill tends to box women in. There are some outliers out there.. I dated a youth pastor who didn't want to rush to sleep together. She initiated 2 weeks later.. Total in time, we went on several dates over the span of a month. Could've have been a shit-test, maybe. But the point is, a red-pill guy would've X'd her out as soon as she said she wasn't ready yet. You need patience when dealing with women, but not too much to where you're her lapdog.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/22 07:17 PM
1	I feel like social media has fucked women's perceptions of the opposite sex, far more than porn has for men. Social Media isn't real. A lot of people with these "unrealistic expectations" don't end up with their so-called type. In fact, most people do not have successful relationships with their type. Perhaps it's because relationships are not supposed to be based on lust and how someone looks all the time. Women are incredibly judgmental of themselves and others. They are constantly analyzing and are extremely picky with men. Why? Because they can be now.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/22 07:07 PM