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DiscussionGenerally_Confused1/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:40 PM
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What "bad" bi men and so were talking about justified prejudice and stigma then? I don't know if I even know of a negative connotation outside of the guys still exploring and being unsure at times
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:08 PM
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It also follows "the narcissist prayer" The amount of gas lighting and indicators of abusive behavior is concerning lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 02:02 PM
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Here was convo where I talked about SA being mentioned in the sub in a disingenuous way to win arguments and it's always frame from women and like men have no idea what it's like. I pointed that out, said I try to avoid doing that with my own experiences I learned form and was called a liar and minimized because they didn't understand my comment. I look forward to how you will deny and twists and goal post shift but we were talking about rhetoric used disgnegously and I mentioned women doing it …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:55 AM
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What do I need to include? I littshowed you the exchange and told you my comment that lead to this dismissal Again, thanks for fighting so hard to not believe and dimiss men! Sorry you think I'm lying
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:38 AM
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Nope I told you the context in the comment, but nice that you deny and call me a liar and minimize my SA as well. Thanks for proving the poitn!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:36 AM
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Here was convo where I talked about SA being mentioned in the sub in a disingenuous way to win arguments and it's always frame from women and like men have no idea what it's like. I pointed that out, said I try to avoid doing that with my own experiences I learned form and was called a liar and minimized because they didn't understand my comment. And no, thanks for dimsissing me again when tell you ANY time I bring it up I get met with gas lighting and personal attacks. Like I said, wanna know w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:25 AM
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Happens any time men speak about it actually, not just when taking about others. Idk why but the women here especially have FOUGHT tooth and nail to shut me down any time the topic is discussed and also accused me of lying lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:14 AM
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Well when you start to include taking someone too drunk to consent to bed when you're more cognizant and the definitions of consent violation, that's where there's a lot more no?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:12 AM
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Oh yeah yesterday I called out a top user for claiming I lied about experiences because she was offended by my opinion about other rhetoric surrounding the topic
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:11 AM
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ND* neurodivergant. I' suggest you stop before you start saying ableist stuff and I ask if you'd like to call me the R word
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 07:11 PM
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You don't even know what a "mask" is to MD and other people which is what I say about outgoing energy vs not wanting to talk to people, not lying about who you are Imagine what you want though
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:59 PM
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Nope, because I doubt you take much interest in him and he's probably trying to keep you entertained and laughing and have a mask up. Some men want to just be people and have peace, let them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:57 PM
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Damn dude you need to touch grass. Jumped straight over being left on read and the normal shit lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:56 PM
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Oh definitely I'm done chasing and playing games if you don't seem to also have effort and interest and I'll straight up tell them I'll stop wasting my time and focus elsewhere. Nothing wrong with that and very heath respect and boundaries, you dont need to "beg" anyone to be wanted. Anyone who disagrees is weird af because why are you upset at men choosing to focus on themselves and not nonreciprecal connections?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:54 PM
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Idk who claims that other than specific Internet types but I heat complaints about "pretty privelage/ bias" and there are unfair things towards both men and women with that so if you treat someone with less respect then it's questioned. Also, it's fine go for who you like just don't lie and confuse people about it. Some might consider some things shallow and that's ok just like some men are considered shallow. I'm pretty sure most guys just want honesty
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:51 PM
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To say the talking points you're using are mainly online just like the ones you find in incel culture? That's not an insult
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:15 PM
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Nope you're the enotianal one. I told you you can think that way and men don't have to deal with it. That's it, idk why you're mad
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 03:37 PM
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Oh I'm aware, hence I enter like this. I know there won't be any reasonable or cohesive response and constant deraient so I basically find a central point that is reasonable such as, "that's ok for you, men you don't want to deal with that will go elsewhere" which is completely fair to see how long she keeps fighting and being offended by men having individuality. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:52 PM
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Ok cool because that's what I've said from the start. Thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:43 PM
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Well I literally said in my original comment don't be an asshole and insult people who don't match and that includes what you said so yeah, neither men nor women should do it. And that's ok like I said people might just call the preferences shallow but it shouldn't bother you then. It's just a fact about the responsibility of being honest Edit typos
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:42 PM
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Not saying attack, just they some things are considered shallow and people have the right to talk so you'll just hear that over specific things just like men do. Otherwise I generally agree
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:35 PM
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It's ok to have preferences but be open and accept some might have nothing of consequence to say and some will acknowledge it as shallow, just as men are seen. So I suppose it is better to make it known, I like it so I don't waste my time with someone incompatible. Thought it would be nice if they also didn't use those same things to belittle and mock men who don't meet it, like hot fat women often catch random strays from men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:29 PM
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Nope, "You think I don't know about SA when i was subject to it?" You: "yes" Literally doubled down. But again good luck lying, I know you don't believe men Edit typos and literally called me a lair but hey, whatever you wanna do to motte and bailey
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:13 PM
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The mods are biased and one of them lied and falsely accused me of sexual harassment when I asked if the women dismissing in me wanted to know what I was wearing then played victim when I DMd to ask where she got that from and they also muted me for asking them about accountability. The mods are useless and liars
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:12 PM
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I know you will deny this further and try to gas light your way out of it and maybe use DARVO To be clear, I didn't owe you proof, I remember you well. You directly minimized and dismissed me because you took what I said out of context and weaponized it against me, disgusting. But go ahead and lie about meaning something else <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:08 PM
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I literally told you you're free to move on and apologized for offending you, you're the only emotional one here. They're not really facts but like I said, if you think that way it's fine, I and others know to avoid it and you do have a point where I don't get as much out of it by the same metric so I'm considering that. I agree with you mostly
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:42 PM
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Yeah you're parroting old talking points that include what I said, that's how silly it is I'm not defensive, already told you I'd not be interested and men know to avoid you. Feel free to leave me alone, sorry to offend you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:39 PM
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You did it to me on a comment thread when I disagree about rhetoric about SA and you straight up accussed me of lying of having been SAd because men who don't agree with you can't be victims apparently 🥰 Anyways, sorry I expected women to understand consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:36 PM
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Not just my experiences and that of many sexually active people who don't go by stereotypes of "women hate sex" don't think this way. Maybe you'll learn And not really, just me agreeing in that case but you seem to think too highly of yourself. But like I said, doesn't bother me, I wouldn't be interested and other men know to avoid you so it's not an issue. No reason to be mad
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:34 PM
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Nope, you're making weird terminally online talking points. But you're right, I have a negative orgasm gap and I get women off more than vise versa so most of them aren't worth the effort so I've learned to be more choosy. And I appreciate those who also appreciate it so I'm not bothered by you, like I said it's fine but don't expect men to agree or entertain it. That's it, men with give their time and attention elsewhere, nothing crazy. You seem upset by that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:30 PM
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Yup, you especially learn if it's something like bipolar where you occasionally are more depressed and withdrawn and do nothing wrong but still get berated for not providing those emotions or whatever you're valued for. It's easier to have a casual rotation and some friends who have your back I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:28 PM
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Says the women who denies and blames male SA victims. How's it going?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:25 PM
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Damn sounds like you have hang ups about sex and not much experience and somehow think your time and energy is more valuable. It's pretty good to know this so men don't waste their time and can date women they find pleasant and also physical compatible with so it's fair I guess, just don't complain when men don't want to stick around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:25 PM
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You think men are seen positively and it's insane and not everyone hates single mothers. You only speak from online rage bait echo chambers. The fact that you think society is so forgiving of men that do this shows how little you listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:11 PM
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Your take is so delusional you literally just need to listen to men and observe honestly. You won't, it's pointless.. This is like me saying women are no longer expected to do housework. If you can't understand that, then there's no point
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:47 PM
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I feel like so many women here never actually know.men or listen to them or see them as people Just an online characature. Gold example why guys are opting out of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:43 PM
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You don't even understand what I'm saying do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:32 PM
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Not insults, you're the one whom dismisses and calls men liars about their own experiences with sexual assault qif we disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:31 PM
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Definitely not equally. You can check my other comment, "my money is our.momey and her.momeg is her money" Also, lots of men do housework and chores. Why are you complaining?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:30 PM
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Cool, nothing anyone else says matter because you know about someone somewhere. Thanks for proving youre too bigoted to talk to. You could listen to others experiences like you'd want them to do for yourself, but I doubt you have that empathy. Carry on with your imagination Also, yeah you should talk to my therapist and how I feel like a "tool" who needs a specific use and performance or I'm discarded and I have been sexually objectified a bit but I'm sure you know my life better than me as well…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:22 PM
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Cool those are your experiences. Are you capable of understanding that those are universal and an exception at many times? I wish it was that easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:13 PM
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No one forces you to have kids and ruin your body. Got it. See how that goes? But I'm sure you'll find any way to make anything mildly fault, I was forced based on the medical system. sorry I didn't want my partner to die and I did the only thing I could? I had the option to hold out for another job. If you don't know anything about chronic illness, please take astep down
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:07 PM
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Literally the objectified, fight to be taken seriously, and ESPECIALLY pain taken seriously, it's the complete opposite and women are acknowledged more. Also, no men don't do les chores they have someone who wants their schedule and you make it into something but they get pressured to conform.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:01 PM
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Taking care of a partner with limited medical needs and it was just kinda what I could get to provide. Also ones where I took crappy ones because no one else hires me due to my quirks/ neurodivergance and the I'm not given the same advantages in my field. Also, you don't even seem to know about men working more hours and paying more of the way even if you both work. There's a reason there's a saying, "my money is our money, and her money is her money"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:57 PM
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Last half of your comment is false, you don't seem to know much about kens dating experience
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:54 PM
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Damn, someone has never worked jobs that ruin their health to provide for others. Wish I was that lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:48 PM
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And you think men haven't had the opposite or ones where they pay all the bills and it's never seen as enough and taken advantage of? Again, what reality do you live in that you think men have it so easy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:39 PM
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Damn, I wanna live in the reality you're in
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 05:35 PM
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Literally making shit up to argue against me then throwing a fit when I do the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 01:14 PM
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It wasn't what they think, it's observed behavior. You're again, not being honest
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:40 PM
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So you completely ignore my personal experiences falling outside that and searching for it but finding more success when I suppress it in specific ways. You're not being honest, should I bother responding?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:31 AM
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No one said what you claim, it's that the majority of the preference is still towards more traditional masculinity in a one sided way. You could listen to the men affected or not, whatever you want
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:25 AM
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Ok, well I'm not taking about you but speaking as a man who could be described as "outwardly masculine, inward feminine" with tendencies, the latter tends to be a problem when it's not just you listening empathetically and sharing but always being stoic and in control. Another unrelated example was just the other day a woman was being homophobic and comparing any queer guys to "whimps" and toxic masculine in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:20 AM
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You don't realize the irony that you're saying the same stuff about men and it's just as obnoxious?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:16 AM
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talks about masculinity Man shares his experiences You: "I don't believe you" Good talk. This is pointless then
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:15 AM
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No not really, only very specific subsets. I'm invovled with queer communities and you're not really being honest about how men are seen
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:07 AM
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Cool, you should.lobbu for reporductive rights as well if you don't like the law. See how that works? Also,.yeah I haven't been married and it's been a good thing. And no, you clearly have never known disabled military vets being kicked out of their own home from an abusive wife during a divorce who begged to see his kids. Not an uncommon story but you can believe what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:15 PM
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Yes, because clubs or meeting no one are the only two options and it also means clubs are now good to toan to, the original commenter was right as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:54 PM
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I've always brought it up in relation to abuse, you're attacking a straw.mannto further minimize the experiences of male victims. Vongrats
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:52 PM
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The fact that you think the state divorce laws are fair is delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:47 PM
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Then we're talking about class with power and wealth, bit gender dynamics so this is not even the place for it. Moot point
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 10:45 PM
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Neither you nor the person you responded to made that claim
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:56 AM
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So you basically proved the point and admitted you want attraction, most men do as well. Why is that so hard to admit or want?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 10:31 PM
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Your final sentence is fine because you're honest lol. And probably all of the above, idk why do women want to be seen as attractive by others? Maybe talking to some actual men IRL would help
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 10:27 PM
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claiming someone you dislike is homo anything just because you don't like their arguments is the same thigng lol. Whatever you tell yourself to excuse homophobia
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:19 PM
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So yeah since you're talking about abstract "romantic" you can throw gay guys under the bus and it's not the same. Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:32 PM
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Ditnnneed anything more than accusing guys you don't like of homo romantic or sexual tendencies to talk shit. Do better, you're an embarrassment
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:23 PM
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You made up an argument to attack. Yeah, whatever you say
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:48 PM
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Nope nice straw man. You don't even know how to make an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:47 PM
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That's what you're doing and now doubling down on lying lol. Get real
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:47 PM
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Johnny was never proved of it are you kidding? She was shown to be the primary preparatir, the fact that you don't even know "reactive abuse" means you're part of the problem lol. She had to pay him for defamation
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:41 PM
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Not at all what I said but nice to know you can't read or don't reply in good faith
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:40 PM
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You've never actually looked into hours worked contributing to higher pay and also salary negotiations? My sister does that and gets paid more than most men, shocker. Have you ever actually went to a professional women's organization talk to students? They talk about that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:28 PM
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She lost, but keep excusing abusers man
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:27 PM
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Literally saying that if a guy has issues with women, he likes men. That's the common rhetoric. If you're not seeing that, then idk what to tell you
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 12:22 PM
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insulting and gas lighting You don't know me and you're the one acting like a child, already being so nasty, yeah youve never been accountable for being an ass lol. Have a good one girly Edit: damn didn't even read all your comment, nothing you said even relates to me at all but you're just offended and personally attacking an image you made up. Thanks for proving the type of women I've started avoiding, terrible would hate you deal with you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:25 AM
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contentless rhetoric ok
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:24 AM
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Once again proving my points to denial now that you're being dishonest and semantics games. Thanks for proving my point further 🎉
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:31 PM
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compared to swarms of subs bitchign about men and yass girl podcasts You're very biased and not accountable for that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:26 PM
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This entire sub seems to exist to "call women out You mean the gender war sub with sexist mods that favor women and allow constant achitzo rants? Once again, you're not even being honest. Women agreeing with you is what you view as accountability? Nope, but this straw man and manipulation tactic in arguments is not accountability and I'm sure you'll find. A way that deny it, but thanks for proving the poitn. You have no argument but defletion, literally avoiding talking about accountability. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 07:19 PM
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What does that have to do with wanting a relationship or not? Relationships take work
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:29 PM
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Yeah I'm chill, was never sure if I'd be for having kids and have my own stuff going on so date whenever but not focused. It's fairly peaceful and I'm just doing what I need after spending too much time focusing on others and it's nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 06:29 PM
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How is people thinking you are an ass accountability? I clearly meant calling it out like if you're being ableist or homophobic which I have seen here a lot, and accountability is also not denying that btw. And yeah everyone does it but you seem to underestimate how much more women get away with it and play cards to hide prejudice. Especially those who constantly insult and berate you until you snap at them and then say you're a problem, that's a common reddit thing but that's a form of psycholo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:59 PM
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If you're being a POS and a terrible person don't play victim and default to hiding behind gender or claiming discrimination. I speak to a lot of women here like I do men where I tell them straight up if they're an ass and they react as bad as the worst manosphere guys. I mean, I'd be happy if they stopped trying to constantly gas light any guys who says something they disagree with and also learn that they do the same dismissive stuff they hate men doing but no one wants to acknowledge it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:38 PM
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Well I have that love from a good friend and others but if I'm not really understood, I feel more lonely aroudn them than aline because I have to be performative to be valued. I'd rather be alone or keep a rotation of casual things instead of getting attached then because what's the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:29 PM
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Then why say "never stopped, can make it" to totally dismiss the struggle? Like, it's not hard to find a woman that's interested but I actually want to be understood and accepted and your comment makes it seem like that is not a barrier for us. There are still only some I can really unmask with
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:24 PM
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Ok, and I have similar struggles but once my mask slips and I'm.nkt performative, relationships are hard and people become hostile because I "don't understand" so getting laid is not hard or dating but actually being understood is still a significant challenge. Have you not constantly been judged for not following the social script when it deviates from your pattern recognition and you don't behave how they predict or want? It's never a good time for me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:19 PM
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"high functioning" yeah very specific and I learned to mask around it but there are still significant issues beyond that so you're being disingenuous with how little it affects you vs others
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:16 PM
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That's what I mean, the "us vs them" and "othering" different people
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:55 PM
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And are we pretending that echo chambers don't exist? Would you feel comfortable opening up about stuff on a manosphere site? Or would you be dismissed due to bias? Think about it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:42 AM
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Well that's ignoring a very real problem of in group bias and prejudice. Happens with lots of stuff including ethnicity, nationality, sexual orientation, etc. People will play blind identity politics and rally to one side or dismiss the other purely based on those characteristics. You can post the same situation with two different genders and have completely different responses just based on how a group tends to lean with bias and it's very common.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 09:02 PM
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You said nothing that was a "female space" but individuals you know that think in theory and moderated discussions. Have you ever had a personal social group in which it's important? And theyre all about "intersectionality" and such? You're using the definition of academic feminism which is supposed to be equality but do you think that individuals really care of someone has bad beliefs so long as they agree with the ones you find important? Same shit for guys that hang out with a dude that's a P…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:05 PM
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You said nothing but anecdotes and I have opposite examples that coujtner act yours. Will you accept those?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:57 PM
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By making straw men and generalizing "men" as the enemy and also imaginary assumptions, it'd be just as fair that you'd be HAPY being a stay at home mom and dependent by those same metrics, it's ignorant. You're going back to talk about the past and say it's like today, it's not. Or in case you forget all the men who have gone to feminist rallies for decades? Your argument is against culmination of different entities that aren't real people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:48 PM
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You've never seen women online constantly take pleasure in pain and abuse of men out of spite? Furthermore, never seen it in person? You sound sheltered
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:46 PM
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That's fair but saying "suspicious" you don't see how that comes off similar to the lady who grabs her purse when a minority ethnicity walks by? I say you're right in being cautious but suspicious is very insinuating
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:44 PM
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And once again, derailing to make false acucyand build an imaginary enemy while being the victim like so.many men have not advocated against those things and you're acting like "men" are a monolith that voted for trump. Touch grass and talk to actually humans
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:42 PM
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Replace this with any other group and how ist plot phobic does that sound? I could say the same thing about women but avoid generalizing like a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:41 PM
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Not at all what was said, more straw men. Learn to read
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:27 PM
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He said masculinity, not toxic. You are the one conflating it from the start with a straw man. Many still want a guy to do the sidewalk rule, open the door and "care for" you, be the big spoon and reassuring, be the enotianal rock, offer to be the one to initiate and take you out etc. You might not like to but a lot of those are parts of masculine expectations and more, and those guys have more success. So yes, they still chose the parts of masculinity that benefit them alone and define that as …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:11 PM
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You guys seem to love conflating masculinity as being toxic. No, that's what you're doing right now. Are you able to read comments and know what you yourself said? Nice guys are just assholes were mad they don’t have pretty privilege. They think doing the bare minimum of decency entitled them to pussy. Who the hell wants a C student always demanding we treat them like valedictorians? Nothing relevant to what I said but a rant about what you think men are like despite not talking to any. I talked…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:01 PM
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Idk probably depends on the guy. I've never been married because I haven't had someone I loved and would attach my life to, only one almost met it but it was a terrible choice and relationship. If I'm not "obsessing" over someone idk if I'd even find being married worth it, sounds silly
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:56 AM
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Since when is masculinity the same as bad? You're literally proved the point and demonize any that isn't the "performative" stuff you like. And also ignoring the years of guys calling out those "progressives" about double standard on gender roles, women still expect it whether you want to admit it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 11:53 AM
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Not sure how many years you’ve spent on dating apps on the woman’s side……. Lol but definitely can’t have been more time than an actual woman More so I'm bi, and have been in social groups where we talk about this for women, you still have a lot of abundance and arbitrary picky points. You can do you, but it sounds just picky and partially more shallow about your life rather than connecting to a person. But still plenty of guys I've personally known on the apps and have see still meet that, again…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 03:07 PM
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Yeah, literally know and see tons of that. You're probably looking. For something you're not saying lol. And I've seen me in apps, and usually more effort than women considering I've tested both sides. But whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 02:50 PM
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There are literally tons of those profiles, what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 02:43 PM
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Damn lots of lack of self awareness here, where it can be a mutual thing or maybe both people just like company and physical action. Not every woman is repulsed by sex and "entitled" is very specific subsets but you're not saying anything with it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 01:24 PM
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Wow, how is this tik Tok pop psychology gas lighting even allowed as a post? This is all rheyoricless content tf?;
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:53 PM
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Yeah, age has been more secondary to me, even dated a 40 year old cougar, who was terrible, when I was 23. And I'm 30 now and a previous possible important partner that didn't work out was 40
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:50 PM
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And they ask why some dudes would rather be single, I can just vibe on my own and not have to entertain someone who I can't even talk to about anything important because they lack the bandwidth. Sounds miserable
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 12:16 PM
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You're completely misconstrueing and straw man in the argument, I never said any of that, complain that you're not paying. For more while also paying for everything and especially it being a toll already is entitled or complaining that it's not enough. What if you dont pay her rent and dont buy her stuff or is that just something that you are automatically doing in a relationship? That's better than I've had it but you can still be entitled and not respect mental consent and throw your issues on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:57 PM
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You mean complaining about you not paying her rent of buying enough stuff or going out of your way to perform enough labor and takes it for granted? Will you read and respond in good faith or just make things up? Like, if someone is paying all your bills, how much are you entitled to complain? Don't tell me you think that's some bare minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:47 PM
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Well for one, don't be overly argumentative and egotistical for no reason and conflate it with some sort of power. An obnoxious but not uncommon example is to be the one paying for everything or doing all of the labour and deal with "give an inch, take a foot" and constantly having to feel like you need to justify doing what's good for you or your partner starting to see these as expectations and becoming entitled, maybe even argue about how you need to provide more or being controlling etc. Not…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:13 PM
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Happens all the time lol, to me plenty and that's half the ways you "debate" I have never seen you do anything. But insult and be bitter about things either, never once "debate". I'm not the one that needs growing up love
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:49 PM
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You mean calling them out for being dicks? I've seen women do much worse here regularly, they seem desperate for male validation by those same metrics. This woman in specificno one wants, she's obnoxious I'd hate to deal with her. Keep your delusions to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:08 AM
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I've been dealing. With disability, prejudice with mental illness etc since a kid and then more severe mental illness disability and chronic severe debilitating physical pain. It's all treated the same way you're describing and then just deflecting to talk about women in general when you should know better if you have had those experiences yourself. My ex was even worse off and more ill and it's not just because she was a woman she was treated like shiby the incompetance of the medical industry,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:42 PM
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Those things are true of covid, have you never known immune compromised people? Covid is deadly to them. Also, influenza has class A and B and they're different they literally affect people differently. Regardless, the only thing I'm getting from this conversation is that a man has to be deathly ill to be taken seriously and not dismissed, like you're literally doing with a narrow definition
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:57 PM
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You literally proved my point by denying it because I didn't have pepper work, let me guess "man flu" because I don't have a medical professional to tell easy up? Proved the point Also "flu" has dozens of strains and offshoots and that's technically the origin of covid. You're using a narrow definition to play semantics games, it's weird
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:35 PM
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I have not seen a single good faith "debate" and people not being assholes here. It's strictly a place for drama
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 03:50 PM
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Funny, because my experiences reflect that and I recall you specifically saying I was lying and I asked "would you like to know why I was wearing?" So women don't seem to acknowledge when that happens to men either, though I acknowledge it for everyone. You think it's a gendered problem and that says enough lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 03:19 PM
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Why does this sub exist if you don't complain about people being assholes? Isn't that what every complain you have here comes down to?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 03:17 PM
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You do know that the flu comes in a lot of different forms including covid? I've had a variety and this kind of thinking is part of the problem with it because it's not "real" unless it affects someone the same way. I had the flue over new years and I never run a fever but had such severe body aches and chills it felt terrible trying to sleep and I was downing a lot of z quil and Tylenol and could barely walk or stand as well and it's a different profile, just like with covid I had intense cough…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:31 PM
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Yeah and "man flu" is when he has influenza and stops being a product of use and "lazy" so you decide to say they're faking it and ignore medical issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 01:26 PM
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I've had a lot of personal life things going on and also ignored my own needs for a previous relationship so I have been doing a lot of work on myself in the past year, sometimes I'll want a fling or company or I'll end up dating someone but often doesn't last long when we both lay our expectations. I almost got into other relationships after my last one ended but finding someone genuine and who has the balls to do what they say and say what they mean is hard. I don't usually like being monogamo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:28 PM
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I worry for your reading comprehension but yes I shouldn't and I'm talking about it being imposed like the guys who keep a calendar with when their wives did or didn't have sex with them to weaponize. Want to misconstrue other comments and be beligerant for it? Or gonna check yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 06:16 PM
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I wouldn't say that but if avoiding people like you counts, I've gotten better at winning. I'd like to date, but it's hard to find someone decent with more than two brain cells and a teaspoon of empathy for others. Low bar but oh well
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:33 PM
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It's supposed to, the closest I get is the ADA and hiding until I can divulge medical things after hired but will absolutely not be appreciated or given a fair hance if you don't have the right disability with a cane or you're a cert ethnicity but you're not brown enough for photos to show off the diversity. Again, this is as a guy who DEI was supposedly designed for, it sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:26 PM
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Same people will shit on a man for not having a job and hold patriarchal beliefs, you're just saying what they claim fo support. Barely anyone does shit for the homeless either and they don't give a shit about "labor conditions" unless they're watched and this "safety checks" and liability are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:23 PM
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"loneliness" like a man needs a partner to be validated, or a woman.yeah, you're insecure and just seething, people would rather be single than date constant combatives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:17 PM
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So you are bothered by something that's none of yours business but seem to project judgement based on insecurities. Also, ok well I also said the guys who do fuck for free have aslso started keeping it casual because the juices isn't worth the squeeze and you seemed to be very offended by that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:08 PM
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Yup and arbitrary days for it and berate you if you don't follow the dish unloading schedule as they want even though you do literally everything else but it's not on their checklist so it is irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:05 PM
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You're responding like you are tbh, nothing she said was even relative to what most people experience anyways. But keeping space and more casual and enjoying occasional company is generally easier than "dating " so I'd agree on multiple fronts
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:03 PM
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The same achitzo screaming from the same person
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:02 PM
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You gonna tell that to men who talk about their actual experiences being assaulted or find a way to deny it happened or blame them for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 10:29 PM
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What do you gain from saying these things in this particular conversation? You're talking about the actions of others which is not within your control. If you're scorned by lack of 'basic respect' from women, maybe you need to speak to women in your life and so why this may be the case Well my sexist grandma is dead, my crazy aunt isn't around, my mom takes everything too personally. But please tell me more how you know my life, you literally just proved the point, deny and delftsect and minimiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:02 PM
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mean just look at the staggering amount of men that leave their wives after they've been diagnosed with terminal illness. That study has been disproven as math errors for a long time, there's not a large difference statistically. Personally though? I see it the other way around much more, myself and others with disabilities included. Can I also just state that it's super weird how in this sub so many men feel the need to relate and compare their experiences of misfortune with women What do you m…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:01 PM
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Not at all but nice gas lighting. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:06 AM
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You mean when you attack me personally until I share ethos and then manipulate me sharing I have experience because you hate empathizing with male victims if they disagree with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:18 AM
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Reread the context of what I'm saying
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 09:50 PM
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Sure if you ignore everything I said. Take it easy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:49 PM
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As a way to deflect and accuse and shame someone to change the time of the conversation. She was accusatory and used it as a weapon, which was my point
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:33 PM
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LMAO oh I got news for you. Unless you want to tell me how my life has gone and feel comfortable claiming to be all known
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:29 PM
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Assuming that I don't have experience, you ignored. If you're selective with reading then I'm not interested
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:28 PM
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Not at all what I'm doing but congrats on your fantasy. Literally holding you accountable for doing that and using it I genuinely and I ly bring it upyaelf because you dismiss me and "other" my opinion, and it makes you uncomfortable so you dismiss more. Thanks for proving my point
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 08:14 PM
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That kind of insensitivity and disrespect are usually done by those who are ignorant of sexual violence. Olympic oppression doesn’t belong in SA discussion. Did you not read my comment and notice that this is exactly what I'm taking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:56 PM
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God you don't even have the comprehension to understand my point and your hypocrisy. This is astounding
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:54 PM
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Nope, literally been my point and you proved it. Also you're never worth taking to so have a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:52 PM
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It’s not a red herring, it’s a genuine fear a lot of women have because they’ve got personal experience of it. If you can’t recognise that women are traumatised from dating men and be sympathetic about that, then you shouldn’t be approaching women. All about women, not about using the term disingenuously like I said, yeah you discounted me. Do better
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:49 PM
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You don't see how you probably ved my point how OP is wrong and the hypocrisy but thank you anyways lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:34 PM
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For calling you out for using a crime to try and manipulate people and minimize it? Oh boy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:34 PM
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You're proving my point and I only brought it up because you're in denial and blame shifting read what I wrote, I'm against using it as an argument manipulation tactic. Take your straw men and denial of mens experience somewhere else, you literally questioned me so you're as bad as others lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:31 PM
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Literally told you, and you're denying it because I disagree with you. Lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:26 PM
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Nope, I did none of that, I said people weaponized it to shame people, which you are and proving my point. Good luck gas lighting someone else Btw wanna know what I was wearing?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:19 PM
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OP just invalidates me for my trauma fyi, that's what kl talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:17 PM
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Most women don't respect cis mens consent fully in my experience and I've learned to scream "no means no!" As an adult, as well as dozens of partners opening up to me Some "ally" you are to deny my own SA because I disagree with you, or do you just think it never happens to men?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:15 PM
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So is everything OP talked about. But people are ingenuine with it at times, you can't have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:14 PM
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Literally like I said, generalizing men and "othering" them and acting paranoid about it to full assumptions and saying it as a shaming tactic rather than genuine. I'm tired of it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:08 PM
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Lmao you think I'm not used to or aware of those things girlie? You literally just did it, brought it up to deflect and shame someone and ALSO assume I don't have trauma or speak from experience and invalidate me because of my gender. You're not in good faith, you're using it to shame and manipulate people. People don't talk about it like that when they're being legit, but you've probably never had other people be vulnerable around you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:07 PM
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You literally assumed I know nothing of it and probably because of my gender because I said something you disagree with. Pretty sexist
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:04 PM
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Thanks for more assumptions, you know all the women IRL who confide in me and I remember dozens of cases but they don't use it online to shame random people and make them feel akward about it. Also sexist of you to assume I don't have any experience being assaulted/ violated since I'm a male, tsk tsk. You think I didn't speak from experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:56 PM
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Nope, I've been subject to it myself and don't think it's a "woman only" thing like you do, and I also talk about it with people as a serious trauma and not use it to shame random people online into feeling guilty about the genitals they have. Do you not see the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:55 PM
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In reality it is but when you mention it when it's irrelevant just to make other people uncomfortable because you can't make a good argument it is and minimizies it. Is it not wrong to call people out for bastardizing and thus minimizing a term?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:50 PM
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Lmao I literally talk to women about it and they don't use it as a cludgal to shame men into behaving how they want and "shut up or you're terrible" because y'all do the same thing. Thanks for proving my point, you don't actually try to communicate but weaponized it, you minimize the entire thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:49 PM
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Those statistics to justify bringing it up out of nowhere, proved my point. It was a single example, I gave others.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:48 PM
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Literally bringing it up now out of nowhere, and yes usually people inject it when it's not even mentioned to shake others and try to take a moral stance, you don't care about it, you use the statistics as a weapon.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:33 PM
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How they mention it, "we'll respect men when they stop raping us!" And stuff. They're not actually talking about the subject but weaponizing it, that's not the only thing literally happens with every issues but ultimately, two sides of a coin where both are just screaming and red herring each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:32 PM
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Women on this sub do the same thing, swear to God they use rape as a buzzword but don't every talk about the nuance. Should I take that subject less seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:22 PM
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Ok, well he told you, and you ignored it multiple times. Your move to accept it or are you minimizing rape threats? If not, then just move along
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:20 PM
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Reread dude. You're literally denying reality. No, you don't get to speak for someone, you're being ignorant
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:19 PM
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Sounds like you enjoy men being harassed so you can feel a vendetta
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:18 PM
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Did you fail to mention the rape threats or do you just consider a man trying to have sex with you automatically “rape”? He literally mentioned it IN THE POST. You're not reading in good faith and speaking for someone else and their comfort of sexuality, that's not accepting or "inclusive"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 04:16 PM
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Have you ever heard of "set yourself on fire to keep another warm"? You ever know someone so dependent on validation and need for company that they ruin and sacrifice their own well being and lives in order to accommodate others? I did that, I have spent the last year catching up on a fuck ton of mecial issues after neglecting my body and trying to get back to sobriety and steady with my job. Dating is not important as that, I "decentered" it. Is that wrong? It depends on nuance and why they're …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:29 PM
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The word you're looking for is "othering". "Decentering" can mean a lot of things a lot of people who do it do it for online cry baby content, but if you literally just mean prioritizing your own well being, how is that wrong? Is is wrong to "decenter" money so that it's not that you quit your job and live as a beggar but that's not the only thing for you. Wouldn't you rather go to your kids sports game than work? Nuance can be applied here, though I'll agree it's become a buzzword online
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:26 PM
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Is it not better to have a relationship because you want it instead of feeling deoendent or a need for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/26 09:17 PM
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I literally told you people I've known in real life for years. Do you ever read comments or just respond randomly? Edit: social media "what were you wearing" if a woman opens up about something, I'm sure you'd be fine with that right?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:21 PM
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And the rest of reddit? Or lots of social media? Or the women I've known IRL who I thought were my friends? And family? Literally canceled a date/ possible hookup the other month because the woman became excessively hostile in a way that sacred me and clearly projecting other issues but I'm used to that evolving into them waiting for moments they can berate you. Will you now tell me my life experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:17 PM
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This entire sub is that and half the time I talk about my personal experiences on reddit or places there's some banshee screeching. I've started to ask women if they want to know what I was wearing at this point honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:11 PM
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I dated a sexual influencer... You'd be surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:06 PM
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No, it's honestly hard to escape and exhausting
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 11:05 PM
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I'm autistic with a history of depression, idk about others but I have been a target frequently and it's not rare and same for other children to go through Edit: just so you know myaelf and other men who have been SAd by women have frequently been dismissed and heard a version of "what were you wearing" from women as well. I'm sure you'd call a man saying that to women mysogyny
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 09:25 AM
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Yeah, but why should I bother explaining that you have bias out of need for validation and being seen as the "nice guy" for acceptance by the "in group" as you have essentially "othered" different men in order to be more appealing and virtue signal while totally dismissing the experiences of others and resorting to ableist and patriarchal rhetoric that is a literal example of what is being discussed in this post. Believe it or not, some men want women to listen to them because they actually want…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:48 PM
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"I'm uncomfortable being called out for being a simp bigot for pity points"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:41 PM
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Oh, in other words "man up, no one cares how you feel"
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:38 PM
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You are kinda "othering" us by outing that category, how would like me to express that I anticipate women being emotional unstable and verbally abusive at random? Or race? I can understand it, but in practice, that's how it happens. What you said is false that it's a "tiny fraction", not saying red pill but those who isolate men from progressive spaces, even ones you claim to advocate for because they're still men. Thats been not just my own experiences and the topic at hand and it comes from th…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 09:23 PM
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Semi serious caus literally doing what they'd calm aan "mansplaining" so I called out the hypocrisy. I want her to tell me why she is speaking for me and my experiences, do you know my life better?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:48 PM
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Hey, why didn't you respond to me saying you're femaplaining over my personal experiences? I told you I've been treated otherwise, all I got was downvote.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 08:32 PM
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Yet here you are, defending it because you're invalidatign my personal experiences and telling me they didn't happen because you don't want to see the hypocrisy. I have experienced plenty of it IRL and not just by "dating someone or algorithms", once again, are you going to speak over me on my experiences? Some kind of "ally" if you gas light someone opening up about discrimination. Listen
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:37 PM
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No, you're literally lying and gas lighting. So many "feminist" that also dehumanize me. But please tell me more about my life experiences and people I'd known for years. Since you are omniscient Edit: wish it was just being bi, you ever see how people and women treated depressed men or ones that have difficulties a adapting due to autism? I can't fulfill the standard role they want and it doesn't turn out well. Are you going to tell me those were fake people?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:24 PM
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I told you them and you dismissed the them and said they were wrong. Yes you did
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:22 PM
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Literally what she told me in response because she "knows people" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:19 PM
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And I'm telling you you're wrong based on a person subjected to that. Again, why are you defining my life?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:18 PM
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As a bi man, it is and you're taking over me and my experiences. That's not very socially aware. Are you going to tell me how my mental disorders affect me next? How much of my life experiences are you going today decide for me? It's beyond arrogant because you. "Know someone" because I know women who haven't been hurt my sexism so am I right in saying it never happened to you? Use a bit of thought and empathy like you'd want off yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:17 PM
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Some, does that excuse them abusing and assaultign me? And am I right to resent women for hurting me?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:16 PM
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Which is what you're defending, literally and jayifing "othering" men and why I have been treated as such. Part of the problem
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 07:14 PM
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Way to change the discussion and totally protray extreme examples instead of just bitter women projecting and not like men have ever had trauma wirh women right? Do I have the right to talk to you that way? You wouldn't like how demeaning it is
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 05:07 PM
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So you'd deny a fundamental reason they're abused, yeah you don't see them as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:55 PM
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Nice projection and twisting to other arguments, aren't you the one invalidatign other women's experiences of being targeted and assaulted? I'm the feminist here Edit: you're wrong and making shit up, it's jor "rare" like you claim
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:47 PM
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Nope, you denied other people reality and things that can happen. What would you do if someone was actual abusive to your son because of sexism? Deny it's a problem? Yeah, that's an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:47 PM
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Whatever you tell yourself to cover up your own prejudice and biggotry, hope you grow as a person
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:44 PM
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God I feel bad for them, women who don't see males as humans suck. Hope you have more empathy for them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:42 PM
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Cool.... So other men who meet that are telling you they've had issues with it, are you going to speak over them in their experiences? I have preloaded responses to homophobic remarks from women. Does dating one bi man and your preference invalidate my life experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:42 PM
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Personal experience, or do you know our lives better than we do and will tell us it doesn't happen?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:40 PM
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Right so deny one reason she was targeted and limit how much recognition it gets and the prejudice that cause harm. Very "feminist" of you. Reverse racism can happen, its just almost never violent. Does it happen? Yes. Just not as much as the reverse My god you're sheltered lol, have a good one because you are obviously not open to reality
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:37 PM
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There are more but you pretending your party doesn't do that is false and invalidates mens actually experiences, you're incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:36 PM
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What a privelaged little ignorant life you have, hope you don't have a son, he wouldn't be safe
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:34 PM
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You ever known a whit women that was targeted for violence and sexual violence for her race? I'm sure that doesn't matter according to your logic, so if a woman is white is she no longer a victim if the other person isn't? This is how dumb the argument is because you don't understand localized power
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 04:32 PM
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You think people can't have beliefs against their own? You never seen internalized mysogyny as well and women kicking each other down? That's what you're doing for race, yeah you're terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:29 AM
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Saying one race is inherently racist is racist. I shouldn't even need to explain this, is this real?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:17 AM
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I use it to describe the women who genuinely resent men and "other" us. Will you tell me my IRL experiences I've unfortunately had too many times are fake?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:15 AM
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Found the misandrist and racist bigot
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/26 11:12 AM
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Youre literally doing it right now and being a hypocrite and shutting people down. I've seen it on reddit and IRL too, no he's right and you're already being dismissive
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:50 PM
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Oh yeah, I remember you, you're the gay guy who preeches about dating women, that's why I remember. I've found a number of times you delfect from women being criticized by blame shifting to men and redefine the argument but I'll stop snooping and linking since I guess I remember now
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:22 PM
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if you want an example of delfection with whataboutism
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:18 PM
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I looked at your comments and recent aren't bad but you're unnecessarily hostile and dismissive of men, so I'm not going to get it to the "prove" so you can make excuses game people play on here. Where did I talk about a demographic? You're already straw manning. I said I recognize YOU in particular but don't save every comment of someone being obnoxious on reddit like you expect. You can dismiss if you want but it's not related to your argument but is to mine about constant deflection and someh…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:16 PM
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No, I've seen your username take that side but don't remember if you were the one arguing with me. It's not at all related to "all women" and you're already manipulating the conversation to make it about them and dismiss anything, thats my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 04:09 PM
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I could possibly confuse you with another person but I never claimed you said that, I meant that you seem to be one of the people that carry the bias where you're more likely to dismiss things other men say for a more favorable view of women. Sometimes it's true, sometimes it's gymnastics to minimize things others bring up they don't like. Might not be you but there are multiple times someone with your tag or "blue cause red don't get laid" or something like that have made crazy fits about me ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 01:32 PM
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Funny because I've seen you constantly arguing against that any time someone brings up and instance of it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 12:18 PM
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Finally someone with comprehension
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/26 12:17 PM
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Threatening and victim blaming for being sexually assaulted of having it done and not respecting any form.of.my consent, constant manipulation or abused or having my substance abuse problems taken advantage of along with my disorders? Regardless "words" include me learning to hide in closets growing up afraid of being screamed at because people think like you. Most incels only use words you say they're violent but that's a small minority. According to you, verbal and emotional absue doesn't coun…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 07:11 PM
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No, I'm using them right. You're just dishonest, again, not interested in debating with phallacies and justifying hate and bigotry. Good luck! Edit: girl "mean words" again you condescending kid lol, I'm happy if they treat me like a person, a human being and not a target for abuse. But keep telling yourself you've never harmed anyone 🥀
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 06:56 PM
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So total delfection of violaent and harmful people and also invalidating others, lovely. Valorie was a very troubled women who shot Andy over theft, not on the grounds of feminist rehtroic. Idk I don't know her, I know how I've been treated in those communities though You can dismiss valid critique as deflection, but I directly addressed your point, there is no to date actionable harm in not chasing out the voices of people who are saying vile/stupid shit, and feminism does as much as any other …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 06:46 PM
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I also posted MRA/ MOGTOW and they don't have a governing body so your deflection is inaccurate, I can talk about BLM too or even Palestine protestors who allow antisemitism. I'm not engaging in good faith with deflection, those are all the same, if you have critism towards any "manosphere" stuff the same apples, I'm not interested in a discussion of deflection. And OP listed plenty you're ignoring, this is not good faith, I won't waste my time. It's just super hypocritical
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 06:37 PM
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It literally is, you just worded it differently
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:34 PM
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Yeah but this isn't "red pill" you guys call anything that's remotely critical and literal equality between genders that lol. No, this is accountability
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:32 PM
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They're not gonna like this one but you're right in general with any movement of "no true scottsman". Maybe they'd understand if you pointed out people hate MAGA because even if some are not Nazis, they let Nazis into their space and tolerated intolerance and are thus associated with the ideology. And they do influence each other and do shit test date keeping. It's legitimately why I see people on reddit now identifying as "eagaltarian" for equality because I've not run into any self defined com…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:31 PM
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So does "desirable" to you mean popular or something? And also that's a weird list of worries like you mostly read bad things online and have never actually interacted with a man and take a weird paranoid approach. If I thought like that, I probably wouldn't date at all? Like why would you bother if you think it's such a bad thing and some sort of sacrifice on your end? As a man I'd hate to have a partner who felt that way and would be turned off. Even now I'm not going to go after a woman that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 11:15 AM
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How is it "racially charged" to compare social/ political movements? Nothing "charged" about them, just philosophy of movements about powers structures
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 04:37 PM
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They are and why people are complaining about you lacking awareness. If you want more, I d also like for women to learn "consent" and it being more than physical, I'd like for them to not "other" me as an autistic person who deals with mental things, or that using men as emotional punching bags as an outlet for your resent towards males is not ok, and a lot of shit. But you're so dismissive and deflecting from there being gender bias, yeah you're the kind of person who makes men not take women s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 04:13 PM
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Well sure if you just willfully misinterpret everything I said and entire echo chambers berating and trying to gas light me with "that didn't happen, if it did then it wasn't that bad, and if it was then you probably deserved it" and such and even stalking my profile and harassing me over things or making ableist insults. That's like me saying "a few men made negative comments" when you spoke up on a manosphere forum If you're going to willfully misinterpret what I say, then I'm done taking beca…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 04:11 PM
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That's legal equality, you're deflecting to biological things and if you want to go that route, you don't like the arguments. That's social and legal equality, accept it or be a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 03:14 PM
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Not one of his sources are against men, they are personal bias, this isn’t bad faith, this is fact, AND this is why people struggle to take mens problems seriously. Statistics of social issues affecting men in particular aren't valid? Yeah, you're in bad faith and trying to deflect and go "no you" it's literally what proves his point Each “issue” is an individual problem, more men commit suicide, well we have help centres to help them (guess who the majority of volunteers are) but you can’t forc…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:56 PM
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She can abort and choose, also that leads to adoption and then it's still.power.over her, he should be able to opt out while she's pregnant if she wants to do it and he doesn't. Again, that's equality, it's hypocritical otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:41 PM
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Pretty much any sub that caters to women lol. I avoid that twox one but literally any "feminist", "nothowgirlswork" oh it's all over in any of those judgement subs and highly biased like "AITAH" where they convinced me I deserved to be abused by a woman 17 years older with NPD. Any dating, literally any time I'm on reddit and mention something unless it's in a space that is more moderated to support men, there's usually a crazy lady that jumps in with straight up DARVO gas lighting. It's rather …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:40 PM
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Literally check OPs post and comments and he has sources, you're not debating in good faith. Also, there's greater stigma about mental disorders and also less social programs in general and more "make it or break it" still applied, this is like red pill guys asking you what you need "equality" for because you have the right to vote. It's reductive, if you actually listen to men as people you'd eventually learn some of these things
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:35 PM
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Tbh this is the problem, this is like linking the civil rights movement of MLK to the black Panthers in which one wanted the invovlement of all and those in power, white people, while the other excluded and we know which works, why would any movement today willingly exclude a large influential group? If the progressive group allowed antiwhite sentiment to run through and exclude them, then the entire movement would be associated with that and wouldn't have been as successful. But that requires y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:28 PM
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Her body, her choice, not his. He should be able to legally separate if she goes through with it without his willingness. Otherwise it's hypocritical
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:14 PM
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Can you say specifically what you think women should be doing? Not gas light men into thinking all of their problems are their own fault and they can never struggle because you "other" them. I don't bother talking about legitimate trauma and struggles I've had with women, like mental illnesses in the family causing abusive behavior, because it's usually dismissed. Half the time I mention something it's a reworded version of "well what were you wearing?'
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/26 02:12 PM
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I shouldn't need to lol. Social media, thrif party spaces, political and social tensions. I don't need to say more, you can deflect but it sounds like you're butt hurt because OP called you out accurately
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:51 PM
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Yeah, so sounds like you actually haven't ssiciallized and compared even pre 2020 to now. It's very different, you're being weirdly disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:47 PM
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By saying that socialisation has changed in the past years? Yeah, that's obvious. And ok? You're the one complaining imo
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:39 PM
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Who said that? It's usually your type with the victim complex
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/26 05:33 PM
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Before I transitioned I was a masc presenting bi man with a wider frame and a more masc build. Things have actually been pretty good with me So you're far removed and also didn't even identify the same so it's a bit annoyed to say it's the same as well. And cool, I know trans people who haven't had many struggles, does that speak for you? like sorry some women were homophobic to you, honestly - and I want to try to not come off as dismissive here but i really can’t say much of anything without a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:30 PM
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And I mean…. If you’re a ‘less masculine’ man, odds are your average woman isn’t into that and you might be a better fit for a woman who’s ’more masculine’ - like idk what kind of woman you go for, but I do see a pattern of less masc leaning men complaining that women aren’t into them we see them often go for femme women Literally gas lighting like you think that's easy you literally admit most women don't like it right? Also, I look masculine, I'm "inward feminine energy" but have to fulfill th…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:14 PM
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Youre argument is boiling everything down to pegging to deflect and ignoring the other "less masculine" things, both of which as a man who meets those in some ways, have experienced so you're essentially talking about my experiences for me to others. It's annoying
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:07 PM
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You're missing also bisexual or more feminine aspects, I can tell you both do a have an affect and you're speaking for others lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:04 PM
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"in my country" you're woman planning and raging. All over these comments and harasif OP with straw men, man this is sad
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 12:49 AM
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Ooh victim Olympics, nice. You seem pleasant lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 12:47 AM
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You have. Kre power than a disabled man, he's subject to oppression by you easily. Hope that helps sweety, get over yourself Edit: or over male children. It's not strange for bitter women to make them a target btw so that's why you're kinda red flags, idk
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/26 02:39 AM
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You don't think anyone that isn't part of that "class" is also less privelaged than you by identity or abiliy and still don't like their gender insulted? Yet you "other" them all the same. You're just prejudice, it's gross grow up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 09:55 PM
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I don't know what your point is. You're saying you don't need anything from men and how little value they bring but then you get told to just not date or date someone else, because believe it or not men aren't a monolith, then that's a problem too? And it all comes down to this terminally online "orgasm gap" talk like y'all have never known a woman that sometimes just wants to fuck like anyone else. This is the opposite side of the conservative guy with little experience it seems because like. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/26 04:16 PM
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"I can be a bigot because I'm the perpetual victim even though I'm also punching down!"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 10:15 PM
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Exactly this, would love to hear the answer because I have plenty to fire back with and her take on these spaces is wrong to begin with, they're just as hostile as manosphere groups when you don't agree with them and will attack and harass you like crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:53 PM
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How often have to wanted men to stand up for women to other men when they are being hateful and prejudice? Or maybe calling out your racist family. But you can tell yourself common principles and decency are that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/26 05:44 PM
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I'm used to women screaming at me and using me as an emotional target, should I be cautious and think most women will do that if given the chance? I sometimes dissociate so it's not fun. Nah, you're using statics to "other" people, that's not cautious, that's prejudice.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 02:24 PM
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Dispute the statics, they're there and haven't been disproven. Those are just the easily accessable ones but I'm at work, again you're willfully ignoring statistics lol Good luck with the prejudice, hope you don't have any male children
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:39 PM
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I replied to your other comment with an example of the "13%" commonly used in those arguments and it's interesting how you act like you didn't see it. Again, you're just deflecting so hard
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:29 PM
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You just keep deflecting, lmao it's kinda funny
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:27 PM
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Still didn’t explain how in “misusing” statistics. Yawn. You literally lied about DV. It's a well known static that even has other articles as well Not sure what infanticide or child abuse has to do with this but I also assure you men lead the statistics as well. Ask anybody - would they trust a 40 year old male teacher with 10 years of teaching experience completely competent in first aid or a teenage girl with no experience to babysit their child? The answer will always be women, because the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:26 PM
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Literally what you're doing and he called you out and you're already deflecting lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:20 PM
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As in, a very large issue (any form of assault and domestic violence)? Domestic violence is actually more even split when you account for all methods of abuse, yes you're misusing statistics. Explain how I’m missing the statistics? If there’s another demographic with such prevalent statistics, do feel free to show me and maybe my views will sway. But there’s not. There’s definitely no statistics that say “women melt down at anyone that shines poorly on them”, lol. Infanticide and child abuse, ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:20 PM
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You're using chosen specifics to justify viewing another group in a light that takes away individuality. You wouldn't be happy if any other demographic was mention like that even if there are statistics and women melt down at any one that shines poorly on them. You're also misusing the statistics, that's a way people justify prejudice. That's just what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 01:16 PM
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Yes, justify prejudice like that always goes well. I'd leg it away from you if I knew you tbh because being "othered" is pretty fucked regardless of what demographic it's aimed at
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/26 12:49 PM
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Sounds about right for someone who can't be accountable for their own words lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 11:40 PM
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Your initial comment was literally the "goomba fallacy" talking about "manosphere" when the OP didn't mentions it but actually told you something that women also tell men but it is nuanced so I reddit can't comprehend it Are you mature enough to have that discussion? Edit spelling
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 11:39 PM
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No pointing out you're doing the same thing you're claiming men do in your comment, you're manipulating information and the argument. You didn't even read my comment right 🤦
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 11:33 PM
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It's no less unpleasant when you're on the receiving end. I wish all "feminists" were as you described and actually cared about equality but as a man, I've had too many instances of opening up to so called "feminist" women or even friend groups about being abused or SA'd by a woman and you get the same, "well what did you do to deserve it? I'm disappointed you didn't resiste enough, etc" They don't police the community and have people just as nasty as they "manosphere" and wish they'd hold them …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 11:32 PM
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And women attempt a lot because you need male validation 💔
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 11:22 PM
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Lmao women do the exact same thing and it's not exclusive to manosphere and you're literally denying, then rearranging the victim and oppressor in your comment, you have to be kidding 😭😂
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 10:06 PM
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This has been a more recent development over the past couple years and mainly wtih zoomers and drops off actually closer to 30 so it seems the opposite, same as incels, where they don't have many experiences with the opposite gender but just blame them for being angry. If anyone denies this, I would ask them to think about how interactions were in even 2018 vs today, the hostility and identity politics have overtaken people. Tbh it's online brainrot
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/26 12:05 AM
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Wya to state man and be pretentious from the start lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/26 07:47 PM
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Way to refrain the question, but in terms of what you mean by people harassing you over reddit, plenty. Would wanna hear about the woman that waiting for an opportunity to feel justified in being verbally abusive too? Or what? Just stop while you're ahead lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:19 PM
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The fact you say that like it's one sided and only men are the perpetrators is hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:12 PM
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It's definitely becomes a more effective practice when you learn the social cues
/r/seduction02/05/26 07:12 PM
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I don't pick sides but have been "bullied" by more blue people here then others, they get very hostile with personal attacks if I don't agree with them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 05:38 PM
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Yeah this happens but when I'm actually trying to be supportive of those issues genuinely, happens without trying
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 12:56 PM
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sees poster and skims the unhinged ramble
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 11:53 AM
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I legit cancelled a date this weekend because the hostile tone she took out of nowhere actually scared me, I'm used to the women in my family being verbally/ mentally abusive. I tried to explain I was feeling uncomfortable and "othered" and that's usually what happens before I'm used as an emotional punching bag for the resent they hold towards other people, since I guess the autistic guys are easy targets? I legitimately just want to be treated like a person, aside from a lot of other things. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 05:23 PM
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It's because other men are competition and women are what they're competing for
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 11:53 AM
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I'm not invovled in any of this, but this weekend I literally canceled a date because a woman was so hostile for no reason and I was legitimately confused why it scared the fuck out of me because i am at this point used to being the "resent and trauma punching bag" and especially by women who are bitter against men. It's literally been a thing in my family since childhood and then continually repeated in adulthood when I genuinely just wanted connection and to be accepted... Nah, the groups you …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 01:51 AM
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Well for one, they've always been around. But it's gotten worse, user base is less women and a sizeable portion are bots and such so not "only" but it's a more standard experience than yours letting on. And even the "normal" women will sometimes demand you venmo them for lunch or something lol. Try making a profile as a guy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:32 PM
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There's a good chunk that will add you in social media or even within a day of talking ask you to send them good for a cashapp lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:12 PM
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So you obviously don't seem to know what you're talking about. Sometimes they're literally prostitutes too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 07:00 PM
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You don't need to be close to that popular, you can also just have a fwb of something idk. But having a "relationship" just for access to sex is tiring because I can't imagine faking the emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 12:43 AM
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Yeah that's something I had to learn a lot about. I even wrote a poem before about "seeking your other half, not wholeness" but I also have a very unique situation myself because I can make a connection with someone I've known for a week and feel more "understood" than I have from my family or others who have known me for years. But I have learned to take that with grace and also really learned the hard way what actual understanding and company is. Because like you say, I can feel lonely in a ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 11:56 PM
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Not really? There's a lot invovled in an actual relationship. Casual is a lot simpler
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 11:49 PM
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I'll be honest, wish I was referred to as just "dick" years ago because it would have saved a lot of confusion about intimacy and what it means and intentions lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 12:33 PM
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Not necessarily, it can be a niche store like a figure shop for all we know, there's one that does almost Warhammer alone around me. But even then, what exactly are you looking for and what is commonly available vs in demand of even that very small interest group? I don't get into these too much but I like this analogy because you can play a lot of games with "well this kind of business, of these sales!" To pretty much match every question because there's really no single answer, but I feel like…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 10:22 PM
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Jesus no you're not arguing in good faith because you're just deflecting, maybe listen to people and their existences if you want them to listen to yours. I'm done because these excuses and deflections are ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 10:59 AM
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I've been in kink and non monogamous since I was legal; I can agree that we are rare specimens, yes, but that's not stopping me from finding my fellow freaks. Yet if a cis man shares his experiences you dismiss it, yeah sure. Your first part of the reply literally contradicts all of your other comments and making excuses for cis women. You are not being consistent and are changing your stance to continually defend one group. Why bother responding if you won't even listen to someone's experience …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 12:54 AM
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Again, you're having to reassure your partners because a lot of straight women themselves are still working from the assumption that they need to make their partner orgasm. You have to continue being honest about what your limits are in bed and what you genuinely enjoy so you can continue finding people who are turned on by what you have to offer. Why do you say this like men aren't under constant pressure to perform and feel lesser if they don't achieve something? Some guys don't care or if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 10:36 PM
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Well did you see the first half where I specifically mention my mixed ethnicity and queer sexuality and now that seems to afford more acceptance and support than other things? Also, lower income people have some scholarship opportunities but not a lot elsewhere, they are very over focused on race and they make that and gender stuff seem like the only two things that matter. And possibly but even then, unless it's into law for jobs to give more sick days and other stuff, still gonna be fucked and…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:53 PM
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Well that's what we're talking about, someone being "bad$ is someone that's not an eager participant and kinda just uses you and your efforts so id criticize both of them too but the comment I replied to seems to have a problem with that. Is it a problem or is it not? Also, idk I can only speak for myself but I have a negative orgasm gap and nerve damage and am also used to being the one doing all the work and usually the biggest road block is physical exhaustion depending on duration and intens…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:43 PM
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So, not addressing the point and deleting, got it. But also I assume you're talking about sex specifically? Like you mean maybe things like grabbing the dick too hard or scraping with a blow job, total lack of interest in attempting to make you cum if it doesn't happen by coincidence? Being selfish and transactional? Using a guy for a quick fuck out of validation or whatever because they're just a dick to you? Dubious consent like engaging when they know you're far too intoxicated? How deep do y…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:36 PM
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Yes, and I'm sure you'd criticize a man like that even more harshly, this is obvious based on what I say.and the comment I reply to. I don't even know why you responded with that tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:28 PM
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You were saying that women who are called bad are mostly passive and I changed the roles to a man doing that to ask if you'd still say it's just passive or "bad" or whatever? How would you react to a man being that way in sex? That's what a lot of guys are complaining about
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:21 PM
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So if a guy just got hard and stuck his dick in you and barely moved you wouldn't consider that "bad"? And then expected you to do everything then complain if he didn't cum?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:15 PM
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Bro literally just a goomba fallacy,nowhere did this guy say that? This is why we can't have nice things here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:13 PM
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autism, ADHD or bipolar disorders I have all of these and more and I'll be honest, DEI doesn't do shit for me most times and I hide it until I get the job then confide in HR so they won't fire me if I have issues. Tbh, me being half Hispanic does more, a Hispanic last name on my resume is more important to "inclusion" here than the developmental disorders that are far more fundamentally intertwined in my functionality but you can't put that on a poster to make it look good and inclusive. Same wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 07:07 PM
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Girl stop, I'm an engineer and been at conferences where the specifically say they wanted women or black men etc, you're delusional and biased
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/26 05:45 PM
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Never even stop to think maybe they're throwing pissy fits about him not vacuuming every day when he thinks once a week is good and works much longer hours. If we're going to project stuff that wasn't said and all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:24 PM
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It's funny you say those concerns like none of it happens to autistic men, I attract users and abusers like crazy and generally it's less to lots of self work because no one gives a fuck if you're a man who doesn't understand social things and gets taken advantage of lol. Like, your main complaint is a big one autistic men have too, why did you not share the higher statistics of us facing abuse and assault as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 04:46 PM
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Yeah that but also don't limit it to something just simple. What if there's a show you wanted to go to and it's not too expensive? Nice to have company. Or company for a night out at the arcade bar or going thrifting together, etc. Coffee, ice cream and whatever is good and I think along these lines where you shouldn't need to impress them by spending money but I also treat it like an adventure where I get to know someone new while doing something interesting at times too. But yeah I rarely spen…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/26 06:40 PM
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He didn't say anything like that but nice reach at whataboutism to dismiss the argument
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 05:57 PM
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I started dating at 23 and was with women my own age at first but then dated a cougar nonmonogamously and had a preference for older women 30-40+ since then and often did see them. I of course had personally issues and attracted others like that but felt I connected more due to trauma brain things that kind of bad a slight disconnect between my peers and I. It's also based on preference and chemistry but I most definitely wouldn't make these generalizations
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 02:25 AM
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That's what I do and also respond to, my biggest thing is "feeling wanted". And actually, the biggest compliment I currently give a woman is that I was interested in her but I then evolved to really wanting her, but I'm also someone who is big on personal chemistry and only say that if I feel we click. And likewise, I'm fucking 30 years old, if I have to guess if you like me or other stuff then I'm not going to waste my time. I can play Elden Ring and smoke a blunt at home if I wanna play games …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 04:25 PM
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You're being dishonest by also acting like one is better than the other and they're don't influence each other, you're just as bad. Next!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 05:00 PM
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In the same way, if you complain about women not dating you, and blame them, (especially if you do things other incels are known to do like call women foids or roasties), you will be called incel by people who call people like that incel. That's usually what people call an incel, I dont have a problem to that. You changed the definition to "socially awkward" and what does that have to do with your above comment and the hate? That's what I have a problem with, reddit is very tiring with semantics…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:32 PM
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Ok, so are you comfortable calling someone a fag as an insult and you don't think that's incorrect at all? Because if you're ok with that then carry on because I suppose you're consistent I guess lol. I'm also bisexual btw and since I mentioned autistic the usual insult is actually "retard" so personally, I would prefer you use that. You do you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 02:08 PM
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Hold on I'm just seeing this, did you basically just describe "incel" as more or less being a neurodivergant dude? People keep changing the definition to conveniently match their argument, but I will point out this purports harmful, ableist views and would ask you to be more considerate in your choice of diction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:59 PM
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Why are you using such a selective interpretation of "feminism" and projecting your issues? In actual feminism, the domestic labor is also split and everything is balanced but you're only bringing up the cases in which men aren't holding up their end, are you ok with men bringing up the "feminists" who just straight up hate men that women always "no true Scottsman" about? By this I mean that there are a ton of "feminist" areas that seem to excuse attitudes towards men especially that are commonl…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/26 01:55 PM
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I can start to tell you about the shit I've experienced with women and I'd be interested in seeing how long you could keep that attitude lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 12:07 PM
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Ad hominem and straw man, you're not making actual arguments but gas lighting. Why are you even bothering other than to be snarky?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:41 PM
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Bro I'm in the spectrum and some of these guys are, but way more are just awkward assholes, trust me lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:40 PM
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And you start with " men don't take accountability" or whatever when the original was just indifference, we know you're a hypocrite and only think this way when women are the victim so this conversation is pointless. It's nuanced and applies the same for men and women but gender war brain rot won't let many admit it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 04:31 PM
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The guys complaining about "empathy" here do it daily, and not once has it had to do with death in the family. It's always whining about not getting matches on dating apps, nobody wants to go out with him, or if women go out with him they don't immediately sleep with him. Well I guess but imo when I ask for it I ask for common decency and to be treated like a person and not "othered" which people seem to do a lot and even that bar seems high.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:37 PM
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and one that's better handled by a therapist or grief counselor anyway, not by strangers on the internet. You do know group therapy exists? Showing off how little you know tbh. And yeah this sub, but your attitude was to it I general and ignorant. In short, it's narcissistic behavior. Ok, so basically your argument is a straw man of what you've seen guys complain about on here and dismiss all other implications that are normal and nuanced. Good to know. That's the case for the whiney attention s…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:29 PM
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You should go to one of the difficult life support group and say this, sure it'll be popular and comes from a place of knowledge. Would love to hear that with people talking about losing a spouse or child, recovering from addiction, learning to cope with being assaulted and abused for years, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:10 PM
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I'm generally on your side of beliefs but can you stop calling that "rape"! Because it is only by a very loose definition and I know like do it already, but it just comes off as dramatic and hyperbolic here. It's a pretty complex discussion, if someone lied about their job to sleep with you that's weird to call it "rape" because they still consent to the person unless you think they consent to someone job title alone. It's a problem when you don't share health things or other sexually impactful …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:05 PM
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You're the only one coming off insecure immediately attacking and going as hominem because you disagree and can't handle a different view lol. Man this place is comedy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 03:00 PM
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You could actually look at their sources that are legitimate and you'd understand you're making an ass of tourslef and don't know how references work and are just play aesthetic games. Not a refutation but a red herring, good try
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 02:33 AM
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God the condescending gas lighting, I feel bad for you man trying so hard to deflect not even an honest discussion because "well others do it more" like what argument is that? So bad things don't matter if a different group does it more? This is such delusionally biased thinking that it turns people away from you. Aside from the snarky ad hominem to start because you don't actually have a point or any facts so you need to attack the person. Jesus this place sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:11 PM
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Oh yes I agree, they aren't held to the same standards as work and are excused more. I'll be honest, I don't even bother trying to share my experiences and on reddit and especially places like this anymore because there's always going to be some random banshee or weird dude following her going, "that didn't happen, and if it did then it wasn't that bad, and if it was then you probably deserved it" and pseudo therapy language that's just used to blame shift and manipulate the conversation the sam…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:44 PM
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I wouldn't say more but one thing to take into account is defining "abuse" as well. I was raised by people who strictly defined it as beating someone vulnerable and pretty much nothing else, learning that mental and verbal/ emotional abusive is valid and what it is and how it can also mess you up over this past year has really..... Kinda changed my perspective. This is also the thing though, it's about "power" and men are typically ones to value their physical strength and exert it, thus physica…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 09:08 PM
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"waayyyy less likely" less likely to w degree but likely not what you're saying, you don't have any sources and if you have looked into things you'd realize the gap isn't that extreme. Aside, the person said "yes we get dismissed" and you said "well yeah you should be" more or less to again, deflect. If you can't be honest in this though about your own bias and projection then I'm not interested in continuing a pointless exchange lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:27 PM
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Right so deflection and accusations again, good to know you immediately resort to that. Also, if you have that attitude I will share my unpopular "inside throughts" I avoid here that you probably have no idea how little women respect not just the physical, but all other forms of consent with men and violate it. Again, deflection and stuff, do better you're part of the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 06:08 PM
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Probably understand it better than you, thats why youre feeling uncomfortable with this conversation. You've been using loaded language and questions from the start with ad hominem by bastardizing terms, I'm not uncomfortable, you're just a doofus and not worth taking seriously. You can't revel in power and ignore that a power dynamic demands someone be on the losing end and subjugated by someone else. Which is an essentially negative aspect of human nature. Again, really weird views and like, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 04:18 PM
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Again, you don't seem to even understand "sexual trauma" so this isn't going to be a productive conversation because you're set in whatever online angry chud view idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 03:55 PM
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My dog was being an asshole and hiding under the deck this morning when I tried to get her back inside so I could go to work
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 03:41 PM
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Do you purposely misinterpret what people say? We're not talking about being rude or something, just arbitrary ideas of "how you should act" and how you can be called an "asshole" for shallow reasons and you're proving that point. You can be nice and genuine and also someone that I'm sure you would call an "asshole" or some of the weirdos here will accuse of being "red pill" just because he treats women like people and knows they could be good or could be shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 03:22 PM
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Well, you don't seem to understand consent and what "violence" really is and how you can be rough but it usually comes from them feeling safe first. I'm also a switch and like it towards myself, and someone's gonna shame either way and it's none of your business lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 02:56 PM
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And the stance y'all are taking is that it basically just doesn't matter by comparison, it's shitty victim Olympics. Do better
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 01:04 PM
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Fantasies about being victimized aren't the same thing as fantasies about victimizing others. Very hypocritical double standard, I say this as a seasoned sadomasochist switch. Also, you seem to have the weird internet anti porn view. There has been a lot of issues with the industry but for actual reputable creators and businesses now, that's not at all how it works. Have you ever known anyone that does porn? It's not all trafficked minors hooked on drugs like you see in the movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:12 PM
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Lmfao I like you and that attitude and it's refreshing here. I'm the guy you wouldn't think but have gotten into that stuff from lifestyle so those who are actually interested seem to like me. But it helps that I also approach as a normal guy trying to be friendly and joke around and have learned to better tell when to and not to push sexual things
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 10:01 PM
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I'm one of those guys where I don't really care for it with strangers but my an "affectionate sadomasochist" and the more I adore someone the more wild I get and actually have to put limits on women that want the same shit without being as involved with me. Just a random hookup though? We can talk about stuff but it's not the same for me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:03 PM
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Oh definitely and I've made mistakes giving to the wrong person. But also I'd love people in this sub to keep this post in mind because I actually love doing all of that when I can and someone appreciates it, but an expectation is a turn off. So that's why I'll take my first dates to coffee or thrifting or something low key before deciding if it's someone I feel the passion of investing in. I love giving the "princess treatment" stuff but here's the kicker, you have to earn it and it's not given…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:52 AM
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No, that's my other playlist with the village people and Chappelle Roan
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 06:02 PM
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<image> Part of my recently playlist on repeat, one at a time ladies, I know emotional availability like this is rare /s
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 05:59 PM
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By who? And wait, are you saying you know how those women like sex better than they themselves do? How do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 05:32 PM
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Yeah I mean, I joined this sub when I was having bipolar and substance abuse episodes and have kept around and since gaining my sanity back realized I needed to be that fucked to think like y'all. I'm actually telling you to go to therapy and get a social life please. You can deflect if you want but I'm so tired of reddit neck beards/ leg beards complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:39 AM
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Once again your regressive projection. You can have your opinions, but others don't care and posting a rant every day doesn't make it right. Please touch grass for the love of God and get laid or something, idk if you've ever touched someone else genitals but please get it out of your system or to join the convent or something
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:25 AM
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<image> Idk about y'all but I think my mid 20s went like this even as a man so when i see this title I actually consider the rare cases in which I seemed genuinely cared for and not just amusement to scratch an itch. I'm not sure but I think I'm the type of autistic, quirky guy that you either find insufferable or want to play around/ sleep with for fun and I don't even think it's mutually exclusive 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:39 PM
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What are you even arguing other than a strawman? When did anyone make that claim? The guy said your entire post can be summarized as the term "in group bias" which is correct but you're adapting a buzzword to it that doesn't apply. I don't even know what you're arguing or claiming
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:21 PM
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He literally is but is defining what you're talking about but you're trying to co-opt a buzzword and flip it around, you're being dishonest from the start here. There's no point lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:22 PM
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Immediately moves the goal posts to invalidate it and yeah actually it is an issue, it'll blow your mind but "emotional consent" is a thing and often a widespread complaint men have if you take note. There are others too but regardless, are you trying to dismiss based on popularity of how you see yourself as more oppressed? Or do you have an actual argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:57 PM
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Yeah I've seen from the sidelines there are a lot of double standards, especially with this poster. Though, reddit in generally usually has maladjusted people with weird takes and especially people here, I mentioned in a previous comment that I don't even know the boundaries of what these "pills" are defined as anymore because it's all just gender war brain rot and nothing important is ever said
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 01:18 PM
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I'm actually wondering why these schotzoposts aren't moderated. They're weird af and just crazy 14 year old Tumblr girl rants, this place can't be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:57 PM
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Well sure and those men can date women that are more in line with their desires too, you probably wouldn't get along with them. All you're talking about is pursuing people whose sexual desires aligne with yours
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 03:42 PM
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So again, all shit you see online and yes there is drive to system and I can see that for young men but did you ignore me telling you that most don't like a lot of those expectations because it's an inherent struggle? And again, I can't claim for others but do you have any actual studies or verifiable sources for your belief or just what guys claim online? And again, you're associating then with it based on nothing but finding ways to justify it, that is literally prejudice. I'm not attacking yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:27 AM
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It's not a hissy fit, I'm legitimately telling you that you're being as prejudice and the same towards neurodivergant people as you are complaining about men being towards you. You are doing the motte and bailey now, if you even know what that means, because you said nothing about that at first but had a after statement, "they're ND so I understand" which implies that you expect and see people with that condition as lower/ lesser and associate them with people you disagree with to disparage thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:13 AM
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So self proclaimed for one and even then, this discussion is not about anything doing with ND people and this seems a prejudice against ND men in specific. And you said "I understand" condescendingly because you're insulting people by comparing them to autistic guys, don't back track. No, you're legit ableist and really just as bad as the guys you're complaining about and the fact that you don't understand your own prejudice and bigotry is sad. I hope you can learn to do better and grow as a per…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 01:28 AM
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But it’s ok—ND and autism are significantly linked to the RP community so I guess it makes sense. Jesus, you don't even realize the hypocrisy by being an ableist jerk yourself at the end here? You're not much better if you're going to be that way
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 12:59 AM
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I don't subscribe to any of this shit but I have regularly noticed on here that anything that is a criticism towards woman that includes basic human behavior like being shallow or whatever always seems to lead to swarms of anyone on that side screeching and claiming you are delusional and your life experiences didnt happen. I had an extended argument with a guy who was just being an ass and constantly insulting me and was calling me "red pill" or whatever because I was simply mentioning toxic be…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 12:34 AM
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Yeah I'm not particularly fond of how people online use the term. For me, I have some mental disorders and trauma that can be taxing and often have partners that have similar issues, idk I click with them better, so I definitely say there is a time where you're being their therapist and being dumped on and I've been on both sides unfortunately. But listening to your partner vent about work is not a big deal lol. But that also takes communication, people also need to learn about "emotional consen…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 09:00 PM
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Everything you're saying on your side also involves doing the same thing and is what this argument is about because get this, your experience isn't other peoples and it used to be seen as bad to project your own issues
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 09:04 PM
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You don't see the irony and hypocrisy of this comment? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 05:44 PM
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One very direct example of this I have heard is that it is often an issue in the femdom side of kink communities, where the men have to compete and stand out so much they feel like they can't have boundaries, and where genuinely abusive women can get away with a LOT. That's like the extremification of the issue, but I think it exists in more subtle ways in general. So I'm not really interested in debating but just wanted to add as a guy who has been heavily involved in kink and the irl community…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:46 PM
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I do the prior, finding the latter is surprisingly difficult
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 07:06 PM
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No I hear you, definitely not disagreeing because that's not much to ask for. I'm just taken aback personally as a bipolar guy because my functionality can suffer so I'm used to doing a lot and being a provider but then it doesn't go well when I'm struggling for just a few months and even if I'm providing for everything, I get mistreated during those times of disability. You're describing what is actually an equal partnership and I think the bar is very low for those who don't appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:59 PM
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That sucks because I'd be happy to have an equal partner and then leveled expectations based on realistic things. It's not a high bar to ask for or for the partner who works less/ less intensely to take more of the share of work or based on ability.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 06:37 PM
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Yeah thank God, same with those trying to immediately ask you to get them Uber eats when you haven't even met or anything. Make yourself known and leave the people with self respect alone lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 03:27 PM
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See, I don't understand that because I'd rather be single and sexless than in a committed relationship with someone I don't like the company of. I usually choose my relationships based on that as opposed to being casual or just feeling it out
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:55 AM
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I found a life hack: women let me ramble about metaphysics and comic book cosmology and stuff for turning them on/ getting them off. Lure her in with the pipe and then you can give her an existential crisis
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 09:15 PM
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I wouldn't say it's a woman problem as many men do it and also just "ghosting" where someone suddenly cuts contact wasn't quite my complaint, it's more about misleading and that can include ghosting when they bail on a date, but that's more annoying because you spent your time to get ready for that and plan it so it's inconsiderate of their time, regardless of talking about. I was just saying the specific excuse you initially responded with is not a rational justification in this case
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 08:22 PM
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That's fair but generally, I actually worded my original paragraph in a way that obviously displays that I give them power to separate and am aware of those fears and take them into account but just want common courtesy of communication and not being lead on, so you bringing that up had nothing to do what I said, it's an excuse by comparing extremes. I'm aware of certain ghosting and stuff like that for safety, I'm talking about you actively talk and say "let's meet up Friday" and they don't bot…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 08:05 PM
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"I don't owe basic respect and communication and treating you like a person because I'm paranoid" I mean, I pretty clearly stated that I also use text or Snapchat so it's easy to block and just don't stand me up and waste time? You're talking about something completely different that is not relevant to this other than as an excuse because it's a completely irrational projection. Edit: also no mention of the emotional consent part? A lot of women really need to learn that tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:30 PM
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It's hard and competitive and there's something I call an "it factor" and it's the difference between being "interesting" to talk to vs someone who gets your attention and you feel some desire for Also, you're kinda taking to the wrong guy because of how I conceptualize relationships so I think it's actually easier to sleep with a new woman than it is to make a new friend I really click with in some cases
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 01:49 AM
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I mean, just takes a lot of searching and knowing what works where. What dating app is useful for your purpose, if any, and how it functions, going out to events and socializing and I've learned to be more outgoing over the years, saying hi on social media and getting to know each other and even DM slides depending etc The catch is you usually just need to be interesting and have a personality that makes them want to engage. Not that you have to be a clown, but if you're not interesting it doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:02 PM
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I often see something where I'm like, "this person could use some of my antipsychotics and Xanax" and then realize it's the same person or a random inkwell
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 10:07 PM
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I don't like to date monogamous and have identified as "poly" for years even when single. Right now it's more, I'm doing my own thing and don't want to be monogamous or derail myself for others so just being more casual. I ended up in a dynamic but it'll probably be mainly just us and then I'll have others on occasion and some of the ladies join us on occasion maybe? Idk I'm just going with it but a bit personally preoccupied
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 09:59 PM
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Huh really? I'm curious what the study was
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 08:54 PM
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It's not hard to find someone to have sex with or even a consistent enough thing to "date". But personally I seem to often be someone they like to date for the short term for fun until the craziness behind the quirky guy actually becomes a problem lol. Others try and I'm incapable of forming deeper bonds rather often it seems. When I'm finctionin well I seem very datable and might be more so now but it's less of a concern now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 07:45 PM
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It's like this place is the new schitzoposting sub but about dating and gender crap. It's fascinating to try to conceive of some of the things being said unironically, truly a marvel.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 12:01 AM
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You see things differently when you haven't experienced it. There are some key deep and subtoe things that you don't know without practical experience. So you might think that you can deal with it - but when you actually have to deal with it you realise that you actually can't deal with it Oh of course. But it really sucks when I'm seeing someone and they also have a history of depression or other mental things that I often help them through. But then they check out once I'm in need, that's a pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:57 AM
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Oh yeah, I'm type 2 bipolar, among other things, but if I have a mood episode I don't expect people to stick around and they usually get pretty upset I can't fulfill the same role. Even if I'm on the ends of euthymia or a bit out and it just cuts into my functionality a bit. With my mix of meds and disorders it's often a "management" thing and I've spent years working on it in therapy but of course that's not a cure but I handle it better than when most with this combination and severity. But ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:12 PM
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And you know that medication doesn't work the same for everyone and there are other various disorders? Quite frankly, if it's only depression or the usually ADHD/ depression it's not that difficult to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:04 PM
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God so much. Mature communication, if you can't make it or there's an issue or even if you suddenly change your mind, I always emphasize honesty, then let me know so I don't waste my time and energy preparing. Like, ok I'm not gonna be upset you can't make the date but I'll do something else or maybe just enjoy a night in instead of putting in effort to go out and that's welcome but don't play games. My time and energy is valuable too, it's fine to not be interested but being more clear helps. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 06:04 PM
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Not that I agree with all you said because that description sounds like dating someone you don't really like just for the sake of company and to not be alone, but i do agree it's better to be along than in a draining relationship. I mostly stayed single the past year when I was dealing with my own things and tbh that's not the only time, I don't even consider dating or relationships at times because I have more important shit. Right now? I'm open back up but also maintaining boundaries and how m…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 03:33 PM
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Yeah the amount of insecurity funding that superiority complex based on arbitrary qualities and also basically making the same complaints that incels do lol. And also, as long as someone isn't being dishonest or misleading their intentions then it's just being mad they didn't choose them just like a guy getting mad that women fuck guys other than him. So many red flags
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:22 PM
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Addiction is very easy to understand No it's not wtf? It's one of the most difficult things to understand are you kidding me? Like, the amount of self hate and shame and understanding a bit of our shadow and such? That's difficult. This is getting pretty close to saying that we can only “understand” if we’ve experienced the exact same thing, which would pretty much invalidate the entire concept of empathy Reread my first comment. I mentioned ways you can understand without having those same expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 03:02 AM
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It sounds like you "listen" but don't seem to really process and internalize it like you claim because it's not about "conceiving", that is very easy and only the beginning. And also "know from history and the media" which means you don't seem to really know? Like that's a very shallow understanding and you might have heard about things but that doesn't mean you know. Like if i tell you about addiction too, if you haven't dealt with it then I don't expect proper understanding because it's really…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:48 AM
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Understanding and imagination is the basis for considering other people, and it is not difficult, because people aren’t all that different or complex How many people have shared their trauma with you over various issues? Like, do you think it was easy to say, empathize with my ex whose family were criminals and older brothers regularly beat and raped her? Even if you have experience with abuse and SA, that specific denial of safety by a sibling and other factors is very different unique. Idk, me…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 02:26 AM
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No it's not lol. It takes a lot of understanding but also compassion, thought process and basically the ability to put yourself in their shoes. From your comment you do not seem to be the type to acknowledge someone else has experiences you cannot fully understand and are bad but you do your best but if you only extend it for things you agree or are comfortable with then I wouldn't say that's really empathy. Your immediate comment was completely derisive and talking shit when it was not even rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:56 AM
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No but I have a running history of calling out intellectually dishonesty here lol. I also just summarized what she said in a more straightforward manner? Idk
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:44 AM
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That's a lot of words for "no" lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:39 AM
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God why are you here? 😭 You add nothing to this discussion but straight salt, we ain't boiling pasta here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:32 AM
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This is probably the worst place to ask, it's terminally online people who are so insufferable they need to take out their frustrations and prejudice out on others online while pretending they're better than they are. If you'd like to know in reality, it naturally depends just like any people empathize with a group different from themselves. Some do, some don't and there are a lot of factors
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:11 AM
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I'll be honest, you're included man because of the way you word this. You're so apologetic and hesitant based on your gender. Yeah it's good in these to also acknowledge that women deal with their own challenges but it came off so much as, "I acknowledge how much more important you and your problems are queens, but might I get a crumb of acceptance if I make myself small enough of a person" It comes off as legitimately unhealthy self doubts and need for validation. I say this because I used to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 01:06 AM
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I actually wonder if people on this sub actually have experience dealing with different genders at varying intimacy levels cause the takes are often so weird. I'm sure this will be a logical, well reasoned and respectful conversation /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:58 AM
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Unpopular take but it's the opposite in my case. I sleep with someone and try to form a bond where I desire their presence more but it's like maybe one out of a dozen. I'm A typical of course but friendships too, I find actual companionship difficult. It's also easier to find a woman to sleep with than build a friendship I feel I can rely on. Actual connection and understanding is pretty rare imo
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:33 PM
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Jesus you're playing semantics and straw man because you don't have an actual argument. He clarified, you didn't read, that's on you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 04:45 PM
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If you have the right characteristics and have learned a bit of the game with experience and ability to execute then yes it is easier than that low bar. But most men will struggle with that and don't have that background
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 09:52 PM
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Everything you said and being so proud of being "brutally honest" and the way it comes off? Most people who talk like that do not use non accusatory language and you literally use it in your statement and to complain about a comment. Maybe it's worth considering that guys might shut down, like a normal human does, when he feels attacked. Like the "I statements" I mentioned, do you use those during the exchanges?; As an autistic person, I use direct communication more often than not but that's wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:30 PM
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Has no one here ever actually had to learn to grow as a person and treat other people as people too? You can be direct and honest but no berate someone or be accusatory. Have you ever learned "I statements" and "non hostile" language? Do you really think women react any better? Much more emotional and explosive imo so there are more egg shells to walk on and hence navigate your syntax and diction carefully. And what a surprise, most men and women in general respond better to this approach. Kinda…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 02:05 PM
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Don't guys usually claim height is a huge barrier? Also, I'm ok but not particularly good looking. I'm interesting and fun more so
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:22 PM
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I'm glad it worked out and yeah I live an alternative life and mostly date in the kink and ENM groups and generally explorative so I don't have experience with a fully monogamous LTR but from what I know it can be hard to keep that spark and "sexual chemistry and polarity". But people don't know, mental connection goes a long way. If you're into meditation and esoteric spiritual feelings, look up tantra and the book "radical ecstacy". I do intense hour long impact scenes and sometimes start with…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:07 PM
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I'm not a chad, also autistic and like 5'7" lol. I was able to get flings in the past but not maintain but I made an ass of myself with bipolar episodes. If you didn't notice, recovered. I'm also an engineer who writes poetry including about the suffering of depression and alcoholism and allows me to understand the suffering of others. I also have spent years working in therapy to be what is likely much better adjusted and contributing member of society than you. Idk, you think you'd be able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 06:59 PM
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Well yeah? Obviously lol. And if they wanna fuck around with someone else in that time then cool, I'm fucking with someone I want more. Most people are not interesting enough for that much effort ime. This is literally just a basic assumption of modern dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:46 PM
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Does not counter the well known issue with survey based studies that is indeed honestly or even ability to accurately account for things. If you are sharing sources and statistics, you should know the flaws of the sources you share. What this person said is a well known reason to be cynical for any self reported study.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:27 PM
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We need more people on reddit like you lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:21 PM
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I hate to tell you man, but you be surprised the bullshit you could get away with if you fuck good and that is what keeps them hooked lmao. It's not hard to get to bed, also, the techniques and stuff is the fun part? Are you just looking for a flashlight or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:18 PM
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Literally your post lol. Remember your own arguments, not proving anything than you having no coherent thoughts
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:16 PM
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Most people on this sub don't like me cause I've stopped masking and let myself be obnoxiously autistic but this is the thing that works. I'm an open book too, I take 5 psych meds a day and need therapy every week to manage at a minimum and a recovering alcohol who gets a shot in his ass every month to not relapse etc. But I own it and share my vulnerability and that allows others to be comfortable with theirs as well. I'm used to having women come over the first time then say how they never do …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:08 PM
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because STDs are not completely solved, birth control is not 100% yet, and numerous studies show that men and women who are whores have trouble pair bonding Yeah you only had Christian highschool sex Ed. Again, sit this conversation out because it's not relevant to you lmao. As someone who wants to pair bond and does not want STDs or a baby with a degenerate, that's why whoring people give me the ick. You can call me an incel, weirdo, projection, and anything else. I just think I have more disci…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:32 AM
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am not sexually forward and I am pretty conservative in that sense, so none of your insults land I'm a whore but the women actually want me and sometimes pester as well, so same kiddo. All of this is weird projection and sound like you don't have enough experience for this argument. You want a girl who does not expect any courting or has enough leverage or self worth to have high expectations and a girl who puts out early. And you're gonna get exactly that. Never said that, stop the draw man and…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:23 AM
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I think you're kinda missing the point, it's not a shallow game, it's strategic to get rid of sex pests like you by making a guys wait and court. So, you call a man that's sexually forward you don't know a sex pest and women that sleep with others sluts? Oh, we got an incel type over here! Never said any of that bullshit strawman, please make and actual argument. Never said sleeping together right away doesn't lead to a relationship either, you're projecting and being a weirdo
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 02:17 AM
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You literally lambasted about how bare basic niceness doesn't mean shit. Pick an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:40 AM
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Yeah not like intoxication or unwanted contact against consent and freezing is a thing and like that's different from saying yes because you got annoyed. Such a piss poor argument. Not even remotely compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:38 AM
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Who took anything as a personal attack lol? I just responded in kind. Literally told you it wasn't personal and you made it personal. Reread my first line? can’t speak for you but IME as a woman, men who genuinely are into you aren’t all caught up with x number of dates first date third date whathaveyou. Like they just enjoy spending time getting to know you. It’s natural. And so is the physical intimacy when you’re both comfortable enough. It’s about building a connection. Not whatever you seem…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:32 AM
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Oooh I'm gonna piss people off! Yeah, on dating apps it's a leach just like an "alpha male". Personally? I'm used to dating women that like the specific dynamic of, "treat her like a princess, fuck her like a wh*re" in which they enjoy those intense things because of the care and consideration I place. Snowed in with my new sub today and love cooking steak and chicken up, love sharing deep intimacy and learning about her, give her forehead kisses and do that sidewalk rule stuff and open doors fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:19 AM
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I mean you seemed to want to personalize this so? Just following your lead there. I didn't. I said "you're free to do so... " Hypothetically and you took it as a personal attack for some reason, which is weird. So I responded personally? I'm saying you're entitled to your choices and other people are their's. If it feels like it’s pulling teeth to get to know someone before sex like that’s probably someone who isn’t right for you ya know? Or her for that matter. All the guys I dated actually enj…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 01:17 AM
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Well we weren’t talking about me (or you personally for that matter) but if we were I can tell you without a doubt I only ever had sex on a timeline I felt comfortable with, after getting to know a guy and developing intense attraction, trust and mutual fondness (which isn’t a game, if that’s what you’re calling it). Still effort I suppose maybe just not the effort guys who are itchy about sex want I guess. That's A ok and your right! He might not have the same rimliej and find someone else who …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:59 AM
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You can do that, just don't expect him to be patient and stick around, also it's shallow games played out of insecurity and kinda turn off to me personally
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:48 AM
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Well, it's not like being autistic is a good thing lmao. Hate it when people try to make it some "superpower", like no bitch, I can't tell people's faces apart
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 08:19 PM
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Many do, many don't. I don't, I'm bisexual. I still talk like that when it's liked, kinda like consent and preferences matter. However, most people do have that queer bias and it has an especially long history with men so if we're going to address that then I'd like to bring up the cases in which many women have displayed the things you're condemning men for as well. I'd love it if less women thought like that, I'm a switch too. They really hold up patriarchy a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:30 PM
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I don't, but how do you view bisexual men who bottom I'd ask? That might be your answer based on individuals and if you have such regressive values
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 05:25 PM
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Oh yeah, jumped on bumble and lost my virginity in 2 weeks for a chick I thought was intimate but using me as a fuck toy then onset of bipolar disorder and alcoholism and had 24 bodies in the next 2 years and experience in the kink and nonmonogamy scene and plenty of trauma from a cougar with NPD, etc. Been a fun time!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 04:30 PM
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Well, I had my first highschool gf when I was 15. Didn't realize my long term, severe OCD also had a draw to "relationship OCD" so it was not fun. Actually avoided getting out there again until I was 23
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 12:52 PM
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Love the weirdos from Tumblr that claim a sadistic female fictional villain is hated because of mysogyny alone and not for being a POS lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 12:25 PM
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Your entire comment is a red herring and partial straw man that doesn't address the idea of consent and just belabors it. Is consent to sex consent to raising a child? Yes or no, just answer that and then we will ask if you think the same is for men and women and see where it stands. So, yes or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 10:58 PM
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Check my edit. I didn't clarify but many leave, but most don't even make it to that point etc. Most people will not willingly choose someone with chronic disorders and disabilities in the first place is the thing. Hence why I mentioned if you get sick later on, it's different but even then people leave. Again, this is literally just how it is and you're free to ask people with severe medical issues their experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:47 PM
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You based this ascertation on? Statistics? They say you're wrong. Personal experience? Do you have much taking care of chronically/ critically ill partners or have any disabilities yourself? I'm just telling you the reality, it's unfortunate but what it is lol Edit: not necessarily *most" but many and most people in general I mean are not built for taking care of an ill/ disabled partner. Trust me, it's taxing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:43 PM
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Most people do. Or it's more fun if you take care of them through their issues but then they bail once you struggle for a couple months lol. That's just been my personal experience. It's one thing if you were married for a long time, even then relationships often end with this, but if you have any chronic issues or disorders then depending on severity, counseling groups might straight up tell you "you have to be prepared for people to leave your life when they can't handle it" which is also grea…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:32 PM
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There are of course scenarios where people are sick and need care, where they make your life more difficult, but you still love them for who they are. Usually not a happy story though lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 01:20 PM
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Yeah that's the question cause it's of course different if you just share with people during a sesh. I'm a heavy user so packing a few extra bowls or sharing a blunt for even platonic friends is a pretty normal thing.
/r/seduction16/01/26 03:15 AM
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Oh yeah definitely, my entire comment is more so that you don't need to sacrifice your comfort around intimacy, but put effort in and express that you want them and have that chemistry. I'm used to sleeping together right away but ime I've also been used for casual dick and discarded too so just sex is not all I go by for "desire" even though it's a very common overlap. Imo I more notice if she goes out of her way to spend time with me or lets me know when she's free to plan or has any of that f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:34 PM
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Well yes, but you don't need to sleep together right away in every case. That's what some guys want, but from my perspective that burning desire also includes intimacy and effort, much like how when I have it not only do I desire them physically in an intense way, but I care about their happiness and do the cute shit like get her flowers or love cooking and actual meal for them and stuff, etc. There are many ways to express desire and passion but also try to keep on the same page and not rush im…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:25 PM
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And you feel the same and this also translates to relationship effort. Idk about other men, but I love taking the woman I feel that burning passion for out ok dates, buy her flowers, cook dinner for her and she her new recipes and enjoy intimacy. But I must feel "wanted" in order to want others, I'm too neurodivergant to fake that connection
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 04:21 PM
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Assumed something worse when you didn't get actual reasoning Yeah, I'm fine with responding to intellectual dishonesty with the same, people who think like you mentioned don't deserve any better than how they treat others. It's fine, they can have their opinions and someone else can tell them to shut up and call out projections lol. Again, I guess most here debate it but "my body, time, my choice" is the start and end here, a man doesn't owe women a relationship so the entire argument is dumb. J…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:08 PM
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Cool, random strangers that don't know me assume weird stuff to project their own insecurities. I guess some guys care and might feel the need to justify it, but me personally, it's all arbitrary opinions and i don't get attached. And again, you don't owe anyone an explanation, it's your body and relationship and time and consent, you don't have to date someone you don't want to lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:02 PM
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Could be a preference and also alignment of values. There you go, they don't owe any further explanation
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:58 PM
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Since when does someone have to justify an arbitrary preference other than it being shallow? Call them shallow and they can ignore
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 12:57 PM
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No, it's that you're in denial because everyone thinks like this to varying degrees and this very comment is ironically displaying that. The hypocrisy confused me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:17 AM
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Yeah, the dude said nothing that seems to be explicitly "red pill" unless you define "red pill" by aconowl social bias and performance in women? Which is a natural human trait so, are you calling treating women like people "red pill"? I just don't understand lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:12 AM
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I honestly have no clue what this response has to do with the discussion, is it a whataboutism? I don't think they mention anything "red pill" or whatever but a general human psychology thing more so. Why do people classify sociological trends as these "pills" or whatever?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:03 AM
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They would be but I've seen several posts here with unnecessary anger when men who have been successful say something others don't like lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 01:00 AM
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I said "if you are" I didn't necessarily say that's exactly what you're doing but just saying in general that those unsolicited opinions and judgments follow that pattern and you seem to border it with the judgement. But if not, then I assume you have no comment in relationships or people that you know nothing about, at which point we're arguing about nothing. But maybe, maybe not just like maybe whatever you think about other people's relationship is right and maybe it isn't, idk. I'm just call…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:26 PM
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Thanks for proving my point. That's not even remotely what I was saying lmao. It's not uncommon for people with certain trauma to have to grow and mature past their actual age in order to deal with it and those are most of the younger people that prefer to date older that I've known, myself included.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:23 PM
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Nothing too crazy yet but if you are projecting and having an issue with a relationship of people you know absolutely nothing about based on your own bias and need to feel validated, then that's usually pretty insecure. Idk, all I said is that you can say what you want but that person doesn't have to take shit and you seemed to start arguing. Hardly my "life" story but tl:Dr I don't care what internet people think and freely respond with equal rudeness so I don't know the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:17 PM
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if you're going to make a non-normative life choice, people judging you is the cost of admission. Yup, and I'll call you out for being an insecure ass. Not complaining for example, i decided at age 23 to start experimenting with substances. i expected people to judge me for it, i accepted it, and moved on. that is how life works. Good for you? I don't care, you're talking to the guy who has regularly openly talked about going to the substance abuse clinic for a vivitrol shot in my ass every mont…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:10 PM
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trauma brain enters the chat Not everyone has had an easy life and have had to develop in ways you'd not expect. Idk that's my experience with the age gaps that are relevant other than just casual fucking around
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:02 PM
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Who's "you guys?" Cause I sure as Hell don't and find most of y'all cringe. I'm not asking your permission, some guys are insecure in themselves and choices so they do. But if I share about my own connections, I won't be asking anything and there's still a likelihood I'd get remarks in which, what I mentioned is the case. Don't project your arguments with these other people onto me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 09:01 PM
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And people don't have to entertain your unsolicited opinions and it doesn't mean you are right or not being a dick. Yeah, freedoms of speech but it goes both ways
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 08:53 PM
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Yes, and that comes from consent and mutual understanding, which is not age dependent. So you're not really saying anything
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 08:50 PM
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Do you think 18 year olds should be able to take on hundreds of thousands in student loans? Or go die in a war? That's literally accepted as the norm? What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 08:13 PM
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Bro you don't know about cougars? I preferred dating women older than myself since my early 20s even though I was also with those the same age or younger or whatever. Everyone has their preferences. I'm 30 now and have had equally enjoyable discussions with women older and younger than me, age doesn't define your ability to form a mental bond with someone you get along with
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 08:11 PM
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Dude the first point is accurate when looking. Meaning, you keep trying to make the connections and looking but don't go, "I'll get a partner within the next two months!" Cause life doesn't work that way. It's the same as "finding the lost object only when you stop obsessively looking". And 2&3 are just "third party spaces" in general. It's been difficult since covid but worth finding. Also, no one says you can't "cold approach" because literally every time you talk to a stranger that's what you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:50 PM
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We watched a movie about kinky threesomes and I cooked us steak and we shared a joint and she's about to head out so it's not bad tbh. She loves my dog
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:25 PM
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<image> So turns out the lady I've been talking to is 5'11" and my 5'7" ass vibes with her but comparing my foot to her Paul Bunion shoes is hysterical. She set on my lap and I picked her up and carried her still so princess treatment is still on the table
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:04 PM
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My bad about the wording, I was saying that men with options generally want a woman that is interesting and if a woman is not then she can't expect that much priority so I meant in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:16 PM
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Simple, you just have to be "that guy"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:29 PM
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That already happens, what's the argument here?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:03 PM
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Yeah and everyone has different standards but i think the main complaint is that the lack of personality makes it feel like pulling teeth at times, that's my complaint anyways. And I sound like an asshole but wanted to be honest with the women that those interactions are incredibly boring and doesn't make someone like you so they might play games and if they want a guy to be genuinely interested and like, want to take them in dates to get to know them and have fun and stuff, idk if I actually li…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:29 AM
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What’s an interesting thing about a woman, so what should she share about herself? How do you banter with a guy? How do you find out about a man if you’re just bantering? Something that gives me something to chew on to know your interests and also gets my interest. I will be honest, I'm different from most guys and I do go mostly on vibes so take it with a grain of salt but a woman can tell me about having a hobby of knitting if she knows how to tell a story or cary a conversation and make jokes…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:25 AM
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Oh I do, I guide most conversations in general which is also why I have this stance. And if I want to then sure but I'll be bored and at that point either I just want to do it to see if I can and fuck but probably not be actually interested. I'm just saying from their perspective because they're asking lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 04:12 AM
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Right so ad hominem and straw men because I never said anything red pill and argue against them too. You're both losers Edit: also, wait, since when do red pill guys educate you on consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 03:19 AM
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Lmao just saw this but you taking about me? Love it when guys don't have any balls and need to make subtle insults behind backs. I'm not red pill, blue pill, whatever, y'all are stupid and childish. And I'm bitter for the same reason women are or whoever else, I'm tired of some people's shitty behavior and weirdos who enable them. That's it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 03:17 AM
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What are you talking about? I never said they can't have standards. Are you starting with straw men already? Just cuz you’d fucking anything font mean they terrible for not doing the same. Have you read my comments? That's the exact stance I've been telling you boys and girls lol. Some guys have standards and if the woman is boring we lose interest, what's so hard to understand?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 02:58 AM
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Yes I do. It’s purposefully coercive to say that having any standards that have a numerical value attached to it is transactional and therefore you can’t have any of those standards to be in a non transactional, loving relationship. Never said you can't have standards, why do you only reply in straw men? This is kinda cringe. I'm just saying learn to act like a normal person with tact when you ask, what's so hard about that? Well that’s not what you’re asking for, you’re asking to not be judged …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 02:50 AM
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No, women do not have to sleeep with all sorts of men they do not like in order to prove to random incel or manosphere men online that they are not transactional. Ok? No one said that and it's a complete straw man. You don't have to sleep with anyone you don't want to? And you don't have anything to prove, it's just that it you act transactionally you're going to be called transactional. It's not complicated Building a regular relationship built on love mutual respect and all that jazz is enough…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 02:28 AM
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You were the one who was weird first and seems interested in my sex life for some reason because you were making a claim about it. Sorry if I misread, have a good one then and maybe don't comment if you don't want to know
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 02:24 AM
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You can ask, but you could use social skills and ask with tact and maybe flirt instead of asking them to fill out a form like a test subject. Like OP said, banter, have a sense of humor, don't just ask someone how big their genitals are plainly, maybe learn to talk to them as a person? Tell them interesting things about yourself, relate to what they say, ask them a question that allows them to talk about something they're interested in, be flirtatious, etc. You don't have to but that's more or l…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 02:08 AM
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No, this is not true. Get off the internet. Meet real women. What are you talking about? I have at least one date this weekend but I'm thinking of having my FWB over, thinking of doing piss play too or something 🤷. I'm actually deciding who I should sleep with next because it'll be number 40 and I might want to make it special but idk. Why are you so interested in my sex life? No, this is not true. Sorry you've met so many creeps but that doesn't make it true that women don't respect cis (why sp…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:44 AM
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I do That's literally all y'all do to complain about men I'm just stating a general pattern, women also don't respect cis mens consent lmao. I've dealt with so many creeps
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:16 AM
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I just turned 30 in August and made that mistake haha. But here's the thing, after like 3 dozen different women, some dudes, etc it wasn't like I didn't want a connection but I really can only develop it with some and that girl.... The first person to really show me what love is and I love like a Greek epic I vowed, "you're sick with chronic illnesses and rare debilitating diseases and suffering, but I love you and will be with you to hold your hand on your death bed, but fight that off as long …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:15 AM
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Yeah man I get you, I'm in massive debt from paying for my ex's experimental medical treatments then she stole and defrauded from me hardcore so I don't want shit to give to anyone one lmao. I got into HEMA so all my money goes to my dog, weed and swords. Love it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 01:01 AM
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Oh definitely. I mean, it's not to keep a casual connect or FWB to go out and do things with but you don't have the same obligations and can do your own thing otherwise. It's a peaceful life, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:40 AM
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Definitely, I've been in both places
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:06 AM
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How does that make any sense? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 12:05 AM
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Yeah because they are responding to you being transactional with being transactional so if you argue against OP, you shouldn't have a problem with this no? Edit: I take that back upon thinking, it's not even being transactional really, it's just that you aren't interesting enough to bother with unless there's a specific reason I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:50 PM
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Your entire comment is irrelevant because that's not the complaint, it's women having the personality of a soggy slice of toast and not putting effort in. Which is fine, you don't need to but just don't be surprised when you get minimal attention and get kept in the wings for when they want a lay
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:29 PM
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Except he's literally talking about a string of questions with which the numbers are answers to be judged by. Women are terrible with objectifying men tbh, that's it, they could learn to do better with tact
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 11:16 PM
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That's my point if you want to generalize then we can but you're gonna get upset lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 10:52 PM
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Ah so women are the emotionally abusive borderline right? Since we're throwing out cluster B personality disorder labels and all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 08:06 PM
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No one is using your "definition" though. I don't think this is productive because you also seem to rely entirely on straw men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:24 PM
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I said "from other people here" I shared my definition which is based on general sociology and mathematical algorithms that they used in the Cold war and is still relevant. The person who initially comments views it the same as me, then you came in with your definition. What do other people on YouTube have to do with it when you are currently talking to someone and you both clearly use different definitions? You should clarify what you each mean first
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:18 PM
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Maybe I'm some of your reddit forums but I'm reality it's just "game theory" meaning people who show basic good will but also are quick to be assertive and focus on their pursuits and those are generally things that make you more successful. You have a completely different definition than other people here
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:13 PM
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Yep, you called someone rapist mentality, I said most people think that way, you agree most women are also rapists and so are you yourself then right? Since we're making blanket generalizations with no nuance.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:04 PM
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Pretty much the only comment that's needed because my reaction to this is that the study of "game theory" has literally been a thing for decades so these discussions are pointless
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:59 PM
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Ok so basically most men and women are rapists or act like one in your kind I guess? Thats a weird cynical take but hey, you do you. Keep in mind that includes yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:48 PM
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Oh God not the arm chair tik tok psychology 😂😭
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:46 PM
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Can you please respond with something other than straw men? He said bring nice alone does not guarantee sex, so unless you believe the "nice guys" who think they're owed sex for being nice, then you agree with his main point. You brought up something completely different
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:46 PM
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Weird that you call how the majority of the world operates "rapist mindset" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:38 PM
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You don't want this discussion, it's a very long running philosophical one and could be an entire debate topic itself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:37 PM
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Ah, I made the comment but I assume the auto mod removed it. One of the was literally a post from this subreddit the other day btw
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 01:59 PM
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Dud I literally said in my comment "I have seen several posts with women talking poorly about dating bisexual men this past week" You asked for links Here are links. I have you literally what you asked for, what are you even arguing? This is embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 01:56 PM
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Hey btw buddy... I'm bisexual. Maybe you should also listen to people about their lives experiences and not be ignorant btw
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 09:37 AM
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Dude in the past several weeks I've seen several on dating subs where women were talking about losing interest or not being able to get over a man being bisexual. It is not an uncommon thing at all, why the denial?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 04:05 AM
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Are you insecure that men are known to give better head and being compared or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 03:55 AM
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Where was that ever said?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:26 AM
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On God, I've been single for a year after a shitty ex and almost got into an intense relationship but man that would have been a mistake. Made so many bad mistakes out of desire and feelings of love and relationships, my peace and self care is better than it's ever been now that it's just my dog and I. Guys need to live for themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 12:25 AM
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I suppose you're correct in a lot of cases when people are typical and part of the rat race. But he did ask initially to your point of "fun" because having fun doesn't require someone else to do everything else though. A guy can convince her thorough effort but that doesn't mean monetary or whatever else, it really depends though. I don't understand though because I think I've only gone out with one or two women I didn't have sex with by the second meeting, most often due to schedule conflicts o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 10:09 PM
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He specifically asked about women that want to have sex ...
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 09:51 PM
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That is not at all what it is or any sort of belief displayed, why did you reply with a straw man?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 08:43 PM
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No you're being ignorant and making wise claims while not actually addressing the point, everything you said has been useless, it's rather dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 01:30 PM
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Post: "the things women on reddit say about men and relationships shouldn't be taken as blind advice" You: incomprehensible, special Ed kid, gargling, rage ramble Well yes, this very much does make valid points. I see indeed, fascinating. 🔬 🎩 🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 01:44 AM
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Yeah and women haven't been on here asking advice for that same thing so, kinda a middle ground fallacy with red herring and eventually and that first comment seems like a whataboutism in that case. So I'm confused because you are effectively talking about nothing to deflect and change the topic and it seems rather pointless?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 01:30 AM
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I saw that, and the guy asked why you needed advice because women don't generally struggle with getting dates as much and the post from the start was talking about dating advice in terms of how to get dates. Talking about maintaining relationships is a form of dating advice, but I did not see anyone but you mention that so I was confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 01:24 AM
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Wasn't this entire post specifically about the advice on approaching and getting dates? Idk if you're talking about anything relevant
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/26 01:20 AM
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Exactly, I agree with the puzzle thing and that's also why I think it's stupid to have a lot of these arguments with blanket generalizations because after a few dozen different people, you learn some are much more complicated puzzles that take more time and effort or might be near impossible, or little just easy as putting two things together. I've been with women who were on SSRIs and a variety of other things too so I also understand them having difficulty, though I still take it as a challeng…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 03:15 AM
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Yeah I'm pretty similar and yeah naturally I tell them and learn my intricacies, for instance if I get physical tired/ exhausted for too long that's most of when I have trouble maintaining but I'm also naturally a regular mouth and finger user and alternate based on whatever works for the time being. I'm autistic as shit and like working the clit because it makes me feel like cracking a safe and then mix with all other types of sensation on other parts of the body in the right order like she's a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 02:57 AM
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Ooh this is gonna be fun, I can't wait to see the discussion lol. For myself, I'm not interesting and just an Atypical case I have nerve damage from a back injury and also long term psych med use so I'm a man with a "negative orgasm gap" since I have much less sensation and can struggle with some ED at times, but that depends on a lot on mood and energy etc, so I know it's hard to get me off. I've never cum from head, it's very difficult to cum from penetration and it's always been from how I mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/26 01:44 AM
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Idk, it's rare but some women do treat men as people believe it or not
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 07:26 PM
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I agree as a bi man, and even then you'd be surprised how internally homophobic straight women can be as well, I mean one of the most common insults is calling men "gay". So I wouldn't want to deal with that person at all, same as if they were to hold negative views of my neurodivergence, etc. I don't need them around and it's cool they aren't, we wouldn't vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:55 PM
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Because it's ridiculous and petty and based in insecurities and she doesn't want to admit it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 02:53 PM
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Reasons why people date at all since not everyone is a hermit, asexual lol. And I was saying same here but towards women, especially the childish, self entitled ones, I'd rather be alone than with that type, instead I can just casually fuck 🤷 I also don't care if you do what you want, just saying I can empathize with your point about avoiding relationships to avoid the woman-children because there's no benefit lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:20 AM
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Oh so just casual dating and no commitment right? Yeah I prefer that too cause most women aren't relationship material either
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 08:12 AM
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Anyone who is reasonable and actually has experience interacting with people could say this if they were being honest enough. It's actually kinda dumb how it's a novel concept to some of seems somewhat complicated when it really is just, "well, why would someone like you?" And that's it really, like what qualities you have in the entirety of your person and how it balances
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 07:35 PM
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So, kinda dodging and deflecting the point made? Because it was pretty correct
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 07:33 PM
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Nah dude, I would be freaked out if anyone of any gender and any looks said that to me. Doxxing stuff is pretty whacky and a valid fear
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 12:04 AM
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Right so basically you moved the goal posts again because the original comment. And you specifically said, "I assure you bro, you wouldn't like..." Words mean something, "I assure you" is you making a claim of something that is uncertain, there is no fiber context, the nature of the phrasing is that you believe they don't have that experience and then supposing what they would feel followed by a hypothetical "wouldn't" instead of "didn't" and even then, that point is moot and not what I was talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 06:49 PM
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You're going back and editing your comments so idk if I should continue this if you'll be dishonest to dig yourself out I assure you, bro, you ALSO wouldn’t like someone doing things that make you uncomfortable and refusing to stop. Based on this comment, you were being patronizing and condescending, if you know someone has had that exact experience, then would you say this still? I told you I did and that you assumed I didn't and it's rather offensive and ignorant. It's your presumptions and bi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:43 PM
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If someone told you that you were making them uncomfortable, do you argue with them and refuse to stop? Don't move the goal posts, you said off and alwArd and not reading skills. Someone can definitely listen to you say stop clearly but also I feel like you might ignore when it's not clear communication but more so "social cues" which is also ignorant. Again, it's pretty biased and weird. That’s the criteria for unsettling- if you don’t or can’t stop when you realize you’ve made someone uncomfor…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 05:08 PM
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Just gonna say this is a pretty wild reach and I also am not sure how to feel about this as an autistic man because there seems to be a misunderstanding about being comfortable in social situations vs awkward and now that's extended to being a "creep"? I've known a lot of guys who were good with socializing but total creeps and did not respect boundaries as well. Note that I'm not necessarily weighing in on this conversation but more specifically your biased justification and reach here that cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 04:57 PM
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Well, this includes a lot of things including philosophies, stoicism is a common masculine ideal is it not? A book that's easy and about stoicism using examples such as ancient Greek orators, Teddy Roosevelt, and other great characters that show the ideals of it, id say his examples with Roosevelt, Grant and Lincoln are all interesting and inspiring. Maybe learn from Confucianism because that's more an ideal of social values. You could read on sociology and others like through Kant or whatever. …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:55 PM
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Oh nice, I got in with YouTube for helluva boss. I understand hate on the series but I think it suffers from poor writing porayal that doesn't always execute properly. The relationship between Husk and Angel is well developed in the first season and this song is composed well, if only more of it was seen in that way and had that quality of delivery. Edit: I think The interpersonal relationships are the strong part of the writing but it doesn't get enough light do to everything else being overwhe…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:45 PM
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It's not just new age. Tell me, what do you think was a defining thing for males across all of human space and history? Something that affirmed their identity and especially that of being a man, often through coming of age rights or practices, etc. Hunting? Cliff jump? Bar mitzvah? Most of those have gone away. It's not necessarily that you have to believe in spiritual stuff, it's more about using the self affirming methods. I meditate regularly for therapy stuff and it has a lot of applications…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:37 PM
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Self actualization and embracing your healthy masculinity. "The way of the superior man" is a good book talking about it, there are fraternal support groups that use spiritualism and exercise bonding called "sacred sons" for being in touch with your masculinity and community. Those are just examples of groups I'd say are good to think like. "Strong" can be argumentatively subjective, however I think at its base, it's will and resilience to weather the challenges and persevere. Tbh been staying s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:18 PM
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I'm a man close to his age. No, he is indeed a loser, and this is coming from someone who regularly listens to and loves that song "loser baby" from the hazbin hotel series. Do not look up to that guy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:10 PM
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Dude, he's literally using his middle level job as a power structure to impress and bribe desperate women and does so through massive risk and and time and monetary investment. It's not necessarily that hard to get a younger woman first of all depending on what you look for but even then, I'd rather forgo that entirely than be this desperate and scummy. It's embarrassing to other men honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:06 PM
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Yeah I'm gonna be real, I just turned 30 and have had a lot of turn around so I have very different perspectives but have just started picking up my career and thinking of needing to use that kind of bait to get a desperate woman to give you a chance or something? That just makes me cringe and think of seppuku if I were to resort to that. And of course it's all fake so he's going to be lonely because he doesn't try to make connections outside of the circle of his control. He has issues with bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 08:01 PM
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Why are we talking about feeling unattractive? Yeah, of course but naturally some people struggle more and some get it reinforced more. And with those things naturally you want to adapt as best as you can. But I also feel like this will become a disingenuous conversation about how much of the mental issue is also acceptable because that's usually hypocritical as well. But we're also talking about people not meeting arbitrary beauty standards. Like, I can't imagine listening to a heavy set woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:44 AM
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Not that I agree with the other side, but you're honestly being super intellectually dishonest and disingenuous to such a degree that it only makes the discourse worse. You can oppose what others say without outright dismissal and it's already verging on gas lighting which is crazy. You can say people have those connections but someone talking about struggling with being unattractive is "nonsense"? I just don't follow, because it comes off as though there are no traits considered more or less at…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/25 12:29 AM
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Oh great, someone who thinks being a grammer Nazi is an argument, cause that's never pedantic. And yeah for certain things but this includes going fo trivia night at the bar or maybe an wine tasting or anything else, not like it has to be a sport. There's literally apps for people to meet others to do the same thing like go to an outdoor concert or cooking class. And yeah because your comment was projection and very personal and finding ways to be the victim lmao. "Don't try to hard" and "be soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:13 PM
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Yeah, you said it's "trying to hard" because you view it as forcing yourself to do things you don't want to. But you seem to fundamentally misunderstand why they say it and attach value that isn't there. Like I said, it's the same general advice for finding any social interactions. Not like someone can give you a cookbook to get you laid but they can tell you where you're more likely to meet people and like, that part is kinda needed if you want to find someone to date 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:05 PM
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I'll be honest, I generally think the "pill" stuff is silly but I agree and disagree with you at the same time because I don't think everyone is actually that honest and it'd be better if they were. People don't want to be harsh and tell someone else there is something fundamentally lesser about them, be it they have to study harder or train harder for a good body or have more issues getting sexual interest. And people will beat around the bush and say it's because of personal failings when in r…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:00 PM
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Those don't contradict at all lmao. Have something you go out and do that gives you social exposure so you're not staying home playing video games every night. Like, it's not that complicated it's the same advice for making any friend and I've been doing that since I moved because I'd like a friend group. It's not that different
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:55 PM
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Lmao why do you think I say this? Because I've learned and accepted women don't owe me stuff and I'm telling you the same thing and you won't even engage in that topic. Men don't owe you either, youre not much better than dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:09 PM
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Reread your first comment, I can respect what you said here and agree but your first comment is literally worded as a generalization and assumption, it could be syntax and diction differences. Ah, my mistake then I misread it as a claim that OP or those who respond that way likely have RSD because it's seen as "extreme". No in that case what you said makes sense and I of course agree that men are different and handle things differently but like I said, one big variable to not overlook is the deg…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:48 AM
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I did. I said friendships are relationships, you have no argument so you're playing semantics games. Ok, men don't owe you friendship their time and energy, mental or physical. That's their consent and informed decisions to make with their own life. Understand? Everything I said still applies btw Are you so desperate for a mans friendship and validation that you can't handle him losing interest in giving you that attention still even if you're not dating? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:32 AM
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You're being very dismissive by completely saying, "it doesn't bother the couple me I know so I don't think it should bother others" and made claims of how they feel. Again, are you a man? That's what I have an issue with, tbh made a claim as to how men feel. Just stop, unless you're ok with incels and redpillers telling you how women think and feel on the inside. And if that's the case then you don't need to talk about some dysmorphia or arm chair diagnose gas light someone, you don't need RSD …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:30 AM
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So basically, you heard things from a couple men you know then make a claim for the entire gender? And you don't see how you would be offended by a man saying the same thing and then saying, "I have a couple women friends!" Like, haha sure you do. And again, you're gas lighting. You don't need dysmorphia to simply check out. Again, these claims are actually obnoxious, ignorant and offensive and in your original comment you literally worded it as if men don't process feelings the same? Like it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:16 AM
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Friendships are relationships, so are connections with family lol. None of which you are owed. Doesn't matter if it's dating or friendship, their time, energy, body and mind, their consent. Or do you need their validation and attention that bad that simply having someone withdraw destroys you as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:03 AM
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Well my claim is that what op claimed is fine, it's not always healthy but if they feel that way then they feel that way. I mean, I said essentially it's ok to make space for whatever reason so that's a bolder claim than op even
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:01 AM
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So... You're trans? But also think your experiences are representative of others and then suddenly you felt more when you became a women? Or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 03:00 AM
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Believe it or not, men don't owe you any form of relationship either. Cis women and understanding mens consent, most specifically mental and emotional, is always and entertaining topic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:30 AM
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It doesn't need to "mentally destroy you" just make you uncomfortable and for you to withdraw your consent of where you put your energy. And you immediately follow with criticism and gas lighting insults in the same way, "yeah she wasn't into me but a whore anyways" type energy lmao. You should have left it after your first part. A man doesn't owe you his mental or physical or emotional energy when it doesn't benefit him, just like women don't owe it to men. This sounds self centered and entitle…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 02:07 AM
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OP is emotionally hurting and isn't obligated to adapted a liking for emotional masochism in order to keep providing you validation. That's it lol. Again, you're making a bunch of shit up, if not straw men the mix of red herring/ ad hominem but straw man still works better because you're making false accusations based on absolutely nothing that have nothing to do with anything that was said. Again, it's just weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 01:04 AM
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You were literally just making claims that they said something that you completely fabricated to justify your stance and make the person you were arguing with look bad....
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:55 AM
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Yeah because even tour second sentence is mentioning stuff that no one else has? Like, where are they saying "women are xyz"? Was it a comment or something? It's about what you so with your own time, body and autonomy. Believe it or not, mens consent still matters and not all are desperate to have any woman in their lives to sacrifice their well being for it. And he clearly said it wasn't about fucking? Like, do people here even read the posts or only comment in straw men? It's about emotional t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:46 AM
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I cannot wrap my head around you saying this but then also not realizing it has no bearing on what OP said because people are free to leave or maintain relationships of all levels as they feel comfortable with and that's literally the healthy way to look at the philosophy you said. Like, if something bothers you more than it helps you why are you going to force yourself through that? Do you think he owes it to her and she's entitled to his time, effort and attention or something? Like, the takes…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:16 AM
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Again, I cannot even fathom your mindset, are you saying that dating someone and being platonic friends is exactly the same? The same dynamic and energy and communication? All that? Like, it's honestly just so asanine that I'm having trouble addressing it properly because anyone with actual relationship experience knows that sounds ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:11 AM
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You.... You can't be serious can you? And also I don't even want to respond to you tbh because you only seem to speak in ad hominem, red herring and straw men but I'm just genuinely complex how someone can ask this and still think they know things about relationships better than others on reddit? It's just really detached from reality honestly, no other comment really
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:05 AM
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Ok? What does that have to do with maintaining a relationship that is no longer beneficial and emotionally draining? Like, do you think they're obligated to still give you their time and attention and energy and that men can't decide where to put theirs on their own? You don't owe them a relationship but they don't owe you friendship and can walk away if they want and that's pretty universal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 12:02 AM
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And you confidently speak in behalf of men for this because?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 11:58 PM
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Lmao that last two lines kinda shows where you come from with incredibly extreme bias that you believe false social media stuff out of confirmation bias. It is possible to have an honest discussion about this and I would agree that it would be helpful, but you are not in a place to start it because there will be absolutely no reasoning or point in arguing with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/25 07:18 PM
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Oh hey, you called? Yeah, I have spent years as the "short term ride" guys lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 05:17 PM
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Where are you even getting this info? Yeah, people aren't always consistent in their standards but it's not like the "average guy" is doomed or has no opportunities at all like you're saying. Maybe you need to have something else that's particularly interesting or attractive and learn to play the game but this take is overall very reddit echo chamber like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 02:22 PM
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Based on what? Because if you're "toxic" you might have fewer morals and qualms about things so naturally you're more likely to get results like a heartless CEO ladder climber. So you try more and hesitate less which is good for short term gain. And even then, there are other factors that make someone interesting like passion or if they're enjoyable to talk to or whatever. It's not like only that caricature of "Chad" is successful, it's usually something more nuanced and an "it factor" that gets…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:21 AM
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Both men and women are guilty of this but it's not like they usually seek it out and have to learn from failure. But also, idk most dating today is casual and you sleep together before commitment in most cases no? That's just how it is in more recent casual culture so I don't think it's this crazy divide. And you can think of things however but "provides" might not be the case but stable chemistry is. Being at peace with someone mentally and emotionally and who you share those values with is oft…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:00 AM
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If you read it, "date" is very loosely used though and seems casual in most cases or not dating and just sleeping with as well. And yeah they will for a bit but there's usually a breaking point, and it doesn't lead to anything good long term and they're still used for short term fulfillment rather than their value as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 12:19 AM
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Well of a dude is toxic then the sex has to be good for you to put up with it so it's kinda survivorship bias lol. idk if any of my college FWB saw me sober but they were happy to come back just because I had fun and tried to give them a good time too I guess. Just work on those things lol. But keep in mind this isn't much different from the "crazy girls fuck well but I wouldn't date them" type deal so it goes around 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 12:16 AM
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Lmao are you sure? Because, then you should know better than to go arm chair diagnosing people based on one comment and just blanketly correlating social issues with autism in men which has no founding. And you're literally using it as an attack/ subtle insult which is so damn ablest and now making sexist marks? Like girl, I'm Audhd and other things and have worked through a lot more than you I would bet but I'm not gonna sit here and project onto others like a doofus and weaponize it for petty …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 09:32 PM
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You're being ignorant and a bit ableist actually
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 09:20 PM
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It can be both lol, where they try to get in and push the boundaries but are also slow and timid with it and default on not being overly aggressive to justify it to themselves. But either way, people are different but there are places for both. If you do it when it's not ok, then yeah that's bad, but there are times where it is appropriate and you won't be successful unless you pursue. But you know, there are steps leading up to that and certain energies you eventually get to learn over time and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 02:57 PM
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Kinda funny that double digits is your bar for high lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/25 10:16 AM
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This person was specifically talking about receiving different circumstances and treatment from the same person they pursue a relationship with, not about hook-ups. You're the only one who was bringing that up and made a bunch of statements that did not relate to the topic. Such as? Because I can list alot of contradictions the other person is doing. I was actually being nice not to, I mean, go ahead? I might have seen a couple contradictions but no where as much as you. You're denying the topic…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 08:22 PM
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We're talking about men that sleep around or want to and have trouble. If you don't want to, that's perfectly fine, dont do it then. I'm not sure why you thought it was relevant to even mention this in a reply though? You're talking about something completely different
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:59 PM
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I think I fit into this category technically but not sure and did not get here on purpose. But you have a different perspective then
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:56 PM
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Can people on reddit make any arguments without straw men and hookups? I'm not really adherent to either side of this and believe it's far more complex, but at least this other person is arguing in good faith and explaining their preference but you're using it to maneuver in internet talking points like a psychoanalyst which imo is what makes disagreements and debates on reddit so toxic. You can have a counter point but you're making a lot of contradictory statements and also making weird claims…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:42 PM
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You can if you lower your standards which is what the narrative is no? Like women sleep with more attractive guys but don't get to date them so it's normal to "date down" for casual stuff then right? I mean, I think most guys who arent outliers have a decent shot of at least some experience
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 06:24 PM
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So yeah, is this a copypasta or troll schitzo post? It's pretty funny but you never know on this site if someone might actually be serious lol. But this is a ridiculous and weird but fun read
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:37 PM
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Hey man, I switched antipsychotics and have a whole bottle of olanzapine left over. You could probably make use of it if you're interested...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:34 PM
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I don't think you want to change anyone, you're just doing what this OP talked about and getting offended and going on the attack with accusations and assumptions and straw men when someone expresses a preference you don't meet. That's generally frowned upon so I'm wonder why there's an exception here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 04:40 PM
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And they hold the same opinions with regards to you as well in knowing who they are, so what's the point in casting judgment at all then? Because you're doing just as much assuming and reaching based on your opinion and bias
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:48 PM
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And you're accepting of others judgements too? Because looked at another way, your views come from insecurity because you don't meet their standards no? I'm just saying this is the "well it's my opinion!" Argument which is usually useless and regressive and also hypocritical because it could be used against others in ways you would not support but it depends on the side and subject so it's arbitrary
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:34 PM
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I'm a high n count man and also bisexual so I can accept those being disqualifiers pretty easily, there are far more difficult things that are held against me, including disabilities, but I still can't really say much about if it's a preference so your preferences that exclude me are hardly offensive in comparison lol. No one owes anyone else sex or a relationship after all. And this should be applied across the board on this topic but it gets pretty negative reactions in certain cases lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:05 PM
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Yeah and that impression is very subjective, and I agree this guy is obnoxiously reaching and it actually makes me cringe because he thinks he's Sherlock and can psychoanalyze someone to that extent over such little said. It's like how all the chronic reddit arm chair people who learn therapy language specifically to argue with people online act. You're just defaulting to "well it's my opinion", ok and other people are able to tell you that opinion is stupid when it doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 11:21 PM
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Or you could just be in social environments and groups that aren't exclusively this but it's pretty normal to have those kinds of ongoing connections in those things. Or if you're in the same hobby club or whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 05:46 PM
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Dude, you ever been in a relationship? Because the two extremes you're referring to are terminally online takes. You're calling expecting clear communication and boundaries "expectations to be their mother" etc and literally perpetuate what you say because sometimes they aren't receptive, but if you've ever gone to therapy to work on emotional intelligence and regulation and communication skills, you'd know this is a weird oversimplification. Some of what you say is true but have you ever though…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 03:02 PM
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*bitter people, I call the incels and manosphere dudes out too because they're also really weird and you guys mirror each other in taking points and logic so it's actually funny. And I'm never gonna be fully healed and I only really just got to the parts where I'm working on that and recognizing it in earnest among the many other things I deal with, the trauma actually being relatively minor in comparison to the chronic conditions. I could mirror everything you say and claim with my experiences …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 08:55 PM
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Love your fantasies and straw men and like, making stuff up lol. I actually call out men a lot too and have even come into friction with my "boys group" in the past because of it. Go figure. Also, sweety, you might want to look at that comment chain. I have literally spent years working on my mental and emotional acceptance and rationalization in therapy to avoid acting like y'all because not everyone has their fits of outrage babied. I have had many of those experiences and more however I try t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 07:32 PM
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Then you understand where these women are coming from. I understand power dynamics, yada yada with so many others being excused so let's not get into that. But because there's a great ability to take advantage doesn't mean you inherently will or that's all persons motivation and that assumption is asanine. But regardless, I'd tell people to stay away from that specific cougar and let them know phrases and behavior patterns to look out for but I'm not gonna be upset at a younger guy dating an old…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:57 PM
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Yeah projection based on prejudice and bias lmao. I dated a cougar who likely had NPD, you're not gonna win this one on staying out of business and autonomy here because I'm pretty consistent on both ends of this. You can have those opinions but then there are men who see women like that as having baggage and are cynical because they've had to deal with it before so it's a mutual cycle lol. And it's stupid cause it's all bias and prejudice cause I won't deny predators doing this but knowing noth…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 03:45 PM
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Both are true lol. That type of guy is definitely attracted here but also are the counterpoint women, generally those who are more cynical and bitter. But yeah it's all the "yeah I'll make money then get bitches!" And never have a personality and become resentful for lack of success guys here too.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 02:47 PM
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Oh boy I wanna watch this discussion lmao. I think everyone who obsesses about it when it's not their actual relationship needs to touch grass. But it's funny how everyone involved is immediately so full of vitriol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 02:23 PM
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Not all are ok with it and not every guy knows how to convey it properly and remember that "emotional consent" is a thing too. However, I choose my LTRs based on who I can be intimate and vulnerable with. Not saying everyone can do this, but you'd be surprised what a good woman can do and help you shoulder. It's understandable to be guarded, but don't be cynical
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/25 05:46 PM
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Touch grass lol. And it's plenty possible to be a more "average" guy and escalate sexually as well, this is so weird. Take time off these forums dude and just try to connect with people
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/25 05:52 PM
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Bet you also think you're better than Alexander the great too lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 06:08 PM
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Oh yeah, I'm a unique situation but I can acknowledge I'm in that pattern. And it's nice when I'm the one needing support, but I've started telling women I open up to but who aren't life or death commitment partners, "don't try to fix me" because it's not easy or meant for anyone not consciously invested.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 09:57 PM
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Ngl these arguments get so terminally online and stupid. If someone specifically goes after younger people because they're more ignorant and can be taken advantage of in certain ways it's of course bad, I've known people like that. But not everyone cares about age that much. I've usually preferred older women and then have gotten with those my age and now younger a couple times for some reason and idk why. I just care about if I can enjoy talking to you or not and don't put barriers around it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 02:42 AM
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Lmao I've heard way more men be told stuff like this, especially myself, because it's well known women blow up at it for some reason. If you want a real answer, DARVO gas lighting is an example of avoiding accountability when someone brings up something they don't like and tries to communicate and it's not super rare, though a more extreme case. It's a complex topic in which you aren't to blame for other people's actions but you do have to take responsibility for your own involvement. Like, I'm …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 08:17 PM
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Similar things in the kink community when it comes to males subbing unfortunately as well. Like, I didn't always think too much of it but I had an ex weaponized her friend group as kink shaming to show how many of them believed that too so it's hard to trust anyone lol. I'm also bi and yeah, some women can be pretty homophobic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 08:04 PM
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I dated a cougar. Lots of guys glorified it tbh but even other women were followers and she had an online influencer clan with them and none thought that the 40 year old having so many issues with the 23 year old was a problem because they probably didn't understand how bad both of our alcoholism and other issues were. Anyways, some will think it's weird but there's definitely less bias and scrutiny against women in possibly predatory positions in my experience because that's just how we grew up…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/25 02:15 PM
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In my experience they are but some of them depend on the connection they have and even the ones open to different people need to feel safe and accepted during. I can have a high libido and some women out work me with that when we have a consistent thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 10:15 PM
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Why does it always have to be "men vs women!" Where it came from or just related to other, external people in general? A lot of men have body dysmorphia because of it and that's a very complex topic and more than just, "well the other sex said..." It also deals with internalized and externally held up ideas of ideal body image and masculinity, which is often how we feel about ourselves. There's much more than just, "men care vs women care", it is a societal thing and yes both men and women contr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 09:05 PM
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Because sex is a fun activity and also how some people share intimacy at times, even if shallow, because we all seek connection, even for a night. Idk about other men but I have nerve damage and can usually just get myself off with effort and rarely orgasm from PIV but it's still fun and enjoyable. Not talking about decieving anyone, but you kinda brought that up out of nowhere to up the stakes for what guys do wrong for some reason, that wasn't being discussed. And I don't think it's a necessar…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 10:46 PM
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I didn't try dating until I was 23 and I was with a few women fairly quickly but then fell in love with a 40 year old cougar and had my first serious relationship. She weaponized this a lot and there were a lot of complicated things going on and both of us were toxic but she likely has NPD which made it very difficult for me to adapt to purposeful manipulation due to my inherent benefit of the doubt for my loved ones. I'm also autistic so it takes time for me to learn and recognize these "games"…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/25 03:27 PM
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And what does his height have to do with it unless you inherently associate him as lesser value due to his body because of it? No other reason to bring it up, like pointing out a woman who cheated is fat to make it seem more audacious but it's still body shaming
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/25 11:58 AM
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Dude, any form of relationship is a type of investment. It takes time, effort, communication, etc. Different types of relationships need different levels of investment but no one is entitled to that effort and investment on your behalf. They can both enjoy it, but that doesn't mean someone is obligated to sacrifice their own comfort and well being to continually validate you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/25 12:56 PM
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Lmao not "deserve" but have you never actually developed unrequited feelings for someone? It's been a phenomenon for so long and is always talked about as hurting. He's not entitled to her, but if it's uncomfortable for him to be around them because it feels lopsided and reminds him of the loss, you're the entitled one if you think he's still obligated to stay around and give attention despite it hurting him. Neither owe each other anything in that relationship, which includes if they do or don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 06:48 PM
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How is that at all related? It's about giving them opportunities to pay taxes too if anything in the real meaning of it. What trends are you noticing? Yes resent towards men has been increasing from some but those are specific groups and the extreme ones don't have much influence. What are y'all even in about?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 02:44 AM
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Actual feminism is about equality and equal opportunity. What you're describing is a political right wing characature. Yes, some are like that but not all. I've noticed an uptick in it on reddit but that doesn't take away from the principles of proper advocation. It's not that big of a deal and going the other way out of spite and just being resentful in general never helps anyone, you're not better than the people you dislike.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 01:32 AM
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Idk what you mean. There are plenty out there and I know a number who date alright and want relationships but that's going to come down to your definition of "good". You're probably looking in the wrong places and for the wrong things if that's your take
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:32 PM
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Yeah the current dating game is a meat grinder and women do it for oo, like use you for sex and stuff sometimes without wanting a commitment. Everyone can do it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 03:25 PM
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Yes you can lol. Actually being dominant is providing people with a safe space to turn over power and vulnerability willingly. Otherwise it's just being forceful
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 05:47 PM
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Tbh some women do tend to be pretty homophobic when it comes to bisexul men. I tend to date other queer/ bi or pan or whatever people and they're generally pretty accepting but for me personally, there's a reason I don't tell everyone that I'm into some men too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 04:53 PM
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I was mostly talking about this sub in general lol. They seem to get a lot more going on that others but I'm here for entertainment and don't think there's too much to learn
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 11:08 PM
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I've done it a number of times tbh. But I am also a very upfront and honest guy and share my social medias and give information to vet me and ask around, they don't always and sometimes just have the trust but that's mostly dependant on "vibes". I'd agree it's generally not super smart but it isn't rare if you're capable of establishing trust I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:01 PM
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They have a duck ton of drawbacks. Usually fucks your endocrine system up because you're artificially introducing large amounts of testosterone. And then if a guy isn't on estrogen blockers his body will counter and produce more estrogen so their balls shrink and all sorts of things like ED I believe. Now, that's mostly if you abuse it stupidly as I think there are ways to go about it smarter, but the people doing it for vanity in such a way are usually not smart about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:49 PM
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It's entertaining and if you take it to heart, it'll fuck with you. Most people here are chronically online weirdos, myself included. It's just fun batshittery
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:46 PM
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I've been on this sub for a while and dude the guys always losing their shit and going off on tangents are those Red pill dudes lol. And when you suggest they actually work on themselves in meaningful ways instead of chasing money for vanity, it's not received well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 09:40 PM
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Just how it is lol. I'm 5'7" and don't list it on a profile but will tell anyone right away, just not that important to me. I've been unmatched a time or two when I shared my height but tbh I'm a bit of a strange guy already so if someone wants to engage with me, I don't think it's as important. But it is an arbitrary beauty standard and there has been a lot of "must be x tall!!!" As a type of preference or something idk. Just how some things are, if my height is a deal breaker in that way thoug…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 08:26 PM
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Maybe if you're only dealing with shallow, utilitarian users then yeah. Love isn't easy and it takes time, energy and work to build up and develop in order to make it functional. It's more rare to fall in love with someone but it's most definitely not exclusive to providing or those quantitative measures. People like who they like and fall in love with those they do and it's not always that complicated or some sort of game. I've loved two partners in my life so far and both took time and energy …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:11 PM
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I doubt they are reading IQ tests and deciding their partners based on that, it likely just so happens that they get along with the lower IQ people for a variety of reasons. But when you have a higher IQ it can also cause a bit of a disconnect from others in some situations which is a barrier for connection and building a rapport which is probably why we see this
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 06:02 PM
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You're overestimating the importance of that. But regardless, therapy is so you can be self accepting and help with anxiety and depression. It's literally just working on trying to be happy like going to the gyms is working on having better physical help. It's not about necessarily getting what you want but ultimately just helping with the void inside.
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 05:57 PM
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Not quite sure if I'd call it "thuggish" but it is possible for people to be intimidated if their partner is smarter.
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 05:48 PM
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I'm short and autistic align with several other mental disorders and do alright though lol. Took hard work and pushing my limits to develop my social skills but it's more than possible
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 05:47 PM
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They have a melt down when I suggest they go to therapy. If they actually tried to better their lives they wouldn't be in that situation but any attempt is shallow and doesn't seem to go anywhere.
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 05:45 PM
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Some general studies might show guys with lower IQs having more success but do you think it's because women prefer that or that they just have fewer inhibitions when pursuing? My intelligence has it's ups and downs but in general I've actually had it seen as a more positive trait more often than not and my partners say they like me because of it. So I'm not sure if you can boil it down to just preferring lower IQs or whatever because there are a ton of people who are the opposite. I tend to like…
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 05:39 PM
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We overthink and high IQs often come with shit like autism or other things that make it more difficult. If you put the effort in though, a higher IQ can help you learn and adapt better and then lead to greater success but it's just learning and effort put in. Speaking as an autistic guy with an IQ around there but nothing that social skills were one of the biggest game changers rather than anything else. But it's not all that complicated lol
/r/AllPillDebate08/11/23 05:26 PM
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I'm 5'7" and go on dates when I want, usually just a coffee shop, and have people over to fuck when I want so it's more than possible lol
/r/AllPillDebate03/11/23 07:59 PM
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Well yeah the guys who said a lot of that'd to my friend were his fraternity brothers, big surprise. But I find it strange to have been victim blamed by women when they are the ones who have had such an issue with it before? I mean, I was the common denominator and needed to work on stuff, also autistic but low support, but the way it's treated is strange. Also had an ex who was a "cougar" and that was all well and fine and she had a big social media where she was celebrated for it but then it c…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 09:03 PM
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Oh definitely, like some legal definitions meaning a woman can't rape a man and be tried for it at all. My friend was raped by a woman in college and she probably took advantage of him being autistic and and he got the, "oh bet you wanted it! You liked it! Wish it was me lol. Stop crying about it!" Type stuff unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:30 PM
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I'll be honest, I think a good example of the double standard is with how men vs women are treated from sexual assault and harassment and coercion. Like it happens to both, both get victim blamed and minimized.... But it seems to be an overwhelming thing that it's more socially acceptable to do it to men? I don't quite understand it. Ive had it happen and so have friends of mine 🤷
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:23 PM
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If you get to know people who are charismatic and good with people that generally changes things though
/r/AllPillDebate30/10/23 05:59 PM
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Well that's fair but those are also outliers and rare cases no? 5-10% of a population is not a big grouping. Howeber, there are still things you can do. But I mean, just go to the local Walmart and you'll see a ton of people you don't think are attractive together.
/r/AllPillDebate30/10/23 04:55 PM
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You've never seen someone with "trash genetics" date successfully? I know some dudes you'd probably think would be doomed that do alright. I'm 5'7" myself and don't get cut and even though I put on muscle mass well so I'm not a genetic marvel but it's not that bad lol. Also, from Angela Duckworths book "grot", talent×effort=skill, and skill×effort=achievement. You might have less "talent" but I don't believe it's ever 0 so it should still abide by that multiplier and formula, which includes soci…
/r/AllPillDebate30/10/23 04:32 PM
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I've only seen a few things from them and yeah that seems to track. That and stroke their own egos with made up stories of being some "high value male" player or something. Which those terms are weird
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:08 PM
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You can improve a lot of that though lol. I joined student leadership organizations in college then social groups and went through the dating meat grinder and it really helped with social skills development, especially as an autistic man. All the non physical traits can be worked on and even some of the physical ones like changing your style or finding what works for you. Id say a big thing women are attracted to is indeed emotional intelligence but that's most definitely something you can work …
/r/AllPillDebate30/10/23 02:05 PM
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As an autistic guy, I wasn't able to socialize with people very well for most of my life. I had to put in a lot of work in my social skills during college with student leadership and continually diversifying friends and social experiences. We have greater challenges but we are capable of improving our circumstances.
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 08:05 PM
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Huh did I get blocked?
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 08:03 PM
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Huh did I get blocked?
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 08:03 PM
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Yeah kinda does lol. Any sub that allows "all pill" etc is generally filled with incels... I'm here for entertainment though
/r/AllPillDebate01/10/23 07:44 PM
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Well what if you're genuinely working on yourself and spend that time improving? Not talking about just trying to be more attractive but with experience you gain better social skills and learn how to deal with people better if you're trying to develop. Id say you can develop your social skills and then thrive later. Just like with everything else in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 10:26 PM
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I'm a man, I had a girlfriend when I was 15 but developed horrible relationship OCD so I didn't date again until I was 23. At that point I was self medicating my bipolar disorder with sex and alcohol and we were nonmonogamous so that played a role, we were both very fucked up. But it eventually got to things like isolating me from social groups and subtle mind games I would not put up with now after growing as a person and gaining more experience. As well as people telling me how manipulative it…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:42 PM
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I was dating a 40 year old woman when I was 23. I didn't have much experience so we had a difference in knowledge and this power dynamic and I was thus more easily manipulated. It wasn't as simple as that but that's the only issue I can see with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 02:42 AM
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When I was 23 I was dating a 40 year old cougar. We were both fucked and had unresolved trauma so of course it didn't work and we were generally trying to be more ethical but it was my first adult relationship and she was still pretty damn manipulative and started gaslighting me at the end. That being said, I was an adult and capable of making my decisions. Consenting adults should be able to make their own decisions. I'm 28 now and one of my partners is 36 and we get along great. I don't think …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:04 PM
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I used to wear mostly cargo shorts because my thighs were too muscular from lifting and wrestling to be comfortable in other pants lol. they're dope af
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:24 PM
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Yeah, I made a Google doc that's kinda basic but it geared for knowing sex better with a woman. Do they cum/ like better penetrative or clitoral stimulation? Is there a %? What kinks do they like? Limits? What are their love languages? What kind of things do they like to be cared for? Etc I also generally need to exchange recent STI tests, I usually go every 3 months when possible and active. I could link it if y'all want, it's just kinda streamlined questions I usually ask in a document form an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 04:17 PM
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I usually have to initiate asking them about it and be proactive. I actually have a "new partner questionnaire" that they can fill out so I have an idea of what they like and it includes things like love languages too lol. All that being said, this is what you get when you have an autistic engineer interested in sex and sexual pleasure and heavily involved in the BDSM community where we "negotiate" lol. I still have a few books I need to go through like "come as your are" "she comes first" "the …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:53 PM
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There are a lot of good looking guys I know who are bright, fun, funny, doctors and engineers, etc. Many want to get married and have a good stable and genuine relationship. I'm the one who was playing around in the dating and hookup culture and honestly? It gets old and it's not that fulfilling. There are plenty of men who are loyal while having options and some dudes who aren't and will take the first opportunity when they don't have them a lot. People are unique and different, being good look…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:33 PM
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I like the YouTuber Shoe0nhead and she had a good video on the "male loneliness epidemic" and she did a followup video for the backlash and... Yeah, she got more engagement and backlash from that than any other political stance and it's sad to see. Though it is annoying on certain subreddits, some are "women bad!" Some are "men bad!" But I seem to see the latter more and like denial that everyone can be good and everyone can be shitty. I understand the narratives to a degree but yeah just a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:22 PM
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Same, I'm at work 77 hours a week but have a lot of downtime. This is better than Netflix. Although I have offered genuine advice along the lines of simple self improvement with regards to things like therapy and just working on social skills to deal with people better in general. The last part is never a bad thing, it might be a pain in the ass, especially for the neurodivergent like me, but it gets you much further in most aspects of your life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 03:00 PM
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It's valid for both. If you keep being mistreated, there's a common denominator and you probably need to work on your boundaries. Many times I've talked about relationship issues and it's been spun to be my fault lol. Some of it was, some was people neing shitty, but I still went with them and needed a better head on my shoulders and that's true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 12:27 AM
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Yeah lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:18 PM
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Well if we're talking about isolation from society and the male loneliness epidemic, dating is only one part. Men are having trouble forming friendships and all manners of intimate connections so that of course spreads to dating. And I mean, "trying hard" can look different. Tbh to me, "trying" is just putting yourself out there in social situations and being open to letting things develop. I tell people about the app "meetup" and it's just group activities with people and having company but you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 01:23 PM
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I'm bipolar my guy, I know how that works lol. People generally aren't hanging themselves from a lack of sex but other shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:33 PM
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Pretty sure just living is a motivator lol. People that deal with real hardships generally don't boil everything down to if they get laid, they are legitimately fighting for survival.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:19 PM
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Well ive had it threatened and so have other guys I know of and also a partners exs life was ruined when his ex spread nudes photos of him around and went on a smear campaign
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 04:02 PM
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I mean it's possible, just harder lol. I'm nothing special and don't like monogamy so I tend to date more than one person at a time and I know plenty of guys who do. Most of the time you need better "game" or charisma or something since it is much more difficult for men in general since we are in the roles of the pursuer but idk if there are exclusive harems like you're making it seem
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 03:29 PM
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Uh, no... There are tons of dudes that get blackmailed that way
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:21 PM
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Yeah and if they're doing that those women are generally seeing more than one guy at a time too lol. People aren't exclusive unless they explicitly agree, that's just modern dating. People date around, on both sides
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 10:00 PM
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I mean, yeah lol. Onlyfans allows the creators to have more control and get a better cut of the profits so it's a good hustle to do porn stuff but also have control of your presence and content. It's good as a side hustle especially and mostly if you know how to market. I'm a guy but have thought of starting one to share content, I'm also bi and gay bait so I'd make out well, and it seems fun but also like I can use my social media presence to advertise and drive engagement.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 08:10 PM
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This sounds like that incel "no pussy, no work" type of thing no?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 08:07 PM
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I doubt that's the case for long term things. Relationships don't last long without honesty so you'll know at some point if they have other people
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 08:06 PM
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Well you can close the gap with effort in learning. They have books on boundaries, attachment theory and relationship styles, sexual pleasure like "come as you are", "the bad girls bible" has a great article on cunnilingus, etc. If they're just looking for a hookup, yeah they probably want someone with a good grasp of it, but if someone actually likes you as a person and you put effort in and want to give each other good experiences instead of just shoving it in and going, "PP feel good, me cum …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:44 AM
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Well, experience generally improves your skills in things no? You get used to talking to people and seeing how it goes. The more you work on your social skills and try to improve, the better you get of course. So you learn. It's also good to learn how to navigate an LTR. But that doesn't disqualify inexperienced guys, they can have plenty of chances and that's how you get experience. And if someone actually likes you, it doesn't really matter. Also experience can help with sex but just because a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 11:51 PM
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Your first mistake is taking anything they say seriously lol
/r/AllPillDebate03/09/23 10:56 AM
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Because "low/ high value" is a bunch of bullshit you hear on podcasts trying to trick you into giving them money so you "do better in dating". There are a lot of metrics for it and you can be of lower and higher value with things but ultimately the only person that gives you value and determines it is yourself. Personally, I find someone with compassion and insightful intelligence higher valued than most.
/r/AllPillDebate02/09/23 06:57 PM
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I mean, I lift because I like it and run because I like it and will change my workout depending on the body type and fitness level I want, it's just good for some of us mentally lol.
/r/AllPillDebate02/09/23 06:54 PM
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Oh right now I'm pretty out of shape and over weight but when I was those sizes, I could show/ link what I looked like lol. Maybe a little but more so when I bulked.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 11:57 PM
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It's kinda useless unless you do underwater tank weighing or the scales that send electrical signals to measure fat resistance or a doctor with calipers. Height and weight aren't really a good metric because someone who is 5'10" and lifts a lot can easily be over 200 lol. I'm 5'7" and lean af at 160, can't get below that without losing muscle mass but can easily go up to over 170-180 if I switch to heavy lifting and bulking. And plenty of women have that "BMI" and most definitely do not look obe…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:38 PM
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Yeah idk where he got this idea from other than some statistics from a dating app, but as a nonmonogamous/ polyamorous guy not that many women are keen on sharing lol. I'm up front about it but there have still been times that I've had the interest of women but then they give it a second thought that I already have other partners then change their minds. Or the "so are you collecting us like Pokemon?" If someone isn't already in the mindset of liking nonmonogamy, they won't like it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 10:12 PM
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Which women? Because definitely not all of them lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 09:38 PM
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I came from purplepilldebate just to see the batshitter. I'm already not popular there for reasons but this seems even more entertaining. interesting convos when on that sub I made a post asking if anyone believed in love.
/r/AllPillDebate29/08/23 04:08 PM
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Huh, interesting. Kinda surprising with how sex kinda gets pushed with the current dating culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:03 PM
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Any statistics on that? I can see it between college and being a serial monogamist. But if you wanted to sleep around and up your body count it doesn't seem to be that difficult in modern day? Which is why I'm a little surprised. I would assume that most just don't want more than 5-10
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:32 PM
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Wait, 15 is considered high?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 05:23 PM
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Idk we've blocked each other and have no contact but she was a cougar and had this social media influencer type following, which her Instagram kept getting deleted, but heard some people were weirded out that she was like 42 and jumped on a kid who just turned 18 so idk. Hopefully her life is in a better situation and she sorted through the relationship trauma that helped do us in. I went back into therapy, joined alcohol program, get properly diagnosed and medicated for bipolar disorder, gradua…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 04:54 PM
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So.... You're superficial and shallow? That's nothing new lol. Not like everyone is the same either. Half the women I've been with like to contribute and be self sufficient. I'm currently providing for one partner but she's also chronically ill and disabled but we are starting a business together and she's working her ass off in any capacity she's able to. When you actually want someone and not some superficial notch in their belt, things are different lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 04:39 PM
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I mean there are average girls into the "hedonistic" stuff as well so it's really not that crazy out there. Its harder for guys but I do know a number of average guys that do fine with that if they want it or just normal, vanilla dating otherwise. I think. I think I only have one friend who struggles and he didn't have a gf until college and not really get girls and really overweight so that's probably a strike against him but he also seems... Indifferent now, the gf he had in college was terrib…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 01:02 AM
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Men do get more violent but you'd be surprised the crazy shit women do as well. Some guys have been sexually assaulted for instance so it's not just being "humiliated"
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 07:45 PM
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Yeah it's basically the same as any social interaction in my mind. But I'm a guy who can't cognitively flirt unless it's over text but it seems to work alright. Don't approach people who don't want to be approached, go for the ones who seem open to a conversation. Respect boundaries and just talk to them and see if you guys click and then exchange Instagrams or something and keep talking there. It's not easy but I'd say it should be about approaching people not clambering after women like you're…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:28 PM
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That guy I stopped associating with when I started hearing things but he seemed very nice and hospitable otherwise. Tbh I know A LOT of mentally ill people but personality disorders like sociopathy is rare and I think he might be one, one of the only ones I've ever met. Also I hang and date around in the polyamorous and BDSM community. Naturally, not everyone into BDSM is a healthy individual but the people I hang around with now will blacklist someone if they do something shitty. But generally …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:11 PM
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Yeah, like I said I knew a chick who would go on "men are trash!" Rants but then go on dates with guys who were friends ex's and actually committed SA and shit so some people are like that, but they're just dumbasses.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 09:04 PM
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That comes from a place of frustration of seeing himself as the "good guy" and thinking that should make him date successfully but seeing women often get with the "bad guys". Some will choose it willfully, those people aren't healthy. But I'd say they're the minority. I'd say it's more so that someone will choose an attractive feature of the bad guy that can make it so the bad parts aren't as glaringly obvious and scare them off. People are willing to put up with more shit from people they're at…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 08:26 PM
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Ah I see so bad people. People still go with bad people but I don't think most do it knowing what they're in for. Many are able to hide and mask it or people choose to ignore the red flags because there's something good about them. I don't think people go out of their way to choose cheaters and abusers, but they still do end up with them often regardless, even when there are warning signs. Like I mentioned a guy I knew, he literally had hidden cameras to film women he fucked then post it without…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:41 PM
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I'm a guy and pretty well centered now but I used to cope with my bipolar disorder using alcohol. Dating and long relationships are much better now but I did see a good amount of action during those days too. I was never a "bad" guy but troubled and idk I can see where some say about how being exciting and interesting is an attractive trait. My preference in your question would be the "5" hands down. I date the crazies too more often than not but they also often have parts of the "5" that outshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 07:14 PM
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I'm aware but considering it's an autistic, asexual man do you think there was malice? Or just that he had poor diction and syntax in saying they weren't for him? They were saying "people excuse it because he's autistic" like no, he thinks and functions differently and they were being ableist and bigoted due to perceived slight
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:46 PM
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Yeah that's basically what this guy made a post about and he said, "I just don't see why you'd want other people around you, let alone a woman" in which, based on context, wasn't hateful but more so that he was uncomfortable around/ didn't understand women since you know.... Clearly autistic asexual. And some were saying I was sexist for pointing that he simply just didn't vibe with women and liked to be left alone lol. It's like if a guy isn't willing to prostrate yourself and crawl over hot co…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:42 PM
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Someone was sharing and blasting a guy who was clearly autistic, aromantic and asexual for saying he likes to be alone in the woods and doesn't think women are a benefit to him for it. Bunch of ableist and victim complexes with perceived "misogyny" when it's pretty much bullying an autistic person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:25 PM
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Holy fuck... That's the worst thing that can happen to a guy and people laughed about it? Same energy as playing happy music and cheering for gay men dying from aids...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:21 PM
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Sounds like the Unabomber was the guy for you /s
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 05:31 PM
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Worse actually and the one I know of was shutdown by an independent review board during a clinical trial so there really isn't as much out there. I believe i saw one which was I think an SCA inhibitor that made sperm lose swimming power that was much more viable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:36 PM
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OLD is very reductionist and doesn't offer the same chances of being able to "market" yourself as you do irl. It is a thing though that there's been a shift towards it and it does give you options so I feel like there might be truth to people becoming more disingenuous due to it but that's just conjecture. I would say that it doesn't seem to be totally irrelevant but yeah you don't get the same opportunities as when you actually talk to someone and are only seen at face value
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:25 PM
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Idk it's kinda been like Ive always just not known or understood social interaction. Body language cues included but like starting and forming conversations and keeping people engaged when it's not something I'm passionate about or just subtle things like that. Kinda need a working knowledge and play book for social interactions sometimes since it's not something that comes naturally but it's that I learned to adapt and how things worked better for me in certain ways and just fine tuning how I p…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 04:47 PM
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Yeah but for me it's like a case of both? Like the mental disorders work against me but I also have the "fun whacky guy who is crazy but fun" and it seems to be a benefit sometimes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:24 PM
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A big change for me came from being involved in student orgs in college. It was basically just getting used to dealing with people and fine tuning my understanding since I need to understand things to make sense of it usually. It's really helped and I'm a lot happier now but it was a lot of learning and exposure to different circumstances and people. Totally worth it though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:15 PM
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what? it's literally called "autism spectrum disorder". the entire point of the spectrum is to gauge and understand autism and how it presents in you
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 01:09 PM
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Well yeah that's why it's called a spectrum and has different levels of classification. Elliot Rodgers would be former Asperger's, now classified as ASD1 if I'm not mistaken so while the difference is night and day, they do have ways to gauge it, same with all mental things such as levels of severity of depression. I appear to be on the spectrum as well and when I asked my psychiatrist said, "yeah probably but you function so well it's more of a therapy thing. If you were nonverbal then it would…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 03:10 PM
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It's literally called autism spectrum disorder. They are redrawing lines with the DSM5 but it's all classified as autism. people use "on the spectrum" very loosely nowadays which might cause some confusion
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 02:53 PM
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I take them to a coffee shop and walks on the park or maybe lunch and will pay because I like the company and it's cheap. Not gonna get a big thing for someone I don't know and don't know if I have an interest in. I feel like it wouldn't be such an issue if people just go on $4 coffee dates lol. Not that dates are even needed anymore, sometimes people just wanna fuck first meeting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:36 PM
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General rule of thumb: where would it be good to approach PEOPLE. There's a difference between being in a social setting, like playing darts at the bar, and just trying to get errands done. Think of it in the way that if a polite stranger wants to start a conversation with you, what's the best way about it? That's the way it makes most sense to me. If you respect boundaries it'll likely be fine to approach most people in many settings but there are some where they won't like it, regardless of wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:05 PM
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I'm a guy who more or less understands the fear. First thing is making someone feel comfortable. Hell, I'll usually ask for a Snapchat because with a number you can find their social medias and other stuff. But a snap? The moment you want me gone press the block button and I can't get back lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 09:31 PM
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I agree, just go after your preferences and just because some have certain tastes, it doesn't mean it's common. I dated when I was in college and using alcohol to cope with my bipolar disorder. I date now that I'm cleaned up and an engineer and honestly the quality of relationships I have is better. I will say though that damaged people do tend to find each other but if you're not damaged, then why do you want someone who is?
/r/AllPillDebate13/07/23 04:55 PM
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Well her's involves chronic pain. I have some experience with it due to the collapsed disk in my back, that shit is hard. Also a history of trauma/ abuse and I believe it takes a very strong person to be mistreated so much but still be loving and kind instead of bitter and resentful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:12 PM
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"inspiration" understandable but I have a chronically ill/ disabled partner with a lot of trauma and I say I admire her strength and how resilient she is and how kind and loving she is in spite of it. More so an acknowledgement of good values
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:32 PM
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I'm 5'7" and have a black belt in judo and other martial arts experience and was trained by my combatives instructor and SWAT lead father. If "protection " is that important to them, just carry a weapon lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 08:23 PM
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Idk I don't lie and have red flags like a Soviet parade and it still works out. But I'd rather be myself and not get something and find someone worth while connecting with
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:59 PM
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Depends on where you look and how. Sometimes you're not in the right circles where you can connect with people, especially being on the spectrum. It's usually easier with other ND people
/r/AllPillDebate11/07/23 07:37 PM
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I don't like to date monogamously. That usually causes a stir on here lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:31 PM
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Yeah once he said "genuine" it was no longer a "nice guy" thing. The current pop and internet culture refers to the ones you'd find more in r/niceguys or even r/nicegirls where they suddenly flip shit and berate you while still claiming to be "nice"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:16 PM
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Huh, sounds like my ex haha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:12 PM
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Yeah I did that and felt it but still have a few now and use them not nearly as much. I'm also polyamorous so it's a much more narrow net to cast on the dating pool but each specific site or all can be good for something. I usually use FeelD because those are my people but bumble and okcupid are more genuine as well. Tinder is trash tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 03:03 PM
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You... You mean Nazis? For having what is essentially a support group?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:49 AM
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It is hard. I think of it like the same way as I view my sanity with the quote of good and evil from Parthurnaxx in the game Skyrim. "What is better? To be born good? Or to overcome your evil nature with great effort." Not saying we're evil, but I think of it that way with my mental health. I can easily say "fuck it" and even if I handle it, there's a terrible stigma with it no matter what I do. But is it more noble of me to have been born without these things? Or with them and worked all my lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:48 AM
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It's a reddit avatar... And he was agreeing with you dude lol. You misread
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:00 PM
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They were saying that mens wants are seen in a poor light and called entitlement while women's are not and called "wants". The other stuff is kinda irrelevant and isnt this a dude?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:58 PM
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I think they were pointing out what appears to be a double standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:44 PM
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I commented on a previous post of a really cool men's retreat which is all about healthy masculinity, brotherhood and growing as people and even showing each other spiritual wisdom and stuff. That's the type of stuff I think we need more of, not "Andrew Tate" or whatever because the stuff he says seems to be about breaking down confidence to give him money instead of actual mentorship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:37 PM
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Having success with women isn't really a good way to judge people's "value". Not that it was all great but I used to cope with my improperly medicated bipolar disorder using sex and alcohol while in college and it kept me from graduating when I was at the finish line (also seemed to have slipped into a chronic low grade depression for a few years other than my bipolar mood episodes). And you know what? I was probably the worst version of myself. I used to be on WAY more meds and have more intens…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 07:16 PM
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"women don't owe you sex" Um... Dude, no one owes you their body or autonomy. Do you owe a gay bear your asshole? No, because you are the one who determines who you give your consent to regardless of your gender and no one else is entitled to it. There's a reason things like rape and sex trafficking are terrible. Edit: the only thing you need to know is that it's bad to violate bodily autonomy regardless of the subject, hence you can't even harvest someone's organs without them signing up for it…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:46 PM
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Yeah I don't know too much about them but I've been wanting to go to a "Sacred Sons" retreat where it's just a man's retreat with comradery, emotional support and spiritual teachings and I feel like that's the kind of masculinity people should talk about. Also I didn't get all the way through it but I liked how "the way of the superior man" started. It was a guide for all genders, just men are the usual target, about just keeping sexual attraction and being respectful while still being able to "…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:45 PM
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Yup! We can want love and primal sex and for me personally the primal sex really comes with emotional connection. Like, if I adore someone so so much I want crazy sexual things with them but other times, yeah I can have sex with someone but it's missing something. I'm a sexual person and kinky and have "sowed my oats" I guess but it's not really as good as having someone you hold mutual love with. One of my partners right now is someone I say I adore to the moon and back and I'm working to pay f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:04 PM
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"Nice Guy" is only really applicable with the entitlement, subversion and volatility some guys have with "I showed her basic human kindness, she should be choking on my cock!" I think it's overused but what you're describing is being a generally nice and genuine person. Think of it this way, unless you start feeling entitled to someone's body for showing basic courtesy, you don't really fall into that category. As far as I see it anyways, as someone who has often made friends and connections fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:35 PM
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Well no one is entitled to either your consent or your time and effort unless agreed upon so you can always choose to leave. Personally, I have waited, I've made others wait, I've pursued, I've turned down, etc. It just kinda works when it works but if you have a specific ideal in your head about a timeline then it's better to match someone else with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:46 AM
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Or ability to dig holes at the beach and build sand castles
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 07:05 PM
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I'm 5'7" and it's not like it does you favors in the current environment but it's not a huge handicap if you have a good personality lol. I get sexualized a lot on my meme page without people ever knowing what I look like, they just like my sense of humor and the things I talk about
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 06:37 PM
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Yeah idk. Possibly but I fly in circles where we ask consent before sharing things and are usually respectful of boundaries, both men and women I believe. I've also experienced it where there is gossip and tbh I've seen more women discuss the genitals of partners than men but that's anecdotal for those specific people, who weren't necessarily the most polite to others at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:12 PM
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I generally agree and not just in dating but with friends and social life too. I've always had trouble fitting in and few friends and was basically the kid you dealt with instead of the one you wanted to be around. But I've found some good acceptance and community in the BDSM scene and have met people who think and function more like me or have similar experiences who I can relate to. They're also just open minded and more empathetic in my experience and those are generally the things I value. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 09:39 PM
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So in general it's harder for hetero men to strike up relationships than others and you have to do more footwork. Hop on tinder and it's a shit show and honestly worthless for most guys but it's also a rather disingenuous app. You'll have a better shot on something like bumble or okcupid, or personally I prefer kava lounges to bars and people are easier to talk to there. We have to put in more work but it's not impossible. I mean, I'd say I'm slightly above average looking but still fairly avera…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:48 PM
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I'm a neurodivergent, mentally ill engineer on a job site with a lot of down time. Arguing online is kinda a given to pass the time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:32 PM
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I can weigh in from the perspective of power exchange within BDSM. Submission is EARNED. It's a gift that is freely given to those worthy and if you are responsible you will negotiate in order to take what is healthy. Many people there confuse submissive with basically just being easily manipulated and a puppet. Some people like that. With my partner I'm able to choose what she does and give her tasks, she cleans for me and does what I want, within her ability due to her illnesses, but I have al…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 07:18 PM
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I have a partner with chronic illness and rare degenerative diseases. I'm working 14 hour days 6-7 days a week to take care of her. It's not expected and she feels bad but I love and care for her and believe she deserves the best. Even with the hand she's been dealt, she tries, so damn hard. She's good at cleaning and cleaned a friend's house for money, probably 20 hours of work and had a flair up so bad she almost died. But she still tries. When I got fired from my last job in May she said, "we…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 03:41 PM
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I kinda do. I'm 27, one of my partners is 35 and I have friends who are in their 30s and 40s but I've always gotten along with older people. I suppose it's one of those mature for your age due to trauma stuff but to me it's not weird at all. Ivye actually preferred that age range for partners since I was 23 and often liked making friends with older people because I can relate about real life stuff I guess even though our experiences are very different. That or people my age with trauma. So I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 11:08 AM
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Cougars: 😐 You'd be surprised. Usually they just need a rapport with you is all. As a bi guy, women are horny too, men are just unbridled horny without regulation. Some women can be too though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 09:49 PM
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Thank you and they have! I've had like 2-3 epiphanies where I buckled down on therapy and put the work in to rewire my brain. I'm currently on only a 5th of the meds I used to be, I got my black belt in judo before my back went out, almost killed myself a couple times in college but endured and got my degree in chemical engineering. Now I have many loving relationships and fulfilling jobs where I can help others along with social media that allow me to advocate and has helped a few people be ins…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:06 PM
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I was diagnosed with OCD, along with other disorders, at 9. A psychologist recommended I be institutionalized due to it when I was 10. At that age I literally almost gouged my eyes out due to the thoughts and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do to not self harm. If I didn't have my martial arts outlet since I was 5 and incredible will power, then get help, my body would be covered in scars or I would have killed myself before entering middle school. I had a girlfriend at 15 and my ROCD des…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:45 PM
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I have ROCD. People should be glad they don't have it, it's caused more damage than my harm OCD which is nasty shit I won't subject people to and caused a trigger where I almost killed myself. Take it from me, it's not what they think.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:31 PM
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And you say your life experiences as a fact for all and honestly, again being "embarrassed" by info dumping about plants is what it is, but you clearly don't understand or care for people if you feel that way. That's your preference, fine, doesn't mean your thoughts process is right. Date who you want but you come off as an asshole quite frankly, truth be told.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:32 PM
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Well severe impairment is something different all together and should be specified but even then, rather cynical and a bad view. I know people who are autistic and assholes and excuse it that way. I think they're just assholes though and don't factor in their autism. Also this entire post was about "high functioning" so that's a different topic all together Edit: if it's not your thing, that's fine but you make disparaging claims. Believe it or not, some people like it when ASD people info dump.…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:15 PM
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You have your experiences but as a high functioning autistic ADHD man with mental illness, you don't get the same treatment that you're spouting. I had to beg* my parents to kill me for a year before I was given any meds and if you're a man with mental issues you're automatically "scary". Tbh I have a lot of mentally ill, neurodivergent and traumatized friends and your claims don't track You don't have an appreciation for your higher affinity to masking either. I've also dated autistic women and…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 11:14 AM
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People like Andrew Tate are the RP oracle. Idolizing people being convicted of rape and human trafficking that has been saying a lot of misogynistic and hateful stuff is not the way to win people over. Personally, I'm a bisexual and mentally ill man that's heavily involved in the BDSM community. I've seen some shit from people TRP might idolize and surprise surprise, it was unethical and disgusting and they get blacklisted. In order to be healthy in that you need to have fundamental respect for …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 07:19 PM
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Depends on where you look. I've met some intimate partners online but there definitely is a way of using people on it. Personally I just ask someone out to coffee and then we see where it goes. Could be casual, could be serious, etc. Lots just want some fun, some fundamentally like you. It also depends on who you're attracting.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:52 PM
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Depends on where and who you are and where you look for. I'm pretty active on the kink community and go on FetLife, now mostly to see the local dungeon schedule and fun events to go to, and you see A LOT on there. Along with many dating apps and certain social things. Disclaimer: that site is a shit show and most of you won't like it so save yourself the trouble lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 11:19 AM
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Depends on the person. Plenty of people are with others they wouldn't necessarily find attractive as a strangers photo simply because they like that. Very demisexual people are a good example, some legitimately can't tell if someone is attractive or not unless they have an emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:40 PM
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I don't have any problem with a preference for younger people but I was a bit manipulated by my older ex, even if she didn't intend to, because the power dynamic in an age gap is pretty big and mostly just saying there's more opportunity for that Also idk I have usually gone with older women and they kinda just see me as fun then like me so we all have different experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:51 PM
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That's why you don't invest money in them unless you want to I suppose. 90% of my dates are to coffee shops and I'm fine with buying someone a $4 coffee along with mine tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:39 AM
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I was with multiple older people including those in their 40s before I was 25 Edit: see comment about dating a 40 year old when I was 23
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:23 AM
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Oh interesting! I have serial monogamous friends, one only had one girlfriend and she was a bitch though. But they put themselves out there and seem to average 3-5 longer relationships, the ones who look for that at least. One just married and it was great, I'm happy for them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:45 AM
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Hm? Not like nonmonogamy is new. I've actually lost out on good partners because I don't like monogamy as much lol. One of which was a chick who even offered to pay my tuition and stuff but like, I lean towards being poly. Idk what else to say other than it works for me and I feel more free?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:39 AM
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I get you, I've had my best friend since I was 4 and were like that. I've dated and fucked around but at current I have a partner who we tell each other, "we're in this together" and it's harder to come by and a numbers game but I 100% agree with that sentiment and believe it's very beautiful. I genuinely hope you have that opportunity. Personally, all I've wanted in life was to be able to love and be loved properly and I'm still figuring it out but it's a difficult yet rewarding and satisfying …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:37 AM
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I'm 27 and I guess I have a different experience. I was in a toxic relationship but we loved each other and also destroyed each other. I wrote a poem about it, "the poison and the cure". Neither of us had anything to really give to each other in any materialistic way but we were emotional and mental support for each other so I think maybe that had something to do with it, loving someone so much that even if it's bad for you, you can't let go.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:22 AM
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What do most guys not date around a lot? My friends often had girlfriends
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:06 AM
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I suppose. But idk I'm not the guy to ask, I actually prefer older women, I'm 27 and one of my partners is 35 even now lol. I'm mostly just saying what I see people saying about it and how it seems to be viewed, it just seems like a double standard. I will admit a number of men who want to date younger are predatory but I don't believe it's fair to label all as such.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 12:59 AM
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Not desperation but I find a lot that think, "I want you" is attractive, as do I and if I don't get that feeling, I don't want it myself tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:06 PM
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I mean, this seems like a specific case where you know someone for over a decade and they reject you but then want you after maybe? I don't see it happening all that much tbh. there are plenty of women that will provide for you as well too
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:01 PM
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Eh, she had a big social media page and did influencer stuff and pretty much everyone supported her. I heard there was some backlash when she jumped on a freshly 18 year old guy though because if she met him before that definitely falls under grooming. That's really the only time it seemed to be an issue. Edit: it's all still an issue but I'm just saying that in general, it's seen very differently even when done ethically by each.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:00 PM
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That's fair but you see it a lot of places, not just reddit. The point about age gaps is pretty true. Now, a lot of men go after younger women to be manipulative, sure but I don't think dating someone younger automatically qualifies as that and there seems to be a frequent stance made about it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:57 PM
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Quite frankly if a woman wants someone 10 years younger though they don't get backlash nearly as much. - I dated a cougar when I was 23
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:51 PM
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Go on a dating subreddit tbh. Especially the thing with age gaps.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:47 PM
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I guess some but I've had multiple relationships with women that wanted to provide for me as well, especially when I was a broke college guy and they would pay for dates and stuff on occasion. I'm the main provider in one of my relationships now but it's not something she was expecting or anything, all of my own volition because she had a lot of medical issues and I want to help her. She often feels guilty about it even
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:44 PM
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I'm kinky and polyamorous so they're out there, you just need to know where to look. Try the dating app FeelD
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:29 PM
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I actually haven't slept with most of them, they're friends and some like casual and group sex but that's not as much my thing anymore but even when we aren't active we get tested every three months and share it just in case and to show we're doing the work and physical checks so it's more about normalizing sexual health and stuff and being ethical. I also usually struggled to maintain relationships, I've had three... I think new partners start and end since last fall and currently only have two…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:15 PM
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Yeah I'm kinda middle of the road. And also that first girlfriend, I developed bad relationship OCD and didn't date again until I was 23. It was not a good relationship and I regret a lot of it. I met her in my judo school and we bonded then I jumped in dating apps in college but it's not like it was ever easy. I wasn't a good partner until recently and it took a lot of work. I legitimately didn't know how to make friends until my 20s. Also, it's easy to be the "fun guy" when you're crazy, but I…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:47 PM
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I'm a man and have talked about being a mentally ill societal outcast on this thread a good bit. Tbh I'm partially the "fun" guy sometimes and other times the protector and provider, which I enjoy more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:37 PM
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Well shitty relationships put things in perspective and make you value the good ones that much more
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:23 PM
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I'm bipolar as well with a few other mental disorders including bad relationship OCD that has been terrible. Work ethic for people like us isn't just a job, it's about facing our own demons. Just like someone that is fit then severely injured and needs years of PT to get back there. I lost probably 15 pounds of straight muscle mass when I was 21-22 due to the chronic pain I was in due to the collapsed disk in my back, I was actually questioning my quality of life if I could continue living like …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:17 PM
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I bet you will! Hell, if I could find people that could put up with my bullshit, I think many out there can for others haha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:34 AM
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I kinda understand that. Quite frankly I've been told I have no place in society and almost killed myself a few times to unburden my loved ones. But I'm also open of the most fortunate, lucky people on the planet with the unconditional love I receive from good friends and family and even partners who stood by me while I destroyed myself. I think it's out there for everyone but just kinda depends and you need good fortune and a hard work ethic to make any headway
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:33 AM
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Maybe try okcupid or one that's more geared towards relationships? Also, have you heard of the app "meet up"? It's just about group activities and doing things of mutual interest with others so maybe doing something like that could foster a genuine connection. I've made friends and partner and have a lovely social group I met through that. It's really hard when we are adults though. Hell, even the bar scene is barely a good place to go anymore. I don't drink much anymore so I go to kava lounges …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:27 AM
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When I was 23 I was dating a 40 year old and I was the first person she fell in love with after her shitty ex husband and marriage. It didn't work out but the feelings were there
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:24 AM
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Well my cute partner has never had romantic love, the only people she's known mutual love from were her children and younger brother and quite frankly, I'd kill multiple of her family members if they came anywhere near us. I'm imperfect but do my best for her and she has said "it's like a movie". So many don't have that love and it's often idealistic and fantasy, yes, but I believe there can be beauty and love even in a dump heap
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:23 AM
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But aren't there a lot of people in love? My parents have been for almost 40 years
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:14 AM
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Well I go against the grain because I had a slut phase and date other sluts tbh but also some who aren't and just want to be genuine people. My lifestyle is most definitely not for everyone and is rather strange so I get that but like, you don't need to be a "6' Chad". I'm ,5'7" and while it doesn't really help, I wouldn't say it keeps me from most people I like because I have a sense of humor and value compassion. I've also been ghosted when I stopped talking dirty and sending nudes and ask the…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:43 AM
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I understand that, although I currently have a relationship with some of that. I have a partner with rare degenerative diseases and chronic illness. She works hard when she can but often she's in so much excruciating pain that she can't even get out of bed. But when I got fired from my last job she's the one who told me were in this together and support each other. She doesn't have the same income as me but she provides for me in a mental and emotional way that I find much more important than an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:26 AM
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That's beautiful to hear, congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:19 AM
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Tbh it can be with women too so I get it haha. And also I'm fairly bisexual so I know that dudes will cock slap you with horny from the get go so I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:13 AM
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That's so lovely to hear, congrats! I'm happy for you two. I date others with trauma and mental illness as well and it can be rough but very worth it if you can be healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:06 AM
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Well I can empathize a bit. With all my mental stuff and being in the spectrum, my mom used to be afraid that other kids wouldn't come to my birthday parties. I was someone to be kept around when "useful" and discard when it no longer benefits them. Not just by women or dating, I just desperately wanted acceptance and love from anyone. I felt very outcast and like a burden and all the negative stuff. I had my first girlfriend at 15 and between the relationship OCD and BD, I was terrible, I made …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:01 AM
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I've been in therapy a long time! I enjoy making jokes and I understand the gravity of things. But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Actually, go take a look at "the obstacle is the way" by Ryan Holiday. I'm quirky because I've always been though, like I'm weird and socially awkward as fuck dude. And also, I made other comments about my experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:17 AM
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Maybe more swingers idk and some are like that. The people I know are also in the kink community and genuine trust is needed for anything healthy and strict ethics or you don't last long. So some are like that yeah but they're also the hippie's who like platonic cuddle parties. They're actually the people who taught me about love and friendship. I have a chronically ill partner back home and they volunteered to help.her, I have never met such genuine and kind people elsewhere. Now, are many like…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:34 PM
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Why does that matter? As long as people are happy and healthy together and can experience love,.why would that be bad? Also some people date others of similar attractiveness. And personally I've been with all types of people, I kinda just go on the vibes but I also didn't make food decisions when I was younger lol. P.s. for what it's worth I can tell you my FetLife account if you're a good boy 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:22 PM
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I mean some of it but I also didn't date until I was 23 and then I was coping with depression and bipolar disorder with alcohol and was on sporadic SSRIs and not a mood stabilizer and... Like it's a struggle. And I was coping with sex too but literally have 5 dating apps installed even now and I'm terrible at initiating otherwise. One of my last partners I hit on while hypomanic and others I talked to on FetLife and stuff but it's not easy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:14 PM
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I date kinky, mentally ill, damaged people like myself tbh. Not as damaged anymore since I've been on the mend but I think I date those who also know "suffering". You know, the fear of death and not wanting to but things being so terrible that you pray to God it will end and maybe make a pact with yourself to end it after your begging and pleading and sunken soul fades into accepting it slowly over time until you wither from the inside out. And all that fun jazz! 🥳🥰 Anywho, they're often more co…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:58 PM
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Ok... With evidence?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:53 PM
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Never said it was normal, just that there doesn't seem to be a strong enough of a correlation to just throw it under the umbrella term "mental illness"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:51 PM
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Yeah I understand. There are a few ex's that my friends and partners that have had that were.... Well I hope they rot
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:49 PM
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I believe so lol nice! It's funny, my NP and I both have verbal tics, stims and OCD compulsions so we mimic and respond to each other's. She's been secretly recording mine and I want to make a mix tape of it Edit: I'm also working 14 hour days on stand by with downtime....
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:44 PM
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Ok, how often is that? A lot can come of it but no indication that you don't "believe" in love and such. Hell I have a partner who is currently learning what romantic love is with me and I know A LOT of people with HEAVY trauma. Tons of BPD people. Bipolar. Schizophrenic. CPTSD. PTSD. Etc but irl and online but the only times things like this come up are from people on forums like these who present as resentful with opinions
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:34 PM
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I can see it like that if you have specific ideals of what you'd like. Tbh the partners I've fallen in love with are not always the most ideal or put together ones, I just fell in love without thinking about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:22 PM
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Aren't there a lot of unattractive people that you see in relationships though?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:13 PM
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I get that. Tbh my most toxic relationship was one in which we loved each other and planned a life together. But in hindsight, it was good. Was a hard punch when she told me that whatever I did to manage my mental illnesses wasn't working and a bit later I cleaned up and got back into therapy and stuff. So I believe they can be convoluted and complex and multifaceted. Ioved her but I was a terrible version of myself, as was she unfortunately but it gets like that with damaged people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:10 PM
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I know how OLD goes and quite frankly I'm polyamorous and still get new partners on the regular, I just mentioned my nesting partner. So I get it, it's a shit show. And people can suck, but like, what about relatives that are married and in love? Can't that be achieved in us too?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:05 PM
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Both my partner and I have experienced that, especially her. And I myself was jaded for a bit by society at large and I also didn't date due to my mental illnesses until I was 23 but I think it will develops if you're open to any form of human connection
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:04 PM
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So you don't feel love for a partner and just settle?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:01 PM
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It can be but I never see that mentioned or any sort of indication that it's a factor. It's always just, "I think this!"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:00 PM
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Oh most definitely! My partner has chronic illness and right now I'm working as a chemist at the the site of a chemical spill doing 14 hour days every day and I'm grateful so that I can help her get medical treatment. That's love to me. Or the type from a friend who saved my life, or the unconditional love and support of my family etc. There are many different types and it takes two people mutually working together to have any love but Imo people kinda overthink it on here. We don't necessarily …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:11 PM
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I'm legitimately mentally ill and diagnosed with several disorders, the first time a psychologist recommended I be institutionalized was when I was around 10 lol. I'd more attribute it to bitterness or cynicism tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:08 PM
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Dating isn't "easy" for me at all and yes it's harder for men and we need to do more work but I just kinda see it like making friends. I'm really quirky and weird tbh but I also say, "I'm unapologetically myself" and just do what feels right and let the connections come. Most of my social skills were actually learned in college and I had to learn about the dating world and what does and doesn't work and suffer some nasty relationship stuff here and there but idk I never really put a philosophy t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:05 PM
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I get that, the landscape has changed. Online dating, social media, the economics of the world, etc. But personally, I just kinda put myself out there and see who I develop a connection with and don't think too much into it so I was wondering what others thought, especially the people on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:53 PM
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Men and women both like butt stuff 🗿
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 04:46 PM
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Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 06:31 AM
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The trans person is related because a man turned her down and was criticized for it. It was his preference and people harassed him for having a preference which is one of the two original points. Also let me spell it out: if you shame someone for things, that won't like it. If you shame them for not liking it by calling them insecure and saying it's a negative trait, that's manipulative. Got it? Edit: instilling some sort of thought or feeling in someone by your words and actions and then critic…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:17 PM
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I said it pretty clearly with an example. It's not just preference but how some talk to others and actually shame them. Everyone is capable of doing it but it just seems to be more acceptable to shame men for things and when they don't like it, you call them insecure, that's manipulative. If it's simply a preference, many people don't care. But let me give you an example, "I prefer thinner women" vs "I could never with a fat chick lol, if you're not under 135, don't even bother 🙄" and when a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:03 PM
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So you know how much people have made fun of fat woman? What if them being upset about it was cause of criticism and it's their fault for being "insecure". So basically have negative views towards someone and say shitty things but then gas lighting them that being upset by it is somehow ridiculous and their fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:45 PM
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It's mentally manipulative to try and make it seem like you're a bad person for having normal thoughts and feelings. That's more or less what's going on
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:28 PM
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Because people like each other lol. Yeah you can always hypothetically have better options like with income or maybe looks or this or that but that's just a utilitarian view. When you're comfortable with someone and relate to them and care for each other. This is a long the lines of, "your wife has cancer, why not just leave her?" Because technically, you could be in a better situation. There's more to relationships than just what benefits a person can bring you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 06:25 PM
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I think you hit the nail on the head with your first paragraph. Work on yourself to be the best version of yourself. The people who say that you need to have this specific lifestyle to succeed are shallow and superficial. Yeah, people are attracted to certain things and conforming to that ideal might have better results but here's the thing, if you're not being true to yourself, are you really going to be happy pretending to be something to get success somewhere? This applies to pretty much ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 05:21 PM
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I have 4 mental disorders including bipolar and OCD, I have mental illness, I know what that's like. Also possibly on the spectrum, I was always in that latter group. Personally, it's taken all my life and years of effort to improve past that point and develop socially as well, it's not easy. Also I mean the found acceptance in myself. I've found other people who accept me too and it's amazing but my most important thing is self acceptance. Edit: to add, I'm far from perfect. I self medicated wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 11:31 AM
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I'm also 5'7" and I'm polyamorous with multiple relationships. I've been with all types since I kinda just like how I connect with someone and feel comfortable more than anything else. Sure height does factor in but I don't feel "settled for" since if someone doesn't actively want me and want to be with me, I'm out. And not to brag but things I've been told as to why people like me, I'm funny and genuine and have a kind heart despite being weird and goofy as fuck. I go by "I'm unapologetically m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 01:10 PM
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Sure everyone WANTS to be the best version of themselves, but how much work are they putting in? Therapy? Exercise? Mindfulness? Social skills work? Expanding your mentality and knowledge? Looking inward and fighting your own demons and calling yourself out on your shit. That shit takes hard work and YEARS of deliberate, disciplined practice. It's a lot of hard work and most people don't do it. Hell, most people that go to therapy don't do it because they aren't actually being honest with themse…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 08:05 PM
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If you work on yourself as a person and simply try to be the best version of yourself, it won't guarantee that you'll be successful in dating but you'll be Hell of a lot better off than when you started. Even if it's just for yourself. And what you can give to others in general is better, friends, family, work, etc. So it's not like it's an easy formula but putting work into yourself has benefits regardless and will probably make you more fulfilled, which can in turn help with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 07:00 PM
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I went on a coffee first date with someone then we just had a day of laying on a blanket in the park before going back to her place and all of it was nice. I pretty much only paid for my gas and the coffees we got the first time. I usually ask people out for coffee because, like, I like coffee....
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/23 04:44 PM
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No lie, I'm working as an engineer and have a degree in chemical engineering but still live with my parents. I'd never be able to save like I am now and get ahead otherwise. It's hard all around and even the people with good jobs are struggling
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 09:20 PM
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Lol whatever you need to tell yourself to minimize that other men can have multiple partners. I have turned women down or had possible relationships fizzle out more often than not because I'm the one who chooses nonmonogamy, monogamy is constricting to me. Had someone who basically wanted to do everything for me and offered to pay my tuition but it fell apart because I was poly, keep in mind she was down for threesomes and me with other women if she was present, just not separated polyamory but …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 09:57 PM
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I mean.... If you'd like I could make some memes like that for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:50 PM
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How? I'm polyamorous and was while I was a broke college student too. Not like it's easier to be 5'7" and date but it's not some impossible or resentful thing. It's all in your head that it makes you unlovable or something. And sure, some might struggle with someone outside of their physical preferences but there are plenty of people who it doesn't matter to. Edit: I'll add that I posted a body selfie without even having my face on it and my shoes are super dirty and fit is iffy on r/Tinder and …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:58 PM
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I'm a 5'7" guy and you're pretty off dude
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:37 PM
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Ah, I see. I only joined this sub because I kept seeing these "blue/redpill, etc" terms and was curious but all I see is angry incels on here. Which is entertaining in its own way hence I stayed but was super confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 05:31 PM
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