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| 2 | Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters. | Debate | Gentle_prv | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 02:23 AM |
| 0 | Submissive women, how do you, in your own mind, deal with the fact you are submissive, especially if your partner is a man? More specifically, if you are a feminist, how do you reconcile your need for domination, and your feminist ideals? | Question For Women | Gentle_prv | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 06:46 AM |
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| 5 | Reproductive Risk Changes the Dating MarketI’m for both sexes having equal access to birth control and abortions, be they paper or otherwise, and I say this as a guy who’s father went out for milk, so to speak. My mother chose to keep me, but my father was not given that choice, so was saddled with paying child support; in my honest opinion, I’d rather expenses for children be paid by taxes rather than the father (in the case of the father not wanting the kid). I honestly can’t comprehend anyone, besides auth-right chuds, being against a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/26 03:34 AM |
| 1 | People trying to shame women into relationships with bi menIt’s full on homophobia to not want to date bi men just because they are bi, it’s that simple. Way more men would date a bi woman than the other way around. And don’t you dare bring up that “fear of cheating” bs, because that’s bi-phobic propaganda. Just admit you are bi-phobic and go about your day. You’re the bigot here, not me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible that some women just don't understand what makes sex so meaningful to others?Yeah, I’ve seen far more liberals, feminists, and blue-pilled women kink shame other women than other groups, even the damned conservatives. Nothing hates a man-loving woman like another woman. Feminism literally fought for women’s ability to be sexually liberated, and now people (mostly women) are trying to put down other women for daring to love having sex, especially with their committed male partner. Are we seriously going backwards!? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/26 12:56 AM |
| 0 | BOTH men and women are VISUAL creatures however men don't need to like her personality when it comes to sexI’ve seen many cases of women dating or sleeping with men that have shitty personalities, so no, women do not care about personality more than men. Women are just as shallow as men, but it seems that there is this weird concerted(?) effort to obfuscate that reality. “We care more about personality than men” is just a bold-faced lie, women are not some holier than thou people that do no wrong; you’re just as flawed as men, AND THATS OKAY. You’re allowed to be imperfect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/26 08:28 PM |
| 0 | BOTH men and women are VISUAL creatures however men don't need to like her personality when it comes to sexAs an obese cave troll, how do I factor into your equation if I have been taken for 11 years? In case you are wondering, my partner wasn’t obese when we met, and is only recently obese (which I don’t care about, I find most sizes of women attractive, including thicker women). Women are just as shallow as men, but it seems that there is this weird concerted(?) effort to obfuscate that reality. “We care more about personality than men” is just a bold-faced lie, women are not some holier than thou … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/26 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Men not enjoying being single and alone makes it easier for women to have power over them.And women aren’t attracted to men’s bodies? Are all women asexual goddesses? Is this supposed to be some gotcha against men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/26 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Men not enjoying being single and alone makes it easier for women to have power over them.And my life has been peaceful since being in my LTR, so what’s your point? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/26 09:19 PM |
| 9 | Men not enjoying being single and alone makes it easier for women to have power over them.You don’t believe the average man doesn’t get causal sex? That’s wild. Women have the ability to get sex, and/or committed relationships, whenever and wherever they want. The average man doesn’t get that opportunity; I should know, as I got out of this rat-race 11 years ago (am currently with my high school sweetheart). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/26 09:17 PM |
| 1 | It's completely reasonable for men to view a ONS as more of an achievement than a relationship.It’s always been easier to maintain a relationship than to even get into one, and then it has always been easier to get into a long term relationship than a short term one, especially as an average looking guy. ^If you’re a woman and you’re reading this and disagreeing with it, your privilege is showing, ma’am. Source: someone in a 11 year long LTR. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/26 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Not having sex is an acceptable outcomeMy only gripe is your view on what is and isn’t consent. As someone who engages in CNC and other “forced”-related kinks, clear and concise language and communication is needed; there’s a reason safewords exist, afterall. It seems like some feminists try to make any and all interactions with women somehow equal coercion, rape, or harassment, and I’m so damn tired of it. Words have to mean something. If a guy asks for sex repeatedly (as in like multiple times I’m quick succession) the man should r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/26 01:44 AM |
| 1 | One reason Gen Z has less sex is because alot of people are weird about sex.I think people are weird about sex, but it’s not universal in how it’s expressed, and it varies wildly through culture (source: took a human sexuality class in college). Some are more open about it, some view it as simply another thing humans do, some view it as a fun activity, others a deep and emotional bonding experience, and others a way to get the stress out; and don’t forget, it can also be a combo of a few or all of them at different levels, and this list isn’t exhaustive. ^hell, a lot of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/26 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Is R*pe a spectrum ?Intersex individuals are a rounding error when it comes to human sexes, so much so that it is far more accurate to say that humanity only has 2 sexes, but multiple genders and multiple sexualities. This is me not being hateful, since I would treat those people like people, I’m just being accurate since words and definitions have to mean something. | /r/MensRights | 27/07/26 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Is R*pe a spectrum ?There are only 2 sexes, 3 if you count intersex (which I don’t). There are multiple genders like there are multiple sexualities. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/26 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Women like dominant and aggressive men, even if they date nice guysYes and no, me thinks. I would be considered a nice guy, and probably a “nice guy” to the women in this subreddit. What works for me is that I am calm, kind and caring individual to most people, especially my gf, but in private, I let the testosterone flow, for lack of better words. Granted my gf is incredibly submissive, so your mileage may vary. ^what is unfortunate for men, is that the women who want a “dominant” man, a good portion of them keep that side hidden, because they are being consid… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 07:29 PM |
| 4 | Women should make the first move, its better for everyone.The fact most women on this god forsaken sub are vehemently against this idea speaks volumes. I guess it really is a “gender norms for thee, but not for me” kind of thing. No wonder they’re single. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Women should make the first move, its better for everyone.That’s quite sexist of you, you know? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/07/26 07:17 PM |
| 10 | Men place women on a pedestal and in doing so they start to hate women for any show of humanity.I’ll just say this: Women have a much stronger in-group bias than men, which means women are less likely to go against the grain, and unwilling to challenge their fellow women, especially if those women are bigots. A great example of this is the feminists movement post 2nd wave. Since that wave, misandry has infected the movement like a cancer, and as far as I can tell, women and feminists seem quite unwilling to silence this bigotry and deal with it properly. Like, those misandrist are monsters… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Dating experiments prove men are picky and not as desperate like they claim to be.Oh boi, hi again Lilith. Is the main argument here "Men are just not as desperate as they claim to be?" Because that is a load of barnacles. You could show a picture of a 5/10 man to 1000 women, ask them if they would like to have sex with them, and I can guarantee you, there would be less women saying "yes" to that question, than there would be men saying "yes" for the vise versa. ^I used getting sex for that example, because it is a good indicator of if someone finds that person attractive. Wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/26 03:39 AM |
| 1 | If you dont like women, don’t date them.Of course, and it goes both ways. That being said, y’all are out here making it harder on yourselves for no reason. Glad I’m out of this damned rat race. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/26 09:05 AM |
| 2 | Men are not the arbiters of reasonable standardsI’ll say this again, hopefully loud enough for all to hear: Point 1::: There is a difference between a preference and a requirement. If you prefer taller men, that is fine; however, if you require the man to be tall, you limit your dating pool significantly. For me personally, I prefer a woman be shorter than me, but I’m 5’4 and I acknowledge that it is an unreasonable expectation, which is why it is a preference, not a requirement. Point 2::: Physical attributes and status-aligned attributes (i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Men are not the arbiters of reasonable standardsTo be fair, that’s what a lot of women do as well, especially in this hyper-individualist society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/26 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesI think that the people feeling defensive about their high standards are missing the point. It is reasonable to have standards, obviously, but there is a difference in having a “preference” vs a “requirement.” And usually these “requirements” are only for someone’s looks, not their personality. For example: I prefer curvy and/or busty women, but I would be just as attracted to a thin woman as I would a busty one. And, even if I wasn’t, if the thinner woman’s personality was more in line with min… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/26 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesI think that the people feeling defensive about their high standards are missing the point. It is reasonable to have standards, obviously, but there is a difference in having a “preference” vs a “requirement.” And usually these “requirements” are only for someone’s looks, not their personality. For example: I prefer curvy and/or busty women, but I would be just as attracted to a thin woman as I would a busty one. And, even if I wasn’t, if the thinner woman’s personality was more in line with min… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/26 07:53 PM |
| -1 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesIn objective truth, having high or unrealistic physical standards means you’re just a superficial person, which means you are not a good person at all, objectively speaking. It means you have no critical thinking skills, no patience, no grace for others, and lack nuance. Take me for example: since women work off of social proof, aka, being vetted by others, that means that I should qualify as a “good man” by the standards of most women, at least in terms of non-physical standards. I am currently… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/26 07:31 PM |
| 0 | Men don't ask women to have low standards, they ask women to have realistic onesIn objective truth, having high or unrealistic physical standards means you’re just a superficial person, which means you are not a good person at all, objectively speaking. It means you have no critical thinking skills, no patience, no grace for others, and lack nuance. Take me for example: since women work off of social proof, aka, being vetted by others, that means that I should qualify as a “good man” by the standards of most women, at least in terms of non-physical standards. I am currently… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/26 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Society didn't lie to men about women and dating. Porn did.Thank you. Finally a sane take. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/26 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Society didn't lie to men about women and dating. Porn did.As it should be. Personality should matter more than looks. To say otherwise is to out oneself as shallow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/26 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Society didn't lie to men about women and dating. Porn did.My single mother, a 14+ Air Force veteran, taught me to respect everyone, no matter who or what they are. She taught me that when it comes to women, most value personality over looks, but also admitted that although I am short (5’4), I have broad shoulders, and am decently handsome. To her credit, when looking back, I did receive a good bit of female attention, but was too blind to the cues to see it at the time. Then, when I turned 17, I met the love of my life, and we have been in a relationsh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/26 06:54 PM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵I don’t think most women in here can tell which ppd man is sexless. Why? Bc I espouse some views that would probably lead to me being labeled as redpill, when I am most certainly not one of those conservative whackjobs. Just bc they are mostly deplorable though, doesn’t mean they can’t make accurate points. For example, I do believe that there are a lot of women who are shallow when it comes to men, but I’m also smart enough to know it’s not most women. Another example, I believe that men on ave… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 08:10 PM |
| – | Women discard what men say they like in women, then turn around and tell men what they like in women.My gf wears no makeup 99/100 times. I know this bc she isn’t really proficient with it enough to feel comfortable wearing some everyday and finds it a hassle (she has told me both of those points). I’ve also seen her best friend dolled up, “blank slate”, and everything in between; granted, I did grow up around a lot of women, so it could be why I’m good at telling the difference. I find her beautiful without makeup, but yes, when she does wear any makeup, it enhances or highlights the parts I al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 07:55 PM |
| – | Women discard what men say they like in women, then turn around and tell men what they like in women.My gf wears no makeup 99/100 times. I know this bc she isn’t really proficient with it enough to feel comfortable wearing some everyday and finds it a hassle (she has told me both of those points). I’ve also seen her best friend dolled up, “blank slate”, and everything in between; granted, I did grow up around a lot of women, so it could be why I’m good at telling the difference. I find her beautiful without makeup, but yes, when she does wear any makeup, it enhances or highlights the parts I al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 07:52 PM |
| – | Women discard what men say they like in women, then turn around and tell men what they like in women.Most of the time I can tell, yes. My gf wears no makeup 99/100 times. I know this bc she isn’t really proficient with it enough to feel comfortable wearing some everyday and finds it a hassle (she has told me both of those points). I’ve also seen her best friend dolled up, “blank slate”, and everything in between; granted, I did grow up around a lot of women, so it could be why I’m good at telling the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 07:49 PM |
| – | Women discard what men say they like in women, then turn around and tell men what they like in women.Most of the time, yes. My gf wears no makeup 99/100 times. I know this bc she isn’t really proficient with it enough to feel comfortable wearing some everyday and finds it a hassle (she has told me both of those points). I’ve also seen her best friend dolled up, “blank slate”, and everything in between; granted, I did grow up around a lot of women, so it could be why I’m good at telling the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/26 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Debate: women are allowed to distrust men, men are not allowed to distrust womenActually, when it comes to rape, the statistics actually show that the rate is closer to equal to both sexes, especially when counting “forced to penetrate”, which the UK refuses to do. Women are just as bad as men, which to be fair, is not much. Crime happens at far lower rates than the media leads people to believe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/26 11:23 AM |
| – | Do women feel entitled to men's bodies?My lord above, that is a lot of text to just say you are a bigot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/26 07:06 AM |
| 1 | Fair feminists exist and they get hate from both men and many feminist womenI am a Humanistic Egalitarian. I believe in true equality and equity for all peoples. I am against any and all forms of bigotry, regardless of if it happens to an “oppressor class” like men. The only exception to my stance against being a bigot, is to be bigoted against bigots, like Nazis, fundamentalists, sexists, racists, etc. Feminism does not claim to have the same stance that I have, so therefore I will never identify as one. If you want to actually support true equality and equity, identif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/26 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Women Love Objectification, When It Benefits ThemThere is a cavernous difference between those who objectify themselves knowingly, while benefiting from it, and those who are objectified by vile people. Example of the former: an actor/actress, model, influencer (specific types/genres), porn stars, sex workers, etc. Example of the latter: a person minding their own business while dressing modestly, a child existing (anyone who objectifies children should be hospitalized and/or shot), etc. Example of grey areas: swimming wear, workout clothes, r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/26 09:13 PM |
| 16 | Gendered expectations for men are only retired in word, not realityAgain, one of the main reasons I’m a Humanistic Egalitarian. At least we actually believe in equal rights for all unlike modern feminists. The 1st and 2nd wave feminists would be ashamed of their movement if they could see it now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/26 11:22 AM |
| 1 | Most 'Nice' guys aren't nice at all. They just lack standards, boundaries and integrity while making it as niceness.You are conflating nice guys with “nice guys.” Those are two wholly(?) separate things. The former treats a women or a man with respect and grace, and the latter is a wolf in sheep’s clothing, but they are quite rare. I personally share a lot of traits that people think of when they hear the words nice guy, but the main differences are that I am not an asshole or some snake. Thankfully I was raised well by my single mother (an Air Force veteran) on how to treat women both sides platonically and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/26 11:15 AM |
| 1 | Modern Men Are Being Punished for a Past They Didn’t CreateI believe it was Dr and Reverend(?) Martin Luther King Jr who asked us to judge people by the content of their character. Granted, he was talking about race, but I’d think judging an entire gender on the sins of the past is definitely something that he wouldn’t be for. I was taught to give grace to everyone, regardless of what or who they are; if I am to judge them, I am to do so on a case by case basis, rather than just assuming that he or she is a potential threat or problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 11:29 PM |
| -3 | Modern Men Are Being Punished for a Past They Didn’t CreateIt’s just an excuse to be a bigot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 11:21 PM |
| -2 | Modern Men Are Being Punished for a Past They Didn’t CreateWaking up from what? Men didn’t do shit, only the elite did, the 1%. It’s hasn’t been the patriarchy for the last few decades, it’s been the oligarchs. The sex of those oligarchs matters little, because even the women among them are monsters (newsflash, women can be evil too). The powerful and corrupt don’t even heavily identify or associate with their own sex as part of their identity; to themselves, they are the haves, and we the have nots. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 11:18 PM |
| 0 | Modern Men Are Being Punished for a Past They Didn’t CreateBtw, that box of chocolates analogy is a nazi dog-whistle. It’s still bigotry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 11:13 PM |
| 11 | Modern Men Are Being Punished for a Past They Didn’t CreateAll of this fluff is just to disguise bigotry. If you swapped every instance of the word “man” or “men,” for a minority, watch how this all becomes quite suspect. And as a male minority, it irks me to my core. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 11:08 PM |
| 2 | Is inexperience really that unappealing in men?I mean, I fucking guess. According to that reasoning, I’d be an inferior man if it wasn’t for the fact I’ve been taken since high school. It’s far less of it being a moral failing or character flaw, and is more so bc people here think anyone average or below are subhuman, when those types still get partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 07:38 PM |
| 5 | Is inexperience really that unappealing in men?To equate singledom with a moral failing or character flaw is just insane. More of that asinine “Just World” bs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 01:42 AM |
| 3 | Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men?Only if those “high standards” are all looks based. Far more good people are average in looks than they are the physical pinnacle of their respective sex. In my experience, those people in the top in terms of looks tend to more often than not have bad personality traits, or their own personalities are middling. Of course there is Henry Cavil, but he’s more than likely the exception, rather than the rule. Like, hell, the only big difference between me and Henry Cavil is he is way more attractive … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/26 09:55 PM |
| 11 | Excluding sons, do you have little to no sympathy for men?You say you aren’t very empathetic, but your second paragraph, and your choice of career, does imply you have a lot more empathy in you than you might realize, and that’s a good thing. People who are humble about the good things they do, even unintentionally, are some of best people on the planet. Hell, in this day and age, caring about the wellbeing of others outside of your own circle is amazing in and of itself, which does make me wonder what women the OP has interacted with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/26 09:33 PM |
| 0 | Dont ask for incentives to be a decent person,If we’re moralizing dating, then I must be a paragon of morality and virtue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/26 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Antiporn is usually motivated by misandryYou’re not wrong about porn giving unrealistic expectations, but that kind of falls a bit flat with amateur porn, which is far more realistic than staged porn. Drawn/animated porn is a whole other thing. I don’t just don’t appreciate people policing other adults about what they spend their time doing. Shit, I know those puritans would berate me for entertaining my gfs kinks, partly bc they are prudes, and partly due to people demonizing male sexuality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 10:11 PM |
| -2 | Antiporn is usually motivated by misandryFinally a sane and based take. I’m a man in a heterosexual relationship. My partner likes it when I dominate her, more than I actually want to dominate her. I still do it bc it’s enjoyable, but I know for a fact some people here will accuse me of being misogynistic for being dominant or participating in certain kinks (like CNC, rapeplay, and agekink) even though it’s my partner who is far more into those things that I am/was. I think a large majority of the anti-porn and anti-sex puritanical cro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 07:06 PM |
| 6 | Antiporn is usually motivated by misandryI recently took a Human Sexuality class. In one of the lessons I learned about a study conducted by feminists who wanted to try and find a link to men watching violent type porn and their behavior afterwards (essentially trying to prove that watching violent porn made men violent towards women). Newsflash, there was no correlation at all; just like how playing violent video games doesn’t make people violent. In that same textbook, when it was discussing fetishes, kinks, and sexual disorders, I l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/26 06:51 PM |
| – | What do you think about young men feeling abandoned and demonised by left?As an actual leftist (Christian Socialist) man, it just hurts my heart to see all of the vitriol spewing forth from the women in this forum, and from my fellow leftists. We’re supposed to be on the side of anti-hate and anti-bigotry, so why are men, half of the population, the exception to hate and bigotry? Bc they were born that way?!?! Do you not see the hypocrisy? I swear, some of these people sound like literal Nazis with the ways they characterize a whole other group…they even use Nazi anal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 08:31 PM |
| – | What do you think about young men feeling abandoned and demonised by left?This entire comment. In my own relationship, my gf of 11 years is far more into being dominated than I am into dominating her. It seems like a lot of left-leaning women forget that women can be just as, if not more perverted, than men. But I’m the monster when it comes oblige my gf’s fantasies or kinks? Lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/26 08:02 PM |
| – | Women consistently reinforce that attraction is Amoral. Yet continue to moralize unsuccessful Mens inability to be selected. Depending on Narrative and ContextI have seen this phenomenon in both real life and online. If you’re a guy and you don’t have a gf at a certain age, some women will look at you and wonder why, and then assume it must be some moral failing of you: you are misogynistic, you are a bigot, you are a bad person, etc. By their own metric, I must be considered a damn moral paragon, along with every other taken man, but we know damn well that men with dark triad traits have no issue getting women either. So which is it? I have no dark t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/26 07:02 PM |
| 2 | If you are not willing to adapt to the dating market, your complaints about dating is unreasonable.Just so we’re clear, there is nothing wrong with a woman being submissive to men; hell, a lot of women are naturally submissive, but exceptions exist of course. My gf is way more submissive to me in the bedroom, but not as submissive in everyday situations, mainly bc she likes when I take the lead (she’s shy). Shaming men for being dominant bc their women are submissive is just wrong on so many levels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/26 01:08 AM |
| 3 | Men aren't more critical of women ,we are just treating you equally and you don't like itThe only point I will push back on is the Victim Blaming part, since it’s incredibly individual specific. A large portion of victims had little to no control over their traumatic experience, especially if they were young, and especially if it was SA. Note that my statement does apply to both sexes. I’ve seen women victim blame male victims of SA or DV, or simply discount their experiences. Most of the time Victim Blaming is done with malicious intent; very few people are doing it as a cautionary… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/26 11:29 PM |
| – | "Liberal feminism" subsidizes extremism, claiming that feminism wants equality is fraudulent, and if you associate all men with violence, you are hypocriticalIf I remember correctly, isn’t the m&m analogy very similar to another analogy used by actual nazis when referring to Jews? Again, the biggest reason I’m not a feminist, but am an egalitarian humanist(?), is because of the lack of policing in the liberal feminist movement. I’m fine with Maternal Feminism, as they didn’t lose the plot. Liberalism, as in the modern usage of the word, is a blight upon politics, and I say this as a Christian Socialist. Painting any entire group with one big brush is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/26 09:32 PM |
| – | I genuinely think men’s preferences and standards are shamedI sort of agree, but men having unrealistic physical standards is just as bad as when women have them. Or just having unrealistic standards in general. These high standards are why there are so many lonely women, since they are the choosers. It’s not hard to find a good man, it’s just that some women want to find a 10/10 and won’t even consider nothing less than perfect, which is so unrealistic and unreasonable. Thank fuck that the majority of women tend to be more respectful and realistic, like… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/26 01:22 AM |
| 4 | Men often look for a stable relationship in order to have a regular sex life.The thing is, sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy go hand-in-hand, at least for me it does. If my gf was loving in all other ways outside of sex, but didn’t want or desire to have sex with me, I’d feel unloved. This is a, dare I say, normal relationship expectation, since the vast majority of humans are sexual. I am not discounting, however, the needs and wants of asexuals or those who can’t view sex that way due to how they were born; it’s just a fact of life that sexual humans make up 90%+ … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 09:14 PM |
| 4 | Men often look for a stable relationship in order to have a regular sex life.The difference between a platonic relationship and a romantic relationship is intimacy, especially sex. So, to say that sex is a big part of romantic relationships is an understatement. Sex is clearly important, and you can look no further than any dead-bedroom situation; especially since the numbers are getting more even, in terms of its not just men experiencing dead-bedrooms. Due to the trust and love built in my LTR, I can have sex whenever I want, but the same could not be said if I was bac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Men often look for a stable relationship in order to have a regular sex life.The difference between a platonic relationship and a romantic relationship is intimacy, especially sex. So, to say that sex is a big part of romantic relationships is an understatement. Sex is clearly important, and you can look no further than any dead-bedroom situation; especially since the numbers are getting more even, in terms of its not just men experiencing dead-bedrooms. Due to the trust and love built in my LTR, I can have sex whenever I want, but the same could not be said if I was bac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Men often look for a stable relationship in order to have a regular sex life.When men say this, it’s because it’s in direct contrast to how women views men’s jobs, achievements, etc: which is women trying to evaluate a man’s status, and maybe even ability to provide. Both are superficial things to look for. I care far more about a woman’s personality than her achievements, because at the end of the day, I’m spending my life with a person, not a checklist, and not a wall of trophies. Could I be proud of my partner’s achievements? Of course I am, but she is far more than h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/26 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Women have no idea what an average man isI think women in real life are far less shallow than anyone on online spaces, especially this sub, or twitter as a whole (that cesspool). Why should women care that they aren’t attracted to most men? Because it’s shallow and superficial. Most IRL women care about personality more than looks, but online women are trying to spread hypergamy and hyper-individualism, trying to make other women shallow. Attraction is looks based, at first, and then once you get to know them, then personality comes in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/26 08:56 PM |
| – | It’s willful ignorance on men’s part to think women never cared about physical attractiveness.Liberals have cried from the rooftops proclaiming that personality matters more than looks. Technically, they are correct. Looks will fade but personality will endure. So, whenever I see a woman say that looks matter as much as, or more than personality, I rightfully give them some side-eye. If you’re a 10 in looks, but a 5 in personality, I’d rather have a 5 in looks and a 10 in personality. Everyone gets old and wrinkly and saggy. Caring about looks more than personality just makes you superfi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/26 02:43 PM |
| -7 | Yes, some women actually want to be single and childlessOh great, more hyper-individualism, lovely… I find it absolutely wild that someone would choose to be alone. It’s understandable if you’re fine with it, but it’s another to just forsake a partnership altogether, whether with a man or woman. As someone who has been in a relationship for the last 11 years, I can tell you that me and my gf are so fucking glad to have someone to go through this life with; it’s rough out there alone. It’s whatever; have the life you deserve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/26 02:20 PM |
| 10 | Women are the ones red pilling menYeah no, you’re the bigot here. I’m egalitarian because bigots have infested feminism like a cancer. Your approval or disapproval means nothing to me, since I am a non-bigot, meaning I have the moral high ground; nothing you say or do will change that. The women in my life look to me for safety, kindness, and empathy, so how dare you assume otherwise, bigot. You can call me whatever you like, but I draw the line at insinuating that I am some kind of monster or bigot, especially towards my partne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/26 04:37 PM |
| 66 | Women are the ones red pilling menAgain, if feminists just policed their own movement for bigotry, and actually fought for equality and equity, I’d be a die-hard feminist. However, their movement is infested with bigots masking as victims, spreading their cancer and making other women into bigots. Until such a time where the rot is removed, I will remain an egalitarian. I actually acknowledge the struggles and inconsistencies of both sides of the aisle; I also recognize that the true enemy is not the opposite sex, but the vile e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/26 08:35 PM |
| 3 | When women’s struggles are invisible, everything looks like an advantageAt this point, I’m curious to know what women are actually vetting for when it comes to dating nowadays. I’m 28, and have been taken for 11 years and 1 month; it can’t be that hard to find a good guy, can it?!?! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/26 12:42 AM |
| 0 | A lot of feminist identifying women are red-pillers when it comes to male gender roles.A leftist woman is far more likely to be an egalitarian than a liberal woman, at least in my experience; they’re far less hypocritical typically, as a lot of liberals are too caught up in identity politics. A leftist woman would actually acknowledge that the proper enemy are the elites and not every single man in existence like liberal “feminist” women tend to state. As a leftist myself (Christian Socialist), I find the feminist movement lacking, mainly for not policing their bad apples hard eno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/26 01:13 AM |
| 2 | Men confuse their desire as effortYou are completely correct. For me, I see sex as the highest expression of love, and also desire; after all, to me, it’s what separates friends from partners. My gf initiating, or simply not rejecting me, makes me feel loved and desired. If she didn’t love me, desire me, or feel safe with me, she wouldn’t be having sex with me. It’s as simple as that. There are just things that are different in LTR than in short term ones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Men confuse their desire as effortTo me, this whole post-rant just reinforces why I’m glad to not be dating rn. My gf is so uncomplicated, low-maintenance, and easy to please; I feel like I have to perform some kind of death-defying stunts to even make an impression. There is just no need to make everything to complicated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 01:33 AM |
| 6 | Women's biggest blind spot is other womenYou can’t actually believe that…. Why? There is nothing that proves that. Most crimes are committed by a small minority of people, so most people, men and women, are good at best, neutral at worst. The only truly evil group are the elites of the world: elite men and elite women. Most if not all of them are selfish, vile, evil monsters. You have to know that men aren’t the enemy, they have never been. It’s always been the rich and powerful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 01:03 AM |
| 6 | Women's biggest blind spot is other womenHolding bad people accountable is pickme behavior? No wonder this world is fucked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 12:59 AM |
| 8 | Women's biggest blind spot is other womenWe don’t want women to hate each other, we want women to hate bad women in the same way they hate bad men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Women's biggest blind spot is other womenYes, and so are most men, especially according to statistics; men are not “more evil” than women, women are just as capable of evil, example, Margaret Thatcher or Catharine the Great. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Men will never support modern feminism because it exclusively benefits women while trying to lecture and belittle menI care about everyone in my life, which is why I support egalitarianism; that movement at least benefits everyone, not just women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Men will never support modern feminism because it exclusively benefits women while trying to lecture and belittle menThe main reason I’m an egalitarian is because feminists do not police their own movement(s) against bigotry; egalitarians have a much better track record for policing themselves. Hell, I’m far more of a feminist than actual feminists. If they just would remove the bigoted cancer from their ranks, I’d consider actually calling myself a feminist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Women calling men “gay” is an insultSexuality is not fluid, the spectrum is fluid. That’s how sexuality works. If I was born straight, I am straight. If I was born bi, im bi. You’re using bigoted language… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 12:17 AM |
| 4 | Women calling men “gay” is an insultOh look, bigoted language… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/26 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Why do you date at all if its so terrible?Thank God I’m taken, because I wouldn’t be getting any ass in this dating market. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Women should not be taken seriously and there is a reason for itSome of your points address the problem I have with the modern feminist movement: the lack of cutting out or censoring the bigotry in their movement. Ignoring the rest of your barely hidden bigotry against women, the fact that a lot of feminists seem to be okay with problematic double-standards, hypocrisy, and out-right bigotry in their own movement infuriates me beyond belief. The fact your sister claims to be a feminist while acting with such a bad attitude is a testament to my point. She’s no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 09:53 PM |
| – | Would you get into serious relationship with a girl who has done ONS/FWB before?It does depend. If I was single, I am dating to get into a LTR, like the one I’m in rn. Sleeping around sounds fun, but I’d rather build a relationship and sexual compatibility with one person than doing it for just the fun; it also doesn’t help it’s much harder for a man to get dates than a woman. If she had like one or two ONS or situationships/FWB, then it can see it being something that just kinda happened. But the higher the amount, the more worried I get about their views on LTR, not neces… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 09:31 PM |
| 0 | If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AFYeah, it’s pure homophobia. It’s wild seeing women act so disgusted by the idea of a man with another man, when I’ve met more men that don’t give single fuck about the opposite pairing. Granted, it’s not all women, but it’s enough that it does make the feminazi claim of women doing no wrong going straight out of the window. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 09:19 PM |
| 0 | Why exactly is women wanting money from men worse than men wanting sex with womenI have no idea what kind of sex women are having if women aren’t achieving orgasms. Either the men they’re having it with are selfish or stupid, or have bad communication skills. Or, conversely, the women also need to adequately communicate their needs. Or, it could be a combo of both. Blaming all/just men for the gap is not productive. There is also something to be said about orgasms in sex: just because you aren’t orgasming doesn’t mean you aren’t enjoying yourself or not having fun. There are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 08:22 PM |
| 2 | Why exactly is women wanting money from men worse than men wanting sex with womenSex is supposed to be a mutually fun activity for both parties, and this is especially true in LTRs. However, a woman using a man for money is not a mutual, agreed-upon thing, at least when applied to dates and short-term flings. In a LTR, a man would be more than happy using his money for his partner, but lets be real, it’s 2026, and the economy demands a 2-income household, especially because women are starting to out-earn men more and more, meaning the typical “Earner” man is becoming a dying… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 07:53 PM |
| 3 | You're just not that guy. Its ok. There's nothing wrong that.Me personally, I can get sex from my gf whenever I want. I know some red-pills and black-pills would assume that I would be a part of the 2nd type of man, but for me, that is not the case. It does help that my partner loves me, I make her feel comfortable/desired/appreciated. It also helps that she's into CNC and freeuse, so getting sex is a non-issue. If you are getting into a long-term relationship, sexual compatibility is paramount, for both sides. There are various examples of HL men getting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/26 12:47 AM |
| 2 | "Man or Bear" argument is a striking example of women's tendency towards in-group sensationalism and overdramatizationThe argument itself is bigotry disguised as punching up. I don’t know about y’all, but I was raised to not generalize an entire people-group or groups. I support equality and equity for all people, because that is the right thing to do. It’s not productive to make all men out to be monsters… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/26 08:56 AM |
| 2 | The concept of "fairness"Just because life isn’t fair doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try to make it fair; this applies to outside of the dating world. Having such a negative attitude about life is destructive for all. If it wasn’t for people wanting more fairness, you wouldn’t have rights, nor would any minority groups. Men are graduating at lower rates than women, and boys in k-12 are being treated worse, mostly in terms of grading, than girls are. You would, given your stance, probably say “life isn’t fair.” However, if we… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Women don't like when men have healthy boundariesBeautifully said. If you weren’t friends with a girl beforehand, setting a boundary like that to prevent yourself from being used for labor is reasonable and healthy. Hell, I’d go as far as to say that if a girl, friend or not, asks you for boyfriend-like or boyfriend-adjacent things, she needs to actually be your partner. I have my own gf, so I have no hidden agenda for helping out a female friend; however, there is a certain limit to what I will and won’t do for them. Also, since I have a part… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 07:20 AM |
| 2 | Women don't like when men have healthy boundariesThat is very mature of you; though, let’s be honest, if the situation was gender-swapped, people would be dog-pilling the man for being a “horndog.” It makes the feminists of the 2nd wave roll in their graves hearing that their sexual liberation movement apparently doesn’t cover men. Though, that is actually a separate discussion about how male sexuality is demonized, but I digress. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/26 06:52 AM |
| 2 | No one hates independent women, you are just arrogant and obnoxiousI’ve seen this a few times online. I’ve seen posts where a woman said “men would rather have a shy and unsuccessful girl, than an arrogant and successful woman.” That phrase just screams ego; of course I’d rather have a shy and unsuccessful girl than someone who thinks less of others, especially to put her fellow women. Though, real talk, I’d rather have a shy and unsuccessful girl than a successful and outgoing one, because at least the former would be more likely to give me a chance. Hell, mos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/03/26 08:26 AM |
| 2 | Dating isn't fair and it shouldn't be.It should be easier for couples to, well, couple up. And for most people, it’s really not an issue, or at least it hasn’t been. Peoples standards on both sides are starting to get so out of whack that even average men are having trouble finding a life partner. This is not a complaint for me personally, as I have been dating my current gf for 11 years, but it is still a problem. It signals a shift to hyper-individualism, which is super unhealthy for everyone involved. It also does not help that t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/26 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Men try to gatekeep standardsEvery human is, let’s be real honest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 03:50 PM |
| 6 | Why are yall downvoting women saying they love their husbands?I’d wager that while there are miserable men downvoting, there are definitely some miserable women that are downvoting as well. For the former, it’s because some of them are either super unhappy and are having their “women are settling for any man that’s less than a 10” narrative challenged. For the latter, it’s also because some women are unhappy and want to drag others down, and are also having their “men are trash/monsters/evil” narrative challenged as well. We have to remember that both wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/26 10:50 PM |
| 2 | Conservative men are hardcoded towards destroying women.I generally agree with your comment, as you can have CNC without humiliation and degradation; you can be into spanking and/or choking, but not into being slapped or spit on, for example. My larger point is/was that to assume that women *can't* be into some of the more darker and/or "fucked up" stuff is misogynistic, or at the very least infantilizes(?) women. Its a bit of an offshoot of the "Women are Wonderful" effect that assumes that women can do no wrong, aren't perverts, and aren't capable … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 10:27 PM |
| 6 | Conservative men are hardcoded towards destroying women.If we're talking about rapeplay and/or cnc (in terms of a specific type), I would assume those kinks are degrading by default. Most of those who consume those types of porn are women, again, my own partner included. Again, I dont have specifics, but assuming that the vast majority of porn that depicts women being degraded or being extremely submissive is/are watched by mostly men is in and of itself misogynistic. It assumes women can't be into kinkier things, which a lot of women are. Its far mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 08:48 PM |
| 6 | Conservative men are hardcoded towards destroying women.Actually, if I remember correctly, the biggest consumers of fucked up porn are women, not men, though I don’t recall by how large a margin. On the flip side, just like I won’t judge a woman for consuming that porn, I won’t judge a man. They are kinks, fantasies, curiosities, etc.; most people can separate fiction from reality well enough. And if women can do it, so can men. Also, how else can I find material to use on my gf without searching for such porn? (Or going into subreddits dedicated on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 06:57 PM |
| – | Feminist indoctrination of men is failing due to evolutionary psychology.I do sometimes use evolutionary psychology in my arguments, because it’s laughable that just because we have morals and big brains we can somehow escape biology. However, this ain’t it chief. This is almost bordering on racial hierarchy in terms of trying to justify why one people group is better than the other. And then trying to use such an argument to justify the existence of the patriarchy…my god. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 06:13 PM |
| 12 | Conservative men are hardcoded towards destroying women.My only counter-point is this: Women do seek out, or even create, degrading porn. Hell, the biggest consumers of “forced” porn, whether live action, animated, or drawn, are women; my own gf counts herself among that flock. Stop demonizing submission and degradation, they’re kinks, not ways of life (usually). Women are just as, if not more, freaky than men. Also, in that same vein, don’t shame men for being into that stuff either, or, more mildly, being dominant (or liking being dominant). How el… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 05:52 PM |
| 8 | Conservative men are hardcoded towards destroying women.Women do seek out, or even create, degrading porn. Hell, the biggest consumers of “forced” porn, whether live action, animated, or drawn, are women; my own gf counts herself among that flock. Stop demonizing submission and degradation, they’re kinks, not ways of life (usually). Women are just as, if not more, freaky than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/26 05:48 PM |
| 0 | Ladies, If you’re not attracted to 90-95% of men, that’s not a male problem.. thats a YOU problemIRL, most women aren’t that shallow. However, something is in the water that is making everyone inflate their standards to ridiculous levels. I know women are the pickers, but it will be a severe problem if every women filtered 95% of all eligible men. Though, to be fair, most of the good men are already taken, present company include. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/26 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Men say they want “good girls” but they reward hoesWould I sleep around if given the opportunity? Honestly not. I personally think that sleeping around messes with your brain in a way that negatively affects long-term relationships. Would I care if my own partner slept around before me? Depends on why and how. Thankfully my partner of 11 years was a virgin (so was I) and despite that, our sex lives are great. Also, despite me looking average, she actually gave me the time of day, unlike some women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/26 09:59 PM |
| 4 | Father and daughter mistakenly caught up in human trafficking investigation: fathers can't go out with their daughters in public.My gf is Asian, and I’m mixed (half-white, half Hispanic). My kids are more likely to have her features be dominant over mine, meaning when I eventually have kids, they will, at first glance, look nothing like me. I do fear for the day some dumbass assumes I’m a creep or something. On one hand, I’m glad they’re at least looking out for my kids (or any kids), but on the other hand, it’s still wild that because a small, small percentage of men (like 1%) commit a fuckton of crimes, that I’m somehow… | /r/MensRights | 27/02/26 06:58 PM |
| 2 | How should women “take accountability”?If I got upset at McDonald’s for getting me fat, that is not me taking accountability. I should’ve gone somewhere healthier, or better yet, get some groceries and buy healthier and cheaper ingredients to make a better meal. To put this into the context of relationships: If a man complains that for the past several relationships that his girlfriends have been cheating on him, wouldn’t you look at him weirdly? Is it because he is dating bad women? Could be. Are all women to blame? Hell no. Maybe h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/26 08:34 AM |
| 3 | If you want kids, why?Anti-Natalism? In my gender war subreddit? What is with the child hate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/26 09:52 AM |
| 0 | Sex is good for men and women to doBeing honest, I just worry what being promiscuous (as man or woman) does to the brain. Does it affect how it processes dopamine in relation to sex? Does it color their view of long-term relationships? Does it make them more likely to be unfaithful? I simply don’t know the answer to these questions or others like them. —It should be noted that I am someone who would prefer to date to find someone long-term, than date to sleep around. I’d much prefer to be “slutty” in a LTR rather than a bunch of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/26 09:46 AM |
| 2 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.I wouldn’t judge anyone’s sexual past, whether they paid for it or not. Hell, it’s 2026, there should be more male prostitutes for women, gay men, or couples wanting to do a less awkward threesome with. At least if it’s legal and regulated, you would know that a prostitute has been vetted and clean, since them getting STDs is bad for them and whatever business they are working for. Now, would I tell someone this in this day and age? I’d say I’d like to, but the weird double standards people have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/26 04:50 AM |
| 9 | Paying for it is so much better than casual sex.Sex work should be legalized, regulated, and consensual, full stop. It’s the world’s oldest profession, and it will be here for millennia; it should not be demonized. With that being said, if I was single, and I had extra money lying around, I would pay a sex worker if I am not getting my needs met via dating. Now, I’m talking more about the casual side of dating, and the early stages. I would never keep seeing a prostitute when a relationship is supposed to be exclusive. However, at least with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/26 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Women are not owed anything pt2 - collective amnesiaI assure you the men who are indifferent or defend such heinous actions are the minority, or are just brainwashed by fascists; a lot of people are followers, so even corrupted charisma works on them, even if in their hearts they know it’s wrong (a lot of women voted for trump, after all). I know far more men who would take a bullet for a woman, or that would hunt down their assaulter and probably kill them, than men who would defend such monsters. My mother actually raised me right, so don’t go … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Men struggle with not liking people but hating being alone.Yeah, it just sounds to me that you just dated a shitty man. Now, whether he is an outlier in your dating life, or you’ve had a lot of other bad men you’ve dated is neither here nor there; bad men are the exception, not the rule. You can’t go extrapolating such things from outliers, that’s just a bad use of statistics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 06:43 PM |
| – | Generally speaking, men never get to reveal "relationship skills" to women. They get filtered out long before that. This drives a lot of male romantic loneliness.It is a shame that humanity, despite getting to where we are due to intelligence, does not see such a trait as attractive, nor do we use such intelligence to overcome our nature and choose partners with greater care. We should be better than falling for a pretty face, bad boy, whatever. If you’re looking for a long-term partner, select the candidates for long-term traits, not short-term ones. It’s not rocket surgery. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Generally speaking, men never get to reveal "relationship skills" to women. They get filtered out long before that. This drives a lot of male romantic loneliness.Before getting into my relationship, most girls didn’t give a damn about me. Why would they, I’m an average man. But as soon as I got into my current relationship (which has been going strong for 11 years), those same women just came out of the woodworks. They stopped bullying me, some started flirting (subtly or otherwise), hell, even one asked for a threesome between them, me, and my gf. Shit, I bet most women wouldn’t believe that I’m in a relationship based on my looks alone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 10:24 AM |
| – | Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters.She’s currently around 175, but has been as low as 115. Trying to lose weight as a short woman is hell, but we’re both on a journey to lose weight. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 06:20 AM |
| – | Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters.Yeah, agree with you wholly on everything. It’s sad that looks seem to be the main criteria over personality for some people. Obviously base attraction matters, but that’s peanuts in comparison to the importance of a couples’ compatibility. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 06:15 AM |
| – | Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters.Yeah, the main problem is that because there is the myth that looks are everything, it’s hard for people to even get a first date, let alone past it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 06:13 AM |
| – | Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters.Eh, we both are in the process of trying to lose weight, and still find each other attractive. She’s about 175 rn, and has been as low as 115. It’s difficult for her to lose due to her being a short woman. Not to mention, I find bigger women more attractive than skinnier women, but that’s neither here nor there. So, personal attack aside, I still do think personality matters far more than looks, especially for long term relationships. The main issue is that people are having trouble even getting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 06:12 AM |
| – | Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters.I’m sorry your husband feels that way about your looks. I think my gf is a 10/10, but I think actually giving a fair and objective estimate on her looks would be difficult due to my affection for her. And for her part, despite her rating, she still desires me in all ways, as I think her view of my personality boosts my physical attraction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 06:06 AM |
| – | Personality matters more than looks, but attraction still matters.And there's the rub. That's a problem, which is why I made this post. I made this post as an effort to change people's mindset from this "looks first, personality second" mentality. Once courtship, aka, past the first date, begins, personality matters far more. I'd rather grow old with someone I like, than someone who annoys me, and will only look good for a comparative minority of the relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/26 02:39 AM |
| 1 | A male's choice to oppress women is rooted in their fear of women's social, emotional, & intellectual power.In fairness to guy you’re replying to, to assume that women aren’t as, or more, interested in sex as men is in and of itself a lie of the patriarchy. If you look into the viewing habits of women in terms of porn, for example, women are overwhelmingly the largest consumers of, for lack of better words, “forced” content. In relation to that, a lot of the more “fucked up” hentai that is drawn is drawn by women. Women are just as perverted as men, if not more so. I guess another reason that it may n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/26 02:13 AM |
| – | Women don't owe you explanation of their standards.A fair point, but unreasonable, unrealistic, and/or insanely high standards are just not a good thing, especially if they are physical. That goes for both men and women. Objectively 10/10 (in looks) individuals are incredibly rare. It’s far easier to find someone who is a subjective 10/10 than an objective one, especially because if they have personality traits that you like, that can boost their physical attractiveness. And control women? I would never do something as barbaric and immoral as th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 04:20 PM |
| – | Women don't owe you explanation of their standards.I do personally think a lot of (not most) of women’s physical standards are too high, mostly in this current dating market. Their personality standards tend to be more reasonable, with lots of variability. I got lucky with my gf that she could see past my 6/10 self for the 9 or 10/10 personality I have (both ratings, physical and personality, were real ratings she gave me). Looks fade over time, why should those matter that much? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/26 04:00 PM |
| 1 | The Orgasm Gap is real... but it has NOTHING to do with male selfishness.Let’s all be really real here for a second: if neither party orgasmed during sex, but they still enjoyed themselves and had fun, then the sex and/or foreplay helped build some intimacy. In an ideal world, both partners would be orgasming each time, and reach some preferred amount of pleasure; but the reality is, every single woman is different. Most of the time, stimulating the clit can work, but then each woman might want something additional (fingering, stimulation of other erogenous zones, di… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 07:47 AM |
| -3 | Men don’t need empathy from women. They need compassionIt seems the vast majority of women here just hate men, which means do not take their words seriously, as they are not empathetic, kind, or compassionate people. However, I will say you’re a bit too vague. You didn’t really point out any specific things women can do to help men. I will also say that it’s quite hypocritical of some “feminists” to not want to help men, when it was men who helped feminism along, acting as allies to the movement. It’s the least women could do. Men aren’t the enemy, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/26 01:10 AM |
| 3 | Why are men expected to "chase?"Women do not have lower sex drives than men, theyre just more reactive (ie, needs more to get the engine going). Women are multi-orgasmic, some of the most heinous hentai is made by and for women, and the largest consumers of CnC and rapeplay porn (and kink participants) are women. Women are far more likely to have a similar sex drive/libido to men, if not a higher sex drive altogether. I believe the sentiment that women desire sex less is a patriarchal view, since it assumes that sex is somethi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/01/26 09:37 AM |
| 2 | Bisexual men represent the biggest share of bluepill men on PPD, yet women overwhelmingly are disgusted by the idea of dating a bisexual man.You’re probably right in that a lot of bi men are blue-pills, since that line of thinking also aligns with left-leaning ideology, which a lot of BPs lean towards. The fact there are BP women here being bi-phobic is all the proof you need. I thought the BPs were supposed to be empathetic, kind, levelheaded people? Guess not. RP isn’t much better, but at least they don’t hide behind platitudes, hypocrisy, and gaslighting as much as BP. Shame upon all of you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/01/26 07:52 PM |
| 1 | Question for Blue Pill: If kindness is as important when it comes to attraction as the mainstream says, how do you explain all these horrible men having girlfriends?When it comes to dating, straight women give advice that it mostly relevant to maintaining a relationship, not getting one in the first place. Sometimes it overlaps, but getting past the first hurdle is like half of the battle, and involves different strategies. I can tell you from experience, it’s much easier to maintain a romantic relationship than it is to get one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/01/26 06:00 AM |
| 56 | Guys simply need to stop listening to online discourse that is largely driven by women and simpsI do find that women (straight women) often give the worst advice when it comes to dating women; full of platitudes and generic advice, or sometimes straight up gaslighting (ex: “personality matters more than looks”). It’s better to ask a guy with a proven track record, but, I’d argue it’s better to ask a bi woman or a lesbian for dating advice, since they actually date women and can internalize their experience better. Sure, they are dating a woman while being one, but at least they have a pers… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/26 06:32 PM |
| 0 | Men are more violent than women, not more abusive.It really is depressing that any topic that seeks to pave the way to true equity and equality is sent into hell by rad-fems. They really are a cancer to their movement. I’ve met far more feminists that tell me that their movement is about equality, not women-first; and don’t get me started on liberals and their identity politics. I’m far more left leaning than most liberals, and the left in general needs to really curb our infighting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/12/25 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Men have standards by default and criticize women for doing same thingMy gf is perfectly happy in our relationship, because she’s not as shallow or bigoted as some of the people here seem to be. I suspect you were wronged by one or two men which colors your opinions on all men; it’s also how incels are created, with them having a couple of bad experiences with women and then turn misogynistic. I don’t think “women bad, men good,” I think “men bad, women also bad, but try to pretend otherwise.” Note, not all women, but a loud enough minority that perverts the femin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/12/25 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Men have standards by default and criticize women for doing same thingI thank God everyday that my gf of nearly 11 years isn’t as shallow as some women are nowadays. I don’t know what is in the water/food, but something is making women’s standards more unreasonable and unrealistic than men’s. Some of the modern women have standards based on things men can’t control (think genetic, like height), while men usually have standards on things they can control (like attitude, morality, empathy, etc). It’s worth noting that the minority of women have these shallow standar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/12/25 04:06 AM |
| 1 | My bro is now on the hook for lifelong child support because his 'gf' decided to keep the baby - after they agreed they didn't want kids!Such a bigoted take… | /r/MensRights | 18/12/25 07:07 PM |
| 1 | My bro is now on the hook for lifelong child support because his 'gf' decided to keep the baby - after they agreed they didn't want kids!As a Christian, I am pro-Abortion, because nowhere, and I mean nowhere, in the Bible does it state when the soul enters the body, which is the main “component” that separates us from the animals. I personally think that it enters the body when we take our first breath. Sure, he should’ve just gotten a vasectomy if he didn’t want kids, but he should still get a legal right to not pay child support after being tricked by her. Granted, I’m also for a more robust welfare system, especially one that … | /r/MensRights | 16/12/25 01:37 AM |
| 2 | Women accept men’s uncomfortable truths, while many men turn normal female behavior into a pathologyOne of the biggest things I’m against is you inferring both men and women care mostly about looks than personality. I’ve met far more men whose attractiveness scales are broad than women. Me personally, my 5 is definitely different from your 5, and probably different from another man’s 5. I actually prefer bigger/thicker women. The difference between me and some women is that I am more than fine with an average woman, while you (the Royal “you”) are not fine with the average man. I’d rather have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/12/25 06:45 PM |
| 3 | Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching themA good number of the women on here are just misandrists, and want other non-misandrist women to suffer as well. If they had their way, they’d try and convince my gf that she’s in an abuse relationship because she’s submissive and into CnC. Women are also not that great at giving men dating advice. I’d rather take advice from a bi-woman than a straight woman (especially since most bi people are amazing human beings). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 03:33 AM |
| 2 | Women clown on lonely men for turning to porn, but are also hostile to the idea of men going out and approaching themI don’t think most women are uncomfortable with men watching porn, but probably a decent number, maybe at least 20%. Many of my friend’s gfs send their bfs porn (so does my gf). Maybe those that find it uncomfortable have low self-esteem and/or are a bit controlling? I would never tell my gf to stop using porn unless it was negatively affecting her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/12/25 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Alot of people arent attractive nor rich enough for the attitude they have.If you met me in real life, you’d wonder how tf I got into a relationship, because I genuinely think I’m boring and uninteresting. I would consider myself an actual nice/good guy (not the ones who are just incels). I consider myself lucky that my gf cared more about personality than looks, and we’ve been together almost 11 years. If people, men or women, were just honest from the beginning in what they find attractive in a partner (and whether or not looks matter more or not), far less people wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/12/25 03:25 AM |
| – | "DoorDash Girl" is proof that women's spaces will not hold women accountable.Any woman here, or anywhere, defending her is just a man-hater, aka, a bigot. You can’t convince me otherwise. Shame on them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/25 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many young men think they shouldn’t be grinding for professional success and for women in their twentiesI don’t know what to tell you. I have been in a relationship since I was 17 (I am almost 28), and my life has not been successful. My gf does not care about my lack of big success because she is realistic about the economy, society, etc. We recently had a conversation about if she had any opinions on my life or even current situation, and she said she really doesn’t care as long as I’m doing alright and that we’re (our relationship) alright. The juice simply isn’t worth the squeeze, especially s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/25 05:45 PM |
| 0 | MAGA is proof that men will stand up to feminists when they actually give a damn about issues, which clearly isnt men’s issues.As a Christian Socialist, I have no love for the traitors and Pharisees that are MAGA. However, Dems and the left at large need to learn that alienating and vilifying(?) men probably contributed to a lot of men moving right. At least the right pretended to care. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 05:54 PM |
| 0 | Men are delusional about how many bad men are out thereWell, my definition of ugly and pretty is probably wider than yours for starters; I find that very few women or men are truly ugly, since they are at the end of the bell curve. The real question is would you prefer a handsome 10 or a decent but still attractive 5 to date, let alone abuse you. And I will also note that 10s are just as rare as 1s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Men are delusional about how many bad men are out thereBut I’m already a good man; of course I could improve, but why would I try to improve myself after I was being called an abuser (something I am not). Do you just think every single male, old and young, are just violent sociopaths waiting to strike? Legitimate question. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Men are delusional about how many bad men are out thereSo im a murderer, got it, I was unaware. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 09:07 PM |
| 0 | Why is there always an against thing for everything related to men?Antifa are anti-fascists, just like how conservatives (regardless of what they call their party) are the party of slavery. | /r/MensRights | 20/11/25 07:20 PM |
| 0 | What’s with the “I hate lustful men” trend?I’ve seen the prudish movement come from mostly other women than I have men. They treat sex like something that “happens to women” instead of “happens with women”. Also, in case it needs to be said, you can very easily be treated like a sex object and still be respected, it’s called a Dom-Sub dynamic, but that does rely on a women finding a man she can trust, which I would honestly argue is not that hard if she didn’t buy into unreasonable and unrealistic expectations that are being set by today… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Feminists pick and choose whenever women are oppressed by patriarchy.The fact that people here defend the hypocrisy is wild to me. Guys, the rad fems are calling from inside the house…you have a problem with allowing toxic people into your movement to pervert your message of equality into one of superiority. Though, to be fair, it definitely doesn’t help that America’s late stage capitalism’s hyper-individualism also made its way into the movement (probably during the 3rd, and definitely the 4th wave). And RIP maternal feminists, I know some of the movement disli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/11/25 04:58 AM |
| 1 | A womans lack of effort is not a sign for you to try harder.Yeah, there are a decent number of women who almost take their own consent and/or their power of “no” as a challenge. Men are tired of playing, for many reasons, but the biggest of which is we want your “no” to mean no bc we aren’t some psycho rapists who ignore consent. Words have meaning, and no means no. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 09:06 AM |
| 5 | A womans lack of effort is not a sign for you to try harder.Sounds like you’ve simply encountered bad men, bc most men aren’t dodgy. It doesn’t discount the experiences you or others have had, but I’ve met far more covert women than direct women. There’s a reason men praise such women when they just say what they want instead of beating around the bush. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 09:03 AM |
| -1 | Why do women not care about consent?Ignoring the bit of the “gotcha” energy here, you raise several good points. A lot of women just assume a man gives explicit consent bc apparently we’re always ready to fuck. It’s one thing to give explicit consent in a sexual-romantic relationship (it’s something I give to my gf and that she gives to me), but from the stories I’ve read and such, the female perp just assumes the guy will be into it…women can be monsters just as easily as men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/11/25 08:10 AM |
| 15 | Man, 41, Asks for a ‘Gen Z Perspective’ After a Co-Worker, 24, Called Him Out in a Tense Work MeetingWhile I agree about giving credit where credit is due, we do not need to encourage rampant individualism. We should all be working together, to share the burdens, the responsibilities, the praise, and the spoils of the work itself. A person does deserve to be proud of their work and/or contributions, but it’s not all about them. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/25 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Men hate women who like bad men but don't care about those bad men. And that means they hate women not for "bad choices" but for not choosing them.It’s not about control, it’s about responsibility. Take your responsibility in choosing a bad partner (whether a man or woman). It’s usually a lot more women than men who don’t take their responsibility for their bad choices, at least in terms of choosing partners, even if the partner is another woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 01:23 AM |
| 1 | Men hate women who like bad men but don't care about those bad men. And that means they hate women not for "bad choices" but for not choosing them.Bigot, just being a misandrist bigot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/11/25 01:17 AM |
| -1 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingYou’re a bigot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 11:27 AM |
| 2 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingYeah, that’s just misandry. Thats bigotry. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 11:13 AM |
| 1 | Women not being able to get and stay in good-quality relationships is embarrassingI believe I would fit the personality (mostly) requirements that you have set, but would fail at the looks department. I’m probably a 6/10 looks wise, so I would not be surprised if barely any women looked my way. Hell, I’m not even sure how I have my current gf of almost 11 years. Just admit it, it’s more about looks than personality. Im not even suggesting going for someone who’s ugly; I’m suggesting going for whatever you would call a 5/10 in looks in your eyes, bc that at least means he’s av… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 11:03 AM |
| 10 | Men More Likely to Die by SuicideThey exist, but are bashed by feminists. Reminds me of that Canadian man who tried to make men’s shelters for victims of abuse, and the funding eventually dried up and he killed himself. | /r/MensRights | 02/11/25 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Why do women claim "personality matters most" but then act revolted when they see a mid to ugly looking guy with a beautiful woman?“The men here do not have personality” is such a wild take. Not every man on this sub is an incel. I’ve been in my current relationship for about 11 years, so clearly either I’m an exception or your assumption is wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:23 AM |
| 1 | Why do women claim "personality matters most" but then act revolted when they see a mid to ugly looking guy with a beautiful woman?You’re not blue-pilled. There is no way on Gods green earth you’re align with blue-pillers. You just give off bigoted vibes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 01:01 AM |
| 0 | Why do women claim "personality matters most" but then act revolted when they see a mid to ugly looking guy with a beautiful woman?Everyone values looks, men just have lower physical standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 12:44 AM |
| 0 | Every Man Can be in the Top 20% to WomenI am kinda living proof of the “someone’s top 20%,” as you put it. I am 5’4 and look like a Reddit mod (neckbeard, overweight, etc). I think I’m about average in looks. I have been in a relationship for a long while…Im 28 and it’ll be 11 years in a relationship in March. She herself has rated me a 6/10 in looks, which can be increased by dressing up/grooming myself, and has rated my personality a 10/10. However…I’d be fucked in this dating market with everyone’s hyper-inflated expectations. It’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/11/25 08:52 PM |
| 1 | It doesn't matter. Everything always leads back to it being men fault.They are an issue, absolutely. But to demonize all men bc of the actions of a very few is not helpful. How do you expect men to want to help women when women call us monsters or worse? Granted, there will be men like me who, despite the name calling, will continue to advocate for equity and equality, because it’s the right thing to do. I was lucky enough to be raised by a wonder mother, a single mother, who made me into the man I am today. If not for her, I would probably be an evil incel. Howev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 09:32 PM |
| 1 | It doesn't matter. Everything always leads back to it being men fault.Would you count the Canadian man who fought to have men’s shelters put in place, specifically for male victims of domestic violence? He tried for years to create these shelters, and even got a few running, but apparently society didn’t care about those men or believe that those men can be abused. At some point, the funding dried up, probably due to sexist or harmful rhetoric from Canadian feminists. A short while later, he killed himself. I don’t recall the man’s name rn, but from what I looked … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Female written romantic literature is insanely patriarchalIf romance is patriarchal, does that mean people should just stay single? What is the point you are making here? Even if your point is more about Romance as a genre, that’s certainly not true in the slightest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 07:24 AM |
| 3 | Female written romantic literature is insanely patriarchalI wouldn’t be so sure about that “violent, degrading.” The audience for rapeplay, CNC, and other forced sexual kinks and fantasies are mostly women. Shit, a lot of fucked up hentai is made by women. My own gf is far more into things like predator/prey, degradation, boy/girl, and pet play than I am, by a decent margin. Women are not some victims in the sexual world, it takes two to be in a dominant/submissive situation. BDSM and other stuff like it is all about consent. So yes, a lot of women lov… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 07:08 AM |
| 4 | Female written romantic literature is insanely patriarchalYou are correct that we have the freedom to choose, but this comes off as hypocritical. Those examples the person above listed are a glaring example of hypocrisy. Some women, not all, claim to not want things associated with patriarchy, but find those things hot consensually. Of course, the consent does make it better, but it’s still hypocritical. My own gf acknowledges how she prefers me being dominant, in private or public, but doesn’t say things like “down with the Patriarchy,” or “women shou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 07:00 AM |
| 6 | Female written romantic literature is insanely patriarchalPreach. This is by far the most accurate statement ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 06:52 AM |
| 3 | Female written romantic literature is insanely patriarchalWell you definitely aren’t blue pill. You’re just a bigot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/25 06:52 AM |
| -1 | Is it not rational to view single mothers as a slightly negative thing?Let’s get something straight real quick. Whether a mother is single or not, families need a financial stipend when they have kids, beyond their individual incomes. Everyone needs a strong foundation. To think otherwise is stupid and calloused. Stressed parents will raise stressed kids, and that’s not good for society. | /r/MensRights | 22/10/25 07:24 PM |
| – | Men’s attraction vs. women’s attraction it’s not the same thingYou are pretty much correct on all of them. Men and women are not the same. We think differently, act differently, speak differently. And a lot of it is evolutionary/biological. The real problem lies in this current society making everyone toxic and have unrealistic/unnecessarily high standards/expectations. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 08:46 AM |
| – | Men’s attraction vs. women’s attraction it’s not the same thingThat’s not really the point here… To me, as a man, you as a woman do not have to do much to get your foot in the door, so to speak. As long as I find you attractive, which I find probably 80% of women attractive, and also aren’t a glaring asshole, you at least are given a chance. By contrast, in this dating market at least, it seems that men need to fill a lot more boxes to even have a chance of getting a woman’s attention, let alone attraction. Women are naturally more selective, and for good r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 08:44 AM |
| – | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"Seeing someone as a potential romantic partner doesn’t mean I see them as non-human. Do you think I see my own gf as an object? No, I only do that when she wants me to. There are many women I have met that I became friends with because I didn’t see them as potential partners. The few that I saw as potential partners…I stopped hanging out with about half of them. The others became good friends, and only 1 of them became my gf. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 09:40 PM |
| – | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"While I don’t like or agree with your viewpoint, I’ll at least give you credit for the honesty. Just wish more people were honest about their preferences and standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 09:35 PM |
| -9 | It's so ironic for me how when men who hate the Left and don't like what's going on in the West, think the Right has an answer for them(or reverse). No, they DON'T!!! NEITHER!! BOTH LEFT AND RIGHT are against men's rights and like using men as a tool, when will men finally realize that???I’m a leftist. Here’s how I see it: The left cares about people, but hates men. The right hates people, and “cares” about men. Granted, not every leftist is a blue-haired liberal, and not every right person is a Nazi or Ultra-Conservative. However, I tend to argue that at least the left on the whole cares about doing the most good for the most people. The right cares about greed and envy more than everything. I’d bet 95%+ of the 1% are centrist at best, and actual Nazi sympathizers at worst. It’… | /r/MensRights | 17/10/25 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?Personally, I have no issue with a man or woman’s body counts when it comes to dating them. Though, having a lot of sex partners over a short time-frame could indicate an issue, but that’s on a person-by-person basis. The only issue I have with the whole “women have apparently higher looks standards and lower personality standards in FWB types of relationships” is any difference in treatment. For example, I have known a few women who loved giving their partner head, or who loved doing anal, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:57 PM |
| 2 | Women are having bad experience in dating because of their own choicesWomen are picky by nature, and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. What is a bad thing is unrealistic expectations set by the modern dating culture. I’m a taken man, but I started dating my gf when we were both in high school. If I was to try and date any other girl in this climate, they would barely give me the time of day. Im 5’4, 250 lbs, somewhat of a neckbeard (essentially looking like a Reddit mod). I’ve looked this way (I’ve always been chubby for my height) since puberty. And sure, could m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/25 06:20 PM |
| -1 | Men are not obliged to validate any choice a woman makes and they are free to have their own opinions and feelings tooYou think people just have that money lying around? What great economy do you live in? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/25 10:13 AM |
| 3 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Masculinity itself is more demonized than male sexuality, but it’s still demonized regardless. I know some women look down on men for being “horndogs” when I know damn well women can be just as freaky as men. Any time I hear a lady say anything negative about masculinity or male sexuality, I just roll my eyes at their blatant misandry. Like, people forget that the vast majority of consumers for violent-type porn (like CNC or rape-play) are women. My gf was the one who broached the Dom/Sub dynami… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 09:15 AM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Stop with the bigotry, please and thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/25 09:01 AM |
| -1 | Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez @AOC body shames and mocks a man for not being as tall as she would like "I cannot believe they aired this and made him listen to it live 😂 I am crying".. "AOC calling Miller a clown and saying he is angry that he is 4’10”"Guys, please stop simping for conservatives and conservative values. The right is full of bigotry; bigotry that I know you don’t tolerate from misandrists. AOC may not care about men’s issues as a whole, but at least she actually has a soul unlike many of the snakes in the GOP. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/25 10:25 AM |
| 1 | Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez @AOC body shames and mocks a man for not being as tall as she would like "I cannot believe they aired this and made him listen to it live 😂 I am crying".. "AOC calling Miller a clown and saying he is angry that he is 4’10”"So you support a bigot? That makes you a bigot by extension. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/25 10:22 AM |
| 0 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingBigot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/25 06:08 PM |
| – | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?Bc I think that’s the root of why men value the FWB more. It’s not bc they want to be just FWB, it’s bc they want to be as physically desired as the FWB is. Men just want the same physical passion, bc for some men, like myself, see sex as the ultimate form of intimacy, love, attraction, passion, etc. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 08:48 PM |
| 64 | The entitlement of certain autistic men is bafflingMy own autistic sister told me that autistic men are treated far worse than autistic women. If a woman is autistic, she’s quirky. If a man is, he’s weird and needs to be put into a mental institution. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?I don’t wholly agree with OPs point. For me, though, I just dislike any potential mis-match or dishonesty. Example: let’s say in you’re in your “hoe phase” or simply in a FWB situation, and you do all of this super kinky and slutty things with them (man, or woman). However, then, when with your now long-term partner, you all of a sudden stop being as kinky or slutty with them, or even refuse to do certain acts altogether…I just find that dishonest. If I found out that my gf loved giving head to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:51 PM |
| 3 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?You are proving his point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:24 PM |
| 3 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?Most young men are not incels or adjacent. That’s bigoted talk. How would you feel if I said most Hispanics are drug smugglers? (btw, I am Hispanic) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:17 PM |
| 7 | It's probably a good idea to implement programs specifically to lift up boys and men.Richard Reeves is by far one of the biggest advocates of Men’s struggles in the modern day. He doesn’t address or cover everything that the modern man deals with, but he does address at least the economic/educational aspects. I would be surprised if any rational person disagrees with any of the things he addresses, or tries to outright dismiss him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/25 09:27 PM |
| 0 | I've come to the mindset that men should just learn to be comfortable with making women uncomfortable.The friend zone is a real thing made by toxic women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/09/25 04:06 PM |
| -6 | Kirk situation.OP, you’re a bigot. | /r/MensRights | 13/09/25 09:25 AM |
| 2 | Kirk situation.Nope, the vast majority of political violence in the US has been from those on the right. Look it up if you don’t believe me. | /r/MensRights | 13/09/25 09:25 AM |
| -3 | Kirk situation.Bigot | /r/MensRights | 13/09/25 09:24 AM |
| -1 | Kirk situation.Bigot | /r/MensRights | 13/09/25 09:23 AM |
| -2 | Kirk situation.Bigot | /r/MensRights | 13/09/25 09:23 AM |
| -4 | Kirk situation.Bigot | /r/MensRights | 13/09/25 09:23 AM |
| 3 | Kirk situation.Kirk dying, to me, is like goering being assassinated. They may not be Hitler, but they are at the very least Nazi-adjacent. If you actually look up the heinous things Kirks been saying or advocating…he should’ve had some sense talked into him a while ago. Do I feel bad for his family, and his kids? of course I do. But if you want me to feel bad for a person who said some actual fucked up shit, that’s not gonna happen. Just like I didn’t feel bad about those CEOs getting killed. Sometimes, karma… | /r/MensRights | 13/09/25 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryThis is bigoted language, ma’am. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/25 09:47 AM |
| 1 | Men arent fighting a war we are just fighting back against MisandryYeah, the misandry in today’s society is incredibly rampant. Just yesterday a former misandrist visited a men’s rights subreddit to apologize for her misandry, as well as give people her insight into the dark side of feminism, or to be more clear, the outright bigotry that is allowed to persist in feminism. If you genuinely believe that all or most men are monsters, you’re no better than those who call all black people criminals or Hispanic people cartel members. Be a better person. Stop being a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/25 09:46 AM |
| – | Manly, masculine and high testosterone doesn't automatically translate to attractive to women.I’ve always said that just because we have big brains and morals doesn’t mean we’ve elevated ourselves over biological and evolutionary conditions/influences. We are a species that has sexual dimorphism, and that’s not a bad thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/09/25 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Expecting autistic men to mask and upgrade their entire lives, especially dating, while not even giving them a chance or ever trying to approach them is hypocritical and illiberal.The ablism in these comments is astounding and frightening. The bigotry just doesn’t end. So much hypocrisy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 03:15 PM |
| 1 | The fertility rate is inextricably linked to women’s level of “knowledge”The right and freedom to be able to choose when/if a women wants kids has been one of the most liberating things that women as a whole have experienced. I would also put the ability to pursue careers, though the capitalist class has simply used it as an excuse to gain more profits at the expense of women (the US having no mandatory/federally mandated maternity leave, for example); it’s still a game changer regardless. I just simply don’t appreciate the demonization of those women who do want to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/25 06:23 PM |
| 2 | No, women aren’t attracted to bad men. You’re just hearing about the breakups.As someone whose gf cheated on them with a “bad boy”, women definitely find the archetype attractive. She didn’t even mind how much of an asshole he was until he started judging her hobbies. And yes, we’re still together. Been together for 10 years, and that incident was 3 years ago, and lasted for all of not even 4 full months. She simply realized I was, in fact, the better option, and our relationship is stronger than it ever was. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/25 06:01 PM |
| – | Submissive women, how do you, in your own mind, deal with the fact you are submissive, especially if your partner is a man? More specifically, if you are a feminist, how do you reconcile your need for domination, and your feminist ideals?I had considered your points before, and I know people will use CNC and other kinks as a way to gain some empowerment for the reason(s) you gave. However, I made this post simply bc it seems as though some women (granted, they may be trolling or just forever online) have shamed other women for being submissive (especially to a man), shamed women for being in a relationship with a man (yes, i know, they are crazy), and equate any sub-related kinks or acts as some extension of the patriarchy. I am… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 07:24 AM |
| – | Submissive women, how do you, in your own mind, deal with the fact you are submissive, especially if your partner is a man? More specifically, if you are a feminist, how do you reconcile your need for domination, and your feminist ideals?Aftercare is definitely important, especially for subs. The sub crash hits my gf hard, which is fine with me since I love cuddling. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/25 06:53 AM |
| 2 | Men's strong impersonal attraction to women is more than just wanting sex.Because they are delusional, and probably bigots. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 06:42 AM |
| 4 | Men's strong impersonal attraction to women is more than just wanting sex.It’s very much more nature than nurture, I would think. Humanity simply doesn’t have the power to overcome thousands and the few millions of years of human evolution, and that’s not even getting into mammalian evolution. Humanity is more affected by its biology than we like to admit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/25 06:38 AM |
| 3 | Most Passport bros leave the country because they can’t get any women in the U.S and try to take advantage of the American dollar being worth more over therePersonally, I think rampant individualism is the issue at play. Western countries are so steeped in “me me me” attitudes and views that it comes off as entitled and selfish. It’s a feeling that’s like a cancer, growing its way into almost every movement, including feminism. It’s no wonder men are going to countries that don’t have such rampant individualism infecting the local population. Eastern countries especially are more collectivist and family oriented than western nations. Hell, those eas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/25 01:04 PM |
| 16 | Are Women Really Overlooking Good Men—Or Are They Just Not ThereLook, I’ve been a taken man since I was 17 (I am almost 28 now). I am 5’4”, 240-250 lbs (it varies on the day, but I’m working on it through calorie counting), Half-White/Half-Hispanic, decently hairy, and probably a 4-6 in looks depending on the day, which can go higher when I dress up and groom. If I was single now, i would not have any dating success, due to the exaggeration of standards in today’s dating world. The only reason my gf gave me the time of day despite my looks is due to my perso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/25 09:34 PM |
| – | "Women are not a monolith" but the Tea App is #1 at the Apple storeSpeaking of pairing off, did you know that you have double the amount of female ancestors than male ones? That’s bc throughout all of history, about 50% of men became “dead ends” and never produced offspring. In a truly equal, maybe even just better world, ideally every person pairs off with someone (whether they’re a straight couple or otherwise). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/25 10:33 AM |
| 4 | If you knew a woman/man who could never have sex, would you still marry them?The vast majority of people, like 98%+ of people are not asexual, mainly bc being sexual is the default human thing due to evolution. Asexuals are still humans and still deserve love, but I’m not going to stay in a sexless relationship. Would I be fine with periods of no sex due to medical issues? Of course, I’m not a monster. Sex, especially passionate sex (whether rough or vanilla) is one of the main things separating a romantic and intimate relationship with just a friendship. Sure, you can b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 08:05 PM |
| 2 | Women do not refuse the red pill arguments, they detest the label and who is declaring themIn pseudo-relation to your post, I do believe that we should address toxic femininity more than we do toxic masculinity. A lot of women (not most) just pretend that toxic femininity isn’t a thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 07:55 PM |
| 0 | Women do not refuse the red pill arguments, they detest the label and who is declaring themBigot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Women are the privileged gender in the modern WestGotta love it when someone brings up valid points, only to shoot themselves in the foot with incredibly horrendous reasoning for the points. Each topic could’ve been addressed without the need to belittle women. Like WTF dude… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/25 02:44 PM |
| 3 | Why are so many men obsessed with societal norms?Denying evolutionary biology is just asinine, if that’s indeed what you are doing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/25 12:48 PM |
| 2 | If women love misogynists, then why do so many men here struggle?Oop, that’s on me for my gut reflex/reaction to that statement. Sorry, that’s on me for misreading that. Yeah, a good portion of men on this sub do give off misogynistic energy, though I wouldn’t say most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/25 05:10 AM |
| 1 | If women love misogynists, then why do so many men here struggle?Calling men misogynistic by nature is like calling black people dangerous or criminals by nature. It’s just not true. Such bigoted language is not helpful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/25 12:33 AM |
| 1 | How many of you have changed your preferences (likes/dislikes, turn-ons/turn-offs) because of begging; pleading; shaming; or derogatory remarks from women?My standards are as low and as broad as they possibly could be. I give lots of people the benefit of the doubt; also, unlike a good number of people, I’m willing to hear all sides of an argument/a person’s opinion. As for preferences, I would say the floor for them is pretty low. There are women I would find unattractive, but those women, at least for me, are few and far between. For women that I do find attractive, I would prefer them to be shorter than me and are curvy, but I typically find an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/25 08:28 PM |
| 1 | What men say they want in a woman is overly vague and hard to define (and vice versa)I think one issue (okay, maybe issue isn’t the correct word) is that women have higher standards when it comes to physical traits. This does make sense on some level, as women are the potential carriers of the future of humanity (if they want kids, that is). This is a tricky thing to bring up, bc while it makes sense (and people are free to have physical preferences), a lot of men are generally less “shallow” or “picky” when it comes to attractiveness. For me, for example: i don’t care how short… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 05:21 PM |
| 5 | "Everyone is entitled to their preferences so men can't blame women" is a red herring. It all comes down to the perceived validity of the critiques of a gender.Man, that “unfortunately” is some big misandrist energy. You’re the type of person bi people warned me about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/25 04:56 PM |
| 1 | What are some criticisms about the other gender that make you roll your eyes or cringe?Forced into gender roles is completely an abhorrent thing that does occur; however, not all gender roles are as outwardly oppressive as others. For example (for men): men are expected to do the approaching when dating; men are expected to take the dominant/leadership position in relationships; if a criminal breaks into the house, the man is expected to get his gun and defend, when his wife is just as capable of a marksman as he is. For example (for women): women are expected to wait for the man … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 05:45 PM |
| – | Does it matter what kind of porn a guy watches?Good on you for having consistent and reasonable standards/expectations; thank you for dealing with my curiosity. I do apologize if i came across as combative or insensitive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 05:34 PM |
| – | Does it matter what kind of porn a guy watches?The sexual liberation feminists would roll in their graves reading this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 05:17 PM |
| – | Does it matter what kind of porn a guy watches?That’s completely understandable given your experience. Though, how do you feel about women who are into it? I ask bc my gf is really into noncon and freeuse. She has never been SA either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 05:16 PM |
| – | Does it matter what kind of porn a guy watches?If you genuinely think that men who get off to degrading or abusing women are monsters, then you really need to check out the main consumers for Non-Con and Freeuse porn. It’s overwhelmingly women. I would know, bc my gf is the exact target audience and I gladly oblige her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 05:13 PM |
| 5 | What are some criticisms about the other gender that make you roll your eyes or cringe?That a good number of bi-women are “reluctantly” also attracted to men. That just seems double bigoted. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:51 PM |
| 2 | What are some criticisms about the other gender that make you roll your eyes or cringe?…It’s does seem a bit hypocritical to criticize gender norms while at the same time using them or your benefit/when it suits you. It’s a thing I see from many so-called “feminists.” I just simply hate hypocrisy. You can certainly want equal rights and opportunities, and you damn well deserve it. It’s the right thing to do. After-all, we’re all humans. However, it mainly is the “complaining about gender norms while at same time benefiting from them” thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:48 PM |
| 3 | What are some criticisms about the other gender that make you roll your eyes or cringe?Bigot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:38 PM |
| 2 | What are some criticisms about the other gender that make you roll your eyes or cringe?“Men are all perverts.” I dislike this statement for many reasons. My biggest rebuttal nowadays is that women are just as, if not more, perverted than men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:33 PM |
| 3 | What are some criticisms about the other gender that make you roll your eyes or cringe?It’s also discouraging when that statement mainly comes from women… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:30 PM |
| 0 | Dating is garbage today due to the rise of Asymmetric CourtshipOh great, a feminazi, lovely. Truly, the biggest bigot of them all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:20 PM |
| 1 | There's a point in female friendship, I say it as a purple piller.In their (single men’s) defense, if more of their female friends would act as wingwomen and/or Social Proof for them in terms of dating, there would be a lot less single men. I had/have a very close female friend who introduced me to my current gf. And here we are 10 years later still going strong. Ladies…if you have a good male friend who is struggling with dating, please for the love of God help them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 04:05 PM |
| – | How do you feel about being the "low maintenance option"?To me, those qualities are low maintenance, especially bc it reminds me of my gf. Though, in my own defense, I use different definitions of the phrase “low maintenance”. Example 1: My gf rarely ever wears makeup. In all honesty she’s naturally beautiful, and only wears makeup for special occasions and/or when I ask (which is rare) Example 2: my gf is shy and quite insecure about her looks. I perceive this as low maintenance bc the alternative is her being overconfident and arrogant about her loo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:52 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingMy gf (not ex) cheated on me with a guy full of red flags, mainly bc of his good looks (she admitted this herself). We’re doing much better now, especially bc she realized what she could’ve lost: a decent, loyal, loving, good man. Though, I would be lying if I hadn’t started to be more dominant towards her (which can be a toxic trait, but it works to get her in the mood). Turns out women do like “bad boys”, or at the very least their toxic traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:33 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingMy gf (not ex) cheated on me with a guy full of red flags, mainly bc of his good looks (she admitted this herself). We’re doing much better now, especially bc she realized what she could’ve lost: a decent, loyal, loving, good man. Though, I would be lying if I hadn’t started to be more dominant towards her (which can be a toxic trait, but it works to get her in the mood). Turns out women do like “bad boys”, or at the very least their toxic traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:33 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingIt’s not. But being decent VS having a few toxic traits is the issue here. The latter proves to get more women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:28 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in dating“Most men benefit romantically from being nice” If that were true, men would not be currently having dating issues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingAll OP wants is for women to be honest about what they want. Women treat admitting that they also select partners based on physical attributes is sacrilege. Women also like to deny that certain “bad boy” traits are attractive, when clearly they are. I know the latter firsthand, bc it worked and is working with my current gf. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:22 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men should listen to women's desires and stop prioritizing decency in datingA mentally or emotionally damaged woman is better than no woman at all. At least the average woman has options, whereas the same cannot be said for men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Would You Date A Woman With The Following Qualities?**For Context, I am a 27m and am currently in a relationship with my gf (25f) that has been going for a little over 10 years.** 1 Yes. I actually prefer to date outside my race(s): I am White-Hispanic mixed. My gf is Vietnamese. 2 Yes. She could even be agnostic or atheistic. As long as shes respects me being spiritually Christian, then we're good. 3 If cigarettes then No, I have chronic asthma. 4 Yes, but very religious women tend to be more prude than I would like (and im quite sexual). 5 No. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/25 02:22 AM |
| 5 | Dear women on this sub, what was your "red pill moment"?Some very good takes and a proper nuanced set of opinions. I identify more as an egalitarian myself, since somewhere around the 4th wave of feminism did the movement start to sour on me. The 1st and 2nd waves were more true to their goals, but the 3rd wave is where some of the fem-nazis got their start. It doesn’t help that the hateful messages pushed by the feminazis aren’t as widely rejected as it should be…the amount of women in my life who have casually said things along the lines of “men ar… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/25 06:32 PM |
| 9 | Women define a 'good guy' by his positive qualities—men define him by a lack of red flagsMen aren’t a monolith either, but statements like “men are trash” are thrown out by people who aren’t femcels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/25 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Millennial males (and older) had it easier.He’s completely right on the “women have been telling men for decades to stop approaching them” thing. I am a taken man, so clearly I’m doing something right. Hell, I’m probably “one of the good ones,” but that’s probably presumptuous of me. I was raised by my single mother from birth till 18, and since the earliest time that I could develop my sense of morality, I was taught to respect everyone, especially women. My mom is former Air Force, so I learned quite quickly to admire, respect, and app… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Which of these men is likely to find women more interested in him: A man who flirts first, and figures out whether he likes you later, or a man who figures out whether he likes you first, and flirts later?You make some excellent points, but your last paragraph just sounds exhausting. I’ve been in a relationship since I was 17 (I’m 27 now), and from the outside looking in, whether a friend of mine was dating around, or sleeping around, it just didn’t seem fulfilling beyond sexual gratification. Personally, as especially as a guy, I’d rather take 5 years to find my soulmate (note: people can have multiple soulmates), than to spend 10 years dating/sleeping around. This doubly true for me, since I lu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 10:09 AM |
| 0 | Which of these men is likely to find women more interested in him: A man who flirts first, and figures out whether he likes you later, or a man who figures out whether he likes you first, and flirts later?This is the correct answer. Women are the arbiter of labeling an interaction as either harassment or playfully banter. You’d think it would be more objective, but it’s really not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 10:01 AM |
| 7 | It's very dangerous seeing all these female dating experts using male loneliness as a way to bash men when there's literally no co-relation that lonely man=bad men.I love my gf, and she willingly (very willingly) provides sexual service. Did you forget that women can love sex and sexual things too? Not every lonely man hates women, and not all lonely women hate men. And this is doubly true once you account for non-heterosexual sexualities. This Gender War BS is BS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 09:54 AM |
| 1 | It's very dangerous seeing all these female dating experts using male loneliness as a way to bash men when there's literally no co-relation that lonely man=bad men.I love my gf, and she willingly (very willingly) provides sexual service. Did you forget that women can love sex and sexual things too? Not every lonely man hates women, and not all lonely women hate men. And this is doubly true once you account for non-heterosexual sexualities. This Gender War BS is BS. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 09:48 AM |
| 7 | It's very dangerous seeing all these female dating experts using male loneliness as a way to bash men when there's literally no co-relation that lonely man=bad men.It by definition is shallow. A book is more than just its cover, afterall. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 09:37 AM |
| 2 | It's very dangerous seeing all these female dating experts using male loneliness as a way to bash men when there's literally no co-relation that lonely man=bad men.-Child custody favoring women -divorce courts favoring women -courts giving women less prison time than men -fewer men in college -young boys doing worse in K-12 -the draft -being seen as a monster when only a fraction of a fraction of men are evil -losing the breadwinner status (a good thing overall, but damaging when men have been conditioned for the last few decades to be providers, meaning men are losing their self-worth) This list is not exhaustive, but problems that are specific to men are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 09:34 AM |
| 2 | Women are bad at estimating penis size.Yeah, I had a female friend that saw mine (it was semi-erect), and in a future conversation I mentioned to someone that I am average (I am around 4.5-5.5 erect, which is around the average erect range of 4.9-5.9). She gave me a look and said “no you’re not.” I swear, size-queens probably know the least about penis size statistics. (Out of like the 6 female friends I have, 3 of them are self-proclaimed size queens.) Thank the good lord above though that despite me being average length, my girth i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 09:17 AM |
| 1 | If you don’t see the point in having female friends, you’d absolutely despise dating themI prefer female friends to male fiends, but that’s probably due to being around my female-majority family. In general, I’d recommend always having at least one or two friends of the opposite sex, as their different experiences will be useful. That came off as transactional, but simply put: having friends from all walks of life is just good for the soul and makes you a better person. However…there is a potential for drama when you have a friend of the opposite sex (and/or a sex or gender you find… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/25 08:35 AM |
| 1 | Red pillers: What would make you change your mind?People are not a monolith, not all RP are the same, just like not all women, black people, revolutionaries, men, etc are the same. To claim that a group is a monolith is just bigoted thinking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/25 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Red pillers: What would make you change your mind?The amount of people saying that evopsych isn’t reputable is astounding. We’re nothing more than monkeys with morals and anxieties; to say evolution hasn’t or isn’t affecting the modern human is just an insult to science in general. It’s a well known fact that biological men think differently than biological women (it’s all to do with the sex hormones literally rewiring them from birth). And the thing also is, we aren’t referring to those studies to even bash on women, bc there are also studies … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/25 07:11 PM |
| 3 | The term “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not after you” applies to dating. The average man will mostly only have negative experiencesThe 30%~ I am referring to are the women who are superficial, that’s it. I’m not referring to those “above me” bc even some of those women will “date down”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/25 06:26 PM |
| 29 | The term “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not after you” applies to dating. The average man will mostly only have negative experiencesThis dating market is ass for men. A decent number (I’d estimate no less than maybe 30%), wouldn’t give a 5-6 like me a chance in hell. Thank the good lord I got a high school sweetheart, so I don’t have to deal with this bs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 11:42 PM |
| 5 | Nice guys actually do talk to women as people, but women then treat them as "one of the girls"If it wasn’t for the fact that I was raised by my single mother, I would be an unapologetic incel, especially in this dating market. But, thanks to my mom’s teachings, I was able to find a shy and loving gf. But I also got lucky. I didn’t have to play any games, be a charismatic Chad, or be an Adonis; she’s not superficial or picky when it comes to men’s looks. I’m average looking, short (5’4), and overweight (240lbs), and I still managed to woo her, mostly bc she isn’t like a good portion of wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/05/25 09:03 PM |
| 2 | “Men are looking for clean water in a desert while women are looking for clean water in a swamp” is the most misandrist analogy I ever heardI’d definitely argue against the most men rhetoric, as it just screams some sort of misandry. Speaking for myself, I’ve been with my gf for a little over 10 years, and we started dating when I was 17 and she 15. I was instilled from a young age by my single mother to treat everyone, especially women, with respect and dignity; I was also told to “date to marry” more than date to have fun. I feel like a decent number of men are marriage material, but good portion of women won’t give these men the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/25 10:17 PM |
| 2 | The resentment for women will grow drastically in years to comeYou’re definitely not wrong in your assumptions. Right now, the dating game is toxic, but is disproportionately affecting men, since women are the choosers (not necessarily a bad thing). I haven’t been directly involved in that rat-race for about ten years (been with my gf all of that time since high school), so the only experience I have with the toxicity is through word of mouth and testimonials. Today’s society is starting to leave men behind, which is not good for anyone, since angry and lon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Most men who date a younger woman are not doing it for nefarious reasonsEh, as long as it’s consensual, legal, and not harmful, an 18yo man or woman can date a 55yo man or woman for all I care. Especially if one does not hold significant power over the other, like a boss and employee for example. Age gap relationships are not in and of themselves inherently problematic. Hell, I know someone personally who found that a 22yo dating an 18 problematic, which is just asinine to me. What’s next? Any guy dating a woman who is not the same race or culture as they are has a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/05/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Single mothers symbolize something deeply painful to a lot of menMisandrist | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/25 09:48 PM |
| – | Time to settle the dick size debate once and for all using data - women generally prefer bigger dicks until a certain point and the ideal size for most women is larger than average.I do think it’s more accurate to say that women like the idea of a bigger penis than the actual experience of it. The size-queens are a minority, though I would agree that a decent percentage of women would have their partners have longer or thicker members if they could alter it. But that’s kinda the same for all preferences somewhat. Though, I do think women’s preferences, at least their physical preferences, are stricter and/or narrower than men’s physical preferences. Ex: when it comes to he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 09:50 PM |
| – | Time to settle the dick size debate once and for all using data - women generally prefer bigger dicks until a certain point and the ideal size for most women is larger than average.Your opinion is common, but not common enough to invalidate his experience. My gf is the same as you in terms of her opinion. She’s 5’2, and I’m 5’4, and about average in looks and in the goods. She has a shallow/small/tight vagina, so anything above my level would be painful for her. Hell, she can barely handle even my caliber. But unfortunately, I know that she’s also not a common occurrence, and there are some women who would prefer if I was longer/girthier. Though, on the flip side, I know t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/25 09:41 PM |
| 10 | Why is the sub hated so much on Reddit?Misandrist | /r/MensRights | 08/04/25 09:30 PM |
| 0 | Men are tired with the gamesI honestly don’t get the feminist hate for men, it just baffles me really. The vast majority of women in my life don’t described themselves as feminist, but still espouse those views (pro abortion, equal pay and treatment, etc). However, many feminists that I have met irl have a very, let’s just say bigoted view of men. A bigoted view that if you were to say the same thing about a minority, you’d accurately call them racist. Especially since, on it’s surface, to say “all men are X” is just factu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/25 07:43 PM |
| – | Part of the growing divide between men and women comes from the idea that men should silently accept misandry as justified payback for patriarchyDo you have no empathy? Like what has this world come to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/25 12:23 PM |
| 2 | My mom thinks women are inherently unable to do anything bad or evilIf she is indeed your birth-mom, and you are a male, try addressing your concerns from that viewpoint. You don’t strike me as a closet misogynist, and your mother probably knows you better than I do. So, try an address your concerns through the lens of being her son and how damaging those twisted views of men are. Does she hate you? Did she do a good job of a mom and raise a respectable man? If there is anything most single moms have in common, it’s their love of their children (especially their… | /r/MensRights | 03/04/25 09:39 PM |
| 1 | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menCompletely agree with that! Anyways, have a nice day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 07:42 PM |
| 1 | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menThat’s a completely fair viewpoint. It’s also just that your comment implied a certain hate for men. I don’t want to assume, it’s just that it comes off as combative unnecessarily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 11:00 AM |
| 1 | Would a stigma-free, normalised sex work industry reduce how many men participate in dating?I feel like that view makes it seem that sex is just unimportant in romantic relationships altogether. I certainly didn’t get into my relationship to have guaranteed sex, but it’s now apart of my relationship. A healthy sex life and intimacy with your romantic partner is a strong core of that relationship. If it wasn’t, then the relationship would just be platonic. And let’s not pretend that women aren’t sexual creatures either (My gf is probably more of a freak in the sheets than I am). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 10:20 AM |
| 1 | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menQuick question. What is your opinion of the average man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 09:59 AM |
| 1 | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menI just have to say, all this talk about being happy single is just…not it. The level of happiness and satisfaction I have while being in my current relationship with my gf (of 10 years) is…well, sometimes I just don’t have the words. Like, obviously, not everyone will end up in romantic relationships, for various reasons, but to actively discourage people from trying to find a partner is just asinine. It’s like purposely leading a thirsty wanderer into the middle of a desert. Human beings are so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 09:56 AM |
| 1 | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menMisandrist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 09:42 AM |
| 1 | The real reason behind the male loneliness epidemic is that there are more happily single women than menI’m so sorry you’ve been in those situations. Yeah, unfortunately society did not make it their prerogative to have parents teach their sons emotional intelligence. The only way I was able to have any was from my mom (raised me by herself for all of my life). It’s bc of her that I have a long-term romantic relationship with my gf of 10 years. Though, I don’t like the insinuation that men simply lack empathy at all, as it makes men just seem like beasts or animals with no soul or morals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 09:40 AM |
| 1 | Why do women specifically seek platonic friendships with men, but men do not seek platonic friendships with women?I gladly seek out female friends, but that’s more recent after slowly losing female friends over time in my current relationship (I’m just bad at keeping in touch, but also didn’t want any temptation or distraction) Also, I find it weird how people find making the jump from friend to partner weird. Like…friends to lovers has been a thing for millennia, it’s not a weird occurrence. The issues mainly stem from two things: 1) leading a person on or keeping them in “reserve” and 2) the person who ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 09:34 AM |
| 0 | Women hide under the ideals of masculinity to avoid approaching men sociallyI just love your casual misandry. It’s just disheartening. Men are people too. Do you think I just treat my gf like dirt or an object? (Though, on that latter part, she actually gets off on that) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/25 09:24 AM |
| 1 | Women hide under the ideals of masculinity to avoid approaching men sociallyThat doesn’t change my original point. Women are equally, if not more, sexually driven than men. Especially since for a large portion of human history, female sexuality has been suppressed. I’ve met far more women in my life who are freakier than me, including my own gf. Calling men sex-focused is just sexist. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/03/25 03:33 AM |
| 0 | Women hide under the ideals of masculinity to avoid approaching men sociallyYeah, sure. Next you’re going to tell me women can’t be horny, including gay women. Sex is not something that “happens” to women, it’s a two-way street. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 12:48 PM |
| 1 | Women hide under the ideals of masculinity to avoid approaching men sociallyThat is extremely false. Men, in the sense if you are including every man, didn’t choose to do anything to women collectively. The ones you should be more mad at are the 1% asshats who trample on men and women equally. This gender war is bullshit distracting us from the much more harmful and real Class War. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Dont say “Choose Better” and then get mad at picky women with high standards.My own gf cheated on me with the typical “Bad Boy” dude, who manipulated her. Btw, she told me during and after the “situationship” (that lasted like a month) that she knew full well she was being used for sex. In the end, about 3 years later, we’re still together because I was the better man personality wise (she admitted he was a bit more attractive than me). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 12:30 PM |
| 1 | Dont say “Choose Better” and then get mad at picky women with high standards.My own gf cheated on me with the typical “Bad Boy” dude, who manipulated her. Btw, she told me during and after the “situationship” (that lasted like a month) that she knew full well she was being used for sex. In the end, about 3 years later, we’re still together because I was the better man personality wise (she admitted he was a bit more attractive than me). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 12:30 PM |
| 1 | This subreddit is all about statistics until it makes men look bad.Can you read? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/25 12:11 PM |
| 8 | Male and female dating dynamicsAt least the average man will give the average woman the time of day. The same cannot be said for women. Dating is a man’s game to lose, as women are the choosers, not the man. | /r/MensRights | 28/03/25 05:20 AM |
| 13 | As a feminist I might be over looking the men's issue. So tell me what are they?That may be true, but your other comment missed the point. This is not the time to “whataboutism” men’s issues/problems. | /r/MensRights | 26/11/24 01:36 AM |
| 40 | As a feminist I might be over looking the men's issue. So tell me what are they?But it’s not the past, it’s the present. As long as we learn from past, we’ll be fine. Don’t hate me because some old, dead men oppressed women. | /r/MensRights | 25/11/24 11:32 PM |
| 6 | Wife threatening to leave. What should I do?Honestly getting therapy might be a good thing anyways. | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 12:07 PM |
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